It's SO difficult to accept your body the way it is, especially when it's a characteristic that you can't just fix with exercise. I've gone through many ups and downs and everyday is different, but we're still on a journey to self love!
it's a slippery slope when you have PCOS. i was gaining weight even though ntn had changed for me including diet and i was exercising more. within 2-3 years i gained over 20lbs and never understood why. when i got the pcos diagnosis i was like...oh. because weight gain is a symptom. at the same time my doctor was saying that i'm overweight going on to obese bcuz i'm 5'5''. but i changed my diet, i exercised religiously and the weight has just been maintained. i've been a consistent 175lbs. i've always loved my body no matter what weight but when they tell u your health is at risk (diabetes etc) it's like, damn, what am i supposed to do?
I feel this. I unfortunately was obese as a child, didn't know how to lose weight properly until I was about 17 and learned how to cook for myself and lose weight on my own. By the time I hit 20 I'd lost 85 lbs but I've never experienced a life where I didn't have stretch marks, loose skin and extra fat. I have to accept that I'll always have all of those things but it's been difficult to love that part of myself when it reminds me of what I went through as a child and how it makes me feel looking in a mirror. It's frustrating but I'm working on it and I've been getting better. It takes time but accepting our bodies is so incredibly powerful and important 💗 as you said it's a journey
I relate to this so much . ur right, I also had a specific “hate” on my body that couldn’t be fixed with exercise cuz they were apart of my genes .Its the self hate I couldn’t take. Before I realized I was telling myself messed up things , It just felt like a habit to constantly get jealous of everyone, anyone in my line of sight for having regular, normal bodies while I was stuck with this . I used to have days where I would just spend the whole day chanting “don’t look at me”, specifically on the days I didn’t cover up well enough . And on top of that I had a fluctuating body weight which pretty much was like the icing on the cake . She’s right , it’s all about the type of people u surround urself with, but also the type of thought u want to build a foundation on .we pass through many thoughts and opinions of others , some thoughts stay and some go, and other times some thoughts fester into our lives and everything we do, we forget we can choose the thought we lay foundation on, u can choose the thought that will surface in ur head, u can choose to not be a toxin to urself …..If u really think about it ,isn’t it sad how we’re striving to be like every body else ? to have the “regular” body type ? First of it’s mind blowing to me how the “perfect” or “the normal” body type is stereotyped to begin with , secondly for the world to show us clothes that look amazing but just not for our body types , constantly making us believe that we’re the problem instead of them . All ik is hun God made you so u can already stand out of the crowd, own it, embrace it, and love it. I’ve learned to see that confidence goes a long way , but also acknowledging that you r not going to be everybody’s cup of tea . Humbling myself and staying true to myself instead of believing the what if’s is whts taking me to my self love journey , I hope whatever ur believing in is helping u get through urs
I think a huge part of the conversation the world missing is ✨health✨ because ultimately, it is what will actually matter in the long run. We need to push good health in all its forms- physical, mental, spiritual, emotional, and financial. And be honest about (if or when we feel comfortable to share our truths in these conversations) some of the difficult realities of self care like accountability, self-respect, loving from a distance etc alongside the beautiful parts, like living in the moment, investing in our vertical and horizontal relationships, and actually talking to other people etc. Too often we focus on physical appearances over our physical and individual health. Whilst I appreciate the "body positivity" movement, I think that the "body neutrality" movement is arguably better, because we give in too much to how our body looks rather than what it goes through on a daily to keep us alive. If more people took the time to understand our human physiology, rather than the change in "body trends", I think we can open doors to move conversations on how to improve overall health. This is one of the conversations I am passionate about, because my heart hurts for early teens and pre-teens that are learning based on sound-bites of fallacy and trends. Love the video Chizi! I hope everyone is staying safe and taking care of themselves. Remember that you are an unrepeatable miracle, treat yourself as one🤍✨
Thank you so much for saying this! I have been struggling with wanting my tummy to be flat and have a skinny body even though I naturally have a curvy body. I have gained a few pounds and have been feeling like S**t lately. But it wasn't until I stopped focusing on the scale and more on my health that I got some peace. Now, I'm just focusing on eating wholesome foods, exercising regularly, sleeping better, drinking enough water, and just living a better life without obsessing about how much weight I'm losing in how much time. It might take a while for my weight to go back down than it would on a crash diet but it's an investment I'm willing to make because it is sustainable in the long run and better for my mental health.
@@natalyaakselaleksander4502 For sure! Everything you mentioned about what you are focusing on is amazing! Also, as humans, our bodies are different, and as females, our hormones play a huge role. I have seen and know people that weigh the exact same, but look completely different physically, and height is one of the factors in this case. It is all about finding the balance between building a healthy YOU, bc health looks different for everyone. I also agree with you on the scale. Weight is a good measure, but it should not be the only measure of progress. I truly love that you are taking care of yourself, keep doing that!! No matter how long it takes, remember that it is your journey, and your uniqueness is not defined by your physical structure. Proud of you! xx
Several months ago I had jaw surgery and lost like 20 pounds in two weeks since I was eating blended food through a syringe. 2 things about this experience changed how I felt about my stomach: 1) I literally noticed NO DIFFERENCE in the mirror when I lost all that weight. Why on earth do I care so much about losing weight when if I do, I honestly can't tell? and 2) I could actually feel my body burning the fat in the stomach because I wasn't able to eat enough. How smart of my body was it to have that there, just in case I needed it? How much worse would I have felt, how much worse would my recovery have been, if my body hadn't been prepared?
That’s why I deleted social media..it was really making me insecure and I noticed how people around me was trying to keep up with a fake facade that they have been putting on.
I've always struggled with my weight ever since I was younger and growing up my friend would always tell me "when someone calls you fat agree with them and proudly say yes I am phat I'm Pretty, Hot, and Thick" 😂 I never did have the courage to say it but I always kept what she said in my mind and it did help me feel a little better.
Definitely a part two please. I’m a clinical social worker and I focus a lot of eating disorders and disordered eating. So much comparison, so much insecurity, trauma, childhood memories, etc. this was a great video! Thank you!
This was actually extremely helpful. I gained over 100lbs in under 2 years after having lost 140 lbs and kept the weight off for years. I got really sick at the end of my last pregnancy and had to be put on steroid medication that made me gain weight. Then I had to leave my abusive ex husband with two toddlers and a newborn, then the pandemic hit 2 months later. I just crumbled. I got caught up in binge eating as a form of self harm during lockdown cause I just couldn't cope. As soon as the lockdown was lifted I knew I had to go to work to support my babies as a newly single mom of 3, but, of course... That meant we eventually all got covid regardless of trying my best to be safe. I ended up with long covid and have now developed sleep apnea as well. It's been a journeyyyyyy. But therapy and meditation have been super helpful and I'm on my way to getting the weight off again and never gaining it back again. Thank you for this. Extremely helpful and inspiring.
@@nesl5342 I’m sorry to hear that too. Jesus wasn’t the problem though. And best part about Him is you can be alone with Him, you don’t have to be in a cult to get His love
I love your point of view when it comes to body confidence. I just got married in February and my husband and I have started a journey towards better health. Not so much weight loss, just trying to be more active and eating healthier. If weight loss accompanies these changes, then that's just a plus. I'm like you when it comes to exercise. If weight loss is the only goal I have I won't stick to it. Especially now that I'm married and my husband loves the way I look. There's just not enough reason to change my looks when I don't need to. But working towards better health is something I can stick with. Especially now that we're trying to start a family.
Oh my goodness! You sound just like me. We got married on Jan 29 and my hubby and I are focusing on just being overall healthy! I have been struggling with wanting my tummy to be flat and have a skinny body even though I naturally have a curvy body. I have gained a few pounds and have been feeling like S**t lately. But it wasn't until I stopped focusing on the scale and more on my health that I got some peace. Now, I'm just focusing on eating wholesome foods, exercising regularly, sleeping better, drinking enough water, and just living a better life without obsessing about how much weight I'm losing in how much time. It might take a while for my weight to go back down than it would on a crash diet but it's an investment I'm willing to make because it is sustainable in the long run and better for my mental health. Also, my husband loves my body too haha!
@@natalyaakselaleksander4502 yes! Same! We both have gained a little weight and we've been feeling sluggish. That's what made us get serious about being healthier and more active. It's so cool to find someone on the same path!
Our bodies were made to allow us to walk, think, speak, move and do all of these great things! It upsets me when people only see their bodies as something that should always be kept to these unrealistic beauty standards when our body was really made to be practical and amazing
This video is right on time! I've been overweight all my adult life and I became the heaviest I've ever been after having a baby. I've lost a bit of weight and I feel a little better but it's not enough to be as healthy as I want. I'm trying to build myself up for an upcoming trip that will require swimsuits and exposed skin due to the temperatures. I've ordered clothes that I wouldn't normally wear to push myself outside my little box and this was the confirmation I needed! Thanks for another great one!
Your body is your standard If your standard of beauty is someone elses body then you will always be comparing yourself because you don't look like that But if your body standard is your own body there will be nothing to compare to but yourself. This was really well said because as someone with a big bust area at the age of 15 and coming from a Ghanain background i do get insecure and my mum always says this like Giiiirl people are paying for it , whlst your here complaining other people are doing the exact same and its that understanding and acknowledging that its how you see yourself and not letting what society defines as beauty shape what you define as beauty. We all have different perspectives and have different journies of self acceptance. I agreee with everything you said. Just remember we are all created in the image of God and that he sees us a perfect in his sight so what we see as a mistake is actually not but something we should embrace as we learn to live with. By the way you are Glowing Chizi !!!! To anyone who reads this you are absolutely beautiful inside out and i hope you come to see that and be more gentle and forgiving towards yourself
This big bust thing! I also felt insecure while in jss. I grew up and my body is proportional now. But I heard one story where someone bent her shoulders to hide her big bust and it has stuck. She can’t walk straight anymore. I feel society should do better
It's important to love yourself no matter what size you are! What's equally as important is to take care of yourself mentally, physically (and spiritually) 💙⛰💚🌱🌿 Side note: You look georgeee 💜
Sooo many amazing points here! I appreciate you so much! I almost cried at "What is going to happen if you look 7 months pregnant?" I'm still on my personal self love journey, and I've made so much progress, but hearing stuff like that is such a perfect reminder that I think we all need.
Exactly! body positivity is amazing! And if you want to change, and you want to idk build muscles, get skinnier, gain weight, that’s up to YOU. It’s YOUR body, YOUR choice, and YOUR perspective. I’d say the only exceptions to this is when you’re so skinny or so curvy that you’re in high risk of health issues, but other than that, it’s your choice.
Love ✨ everything ✨ about this video!! We need lots and lots and lots more content like this out there in the internet so I definitely think you should make a part 2! Thank you so much for sharing and being vulnerable with us, in order to spread such an important message. And I LOVE what you said about "you are your own body standard". I will definitely be keeping that one in my toolbox for when comparison creeps back in!! 💕
I wish people could just understand that perfection truly does not exist. People really be spending their entire lives chasing a fallacy. Everything you said in this video was facts!. I wish more women just embraced how God made them, especially on social media. It’s not everyday bbl, be you & believe in ur sauce.
Once I stopped comparing myself my confidence spoke for itself! Practice SELF LOVE !!! I never felt the need to be perfect for social media never wanted to put on a front I am who I am you either fwm or be gone. #STAYTRUE
It’s so important to love your self yes you might have stuff on yourself that you don’t like and it may go away and it may not but it’s with you and you need to love it and recognise as long as you love yourself that is the only thing that matters ❤
Yessss at that motivating factor for working out. This is something I've figured out too. Like exercising is actually nice and fun! And that can be your motivation instead trying to get to some end goal or weight. Just to feel good is good enough!
I love your outlook so much! My mother used to tell me when I was feeling bad about some body thing, "Can you fix it by 7:30? (when I was leaving the house) Then why are you worried about it? Did you have *bad thing when they asked you out? Maybe they like it."
Well said I am glad I got to a place where I just didn't care about likes on social media anymore. That body video she looks good either way and each person should remember your body is yours and nobody else enjoy it and life.
I've never edited my photos, I used to use filters when they first came out, but it was like the ones with ears n stuff so it was obviously filtered. I hate my body (I have lots of medical issues, and im also fat. But mainly because my body causes me so much pain and other bs) a lot already, so im sure if I started editing my photos, I'd end up hating myself even more.
Thank you Chizi I needed this video. I want to feel confident about myself and love my body as it is, but people are so mean. Things people say to me make it so difficult to love my body.
2020 was also my time to really come to appreciate and accept my body image. I have weighed 120 lbs most of life and now in my mid to late 20s I’m around 185. It was very hard on me since I gained the weight bc of medicine and doctors who didn’t believe that I wasn’t “eating myself” to that size. The gaslighting and invalidation was traumatic and it adversely affected my self esteem. But in 2020 I had an epiphany standing in the mirror one day. Those were not my thoughts! I hated my body for reasons that others projected onto me. I come from narcissistic abuse and food insecurity growing up so body image has always been affected by those things. I realized I didn’t put the weight on until I had these issues with medication, but my body didn’t give up the weight once I was no longer on it. It kept it bc I was actually happy and healthy for the first time in my life! I’m married to a wonderful man who loves and respects me and I am able to eat full meals when I am hungry instead of waiting until I can afford to eat. Realizing that my body accepted the weight out of comfort and healing from trauma made me proud to be able to carry it! Like the old beauty standard that weight equals prosperity… that was very literal in my case! So it made me appreciate my body more. I still struggle of course but I can at least drown out the negative internal dialogue with the positive reminder of where I’ve been vs where I am💖
Gosh this was really good. Body image can do a number on your mind to the extent you start thinking do I need to change my body? NOOOOO my body is amazing in its natural state (not taking jabs at anyone who decides to go under the knife if that makes you happy), and it frequently changes and that's okay too. At some point self-acceptance must come; like you said in the video one-day big boobs are in now big butts...what's next??? We will drive ourselves bonkers if we allow social media, magazines, and the wrong people speak into our lives. Ladies we are BEAUTIFUL...now say it with me...we are BEAUTIFUL!!!! Virtual hugs to all my sisters around the world!!!!
I just had a baby and have gone through so many body changes. I’ve accepted my body but I spend a lot of time comparing myself to ig influencers and more voluptuous women as I didn’t keep and body weight that I gained during my pregnancy. I try to tell myself that there’s nothing wrong with being skinny consistently.
I enjoyed this video 😊 I think society allows people to settle with their circumstances under the guise of “self love.” Instead I believe in being the best version of myself. This makes me accountable for what I eat, what type of media I consume, and the amount of stress I allow is in my life. Once I reach that point, if I am a roadblock I cannot change, I allow myself to seek help to be what I believe is the best version of myself. I don’t have social media because I don’t want to be influenced by a fake image, only to think I myself formulated a thought from within where as it was intentionally formulated as outward thought that made me believe it was my own thought. Inception 😊 😏I am 47 so I didn’t grow up in this internet age. It is definitely a battle for those who have. Be strong beautiful Kings and Queens 😊
Damn your hair looks good. I can just see you wearing your hair like that with those earrings and either a gold or red formal dress for some fancy ass event. Cute as hell!
I have a spinal issue where my back muscles are so tight it results in my spine curving. I look like an S. To add to that I naturally have a big bottom. In highschool I was teased that I was a toothpick with a grape. I was teased that I was purposely pushing out my butt to make it look big. To the the point where a teacher tried to "straighten" me. 😢 Grew up hating that I have a bottom. To this day I feel like I would be better off without a bottom. It's been hard accepting the way I look. I draw attention and I hate it. I've had many females envy me and I think they are crazy. Trying to accept myself. For the back curvature, it can be minimized with exercise however can't minimize my butt sigh
This is the first video of your I watch and I have a question... at 19:06, where did the accent come from?! 🤣 I was like wait what happened? I freaking love it!🤣
I love my body so much, like i think it is the perfect body for me. But my problem is the outside effect. I feel like the fact that outsiders have a problem with it im starting to feel like its not good enough anymore. I need to work on that part of me
Oh yes girl, you got a crank up the " I don't give a f**k about what other think" attitude lol. I had to do that with my natural hair. I loved it but other people (including some family members) used to be negative about it.
THANK YOU FOR THIS. The young lady with the backwards foot... all I could do was Thank God. You're beautiful. Thank you for your honesty. God bless you. 🙌🏽 👏🏽💜✊🏾
Omg the sucking in ur stomach… when I was in highschool I always wondered why I had that bulge in my stomach .. now I know it’s because I felt insecure at some point.. so sad but so happy to finally understand what it is..✨
The belly thing is so true! I have a belly and one summer I got it to go flat flat. Two days after finally getting my flat tummy, I wanted my belly back because when I lost my belly I lost the rest of my curves (which I love). I learned to be SO much more appreciative and accepting about the way I look now.
Thank you for talking about your belly. I have always had a belly. I tend to lose weight proportionally all over my body so if I lose weight or gain weight my little potbelly is always right there, at my lightest and my heaviest. I have so much love for most of my body but I haven't really accepted my belly so I should work on that
I went shopping yesterday and although I liked the clothes I couldn't bring myself to buy it because of my body. I really want to be my own beauty standart but I keep comparing myself to others around me even though all of my friends are really sweet and never really talk about the body. 2 years ago I started a weight lost journey when I saw I was almost 90kg. The funny thing is that I didn't feel insecure at all before becoming aware of my weight and my father, brother and doctor telling me I should lose weight. from them on I started cuting calories but since I didn't know much I would eat like 200 calories a day and think it was too much and even when I started seeing that what I was doing was wrong and my family was getting worried (specially my mom 'cause my dad everytime that he was worried would say "you have enough fat in case anything happens) I still wanted to keep very calories because I was afraid to gain more weight. Now I weight 77kg and eat healthier and sometimes I even treat myself in front of family and friends but I can't help to sometimes feel disgusted that I'm eating or when I try new clothes that I see bellyfat. My mom took my scale away from me but I'm even more anxious because I don't know if I'm putting more weight on. I didn't go to the doctor because I'm scared that someone will say i have some eating disorder and that will worry people more. Anyways, I really loved what you said about the body and I agree with everything I just wish I could apply those things to myself but I'm just so ashamed of my body and that I wear the same clothes as skinny people do but look awful in it compared to them... My parents said that my legs look really white and joke that I'm loosing color but I'm just too ashame to use shorts because my legs don't look good and I have scars on them (from an attack). This is too long but loosing weight or gaining weight sometimes it's not the best so I hope noone gets too obssesed with it please just be healthy phisically and mentally. I was 18 when I started with this at 19 it got worse now I'm 20 and -i'm doing my best to be good again but I feel worse really and I haven't eaten a real dinner with my family in a while and if they make me do it I will eat the less portion possible without worrying them. If you read all this thanks. But this is really just me writing everything because I'm not capable of telling this to the people around me and it's actually my first time writing about this. Sorry for my bad english and have a nice day :)
I'm 75/100 I use to have no ass. Legs connected right to the back but now I have a butt but Im still self-conscious about my weight. But I lost 20 lbs so I'm feeling better about it.
Ok but I will admit ...I do edit my lace wigs in my photos😬👀 BECAUSE who wants to be clocked online😂🤦🏾♀️ when I wear a wig I want it to look ultra HD... Without the ultra HD bank account.😮💨
That is so true people are always comparing each other, I figured this out at my job. I was a server and the girls there were really nice a lot of them had big butts and I would be like damn I wish I looked like that and they were like well I wish I had your body your so waist is so thin.
I have hyperpigmentation and scars all over my back. I don’t wear anything that shows my back. Even in summer. I wish I had more body confidence around that.
It's SO difficult to accept your body the way it is, especially when it's a characteristic that you can't just fix with exercise. I've gone through many ups and downs and everyday is different, but we're still on a journey to self love!
it's a slippery slope when you have PCOS. i was gaining weight even though ntn had changed for me including diet and i was exercising more. within 2-3 years i gained over 20lbs and never understood why. when i got the pcos diagnosis i was like...oh. because weight gain is a symptom. at the same time my doctor was saying that i'm overweight going on to obese bcuz i'm 5'5''. but i changed my diet, i exercised religiously and the weight has just been maintained. i've been a consistent 175lbs. i've always loved my body no matter what weight but when they tell u your health is at risk (diabetes etc) it's like, damn, what am i supposed to do?
I feel this. I unfortunately was obese as a child, didn't know how to lose weight properly until I was about 17 and learned how to cook for myself and lose weight on my own. By the time I hit 20 I'd lost 85 lbs but I've never experienced a life where I didn't have stretch marks, loose skin and extra fat. I have to accept that I'll always have all of those things but it's been difficult to love that part of myself when it reminds me of what I went through as a child and how it makes me feel looking in a mirror.
It's frustrating but I'm working on it and I've been getting better. It takes time but accepting our bodies is so incredibly powerful and important 💗 as you said it's a journey
You can fix almost anything with excersie
I relate to this so much . ur right, I also had a specific “hate” on my body that couldn’t be fixed with exercise cuz they were apart of my genes .Its the self hate I couldn’t take. Before I realized I was telling myself messed up things , It just felt like a habit to constantly get jealous of everyone, anyone in my line of sight for having regular, normal bodies while I was stuck with this . I used to have days where I would just spend the whole day chanting “don’t look at me”, specifically on the days I didn’t cover up well enough . And on top of that I had a fluctuating body weight which pretty much was like the icing on the cake .
She’s right , it’s all about the type of people u surround urself with, but also the type of thought u want to build a foundation on .we pass through many thoughts and opinions of others , some thoughts stay and some go, and other times some thoughts fester into our lives and everything we do, we forget we can choose the thought we lay foundation on, u can choose the thought that will surface in ur head, u can choose to not be a toxin to urself …..If u really think about it ,isn’t it sad how we’re striving to be like every body else ? to have the “regular” body type ? First of it’s mind blowing to me how the “perfect” or “the normal” body type is stereotyped to begin with , secondly for the world to show us clothes that look amazing but just not for our body types , constantly making us believe that we’re the problem instead of them . All ik is hun God made you so u can already stand out of the crowd, own it, embrace it, and love it. I’ve learned to see that confidence goes a long way , but also acknowledging that you r not going to be everybody’s cup of tea .
Humbling myself and staying true to myself instead of believing the what if’s is whts taking me to my self love journey , I hope whatever ur believing in is helping u get through urs
@@divine555 this is misinformation.
I think a huge part of the conversation the world missing is ✨health✨ because ultimately, it is what will actually matter in the long run. We need to push good health in all its forms- physical, mental, spiritual, emotional, and financial. And be honest about (if or when we feel comfortable to share our truths in these conversations) some of the difficult realities of self care like accountability, self-respect, loving from a distance etc alongside the beautiful parts, like living in the moment, investing in our vertical and horizontal relationships, and actually talking to other people etc. Too often we focus on physical appearances over our physical and individual health.
Whilst I appreciate the "body positivity" movement, I think that the "body neutrality" movement is arguably better, because we give in too much to how our body looks rather than what it goes through on a daily to keep us alive. If more people took the time to understand our human physiology, rather than the change in "body trends", I think we can open doors to move conversations on how to improve overall health. This is one of the conversations I am passionate about, because my heart hurts for early teens and pre-teens that are learning based on sound-bites of fallacy and trends.
Love the video Chizi! I hope everyone is staying safe and taking care of themselves. Remember that you are an unrepeatable miracle, treat yourself as one🤍✨
I agree wholeheartedly!
Thank you so much for saying this! I have been struggling with wanting my tummy to be flat and have a skinny body even though I naturally have a curvy body. I have gained a few pounds and have been feeling like S**t lately. But it wasn't until I stopped focusing on the scale and more on my health that I got some peace. Now, I'm just focusing on eating wholesome foods, exercising regularly, sleeping better, drinking enough water, and just living a better life without obsessing about how much weight I'm losing in how much time. It might take a while for my weight to go back down than it would on a crash diet but it's an investment I'm willing to make because it is sustainable in the long run and better for my mental health.
@@natalyaakselaleksander4502 For sure! Everything you mentioned about what you are focusing on is amazing! Also, as humans, our bodies are different, and as females, our hormones play a huge role. I have seen and know people that weigh the exact same, but look completely different physically, and height is one of the factors in this case. It is all about finding the balance between building a healthy YOU, bc health looks different for everyone. I also agree with you on the scale. Weight is a good measure, but it should not be the only measure of progress.
I truly love that you are taking care of yourself, keep doing that!! No matter how long it takes, remember that it is your journey, and your uniqueness is not defined by your physical structure. Proud of you! xx
Several months ago I had jaw surgery and lost like 20 pounds in two weeks since I was eating blended food through a syringe. 2 things about this experience changed how I felt about my stomach: 1) I literally noticed NO DIFFERENCE in the mirror when I lost all that weight. Why on earth do I care so much about losing weight when if I do, I honestly can't tell?
and 2) I could actually feel my body burning the fat in the stomach because I wasn't able to eat enough. How smart of my body was it to have that there, just in case I needed it? How much worse would I have felt, how much worse would my recovery have been, if my body hadn't been prepared?
It wouldn't have been worst. That's not how it works lol
I LOVE how you put this!! We have to learn to appreciate ourselves, rather than belittling ourselves 🧡
“Kids are so mean” is literally the truest thing ever said 😅
You said a whole WORD right there - when you said “life is not about YOU.”
THIS. IS. EVERYTHING.
"You are you own body/beauty standard!" Girl Amen! to that
I'm learning to love my slim body
Yes insecurities come once in a while
But I'm choosing to be confident in my body
Part two please
That’s why I deleted social media..it was really making me insecure and I noticed how people around me was trying to keep up with a fake facade that they have been putting on.
I've always struggled with my weight ever since I was younger and growing up my friend would always tell me "when someone calls you fat agree with them and proudly say yes I am phat I'm Pretty, Hot, and Thick" 😂 I never did have the courage to say it but I always kept what she said in my mind and it did help me feel a little better.
a good friend
I just love your personality girl..you are beautiful and your hair is stunning 😍
Definitely a part two please. I’m a clinical social worker and I focus a lot of eating disorders and disordered eating. So much comparison, so much insecurity, trauma, childhood memories, etc. this was a great video! Thank you!
Studying to become a social worker,any advice for me also what country are you in
This was actually extremely helpful. I gained over 100lbs in under 2 years after having lost 140 lbs and kept the weight off for years. I got really sick at the end of my last pregnancy and had to be put on steroid medication that made me gain weight. Then I had to leave my abusive ex husband with two toddlers and a newborn, then the pandemic hit 2 months later. I just crumbled. I got caught up in binge eating as a form of self harm during lockdown cause I just couldn't cope. As soon as the lockdown was lifted I knew I had to go to work to support my babies as a newly single mom of 3, but, of course... That meant we eventually all got covid regardless of trying my best to be safe. I ended up with long covid and have now developed sleep apnea as well. It's been a journeyyyyyy. But therapy and meditation have been super helpful and I'm on my way to getting the weight off again and never gaining it back again. Thank you for this. Extremely helpful and inspiring.
I’m sorry to hear about all of your troubles. I pray that moving forward you will take your troubles to Jesus, He will be your best friend.
@@andrealynn776 I was raised in a religious cult so I learned to be my own best friend.
@@nesl5342 I’m sorry to hear that too. Jesus wasn’t the problem though. And best part about Him is you can be alone with Him, you don’t have to be in a cult to get His love
@@andrealynn776 Not every one is in to Colonized Jesus.
I love your point of view when it comes to body confidence. I just got married in February and my husband and I have started a journey towards better health. Not so much weight loss, just trying to be more active and eating healthier. If weight loss accompanies these changes, then that's just a plus. I'm like you when it comes to exercise. If weight loss is the only goal I have I won't stick to it. Especially now that I'm married and my husband loves the way I look. There's just not enough reason to change my looks when I don't need to. But working towards better health is something I can stick with. Especially now that we're trying to start a family.
Good luck with starting a family 😄 I know it can be hard for some.
@@gobgobgabgalab6723 thank you 😊
Oh my goodness! You sound just like me. We got married on Jan 29 and my hubby and I are focusing on just being overall healthy! I have been struggling with wanting my tummy to be flat and have a skinny body even though I naturally have a curvy body. I have gained a few pounds and have been feeling like S**t lately. But it wasn't until I stopped focusing on the scale and more on my health that I got some peace. Now, I'm just focusing on eating wholesome foods, exercising regularly, sleeping better, drinking enough water, and just living a better life without obsessing about how much weight I'm losing in how much time. It might take a while for my weight to go back down than it would on a crash diet but it's an investment I'm willing to make because it is sustainable in the long run and better for my mental health. Also, my husband loves my body too haha!
@@natalyaakselaleksander4502 yes! Same! We both have gained a little weight and we've been feeling sluggish. That's what made us get serious about being healthier and more active. It's so cool to find someone on the same path!
Our bodies were made to allow us to walk, think, speak, move and do all of these great things! It upsets me when people only see their bodies as something that should always be kept to these unrealistic beauty standards when our body was really made to be practical and amazing
Bodies are also supposed to be liked, Which sadly most of the time their not
@@divine555 I agree, it makes me sad when people don’t like their bodies. They are amazing
Body image is such a huge thing, thank you Chizi for this video 🤎
my mom used to say " say I have fat. not I am fat. you are not fat. you are not any flaws you think you have."❤️
Very smart mom!
This video is right on time! I've been overweight all my adult life and I became the heaviest I've ever been after having a baby. I've lost a bit of weight and I feel a little better but it's not enough to be as healthy as I want. I'm trying to build myself up for an upcoming trip that will require swimsuits and exposed skin due to the temperatures. I've ordered clothes that I wouldn't normally wear to push myself outside my little box and this was the confirmation I needed! Thanks for another great one!
Your body is your standard
If your standard of beauty is someone elses body then you will always be comparing yourself because you don't look like that
But if your body standard is your own body there will be nothing to compare to but yourself.
This was really well said because as someone with a big bust area at the age of 15 and coming from a Ghanain background i do get insecure and my mum always says this like Giiiirl people are paying for it , whlst your here complaining other people are doing the exact same and its that understanding and acknowledging that its how you see yourself and not letting what society defines as beauty shape what you define as beauty. We all have different perspectives and have different journies of self acceptance.
I agreee with everything you said.
Just remember we are all created in the image of God and that he sees us a perfect in his sight so what we see as a mistake is actually not but something we should embrace as we learn to live with.
By the way you are Glowing Chizi !!!!
To anyone who reads this you are absolutely beautiful inside out and i hope you come to see that and be more gentle and forgiving towards yourself
This big bust thing! I also felt insecure while in jss. I grew up and my body is proportional now. But I heard one story where someone bent her shoulders to hide her big bust and it has stuck. She can’t walk straight anymore. I feel society should do better
It's important to love yourself no matter what size you are! What's equally as important is to take care of yourself mentally, physically (and spiritually) 💙⛰💚🌱🌿
Side note: You look georgeee 💜
If I took care of myself so you think I'd still be obese... Huh.
The hairrr is sooo prettyyy
Love love the straight back cornrows, I pray they never go out of style again lol
Those straight back cornrows never went of fashion to me. Chizi looks beautiful with them.
Sooo many amazing points here! I appreciate you so much! I almost cried at "What is going to happen if you look 7 months pregnant?" I'm still on my personal self love journey, and I've made so much progress, but hearing stuff like that is such a perfect reminder that I think we all need.
Your hair looks so good! And that blue is popping!
You keep getting more beautiful 😍😍
I’ve come really far in my self love journey and though I’m not completely there I give myself grace for the days when I don’t feel at my best..
Your hair is beautiful!! You are wearing it it becomes your face. Thanks for the video. It makes me have more confidence in my self.
Exactly! body positivity is amazing! And if you want to change, and you want to idk build muscles, get skinnier, gain weight, that’s up to YOU. It’s YOUR body, YOUR choice, and YOUR perspective. I’d say the only exceptions to this is when you’re so skinny or so curvy that you’re in high risk of health issues, but other than that, it’s your choice.
You are the best!! I could listen to you talk about stomachs all day!! 😂😂. I’ve always had a belly 🤰🏽 but you really inspire me and give me confidence
Same I'm skinny and I have always had belly, it's worse on my period because it's more noticeable 😂😂😂.
@@nethaniapierre8149 same here 🌚
Love ✨ everything ✨ about this video!! We need lots and lots and lots more content like this out there in the internet so I definitely think you should make a part 2! Thank you so much for sharing and being vulnerable with us, in order to spread such an important message.
And I LOVE what you said about "you are your own body standard". I will definitely be keeping that one in my toolbox for when comparison creeps back in!! 💕
This whole video is what we all need! And yeah sis you was preaching 👏🏾
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I love this hairstyle on you! 😍
Love that saying "comparison is a theft of joy"😯
I wish people could just understand that perfection truly does not exist. People really be spending their entire lives chasing a fallacy. Everything you said in this video was facts!. I wish more women just embraced how God made them, especially on social media. It’s not everyday bbl, be you & believe in ur sauce.
Once I stopped comparing myself my confidence spoke for itself! Practice SELF LOVE !!! I never felt the need to be perfect for social media never wanted to put on a front I am who I am you either fwm or be gone. #STAYTRUE
Oh my god! I literally opened the video and my eyes got big cause you’re sooo beautiful, like GORGEOUS!
Literally started the video saying ur hair cute so ofc imma like the vid😌
This was another good one Chizi!! I definitely can relate.
I love this so much I've always compared myself to others and it's very a uncomfortable feeling
It’s so important to love your self yes you might have stuff on yourself that you don’t like and it may go away and it may not but it’s with you and you need to love it and recognise as long as you love yourself that is the only thing that matters ❤
Love you Chizi and all that you do!! That's all I wanted to say. Hope you're having a great day :)
Chizi, girl I'm trying to focus on what you're saying but chi...this look is serving right now!!! ❤ Chi, its giving sun-kissed glow baby!!!☀️😘
Yessss at that motivating factor for working out. This is something I've figured out too. Like exercising is actually nice and fun! And that can be your motivation instead trying to get to some end goal or weight. Just to feel good is good enough!
Very timely video. Thanks for sharing those uplifting nuggets. Kudos to the Tiktokers as well.
Heyyy thanks for the amazing update ❤️❤️
I love your outlook so much! My mother used to tell me when I was feeling bad about some body thing, "Can you fix it by 7:30? (when I was leaving the house) Then why are you worried about it? Did you have *bad thing when they asked you out? Maybe they like it."
Well said I am glad I got to a place where I just didn't care about likes on social media anymore. That body video she looks good either way and each person should remember your body is yours and nobody else enjoy it and life.
I'm so thankful for you ! Like, your words always have such an impact on me. Thank you for letting us share in your authentic self 💕💕
That first one had me like wowwwww. She’s gorgeous without that!
I've never edited my photos, I used to use filters when they first came out, but it was like the ones with ears n stuff so it was obviously filtered.
I hate my body (I have lots of medical issues, and im also fat. But mainly because my body causes me so much pain and other bs) a lot already, so im sure if I started editing my photos, I'd end up hating myself even more.
Hey chizi. I love your videos. I have been watching you for a long time.
Thank you Chizi I needed this video. I want to feel confident about myself and love my body as it is, but people are so mean. Things people say to me make it so difficult to love my body.
2020 was also my time to really come to appreciate and accept my body image. I have weighed 120 lbs most of life and now in my mid to late 20s I’m around 185. It was very hard on me since I gained the weight bc of medicine and doctors who didn’t believe that I wasn’t “eating myself” to that size. The gaslighting and invalidation was traumatic and it adversely affected my self esteem. But in 2020 I had an epiphany standing in the mirror one day. Those were not my thoughts! I hated my body for reasons that others projected onto me. I come from narcissistic abuse and food insecurity growing up so body image has always been affected by those things. I realized I didn’t put the weight on until I had these issues with medication, but my body didn’t give up the weight once I was no longer on it. It kept it bc I was actually happy and healthy for the first time in my life! I’m married to a wonderful man who loves and respects me and I am able to eat full meals when I am hungry instead of waiting until I can afford to eat. Realizing that my body accepted the weight out of comfort and healing from trauma made me proud to be able to carry it! Like the old beauty standard that weight equals prosperity… that was very literal in my case! So it made me appreciate my body more. I still struggle of course but I can at least drown out the negative internal dialogue with the positive reminder of where I’ve been vs where I am💖
Woooow your body image advice is spot on!!
You look stunning girl and skin is glowing😍😍
Gosh this was really good. Body image can do a number on your mind to the extent you start thinking do I need to change my body? NOOOOO my body is amazing in its natural state (not taking jabs at anyone who decides to go under the knife if that makes you happy), and it frequently changes and that's okay too. At some point self-acceptance must come; like you said in the video one-day big boobs are in now big butts...what's next??? We will drive ourselves bonkers if we allow social media, magazines, and the wrong people speak into our lives. Ladies we are BEAUTIFUL...now say it with me...we are BEAUTIFUL!!!! Virtual hugs to all my sisters around the world!!!!
Awnnn super amazing,thank you so much Chizzy💜💕so much positivity n encouragement
You are your own body standard. Word!
Great Job Chizi ! Nothing but facts …
I just had a baby and have gone through so many body changes. I’ve accepted my body but I spend a lot of time comparing myself to ig influencers and more voluptuous women as I didn’t keep and body weight that I gained during my pregnancy. I try to tell myself that there’s nothing wrong with being skinny consistently.
👊🏾 girl motivational speaking is in your future!
Master class!?!
I enjoyed this video 😊 I think society allows people to settle with their circumstances under the guise of “self love.” Instead I believe in being the best version of myself. This makes me accountable for what I eat, what type of media I consume, and the amount of stress I allow is in my life.
Once I reach that point, if I am a roadblock I cannot change, I allow myself to seek help to be what I believe is the best version of myself.
I don’t have social media because I don’t want to be influenced by a fake image, only to think I myself formulated a thought from within where as it was intentionally formulated as outward thought that made me believe it was my own thought. Inception 😊
😏I am 47 so I didn’t grow up in this internet age. It is definitely a battle for those who have. Be strong beautiful Kings and Queens 😊
Damn your hair looks good. I can just see you wearing your hair like that with those earrings and either a gold or red formal dress for some fancy ass event. Cute as hell!
I needed this.
I'm 10 seconds into the video, bit habe a huge smile on my face! Love your energy! Makes me happy somehow! 😄
Loved this video!
New subscriber here. And I’m loving your channel so far already 🥰❤️
Nah Chizi. Imma need that Chief title for tucking in my stomach 😭😭😭😭😭😭 Gimme my things.
I have a spinal issue where my back muscles are so tight it results in my spine curving. I look like an S. To add to that I naturally have a big bottom. In highschool I was teased that I was a toothpick with a grape. I was teased that I was purposely pushing out my butt to make it look big. To the the point where a teacher tried to "straighten" me. 😢 Grew up hating that I have a bottom. To this day I feel like I would be better off without a bottom.
It's been hard accepting the way I look. I draw attention and I hate it. I've had many females envy me and I think they are crazy. Trying to accept myself.
For the back curvature, it can be minimized with exercise however can't minimize my butt sigh
the best thing i’ve seen in a WHILE!!!!! girl i love this so so much thank you! i could listen to you talk motivation for hourzzzzz🫶❤️
hey Chizi - i love your make up details on the lip
Your videos are a vibe!
You look soooo good mama!🙇🏾♀️🌼
Shine!
Thank you girl for this video and you are the best!!! 💕💕💕
love your reaction videos
I love this woman so much!
braids on 100, makeup on 1000, video on 1 million. keep it up
I literally clicked on this vid just to see ur hair properly, love it!
This is the first video of your I watch and I have a question... at 19:06, where did the accent come from?! 🤣 I was like wait what happened? I freaking love it!🤣
I love my body so much, like i think it is the perfect body for me. But my problem is the outside effect. I feel like the fact that outsiders have a problem with it im starting to feel like its not good enough anymore. I need to work on that part of me
Oh yes girl, you got a crank up the " I don't give a f**k about what other think" attitude lol. I had to do that with my natural hair. I loved it but other people (including some family members) used to be negative about it.
I love you, new sub. My sister,preach. Life isn't linear.
I’m loving your braids ❤️❤️❤️
THANK YOU FOR THIS. The young lady with the backwards foot... all I could do was Thank God. You're beautiful. Thank you for your honesty. God bless you. 🙌🏽 👏🏽💜✊🏾
I love how listening to you makes me feel.
This video was AMAZING!!
Omg the sucking in ur stomach… when I was in highschool I always wondered why I had that bulge in my stomach .. now I know it’s because I felt insecure at some point.. so sad but so happy to finally understand what it is..✨
You have spoken well Chizi, “silence the noise”
The belly thing is so true! I have a belly and one summer I got it to go flat flat. Two days after finally getting my flat tummy, I wanted my belly back because when I lost my belly I lost the rest of my curves (which I love). I learned to be SO much more appreciative and accepting about the way I look now.
Wow you lost both your curves and belly?? Win win! Lucky 😭✋
Thank you for talking about your belly. I have always had a belly. I tend to lose weight proportionally all over my body so if I lose weight or gain weight my little potbelly is always right there, at my lightest and my heaviest. I have so much love for most of my body but I haven't really accepted my belly so I should work on that
I went shopping yesterday and although I liked the clothes I couldn't bring myself to buy it because of my body. I really want to be my own beauty standart but I keep comparing myself to others around me even though all of my friends are really sweet and never really talk about the body. 2 years ago I started a weight lost journey when I saw I was almost 90kg. The funny thing is that I didn't feel insecure at all before becoming aware of my weight and my father, brother and doctor telling me I should lose weight. from them on I started cuting calories but since I didn't know much I would eat like 200 calories a day and think it was too much and even when I started seeing that what I was doing was wrong and my family was getting worried (specially my mom 'cause my dad everytime that he was worried would say "you have enough fat in case anything happens) I still wanted to keep very calories because I was afraid to gain more weight. Now I weight 77kg and eat healthier and sometimes I even treat myself in front of family and friends but I can't help to sometimes feel disgusted that I'm eating or when I try new clothes that I see bellyfat. My mom took my scale away from me but I'm even more anxious because I don't know if I'm putting more weight on. I didn't go to the doctor because I'm scared that someone will say i have some eating disorder and that will worry people more. Anyways, I really loved what you said about the body and I agree with everything I just wish I could apply those things to myself but I'm just so ashamed of my body and that I wear the same clothes as skinny people do but look awful in it compared to them... My parents said that my legs look really white and joke that I'm loosing color but I'm just too ashame to use shorts because my legs don't look good and I have scars on them (from an attack).
This is too long but loosing weight or gaining weight sometimes it's not the best so I hope noone gets too obssesed with it please just be healthy phisically and mentally. I was 18 when I started with this at 19 it got worse now I'm 20 and -i'm doing my best to be good again but I feel worse really and I haven't eaten a real dinner with my family in a while and if they make me do it I will eat the less portion possible without worrying them.
If you read all this thanks. But this is really just me writing everything because I'm not capable of telling this to the people around me and it's actually my first time writing about this. Sorry for my bad english and have a nice day :)
I'm 75/100 I use to have no ass. Legs connected right to the back but now I have a butt but Im still self-conscious about my weight. But I lost 20 lbs so I'm feeling better about it.
Just FYI cranberry helps with bloating like ASAP also with period cramps. 😊 thank for this made me feel better
I LOVE YOUR HAIR AAAA
first of all, youre so pretty. okay lemme finish the vid lol
Ok but I will admit ...I do edit my lace wigs in my photos😬👀 BECAUSE who wants to be clocked online😂🤦🏾♀️ when I wear a wig I want it to look ultra HD... Without the ultra HD bank account.😮💨
That is so true people are always comparing each other, I figured this out at my job. I was a server and the girls there were really nice a lot of them had big butts and I would be like damn I wish I looked like that and they were like well I wish I had your body your so waist is so thin.
I just subscribed … I like your vibes
I have hyperpigmentation and scars all over my back. I don’t wear anything that shows my back. Even in summer. I wish I had more body confidence around that.
i love your videos sooooooooo much.
First 20 comments on the vid ❤️, love you btw ✨
love this video!!
You just get more and more beautiful everytime I see you!