If You're DATING an ENFP... (3 tips)
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- Опубліковано 6 вер 2024
- A relationship with an ENFP is...awesome? Frustrating as hell? Loads of fun? Yes, this is a multiple choice test. Us ENFPs are a complicated bunch which is probably not news to you if you're already dating an ENFP. In this video I share 3 tips for dating an ENFP to help us be our best and for you to have a great relationship.
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Conclusion from intj
1. Enfps dream a lot about what they want (may not jump into action right away) (dont interrupt them)
2. Enfps change their mind quickly. Especially hard for male enfps since they get harder judged by society
3. Enfps are highly skilled at talking about others emotions, but their own are their blackspot.
Hi, I'm Also INTJ ( INTJ - A, To be Particular )
I have 1 Question only
Have you found Any ENFP or anyone who Actually Understands how we work ?
Cuz I haven't met anyone and I haven't seen any INTJ saying that they Actually
Found Someone who Understands.
@@Mohit_N.R i wouldn't expect any human to fully understand me but i can tell u that I'm pretty happy with my enfp wife.
@@omarkul5320 That's true, No one can understands anyone 100%
It's just me trying to stay away from B.S and you are the first to say you are living happy with ENFP or anyone that is human.
Thanks for the insight, Good day.
This is true . Enfp here
ENFPs are known for oversharing of emotions as well. i'm an ENFP, and I tend to easily articulate my feelings verbally.
If you practice your authenticity, and read, it is easily done through extroverted thinking.
ENFPs want to be recognized as the superhero they truly are but they are also absolutely amazing at seeing their partner as a superhero. You are truly loyal people (when you decide to be loyal haha!!). I feel so lucky to be married to an ENFP. Love your channel !
Thank you!
Can you do a video explaining why ENFPS have such a hard time communicating their own feelings? It's strange that I'm like this. I could talk to my close friends about their feelings for hours, but the second they ask me how I've really been feeling or doing I freeze up and barely know how to answer.
YES!
Yeah, what's up with that I've also noticed
Haha I've always wondered why we're considered Feelers but yet are unable to express our feelings accurately
I've thought about this and have concluded that my not wanting to be a burden to others is the reason why I don't really open up on my own feelings. I didn't want them to worry about me.
Surprisingly an ESTJ bestie corrected this thinking. He said to put myself in their shoes and imagine how would I feel if my friends wouldn't open up to me. It was an eye opening statement.
I find it easier to write my emotions that to talk about them
I’m dating an ENFP and I am an ENFP. This helps me understand what we need from each other to be successful.
I'm an enfp....I'd never date an enfp
@@tulinataka7375 I think when I was younger it would’ve been a bad idea but we are in our 40s so we are more settled and understand ourselves. As of right now, we want the same things.
i hope everything goes well for both of you❤️
Soo happy for you two.....
@@tulinataka7375 same!! I am an enfp too and I could never date an enfp. Seems so weird
1- We love to dream
2- Understand that we change our minds a lot
3- We are incredibile discussing feelings and emotions, as long as they are not our own
Intj-t woman here, who is married to a male enfp. 15 years together, yes we argue, but he is such a dreamer, I have to pull him back down to earth sometimes. He gets me for the most part. He is super emotional and loves hugs, and changes his mind a lot. I'm more a realist he tends to be an optimist. He pulls me to social gatherings, but we both like anime, games, etc. I enjoy home time, he likes going out. We are kind of opposites, but we do both struggle with our own emotions. He expresses them better than me, but we try to understand each other's difficulties. I love him and can't see myself without him, even if he gets on my nerves sometimes 😏
aww thats so cutee
"even if he gets on my nerves sometimes." I can literally visualise it happening lmao... Such an INTJ thing to say😂
“Love to talk about other people’s feelings but don’t like talking about their own”….sir you just drew me OUT
I feel SEEN
I'm an ENTJ who always find myself being attracted to or dating ENFPs but have never been brave enough to commit due to their very playful and charming personality. I can't take them seriously and feel like I'm getting love bombed everytime so I always run before anything gets too serious and now I'm taking a moment to study what these ENFPs are all about 😂
I'm being DEADASS these days I was like "damn, maybe I should date an ENFP since I'm an ENFP and so we would understand each other better"
And now I got this video in my home lmao 😅💗
I'm an INFP! My ENFP husband and I can't believe how lucky we are to have met each other. He has helped me grow in so many ways. So, of course, I am biased but I do think our personnalities are one of the most compatible matches :) 11 year mariage and 4 children, we are still each others favourite person :)
@@cfiocco so happy to hear that!! 😍
Ok, now an I/ENFP sounds even more like a good match for me ahah
Wish you and your family the best!! 💗
as an enfp: need tips on how to execute and maintain consistency on dreams.. 😭
THIS!!!!
Try to find the exact reason for you to not be maintaining consistency, for me it was mainly being so busy and comfortable in the extraverted influence that i sort of forget away my inside values. A good way to reduce you becoming a little ‘lost’ in the outside is to spend time on getting to know yourself more and giving meaning to your values and trying to develop yourself in some way.
Here is a little help from a fellow enfp brother :)
This guy has all our answers, hang on to this channel and you will learn more than you can even ask Taylor.
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Intj here, idk just focus and execute? And be patient if you don't see progress right away
Hey, I'm an ENFP who was together with an ISTJ for 10 years - he regularly "cut" me off at the knees when it came to my dreams, ideas and aspirations. It was indeed crippling and soul-crushing. It was like running against a wall. So, now I'm dating an ENFP, and we're both... well... airheads. We have a great time together and it's amazing to FINALLY be understood (for both of us) - but how on earth do we get any work done?!?
perhaps you both will be forced to develop your te and get things done too, over time :)
I had issues with ISTJ male. I felt the feelingsey was a no go area for him. As soon as feelings mentioned...he zoned out. Not interested. I felt so sad and unheard and when it came to creativity, it was mocked. He just never understood artsey stuff. I guess not for everyone. I felt discouraged. It was difficult for him to receive me. He was suffering, I was suffering. Had to leave it there and decide not to go further. Not healthy. I hear you x
I am an ENFP, dating an ENFP, its a deeper connection, a philosophical and more passionate one than with ENFJ, but they are also a perfect match :) with both I understand much better and faster, without explaining much!
I'm REALLY suprised about ENFJ. I didn't even think of them as a potential match. I had ENFJ male come at me 15 yrs ago and I was like NOWAY but today...I'd say OH YEAH! COME AT ME!
As an INFJ, I find that advice easy to follow.
feels natural to do so ?
you get it. kinda smooth
About emotions: I get literally attacked for sharing my emotions/experiences with. I’ve been labeled “a trauma dumper “for relating to other’s emotional struggles and sharing an example /what something like DBT did for me. Don’t ask me how I am or ask if I can relate to what you’re feeling if you don’t want an authentic answer. When I am authentic-teaching history at a university or helping recovering addicts (lost a kidney & became a statistic of the “Opioid Crisis”. ) I get labeled a trauma dumper when I’m being my most vulnerable authentic compassionate self. Don’t ask an ENFP who thrive on authenticity how they feel or how they do something only to shame them for not being afraid of appearing weak for understanding our connection to being our real selves.
ENFP dating another ENFP! Its the best relationship I've ever had in my life, I've felt so understood and accepted and we connect so deeply, having just found out we are the same type is interesting. We're both in stressful demanding careers (Lawyer and Doctor) so that may be another layer of understanding as well, but I was shocked we were both ENFP's since he's a self proclaimed introvert. 2 of my best friends are INFP's as well, so I love the _NFP's apparently
So happy for you :)
Noway! It didn't feel good to me. It was like having a mirror of me
I can totally agree with #1. My sister told me I am just all talk and no actions toward the things I want to do, and that really hurt me to the core.
Who says we should be all action and no talk? Strange. It is valuable for capitalism because it profits off the worker's labor.
I'm Infj and enfp is compatible with our personality, so I want to know this lol.
Thanks for wanting to understand us
Hiiii from an INFP looking up ways to become even closer to my Lovely ENFP Significant Other! Ya'll ROCK and I Love you all SO MUCH, ENFPs are AWESOME!!! Keep on being the Cool People You are!!!!
INFP here… thanks for the tips. Wish me luck!
Wishing Luck!!! From one INFP To another!!!
Woah - I would never say any of that 😂😂 i'm surprised how practical my partner actually is most of the time. But he probably has to be because I'm an Infp dating an enfp haha
me too! So similar and yet so different. haha
My Gf is a ENFP like me. It is beautiful and frustrating at the same time. Thx for the video.
Those who have given up their dreams will discourage yours.
I’m an enfp and I feel like you know me so well hahaha
As far as tearing people down ect goes. I’ve often ( personally and seen in people’s attitudes to others ) felt shocked by how limiting people’s beliefs/ attitudes are towards others. So many bad reasons people won’t be supportive of someone’s dream or even potential. There are so many things involved I guess, including jealousy control and fact that they limit themselves or just aren’t sensitive to what effect their words have, because they are not that type... in even simple terms, ( and even in child development they have shown this to be vital stuff ..) whether someone believes in you/ trusts you or not is a huge thing.. humans can’t just “ get by without “ such things. Any type, but especially some , needs someone to be supportive of their hopes, if only to say, “ it’s ok to be you”. I guess my natural mindset is to hope people be their best self, but it drives me crazy all the half assed reasons I see people even actively try to stop someone from following their dreams. Probably of all types, I’m guessing Enfp and Infj would be most unhappy to see that done to anyone. In some ways I have a kind of confidence but actually in some ways it’s so hard to believe in myself at core, the wrong kind of harsh words can be so hard to forget. I’d guess enfp n infj among others hate bully’s so much for similar reasons. It’s not ok to be mean to people. It’s a kind of emotional stupidity like the guy on a date being rude to the waiter. ... on average the date woman probably thinks you are an asshole , not be impressed by it. Just saying.
The feelings thing sounds surprisingly similar to infj , the one sided ness part I mean.
Rockin that shirt. 👍👍👍
Thanks!
it is from Desigual :)
ENFP here and I find I'm generally attracted to I types! Great video, going to forward to person I date haha!
Same ;)
I see what you did there
Im enfp and I would live if someone brings me back to reality and tell me stop dreaming and put steps into action😅
2:08 listening to that made me feel so good because for some reason people around me always end up criticizing me when I dream so much
But they don't know they're actually subliminal plans
Loll, this is ur sign that ur results are coming :D
ENFP since birth here and having a mutual relationship with an ENFP too hahaha I always predict what's his next move, at first I had a hard time asking his personality type but I'm ENFP outsmart and ENFP, he reveals that he is a campaigner hahaha surpringly we are both ENFP, very helpful we have an awareness
After dating an ENFP, I can say without a speck of doubt that she was the most wonderful partner I've ever had until she wasn't. No growing distant or becoming disinterested, she straight up became another person overnight. A person I despised as much as I loved her before.
Well that isn't very fun
Dan, this is so insightful. Thank you for sharing these videos.
I am an enfp but I am also an intj because people around me say I am very annoying because I only dream, and there are some people who stay away from me because I am too dreamy.
so i changed to be a single intj but analyst and smart but because of that, i don't even have friends.
At first I thought it was because I was too stupid. but it turns out they said they were annoyed if I wasn't as excited as before, I was very surprised because I thought if if it was too excited then people would be very upset
So in the end I started to grow up and use my personality when I was enfp to socialize and became intj when in study groups.
Wowwww
Haha that's not how it works! Learn about cognitive functions, they will help you understand what type you actually are :)
Just FREE yourself and be SIMPLY you!
I really like your shirt. It wouldn’t suit me personally but it’s artistic n interesting ( huh. ? Yes I was paying attention. Lol )
Creative types are like artists and promoters, they are not wired to be stoics or logicians, that is just your role and that's who you are
In my experience it is possible to be stoic or very logical as well, but at different times, and it is connecting with a different part of yourself. Not always a good thing either.
As an Intj reading all these comments by ENFPs is honestly hilarious they are all so emotional 😂
This was such a good video:) Yes we change our mind often and sometimes it's hard to explain why. And yes it's very easy to talk about emotions when it's other people's emotions 😂
I am an Infp dating an Enfp ☺️
Me too, it's great! 🥰🥰🥰
Same!!!! It's the Best!!!!!
Do you guys get stuff done in life? Just curious
Do you coach ENFP- INFP couples? (In our case, who also both have ADHD.)
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True story, great timing! Thanks again, Dan 🙏🏼
Please send Some tips for an ISTJ married to an Enfp
Here's another video I JUST released on finding people in the crowd to form relationships with in the first place! ua-cam.com/video/Mz3LQU3CUnQ/v-deo.html
Empowering people dosn't exclude showing them what there limits are and when they would need to priritise (perusmably) if there's any of there goals they want to reach. But I take away you should for some dreaming people be very carefull Not to insult the dreaming or lack of progress.
Awesome video, relate to it like crazy as the ENFP I am!
7:07
Who would talk to anyone like that?!
Enfp female and male who?
This is the list of option I feel gave something special going with ENFP. Which is best overall?
Male INTJ? Assertive/goal oriented/insightful/difficulties with talking re feelings
Male INFJ? Validate feelings/insightful/not good with assertiveness
Male ENFJ? Assertive in work/validates feelings/insightful (all in 1) but people pleaser in romance/finds difficulty communicating own feelings. Hmm...guessing game unless poke and prod
Male ISFP? Insightful/connection but avoids feelings outwardly. Hmm...
Male ISFJ? Validates feelings/great listener but people pleaser
Male INFP? Hmm...unsure. please help here re this type
Male ISTJ? Assertive/goal oriented/great listener/not insightful/not feelingsey either. Hmm...
Anyone have anything to add or reflect?
Thank you for adding so much to the discussion :)
can you do one about how to make an ENFP-ENFJ relationship work?
If my ENFJ girlfriend, also video editor, allows it :)
@@enfp I´ve actually told you already to make a video about it :D
@@Gabrieleeeful nice editing btw :) thanks for making the dreams come true !
Yes please this because I'm surprised they were even a match. I wouldn't normally think extrovert with extrovert but this extrovert is like WHOA. Hmm..
First i need to find a genuine relationship
Work on it, it won't find you
Genuine relationship with self before bringing anyone else in the circle
@@FPT84 yeaaah
Sometimes enfp girls feels rly manipulative but maybe they just have a random mind and have terrible communication n feeling comm
Hi. How do you get an ENFP interested in mbti? My middle age ENFP friend is so depressed from much entrepreneurial failure, a failed marriage, and he’s so very down on himself. I feel so sure him knowing his type would help him, not only to succeed, but to love himself, but whenever I suggest it, he says he doesn’t want to be “boxed in”. I say that it doesn’t box in, it frees, but he remains suspicious of it. He’s a wonderful, special person, but he can’t see how anyone could see him that way.
Sounds like your friend might need help and care beyond MBTI but for what it’s worth - as an ENFP I find it’s helpful to think of MBTI as an assessment and snapshot of current personality - each of us technically has the capacity to exist anywhere along the spectrum of each letter (I E, N S, T F, J P) - so the combinations are technically infinite. One person could be 55% E, 80% N, while another is 100% E, 60% N, etc etc. Beyond that - each trait can shift and change over time based on life, stress, growth, etc. I do believe that we tend to settle into comfort zones and patterns over time but knowing that we have capacity to change and tap into different aspects of personality is freeing. MBTI is a tool for self knowledge and growth - if it helps, great. If not, there are other ways to meet the same end. Tell your friend he’s awesome.
I wish I meet my ENFP soon. I am an INFJ male and my ex was an ENTP. However, she broke up and then ghosted me for her career. Initially I was angry and heartbroken, but I later realized that True love is not always being together, but rather doing anything for the happiness of the person you love, even if it means separating from them. I didn't want to get in the way of her dreams and so I let her go. I still love her very much and I pray to God that she has a great life ahead. After she left, I was just waiting to fall in love with another ENTP or an ENFP. But I never met anyone. It's been 4 years now, but I am still waiting for my soulmate, I hope I meet her soon. God how I wish there were more ENFPs in the world...tough luck finding a soulmate.
As a INFP can I tell my ENFP partner what he is feeling?
How do you enroll in your program
The best place to start is this link: dreamsaroundtheworld.com/enfptraining
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Bro...
Are ubokay it looks like u have been crying
Cool. Except I will simplify things into one step. Relocation 1800 miles away and disappear from her life