Things They Don’t Tell You About Living Alone as An Old Man!

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  • @darylchambers1291
    @darylchambers1291 2 місяці тому +75

    What great advice at a time in my life i needed to hear! Ill be watching this channel regular thanks for your practical wisdom

    • @allantaylor3913
      @allantaylor3913 2 місяці тому +2

      Macaroni and cheese and get your ass in the day room and watch T.V.

    • @dumbasshit1
      @dumbasshit1 2 місяці тому

      Regularly!

  • @GeezerBoy65
    @GeezerBoy65 4 місяці тому +1024

    What is worse than living alone? Wishing you were living alone. Truth.

    • @clottadams5028
      @clottadams5028 4 місяці тому +35

      Damn. That's the truth.

    • @noe.arboleda
      @noe.arboleda 4 місяці тому +7

      😂

    • @a-k-jun-1
      @a-k-jun-1 3 місяці тому +32

      Living alone in a house surrounded by people. 😮

    • @im1who84u
      @im1who84u 3 місяці тому

      Most men die before their wives do because they want to.

    • @TheJHMAN1
      @TheJHMAN1 3 місяці тому +11

      MAN ain't that the truth.

  • @cintroberts6614
    @cintroberts6614 4 місяці тому +1486

    My wife ran off with my fishing buddy and I miss him a lot.

  • @CapnBlackJackHonour
    @CapnBlackJackHonour 4 місяці тому +1361

    Downside- You don’t have backup and may die alone.
    Upside- While dying alone, I won’t be told how I’m doing it wrong.

    • @samotnybiayzagiel1396
      @samotnybiayzagiel1396 4 місяці тому +30

      Ha ha ha!!! Amazing! Thanks!

    • @michaelkurciviez2057
      @michaelkurciviez2057 4 місяці тому +14

      Like JOBS WIFE!😆

    • @raybod1775
      @raybod1775 4 місяці тому +61

      Everyone dies alone.

    • @emailsph3282
      @emailsph3282 4 місяці тому

      Haha yes, brilliant. Let me die in my own way.

    • @davidgentz1731
      @davidgentz1731 3 місяці тому

      You just need somebody you can interact with and get one of them automatic beepers I felt like I can't get up that's all you need is a lot better than having a woman up your ass all the time

  • @scott3744
    @scott3744 3 місяці тому +541

    Here's a tip to keep the dishes from piling up. Just have one or two dinner plates, forks, spoons, knives, etc. Put the rest away. Whenever you eat, wash your one dish and knife, fork and spoon as soon as you finish eating. Takes about 30 seconds, your dishes never pile up, and they are always clean.

    • @red88chevy
      @red88chevy 3 місяці тому +45

      I use paper plates

    • @thirdsamuel6643
      @thirdsamuel6643 3 місяці тому +17

      Don't put the rest away, don't even own the rest they become to big of a temptation to skip the wash job and grab one of the rest.

    • @ks-sp9bq
      @ks-sp9bq 3 місяці тому +6

      Two dish washers solve this.......then store the dishes in one, and alternate each day. The built in types are not that expensive.

    • @chaburchak
      @chaburchak 3 місяці тому +3

      I bought one of those small dishwashers that sits on your counter and drains into the sink. Works great, wish I'd done it years ago. Still have to handwash large pans, but I don't really use them much these days so it's fine (and Dawn Powerwash helps a lot there...)

    • @Marcel_Audubon
      @Marcel_Audubon 3 місяці тому

      ​@@thirdsamuel6643living alone doesn't mean not having any social interactions- how do you serve food to others ferchrissakes?
      rather than living the lonely one plate life you're suggesting, how about just recommitting to not being a lazy slob?

  • @Gramp-lx7er
    @Gramp-lx7er 3 місяці тому +265

    Thanks for the pep talk. I'm 94 and live alone, Doing OK most days. Cooking as a hobby helps a lot.

    • @jamesmack3314
      @jamesmack3314 3 місяці тому +6

      @@Gramp-lx7er 94? Wow..and you live alone in a house or? Well, I hope you have somebody checking in on you in case you fall. Do you have any remaining family probably not. When you’re 94 there’s not too many people left. Where do you live? How do you get around? I would think you’re not driving.

    • @jglee6721
      @jglee6721 2 місяці тому

      @@jamesmack3314 I'm 68 male and live alone. I’m working on actually getting help when I need it. About 15 years ago, my former landlord’s wife passed away while he was out of town, and no one found her body until a few days later. So, I’m really aware of that risk, and I’ll have someone checking in on me regularly. I also decided a long time ago never to buy a two-story house-it’s gotta be one level to make things easier as I get older.

    • @StanleyMidling
      @StanleyMidling 2 місяці тому +5

      @@jamesmack3314 if he is on a PC typing, i am pretty sure he is doing just fine :)

    • @jamesmack3314
      @jamesmack3314 2 місяці тому

      @@StanleyMidling maybe hopefully

    • @SpaceCadet4Jesus
      @SpaceCadet4Jesus 2 місяці тому +6

      I'm not 94 but but I like eating as a hobby, can I come over?

  • @freddyw4555
    @freddyw4555 4 місяці тому +1199

    I’m old , live in a big house alone and like it. Life can be heaven when you have gotten rid of toxic people

    • @brentdundee
      @brentdundee 4 місяці тому +24

      Well said

    • @bentonrp
      @bentonrp 4 місяці тому +42

      Me too. And I like it so much, I've grown to tolerate less and less ill-intent from people.
      I'm nice and approachable and generous when I meet them, but if I walk into a restaurant and they immediately interrupt or shout at me, just for example, I just say, "oh well!," and walk out. 😁👍 Lololol!

    • @stevemann1299
      @stevemann1299 4 місяці тому +7

      ​@@bentonrp
      You need to choose better.

    • @beachbum4691
      @beachbum4691 4 місяці тому +7

      Any man with a decent house, who looks half respectable and seems to have his life together will attract parasites like flies. did you ever meet the son of a wealthy man who didn't have a pregnant live-in girlfriend?.

    • @HeartFeltGesture
      @HeartFeltGesture 4 місяці тому +20

      @@stevemann1299 You need to inspect and adjust your personality.

  • @stevendaniel8126
    @stevendaniel8126 4 місяці тому +743

    75 and alone.....no debts and good income. Just loving every day. No bullshit from people. Really living the best years.😊😊

    • @Xeyne098
      @Xeyne098 4 місяці тому +5

      💪

    • @thomastereszkiewicz2241
      @thomastereszkiewicz2241 4 місяці тому +33

      I guess the bottom line is some folks do well being alone and some don't, you can never say all people. I'm in my 60's and with my grand pianos and pets, reasonably content. I see folks a couple of times a month but that is generally enough.

    • @JonJuanSpeedgatoFigueroa
      @JonJuanSpeedgatoFigueroa 3 місяці тому +2

      This is the dream!

    • @churchofpos2279
      @churchofpos2279 3 місяці тому +27

      Same here. In my 60's. living alone up in the mountains and loving it. No mortgage, no debt, and no credit card payments. Able to live on a low income because there is no partner demanding high cost cars, clothing, or vacations.
      I have a life alert for emergencies and have all my legal papers are completed and my funeral services are prepaid.

    • @im1who84u
      @im1who84u 3 місяці тому +9

      I am right there with you buddy.
      I've been living alone since I was in my forties and life has been good.
      All my married buddies do is complain about being married.

  • @elaineen1
    @elaineen1 4 місяці тому +627

    Great advice. My wife passed almost 2 years ago. Being by myself is not something I enjoy. Some say they like the peace they have. I had an opposite situation several days ago. I got a call from my 11 years old granddaughter's school. They couldn't reach her Mom so they called me. I was having a bad day dealing with my loneliness and cancer situation. My granddaughter was screaming her teeth hurt and was at the nurses office. I rushed to the school and took her to the dentist for a loose tooth. Thus my day was turned upside down. Yet it was great to spend the afternoon with my granddaughter and have lunch with her. It made me feel I was useful and can help when needed.

    • @Shaolin91z
      @Shaolin91z 4 місяці тому +30

      Peace in Christ surpasses all understanding. Bible study class gives you peace. Thanks Lord for your peace and salvation. Peace negates loneliness

    • @sciencedaemon
      @sciencedaemon 4 місяці тому +9

      Clearly you are not doing the right things for your health. Where do you think cancer comes from? It comes mainly from your diet (except certain types of cancer such as lung cancer). This means they are mostly due to people's own lifestyle choices. Loneliness is also a choice, an emotional addiction to people that you refuse to see for what it is and dump it. Try developing a life philosophy like stoicism. You can't control everything. The things you can't control you must discard because they waste your energy. Focus only on the things you can control, your diet, exercise, etc. This approach can only improve your experience to some degree.

    • @john-o1g9p
      @john-o1g9p 4 місяці тому +24

      no children, widowed 6 years ago after 29 years. she wanted a dog 6 months before she died in her sleep. the dog is the best thing ever. i am a happy hermit by nature, but the dog drags me out for 4-6 walks a day. have met all the neighbors for blocks around, bring in the trash cans, tuck amazon packages closer to the house, shovel snow in the winter. ''it made me feel useful and can help when needed.'' i hear ya.

    • @elaineen1
      @elaineen1 4 місяці тому

      @@sciencedaemon You know nothing about my cancer, diet, exercise program, lifestyle choices. So shut the F up.

    • @elaineen1
      @elaineen1 4 місяці тому +20

      @@sciencedaemon You know nothing of my situation, thus I advise, "It is better to remain quiet and be thought a fool, than to speak up and remove all doubt."

  • @michaelbeams9553
    @michaelbeams9553 3 місяці тому +199

    People often confuse being alone ( not a problem ) , with being lonely ( a problem ) . They do not necessarily go hand in hand . Great video , Great advice . 👍👍

    • @dt8787
      @dt8787 2 місяці тому +2

      Some people think that but people can be smarter than you think and actually do know the difference.

    • @michaelbeams9553
      @michaelbeams9553 2 місяці тому +1

      @dt8787 True .

    • @hitest8925
      @hitest8925 Місяць тому +2

      Point well made. Never felt more alone than in a crowded elevator. Ironically though, hand in hand would mean you were not alone.

    • @hitest8925
      @hitest8925 Місяць тому

      @@dt8787 ?

    • @michaelbeams9553
      @michaelbeams9553 Місяць тому

      @hitest8925 True , but what is the sound of one hand clapping 🤚👏✌️

  • @AN-cy7xm
    @AN-cy7xm 3 місяці тому +49

    I'm 70 years old and I'm one of the lucky ones. Both daughters & their families live less than 10 minutes from me. We help each other. It's a great support system. I know how fortunate I am.

  • @Sammiejomitchell
    @Sammiejomitchell 4 місяці тому +175

    I resolved this problem. I have no family,they’ve all passed away. I certainly don’t care to remarry. I moved to a poorer country so I could afford to live off my social security. After a few years of getting to know the locals I made a deal with a young man and his wife, that I get to live with them until I die. They take care of me and when I’m dead, they inherit what I have, which is considerable in their country. Any day now we will have a new baby in the house. Never had children, so I’m really looking forward to being “a grandmother” and teaching the baby English. I feel like I’ve got new purpose in life.

    • @ChineduOpara
      @ChineduOpara 4 місяці тому

      Even elderly women have more social options than men

    • @AndreaAlexander-d4h
      @AndreaAlexander-d4h 3 місяці тому +2

      What country?

    • @ChineduOpara
      @ChineduOpara 3 місяці тому +1

      @@Sammiejomitchell no idea why my comment was deleted

    • @marmaly
      @marmaly 3 місяці тому +8

      Aren't you afraid that they will bump you off when things get difficult?

    • @Sammiejomitchell
      @Sammiejomitchell 3 місяці тому +2

      @@marmaly no. Not at all. Never felt safer.

  • @randylavoy6196
    @randylavoy6196 4 місяці тому +320

    After two divorces due to ex wives cheating on me ....20 yrs. Of single living ...is a calm,quiet, peaceful experience. No drama . No lies...no deception ...Just my own space ..! Awesome ...

    • @arlissyoung8899
      @arlissyoung8899 4 місяці тому +13

      If you call being lonely all the time awesome, then so be it. I had 2 divorces, one long term and one short. I am 62 well off and would love to have someone in my life. After being single for 11 years now it's one of the worst things in life being lonely all the time.

    • @Retno39
      @Retno39 3 місяці тому

      ​@@arlissyoung8899
      Hmm... quite an effective personal ad here. I wonder if you've had any takers by now...😉😅

    • @655Louisa
      @655Louisa 3 місяці тому +2

      were these arranged marriages?

    • @jamesportrais3946
      @jamesportrais3946 3 місяці тому +3

      I hear you Randy, and you too Arliss. I lived and worked from home alone for a few years in my late 30's - it drove me bananas and I couldn't stay sober. Truly, if there was a switch you could flip and turn off the sex-drive, I'd easily be a millionaire by now. I wound up marrying the most beautiful woman I'd ever seen and now I'm constantly screwed up thinking she might be cheating on me.

    • @amgooder
      @amgooder 3 місяці тому +1

      Why they cheat on you?

  • @captdavec590
    @captdavec590 4 місяці тому +867

    Better to live alone than with a miserable woman who's out to steal your money..or nagging you all day.

    • @markjg2275
      @markjg2275 4 місяці тому +29

      I agree with you.

    • @0oo00
      @0oo00 4 місяці тому +18

      ​@@markjg2275So does the Bible.

    • @mtsky-tc6uw
      @mtsky-tc6uw 4 місяці тому +37

      the most alone i ever felt was right next to my ex wife--been divorced 29 years

    • @DanTheManIOM
      @DanTheManIOM 4 місяці тому +14

      Or a raging alcoholic

    • @Xeyedjohn
      @Xeyedjohn 4 місяці тому +17

      don't talk about my wife like that

  • @robertbrown9927
    @robertbrown9927 3 місяці тому +33

    Good advice! I am 71. My dog and I start our day with a two mile walk before sunrise. That serves as the inspiration to stay active during the day. I push mow instead of using my riding mower. As a veteran, I stay active in the American Legion as the Finance Officer. There are so many activities out there for seniors. I do not drink alcohol or sugary drinks. I make my own healthy meals. It's easy to do if you make your healthy practices routine. Make your bed everyday. Simple things like that. Thank you for your video and your concern. Rob in N.C.

  • @johnholt2193
    @johnholt2193 4 місяці тому +160

    I'm 57 and live happily alone with 2 cats and an unruly lab pup. We're way out in the boondocks a mile from the nearest neighbors. I love it.

    • @michaelkurciviez2057
      @michaelkurciviez2057 4 місяці тому +5

      Me too. It’s PARADISE.

    • @oneilprovost2287
      @oneilprovost2287 4 місяці тому +8

      Del: maybe you best go down to a town, get outta these mountains.
      Jeremiah Johnson: I've been to a town Del.

    • @fifteen8
      @fifteen8 3 місяці тому +5

      I'm similar age (a little older) and in great shape physically. But I'm already planning for when my health and physical capabilities decline. I'll be looking to move to a town/city with at least one really good hospital where I can walk to get what I need, like to the supermarket, instead of driving everywhere. And have pets, of course. I don't want to be in a situation where I need help (through no fault of my own) and can't get it.

    • @winterwolf2012
      @winterwolf2012 3 місяці тому +1

      @@fifteen8 Very important! Best wishes on your journey. 73 here.

    • @joebideb
      @joebideb 3 місяці тому +4

      Until you reach a point that you can't drive

  • @vonherrmanna
    @vonherrmanna 2 місяці тому +60

    I turn 60 in December of this year. Was married for 22. Divorced 12 years ago. Initially was lonely. Dated for a couple of years just after the divorce. Most of the women I dated wanted a checkbook, a safety net, or were controlling or damaged. While I would still enjoy having someone to be with, it’s simply not worth going through the process. I work, go to the gym, and have family nearby. The only worry I have is being injured at my home. The upside is that I can do whatever I want and my whole house is my “man cave”. The downside is that I don’t have someone with which to share new experiences. We’ll see how I feel in another ten years.

    • @glennalan
      @glennalan Місяць тому +4

      Feel exactly the same as you I'm 62. Just not worth it. So funny, the whole house is a man cave, so is mine! I will say I have three rescue dogs around me at all time and that really really helps. They are such great friends and companions.

    • @ThundersMcCoy
      @ThundersMcCoy Місяць тому +2

      Unless those "new experiences" are something the woman is 100% interested in (ie what she and only she wants to do) she's just going to ruin it for you. Be careful of what you wish for.

  • @davidking3699
    @davidking3699 4 місяці тому +428

    Make peace with your past... like an emotional de-cluttering... travel lighter and have no regrets or unsaid things... Don't try to win old arguments with ex-wives or ungrateful children... just forgive them (even in their absences) and move on... forgive yourself and accept you did the best you could at the time... basically, don't live with the ghosts of the past...

    • @hutch3d
      @hutch3d 4 місяці тому +23

      This is great advice…

    • @coajrmusic
      @coajrmusic 4 місяці тому +23

      Thanks for your wise words sir, I needed to hear them this morning.

    • @dontall71
      @dontall71 4 місяці тому +24

      Don't let a piece of the past, take away the peace of your present.

    • @frv6610
      @frv6610 4 місяці тому +14

      "dont live with the ghosts of the past"

    • @Men_of_Tomorrow
      @Men_of_Tomorrow 4 місяці тому +7

      I don’t hear this anywhere near enough. Thank you.

  • @TheUnofficialMaker
    @TheUnofficialMaker 4 місяці тому +302

    As a cancer survivor at 62, I can tell you a big downside to not having a good woman. You need an advocate at the hospital, she noticed things before anyone else , she was there early until late in my room, and took care of me when I got to go home after months in the hospital. She even gave me the medications though my Central Line which could of killed me if not done correctly. I can never repay her for her dedication to me, except to love her unconditionally. I am now 69.

    • @angelwings7930
      @angelwings7930 4 місяці тому +34

      You sound like a mature, kind, appreciative person instead of pure cynicism like most who comment here. Thats how you got your wonderful mate. 👍

    • @sweetbeep
      @sweetbeep 4 місяці тому +27

      ​@@angelwings7930but also he has the good woman. I guess the others didn't have good women

    • @angelwings7930
      @angelwings7930 4 місяці тому +18

      @@sweetbeep
      Wrong assumption. You seem to think “the others” are God’s gift or whatever. Often when someone complains about their spouse or ex, they’re not asking themselves what their part or responsibility is or was, regarding issues. Maybe their ex was wonderful but those men drove the nice ladies up a wall. Then claimed the women were the problem. Get it ?

    • @OhHenGee1796
      @OhHenGee1796 4 місяці тому +15

      @@angelwings7930 you think guys like above who are good, nice men don't get treated like crap, too? I always expect a woman to concoct hypothetical scenarios where the men are bad. Fact is every day of the week there's countless guys getting their lives turned upside down by a woman they loved. Some of them were not great, some of them were the best men you could find. There's no shortage of trash women in this world. You just do a much better job of hiding it.

    • @justis4men211
      @justis4men211 4 місяці тому +14

      @@OhHenGee1796 Adam was the first to discover the pure evil of Woman. Nothing has changed.

  • @12161otherworldly
    @12161otherworldly 2 місяці тому +52

    Living alone has its pro's and cons. The one thing that I think that is important is to have the proper mindset. Accept your life for what it is. Find your strengths and know your weaknesses. Do the things that make you happy.

    • @jess4metoo
      @jess4metoo 2 місяці тому

      exactly, its all relative.

  • @johnmackey3937
    @johnmackey3937 2 місяці тому +48

    I'm 64, best friend 70, we realized about 4 years ago that it wasn't so great financially to be on our own when we crunched numbers, we now share a 2/2 condo, enough room to have privacy, we have helped with medical appointments and other issues that have come up. If you find someone that's really a good match, you don't have to live alone in silence and you get human interaction which is invaluable. We also maintain our own interests, some friends in common, we are in a senior community, but this works in any community.

    • @willgaukler8979
      @willgaukler8979 Місяць тому +1

      ... so have the best answer best of both worlds without commitment or the feeling you have too ... or the someone is judging you every day feeling good lusk to you

  • @garyt7232
    @garyt7232 4 місяці тому +391

    To paraphrase a saying from Robin Williams - Being alone is not a problem. Having people around you that make you feel alone is the problem. Great topic. Best wish to you, Jen, and Rogan.

    • @everymanhasastory
      @everymanhasastory  4 місяці тому +8

      Agreed

    • @billbrochocki296
      @billbrochocki296 4 місяці тому +6

      VERY WELL SAID MR WILLIAMS!!!!!😎😎😎😎😎

    • @beachbum4691
      @beachbum4691 4 місяці тому

      Any man with a decent house, who looks half respectable and seems to have his life together will attract parasites like flies. did you ever meet the son of a wealthy man who didn't have a pregnant live-in girlfriend?.

    • @Rosie-di6ed
      @Rosie-di6ed 4 місяці тому +2

      One final thing, sir, I wanted to thank you for your time and your wisdom I you and your courage to get online and share yourlife’s experiences and lifestyle. Can’t say I would go to the Philippines except for the pretty girls, but they will just use you better off being alone here in the states.

    • @bitchinbob2045
      @bitchinbob2045 4 місяці тому

      Dude offed himself

  • @lampi5115
    @lampi5115 2 місяці тому +24

    I’ve lived alone since 2001 and love the peace and quiet especially when I’m debt free and retired at 56

  • @goofyjohn6191
    @goofyjohn6191 4 місяці тому +315

    I'm an ex military and keep a spotless house and often thin out stuff i collected over the years. I work 60 hours per week ,do home projects and play at the guitar. Life alone is great as long as you move it move it baby.

    • @sagora3114
      @sagora3114 4 місяці тому +12

      @@goofyjohn6191 Yeah that's right if you've got interests and hobbies Then being alone isn't really a big deal having friends is good And I find I socialise more when I'm out and about at the shopping centres I'm more talkative And I get to express myself and have conversation in ways like that

    • @1SevenFive
      @1SevenFive 4 місяці тому +10

      @@sagora3114Well hobbies and interests should be a given. And I think the problem with a lot of older women is that they don’t have any hobbies or interests, and just want a man to fill the void.

    • @sagora3114
      @sagora3114 4 місяці тому +1

      @@1SevenFive yes quite possibly

    • @DavidBarton2
      @DavidBarton2 4 місяці тому

      That's my goal

    • @Xeyne098
      @Xeyne098 3 місяці тому

      @@1SevenFive That is it.

  • @Macjohn1419
    @Macjohn1419 3 місяці тому +24

    The one simple thing as a whistle can be life saving in any situation at any age. I’ve been touting this for years. It’s louder and carries farther than your voice and doesn’t require a lot of effort to signal someone. I use one set of dishes and clean them after eating. When I’m lazy, I use paper plates and plastic utensils. Use once and done. My neighbor has a key to get into my house in an emergency. Great advice that a lot of seniors never think about until it’s too late.

  • @hilariousname6826
    @hilariousname6826 4 місяці тому +97

    My mother had an arrangement with another widow, who lived across the street: if one of them didn't have their curtains open by 10 a.m., the other would phone to check if everything was okay.

    • @erik7386
      @erik7386 3 місяці тому +5

      Your mother was smart

    • @hilariousname6826
      @hilariousname6826 3 місяці тому +2

      @@erik7386 Thank you! Usually people on the internet do not say such kind things about my mother ... !

    • @amgooder
      @amgooder 3 місяці тому +1

      What if Chucky is the who's opening curtains. 😳

    • @RichardGutierrezRG
      @RichardGutierrezRG 3 місяці тому +5

      I remember seeing a bunch of older men and women in the morning at McDonalds. Didn't really think too much of it. Then I realized that not only were they socializing and getting out for coffee and breakfast but it was a way of knowing who wasn't there. If someone didn't show up, they would know right away.

    • @DJPLAST2
      @DJPLAST2 2 місяці тому +2

      My folks had the same system. My dad was a truck driver and was on the road a lot, left my mom home alone.

  • @elgringoec
    @elgringoec 4 місяці тому +27

    Every time I need that obscure tool that I haven't used for years, or a piece of material among my saved stuff, I feel rewarded for not having fallen for the "decluttering" craze.

  • @bertmunoz7100
    @bertmunoz7100 4 місяці тому +248

    William Holden was 63 when he died. He was at home having a drink alone, he fell or tripped, he hit his head on the coffee table, he managed to sit in a chair next to the phone and bled to death there. These things can happen to anyone at any time, is all about taking PRECAUTIONS. I am sixty now and I have a routine, one of the really BIG things I know was hurting me, was DRINKING. It messed with my cognitive health. Not to mention, damage to my liver, the danger of falling. It was KILLING me very slowly. I stopped drinking twelve years ago and I'm healthier now than I was in my forties.
    If I had to advise anyone anything is to STOP DRINKING. Believe me is not part of your personality is just a crutch we use to deal with other feelings and if you think about it we had to learn that as well.

    • @goombah226
      @goombah226 4 місяці тому

      Solid advice.

    • @devilsadvocacy
      @devilsadvocacy 4 місяці тому +18

      Couldn’t agree more. I have been without so much as a drop going on three years. Quitting was easier than I thought it would be, and don’t miss it one bit

    • @Arthur-u7e6l
      @Arthur-u7e6l 4 місяці тому +17

      Agreed! I'm coming up on 6 years without a drink or a drug. It's poison! I'm a much healthier and happier person without it!

    • @normanpearson8753
      @normanpearson8753 4 місяці тому +7

      Holden .

    • @Shaolin91z
      @Shaolin91z 4 місяці тому +4

      Glad I wasn't asking for your advice. Where's my tall can😆. Thanks Lord for bible study class. Thanks Lord for your peace

  • @1369jsj
    @1369jsj 3 місяці тому +120

    Just found your channel today. I’m 66 ,wife divorced me, took half my money and then died a month later.
    No kids, no GF, no close friends. Dog and cat keep me sane for now.
    Good channel 🙂 thank you.

    • @LePédantSémantique
      @LePédantSémantique 3 місяці тому +5

      Congratulations!

    • @winterwolf2012
      @winterwolf2012 3 місяці тому +9

      73 here & somewhat the same shape. The big problem comes with the need for medical backup when needed & keeping things organized in the home. Live in the Florida Keys so life isn't really so bad. Faith in Christ give great hope for the future, no matter what comes. Best wishes for your future!

    • @uncleremus5046
      @uncleremus5046 3 місяці тому +2

      Karma

    • @winterwolf2012
      @winterwolf2012 3 місяці тому +2

      @@uncleremus5046 No, just good luck.

    • @anotheryoutubechannel4809
      @anotheryoutubechannel4809 3 місяці тому +1

      @@winterwolf2012love the keys but it can be a bit isolating.

  • @wbwilhite
    @wbwilhite 2 місяці тому +18

    I live alone in metro Atlanta. Big house, lots of land, meant for a big family, but they have all gone. Even my Russian Blue cat died. I have subscribed to your channel due to this video. You have good advice and insights which will benefit me. Thank you!

    • @everymanhasastory
      @everymanhasastory  2 місяці тому +2

      I'm so glad you found it useful. Thank you for watching ☺️

  • @Baltimoreed
    @Baltimoreed 4 місяці тому +31

    Been a widower for 6 years. Miss her every day but I’m doing ok. Been working part time 25 hrs/wk for 2 years and love it. Has helped alot for my mental acuity and pt. Have my builds, a wood and metal shop, I play a baby grand, I cook, clean but am messy. Mow my own yards. Hang out with my son and his family once a week. Shoot two 2gun matches a month and reload. When you stop moving you start dying. That recliner WILL KILL YOU.

    • @moxnix74
      @moxnix74 2 місяці тому +1

      That's real. 👍🏾

  • @clint120
    @clint120 4 місяці тому +203

    I’m in my mid 70s, found a great part-time job two days a week. It’s an opportunity to meet with people, feel purposeful and continue my retired life five days a week.

    • @everymanhasastory
      @everymanhasastory  4 місяці тому +8

      Good for you 👍

    • @garny3766
      @garny3766 4 місяці тому +4

      Yes!! This is what I’m seeing with retired family members. They are alone but I believe they need a partime job. Somewhere where they can interact with people other than me or themselves. They been in the workforce and very productive and I think they miss that. Idle minds are the devils playground.

    • @l.5832
      @l.5832 4 місяці тому +5

      Same. I'm in my mid 60s and all my friends retired. I am working part time for the social interaction because all my family are dead. It is also great as an inflation hedge and it keeps my mind sharp. I notice how people decline rapidly as soon as they stop work (both physically and cognitively).. I still have plenty of time for non-work pursuits.

    • @Shaolin91z
      @Shaolin91z 4 місяці тому

      Thanks Lord for bible study class

    • @leemundy1613
      @leemundy1613 2 місяці тому

      Congrats on getting a good situation worked out. I retired 4-5 years ago. Loafed for 9 months and got a job. It only lasted about 4 months, then Covid laid me low for a while. Never went back to work, and now I physically would be very questionable. I've cut and sold a little firewood, and enjoyed meeting new people. It's a mixed bag, to be sure. I hope you have a long and joyful reetirement!

  • @justicenglory2242
    @justicenglory2242 3 місяці тому +17

    There was once a man that won a lottery and came home to tell his housemate. "Honey, I just won the lottery pack your bags". The woman states, "should I take my summer clothes or winter clothes"? The man states, "I don't care, just be out of the house by 2:00 PM tomorrow"!!

  • @JasonLS1776
    @JasonLS1776 2 місяці тому +10

    I'm 50 and live alone. I always have my phone with me for an emergency. This is good advice for any age.

  • @gypsy2007
    @gypsy2007 3 місяці тому +19

    I think people are having a blast being alone. Myself, I never knew how much I craved time alone and how awful it was to never have silence when I was married to the extrovert covert narcissist who loved to provoke me. Now I spend my days in the company of 3 dogs, 9 cats, and have my garden. I never knew how good I sleep by not having anyone on my bed. Been celibate and hermit for 7 years. This lifestyle fits me. I do things at my own pace, and the quiet and peaceful days have restored my nervous system. If I die alone, no problem. No one dies alone. You will see how this is true. Don't worry, relax, enjoy life. Pursue hobbies. DO take care of yourself, cook at home, be clean. You deserve it.

  • @MakerTom2022
    @MakerTom2022 3 місяці тому +6

    Just found your channel, and glad for it. I've taken care of my mother for about 25 years, and am now a lone bachelor at home after she moved into a nursing home
    It's a big change.

  • @Mabuhay6835
    @Mabuhay6835 4 місяці тому +65

    Hi Mark, you should do these reminders on a monthly basis.
    That was incredible advice so important thank you

    • @MindFusion-ij1xl
      @MindFusion-ij1xl 2 місяці тому +1

      I am new to Marks channel, but he truly is exceptional, wizened, honest, kind, not cruel, and covers a whole landscape of topics rather than the shape of one tree within it.

  • @eastcoastrifraf9101
    @eastcoastrifraf9101 2 місяці тому +29

    I go long weekends without speaking a word. Christmas is the worst when you have no-one.

    • @everymanhasastory
      @everymanhasastory  2 місяці тому +3

      I know. I've been there used to hate Christmas. Now I love it.
      New wife baby boy and lots of joy in my life.
      Come to the Philippines and start a new life

    • @DAPICO33
      @DAPICO33 Місяць тому +1

      Go to vegas

    • @km4hr
      @km4hr Місяць тому +4

      @@everymanhasastory So why are you blogging about living alone?

  • @sams6233
    @sams6233 3 місяці тому +11

    I agree that it's good to have a friend or friends to check on you. You have to learn how to manage your life whether you're alone or not. Life wasn't meant to be perfect. I was in an unhappy marriage for over 25 years, and am totally happy now. I make sure that I have a certain amount of social contact with people. I make time for moderate exercise, reading, as well other activities to keep my mind sharp. Whatever your situation, you have to make a plan that fits you and establish a routine so you can have structure. And make a conscious decision to be happy no matter what your situation.
    One thing I have definitely decided not to do is move to a foreign country like the Philippines or any other country as at my senior age. I allowed myself to have that fantasy for awhile but after watching expat videos, I have decided it is just not a sound idea for me. Thanks for sharing this valuable advise Mark.

  • @plumisland1070
    @plumisland1070 2 місяці тому +3

    This guy is awesome! First time watching for me (but always been curious). I can see why he has 1000s of subscribers. I am now one of them.

  • @razoo
    @razoo 4 місяці тому +183

    I'm alone living here in the Philippines. I do like it. I have many friends I go with to do things and my neighbors all know I am in my mid 60's and check with me every day or so. I am in great shape for my age, but anything can happen at any time.

    • @mateor7302
      @mateor7302 4 місяці тому +8

      My plan is to emulate your lifestyle 🍻

    • @CaptainFritz
      @CaptainFritz 4 місяці тому +3

      I'm trying to sell my so i can retire in Thailand.Im curious as to why you chose the Philippines, thanks

    • @koikoivison4753
      @koikoivison4753 4 місяці тому

      yes, and LBFMs are easy to get in your 80s

    • @koikoivison4753
      @koikoivison4753 4 місяці тому

      ​@CaptainFritz LBFMs , Thailand is Philippines with better food and legal weed.

    • @HMaxTube11
      @HMaxTube11 3 місяці тому

      @@koikoivison4753Had to look LBFM up…Little Brown F’king Machines, referring to prostitutes or available girls, back in Viet Nam war days.

  • @LarryPortouw
    @LarryPortouw 4 місяці тому +14

    I lost my wife almost 3 years ago now. You are spot on. When alone decline can be a stealthy, slippery slope.

    • @Shaolin91z
      @Shaolin91z 4 місяці тому +3

      Peace in Christ surpasses all understanding. Bible study class gives you peace. Peace negates loneliness. Thanks Lord for your salvation and peace

  • @Go4Corvette
    @Go4Corvette 4 місяці тому +117

    Unless you don't want to be saved. I live a full-time RV van life traveling as a nomad and enjoying the outdoors, fishing, hunting, and hiking. I will go till I drop. When I die they may not find me for months. As a nomad, you live a minimalist life, so the only thing my kids need to decide is when to sell my RV van.

    • @BlacFireSan
      @BlacFireSan 4 місяці тому +4

      I think you’re suffering from some sort of trauma.

    • @mateor7302
      @mateor7302 4 місяці тому +21

      You're living life to fullest instead of like most people just waiting to die

    • @Go4Corvette
      @Go4Corvette 4 місяці тому +50

      @@BlacFireSan The trauma was long ago when my wife left, costing me a business, home, cars, trucks, and assets, along with the pressure of raising four kids on my own. It can pull a person down but the van life has been the best decision for me.

    • @BlacFireSan
      @BlacFireSan 4 місяці тому +5

      @@Go4Corvette man I’m so sorry this happened to you. It’s definitely rough out here. Knowing this, do you think a prenup would’ve saved you before you ever married her?

    • @Go4Corvette
      @Go4Corvette 4 місяці тому +20

      @@BlacFireSan Only an attorney could tell you for sure. With women, there are no guarantees.

  • @scoobydoo5447
    @scoobydoo5447 2 місяці тому +7

    I’m only 38 but have been completely alone in this world for over a decade. This man is speaking the truth.

  • @reallybadgamer
    @reallybadgamer 3 місяці тому +14

    Great video. I like reading everyone's comments. It alone shows we aren't alone.

  • @bernardlesperance742
    @bernardlesperance742 2 місяці тому +3

    This is really helpful and really good of you. I traveled far and wide (as a "traveler" and not "tourist") throughout my thirties and forties but never wished to settle anywhere as an expat. Eventually ended back home permanently and never looked back except for my fond memories of having been a "traveler" for many years. To each their own, as they say.

  • @bobmacelwain
    @bobmacelwain 3 місяці тому +7

    I agree with you...been alone for 10 years now...quite content with my life...I'm 78 and still work part time...mostly because it gives me something to look forward to...have a great dog and wonderful neighbors...life is good and time flies by...looking forward to the next 10 years!!!

  • @KalahariProphet
    @KalahariProphet 4 місяці тому +25

    Im turning 50 next year, and I really needed to hear this, I never thought about these things.

    • @tedm4932
      @tedm4932 4 місяці тому +6

      Just want to tell you when I was around 50 to 60 , I was doing good and got around good, felt good but when I reached about 62 , life and body starts taking a toll on you and thinking starts changing. Things that were important are not important. Goodluck !!!!

    • @rollandjoeseph
      @rollandjoeseph 3 місяці тому +1

      Take up a sport as a hobby to stay fit, join a club , I cycle to stay fit and meet people..im 56 and in my best shape, and giving up drinking helped me alot..good luck!

  • @Carnaln8ure
    @Carnaln8ure Місяць тому +6

    Good stuff. I am 50. Recently had a couple of strokes that left me unable to continue my work as a Field Service Winding Engineer. 2 1/2 years after my strokes my wife of 28 years decided to leave me and filed for divorce. I can't drive anymore because of my loss of field of vision resulting from the strokes. When she left, she took most of the stress in my life with her. I am enjoying my peace for the moment but I recognize that I will not be able to manage many of the things I am doing now as well in 5-10 years assuming I live that long. I am living with intent. I recently experienced an injury to my foot and had to stay off of it and that brought my daily walks to a halt almost two months ago now. It is feeling better but not quite ready to sustain those 90 minute walks. I have taken up the hobby of firearms and target shooting self defense and accessories etc. Lots to learn and the training helps my fitness and mental acuity. It affords some social interactions as well at the ranges meeting other gun folks.

  • @GuitarsAndSynths
    @GuitarsAndSynths Місяць тому +1

    gardening is great and I learned to grow many vegetables and herbs and love the flavor and experience of watching stuff grow, blossom and bear fruit. Plus relaxing and see life take place.

  • @PaulBuell
    @PaulBuell 4 місяці тому +7

    I live in a senior veterans housing building… we all have our personal problems - we know that - this podcast is right on, as we look after one another… stay in a life of gratitude. Saying hello to a stranger may save their life…. Thank you

  • @ElmwoodParkHulk
    @ElmwoodParkHulk 4 місяці тому +105

    Awesome information as always . I’ve been MGTow for 19 years and really love it . Hiring someone to cook and clean is the solution .

    • @sirclarkmarz
      @sirclarkmarz 4 місяці тому +10

      I'm a better cook than any woman I've ever known and I keep a much tie to your house . Never being married or having kids has left me with disposable income I have a cleaning woman and that frees up time for me to do the things that I like .

    • @MrSamadolfo
      @MrSamadolfo 4 місяці тому +4

      🙂 i prefer cooking for myself, its actually Therapuetic, i make a big pot which lasts a whole week. Cleaning i do myself too, when ur alone its a bit easier.

    • @ElmwoodParkHulk
      @ElmwoodParkHulk 4 місяці тому +2

      @@sirclarkmarz can I hire you , I just know how to make eggs . I would have to watch utube videos on how to clean

    • @ElmwoodParkHulk
      @ElmwoodParkHulk 4 місяці тому +1

      @@MrSamadolfo can I hire you ? I made eggs once .

    • @sirclarkmarz
      @sirclarkmarz 4 місяці тому +3

      @@ElmwoodParkHulk I had no choice but to learn how to take care of myself from an early age my mother mentally checked out when I was around six or seven I've basically been taking care of myself ever since .

  • @RealMe-sd9nm
    @RealMe-sd9nm 4 місяці тому +337

    Dear Sir, all that you shared in your video is true and you are doing a great service to all seniors who are living alone by themselves. God bless you.

    • @everymanhasastory
      @everymanhasastory  4 місяці тому +16

      Thank you 😊 I am ao glad you enjoyed it

    • @thehoteldeveloper
      @thehoteldeveloper 4 місяці тому +12

      ​@@everymanhasastory Alot of the issues with aging and mobility can be mitigated with the carnivore diet. You'll feel so amazing you'll never want to sit around. The number one comment from all carnivores? I wish I had started this sooner!

    • @sagora3114
      @sagora3114 4 місяці тому +3

      @@thehoteldeveloper yes I've heard good things off a customer I met that's on the carnivore diet but it just seems a bit boring and repetitive that's all I love my variety of food options I like my cooking

    • @aaronsmith5433
      @aaronsmith5433 4 місяці тому +2

      Beef heart cooked w/🥓 bacon. Local grocery prepares the beef heart in nice little portions very clean and neat cooks quick. Very lean
      I can eat it almost everyday, but got to leave room in the schedule for fried chicken.
      Fried eggs 🥚 , . . I just don't know which to eat first@

    • @ggeorge4144
      @ggeorge4144 4 місяці тому +6

      @@sagora3114 It is the best because today's American food is poisonous. All of your cereals, breads, pastries, canned goods, etc. are loaded with poisonous chemicals. No European country, even Canada will carry US products unless they eliminate the poison. Ketchup in the US has poisonous high fructose corn syrup, the same brand in Canada has sugar instead. I love the Keto diet.

  • @mrob75
    @mrob75 3 місяці тому +5

    I stay as active as I can at my church…That really makes a difference. There’s always so many things to do and you make so many friends. 🙏🏼

  • @STxFisherman
    @STxFisherman 3 місяці тому +11

    I live in a remote areal alone and missed the conversations that I would have with people so I looked into ham radio. I took tests to get my licenses for ham radio and now I use it daily to have conversations with people from all over the world. There are lots of very interesting people from all over. It was a great idea to keep human interaction in my day to day routine. It is a great hobby for those who live alone.

    • @misterbob8834
      @misterbob8834 3 місяці тому +1

      Though I do not live alone, I am on the air every week with my friends in neighboring states using CW for an hour on Thursdays. Ham radio keeps us connected! 73 OM

    • @patrickbodine1300
      @patrickbodine1300 3 місяці тому

      Just starting with HAM radio.
      Always liked using a cb radio.
      Can't wait to make new friends.

    • @jerryharanczyk
      @jerryharanczyk 3 місяці тому

      Hmm , that's probably a bit better then Morse code radio signal

  • @kartolux
    @kartolux 4 місяці тому +1024

    Being on your own is the biggest pleasure in life. No old women.

    • @JEWSWITHTATOOS
      @JEWSWITHTATOOS 4 місяці тому +6

      I agree

    • @navitas1
      @navitas1 4 місяці тому +26

      Hahahaha😂😂

    • @mateor7302
      @mateor7302 4 місяці тому +19

      Haha 😂

    • @JEWSWITHTATOOS
      @JEWSWITHTATOOS 4 місяці тому +4

      @@bitteroldman701 same here

    • @michaelfreiwald5236
      @michaelfreiwald5236 4 місяці тому +84

      I used to think that until I went overseas (at age 40) and married my Filipina Wife. True, marriage isn’t for everyone but that woman saved my life

  • @sbsman4998
    @sbsman4998 4 місяці тому +63

    Best thing about living alone is not being in a hospital w IV tubes, nosy nurses, useless doctors, 3 AM blood tests, neglected by family/"friends" unwilling to lift a finger to ease your pain ~ live alone die alone no problem medical profession be damned! ~

    • @user-mx3kh8rj1t
      @user-mx3kh8rj1t 4 місяці тому +5

      That last line…
      Amen!
      I am in the community care program through the VA “health care” system. I can’t seem to get referrals to specialists. It takes over a year to get approval - 14 months to see a podiatrist.
      I gave up on seeing a neurologist back in May after trying since January.
      Back in August I tried to get approval to see a cardiologist. I just received a denial letter at the end of September.
      At least the illegal aliens and non-veterans are cared for.
      A number of years ago, a spine doctor asked me how I was feeling at my follow-up appointment. I told him I hadn’t been approved for physical therapy (it had been 7 weeks since my first appointment). He told me, “You get what you pay for.”
      😐

    • @warrenp2022
      @warrenp2022 4 місяці тому

      @@user-mx3kh8rj1t
      You get what you pay for.
      If you are enrolled in the VA, you already paid with your service! I used to go to the VA occasionally, found the same attitude, haven't been to see those jerks for many years.

    • @really2345
      @really2345 4 місяці тому +11

      When I was diagnosed with cancer the doctor immediately started talking about chemo and radiation treatments. My mother had passed away after five years of suffering with such poison. I told the doctor you can cut out whatever is cancerous, but I will not undergo chemo nor radiation nor run up useless hospital bills. I have been cancer free for nine years and have no medical bills.

    • @sbsman4998
      @sbsman4998 4 місяці тому +11

      @@really2345 Well Really, I have had both heavy radiation in 1991 and chemo in 2013, both from life threatening cancers and these treatments did reduce the tumors w immediate reduction of symptoms threatening my life BUT doctors gave me zero, nothing to improve my health to keep them away, no diet changes stress reduction nada! I am 80 now and have decided if re-diagnosed I will refuse treatment and let god/my body decide, the aftereffects of these treatments are horrendous and at my age, very afraid of being confined to a hospital bed too weak to leave or even get out of bed, fate way worse than death!!

    • @turtleanton6539
      @turtleanton6539 3 місяці тому

      ​@@sbsman4998indeed

  • @johndotter351
    @johndotter351 4 місяці тому +13

    64 years old and learned to love to being alone. Maybe taking a big chance but willing to live with it. ALWAYS BEST TO BE ALONE FOR THE RIGHT REASONS THAN BEING WITH SOMEONE FOR THE WRONG ONES.

  • @JEANNEHUNTER-q5t
    @JEANNEHUNTER-q5t 3 місяці тому +16

    Very true for all seniors, male and female.

  • @singinintherain8565
    @singinintherain8565 2 місяці тому +5

    I’m a 62-yo woman and happily single. I’m so blessed though that my brother lives 3 doors down. We eat dinner together and watch a couple of episodes of whatever we’re binging, every night. We have some good neighbor friends too. God bless you all🤍

  • @rjc7289
    @rjc7289 4 місяці тому +23

    That's one thing that concerns me as a guy living alone in my early 50's -- getting tripping hazards out of the way. I'm always stepping over stuff to avoid tripping. I've got a lot of stuff crammed into my small bungalow, and I need to downsize on my possessions big-time.

  • @robertclark9
    @robertclark9 4 місяці тому +18

    Lotta truth here. Especially about emergencies and nobody else around. I “do” keep my phone with me at all times while in my home. Another thing is having to be in the hospital for something, and not having anyone around. I know for a fact I was treated differently, because no one was there to fight for me, or know how I’m being treated. My lesson there was to tell someone I’m in the hospital, and get them to visit. I don’t like asking people for help, but sometimes I have to like it or not.

    • @everymanhasastory
      @everymanhasastory  4 місяці тому +4

      That is an excellent point. I should have mentioned that. In the Philippines you must have someone to help you

  • @stevengalindo7932
    @stevengalindo7932 15 днів тому

    This is good advice. As a former caregiver, I agree with everything you said. Thank you for this instructive, informative and inspiring video.

  • @MattsTimeMachine
    @MattsTimeMachine 3 місяці тому +11

    This is one of the best videos I have ever seen. Really great advice. Thank you.

  • @skip2it426-
    @skip2it426- 4 місяці тому +24

    Great points and well presented Mark. As you said when you live alone you’re your own emergency back up. The freedom of living alone can be a good feeling. However as we get older and that one time emergency and not having someone around can be the difference in life & death.
    Thanks for sharing a great conversation 👍🏾👏🏾!

    • @mateor7302
      @mateor7302 4 місяці тому +4

      Why are you afraid of dying? Too many regrets for not living a life true to yourself?

    • @tommak6516
      @tommak6516 4 місяці тому

      If you lived with somebody, they could kill you in your sleep. And, not report your death to keep collecting your SS checks. Is that what you would rather have?

    • @columbus7275
      @columbus7275 4 місяці тому +1

      Right… like sleeping with a grenade-on-timer ⌛️and hoping it takes care of your when the poop hits the fan. 🤡

    • @skip2it426-
      @skip2it426- 4 місяці тому +1

      😂🤣🤦🏾‍♂️

    • @maplebones
      @maplebones 3 місяці тому +1

      What is the difference between life and death ? Is one good and the other bad ? I don't understand why I should fear one and not the other. I've been resting in peace all my life and don't see any reason why that will change.

  • @tdog8507
    @tdog8507 3 місяці тому +15

    Peace and quiet, priceless.

  • @martymar1964
    @martymar1964 3 місяці тому +4

    I've lived alone most of my life, but I'm very comfortable with it. 2 years ago, I was off of work for 7 weeks to recover from a hip replacement. I felt without purpose not having a work routine for about two weeks. Afte that, I began to organically develop new routines to make my days fulfilling. I have a ton of hobbies and interests that had fallen by the wayside and my interests in them returned. It was more of an adjustment going back to work and to a routine that I have to endure for the next year and a half. I saw that time off as a taste of my soon to be retiurment and I relish the day when I can return to that organic schedule and live my best life.

  • @lindajay8857
    @lindajay8857 3 місяці тому +23

    Well said. And all of this is true for women too. I can go a couple of weeks without communicating with anyone.

    • @moxnix74
      @moxnix74 2 місяці тому

      Agreed. I've been divorced since 2011. Being divorced is something I had to get used to in the beginning. I doubt i will ever remarry. I enjoy my life being single. If it weren't for work, I could go awhile without communicating with anyone outside of family.

  • @robertlee3778
    @robertlee3778 2 місяці тому +3

    i laughed throughout this video because it felt like you were talking about me. Thanks for the heads up and yes, I will try to avoid the silver from oxidizing together.

  • @jumperstartful
    @jumperstartful 4 місяці тому +10

    "Living alone changes your perspective of time!!!" Amen.

  • @Lotikwahu
    @Lotikwahu 3 місяці тому +3

    Though the older men have most to immediately benefit from this video, I believe everyone has something to learn from watching. Thank you for your words and wisdom.

  • @billtinnell2206
    @billtinnell2206 3 місяці тому +17

    I've lived by myself ALL my life. Never considered it living alone. Never married or had kids. Life for the last 50 years has been AMAZING. The key is that I worked 60 to 80 hours a week for 40 years. You dont have time to get lonely and you make a ton of money. No drama queen ex wives, stupid kids, or grand kids and no animals, to create problems. Life everyday is SO -O-O-O easy. Retired at 62 and am really enjoying life, liberty and the pursuit of MY own happiness, not your happiness or anybody's happiness. Had and still have a great life and not afraid or concerned about dying tomorrow. Life is so simple!!

    • @imaseeker100
      @imaseeker100 2 місяці тому

      To each his own.

    • @MindFusion-ij1xl
      @MindFusion-ij1xl 2 місяці тому +2

      Respectfully suggest at some point you will retire and the crash of NOT working 40-80 hours will set in. Consider anything, anything, that helps you slowly off-ramp from such a high level of activity towards a retired status. If your body allows, walk a couple miles a day. I found: People look suspiciously at me (I look younger than I am) if I walked the streets, always walking new streets because I am curious how "normies" live. I got a dog. This dog is a pain but also, showed me they are semi-sentient (aussies anyway) and astonishingly intuitive. Sure, picking up the dog doo blows, but an unending opportunity to chat, interface, and NEVER see them again, almost always.
      Other thing. If you, like me, despise working out, it turns out merely bending over a few times a day to the ground (picking up the poo, brush dog, whatever) really helps well beyond merely walking or getting some cardio. I think, pre-civilization, people either bent down or were burdensome (scavenging or whatnot) so the spinal cord has no pump, but if you bend in your later years amidst exercise, this duplicates the motion, and mixes the brain-spinal (CSF) fluid and for me, I predictably, repeatedly, sleep better that night. YMMV of course.
      Wish you well.

    • @8whynotcoconut8
      @8whynotcoconut8 2 місяці тому +4

      @@MindFusion-ij1xl I turned 50 this year and came across a video on "Asian squats". Been doing them for over a month now when I walk, hike, and randomly at home. The change and feeling in my hips, legs, knees, and ankles is incredible. I'm bouncing up stairs again. I highly recommend giving them a try and seeing how you feel after 1-2 weeks. There are many vids on getting into them. You give good insight.

    • @MindFusion-ij1xl
      @MindFusion-ij1xl 2 місяці тому

      @@8whynotcoconut8 Thank you. I will do so, having found the wisdom of trying every new thing that could help but does no harm.
      Frankly, am going through a sudden stiffening of spine, legs, and I gots to do somethin'!

    • @williamfaulkner1959
      @williamfaulkner1959 Місяць тому

      @@8whynotcoconut8 Thanks, I'm 84...almost, and I will try doing this. Have a great day.

  • @user-ms4ef8xz9t
    @user-ms4ef8xz9t 9 днів тому

    It's so peaceful. Turn the TV off and just think. It's great!

  • @bb2021
    @bb2021 Місяць тому +1

    Yes, always make 'What if' plans for your dogs and all animals. Do it now!

  • @glennlinton2172
    @glennlinton2172 2 місяці тому +4

    I’m 62 and I live alone on my yacht, so much to do that you don’t even notice being alone. If you want to talk with someone use your phone or the vhf.

  • @roberthumphreys5594
    @roberthumphreys5594 2 місяці тому +10

    Greetings! I might add: 1) make younger friends. Try to keep up with them. Be curious about them. Assume the role of 'senior advisor' as necessary. 2) be sure to ask someone you trust to take care of your pets - just in case soomething happens to you - preferably someone your pet is already familiar and comfortable with. In fact, everyone who lives alone with their pets regardless of age should do this - accidents can happen to anyone.

  • @m.asquino7403
    @m.asquino7403 3 місяці тому +3

    I'm 67, great advice thanks. I'll be retired for good in Thailand soon

  • @eddymahon1503
    @eddymahon1503 3 місяці тому +3

    I’m 75 and have lived alone for 7 years and have never been happier or more relaxed. 😊😊

  • @jackgetz6356
    @jackgetz6356 3 місяці тому +1

    Finally someone in Dumaguete producing sensible informative videos, thanks. The other thing is a will, everyone should have a will here its a night mare for your loved ones if you don't !

  • @motobird5693
    @motobird5693 Місяць тому +1

    Nice content. As a physician, you are 100% correct with all your points! As a man, I experienced much of what you described after the death of my wife. Not a good scenario being alone all the time.

    • @brucecuratola6389
      @brucecuratola6389 Місяць тому

      You likely have the financial resources to choose whatever comes next for you - certainly the mental acuity. Some folks have neither. Best wishes.

  • @skydancerforever
    @skydancerforever Місяць тому +3

    Your right on with this video. I'm 64 now and retired at 62. Big change for sure! Unfortunately i live in a part of America that has brutal winters. Talk about tough times! Can't even get out of the house for days.

    • @johnmodl8505
      @johnmodl8505 Місяць тому

      Skydance
      I leave Wisconsin for the winters. Come to the Philippines, spend your winters in tropical beauty. I skip the big cities, live in Santander area.

    • @franklidgad
      @franklidgad Місяць тому

      So the big question is what is keeping you at home? Why not go to the Philippines for the winter? I'm seriously thinking I need to do that. As I look outside there is currently 3 feet of snow and it is snowing again today.... and it's only December. We still have 3 more months to go. Somethings got to give.

    • @franklidgad
      @franklidgad Місяць тому

      @@johnmodl8505 Hi John, I'm looking into places in the PH. What are the typical monthly living expenses in that area?

  • @maha77
    @maha77 2 місяці тому +4

    I've lived alone for 40+ years and *LOVE IT!*

  • @PeterStawicki
    @PeterStawicki 4 місяці тому +7

    I'm 56 years old, 3 years divorced, and as you say these things I look around and realize I resemble quite a few of your comments.

  • @donsoards3356
    @donsoards3356 2 місяці тому +2

    At age 76, I can no longer safely change a light bulb in a ceiling fixture (enclosed globes) because I don't have the balance to unscrew the fixture with one hand and catch it with the other. The last time I tried, I almost fell off the ladder. My solution is to have the globe removed permanently. That way, I have one hand to grab the ladder and the other hand to unscrew the burned-out bulb and screw in a new one. Works so far!

  • @rickfitzgerald4426
    @rickfitzgerald4426 Місяць тому

    I am so glad UA-cam recommended this video. There it was and your words rang so true. These are the issues I have been dealing with since retiring two years ago. Just turned 70. Hearing you put my thoughts into words.are a sign. I need to stay on track, be aware and be smart about decisions about aging. Thank you very much

  • @DiegoB0525
    @DiegoB0525 4 місяці тому +31

    Thank you for this video!
    I'm 47, and for now my mother stays with me but I know that won't be forever. So I often think about when I'll be alone, so the information you provided is really helpful!

  • @bryanramer6439
    @bryanramer6439 3 місяці тому +3

    The things you shared with me on this subject will change my life. I have never had information like this available to me, nor did I even know I needed it. And you answered many questions, before I even knew what to ask

  • @davem8898
    @davem8898 4 місяці тому +12

    What a great video! I know of more than one guy who’s gotten seriously injured falling off ladders. Just one of your great points

  • @jx14aby
    @jx14aby 3 місяці тому +1

    Good advice. Especially about the walking group. I joined a bike riding group. Met lots of nice people. Everyone’s over 60.

  • @Lucianspelta99
    @Lucianspelta99 2 місяці тому +1

    I have been decluttering, throwing out stuff I've become more of a minimalist, threw away all my awards, found a museum for my Grandfathers Purple Heart threw out all of my entire ego wall of my accomplishments in music,writing etc.....its very liberating.....just getting ready for the inevitable and less of a burden for my people not to deal with......soon my college degrees will be in the shredder

  • @ronaldfrazier1715
    @ronaldfrazier1715 4 місяці тому +31

    I can go either way with this one...Right now i'm 66 and live alone and it's great that I can do my own thing...But if a Love comes into my life...I can see where it may go..But i'm fine with my life right now..

    • @mateor7302
      @mateor7302 4 місяці тому +4

      Perfect approach to life rather than being needy and co-dependent

    • @jeronlewis9368
      @jeronlewis9368 4 місяці тому +9

      If a love comes your way. Take my advice run like hell, the other way. 😁😂😂😂

    • @davidcarter1013
      @davidcarter1013 4 місяці тому +3

      @@jeronlewis9368 LMAO

    • @kathyrobertson4493
      @kathyrobertson4493 4 місяці тому +5

      Being happy with yourself means everything.

  • @lzu2860
    @lzu2860 4 місяці тому +58

    I once ran a program called “R U OK?” A senior can sign up when volunteers can call him, morning, midday or night to check on him. A volunteer group like that where you are would help.

    • @everymanhasastory
      @everymanhasastory  4 місяці тому +22

      Excellent idea. We could use that program here

    • @ChineduOpara
      @ChineduOpara 4 місяці тому +2

      This is a great idea

    • @amg9163
      @amg9163 4 місяці тому +2

      @lzu2860 My mother volunteered for a group that made check in calls like that to senior citizens about 25 years ago, when she herself was a senior (a very active senior). 😊

    • @tedm4932
      @tedm4932 4 місяці тому +1

      @@everymanhasastory Do you know of some guys there that really do not want to marry now but has a clean-up/ cook maid service that comes weekly or couple times a week ? Cause I do not like cooking at all & would be ideal for me, if I was staying there.

  • @brokencountry283
    @brokencountry283 4 місяці тому +223

    Hire a maid or a nurse to check up on you. It is 1% of the cost of a wife.

    • @splashpit
      @splashpit 4 місяці тому +17

      You don’t even need to go to that extreme just get a cleaner that comes in twice a week.

    • @shawnpuffy
      @shawnpuffy 4 місяці тому +5

      True! LOL

    • @sciencedaemon
      @sciencedaemon 4 місяці тому +9

      How about making an effort to be more healthy through diet, exercise, better life choices rather than resorting to other people.

    • @Shaolin91z
      @Shaolin91z 4 місяці тому +8

      Peace in Christ surpasses all understanding. Peace negates loneliness. Bible study class gives you peace. Thanks Lord for your peace

    • @sunshineandsmiles9668
      @sunshineandsmiles9668 4 місяці тому

      Dollars and sense! ;)

  • @JimHaghi
    @JimHaghi Місяць тому

    Thanks for telling the truth and providing guidance. Many of us reach the same conclusions but we must take action as early as possible. Very grateful for your time to help others.

  • @Prxyshj
    @Prxyshj 2 місяці тому +1

    These are great life tips. I find them useful even as a younger person.

  • @johnKalina-t9z
    @johnKalina-t9z 2 місяці тому +3

    Everything you've mentioned is exactly right. Their are a number of activities you can do to prevent yourself from wasting away.

  •  4 місяці тому +33

    I never find solitude wears on me, it's people that wear on me. You made some good points in this video. Thanks.

    • @tedm4932
      @tedm4932 4 місяці тому +2

      You know, I came across your reply and I so much agree ! Today many crazy people out there. Whenever I am out , always talking to people starting conversations and so many got many problems and issues. Never see hardly anyone smile anymore and most talk about problems or issues either what they are experiencing or someone else. It's a screwed up world today for sure.
      A different generation and people out there no common sense or wisdom is lacking. I am internally lonely, but I keep pushing and going each day !!

  • @deedoublejay
    @deedoublejay 3 місяці тому +5

    These are all great tips for seniors, not just men.
    I'm in my 40s and work a desk job. My physical condition has definitely deteriorated in the last few years and I'm making an effort to get more active.
    I also have a grandmother who now lives in a home with dementia. She shouldn't have lived alone as long as she did. Mental deterioration may hamper it, but seniors should be honest with themselves about when they should be moving to a facility with oversight. I come from a family of deeply independent people, but there comes a point when you just can't take care of yourself.
    Also can't stress the point about de-cluttering. It took months to clear out the house and we found items from as far back as the 60s that clearly hadn't been used in decades. Most of it was useless and thrown out.

  • @VagabondJohnBowler
    @VagabondJohnBowler 2 місяці тому +2

    This podcast is filled with lots of helpful (and potentially critical) information. Thanks for this!

  • @TheShowProject
    @TheShowProject 14 днів тому

    Just subscribed I'm in late 40's and live alone here in PH. Great advice for men of any age and glad to say I do a lot of it already.. minimalist living, setting up friend circles etc. and a dog. Like to share a memory I have from my childhood of an older man in Canada (where I am from), he was a local but no one checked in on him and he had two dogs who were left alone when he died. they ended up eating most of him before anyone decided to check on him and his house was right in the town, not rural so it is imperative if living alone with an animal you have some human checking up on you for sure. Was my first video I saw of yours but I did like it. I will surf your channel see what other gems you have made!