Child Sexual Abuse: Facts & Myths - What You Need To Know To Keep All Children Safe
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- Опубліковано 21 вер 2024
- You can help protect a child, maybe even your child. The statistics show that 20-30 of our boys and girls are sexually abused, and often by someone they know. With some simple information that is not covered by most presentations and articles on child sexual abuse, you can change a life.
These type of videos don’t get enough views or shares ... too many people don’t want to deal with or hear about this very common dilemma/evil ... yet we complain about mental illness, drug abusers, alcoholics, and even taxes ... but poor children are growing up screwed bc of too much trauma . It’s sad and overwhelming but the groups that tries to help are angels . Great video
Ghanta help
Well said
Truth is often less acceptable than what is more comfortable.
They are completely destroyed as far as self-esteem goes.
We know how these child victims turn out ass fucked up adults.
My father told me all girls wanted to have sex with their fathers and I didn’t want to because I was repressed and in denial. He told me my friends and my cousins did. Then later when I was a teenager he told me he realized I never felt that way for him and how that was a good thing because “we couldn’t handle it.” He sexually harassed from me the age of 5 to 25. He says I can’t say I was sexually abused because we didn’t have sex. I hate him and pray there’s a hell so he can face punishment in the afterlife.
I'm so sorry that happened to you. I hope he pays for what he did.
💔 I’m so sorry
I grew up sexually abused and my parents knew about it and they told me I am not allowed to tell anyone about what happened to me or they’ll take me away from my family. As a child I did not want to be separated from my family so I was manipulated into staying silent
i’m so sorry that happened to you. i hope you can find help and heal from this. you’re so brave for sharing your story
@@darciestimpson8904 thank you🖤
Yes, he and his incest molestation cult is very manipulative and controlling there victims
This shit pisses me off so much!
I’m so sorry. This happened to me too.
Saying no is such an important skill to learn. I know people who are adults who struggle with this.
If you’re 5 and you’re caregiver is watching you - you don’t know to say no. It’s not always applicable in child abuse
It’s hard for victims when it’s the parent doing it especially a mother. No one believes the child.
I cried my eyes out viewing this great video, as well as having to swallow pain pills to stop the pain in my stomach ---- after trying other things to stop it.
I am 62, a 6'1" 200lb male who is no sissy.
In Grade 2 my teacher many times had me stay after class to sexually abuse me. She, asked if I would like to be made a 'special boy.' I nodded yes, against the traumatizing already received at home of another kind. She said I would have to keep it a secret if I wanted to stay special. Of course I nodded yes again.
No kid or parent even imagined this happening to a Grade 2 child in the mid-1960s. None of we boys of hers understood at all what was happening.
The schoolroom doors had no windows in the mid-1960s. She simply locked the door, shut out the lights, then sat with me behind her desk. She had me keep my right arm on the desk for balance.
I never looked down to see what was happening. For some reason that was too much, probably for being highly HSP. That closed door got stared at all the time instead.
Once, when she finished whatever and sat up in her chair, I threw my arms around her neck and said 'I love you Mrs. F......' because I so wanted to be a 'special boy' in spite of my bad home life.
During Summer break after the school year the other boys told on her, and she was arrested.
I did not because (an anomaly by genetic inheritance) I am also a psych diagnosed asperger, socially inept by neurology.
I am sure, when she got to women's prison, the other women hurt her badly when they found out her crime.
I do not blame her for being mentally ill, but for exercising her illness on we boys.
I recently told my male psych about it. He simply remarked 'Well, it sounds like she helped you.' Helped !!!
I would not be an emotional and physical mess right now if it was a help.
She taught me that whatever was 'down there' was a plaything.i have spent my adult life abusing my own self, with lots of guilt, for reasons I still do not really understand.
Her abuse was not fun. It was not enjoyable. It was taken by me as coldly and unemotionally as walking down the street, so I always thought until this video.
Now obviously it scarred for a lifetime. I do not know what to do. Psychs cannot be found in my area because of inhuman, massive cutbacks by my government to save the almighty buck at the cost of very many people's health.
Mrs. F had an uncommon haircut. It stuck out at the sides only to above the shoulders.
Every time I have seen it in life, a strange and ill feeling hit my stomach.
And my psych has retired.
Edit: clarification of three sentences and added paragraph
I am so sorry to hear that.
I hope you have found a good therapist now.
Sending you lots of love❤
Take care!
Bro I cried reading this. People don't realize that anyone can be a abuser and anyone can be abused
@@ananyasingh1073 Thanks Ananya. It got typed out to help clear me of it. Only no, only psychologists not psychiatrists are left available here for a hundred dollars an hour --- on Disability I cannot do that. Canada's great public health care system is being made inaccessible by driving the psychiatrists into retirement or to the U.S. to save money --- infinitely more important than citizen's health. I have to glean help from youtube I guess. Thank 🧡 you for caring... want to run for Premier of Manitoba ?
@@Down_bad_cockroach Hi Pat, wow, cried ? I read it now like I am a stone. It has been over 55 years since then. I appreciate your empathy ❤.
Not to say it does not matter. It does, there are simply no tears left.
i am so sorry. i know the feeling of telling your therapist about your sexual trauma for the first time and them immediately blaming you/not taking you seriously.
As a 15 Year old teenager, I was abused and I have scars in my head. The thing is, is that all of it was both my biological mom and dad fault and then I had to get adopted and as a 4 year old child I was scared to leave my mom b ur not so much my dad but since I am now 15 years old I’m grateful to have my adopted parents. I had a trouble childhood still tho I kept skipping school and had suicidal thoughts etc. i recently had a court order due to how bad my behavior was. I just hope that parents one day will realize when they really love each other and decide to have kids and not do it when their still 15-19 years old because I just feel hurt by what my parents did and I have a 2 sisters that got adopted and 1 came back to our biological mom because she was misbehaving etc and my other sister has troubles like I did as a child but she is doing good. I really hope that in the future child abuse is no more.
'Mommy this is happening, is that okay?' 'Oh that's happening?' Never spoke about it ever again
The reason i disclosed immediately to my parents is due to their talking to me earlier. They said if anyone touched me in my underwear area to tell them immediately. I am so glad they were proactive
I wish so bad I had been given this protection. Well done to your parents.
My mother was a victim and she destroyed her own family (kids) because she didn't get the help required
Now my life and my siblings lives are exponentially harder than normal
It has changed generations of people into a pathetic version of themselves.
I was sexual abused by my father from age 3. At 13 he tried to put chloroform over my face on the handkerchief. I ran next door the girls two brothers were there and they belong to a motorcycle club they were the ones who saved me from getting raped by my own dad. I'm 65 now and going through many years therapy
Hello how are you!? I wish you are doing Good. Know that nothing can hurt you more than yourself now that you are An adult. Im sorry for what you went through but as long as you keep spiritually growing you will be ok. I recommend you to Read the power of now by eckhart tolle, the bible and the tao te king to find some answers to your pain. Life is not ruined for you while you are still breathing. Eat healthy, meditate and exercise while you grow and help others around you. God bless you!
All ages are terrible but toddlers and babies are so helpless and can’t even express the pain
Hi Rachel I'm also sexually abused when I was 6 years old. now I'm 20 please share some tips of your experience.
I have noticed I have made pictures that my daughter her own father have sexualy abused her but in this country its seems ass if pedhofileia is a good thing. my daughter has have allot of trauma 1 year long because of this. did not want to shower, did not want me to toch her, was scared of going to the grocery store. I have helped her allot with 432 hz music to reset her subconscious but now they are forcing her to see the same man who abused her. my daughter thinks it is her fault what happened to her and tells me she is sorry al the time. I'm so tired sometimes I want to just end my life but then I think would this change anything for her. my daughter says that her father hurt her now she is 4 and she was 3 when this happened. she is smart but can't sit still, has anger issues and says that she cant do anything right at 4 years old. I want get into more details because they are to traumatic. this world is really sick. I'm tired really tired.
I'm so sorry that you and your daughter are experiencing this. I really hope you're both doing better now
I am a survivor of child sexual violence and teen pregnancy smh I wasn't an adult
Yes this world is so sick that this world needs a treament but unfortunately there is not single
sane person would do this
The male whom you call a father needs to get the message that abuse of a child is highly damaging to that child. I would be talking to his mother, sisters, your own family to make sure that child is protected. At a young age, unacceptable. She can heal, but good support and co mmunication, safety will get her there.
What country? My feelings for all the victims web
For 48 years I was sexually & every type of abuse you can possibly imagine. It became so bad that I completely fractured & went into Shell Shock. I couldn’t walk, swallow, was having uncontrollable seizures, tremors & others. After bouncing from hospital to hospital. I finally came to find that my life long traumas weren’t just medical. That the FBI, State & City police, sheriff’s, hundreds of medical professionals, counselors, teachers, CEO’s & presidents of hospitals & universities, the media, governors & other politicians had all been contacted regarding being sexually abused for almost half a century.
I couldn’t understand why? How? Who. Most importantly if this was the case who was making these statements & why was no one helping me?
Now approximately 3 years after the last time my perpetrator rapped me I now know that I am not who I always thought I was. I’m what they call an alternate personality. I am part of a single body that has Disassociation Identity Disorder, formally known as multiple personalities.
I am part of an internal family that consists of almost 2,000 different individual identities.
Some parts of my family members who live along side of, with & in me range in genders & age from infancy, toddlers, little girls & boys, teenagers, men, women & others.
I never knew my/ our given birth name because my name came from pornography. Never knew if I had a mother. Just knew what I was told to do needed to be done so he wouldn’t kill me.
The other alters that I live with worked in the educational & medical fields & state government systems are some of the main ones that have reached out to all these different people. Sadly to this date, no one has helped despite it having continued for so many years & in so many states. I don’t understand how so many people could be told what was going on all this time. We tell our children to report it to … & here 50 years later no one cares. He never faced any consequences. Even when he tried killing us. The judge just sentenced him to anger management so he continued to torture & torment us for another 33 years & has continued to get away with it since we were babies.
IF SOMEONE SAYS SOMETHING, DO SOMETHING 😢🙏 PLEASE
May God Bless, VIXEN, Refinnej, JEFFER, jen, Jenea’, JeneviEVE, Antonina, RJ, Jennifer, Jenny & Antone’ & Jennie 😢🙏
Educators misconduct also needs medically addressed
My mom sent me off to be “disciplined “ unknowningly handing her child to the abuser. When I tried to tell her she didn’t listen
My kids still follow me to the bath room 🙄 one is 18 & one is 16 but it’s not like they staring at me or any weirdness. They’ve done this since they were able to walk but they only do that with me. I do not walk into the bath room when they are bathing. I mean of course when they were tiny I was there but not once they were 8-9 years old. I always teach my kids to never to against their intuition. If you feel like something is wrong a lot of times it’s because something is wrong. I wish I could take in every single young child that goes through this, no child deserves to be traumatized my the people that are supposed to protect them😭
One point I need to scream. Just because it's ok within the family don't make it right. There needs to be boundaries
It's never right, no matter what context it occurs in.
This is all such a shame. Shame on these parents who let their babies suffer. Castration seems like a more realistic consequence.
I've always said and believed that the man abusers should be castrated in order that they can and may suffer to the extent that the abused has to experience.
Can sexual abuse happen to a 4 year old child and them forget about it until 10 years later then all of a sudden remember?
Yes this can happen.
Yes 😢
Yes, suppressed memories and trauma. When the mentality of a child grows they re process memories differently to adjust and fully understand. Mostly something (words, smell, taste, sadness, etc) triggered that memory to resurface.
The studies in this video below demonstrates that there is no correlation/association between those that were victims of sexual abuse later becoming sexual offenders
Although, among men the numbers were much higher for male sexual abuse victims offending, the studies also show that the correlation was not significantly more prominent than in the general population.
So no particular correlation was seen in the video below. In other words, children are being sexually abused by a diverse group of individuals, and not more so by previous victims of sexual abuse, based on studies in video:
ua-cam.com/video/fIN2NYRkH2g/v-deo.html
Those hurting children by committing sexual crimes against them are a variety of hurt people, @AppleScab (Venturia inaequalis
) .
The great majority of people known to have been sexual abused as children are not known to have been a perpetrator of such themselves.
So yes, hurt people do hurt people. Yet, on the topic of a person abusing a child sexually, there is no evidence that victims of such are more likely than non victims of sexual abuse to sexually abuse children.
The perpetrators are a variety of maltreated individuals that are sexually abusing children, and rarely would women that were victims of sexual abuse themselves become a perpetrator (based on studies).
@@vtbhowardthank you for this.
Amazing ❤️so needed
Karma loves people who care. ❤
Thank you for sharing
What is unreal is that your people wanting to say it didnt happen cause you didnt say anyth. Wtf is wrong with people kids under 3 cant talk then it doesnt come back til adults your crazy n a monster inside by then i am now😞😞
Interesting and informative
Children being molested by a friend, teacher, babysitter/ nanny or child care provider or family friend, stranger or family member is not all right.
My dad & step mom excuses my cousin for sexual assaulting for months & says he was 14 years old , my dad said boys at 13-16 years old get horny fast & can not control themselves.
My dad told me not to tell no one.
💔💔💔💔 I’m so sorry that was not okay at all and m sorry your dad and step mom didn’t protect you 😞
i am 64 still cptsing over Grade 2 abuse
you may pls share my emais
i would never do to anyone what damaged me
Just tell the kids that what daddy and mommy does is not for kids. Also when an adult is trying to be your friend or getting too close to you move away.
That’s not going to help Children in USA education norms for sexual predator educators Employments multigenerational access to children exceeding medical criteria for USA CSA federal & state required education Rape culture silencing indoctrinations. Its cultural all K12 students exposed . Education Silencing children to keep Rape & sexual deviant behaviors secrets of government immuned professions to protect predatory institutions & toxic stress learning environments & offender employees is child sexual abuse.
Even when parents guide children to do as parents say, the USA Government Education silencing students talking to families & again silence Children in the face of predatory community dangers , the school institutions are undermining the family safety planning parents have taught their children. This is a Doctors responsibility to protect their child patients from harm in schools, which historically the medical professions still are not doing.
@@DONNACEDOHIOK12 what if the doctor is also an abuser. as mine was. I think we need to face the fact that the world is fundamentally unsafe for children. I don't plan on having kids
Yes, he molested me and know I'm finding out there's someone else smh
Not all of us do.
Yes, I would act and the physical beatings with leather belts never stopped know my predator is having stroke/💔 heart attacks and know regrets his crimes manipulative predators
An older child is a teenager and they know what they’re doing when they abuse or do things to a younger child. I never did shit like that as a teenager they know what they’re doing to that younger child they’re not stupid and clueless in those situations!
Because I heard some victims associate love with sex I would not be traumatized if I got raped either if I met someone that told me they were sexually abused as a child. I would tell him to imagine them selves as a reformed villain that got raped when they were evil and the reason for being a villain was well, they thought that romance was gross
I can’t listen for all of the ums.
I'm just here looking for answers. Id it sexual abuse of a child if there is no penetration. Example, an 9 year old child with older friends, say 13/14 and they hump on the child through clothing and the 9 year old is a willing participant, I just want to to if this is sexual abuse of a child if is done with an older child or is that just kids playing?
This is a type of child abuse, but for every participant. The 9 year old and older friends. For children to engage in this type of sexual behavior they have been violated and victims and witnessed this, their thoughts have been distorted to think this behavior is okay. It needs to be reported. Separate the children. And counsel and pray for all.
I listen to this to hear facts and myths and stats. Unfortunately the presenter have "factual statistics" then said she didn't know what they where, then claimed that some were from knowns but topped up with unknowns. This repatition of facts to show how bad it is while claiming that it is also unknown is disappointing and has to stop.
It is impossible to obtain hard rock FACTS.
Poor communication from the speaker
Yes, he take advantage of children with no resources they are predators smh
As time goes on I'm scared living
@@fezan173 yeap smh
@@fezan173 Bro I'm also sexually abused when I was 6 years old now I'm 20 but my body types change so should I do? Where are you from? Please reply 🙏
@@KuchBhi-bm1yj Kuch Bhi?
@@fezan173 where are you from bro
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Well said
Why don't children's who's a victim don't tell their parents straight away
They or I didn't say anything because I/they would be threatened what bad things would and could happen if we attempted in doing so. My father not only abuse me sexually, but also physically, emotionally, verbally, spiritually, and mentally. He would come home from work and find me sleeping before he would begin to hit me by using his belt while still sleeping, resulting in my fear and anxiety level to shoot up like a rocket. This all began between the ages of 7 or 8 yrs. old and ended in my teenage years. It all came to a halt when I finally built up my guts to speak up and out to my eldest brother who immediately believed in me, and of course he denied it all. I still remembered how I once found myself running to hide behind my mother beneath her dress as she stood leaning against a wall, I ran behind her wanting and hoping that I could literally climb back inside of her "stomach" where I could and would find refuge and feel safe, keep in mind I was only 8 years old. I still find myself wanting and demanding answers of how this could happen to me beside what business does an 8 years old have by thinking of such things and to be in that state of mind. My mother attempted to protect me by blocking him from getting to me and speaking out not knowing what really was going on, but that only made matters worse. His whole idea was to place a fear in of how much worse it would get had I said anything about being abused. Not to long after the abuse began, I was diagnosed with having an Anxiety / Panic Disorder, and PTSD as a result from the trauma I began to be endure at such a young age. I am currently seeing a counselor and receiving therapy. having been sexually abused as a child is serio and considered to be very common in the islands which is where I originate from.
Because of fear. Predators don't go after children they know will report them
As a person who got sexual abused by my younger cousin at age of 8 , i dint tell my parents because i was scared if they dint believe me and judge, i still have this trauma keep in secret for more then 5y..
You are so ignorant in this subject. Do you know anything about traumatic experience and how it affects a child and how scared the child was s and if the child has been threatened and how guilty and dirty the child feels and how the child carries the guilt the perpetrator should feel? And No the child did not enjoy or enjoys the sexual abuse the child is scared.
Fear, and guilt of feeling that you did something wrong. It’s not easy to run to your parent and explain this type of action. It can mess your head up, get you hook on porn, relationships can be meaningless if sex is not involved. You won’t open up to people, trust issues, low self esteem, doubt, laugh a lot because it covers the pain. Most predators was a victim at one point. Don’t make it right but it’s a learned behavior. All mental. It’s not right at all
Bro what I'm a minor and I'm active like this. And it is consensual
Also not all minors are children. Stop belittling us bozo
@@mary4nna.mp3 i dont care, i am mature. if i know what it is, i am mature.
i am in charge.
theyre not of my actions.
With other minors your age? That's okay but "" "having sex"""" with adults will give you severe trauma in the future even if you're okay with it now
I wish you're safe
Pervert