Why Your Life Feels So Dull And Empty
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- Опубліковано 29 вер 2024
- A short story of a grandpa's wisdom on life.
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Hey, I'm Cole Hastings. I'm a vegan athlete/content creator with a passion for videography/video editing, among other things. I try to help people through sharing my experiences and evolution through life.
my life feels dull and meaningless, my life feels so boring, i hate my life, my life feels empty and meaningless, life sucks, life is so hard, life is so unfair
This is exactly what I needed today. Keep doing what you're doing.
I will. Thanks for watching
@@ColeHastings thank you for doing this
Cole Hastings, start putting your faith to God. If you're a sensitive man, trust me brother this ain't no work of casualty. The Lord wants to save your soul.
There's a text in the bible that says in Psalm, "Even though my father and mother leave me, with everything God shall help me." I still invite you to visit this church called La Luz Del Mundo or The Light Of The World Church.
Put your burden and he shall help you.
Maybe the one girl who actually values you is there. Trust me bro, in my church, you will be loved
@@trackrunner6033 Oh for goodness sake. He is happy without all the god mumbo jumbo stop pushing it onto people. If it makes you happy then yeah go for it but I am sick of you religious folk forcing it on people!
So...I should keep drinking and numbing myself? Lol nah j/k.
Once school is over your life changes forever.
Since then I'm low key depressed.
Move from the education trade to the slave trade. Very depressing
My biggest fear.@@Trisof88
School sucked aswell tho 😂
@@Trisof88sir the slave trade is a very sensitive and triggering topic please don’t joke about it when this topic comes up it should be done properly
@@NIAAESTHTIC he wasn't making a joke out of it
Your grandfather is an inspiration for all young men out there, lost, average, and down on their luck in life. So relatable and wise. All in all, we just gotta power through struggles and keep on making the best of life for ourselves.
This is actually a fictional story I wrote, but if I ever got to know my grandpa before he died, I'd hope he'd tell me something like this.
@@ColeHastings It shows you how damn good of a story you wrote. I geniunly thought this is what your grandpa told you. The fact that it came out of your head is crazy! Imagine how wise you will be when you are 92. Cole Hastings The Oracle
Well not just grandfathers but for me my uncle really inspired me and shaped my character
Thanks. I believe talking about these matters going to change the world. My experience with boredom and being uncontent is slightly different though. I just shared on my channel how I cope with boredom
"He who binds to himself a joy, does the winged life destroy. He who kisses the joy as it flies, lives in eternity's sunrise" - William Blake
I had my heart broken by my best friend recently. I've been in such a dark place. He was the only friend I had, so there's really nobody to turn to for support during this time, other than family. On top of losing two relationships in one, I've had some rather scary medical issues come about that still have not been resolved (despite numerous Dr. Appts). I've been down. Really down.
But, I've been trying to climb out of this dark pit. I'm still not out, but I've recently managed to shift my perspective (on some days) to think in the way you've told us about in this video (prior to watching it). It's been helpful.
Thank you for sharing this story. It serves as a great reminder to live life for the sake of living it- not merely chasing a desired outcome. Thank you for this 🖤
I hope things are better for you now. And if not, you still have their rest of your life :)
I also got my heart broken by my best friend :(
I've been so down and low, for a great part of my life, I feel like I'm addicted to feeling miserable and Worthless, any whiff of happiness and joy, does not feel natural or deserved. It feels fake af. Now after losing my ex woman and kids to another man, I thought that was it for me. Now I'm with a new, more attractive and intelligent woman, I fell in love.. like never before.. it felt great and yes I was super happy, now I'm back to the miserable part of life again. I guess like rapper Gangstar said "Ex to the Next" 😮😮😮
I've been so down and low, for a great part of my life, I feel like I'm addicted to feeling miserable and Worthless, any whiff of happiness and joy, does not feel natural or deserved. It feels fake af. Now after losing my ex woman and kids to another man, I thought that was it for me. Now I'm with a new, more attractive and intelligent woman, I fell in love.. like never before.. it felt great and yes I was super happy, now I'm back to the miserable part of life again. I guess like rapper Gangstar said "Ex to the Next" 😮😮😮
You'll watch an entire Netflix show even when the first episodes are slow and boring just because someone told you "it gets better." *But what if you looked at your goals like that and watched your life get better instead?*
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Wow what a statement bro
My man!! I remember unsubscribing your channel when you were at 1k or so cuz I was kinda tired of all the self help stuff on my YT. Really love seeing your progess now. Keep going man 👏🏼
Yeah, talks about Breaking Bad. Those not so hype moments or "boring" are whats makes the HYPE and beautifull moments, beautifull
😩… no I don’t. I fast forward until things look good or start watching whatever it is a few Episodes in. I’ll go back and rewatch the beginning IF it captured me from where I picked up at, especially if i end up watching until the end of it😆. I should’ve known anxiety issues were rising when I started reading books from the end. I just gotta know what’s going to happen!! Then I can go back and calmly start from the beginning.
Life is so boring that i can actually predict what people will say
And I'll say more... it's so boring that it gets to the point where it's also possible to predict behaviors, that is, everything is predictable and exhausting.
@@maicon_prudente so real for that bro
@@maicon_prudente If life was a video game, that means you are stuck on level 1-1. Living inside your own head will keep you there. Be present and you'll get to experience the rest of the game. Who knows what's going to happen? Exciting, isnt it?.
grow a garden do community service
@@JoshenBits I beated the game on hard. Its not fun anymore but im stuck in it.
“Our contemporary Western society, in spite of its material, intellectual and political progress, is increasingly less conducive to mental health, and tends to undermine the inner security, happiness, reason and the capacity for love in the individual; it tends to turn him into an automaton who pays for his human failure with increasing mental sickness, and with despair hidden under a frantic drive for work and so called pleasure.” Erich Fromm Art Of Love 1956
Today i feel more excited to find out how this game is programmed, by who, and why...
And se if there are a change to improve this and help other tired players breaks free from the grind.
The modern society will tell me im depressed and need to take some drugs.
The big philosophers will tell me im awake, im alive, and im a human.
“The real hopeless victims of mental illness are to be found among those who appear to be most normal. "Many of them are normal because they are so well adjusted to our mode of existence, because their human voice has been silenced so early in their lives, that they do not even struggle or suffer or develop symptoms as the neurotic does." They are normal not in what may be called the absolute sense of the word; they are normal only in relation to a profoundly abnormal society. Their perfect adjustment to that abnormal society is a measure of their mental sickness. These millions of abnormally normal people, living without fuss in a society to which, if they were fully human beings, they ought not to be adjusted.”
Aldous Huxley
Brave New World Revisited 1958 ...
This is sadly a reality for me this year spending it out without my grandma but the parts of the story that applies to him is the odd jobs, travelling, and loosing loved ones. He did learn how to cut hair though but he got joy from learning, connecting with people, and took many chances.
i very rarely cry, especially at videos or movies but this made me cry a little, every word was truth, you can't always be happy in life, there are ups and downs, hapiness and depression, duality, thank you so much for making this
Life wasn't like this always. Industrial revolution changed human behavior completely which caused this.
Like, yes bad things used to happen in life but it was a rarity.
Hedonistic culture which emphasises heavily on attaining pleasure anyhow and from any means did this.
Like I'm from a 3rd world country and in rural areas till now everything was quite stagnant and people were happy or atleast content with their lives, but as soon as they got the hedonistic culture exposure everything went to hell.
"Whatever makes you feel alive, do that, and do it until your hands bleed; and as soon as it no longer fulfills you, then move on to the next thing"
Powerful message. I think you have to be careful with it; a momentary setback may look like unfulfillment but not be it. But you usually know deep inside when it's time to move on.
Well, nothing makes me feel alive
man this video moved & touched me it touched my heart & soul! how an old man can have so much love wisdom words & experiences to share with his grandson till the day of his passing! moved me to tears! I hope 1 day 2 be able to see & keep seeing the world! & everything it has to offer! in life & life itself & everything it has for me to experience! for me & 2 get the most out of everything out of every moment 2 make it count out of every single experience 2 every second got to make it last every single day 2 & through those very same eyes the grandfather was talking about & be able to SAY! this is WHAT it means 2 experience LIFE!
This story is so relateable . I was feeling so empty, a simple body without any soul, any lust for life. I needed to hear that. I’ve been depressed for so long, too long. I’m there was a period in middle school when I’ve got bullied for what I am, the fact that I wasn’t conform. It just made me wanna conform more and more, erase my true personality. God knows how much I regret this period of my life. Since the Covid, the only thing that I do is going to high school, listening music that I can’t even relate cause I have 0 interesting experiences, and wasting my time on internet. Even my “friends” are boring and never go hang out outside. I’m alone, sometimes lonely, even when I’m surrounded by people. I wanna get high by the beach, scream till I can’t breath, kiss a stranger then regret it, do things that’ll make me feel ALIVE. I started to write poetry few months ago, but the only thing that I write about is my depression. Melancholy is beautiful, but I wanna see and experiment something new. Goddamn, my story reminds me of the guy from fight club. I hope I’m not gonna turn crazy. Have a basic day
The level of complexity and care you have for the words of those who have lived through more than you have is fascinating! This is only the second video I have watched of yours and your mindset on self growth and living life to the fullest is inspiring. I don’t comment on people’s videos but just like everyone else is saying is incredible. Well done!
Thank you Julia. I'm glad I can make this type of impact, even though most of my subscribers have endured much more than i have. They're stronger than I might ever be.
This video was amazing… it really got me thinking about life and how it really is what you make it. Each day matters and is worth living you just need to see the potential and value to every day! Thank you for allowing me to see a more positive outlook and I’ve saved this video because I know there will be times I could really use it to remind myself life is worth living.
I think i've been screwed over by cynicism. I've seen this video and all i feel is bad. The message i've taken away from this is that some people have the courage to live this life, some dont. I dont.
At some point i went looking for the meaning of life, that was a mistake. All i found was the idea that life is meaninless because life *cannot* have meaning. Some people go through life without contemplating its meaning, others find and settle for a meaning i've rejected. And i am left here without a valid excuse for living.
"Come now my boy, this is meant to uplift you" thanks for trying i guess, but i think i'm beyond hope.
I feel the same way, I didn't even like the video. But hey, maybe he should try to convince the 25,000 people who are dying from hunger everyday to see how beautiful life is.
You are extremely strong willed. That you could overcome your depression and turned your life upside down at such young age is great. I am 29 and still struggling.
How are you doing now?
wow you nail(actually inspire) me exactly why I still feel so dull and empty for myself at my early 30+, I got something across my mind at the later part of video. you are a good story teller Cole!
I’m 49 and most of my adult life has been a struggle with issues around depression and huge periods of unemployment, even now I haven’t worked for over 10 years, drifting along claiming government welfare to survive. I’ve been extremely depressed these last 6 months including 3 weeks voluntarily in a psychiatric unit with extreme depression and chronic insomnia. I’m still struggling a lot and not feeling any joy that’s spoken of in this video. I feel terrified about life as Im not sure I will make it too much longer unless something changes in my thinking. Im so tired
Finding your true mission is needed. A life that keeps chasing this mission is one that can give a lot of fulfillment.
*I GOT BORED JUST WATCHING THE GRANDPA STORY*
This is a beatiful video, Cole. Really stellar work. Engaging, valuable, and damn if it didn't hit me right in the feels. You are a gifted filmmaker, don't stop doing what you do.
I don't know if you'll ever read my comment
But you have no idea what a great impact you have on me
I never click on a video of yours and get disappointed you always get it just right
I was having an awful day and you made me realize it's not all what there is
Thank you for that
It's true you'll never ever have it all figured out 💜
This is the greatest video on the internet.
I'm going to watch this again and again. It's a true gem.
*“As we waste time, time is wasting us - Ryan Holiday*
This made me cry in the best way possible and I needed this video more than I can ever explain to you. Thank you for everything you do!!
What a beautiful story. Such a sad ending. But I needed this reminder today - thank you x
It's just like those boring motivational posts on Instagram urging you to live life to it's fullest while failing to tell you how, just with enhanced graphics, nice editing and other nonsense.
Agreed. Anyone who came to this video feeling empty and claims that it fixed them clearly wasn't feeling the type of chronic emptiness and apathy that some of us experience.
@@user-fq7ii3ub4m true, like this is the dumbest nonsense people make and feel good about. Came to comments to see comments pointing out reality but was disappointed.
what if you end up alone? what if it's too much to handle? what if it gets worse?
Brilliant piece, You just really struck a cord with me & I imagine many others. Many Thanks G, I am having difficult month , it being xmas n all that. Never even had a Grandad but the work conveyed great meaning. Respect bro & Stay Safe yeah. Peace.
The day I broke up with my boyfriend and had a heartache is the same day that I felt extremely euforic when I went to run as fast as I could and then took a breath to see the amazing view at the riverside of the city I live in by night. It really is important to feel.
What a powerful touching story! I bumped into your Channel today. I was totally drawn to your insightful contents. Thank you so much for making these beautiful inspiring videos !
Because it is dull and empty.
My grandma told me once "you're the guy who look at the sky and not the earth" I never understood her words, now I did
Damn , this was beautiful and important. I was feeling empty for many days but this video helped me in many ways .
Even though I’m 13 and not at the lowest point of my life this is possibly the best life advice to live
Alright i am gonna say it this is the best video i ever saw on UA-cam i am 23 and at 21 my hair is starting to fall big exams were coming felt like everyone is happy except me but I accepted that this is what really means to experience life
Please, never delete this.
Cole, I love this brother. This video just gave me so much good hope and happiness. Thank you so much.
I was so obsessed with feeling positive that i forgot that it's not life is 🙂 i didn't cry like this for months yeah i guess this what it feels to live i feel a human being again and not a numb doll who can't experience emotions to their fullest , maybe o just didn't wanna ger hurt huh?? But i will try this time to actually live life 😌
I keep watching and re-watching this video..and i learn something new everytime.
This isn't helpful. It's more questions, not a real answer. "Experience life" how? "Just experience it" but what is it I should experience and why does it matter? "Uh...experience?" No answer. Nothing
People will give that answer when it's obvious there is nothing. What is "experience" but some materialistic sensation?
Thank you so much for sharing your Knowledge and wisdom. Hopefully I will never forget this video!
Gave me a new perspective I am in aw i really believe you have found the meaning to life. This video has taught me how to enjoy life.
You wrote that?!! WOW
That is extremely impressive and you are wise beyond your years. Thank you for that!!
No youre just an easily impressed idiot
This was beautiful.
Beautiful story
Holy hell this video gave me goosebumps at the end, this video was very touching. Good work.
Everyday is the same opportunities, not the same day.
One of the Best Videos Ever
I watched this video in January 2022 and I feel like I have truly been experiencing life since then.
Hey do you have social media or anytning I need help to feel it again
I have an instagram
This is literally an optimist self help cringe.
The problem with western society is that it puts too much emphasis on "Suffering in life" and also idealises it to experience.
Whereas in many cultures degenerate behavior was brutally demonised which helped the majority of their citizens stay calm and collected.
Like in the case of your girlfriend cheating. In asian societies cheating is heavily punished (Even men) and also it wasn't advertised or glorified as now it seems to be.
Westerners experienced individualism very quick hence when they see other cultures collectivist they have a feeling of some sort a superiority complex not realising that the homogeneity present there helps them to live in solace.
Now the whole world runs on western principles hence so much depression and also the fact that you can't escape Westernisation because it's hedonistic in nature and no human will deny pleasure.
Finally, I would say we are heading straight towards "Brave New World" scenario where in order to counter life's hierarchical structure homogeneity will be created through artificial means(Gene editing) so the elites can rule.
This video was eye opening.
This is so beautiful
When you let go of everything, you realize you’re in control of everything
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What happened to the grand-pa, we call it in ignatian spirituality " a consolation without cause or a causeless consolation" which means a sudden joy which invades your heart without any previous reason. You just feel yourself full of love, hope and faith...
I really like your videos and I find your thoughts quite similar to ignatian spirituality. Go ahead Bro 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
Only after we’ve lost everything that we are free to do anything
Nothing to say.. Brilliant 💎
I love my grandpa, I couldn't be in his last moments..
Holy fuck this one is hitting different right now since I'm also 18. I feel directionless and I don't know what I truly want. But to go for anything and embrace the failure is how to truly live I guess.
i swear i cried, this is exactly what i needed.
I needed this precisely today.
That's a really good story. Well done.
After my parents death im staying with my brother he has always same life no changes at all im actually stuck with him. My father was always active and i stay with my brother who his is really lazy. 2:38
I'm 31 and still feel this way
I’m trying to help my love out, they aren’t feeling great right now.
What a video man 🙌,
You know those moments when you realize you think you finally understand life and feel conscious but the next hour you realize it was all a lie to yourself just to make yourself feel better
Great video, thanks
thank you man.. that was really inspiring.. wow.. i learned a lesson today thanks
That was really a thoughtful and meaningful video
Thank you, you still giving free theraphy to us, depressed people ..
I have fallen in to the trap
The only way in and out was my past
Now the door is sealed
Yes, life is like the ocean
It moves like waves
But with each year it goes to lower lows
And only reaches lower highs
No hope for the better future
The good times have passed
From the bottom of the pit
With no strength to rise
Thank you. I've been feeling low lately
Wow just wow 😳
Experiencing life is empty and without true meaning. Experience is momentary and fleeting. One day it's good, but as the video shows, the bad is just waiting to pounce out the good. lt's all a facade. We are so much more complex for that to be all there is. As I have thought and reasoned deeply about why we're here and how we got here, it seems obvious that we're not a cosmic accident. The numbers don't add up. Just experiencing life seems petty and self-serving. Grandpa may have died peacefully according to the nurses understanding, but did he? Was that also a fleeting facade?
Thank you!
This had me question everything...
Thank you. This made my day
You are a good storyteller.
Thank you
10:54 this is lifes greatest goal as a man.
wow! Thank you brother for making this video. :))
Beautiful
Hey Cole! Really love your videos!..
What are your thoughts on regret? And how should one deal with it?
my video about being too hard on yourself and videos on letting go of the past might help you
@@ColeHastings thanks! Really appreciate it! I will check them now
@@amnesiac5429 Its really hard to live this life without any regrets. Just let that shit go IMO. We all have so limited time. I think an average lifespan of 80 years isn't even enough to make the most of this life. Its too short. I'm 20 going on 21 soon, in 60 years time I won't be around because that's the reality of things. I'm taking it day by day at this point. Its like I can't wait to be 80 lol
@@yifanrants7894 the problem is that I have broken someone's heart by leaving them and I can't fix it anymore it's too late. and I feel guilt that prevents me from moving on with my life you know, like how can I allow myself to move on and make my life better while she is still broken and lost. It's really making me sad and I don't know what should I do.
This is so beautiful but i just cant get it out of my mind- buck really got that fuck there dude...
This made me cry ❤️
This is gold 🤙🏼
Good story dude
Beautiful video. Thank you
This made my day.
pursuit of wonders
thank you for this!
When does the low point stop?
I’ve experienced those eyes, I’ve found that sense of wonder and amazement just looking at the simple things, and you know what happened to it? It got dull. I’ve been dealing with this low point since middle school, with one, maybe two brief moments of relief. I’m 20 now.
I don’t want to pretend that I’ve experienced all there is to experience, I don’t want to pretend I’m wise beyond my years, but why bother continuing with this, why bother pursuing those new experiences when I’m not able to actually enjoy them, or feel anything but the same frustration, hopelessness, and pain, regardless of the meds or therapy I’m using? Everything I touch becomes spoiled and rots away. Why bother in the first place?
My friend to answer your question, I’ll tell you a little bit about myself
So I had a great childhood growing up, I was somewhat popular in middle school, had fiends. I was truly happy at the time. Then high school came around and I was still happy. Little did I know, I make a huge mistake in high school that I would only see later. I did a really poor job of picking a college and a career path. All my friend were going to fancy colleges and becoming scientists and things. I didn’t know what I wanted.
Eventually I picked a video game designer. The reason I picked that was because It sounded the most interesting out of a list I spent 5 seconds looking at, not because I wanted to do that for the rest of my life. I also was part of the 20/20 graduating class, so my first 2 years of college was online. This was the lowest point of my life
I was depressed, stayed in my house 24/7, doing online classes and playing video games alone. I barely had any friends and no girls. I really only left my room to go get junk food and to go to the bathroom. All the wonder I once had in elementary and middle school was stripped from me. I felt like I had nothing and I felt the same way you did. My life felt boring, the same dull colorless process. Go do classes for a job I dislike and play mindless video game the rest of the day. Day in and day out, that was my life for 3 years.
Then one summer night in 2023, I cried myself to sleep like usual but this time was different. I remember hating feeling this way, and I wanted to change. The very next day I printed up my resume and walked around my town to find a job. And I found a job at Anthony’s bussing tables. I expected my wonder to return quickly but it didn’t. I felt like something was wrong with me but I kept at it.
Eventually my hard work was noticed my the boss and I got my first promotion. I was now working in the 5 star fancy fine dinning instead of the summer cafe part. I started to find wonder in the strangest place possible in my customers and coworkers. I was always looking for wonder inside myself but I was looking in the wrong place. I needed to look to the kind amazing people that was around me. Though my customer and co worker interaction, I found out I have a passion for communicating and helping people. Soon I got my second promotion to one of the highest busser roles and I became respected my by peers, boss and customers alike.
Now I have lifelong friends at a job that I like, and I got into my dream school doing something that I love. I got my wonder back.
Question: when does the low point stop?
Answer: It stops when you want it to stop, that’s all it is.
When you want a change in your life, and you strive towards that change. It doesn’t have to be something big like mine, it can be something little like going on a walk tmr or working out more, ETC. Feeling like this is like sitting in a 20 foot hole in the ground. If your just gonna give up and sit at the bottom of the hole, your never gonna get out. The only way you gonna get out is climbing the wall, try your bet, try to be positive. Some days are gonna be bad, some day your gonna fall back to the bottom. If you keep on trying to climb, some day you’ll clim out.
I don’t know when, could be 1 years, 5 years, 10 years, but you will make it out of that hole.
I truly wish you best on your journey and remember to stay positive, you are gonna do this my fiend. You will succeed. I believe in you ❤️
Bro you are awesome .
This was a masterpiece
only at your lowest point you can feel high of life wow
Good job
That...was...beautiful...
Great video ! and now I'm happy to live near Paris xd
Thank you so much bro
I love this!