The Best Questions To Ask On A First Date!
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For those on a time crunch:
1. Do they have the same beliefs as you? (Are they a Christian?)
2. "What is something that you don't want me to know about you?"
3. "What is something you do want me to know about you?"
4. Ask about their family and what kind of relationship they have with their family members.
5. "Describe yourself in three words."
6. "What has been your greatest failure?"
7. "What has been your greatest achievement?"
8. "Walk me through a day in your life."
9. "If you had to think happy thoughts in order to fly, what would you think about?"
10. (If they are a Christian): "Would you describe your relationship with Jesus cold, lukewarm, or hot, and why?"
11. "If you could go back and do something in your life differently, what would it be?"
12. "What do you look for in a significant other?"
13. (Possible follow-up to question twelve if you want to): "Do you match that description?"
14. "What is something that has made you laugh until you cried?"
15. "Why did your previous relationships not work out?"
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thank you!!
You guys who do this are the bestest!!
Elisa, thank you so much for summarizing the whole video. It was helpful when you almost have the first date coming in!
I've never been on a date, but one of the very first questions I'd ask is "what's your testimony?"
Ooo yeah that’s a great one!!
Same.
Can you only have a testimony if you didn’t believe in God at one time in your life?
@@jesuschristismylord4043 I'm not entirely sure if I understood your question but I'll give it a go! Everyone has a testimony because we aren't born into Christianity (referring to how like muslims are muslim because they're born in a muslim family.) People themselves have to choose Christ and be born again.
@@caitlyn7373 I was taught God was real from as young as I remember and when I was 11 asked Jesus into my heart, but I’m only getting baptized now at 19. Didn’t happen when I was younger cause my parents wanted it to be my decision.
"Hey this is Sutton and Sutton with another video!"
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Here are some questions I thought of:
Would you say you are content with life now?
What is your greatest struggle now? What is the greatest struggle you have overcome by God's grace?
What has God been teaching you recently?
How would you like me to pray for you?
What is your favorite Bible verse? Why?
If God were to tell you to leave your home country to be a missionary, would you go?
How would you summarize your relationship with your parents, siblings, coworkers, boss, and pastor in one sentence?
What talents has God given you, and how do you think He wants you to use them?
If your future child was in a relationship, would you want that date to be a person like you?
THE LAST ONE 🔥🔥🔥
Date and ask questions with intention and purpose.
Yessss
It’s fun to see you just by yourself, Sutton. You rocked this video 😎
Thank you!
I always ask why their previous relationships didn't work out! Because it opens the door for me to talk about how serious I am towards chastity and their reaction usually tells me whether or not is prudent to pursue a relationship with them
I love that question “what’s something you don’t want me to know about you?” That’s so good! Definitely an ice breaker. I sometimes ask people (and asked my husband too when we were dating) “who is someone that you’d like to emulate and why?”, so trying to see who they look up to. I think that can tell a lot about a person 😊
Omg I had that one written down and didn’t say it!! Love that one!
“what’s something you don’t want me to know about you?” I don't think this is a good question on 1st date, lot of people might get defensive about this and won't have a 2nd date. They would think why would I tell a total stranger those private things.
But at least it can test how open a person is. Still, not a good 1st date question for sure.
Lol you did the clap alone today. I felt his absence. 🥺
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when I think about what I want to talk about with someone on the first date, half of the time I'm like "I can't ask that, it might get really awkward" and the second half I'm like " nevermind, if he thinks it's awkward he's probably not what I'm looking for anyway"
Haha same!
Haha true!
Most first dates are a little awkward. Best to embrace the awkwardness and go for it. How I do that is I flat out say "I might be awkward at first so bear with me". Usually the guy finds this cute and he is willing to just go with whatever you ask to make you feel less awkward. 😂😂
I like to ask what they're reading in the Bible at the moment. :)
That’s a good one.
that’s a rlly good one!!
Love this
1 Timothy 2:12
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another question i like to ask is "where do you see yourself in 5 years?"
Didn't even realize this was your first video by yourself. Loved it!
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Side note: Ladies, ask a man what his vision is cause that's what you are going to be helping to see come to fruition.
When a woman is getting to know someone she is literally approaching a man who has recognized his assignment and is working on it and saying "How can I help with that?" Because women are helpers. Men are leaders. I know this is 2021 and the times may otherwise but this is the biblical concept and it just makes sense.
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And ladies always ALWAYS remember you are the prize💎. I think that is pretty much self explanatory.
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Blessings to you and yours.
I think asking your own self some of these questions will help you know more about you and kind of just self- analyze. It may also help you articulate better how you feel and perhaps understand why you do certain things in certain ways. 😊
saving this, might come in handy in the future
The fact that you want most of the time to have deep conversations I totally understand!!! I'm like that too and when I tell my friends they say that's abnormal! Hehe but I like it anyway!! Thanks so much for your helpful questions! Pray for us to find a date so we can actually use them!! May God bless you and your beautiful family! ❤️😊🙏
I was just wanting a video like this. First date videos are great.
Even when you don't have a date coming on hahaha
You're amazing Sutton! You got this.
On a first date, how much time should be spent on things related to Christ, Christianity, faith, ect etc? 50%? 25%? 75%?
Edit: knowing that me and my date would both be Christian**
This is just my opinion, since Jesus is so great and so much bigger than we can understand, I’d say the more the better. He gave up His life for us, talking about Him the whole date (with authenticity off course) would just show the person is completely sold out and in love with Jesus. The other things will come up eventually, but do make time for the important questions somewhere in the first few dates I’d say.
Hope this gives a little guidance.
Ps thanks for asking an excellent question, you’re awesome!
@@shaughnsmit2076 you're crazy.
I think you should kind of flow with your date, not everyone is comfortable talking about deep topics right away, maybe warm up to it start off with easy questions first and drop a couple deep ones whenever you feel that its a good time. Thats what i am currently doing.
I think if your partner is Christian, he or she will eventually want to be asked the deep questions, and talk about Christ. Have fun and see what your date’s personality is all about!
You can steer the conversation a bit but you can't predict or control its flow
For me, I’d prolly be def over 50%. I get real skeptical about people when they don’t want to talk about God if they claim to be Christian.
I love having deep conversations! I mean I dont mind light hearted conversations and to joke around, but I'm able to bond better with a deep conversation.
Oh wow
Then we can be friends 😁
When me and my fiancé first meet I would ask him to share random facts about himself and I would share some too. E.g I always wear socks that match in color to my outfits, I always get the hiccups. He told me things like he drinks milk straight out of the bottle and and that he always randomly interrupts people to sing. It was super fun and I loved getting to know about all his little quirks ❤️😆
Haha as that’s fun!
Blessed is the woman who fears and honors God. I see such a woman in you Sutton. You are a blessing to your husband and to your sons and to your family. Keep it up! Love from India! Jesus is LORD!
Some good deep questions! I’ll keep some in my pocket for when I do finally go on my first date. I def appreciate the tips for the Christian folks. As a Christian, my first concern is that we both love the Lord.
1. Are you Christian?/Do you believe in Jesus?/What do you believe in?
2. What is something that you don't want me to know about you?
3. What is something that you DO want me to know about you?
4. Tell me about your family. Describe your family members to me.
5. Describe yourself in 3 words.
6. What has been your greatest failure? What has been your greatest achievement?
7. Walk me through a day in your life.
8. If you had to think happy thoughts in order to fly (like in Peter Pan), what would you think about?
9. Would you describe your relationship with Jesus as cold, lukewarm or hot? Why?
10. If you could go back and do something in your life differently, what would it be?
11. What do you look for in a significant other?
12. What is something funny that has made you laugh until you cried?
13. Why did your previous relationships not work out?
* do comment if i got any wrong~ ♥️
Thank you!
As someone who gets too close to people too quickly I would avoid asking some of these questions but some of these I’m like “yasssss that’s perfect!!”
When I watch your videos, I can't help but be surprised at how similar you and me are; I can't help thinking "This is me in another ten years." The three words I would use to describe myself are calm, contemplative, and conservative.
Favourite UA-cam channel 🔥
Ok I am going to ask this questions myself, to understand me better!
One question I like is "What is something kind of dumb that you believed as a kid?"
It can bring up some good stories and give the person a chance to laugh at their past self!
this is so practical, love it!
My friend went out on a date on guy he met on a Christian dating website and, he asked him if he was a Christian, he said that he believed he was because his ex wife was a catholic. Needless to say they didn’t go on a second date.
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"They look like little chicklets..." LOL That made me laugh....
Brilliant video! Thank you Sutton, really super interesting questions to ask anyone!
Little brag on God, in my friend group I’m always the question asker sometimes they ask back sometimes not even. So this week I started praying that my wife one day would also be a great question asker! And here you’re making this video and God’s ‘winking at me, saying I’ve got you son, you’re both growing!’
Aw that’s cool! I always thought a great quality in someone is to be a good question asker!
I love asking “tell me about your best friend!!”
That’s a good one!!
I’m not dating anyone right now, but if I do I’m gonna save these questions for then ☺️
Love watching the videos you post on this channel and listening to your advice and insight, especially when it comes to marriage and faith!
Thank you for following along!
You nailed it flying solo, Sutton! (Although Nate’s sense of humour definitely makes your videos more interesting when you do them together). These are all great questions.
Haha thank you! Def better with the goofball by my side!
Hey!! Just wanted to say I just found your channel and sooooo happy I did! So cool to watch a true genuine Christian couple on UA-cam. Love all you topics and looking forward to watching more!
I asked my husband, "When and how did you have a personal encounter with Jesus?" I think this one's a really good question to ask to know if they really are a follower of Christ 😊
On the first date, I would ask if she is vaccinated or is going to get the Covid19 vaccine. If she answers yes, I will never see her again.
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@amy king most people who get the covid vaccine tend to lean left politically speaking
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All Covid-19 injections are dangerous and deadly
Bro I'm required to get it for my job, chill
@@stormyrain2957 that's like saying all Republicans or all democrats are dangerous to this country. That's called a logical fallacy
I have my first, first date in 24 years tonight! I'm beyond nervous! But I'm good at hiding it....I think! Hope some of these questions work!
can you make a video about dating in high school? pros, cons, boundaries, knowing if he/she is right/worth it, etc.?
Nathan Sutton's video is a great way to learn more about someone, asking fun questions to get to know them better.
Really wanted to find someone to share on questions and conversation starters during first dates and really glad I found you!
Honestly I’d rather ask all the hard questions first only because I don’t want to waste my time 😂
A biblical counseling writer suggested asking counselees, “Would you consider yourself a Christian? What do you love most about being a Christian?” Their answers say a lot about Christ’s significance in their lives and whether they really have a relationship with him.
You did really good Sutton on your own. I enjoyed hearing the suggestions.
Thank you!
Nice work on the solo vid! Really enjoyed some of these questions, and I also value leaving an interaction knowing more about the other person. People wanna be known and heard, I think it means a lot to some people maybe even without them realizing it.
I like deep questions that's what makes a real conversation, nice video Sutton God bless
Thank you for sharing, I haven't had a boyfriend in over 2 years. Dating now is hard, no one wants to wait or honor God in dating anymore... It's rough out here
I believe it 😞 but don’t lose faith!
When the timing is right, the Lord will place a man of honor and good integrity in your path who will be the perfect fit for you. I met my husband 11 years ago. He was 27 and had intentionally never been in a relationship. He saved himself completely for me.
He had several female friends over the years, who he had considered as possibilities for pursuing, but he always just stayed friends while getting to know them. As each of those friendships revealed that him and the woman weren’t the Lord’s plan for each other, they agreed to remain friends and were able to do so because they had never crossed boundaries emotionally or physically.
I desired to have a man who wanted what the Lord wanted in his life; a man who wanted to wait, because the Lord wanted him to wait (not just a man who was willing to wait because it was what I valued... I wanted it to be his value, too). I wouldn’t have minded if he had a past where he had not waited, but had then come to know the Lord and had put that past behind him. That would have been fine with me, because I know the redemptive work of Jesus and I wanted someone who was currently right with the Lord and desired to do things His way.
When I came into my husband’s life, I was new to the area and ended up in a Bible study he was leading. We spent a few months getting to know each other in the context of a group setting, while we spent time with the friends from the Bible study (both during the Bible study, and on weekends, just for fellowship). Through that season, we really got to know one another without any pressure or trying to impress each other, because we were just friends. It gave me insight into his personality, because I was able to see him interacting with our friends, not just myself. And none of it was under the guise of us “liking” each other. Through our friendship, I found out that he had never been in a relationship and had been saving himself (heart, soul and body) for his wife. As it turns out, the Lord’s plan was for him to be with me. I was amazed that this man had not only remained pure, physically, but that he had chosen not to arouse or awaken love in his heart by entering a relationship he couldn’t see ending in marriage. It was such a gift the Lord gave me, beyond what I had even dared to ask for. I had not met any man before that who was interested in saving himself for marriage.
When we married, my husband was 30 years old. We waited until our wedding night and have never regretted it.
So be encouraged because men of honor and good integrity are out there; it just takes patience and trusting the Lord to write your love story. The right man for you will value what the Lord values and will match you perfectly. He won’t chose to wait, simply because you want to, but he will want that for himself (even if he has a history in the past where he has not waited, and then got his heart right with the Lord and was washed clean). What matters is that he will be growing in his relationship with the Lord and will desire to do things the Lord’s way from the beginning of your relationship on. Be blessed and I pray the Lord fills your heart while you are waiting and that He remains your first love even when your wait for your spouse is over. That is one thing I love about my season of being single... my relationship with the Lord became so solid and real and close that even in marriage, I still love spending time with Him... just He and I. I pray this for you as well. 💗💕
@@nateandsutton thanks❤
Yes! Fun to see you rocking it solo! You did great!
My first question will always be "Are u looking for love or help?"
Another good question to know their faith walk is to ask: "What does your normal Sunday look like?" You might even find out that they worship on Saturday rather than Sunday.
Honestly these questions are soo good! And some can be asked to simple friends :)
Thankyou very much Nate and Sutton,
I never really know how to come up with qtns on the first date, I have learned so much from this video, it will be of good use in my life. Thankyou ❤️
You did great Sutton! ❤️❤️❤️ I miss seeing you guys just sitting down and talking about topics like these...but it's still nice to see activities in your lives~!
Sit down video coming this Sunday!!
You are a charismatic girl and your questions also are really good!!
You can ask yourself and answer honestly so you can "get to know yourself better " !
Thanks
Nate & Sutton....you ROCK! Appreicate y'all. Much love! I think a good question is: Can you share one of your favorite God adventures? Another: What is your favorite book in the bible and why. Lastly: Can you share about any dreams on your heart that you would like to see become a reality.
Those are all great ones!
I feel like some these are also good questions to ask to friends and people you are trying to know better.
What is your life verse (if you have one)?
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What is one of your favourite verses?
And
Which is your favourite book of the Bible?
And
Who is your favourite biblical character?
And
What is one of your favourite biblical stories?
In asking about someone's faith, ask them the Ultimate Questions: Where did we come from? What is our purpose for living? Are we here for a purpose? What is our ultimate destiny?
These can help derermine someone's beliefs beyond the vague term 'Christianity' or just simply believing in Jesus. ☺
I feel like some of these are more second or third date questions
I don't know if I would be going on a second date after so many hard questions back to back
If I was on the receiving end
I plan on going on a date/hangout out in 2 weeks, I’ll try to remember to let y’all know how the questions went
As a child, what did you want to be/do when you grew up?
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What has been your favourite job?
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Who inspires you?
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Who would you most like to have a cuppa/coffee with (living or dead)?
(And many more! 😄)
Being in my 30s and I take a no time to waste approach, difficult topics to find out you even make it to a second date - CHILDREN, POLITICS, RELIGION, MONEY, ETC.
Love that you guys have been posting ❤
Love these questions! I wrote a few down on my phone to remember them😊
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I'm super glad you decided to make this video early and even if it was solo. I'm hanging out with an old guy friend this Saturday for the first time since the pandemic started, this will be perfect
I truly enjoyed this topic. I struggle with asking questions (perhaps due to being anxious) even though I long to have thorough conversations with people I meet. Do you know of any resources to aid in developing thorough /deep conversation and questions ?
Sutton, these are so cute. Thank you ❤️
Amen! These are some great questions. Love you guys!😁😁😁
These are great. Thank you! I feel so awkward sometimes on dates, so this helps!
One christian guy asked me to go on a date with him. This is my first date as a christian, and I'm panicking. I don't mind to get know the person, but I don't want to give hope of dating or about future.
Before I went on a date with guys but as non-believer, and made a lot of mistakes
These are great questions! Thanks
Thanks Sutton!! This was super helpful
I like walk me through ur day and happy thoughts one to fly. Happy thoughts one probably involve food and vacations.
Yes! Def true for me 😅🙌🏽
I usually ask: “Who is Jesus to you?” to gain a better understanding as to if our Christian beliefs are best aligned.
I like the question, “do you want to play the question game?”
Lol I’m gonna have to borrow that one 😉
if I meet my unknown future hubby one day I'd surely ask these questions 💕
Thnks Sis, for those truly valuable ones.....
These are good questions! I think I’m gonna have fun asking friends and maybe a future date some of these 😆
Love from David to this channel. Healthy dates lead to healthy partners. Healthy partners to love and happiness evermore
Thanks Sutton! Looking forward to watching. :]
Good questions, even for non-Christians!
Great questions! I like asking about do you wants kids? Thoughts on biblical roles in marriage? Favorite books of the bible?
That’s a good question! A lot of people seem very hesitant or fearful about having kids so it can be good to know their thoughts early in a relationship
That’s great! we know a guy who married a girl and didn’t find out she didn’t want kids until after they were married 😱
@@nateandsutton Eek couldn't imagine.
Hey! Thank you so much for this video! It’s soo helpful!
I don’t believe we’re entitled to all of that info about someone that soon.
A lot of those questions are deeply personal. I understand that its getting to know one another but it should be taken slowly.
In a similar way that physical connections are slowly built I think emotional ones should follow suit.
I like most of them.. others felt too much like an interview. I will use your suggestions on asking hard questions.
Thanks 👍🏽
Going on a date at 5:30! Kind of nervous but this was a nice little refresher! Thank you😊
how did it go
@@OurStoryEsp It went super well! Went and got coffee and walked around downtown in my town for 2 hours! She has to go back to college tomorrow but I think she’s down to go on another date when she’s back for spring break!
@@jaredscotbrandon2593 I'm glad to hear that 😄
Thank you Sutton! These are great questions!
I love this so much! So helpful, thank-you!
That gas shortage story is funny
Thanks Sutton! That was a goooood one! Just can't wait to go on my first date!
I do that a lot with the guys I talk to. I can’t wait to watch this!
Loved this & like more girl talks haha! Also, what camera & editing software do you guys use?
Don't have a date...never been on a date😂 but this is so helpful..thanks Sutton
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Psalm 122:6 - Pray for the peace of Israel 🙏
Jerusalem is the ETERNAL CAPITAL of Israel
The media won’t tell you what is REALLY happening over there!! 😡
Some of these were great. Thank you ❤
I asked my date about his thoughts on predestination on the phone yesterday and my mom made fun me. She said I was talking about too deep of topics too soon. Do you think asking about that was wrong? He and I have been talking for nearly a month and recently went on our first date.
Haha no I don’t think so! I guess it depends on the person, but I like the depth! That’s how you get to know someone!
@@nateandsutton Thanks for the encouragement. ❤
These are really good questions, thanks Sutton!😘