That can be about good things, too. Having enough food, living indoors, having relationships with loved ones. All of that can collapse, and some people are in situations that they see it coming and can't stop it.
I'm old enough to be your mom and I have learned a few things. One of my favorite quotes and an idea I try to live by is "Comparison is the thief of joy".
One life lesson I can share. I worked at a large hospital in Washington state. When I realized a job I had worked at for 14 years was getting me nowhere, I studied for and achieved a certification as a Project Management Professional. I found a job in Arizona and moved in 2004. By 2010 I had doubled my salary. I never thought that would be possible.
One big one for me is to not "wait till things are perfect" to start implementing a goal. Nothing will ever be perfect and, honestly, you may lose your chance to accomplish the goal. Time goes by way too fast. Jump into life and pursue that dream.
This is a really great one. I had heard that about having children too. Not sure that really applies 🙃but waiting as a women past 35 puts you at a higher risk of not only your own health but the ability to maintain a pregnancy and to have a child without genetic defects. Harsh, but true. I had one at 35 and at 41, but definitely advise doing it before then as my doctor kept reminding me each year as I inched towards that magic number 35.😂 No regrets but I had a very tough time physically but have two sons I love very much.
One sage advice to women especially is to be certain you establish the ability to support yourself on your own prior to getting married. Not to think negatively about how 50% of marriages end in divorce, but just because you NEVER KNOW what might happen. I know most women work but I mean find work or get educated enough that you could definitely support yourself just in case. I ended up a single mother and never dreamed it could happen or I wouldn’t have had children but there I was suddenly single with a 3yr old and 8 yr old. I was so grateful I had my degree so I at least had an income above minimum wage.
This one is so very important. I’ve seen many young women lately, poo poo this and proclaim they want to be a real woman(stay at home with no education past high school) and marry a REAL man(head of household breadwinner). This leaves them vulnerable if said spouse dies or is violent or a cheater. I learned this the hard way. I believe men and women should be capable of looking after themselves and their children, if ever on their own.
I agree! This is so true. My spiral staircase has started to level out a bit now that I’m in my mid-50s and have gained some wisdom. Thank goodness! I was getting dizzy! 🥴 ❤
Worked as a nurse for 12 years now. For the first time in my life something clicked on my head, I don't want it anymore. I'm fed up with management, gossiping and strict rules that only apply to certain staff. The high cost of living makes me scared to jump to another job outside of healthcare industry. I've listened far too long to people who guilt trip me into thinking I should stick to my degree and long experience. I'm not happy anymore, It's time to go.
I worked as an RN fro 30 years and really hated the last few years. When they tried to force me to get the Jab, i quit. I was forced to sell my house, because I couldn't afford to stay in a high cost state. Instead, I packed my van, my animals and drove to the East Coast with no job or housing. 4 months later, i bought a house for cash, and now am living my best life. I let my RN license expire and now only have to work part time for a big box store. I am only making a small portion of what I used to get as an RN, but I am much happier.
@@piscessun3087 Knowledge soon gets out of date in healthcare. I think if this lady has done 30yrs as an RN, then there has been no waste of her knowledge. Where that knowledge would be compromised is if she stayed in a job she hated where she was no longer happy.
The most recent life lesson I have learned is "not everything is about you". There's a fine balance between assessing how a situation affects you and taking action. As I've gotten older, I realized I don't have to get involved in every conversation or even have an opinion. I can pick and choose my battles, and sometimes it's best to just let it go.
My life lesson is to surround yourself with positive people and experiences. Negative people will drag you down and you CAN'T fix them, they have to fix themselves. Learn from a negative experience and move on so you don't get stuck in that one moment. Life is short and you only get one shot at it. Have a WONDERFUL day. 😊
My dad told me, when I was a young smartass, "Use your wit to amuse, not abuse." Yes, say the funny stuff, but don't make jokes at the expense of others.
From Grandma: "If you have TP in the bathroom and ice cream in the freezer, you're OK." If you have your essentials (TP) covered and can add a little luxury (ice cream), you're OK. Maybe not living high on the hog, but OK. Appreciate it.
Well, I have TCP in the bathroom and I did have ice cream in the freezer until a few minutes ago but I've just eaten the last of it. Never mind, more will be coming tomorrow!!😂
My cancer journey opened me up and woke me up to the Brevity of it all. Gratitude , resilience, and knowing what makes me happy are the beacons that light my way at the moment. My family is my Meaning! Love you, Jen.
Nothing last forever, always been a hard one for me but I’m realizing it’s the reality. I love how you remind us to savor the moments. Gratitude is HUGE and has gotten me through many tough situations. My bit of advice from this 54 year old is to keep our childlike curiousity❤
Hi Jen, I just wanted to say a quick but heartfelt thank you for starting up your UA-cam channel. I am enjoying learning a lot from you and you have inspired me to start my own channel sharing my knowledge in living with chronic illness. It's totally outside my comfort zone but as you say, sometimes big rewards come from taking risks, I hope that will be the case for me! Wishing you all the very best 😊
Amen sister! My sister likes to say "I'm sorry you feel that way" which makes me feel completely brushed off and absolves her of all responsibility, leaving me feeling hurt all over again. Own it, say you're sorry, change the behavior. All your tips are excellent. I'd love to have you for a neighbor-friend-coworker! 😉
Dad told me, "Don't write/publish anything you're not willing to sign your name to." At the time (early 1980s), he was referring to sending anonymous letters to the editor of the local newspaper. Today, this applies very strongly to the internet! If you're ashamed to put your name on it, don't write it/say it. Easy rule.
A friend of mine had her home broken into, she remembered her mother saying" think of three things that would make the situation worse"... this really makes a difference, suddenly you realize that you can cope with the situation....
The older I get the more some sayings hit home. Two that are important to me are "we are all just walking each other home" and "creator grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference".
What I thought was my greatest failure, actually turned out to be my greatest opportunity. It lead me to early retirement, put me in a position to be fully present for my family, and presented the opportunity to explore my passion and truly help people.
lol. I love my new fridge (now 5 years old). The previous one that came with my home was brand new, but it was horrible. I spent so much money on repairs it wasn't funny. some say the newer fridges aren't as good, but that has not been my experience.
@@2000konnie We ordered an LG. French doors on top and 2 bottom drawers. One drawer has temp adjust to be a crisper drawer or freezer and the bottom drawer is a freezer drawer. Hope it lasts as long as my last frig.
Thank you so much for all your words of wisdom! I have been admiring your journey over the past few months and finally I decided to create my own channel! Just posted my first video! I never thought I would do this - I wouldn't have if it hadn't been for you leading the way. I am 67, enjoying retirement and traveling solo, but I never thought about sharing my adventures as a figure skating fan until after I'd watched your videos. I may not ever get monitized but I just love the idea that I can put my love for skating out there. Thank you for being a beacon to light the way!
Nana, u shld out ur post here. I love to watch figure skating and have never thought to travel to watch it. Very cool and good for u putting yourself out there!!!
@@ceceliaperkinson5222 Oops, my daughter was logged into my tablet - trying this again! If you click on my name, it will take you to my channel, don't want to flog my links on Jen's video! Right now there's just the trailer but my first full video goes live Wednesday . I am nervous!
It’s taken me about 65 years to be ready to accept change in my life! Better late than never I guess! Now I am trying to anticipate the change happening and going with the flow of life more. Great video!
Lovely video, I really enjoy your content. I am 58 and a single mom-two boys-now 23 and 17. I spend too much time frozen in fear just managing my own affairs; it is like I need two of me to have any hope of getting it all done. I am behind on getting several critical steps done because I avoid the most difficult decisions or projects because I am frozen in overwhelm. Like purchasing a vehicle. I am seriously considering leasing like you do because they cost so much now. I am driving a vehicle on its very last legs. I just want you to know I appreciate your content and confidence. You appear extremely self disciplined. I am about a lot of things but clearly lacking in other areas. You encouraged me to try once again to take care of my own lawn. It took me months to decide and I had to replace my old mower; but I did it. Now I need to get my sons on board!
Yes, you have 2 sons to mow the lawn. I had a friend that grew up with 2 younger brothers and a step dad. His poor mom still mowed the lawn after her full time office job and also had to take the trash dumpsters to the road. With 4 boys/men in the house, the poor lady did their jobs, too!
You’re an inspiration! I’m in my 30s, just started my UA-cam channel, a father of 3 young kids under 8 and married for over a decade. With that said, i absolutely love your content, aspire to be like you one day, and most importantly continue to find purpose as we get older. Congratulations on everything you have! 🎉
Hi Jen. Once again your video is very timely. This week I finally took the plunge to tell my director i couldn't continue on the same trajectory. Too long-winded to explain here but it effectively meant I would have to leave my job. Instead he offered a wonderful compromise which allows me to work part time and move towards my new project which YOU have motivated me so much to do. So this echoes so veral of your points - following your passions and gut feelings, don't be afraid of change and practice mindfulness to avoid stressing about the future. Next step is to sign up for your patreon. 😊
Dont listen to anyone who says you become invisible - take every opportunity to be positive Know this day could be your last or someone you love last day Choose wisely your partner and who you have children with Relationships being your biggest joy and worst heartbreak Never stop learning - we are eternal students We belong to God and will return to him
Hello, I so agree with the last part. I was trying to find a job in my 20s and I ended up working for Olive Garden as a waitress. I absolutely hate it, it Every shift seemed forever. I also realized I am not a late night person. I much preferred working in the morning. I then applied for Dunkin because I said to myself, I love mornings and coffee and I ended up loving working there. I now love doing UA-cam fragrance videos. I think is good to try to find something you like at least a little and move from there. I recently found your content and I love it! Thank you for your wisdom! XO
My job was trying to ignore my sister telling me I was too stupid to ever get a job. LOL! First job was at a school library, second job was at a regional library, third job was at the state library where I was first introduced to computers and word processing. Fourth job was at a law firm, I didn't even look for that job it just landed in my lap because of my word processing experience (very much in demand when computers first came out), and I didn't think I'd do well in that job, but I worked there for a little short of 15 years where I received bonuses, pay raises, and advancements from word processing to in-house trainer. Oh, by the way, my sister didn't qualify for social security because she lacked enough credits, so her stupid sister did all right. Never let anyone tell you what you can or cannot do!
I have 'This too will pass' tattooed on my right forearm in Farsi because it's said to be a phrase that originated from the Sufi poets of ancient Persia. And its so true... live in the moment!!
To your list I would add to give yourself grace and be patient with yourself. In our middle ages unfortunately we see much more death around us of loved ones close and extended family, I have first hand experience of this., thanks to the pandemic. Yes, change is inevitable and sometimes we need to give ourselves grace and time to adapt more slowly on our journey of letting go of those we love.
i am learning that even though you may think you already know something about life, theres always more to it and with age, comes a deeper and more complex understanding of things and I enjoy those naturally coming up realisations that my brain calculates :)
I'm in my late fourties and I'm glad for all life lessons/failures. Only through those I could grow and was shaped to who I am. The good part of getting older is that I got wiser (or at least I hope so😉). We live and learn until the very end. Thank you so much for sharing your view 🙏.
My husband and I have a life rule that we developed after many years together: If the situation doesn't involve death or dismemberment, then it's an inconvenience, not a problem. This is especially useful when traveling. The short version is DFO: Don't Freak Out! Love your channel, btw. 🙂
I am more than happy. I am content. This happy word is short term. Contentness is beyond happy. It is peaceful. It is long term. Stalwart. Great video! Love the discussion about ‘words’.
Jen, I’ve learned that failure is an opportunity to try again only with more experience. I learned that from a burning desire to be self employed and not giving up only shifting things around. Results: Rental properties and family HVAC business. Thank you for this video - one of my favorites!!! 😊😊😊
I stayed in a dead end job for 20 years. There were some nice perks to working for the organization but the reality was I feared change. But a toxic new boss forced me to leave. There were challenges but I grew so much and the journey brought me to a wonderful situation I am in now.
You cannot change the past! No matter how many times you think about a negative event in your life, you cannot change the fact that it happened. Best to learn how to let these bad memories pass through your mind like water through a sieve.
My mother had a little sign in her kitchen that said…”Bloom where you are planted.” From my mother’s example, I like to think I’ve learned to make the best of any situation I’m in…put on a cheery face (that always help) and not whine or wallow. I guess it’s the same as your…”This too will pass.”
Great video, thanks for sharing life lessons, Jen! I'm 57, have always tried new things, and I can tell you that at the beginning of new projects, you often start at 0 and work from there. And you can try things, see how it goes, and then decide whether it's for you or not. And you can quit things that don't make sense anymore to make room in your life for things that do.
Thank you so much! For the first one, just be careful if you are the one who always is the one that feels needs to apologize. You might be dealing with an energy vampire or narcissist if yes and they will even blame you for the Thunderstorm outside. I stopped apologizing for things that are out of my control.
Yes I like that thought that nothing lasts forever. This trial had to be beginning and it will have an end and if you lose a loved one, don’t let somebody tell you I know how you feel because they don’t and the other thing I’ve learned that you’re just as good as everybody else if not better you are your own worst enemy sometimes, so don’t compare yourself with anybody else take care of yourself love from South Dakota❤
Appreciate these lessons --- life lesson: Walk, keep moving, and doing so with nature as self-care compnaion - it's TREEmendous! Continue to enjoy your walks!
Hey, I wanted to say thank you. I discovered your channel last month and you inspired me to finally go for making my own channel after over 5 years of thinking about it. It’s so encouraging to see your success. Congratulations! You deserve all the best.
I've been loving your videos. You have a really positive attitude. I'm about a year older than you and I'm such a fan girl I'd want to be your friend. 😊 You seem like a great person to have a beer with or sit down to a coffee with.
Wonderful video chat, as usual, Jen. I learn so much every time I watch your channel. I really like the way you look at things, people and life, even yourself. 😊 Every one of you chats makes me think and look at situations from different angles. Your words have sort of baby-stepped me into a state of mind where I am a little more confident and less fearful of life and change. This has been more of a challenge for me as I've gotten into my older years. I've always been very hard on myself. But, I have learned to show myself the same compassion, empathy and grace I so easily extend to other people. This has helped me to step forward when overwhelmed and frozen in fear of the "what ifs". Again, great chat. Thank you, bless you and have a wonderful week! 😁🙋 --Paula in Ohio USA
Discovered you bychance today and this is your 2nd video i am watching. When you speak you sound like an emotions healer and a true advisor . I feel you like a part of my family member and well wisher. Thanks for the beautiful Video❤
Thanks so much for sharing your wisdom. I too have recently begun a new path at almost 60. Can’t wait for that big day in a few months. Silver-haired Solos unite 😎🐉
Your videos are always a great advice. Thank you. I would say take a chance and yes take a risk. You might fail several times before you succeed, but you keep going and the rewards will be there. Stay motivated and focus on your goals.
Hi Jen, thank you for this and all your other videos! I am just the other side of 60 and have been inspired by you in various ways, including starting a new UA-cam channel! A life lesson that I would add is the importance of investing in your relationships with family and friends. I look forward to seeing many more of your videos!!
Hey Jen another thought-provoking vid - thanks. Hmm, I've learned not to compare myself with anyone else, like Popey the cartoon said '"I am what I am"
Owing up to your mistakes is so important. I've been so hurt by people who acted badly towards me and felt no need to apologize. Lyn Slater in her recent book "How to Be Old" illustrated this beautifully by describing a mistake she made, her apology, and how that experience lead her to a important collaboration. I'm glad you pointed this out so beautifully. Thank you!
I have learned to "never say never". The idea that we'd never do that or go there or be like that or act that way etc. It might seem true at the time but things change.
i usually watch youtube vids at 1.5 speed but set yours on normal because everything you say is so valuable!! lesson #1 might be my hardest but im working on it, lol. thank you for your channel!!
“This, too, shall pass.” I’m 78 and cannot express strongly enough how this very statement/mindset has helped me throughout my life.
Great one.
It was a mindset my mom had as well.
I agree! I"m 76 and I wish I had known this years ago.
That can be about good things, too.
Having enough food, living indoors, having relationships with loved ones. All of that can collapse, and some people are in situations that they see it coming and can't stop it.
So true!
I'm old enough to be your mom and I have learned a few things. One of my favorite quotes and an idea I try to live by is "Comparison is the thief of joy".
I like that!
It's a big quote for women falling into the comparison trap sharing our lives on social media
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One life lesson I can share. I worked at a large hospital in Washington state. When I realized a job I had worked at for 14 years was getting me nowhere, I studied for and achieved a certification as a Project Management Professional. I found a job in Arizona and moved in 2004. By 2010 I had doubled my salary. I never thought that would be possible.
Good for you! ( I think I worked at that same hospital in Wash. ha ha)
@@pjequinelady Born in Phoenix, raised in the White Mountains of Eastern AZ.
You are bigger than depression. If depression is a gray cloud, you are the sky.
Always choose kindness. Everybody has battles you know nothing about.
Wow, I love that quote about depression! ❤
I heard this from a radio therapist: when you feel offended, breathe. Then be curious, not furious. It's very useful, especially on line.
One big one for me is to not "wait till things are perfect" to start implementing a goal. Nothing will ever be perfect and, honestly, you may lose your chance to accomplish the goal. Time goes by way too fast. Jump into life and pursue that dream.
This is a really great one. I had heard that about having children too. Not sure that really applies 🙃but waiting as a women past 35 puts you at a higher risk of not only your own health but the ability to maintain a pregnancy and to have a child without genetic defects. Harsh, but true. I had one at 35 and at 41, but definitely advise doing it before then as my doctor kept reminding me each year as I inched towards that magic number 35.😂 No regrets but I had a very tough time physically but have two sons I love very much.
One sage advice to women especially is to be certain you establish the ability to support yourself on your own prior to getting married. Not to think negatively about how 50% of marriages end in divorce, but just because you NEVER KNOW what might happen. I know most women work but I mean find work or get educated enough that you could definitely support yourself just in case. I ended up a single mother and never dreamed it could happen or I wouldn’t have had children but there I was suddenly single with a 3yr old and 8 yr old. I was so grateful I had my degree so I at least had an income above minimum wage.
This one is so very important. I’ve seen many young women lately, poo poo this and proclaim they want to be a real woman(stay at home with no education past high school) and marry a REAL man(head of household breadwinner). This leaves them vulnerable if said spouse dies or is violent or a cheater. I learned this the hard way. I believe men and women should be capable of looking after themselves and their children, if ever on their own.
The path of life is not linear. It's more like a spiral staircase where the same lessons will keep showing up until you level up.
I agree! This is so true. My spiral staircase has started to level out a bit now that I’m in my mid-50s and have gained some wisdom. Thank goodness! I was getting dizzy! 🥴 ❤
@@beautifullifesageg.3951 So true!
Worked as a nurse for 12 years now. For the first time in my life something clicked on my head, I don't want it anymore. I'm fed up with management, gossiping and strict rules that only apply to certain staff. The high cost of living makes me scared to jump to another job outside of healthcare industry. I've listened far too long to people who guilt trip me into thinking I should stick to my degree and long experience. I'm not happy anymore, It's time to go.
I worked as an RN fro 30 years and really hated the last few years. When they tried to force me to get the Jab, i quit. I was forced to sell my house, because I couldn't afford to stay in a high cost state. Instead, I packed my van, my animals and drove to the East Coast with no job or housing. 4 months later, i bought a house for cash, and now am living my best life. I let my RN license expire and now only have to work part time for a big box store. I am only making a small portion of what I used to get as an RN, but I am much happier.
Itt's true money doesn't always bring happiness. Good for you! Wish you the best!
Baby steps! Good Luck!
What a waste of your knowledge
@@piscessun3087 Knowledge soon gets out of date in healthcare.
I think if this lady has done 30yrs as an RN, then there has been no waste of her knowledge. Where that knowledge would be compromised is if she stayed in a job she hated where she was no longer happy.
The most recent life lesson I have learned is "not everything is about you". There's a fine balance between assessing how a situation affects you and taking action. As I've gotten older, I realized I don't have to get involved in every conversation or even have an opinion. I can pick and choose my battles, and sometimes it's best to just let it go.
Oh, I'm WITH you on this one!
Agreed. I don't have to "fight" every battle I'm "invited" to.
My life lesson is to surround yourself with positive people and experiences. Negative people will drag you down and you CAN'T fix them, they have to fix themselves. Learn from a negative experience and move on so you don't get stuck in that one moment. Life is short and you only get one shot at it. Have a WONDERFUL day. 😊
Wise words Katie
That's a Big one ❤ agree 100%
Mother's Wisdom....if it 's not true, don't say it, if it's not right, don't do it. 😊
My dad told me, when I was a young smartass, "Use your wit to amuse, not abuse." Yes, say the funny stuff, but don't make jokes at the expense of others.
Love this! I had a very sarcastic but funny friend growing up and this is golden… think I’ll still use it on her one day when appropriate!!
Those words are golden! More people need a Dad like yours ❤
A very wise and considerate Dad!
From Grandma: "If you have TP in the bathroom and ice cream in the freezer, you're OK."
If you have your essentials (TP) covered and can add a little luxury (ice cream), you're OK. Maybe not living high on the hog, but OK. Appreciate it.
Love this.❤
Well, I have TCP in the bathroom and I did have ice cream in the freezer until a few minutes ago but I've just eaten the last of it. Never mind, more will be coming tomorrow!!😂
My Mom’s motto, “Hope for the best, but plan for the worst”. Spoken like a true Great Depression and polio survivor!❤
Lesson...go with your gut feeling if a situation leaves you feeling uncertaim.
That’s the good thing about getting older….we gain wisdom along the way.
Listening to your videos is as nice as spending time with a friend. Thank you. Have a Nice day
I agree with you. Thankyou Jen.
Agreed.
My cancer journey opened me up and woke me up to the Brevity of it all. Gratitude , resilience, and knowing what makes me happy are the beacons that light my way at the moment. My family is my Meaning! Love you, Jen.
Nothing last forever, always been a hard one for me but I’m realizing it’s the reality. I love how you remind us to savor the moments. Gratitude is HUGE and has gotten me through many tough situations.
My bit of advice from this 54 year old is to keep our childlike curiousity❤
You are just awesome! My lesson? Listen to your inner voice.
Deal!
Hi Jen, I just wanted to say a quick but heartfelt thank you for starting up your UA-cam channel. I am enjoying learning a lot from you and you have inspired me to start my own channel sharing my knowledge in living with chronic illness. It's totally outside my comfort zone but as you say, sometimes big rewards come from taking risks, I hope that will be the case for me! Wishing you all the very best 😊
Amen sister! My sister likes to say "I'm sorry you feel that way" which makes me feel completely brushed off and absolves her of all responsibility, leaving me feeling hurt all over again. Own it, say you're sorry, change the behavior. All your tips are excellent. I'd love to have you for a neighbor-friend-coworker! 😉
Life lesson...support yourself. Establish a career that wil enable you to take care if yourself in the event you have to.
Dad told me, "Don't write/publish anything you're not willing to sign your name to." At the time (early 1980s), he was referring to sending anonymous letters to the editor of the local newspaper. Today, this applies very strongly to the internet! If you're ashamed to put your name on it, don't write it/say it. Easy rule.
Your dad named you Jugglernaut? Rough
LOL!
My dad gave same advice
A friend of mine had her home broken into, she remembered her mother saying" think of three things that would make the situation worse"... this really makes a difference, suddenly you realize that you can cope with the situation....
But sometimes if things are really bad it doesn't really help "rock bottom" feeling etc.
The older I get the more some sayings hit home. Two that are important to me are "we are all just walking each other home" and "creator grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference".
Do not assume things will work out as you think they will. Sometimes, life will take a different fork.
What I thought was my greatest failure, actually turned out to be my greatest opportunity. It lead me to early retirement, put me in a position to be fully present for my family, and presented the opportunity to explore my passion and truly help people.
Nothing lasts forever hit me hard yesterday. My refrigerator died! Going shopping for a new frig this morning.
lol. I love my new fridge (now 5 years old). The previous one that came with my home was brand new, but it was horrible. I spent so much money on repairs it wasn't funny. some say the newer fridges aren't as good, but that has not been my experience.
@@2000konnie We ordered an LG. French doors on top and 2 bottom drawers. One drawer has temp adjust to be a crisper drawer or freezer and the bottom drawer is a freezer drawer. Hope it lasts as long as my last frig.
For me it was the washing machine
@@jeanettesmythe1848 I have a new dryer and it acts up too.
Thank you so much for all your words of wisdom! I have been admiring your journey over the past few months and finally I decided to create my own channel! Just posted my first video! I never thought I would do this - I wouldn't have if it hadn't been for you leading the way. I am 67, enjoying retirement and traveling solo, but I never thought about sharing my adventures as a figure skating fan until after I'd watched your videos. I may not ever get monitized but I just love the idea that I can put my love for skating out there. Thank you for being a beacon to light the way!
Nana, u shld out ur post here. I love to watch figure skating and have never thought to travel to watch it. Very cool and good for u putting yourself out there!!!
@@ceceliaperkinson5222 Oops, my daughter was logged into my tablet - trying this again! If you click on my name, it will take you to my channel, don't want to flog my links on Jen's video! Right now there's just the trailer but my first full video goes live Wednesday . I am nervous!
Subscribed your channel to listen from you.❤
It’s taken me about 65 years to be ready to accept change in my life!
Better late than never I guess! Now I am trying to anticipate the change happening and going with the flow of life more. Great video!
Lovely video, I really enjoy your content. I am 58 and a single mom-two boys-now 23 and 17. I spend too much time frozen in fear just managing my own affairs; it is like I need two of me to have any hope of getting it all done. I am behind on getting several critical steps done because I avoid the most difficult decisions or projects because I am frozen in overwhelm. Like purchasing a vehicle. I am seriously considering leasing like you do because they cost so much now. I am driving a vehicle on its very last legs. I just want you to know I appreciate your content and confidence. You appear extremely self disciplined. I am about a lot of things but clearly lacking in other areas. You encouraged me to try once again to take care of my own lawn. It took me months to decide and I had to replace my old mower; but I did it. Now I need to get my sons on board!
Yes, you have 2 sons to mow the lawn. I had a friend that grew up with 2 younger brothers and a step dad. His poor mom still mowed the lawn after her full time office job and also had to take the trash dumpsters to the road. With 4 boys/men in the house, the poor lady did their jobs, too!
You’re an inspiration! I’m in my 30s, just started my UA-cam channel, a father of 3 young kids under 8 and married for over a decade. With that said, i absolutely love your content, aspire to be like you one day, and most importantly continue to find purpose as we get older. Congratulations on everything you have! 🎉
Great video! Plus this comments section is gold. Like the book of Proverbs with so much wisdom. I'm 45, love from Australia 🇦🇺
Hi Jen. Once again your video is very timely. This week I finally took the plunge to tell my director i couldn't continue on the same trajectory. Too long-winded to explain here but it effectively meant I would have to leave my job. Instead he offered a wonderful compromise which allows me to work part time and move towards my new project which YOU have motivated me so much to do. So this echoes so veral of your points - following your passions and gut feelings, don't be afraid of change and practice mindfulness to avoid stressing about the future. Next step is to sign up for your patreon. 😊
I thought I was good with change and knowing nothing is permanent until losing my hubby, but I think I am really there now.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us. As a millennial, I gain a lot of life lessons here. Praying for all of us and keep on being happy in life 😊
Dont listen to anyone who says you become invisible - take every opportunity to be positive
Know this day could be your last or someone you love last day
Choose wisely your partner and who you have children with
Relationships being your biggest joy and worst heartbreak
Never stop learning - we are eternal students
We belong to God and will return to him
Hello, I so agree with the last part. I was trying to find a job in my 20s and I ended up working for Olive Garden as a waitress. I absolutely hate it, it Every shift seemed forever. I also realized I am not a late night person. I much preferred working in the morning. I then applied for Dunkin because I said to myself, I love mornings and coffee and I ended up loving working there. I now love doing UA-cam fragrance videos. I think is good to try to find something you like at least a little and move from there. I recently found your content and I love it! Thank you for your wisdom! XO
My job was trying to ignore my sister telling me I was too stupid to ever get a job. LOL! First job was at a school library, second job was at a regional library, third job was at the state library where I was first introduced to computers and word processing. Fourth job was at a law firm, I didn't even look for that job it just landed in my lap because of my word processing experience (very much in demand when computers first came out), and I didn't think I'd do well in that job, but I worked there for a little short of 15 years where I received bonuses, pay raises, and advancements from word processing to in-house trainer. Oh, by the way, my sister didn't qualify for social security because she lacked enough credits, so her stupid sister did all right. Never let anyone tell you what you can or cannot do!
I have 'This too will pass' tattooed on my right forearm in Farsi because it's said to be a phrase that originated from the Sufi poets of ancient Persia. And its so true... live in the moment!!
To your list I would add to give yourself grace and be patient with yourself. In our middle ages unfortunately we see much more death around us of loved ones close and extended family, I have first hand experience of this., thanks to the pandemic. Yes, change is inevitable and sometimes we need to give ourselves grace and time to adapt more slowly on our journey of letting go of those we love.
I love seeing your views go up as I'm watching. Thank you for this advice I'll be 49 soon, and its definitely good advice.
i am learning that even though you may think you already know something about life, theres always more to it and with age, comes a deeper and more complex understanding of things and I enjoy those naturally coming up realisations that my brain calculates :)
Spot on today! You are not a mature person if you cannot admit you were wrong, or say I’m sorry, or I made a mistake!
I'm in my late fourties and I'm glad for all life lessons/failures. Only through those I could grow and was shaped to who I am. The good part of getting older is that I got wiser (or at least I hope so😉). We live and learn until the very end. Thank you so much for sharing your view 🙏.
I start my day with an affirmation, which is "I am grateful and delighted to be here!"
I like this one!!
"Follow your heart" and Listen to that still small voice" 😊 Thank you for this awesome video!👍
Glad you enjoyed it!
My husband and I have a life rule that we developed after many years together: If the situation doesn't involve death or dismemberment, then it's an inconvenience, not a problem. This is especially useful when traveling. The short version is DFO: Don't Freak Out!
Love your channel, btw. 🙂
I am more than happy. I am content. This happy word is short term.
Contentness is beyond happy. It is peaceful. It is long term.
Stalwart. Great video! Love the discussion about ‘words’.
Take care and own the responsibility of your present and future. Do not put your life into someone else's hands and expect them to take care of you.
Jen, I’ve learned that failure is an opportunity to try again only with more experience. I learned that from a burning desire to be self employed and not giving up only shifting things around. Results: Rental properties and family HVAC business. Thank you for this video - one of my favorites!!! 😊😊😊
I stayed in a dead end job for 20 years. There were some nice perks to working for the organization but the reality was I feared change. But a toxic new boss forced me to leave. There were challenges but I grew so much and the journey brought me to a wonderful situation I am in now.
You cannot change the past!
No matter how many times you think about a negative event in your life, you cannot change the fact that it happened.
Best to learn how to let these bad memories pass through your mind like water through a sieve.
My mother had a little sign in her kitchen that said…”Bloom where you are planted.” From my mother’s example, I like to think I’ve learned to make the best of any situation I’m in…put on a cheery face (that always help) and not whine or wallow. I guess it’s the same as your…”This too will pass.”
Make sure that what you do or say or buy, etc, is not for what others think!
Great video, thanks for sharing life lessons, Jen! I'm 57, have always tried new things, and I can tell you that at the beginning of new projects, you often start at 0 and work from there. And you can try things, see how it goes, and then decide whether it's for you or not. And you can quit things that don't make sense anymore to make room in your life for things that do.
Thank you so much! For the first one, just be careful if you are the one who always is the one that feels needs to apologize. You might be dealing with an energy vampire or narcissist if yes and they will even blame you for the Thunderstorm outside. I stopped apologizing for things that are out of my control.
Yes I like that thought that nothing lasts forever. This trial had to be beginning and it will have an end and if you lose a loved one, don’t let somebody tell you I know how you feel because they don’t and the other thing I’ve learned that you’re just as good as everybody else if not better you are your own worst enemy sometimes, so don’t compare yourself with anybody else take care of yourself love from South Dakota❤
You're are very wise, and you have a lovely smile and personality. I love your content 😊
Thank you so much!
My dad said "regroup, never retreat ".
I like that!
Appreciate these lessons --- life lesson: Walk, keep moving, and doing so with nature as self-care compnaion - it's TREEmendous! Continue to enjoy your walks!
Your videos are excellent! Thanks
Amazing advice! Thank you. My advice would be follow your heart and be kind.❤
Hey, I wanted to say thank you. I discovered your channel last month and you inspired me to finally go for making my own channel after over 5 years of thinking about it. It’s so encouraging to see your success. Congratulations! You deserve all the best.
I've been loving your videos. You have a really positive attitude. I'm about a year older than you and I'm such a fan girl I'd want to be your friend. 😊 You seem like a great person to have a beer with or sit down to a coffee with.
Thank you so much!!
Wonderful video chat, as usual, Jen. I learn so much every time I watch your channel. I really like the way you look at things, people and life, even yourself. 😊 Every one of you chats makes me think and look at situations from different angles. Your words have sort of baby-stepped me into a state of mind where I am a little more confident and less fearful of life and change. This has been more of a challenge for me as I've gotten into my older years. I've always been very hard on myself. But, I have learned to show myself the same compassion, empathy and grace I so easily extend to other people. This has helped me to step forward when overwhelmed and frozen in fear of the "what ifs". Again, great chat. Thank you, bless you and have a wonderful week! 😁🙋 --Paula in Ohio USA
Discovered you bychance today and this is your 2nd video i am watching. When you speak you sound like an emotions healer and a true advisor . I feel you like a part of my family member and well wisher. Thanks for the beautiful Video❤
Great video and wonderful comments from everyone x
Thanks so much for sharing your wisdom. I too have recently begun a new path at almost 60. Can’t wait for that big day in a few months. Silver-haired Solos unite 😎🐉
Wonderful!
Your videos are always a great advice. Thank you. I would say take a chance and yes take a risk. You might fail several times before you succeed, but you keep going and the rewards will be there. Stay motivated and focus on your goals.
You are the best Jen!! 😊
thank you for sharing all of this with us 🥹 sending you support!! thanks for sharing this video 🥰
Thank you so much!!
@@silverandsolo you're welcome! hoping we can grow on youtube together!
Another extraordinary video, thank you!
You posted this at just the right time 💕 thank you!!
Hi Jen, thank you for this and all your other videos! I am just the other side of 60 and have been inspired by you in various ways, including starting a new UA-cam channel! A life lesson that I would add is the importance of investing in your relationships with family and friends. I look forward to seeing many more of your videos!!
Hey Jen another thought-provoking vid - thanks. Hmm, I've learned not to compare myself with anyone else, like Popey the cartoon said '"I am what I am"
Truer words were never spoken. Great advice.
So true! I love that this is a short video also!
Glad you liked it!!
Thank you for this life wisdom my friend!
You are so welcome
Owing up to your mistakes is so important. I've been so hurt by people who acted badly towards me and felt no need to apologize. Lyn Slater in her recent book "How to Be Old" illustrated this beautifully by describing a mistake she made, her apology, and how that experience lead her to a important collaboration. I'm glad you pointed this out so beautifully. Thank you!
Thanks for this weeks therapy, Love your sign on so, “Hi I’m Shar”
Great wisdom 😊❤
Thank you!
Enjoying my time, looking forward to new projects now that I quit tracing after 19 years.
Thanks!
Thanks so much!
Ty!
Great advice jen🎉
Learn from the failures...lots of great advice!
Great video Jen! I’m still trying to learn how to be more mindful and present, but I am making efforts to embrace and accept life, thorns and all. ❤
Amazing advice! Thank you for your content!!!
My husband young children dad were happy days
I have learned to "never say never". The idea that we'd never do that or go there or be like that or act that way etc. It might seem true at the time but things change.
i usually watch youtube vids at 1.5 speed but set yours on normal because everything you say is so valuable!! lesson #1 might be my hardest but im working on it, lol. thank you for your channel!!
Awesome! Thank you!
Great video! Taking risks in career and life is something I have been working on!
Hi there, very interesting content thanks for sharing
From 60+ years I’d formulate the judgment qualifier “learning the hard way too many times”
100%; great list!
We call it "making amends" in 12-step programs.
Your videos never pop up on my feed I always have to search for your channel even though I’m subscribed.
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Wish I could hire you to make a huge relocation decision for me! LOL!
Anicca - Buddhist teaching of impermanence. Eventually everything passes