I was always a very cynical teenager, looking down on others for doing simple routinely tasks, because I saw them as unnecessary and pointless-illogical. my decision to view these things in such a way has had more of a lasting impact on me than I would have ever known. creating a routine for the sake of routine is a wonderful display of discipline- one that I had only come to admire in the past few months. This video helped a lot.
Hey thank you for your comment. Only in the past year have I found some routines that have made a big difference for me, when previously they felt pointless. We are all learning and growing. :)
The way you talked about meaning and assigning it or it being assigned by others for you really struck me and uplifted me, like you gave me a new pair of glasses and suddenly I can see that my way of thinking about anything was just downright wrong and harmful mostly towards myself. Also now I feel kinda happy that I can change or add positive meanings to the things I care or want care more about. Most importantly I stopped thinking about any of that as meaningless like I was kinda forced into thinking by the people I grew up with. Thank you, didn't think a 5 minute video would make me this happy after literally trying to figure myself out for over a decade but here we are, this year is really off to a good start :D Cheers.
I'm quite appalled at life honestly. I mean how did I transition from being so hopeful as a child to looking around at life and feeling like I have been robbed. Like, is this it? What the hell was I so anxious to see? Death, Pain and cruelty? Living to pay bills and enjoying a vacation (if you can) once in a while. Thank God that I can look forward to heaven.
I remember having feelings like that too. I'll never tell kids, "Enjoy being young while you can," because it feels cringy to say that. But there is just a different level of responsibility as an adult. It isn't all bad - different stages of life have different opportunities and challenges. Wishing you the best, my friend.
@@geddon436 Because I work with young people all the time and the last thing they want is to be lectured by adults about how life gets harder when you get older.
Everything you said was spot on. I find that I usually feel like my life is meaningless when all I did all day was nothing but scrolling through social media! I especially liked the "Get Specific" part because when I'm bored I do the same easy thing, mindlessly scrolling through social media. After being overstimulated, I finally stop using it. I get bored, but then eventually I start thinking about new things to do. I then realize it's actually more fun than being on my phone. It's the same thing when I'm stressed or sad, I use the phone since it's the "easiest stress-reliever". Deep sigh, our parents were right, our phones are really the culprit😂. Anyway, great video! I'm surprised why you didn't get more likes.
Hi Ash - thanks for your comment! I'm glad you found this relatable. I have a complex relationship with social media (as most of us do). As a creative person it can be hard to not use social media to share what I am working on or passionate about.
Knowing that you only have one life, and knowing you'll lose everything once you die can be a great motivator in my opinion. Life is worth living, because we only get one. That's why hobbies and relationships are so important, those two things for example, are things that we would most likely tend to, if we only had around 1 more week to live, because we never get to see another friend, or enjoy another hobby ever again after death occurs.
You need a pet (cat, dog, etc) it all gives purpose to wakeup, take care of your health, etc. Living with 12 cats, 1 dog and 2 rabbits, there is always a purpose to wakeup :)
Not good when you don’t car as have days where you don’t feed them cause you are stuck in bed. It’s been challenging for me to help out with the family dog.
Thank you for making this video, sir. As someone who is currently drowning in a sense of meaninglessness, it means a lot to have an outlet like this. I want to believe my life has a purpose, though I have so often felt like it doesn't.
I have always failed my test and felt like I was the only dumb person in my high school. I kept this a secret from my parents since I didn’t want them to know how much I was a failure.
That isn’t a fun place to be. Personally I always feel like it is totally ok to ask for help - but I know that some peoples’ families are not very understanding or supportive. You never brought this up with your parents?
@@liamminerYT yes I agree with you to a certain point But again life has no meaning wether we do anything about it or not This is my personal experience of my life it's all just completely meaningless pointless existence
For 57 years i searched for meaning. I have a book self full of books on Religion, Philosophy, Self Help. I found nothing in human history to be meaningful to me. I give to charity because i was raised to believe those that have must help those who don't but it serves no purpose to me. The act of charity does nothing to fill the absence of meaning. P.S. what is the ONE STEP we should take that you mention at the end of the video?
Thanks for your comment. By the “one step” I simply mean take the next little step that you can take to move you forward - in whatever area you need to. For some people focusing on the big giant topic that is meaning is not feasible - in which case it is much more manageable to just worry about the next little thing you are going to do now, and the meaning of will come later.
I have no friends. I have no money. I’m miserable in my relationship - I feel so unloved and unappreciated. If I didn’t have so many animals to care for, I’d just end it now.
I just want love and a family, i'll never get any of that. My life is pointless to do anything because i'll never have those things. Why should i bother. Everyone around me has gfs and bfs. I just want that. I got hobbies, i can be interesting. All left is death so i can rest without thinking anymore
the older i get the more empty life is. no one cares no one even noticed i exist except when tbey need me. no one ever asked how i feel or what i want. its always what they want. as if i dont matter.i m just a tool even to my own mother😢
I'm 16 and everything just feels so hopeless right now. My only friend is ghosting me. My old friends don't talk to me anymore (yes I've reached out to them). I'm homeschooled and have been since ninth grade (currently a junior) My parents hate each other. My family makes decisions about me without my knowledge or consent. I feel like a waste of space and money. I am one mental breakdown away from getting a job and dropping out becaue I can't do it anymore. I am so tired. I've left the house by myself, because I wanted to maybe 10 times in the last 3 years. Other than that the only reason and time I get to leave the house is with my mother and grandmother or my dad. I feel disconnected from my body and mind. I maladaptive daydream constantly. I have very few reasons to get through this. I don't know what I'm suppose to do anymore. i just want a friend, that's all I want. Just a friend. I want to go out and go to a party and run around in dirt and get iced cream and sit on roof tops at dusk whilst listening to music but I can't do any of that. I have no one. I'm alone. I don't know how I'm suppose to get though the next two years of school like this. Sorry for the rant. I needed to get this off my chest and don't have therapy until monday
Ah I am also going through a lot of shits lately...I realised mindfulness (practicing no mind) is helping me a lot and following a to do list everyday makes me to atleast do my daily chores... This feeling of meaningless sucks so much... I honestly want to be more self dependent and enjoy my own company as change is the only constant thing in life
Hello friend! I'm glad you felt able to get that off your chest! While I can't speak to all of the things you are going through, I do know that many other high schoolers could relate to several of the things you mentioned (I'm a teacher, btw, so I interact with many students). Just out of curiosity, what are your interests? Do you have any hobbies? Play any sports? Things like that?
That is AWESOME! Glad to hear that. I don’t know much about Percy Jackson (heard of it of course), but I know about manga! Its a cool form of storytelling.
Thanks for this video, life keeps feeling meaningless over and over again and I absolutely despise it. I'd be happy and then another second everything would feel entirely pointless, I'd d be thinking "Why am I even here?" "What is life?" I've been feeling this way for a couple years now. I'm gonna try to implement as much stuff as I can from this video, I'm sure it's gonna be incredibly helpful but I still know that it wont erase this feeling entirely The reason for that is my living situation, being in poverty I cant feel like a normal person no matter what i do But hopefully getting my life in check and a better mindset/mentality and being patient will erase this feeling Now that im thinking about it, this feeling could possibl just be depression Well, thanks for this video man
Hey you’re very welcome. Thanks for your comment. What came to mind as I read your comment was that sometimes change can be very quick and you can try something different or take some new action, but there is also a patience that is required over months and years. Sometimes it takes that long to be able to look back and see your progress, which you’ll Be proud of. Keep going! You’ve got this.
Yes, if you feel meaningless take stock of what you are doing. Is your place a mess? Did you have vigorous exercise today? Have you met anyone new lately? etc. Small things aside, when is the last time you faced a fear? When's the last time you did something scary? When is the last time you conquered a difficult challenge? When is the last time you helped someone less well-off than yourself. Start doing these things then see how meaningless you feel...
I'm 16 now whe i was 14 i realized that the life is so meanigless i feel so depression before two years to now i watched hundreds of videos and book but i did not get better i want to live like everyone in my ages but i can't it is so hard before 3 years i was hopeful kid and i was had a lot of dreams but now i don't have any reason to live nothing is matter in this fu.c.ki.ng life (i need an advice) and sorry for my bad English
Hello Liam, I came across your channel on UA-cam, and found out exactly what a Cholesteatoma was. thank you, and found out that I would have to go through the surgery and they did a Tympanomastoidectomy on 8 October this year. What I didn’t know is that my ENT surgeon was not very good at cutting hair and he shaved away more than I would’ve liked. I have found several problems with no real answers since the surgery, number one is the metallic taste; it’s been over two months since the surgery and I still have this horrible metallic taste in my mouth. The trouble is I have no other taste - everything taste like wallpaper paste. There’s no taste like the taste buds are turned off, and nobody seems to be able to tell me when or if it’ll come back. The hearing loss has become more significant than before the surgery and I’m having no luck with the hearing aids that I had before the surgery because they pick up a lot of the extraneous noises and the wind blowing by but not in a group where I’m listening to peoples speak. I had a great ENT SURGEON but the hearing aids - they’re not very good now and they are the newest small modern, over the ear with the microphone in the ear, I don’t think it’s very good. I was wondering if you have any idea about the metallic taste and about losing the taste buds cause I would really like to be able to taste food again. I haven’t been active at all post op. I used to ride horses and swim every day but since they did the surgery I haven’t been swimming at all. I haven’t been riding horses and I used to go shooting, target shooting with my Ruger 22 and my Glock 19 but I just have not been back to the range. I haven’t had any interest in going or doing and I think that’s called the “blahs,” I really appreciate any help you can give me like pointers about what’s coming down the line. The surgery also included a bonus as they made a whole new eardrum for me because mine was damaged by the cysts and they did something with the facial nerve I guess because it has made me a bit unsteady on my feet. I think that’s where the metallic taste and loss of taste sensation has come from, I don’t have any facial drooping but I also just doesn’t feel right cause like something is out of whack. I hope you have some ideas and I do appreciate your videos very very much. You have a teachers heart and a speaking tone which really speaks to me - it’s someone I could listen to often because I feel like you know - you’ve been there so I do appreciate it very much, thank you so much, Sonja Wells in Brentwood, TN.
Thank you for sharing that with us and Liam, I don't mean to butt in and excuse me for doing so but no reply was given to you directly so I hope a complete stranger can make something of it.. Heck idk.. But to me it sounds like medical advice that can only be answered by a medical professional given that he is a content creator it might be risky for him to leave medical advice idk I'd google these problems but not to a point that it'll send you down a Google medical rabbit hole. (We've all been there) but also id like to think that there's a lot in his video that can be helpful like remaining hopeful, and not looking at the full end goal but rather taking small steps in life can be more profound for example getting in the water just your feet for a half an hr then maybe go in a bit further next week, perhaps getting a feel for your gun again and how it holds different this time..writing down why these things we're and are still important to you... Small steps and putting meaning to these steps is up most important I would think for your recovery!! That's just what I was thinking ❤ God bless
Hey there, thanks for your message. In my personal experience it took quite a while to heal from my surgeries. I do remember experiencing weird tastes and weird feelings in and around my face and neck. While I am not certain, I'm confident that I recovered much more quickly as a child then I would today. I think it is possible that things can take longer to heal as we get older (I'm not saying you are old, just sharing my general thoughts about healing and age). If it took me 6 weeks to feel back to normal as a child, I don't think it is out of the realm of possibility for it to take longer for an adult to feel fully back to normal. I did play a lot of sports as a kid and I usually had to wait quite a while after a surgery before returning. I'd recommend doing the lighter exercise and activity that you can do right now, and then build up to doing the more extreme things soon. As a kid I always started walking and biking before I began running and playing soccer again - and then full impact soccer came after that. So it is a waiting game. How are you feeling now, 2 weeks later? Thank you for your message. :)
@@mandybuehler9471 Haha thanks for your comments Mandy! I'm transitioning my channel to photography stuff, but yes, I've made several videos about hearing related stuff. I always try to give advice from my personal experience, and always recommend that people go to an ENT/ Audiologist to get information for their specific situation.
@@liamminerYT hello Liam, well, thank you for your reply and your experience. You’re right … some weird tastes and feelings go on that were never mentioned. Three months post op and still no taste no matter what I eat ! That lead to very bland holiday dinners ! I still have weird sensations in my face on the surgical side like numbness or tingling as well as earache pain occasionally. I had thought the surgery was not a big deal - it’s just an ear with a cyst but after doing some research post op I found that it is considered major surgery with lots of things that can happen so mine are not all that unusual. I’m really looking forward to getting the stitches out behind my ear as they itch and getting those taste buds to reawaken will be a treat. Thanks again for your video. You may not realize what a relief it is to hear that I’m not the only one though I may be the eldest at 77 years past. Healing at this age does take a wee bit longer and researching the problem has meant a lot more time on medical sites trying to learn the lingo as well as understanding it ! Thanks again. Sonja
fellow small page here - also reflecting on a lot of things that you are, as we navigate this thing called life :) rooting for you! FYI - if you're reading this as someone who might be a young adult and feeling lost, i share recipes and reflections from the things i've learned. would love to see you around.
A bit surprised that you didn't mention Viktor Frankl when talking about attaching meaning to life. Good video nonetheless - but did you come to this realisation on your own or did Viktor Frankl's book help?
I mean ill try it again... Work is my biggest issue for feeling meaningless/worthless. Nothing is consistent... Nothing is right... Maybe I should have never jumped on this family business band wagon as a teen. I felt like it was abandoning family if I didn't. It has beat me down year by year for 16 years.
I fundamentally disagree with everything you said. I don't believe meaning can come from inside yourself. I believe it can only come from others. I am a Presbyterian Christian. Through the transitive property, of God is love and God is meaning and purpose and love is self sacrifice, then all meaning comes from self sacrifice. You can derive meaning from sacrificing parts of yourself (such as your resources like money, time and energy) for a cause that benefits others. Children are a good example of something that gives meaning to a parents life, as it's a commitment to sacrifice for this new person to grow and flourish. Isolation is devoid of other people to sacrifice for and as a result, feels empty and hollow. I am 25 years old, I am a raging porn addict, I take anti-depresents and get drunk every once and a while, I live with my parents, I hate my job, I have no clue what I want to do with my life and I am wasting my two college majors of general engineering with concentrations in electrical and computer, and my computer science major, I hardly talk to my friends anymore (about once a year one comes to visit), I am terrified of literally everything and making decisions, I am completely overwhelmed and unable to cope with basic life stuff, I have horrible repressed rage and suffering, I live mostly in extreme isolation, my job right now consists mostly of me staring at my computer screen for eight to nine hours with maybe about 30 to an hours worth of work a day, my co-workers hardly talk to me and most don't like me, my brothers and sisters are scattered about the country and to busy for me to visit, my mother acts condescending and like baby I have to take care of, my dad is completely absent from my life and it's become so awkward with him, he will literally ask my mom what I would prefer while we are in the same room together, my parents fight often and I usually have to be the one to comfort and re-assure my mom that she isn't crazy (my dad has narcissistic personality disorder), I have a tooth that's rotting and I can't get the nerve to go to the dentist to get it fixed (I will eventually, it's a wisdom tooth that's too far back to brush properly and in a weird spot (born with a cleft lip so, lots wrong there)), all the wonder and joy in life is gone, I can't find anything worth while to play or watch anymore, my mother practically forces me to watch movies I hate with her and my dad because she is worried about me (I don't think for my sake she is worried, but rather it's more her own trauma of her brother killing himself), church is awkward and hard to attend, even there I feel isolated and alone, I have zero prospects for a girl friend or romantic partner, every girl I have ever asked out has turned me down or outright rejected me, I am starting to gain weight, i have attempted suicide in the past (the knife was to dull to break the skin), in college I had a dorm room to myself propped up on the wooden bed frames and tied my belt to the top of it, put my head in and slowly strangled myself for a bit, I only relented because I was flirting with the idea, but I had thought through the logistics of the situation and the timing of everything, I worked out when they would logistically find my body... Life for me is unending misery and I can't understand why people are so shocked and upset by suicide, I literally can't relate but I know it's horribly taboo to even talk or mention. I feel like a character in the book, I have no mouth and I must scream, constantly becoming more warped and distorted as I wander aimlessly through a never ending barrage of torment and ironic suffering. All I want is to die, every second of every minute of every hour of every day of every week of every month of every year, my only desire in life is to die. I know at some point I will probably kill myself, the two things holding me back are, caring for my mother (probably the only thing that gives my life any resemblance of meaning, even though it's a lopsided relationship) and my friend's upcoming wedding (I am a groomsmen), which is sure to drive the knife even deeper into my feelings of isolation and my inability to find a girlfriend. I can't even get a pet because my nieces and nephews are allergic and fish and birds remind me of my own isolated prison. Weirdly enough, I can't eat crabs or lopsters, I find them more relatable then most other animals and passing by a labstor or crab tank always depressed me horribly. Being in prison would actually probably be more comfortable for me. It's not a whole lot different than how I currently live right now and the structure and order to daily routine and being around people suffering the same way would actually be more helpful and cathartic. Never having to worry about the future or doing something important with my life, sweet release from the pressure. Better than what is currently solitary confinement with horrifying levels of stress. Prisoners while scary, probably wouldnt scare me as much as my own indecision. If all a prisoner can do is harm me physically and I actively want to die they would just be someone to aid in that desire. I considered the army, but I think I would literally snap and go mental if I had to go through basic training, all my trauma would surface (plus poor health and respiratory system). The difference being, one comes with the chance of death, the other just perpetuating the suffering but to a greater degree. All this to say, my life is shit, I don't want sympathy or pity and if you give me that, fuck you and if you comment some similar bull shit, then your only driving another knife deeper because it's obvious you don't get me as a person. Likewise with comments about being able to relate or some similar level of bullshit. I don't doubt everyone has their problems but I have never encountered anyone with my bigger personal problems as they are too specific to my worldview and religious outlook. I am kinda wasted right now, please excuse the rambling.
I won't give sympathy or pity as you asked me not to, and I can't say I can relate to anything you shared. I appreciate your comment and genuinely hope things improve for you.
Lovely video, but your concept of "meaning" is just something people have to cling to in order to avoid the horrific and terrifying truth that NOTHING matters and there isnt any meaning. It's like a runner in a race deciding where the finishing line is, just so they can be the winner. I've seen many many deaths and many many suicides and believe me, there's no difference. For almost everyone, death is scary, painful and alone. So few of us will be granted a good, peaceful death, so few that it is lottery odds. So, why delude ourselves with synthetic "meaning", instead, just embrace the awful journey and long for it to end. I'd rather do this, than feel the cold mockery of death as it comes and shows me all of my life's "meaning" was pointless.
As I said in the video, I believe that we can choose the beliefs that we hold on to. I’m not saying it is easy, but I personally believe we have a choice. You’re obviously free to believe what you wish. If it doesn’t serve you or make you happy though, there may come a time when you want to change that belief. Thanks my friend!
It’s weird, I don’t like to say I feel meaningless even though that’s the closest word for it, it feels like im living for other people but im not recieving that life back and not living for myself, mostly because I don’t know how so I guess that’s meaningless
My life used to feel like a movie I was in control of and had fun with and now it feels like what’s the point, good times don’t last and everything goes by too fast why can’t I enjoy my life instead of taking it for granted and watching it flash by my eyes
loneliness is a killer
Completely agree. We need connection.
Yes it is
I'm slowly dying from it.
@@lizzyk8092 I know how hard this is... sending hugs
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I was always a very cynical teenager, looking down on others for doing simple routinely tasks, because I saw them as unnecessary and pointless-illogical. my decision to view these things in such a way has had more of a lasting impact on me than I would have ever known. creating a routine for the sake of routine is a wonderful display of discipline- one that I had only come to admire in the past few months. This video helped a lot.
Hey thank you for your comment. Only in the past year have I found some routines that have made a big difference for me, when previously they felt pointless. We are all learning and growing. :)
Same-same
One step at a time - it's such a simple truth but always seems to be forgotten. Thanks for the reminder.
You are welcome. :)
I’m so tired of trying to assign meaning to things when everything feels useless
So good Liam! I loved “if we don’t assign meaning, someone else will” 🤯 I think this video will be super helpful for people who feel this way ❤
Thanks Sav!!
The way you talked about meaning and assigning it or it being assigned by others for you really struck me and uplifted me, like you gave me a new pair of glasses and suddenly I can see that my way of thinking about anything was just downright wrong and harmful mostly towards myself. Also now I feel kinda happy that I can change or add positive meanings to the things I care or want care more about. Most importantly I stopped thinking about any of that as meaningless like I was kinda forced into thinking by the people I grew up with.
Thank you, didn't think a 5 minute video would make me this happy after literally trying to figure myself out for over a decade but here we are, this year is really off to a good start :D
Cheers.
I'm quite appalled at life honestly. I mean how did I transition from being so hopeful as a child to looking around at life and feeling like I have been robbed. Like, is this it? What the hell was I so anxious to see? Death, Pain and cruelty? Living to pay bills and enjoying a vacation (if you can) once in a while. Thank God that I can look forward to heaven.
I remember having feelings like that too. I'll never tell kids, "Enjoy being young while you can," because it feels cringy to say that. But there is just a different level of responsibility as an adult. It isn't all bad - different stages of life have different opportunities and challenges. Wishing you the best, my friend.
@@liamminerYT why do you believe it is cringy to tell young kids to "enjoy being young while you can"?
@@geddon436 Because I work with young people all the time and the last thing they want is to be lectured by adults about how life gets harder when you get older.
@@liamminerYT Have they all responded the same way?
@@geddon436 Haha most teenagers react that way in my experience, yes.
Everything you said was spot on. I find that I usually feel like my life is meaningless when all I did all day was nothing but scrolling through social media! I especially liked the "Get Specific" part because when I'm bored I do the same easy thing, mindlessly scrolling through social media. After being overstimulated, I finally stop using it. I get bored, but then eventually I start thinking about new things to do. I then realize it's actually more fun than being on my phone. It's the same thing when I'm stressed or sad, I use the phone since it's the "easiest stress-reliever". Deep sigh, our parents were right, our phones are really the culprit😂. Anyway, great video! I'm surprised why you didn't get more likes.
Hi Ash - thanks for your comment! I'm glad you found this relatable. I have a complex relationship with social media (as most of us do). As a creative person it can be hard to not use social media to share what I am working on or passionate about.
I'm glad your video appeared in my feed. Thank you. "A little bit of movement, a little bit of progress ... It's a place to start."
You are very welcome. I'm glad it appeared for you. :)
Knowing that you only have one life, and knowing you'll lose everything once you die can be a great motivator in my opinion.
Life is worth living, because we only get one.
That's why hobbies and relationships are so important, those two things for example, are things that we would most likely tend to, if we only had around 1 more week to live, because we never get to see another friend, or enjoy another hobby ever again after death occurs.
Great words my friend!
@@liamminerYT ❤️
To me all of this is nothing but distractions from the pure pointlessness of life.
Absolutely. Distractions.
@@Patrick.KhouryI know this is going to sound crazy, but I know you from the Facebook polyglot groups. LOL
You need a pet (cat, dog, etc) it all gives purpose to wakeup, take care of your health, etc. Living with 12 cats, 1 dog and 2 rabbits, there is always a purpose to wakeup :)
I love this suggestion!
Thats true
It forces you to do stuff like going out early in the morning/night to get ur animals food, wake up early to feed them etc
Not good when you don’t car as have days where you don’t feed them cause you are stuck in bed. It’s been challenging for me to help out with the family dog.
Thank you for making this video, sir. As someone who is currently drowning in a sense of meaninglessness, it means a lot to have an outlet like this. I want to believe my life has a purpose, though I have so often felt like it doesn't.
Been 3 months how are you feeling/ doing
I have always failed my test and felt like I was the only dumb person in my high school. I kept this a secret from my parents since I didn’t want them to know how much I was a failure.
That isn’t a fun place to be. Personally I always feel like it is totally ok to ask for help - but I know that some peoples’ families are not very understanding or supportive. You never brought this up with your parents?
Life doesn't "seem" meaningless life is 100% utterly pointless meaningless existence
Thanks for the comment, Joe. As I said in the video, life can feel that way, but it is what we do about it that counts.
@@liamminerYT yes I agree with you to a certain point
But again life has no meaning wether we do anything about it or not
This is my personal experience of my life it's all just completely meaningless pointless existence
The hardest battle is learning to live with the mandain.
Mundane* just so you know. Not tryna be that guy.
I love you and thanks for letting me correct you
your summation held meaning for me …
Thank you, I'd like to try all these.
I'm so happy I found this video. Thank you
Thanks! Glad that the video helped in some way!
For 57 years i searched for meaning. I have a book self full of books on Religion, Philosophy, Self Help. I found nothing in human history to be meaningful to me. I give to charity because i was raised to believe those that have must help those who don't but it serves no purpose to me. The act of charity does nothing to fill the absence of meaning. P.S. what is the ONE STEP we should take that you mention at the end of the video?
Thanks for your comment. By the “one step” I simply mean take the next little step that you can take to move you forward - in whatever area you need to. For some people focusing on the big giant topic that is meaning is not feasible - in which case it is much more manageable to just worry about the next little thing you are going to do now, and the meaning of will come later.
Great message Liam. This is something we all need to hear at one point or another
Thanks very much! And it is as much a reminder for myself, too!
Thank you for this message.
I have no friends. I have no money. I’m miserable in my relationship - I feel so unloved and unappreciated. If I didn’t have so many animals to care for, I’d just end it now.
No, listen whoever you are plz don't. You have a purpose. You just haven't discovered it yet.
Sending you love my friend! How have the past few weeks been for you personally?
The animals are grateful for you, everyday. They give unconditional love. I’m so glad I have mine. But there are days…
Such a powerful video!
I just want love and a family, i'll never get any of that. My life is pointless to do anything because i'll never have those things. Why should i bother. Everyone around me has gfs and bfs. I just want that. I got hobbies, i can be interesting. All left is death so i can rest without thinking anymore
Life is meaningless. Ive tried it all. Death is promised 💔 once you die you become a memory for a short time them nothing
how are you now?
Thanks for the inspirational video 🙏
Thank you so much for this! I was trying to find an answer for what I am feeling and why I am feeling it. I guess I just found it :)
You are very welcome. Good luck my friend!
the older i get the more empty life is. no one cares no one even noticed i exist except when tbey need me. no one ever asked how i feel or what i want. its always what they want. as if i dont matter.i m just a tool even to my own mother😢
Don’t overthink help others selflessly
I'm 16 and everything just feels so hopeless right now. My only friend is ghosting me. My old friends don't talk to me anymore (yes I've reached out to them).
I'm homeschooled and have been since ninth grade (currently a junior) My parents hate each other. My family makes decisions about me without my knowledge or consent. I feel like a waste of space and money.
I am one mental breakdown away from getting a job and dropping out becaue I can't do it anymore. I am so tired. I've left the house by myself, because I wanted to maybe 10 times in the last 3 years. Other than that the only reason and time I get to leave the house is with my mother and grandmother or my dad.
I feel disconnected from my body and mind. I maladaptive daydream constantly. I have very few reasons to get through this. I don't know what I'm suppose to do anymore. i just want a friend, that's all I want. Just a friend. I want to go out and go to a party and run around in dirt and get iced cream and sit on roof tops at dusk whilst listening to music but I can't do any of that. I have no one. I'm alone. I don't know how I'm suppose to get though the next two years of school like this.
Sorry for the rant. I needed to get this off my chest and don't have therapy until monday
Ah I am also going through a lot of shits lately...I realised mindfulness (practicing no mind) is helping me a lot and following a to do list everyday makes me to atleast do my daily chores...
This feeling of meaningless sucks so much...
I honestly want to be more self dependent and enjoy my own company as change is the only constant thing in life
Hello friend! I'm glad you felt able to get that off your chest! While I can't speak to all of the things you are going through, I do know that many other high schoolers could relate to several of the things you mentioned (I'm a teacher, btw, so I interact with many students). Just out of curiosity, what are your interests? Do you have any hobbies? Play any sports? Things like that?
@@liamminerYT Thank you! I really love manga and percy jackson. I've actually reconnected with an old friend recently as well!
That is AWESOME! Glad to hear that. I don’t know much about Percy Jackson (heard of it of course), but I know about manga! Its a cool form of storytelling.
Thx I am going through some problems at home so this video has helped me go through my crisis
I’m glad to know that. Best wishes!
Me aswell
Thanks for this video, life keeps feeling meaningless over and over again and I absolutely despise it.
I'd be happy and then another second everything would feel entirely pointless, I'd d be thinking "Why am I even here?" "What is life?"
I've been feeling this way for a couple years now.
I'm gonna try to implement as much stuff as I can from this video, I'm sure it's gonna be incredibly helpful but I still know that it wont erase this feeling entirely
The reason for that is my living situation, being in poverty
I cant feel like a normal person no matter what i do
But hopefully getting my life in check and a better mindset/mentality and being patient will erase this feeling
Now that im thinking about it, this feeling could possibl just be depression
Well, thanks for this video man
Hey you’re very welcome. Thanks for your comment. What came to mind as I read your comment was that sometimes change can be very quick and you can try something different or take some new action, but there is also a patience that is required over months and years. Sometimes it takes that long to be able to look back and see your progress, which you’ll Be proud of. Keep going! You’ve got this.
Yes, if you feel meaningless take stock of what you are doing. Is your place a mess? Did you have vigorous exercise today? Have you met anyone new lately? etc. Small things aside, when is the last time you faced a fear? When's the last time you did something scary? When is the last time you conquered a difficult challenge? When is the last time you helped someone less well-off than yourself.
Start doing these things then see how meaningless you feel...
Great message. :)
Well I think I just go back to bed..
Thank you for this ❤
You deserve one more subscriber, I am doing that
Thanks very much!!
I'm 16 now whe i was 14 i realized that the life is so meanigless i feel so depression before two years to now i watched hundreds of videos and book but i did not get better i want to live like everyone in my ages but i can't it is so hard before 3 years i was hopeful kid and i was had a lot of dreams but now i don't have any reason to live nothing is matter in this fu.c.ki.ng life (i need an advice) and sorry for my bad English
I feel you man
Hello Liam, I came across your channel on UA-cam, and found out exactly what a Cholesteatoma was. thank you, and found out that I would have to go through the surgery and they did a Tympanomastoidectomy on 8 October this year. What I didn’t know is that my ENT surgeon was not very good at cutting hair and he shaved away more than I would’ve liked. I have found several problems with no real answers since the surgery, number one is the metallic taste; it’s been over two months since the surgery and I still have this horrible metallic taste in my mouth. The trouble is I have no other taste - everything taste like wallpaper paste. There’s no taste like the taste buds are turned off, and nobody seems to be able to tell me when or if it’ll come back. The hearing loss has become more significant than before the surgery and I’m having no luck with the hearing aids that I had before the surgery because they pick up a lot of the extraneous noises and the wind blowing by but not in a group where I’m listening to peoples speak. I had a great ENT SURGEON but the hearing aids - they’re not very good now and they are the newest small modern, over the ear with the microphone in the ear, I don’t think it’s very good. I was wondering if you have any idea about the metallic taste and about losing the taste buds cause I would really like to be able to taste food again. I haven’t been active at all post op. I used to ride horses and swim every day but since they did the surgery I haven’t been swimming at all. I haven’t been riding horses and I used to go shooting, target shooting with my Ruger 22 and my Glock 19 but I just have not been back to the range. I haven’t had any interest in going or doing and I think that’s called the “blahs,” I really appreciate any help you can give me like pointers about what’s coming down the line. The surgery also included a bonus as they made a whole new eardrum for me because mine was damaged by the cysts and they did something with the facial nerve I guess because it has made me a bit unsteady on my feet. I think that’s where the metallic taste and loss of taste sensation has come from, I don’t have any facial drooping but I also just doesn’t feel right cause like something is out of whack. I hope you have some ideas and I do appreciate your videos very very much. You have a teachers heart and a speaking tone which really speaks to me - it’s someone I could listen to often because I feel like you know - you’ve been there so I do appreciate it very much, thank you so much, Sonja Wells in Brentwood, TN.
Thank you for sharing that with us and Liam, I don't mean to butt in and excuse me for doing so but no reply was given to you directly so I hope a complete stranger can make something of it.. Heck idk.. But to me it sounds like medical advice that can only be answered by a medical professional given that he is a content creator it might be risky for him to leave medical advice idk I'd google these problems but not to a point that it'll send you down a Google medical rabbit hole. (We've all been there) but also id like to think that there's a lot in his video that can be helpful like remaining hopeful, and not looking at the full end goal but rather taking small steps in life can be more profound for example getting in the water just your feet for a half an hr then maybe go in a bit further next week, perhaps getting a feel for your gun again and how it holds different this time..writing down why these things we're and are still important to you... Small steps and putting meaning to these steps is up most important I would think for your recovery!! That's just what I was thinking ❤ God bless
Oh I know see why you left this comment (clears throat) he has a lot of other ear related vids...makes sense .. Carry on then.. Ahehm..
Hey there, thanks for your message. In my personal experience it took quite a while to heal from my surgeries. I do remember experiencing weird tastes and weird feelings in and around my face and neck. While I am not certain, I'm confident that I recovered much more quickly as a child then I would today. I think it is possible that things can take longer to heal as we get older (I'm not saying you are old, just sharing my general thoughts about healing and age). If it took me 6 weeks to feel back to normal as a child, I don't think it is out of the realm of possibility for it to take longer for an adult to feel fully back to normal. I did play a lot of sports as a kid and I usually had to wait quite a while after a surgery before returning. I'd recommend doing the lighter exercise and activity that you can do right now, and then build up to doing the more extreme things soon. As a kid I always started walking and biking before I began running and playing soccer again - and then full impact soccer came after that. So it is a waiting game. How are you feeling now, 2 weeks later? Thank you for your message. :)
@@mandybuehler9471 Haha thanks for your comments Mandy! I'm transitioning my channel to photography stuff, but yes, I've made several videos about hearing related stuff. I always try to give advice from my personal experience, and always recommend that people go to an ENT/ Audiologist to get information for their specific situation.
@@liamminerYT hello Liam, well, thank you for your reply and your experience. You’re right … some weird tastes and feelings go on that were never mentioned. Three months post op and still no taste no matter what I eat ! That lead to very bland holiday dinners ! I still have weird sensations in my face on the surgical side like numbness or tingling as well as earache pain occasionally. I had thought the surgery was not a big deal - it’s just an ear with a cyst but after doing some research post op I found that it is considered major surgery with lots of things that can happen so mine are not all that unusual. I’m really looking forward to getting the stitches out behind my ear as they itch and getting those taste buds to reawaken will be a treat.
Thanks again for your video. You may not realize what a relief it is to hear that I’m not the only one though I may be the eldest at 77 years past. Healing at this age does take a wee bit longer and researching the problem has meant a lot more time on medical sites trying to learn the lingo as well as understanding it !
Thanks again. Sonja
fellow small page here - also reflecting on a lot of things that you are, as we navigate this thing called life :) rooting for you!
FYI - if you're reading this as someone who might be a young adult and feeling lost, i share recipes and reflections from the things i've learned. would love to see you around.
Thanks for the comment! Checking out your channel too!
Fantastic Video
Thank you!
Everything has just felt pointless to me lately
0:43 *"Nothing has any meaning except the meaning that we assign to it."* amazingly well said man, thanks for reminding me. 🫂
This is like everyday for some of us, unfortunately, lmao.
Your bed is amazing btw
A bit surprised that you didn't mention Viktor Frankl when talking about attaching meaning to life.
Good video nonetheless - but did you come to this realisation on your own or did Viktor Frankl's book help?
I have read Frankl’s book and it was once on my shelf - I’m sure it has influenced me!
Thank you
You're welcome!
thanks man
You are welcome!
book of Ecclesiastes explains it well
Family? Friends?
We're nothing but debt/tax slaves in this terrible world.
I don’t subscribe to that belief. But thank you for your comment.
@@liamminerYT fact is not belief
Its what we are. We are forced to work just to eat
@@lorenzog7811 I’m sorry, I disagree fundamentally. If you are happy with that way of thinking, then by all means, continue thinking that way.
@@lorenzog7811 I agree
There is a point but believe me, you won't like it so I won't tell you.
A lot of this is because of short form content. I just made a video on how you can avoid it and become better.
ill meet ya at the dog park at edmonds beach anyday
🙌
teacher are you ok
life seems pointless
because it is pointless
I mean ill try it again... Work is my biggest issue for feeling meaningless/worthless. Nothing is consistent... Nothing is right... Maybe I should have never jumped on this family business band wagon as a teen. I felt like it was abandoning family if I didn't. It has beat me down year by year for 16 years.
That sounds challenging, for sure. Are you able to remove yourself from the family business now?
what if im homeless and don't even have a fucking bed or anything to make at damn 40???? 🤷🏻♂️😕
so whats your point?
wow
Rituals
Even this video seems meaningless to me
LOL.
Lol
🙂👍
I fundamentally disagree with everything you said.
I don't believe meaning can come from inside yourself. I believe it can only come from others. I am a Presbyterian Christian. Through the transitive property, of God is love and God is meaning and purpose and love is self sacrifice, then all meaning comes from self sacrifice. You can derive meaning from sacrificing parts of yourself (such as your resources like money, time and energy) for a cause that benefits others. Children are a good example of something that gives meaning to a parents life, as it's a commitment to sacrifice for this new person to grow and flourish. Isolation is devoid of other people to sacrifice for and as a result, feels empty and hollow.
I am 25 years old, I am a raging porn addict, I take anti-depresents and get drunk every once and a while, I live with my parents, I hate my job, I have no clue what I want to do with my life and I am wasting my two college majors of general engineering with concentrations in electrical and computer, and my computer science major, I hardly talk to my friends anymore (about once a year one comes to visit), I am terrified of literally everything and making decisions, I am completely overwhelmed and unable to cope with basic life stuff, I have horrible repressed rage and suffering, I live mostly in extreme isolation, my job right now consists mostly of me staring at my computer screen for eight to nine hours with maybe about 30 to an hours worth of work a day, my co-workers hardly talk to me and most don't like me, my brothers and sisters are scattered about the country and to busy for me to visit, my mother acts condescending and like baby I have to take care of, my dad is completely absent from my life and it's become so awkward with him, he will literally ask my mom what I would prefer while we are in the same room together, my parents fight often and I usually have to be the one to comfort and re-assure my mom that she isn't crazy (my dad has narcissistic personality disorder), I have a tooth that's rotting and I can't get the nerve to go to the dentist to get it fixed (I will eventually, it's a wisdom tooth that's too far back to brush properly and in a weird spot (born with a cleft lip so, lots wrong there)), all the wonder and joy in life is gone, I can't find anything worth while to play or watch anymore, my mother practically forces me to watch movies I hate with her and my dad because she is worried about me (I don't think for my sake she is worried, but rather it's more her own trauma of her brother killing himself), church is awkward and hard to attend, even there I feel isolated and alone, I have zero prospects for a girl friend or romantic partner, every girl I have ever asked out has turned me down or outright rejected me, I am starting to gain weight, i have attempted suicide in the past (the knife was to dull to break the skin), in college I had a dorm room to myself propped up on the wooden bed frames and tied my belt to the top of it, put my head in and slowly strangled myself for a bit, I only relented because I was flirting with the idea, but I had thought through the logistics of the situation and the timing of everything, I worked out when they would logistically find my body...
Life for me is unending misery and I can't understand why people are so shocked and upset by suicide, I literally can't relate but I know it's horribly taboo to even talk or mention. I feel like a character in the book, I have no mouth and I must scream, constantly becoming more warped and distorted as I wander aimlessly through a never ending barrage of torment and ironic suffering. All I want is to die, every second of every minute of every hour of every day of every week of every month of every year, my only desire in life is to die.
I know at some point I will probably kill myself, the two things holding me back are, caring for my mother (probably the only thing that gives my life any resemblance of meaning, even though it's a lopsided relationship) and my friend's upcoming wedding (I am a groomsmen), which is sure to drive the knife even deeper into my feelings of isolation and my inability to find a girlfriend.
I can't even get a pet because my nieces and nephews are allergic and fish and birds remind me of my own isolated prison.
Weirdly enough, I can't eat crabs or lopsters, I find them more relatable then most other animals and passing by a labstor or crab tank always depressed me horribly.
Being in prison would actually probably be more comfortable for me. It's not a whole lot different than how I currently live right now and the structure and order to daily routine and being around people suffering the same way would actually be more helpful and cathartic. Never having to worry about the future or doing something important with my life, sweet release from the pressure. Better than what is currently solitary confinement with horrifying levels of stress. Prisoners while scary, probably wouldnt scare me as much as my own indecision. If all a prisoner can do is harm me physically and I actively want to die they would just be someone to aid in that desire. I considered the army, but I think I would literally snap and go mental if I had to go through basic training, all my trauma would surface (plus poor health and respiratory system). The difference being, one comes with the chance of death, the other just perpetuating the suffering but to a greater degree.
All this to say, my life is shit, I don't want sympathy or pity and if you give me that, fuck you and if you comment some similar bull shit, then your only driving another knife deeper because it's obvious you don't get me as a person. Likewise with comments about being able to relate or some similar level of bullshit. I don't doubt everyone has their problems but I have never encountered anyone with my bigger personal problems as they are too specific to my worldview and religious outlook.
I am kinda wasted right now, please excuse the rambling.
I won't give sympathy or pity as you asked me not to, and I can't say I can relate to anything you shared. I appreciate your comment and genuinely hope things improve for you.
Need 😩help
What’s up? How are things now?
@@liamminerYT same as usual
@@Kingchilli-p8c3f Can you be more specific?
@@liamminerYT no
@@Kingchilli-p8c3f Bruh
Lovely video, but your concept of "meaning" is just something people have to cling to in order to avoid the horrific and terrifying truth that NOTHING matters and there isnt any meaning. It's like a runner in a race deciding where the finishing line is, just so they can be the winner. I've seen many many deaths and many many suicides and believe me, there's no difference. For almost everyone, death is scary, painful and alone. So few of us will be granted a good, peaceful death, so few that it is lottery odds. So, why delude ourselves with synthetic "meaning", instead, just embrace the awful journey and long for it to end. I'd rather do this, than feel the cold mockery of death as it comes and shows me all of my life's "meaning" was pointless.
As I said in the video, I believe that we can choose the beliefs that we hold on to. I’m not saying it is easy, but I personally believe we have a choice. You’re obviously free to believe what you wish. If it doesn’t serve you or make you happy though, there may come a time when you want to change that belief.
Thanks my friend!
You talk lasutaka
I’m sorry I don’t know what that means.
Your talk is so boring that you are making my life more meaningless. Your talk didn't help. Sorry.
Thank you for your comment!
how are you now?
This how I’m literally feeling nowadays it’s eating me slowly every day I wake up just miserable such a horrible feeling 😢
It can be a tough thing to get through. I wish you well!
Yep
It’s weird, I don’t like to say I feel meaningless even though that’s the closest word for it, it feels like im living for other people but im not recieving that life back and not living for myself, mostly because I don’t know how so I guess that’s meaningless
My life used to feel like a movie I was in control of and had fun with and now it feels like what’s the point, good times don’t last and everything goes by too fast why can’t I enjoy my life instead of taking it for granted and watching it flash by my eyes