A great way to discern a man's character is to look at how he treats and talks to waiters and people in the service industry. I dated a man who was so rude to waiters, would talk to them like they were stupid. I broke up with him after that, don't want to deal with a guy like that.
just yesterday, my fiance (whom i had known for more than 15 yrs) and i had a meaningful conversation about our theological beliefs and our insights on how our future marriage and family will be like, by God's grace. thanks for your videos!
I feel like the question, “Why do you want to be in a relationship with me?” could come off kinda intimidating, but yes love this topic and think it’s super important to know where each other is at on the big life issues and get a feel for each other’s intentions. Our first date was full of deep questions!
It's great to ask questions and these questions are obviously great. However, after asking the questions, then you need to observe, watch and study them. I believe asking others too is very useful. The truth is some people can lie! If they've hung around Christians long enough, they can figure out the right things to say and toss them out when you ask. Being observant with these questions as a guideline is more useful I think. From your interaction with this person, seeing how they actually act and do the things they say they do is far more revealing.
Alex miller this gets tricky.because your bible believing spirit led christian would say they are demonic attacks. Your religious person would say there is something wrong with your brain.
The bible would have you believe that mental health problems are just demonic attacks. Take it from someone whose mother blessed me with holy water every time I had a schizophrenic episode as a child.
Can you please talk about something other than men and relationships? Gosh, why is your channel so focused on men when it's called girl defined? Is your life defined by men and relationships with them? Ugh there is so much more to being a godly woman than just getting married and popping out babies.
SageMacBunny they have videos about single life and living a fulfilling and holy life being single :) also I’m sure they get a lot of questions about these kinds of things about love and relationships!
They just published a book about relationships so they’re making so many relationship videos to kind of hype up their new book. If you scroll down a little they have many many videos on other topics.
SageMacBunny If you're looking for channels which talk about godly womanhood in more general terms, I would strongly recommend the following channels: -Sadie Robertson -Jordan Lee Dooley -James & Lea D - Philia Ministries -Emily Wilson
This was a really dumb comment. People make videos on what they know best and want to talk about. Everyone has their thing. But bc she's a woman suddenly she's jusy focused on popping babies and getting married. Nice
Some great tips in this video. Personally I think its important to get to know someone on more of a friend basis and ask some of these questions before stepping into an intentional dating relationship because you might find that when you are in the relationship you're intentional and hoping that it works out you may be blinded by red flags or differences that may come up throughout asking these questions. Just my thoughts :) EDIT: I got to know my now husband as a friend first and we asked alot of these questions on our first "date" but did not become exclusive or bf/gf until we had asked deep questions as friends pursuing the possibility of a future relationship just to keep our minds clearer so it wouldn't be so devastating if we had to go separate ways :)
I love you, girls❤️you're like big sisters to me, I wish I had a sister like you😻Thank you for your great advice❤️I will purchase your book soon, can't wait🌞😍
1)what does your visionof a happy family 2)How would u maintain purity , is it important to you. 3)Can u explain the gospel to me, 4)what's your view on church involvement....how would u lead your family spiritually 5) What is your testimony...wen u gave your life to Jesus Your views on health and exercise Views on finances and debt. Do u see us making a great marriage Why do I like him Is it a good time to date What his priorities reveal about him What do people close to me think of this relationship. Do you have red flags ..deal with them
Could you guys make a video on when your church doesn't stand up for you and help you in times of need? We just left our church, because of a very serious situation involving the pastor not not "shepherding his flock". I want to know your thoughts on this. I feel myself backsliding, since we aren't going to church currently. Thanks for all of your amazing videos!
Great video, I keep watching your dating advice for when I’m ready to date and I see that I may not be ready for a relationship. The thing is in today’s generation (well our generation) when asking someone closer to him or me can be insulting to one another or make one another feel like we don’t trust each other, so how exactly do we go about with “questions to ask those close to him” without coming across as insulting or projecting a lack of trust? Ps I ordered the book and I can’t wait to receive it 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Does he understand the gospel? What makes you so sure you have the correct understanding? Fair enough if you want to know if you're on the same page but it's a little condescending to imply that he's not a genuine "Christ follower" if he doesn't understand the gospel in the same way you do...
Thank you for making these videos. I am so sorry for the absolutely DISTURBED and sick creatures harrassing and leaving repulsive comments on here.🤢🥺 Please stay strong and hang in there!👍😊
Depends. My husband and I are pretty opposite politically but we don't talk about politics so it doesn't affect us. If people like to debate and talk about politics it can be a problem. I know some couples who had lots of problems for months after this past election, because they were fighting about politics a lot.
I say it depends if it matters to each other. I'm a conservative married to a libertarian while there is plenty of agreement between us, we are both passionate about it so the differences are areas we had to work out.
So I printed out the questions like you said and started asking him them on our first date but I only got up to question 4 and he went to the toilet and never came back. So then I went to his friends and started to ask them the friends questions and they walked away from me! I haven't given up though and am going to ambush him on the way to work tmrw and try and get Qu4 and 5 out! Can't wait!!! Thanks for your advice :D
Thanks for sharing, Alexandra. We have a specific focus on relationships right now in conjunction with the release of Love Defined. We've done a wide range of videos in the past and will continue to in the future. :) Thanks for watching!
I asked my boyfriend a few questions and he told me its too early for these questions and that im not getting the full answer, ive decided that hes not yet feeling open enough for deep questions, i dont know what to do.
heeeey LOVE YOUR CHANEL!!! im new haha so... im dating this guy, well not officially dating, but as we say, we're getting to know eachother, but we want to be in a relationship, so yeah is it to soon to ask him this question? should i wait till we're officially dating? (sorry my english i'm latina hahaha)
Hey Kristen, I just decided I really want to buy your book. But when I used the link in the description under OUR INFO (becaude the first link doesnt work!), I came to the site where I could buy it. But it was really different, like, green with flowers. Of course, I just want to make sure I've got the right version. The one you are holding has the questions and I do want those in it. Can you please tell me what to do? Is the green one a newer version or something? Or maybe the one your holding? Someone watching all the way over from The Netherlands :), Rigtje
While I disagree with a lot of their videos (on the basis that I'm not a believer), I still think questions like these are very important. Now, I won't ask someone to explain The Gospel to me, but if that were important to you this is solid advice.
It's really true we should be aware of their political views. It can be a division factor in relationship. I have seen couples divorce just because of conflicting political views. Incase you're a Trump Fan You may not to marry somebody who is a die hard fan of Hillary. (haha jk)
I don't know why but you come across much more authentic and friendly when you talk to us alone. However, I think some of these questions would scare most people away, especially at the beginning of a relationship, when most of us try to be fun and do nice things and get to know each other in a relaxed atmosphere, not debate about politics. just a thought...
Bc it’s part of being obedient to Gods word . He knows what’s best for us . 2 Corinthians 6 Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?
A great way to discern a man's character is to look at how he treats and talks to waiters and people in the service industry. I dated a man who was so rude to waiters, would talk to them like they were stupid. I broke up with him after that, don't want to deal with a guy like that.
Stefanie Medina completely agree with you.
How did he treat your though?
Completely agree. If he cant love the people around him that he doesnt know personally, he cant love me that he does know personally. Love this topic!
this is a great way to evaluate people in general I think
very true
just yesterday, my fiance (whom i had known for more than 15 yrs) and i had a meaningful conversation about our theological beliefs and our insights on how our future marriage and family will be like, by God's grace. thanks for your videos!
Wow, that's great!!
I feel like the question, “Why do you want to be in a relationship with me?” could come off kinda intimidating, but yes love this topic and think it’s super important to know where each other is at on the big life issues and get a feel for each other’s intentions. Our first date was full of deep questions!
I thought it was the best question! 🙂
Yeah it was a Best questions
Its the most important question
It's great to ask questions and these questions are obviously great. However, after asking the questions, then you need to observe, watch and study them. I believe asking others too is very useful. The truth is some people can lie! If they've hung around Christians long enough, they can figure out the right things to say and toss them out when you ask. Being observant with these questions as a guideline is more useful I think. From your interaction with this person, seeing how they actually act and do the things they say they do is far more revealing.
You're right. People can say anything and tell you what you want to hear. But it's their actions that really matter.
Don’t got a relationship but I’m still going to watch this cause if it ever happens I best be prepared 💓💓
Lesley Cervantes that was my logic for watching this as well 😂
Me toooooo
Well, did you learn something from it?
You should talk about other topics, like mental health
Alex miller this gets tricky.because your bible believing spirit led christian would say they are demonic attacks. Your religious person would say there is something wrong with your brain.
You mean topics that matter? Don't worry, you won't find any of that here.
Victoria Bjordahl
2 seconds ago
Probably to be cured by a lobotomy, electric shock therapy, or an exorcism.
It’s sad that people really think that demons are attacking if you have a mental illness ... I just can’t work through that thought process
The bible would have you believe that mental health problems are just demonic attacks. Take it from someone whose mother blessed me with holy water every time I had a schizophrenic episode as a child.
Can you please talk about something other than men and relationships? Gosh, why is your channel so focused on men when it's called girl defined? Is your life defined by men and relationships with them? Ugh there is so much more to being a godly woman than just getting married and popping out babies.
SageMacBunny they have videos about single life and living a fulfilling and holy life being single :) also I’m sure they get a lot of questions about these kinds of things about love and relationships!
But it's still focused on "what to do in the meantime, while waiting for marriage". Does that make it much better?
They just published a book about relationships so they’re making so many relationship videos to kind of hype up their new book. If you scroll down a little they have many many videos on other topics.
SageMacBunny If you're looking for channels which talk about godly womanhood in more general terms, I would strongly recommend the following channels:
-Sadie Robertson
-Jordan Lee Dooley
-James & Lea D - Philia Ministries
-Emily Wilson
This was a really dumb comment. People make videos on what they know best and want to talk about. Everyone has their thing. But bc she's a woman suddenly she's jusy focused on popping babies and getting married. Nice
I thought this video was great. Could you do a video on how to make healthy friendships?
GreenTeaFrappeFox Yeees, I would love a video about friendship too
Your message is so wise. I am going to use your advise. Thank you very much for inspiring us.
Some great tips in this video. Personally I think its important to get to know someone on more of a friend basis and ask some of these questions before stepping into an intentional dating relationship because you might find that when you are in the relationship you're intentional and hoping that it works out you may be blinded by red flags or differences that may come up throughout asking these questions. Just my thoughts :)
EDIT: I got to know my now husband as a friend first and we asked alot of these questions on our first "date" but did not become exclusive or bf/gf until we had asked deep questions as friends pursuing the possibility of a future relationship just to keep our minds clearer so it wouldn't be so devastating if we had to go separate ways :)
I love you, girls❤️you're like big sisters to me, I wish I had a sister like you😻Thank you for your great advice❤️I will purchase your book soon, can't wait🌞😍
I have a twin! Thanks btw,
This advice came just at the right time! Will definitely be looking into the book. Thank you! XOXO
This was so helpful! I'm not in a relationship, but I'll definitely be asking these questions in the future 👍🏻
I think this is one of your greatest videos ever!! Love your Chanel. Could you do a video on dressing modestly when you exercise?
This question seams hard especially if you are not from happy family yourself
No sense in thinking or doing things perfectly.
I just forsee I maybe in long distance relationship since I'm still single
Wow! This is deeper than I thought it would be. Thanks for sharing!
Thank you so much, Kristen and Bethany, for writing this book and for these questions! Very timely and helpful! :)
1)what does your visionof a happy family
2)How would u maintain purity , is it important to you.
3)Can u explain the gospel to me,
4)what's your view on church involvement....how would u lead your family spiritually
5)
What is your testimony...wen u gave your life to Jesus
Your views on health and exercise
Views on finances and debt.
Do u see us making a great marriage
Why do I like him
Is it a good time to date
What his priorities reveal about him
What do people close to me think of this relationship.
Do you have red flags ..deal with them
These are amazing questions to ask, very helpful and timely. Great video! 👍
Could you guys make a video on when your church doesn't stand up for you and help you in times of need? We just left our church, because of a very serious situation involving the pastor not not "shepherding his flock". I want to know your thoughts on this. I feel myself backsliding, since we aren't going to church currently. Thanks for all of your amazing videos!
Great video, I keep watching your dating advice for when I’m ready to date and I see that I may not be ready for a relationship. The thing is in today’s generation (well our generation) when asking someone closer to him or me can be insulting to one another or make one another feel like we don’t trust each other, so how exactly do we go about with “questions to ask those close to him” without coming across as insulting or projecting a lack of trust?
Ps I ordered the book and I can’t wait to receive it 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Wow I absolutely loved this video. It seemed so much more sincere and from the heart.
I love all your videos & the advice but I really like this one-to-one style as well! Please can we have more of these from both of you!😊💙
I'm not Christian. I am muslim but this was so helpful thank you so much!!
I loved this thank you so much ❤️
Love this! Thank you so much! 💕
Great word...thanks for this.
Thank you for your advice! I love this channel! :)
I loved this video! It was very insightful :)
These questions are excellent! Thank you so much for sharing
Does he understand the gospel? What makes you so sure you have the correct understanding? Fair enough if you want to know if you're on the same page but it's a little condescending to imply that he's not a genuine "Christ follower" if he doesn't understand the gospel in the same way you do...
I absolutely love your videos!! ❤❤
Such a great video! I love these types of videos
Thank you so much for sharing! Keep them coming!
Thank you for this!! I really need this one 😊😊
Thanks this was so helpful:)
Thank you for making these videos. I am so sorry for the absolutely DISTURBED and sick creatures harrassing and leaving repulsive comments on here.🤢🥺 Please stay strong and hang in there!👍😊
Thanks you you inspire young girls like me! I’m so grateful for you! ❤️❤️❤️
Thanks for sharing. I just placed an order. Looking forward to reading
Thought provoking, thanks Kristen 😊🙏
do you think having different political views can make or break a relationship?
btw, I LOVE this video!
Depends. My husband and I are pretty opposite politically but we don't talk about politics so it doesn't affect us. If people like to debate and talk about politics it can be a problem. I know some couples who had lots of problems for months after this past election, because they were fighting about politics a lot.
Yes. Politics are always reflective of someone's moral stance and I can't trust someone with questionable morals.
I say it depends if it matters to each other. I'm a conservative married to a libertarian while there is plenty of agreement between us, we are both passionate about it so the differences are areas we had to work out.
I think the question is: Do you?
leicanoct Anyone who believes in Christ can call themselves Christian. I’d say Christ cared about the poor and about equal opportunities, do you?
Really interesting and an important topic👍
Thank you so much Kristen!
So I printed out the questions like you said and started asking him them on our first date but I only got up to question 4 and he went to the toilet and never came back. So then I went to his friends and started to ask them the friends questions and they walked away from me! I haven't given up though and am going to ambush him on the way to work tmrw and try and get Qu4 and 5 out! Can't wait!!! Thanks for your advice :D
This subject girls, if you could just change it from time to time... As I seeit, your channel should be called "Weekly christian relationship advice".
it's because they're trying to promote their new book about relationships
I know! They have such a great platform but don’t seem to reaching their potential.
Thanks for sharing, Alexandra. We have a specific focus on relationships right now in conjunction with the release of Love Defined. We've done a wide range of videos in the past and will continue to in the future. :) Thanks for watching!
Awesome!!! Thank you so much for sharing these!!!!
oh boy I found a christian
WOW! Great Advice!!
This video has helped me so much! Thank you!!
Who do I go to when I dont have that older and wiser person to go to with my red flags?
I asked my boyfriend a few questions and he told me its too early for these questions and that im not getting the full answer, ive decided that hes not yet feeling open enough for deep questions, i dont know what to do.
How did it end?
Imagine her going to his friend to ask a question and she goes so what do you think is his view on politics
Great questions!!
Arriving late but this was brilliantly helpful, thanks!
Very helpfull Video, thanks!
much needed....
I wish I would have had this insight when I was younger. Thanks so much for sharing.
Thank You!
So thankful for this.. definitely something I can apply to my life right now X.
I love love what you do..
Love from Zimbabwe
Miss R I'm Zimbabwean too😃
Ahhh me too
Wendy here! from Zim too
Where’s Bethany???
CarlaTravels on Instagram stories Kristen said that Bethany had a migraine and that's why she wasn't in the video
hanna joy thank you for letting me know. Hope she’s feeling better let’s pray🙏🏼
Very good. I was hoping this would be Christ centered. Thanks so much!
Read "think like a man and act like a lady"... it's really a fun read and relationshippy...
This if you are not a born again Christian will not help you am muslim am conservative but uhv totally confused me
What are some red flags to be concerned with ?
I got in a relationship in someone 2 weeks ago.
Did it last?
Thank you so much for making this! Great start for a brainstorming session
Great video!
A guy should never ask a girl how many kids she wants on a date
Great content 👍🏼
Is this church relationship? Or what because every questions seems to be for Christian people relationship!
heeeey LOVE YOUR CHANEL!!! im new haha so... im dating this guy, well not officially dating, but as we say, we're getting to know eachother, but we want to be in a relationship, so yeah
is it to soon to ask him this question?
should i wait till we're officially dating?
(sorry my english i'm latina hahaha)
I want this book.
Was after relationship questions, not religious ones.
Hey Kristen, I just decided I really want to buy your book. But when I used the link in the description under OUR INFO (becaude the first link doesnt work!), I came to the site where I could buy it. But it was really different, like, green with flowers. Of course, I just want to make sure I've got the right version. The one you are holding has the questions and I do want those in it.
Can you please tell me what to do? Is the green one a newer version or something? Or maybe the one your holding?
Someone watching all the way over from The Netherlands :), Rigtje
Check amazon. That is where I got mine!
Sorry, the link was broken. Here's the correct link: www.girldefined.com/lovedefined
Thank you!
Why not put in the description that it's more for people who are Christians? Purity, push me closer to Christ, ask people in your church...
Great questions
Thank you so much sister may Jesus bless you live 🌸🌹
While I disagree with a lot of their videos (on the basis that I'm not a believer), I still think questions like these are very important. Now, I won't ask someone to explain The Gospel to me, but if that were important to you this is solid advice.
Please pray for my salvation. Thank you
NewAge Deception praying
Thank you so much
Have you accepted Jesus?
Have you accepted Jesus as your personal Lord and Saviour?
Salvation is in Allah. Worship the creator and ask for forgiveness. Go to one message foundation UA-cam channel
Nice video....is this book available online???
You can find it on their website: www.girldefined.com/lovedefined
It's really true we should be aware of their political views. It can be a division factor in relationship. I have seen couples divorce just because of conflicting political views. Incase you're a Trump Fan You may not to marry somebody who is a die hard fan of Hillary. (haha jk)
How early is TOO EARLY?
I don't know why but you come across much more authentic and friendly when you talk to us alone. However, I think some of these questions would scare most people away, especially at the beginning of a relationship, when most of us try to be fun and do nice things and get to know each other in a relaxed atmosphere, not debate about politics. just a thought...
Chúng ta chỉ nên xem xét hành động của ah ta chứ hỏi cũng k làm được thì cũng k ổn
Is you're book being sold in Barnes N Noble?
Yes! :)
Bless you Kristen and your precious sister Bethany now and forever for all eternity in the name of our beloved Savior Yeshua Jesus Christ☻☻☻
Hello
Bruh such a long intro
"Y'all" .....
Can you explain the gospel to me? 😂 come on that sounds too much like a religion exam, a date should be more comfortable and friendly!
Wowww
First
Have this cookie: #
Thanks
I stopped watching once we got to “Christ follower”
Why do you assume we’re going to date a Christian man?
Brave Awaken but why can’t Christian girls date non Christian boys... or girls? Just asking, I don’t mean to be rude
Marina Fernandez Cardenas
They will be excommunicated if they date outside the cult.
that comment had better quality than the actual vid
leicanoct because you like the person maybe?
Bc it’s part of being obedient to Gods word . He knows what’s best for us . 2 Corinthians 6
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?
Disclaimer: Believers are preferable to be brough into a relationship. Unbelievers can have very skewed perspective ;)