@@57ccook wow, mine moved to another state with his 3 months after I served him, took over 30k joint money and moved, still waiting to go to mediation and isn't paying any bills here, smh, and still denying her and told his other kid that she's not permanent. I said lol she isn't...she's an old flame he's not proud of, she's a downgrade, and she'll take his bullxhit...
And we were together 27 years and have a 20 year old...and we dated in high school...should have never went back, but he was so nice then and in the beginning.....told me all the horrible stories about his relationships, how he was treated, but it was him who was...the awful person
I know for a fact that they have already separated several times and they are lying and cheating to each other. For better or for worst, I cannot go no contact and I have access to this information. I hope this helps others understand what the reality is behind the scenes. They are extremely unhealthy, jumping from one relationship to another with no self-reflection, growth work or anything. They are doomed to repeat the same patterns.
That is not always the case though. The new supply my ex discarded me for was working with him stealing my money, and making up lies, hiding while I was pregnant. She was so proud to flaunt that she got him from me. We had a family. Some don't deserve compassion.
I moved 900 miles away a year ago tomorrow and I’m still stuck ruminating. I hate it. I’m in Therapy now because I have flashbacks about the things he did and the way he treated me. At one point he gave his new supply my email address and encouraged her to harass me after I moved. Why? I just don’t know.
@@mistybrandt2629 my loser is with my best friend now smh 🤦🏽♀️ damn crackheads glad i left i’m also in therapy it just sucks i thought he was my best friend and really he was the opposite
I'm actually crying as I was watching what you said... you actually said everything they are doing it breaks my heart.. I hate him so much .. trying to move one everyday since a year
Anger is part of the healing process. They are the messed up one, not you. Keep learning about narcissist abuse. It helps in the process of making sense of all their craziness. They don't change. They do have to groom the new person differently, because they ( new person) are different. The mask always falls off, sooner or later. Remember that if they have it in their character to treat you the way they did, then they have it in their character to treat others the same way. There is a saying; Once someone shows you who they are, believe them the 1st time.
They are. I never saw him so happy with someone. And people are saying,old friends are even congrats him because he is doing so well. Why and what made him change for her?
@@belonabratt5480 It's the friends that don't have a clue what you experienced. He's just introduced someone to friends, friends that he never introduced me to. They seem very haooy to have met her, I doubt I ever existed.
Yeah. I’m stuck in the loop of ruminating. He’s convinced me she’s the love of his life. I can’t help think that if he treated me that bad, how bad did he treat the one before me? I feel bad for her. I was one of the lucky ones and saw him for who he was earlier than the rest but can’t break free from the way he treated me. I’m being treated for symptoms of PTSD by a Psychiatrist now!!
Yes, this is hard. I’m doing great at no contact except for information about my son, I don’t miss him and am so grateful I got out but boy does he still take up a lot of real estate in my mind.
I have a 12 yr old. He hasn't attempted to see her yet. He does text and call her only to give excuses of why he hasn't seen her. Is this a blessing? Let's see how it unfolds. My heart hurts for her. I have to get better quick so I can be positive and strong for her. 😥.. sometimes I can't stop crying. All the wasted time. It seems so unreal that people live like this. And for what? I just don't get it.
Man! I’m beating gods door down with prayer to remove any thoughts of him! I wouldn’t wish this on anybody. I know I’m going to be okay though.. so will you! I’m trying to move now!
I just crossed paths with my ex who got engaged a week after our break-up and married two weeks after that. I came straight here to watch this video again. I was with her for a year and half but walking past her while she was holding hands with her husband didn't even move me.
The narcissist I was in a relationship with told me he was at a stage in life where he had to make a relationship work because he was getting old. He knew he had to change and be faithful. He discarded me and told a friend that he had to be "a good boy now" in his new relationship. That also ended after I made her aware and within a few weeks he was back with an ex and engaged! It's like he literally cannot be alone for any period of time. I feel so sad for this fiance if she is his final person. Maybe do a video on who the narcissist chooses for their spouse and why? Or who gets to share their last years when older? I'm not hurt just curious...
Prayers for recovery 🙏🏼 Come on now, these folks don't change and if they wanted to, they would.. I'm so tired of hearing empty promises and apologies that are about him rather than me.. apologizing because he's trying to feel better rather than because he harmed me.. I healed myself of this bullshit by saturating myself with love, getting support all the way around including my bosses.. I told everyone so that way everyone knew what was going on.. and once I got a little space that he wasn't in control of, momentum towards freedom accelerated.. And then the reality is the further away from him I became, the clearer the abuse became.. the physical abuse, throwing things at me, busting my head open, come on now, that was the final straw even if it took another year to get out.. I think I still have a bit of anger to work through however, I am so thankful to feel angry towards him rather than some feeling of obligation or guilt or responsibility.. at least the anger tells me: ENOUGH!!! Rise up and shine on!! YOU ARE DESERVING OF REAL AND TENDER LOVE.
The new supply isn't always better, but they can be weaker and naive...Narcs do not like strong & genuinely honest people... but they will choose someone whose clueless and gullible of the who they really are....Narcs know no one in their right mind would wanna stay with them if they saw the raw uncut version of the narc
Yeah I always wanted to go to Georgia and stay in a cabin in the mountains. He took me to Georgia but we never stayed at a cabin. After we broke up he posted about a cabin and I'm pretty sure he took someone else. 🙄 I don't blame her I actually feel sorry for her because he'll probably use her like toilet paper too. Use when needed but toss when done. When I have extra funds I hope to support your channel more by downloading the app. Right now I was left with pretty much nothing so i have to rebuild. I do however tell people about your channel so hopefully that helps a little.
Oh yes, the FB posts in the early days of his new relationship with the NS. Funny thing is -- it was the NS doing the over-the-top posts (love of my life, life is perfect, my soulmate....). Maybe she was trying to "sell it" to everyone since, deep down, she knows she was sleeping with a married man and wants to suppress the fact that he can't be trusted.
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They always start another relationship before leaving you fully....
Yep, ring on the new supply’s finger three weeks after the divorce papers were signed.
@@57ccook wow, mine moved to another state with his 3 months after I served him, took over 30k joint money and moved, still waiting to go to mediation and isn't paying any bills here, smh, and still denying her and told his other kid that she's not permanent. I said lol she isn't...she's an old flame he's not proud of, she's a downgrade, and she'll take his bullxhit...
@@57ccook wow, they are so predictable and they do tell you what they will do to you and what they have done in previous relationships
And we were together 27 years and have a 20 year old...and we dated in high school...should have never went back, but he was so nice then and in the beginning.....told me all the horrible stories about his relationships, how he was treated, but it was him who was...the awful person
Sometime they were there the whole time they were with you.
I know for a fact that they have already separated several times and they are lying and cheating to each other. For better or for worst, I cannot go no contact and I have access to this information. I hope this helps others understand what the reality is behind the scenes. They are extremely unhealthy, jumping from one relationship to another with no self-reflection, growth work or anything. They are doomed to repeat the same patterns.
We all where once new supply always remember that and have compassion
That is not always the case though. The new supply my ex discarded me for was working with him stealing my money, and making up lies, hiding while I was pregnant. She was so proud to flaunt that she got him from me. We had a family. Some don't deserve compassion.
I have no compassion. He knowingly committed adutery with my wife for over a year. F him
They are so ruthless. It's sad. It just kills your empathy.
they are just NEW to their games, and clueless to their evil foul behaviour...just give it time
that’s 💯 percent me i moved 900 miles away 3 years ago and i still feel this ahit every day! thank you for all you are doing
I moved 900 miles away a year ago tomorrow and I’m still stuck ruminating. I hate it. I’m in Therapy now because I have flashbacks about the things he did and the way he treated me. At one point he gave his new supply my email address and encouraged her to harass me after I moved. Why? I just don’t know.
@@mistybrandt2629 my loser is with my best friend now smh 🤦🏽♀️ damn crackheads glad i left i’m also in therapy it just sucks i thought he was my best friend and really he was the opposite
@@mistybrandt2629 keep up the hard work it gets better i promise
I'm actually crying as I was watching what you said... you actually said everything they are doing it breaks my heart.. I hate him so much .. trying to move one everyday since a year
Anger is part of the healing process. They are the messed up one, not you. Keep learning about narcissist abuse. It helps in the process of making sense of all their craziness. They don't change. They do have to groom the new person differently, because they ( new person) are different. The mask always falls off, sooner or later.
Remember that if they have it in their character to treat you the way they did, then they have it in their character to treat others the same way.
There is a saying; Once someone shows you who they are, believe them the 1st time.
No they are not better. They are just new things being set up for discard.
Exactly
They are. I never saw him so happy with someone. And people are saying,old friends are even congrats him because he is doing so well. Why and what made him change for her?
@@belonabratt5480 😞
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It's the friends that don't have a clue what you experienced.
He's just introduced someone to friends, friends that he never introduced me to. They seem very haooy to have met her, I doubt I ever existed.
@@belonabratt5480r u still on here? I would like to talk to you cause I feel the same way.
when i say he gave her every. single. thing. he promised me, im not even joking it was everything he promised me and never gave me
Yeah. I’m stuck in the loop of ruminating. He’s convinced me she’s the love of his life. I can’t help think that if he treated me that bad, how bad did he treat the one before me? I feel bad for her. I was one of the lucky ones and saw him for who he was earlier than the rest but can’t break free from the way he treated me. I’m being treated for symptoms of PTSD by a Psychiatrist now!!
😥 hang in there
Same here... got told her new bf is amazing, and she hopes to get married to him
Mine thanked me for getting to know his new supply through me
Yes, this is hard. I’m doing great at no contact except for information about my son, I don’t miss him and am so grateful I got out but boy does he still take up a lot of real estate in my mind.
How does it work with kids? We have a 10 month old. Hellllllppppp
Thanks for sharing. I'm glad you are able to take the step and leave. I wish you the best on your journey!
I have a 12 yr old. He hasn't attempted to see her yet. He does text and call her only to give excuses of why he hasn't seen her. Is this a blessing? Let's see how it unfolds. My heart hurts for her. I have to get better quick so I can be positive and strong for her. 😥.. sometimes I can't stop crying. All the wasted time. It seems so unreal that people live like this. And for what? I just don't get it.
Man! I’m beating gods door down with prayer to remove any thoughts of him! I wouldn’t wish this on anybody. I know I’m going to be okay though.. so will you! I’m trying to move now!
Yes.. having a problem letting go. 😕 staying strong 💪. Still having no contact. 30 days .. no contact.
I just crossed paths with my ex who got engaged a week after our break-up and married two weeks after that.
I came straight here to watch this video again.
I was with her for a year and half but walking past her while she was holding hands with her husband didn't even move me.
They are us, but less informed and less traumatized but also more vulnerable...
The narcissist I was in a relationship with told me he was at a stage in life where he had to make a relationship work because he was getting old. He knew he had to change and be faithful. He discarded me and told a friend that he had to be "a good boy now" in his new relationship. That also ended after I made her aware and within a few weeks he was back with an ex and engaged! It's like he literally cannot be alone for any period of time. I feel so sad for this fiance if she is his final person. Maybe do a video on who the narcissist chooses for their spouse and why? Or who gets to share their last years when older? I'm not hurt just curious...
Takes my place. Sounds fantastic!🙃
Prayers for recovery 🙏🏼
Come on now, these folks don't change and if they wanted to, they would.. I'm so tired of hearing empty promises and apologies that are about him rather than me.. apologizing because he's trying to feel better rather than because he harmed me..
I healed myself of this bullshit by saturating myself with love, getting support all the way around including my bosses.. I told everyone so that way everyone knew what was going on.. and once I got a little space that he wasn't in control of, momentum towards freedom accelerated..
And then the reality is the further away from him I became, the clearer the abuse became.. the physical abuse, throwing things at me, busting my head open, come on now, that was the final straw even if it took another year to get out..
I think I still have a bit of anger to work through however, I am so thankful to feel angry towards him rather than some feeling of obligation or guilt or responsibility.. at least the anger tells me: ENOUGH!!!
Rise up and shine on!!
YOU ARE DESERVING OF REAL AND TENDER LOVE.
The new supply isn't always better, but they can be weaker and naive...Narcs do not like strong & genuinely honest people... but they will choose someone whose clueless and gullible of the who they really are....Narcs know no one in their right mind would wanna stay with them if they saw the raw uncut version of the narc
Yeah I always wanted to go to Georgia and stay in a cabin in the mountains. He took me to Georgia but we never stayed at a cabin. After we broke up he posted about a cabin and I'm pretty sure he took someone else. 🙄 I don't blame her I actually feel sorry for her because he'll probably use her like toilet paper too. Use when needed but toss when done. When I have extra funds I hope to support your channel more by downloading the app. Right now I was left with pretty much nothing so i have to rebuild. I do however tell people about your channel so hopefully that helps a little.
Oh yes, the FB posts in the early days of his new relationship with the NS. Funny thing is -- it was the NS doing the over-the-top posts (love of my life, life is perfect, my soulmate....). Maybe she was trying to "sell it" to everyone since, deep down, she knows she was sleeping with a married man and wants to suppress the fact that he can't be trusted.
All very true ! I have met a few
The Ex Narc gave the kids that he has with his new supply names that we picked out
😦
Omg...
Great Video.
Great video!!!
It's just cycle
The new supply has the same name as me
Me too