@@athena.mt111 the Thing is... Even this Possibility seems wrong to you ... There are people who are Christian, but See the bible as in Inspiration, and Not follow every single rule some PERSON wrote 2000-5700 years ago......... Lead your life however you want to, but do not force your Lifestyle on Others.
Yes, the amazing feeling inside...Everybody have that feeling (unless you live in pakistan or similar) and than divorce rate is high as never before...
1. Is Christ the central focus in this relationship? 2. Do we encourage each other spiritually? 3. Do the wise people in my life support the relationship? 4. Does he value God's design for purity? Does he maintain that and honor it in the relationship? 5. Does he have a vision and passion for his life? Direction not perfect (For Christ as well) 6. Do I want to spend the rest of my life with this guy?
This is exactly what I needed today. I was just thinking and praying about this stuff the past few days. Can you please do a video on, how you know if your spiritual ready for marriage.
Why should a spiritual thing be any part of being with another person? Or why are these folks of any authority of how you n yours interact. Are these girls advice ok for anyone, specially those who are from other countries n cultures? Just asking
Sydney Tolbert Ask God if he is right for you. There was this situation where this guy led me on to thinking he liked me. He was very inconsistent on how he acted towards me so I found out he would flirt and talk to me whenever he felt insecure and then just ignored me. He basically used me to bust his self confidence and he was Christian. You have to be careful of guys who are kind of immature and are not seeking marriage or a relationship with you.
Although I'm not a Christian, I find your videos so inspirational and so positive, and I can relate to the underlyling messages. Thank you for encouraging others to make wise decisions! I've had to make tough choices to end relationships in the past that didn't serve me, but it has led me to a far more fulfilling life now with someone who is so supportive, nurturing, patient, respectful, and shares the same values as I do! :-)
Amen. Me too. I'm more culturally Christian but I'm glad my grandma brought me up in the church just for the morals and strong foundation. Been going through a horrible time and their positivity has really helped.
I'm not judging you or anything of the sort, but I honestly have no idea how you can find GirlDefined inspirational if you're not even Christian? Most CHRISTIAN women take issue with much of what Girl Defined stands for lol. I'm just curious what you get out of their message, since it is 99.9% about God and Jesus.
Glad to watch this when I am still young like 14 cause I have never dated anyone yet and I don't have to make a mistake when I grow up cause I know thanks for the help!
Perhaps ask the cute boy out, but remember that its companionship n friendship that make a great relationship. Even though you might have to date a few people before finding a person who worked with your own goals. And remember those goals may change in the rest of the life on the planet.. Mistakes happen, but those froends6n family are there to hold you the same as you hold them .
I am single and I Will be 21 years on November I have never been on a date or in a relationship I am afraid that I will never get a chance to meet someone and married where can I meet a good Christian men ??
You need a man to "pull" you along in your faith? Maybe you should be looking for someone who helps you learn how to think critically and independently. Remember, that "perfect Gods word" was put together by men and copied over and over and translated. Is there a chance it might be flawed or that your interpretation of it might not be right?? Isnt that a bit prideful to assume that you're the correct one..?
I totally agree, I may be one of the few but I greatly appreciate their videos! They help me to remain standing in my life with God in the midst of this world.
I can't express how much I love this channel! So nice to have fellow Christian women who share the same views and want to help other girls develop in their relationships with Christ truly at the center. :)
hello! i think they were referring to the purity of the marriage in a sense that your husband will stay pure for you and be with you only. like he won't cheat because he's not ruled by his flesh. hope this helped, blessings! :)
@Mari E., A male cannot live with a defiled woman and have peace at the same time. A defiled woman who has married can have the illegitimate relationship annulled. So can the woman who became defiled after marriage and returned to her former husband (Dt. 24:4)-forbidden! Questions and Answers: sites.google.com/site/hesedken/dating_and_marriage/faq.html
any sexual defilement of a woman, before or after marriage, is reason for a man to stay away from her... sites.google.com/site/hesedken/repentance/old_testament_female_adultery_defilement_effect.html
hesedken I don't Christianity is like that... Have you read the book of Haggai... what if she was a sinner and came to the light, does that make her any less valuable... 2 Corinthians 5:17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.
MarCuseusFX That’s a bold claim, and one that I’ve heard and responded to quite often. Do you care to elaborate on this supposed hate in the Bible? Not that I don’t already have an idea of what you’re going to say.
@@MayberryDaze64 slavery? The commandments? The flood? Killing of homosexuals? Cursing at your parents equals death... pretty hateful. Basically it's very hateful and contradicts itself on too many occasions. It's a mess. But then it was written by very flawed people
MarCuseusFX It’s funny, I said to myself that you were going to include the common claim of slavery being condoned in the Bible. And “Slavery” was the first word in your comment lol. It’s like a broken record with you Atheists and me having to say the same things over and over. Just because a work contains things like slavery, rape, etc.. doesn’t mean these things are being condoned or suggested to be done, it’s talking about history and what was going on at the time and how society was. The Bible isn’t hateful; it’s talking about history. If you wrote a book about some people’s lives and detailed an event in which one of the people were brutally raped, are you recommending that people rape others by it? No you’re not, you’re describing a story or an event. But even so if you wanna get into one of these things specifically, and make the claim, let’s talk about slavery. As far as slavery is concerned, slavery in biblical times was very different from the slavery that was practiced in the last few centuries in many parts of the world. The slavery in the Bible wasn't based exclusively on race. People were not enslaved because of nationality or skin color. In Bible times, slavery was based more on economics; it was a matter of social status. People sold themselves as slaves when they could not pay their debts or provide for their families. In NT times, sometimes doctors, lawyers, and even politicians were slaves of someone else. Some people actually chose to be slaves so as to have all their needs provided for by their masters. The slavery of the last few centuries was usually based exclusively on skin color. In the U.S., many African Americans were considered slaves because of their nationality; many slave owners truly believed African Americans to be inferior human beings. The Bible condemns race-based slavery in that it teaches that all men are created by God and made in His image (Genesis 1:27). At the same time, the OT did allow for economic-based slavery and regulated it. The key issue is that the slavery the Bible allowed for in no way resembled the racial slavery that plagued our world in the past few centuries. In addition, both testaments speak against the practice of “man-stealing,” which is what happened in Africa in the 16th to 19th centuries. Africans were rounded up by slave-hunters, who sold them to slave-traders, who brought them to the New World to work on plantations and farms. This is abhoorrent to God. In fact, the penalty for such a crime in the Mosaic Law was death: “Anyone who kidnaps another and either sells him or still has him when he is caught must be put to death” (Exodus 21:16). Similar, in the NT, slave-traders are listed among those who are “ungodly and sinful” and are in the same category as those who kill their fathers or mothers, murderers, adulterers and perverts, and liars and perjurers (1 Timothy 1:8- 10). Another important point is tha the purpose of the Bible is to point the way to salvation, not to reform society. The Bible often approaches issues from the inside out. If a person experiences the love, mercy, and grace of God by receiving His salvation, God will reform his soul, changing the way he thinks and acts. A person who's has experienced God’s gift of salvation and freedom from the slavery of sin, as God reforms his soul, will realize that enslaving another human being is wrong. He'll see with Paul, that a slave can be “a brother in the Lord” (Philemon 1:16). A person who has truly experienced God’s grace will in turn be gracious towards others. That would be the Bible’s prescription for ending slavery. Also, please read this article: www.revelation.co/2013/06/09/bible-says-its-okay-to-beat-your-slave-as-long-as-they-dont-die-exodus-2120-21/ It does a great job of explaining the verses more in detail and how many Atheists such as yourself are taking it out of context to a large degree. I often see claims of Biblical contradiction but hardly ever see actual contradictions presented to me by the people claiming them, as much of them are taken greatly out of context as well. The Bible isn’t hateful, but what is a pretty bad thing to do is claim things about the Bible that aren’t true, not. The Bible was written by man in the word of God.
My boyfriend accepted Jesus few months ago, when he have time he goes to the bible study, church, but I still think he's confusing. I really feel like God has a propose in our life, but sometimes I have to deal with thing that I don't know how to react, for exemple, He always ask questions like, How can you believe in God or How is miracles are possible ? or How he can feel the Holy spirit or How he cant speak in tongue. Things like that. I'm a Brazilian who used to live in Chicago and now I'm living in Holanda and He's Dutch. Do you girls also think that your culture can influence your marriage life, based on christ ?
Hi I know this is a personal question but did you or are you both saving sex for marriage? If so why? I'm just beginning to realize that many Christians don't save themselves for their spouse. If either or both of you are saving yourself for marriage could you explain how you fought the physical temptations you have had in relationships? Thanks
GodBotherer1 I didn't know she was Pentecostal. I attend a Pentecostal church as well. If what you say is true, marriage can happen at any time for me, yay! 😂😂😂
Okoye Chioma hahha I sensed a jokingly tone in your first comment hahah I was joking back. I do want to get married but I intend to take my time and be selective... I will need at least double the coffee dates 🤣
I would add to be sure to FAST & PRAY about it. I have known even Christians that truly thought he was the one, but he wasn’t. Be open to what the Lord reveals as sometimes it is not what we want to hear, but He knows who is a match for us and who is not. I would be careful about asking others. Even marriages that are matches made by God, may not seem to be “the one” in another’s eyes. Satan is always there trying to deceive.
Hey y'all i habe a question that I've been struggling with. I'm in love with a good Godly Man who is on the same life path as I am. He respects me he and I push each other in the Lord and we really are well matched. But he is of a different ethnicity than mine. And I've gotten positive advice from mini spiritual Giants in our lives saying that it doesn't matter. But my parents and my sister who matter very much to me cannot get past his race. What should I do? My father said he will not willingly give me away to this man. Please help!
This actually helped me a lot. I met this guy back in 2013 and we met again in 2015. Although it was brief and we don’t keep in touch anymore, I actually believe that I have a spiritual connection with him. I can’t really explain it but I just know that it’s from God somehow though I do have my doubts at times. Thank you so much, girls! ❤️
thank you for this video. It does sound to me like the Guy has to be perfect in all this And the girl can just follow. When you are Both Young in the relationship ofcourse you want a Guy that honours you And lead you, but guys also have to learn and grow, they can't be perfect from the first day into the relationship. but as long as he has his heart directed to God and is Willing to do the things the bible says he needs to do, you can still Marry him right?
I loved this video! I'm currently in a relationship and I'm so happy that God shows me he is the one. It just makes me happier to think how we going to honor God in our future marriage, and current relationship.
I loved this so much!!! I have just entered into a relationship with a wonderful guy and these are awesome questions for me to think about!! Thank you so much!
I don't know if that's what they meant, but I often use the word 'purity' to describe more than just 'being a virgin until marriage'... A Christian woman should always be pure. Although being physically pure until marriage is important, to me there's way more to it. It's about being honest, about caring for and helping others, about staying humble and not judging people... and of course also about the more obvious things like dressing modestly, not cheating (that includes emotional cheating/allowing yourself to fall in love with someone else), fighting against any impure thoughts you might have, not consuming anything that could be labeled as pornographic... things like that.
I love your videos! They’ve been a great blessing. Just one suggestion/request... would you consider writing on the screen the numbers/instructions (don’t know how to call it hehe) that you give. Like on this video that you give 5 recommendations, to have those written, so it could be easier for us if we wanted to write them down. Hope my comment makes sense. Thank you once again for the effort you both put into these videos. God bless you!
I am struggling, no guy I met values purity. I am 26 and always wanted to be find someone to be with for years but I worry that I am just going to be alone forever.
Your third topic about making sure others approve really hit hard for me. I have a friend who starting dating someone who was not a good person for her spiritually. She wouldn't listen to anyone's advice, when they told her that he wasn't right for her. They've been dating about 2 years and are now engaged. I only hope and pray that he has changed and has become more holy and will help her achieve heaven. It breaks my heart to think that she may be entering a marriage where God is not the central focus. Please pray for her, that she makes the right decision, and that I can be supportive and happy for her in whatever she chooses!
What's really funny is that in the worldly view, you guys look like to suburban white women with no other problems but to get a husband to lead them. But in kingdoms eyes i have got and understood exactly what your saying and it was very powerful and wise of you. Not everybody will get it so i dont expect them to. But for us, thank you.
One comment about wise people: be careful with the opinions of people. Several people in my life who love me had misgivings about my ex-husband but none of them said anything because they didn't want to hurt my feelings.
Even though I’m not in the realm of wanting to be in a relationship or wanting marriage at this moment, should I️ still pray, or even be preparing to be a Godly partner/wife?
I've been trying to get out of a toxic relationship for a while now, this video helped me discern that this guy is NOT the guy im meant to be with and has helped me immensely. THANK YOU!! 😍
Interesting video I don't disagree with much. Except with the first point, I think the partner takes central priority. I might be biased, since I'm an atheist but I think feelings last, and I they don't.... Then I think I wouldn't want to spend the rest of my life with them
Hello, I have a question : What does it means purity after mariage? Isn't it more about sexuality ? Once you're married the topic about purity before mariage is over so what does it means " If he doesn't value purity now he won't ganna happen after mariage" ?
Purity after marriage means honoring your partner and staying loyal. It is not exactly what most of us have in mind, and that's probably because the meaning of purity is misunderstood. Hope I made that clear for you 😀
Purity after marriage means honoring your partner and staying loyal. It is not exactly what most of us have in mind, and that's probably because the meaning of purity is misunderstood.
Hey Kristen and Bethany! I really hope you guys see this comment. I am wondering- I am dating the guy I want to marry- he checks all the boxes you guys mentioned. We have been dating for 4 years and I have atleast another 3 years of studying left- when do you think it is appropriate to start thinking about marriage- all my friends are getting married- but I really want to finish my studies first- but somehow I also feel like I am worth less because other girls are being proposed to- and my boyfriend hasnt asked me- I know I dont want to get married now- but how do I handle the situation without the lies of the enemy telling me that I am unworthy?
I used to be in the same situation. I wanted to finish my studies and get at least a year of working experience before getting married. That's what felt right to both me and my boyfriend (now fiancé), so we stuck to that plan. We attended a lot of weddings from friends and family (even his little sister got married before him!), so we definitely felt the peer pressure too. I feel like the only way to battle those 'I'm unworthy if I don't get married right now' thoughts is to actively try to shift your focus away from the peer pressure and the devil's lies in your head. Pray, ask the Lord to help you fight those lies, and study the bible. You can also pick some of your favourite inspirational verses and write them down on your notebook, your folders, your calendar/journal, all the stuff you regularly look at during the day. It works well as a little reminder of what's true. It's also important to talk to your partner about your feelings. You need to support each other during that time. Waiting for marriage is hard. Not only the purity part. Waiting till the right time for marriage comes is hard too, but it's the right thing to do. Not everybody is meant to marry at 25 or younger, and that's perfectly fine. 😊❤️
My advice would be to first realise that your worth and happiness comes from God. If you're both seeking His guidance in the relationship, trust in God's timing. I know this period of waiting is difficult, but use it to draw closer to God and to become even more prepared for marriage. I too am sometimes tempted with the enemy's lies of inadequacy, but it's my choice whether to dwell upon them, or upon the promises of God's Word. People have been asking both of us when we're getting engaged, as we've been together for a year and known each other even longer. I've told myself that, as he lets God lead, God will reveal to him when the time is right. In the mean time I'm really focussing on developing my relationship with God and my character. How do I relate to my parents and others? What attitudes and habits do I have that I know are wrong that I need to surrender to God? What really motivates me? Is Jesus truly my first love? Some Bible verses to help: Psalms 27:14, Isaiah 49:15-16, Zephaniah 3:17, Psalms 16:11, Proverbs 3:5-6, Matthew 6:33, Psalm 37:4
lol i don't need a man to lead me, thanks. I can lead myself :)
fernmontage preach honey🙏🙏
Cool have fun!
Read eph 5. Wives shall submit to their husbands
@@athena.mt111 the Thing is... Even this Possibility seems wrong to you ... There are people who are Christian, but See the bible as in Inspiration, and Not follow every single rule some PERSON wrote 2000-5700 years ago......... Lead your life however you want to, but do not force your Lifestyle on Others.
@@sf3731 2 tim 3:16..
I knew who to marry because I felt this amazing feeling inside. You should feel that before you marry.
Those feeling pass ,only Christ matters for me
Ok thanks
Yes, the amazing feeling inside...Everybody have that feeling (unless you live in pakistan or similar) and than divorce rate is high as never before...
1. Is Christ the central focus in this relationship?
2. Do we encourage each other spiritually?
3. Do the wise people in my life support the relationship?
4. Does he value God's design for purity? Does he maintain that and honor it in the relationship?
5. Does he have a vision and passion for his life? Direction not perfect (For Christ as well)
6. Do I want to spend the rest of my life with this guy?
thank you so much
Thank you 😊
This is exactly what I needed today. I was just thinking and praying about this stuff the past few days. Can you please do a video on, how you know if your spiritual ready for marriage.
Why should a spiritual thing be any part of being with another person? Or why are these folks of any authority of how you n yours interact. Are these girls advice ok for anyone, specially those who are from other countries n cultures? Just asking
@@danlotroth9231 this is only for Christian girls :)
You girls have such pretty hair❤️👌🏻
Ava Howard I like your profile picture :)
Please do a video with Zack, Kristine. I would like to know how well you guys know each other and share the biblical thoughts regarding as a couple?
Saira Esther Thomas yes!!!!!!
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Saira Esther Thomas that would be a great video!
Can't discern that from a scripted video ;)
Can you guys do one about how do you know if a boy likes you in like a Christian perspective
P.s love you guys 💙
Sydney Tolbert Ask God if he is right for you. There was this situation where this guy led me on to thinking he liked me. He was very inconsistent on how he acted towards me so I found out he would flirt and talk to me whenever he felt insecure and then just ignored me. He basically used me to bust his self confidence and he was Christian. You have to be careful of guys who are kind of immature and are not seeking marriage or a relationship with you.
This is a great list! Another thing is that he is a hard worker and is not lazy
Amen. Thank you so much for staying true to your faith.
Although I'm not a Christian, I find your videos so inspirational and so positive, and I can relate to the underlyling messages. Thank you for encouraging others to make wise decisions! I've had to make tough choices to end relationships in the past that didn't serve me, but it has led me to a far more fulfilling life now with someone who is so supportive, nurturing, patient, respectful, and shares the same values as I do! :-)
Amen. Me too. I'm more culturally Christian but I'm glad my grandma brought me up in the church just for the morals and strong foundation. Been going through a horrible time and their positivity has really helped.
I'm not judging you or anything of the sort, but I honestly have no idea how you can find GirlDefined inspirational if you're not even Christian? Most CHRISTIAN women take issue with much of what Girl Defined stands for lol. I'm just curious what you get out of their message, since it is 99.9% about God and Jesus.
Glad to watch this when I am still young like 14 cause I have never dated anyone yet and I don't have to make a mistake when I grow up cause I know thanks for the help!
im 19 and i havent dated anyone me too girl haha
Oh trust me you will make mistakes that's how life goes but at least you have influences in your life that will guide you in the right direction.
Elizabeth Worthington Thanks for the information!
Perhaps ask the cute boy out, but remember that its companionship n friendship that make a great relationship. Even though you might have to date a few people before finding a person who worked with your own goals. And remember those goals may change in the rest of the life on the planet..
Mistakes happen, but those froends6n family are there to hold you the same as you hold them .
Danlo Troth Thx ^-^
I am single and I Will be 21 years on November I have never been on a date or in a relationship I am afraid that I will never get a chance to meet someone and married where can I meet a good Christian men ??
You need a man to "pull" you along in your faith? Maybe you should be looking for someone who helps you learn how to think critically and independently. Remember, that "perfect Gods word" was put together by men and copied over and over and translated. Is there a chance it might be flawed or that your interpretation of it might not be right?? Isnt that a bit prideful to assume that you're the correct one..?
Thank you for this, amongst all the mockery there ARE people who appreciate and learn from your channel. Thank you and love you loads x
I totally agree, I may be one of the few but I greatly appreciate their videos! They help me to remain standing in my life with God in the midst of this world.
girl stop you know you just don't want them to stop making top tier cringe because it's so funny 😂
Scottie Breiner nah.
..... came here to see if the guy im with is the right one but only got jesus talk
What if I answered yes to everything, but we are only friends lol
I can't express how much I love this channel! So nice to have fellow Christian women who share the same views and want to help other girls develop in their relationships with Christ truly at the center. :)
This has been so helpful honestly!!!!
THIS IS AN ANSWERED PRAYER!!! Thanks so much!!!
Love u guys ....can’t believe ppl who really honor the word of the Lord are still on Earth !!...jus love u guys ❤️😍
So helpful! But I'm a little confused on the part about "purity is important after marriage too" aren't boundaries just for dating? Thanks!
hello! i think they were referring to the purity of the marriage in a sense that your husband will stay pure for you and be with you only. like he won't cheat because he's not ruled by his flesh. hope this helped, blessings! :)
@Mari E., A male cannot live with a defiled woman and have peace at the same time. A defiled woman who has married can have the illegitimate relationship annulled. So can the woman who became defiled after marriage and returned to her former husband (Dt. 24:4)-forbidden! Questions and Answers: sites.google.com/site/hesedken/dating_and_marriage/faq.html
hesedken I don't understand... are u talking of women who lost their virginity or married women who got divorced...
any sexual defilement of a woman, before or after marriage, is reason for a man to stay away from her... sites.google.com/site/hesedken/repentance/old_testament_female_adultery_defilement_effect.html
hesedken I don't Christianity is like that...
Have you read the book of Haggai...
what if she was a sinner and came to the light, does that make her any less valuable...
2 Corinthians 5:17
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.
I'm so thankfully for this I've had a crush on this guy since I was 9. And we are bestfriends
Usually if guy is your best friend, he definitely likes you
I love your channel. I think a day-in-the-life video would be cool to see. Do you guys plan on making a DITL video in the future?
I appreciate your videos ignore the mockery! ❤️🧡💜💗
It's ridiculous how there is so much unnecessary hate in the comments here
as opposed to all the necessary hate in the bible
MarCuseusFX That’s a bold claim, and one that I’ve heard and responded to quite often. Do you care to elaborate on this supposed hate in the Bible? Not that I don’t already have an idea of what you’re going to say.
@@MayberryDaze64 slavery? The commandments? The flood? Killing of homosexuals? Cursing at your parents equals death... pretty hateful. Basically it's very hateful and contradicts itself on too many occasions. It's a mess. But then it was written by very flawed people
MarCuseusFX It’s funny, I said to myself that you were going to include the common claim of slavery being condoned in the Bible. And “Slavery” was the first word in your comment lol. It’s like a broken record with you Atheists and me having to say the same things over and over. Just because a work contains things like slavery, rape, etc.. doesn’t mean these things are being condoned or suggested to be done, it’s talking about history and what was going on at the time and how society was. The Bible isn’t hateful; it’s talking about history. If you wrote a book about some people’s lives and detailed an event in which one of the people were brutally raped, are you recommending that people rape others by it? No you’re not, you’re describing a story or an event. But even so if you wanna get into one of these things specifically, and make the claim, let’s talk about slavery. As far as slavery is concerned, slavery in biblical times was very different from the slavery that was practiced in the last few centuries in many parts of the world. The slavery in the Bible wasn't based exclusively on race. People were not enslaved because of nationality or skin color. In Bible times, slavery was based more on economics; it was a matter of social status. People sold themselves as slaves when they could not pay their debts or provide for their families. In NT times, sometimes doctors, lawyers, and even politicians were slaves of someone else. Some people actually chose to be slaves so as to have all their needs provided for by their masters.
The slavery of the last few centuries was usually based exclusively on skin color. In the U.S., many African Americans were considered slaves because of their nationality; many slave owners truly believed African Americans to be inferior human beings. The Bible condemns race-based slavery in that it teaches that all men are created by God and made in His image (Genesis 1:27). At the same time, the OT did allow for economic-based slavery and regulated it. The key issue is that the slavery the Bible allowed for in no way resembled the racial slavery that plagued our world in the past few centuries.
In addition, both testaments speak against the practice of “man-stealing,” which is what happened in Africa in the 16th to 19th centuries. Africans were rounded up by slave-hunters, who sold them to slave-traders, who brought them to the New World to work on plantations and farms. This is abhoorrent to God. In fact, the penalty for such a crime in the Mosaic Law was death: “Anyone who kidnaps another and either sells him or still has him when he is caught must be put to death” (Exodus 21:16). Similar, in the NT, slave-traders are listed among those who are “ungodly and sinful” and are in the same category as those who kill their fathers or mothers, murderers, adulterers and perverts, and liars and perjurers (1 Timothy 1:8- 10).
Another important point is tha the purpose of the Bible is to point the way to salvation, not to reform society. The Bible often approaches issues from the inside out. If a person experiences the love, mercy, and grace of God by receiving His salvation, God will reform his soul, changing the way he thinks and acts. A person who's has experienced God’s gift of salvation and freedom from the slavery of sin, as God reforms his soul, will realize that enslaving another human being is wrong. He'll see with Paul, that a slave can be “a brother in the Lord” (Philemon 1:16). A person who has truly experienced God’s grace will in turn be gracious towards others. That would be the Bible’s prescription for ending slavery.
Also, please read this article: www.revelation.co/2013/06/09/bible-says-its-okay-to-beat-your-slave-as-long-as-they-dont-die-exodus-2120-21/
It does a great job of explaining the verses more in detail and how many Atheists such as yourself are taking it out of context to a large degree. I often see claims of Biblical contradiction but hardly ever see actual contradictions presented to me by the people claiming them, as much of them are taken greatly out of context as well. The Bible isn’t hateful, but what is a pretty bad thing to do is claim things about the Bible that aren’t true, not. The Bible was written by man in the word of God.
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My boyfriend accepted Jesus few months ago, when he have time he goes to the bible study, church, but I still think he's confusing. I really feel like God has a propose in our life, but sometimes I have to deal with thing that I don't know how to react, for exemple, He always ask questions like, How can you believe in God or How is miracles are possible ? or How he can feel the Holy spirit or How he cant speak in tongue. Things like that. I'm a Brazilian who used to live in Chicago and now I'm living in Holanda and He's Dutch. Do you girls also think that your culture can influence your marriage life, based on christ ?
I am a single girl too
Bethany... dont go crazy you will get there. Patience Patiense. The right one will find you.
Hi I know this is a personal question but did you or are you both saving sex for marriage? If so why? I'm just beginning to realize that many Christians don't save themselves for their spouse. If either or both of you are saving yourself for marriage could you explain how you fought the physical temptations you have had in relationships? Thanks
Kristen, how long did you date Zack before you got married?
GodBotherer1 I didn't know she was Pentecostal. I attend a Pentecostal church as well. If what you say is true, marriage can happen at any time for me, yay! 😂😂😂
GodBotherer1 not true....
Okoye Chioma hahha I sensed a jokingly tone in your first comment hahah I was joking back. I do want to get married but I intend to take my time and be selective... I will need at least double the coffee dates 🤣
Gabriela Mendez lol... yeah...😀😀
Me and my hubby dated for 3 years because we were waiting for me to get out of high school. It wasn't shotgun though!
I would add to be sure to FAST & PRAY about it. I have known even Christians that truly thought he was the one, but he wasn’t. Be open to what the Lord reveals as sometimes it is not what we want to hear, but He knows who is a match for us and who is not. I would be careful about asking others. Even marriages that are matches made by God, may not seem to be “the one” in another’s eyes. Satan is always there trying to deceive.
Hey y'all i habe a question that I've been struggling with. I'm in love with a good Godly Man who is on the same life path as I am. He respects me he and I push each other in the Lord and we really are well matched. But he is of a different ethnicity than mine. And I've gotten positive advice from mini spiritual Giants in our lives saying that it doesn't matter. But my parents and my sister who matter very much to me cannot get past his race. What should I do? My father said he will not willingly give me away to this man. Please help!
This actually helped me a lot. I met this guy back in 2013 and we met again in 2015. Although it was brief and we don’t keep in touch anymore, I actually believe that I have a spiritual connection with him. I can’t really explain it but I just know that it’s from God somehow though I do have my doubts at times. Thank you so much, girls! ❤️
How do you get out of a relationship with a great guy, but the wrong guy?
thank you for this video. It does sound to me like the Guy has to be perfect in all this And the girl can just follow. When you are Both Young in the relationship ofcourse you want a Guy that honours you And lead you, but guys also have to learn and grow, they can't be perfect from the first day into the relationship. but as long as he has his heart directed to God and is Willing to do the things the bible says he needs to do, you can still Marry him right?
I'm Muslim, but I love the points you make about prioritising spirituality. The qualities you've mentioned are helpful, and I love your energy :)
I have a question, how do I get out of a relationship with someone who does not know God ? It's so difficult for me. Please help!
I like the last part u said about thinking if this person is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with.. im so confused ugh.
Question 1. Before even starting any relationship...Is Christ the central focus of His life? Q2. Does he hate his sin?
Same questions to you
I needed this so badly right now. Thank you, girls :)
Significantly timely. ♡ Thanks for this! ♡
I loved this video! I'm currently in a relationship and I'm so happy that God shows me he is the one. It just makes me happier to think how we going to honor God in our future marriage, and current relationship.
I needed this SO much right now!!! Thank you!!!!!!!! 😘
Thank you so much, this video helped so much!
This was honestly so helpful.
I stumble into this channel when i was on my way back home frm working and it blesses me so much! Thank you! It encourages me so much!
Praise God. Thanks for these tips!
So helpful!!!!! ❤️
I loved this so much!!! I have just entered into a relationship with a wonderful guy and these are awesome questions for me to think about!! Thank you so much!
I'm young but this was still helpful
bloopers are so cute!! ty for the message!
BETHANY’S HAIR 😍😍😍
any tips for atheists?
Wow! These are great questions. I really needed to hear this rn. 👍🏼
This was really helpful and came up at just the right time! 💖
Soo good! 👍
can you do a video on how to recover from a horrible past, past of impurity and so on... and how to tell a CHRISTIAN guy about your past? Thanks
Altra Reisende also forgive yourself
What do you mean "honor purity after marriage"?
livelovenick meaning that the both of you will stay pure with each other. So not cheating with another person, watching pornography etc.
livelovenick overly pushing to have his way, when you are not in the place or mood... I am guessing
not cheating on you....
I don't know if I consider that purity. I would consider that falling into the category of commitment! But I totally get what you mean.
I don't know if that's what they meant, but I often use the word 'purity' to describe more than just 'being a virgin until marriage'... A Christian woman should always be pure. Although being physically pure until marriage is important, to me there's way more to it. It's about being honest, about caring for and helping others, about staying humble and not judging people... and of course also about the more obvious things like dressing modestly, not cheating (that includes emotional cheating/allowing yourself to fall in love with someone else), fighting against any impure thoughts you might have, not consuming anything that could be labeled as pornographic... things like that.
Thanks girl defined. This really helped me.
I love your videos! They’ve been a great blessing. Just one suggestion/request... would you consider writing on the screen the
numbers/instructions (don’t know how to call it hehe) that you give. Like on this video that you give 5 recommendations, to have those written, so it could be easier for us if we wanted to write them down.
Hope my comment makes sense. Thank you once again for the effort you both put into these videos. God bless you!
You girls are just amazing! 💖💖
I am struggling, no guy I met values purity. I am 26 and always wanted to be find someone to be with for years but I worry that I am just going to be alone forever.
What if he is Christian but not a virgin
Elyshia Martinez if he has come to the Lord and repented and done away with his past ways there is nothing wrong with that.
If he has repented , changed that lifestyle and puts God first.
Your third topic about making sure others approve really hit hard for me. I have a friend who starting dating someone who was not a good person for her spiritually. She wouldn't listen to anyone's advice, when they told her that he wasn't right for her. They've been dating about 2 years and are now engaged. I only hope and pray that he has changed and has become more holy and will help her achieve heaven. It breaks my heart to think that she may be entering a marriage where God is not the central focus. Please pray for her, that she makes the right decision, and that I can be supportive and happy for her in whatever she chooses!
What's really funny is that in the worldly view, you guys look like to suburban white women with no other problems but to get a husband to lead them.
But in kingdoms eyes i have got and understood exactly what your saying and it was very powerful and wise of you. Not everybody will get it so i dont expect them to. But for us, thank you.
Yesss girls thanks fr those awsme advice!! May God continu to work abondantly in your lives!!
is it normal to have doubts? I hear that if you know he's the one, you just know. is that true? when you know, are you just so certain and sure?
Like a 60 year old pastor!!! Hahahaha I love you ladies! Wonderful video and fantastic resource. THANK YOU! God bless 💕
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One comment about wise people: be careful with the opinions of people. Several people in my life who love me had misgivings about my ex-husband but none of them said anything because they didn't want to hurt my feelings.
“ do I want to spend the rest of my life with this guy ?” Thank you for asking
I love this ❤️
What does it exactly mean for a man to be the spiritual leader? Like how does that manifest in a relationship?
And then there are relationships like mine, when God calls you to be together.
Even though I’m not in the realm of wanting to be in a relationship or wanting marriage at this moment, should I️ still pray, or even be preparing to be a Godly partner/wife?
I have all green lights except the last one which is such a hard place to be. Thanks!
My opinion is marriage is a personal choice when you know your ready for marriage.
I've been trying to get out of a toxic relationship for a while now, this video helped me discern that this guy is NOT the guy im meant to be with and has helped me immensely. THANK YOU!! 😍
So beautiful women and they have The Word. Thank you for these right words that are really word-directed
If only i had found your channel (and you had made this video) before i married my (now ex) husband.
right... do I really want to spend THE REST OF MY LIFE with this person????
I really like this style of ur videos. Feels like friends talking to me
Interesting video I don't disagree with much. Except with the first point, I think the partner takes central priority. I might be biased, since I'm an atheist but I think feelings last, and I they don't.... Then I think I wouldn't want to spend the rest of my life with them
Nah ,feeling don't last ,only Christ lasts
This is really good! Thank you so much Kristin and Bethany!!!
This was a really good, impactful, and truthful video! :)
You should do a video about hairstyles.. Your hair is always so nice..
I agree with some of what you say,but not with everything.
hi girls. thanks for this video. it really helps so much💑
I love your video!!! It's sooo good to here these questions.
Words of wisdom. This is really good!
I love your energy ,God bless you
I though you are twins for a moment
I’m so happy and blessed to have come across your channel 💜 thank you so much for these words and all of your videos! Can’t wait for more!!
Hello, I have a question :
What does it means purity after mariage? Isn't it more about sexuality ? Once you're married the topic about purity before mariage is over so what does it means " If he doesn't value purity now he won't ganna happen after mariage" ?
Purity after marriage means honoring your partner and staying loyal. It is not exactly what most of us have in mind, and that's probably because the meaning of purity is misunderstood. Hope I made that clear for you 😀
Purity after marriage means honoring your partner and staying loyal. It is not exactly what most of us have in mind, and that's probably because the meaning of purity is misunderstood.
Hey Kristen and Bethany! I really hope you guys see this comment. I am wondering- I am dating the guy I want to marry- he checks all the boxes you guys mentioned. We have been dating for 4 years and I have atleast another 3 years of studying left- when do you think it is appropriate to start thinking about marriage- all my friends are getting married- but I really want to finish my studies first- but somehow I also feel like I am worth less because other girls are being proposed to- and my boyfriend hasnt asked me- I know I dont want to get married now- but how do I handle the situation without the lies of the enemy telling me that I am unworthy?
I used to be in the same situation. I wanted to finish my studies and get at least a year of working experience before getting married. That's what felt right to both me and my boyfriend (now fiancé), so we stuck to that plan. We attended a lot of weddings from friends and family (even his little sister got married before him!), so we definitely felt the peer pressure too.
I feel like the only way to battle those 'I'm unworthy if I don't get married right now' thoughts is to actively try to shift your focus away from the peer pressure and the devil's lies in your head. Pray, ask the Lord to help you fight those lies, and study the bible. You can also pick some of your favourite inspirational verses and write them down on your notebook, your folders, your calendar/journal, all the stuff you regularly look at during the day. It works well as a little reminder of what's true.
It's also important to talk to your partner about your feelings. You need to support each other during that time.
Waiting for marriage is hard. Not only the purity part. Waiting till the right time for marriage comes is hard too, but it's the right thing to do. Not everybody is meant to marry at 25 or younger, and that's perfectly fine. 😊❤️
My advice would be to first realise that your worth and happiness comes from God. If you're both seeking His guidance in the relationship, trust in God's timing. I know this period of waiting is difficult, but use it to draw closer to God and to become even more prepared for marriage. I too am sometimes tempted with the enemy's lies of inadequacy, but it's my choice whether to dwell upon them, or upon the promises of God's Word. People have been asking both of us when we're getting engaged, as we've been together for a year and known each other even longer. I've told myself that, as he lets God lead, God will reveal to him when the time is right. In the mean time I'm really focussing on developing my relationship with God and my character. How do I relate to my parents and others? What attitudes and habits do I have that I know are wrong that I need to surrender to God? What really motivates me? Is Jesus truly my first love?
Some Bible verses to help: Psalms 27:14, Isaiah 49:15-16, Zephaniah 3:17, Psalms 16:11, Proverbs 3:5-6, Matthew 6:33, Psalm 37:4
This helped me so much I even cried
Needed to hear this
Thank you 🙏🏾
Beautiful :)