I went through this as a kid .. it’s not spoiled it’s the mom using the child as a means of income rather than working & supporting the family they laid down & made . My mother never worked & always said I felt entitled to child support.. it’s manipulative &’dismissive
This blonde chick would have an entire different perspective of she had to pay child support and the father was using her money for his new wife's kids
She doesn’t necessarily sound like a spoiled child. From experience, my mom had 4 kids 2 fathers and my dad was the only one who paid child support. In addition to her income(9-5 job), child support was used to support the house and all 4 of us. When asking for necessities or school related things I would go without. I would be forced to ask my dad. He would come through for me but it then became excessive to the point he asked “Did your mom get the child support payment?” Now I never asked my mom what this young girl did but I for sure thought it. lol I wasn’t stupid I saw what was going on. I saw my mom’s situations but …. As a child you will wonder why do I have to suffer for your choices.
I had this same thing happen. I wasn't scared about asking my mom about the money lol. When I got about 15 my mom gave me the money but she made me pay a bill. I didn't sweat it because it was enough for paying the electric bill plus enough for some cash in my pocket.
Lady with blonde hair, she is that little girl's mom. Feeling entitled to that child support money. Her daughter is calling it like it is. Like hondo said, she saw mom make some mistakes.
I agree that blonde selfish entitled woman is a shame and terrible influence on younger women. Also she does not get it the money is for the child. I bet blonde spend her children money on Ray Ray and stomach ache in return they sweat that blonde wig out lol
That girl is 16 , she’s old enough to be able to have a conversation with her mom about how she feels without being called disrespectful! Like he said it’s only disrespectful when they call you out in your bs people can’t handle the truth especially from their child
@@VerleanHurd it doesn't sound like the case in this story. the girl came up to the dad about the money and he gave her the real. He did not give her a hard time on this question.
My son 8 fam he came to me asking me for money which I willingly give to him anyway. I have 50-50 custody and still pay 1000 a month. I told him look son I have to pay my own everything right? I don’t get help from anybody. I told him you get 1000 dollars a month from me I showed him my check. I said every 2 weeks you get 500. Ask your mother for whatever you need. You have money from me every month. These women can be wicked as hell bruh. She’s 16 some people are talking like she’s a toddler. She’s a young adult. Anything to keep up their evil charade.
I have two children. At the age of 5 years old, and the other at the age of 1 year old. Me and the mother separated. I took the children with me. An agreement between us. Months later, she tried taking me to court for child support. Even though I had custody of the children. Lucky I had a good lawyer. I end up with full custody. She has visitation. I asked for NO child support from her. 15 years later. She's a drug user and currently in jail again. The children have been successful in life. I'm 99.9% involved in their lives. Thank God I have done a good job so far.
Let’s not forget… BOTH parents should be contributing HALF to the child. Dad should not be paying 100% of everything the child needs. So the 1900 the father is paying should be enough to cover half of the child’s expenses AND funds left over for the expenses that are not considered a necessity. The money the father pays is for HIS child. Her poor decisions should not cause her daughter to go without. She didn’t make the poor choice… her mom did. 🤷🏽♀️
Exactly, thank you for saying what most judges won't. Women have to pay their fair share also, if it's all on the father, then he needs to have full custody.
Wow... a highly attractive ABW publicly putting integrity and the welfare of children over the wild hyena cult agenda. Must be in that 2% of ABW that are actually marriageable. Much respect to you.
If I'm giving you 1900 dollars a month apparently my child need to stay with me if you using my whole 1900mfor household but realty of the matter is that your not using the whole 1900 for housing if so where do the mother work do she have a job am I literally paying your entire rent because if so my child mightest well stay with dad
The blonde head host seems to take this personal, it appears to hit close to home for her. The point is: kids eventually grow up and figure their parents out. Very good and important topic.
As long as the mother isn’t buying things for herself. Calculate the cost of clothes, food, electricity, phone, gas, rent/mortage per monthly for this 16yr old, her portion. Do u think $475 per week covers that?
Simple math, calculate the total house hold expenses and get ur answer. The mortgage is $2,000 her portion from her dad is $500 leaves $1,400. Food for the month??
It amazes me that nobody every asked what about moms half on the child’s care ? Dads paying child support does not absolve mom from being a responsible parent and cover her half of that child’s care.
If you getting $1900 a month for 1 child and your funds are too low to give that child a portion, that parent is financially irresponsible. The kid and father would be better off if she lived with him
@@marlak4203 Getting that kind of money for child support mean the 16 year shouldn't have to work. Mom need to get off her a$$, and get a job. Btw, also keep her legs closed.
Technically you're right but that's not an option for a good father. It's inevitable that you'll have to buy clothes and toys for your house And do things with them.
i pay 750 and i get my daughter every weekend and entire summer, she needs things when she with me but it is what is, im good, but i dont mind helping bm cause i make way more than her and that 750 i dont miss it. Im debt free have 4 cars own my home and married with no kids at home(other than weekends and summer).
This is the biggest issue with child support. Some women use child support as a way to support their lifestyle. If a woman is receiving child support, it should only be to support the child that the father has with the mother. Using child support for another man’s child is disrespectful
I’ve read this story a little while I’ve seen this video. The girl is asking for stuff like pizza and to get her nails done, which she SHOULD be able to gift.
If the child gets 1,900.00 a month and can’t get pizza, something is wrong! That’s what the child support is for! Child support should not be used for other kids that don’t belong to the father! Child support should not be used for the mom’s lifestyle! It’s perplexing that women misuse child support and are still able to receive it. The abuse of fathers needs to stop! Child support should not be a punishment for failing a relationships!
The daughter should just go live with her dad. That’s one less mouth to fed and that’ll show what the moms really about plain and simple. Rico is 100% on point people really should think: do you respect your parents because they are your parents or because they are someone worthy of respect?
The problem is that. The child support meant for 1 child. Is used to support and provide for a household of 4. And her father is essentially paying child support . For children that aren’t his. Because the mother needs that money. To support a household of 4 .With the money that meant just for the daughter.
Yes and if everyone would be real about it, they would too. All we have to do is look at the real world. If this is between a well to do man and a poor woman then, of course. If she is well to do too then the child is correct. We don't have context of what is really going on because we don't know if the child is just a complainer or if they really do have some points.
The woman with the blonde hair is the perfect example of what’s wrong with a lot of these mom’s mentalities in today’s society she’s sitting there playing like she doesn’t understand what the rest of them are saying knowing damn well she does Child Support is money due to help support the child that it has been ordered for by the courts if anyone looks up the court documents in one of the forms it specifies who the child support is for and it has the child’s name and it’s signed off on by the judge so just in legal standing that money is for the child listed not the household and not for other children from other dads but too many moms out here look at child support like it’s their money hence the reason why the mom in her txt said My Child Support
“I don’t understand how there is even two halves to the conversation” she don’t think she can be called out by anyone younger than her or 18 and under.
In 2 years that $1900 with no longer exist, then what? Like I pay child support, utilities isn’t apart of expenses because that isn’t the child responsibility as a child. Without a child, there isn’t no CHILD support. Simple! Child support considers childcare, extracurricular activities, etc… not adults bills.
Indeed! If you are a responsible adult you already pay your bills and when you have your child, it changes nothing since you still have to be responsible for yourself & the child just benefits from it.
@mikeballard3512, Facts! Children can’t live on their own. It’s the parents job to put the roof over their heads. No reason why the child should pay for that roof and utilities. That’s moms job not child job.
They keep talking about $1900 as if that's 100% of what the child is entitled to. If the mother is not contributing $1900 as her half, then she should lose her driver's license and be jailed just as the father would be.
Just to add to this point, the combined income of the mother and father is counted. Also, the noncustodiel parent should not be forced to pay more than 1/3 of their gross income. There are other factors added into the calculation for the other children. Without knowing the formula, I estimate the combined income is $136,800+.
I do not agree with you. When you lose your license, that does not mean use your kids child support to fix something that is not his/her fault. Coming from a father who pays child support, my son's mom does not put his money to help him. His mom divide his mom on everything except him. My fiancee and I are the ones who provide clothes, food, transportation, entertainment, parenting, mostly by me. As an adult, male and female should be held to the same standard on parenting. If the father pays child support, even if the mom is the custodial parent, she must pay child child support too. What ever happened to having equal treatment under the law???
By the way, the blonde is a person who would go to court to complain that child support is not enough no matter the dollar amount. Let's stop feeling bad for irresponsible women who don't do either end of the deal. My son has been telling me he can't wait to move back with me. He's fourteen and she thinks he's a fool. She has two other children who have one of their father is not there for her. I feel bad for that one child.
NO, Mom should bill the child for her hours mothering full time (cleaning, transporting, cooking, sick days off work cost, charge for attending school events/sport activities, etc. Most men can't afford a Nanny who is provided room and board and a $2 000+ check, medical, retirement fund.
The child is obviously not being spoiled if she's being honest in the text. That money is supposed to go towards her, not her siblings. Her mother's bills should be paid for by her mother's earnings from work.
She just can just proportion the income so the child benefits ie if she had 3 kids £633 would go towards her rent / mortgages and the rest can go towards after school activities and junior savings
child support is not supposed to cover everything!!.. if you didn't have a child or children you still have to live and pay rent and all the other bills ..
Ask one of those women, if they had to contribute $1900 and the father they're paying can't cover 100% of his living expenses and he dependent on the that money they provide, she would have a problem!! There are women across this country that depend on child support as a petty payday every month!
That lady with the blonde hair is one of those parents who lives off the good parent's money for his child to take care of the other men kids! She's seems the type to spend the money on her hair & nails
It’s the girl in the blonde slow or something? Lol I’m not understanding what she’s not understanding. She’s going to be one of those parents that they are talking about smh. The mom dead ass wrong!
Now, you see, that's where they get all of this stuff messed up. When the child support is for the child, and the mother is keeping the money for herself and her needs, it is wrong to take child support from the child.
But the BS can only go on so long; women defend single mothers no matter how disgraceful they typically become. Shes okay with getting that child support to buy Gucci shoes and bags but that child better stay in a childs place if they ask for something. In other words the blond is okay with that baby mama BS.@@joybell995
1900 is decent. A 16 year old has a right to inquire because the father doesn't have anymore to give. It's not fair if the money is going to the other kids
Lady in the blonde is the type to scream it’s her money & in reality if the father pays that much the child should be entitled to at least $1000 a month.
Rico hit the nail on the head, a lot of women wouldn't be able to survive without the money they received for their kids, yet they swear they are bread winners and the best parents in the world.
I pay less than 1900. I'm sure my bm would go crazy if our kid wanted to live with me. Simple because they start to add that money to there personal expenses
And no, it’s not normal that mom treats her daughter this way. Regardless of the fact my mom never treated me this way body should treat anybody like this. He sent money for his daughter. Were is the accountibilty for the mom and the other baby daddies
Blonde hair is being disingenuous. At 16 you can give 200 out of the 1900 and be fine. 1900 covers my mortgage, car insurance for 3 cars, cell bill, and almost a months worth of gas. Almost anywhere in the US with reasonable living accommodations that amount greatly helps with shelter costs. That's reducing the home cost over head but she can't give the child 200 a month for spending? There's something else wrong with this equation.
she doesn't make sense because she herself collects child support and operates like the mom in the story. She tries to defend the mom and justify her, during the conversation there are several points which show she spends child support money just like that mom (look at her cheesecake factory example) (or look at her thoughts in regards to left over money).
The child is not disrespectful if the father has no issue taking care of his child then let the child live with her father & you take care of your other children yourself
Was this blonde chick raised by a single mother or something? This woman is spending child support on other kids! How does the blonde chick not have a problem with this!
@Amanda I tried to work it out with my ex-wife to pay her a certain amount for my kids, and because she wanted more, she put me on child support. My stand is that if you want to put me on child support and I'm forced to pay the amount. I'm going to pay that amount that's being enforced, nothing more because some dads not on child support exactly spend more money on his kids. I'm not on child support now, and I spend more ways on my kids.
Prime example how a lot of these women use their children as a stipend to fund their life. 1900 for one child is more than enough. I pay 1000 on top of just doing stuff for my son on my own and I have 50-50 custody. A lot of these women are poor excuses for mothers yet nobody wants to have that conversation. Him and his daughter are being used by the mother to compensate for the lack of compensation she gets for the other children which isn’t their fault or business. The daughter has to suffer for the mothers poor decisions. She’ll be championed as a great mother though by society despite exploiting her own child.
This is infuriating.... Why in world would the other kids benefit from the father of one. He didn't adopt the other children. They aren't his. The other fathers should be covering for their kids... Period. This shouldn't even be an argument.
@@talibahonyebuchi9980an yall love to make it seem as if being a mom especially one that doesn’t work is a bigger job than men goin out in the world every day doing dangerous jobs 😑 being a mom aint a damn job i neva heard a man say “ being a father is an unpaid job “ cuz men know its just a responsibility if u dont want it dont have children literally that simple
@@tru_king24 It's a much harder job and that's why most men don't do it. Worker get breaks, lunches....zooms with babies get No breaks. I've done both and a job is easier, but you wouldn't know this because you've never done the stay at home job! Miss me with your BS!
We started getting CS when i was 15 and bro was 11. I was given the card. I split it evenly between 2 and we gave a portion to ma for bills. It paid for our trips and snacks. When she got a man we still gave "rent" but started completly shopping and cookin for ourselves. We made 300 a piece work for us for the entire month til next check. We had to learn to budget or skip minor activities for dances or bigger trips. Parenting had been over for a long time.
$1900 A MONTH is gold!!!! If I’m getting $1900 a month my child def wouldn’t want nothing. I don’t even get child support or even help from my kid father and he don’t want for nothing. Boy barely hears no
Child support is intended to be used for the care of the children involved. It can cover the child's direct expenditures, such as food and clothing. It can also cover a portion of household costs, such as the house the child lives in and the car the parent drives the child around in. Child support can also cover transportation expenses for the child, including car payments, fuel, bus fares, and other costs associated with getting the child to and from home, school, family visits, and other places and activities. In Ohio, parents are required to support their children by paying for their child support until they reach the age of 18, or until they have graduated from high school.
Child should live with dad now and save mother all the trouble she appears to cause her. Mum can focus on the siblings. Blondie would do what this mother is doing. I got a lot less child support but it went into a savings account for my child and I worked full time to cover daily living expenses. When she needed driving lessons, car etc.. That money covered those costs.
43:57 where he getting $30/day. $1900 is $63/day. A 16yo not costing 63/day. And They talking about groceries for the HOUSEHOLD and not groceries for 1 kid.
Me and my son’s father had a bad break up & he still isn’t on legal child support because nobody wanna go through that shit. But he pays child support every 2 weeks
To the girl in the blonde hair, I have a mother that got child support and would say no to anything I liked and asked for. And would only buy us what she wanted us to have. Check yourself
Sometimes like in my instance, I've paid for things already as a mother of my home to have things out the way, whether it's bills, clothes, shoes, activities, etc. Now the child support comes and I move accordingly, how I please because I just got PART of my money back. That's why it looks like momma is getting her hair and nails done or whatever... Now when the CS doesn't come, at least she's already paid everything and will have to wait until her next paycheck. This is most women's life with CS. If she has her children living in a nice neighborhood it costs. If she had them living in high crime where she saved money, they'd be wanting to move. Living costs money!!
He’s 100 percent right groceries should only be 200-300 for a 16 year old monthly, if the parent don’t know how to budget that’s their fault, there’s a reason why grandma and mama had coupons, it seems to me the mother is living above her means and her child is insurance. The little girl peep and she is not jacking that, the child father is skittle petty though
Wow 😂😂😂😂 Amazing how the blonde chick in the beginning of the video, was saying that the 16 years old a girl was mature enough to see the wrong her mother was doing. Then at 1:03:58 in the video she picks the age of 13 to say that kids can see through their parent’s games and misdeeds. Just another case of let them talk long enough and they will contradict themselves every time to protect the sisterhood 😂😂😂😂
People have to understand stand if that child ask her Dad to live with him and if he agrees he's going to go to court and the judge is going to ask that child do she wants to move in, because the child is old enough to make the decision to either live with the mother or the father period
*Kids only see what they are exposed to. I encourage everyone to have an adult conversation with their parents when they are about 30, you will have a different understanding.*
Why? because that’s when they see you and respect you as an adult?! I’d say the same things, if they’re not gone. Just because people are young, doesn’t make them blind to right from wrong. Do what you’re supposed to when kids are kids and the feedback you get will reflect that. Some kids are real life disrespectful but some parents just aren’t parents.
@@camelarollins *In my personal experience my parents were young and had no real guidance(parents not present) so they were just figuring things out. There were certain things I feel like I should’ve been taught growing up but I was raised to be a princess and when I got to college I struggled. After a conversation with my mom everything made sense. Also I was in honors classes since I was six and did not get into trouble.*
$18 an hour. 40hrs a week. Minus 18% for taxes. Is $590. That times 4 weeks in a month is $2300. Y’all telling me kids cost as much as a having a job??? lol dude in shades too real. Shout out to him
The mother should be showing her and teaching her how she can now do for self... And father should be showing her and teaching her how to do for self.........
That sound good but the mother is taking advantage of the situation, and many are trying to get the mother out of accountability. Its one thing to do for self but what that got to do with people taking advantage of yo?
44:53 I’m going to need folks to learn to budget better…teach kids to grocery shop and prepare food. No way should a child need $30 per day for food alone.
The welfare mentality. Child support isn't supposed to cover everything. Women, when you're a single parent, you need to provide for your child and other children as well. One child's father isn't supposed to be providing for the other child.
And why does this blonde chick keep judging and telling what this girl is doing. she doesn't know what this girl's doing? Does she live with this girl. No, she doesn't, but she keeps saying how she's entitled and disrespectful. How does she know she doesn't even live with her.
Alright, so let's really look at this. That father is giving the mother $22,800 a year to take care of HIS child. If you, as the parent with the child, have to DEPEND on the CS to sustain your household, then you don't NEED the child. Cause here's the truth, while the custodial parent has the child the non-custodial parent still has to provide for their child when they are in their custody. That means this father is minus $1,900 a month but still has to provide a home, food, and clothing for the child when they are with him. How people believe that the CS is to take care of a household is asinine. "Am I supposed to feed our child and let my other kids go hungry?" Heck yeah. Why? They are not HIS responsibility PERIOD. And I agree with glasses that only a portion should be allowed to go towards living expenses. I also agree that that money (excess) should be placed in an account so the child is starting off with something. Cause let's assume he's been paying CS since the kid was 14 that's $91K over 4 years. There is no way that child shouldn't have at least $30K in some type of interest baring account.
They using all the worst case scenarios to justify $1900/mo. A SPOILED 16yo could cost $1900 but not the avg kid. Most don’t have a car and insurance or doing costly activities at 16
@@lavgreeen if most 16yo have cars that would mean most teens 16 and older have cars in your city. And I guarantee they do not. Their parents would need money to buy that car. Or that kid would need to work to buy that car. And there would need to be affordable cars on supply for most 16year olds. It doesn’t even make sense. Most kids are not privileged.
The girl with the blonde wig needs to grow up! Men who pay their court ordered Child Support for their particular child, the money needs to go to the child.💯 Yes there are other home expenses involved with taking care of a child/teenager. But the mom is wrong.🥴 Then threatening to take her phone just because she wants her support from dad $1,900
Reverse the rolls ask the women on the show how would they feel if the man was getting child support for a woman 1900.00 a month and Dad told his daugher he's not giving her no money.and he had custody of two more kids and the other two women was not paying child support and he was telling her know he was not going to give her no money it's for the bills 😭
Doesn’t the mother work as well?? She should be paying for her household with her salary and not his. That support is for the need of the child not for the mother bills…
Amanda seems like she mad this whole episode, you was spoiled by your parents you don't understand child support it's to support the child not your other children
I went through this as a kid .. it’s not spoiled it’s the mom using the child as a means of income rather than working & supporting the family they laid down & made . My mother never worked & always said I felt entitled to child support.. it’s manipulative &’dismissive
I am sorry that's unfortunate 😔
Agreed
Hi Ashhdollars! How is the relationship between you and your mother now?
Yup bro they use these kids like crazy. It’s either pimping the system or pimping the present father
@@McStrokeAvisionor mother basically using the custodial parent.....
This blonde chick would have an entire different perspective of she had to pay child support and the father was using her money for his new wife's kids
You bet
Exactly
Exactly
She probably relates to child support recipients on a personal level because ain’t no way she’s thinking logically
FACTS
She doesn’t necessarily sound like a spoiled child. From experience, my mom had 4 kids 2 fathers and my dad was the only one who paid child support. In addition to her income(9-5 job), child support was used to support the house and all 4 of us. When asking for necessities or school related things I would go without. I would be forced to ask my dad. He would come through for me but it then became excessive to the point he asked “Did your mom get the child support payment?”
Now I never asked my mom what this young girl did but I for sure thought it. lol I wasn’t stupid I saw what was going on. I saw my mom’s situations but ….
As a child you will wonder why do I have to suffer for your choices.
I had this same thing happen. I wasn't scared about asking my mom about the money lol. When I got about 15 my mom gave me the money but she made me pay a bill. I didn't sweat it because it was enough for paying the electric bill plus enough for some cash in my pocket.
the blonde woman gives off more spoiled vibes than that kid in the story! lol
Lady with blonde hair, she is that little girl's mom. Feeling entitled to that child support money. Her daughter is calling it like it is. Like hondo said, she saw mom make some mistakes.
I agree that blonde selfish entitled woman is a shame and terrible influence on younger women. Also she does not get it the money is for the child. I bet blonde spend her children money on Ray Ray and stomach ache in return they sweat that blonde wig out lol
she's far from a "lady"
“It’s hard to have respect for someone who’s DOING NOTHING” That’s the truth.
Then that's "MOST" women on CHILD SUPPORT period
That girl is 16 , she’s old enough to be able to have a conversation with her mom about how she feels without being called disrespectful! Like he said it’s only disrespectful when they call you out in your bs people can’t handle the truth especially from their child
We learned from Kevin Samuels that anytime u challenge a woman's wrong and trifling ways, it's considered disrespectful
@@rdelacruz8949 The same can be said about a man. Keep the same energy.
@@VerleanHurd it doesn't sound like the case in this story. the girl came up to the dad about the money and he gave her the real. He did not give her a hard time on this question.
@@Tony_Wes it in this case, but it does happen. Like I said, keep the same energy.
My son 8 fam he came to me asking me for money which I willingly give to him anyway. I have 50-50 custody and still pay 1000 a month. I told him look son I have to pay my own everything right? I don’t get help from anybody. I told him you get 1000 dollars a month from me I showed him my check. I said every 2 weeks you get 500. Ask your mother for whatever you need. You have money from me every month. These women can be wicked as hell bruh. She’s 16 some people are talking like she’s a toddler. She’s a young adult. Anything to keep up their evil charade.
$1,900 in support a month is wild! Btw, its CHILD support, not SPOUSAL support!
It is at this point, look at those situations where theres a prenup but the child support is 100K per month.
I just said that to my boyfriend while we watching this . .
That's just rent money
Literally. Atleast it covers the monthly rent amount. @mustent5713
The one with the
Blonde hair use her kids money on herself listen to her talk
I promise you!
Exactly
😂😂😂 look at her face ,she in her feelings
Fax
Her whole vibe was " I can't spend this on myself" ?
I have two children. At the age of 5 years old, and the other at the age of 1 year old. Me and the mother separated. I took the children with me. An agreement between us. Months later, she tried taking me to court for child support. Even though I had custody of the children. Lucky I had a good lawyer. I end up with full custody. She has visitation. I asked for NO child support from her.
15 years later. She's a drug user and currently in jail again. The children have been successful in life. I'm 99.9% involved in their lives.
Thank God I have done a good job so far.
I'm so proud of you! That's dope af! Why nobody liked this comment, but me? People always doging dads, you're doing phenomenal congratulations ❤
Let’s not forget… BOTH parents should be contributing HALF to the child. Dad should not be paying 100% of everything the child needs. So the 1900 the father is paying should be enough to cover half of the child’s expenses AND funds left over for the expenses that are not considered a necessity. The money the father pays is for HIS child. Her poor decisions should not cause her daughter to go without. She didn’t make the poor choice… her mom did. 🤷🏽♀️
Exactly, thank you for saying what most judges won't. Women have to pay their fair share also, if it's all on the father, then he needs to have full custody.
Wow... a highly attractive ABW publicly putting integrity and the welfare of children over the wild hyena cult agenda. Must be in that 2% of ABW that are actually marriageable. Much respect to you.
If I'm giving you 1900 dollars a month apparently my child need to stay with me if you using my whole 1900mfor household but realty of the matter is that your not using the whole 1900 for housing if so where do the mother work do she have a job am I literally paying your entire rent because if so my child mightest well stay with dad
The blonde head host seems to take this personal, it appears to hit close to home for her. The point is: kids eventually grow up and figure their parents out.
Very good and important topic.
Preach
I know that blonde is spending her child support on herself not the kid lol
FACTS
That child will be out of that house in 2 years and this is the mothers chance to save that relationship cause it’s about to be a wrap
In nj if you go to college you still get child support 😂
@@simonedanzey9226Not always, in some states you only have to pay if the parents were married. Otherwise, diploma or age 18 whichever comes first.
@@simonedanzey9226 If so, the money will go straight to the adult child.
Someone please ask the blonde girl if she has a child that she receives child support for because she’s definitely giving me those vibes
Facts
I cannot take anyone seriously rocking a blonde hairpiece
She is either a single mom or was raised by one. Which shows in her twisted statements
As long as the mother isn’t buying things for herself. Calculate the cost of clothes, food, electricity, phone, gas, rent/mortage per monthly for this 16yr old, her portion. Do u think $475 per week covers that?
Simple math, calculate the total house hold expenses and get ur answer. The mortgage is $2,000 her portion from her dad is $500 leaves $1,400. Food for the month??
I would be pissed if i was paying child support and my money was going to someone else kids
It amazes me that nobody every asked what about moms half on the child’s care ?
Dads paying child support does not absolve mom from being a responsible parent and cover her half of that child’s care.
To women it does but hes still a deadbeat because he should be paying more.
Yes. A NUMBER of questions are to be asked so that you have context.
The lady said she’s taking care of the house hold which indirectly benefits the other kids
As a dad I would be upset if my lil girl not getting what she needs and some of what she wants. But the other 2 kids is benefiting from it
If you getting $1900 a month for 1 child and your funds are too low to give that child a portion, that parent is financially irresponsible. The kid and father would be better off if she lived with him
All you gotta do is give the girl 150 per month so she can learn to budget and save in a bank account …. That’s parenting💯
150 a week. That still leave mom with 1300 of that child money
You think that would happen? 😂
That's not enough. Tf is 150 a week? she's 16
Some would say the girl is old enough to work herself so maybe that would do something. Lol.
But 2 more years and this is done anyway.
@@marlak4203 Getting that kind of money for child support mean the 16 year shouldn't have to work. Mom need to get off her a$$, and get a job. Btw, also keep her legs closed.
By law if the man pay child support financially the father is meeting that need for the child. He don’t have to do shit else unless he wants too.
Technically you're right but that's not an option for a good father. It's inevitable that you'll have to buy clothes and toys for your house And do things with them.
i pay 750 and i get my daughter every weekend and entire summer, she needs things when she with me but it is what is, im good, but i dont mind helping bm cause i make way more than her and that 750 i dont miss it. Im debt free have 4 cars own my home and married with no kids at home(other than weekends and summer).
No a good father don't mean get used@@indianajones443
@terrencemcphail5782,
Your daughter will forever be thankful to you for being there for her.
This is the biggest issue with child support. Some women use child support as a way to support their lifestyle. If a woman is receiving child support, it should only be to support the child that the father has with the mother. Using child support for another man’s child is disrespectful
Exactly, sir, I don't know why people don't have the common sense to understand that.
I’ve read this story a little while I’ve seen this video. The girl is asking for stuff like pizza and to get her nails done, which she SHOULD be able to gift.
If the child gets 1,900.00 a month and can’t get pizza, something is wrong! That’s what the child support is for! Child support should not be used for other kids that don’t belong to the father! Child support should not be used for the mom’s lifestyle! It’s perplexing that women misuse child support and are still able to receive it. The abuse of fathers needs to stop! Child support should not be a punishment for failing a relationships!
@mr.brooklyn23 u are correct it suppose to be for the kids not to the mother.
And she was supposed to do her part too not just for a man to pay for the child only.
Blonde hair wouldn't be saying that ish if she was paying $1900
Yep, if it was the other way around, they say how sorry he is and how he NEEDS her.
The daughter should just go live with her dad. That’s one less mouth to fed and that’ll show what the moms really about plain and simple. Rico is 100% on point people really should think: do you respect your parents because they are your parents or because they are someone worthy of respect?
The problem is that. The child support meant for 1 child. Is used to support and provide for a household of 4. And her father is essentially paying child support . For children that aren’t his. Because the mother needs that money. To support a household of 4 .With the money that meant just for the daughter.
Yes and if everyone would be real about it, they would too.
All we have to do is look at the real world. If this is between a well to do man and a poor woman then, of course.
If she is well to do too then the child is correct.
We don't have context of what is really going on because we don't know if the child is just a complainer or if they really do have some points.
@@marlak4203 The mother said it's her child support money and that should tell you all you need to know.
The woman with the blonde hair is the perfect example of what’s wrong with a lot of these mom’s mentalities in today’s society she’s sitting there playing like she doesn’t understand what the rest of them are saying knowing damn well she does Child Support is money due to help support the child that it has been ordered for by the courts if anyone looks up the court documents in one of the forms it specifies who the child support is for and it has the child’s name and it’s signed off on by the judge so just in legal standing that money is for the child listed not the household and not for other children from other dads but too many moms out here look at child support like it’s their money hence the reason why the mom in her txt said My Child Support
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Let's do the math. $22,800 a year. The average American makes 45k. So tell me again why this is not enough money for a 16 year old.
The person who makes $45K isn't paying $22K in child support per year.
@@ShixB he's talking about for the person receiving $22,800 a year on child support.
@@ShixBdelete this, NOW!
@@ShixBthat’s a enough for grown a## man to live off of that’s the point
Rerun this interview and have random fathers call in to give an insight on this please! This could be a moment of truth
Blond hair too emotional she gotta be using all the BDs money for the other kids 😂😂😂
I hope blonde girl heal before she ever have kids cause feeling a 16 year old cant have feelings and express them is wild
The blonde girl doesn't like kids and her mother ain't shit
“I don’t understand how there is even two halves to the conversation” she don’t think she can be called out by anyone younger than her or 18 and under.
Blondie is the type of woman who would argue against mandatory paternity tests.
In 2 years that $1900 with no longer exist, then what? Like I pay child support, utilities isn’t apart of expenses because that isn’t the child responsibility as a child. Without a child, there isn’t no CHILD support. Simple!
Child support considers childcare, extracurricular activities, etc… not adults bills.
Indeed! If you are a responsible adult you already pay your bills and when you have your child, it changes nothing since you still have to be responsible for yourself & the child just benefits from it.
@mikeballard3512,
Facts!
Children can’t live on their own. It’s the parents job to put the roof over their heads. No reason why the child should pay for that roof and utilities. That’s moms job not child job.
She can become an emancipated minor and get the whole $1900 and get a part time job and be doing great for herself, on her own 💯
When you become an emancipated minor, you are telling the court I am self sufficient, capable of taking care of myself.
Emancipated minors don't get child support lol smh
Right 😂@@rdelacruz8949
@@rdelacruz8949 Facts…. But a real dad is gonna keep sending her that bread until she is 18. So she can build up some savings💯
They keep talking about $1900 as if that's 100% of what the child is entitled to. If the mother is not contributing $1900 as her half, then she should lose her driver's license and be jailed just as the father would be.
Just to add to this point, the combined income of the mother and father is counted. Also, the noncustodiel parent should not be forced to pay more than 1/3 of their gross income. There are other factors added into the calculation for the other children. Without knowing the formula, I estimate the combined income is $136,800+.
And have her credit destroyed.
I do not agree with you. When you lose your license, that does not mean use your kids child support to fix something that is not his/her fault. Coming from a father who pays child support, my son's mom does not put his money to help him. His mom divide his mom on everything except him. My fiancee and I are the ones who provide clothes, food, transportation, entertainment, parenting, mostly by me. As an adult, male and female should be held to the same standard on parenting. If the father pays child support, even if the mom is the custodial parent, she must pay child child support too. What ever happened to having equal treatment under the law???
By the way, the blonde is a person who would go to court to complain that child support is not enough no matter the dollar amount. Let's stop feeling bad for irresponsible women who don't do either end of the deal. My son has been telling me he can't wait to move back with me. He's fourteen and she thinks he's a fool. She has two other children who have one of their father is not there for her. I feel bad for that one child.
NO, Mom should bill the child for her hours mothering full time (cleaning, transporting, cooking, sick days off work cost, charge for attending school events/sport activities, etc. Most men can't afford a Nanny who is provided room and board and a $2 000+ check, medical, retirement fund.
The child is obviously not being spoiled if she's being honest in the text. That money is supposed to go towards her, not her siblings. Her mother's bills should be paid for by her mother's earnings from work.
Facts 💯
Agreed!
She just can just proportion the income so the child benefits ie if she had 3 kids £633 would go towards her rent / mortgages and the rest can go towards after school activities and junior savings
*If I received child support, I would split the $$ between the child, a UTMA account and an insurance policy*
Sometimes you don’t even have to split it id just ask my mom for whatever I needed
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child support is not supposed to cover everything!!.. if you didn't have a child or children you still have to live and pay rent and all the other bills ..
Ask one of those women, if they had to contribute $1900 and the father they're paying can't cover 100% of his living expenses and he dependent on the that money they provide, she would have a problem!! There are women across this country that depend on child support as a petty payday every month!
That lady with the blonde hair is one of those parents who lives off the good parent's money for his child to take care of the other men kids! She's seems the type to spend the money on her hair & nails
$1900 every month the girl should not want for anything. It’s her money period!
It’s the girl in the blonde slow or something? Lol I’m not understanding what she’s not understanding. She’s going to be one of those parents that they are talking about smh. The mom dead ass wrong!
She may be that now, sounds and looks like it
Don't ever take anything that comes out the mouth of a sista with a blond wig seriously
😂she sounds like she doing the same😂
The woman in the Grey…. Has a broken mentality. The fact that she couldn’t even realize that the child deserves a portion is so sad and lame.
For real, she forgetting to know that 16 year old need alot these days, they need their hair done and nails
And need to start saving for their first car, money the dorm room necessitates in 2 years… etc.
I Agree with That.
Couple of them in the comments too. This is why younger guys need to take note and protect their seed...
Child support is for the kid not the mom and her other kids from a different dad.
Difficult one
How is that difficult?
Now, you see, that's where they get all of this stuff messed up. When the child support is for the child, and the mother is keeping the money for herself and her needs, it is wrong to take child support from the child.
@drexq_477,
Facts
Why is the lady going so hard for the mom. It seems like it’s hitting home for her!
Because she’s a mom and she demands a certain respect from her children. Some parents let kids say anything to them and some don’t.
But the BS can only go on so long; women defend single mothers no matter how disgraceful they typically become. Shes okay with getting that child support to buy Gucci shoes and bags but that child better stay in a childs place if they ask for something. In other words the blond is okay with that baby mama BS.@@joybell995
@joybell995 or she could show her that savings account she shouldve been using the money for
Bc she was told the same thing when she asked where her child support money at from her mom
@@joybell995nah it’s because she’s silly just like this girls mother that’s why the girl is mocking the mom for being a failure.
1900 is decent. A 16 year old has a right to inquire because the father doesn't have anymore to give. It's not fair if the money is going to the other kids
More than decent that's alot
Lady in the blonde is the type to scream it’s her money & in reality if the father pays that much the child should be entitled to at least $1000 a month.
Rico hit the nail on the head, a lot of women wouldn't be able to survive without the money they received for their kids, yet they swear they are bread winners and the best parents in the world.
I pay less than 1900. I'm sure my bm would go crazy if our kid wanted to live with me. Simple because they start to add that money to there personal expenses
They also don't work and live off child support and govt assistance. Yet, they'll be the first to say they're strong and independent😅😅😅
And no, it’s not normal that mom treats her daughter this way. Regardless of the fact my mom never treated me this way body should treat anybody like this. He sent money for his daughter. Were is the accountibilty for the mom and the other baby daddies
@@PH-jo8yz facts
@@Rbhawk3rd absolutely
The way all 3 of them looked at her when she said it ain’t for the child 😭😭
@unknownindividual7036 definitely is
That was wild
Blonde hair is being disingenuous. At 16 you can give 200 out of the 1900 and be fine. 1900 covers my mortgage, car insurance for 3 cars, cell bill, and almost a months worth of gas. Almost anywhere in the US with reasonable living accommodations that amount greatly helps with shelter costs. That's reducing the home cost over head but she can't give the child 200 a month for spending? There's something else wrong with this equation.
That $200 mom is using for herself. Not the child.
1900$ and no allowance is insane
i feel like if my kid says that she always gets told no i should raise hell in the courts and renegotiate the living situation
That part!!
Lol at her ring falling off. But yes, she wasn't making any sense.
she doesn't make sense because she herself collects child support and operates like the mom in the story. She tries to defend the mom and justify her, during the conversation there are several points which show she spends child support money just like that mom (look at her cheesecake factory example) (or look at her thoughts in regards to left over money).
The child is not disrespectful if the father has no issue taking care of his child then let the child live with her father & you take care of your other children yourself
The parent needs to work, the child support should be supplemental income.💯
But how is it that you know the mother doesn’t work
Was this blonde chick raised by a single mother or something? This woman is spending child support on other kids!
How does the blonde chick not have a problem with this!
@Amanda I tried to work it out with my ex-wife to pay her a certain amount for my kids, and because she wanted more, she put me on child support. My stand is that if you want to put me on child support and I'm forced to pay the amount. I'm going to pay that amount that's being enforced, nothing more because some dads not on child support exactly spend more money on his kids. I'm not on child support now, and I spend more ways on my kids.
Prime example how a lot of these women use their children as a stipend to fund their life. 1900 for one child is more than enough. I pay 1000 on top of just doing stuff for my son on my own and I have 50-50 custody. A lot of these women are poor excuses for mothers yet nobody wants to have that conversation. Him and his daughter are being used by the mother to compensate for the lack of compensation she gets for the other children which isn’t their fault or business. The daughter has to suffer for the mothers poor decisions. She’ll be championed as a great mother though by society despite exploiting her own child.
CHILD SUPPORT. Money too SUPPORT THE CHILD.
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This is infuriating.... Why in world would the other kids benefit from the father of one. He didn't adopt the other children. They aren't his. The other fathers should be covering for their kids... Period. This shouldn't even be an argument.
but does all those things equate to 22,800$ a year. A lot of grown adults barely bring that home. let’s be real here!
This episode is the reason why I keep my meat in the freezer and never take it out to thaw and spill my milk in the wrong bowl….
I wonder what household they live in $800 a month for food is crazy😂
capping straight lies i eat grass fed and my family dont eat 800 a month in food. We eat well at home dont eat out but we eat good.
Yea, but your personal chef and maid (Mom) has not been paid! Men love to minimize the unpaid work Moms/females provide
It’s 100% possible to have 800 for groceries. It depends on how many family members you have
@@talibahonyebuchi9980an yall love to make it seem as if being a mom especially one that doesn’t work is a bigger job than men goin out in the world every day doing dangerous jobs 😑 being a mom aint a damn job i neva heard a man say “ being a father is an unpaid job “ cuz men know its just a responsibility if u dont want it dont have children literally that simple
@@tru_king24 It's a much harder job and that's why most men don't do it. Worker get breaks, lunches....zooms with babies get No breaks. I've done both and a job is easier, but you wouldn't know this because you've never done the stay at home job! Miss me with your BS!
We started getting CS when i was 15 and bro was 11. I was given the card. I split it evenly between 2 and we gave a portion to ma for bills. It paid for our trips and snacks. When she got a man we still gave "rent" but started completly shopping and cookin for ourselves. We made 300 a piece work for us for the entire month til next check. We had to learn to budget or skip minor activities for dances or bigger trips. Parenting had been over for a long time.
That blonde woman is an air head. Tyring to defend the mother because she cannot accept that mom"s is wrong!!
$1900 A MONTH is gold!!!! If I’m getting $1900 a month my child def wouldn’t want nothing. I don’t even get child support or even help from my kid father and he don’t want for nothing. Boy barely hears no
Shit I'm sure that's a mortgage for you lol. Covering for everything else would be easy.
@@Tony_Wesso, you don't have a mortgage? 4-5 bedroom home in a decent area is more than $1,900.
Child support is intended to be used for the care of the children involved. It can cover the child's direct expenditures, such as food and clothing. It can also cover a portion of household costs, such as the house the child lives in and the car the parent drives the child around in.
Child support can also cover transportation expenses for the child, including car payments, fuel, bus fares, and other costs associated with getting the child to and from home, school, family visits, and other places and activities.
In Ohio, parents are required to support their children by paying for their child support until they reach the age of 18, or until they have graduated from high school.
They need to remember sometimes the dad pays more than he may earn
Child should live with dad now and save mother all the trouble she appears to cause her. Mum can focus on the siblings. Blondie would do what this mother is doing.
I got a lot less child support but it went into a savings account for my child and I worked full time to cover daily living expenses. When she needed driving lessons, car etc.. That money covered those costs.
It isn’t always an unruly daughter.. Many times a MOTHER, is envious of her🤷🏽
Facts
43:57 where he getting $30/day. $1900 is $63/day. A 16yo not costing 63/day. And They talking about groceries for the HOUSEHOLD and not groceries for 1 kid.
Me and my son’s father had a bad break up & he still isn’t on legal child support because nobody wanna go through that shit. But he pays child support every 2 weeks
@43:40 Getting send to school with $30 a day for food, and saying that wasn’t enough is definitely spoiled😂😂😂
600 a month is 30 a day 5 days a week during school
Doesn't matter how much the daughter ask for the money is for the child not the mother
Actually, it does matter how much the child ask for, even though the money is for the support of the child. @@anthonyperez6906
To the girl in the blonde hair, I have a mother that got child support and would say no to anything I liked and asked for. And would only buy us what she wanted us to have. Check yourself
Sometimes like in my instance, I've paid for things already as a mother of my home to have things out the way, whether it's bills, clothes, shoes, activities, etc. Now the child support comes and I move accordingly, how I please because I just got PART of my money back. That's why it looks like momma is getting her hair and nails done or whatever... Now when the CS doesn't come, at least she's already paid everything and will have to wait until her next paycheck. This is most women's life with CS. If she has her children living in a nice neighborhood it costs. If she had them living in high crime where she saved money, they'd be wanting to move. Living costs money!!
But you’re only supposed to get PART of the money back. Both parents support the child.
He’s 100 percent right groceries should only be 200-300 for a 16 year old monthly, if the parent don’t know how to budget that’s their fault, there’s a reason why grandma and mama had coupons, it seems to me the mother is living above her means and her child is insurance. The little girl peep and she is not jacking that, the child father is skittle petty though
Thats why i say that money should go on a card and put in childs name but take out half for the mother to pay towards food and rent and light
Wow 😂😂😂😂 Amazing how the blonde chick in the beginning of the video, was saying that the 16 years old a girl was mature enough to see the wrong her mother was doing. Then at 1:03:58 in the video she picks the age of 13 to say that kids can see through their parent’s games and misdeeds. Just another case of let them talk long enough and they will contradict themselves every time to protect the sisterhood 😂😂😂😂
People have to understand stand if that child ask her Dad to live with him and if he agrees he's going to go to court and the judge is going to ask that child do she wants to move in, because the child is old enough to make the decision to either live with the mother or the father period
Really at 16teen she can choose to live with her dad
*Kids only see what they are exposed to. I encourage everyone to have an adult conversation with their parents when they are about 30, you will have a different understanding.*
Why? because that’s when they see you and respect you as an adult?! I’d say the same things, if they’re not gone. Just because people are young, doesn’t make them blind to right from wrong. Do what you’re supposed to when kids are kids and the feedback you get will reflect that. Some kids are real life disrespectful but some parents just aren’t parents.
@@camelarollins *In my personal experience my parents were young and had no real guidance(parents not present) so they were just figuring things out. There were certain things I feel like I should’ve been taught growing up but I was raised to be a princess and when I got to college I struggled. After a conversation with my mom everything made sense. Also I was in honors classes since I was six and did not get into trouble.*
$18 an hour. 40hrs a week. Minus 18% for taxes. Is $590. That times 4 weeks in a month is $2300. Y’all telling me kids cost as much as a having a job??? lol dude in shades too real. Shout out to him
Facts
Child support is based off the fathers income not how much it cost to raise a child 60 cents of every dollar goes to the state.
The mother should be showing her and teaching her how she can now do for self... And father should be showing her and teaching her how to do for self.........
That sound good but the mother is taking advantage of the situation, and many are trying to get the mother out of accountability. Its one thing to do for self but what that got to do with people taking advantage of yo?
Rico is 10000% right I was the child support kid
44:53 I’m going to need folks to learn to budget better…teach kids to grocery shop and prepare food. No way should a child need $30 per day for food alone.
Right no real concept of reality. I can make 500 a month on food work for 4. You have to cook though.
They eating fast food everyday.
The welfare mentality. Child support isn't supposed to cover everything. Women, when you're a single parent, you need to provide for your child and other children as well. One child's father isn't supposed to be providing for the other child.
Exactly what it is that welfare mentality. Someone else supposed to cover all their bills and responsibilities or it’s never enough.
And why does this blonde chick keep judging and telling what this girl is doing. she doesn't know what this girl's doing? Does she live with this girl. No, she doesn't, but she keeps saying how she's entitled and disrespectful. How does she know she doesn't even live with her.
90% of these child are not benefiting from child support
Alright, so let's really look at this. That father is giving the mother $22,800 a year to take care of HIS child. If you, as the parent with the child, have to DEPEND on the CS to sustain your household, then you don't NEED the child. Cause here's the truth, while the custodial parent has the child the non-custodial parent still has to provide for their child when they are in their custody. That means this father is minus $1,900 a month but still has to provide a home, food, and clothing for the child when they are with him. How people believe that the CS is to take care of a household is asinine. "Am I supposed to feed our child and let my other kids go hungry?" Heck yeah. Why? They are not HIS responsibility PERIOD. And I agree with glasses that only a portion should be allowed to go towards living expenses. I also agree that that money (excess) should be placed in an account so the child is starting off with something. Cause let's assume he's been paying CS since the kid was 14 that's $91K over 4 years. There is no way that child shouldn't have at least $30K in some type of interest baring account.
Facts fuck that glad it ain’t me
If the mother was working, this wouldn't be an issue
They using all the worst case scenarios to justify $1900/mo. A SPOILED 16yo could cost $1900 but not the avg kid. Most don’t have a car and insurance or doing costly activities at 16
Most 16 y.o. Have a car nowadays.. but 1900 /month is too much
@@lavgreeen if most 16yo have cars that would mean most teens 16 and older have cars in your city. And I guarantee they do not. Their parents would need money to buy that car. Or that kid would need to work to buy that car. And there would need to be affordable cars on supply for most 16year olds. It doesn’t even make sense. Most kids are not privileged.
Truth hurt mom. She wrong
If I’m listening correctly, a young woman (16) is not being respected correctly. Let her live with her dad.
If your 16 is spending 30 a day, you are a lazy as_ parent and are teaching your kids how to be irresponsible.
In two more years it won’t matter. Mom is in for a rude awakening.
Yeah if the girl stays with the dad then that exposes the mother for the clown she is.@@sherwoodwalker573
@@sherwoodwalker573 yes and i hope so
Yea, let her live with Dad and if it doesn't work out.....teenager can kick rocks!
You want the money for yourself it’s for the child
That's why the blonde hair lady mad
The girl with the blonde wig needs to grow up! Men who pay their court ordered Child Support for their particular child, the money needs to go to the child.💯
Yes there are other home expenses involved with taking care of a child/teenager. But the mom is wrong.🥴
Then threatening to take her phone just because she wants her support from dad $1,900
Reverse the rolls ask the women on the show how would they feel if the man was getting child support for a woman 1900.00 a month and Dad told his daugher he's not giving her no money.and he had custody of two more kids and the other two women was not paying child support and he was telling her know he was not going to give her no money it's for the bills 😭
Best comment Rico made is at the end... Which ties right back into the main conversation about the CS to me
This girl on the show will CLEARLY take money for her own person expense from child support
Doesn’t the mother work as well?? She should be paying for her household with her salary and not his. That support is for the need of the child not for the mother bills…
Thankyou!!!
None of that money should be going to those other children or the mother's expenses at all.
Amanda seems like she mad this whole episode, you was spoiled by your parents you don't understand child support it's to support the child not your other children
How much the mother putting In from her own funds sounds like she’s basically living off the child support as the other parent where’s her money going