Modern Dating Realities: High Body Count, Chivalry, Women's Independence, and Instagram Fame
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Modern Dating Realities: High Body Count, Chivalry, Women's Independence, and Instagram Fame
🔍 Timestamps:
00:00 Intro
04:00 How do you date and be normal?
08:55 Are modern women only care about MONEY and MATERIAL THINGS?
17:25 Chivalry was never a necessity
27:02 Chivalry don't make people see the real intensions
39:05 Why you should always post your girl on social media, but never tag her!
46:22 Why women seek attention so much?
49:05 Women want attention from a man with status?
59:20 Is social media affecting relationships?
1:13:57 Men who complain about women are unhappy
1:35:05 Women: Biggest competitors of all species?
1:55:56 Sometimes, the closed doors are the ones that saved you
2:02:10 How would you define boundaries?
Special Guest: Ask Ms. Cassandra / askmscassandra
🇭🇹Cassandra Menard, MSSW
👑I equip Kings with tools to WIN in their marriage
🤞🏾ICF Certified Relationship Coach
👏🏾Master of Science in Social Work
🔍 In this eye-opening discussion, we delve deep into the following key topics:
1️⃣ High Body Count: Discover how societal perceptions of sexual history impact dating and relationships. We'll explore the importance of open communication and understanding.
2️⃣ Chivalry's Role: Is chivalry dead, or does it still have a place in modern dating? We dissect the nuances of traditional gestures in the context of equality and respect.
3️⃣ Women's Independence: We celebrate the strides women have made in achieving independence and empowerment. Explore how this shapes modern dating dynamics.
4️⃣ Instagram Fame: Uncover the influence of social media on dating and self-image. Learn how to navigate the world of online personas and authenticity.
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1:11:00 explains it all. You have men explaining how men see dating and relationships and a woman trying to argue over him and tell him what he should like. That’s the main thing killing relationships in the black community in modern times. Women want men to be as tailor made as possible for them while wanting said men, the men at the “top” at that, to accept them however they come. The Princess mentality that came from God knows where has overstayed it’s welcome and it feels like it’s going to get worse before it gets better.
Nobody listens to each other. Can't teach someone who turns their brain off. It misses the target.
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If someone tells you what you SHOULD like instead of listening, then they shouldnt be looking for a parter. Because they dont deserve them
@@Erica-cf1xb men listen. we need to understand women to get them , women dont need to understand shit to get a man but they need to understand men to keep a man. Thats why so many relationships dont work. Women dont know anything about men anymore. They believe the stupid shit that feminism says about men rather than men telling them exactly what they want. Here it is in HD for everyone to see a man trying to explain it and moron woman telling him he should want what feminism tells women men want. If I say I want a hamburger and you bring me a salad dont get pissed when I throw out the salad! Feminism tells women that male minds are the same as female minds and operate on the same principles. This is absurd and false. Men dont care about your jobs, your money , your education , how popular you are in real life and or on social media ,.we care a bout fit feminine , young and friendly.
In order to meet the right person for you, there MUST be a spiritual connection and that happens once maybe twice in a lifetime.
"Spiritual connection", "Our signs are compatible", "God sent him afterter my HEALING journey", etc.
That's a very feminine view. Men on the other hand have to have an abundance mindset that there are plenty of women that he can make, nourish and foster a great connection with. It's one of the reasons why so many of our women sail ⛵ all the way into their 30's, 40s and sometimes 50s with a strong independent lifestyle having multiple relations with men. Womem only think this happens once or twice in a lifetime In reality it probably happened several times in their prime when they were in their 20's but they were told they were too young.
@@thelessons3768I agree 👍🏿
I would say then our country is spiritually dead.
Yes Rico hit nail on the head at minute 41. They want a healthy relationship with no work or effort placed on keeping it healthy. Notice when the ladies speak…it’s always “i feel”
51:37 She speaking facts!!! We gotta hold each other accountable of our influence.💯
She’s making sense. Date them all until the best candidate steps forward. Hundo doesn’t get it.
Listening to this conversation, OUR FUTURE IS DOOMED!!!
I would have to say that Rico is on point with his ig analysis. He’s dropping gems. Great episode.
Shoutout to Best Buy for selling every dude with an opinion microphones 🎤 😂 and shoutout to maybeline for allowing woman to be “influencers. Y’all the real goats 🐐
It's funny..the young lady is saying the "men who need work are talking louder than men who don't need the work. " I have two responses to that...first..ALL men still need work..the same as ALL people in the world. Secondly ...ALL women talk loud....whether they are successful or not, they ALL have an opinion about what "real men " are regardless of not being able to identify whst a real woman is..whst her roles should be in a relationship. They don't feel like they need to be accountable for anything but want to spew their issues with men. It's ridiculous. For women to say they would choose Instagram over real love and happiness..PROVES that women are followers and have a lot of issues that they choose to not identify but except a man to put up with..because that's the "principle "
I have never ever tagged my GF of 15 years in any pic on social media. Furthermore, I have never posted a pic of my girl and me, on any social-media platform.
I find it to be a stooopid idea. Men who do that are doing it for 3 reasons:
1.) Their girl forced them to do it.
2.) They think it's a flex.
3.) They want to show their girl that they love her.
Again, a stoooopid idea because it's only going to communicate to your girl that you are whipped and too invested.
Secondly, as a master pickup artist as I am, I done slayed well over a bus load of women, whom I DM'd after seeing their man posted a pick with his girl or of his girl (her name tagged in the post). Those men weren't my homies. Just folks who are friends of a friend.
The point is; posting your woman is like opening your doors to a burglar to come rob you. It's like inviting trouble. Why make it exponentially easier for men to get at your girl?
Shoutout to these women, ya’ll handled this conversation very well. 😮💨chile.
For those that have that instagram/social media mindset, they do know that it is technology. It is something that can be hacked into, shut down, or broken. What are you going to do then when your whole life revolves around it?
All my photos are backed up, I haven’t posted since January but I share memes via stories and my account is private. If I lose my account it’s really no big deal but I’ll just start a new one and add back my same photos.
Preach RICO. Period you gotta give all your attention if it’s don’t fit move on!!!
34:29 My younger self used to think insecurities were personal problems but as I got older and self reflected, that isn’t totally true. It stems from a personal thing but can easily be triggered by someone you care for. I lacked that understanding in my post relationships.Also came to realize that a man being insecure is equivalent to a women needing reassurance…
Amanda lookin fuckin great with them hundo shades on
Does anyone know what chivalry means? Chivalry is the code of Knighthood. Protect the weak (elderly, children and women), perfect your craft ( education, work, training) and be an example of virtue. It was created to benefit society and not solely women. A gentleman would be more appropriate for this conversation and it even is not centered around the woman but politeness.
Omg thank you brothas this is the realist pod I ever followed now I'm supporting everything you guys do even the beautiful black woman for knowing how to mentally understand perceive understand and communicate with us from both sides of us very open minded that's beautiful on her but the men upon bringing up serious typical topics that are aloof and set aside that needed to be addressed and brought to realization speculation and discussed
As women, we don’t have time to date one at a time. If you’re monogamous you get into ONE RELATIONSHIP AT A TIME. YOU DATE MULTIPLES.
Also, I never preach dating more than 3 at a time (2 if you have bad memory).
I have 4 daughters. I told them, if there date don't cut the car off walk his skinny jeans wearing butt up to the door knock and Introduce himself, you ain't going now or ever with him!!!!
Chivalrist acts are NOT fraud. Sure some men might do it like that, but a lot of us were raised with some level of manners. Now, MAYBE its different between cultures, white v black because the way I was raised, this wasnt done to TRICK or lie to women, but to be genuinely good men.
It's not the act. It's who's executing. That sh@t is often time not genuine. Just find a smooth way to say you tryna fuck.
He dropped the biggest gem at 53:00 mins and they missed it. Women we have control to change this whole thing around. Men will only be as disciplined as the women. Women need to close their legs and raise the standards.
Chivalry was born from the etiquet process men and women use to use. Women use to be chast. That was also part of that etiquet process.
Amazing 👌🏾 👏🏾
My parents were married at the age of 18 and 19 and were married for 60 years. Raised a doctor and a behavioral scientist.
I agree with Rico.
Dating coach started out strong, then she unraveled. Shorty to the far right just 🤐🤣🤣🤣🤣
If they don’t benefit they will never sacrifice or compromise. Listen to her speak.
Using Amanda's logic. She should have no problem with her man being a male stripper. If she got a provoke with it, it's her insecurities, not his.
He one healthy minded man. Love his positivity and live he gives to others. ❤
41:51 That part 🗣️
Amanda..... Oh Amanda.
these men were not listening to these women fr at all smh
Chivalry started with kings, dukes and other elite it was never meant for the working class
But its expected nowadays. Fuck chivalry, respect and acces to my real thought is what i should give.
And offcourse love, security and patiënts.
I agree with Cassandra, about the comments on dieing for
1:15:57 thats exactly whats happening, people arent getting married..
The marriage rate went from 76% in the 1970’s to 31% today.
That’s why y’all b single. Compromises are necessary
1:16:11 I agree. Let’s wrap this up then. 😅
The work doesn’t change. The people do.
most women told if he not doing what you want him to get a new man.
The conversation about giving up ig for love, the girls are right. See what women don’t seem to understand is IF you want a relationship with a man that knows his worth, you must be ready and willing. Women hold the key to s3x. Men hold the key to relationship. So, if ig is the b line for her, you gotta let her go. If you hold your boundaries, hopefully you find someone to match them. It has nothing to do with insecurities. They buggin with that word
It's the addiction and access. Wide open for women. When they say "it goes down in the DM/inbox" it does. When you are special and treat yourself like YOU matter to you and God...The response be different and the selection. If she is addicted...Whatever is there is standing in the way. That's what the issue is and there is so much misinformation, rumors, smear campaigns...it's gonna drive people nuts. For a Holy Marriage to work...there has to be a trust fall. People are triggering each other because they study TF out of the person to sucker punch them where it hurts and snuggle. Say they just playing. Nope. The world is hurting bad right now
At minute 45, yall don’t want the real. The minute men speak up they’re shunned.
I like Cassandra. ❤
Preach sista!
I feel for the brother trying to date shorty with blond hair. Omg. Power to him
yea, she is a future baby moma.
Amanda will never be happily married. She's warped
A woman doesn’t lead she chooses then a man leads from there.
I agree with the lady seating next to Rico
30:38 It hurts those that are in the program, so its a measure of if their in timing. One of my brothers who barely graduated high school called me stupid growing up, honor roll. 😊 I guess it depends on how you feel about yourself and understanding the causes and effects of what happens in your life and accepting responsibility for ones self. We are all apart of our fortunes or misfortunes and everything in between. Your broke, you got fired (you did something or victim to economic changes). You quit, whatever the reason, you are in there. I struggled with a guy thinking i was a terrible person. Still my fault, accepted relationship too fast and did not get to know anyone around him. Later the way they communicate i didnt understand. He was older, much smarter than I was, his ex older too, so I came off immature and indignant and lazy. His ex, he sang her praises as far as her home, his mom was like her place is immaculate. I was not good time management he said. His friends i think pressured him of why he left old girl, didnt know me, therefore couldnt trust me was the vibes I felt. His sister said I hate his previous kids. So when he left I understood his reasoning. I would leave me too.
All he’s saying is women have to set the tone.
She’s saying both men and women have to set the tone.
We cannot control what 100% of what women do. So essentially, THAT WILL NEVER HAPPEN.
We might get further if we both encouraged each other to do better.
People that seek outside validation did not receive it from their parents. So long before social media a person needs the nurturing from home.
They talking about Instagram. What if it goes away then you are forced to something else anyway…geez
We’ll just adapt. We’re humans. That’s what we do. 😊
Also I hope all this social media would disappear one day but they making too much money off of us using it, then to end it. “When the product is free, it’s you that’s the product”.
Don’t conflate dating with sex. Dating multiple people should not include sex. Men have this misconception.
I agree with Rico at this point
10:40 Homeboy had a simpin moment. Shorty was spot on. Leave something to the imagination. Plus he mixed up Loyalty and Faithfulness. They aren't synonymous. BOTTOM LINE: Women are much more interested in new attn then a real relationship. *Meanwhile Rico was spot on as usual. CHICKS WERE BIIIG LYING ABOUT THEIR MAN'S LIKE BEING MORE VITAL
My cousin can’t DM me? That’s ridiculous.
Me speaking personally I don't like when people attribute a HUMAN experience to just one particular gender. Both men and women can you earn for attention and validation outside of their support systems and relationships. I'm tired of these guys acting like women on Instagram are the only ones craving attention when I see just as many shirtless greased up muscle men jiggling their pec and licking watermelon on Instagram too. I think everybody is entitled to a little bit of grace. We can never come to an agreement of the sexes if we keep throwing these archaic and non equivalent labels on genders every time we get into this conversation. It would serve us well to just take everything on a case-by-case basis and an individual by individual basis. I love that we're having these discussions but it's the same thing all the time. Even if they're not talking about "all men" or "all women", generalizations based on gender and ethnic groups are still harmful and do not get to the root of the issue.
when we can see majority of people mostly women begging for attention
Nobody should dictate what’s good for another, period. You can’t impose what you would do. Next thing you would do is telling me I can’t go outside. Any man that tries to dictate a woman’s moves need to do some self reflection and figure out why that bothers him.
Same can be said for women who try to control men but y’all not trying to talk about that. Women only care about what they want and need. That’s why so many women suck at being with a man. Me culture is crazy
then stay single cause you can say the same for a man you wouldnt tell im keep that female friend thats been trowing him the pusy
I agree with the ladies on this! They are absolutely correct with their analysis!!
You can't expect to make buffet your eating style but looking to live on one dish. It's a set up for failure.
Ima say this it’s very important to have your family meet who ever u may be dating my sister was dating someone we knew nothing about fr she secretly went and married him and he killed her six months layer
So a man telling the women what they thinknof dating and the women saying no the men should be this way. Best believe women keep women single
That’s the problem. You should DATE one woman. At a time. Dating is different from sleeping with.
No date multiple people. That doesn't mean sleep with all of them
11:42 I believe their haters. I could understand someones Dad or brothers, or dude calling them out. Other than that weird or just haters.
1:20:00 women would the experience guy over the virgin guy. Men choose the virgin. Isn’t that something!
1:16:28 this same woman just said the love of a spouse is not worth a digital app. Maybe no one should get married if they are not worth an app. A man Hass to be willing to lay down his life for his woman and family but a woman can see Instagram is more important.
these IG worshipers running circles around these men with their easy to poke through predictable arguments. RIP Kevin Samuels. We miss you and your ability to see through these dumb arguments not be gaslit in the process. We need more high IQ men who can see these talking points a mile away and shut it down with logic
Finally someone with common sense. These guys are soft
The lady in the yellow top and Amanda are correct.
Wow is being a good woman really rare?? I consider myself a good woman, 2 boyfriends in my life my body count is 3, i consider myself atractive, secc is 🙏🏼 Im an excelente mother. I treat my man special every day, i can really cook. Im ride or die. My options have gone unlimited and im 100% faithful to my sons father, always have been . I work, ive been through all his ups and downs. Deal with all his baby moms. We go half and half on bills. Money means nothing to me. I would rather have someone really be down for me 100% and build up with me than a shopping spree. Sadly 3 years later im still getting cheated on .Yet he says he only loves me. He doesnt mean to cheat on me he just cant help it sometimes:
I know any man would be happy to have me. There are real woman who have held their men down 100% without even entertaining . And still dont get appreciated.
Them lies knocking on them doors and I’m gts 😅
The reason why she’s lying and that she would actually be more upset if other men thought she was ugly vs more upset if her man thought she was ugly is because women are survival creatures. If she knows that her whole survival is on this one man and let’s admit most women want more no matter how much you give them. This means biologically she’s not very safe in the world and that signals unhappiness
So this is a sword situation. Everything from the person that you desire/love touches you. Most don't have experience with different kinds of people in different ways. There are ways to learn people, however nobody wants to peel back the layer. If the lover calls the other ugly...thats a problem. Doesn't mean it's the other person's job to accept/reject. Most people don't communicate very well. It could mean the behavior of the person is ugly, it could mean the physical, or just saying something to be spiteful. Some will say mean things just to "keep you humble"...Don't think you will do better without me mindset...it actually speaks from a place of deep insecurities. They won't say that part.
I don’t won’t to Know a Woman’s Truth if I am being honest. 🚪
Your life partner you actually do.
3:25 "Men shouldn't generalize.
Then she proceeds to go on a generalization tirade. 😂😂😂
Women past the wall are clueless on basic gender dynamics.
Green shirt dude doesn’t know how to properly have this convo. He kept saying things that gave ammo to counter his position. Smh.
Men need ti use more decrement in picking women.
we do and its a problem
12:38 Not true. Just because you watch tv or listen to the radio at least my view. Thought about the business or law field because dad said sister who i didnt know was getting her law degree and raved about how smart she was. Ended up in safety...lol, recommended by dad.
It's funny how women foght for the rights to work, sexual liberation, the feminist movement but yet still wants to blame men for the outcome.
Have men take on more self control.
I'm not sure if the men were being purposely obtuse for the show or if it's real and they can't understand on the whole ig thing.
love aint enough for us men < women they dont understand Rico you got a point insta vs love
Rico doesn’t watch pro sports. Now tell me who are the more competitors?
These guys are telling yellow n she’s like no 🤦🏽♂️
Blondie seems tuff to deal with. Prayers to her man 😂😂😂
She’s likes women 🤣
Lady in the yellow sounds smart but her point 🤦🏽♂️
Was on the women’s side initially but the more they talked the less sense they made.
Women are not giving up social media for their man . They are addicted to the attention
Yoh when is Andrews Tate coming to the show
Whew this episode was stressful. I can’t believe society has come to this , I would definitely choose a healthy happy relationship /marriage over instagram anyday - are black men worth fighting for honestly I be wanting to throw in the white towel but imma keep hope alive and I know good men still exist! I have read that woman should at least date 3-5 depending on capacity….. but most woman aren’t sleeping with all the men in their roster , most men are sleeping with all the woman in there roster !
It's definitely a mix and people are testing the waters by connecting their bodies. People are basically learning nothing as they collect. People are becoming very resistant to the real reality because to face that is the real hard work.
why you not courting who you fucking, if you dont believe he is the one then keep legs close, if all women doing the same who are men fucking
It's simple, because bw don't respect themselves. Do your research
YALL NEED TO INVITE PRINCELLA THE QUEENMAKER ON YOUR SHOW. IF YALL DO PLEASE HAVE THOSE TWO MEN ON THAT DAY..... LETS GO!!
Why are u a man advocating for a known misandrist to be given a platform.
So one of these guys judged a man based on his followers. You are now a weirdo if you have only 87 followers and follow 2,000 people? Sounds like this dude is part of the problem - making the amount of social media followers the standard. That whole rant was immature.
I’m sorry for the men she’s coaching 🤦🏽♂️
100:09 is not what they’re talking about 🤦🏽♂️. I’m done
🤣🤣🤣🤣... this is logical fallacy.... "asking ur partner to give up something isn't a healthy relationship..."🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣... the whole concept of a relationship is sacrificing some things u have for something better u desire......
Seems they want men to make the sacrifices and they just do what they want....🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣... and they complain about being single...
The guys always shifted one topic to a different topic and added different scenarios.
To choose anything over love is foolish because if you don’t have love you don’t have nothing ain’t that what the word of god says. I mean even if you not religious you should still be able to understand that real love is everything you have rich in poor people committing suicide because of the lack of self love, or they can’t find nobody that love them for them. I can go on in on how important in powerful love is let’s just say love cover a multitude of sins.
Get ya passports fellas
It's called "home training". Sad.. This generation is truly lost.
Rico is talking about poor people. Man or women want more than nothing.
She’s talking about 1 man not she see a lot of men 🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️
Dude sounding insecure lol
The audio is trash.. L producers lol
Fellas NEVER listen to a chick that cant keep their hands still while talking SMH