My husband and I didn’t want to waste a ton of money on a wedding so we got married in Vegas just the two of us and then had a backyard bbq two days later with our close family. It was so perfect and SO much more relaxing than stressing about a big wedding.
Good for you on the wedding decision...you could have a small get together with friends and family to celebrate and put your money into yourselves and your honeymoon. Big over the top wedding's are not my thing either.
Kiki Chanel I did the same! My honeymoon was my main goal and we did not skimp! It was amazing, and now that we have a child (after being a couple for 6 years) it was the best decision of my life! Such a good memory!!🥰 I have so many friends that wanted the big wedding....so they waited on the honeymoon....then had kids soon....never got the honeymoon! No thank you!🤪
meilani jesper I always so over the top weddings are for the guests more than the ppl getting married. And everyone's definition of over the top is different, but most ppl are super stressed planning a wedding and it just keeps growing once you start. You definitely shouldn't go into debt for a ceremony I've always said the same thing too....use the money on a honeymoon....an experience both of you will remember for years and years . You can always have a huge party to celebrate any time , but still the ppl who love you won't care or want you to go overboard for everyone else. Plus what if an opportunity or something you NEED comes up in the (near) future & you can't do it bc u just spent 30k on your wedding...
I got married in parents back yard and my friend made the cake. We paid a total of 70 bucks for the marriage license. I literally looked in my sisters closet and found a white dress. Don’t regret it one bit.
Emily Sheelar we had to pay the person who married us because our courthouse didn’t let you marry there so it costed us $250 to get married! That’s paying the person who did it + the license and I wouldn’t change a thing!! I have friends who are in so much debt for a stupid wedding that they later regretted having bc it was more stressful than anything else
My best friend got married a few years back. Both her and I volunteer at a beautiful lodge that was used as a hall to hold Friday night dinners and Sunday morning brunches to benefit different local charities/causes. When the owner found out she was engaged, he offered her full use of the venue for free for her wedding! She invited close friends and her and her husbands large family. It was like 100 people. Our friend plugged in his laptop and djed as his gift. She asked people to bring a potluck type of dish or drinks to share instead of gifts and had a sign up sheet. After about 20 people signed up to bring food and drinks, there was more then enough. She bought a white sundress (August wedding) for like $30 at Burlington and she looked amazing! They spent less then $200 for a wedding that had 100 guests. And I’ve been to lots of weddings, hers was by far the most fun and memorable wedding I’ve ever been to! She has not looked back on that day and wished she had a fancy catered meal. We literally cut wild flowers from the woods around the venue and put them in mason jars from the dollar store, she hasn’t wished she had better centerpieces or decor. Whenever we talk about her wedding, we talk about how we danced all night to our favorite songs. How the guys tried their best to preform a choreographed dance and failed miserably. How both everyone in her family and his got along great despite each family having some issues amongst themselves, no one would have guessed because everyone had fun
You make a lot of smart and wise choices, especially with the high costs of living and wedding costs. I’ve been married for 30+ yrs and we spent less than $7k on our wedding with 180 ppl which is very inexpensive compared to the outrageous prices today. Our two daughters feel the same as you and would rather save for their futures. Beautiful look; pink is definitely your color 💗💗💗
As a 50 y/o who had a wedding, I totally agree! I wish I hadn't done the wedding, which was about everyone else, but me. Make it about the marriage, not the wedding!
Totally agree on what you said about a wedding. I was so stressed out until we decided to just go to Disney and get married with just the two of us and my mom/ stepdad as our witnesses. We are also staying there for the whole week for our honeymoon and just having a small reception when we get back. No drama, no stress and so much better then spending so much money on one day.
OK - this is the perspective from a 68 year-old woman who just loves watching your videos; you are so genuine! We got married at City Hall in a judge's chamber with just two witnesses. I had a very lovely dress I bought at Macy's and he wore a turtle neck with slacks and a jacket that complimented my dress. We had a small reception at my in-laws home with family and our dearest and closest friends. We used all the money we saved to buy our first home when we were 22 - which is why we decided to get married in the first place! We knew we would be together forever - we just needed to get married so our income would be considered joint. Back in the day you were either married or you weren't. There was no "domestic partnership" back then that we were aware of. It was what WE wanted - not what everyone else wanted. No regrets here! Same thing with having kids. We were married for 10 years before we started our family. We had done everything we wanted to do and were financially stable. I believe that helped build a strong relationship between he and I before we introduced kids into the mix. We will be celebrating our 48th anniversary in April!
I am literally the same as you! I wanted the huge wedding and then I realized how expensive it was and I WILL NOT pay for that. Throw $50K away?! No thanks. But my fiancé and I decided that there are other options you can do! We are getting married in Turks & Caicos at Beaches Resort for guess what? $7K!!! And that’s just for the stay and we are staying for 7 days. This resort is all inclusive so all food and drink is paid for in that 7K. And the wedding is free... if you stay 7 days which is great. We don’t have bridesmaids and groomsmen and we invited people and if they come, they come. If not, that’s fine but I was literally just going to go to the courthouse and then take a huge trip. We found this option was nice and our parents can be there and see us. You should look into it to see if that’s something you and Jarvis want!
Tori Ward that sounds beautiful!!! Totally worth spending that much because it’s more of an experience than only one day of getting married. Congrats girl!
Girl my husband and I didn't have a wedding, we spent $70 at a janky courthouse, and it was the best decision ever. We started our marriage debt-free and honestly the only part we wish we had was the photos. So make sure to take some kind of "wedding" photos. Also planning a wedding totally stressed me out too! I feel you on that.
My husband and I asked for experiences as our wedding presents because we already lived together-- we got events to go to around the world, this summer we're going whitewater rafting because one of our guests sent us there, we've been married for a couple years now and it's always fun deciding our vacations around what people sent us for experiences, things we might never have thought of-- you can always ask your relatives for that (and maybe contain it in the Chicago area if you don't want to travel, there's plenty to do in Chicago that they can pick from, in fact we saw stuff at IO as a present from one of our guests in Chicago!)
I ended up having a small wedding and it was amazing. :) Less than 25 people.. no first dance, no big cake, no speeches. You do you! You guys don't owe anyone anything.
My husband & I are approaching our 13 yr marriage anniversary, we didn’t have a wedding. It was the best decision ever. We went to the courthouse with my in-laws & had a small dinner gathering. You’re not missing out on anything by not going out for it. It is freeing!
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My husband and I didn’t have a wedding! We got married in the courthouse with our parents and siblings, then we all went out to Olive Garden, then we went to a late night movie, and the next day went to the zoo 😂😂 Almost 4 years married and still don’t regret having a wedding 🤷🏻♀️
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Yesss. I love that you're so down to earth on the wedding thing. Do exactly what you guys want, nothing more. We had a "typical" wedding (dress, venue, food, booze, wedding party, etc. etc.) like we wanted because of widespread family but we did it on a way pulled back scale so we didn't go into debt over it like some people we know. Did a brunch thing, had a ton of fun at a water park right after the reception because of our venue... It was great. I wanted to put more money towards a house than the wedding and because of that we were able to buy a house about 6 months prior to our wedding. Also, I have the big version of that case in pink and it is AMAZING.
My husband and I got married in a courthouse with our family there and we saved SOOOO much money! Like wow I’m so happy we both decided that and agreed to not having this huge lavish wedding that our parents wanted us to have. we still took our wedding photos in a nice area close to our home and they came out stunning. My sister in law used her iPhone portrait mode and they look professional so we saved money on that too. One year later of marriage and we aren’t in debt and we’re traveling more now for ourselves and we adopted 2 kittens. I applaud you sooo much for having an open mind and wanting to save money too.
My grandparents had a small church wedding and then went to IHOP afterwards. My grandmother wore a lovely light blue suit instead of a big white dress and she and my grandfather looked perfectly happy in their photos. They never regretted their decision to have a simple, small wedding. One nice thing is that even if you decide later on you want the full “wedding experience” you can always have a vow renewal ceremony!
I had a small 50 person wedding. I had a BLAST but to be honest, in retrospect I wish we had saved all the money and gone on our dream vacation to Europe and did a courthouse wedding or saved for a house. That’s a personal preference. Some people love huge weddings but I absolutely agree with you!
Smart decision skipping then wedding. I had a very low budge wedding in NY. Everyone thought I was nuts, but I didn’t care. I didn’t want to start my new chapter in life, in debt! Made no sense to me. So me and hubby had wedding we could afford. 18 years later, still happily married and still debt free. :))
I can so relate to this kiki. My bf and i have been together 10 years, not engaged, don’t really want to be engaged or married. I explain it to people like this- as a kid, I never dreamed of my wedding or wedding dress etc. the idea just doesn’t excite me or do anything for me and like you, I honestly think it’s a waste of money! I don’t care what people think anymore and they have stopped with the annoying “when will you pop the question” lol
You are so right about scrapping the idea of a big, traditional wedding. It's really not worth the stress. I've had one medium-sized wedding that wasn't all THAT elaborate, but the stress wasn't worth it. My most recent wedding (for what it's worth, this marriage is lasting longer), was just in the backyard. Much easier to manage.
The simpler the better! And everyone says finances are the number one reason couples fight so why start your married life in debt because of a huge wedding, ya know?
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I had a wedding and the day itself was really amazing but I’ve always said if I were to do it again, I’d just do a very simple destination of some kind. It was not worth the stress. I’m so glad you have came to the realization you don’t want the typical wedding.
Got married almost 14 years ago in a courthouse and then had a potluck party a few months later-best financial decision ever and set us up for success ❤️ yay for you! Could you share what concealer was that and what’s the link for the makeup case (Louis😉😉)👏🏽
I'm a wedding photographer and have been to 100 weddings. The absolute best one I've ever been to was just immediate families, a ceremony, and everyone went out to dinner after. So. Chill. It was amazing.
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Me and my husband have been married for 8 years in April and we just randomly got married at the courthouse. We didn’t tell anyone we just woke up one morning tired of stressing over wedding planning and went to the courthouse! It was one of the best decisions we ever made!
Guuurl, how are you so wise at such a young age?! You already know my #1 piece of advice: live below your means, and you already know my #2: do what's important to you. I am 100% in agreement on having a civil ceremony then a wonderful honeymoon. I would only add: have a kick-ass barbecue or party at home to celebrate your new marriage with close family and friends when you get back home.
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Love this video, you are so freaking cute!!! I eloped (got married in a California vineyard just me n my husband) for similar reasons that you mentioned.. weddings are sooo expensive and always cause some kind of drama! Anyhow no matter what you do, a wedding is a celebration of your decision to build a life together. Do what makes the two of you happy! Loved the chill style of this video 😌
My husband and I got married in our backyard for $500 total. We were supposed to get married at a state park, but flooding forced us to change "venues" last minute. The end result is the same and we saved sooooo much money. Funnily enough, my husband is a recruiter for the NG here in PA.
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My husband and I just eloped Jan 3rd this year for our 15th year anniversary. Just took a afternoon to ourselves, went to the courthouse and a nice dinner afterwards. It was perfect! I will treasure the memory of making it happen just for us. No one else. We have 2 kids, a mortgage and now the paperwork is in and the rings are on 👍🏼 no wedding needed sis- I 💯 agree with everything you said on that! Love weddings- just for other people 🤣
I recently got married and had a super small wedding that I planned in about two weeks. No bridesmaids, groomsmen, or pre wedding parties. I ordered my dress online for less than $350 and I thought it was beautiful. We had maybe 20 people attend, married at a park, had dinner with everyone at Lou Malnati's because we love their pizza and who wants dry ass chicken anyway? We were home and in our pjs by 6:30. It was perfect and I wouldn't change a thing!
Your grandma wants to plan a wedding and she be great at it. You are so wise for your age, you can have a money tree on your invites, and maybe one step up from the courthouse, but absolutely, avoid the money and the stress, enjoy it for the two of you on a nice vacay. Pretty in pink, great makeup products, very nice look. The foundation, brows and lipstick were tied for best.
I HATED planning my wedding. There was so much "You should do this and you should do that, this is the way it's done, this is the tradition." NO. Ugh. We ended up having a small wedding, quick ceremony and just a relaxed reception. And it was perfect for us. I didn't wear a veil, I didn't make my girls spend hundreds on "bridesmaid" dresses, they paid $30 for dressed from Penney's that looked like the vintage/40s style I wanted, and we all did our own hair and make up and helped each other out. It was more fun that way, less pressure, it felt more like we were all hanging out than getting ready for THE BIG DAY. We spent maybe $4000 at the most, and most of that was the reception hall because I wanted to have the reception the same place my parents had because it was homemade Italian cooking and food is important with us. I had a blast at my wedding especially once I decided to ignore all the bullshit traditions I didn't want
Good for you, I feel that the least amount of money you can spend for a wedding is best, it's a couples day so love is what is important! I really enjoy your videos, you are so sincere and honest, keep up the great job you do, keeping it real!
I’ve always had the same opinion on a wedding. Literally the same thoughts have gone through my head about bridesmaids and parties, it sounds SO stressful. An expensive trip sounds like sooo much more fun!!
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I just had to cancel my big glamorous wedding because of COVID-19 and I honestly feel so relieved, I was stressing about money for 13 months and though I was genuinely excited about the big party I now realize that big party wasn't worth the stress. We are really sad a lot of our friends and family won't be able to come but I think we will have a fun time with just our bridal party, our moms, and a few others. It's great you know where you stand before even getting to that point.
My husband and I decided to go the courthouse route and get married on our 9 year anniversary. Last minute, he said "You know what we should do is fly out to Vegas and get married by Elvis." So we did and we didn't tell a soul. I had some $30 white boho dress I got on sale and shoes I already had. We used photos from the ceremony and designed our own postcard invitations online to say "Surprise! We're married" to family and friends, and invite them to a celebratory BBQ. It was perfect and so worth all the money and drama we saved!
I can say absolutely if I had to do it all over again I would just go to Los Vegas to get married in one of those little chapels. I had a super small church wedding and a simple breakfast buffet and planning it (with 11 months time) was so stressful. My husband and I argued about the most absurd things that just made us question whether or not we were doing the right thing. If you don’t want a wedding I say “Don’t do it”!
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My hubs and I went to Jamaica for our wedding. We told people if you can come, great! If you can’t come, that’s ok too. We got married in February’08 and then did a nice wedding party in August of that same year for family and close friends. I think young people just starting out in life spend way way more on weddings than they should and pressured by family to do so to appease themselves and not the bride and groom. I think when you get married it should be about you two and then have a little party later for your family. Save all the money you would spend on a wedding to buy a house or a flat or land some where. ❤️🌈☀️
My husband And I got married at this little wedding chapel and it was just us! Then we went to dinner! Once we had money we went on a honey moon!!!! It was nice and not stressful at all! We have been married for 14 year’s now!!!! Do what is best for you and Jarvis! Trish
Hello, from Virginia! 😊 I agree with your wedding decision. My fiance' and I were going to plan a semi-big wedding, but we've just made our final decision just recently that we're just going to get married at the courthouse, and have a small reception with our close family and friends at a small community venue (that's very affordable to rent) in our town that we live in. So, we can save our money for our honeymoon to go on a cruise! This won't be until next year though, but it'll be so much easier and stress-free for the both of us to do our plan this way because we're always constantly so busy with our lives. My fiance'works all the time, and I'm working and also going to school, majoring in Accounting. So, I can definitely relate!😁 Btw, Congrats in advanced on your marriage & I'm so proud of you both! 😊❤
brooo AMEN on the wedding decision!!! my fiancé and I don’t want one either because 1. our families would end up causing a scene somehow 😂 2. it is stressful and both of our beliefs are that it’s just about us ya know and weddings are for everyone else. and 3. exactly what you said- taking that money and spending it on a vacation for just us two. literally will just go to the courthouse and then have a small get together this summer for our families but not put a lot of thought into it at all lol. I get ya completely!!
My boyfriend and I are literally gonna have a party at the lake when we get married! We feel you girl, weddings are so expensive but you can really just invite your closest friends and family to a barbecue and celebrate your love that way.
My husband and I had a trip booked to Maui and decided to “elope” and get married there! It was the best decision EVER! It was so special, just the two of us, and we had our wedding and honeymoon in one! Then a few months later we just had a party with our family and friends to celebrate. Everyone was super supportive! I was the same way and didn’t want all the fuss and stress and the huge expense! ☺️ As long as it’s what the both of you want you’ll be happy!
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Heyy new subscriber here! I found your anti mlm vids and just started binge watching those :b . They are so great! I love that your practical and realistic and I could definitely relate to you. I agree 100% with you about weddings. I hired an officiant, had 10 guests, and got married in a rented out "conference room" in a old library. Got my dress at altered state boutique 80 bucks. Went out to dinner with the 10 guests paid for their meal. It was great best decision ever! Saved so much money and stress! I don't regret anything! Been married almost 2 years. Anniversary in a few weeks! :b
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I did the same thing for my wedding!! Me and my husband got married late last year and we went out of town to one of our favorite vaca spots and had a small intimate ceremony with just us two, the minister and the photographer! Saved soooo much money and got a mini vaca included 🥰 less stress and it's just about you two.. which is how it should be!
Hi Kiki, nice to see a normal video, which means a video I like. As far as my opinion on getting married. When my husband and I got married" we had been engaged for 15 years at that time. Out of the blue we were driving and one of starts talking about getting married, in a 10 minute drive, we had everything planned. Our guests were my mother, my daughter, she is an adult, 2 of our best friends and my sister and her hubby. A friend of ours married us in my sisters house, we got married in the sun room and my daughter took pictures, we had pic taken around the pool.and my sister had some snacks, very simple. But very nice. After the wedding we went our our usual yearly vacation place with out 2 friends. We went on vacation with them every year, why not take them on our honeymoon. That was it, inexpensive a. Fun time. This was 17 years ago. We have now been together for 32 years, and still together. I agree with you, spend the money on purchasing a house or go on a great holiday honeymoon to New York, your favourite. I wish you both the best luck and I hope your guy agrees with you. Well, you can always try to,talk him into it.
My husband and I got married at the courthouse and took the money we saved and honeymooned for 2 weeks in Hawaii and then moved half way across the country. I could not be happier about how we did it.
My husband and I did the same thing for the same reason. All that money on a wedding just seemed like a waste of money to me. We got married by a justice of the peace at the courthouse. We were together for 8 years before we got married and just celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary in September. Don't let anyone tell you anything about your relationship and when, or even if, it's right for you to get married. You are the only one that knows and are the only opinion that matters (besides Jarvis of course !)
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Yah! I miss your vlog channel, I hope we get some soon. I totally agree with the wedding thing. We had a small DIY wedding and even that was super stressful. In hindsight I wish we would have taken that money and saved it or maybe took a bigger trip for our honeymoon. I never look at the pics from that day and I even gave my dress away lol.
The voice of REASON re:wedding. Spread the word to the younger generation: big weddings are soooo overrated and such a waste. Again, another reason why I love you. So smart.
I think money aside, it was the biggest stressor of my life to date and I would not do it again. The people around us were just like every other family (demanding, opinionated, annoying) but I could barely handle it
My husband drives a semi and he has delivered cooling units on Michigan Ave. They shut down the streets and the helicopter picks them up to set on the building. He said it's the coolest thing to watch. And I think you are very smart not wanting to spend a lot of money on a wedding.
I had a small wedding and it was AMAZING. It was MAYBE 10 people with my husband's mom marrying us by the lake and mexican food after. No stress at all!
Had to read the comments to see if I was alone in needing closure on the litter box question 😄 I totally agree on both the coffee and the wedding things! Love the smell of coffee, do not like the taste. And we got married in a registry office (I'm UK, guessing it's like your courthouse maybe?), then went to a restaurant after, I didn't want a huge thing, I think there were 37 of us. Feeding everyone was the most expensive part!
I got married last year. We kept it quite low key and thankfully had help from family but I was the same as you. I was having a lot of anxiety the year leading up to it and all I wanted to do was elope and have a massive round the world trip instead. But I got a lot of pressure of just having a normal wedding because I would be disappointing everyone. I think just stick to your guns and do whatever you want. But in saying that my wedding day was amazing and I’m glad we did it the way we did. I wouldn’t take anything back but I had dreamed of eloping to Italy or Scotland which would have been awesome.
Totally agree about the wedding stuff. I feel like a lot of people sink a LOT of money just to impress others and don’t even get to enjoy the day themselves. Then start a new life together in a ridiculous amount of debt. That kind of money can help you so much starting off... it’s a shame to blow it all on one day. Not to mention the stress of planning and trying to make it all go “perfect”... no thanks! My husband and I got married at an overlook at a nearby lake for free. My cousin is a preacher and performed our wedding. We just had our parents and other close family there. Only thing we paid for was the marriage license and my mom bought me a cute dress that was like $50. The day turned out perfect with very little planning and stress. We just celebrated our 10 year anniversary and to this day, it was one of the best decisions we have made. ♥️ It honestly blows my mind how much people spend on weddings. And that weddings are such a huge norm for society. Like you, I never thought it was really an option not to have one. We had just planned on doing a big wedding later and never got around to it. I would much rather use that money towards a trip or house. But to each their own!
I love your wedding decision. My husband and I got married at the courthouse and then our original plan was to have like a traditional ceremony afterwards. We’ve almost been married for two years now and it’s like, I don’t even want a wedding lmao. Like...I don’t wanna pay for it, don’t wanna choose bridesmaids, my MIL was like “what colors do you want?” And after I realized that was the beginning of many questions and stress, nah😂
My husband and I got married the day he deployed (4 years ago) and we decided we would renew our vows & have a big ceremony on our 5th year anniversary... it’s coming up in September but we decided to just take a vacation instead and I’m so happy about it. I hate the stress of planning and I don’t want to have a party & pay for everyone... if I’m spending that money, I want to enjoy it for myself! Sounds selfish but thousands of dollars took forever to save.. so we’re going to enjoy it!
just found your page yesterday and i’ve already watched like 6 videos.. you’re the best. oh and i got married last year my husband and I were like let’s just get married and not have a wedding (too much stress) we went to a park during a snow storm with 1 friend and a photographer and seriously best decision.
As someone who has been engaged for 4 years... i 100% understand about the wedding stuff. however the other half wants one so i found a place that does everything and super affordable. We are having a wedding but most people know it will be a party because we have been together for 7 years and everyone thinks of us as married.
My daughter is graduating from college next year i asked her if she wanted a big party or a mother daughter trip and she chose a trip!More fun less stress.I know alot of people that arent doing the traditional weddings anymore its smart!
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My husband and I didn’t want to waste a ton of money on a wedding so we got married in Vegas just the two of us and then had a backyard bbq two days later with our close family. It was so perfect and SO much more relaxing than stressing about a big wedding.
I love that
We did that too! Elvis married us
And it also saved you thousands of dollars you can use as a down payment for a house
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Good for you on the wedding decision...you could have a small get together with friends and family to celebrate and put your money into yourselves and your honeymoon. Big over the top wedding's are not my thing either.
Yep! Was thinking of just having a small dinner or something with family/friends at most
Kiki Chanel I did the same! My honeymoon was my main goal and we did not skimp! It was amazing, and now that we have a child (after being a couple for 6 years) it was the best decision of my life! Such a good memory!!🥰 I have so many friends that wanted the big wedding....so they waited on the honeymoon....then had kids soon....never got the honeymoon! No thank you!🤪
meilani jesper I always so over the top weddings are for the guests more than the ppl getting married. And everyone's definition of over the top is different, but most ppl are super stressed planning a wedding and it just keeps growing once you start. You definitely shouldn't go into debt for a ceremony I've always said the same thing too....use the money on a honeymoon....an experience both of you will remember for years and years . You can always have a huge party to celebrate any time , but still the ppl who love you won't care or want you to go overboard for everyone else. Plus what if an opportunity or something you NEED comes up in the (near) future & you can't do it bc u just spent 30k on your wedding...
When and if I get married again it will be on a beach with probably 5 ppl max lol
A wedding or celebration should fit with the personality of the couple.
I got married in parents back yard and my friend made the cake. We paid a total of 70 bucks for the marriage license. I literally looked in my sisters closet and found a white dress. Don’t regret it one bit.
I love it
Emily Sheelar we had to pay the person who married us because our courthouse didn’t let you marry there so it costed us $250 to get married! That’s paying the person who did it + the license and I wouldn’t change a thing!! I have friends who are in so much debt for a stupid wedding that they later regretted having bc it was more stressful than anything else
My best friend got married a few years back. Both her and I volunteer at a beautiful lodge that was used as a hall to hold Friday night dinners and Sunday morning brunches to benefit different local charities/causes. When the owner found out she was engaged, he offered her full use of the venue for free for her wedding! She invited close friends and her and her husbands large family. It was like 100 people. Our friend plugged in his laptop and djed as his gift. She asked people to bring a potluck type of dish or drinks to share instead of gifts and had a sign up sheet. After about 20 people signed up to bring food and drinks, there was more then enough. She bought a white sundress (August wedding) for like $30 at Burlington and she looked amazing! They spent less then $200 for a wedding that had 100 guests. And I’ve been to lots of weddings, hers was by far the most fun and memorable wedding I’ve ever been to!
She has not looked back on that day and wished she had a fancy catered meal. We literally cut wild flowers from the woods around the venue and put them in mason jars from the dollar store, she hasn’t wished she had better centerpieces or decor. Whenever we talk about her wedding, we talk about how we danced all night to our favorite songs. How the guys tried their best to preform a choreographed dance and failed miserably. How both everyone in her family and his got along great despite each family having some issues amongst themselves, no one would have guessed because everyone had fun
You make a lot of smart and wise choices, especially with the high costs of living and wedding costs. I’ve been married for 30+ yrs and we spent less than $7k on our wedding with 180 ppl which is very inexpensive compared to the outrageous prices today. Our two daughters feel the same as you and would rather save for their futures. Beautiful look; pink is definitely your color 💗💗💗
As a 50 y/o who had a wedding, I totally agree! I wish I hadn't done the wedding, which was about everyone else, but me. Make it about the marriage, not the wedding!
Totally agree on what you said about a wedding. I was so stressed out until we decided to just go to Disney and get married with just the two of us and my mom/ stepdad as our witnesses. We are also staying there for the whole week for our honeymoon and just having a small reception when we get back. No drama, no stress and so much better then spending so much money on one day.
OK - this is the perspective from a 68 year-old woman who just loves watching your videos; you are so genuine! We got married at City Hall in a judge's chamber with just two witnesses. I had a very lovely dress I bought at Macy's and he wore a turtle neck with slacks and a jacket that complimented my dress. We had a small reception at my in-laws home with family and our dearest and closest friends. We used all the money we saved to buy our first home when we were 22 - which is why we decided to get married in the first place! We knew we would be together forever - we just needed to get married so our income would be considered joint. Back in the day you were either married or you weren't. There was no "domestic partnership" back then that we were aware of. It was what WE wanted - not what everyone else wanted. No regrets here! Same thing with having kids. We were married for 10 years before we started our family. We had done everything we wanted to do and were financially stable. I believe that helped build a strong relationship between he and I before we introduced kids into the mix. We will be celebrating our 48th anniversary in April!
Laura congrats on your upcoming anniversary! So awesome 🥰
I am literally the same as you! I wanted the huge wedding and then I realized how expensive it was and I WILL NOT pay for that. Throw $50K away?! No thanks. But my fiancé and I decided that there are other options you can do! We are getting married in Turks & Caicos at Beaches Resort for guess what? $7K!!! And that’s just for the stay and we are staying for 7 days. This resort is all inclusive so all food and drink is paid for in that 7K. And the wedding is free... if you stay 7 days which is great. We don’t have bridesmaids and groomsmen and we invited people and if they come, they come. If not, that’s fine but I was literally just going to go to the courthouse and then take a huge trip. We found this option was nice and our parents can be there and see us. You should look into it to see if that’s something you and Jarvis want!
That is awesome!!!!!
Um wow screen shotting this comment that sounds like a dream
Tori Ward that sounds beautiful!!! Totally worth spending that much because it’s more of an experience than only one day of getting married. Congrats girl!
Girl my husband and I didn't have a wedding, we spent $70 at a janky courthouse, and it was the best decision ever. We started our marriage debt-free and honestly the only part we wish we had was the photos. So make sure to take some kind of "wedding" photos. Also planning a wedding totally stressed me out too! I feel you on that.
My husband and I asked for experiences as our wedding presents because we already lived together-- we got events to go to around the world, this summer we're going whitewater rafting because one of our guests sent us there, we've been married for a couple years now and it's always fun deciding our vacations around what people sent us for experiences, things we might never have thought of-- you can always ask your relatives for that (and maybe contain it in the Chicago area if you don't want to travel, there's plenty to do in Chicago that they can pick from, in fact we saw stuff at IO as a present from one of our guests in Chicago!)
Now that’s a cool idea 💡
My vote (like I have one): Manhattan city hall wedding like Carrie and Mr Big!
Love it!
I completely agree about weddings!!! It’s refreshing to hear a youtuber talk about this!
I’ll say it again-YOU ARE WISE BEYOND YOUR YEARS!!!!! ALWAYS enjoy your videos!!!!!
I ended up having a small wedding and it was amazing. :) Less than 25 people.. no first dance, no big cake, no speeches. You do you! You guys don't owe anyone anything.
My husband & I are approaching our 13 yr marriage anniversary, we didn’t have a wedding. It was the best decision ever. We went to the courthouse with my in-laws & had a small dinner gathering. You’re not missing out on anything by not going out for it. It is freeing!
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My husband and I didn’t have a wedding! We got married in the courthouse with our parents and siblings, then we all went out to Olive Garden, then we went to a late night movie, and the next day went to the zoo 😂😂
Almost 4 years married and still don’t regret having a wedding 🤷🏻♀️
That’s what I’m talking about
I got married at the courthouse with just our son. We went to Zaxbys which is a chicken finger fast food restaurant
That’s a dream wedding right there!!
Allie O girl it was nice😂
Jessica TACKETT hell yeah 🙌🏻
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Yesss. I love that you're so down to earth on the wedding thing. Do exactly what you guys want, nothing more. We had a "typical" wedding (dress, venue, food, booze, wedding party, etc. etc.) like we wanted because of widespread family but we did it on a way pulled back scale so we didn't go into debt over it like some people we know. Did a brunch thing, had a ton of fun at a water park right after the reception because of our venue... It was great. I wanted to put more money towards a house than the wedding and because of that we were able to buy a house about 6 months prior to our wedding.
Also, I have the big version of that case in pink and it is AMAZING.
I love it. I’m saving for a house/apartment too. Would much rather put my $ there instead of into one day of my life
My husband and I got married in a courthouse with our family there and we saved SOOOO much money! Like wow I’m so happy we both decided that and agreed to not having this huge lavish wedding that our parents wanted us to have. we still took our wedding photos in a nice area close to our home and they came out stunning. My sister in law used her iPhone portrait mode and they look professional so we saved money on that too. One year later of marriage and we aren’t in debt and we’re traveling more now for ourselves and we adopted 2 kittens. I applaud you sooo much for having an open mind and wanting to save money too.
My grandparents had a small church wedding and then went to IHOP afterwards. My grandmother wore a lovely light blue suit instead of a big white dress and she and my grandfather looked perfectly happy in their photos. They never regretted their decision to have a simple, small wedding.
One nice thing is that even if you decide later on you want the full “wedding experience” you can always have a vow renewal ceremony!
I had a small 50 person wedding. I had a BLAST but to be honest, in retrospect I wish we had saved all the money and gone on our dream vacation to Europe and did a courthouse wedding or saved for a house. That’s a personal preference. Some people love huge weddings but I absolutely agree with you!
Smart decision skipping then wedding. I had a very low budge wedding in NY. Everyone thought I was nuts, but I didn’t care. I didn’t want to start my new chapter in life, in debt! Made no sense to me. So me and hubby had wedding we could afford. 18 years later, still happily married and still debt free. :))
I can so relate to this kiki. My bf and i have been together 10 years, not engaged, don’t really want to be engaged or married. I explain it to people like this- as a kid, I never dreamed of my wedding or wedding dress etc. the idea just doesn’t excite me or do anything for me and like you, I honestly think it’s a waste of money! I don’t care what people think anymore and they have stopped with the annoying “when will you pop the question” lol
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You are so right about scrapping the idea of a big, traditional wedding. It's really not worth the stress. I've had one medium-sized wedding that wasn't all THAT elaborate, but the stress wasn't worth it. My most recent wedding (for what it's worth, this marriage is lasting longer), was just in the backyard. Much easier to manage.
The simpler the better! And everyone says finances are the number one reason couples fight so why start your married life in debt because of a huge wedding, ya know?
Girl firstly just wanna say i appreciate this laid back video!! I did everything myself for my wedding and had tons of help and it was small and intimate and exactly what i wanted. I didn’t want to waste a ton of money on one day. Also try Grande lash from Sephora!! It works wonders!!
I had a wedding and the day itself was really amazing but I’ve always said if I were to do it again, I’d just do a very simple destination of some kind. It was not worth the stress. I’m so glad you have came to the realization you don’t want the typical wedding.
Got married almost 14 years ago in a courthouse and then had a potluck party a few months later-best financial decision ever and set us up for success ❤️ yay for you! Could you share what concealer was that and what’s the link for the makeup case (Louis😉😉)👏🏽
I'm a wedding photographer and have been to 100 weddings. The absolute best one I've ever been to was just immediate families, a ceremony, and everyone went out to dinner after. So. Chill. It was amazing.
Literally just commented on your last MLM video on how amazing your “cynical” life is and this video is just MWAH!!! Good content for the soulllll!!! Never get tired of you, and I love your opinion on marriage💖
Lol! It is pretty cynical... 😂
I don't follow influencers. No reason. I just have never hopped on that train but I LOVE you. I have shared your MLM videos with my mother (gullible and easy prey) and other friends that needed to hear your well spoken, educated facts. You are so lovely. Thank you for having morals and standing by them always.
Me and my husband have been married for 8 years in April and we just randomly got married at the courthouse. We didn’t tell anyone we just woke up one morning tired of stressing over wedding planning and went to the courthouse!
It was one of the best decisions we ever made!
Guuurl, how are you so wise at such a young age?! You already know my #1 piece of advice: live below your means, and you already know my #2: do what's important to you. I am 100% in agreement on having a civil ceremony then a wonderful honeymoon. I would only add: have a kick-ass barbecue or party at home to celebrate your new marriage with close family and friends when you get back home.
I'm totally with you on the job advice. Even with a Master's degree and several internships, I felt like I would never find a job in my field and that utilized my graduate level education (not specifically my area of study, but one that simply required or preferred a higher level degree, and aka paid more). I applied to countless positions (probably nearly 100) nonstop for over 6 months, got a handful of interviews, but after no offers, I ended up accepting a job that paid way below what I would have hoped to be paid at my education level, just so I could get by as I looked for something better. After endless searching and being so frustrated, I finally got an offer for a job that utilizes my degree and is generally in my area of study. It is most definitely a long and difficult process, but you just have to keep trying and not let yourself get discouraged.
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Please keep the vlogs coming!❤️
Love this video, you are so freaking cute!!! I eloped (got married in a California vineyard just me n my husband) for similar reasons that you mentioned.. weddings are sooo expensive and always cause some kind of drama! Anyhow no matter what you do, a wedding is a celebration of your decision to build a life together. Do what makes the two of you happy! Loved the chill style of this video 😌
My husband and I got married in our backyard for $500 total. We were supposed to get married at a state park, but flooding forced us to change "venues" last minute. The end result is the same and we saved sooooo much money. Funnily enough, my husband is a recruiter for the NG here in PA.
A Q&A, WE LOVE TO SEE IT!!! 💕
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I'm so happy that you are doing so well with your career and smart choices. I've been watching you for years and love your honesty. These products look great too, that serum spray is on my list 📃🙌 rapt you are getting great sponsorships too, you deserve it and there's not many people on UA-cam that I take seriously when they do sponsored videos. Did I miss the kitty litter update though? 😉😻💚
My husband and I just eloped Jan 3rd this year for our 15th year anniversary. Just took a afternoon to ourselves, went to the courthouse and a nice dinner afterwards. It was perfect! I will treasure the memory of making it happen just for us. No one else. We have 2 kids, a mortgage and now the paperwork is in and the rings are on 👍🏼 no wedding needed sis- I 💯 agree with everything you said on that!
Love weddings- just for other people 🤣
Sounds amazing!!!!
We did the same. Some people have 20,000 weddings and then divorce. A wedding doesn't make a marriage
Got married at the courthouse. Took a 15 day honeymoon to the Caribbean. Best thing ever.
I recently got married and had a super small wedding that I planned in about two weeks. No bridesmaids, groomsmen, or pre wedding parties. I ordered my dress online for less than $350 and I thought it was beautiful. We had maybe 20 people attend, married at a park, had dinner with everyone at Lou Malnati's because we love their pizza and who wants dry ass chicken anyway? We were home and in our pjs by 6:30. It was perfect and I wouldn't change a thing!
Loved your Q & A segment
combined with a Wander Beauty make up session!
You're excellent at
multi tasking. I enjoyed it!
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You're right that lip color is really nice! Also love your nails
Your grandma wants to plan a wedding and she be great at it. You are so wise for your age, you can have a money tree on your invites, and maybe one step up from the courthouse, but absolutely, avoid the money and the stress, enjoy it for the two of you on a nice vacay. Pretty in pink, great makeup products, very nice look. The foundation, brows and lipstick were tied for best.
I feel the same way as you about weddings. Eloping is so much better and more personal if you ask me. (:
Agreed!
I am seeing more couples eloping these days.
I honest to God always pictured you and Jarvis eloping. Like just you two on a beach somewhere, honest to God!!! You go, Kylie!!! 🥳
I HATED planning my wedding. There was so much "You should do this and you should do that, this is the way it's done, this is the tradition." NO. Ugh. We ended up having a small wedding, quick ceremony and just a relaxed reception. And it was perfect for us. I didn't wear a veil, I didn't make my girls spend hundreds on "bridesmaid" dresses, they paid $30 for dressed from Penney's that looked like the vintage/40s style I wanted, and we all did our own hair and make up and helped each other out. It was more fun that way, less pressure, it felt more like we were all hanging out than getting ready for THE BIG DAY. We spent maybe $4000 at the most, and most of that was the reception hall because I wanted to have the reception the same place my parents had because it was homemade Italian cooking and food is important with us. I had a blast at my wedding especially once I decided to ignore all the bullshit traditions I didn't want
Good for you, I feel that the least amount of money you can spend for a wedding is best, it's a couples day so love is what is important! I really enjoy your videos, you are so sincere and honest, keep up the great job you do, keeping it real!
I’ve always had the same opinion on a wedding. Literally the same thoughts have gone through my head about bridesmaids and parties, it sounds SO stressful. An expensive trip sounds like sooo much more fun!!
Everything about you, your whole demeanor from the way you talk with your hands and your tough, strong & have hilarious sense of humor, everything is so chicago ❤️ i just found you on your lady MLM video and I was like who is this girl I love her she’s my kinda girl!!! And then I find out we live in the same city!!!
I just had to cancel my big glamorous wedding because of COVID-19 and I honestly feel so relieved, I was stressing about money for 13 months and though I was genuinely excited about the big party I now realize that big party wasn't worth the stress. We are really sad a lot of our friends and family won't be able to come but I think we will have a fun time with just our bridal party, our moms, and a few others. It's great you know where you stand before even getting to that point.
My husband and I decided to go the courthouse route and get married on our 9 year anniversary. Last minute, he said "You know what we should do is fly out to Vegas and get married by Elvis." So we did and we didn't tell a soul. I had some $30 white boho dress I got on sale and shoes I already had. We used photos from the ceremony and designed our own postcard invitations online to say "Surprise! We're married" to family and friends, and invite them to a celebratory BBQ. It was perfect and so worth all the money and drama we saved!
I can say absolutely if I had to do it all over again I would just go to Los Vegas to get married in one of those little chapels. I had a super small church wedding and a simple breakfast buffet and planning it (with 11 months time) was so stressful. My husband and I argued about the most absurd things that just made us question whether or not we were doing the right thing. If you don’t want a wedding I say “Don’t do it”!
I drink my coffee iced in the morning with Italian Sweet Cream creamer. I suggest it, gets rid of the intense coffee flavor! I use my K-cups and just brew a full mason jar and keep it in the fridge! I never drink a full glass so it’s nice to only use what I’m feeling for the day, HIGHLY RECCOMEND
My hubs and I went to Jamaica for our wedding. We told people if you can come, great! If you can’t come, that’s ok too. We got married in February’08 and then did a nice wedding party in August of that same year for family and close friends. I think young people just starting out in life spend way way more on weddings than they should and pressured by family to do so to appease themselves and not the bride and groom. I think when you get married it should be about you two and then have a little party later for your family. Save all the money you would spend on a wedding to buy a house or a flat or land some where. ❤️🌈☀️
My husband And I got married at this little wedding chapel and it was just us! Then we went to dinner! Once we had money we went on a honey moon!!!! It was nice and not stressful at all! We have been married for 14 year’s now!!!! Do what is best for you and Jarvis!
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Yassss! I’ve been waiting for a grwm or anything makeup related!
Hello, from Virginia! 😊 I agree with your wedding decision. My fiance' and I were going to plan a semi-big wedding, but we've just made our final decision just recently that we're just going to get married at the courthouse, and have a small reception with our close family and friends at a small community venue (that's very affordable to rent) in our town that we live in. So, we can save our money for our honeymoon to go on a cruise! This won't be until next year though, but it'll be so much easier and stress-free for the both of us to do our plan this way because we're always constantly so busy with our lives. My fiance'works all the time, and I'm working and also going to school, majoring in Accounting. So, I can definitely relate!😁 Btw, Congrats in advanced on your marriage & I'm so proud of you both! 😊❤
More GRWM love your videos Kiki 🤩
brooo AMEN on the wedding decision!!! my fiancé and I don’t want one either because 1. our families would end up causing a scene somehow 😂 2. it is stressful and both of our beliefs are that it’s just about us ya know and weddings are for everyone else. and 3. exactly what you said- taking that money and spending it on a vacation for just us two. literally will just go to the courthouse and then have a small get together this summer for our families but not put a lot of thought into it at all lol. I get ya completely!!
I miss your vlogs, more vlogs please! 🥰 also so happy that you are able to save, yes save to travel girl! You are doing the damn thing!
My boyfriend and I are literally gonna have a party at the lake when we get married! We feel you girl, weddings are so expensive but you can really just invite your closest friends and family to a barbecue and celebrate your love that way.
My husband and I had a trip booked to Maui and decided to “elope” and get married there! It was the best decision EVER! It was so special, just the two of us, and we had our wedding and honeymoon in one! Then a few months later we just had a party with our family and friends to celebrate. Everyone was super supportive! I was the same way and didn’t want all the fuss and stress and the huge expense! ☺️ As long as it’s what the both of you want you’ll be happy!
If you put a serum or moisturizer on that "disappears" or sinks in right away, put a heavier simple moisturizer over it, especially if the lighter thing has hyaluronic acid in it. I use a serum/booster thats hyaluronic acid and then put Cereve pm cream over it, no fragrance in any of it, really basic stuff, totally changed my skin and made it softer.
I’ll test this out! Thank you!
I have to say, you are stunning bare faced! GRWM’s are so fun. I love your look.
Heyy new subscriber here! I found your anti mlm vids and just started binge watching those :b . They are so great! I love that your practical and realistic and I could definitely relate to you. I agree 100% with you about weddings. I hired an officiant, had 10 guests, and got married in a rented out "conference room" in a old library. Got my dress at altered state boutique 80 bucks. Went out to dinner with the 10 guests paid for their meal. It was great best decision ever! Saved so much money and stress! I don't regret anything! Been married almost 2 years. Anniversary in a few weeks! :b
How in the FRICK can there be "Dislikes"!? Or thumbs down!? You are soo fun. I've been enjoying all your videos. So glad I found you! Lol
Lol probably MLM people from my other videos or people who don’t like sponsored videos
I agree!
She is so bubbly, informative and personable to me. I'm even learning makeup tips from her and I'm a 37 yr old black lady from the South lol!
Kiki's AWESOME 😍
@@shantellakaladypersephone8671 I'm from AL! I just found her too! Been listening to you all day! People are stupid, and jealous. I see the best videos with 👎! It's crazy! Just can't sweat over it I guess!🙂
That polish color is to die for!
I did the same thing for my wedding!! Me and my husband got married late last year and we went out of town to one of our favorite vaca spots and had a small intimate ceremony with just us two, the minister and the photographer! Saved soooo much money and got a mini vaca included 🥰 less stress and it's just about you two.. which is how it should be!
Hi Kiki, nice to see a normal video, which means a video I like. As far as my opinion on getting married. When my husband and I got married" we had been engaged for 15 years at that time. Out of the blue we were driving and one of starts talking about getting married, in a 10 minute drive, we had everything planned. Our guests were my mother, my daughter, she is an adult, 2 of our best friends and my sister and her hubby. A friend of ours married us in my sisters house, we got married in the sun room and my daughter took pictures, we had pic taken around the pool.and my sister had some snacks, very simple. But very nice. After the wedding we went our our usual yearly vacation place with out 2 friends. We went on vacation with them every year, why not take them on our honeymoon. That was it, inexpensive a. Fun time. This was 17 years ago. We have now been together for 32 years, and still together. I agree with you, spend the money on purchasing a house or go on a great holiday honeymoon to New York, your favourite. I wish you both the best luck and I hope your guy agrees with you. Well, you can always try to,talk him into it.
I totally didn't expect to see my question in your video, thanks for answering it and I'm glad you're doing well!
My husband and I got married at the courthouse and took the money we saved and honeymooned for 2 weeks in Hawaii and then moved half way across the country. I could not be happier about how we did it.
My husband and I did the same thing for the same reason. All that money on a wedding just seemed like a waste of money to me. We got married by a justice of the peace at the courthouse. We were together for 8 years before we got married and just celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary in September.
Don't let anyone tell you anything about your relationship and when, or even if, it's right for you to get married. You are the only one that knows and are the only opinion that matters (besides Jarvis of course !)
Great advice! Thanks so much!!!
Found you because of your anti-MLM content then when I saw one of your older videos where you admitted you were much different as a teenager (soccer story) it surprised me because you have so much empathy for people who are being bullied by scammers. Your transparency made me subscribe.
Also: Niacinamide is amazing!
Appreciate this comment a lot - thank you!
Annika O'Brien how do you have a check but no channel??
Jahlen Johnson I do have a channel - it’s ua-cam.com/users/annikaobrien pretty sure everyone with the ability to leave a comment has to have a channel in order to do so.
Annika O'Brien your channel has no videos...
Jahlen Johnson I removed all my old content and plan to start making more videos soon. They let you apply for the check mark after you get your first Play button.
Yah! I miss your vlog channel, I hope we get some soon. I totally agree with the wedding thing. We had a small DIY wedding and even that was super stressful. In hindsight I wish we would have taken that money and saved it or maybe took a bigger trip for our honeymoon. I never look at the pics from that day and I even gave my dress away lol.
I vlogged this weekend! I’ll try to post it soon. And yeah that’s how I feel. Even something small would be too stressful for me
The voice of REASON re:wedding. Spread the word to the younger generation: big weddings are soooo overrated and such a waste. Again, another reason why I love you. So smart.
I love to see you do a makeup video again!!!
Omg yes my wedding was great and all, but the BIGGEST waste of money
I think money aside, it was the biggest stressor of my life to date and I would not do it again. The people around us were just like every other family (demanding, opinionated, annoying) but I could barely handle it
Victoria Stargle yes I completely agree! So much unnecessary stress in what is supposed to be the happiest time of your life
I do not regret eloping one bit! Will be married 7 years this summer with 3 kiddos! ❤
My husband drives a semi and he has delivered cooling units on Michigan Ave. They shut down the streets and the helicopter picks them up to set on the building. He said it's the coolest thing to watch. And I think you are very smart not wanting to spend a lot of money on a wedding.
I had a small wedding and it was AMAZING. It was MAYBE 10 people with my husband's mom marrying us by the lake and mexican food after. No stress at all!
Had to read the comments to see if I was alone in needing closure on the litter box question 😄 I totally agree on both the coffee and the wedding things! Love the smell of coffee, do not like the taste. And we got married in a registry office (I'm UK, guessing it's like your courthouse maybe?), then went to a restaurant after, I didn't want a huge thing, I think there were 37 of us. Feeding everyone was the most expensive part!
Love it!! And yes the food is one of the main reasons I don’t want a wedding lol
Kiki Chanel I could see u doing a sweet little cocktail party with vegan appies!🥰or something by the lake?
Rao’s💖💖💖Spaghetti Sauce is a game changer.The Arrabica flavor is amazing💖
I got married last year. We kept it quite low key and thankfully had help from family but I was the same as you. I was having a lot of anxiety the year leading up to it and all I wanted to do was elope and have a massive round the world trip instead. But I got a lot of pressure of just having a normal wedding because I would be disappointing everyone. I think just stick to your guns and do whatever you want. But in saying that my wedding day was amazing and I’m glad we did it the way we did. I wouldn’t take anything back but I had dreamed of eloping to Italy or Scotland which would have been awesome.
couldn’t agree more about the wedding!!
Totally agree about the wedding stuff. I feel like a lot of people sink a LOT of money just to impress others and don’t even get to enjoy the day themselves. Then start a new life together in a ridiculous amount of debt. That kind of money can help you so much starting off... it’s a shame to blow it all on one day. Not to mention the stress of planning and trying to make it all go “perfect”... no thanks! My husband and I got married at an overlook at a nearby lake for free. My cousin is a preacher and performed our wedding. We just had our parents and other close family there. Only thing we paid for was the marriage license and my mom bought me a cute dress that was like $50. The day turned out perfect with very little planning and stress. We just celebrated our 10 year anniversary and to this day, it was one of the best decisions we have made. ♥️ It honestly blows my mind how much people spend on weddings. And that weddings are such a huge norm for society. Like you, I never thought it was really an option not to have one. We had just planned on doing a big wedding later and never got around to it. I would much rather use that money towards a trip or house. But to each their own!
I love your wedding decision. My husband and I got married at the courthouse and then our original plan was to have like a traditional ceremony afterwards. We’ve almost been married for two years now and it’s like, I don’t even want a wedding lmao. Like...I don’t wanna pay for it, don’t wanna choose bridesmaids, my MIL was like “what colors do you want?” And after I realized that was the beginning of many questions and stress, nah😂
My husband and I got married the day he deployed (4 years ago) and we decided we would renew our vows & have a big ceremony on our 5th year anniversary... it’s coming up in September but we decided to just take a vacation instead and I’m so happy about it. I hate the stress of planning and I don’t want to have a party & pay for everyone... if I’m spending that money, I want to enjoy it for myself! Sounds selfish but thousands of dollars took forever to save.. so we’re going to enjoy it!
just found your page yesterday and i’ve already watched like 6 videos.. you’re the best. oh and i got married last year my husband and I were like let’s just get married and not have a wedding (too much stress) we went to a park during a snow storm with 1 friend and a photographer and seriously best decision.
YES!!! 🙌 I got married at the court house and I would do it that way all over again!
I definitely relate to the coffee thing, its your wedding and you can do whatever you want
I enjoyed this video so much 💕
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As someone who has been engaged for 4 years... i 100% understand about the wedding stuff. however the other half wants one so i found a place that does everything and super affordable.
We are having a wedding but most people know it will be a party because we have been together for 7 years and everyone thinks of us as married.
You are one of the very few I trust with sponsorships. We can always trust Kiki!!!❤
My daughter is graduating from college next year i asked her if she wanted a big party or a mother daughter trip and she chose a trip!More fun less stress.I know alot of people that arent doing the traditional weddings anymore its smart!