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  • Often times you will see the narcissist leave and move on to a new person and a new supply. When this happens you will see it as a great relationship which will often put doubts in your mind that it was all your fault, not the narcissist. Why does it seem like the next person is so much better?
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  • @jayblaze4490
    @jayblaze4490 2 роки тому +172

    😅 please narcissist people do not know what happiness is number one .. number two is they don't get in relationships they get in situationships.. trust me when they drain the life of the new supply they will ghost them too.. it's a repeated cycle with them.. I'm sorry for anybody that had to deal with one.. I'm still recovering myself & it's been months.. Get out while you can

    • @susanmcmahon4733
      @susanmcmahon4733 2 роки тому +23

      TOTALLY AGREE they will NEVER KNOW HAPPINESS AND CONTENTMENT, they constantly in search for PERFECT SUPPLY and no one is PERFECT, all you can do is LAUGH they are pathetic extremely damaged and by no means PERFECT they are liars and cheats but they looking for the perfect partner, its sooo twisted and SICK RUN RUN RUN.

    • @maluisaalonso5439
      @maluisaalonso5439 2 роки тому +8

      Me im surprised one day in the morning i suddenly felt nothing for him from 17 years with him,and i just realized im in narsicissm relationship

    • @maluisaalonso5439
      @maluisaalonso5439 2 роки тому

      True he is dating somebody but its still giving me money😊

    • @bridgesbridges7179
      @bridgesbridges7179 2 роки тому

      Me too and they both have me gang stalked when I quietly left last year.

    • @bridgesbridges7179
      @bridgesbridges7179 2 роки тому

      @@maluisaalonso5439 waiting on such day

  • @tickety-bootoyou1850
    @tickety-bootoyou1850 2 роки тому +31

    Narcissistic cycle: Love Bomb, Devaluation, Discard, Next Person. Wash, rinse, repeat.

    • @pei-hsuanli6017
      @pei-hsuanli6017 9 місяців тому +3

      A narcissists happy with new supply? Yes ourse because she doesn't know his personality behaviours,he is a hypocrite . The narcissists looking for an invulnerable or alone person to abuses and isolated her by his own toys.

  • @SassyDiva53
    @SassyDiva53 2 роки тому +51

    You know what it is? It's not so much that you want them back, it's just how they go about the exit

    • @TheMoonGlitters
      @TheMoonGlitters 9 місяців тому +4

      I agree 💯 my thoughts exactly … that’s exactly why they do it this way! Otherwise you’d move on in no time.

  • @jannlewandowski5540
    @jannlewandowski5540 2 роки тому +58

    You are spot on! My ex met a new woman, WITH MONEY" and married her 2 weeks after our breakup of 5 YEARS...I saw him once, he saw me and began to stroke her face. I acted like I didn't see him. He married her. I believe he's also using her the way he used me. He was a MONSTER to me when I broke up with him. He was shocked! You don't ask someone to marry you and Don't intend to marry them. I suffered for over a year getting over him. This was 10 yrs ago, and I'm fine now.

  • @adriennedouke1880
    @adriennedouke1880 2 роки тому +73

    Narcissists will also use this love bombing phase on social media to drive and twist that knife a little deeper by doing all the things with the new supply that you wanted to do with them but never did. They know exactly what they are doing and how to maximize the pain. Best advice: Go No Contact-You really don't want to know anyway.

    • @susanmcmahon4733
      @susanmcmahon4733 2 роки тому +12

      They do this intentionally don't even look its sooo childish and thank your lucky stars that your away from all that nonsense , honestly in time you will just laugh and see its just SAD WHY THESE PEOPLE ARE NOT MATURE ADULTS, I look at my narcissist ex husband as a WOUNDED WOUNDED LITTLE BOY, look after yourself you deserve sooo much BETTER.

    • @bridgesbridges7179
      @bridgesbridges7179 2 роки тому

      Happened to me FUCK THEM both and I Mean it. I want the stalking to stop.

    • @blix_xo
      @blix_xo 2 роки тому +3

      That is definitely something what I put my foot down on wanting to know anything. Why am I going to anger myself when knowing thats exactly what they are doing. I figured their game and I wasn't crazy knowing the manipulated the situation to make me jealous and they said no. Nah, my boy, I figured your tactic. I was waking up which likely lead to the destruction of what we had had. A blessing in disguise.

    • @geethakrishnan9857
      @geethakrishnan9857 2 роки тому +1

      Yesss true. They are very cunning

    • @prettyboymcfly
      @prettyboymcfly Рік тому +4

      Yea mines turned into to the complete opposite person of who I was dating.... It was a total mind fxck ... Knowing what I know now about narcissist makes me realize she just inherited the personality that her new supply has ... she has no self identity of what SHE likes , ONLY what the current supply is into nothing more nothing less ....

  • @ashleyg4299
    @ashleyg4299 2 роки тому +52

    He is giving her everything he never gave me. It’s hard to not be hurt by it because all I think about is why he never gave me any of that. He’s now blocked because I don’t wanna see any of it.

    • @GangstalkingReality
      @GangstalkingReality 2 роки тому +15

      He never gave you that because it was on purpose. They try to study your likes and dislikes. Your likes primarily to withhold them so they can get supply and control. Your dislikes to trigger you . Now he is giving her what he didn’t give you because he knows you will be watching that’s why he does it

    • @mrtwister9002
      @mrtwister9002 2 роки тому +11

      Love bombing will occur at first. You can be sure that eventually they will devalue the new supply.
      Its all part of the game.

    • @mrtwister9002
      @mrtwister9002 2 роки тому

      @@GangstalkingReality
      Dr. Ramani talks about situations like that.
      Can't be easy. She has good content as well. You may get something out of it. My sister has narcissistic traits as well. After my mom died, I stopped talking to her. Couldn't deal with her hurtful comments anymore. Hope you find something better.

    • @mcchickenmuhchicken
      @mcchickenmuhchicken 2 роки тому +13

      remember no matter what he does for the new girl its going to end the same. Mine never even took me on a proper date but proposed to the next on their 2nd date and took her on a trip to europe and around the country.....it ended after he was caught cheating for the last time, they never change. They may do more or less for the n ew supply depending on what it takes to trap them in their web.

    • @ashleyg4299
      @ashleyg4299 2 роки тому +11

      @@mcchickenmuhchicken you’re right, but I still think about it. Wish I didn’t. He actually has contacted me quite a few times via email. The last email I got said “I’m not happy here”. Well, so sorry! That’s what you chose! They are really good at putting on a show!

  • @nettom7575
    @nettom7575 2 роки тому +99

    Exactly what I endured after a 21-year marriage. Having to admit that I was married to myself the entire time. He just walked away like it was nothing. Hurt me to the core; not him leaving, but the emotionless way he left.

    • @jennyshepperson3916
      @jennyshepperson3916 2 роки тому +10

      That sound like my story too. All the best. Take care ❤

    • @confusedwhynot
      @confusedwhynot 2 роки тому +11

      I'm in a 32 year marriage and he left like I was nothing. I don't think he ever loved me.

    • @jennyshepperson3916
      @jennyshepperson3916 2 роки тому +9

      @@confusedwhynot I'm so sorry to hear. Hope you holding up ok. Don't dwell too much on what went wrong, please plot and plan your next step, what you going to do. Just start to look for you and embrace you, love you. It took me 4 mths to realized that he never loved me after he left. Today, I don't want to see or talk to him. He is JW religion and still practice his faith as if he did nothing wrong. He left 6 months ago and moved in with his mom. Even she, is part of all of this. But I grew back closer to my family and I am not looking back. All the best and take care.

    • @nettom7575
      @nettom7575 2 роки тому +5

      Thank you all so much for your understanding. I'm just seeing the responses which is why I'm just now responding so please 4give me. I've learned to be big on sticking together if anyway possible because , and from my experiences in life only, sticking together is just something not done by so many...
      I had to take a long, hard look at myself in order to retain exactly why I accepted so much devaluation from some1. It really does source from our upbringings. Our rearing. Those who were responsible for my well being failed me in some way causing me, as a child, to protect myself. I chose to please😞. I'm Working On Self Daily. Thanks for listening...
      Blessings and Well Wishes To All❤...

    • @amorfati8084
      @amorfati8084 2 роки тому +3

      Same for me after 13years

  • @patburns5086
    @patburns5086 2 роки тому +40

    I never made it out of the lovebombing stage. My oldest daughter was suspicious of her told me she was a bad person. I didn't listen, because I was so in love with her. So long story short a fake Facebook account was set up as a man and it proved that she was dating multiple men and we were all side pieces. She was upset for a couple of days and immediately had another supply. Luckily I've been no contact with her going 6 months strong and she has stayed away. She is happy with her new supply and isn't concerned about me and isn't hoovering wow bullet dodged.

    • @prettyboymcfly
      @prettyboymcfly Рік тому

      How has it been going... has she tried hoovering you

  • @russellj.s.257
    @russellj.s.257 2 роки тому +36

    What they don't realize is they are hurting themselves as they hurt others and could possibly be putting themselves in harm's way. Such as STDs,stalking,rape because they really don't know what that other person's mindset,they could meet their match because the new supply can be narcissists themselves.

    • @rosestewart50
      @rosestewart50 2 роки тому +2

      Mine is heading that way he cheated with this unattractive woman he butt dial.me by accident I hear it all her saying how last guy broke her heart and she loves spending money on men 🙄 I throw my husband out and 5 weeks after they had sex she rent uhaul move him in her home buy him a truck mind you he has no drivers license loan insurance etc. All in her name lol All in 5 weeks time.

  • @KG-ec4zz
    @KG-ec4zz Рік тому +8

    "It's not what you did. It's who they are... Sometimes it's easier to blame yourself than it is to admit that someone came into your life and hurt you and abused you and cheated on you and then walked away and they didn't care."

  • @kalifornia4745
    @kalifornia4745 Рік тому +10

    I can verify this even with my ex that isn’t a malignant narcissist. She is highly narcissistic and how our relationship looked on social media was not the truth. It was a total facade. We had amazing times, too, don’t get me wrong, but no one would have ever known from social media that our relationship had so much toxicity.

  • @salt1984
    @salt1984 2 роки тому +18

    This is so true. My ex's previous relationship lasted a year-and-a-half. Then we met and we dated for two and a half years. And his relationship after me lasted three and a half years. The Narcissist does get a little smarter with each fake relationship in keeping someone in their game

  • @eusebiasantiago2715
    @eusebiasantiago2715 2 роки тому +9

    It’s not fair how they treat people and play with their heart and mind. It’s crazy how they play victim. Mean while those who were in these types of relationships are mentally messed up.🙄

  • @Lantern66
    @Lantern66 2 роки тому +42

    The statement at 5:40 is spot on. I also thought it was easier to blame myself as I could potentially fix me and then fix the situation.

  • @marydellgeorge2425
    @marydellgeorge2425 2 роки тому +5

    Before I knew he was A Narcissist
    I had a plan to leave earth. So
    Glad I am a child of God
    It's God's timing
    I blamed myself
    But it was him
    All along

  • @beverlytaylor1745
    @beverlytaylor1745 2 роки тому +47

    And you say you don't have empathy? That was delivered with what I would call heartfelt concern. 🤗 You are excellent at what you do! 🌟🌟🌟

    • @qitae
      @qitae 2 роки тому +10

      Isn't that how narcissists get us hooked with their mask?

    • @amalie.eugenie
      @amalie.eugenie 2 роки тому +5

      @@qitae that's what I was thinking. Dr. Ramani said they can often fake empathy when it benefits them and that's definitely true for the ones I knew

    • @evonne315
      @evonne315 2 роки тому

      Theres actually a good video by Dr. Grande where he explains the two different kinds of empathy and how narcissists have only one of them. So yes narcissistic people do have empathy but its not emotional its more cognitive.

    • @beverlytaylor1745
      @beverlytaylor1745 2 роки тому +1

      @@evonne315 Hello! Thank you for your very interesting reply. I will look into that. Have a wonderful rest of your day.🌷

    • @evonne315
      @evonne315 2 роки тому +1

      @@beverlytaylor1745 It is interesting, and also he explains how a person can be be both Narcissitic and Borderline, which this cognitive empathy makes sense with Borderlienes as well. I think my ex was both. I was always confused he had so many symptoms. Its nice to have clarity though. The hard part is letting go.

  • @lisetteruiz6581
    @lisetteruiz6581 2 роки тому +5

    Run, block, ghost, no contact.. repeat .. Great mantra 👍🏽

  • @SalvadorHernandez-to2gq
    @SalvadorHernandez-to2gq 8 місяців тому +2

    Narcissist will ALWAYS get what they sow! Believe me on that, I can attest to that just by simply looking at what happened and is happening to the ex Narc! And the saddest part about all this is that it's an ongoing repeated cycle with them that goes on and on and on!

  • @cherrybacon3319
    @cherrybacon3319 2 роки тому +17

    There was one common denominator that was obvious in all his relationships that stood out, especially if they argued. HIM! It's too much of a coincidence that myself and the Ex-Partners he had that I knew about, all of us having different backgrounds and lifestyles, wouldn't last long with him, nomatter who did the discarding. 🍒

  • @Mocheesemoeugene
    @Mocheesemoeugene 2 роки тому +17

    These platforms for narcissists in treatment affords unsurmountable amounts of supply and adoration and attention. But I guess the lesser of the two evils , we are all being educated towards healing. My prayers are with you bro may God have mercy on you and reward you according to your heart.BLEZZ#KEEP DA CHANGE

  • @shaheeda
    @shaheeda Рік тому +3

    They are not hapoy, they are faking until they get bored and find another. And so on and so on.

  • @Pikminization
    @Pikminization 2 роки тому +5

    This is the hardest part. To realized that it was all fake. 8 years of my life, waited 6 years to proposed to me. It was such a cute amazing proposal and in very meaningful way, they he knew would mean everything to me. Why? Was that fake too? Why? Why would he get out of it? It was all fake, those sand castles. His mistress said that if she was going to carry his baby, she needed to be married and no divorce, like to stay married. I asked for the same thing. He knew how afraid I was of the word divorce. She is trash, a very trashy woman, way to far down from my level. But why? Why do I feel that she is better?’why do they talk about me and laught at me in my back? I’m going through divorce and some of the friends I met through him became my friends. How can I eliminate the risk to know anything about him? Thanks a lot for this channel. It is helping me to see a tiny little light. Thanks for your words.

  • @MichaelSmith-jz7xg
    @MichaelSmith-jz7xg 2 роки тому +7

    It won’t last. None of their relationships do. I’ll be interested to see how he crawls back like the worm he is. I just need to resist the inevitable hoover when it comes.

  • @susanmcmahon4733
    @susanmcmahon4733 2 роки тому +30

    More knowledge the more I see the games are all soooo CHILDISH I feel nothing but pity for the new supply, DON'T BUY INTO IT see it for what it is, its actually funny seeing them knowing that you don't have to put up with it ANYMORE.

    • @emmaharper860
      @emmaharper860 2 роки тому

      Absolutely💯

    • @maluisaalonso5439
      @maluisaalonso5439 2 роки тому

      True

    • @karriesaunders8597
      @karriesaunders8597 2 роки тому +1

      Whoever it is on his partners site is joining in so I don’t care what happens to them,if they find abuse funny I hope they get loads of it and the rage

  • @daisyseedsower
    @daisyseedsower Рік тому +4

    Yes much easier to blame self, because we can’t understand someone CAN be evil and cruel on purpose

  • @emmaharper860
    @emmaharper860 2 роки тому +10

    I believe once you realize what it was you were dealing with,you shouldn't care what it's doing and if we were good enough because we were. and bless the next soul they make it out.😒🤥

  • @daisygordon6931
    @daisygordon6931 2 роки тому +12

    Thank you! Really wish I had this information years ago. I fell into a deep depression from what he did to me. He checks every category of a narcissist. So happy to get my healing and understanding

  • @lindseyh1912
    @lindseyh1912 2 роки тому +16

    Thank you so much! He’s doing all the things I wanted with her. We are neighbors. I can’t not see. Thank you.

    • @levellecoggins3381
      @levellecoggins3381 2 роки тому +1

      I was in a 14 year relationship with a narc I stayed thru multiply cheating mental and emotional abuse we are also neighbors we don't rent so I can't move I wish I never had to see or interact with him ever!!

    • @anniewright3233
      @anniewright3233 Рік тому

      He lives and few houses away. I can see that he's had someone there.
      In the early days, we had a chat when I was bothered how he was spending more time away from me at the weekends.
      One thing that he said was ' I don't want to sound rude, but you don't seem to know when to go home'.
      I'd only spent one weekend with him in all of the time that we were together.
      He said that after spending an evening and to the next afternoon.
      I spent days away at mine, inbetween an evening at his. He wasn't even spending the time with his son like he said.

  • @GloriaGonzalez-zz4wp
    @GloriaGonzalez-zz4wp Рік тому +3

    Thank you so much for this video sir I loved it and it's true yes I'm moving on focus on me and thank you again

  • @carol-xk3lq
    @carol-xk3lq 2 роки тому +2

    It's not what we did, but what they are. Oh yes💫

  • @reginabroughan6483
    @reginabroughan6483 2 роки тому +3

    Came into my life and hurt me lied to me cheated on me for 28 years he stole my life and now im the crazy one my advice is trust no one again 💔 😔

  • @ly5142
    @ly5142 2 роки тому +5

    No, he took all my money to spend on the new supply to post on FB, when I didn't even receive birthday gifts. But yes, he lives for FB "Likes", alcohol, party, praise and adoration from strangers. Perfecting the CRAFT is right. He is from a very dark evil place I wasn't aware of. He ran away from his past so he could start new with new victims. It's all a creation of himself as Mr Wonderful Success to the outside world, and he derives great pleasure from abuse and hurting in secret those closest to him.

  • @958342
    @958342 2 роки тому +5

    There is a narcissist that I had heard of who married a 2nd wife behind the back of the first one whilst they were seperated. Obviously the 2nd was not a legal marriage because it is against the law in the UK. When the first wife found out, to twist the knife even more, he sent her some wedding celebratory sweets to her. Because she was not home at the time he came over, he left the sweets with her direct neighbour as to humiliate her doubly through the neighbour. What a piece of work!!

  • @itsafantakis
    @itsafantakis 2 роки тому +4

    Thank you for this video because my exhusband looks like he’s treating her better than he did me, the mother of his children ……. My ex boyfriend too, it looks like he’s treating new supply better too….

  • @honestlyhonestly1770
    @honestlyhonestly1770 2 роки тому +4

    He moved in with new supply but I know that he eventually will do the same to her that he did to me. Ive seen how he treats people from family, friends, to acquaintances and strangers. He is incapable of loving, respecting anybody. Everything is about them all the time and all he does is lie.

  • @heavenlyprecog23
    @heavenlyprecog23 2 роки тому +3

    He’s “happy” because he can manipulate this chick and I’m sure she’s younger…he couldn’t manipulate me anymore and he knows that so that’s why he stays away…whoever he’s with has NO IDEA what ride she’s on rn 🤦🏾‍♀️ 🤦🏾‍♀️ 🤦🏾‍♀️ …

  • @evonne315
    @evonne315 2 роки тому +8

    Very timely for me today, thank you for this. I still can't help but look back with rose colored glasses. I think the reality is it was so horrific what he got away with its still super hard for me to face. I can't change it. All I can do is understand what happened and move forward with lessons learned, thankful I found out what was really going on and had the choice to move on. Some don't get that choice.

  • @SueRigby-nl5on
    @SueRigby-nl5on 5 місяців тому +1

    Absolutely the truth 💯👌

  • @suzymurray9720
    @suzymurray9720 21 день тому

    The no contact 😊saved me ❤

  • @pamelakelley5535
    @pamelakelley5535 2 роки тому +3

    He had closed his FB account for sometime. Then I got this feeling he had been looking at my account and a man I had been talking to for several weeks just up and ghosted me for no reason. So yesterday I searched for him and behold there he was at South Beach with his new supply looking miserable as she probably didn't realize because she doesn't have all his expressions down yet. I blocked him completely. It was a show for my benefit.

  • @traceyperry9239
    @traceyperry9239 2 роки тому +8

    You are literally saving my life. Im watching all ur vids. Have watched 100’s others on narcs. So many good resources but You’re the only one who’s gotten through to me so I can finally let go and walk away.
    Thank you 🙏

  • @Dee-xs5yy
    @Dee-xs5yy 2 роки тому +1

    So important to cut them off completely to prevent seeing the love bombing.

  • @alexiss7403
    @alexiss7403 2 роки тому +23

    Thank you so much Ben for all the content you have been putting out. It’s helped me so much to understand what I endured and to have the strength to continue no contact. It’s made me feel much stronger and more resilient. Keep doing what you’re doing. I know it’s helping so many of us out here.

    • @RawMotivations
      @RawMotivations  2 роки тому

      Thank you. That is good to hear and really encouraging. thank you for sharing.

  • @LG-ly7pw
    @LG-ly7pw Рік тому +1

    Love your videos Ben! You’re a good polished speaker

  • @pamchapin1845
    @pamchapin1845 2 роки тому +1

    You should be proud of yourself for sharing your knowledge. They don't live in reality because they can't face it make believe is better for them. They can't deal with reality or emotions too painful. They suffer alot 😪 and never feel it was you !

  • @cpet5048
    @cpet5048 2 роки тому +4

    Ben is 100% right everyone!
    I made no contact for almost 1 year (time flown by)...my ex met someone last year until last week my ex texted me to say hi. I didn't respond. If he was in love and life with the new partner going very well why on earth would he text me?!?! Does the new partner know her man texting his ex? The answer is no!
    I was confused as to how did the idiot managed to get through my blocked WhatsApp. Only to find out blocking is a waste of F - -king time. They can cancel their WhatsApp account and reinstall it again to call you. The best way is to change your number.

    • @LG-ly7pw
      @LG-ly7pw Рік тому

      Wow I didn’t know this about WhatsApp

  • @1401chan
    @1401chan 2 роки тому +11

    Thank you. With the holidays I have to admit that I have been wanting to reach out. I haven't, I danced it out and changed my phone number instead. Now I don't have his number anymore. But it's been a few rough days.
    Your videos help me to get through.
    Happy holidays!

  • @peacefaith560
    @peacefaith560 2 роки тому +6

    he treated me better then the old supply..they never new !! its not you its the narc , he wanted to control me and think for me... so I discarded !!

  • @ormacain3198
    @ormacain3198 2 роки тому +1

    Thank u thank u,u are most helpful

  • @marydellgeorge2425
    @marydellgeorge2425 2 роки тому +3

    You do a great job
    Thank you for being
    Here
    It's hard like you said
    To admit that someone
    Would want to be mean
    And do bad things
    To you
    It's totally embarrassing
    Is what it is. Shame is
    What I'm going through
    Kept going back to him
    I did not know he was
    A Narcissist no
    I was too nice too big
    Of a heart
    Took a long time
    It took his new supply to
    Inform me about it
    I discovered she is
    3 things
    New Supply
    Flying monkey
    And a
    True Narcissist

  • @deb2319
    @deb2319 2 роки тому +1

    Excellently Articulated. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and being of service to others. Peace To All.

  • @williamikewun7874
    @williamikewun7874 2 роки тому +2

    Thank u for this, exactly what am going through..

  • @miabrisson733
    @miabrisson733 2 роки тому +2

    You are a blessing, what a change in you, i hug you!

  • @lornahemsley9150
    @lornahemsley9150 2 роки тому +2

    Please talk about the covert narcissist while in a relationship

  • @yoki1777
    @yoki1777 2 роки тому +9

    Thank you for making these videos!! It really helps so much!! Thank you!!! 🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @dawnserrano737
    @dawnserrano737 2 роки тому +7

    Never, ever..happy..no matter..

  • @Safestreet
    @Safestreet 2 роки тому +1

    Great advice - I ran in to my ex narc this weekend with his new supply. It was a really awkward encounter...this video helped

  • @cherrybacon3319
    @cherrybacon3319 2 роки тому +2

    I keep my Ex blocked to prevent him triggering me and emotionally abusing me to get a response to give him supply. Sooner or later he would say something to hurt or annoy me and I'd have to have the strength of God to not react. 🍒

  • @Crystalblue58
    @Crystalblue58 10 місяців тому

    I am out for over 15 years. Was in for 13 and not married. He married his new supply in 6 months. He then proceeded to ruin her career like a hungry cheetah.

  • @juliechurch1799
    @juliechurch1799 2 роки тому +3

    Hello Ben your doing incredibly well . Keep it up then you be one of us an empath .

  • @veral2274
    @veral2274 Рік тому +3

    Saw my narc ex yesterday with the supply he cheated on me with and discarded me for. Only 8 months have elapsed but he looks 8 years older and ill.

  • @marydellgeorge2425
    @marydellgeorge2425 2 роки тому +1

    I truly learn from listening
    To you
    Thank you for being here
    You bring up so many
    Points that are vital
    Tp know dealing with
    This

  • @nad1959
    @nad1959 2 роки тому +1

    They are only lucky the time the supply doesnt see the bullshit, abuse, etc.

  • @blossom3468
    @blossom3468 2 роки тому +1

    Blocking is mental protection...Thank you!!
    Your video is brilliant and I love your delivery, very much appreciated this morning

  • @brendapokorny326
    @brendapokorny326 2 роки тому +3

    You are a really great communicator. Thank you. Keep up the good work.

  • @janicemurphy4373
    @janicemurphy4373 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you so very much 😌😌😌👍👍👍👍👍

  • @marias8370
    @marias8370 2 роки тому +1

    BEST ADVICE E.V.E.R!

  • @lsohweldfab6575
    @lsohweldfab6575 2 роки тому +2

    When a narcissist gets you triggered it's to hang on to you it's to push you away to make you chase them. When they realize you're on to their game it won't be long and you'll be free again. You may wonder what happened why you couldn't help this person but the fact of the matter is you cannot. Move on be free

  • @radhakavipurapu432
    @radhakavipurapu432 2 роки тому +2

    Absolutely right

  • @td2968
    @td2968 2 роки тому +1

    With narcs...it's the same shit different person !

  • @charlawatkins2932
    @charlawatkins2932 2 роки тому

    Great job. People need so much help with this

  • @pcs9016
    @pcs9016 2 роки тому +2

    We all serve a different purpose. So the needs are different and the narcissist or the Cluster B types do what they need to do to whomever for the gains. But we all go through the same cycle. Most recent ex psychopath didn't have a type but myself and the other few women who are independent he didn't do anything financially for us. For the women who struggled some financially he assisted, but he gained more power and control over them. Some of us actually gave financial support to him when he came to us stating he was in need of assistance. Turns out he was using the money for the other women who were in need. Or he used the money on the woman he was grooming. Another woman was only called for se* nothing else. Another he courted as though they were literally in a relationship. She worked so much, she only saw him on the wknd but thought she was the only one. He met her family as well. She was devastated. The other woman of 10 yrs, a nurse, saw him 2 times a wk and had NO clue about anyone else. The other was just for kicks and fun when both had time. Another woman stated they were only friends but exploded when she found out about the others. Then...I find out he is still married. None of the women knew this. He told everyone he was divorced. I was the one who cared for him in every way from unconditional love, providing financial support even though he is a medical professional I still gave, cooked for him, cleaned, we did all the other things like a couple would but it still wasn't enough. The woman of 10 yrs stated to me that she wished he had done those things with her. Here I was wanting some of the stuff he did with her. He only gave bits and pieces, just enough to keep us around. The clever but not so clever psychopath. Now we can breathe and are free...
    Thank you for the videos and keeping it real/honest🙏

  • @ceciliaeriksson7675
    @ceciliaeriksson7675 2 роки тому +1

    Absolutely awesome! Thank you so much😊.

  • @user-ny6xl8jc1h
    @user-ny6xl8jc1h 2 роки тому +4

    How long till they treat the new supply badly like they were treating me
    Its been many years the new supply is still with them

    • @branighabrewer2650
      @branighabrewer2650 2 роки тому +5

      Many times the new supply can't find a way to get out. It takes around 7 times of trying to leave to actually leave. Narcs push them away and pull back with promises to do or be better and they never do. Some partners stay to save face because they lost everyone else in their life because they chose the narc over and over - after every fight, they stayed or came back. Many times the new supply has no one else but the narc.

    • @blossom3468
      @blossom3468 2 роки тому +3

      So very true... It's about winning no matter the cost!! They helped the Narc destroy your relationship so no matter how the Narc treats them they stay because they cannot show the world that they LOST

  • @mariajosecarvajalcastro6462
    @mariajosecarvajalcastro6462 11 місяців тому

    Thank you so much for your input!!! I love your honesty!

  • @followyourdreams6050
    @followyourdreams6050 2 роки тому +4

    New subscriber. Loving your videos. You describe things well to help me understand.

  • @SueRigby-nl5on
    @SueRigby-nl5on 8 місяців тому

    Hey, I just found you on youtube . . Thank you for your podcasts. Hello from Liverpool England ❤

  • @jasmynreddiar933
    @jasmynreddiar933 Рік тому

    Thank you for sharing, I resonate with this

  • @butterflypurplesilver444
    @butterflypurplesilver444 Рік тому

    You are AHMAZING. Thank you ❤

  • @reginabroughan6483
    @reginabroughan6483 2 роки тому

    Thank you Ben for your words 🙏 😊

  • @annettedevries7559
    @annettedevries7559 2 роки тому

    Exacly, i can,t understand you have no empathie. Thanks en i,m glad, you are working on yourself. A big hug from Holland 🤗

  • @nclsher
    @nclsher 2 роки тому +4

    Thank you. I needed to hear this today.

  • @kountry_bumpkin8455
    @kountry_bumpkin8455 Рік тому +3

    I love your content, but this one is still a hard pill for me to swallow.I was hit, spit on, called racial slurs (I’m black), car keyed, things thrown. My ex didn’t work for 3yrs, I even bought a house for us and it’s like it meant nothing. I’ve hear that I was the one that was abusive. But now they’re off living this happy life or at least I assume. I don’t check their social media, but last I had seen they were. Even moved outta town. Even has a job now. I want my ex happy, but miserable at the same time.

    • @RawMotivations
      @RawMotivations  Рік тому

      Would love to help you on your healing journey. If I can be of help feel free to grab a time here at rawmotivations.com/one-on-ones

  • @krystinadavila8383
    @krystinadavila8383 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you!
    Merry Christmas to you and your family 🎄

  • @Karen-wm8zs
    @Karen-wm8zs 2 роки тому +5

    Hi Ben our daughter was involved with a narc maybe even a social path. He controlled everything she did. Isolating her from family and friends. Stopped her from all interests she loved. I saw her turn from a confident beautiful girl to not eating, extreme weight loss, she started pulling her hair out, rocking. Extreme emotional breakdowns.
    After 2 years of his abusive ways she got the courage to leave him. Within the last year of being home I see my daughter coming back. She got a job, her driver's license and just got a car. He keyed it and put sugar in her gas tank. He eggs are house, try's to run me off the road with his car when we see him. The police aren't much help. We are in the process of getting security cameras installed, as he comes around at night to do his dirty work.
    He has a new supply since May but still calls her from blocked numbers to abuse or says he misses her. ( My question will this kid ever move on and leave our family alone or is this going to continue forever?) Ps I have tried to talk with his mother but she denys any of his wrong doings, the blame gets put back on my daughter. I just am so tired and frustrated of him and his dangerous ways. Thank you for any advise. 😊

    • @RawMotivations
      @RawMotivations  2 роки тому +2

      There might not be a lot of closure until the police and proof is involved so that it is a concrete example.

    • @Karen-wm8zs
      @Karen-wm8zs 2 роки тому +2

      @@RawMotivations Happy new year. Thank you for your feed back. I hope we can live in peace. I believe in Karma so I hope he gets all that is coming to him!

    • @susanmcmahon4733
      @susanmcmahon4733 2 роки тому +1

      Get her to get a restraining order that her life could be in danger, police have to listen to her don't give up he will get tired at some stage and at least she had the courage to leave, keep going bk to police and keep stating your worries and concerns they will eventually listen and you can do this as her Mother if you feel her life is in danger and these type of people can be extremely dangerous.

    • @Karen-wm8zs
      @Karen-wm8zs 2 роки тому +1

      @Susan Mcmahon thank you Susan, I have made numerous police statements. When she turned 16 and he made her choose between him or her family she loved was heartbreaking. I would call the police to do welfare checks on her. They didn't take my concerns seriously! Made me feel bad for calling. Saying she's 16 so they couldn't do anything unless she was going to hurt herself. Losing 60 pounds in 4 months didn't concern them!
      I never gave up on her ever, I would go see her at school and take her for lunch. She of course would cover for him, it was so hard to see the mistakes your kids make and cannot do anything to help.
      I live in Canada and they changed the law from 18 to 16. This was to protect kids that live in abusive home. In our case and many other parents have gone through this same issue. That law really needs to be changed so loving parents can still have control over our kids. They are no capable of making the type of decisions this loser made her make.
      She is still healing and that will take time. She is after a year coming around to who she used to be.
      As far as his loser. We are protecting ourselves with home security, dash cams in our cars. Now we wait!

    • @susannes3254
      @susannes3254 2 роки тому +1

      Not sure what the firearm laws are in Canada, but I highly encourage you to get her a gun and proper training on using it. If the police are not taking this seriously, then she needs to have a reliable way to protect her life if he decides to continue with this unlawful stalking. It’s always better to be safe and armed (and hopefully never use it), than to be burying your child and unable to rewind time to protect her. Start documenting everything! Ask for a supervisor at the police dept. Go higher and keep being that “squeaky wheel” until sometime takes action like they NEED TO. Good luck and I’m praying for your daughters safety and continued healing from the ex. Be encouraged but don’t stop until he’s arrested or you have peace of mind that she is safe.

  • @sheilablanton4894
    @sheilablanton4894 2 роки тому +1

    Ty so much

  • @stephaniepena5904
    @stephaniepena5904 2 роки тому +2

    Great Content💯🔥

  • @MG-jp5ij
    @MG-jp5ij 2 роки тому +2

    I have to work with my ex narcissist and it gives her the opportunity to mess with me and flirt with all the other men in our office just to try and make me jealous. I cant go no contact although I would love to.

  • @claudiasbarra1882
    @claudiasbarra1882 2 роки тому

    Thank you

  • @andreaanderson8049
    @andreaanderson8049 2 роки тому

    So been there from the beginning of the video...I have been there so many times
    Ughh makes me so upset

  • @milicasijacic1103
    @milicasijacic1103 2 роки тому

    Thank youuuu!

  • @lovely-eh1bc
    @lovely-eh1bc 2 роки тому +1

    I was the new supply, there was no sex no hug no kissing no connection after few months,but these days she show up with her new supply around my house, I keep ignoring them

  • @mlong3625
    @mlong3625 2 роки тому +2

    Because he's fooling her.
    Or she expects the lie.
    (Choose to be stupid)

  • @louisekleinman4941
    @louisekleinman4941 2 роки тому

    Laugh and say “better you than me “ !

  • @diegovargas2489
    @diegovargas2489 2 роки тому +2

    I wish I could block her and stop all communication but we share a 4 year old boy who lives with me so she’s constantly contacting me asking about him.

  • @rosesantiago174
    @rosesantiago174 2 роки тому

    THANK YOU!

  • @oldmeyt
    @oldmeyt 2 роки тому

    Thank you!!! 😊

  • @RenataLocutora
    @RenataLocutora 2 роки тому

    After I finished with the narc , he never appeared with nobody else ! Why ? If they like to show the new supply right away ? He cheated me a lot behind my back , so I was pretty sure that after break up , he will assume até least one of them on social media. Never happened! He just show the picture of his kids , ( even tho the kids hates him ), but in 2 years he didn’t assumed nobody . What’s the game ?
    Very good video ! 👏👏👏👏👏

    • @SadieHartMusic
      @SadieHartMusic 2 роки тому +2

      my nex hid me from soc med to keep his options open, so he may be doing that.

  • @Bo00si33
    @Bo00si33 2 роки тому +6

    Can u make a video on threats? When they threaten your safety etc? Why do they still contact you if you haven't responded in years? Genuinely confused.

    • @RawMotivations
      @RawMotivations  2 роки тому

      Sometimes it could be that the new supplies haven't worked out or they are wanting to go back to someone that they realized was the person they got away with manipulating.

  • @ellawhitfield9862
    @ellawhitfield9862 2 роки тому +1

    I don’t know because my ex went so far as to move her into his apartment! He’s cheated on me plenty but never moved someone in! As a matter of fact once when we broke up he moved in with someone but still wanted to see me! I left him by the way and I think he is trying to prove to everyone that he is better off with her than me! Heck I don’t know it’s all so confusing!