When I was young I was also very curious about black people because I didn't come into contact with many black people growing up. At school there was not a single black child until I was around 7 years old. It was a boy from Sudan and I wanted to get to know him better but he wasn't very nice, he would not play with the other children and he would sometimes hit us with sticks (I later learned this was because of his bad experiences in the war in Sudan but they didn't tell us this). This boy moved less than a year later. Personally I don't think it's very polite to just ask a black person if you can touch their hair if you don't know them very well. I know these people are just curious but I wouldn't do it. If you catch people staring at you I think it is mostly because a black person just stands out in a place where most people are white. I am certain this is the other way around in Kenya, I am a white man, people in Kenya would certainly stare at me I think. Not for any negative reason but just because they are curious. People are just curious by nature. I think it is very good that you don't take these things negatively! You are a wonderful and positive person and a beautiful black woman. If people stare at you I think it is because of that, not because they are racist!
Enigma NL , thank you for the compliment ☺️. If you would go to my hometown, you would be stared at big time . Whenever we go walking around the streets at my dads place with my husband, he would have kids follow him around saying things like , Hi, hallo, Mzungu(Swahili word for white person). The staring is in the beginning weird but then you get used to it ...
When you're dealing with the dutch it's always good to take things in the most innocent way. I was born and raised in the Netherlands and my skin is darker and my hair was short and curly. So I know what people say and what they mean. The first thing kids would ask little me was where my parents were from. When I told them they were perfectly fine with it, they just wanted to know why I looked the way I did. I got loads of compliments about my hair and I don't mind if people touch it because dutch people don't mind if someone touches their hair. In summer the kids would compare their tan with mine, if they got close that was a win for them. They did not see my hair or skintone as anything negative. I've had the same question about me being the main person living in my house but I think they are just a bit surprised sometimes or they think I'm a lot younger than I am. I don't think they mean it badly at all. In my semi rural area I think I experience far less racism than I would have if I lived in a big city, when you are just an individual people take you as an individual, not part of some group they may have been taught to have an opinion about.
Its amazing the way you react to these very specific situations. I think that your attitude shows your self respect and love and it’s an example for a lot of of people. Thank you!
I hate being stared at but change the bad thoughts into good thoughts by thinking they stare because Im so beautiful, it really helps. I really enjoyed this video. As a white person born in Africa I have a little guilt, even though its NOT from anything I did. Its a complex problem which is hard to explain !!! Keep smiling and laughing !!!!!!!
God bless you.. it's just exhausting, having grown up in the South in the US. Always being the oddity. It's sometimes a hard choice to stay positive.. But it definitely is exhausting.... As an African American.. What you are sharing is the story of my life... Always thinking you are the maid...
I admire your attitude to those comments and stares; your generosity in assuming ignorance instead of malice. While I agree most of these things sound like curiosity and ignorance, I still expect people to have the basic understanding that some questions are impolite. You would have been within your right to react with anger. So it's really commendable that you instead choose to make these people familiar with yourself so that hopefully they learn and next time they are less curious/ignorant. In addition, I wanted to say that you are in fact also very beautiful and I think I would also find it difficult not to look a little bit longer than I should.
I am Dutch and off course in my own country never get stared at. But I was on holiday in Thailand and we also travelled to rural areas and there I also got stared at everywhere. It was not a great feeling, but it was more since you are out of the ordinary that people get curious, so no one meant it in an offensive way.
@@nimomamakeonjarik Which Dutch cities are best for people from West Africa like myself that want to enjoy a vacation but also avoid big city crime and racism? Thx
Hi King James , in general you don’t experience racism in Dutch cities because they’re so many nationalities living and visiting the cities. But then again it depends on which type of person one meets/comes across , the other might be racist, the other not. Cities I would recommend, Maastricht , Utrecht, Amsterdam is also nice. You could also go to beautiful places like Giethoorn “the Dutch Venice”. North Holland and Friesland is also beautiful. 🤣🤣 too many choices to confuse you 😉
@@nimomamakeonjarik Yes that's how it works, if I as a white person would walk in your country everybody would stare at me to. And ofcourse here in the Netherlands we are more multicultural, but the way you look is noticeable. The short hair for example, not very common here.
Omg, the person that compared your hair to pubic hair... that is disguting, you are really patient and brave, congrats for being such an amazing woman 👏
Thank you for making this! It is very helpful my wife is black and I’m doing research on counties to move to. And this was a very vital for deciding so thank you!
Hi Travis , thank you for watching my video. I’m glad I was able to help you out a lil bit in your research. I wish you and your beautiful wife all the best 🙏🏾
Woww i really didnt know there are still people in the netherlands who havent seen people of colour of are shocked about people of colour livjng in their village😦 maybe it is because i never lived in a really really small town so for me its different or maybe it is a generation thing i dont know but i was really shocked to hear it! Im so glad you take it all in such a positive way thats such a strong and good way of life:)
The hair I can definitely relate, even my extended family is so fascinated by my hair because it can take so many hairstyles and shapes, I can look completely different everyday, they think I have a super power hahaha!
Being “different” can be eye opening for anybody, as well as meeting “different” people. Most people are curious but neutral about it. If there is a personal contact people will judge on personality rather than your looks or identity. I think opening up to people is the key and your positive attitude is the right answer. It might be tiresome in the beginning but after you establish a “personal community” around you you will be part of it and no one will judge you on your identity anylonger.
Leo Per , it’s true what you say. The hardships are mostly in the beginning when you have no clue how to create contact but after awhile and some contacts here and there, things become easier
Hi Nimooo😘😘😘 "Did she expect me to have 2left feet....or a feet of a horse🤣🤣🤣. It's a nother interesting video..and it's good to hear your experiences and share them...really appreciate and thanks for keeping it positive...@times it can be very crazy.....esp.on the staring part.....😀 Big hugs😘😘😘
I got really irritated at that time Stellah 🤣🤣. I was just few months in NL and the first time in Portugal. I understand they don’t see much black people there but at that time, the staring was weird for me 😃
I really find it commendable how you choose to take the comments and the staring. It would be very understandable if you would find it insulting or annoying. Do you think there's any difference between the big cities and the countryside?
Joren Kock , yes I think there’s a big difference between a big city and a small village. In the city you have lots of different nationalities while in some small villages not
Well, I would stare at you too sis. You are beautiful! i have had people touch my hair or asking if they could touch my hair. when I was a lot younger I was okay with it if they asked because I know it was just curiosity, but if someone asked me that now, I would absolutely say no but in a nice way. When I visited certain countries in Africa though, a lot of folks stared at me and asked to touch my hair. I think my hair texture as a black women picked their curiosity, especially in the places where I was, and I looked like a tourist I suppose. Thanks for sharing your story.
I'll be honest, I'd probably stare a little as well. I know it's impolite, and I'd try not to. But encountering people who look different is just something outside your usual experience. It's almost involuntary. Not sure what's up with people wanting to touch other people's hair, though. That's just weird.
@@nimomamakeonjarik They might just be curious and mean well and in general curly hair and dark skin is often envied, but the Dutch can be very insensitive and rude and assume assertivity. Nothing wrong with showing some restraint in one's curiosity and nothing wrong with reminding them you're not an attraction. It might not be racist but it's still impolite.
@@DenUitvreter I tend to agree but on the other hand, as a child I would have very white long wavy curly hair.., I was asked very regurlarly by all sorts of people if they could touch it.. and I probably think if I would walk in some little bush village in kenia probably the same would happen.. haha it's human nature I suppose (ps. born and bred in the netherlands, 100% dutch, not colored at all )
I dont know what that hair touching is about. A friend of mine in dutch high school was also black and we liked touching his hair. He probably thought it was annoying. Though, I dont think we wanted to touch his hair because he was black but because he had really short hair, so it felt really nice when touching it. Now he has an afro;)
Thank you for this video. Having grown up in a small town, I can just imagine how people reacted to your presence, oof! While there are bad apples, I'm relieved to hear most people don't approach you negatively, although some questions perhaps indicate ignorance and lack of tact... I would put that down to lack of exposure: someone can't be aware of certain sensitivities if they've never met anyone to whom they should display them. Also, as a white person having lived in China for 4 years, I can relate to the staring. People there weren't used to seeing white people (black people either, for that matter), so you stuck out. I always compared it to being that one red poppy in a green field. You can call it curiosity, but it's more that you just simply catch people's eye because you don't blend in with the masses. I experienced it myself as well, that in China I would notice another white person from a mile away when walking down the street. Being used to seeing only Asian faces, suddenly seeing a non-Asian face is just striking, and you can't help noticing. The most interesting was returning back home for vacation. I would suddenly NOT get stared at, and I actually mised it: "Why is nobody looking at me?", hahaha! It took at least a week to get used to not being stared at. And for at least the first months or so after I returned to the Netherlands for good, Asian faces would stand out to me. Living in a very white part of the country at the time, I would not see many Asians, but then suddenly seeing one felt so homely. I just hope they didn't think I was staring at them malevolently! Since I lived in the same small town for 3.5 years of my time in China, the staring in that specific community definitely decreased over time, so I would hope you have a similar experience in the Netherlands. The fruit lady in the beginning watched me open-mouthedly selecting some of her apples, but after visiting her stand 10-20 times, I stopped being interesting and was just one of her regular customers. She remembered soon enough that I liked fuji apples! Whenever I went into the city, it would be very different, of course, because then those people didn't know me. Children would point at me, calling out "laowei" (foreigner), and some would secretly take a photo of me with their phone. In the supermarket I once startled a poor girl: when turning a corner, we nearly bumped into each other, and she physically recoiled before catching herself. And in Beijing some random old lady out of nowhere pushed her grandchild into my arms to take a picture. Oh my, all those memories! So, in conclusion, your experience resonates with anyone who has spent a longer time in a country where they are a visual minority. For me, at least, it means that I can appreciate much more what it must be like to be a visual minority in the country you were born and raised, as is the case in the Netherlands for people of Turkish, Moroccan, or Surinamese descent. To any white Dutch person who doesn't get it, go spend half a year in Asia or Africa, and you might actually understand!
Thank you very much Jantrao for sharing all this with me, I honestly appreciate it. I’m glad you relate to what I shared and you’re right, after some time you kind of get used to things that seemed weird in the beginning. ❤️
As you by now certainly know theres lots of Black Nederlanders in Nederland they are from Suriname or from one of the 6 carabean islands former Dutch colonies and they speak all Dutch , that could be a reason why they ask or just curiosity
@@nimomamakeonjarik yes pleas do come. im from suriname and im black and i would love to have you( a Kenyan) come to my country because not a lot of Kenyans( Africans)know about my country and know that there are other black people living in south america
Zienna Noordpool , thank you for the invite ! I will keep it in mind if I get to visit Suriname 😘😘. You’re right, I didn’t even know about Suriname before , till I moved to The Netherlands... hope to visit soon !
Dear Nimo thank you for this video, you can be honest about also the negative experience. That way we can learn and teach our children to deal with other color skinned people better. Wen I was in The Gambia last year the little boy of the family we visited was very afraid of me (I am a big white woman) I was to enthousiast and the baby was crying every time he saw me, first time in contact with white human ha ha ha ha ha, must have been scary. And also the other children wanted to feel my very white skin and hair , ofcourse they are curious I think thats normal. I really appreciate your positive attitude. Keep save and healthy
Hi Truus , that baby had never seen a white person before, probably also not on television. I remember when we visited a kennis of my husband when I moved here, the baby there started to cry. I think she got startled !
And also whenever we visit my father in Kenya together with my husband, he becomes a celebrity 😂. Not so many white people visit that area and when he’s there, children start to follow him shouting , “hallo Mzungu”, hallo white person. It’s always nice to see 😄
In most bigger cities people are used to people looking different these days...., I live in a very mixed town...and I wouldn't care less what people look like as long as they act normal.. :)
Hoi Nimo. When everyone looks at you, might it not be because you are so beautiful. 😘 And the other remarks: I do find it realy rude. But some people are realy ignorant and do not understand how offensive they are. But that is more a reflection on them than on you. But I love your attitude not to take it to heart.
Hi Nimo, First I want to say that I love your vlogs. You are always so cheerful! I am a white woman living in Gouda, near Rotterdam. I am very surprised to hear that people are staring at you because you are black. But I remember going to Japan many years ago, the people there kept on staring me in the eyes. They had never seen blue eyes before. I have sons with long hair and tattoos. Before that came into fashion, they were prone to staring too. And people being scared! I live in the “Randstad”. We have many people from different cultures living here. In Gouda, we have mostly people of Moroccan origin. But Rotterdam, The Hague, and Amsterdam have so many more cultures! I am from Indonesian origin, my grandfather was black but I am white with blue eyes. I embrace that Indo culture very much. I guess I would be one of those people who would ask you where you are from. Just interested about cultures and people. I would love to learn more about your culture. Maybe more recipes and I love that vlog with Sheila about hair and wigs.
Hi Jacky , Sheila does have nice wigs right ? I’m glad you enjoy watching my videos. Oh I love Blue eyes, I wish I had them 😌. It would be wonderful if my kids would inherit my husbands blue eyes 🙏🏾🙏🏾. Someone with long hair and tattoos would immediately attract my attention, I wouldn’t get scared of them, I would want to know more about them🙈 😘
@@nimomamakeonjarik I am interested in “black hair”. Oprah once said, “it’s a project”. It’s amazing the things that black people are doing with black hair. And those wigs are amazing yes. My eldest son has long black curly hair. A bit like one of those wigs but with less hair. No one in our family has that kind of hair. I often wondered how that could be. You wish your baby boy to inherit his father’s blue eyes… I once met a really dark lady who had a baby from her white husband. The baby was totally white! She told me that she constantly heard “he is not yours isn’t he?” People just couldn’t believe it. People see men with tattoos as being aggressive. Well, my boys are only into music and beer.
@@nimomamakeonjarik Ideas… What are Kenya’s most popular music artists at this moment? And the most popular songs? What is Kenya’s most popular dish? And one subject maybe not for everyone: Voodoo. Does it exist in Kenya and how is it integrated into your daily life.
I was the only white person back in the day in my neighbourhood of the Dutch maintown. However, the fact that my neighbours also are able to speak at least Dutch or English helps making friends. Now I live in a more diverse area and I'm in shock to see other white people. My father is yellow and my mom is white. Ask me any questions please I listened to your whole vlog. I look different from typical Dutch people, smaller and rounder.
Hi- thank you for posting this video! I am a recent May 2020 college graduate from the U.S. and id like to know the likelihood of getting a job as an expat within the next few months! And if you have any job searching resources! 💕💕💕
Hi 👋🏽, thank you for watching the video. Maybe you could check on indeed.nl or here , www.iamexpat.nl/career/jobs-netherlands On this website under they give tips on how to find a job in Amsterdam: www.expatica.com/nl/working/finding-a-job/jobs-in-amsterdam-102380/
Im east african as well ,I Just moved to the N.L .Feel pretty lost here🤦♀️..any leads on how to get by? I dont have any friends yet...how best can i learn Dutch?. Would be nice to speak to you in person...😭😭.Im truly glad i found your channel.
Hi dear , thank you very much for watching. I live close to Enschede, where do you live ? I made a video about how to learn Dutch easy and fast . Plz check it out
With the asking where you're from thing. I can usually tell if people are from a different country or not by their accents. I get it with white people too (people move here from Scandinavia/France/Germany etc. all the time and they (almost) always have accents). So the asking where someone's from is not really a skin colour thing for me. It's an accent thing. You have a very noticeable accent, so if we met I would automatically assume you're from another country because of that. And I'd get curious and ask because I love to travel and love to hear from people from different countries.
@@nimomamakeonjarik Hopefully we can travel again soon then! Hope you're staying safe in these weird times! P.s.: Your hair makes you look like one of those badass wakandian warrior women and it's awesome!
I’m surprised that there are still people here that haven’t seen a black person in person before. I live in the southern most province and had some black, Moroccan and Indonesian kids in my class from kindergarten onwards. So not even in a big city like Amsterdam or Rotterdam. Apparently when my brother was young (1 or 2) there was a tall black man in a store, he said out loud “oh look mommy, that man is black!” Just as stating a fact, but my mom was mortified. Apparently the man wasn’t offended, because how can you be, if a toddler is saying something without any judgment or opinion behind it. But I think it’s one of the reasons why my mom made sure that I also had a black babydoll with kroeshaar, she had to search high and low for one, it was in the 70s. She wanted to make sure that I knew that not everyone in the world is white and blond. If I meet someone who wasn’t born here in the Netherlands, I’ll ask where they’re from, because I love hearing about other countries. My ex was from Angola, and I loved hearing about where he grew up, and what his life like before he came here. Nowadays we have UA-cam, so we can easily see what life is (really) like in for instance Japan, America, etc as opposed to what we see in movies.
@@nimomamakeonjarik yeah, she was awesome! A base value I learned at home was “we do not all look the same, have the same beliefs etc., but we’re all equal.”
I grew up in a very white village, and still knew not to stare at people. And around 20 years ago, even these small towns and villages were no longer strangers to diversity. So it's strange to me that Nimo was stared at like that. Maybe she mostly lived in very white areas where everyone knows the one black family in town (I grew up hearing 'the adopted black kids,' 'the refugees,' and 'the guy who married that vietnamese woman' all the time to refer to people. And even now, people often talk about 'the chinese family' as if they don't have names or other things to be remembered for) But being black doesn't usually get you stared at anymore. What does get you stared at is being from out of town. "Butendurpse" as we call them, are always stared at and questioned, because people are curious and want to know why anyone would come to the middle of nowhere when there are so many cities they can go to instead.
M Marie , the number of years you live in The Netherlands doesn’t really matter ! Everyone has their own experiences. Yes I live in a very small village where I’m the only black person
Gemme Burger , I live in a small village where I’m the only black and probably the only buitenlander , and I think also the only black in the other 2 villages surrounding us ... I have been in the big cities and you’re right , there I don’t stand out at all
Marian Selten , in my village and the surrounding villages, I am the “only” black girl that went to our “only” bar, that attended the village party, that lives in that house ! I introduce myself sometimes and they say that they already heard about me . And also when we go on vacations , I look around to see if I can maybe come across people of my colour, which happens rarely
Hahaha, I experienced something strange when I was as a tall Dutchman in China. Especially in 1999. I was walking down the street in Xiamen city and I was chased by a large group of people. They had never seen a big white man before. And wherever I went, they chased me into the shops. But ....... I was also pushed away at the cash register. They were very cheeky. Fortunately I had my posture, so when I looked angry and assumed a somewhat threatening attitude, they left me alone. But it was a strange experience.
Hoi Bert , I can imagine you being a tall Dutch man in China 😄. Chinese are generally small so you immediately became amusing to them. The same would happen to you if you went to my village in Kenya, my husband becomes a celebrity when we’re there 😀
@@nimomamakeonjarik Well, I wasn't a celebrity right away :-) A big white guy looking for baby food and other baby stuff. It was when we had just had our oldest daughter. A little Chinese girl, now an adult beautiful young woman. But in 2016 I went back to China with her and again I was the big attraction. But it was still different from 1999, when the country was even more closed.
@@nimomamakeonjarik Yes for sure. We adopted two daughters from China. So now they are the most beautiful girls in the whole world (I think as a non-objective father). We have always been very attentive to any form of discrimination (against them). Fortunately it did not happen to them.
Thank you for your video because iam a black American but currently live in the UK. May be moving to Rotterdam and wanted to know if it is a nice area for black ppl to live in?
Hi 🙋🏾♀️, thank you for watching my video 😘. Rotterdam is a big city and there are lots of different nationalities living there, lots of blacks. I hear that it’s a very nice city to live in and with a lot to offer. I hope you will like it there once you move . Stay safe 😘
To correct ignorance, people have to ask questions. That's how they become less ignorant. They dont necessarily mean harm. It would be easy to take offense, but our response depends on the context of the inquiry. I would rather people ask questions than just assume. That being said though, some people are just going to be who they are. People who care to become enlightened and change will do so. So, just live your life and what will be will be.🙂
AY Evans , very right! Some questions are just out of curiosity and unawareness that’s why I try to stay positive and just give an answer even if the question sounds ridiculous 😄
I had to be told by my son that it is not appropriate to call a black person "neger" anymore. That used to be the polite way. I can remember the same discussion I had with my mother 45 years ago. When I did something stupid, she would call me "klootjavaan (which I am not going to translate, it is too bad). I am white, blond, blue eyed, so I first of all did not understand, but second of all very insulting for people from Java and I asked here to stop it. She did, by the way, but she was highly suprised that I found it insulting for people from Java. So, I am at a loss on how I would call black people in Dutch without insulting them. I found "richly pigmented fellow people" a nice one, but that was not good enough.
Hi Ronald , that word your mama used has bad translations/meaning on google so I do understand why you stopped her from using it . If you know the Dutch history then you wouldn’t see the word “neger” insulting coz you know exactly what it means and how they used to use the word . But if you don’t know the history , it sounds really bad to hear someone use it ...
It seems like you live in a "gehucht" or very small village, so I can imagine people being a little bit more curious since they're not used to foreign looking people. Curious about the rasicm you've encountered though, so if you're gonna do a video about that, i will check it for sure! (my wife is also from another ethnic background)
Hi DuartJansen , yes I do live in a very small village, at least we have a small village supermarket and a bar/restaurant and a church. But it’s beautiful here, I love it. That video will come soon. Where’s your wife from if I may ask ?
the hair on the head are round hairs with white people, facial and genital hairs are not round but "vierkant" even beard and moustash hairs are thats why these hairs are thicker and feel firmer
@@nimomamakeonjarik i believe science and evolution, all people on earth now are all descendants of what evolutionary happened in Afrika in fact were all Africans. what ever color we have now
You take our curiosity the right way. Good for you. As far as the N word, I am older and the N word never had a negative connotation in Dutch when I was young, until we learned from the influence from the US that is was insulting.
Be careful here, we have the six letter word, the Dutch version of which has the g's replaced by k's, which does have a negative, or at least hostile connotation,and the five letter word, which in Dutch ends -er, rather than -ro.The latter has no negative connotations in Dutch, except for being that out of date, that its use is mainly restricted to a historical context.
As @ThW5 says, the Dutch language has it's own N-word, but it was last used by someone in 1983 or something. Now people with a strong desire to be the victim of racism claim 'neger' is the N-word but it is in fact the neutral word to describe a black person. It is nor was used very much in daily language because people have names and if you don't know someone's name and have to describe him by his looks you're not likely to use a noun but rather an adjective like donker or zwart. So it's unfair to claim it's the N-word, and it's mostly done by people who are either ignorant on the Dutch language and recent Dutch history, or want the Dutch to look much more racist than they are. If I used the word 'neger' as a kid there would be no problem, if I used the Dutch N-word I would get smacked. My parents weren't the corporal punishment kind of parents, but this word was really out of order. I don't like the sound of the word 'neger' either and never used it very often and if the 'black community' if there is one wants it not be used any longer they have to communicate that clearly. Not accusing people of racism because they use a word in the neutral sense as they were taught.
Lynott Parris , I myself didn’t know the differences , till after I made this video. We do go to school to learn Dutch but they don’t teach us about the Dutch history ! And for a black person who hasn’t lived in the Netherlands, they would also find it weird to hear someone use that word on them. If you translate the N-word from English to Dutch, what word does it become ? So it is only a Dutch person in this case that would know what it actually means and the history behind it. I think explaining it to the other person(in this case) me or any other black person would create an understanding, because otherwise, how is someone who’s new in the Netherlands supposed to know the difference? And assuming that they should know the history is unfair !
@@nimomamakeonjarik Don't get me wrong, I don't blame you at all. I blame the Dutch activists, black or white, immigrant background or not, who claim that the Dutch still use the N-word a lot, they grew up here, they know the language, they should know before they make an accusation like that. They probably do, they're just dishonest, it's not their only false claim to 'prove' the Dutch are racist to mostly a foreign audience. You couldn't know, you can't know about words that aren't used anymore, that's why I tell you. Honest mistake or not, the Dutch successfully rooted out the use of the pejorative word for blacks by zero tolerance anywhere in society and I don't want a pat on the back for that because it's the only right thing to do, but to have that success used against us llike that is extremely unfair. And more importantly, it's divisive. Here's the wiktionary link- en.wiktionary.org/wiki/nikker. I only typed it and for a good cause but I still feel like I have to wash my mouth with soap now. On the history of Dutch racism, the Dutch entered the Atlantic slave trade eventually, but only with double standards for the colonies. Everybody on Dutch soil itself was free and there have been free blacks in the Netherlands since the 1500's, and there were also free blacks in the colonies and trading posts. This allowed for a fresh start in race relations when the black immigrants came to the Netherlands in the 20th century. Before WWII it was a bit of a mixed bag, but after the occupation by nazi Germany with it's racial persecution it became something nazi's would practice, not the liberated Dutch. The first black many Dutch people saw was an American or Canadian liberator, and liberators were hard to dislike allthough the segregation between American troops raised some eyebrows. The Dutch welcomed them with open arms, and open legs quite often. In the 2nd half of the 20th century the Dutch got regularly outraged about racism in other countries like the USA, South-Africa of course but also the UK, basically every and any country because the Dutch were leading the way, showing how it's done. That might have have been in the way of taking a good hard look at the Dutch themselves but to be fair, the idea that colour didn't and shouldn't matter was seen as self-evident and it was the most post-racial country on earth. I'm afraid it has regressed a little in the 21st century, but lots of people in their 30's and 40's and older still feel like it's a problem from a distant past or distant countries.
My first ever best friend (22 years ago) was from Angola. We were throwing rocks and mud at each other from across the pond the first time we met, no idea why we did that but it still makes me laugh thinking about it today lmao. Next day we started playing football(soccer) in the streets together and after that day we'd play together every single day, all day long except if one of us was sick for about 8 years. We'd eat at each other's house at least once a week and whenever we were at his house his mom would dance with him and one of his sisters would make me dance with her. When his family went swimming they'd take me with them & When my family went swimming we'd take him with us. Good times, sadly his family moved to Rotterdam (from a small village in Groningen) when him and I were 12-13 years old and I haven't seen or heard of him since. Social media wasn't a big thing back then and we didn't have our own phones yet because we didn't go to high school yet & kids back then were only given a phone once they were in high school so it was impossible for us to keep in touch. That's quite a lot to read but I hope you enjoy hearing about the reverse experience. :)
Thank you very much for sharing this with me ! Such a beautiful story with a sad ending . It’s a pity that they moved and you totally lost contact with each other. I hope that one day destiny brings you back together. My best friend of 15yrs is still living in Kenya and I miss her every day. She would visit me here for the 1st time in August but seems like things won’t go as planned 😞😞
@@nimomamakeonjarik I hope things make a turn for the better so you and your friend can be reunited once again. Nothing worse than not being able to see your friend in person, I can only imagine what it'd be like being in a far away country and not being able to meet my friends back home. Stay strong, stay awesome🤗
It was kinda the same for me but the other way around. Large white male (around 1,95m) bald with a beard. In Africa (Angola) everyone was staring at me, for the same reasons just curiosity. And maybe I stand even more out than most white folks because well.. my looks and size Also same with kids, or they were very interested in me or they were a bit afraid of me. Wasn't offended by it but it was a bit weird for me
Osmosis , I can already picture you in the streets of Africa with that clear explanation of how you look 😁. I’m sure most of them stared with amazement🤗
didnt know there was such a big difference between the west and the east of the netherlands. i cannot believe people would think it strange if you owned a house, based on your color.
Mambo Paul, the kids uko home can’t help it they’re curious and find it fascinating kuona mzungu mtaani. As long as they don’t do anything wrong then si mind and he also doesn’t mind. He sometimes says hallo to them then the kids get so happy they start laughing 😂
When we were in 1985 on hollyday in Croatia ,Just before the war , all the guys were looking at my wife to be because she’s blond . At that time they haven’t seen that much . So it’s not racism, for them it’s Just rare. And in Jesus there is no racism.
Yes iwas ask by a white if I was a care giver for my white husband even in Canada to be black with a white husband.could be challenging but we survived that until he pass .not every white person felt the same so just enjoy your life .I would love to visit .heard it's beautiful there
I think things are changing now . Even on tv you see more mixed families on advertisements and movies . It is very beautiful here indeed, you should visit when you can 🤗
@@nimomamakeonjarik If you have a Facebook I have lanugage group for people of African descent called Melanated Multilinguals you can join if you want.
Depending on how the N-word thing was said, it might not have been meant in a racist way. To a lot of Dutch people, it's just how you call black people. To me, "zwart" has a much more negative connotation. It seems inaccurate since black people are brown rather than actually black, and it seems to always be used in ways that stereotype black people. "Die misdaad zal wel weer zo'n zwarte zijn geweest, altijd weer zwartjes". Which is super extremely racist to say. The N-word is much more neutral, in my opinion. Similar to words like caucasian or Asian.
In my case, that boy used the N word coz he wanted to impress his friends I think. He didn’t mean it in a nice way and maybe he didn’t even realize what he was doing, but it didn’t feel nice 😢
@@nimomamakeonjarik That's not nice at all. I guess kids just do that sort of stuff. But they should be taught better. Hopefully they have good parents that will teach them that it's wrong.
I am a Filipino living here in Netherlands. I understand you completely. I do get conscious of people staring especially I'm living in a village far from the city. But I also realized that if a white person is in my country, she/he often would be stared at. Coz they would stand out from the population. Love your video btw.
I'm really curious to know just what part of the country this was, people staring at you cos you are black?! Im guessing it wasn't anywhere near the randstad, hehe.
I don’t know where you live but in Netherlands black people are everywhere, if people look at you it’s most likely because are an attractive woman and nice to look at, vcould also have to do something with the colours you wear.
But Nederlands are one of the best countrys for africans and muslims to work even if Doutch are very racist. It's a country with a very good pay minimum i think is 1300 euros
Compared to Africa the pay is very good but you also work extra hard compared to Africa. Which is actually very good as well . And yes NL is the best European country anyone could live in
If you were a young native woman with white skin and blonde hair. A lot of people would ask you too if you are the owner of the house or of a new car ....Its a form of prejudice towards women
Are you sure the child said the actual N-word? I feel it's more likely the child said "neger", which is the old-fashioned Dutch form of the N-word, but it doesn't carry quite the cultural baggage as the actual N-word. How offensive the word "neger" is considered to be varies strongly by who you ask. (then again I'm sure the same could be said of the N-word too)
Hi Mark , ok! Seems like there’s a lot to learn still. If you asked me to translate the N-word from English to Dutch, I would say “neger” . Would that be a wrong translation?
@@nimomamakeonjarik No that would be the correct translation. But the N-word is mostly viewed through an American cultural lens, because it (rightfully) carries a very heavy historical burden there. In Dutch this is far less the case. And I really don't want to be "that white guy" that tells you you shouldn't be offended, if it offends you then you have every right to feel that way. I just want to distinguish the two words from each other due to the different cultural backgrounds. Also I love your channel!
@@nimomamakeonjarik Hi Nimo!The N-word in Dutch is Nikker. Neger translates as Negro in English. I would like to see a video about the racism you experience. I am not a racist person i think. But maybe I do sometimes ask or do things that come accros as racist without even realising. I would ask where a person is form originally, when i hear someone has an accent or a different skincolor. To me it means I am interessted in that person and want to learn about your culture. I never realised it could be offensive to a person. And maybe there are more examples like that. When you tell us your experiences, we can all learn something form each other. I would also be interested to learn about more blatant racism you may experience. I think a lot of us would like to pretend it doesn't exist here. But I know it does. I just never experience it because I am white. The more people talk about their experiences with racism, the more people can do about it. You are a very kind and beautifull person. Wishing you well, Love, Angela
Hi lieve Angela , thank you for the wonderful compliment 🥰. Thanks also for the time you took to give your take on this. I am glad I posted this video because i’ve learned a lot now about this topic. It’s ok to be curious and ask stuff even though some might understand the curiosity and some not. It’s coz people are just different and thus behave and receive things/situations differently. I will one time make that video with my direct experiences, and maybe also invite some friends to share their experiences, we will see . I wish you a good night and a wonderful week ahead ! Liefs Nimo
Oh yeah it does if you go to small towns and villages coz they’re not used to seeing white people but otherwise Nairobi and Mombasa is normal to see whites . Thank you for watching 😘
In the past racism didn’t exist in our country, mostly black people who found a new home here are suddenly blaming us,also this lady is telling fairy tales and we don’t know the purpose and it’s only her opinion !!
You looking forgein thats why because they dont do that by a black born in the Netherlands only on school sometimes. You can see when someone is dutch dont matter witch colour😁 I m Black & White so Dont know how it is when you youre colour but yea in the Netherlands our black people are mostly from (south america) maybe that’s why we have Africans to but South Americans are more commin here. Don’t take any of this personely😁😉 And sorry for my bad English haha
I'm sorry, but it sounds really strange to me that people stared at you because because of your skincolour. Black people live everywhere for quite a long time. Why stare if, in my situation (living in the centre of Dordrecht), I see dozens and dozens of black people every day. In fact, people looking like me is becoming more and more rare. Male,gold blond, blue eyes. I have really checked this a year or so ago. You see very little guys like me. I saw like 60 black people before I saw somebody like me. If you were in Bulgaria it's a totally different story. No black living there, so seeing you would be completely new. But in the Netherlands? Is it not possible that there's a different reason they stared? Just because of skincolour? That would be as logical as people go staring at a tree for half an hour.
I’m sure you’re not the only white person in your village are you ? Coz I’m the only black person in mine . They’ve never had a black person live among them before . When I moved to this village, the population was 876, it’s not even 1700 yet. I don’t need to make up stories when they actually happen 😃
Its feels like they see us as animals, can i touch your hair🤦🏽♂️ I think they acted like they are intrest but a lot are racist also in a strange way. I cant really explain.
Thanks for sharing .your story ..you very beautiful and brave but your hubby loves you so just focus on your family we are all God's children.i had a white hubby .he pass now .but he loves me very much .iwould marry white again if I had the choice.msy God bless you and your family .love from Canada.send me a white man penpal if you no any .
geneva B , you get used to it and end up understanding their curiosity! And living in the village is great actually, I used to think I wasn’t gonna like it but now I love it .
No no , it has nothing to with your colour, if you have cats. Just put a new cat between them! And see what happens, yes yes I know we are humans. We suppose to have brains but reactions come from the primitive brain. Similar to the, fight, freeze, run. Respond!
Even after 54 years in Australia I'm still often asked where I'm from when they hear my faint dutch accent. I like being asked, I think people are just curious, I always ask people where they are from because I'm interested. Even being white in Australia caused discrimination and name calling. I always felt they must feel insecure when faced with someone who has so much more life experience. Being a migrant is challenging in many ways but also very enriching, I don't regret it one bit.
Marianne Noordink , it takes courage to move to a new country, and staying in that country, learning and accepting the cultures and everything that comes with it , now that’s courage, strength and will power 💪🏾😆. I love the person I’ve become due to the exposure I’ve gotten after moving to NL
Hey Nimo-babe... Most of the behaviour is curiosity.. meant in a positive way. You are an open personality so you are approachable and people will engage you and ask and feel .. might be sometimes irritating and embarrasing but most people mean all good. There is just so much to love about you :-) Sure you would have much less attention in the west and the big cities. One thing is true: most people will not estimate you being in good material status being coloured. That is still a misconception : coloured people being refugees and in poor social status. I am sorry about this my friend Nimo :-(
Black Pete (Zwarte Piet) is our Dutch way of saying ... don't be affraid. We come bearing giftst, we come giving gifts for children. PLEASE don't fear out colour. Then an American came here and fucked things up, starting to focus on skin color.
When I was young I was also very curious about black people because I didn't come into contact with many black people growing up. At school there was not a single black child until I was around 7 years old. It was a boy from Sudan and I wanted to get to know him better but he wasn't very nice, he would not play with the other children and he would sometimes hit us with sticks (I later learned this was because of his bad experiences in the war in Sudan but they didn't tell us this). This boy moved less than a year later.
Personally I don't think it's very polite to just ask a black person if you can touch their hair if you don't know them very well. I know these people are just curious but I wouldn't do it.
If you catch people staring at you I think it is mostly because a black person just stands out in a place where most people are white. I am certain this is the other way around in Kenya, I am a white man, people in Kenya would certainly stare at me I think. Not for any negative reason but just because they are curious. People are just curious by nature.
I think it is very good that you don't take these things negatively! You are a wonderful and positive person and a beautiful black woman. If people stare at you I think it is because of that, not because they are racist!
Enigma NL , thank you for the compliment ☺️. If you would go to my hometown, you would be stared at big time . Whenever we go walking around the streets at my dads place with my husband, he would have kids follow him around saying things like , Hi, hallo, Mzungu(Swahili word for white person). The staring is in the beginning weird but then you get used to it ...
@@nimomamakeonjarik ain't it just yin/yang ? :-)
When you're dealing with the dutch it's always good to take things in the most innocent way. I was born and raised in the Netherlands and my skin is darker and my hair was short and curly. So I know what people say and what they mean. The first thing kids would ask little me was where my parents were from. When I told them they were perfectly fine with it, they just wanted to know why I looked the way I did.
I got loads of compliments about my hair and I don't mind if people touch it because dutch people don't mind if someone touches their hair. In summer the kids would compare their tan with mine, if they got close that was a win for them. They did not see my hair or skintone as anything negative. I've had the same question about me being the main person living in my house but I think they are just a bit surprised sometimes or they think I'm a lot younger than I am. I don't think they mean it badly at all. In my semi rural area I think I experience far less racism than I would have if I lived in a big city, when you are just an individual people take you as an individual, not part of some group they may have been taught to have an opinion about.
Its amazing the way you react to these very specific situations. I think that your attitude shows your self respect and love and it’s an example for a lot of of people. Thank you!
Devian Parra Padilla , thank you very much for the compliment 😊❤️
I hate being stared at but change the bad thoughts into good thoughts by thinking they stare because Im so beautiful, it really helps. I really enjoyed this video. As a white person born in Africa I have a little guilt, even though its NOT from anything I did. Its a complex problem which is hard to explain !!! Keep smiling and laughing !!!!!!!
Hi Eric , you’re right, it’s better to have positive thoughts coz you never really know what’s going on in someone’s mind. ❤️
God bless you.. it's just exhausting, having grown up in the South in the US. Always being the oddity. It's sometimes a hard choice to stay positive.. But it definitely is exhausting.... As an African American.. What you are sharing is the story of my life... Always thinking you are the maid...
God bless you too Cynthia Rhue 🙏🏾❤️. Sending you a big hug 🤗
I admire your attitude to those comments and stares; your generosity in assuming ignorance instead of malice. While I agree most of these things sound like curiosity and ignorance, I still expect people to have the basic understanding that some questions are impolite. You would have been within your right to react with anger. So it's really commendable that you instead choose to make these people familiar with yourself so that hopefully they learn and next time they are less curious/ignorant. In addition, I wanted to say that you are in fact also very beautiful and I think I would also find it difficult not to look a little bit longer than I should.
Hi M , thank you for the compliment ☺️😘
I am Dutch and off course in my own country never get stared at. But I was on holiday in Thailand and we also travelled to rural areas and there I also got stared at everywhere. It was not a great feeling, but it was more since you are out of the ordinary that people get curious, so no one meant it in an offensive way.
Yes I take it too that they’re just curious. Thank you Sandy for sharing your experience ❤️
@@nimomamakeonjarik Which Dutch cities are best for people from West Africa like myself that want to enjoy a vacation but also avoid big city crime and racism? Thx
Hi King James , in general you don’t experience racism in Dutch cities because they’re so many nationalities living and visiting the cities. But then again it depends on which type of person one meets/comes across , the other might be racist, the other not.
Cities I would recommend, Maastricht , Utrecht, Amsterdam is also nice. You could also go to beautiful places like Giethoorn “the Dutch Venice”. North Holland and Friesland is also beautiful. 🤣🤣 too many choices to confuse you 😉
@@nimomamakeonjarik Yes that's how it works, if I as a white person would walk in your country everybody would stare at me to. And ofcourse here in the Netherlands we are more multicultural, but the way you look is noticeable. The short hair for example, not very common here.
It’s the short hair and a very beautiful face 😉😉😉
thanks , i loved the way you look at these things
Omg, the person that compared your hair to pubic hair... that is disguting, you are really patient and brave, congrats for being such an amazing woman 👏
I chose not to react in any way negative, it’s better coz some of them don’t know any better 😀
Thank you for making this! It is very helpful my wife is black and I’m doing research on counties to move to. And this was a very vital for deciding so thank you!
Hi Travis , thank you for watching my video. I’m glad I was able to help you out a lil bit in your research. I wish you and your beautiful wife all the best 🙏🏾
Woww i really didnt know there are still people in the netherlands who havent seen people of colour of are shocked about people of colour livjng in their village😦 maybe it is because i never lived in a really really small town so for me its different or maybe it is a generation thing i dont know but i was really shocked to hear it! Im so glad you take it all in such a positive way thats such a strong and good way of life:)
Thank you Verena for watching the video and for your comment ❤️
Love your videos! Thank you so much for sharing your experiences.
Hi Caethes Faron , thank you very much for watching. I’m happy you love my videos 🤗
The hair I can definitely relate, even my extended family is so fascinated by my hair because it can take so many hairstyles and shapes, I can look completely different everyday, they think I have a super power hahaha!
🤣🤣🤣, they think you have super power for sure because how can one have short hair at one moment then curly then long and straight ? 🤣🤣
[" They love all of our features hehe, just not us much. "]
[" The natural curls our hair have is called "C" curls btw. "]
Being “different” can be eye opening for anybody, as well as meeting “different” people. Most people are curious but neutral about it. If there is a personal contact people will judge on personality rather than your looks or identity. I think opening up to people is the key and your positive attitude is the right answer. It might be tiresome in the beginning but after you establish a “personal community” around you you will be part of it and no one will judge you on your identity anylonger.
Leo Per , it’s true what you say. The hardships are mostly in the beginning when you have no clue how to create contact but after awhile and some contacts here and there, things become easier
@@nimomamakeonjarik pls help me to come there
Hi Nimooo😘😘😘
"Did she expect me to have 2left feet....or a feet of a horse🤣🤣🤣.
It's a nother interesting video..and it's good to hear your experiences and share them...really appreciate and thanks for keeping it positive...@times it can be very crazy.....esp.on the staring part.....😀
Big hugs😘😘😘
I got really irritated at that time Stellah 🤣🤣. I was just few months in NL and the first time in Portugal. I understand they don’t see much black people there but at that time, the staring was weird for me 😃
That's beautiful you are understanding I don't take most of their curiosity personal easy.....
I really find it commendable how you choose to take the comments and the staring. It would be very understandable if you would find it insulting or annoying. Do you think there's any difference between the big cities and the countryside?
There is.
But most people on the countryside stare at anyone from out of town, not just black people.
You're a new face, so they're curious.
Joren Kock , yes I think there’s a big difference between a big city and a small village. In the city you have lots of different nationalities while in some small villages not
Your positivity is the best!
Hi Daan , Thank you 😊! And thanks for watching
Wow greetings go go go you are always in my prayers !!great work
Greetings back 🤗. Thank you for your prayers, and for the compliment. I appreciate 🙏🏾🤗
I like your positive attitude. Sometimes it is genuine curiosity
Yes true . But times have changed now . These days you see lots of mixed races on tv , lots of blacks on tv than even 3 years ago . This is very good
Well, I would stare at you too sis. You are beautiful!
i have had people touch my hair or asking if they could touch my hair. when I was a lot younger I was okay with it if they asked because I know it was just curiosity, but if someone asked me that now, I would absolutely say no but in a nice way. When I visited certain countries in Africa though, a lot of folks stared at me and asked to touch my hair. I think my hair texture as a black women picked their curiosity, especially in the places where I was, and I looked like a tourist I suppose.
Thanks for sharing your story.
NinoBK , thank you for the compliment 😘. And thanks for watching the video as well 🤗
I'll be honest, I'd probably stare a little as well. I know it's impolite, and I'd try not to. But encountering people who look different is just something outside your usual experience. It's almost involuntary.
Not sure what's up with people wanting to touch other people's hair, though. That's just weird.
I get it Marco, something new (and nice) attracts my attention as well to be honest 😉
@@nimomamakeonjarik They might just be curious and mean well and in general curly hair and dark skin is often envied, but the Dutch can be very insensitive and rude and assume assertivity. Nothing wrong with showing some restraint in one's curiosity and nothing wrong with reminding them you're not an attraction. It might not be racist but it's still impolite.
Lynott Parris , thanks for your take ❤️
@@DenUitvreter I tend to agree but on the other hand, as a child I would have very white long wavy curly hair.., I was asked very regurlarly by all sorts of people if they could touch it.. and I probably think if I would walk in some little bush village in kenia probably the same would happen.. haha it's human nature I suppose (ps. born and bred in the netherlands, 100% dutch, not colored at all )
I dont know what that hair touching is about. A friend of mine in dutch high school was also black and we liked touching his hair. He probably thought it was annoying. Though, I dont think we wanted to touch his hair because he was black but because he had really short hair, so it felt really nice when touching it. Now he has an afro;)
Thank you for this video. Having grown up in a small town, I can just imagine how people reacted to your presence, oof! While there are bad apples, I'm relieved to hear most people don't approach you negatively, although some questions perhaps indicate ignorance and lack of tact... I would put that down to lack of exposure: someone can't be aware of certain sensitivities if they've never met anyone to whom they should display them.
Also, as a white person having lived in China for 4 years, I can relate to the staring. People there weren't used to seeing white people (black people either, for that matter), so you stuck out. I always compared it to being that one red poppy in a green field. You can call it curiosity, but it's more that you just simply catch people's eye because you don't blend in with the masses. I experienced it myself as well, that in China I would notice another white person from a mile away when walking down the street. Being used to seeing only Asian faces, suddenly seeing a non-Asian face is just striking, and you can't help noticing. The most interesting was returning back home for vacation. I would suddenly NOT get stared at, and I actually mised it: "Why is nobody looking at me?", hahaha! It took at least a week to get used to not being stared at. And for at least the first months or so after I returned to the Netherlands for good, Asian faces would stand out to me. Living in a very white part of the country at the time, I would not see many Asians, but then suddenly seeing one felt so homely. I just hope they didn't think I was staring at them malevolently!
Since I lived in the same small town for 3.5 years of my time in China, the staring in that specific community definitely decreased over time, so I would hope you have a similar experience in the Netherlands. The fruit lady in the beginning watched me open-mouthedly selecting some of her apples, but after visiting her stand 10-20 times, I stopped being interesting and was just one of her regular customers. She remembered soon enough that I liked fuji apples! Whenever I went into the city, it would be very different, of course, because then those people didn't know me. Children would point at me, calling out "laowei" (foreigner), and some would secretly take a photo of me with their phone. In the supermarket I once startled a poor girl: when turning a corner, we nearly bumped into each other, and she physically recoiled before catching herself. And in Beijing some random old lady out of nowhere pushed her grandchild into my arms to take a picture. Oh my, all those memories!
So, in conclusion, your experience resonates with anyone who has spent a longer time in a country where they are a visual minority. For me, at least, it means that I can appreciate much more what it must be like to be a visual minority in the country you were born and raised, as is the case in the Netherlands for people of Turkish, Moroccan, or Surinamese descent. To any white Dutch person who doesn't get it, go spend half a year in Asia or Africa, and you might actually understand!
Thank you very much Jantrao for sharing all this with me, I honestly appreciate it. I’m glad you relate to what I shared and you’re right, after some time you kind of get used to things that seemed weird in the beginning. ❤️
Just new here and am a Kenyan coming soon Amsterdam hoping gonna meet you🙏😘😘
Welcome to NL ! Would be nice 💕
A very classy lady!!! Het allerbeste gewenst
Dankjewel 🙏🏾☺️
Nice to see more black youtubers in the netherlands
Nice to meet you here as well dear
As you by now certainly know theres lots of Black Nederlanders in Nederland they are from Suriname or from one of the 6 carabean islands former Dutch colonies and they speak all Dutch , that could be a reason why they ask or just curiosity
I hope to visit these Dutch colonies one time 🙏🏾
@@nimomamakeonjarik yes pleas do come. im from suriname and im black and i would love to have you( a Kenyan) come to my country because not a lot of Kenyans( Africans)know about my country and know that there are other black people living in south america
Zienna Noordpool , thank you for the invite ! I will keep it in mind if I get to visit Suriname 😘😘. You’re right, I didn’t even know about Suriname before , till I moved to The Netherlands... hope to visit soon !
@@nimomamakeonjarik former Dutch colonies
jim de nooij , oh ! I have to google that then
Dear Nimo thank you for this video, you can be honest about also the negative experience. That way we can learn and teach our children to deal with other color skinned people better. Wen I was in The Gambia last year the little boy of the family we visited was very afraid of me (I am a big white woman) I was to enthousiast and the baby was crying every time he saw me, first time in contact with white human ha ha ha ha ha, must have been scary. And also the other children wanted to feel my very white skin and hair , ofcourse they are curious I think thats normal. I really appreciate your positive attitude. Keep save and healthy
Hi Truus , that baby had never seen a white person before, probably also not on television. I remember when we visited a kennis of my husband when I moved here, the baby there started to cry. I think she got startled !
And also whenever we visit my father in Kenya together with my husband, he becomes a celebrity 😂. Not so many white people visit that area and when he’s there, children start to follow him shouting , “hallo Mzungu”, hallo white person. It’s always nice to see 😄
@@nimomamakeonjarik yes absolutely, the family are good friends of us so after our 3 visite he was fine 😁
I know how that feels.. will narrate my experiences some day.
Nice video Nims❤
Please do! Thanks for watching. Hugs
I live in the US but have lived in Nairobi with my father for 3 months before. Hope to get to the NL one day
Haha Mark Rutte ! You must really love NL to use our Minister president’s name 😆. I hope you get to visit NL one day and that you like it
In most bigger cities people are used to people looking different these days...., I live in a very mixed town...and I wouldn't care less what people look like as long as they act normal.. :)
DOE NORMAAL!!!!
Hoi Nimo. When everyone looks at you, might it not be because you are so beautiful. 😘 And the other remarks: I do find it realy rude. But some people are realy ignorant and do not understand how offensive they are. But that is more a reflection on them than on you. But I love your attitude not to take it to heart.
Hoi Marianne , Ik denk dat je gelijk hebt, its because I’m beautiful 😊. Thank you 😘
Hi Nimo, First I want to say that I love your vlogs. You are always so cheerful! I am a white woman living in Gouda, near Rotterdam. I am very surprised to hear that people are staring at you because you are black. But I remember going to Japan many years ago, the people there kept on staring me in the eyes. They had never seen blue eyes before. I have sons with long hair and tattoos. Before that came into fashion, they were prone to staring too. And people being scared!
I live in the “Randstad”. We have many people from different cultures living here. In Gouda, we have mostly people of Moroccan origin. But Rotterdam, The Hague, and Amsterdam have so many more cultures! I am from Indonesian origin, my grandfather was black but I am white with blue eyes. I embrace that Indo culture very much. I guess I would be one of those people who would ask you where you are from. Just interested about cultures and people.
I would love to learn more about your culture. Maybe more recipes and I love that vlog with Sheila about hair and wigs.
Hi Jacky , Sheila does have nice wigs right ? I’m glad you enjoy watching my videos. Oh I love Blue eyes, I wish I had them 😌. It would be wonderful if my kids would inherit my husbands blue eyes 🙏🏾🙏🏾. Someone with long hair and tattoos would immediately attract my attention, I wouldn’t get scared of them, I would want to know more about them🙈 😘
Good idea Jacky Berg , I will make a Kenyan food/recipe video some time soon 😘. What would you like to know about my culture, Any ideas ?
@@nimomamakeonjarik I am interested in “black hair”. Oprah once said, “it’s a project”. It’s amazing the things that black people are doing with black hair. And those wigs are amazing yes. My eldest son has long black curly hair. A bit like one of those wigs but with less hair. No one in our family has that kind of hair. I often wondered how that could be.
You wish your baby boy to inherit his father’s blue eyes… I once met a really dark lady who had a baby from her white husband. The baby was totally white! She told me that she constantly heard “he is not yours isn’t he?” People just couldn’t believe it.
People see men with tattoos as being aggressive. Well, my boys are only into music and beer.
@@nimomamakeonjarik Ideas… What are Kenya’s most popular music artists at this moment? And the most popular songs? What is Kenya’s most popular dish? And one subject maybe not for everyone: Voodoo. Does it exist in Kenya and how is it integrated into your daily life.
Jacky Berg , good ideas, thank you 😘! I will touch on them soon. Maybe start with a Kenyan food video
I was the only white person back in the day in my neighbourhood of the Dutch maintown. However, the fact that my neighbours also are able to speak at least Dutch or English helps making friends. Now I live in a more diverse area and I'm in shock to see other white people. My father is yellow and my mom is white. Ask me any questions please I listened to your whole vlog. I look different from typical Dutch people, smaller and rounder.
Cool video
Thanks for watching ☺️
Hi- thank you for posting this video! I am a recent May 2020 college graduate from the U.S. and id like to know the likelihood of getting a job as an expat within the next few months!
And if you have any job searching resources! 💕💕💕
Hi 👋🏽, thank you for watching the video. Maybe you could check on indeed.nl or here ,
www.iamexpat.nl/career/jobs-netherlands
On this website under they give tips on how to find a job in Amsterdam:
www.expatica.com/nl/working/finding-a-job/jobs-in-amsterdam-102380/
You are so beautiful from inside ans outside. I will stare but also compliment you with your looks😍
Aaww that’s so sweet of you to say Marjan! Thank you ☺️. I can tell that you’re also a beautiful person 😘
Im east african as well ,I Just moved to the N.L .Feel pretty lost here🤦♀️..any leads on how to get by? I dont have any friends yet...how best can i learn Dutch?. Would be nice to speak to you in person...😭😭.Im truly glad i found your channel.
Hi dear , thank you very much for watching. I live close to Enschede, where do you live ? I made a video about how to learn Dutch easy and fast . Plz check it out
Kids hiding and running is something am getting used to 😂
Aaaaah I know my dear, you get used to it then you don’t even notice it anymore
With the asking where you're from thing. I can usually tell if people are from a different country or not by their accents. I get it with white people too (people move here from Scandinavia/France/Germany etc. all the time and they (almost) always have accents). So the asking where someone's from is not really a skin colour thing for me. It's an accent thing. You have a very noticeable accent, so if we met I would automatically assume you're from another country because of that. And I'd get curious and ask because I love to travel and love to hear from people from different countries.
Hi Esmée, thanks for watching my video. I love traveling as well, an opportunity I got after I moved to NL ☺️
@@nimomamakeonjarik Hopefully we can travel again soon then! Hope you're staying safe in these weird times!
P.s.: Your hair makes you look like one of those badass wakandian warrior women and it's awesome!
Esmée , Wakanda forever ☺️! You too stay safe 😘
I’m surprised that there are still people here that haven’t seen a black person in person before. I live in the southern most province and had some black, Moroccan and Indonesian kids in my class from kindergarten onwards. So not even in a big city like Amsterdam or Rotterdam.
Apparently when my brother was young (1 or 2) there was a tall black man in a store, he said out loud “oh look mommy, that man is black!” Just as stating a fact, but my mom was mortified. Apparently the man wasn’t offended, because how can you be, if a toddler is saying something without any judgment or opinion behind it.
But I think it’s one of the reasons why my mom made sure that I also had a black babydoll with kroeshaar, she had to search high and low for one, it was in the 70s. She wanted to make sure that I knew that not everyone in the world is white and blond.
If I meet someone who wasn’t born here in the Netherlands, I’ll ask where they’re from, because I love hearing about other countries. My ex was from Angola, and I loved hearing about where he grew up, and what his life like before he came here. Nowadays we have UA-cam, so we can easily see what life is (really) like in for instance Japan, America, etc as opposed to what we see in movies.
Really cool of your mom to teach you that even though we might have different skin colours, we’re all one and the same. Big hug 🤗
@@nimomamakeonjarik yeah, she was awesome!
A base value I learned at home was “we do not all look the same, have the same beliefs etc., but we’re all equal.”
Keep up the good work with the vlog 😌🙏 Greetings from Romania ✈️
Thank you very much , I will keep doing my best ☺️🙏🏾. Greetings back from me 🤗
Where do you live in the Netherlands? Staphorst maybe? Some little village? In the big cities its not so special when you look like you!
I grew up in a very white village, and still knew not to stare at people.
And around 20 years ago, even these small towns and villages were no longer strangers to diversity.
So it's strange to me that Nimo was stared at like that.
Maybe she mostly lived in very white areas where everyone knows the one black family in town (I grew up hearing 'the adopted black kids,' 'the refugees,' and 'the guy who married that vietnamese woman' all the time to refer to people. And even now, people often talk about 'the chinese family' as if they don't have names or other things to be remembered for)
But being black doesn't usually get you stared at anymore.
What does get you stared at is being from out of town.
"Butendurpse" as we call them, are always stared at and questioned, because people are curious and want to know why anyone would come to the middle of nowhere when there are so many cities they can go to instead.
@@mmarie1351 I live in a village and the staring happens a lot.
Any outsiders get stared at here, regardless of skincolour 🤣🤣
M Marie , the number of years you live in The Netherlands doesn’t really matter ! Everyone has their own experiences. Yes I live in a very small village where I’m the only black person
Gemme Burger , I live in a small village where I’m the only black and probably the only buitenlander , and I think also the only black in the other 2 villages surrounding us ... I have been in the big cities and you’re right , there I don’t stand out at all
Marian Selten , in my village and the surrounding villages, I am the “only” black girl that went to our “only” bar, that attended the village party, that lives in that house ! I introduce myself sometimes and they say that they already heard about me . And also when we go on vacations , I look around to see if I can maybe come across people of my colour, which happens rarely
Your hair looks like the one on the p part🤣🤣🤣
That was funny
Poor us🤣🤣🤣
Imagine she dared say that to me ! 😅
Some people are crazy 😂. But still , we stand tall and wear our hair with pride ☺️
If I were you I would never let them touch your hair and say it’s like private hair! Taking things lightly doesn’t mean insult you!
Hahaha, I experienced something strange when I was as a tall Dutchman in China. Especially in 1999. I was walking down the street in Xiamen city and I was chased by a large group of people. They had never seen a big white man before. And wherever I went, they chased me into the shops. But ....... I was also pushed away at the cash register. They were very cheeky. Fortunately I had my posture, so when I looked angry and assumed a somewhat threatening attitude, they left me alone. But it was a strange experience.
Hoi Bert , I can imagine you being a tall Dutch man in China 😄. Chinese are generally small so you immediately became amusing to them. The same would happen to you if you went to my village in Kenya, my husband becomes a celebrity when we’re there 😀
@@nimomamakeonjarik Well, I wasn't a celebrity right away :-) A big white guy looking for baby food and other baby stuff. It was when we had just had our oldest daughter. A little Chinese girl, now an adult beautiful young woman. But in 2016 I went back to China with her and again I was the big attraction. But it was still different from 1999, when the country was even more closed.
Bert Kassing , sounds to me like there’s a beautiful story behind this 😊
@@nimomamakeonjarik Yes for sure. We adopted two daughters from China. So now they are the most beautiful girls in the whole world (I think as a non-objective father). We have always been very attentive to any form of discrimination (against them). Fortunately it did not happen to them.
Thank you for your video because iam a black American but currently live in the UK. May be moving to Rotterdam and wanted to know if it is a nice area for black ppl to live in?
Hi 🙋🏾♀️, thank you for watching my video 😘. Rotterdam is a big city and there are lots of different nationalities living there, lots of blacks. I hear that it’s a very nice city to live in and with a lot to offer. I hope you will like it there once you move . Stay safe 😘
Awe this is great to know 🙏🏽Thank you very much!
To correct ignorance, people have to ask questions. That's how they become less ignorant. They dont necessarily mean harm. It would be easy to take offense, but our response depends on the context of the inquiry. I would rather people ask questions than just assume. That being said though, some people are just going to be who they are. People who care to become enlightened and change will do so. So, just live your life and what will be will be.🙂
AY Evans , very right! Some questions are just out of curiosity and unawareness that’s why I try to stay positive and just give an answer even if the question sounds ridiculous 😄
I had to be told by my son that it is not appropriate to call a black person "neger" anymore. That used to be the polite way. I can remember the same discussion I had with my mother 45 years ago. When I did something stupid, she would call me "klootjavaan (which I am not going to translate, it is too bad). I am white, blond, blue eyed, so I first of all did not understand, but second of all very insulting for people from Java and I asked here to stop it. She did, by the way, but she was highly suprised that I found it insulting for people from Java. So, I am at a loss on how I would call black people in Dutch without insulting them. I found "richly pigmented fellow people" a nice one, but that was not good enough.
Hi Ronald , that word your mama used has bad translations/meaning on google so I do understand why you stopped her from using it . If you know the Dutch history then you wouldn’t see the word “neger” insulting coz you know exactly what it means and how they used to use the word . But if you don’t know the history , it sounds really bad to hear someone use it ...
It seems like you live in a "gehucht" or very small village, so I can imagine people being a little bit more curious since they're not used to foreign looking people. Curious about the rasicm you've encountered though, so if you're gonna do a video about that, i will check it for sure! (my wife is also from another ethnic background)
Hi DuartJansen , yes I do live in a very small village, at least we have a small village supermarket and a bar/restaurant and a church. But it’s beautiful here, I love it. That video will come soon. Where’s your wife from if I may ask ?
the hair on the head are round hairs with white people, facial and genital hairs are not round but "vierkant" even beard and moustash hairs are thats why these hairs are thicker and feel firmer
Hi jim , you just described the hair on my head hahaha 😆
@@nimomamakeonjarik i believe science and evolution, all people on earth now are all descendants of what evolutionary happened in Afrika in fact were all Africans. what ever color we have now
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You take our curiosity the right way. Good for you. As far as the N word, I am older and the N word never had a negative connotation in Dutch when I was young, until we learned from the influence from the US that is was insulting.
Hi M Z , Thanks 😊, I appreciate your comment
Be careful here, we have the six letter word, the Dutch version of which has the g's replaced by k's, which does have a negative, or at least hostile connotation,and the five letter word, which in Dutch ends -er, rather than -ro.The latter has no negative connotations in Dutch, except for being that out of date, that its use is mainly restricted to a historical context.
As @ThW5 says, the Dutch language has it's own N-word, but it was last used by someone in 1983 or something. Now people with a strong desire to be the victim of racism claim 'neger' is the N-word but it is in fact the neutral word to describe a black person. It is nor was used very much in daily language because people have names and if you don't know someone's name and have to describe him by his looks you're not likely to use a noun but rather an adjective like donker or zwart.
So it's unfair to claim it's the N-word, and it's mostly done by people who are either ignorant on the Dutch language and recent Dutch history, or want the Dutch to look much more racist than they are. If I used the word 'neger' as a kid there would be no problem, if I used the Dutch N-word I would get smacked. My parents weren't the corporal punishment kind of parents, but this word was really out of order. I don't like the sound of the word 'neger' either and never used it very often and if the 'black community' if there is one wants it not be used any longer they have to communicate that clearly. Not accusing people of racism because they use a word in the neutral sense as they were taught.
Lynott Parris , I myself didn’t know the differences , till after I made this video. We do go to school to learn Dutch but they don’t teach us about the Dutch history ! And for a black person who hasn’t lived in the Netherlands, they would also find it weird to hear someone use that word on them. If you translate the N-word from English to Dutch, what word does it become ? So it is only a Dutch person in this case that would know what it actually means and the history behind it. I think explaining it to the other person(in this case) me or any other black person would create an understanding, because otherwise, how is someone who’s new in the Netherlands supposed to know the difference? And assuming that they should know the history is unfair !
@@nimomamakeonjarik Don't get me wrong, I don't blame you at all. I blame the Dutch activists, black or white, immigrant background or not, who claim that the Dutch still use the N-word a lot, they grew up here, they know the language, they should know before they make an accusation like that. They probably do, they're just dishonest, it's not their only false claim to 'prove' the Dutch are racist to mostly a foreign audience. You couldn't know, you can't know about words that aren't used anymore, that's why I tell you.
Honest mistake or not, the Dutch successfully rooted out the use of the pejorative word for blacks by zero tolerance anywhere in society and I don't want a pat on the back for that because it's the only right thing to do, but to have that success used against us llike that is extremely unfair. And more importantly, it's divisive. Here's the wiktionary link- en.wiktionary.org/wiki/nikker. I only typed it and for a good cause but I still feel like I have to wash my mouth with soap now.
On the history of Dutch racism, the Dutch entered the Atlantic slave trade eventually, but only with double standards for the colonies. Everybody on Dutch soil itself was free and there have been free blacks in the Netherlands since the 1500's, and there were also free blacks in the colonies and trading posts. This allowed for a fresh start in race relations when the black immigrants came to the Netherlands in the 20th century. Before WWII it was a bit of a mixed bag, but after the occupation by nazi Germany with it's racial persecution it became something nazi's would practice, not the liberated Dutch. The first black many Dutch people saw was an American or Canadian liberator, and liberators were hard to dislike allthough the segregation between American troops raised some eyebrows. The Dutch welcomed them with open arms, and open legs quite often. In the 2nd half of the 20th century the Dutch got regularly outraged about racism in other countries like the USA, South-Africa of course but also the UK, basically every and any country because the Dutch were leading the way, showing how it's done.
That might have have been in the way of taking a good hard look at the Dutch themselves but to be fair, the idea that colour didn't and shouldn't matter was seen as self-evident and it was the most post-racial country on earth. I'm afraid it has regressed a little in the 21st century, but lots of people in their 30's and 40's and older still feel like it's a problem from a distant past or distant countries.
3:59 hey Mzungu :D
😂😂😂 this reminds me of when we were young , how we used to scream “mzungu mzungu give us biscuit “. The good old times 🤣
Thank you dear for watching 😘
My first ever best friend (22 years ago) was from Angola. We were throwing rocks and mud at each other from across the pond the first time we met, no idea why we did that but it still makes me laugh thinking about it today lmao. Next day we started playing football(soccer) in the streets together and after that day we'd play together every single day, all day long except if one of us was sick for about 8 years. We'd eat at each other's house at least once a week and whenever we were at his house his mom would dance with him and one of his sisters would make me dance with her. When his family went swimming they'd take me with them & When my family went swimming we'd take him with us. Good times, sadly his family moved to Rotterdam (from a small village in Groningen) when him and I were 12-13 years old and I haven't seen or heard of him since.
Social media wasn't a big thing back then and we didn't have our own phones yet because we didn't go to high school yet & kids back then were only given a phone once they were in high school so it was impossible for us to keep in touch.
That's quite a lot to read but I hope you enjoy hearing about the reverse experience. :)
Thank you very much for sharing this with me ! Such a beautiful story with a sad ending . It’s a pity that they moved and you totally lost contact with each other. I hope that one day destiny brings you back together. My best friend of 15yrs is still living in Kenya and I miss her every day. She would visit me here for the 1st time in August but seems like things won’t go as planned 😞😞
@@nimomamakeonjarik I hope things make a turn for the better so you and your friend can be reunited once again. Nothing worse than not being able to see your friend in person, I can only imagine what it'd be like being in a far away country and not being able to meet my friends back home. Stay strong, stay awesome🤗
@@JJ-qc9ld maybe you can find him on Facebook?
@@_JoyceArt tried a million times, same for hyves when it was still around.
It was kinda the same for me but the other way around.
Large white male (around 1,95m) bald with a beard.
In Africa (Angola) everyone was staring at me, for the same reasons just curiosity. And maybe I stand even more out than most white folks because well.. my looks and size
Also same with kids, or they were very interested in me or they were a bit afraid of me.
Wasn't offended by it but it was a bit weird for me
Osmosis , I can already picture you in the streets of Africa with that clear explanation of how you look 😁. I’m sure most of them stared with amazement🤗
And yes it’s weird in the beginning till you get used to it and it becomes normal
How did you get to the netherlands
There’s a video I’ve shared about how I got here . Plz check it out
You look like a happy and well groomed young woman.
Hi Liesbeth , thank you for the compliment ❤️
didnt know there was such a big difference between the west and the east of the netherlands. i cannot believe people would think it strange if you owned a house, based on your color.
Just out of curiosity:Unadeal aje na wakenya who shout or say something like mzungu mzungu to your spouse? Najua ni ngumu watu kuiona kama haiko zawa
Mambo Paul, the kids uko home can’t help it they’re curious and find it fascinating kuona mzungu mtaani. As long as they don’t do anything wrong then si mind and he also doesn’t mind. He sometimes says hallo to them then the kids get so happy they start laughing 😂
@@nimomamakeonjarik thats quite interesting. So it would be fine to should white white if we use same measure. Mimi naona kama ni tricky
When we were in 1985 on hollyday in Croatia ,Just before the war , all the guys were looking at my wife to be because she’s blond . At that time they haven’t seen that much . So it’s not racism, for them it’s Just rare. And in Jesus there is no racism.
Very true Bart, in Jesus there’s no racism 🙏🏾🙏🏾.
Thank you very much for watching ❤️
Yes iwas ask by a white if I was a care giver for my white husband even in Canada to be black with a white husband.could be challenging but we survived that until he pass .not every white person felt the same so just enjoy your life .I would love to visit .heard it's beautiful there
I think things are changing now . Even on tv you see more mixed families on advertisements and movies . It is very beautiful here indeed, you should visit when you can 🤗
Love to visit one day ❤️🙏
So are you fluent in Dutch now?
I speak really good Dutch now , I may make few mistakes here and there but then I correct them myself
@@nimomamakeonjarik If you have a Facebook I have lanugage group for people of African descent called Melanated Multilinguals you can join if you want.
Depending on how the N-word thing was said, it might not have been meant in a racist way. To a lot of Dutch people, it's just how you call black people. To me, "zwart" has a much more negative connotation. It seems inaccurate since black people are brown rather than actually black, and it seems to always be used in ways that stereotype black people. "Die misdaad zal wel weer zo'n zwarte zijn geweest, altijd weer zwartjes". Which is super extremely racist to say. The N-word is much more neutral, in my opinion. Similar to words like caucasian or Asian.
In my case, that boy used the N word coz he wanted to impress his friends I think. He didn’t mean it in a nice way and maybe he didn’t even realize what he was doing, but it didn’t feel nice 😢
@@nimomamakeonjarik That's not nice at all. I guess kids just do that sort of stuff. But they should be taught better. Hopefully they have good parents that will teach them that it's wrong.
I am a Filipino living here in Netherlands. I understand you completely. I do get conscious of people staring especially I'm living in a village far from the city.
But I also realized that if a white person is in my country, she/he often would be stared at. Coz they would stand out from the population.
Love your video btw.
Hi Philar Philafel , thank you for watching the video. I will check out your channel as well I see yo posted about your culture shocks experience
@@nimomamakeonjarik oh my! Highly appreciated coming from you ❤️🙏
I'm really curious to know just what part of the country this was, people staring at you cos you are black?!
Im guessing it wasn't anywhere near the randstad, hehe.
No it’s in a very small village actually, but I get it being the only black person here ☺️, who’s also very beautiful 😉
@@nimomamakeonjarik yeah tell me about it, I share the same problem :-p
They always ask, in all countries why you come in Netherlands
I think they’re just curious. Thanks for watching
The world could have been a boring place if everybody had the same skin color .
Very true! Thanks for watching
I don’t know where you live but in Netherlands black people are everywhere, if people look at you it’s most likely because are an attractive woman and nice to look at, vcould also have to do something with the colours you wear.
Could have been because of my beauty ☺️☺️☺️. Thanks for watching 😚
i would stare, it's nothing about color. but you are cute. thats why.
Harry Hummel , that’s so sweet ! Thank you ☺️
Xxxxxxxxxxxxx lots of love
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Wawww
Nabihamba Leah , ❤️
But Nederlands are one of the best countrys for africans and muslims to work even if Doutch are very racist. It's a country with a very good pay minimum i think is 1300 euros
Compared to Africa the pay is very good but you also work extra hard compared to Africa. Which is actually very good as well . And yes NL is the best European country anyone could live in
Thank you for watching 🤗
If you were a young native woman with white skin and blonde hair. A lot of people would ask you too if you are the owner of the house or of a new car ....Its a form of prejudice towards women
Bert van Dijken , it’s unfair !
I stare at all pretty women!
Ms nimo I love you sweetheart
Thank you for watching Bo, lots of love 💕
@@nimomamakeonjarik your welcome darling
Are you sure the child said the actual N-word? I feel it's more likely the child said "neger", which is the old-fashioned Dutch form of the N-word, but it doesn't carry quite the cultural baggage as the actual N-word. How offensive the word "neger" is considered to be varies strongly by who you ask. (then again I'm sure the same could be said of the N-word too)
Hi Mark , ok! Seems like there’s a lot to learn still. If you asked me to translate the N-word from English to Dutch, I would say “neger” . Would that be a wrong translation?
@@nimomamakeonjarik No that would be the correct translation. But the N-word is mostly viewed through an American cultural lens, because it (rightfully) carries a very heavy historical burden there. In Dutch this is far less the case.
And I really don't want to be "that white guy" that tells you you shouldn't be offended, if it offends you then you have every right to feel that way. I just want to distinguish the two words from each other due to the different cultural backgrounds.
Also I love your channel!
@@nimomamakeonjarik Hi Nimo!The N-word in Dutch is Nikker. Neger translates as Negro in English.
I would like to see a video about the racism you experience. I am not a racist person i think. But maybe I do sometimes ask or do things that come accros as racist without even realising. I would ask where a person is form originally, when i hear someone has an accent or a different skincolor. To me it means I am interessted in that person and want to learn about your culture. I never realised it could be offensive to a person. And maybe there are more examples like that. When you tell us your experiences, we can all learn something form each other. I would also be interested to learn about more blatant racism you may experience. I think a lot of us would like to pretend it doesn't exist here. But I know it does. I just never experience it because I am white. The more people talk about their experiences with racism, the more people can do about it.
You are a very kind and beautifull person. Wishing you well, Love, Angela
Thank you Mark for your explanation, I understand what you mean. And thanks also for watching my videos 🤗
Hi lieve Angela , thank you for the wonderful compliment 🥰. Thanks also for the time you took to give your take on this. I am glad I posted this video because i’ve learned a lot now about this topic. It’s ok to be curious and ask stuff even though some might understand the curiosity and some not. It’s coz people are just different and thus behave and receive things/situations differently. I will one time make that video with my direct experiences, and maybe also invite some friends to share their experiences, we will see . I wish you a good night and a wonderful week ahead ! Liefs Nimo
Als je als geboren en getogen Amsterdammer door het centrum van Amsterdam loopt staren alle toeristen naar je als was je iemand exotisch.
Hoi Peter, wel cool om exotisch te zijn😉
@@nimomamakeonjarik ja hoor, en nu de toeristen weg zijn is er bijna niemand meer in de binnenstad
same happens if you are white and you walk around in keniya probably :)
Oh yeah it does if you go to small towns and villages coz they’re not used to seeing white people but otherwise Nairobi and Mombasa is normal to see whites .
Thank you for watching 😘
In the past racism didn’t exist in our country, mostly black people who found a new home here are suddenly blaming us,also this lady is telling fairy tales and we don’t know the purpose and it’s only her opinion !!
You looking forgein thats why because they dont do that by a black born in the Netherlands only on school sometimes. You can see when someone is dutch dont matter witch colour😁 I m Black & White so Dont know how it is when you youre colour but yea in the Netherlands our black people are mostly from (south america) maybe that’s why we have Africans to but South Americans are more commin here. Don’t take any of this personely😁😉 And sorry for my bad English haha
Hi 🙋🏾♀️! I don’t mind your bad English, at least you’re trying . Thank you very much for watching my video 😘💕
Your title should be being black in the netherlands as an black woman.. big diffrence
Ok thanks for the tip
Soooooo cute??????????!!~~
CAT TV , 🤗🤗🤗😘
I'm sorry, but it sounds really strange to me that people stared at you because because of your skincolour. Black people live everywhere for quite a long time. Why stare if, in my situation (living in the centre of Dordrecht), I see dozens and dozens of black people every day. In fact, people looking like me is becoming more and more rare. Male,gold blond, blue eyes. I have really checked this a year or so ago. You see very little guys like me. I saw like 60 black people before I saw somebody like me. If you were in Bulgaria it's a totally different story. No black living there, so seeing you would be completely new. But in the Netherlands? Is it not possible that there's a different reason they stared? Just because of skincolour? That would be as logical as people go staring at a tree for half an hour.
I’m sure you’re not the only white person in your village are you ? Coz I’m the only black person in mine . They’ve never had a black person live among them before . When I moved to this village, the population was 876, it’s not even 1700 yet. I don’t need to make up stories when they actually happen 😃
Its feels like they see us as animals, can i touch your hair🤦🏽♂️
I think they acted like they are intrest but a lot are racist also in a strange way. I cant really explain.
Or it could just be pure curiosity to know how our hair feels like, I don’t know !
Thank you very much for watching the video 😘
Thanks for sharing .your story ..you very beautiful and brave but your hubby loves you so just focus on your family we are all God's children.i had a white hubby .he pass now .but he loves me very much .iwould marry white again if I had the choice.msy God bless you and your family .love from Canada.send me a white man penpal if you no any .
I’m sorry for losing your husband . I’m sure he loved you very much ❤️.
I hope you find love again 🙏🏾
you lucky you are not blue :)
I think that would have been awesome coz blue is my favorite color 😊😊
Im Black Born in Amsterdam. I don't like to visit Small Villages for this reason.
its really annoying.
geneva B , you get used to it and end up understanding their curiosity! And living in the village is great actually, I used to think I wasn’t gonna like it but now I love it .
No no , it has nothing to with your colour, if you have cats. Just put a new cat between them! And see what happens, yes yes I know we are humans. We suppose to have brains but reactions come from the primitive brain. Similar to the, fight, freeze, run. Respond!
Rob Van Lent , curiosity of the cats! But I understand ☺️I mean look at all this beauty 😇🤣🤣
Even after 54 years in Australia I'm still often asked where I'm from when they hear my faint dutch accent. I like being asked, I think people are just curious, I always ask people where they are from because I'm interested. Even being white in Australia caused discrimination and name calling. I always felt they must feel insecure when faced with someone who has so much more life experience. Being a migrant is challenging in many ways but also very enriching, I don't regret it one bit.
Marianne Noordink , it takes courage to move to a new country, and staying in that country, learning and accepting the cultures and everything that comes with it , now that’s courage, strength and will power 💪🏾😆. I love the person I’ve become due to the exposure I’ve gotten after moving to NL
@@nimomamakeonjarik I agree it takes lots of courage, so much to learn and new things to experience. You're very courageous!
Hey Nimo-babe... Most of the behaviour is curiosity.. meant in a positive way. You are an open personality so you are approachable and people will engage you and ask and feel .. might be sometimes irritating and embarrasing but most people mean all good. There is just so much to love about you :-)
Sure you would have much less attention in the west and the big cities. One thing is true: most people will not estimate you being in good material status being coloured. That is still a misconception : coloured people being refugees and in poor social status. I am sorry about this my friend Nimo :-(
Thank you Hans for the compliments ☺️☺️
Black Pete (Zwarte Piet) is our Dutch way of saying ... don't be affraid. We come bearing giftst, we come giving gifts for children. PLEASE don't fear out colour.
Then an American came here and fucked things up, starting to focus on skin color.
hi Nimo,make a video on how it is to date a Dutch man.
mutukwa musika , this is a good idea! I will talk about it soon... 😘
Feeling inferiority complex is not good.People looking at us is not a crime.
Hi Vijay , long time no comment! Welcome back
You are very attractive and look different from the 'standard' Dutch woman, so the staring intensifies to epic proportions.
That is so sweet of you to say , thank you Kruid Nootje ☺️☺️😘