And I think the opposite applies as well, he may not be all that in the looks department but if he love God, act right and work hard he’ll become handsome.
Yes and really, until you're married before God he is not your husband. So many people jump before the finish line. It's better to marry than to burn. And some men will propose just to get husband privileges
@@queengkzi3942 yep and that's why we should not be having casual sex. Why tie ourselves physically to people in a spiritual marriage if they are not our spouses
Man I was chilling with this man and he -Was baptized -Goes to church - Great dad And this man COULD NOT keep is hands to himself and was too hyper sexual! I IMMEDIATELY went home. Like that’s embarrassing. I cried because dating as a Christian is heartbreaking with people who KNOW God but don’t follow all of his commands. Edit: I LEFT AND LITERALLY 4 DAYS LATER GOD SENT MY HUSBAND! I WAS OBEDIENT AND GOD BLESSED MEEEEE 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 I JUST WANTED TO SHARE MY TESTIMONY I WILL BE GETTING MARRIED 5/11/24
I disagree. Some people genuinely want to hear God but have difficulty discerning the voice of God. This can be due to immaturity or also due to blockage from spiritual warfare. It may also be that God is being silent due to the person being in the wilderness time of testing. It is not as black and white as it seems on the surface.
I was prayed over at a church conference this weekend, and my intercessor mentioned that too. I began to pray for my future husband and ask the Lord to break all chains of bondage and sin.
Except when he doesn’t and you’re almost 40. That’s when your faith is really tested but God is still good. And even if a husband never comes, living for God is still the only way to live and totally worth it! God is good!
@@Actavella Don't be fearful that your age will preclude you from having children (if that's, in fact, what God wants you to do). If Sarah had a baby at 99, surely God can make it happen for you. Or, perhaps, there are other routes (or conceiving) that you and your husband can explore.
Everyone is a “christian” until they want to encourage you into sinning against God with your body. Often times they are handsome, smart, motivated and work hard but don’t KNOW God and want to drag you into sin with them. Choosing someone who doesn’t know and love God leads to sin so will end in pain and heartache. Stay STRONG!!
Yeah but christians are not any better, everyone is messed up. I know christian women who married non christians and they treat them better than a christian would. Oftentimes christian men become toxic and abusive. Plus not to mention the sexual problem. We are not supposed to die from loneliness and burn with passion our whole lives. What if that "magical christian prince" never comes across? Some women are sadly mistaken thinking waiting for such a long time is good. In biblical times ppl didn't have this problem because they married at 16 but nowadays it's nearly impossible for young people to wait until they're 30 and above to get married and stay celibate at the same time. It's unrealistic.
What I find confusing is born again Christians who are encouraging you do tow close to the line of purity?! I'm like are you not reading the same Bible/listening to the same preaching? 🤔
yeah I fell for a beautiful woman that led me into sin she was a christian which I believe she was she told me how are we going to be together an we not having sex an we wasn't married at the time I was confused at the time an should have stopped talking to her but lust is a strong emotion an just was blinded by her beauty wish I was stronger in my faith
So glad Jackie touched on the the fear of age and fertility in women. It’s easy to just finish these types of conversations with ‘be patient’ without any empathy or regard to real issues/concerns.
Absolutely! It is not talked about enough. It’s a very real fear. I have PCOS so my fertility is already on the line. But whatever is God’s will, so be it.
@@dyanimoriahkeep praying and have faith 🙏🏾✝️ The Bible says that if you delight yourself in the Lord, then he will give you the desires of your heart 💜🔥🙌🏾 (Psalms 37:4 )….And also make sure that you’ve repented of your sins and is truly seeking God and turning from your wicked ways and trying to be a righteous person because the Bible also says that the prayers of the righteous availeth much; meaning that the prayers of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results 🔥👏🏾 Be encouraged sis 🥰
NOPE. Smh And that's why women are not permitted to teach. When you do speak... it's usually right after making the wrong decision. If God is good (and He Is) AND, God Is all powerful ( That would be omnipotent and He Is) , AND you have FAITH that doesn't flex. THEN it doesn't matter how long a person needs to patiently wait on The Lord. Because In Him, all the limits, constraints, times, and boundaries are removed. I've heard Him called, "The God of the last minute!" LoL I regularly called Him, "The God of the last Second!" As I matured in my faith and grew in the knowledge of His Grace I realized "the last Second" still does not accurately describe His habits for His Word records that Jesus Himself spoke concerning this, explaining that there is purpose in His delay. ( Side note, "The Lord is not slow to keep His Word, like many understand procrastinate or dilly dallying. No, He Is patient towards you. Not wanting anyone to have to die and go to hell." My own paraphrase of 2 Peter 3:9 you see? There is Purpose in what seems to be His Procrastination. In this instance, it's "so that none would perish.") Read the accounts of Christ raising Jairus' daughter from the dead. All three accounts, in order, start with Matthew's. Then read John's account of Jesus raising His friend Lazarus from the grave after four days of being dead. And this is so important, the account of Issac's conception. From two people the bible says who's bodies were "as good as dead!😵 Heb11" If you would only believe, then, you would see. It doesn't matter ”when” you meet your spouse, or how old y'all might be. Because for those who delight themselves in the Lord, He knows the desires of your heart. Just like the one amazing night that God gave 99 yo Abraham and 98 yo Sara POWER (🥳🥴😴) to conceive Issac, so also as Eph3:20 again, my own paraphrase tells us that, "According To The Power That Works In You, He Is Able to give you good things beyond your wildest dreams." Couple things on that 1. According to the Power that works in you. Could be understood like according to how much faith YOU possess. 2. The use of the word Dunamis in this verse and the use of the word In as in ' The Dunamis at work Inside of you' versus ' The Dunamis at work Because of you' makes me consider that this verse is not putting the emphasis on how much faith one might have, but instead on the ability of God's Holy Spirit. So have faith! Because God is Good All the Time! That means even for the doubting Thomas out there! Who should instead have a greater level of trust in God yet still doesn't; BUT does sincerely, "delight themself in The Lord", it is possible to still be eligible for these wonderfully kind acts of God! Simply because He wills to do it out of the abundance of the Love, Grace, and Mercy that He has for us. He's the God that prepares a table for us, in front our enemies! Trust that If you think your time has expired, or you simply "always struck out." If it pleases God, He is more than capable of putting you on first base! Even of giving you HOME. 😎 😉 May God richly bless you Amen
This topic is so very important. When people keep asking me about having children, I adamantly tell them that my standard is to be married first (especially to a man of God). I refuse to bend on that desire. My desire to have children inside of God's Will, does not outweigh my desire to birth them in general. I have peace because I think of God's promise to Sarah.
The right timing! Dating is so hard these days!! There are not enough quality men out there. If I meet a Christian man they are usually not in tune or abuse the word of God to their advantage. There are a lot of Christian men who aren’t waiting til marriage nor have a solid foundation with God. I defiantly dated unbelievers and believers (they say they love God but live their life differently) and it was still hard and it didn't work in the end. I’m 29 years old and it’s hard when I hear the comments about why am I single as if something is wrong with me. I am focusing on my career and bettering myself but I also desire marriage in the process. The path to success can be a lonely journey but I refuse to settle! This video was exactly what I needed to hear to stay encouraged!
I’m turning 31 in 30 days and I’m a single woman practicing my walk with God. I’m not a perfect Christian but I’m working on fixing my relationship with God. It’s hard being single at this age but like you said, I WILL not settle. I’m trusting that God hears my prayers and will do what he does best and show out!
It’s nothing wrong with you but what are your actions/ saying in these relationships? Are you feeding his flesh or his spirit? Did you say you was a Christian but finding yourself compromising or sleeping with him? Im not saying these are what you’re doing. This is just food for thoughts. Because, no men will respect you once they feel like they have a hold on you with their sweet nothing talks manipulations or even you giving up the cookie. No matter how powerful tongue speaking or word of God they have in them, as a woman you need to guard your heart. Like she said, don’t start acting like a wife until there’s a ring on your finger. Until he is committed to you because is He who find a wife finds a good thing. Not, he likes you, Date for 3 years and then makes you his wife. No, a wife he has already found in you and now he’s talking that step to make you his wife. Because who we are to God? ..His bride. So if you’re not preparing yourself and being faithful to God in your singleness and not using discernment, it’ll be an endless cycle. Let you find the right one not the one. There’s no such thing as the one but the right one for you that God place in your life.
Jackie & Preston- Wow. This video hit home for me. I am 40 years old, never married and no children. I struggle with the fear of never getting married or getting married after I’m able to bear children. I was tempted to date non-believers but I just couldn’t do it… I felt like I was being disobedient and lacking in faith. I did determine that I’d rather be alone than to settle. This dialogue was incredible. Thank you both for your ministry. It’s helping us tremendously. God’s continued Blessings!
Sister just a word of encouragement. You’re on the right path. I pray that the Lord reveals to you his plans for your life in that area. If it’s not of the will of God for marriage, I pray that he uses you so mightily & that your life be extremely fruitful regardless of which. But if it is in Gods plans, I pray that you indeed have a victorious marriage! A huge testimony to go with it! And if there was any evil veil covering you from the eyes of your husband to see you, that it be removed now! Love you sister! God got a blessing with your name on it.
I relate, sis! I’m 41 going on 42 and the only men I seem to be attracting are men who don’t know Jesus. I’ve been tempted to date them because it seems like I just don’t meet Christian single men who are interested in me. If I were to date a man who doesn’t know Jesus, I know sexual purity would be nearly impossible. I haven’t dated since I gave my life to Jesus (2 years now) and this been messin with my mind lately.
Tonight I pray for your strength...May God who saved you, continues to keep your mind and heart and grant you the desires of your heart according to His will.
Thanks for empathising with Christian singles. In my season of singleness it gets discouraging for me time and time gain but listening to you am encouraged. I am turning 39, have had fibroids removed and there is pressure to get a child because of my fertility issues. Love from the 254 Kenya🇰🇪.
@ Lucy, don’t settle because of the surgery. I’m 46 and had similar experience but I’m determined to wait for God’s timing. Remember He knows everything about you before you came into existence. Psalm 139:16b All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of the came to be.
(A year later) I just turned 40 and currently had an open myomectomy, single, waiting on the Lord. Praying but also losing Hope myself that I will ever become a wife or mother. Praying God moved in your life in the last year. ❤
Jackie was a blessing when talking about the patience needed while being single. Preston was on point about dating a saved person. As Jackie said, a person who is practicing the walk of Christ. We all seen those in church who claim to be saved and aren't. Nothing worst to pray and the Christian person you date won't pray, fast, read their word, and seek God for themselves. Waiting is worth it.
I agree. I’ve dated “Christan” men and was even engaged to one. But that lukewarm lifestyle isn’t it. You know how many imposters are walking into church, causing spiritual havoc to other singles in the church? Praying God covers us singles in our waiting seasons.
About waiting on God, the story of Sarah comes to mind. She was told that she would have a child and because it didn't happen at the time that seemed logical to her, she wen't ahead and decided that she's gonna help God. But she only ended up interfering with the events of prophecy. Sometimes we really just need to chill, pray and wait. Not easy but we will outline save ourselves so much disappointment. When we run ahead of God, we can't complain when it doesn't turn out how we expect it. We can use the waiting time to develop our relationship with God and develop our characters
The thing with Sarah is that G-d told her that she was going to have a child. G-d doesn’t guarantee that everyone will get married, actually the Bible says that we all won’t be married. So sometimes we feel like marriage is the end goal but Christ is the end goal. If you want to be married pray on it but don’t believe that just because you want it He’s going to give it to you. We also have to think to ourselves why would G-d give me to one of his children? What are the godly qualities I possess to even be qualified to be married and if I do not have them am I willing to pray and work on them.
I can tell you EVERYTHING Preston said about the trials of NOT being married to a man who loves God is true. When things go wrong you pray he gets a beer, you go to church with your kids then 1 day your kids say can we stay home today and he says sure you can. When money issues, work issues life issues come up and you need your husband to pray with you, for you and over you .... IT DOESN'T HAPPEN! You may think these things are ok and you can deal with that but you really don't know what that's like. As Jackie said DON'T be that person who says "I'll pray he/she accepts Jesus as their Lord and Savior" that could be 20, 30, 40 years from I DO ... believe me you don't want to go that route #beenthere #itisnotwhatGoddesiresforyou #waitonGod
Thank you for sharing this is so good! My husband and I get into it and when I’m mad I always think it’s the worst but one thing I always come back to is that I’m thankful he loves God because atleast he listens to God and let’s God grow him. I made that my top priority when dating guys and I’m glad I stuck with it!
This was a great discussion, and we can always count on you two not to give a “fluffy” message that tells people what they want to hear. Having a spouse that God picked FOR YOU is so important and I can attest to that firsthand.
“Our impatience is not leaving any room for that person to come along because we’re busying ourselves with people who aren’t good for us” 🙃🙃 I have a really bad habit of doing this… im in a situation now that I know I shouldn’t be in this just confirmed even more that I need to let it go 🤦🏾♀️
@@iamchristelleh Girl I am a witness that, that was a word! Literally right after this episode I cut that person off & now a year later I’m in a happy relationship! I say that to say, if you have someone in your life that you’re dating or, a situationship that you’re considering ending because it isn’t serving you, let it go! Make room for God’s pick to come! 💜
@@HelpDHelpUWOW, congratulations sis!!! That gives me so much hope. I done cut them ALL OFF and I’m like okay GOD it’s just you and me (which I love) but I am ready for more 🥲
You have no idea how much I needed to be reminded of these things. I appreciate Jackie’s sympathetic perspective of the reality of what it means to be single in today’s days.
Please can speak also about friendship?? Because people can settle for friendship who don't edify them and don't be in alignment with God's will. Thank you for this video , is really great
"I am a very aggressive woman, I'm really dominant woman and so I need a man that is equally or more dominant than me." "It has to be clear that youre not afraid of me, then I can respect you" "You respect me but also able to hold me accountable." "Not a drug addicts, a drug dealer." "Pants sagging and you got hands but you love Jesus." bro she is speaking to me soul. my most inner self frfr all i want
I was tossing and turning not able to sleep over a guy I recently spilt with & thinking about all the things that I checked off that I thought were right about him and how the Jesus box was never checked off . God directed me straight to this podcast & 15 minutes in I knew that this was what God wanted me to hear. Immediately subscribed. Praise God 🙏🏼
I love how well he receives her being real and correcting where corrections are needed. Yeah I'm gonna wait on God and pray on this more. I would love to be with someone with whom I can actually be a grown adult with and who can correct me when it's needed.
I am just like you Jackie, i don't do big gestures when I worship and I pray really softly, and it honestly made me feel insecure that I don't shout and scream and jump around. it also made me feel I'm not Christian enough.
I know! But you know what saddens me? That bunch of these comments are from single girls. I'm just wondering where are the guys at? Maybe there are christian guys but not in church? Lol
@@Sophie-jf1nl 😂 girlll I’m still looking myself but I would say Conservative men in general are more Godly than Liberal men . Church conferences such Transformation would be good too or other organizations.
Thank you guys for your real empathy and trying to understand... Too many married people try to minimize the struggle of singleness. So encouraging 🙌 "we start to feel as if the season we're in is punishment and not protection ...we have to be reminded that no, God really is good, He's sovereign and kind, and He's with me, I'm not alone in my singleness"
Mehnn, this is my experience. This dude asked me out a few days ago and I haven't accepted and he is talking about sex. I kept telling him that sexual purity is a top priority. Sex has become the big deal in this generation. Well, it is a deal breaker for me.
Requesting 1hr & 30min with the Perry’s please & thank you! 😂 Gosh, I love y’all!! The wisdom & transparency cannot be ignored. I appreciate y’all, fr!
I stopped entertaining unsaved guys because they just don’t get it 🤷🏾♀️ I had one guy stick around for months because he thought I would change my mind and have sex with him. Change my mind? On Jesus? Not gonna happen bro, especially not over you.
As a single 42 year old Christian Woman I needed to hear this podcast.. It's good to hear two Christians in the dating process trails and tribulations while waiting for who God has for them.
What's hard for me, as a single person, is that the only people talking about the blessings of singlehood.....are married people. Where are the single Christians who are enjoying this season so much? This also made me chuckle. Jackie: Don't be impatient...single people have a unique blessing... Also Jackie: You're wasting your time and about to find yourself 40 and alone
Well, I've been single all my life (my dates & "situationships" don't really count imo) and I'm absolutely happy because of my walk with the Lord, despite 23 years of life with no real relationships. I struggled for years with being single and depressed but God worked in my heart through mentors and the Gospel. He changed my heart to make me realize that I must first be satisfied & happy in Him alone, because he is the only one who can wholly love us. In other words, if I'm not fully satisfied & happy in the perfect Creator alone, how can I expect to be satisfied & happy with another imperfect person in marriage? Paul's writing in 1 Corinthians 7:32-33 (NASB) says: [32] But I want you to be free from concern. One who is unmarried is concerned about the things of the Lord, how he may please the Lord; [33] but one who is married is concerned about the things of the world, how he may please his wife, " He's saying that those who are single and following Christ have the freedom to serve God more and focus more on Him whereas married believers are focused on serving God & their spouse, meaning they have less time to focus on their walk with Him. That's not a bad thing for married believers btw, unless it gets to the point of idolization. My point in all this is that God is all we need and we should be happy to serve him while being single because we have the freedom to do so (this is also a huge point in Ecclesiastes)! Married believers lose that flexibility in life with their spouse, kids, etc.
Something can be better appreciated when you look at it from a distance. I think it's mostly married people who appreciate singleness coz they've compared the 'burdens' of singleness and marriage. But you remind me of Joseph Solomon. He gave me the vibes of "I'm single and I'm cool with that", but this was before he stepped out of faith and all. So maybe we need to search more of single people who are happy being single. Also, I don't think Jackie was being controversial or being as brutal as you put it. Remember the context; some single people date and go through so many people (many options).... Which is worse than patiently waiting for 'the one' and not fooling with anybody. The WAY you wait has consequences
Jackie’s comment: if you can have faith that God will save your spouse; shouldn’t you have that same faith that, He will send you a saved spouse! This is the best comment! Sentiments of my heart. We don’t have to settle. If we would just remember that comment. Powerful 🙌🏾✝️💜
Wooow as soon as Jackie started speaking she said something that I fully understand. People really want you to worship like everybody else!! This is so true!!!!
Those last two minutes need a whole episode! Haha! Absolutely loved this. I feel like I'm 27 going on 35 and sometimes it gets scary. This was encouraging.
This has conversation actually helped me know I’m not being ridiculous. Also realizing that there were men who were Christians I knew but in all reality it wouldn’t have worked with any of them. As someone who has been abused there are specific things I need for the man to be that they wouldn’t have been able to check off on my list.
The WORSHIP talk. Girl. I had a ‘leader’ (I now call her a handler because she controlled everything) come up behind me and raise my hands for me in worship. That was traumatic. It now effects my entire worship experience.
@@cassiaomudu2736 It sounds like an Aaron and Moses thing, but she said I wasn’t ‘expressing enough’ so she held my arms up for me- then shamed me for it later. ✨just culty things✨
This blessed me greatly! Thank you so much, Jackie and Preston, for sharing all that you shared. As a single woman, I feel so encouraged by your words and I'm reminded that God is good all the time and I must never be afraid that he will not be good to me. God bless you and your ministry more!
The last part about men in the church having too many options was exactly what I needed to hear. I came to this new church and found an amazing community. I got connected and became part of a solid group of folks ages 25-30. After about 6 months there, I noticed that I was getting a lot of attention from the women. I was relishing in I’ll admit. Until a friend asked me, “so how does it feel to have options and all this attention from women at the church?” She was no fool. She knew and named it. I needed to be still and sit with that question. Although it was nice initially especially after being single for almost 2 years, deep down it felt weird and wrong. I wanted to be patient and part of something serious. The question alone was the switch for me, and I realized that I needed to set some boundaries, focus up, and take it to God. Deep down I knew that was not the man I was trying to a be. After straightening up, I am happy to say there is now only one woman I am focused on and praying for/with. Indecisive men are asking for disaster. Pray about it, test the waters, then make a choice. Quit playing games fr. No one wins.
First- I have to say, I have loved y’all since P4CM!! There is so much depth to what y’all were saying. Jackie, when you said they might have the right theology but they don’t have fruit - that is so huge. A lot of folks get caught up in theology but never search the depths. One of my friends said if her ‘Christian’ husband who read the Bible before they got married, “I feel like I was bamboozled. He did all the right things before we got married.” When you said there is a fear attached to people who are older and unmarried, tears welled up in my eyes. I’ve never had a word to name my feelings. But yes! At 35, never married, no kids, and never really dated, I have a fear my life will never look the way I so deeply desire. I have had thoughts cross my mind about searching outside of the Christian community, however, the desire I have to keep God first and maintain the peace in my life is greater than my desire to be married. I may could have been married a long time ago, however, I don’t want a cornball, and I too, have a dominate personality. I also need someone to match it or be more dominate. This was such a life giving talk!!
"There's this sense where it can't always be about everything I want because I can get all that I want and find out that that was not what I needed." 😊
I've been living this single life on the side with God for almost 30 years. Thank you both for your transparency. I still have a desire to be married and yet I'm living out the assignment he has given until.... Keep sharing!
Jackie: I had a lot of experience in the dating pool cause again, I was a lesbian Preston: Really? Jackie: I thought I told about it Preston: I forgot about it 😂😂 Oh these two hahaha you guys are hilarious
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When I say that I appreciate you two, especially you, Jackie. Your transparency, honesty with compassion, and focus on the Bible is a blessing. Plus, y'all are hilarious 😂
As a Christian, my biggest challenge was being attracted to a Muslim, there's just so much difference between the religions, you think you'll figure it out with time , until you find yourself having to compromise on your beliefs , just to keep happiness between you two .
This was REAALLY Good! Talking about this never gets old, because it really is a thing that has many of us wandering and compromising. I like what was said about really being LED by God when it comes to considering a mate and marrying someone that does not have a relationship with God. Because this is what I say to myself, Self..."If he never changes, will I still be happy and have peace". To me its just a non-negotiable....#Iwillwait If He can do it for yall, He can do it for me!! Thanks Team Perry for your obedience and ministry!
Thank you so much for everything I believe I trust and I have faith in you God father Almighty and lord Jesus Christ thank you for your loving kindness and compassionate thank you I trust the process of life I trust in the flow of life and I trust myself thank you I trust in the timing of Devine thank you God for working my life thank you so much for everything I am grateful for everything that I have thank you I trust in the timing of Universe thank you for working my highest good thank you for providing me everything that I need thank you for all my guardian angels for supporting me and guiding me and blessings me everyday I received it all thank you I am so grateful for all the blessings after blessings and blessings everyday I achieve it all thank you I am so grateful for all the miracles and my presence I received it all thank you I am so grateful for everything that I have thank you for empowering me thank you for loving me for who I am thank you for choosing me thank you for the power I can transform my life thank you I can uplift myself thank you I can blessed myself thank you for fighting my battles thank you for being with me all the time thank you for today thank you for saving my life thank you I am alive thank you I am thankful for my abundance that surround me. I lost my job 2 years ago due to the pandemic and I was about giving up, but knowing God has brought me this far was for a purpose and I kept on looking on to him..The moment I was about giving up, I was introduced to a business by a man I met in a seminar I went to in Florida. This was not my first time hearing of such business but I took the risk Investin 1ooo USD and it was worth it. information@markhanfarmer , COM 4 weeks later I kept on getting earnings and I started using the money for Gods work. I am very popular in Texas. Doing Gods work always give me joy. There is peace and joy in my mind . I am here to motivate you and tell you never to give up even though the situation seems so though. God has promised his children and he will surely do what he promised his children.
It's the random tongues from Jackie for me 🤣🤣 But I did connect to what she said, God literally spoke to me about my now Wife and as a confirmation, I asked the LORD to very specific signs and He was kind to show them to me. Hallelujah. Interesting podcast love you guys!!!
13:37 i feel like as christian women we want a man who doesn’t make being christian their personality (i’m trying to say this the best way possible bare with meeee😭), like he’s a christian but he’s still an individual with his own style, not trying to live up to this supposed “perfection” that christian’s are supposed to be, act or dress like. An authentic, kinda transparent man with PERSONALITY.
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Dang I ain't no woman but what her mom said is deep! "A fine man that doesnt act right will always become ugly"
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Yes this is so true!
And I think the opposite applies as well, he may not be all that in the looks department but if he love God, act right and work hard he’ll become handsome.
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As the saying goes, "Handsome is as handsome does."
"until a man proposes,he is not your husband"felt this one
Yes and really, until you're married before God he is not your husband. So many people jump before the finish line. It's better to marry than to burn.
And some men will propose just to get husband privileges
@@israeliana honestly i think people forget that sex is marriage biblically speaking
This isn't given?
@EliteAthlete15 you should have the wisdom to interact with women towards exclusively dating one person towards marriage
@@queengkzi3942 yep and that's why we should not be having casual sex. Why tie ourselves physically to people in a spiritual marriage if they are not our spouses
Man I was chilling with this man and he
-Was baptized
-Goes to church
- Great dad
And this man COULD NOT keep is hands to himself and was too hyper sexual! I IMMEDIATELY went home. Like that’s embarrassing. I cried because dating as a Christian is heartbreaking with people who KNOW God but don’t follow all of his commands.
Edit: I LEFT AND LITERALLY 4 DAYS LATER GOD SENT MY HUSBAND! I WAS OBEDIENT AND GOD BLESSED MEEEEE 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 I JUST WANTED TO SHARE MY TESTIMONY I WILL BE GETTING MARRIED 5/11/24
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“If we’re confused, it’s because we wanna be confused”. - You’re right. God is always speaking, but it’s up to us to listen.
I disagree. Some people genuinely want to hear God but have difficulty discerning the voice of God. This can be due to immaturity or also due to blockage from spiritual warfare. It may also be that God is being silent due to the person being in the wilderness time of testing. It is not as black and white as it seems on the surface.
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“Maybe your spouse isn’t saved yet” changed my whole mindset
Crazy thought
Man… this has been a thought for me
I was prayed over at a church conference this weekend, and my intercessor mentioned that too.
I began to pray for my future husband and ask the Lord to break all chains of bondage and sin.
This spoke to my spirit wow
“Everybody isn’t a hater. Some people are just discerning.”
CHILLS🔥🔥
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That stood out to me too
Exactly!!!
Jackie’s point at 20:52 is 🔥 If God can save your unbelieving husband he surely can bring you a candidate who’s already saved.🙌🏼
Except when he doesn’t and you’re almost 40. That’s when your faith is really tested but God is still good. And even if a husband never comes, living for God is still the only way to live and totally worth it! God is good!
@@Actavella Amen ♥
@@Actavella Don't be fearful that your age will preclude you from having children (if that's, in fact, what God wants you to do).
If Sarah had a baby at 99, surely God can make it happen for you. Or, perhaps, there are other routes (or conceiving) that you and your husband can explore.
Whew! Hope lept in me honey
Amen 🙏🏻
Everyone is a “christian” until they want to encourage you into sinning against God with your body. Often times they are handsome, smart, motivated and work hard but don’t KNOW God and want to drag you into sin with them. Choosing someone who doesn’t know and love God leads to sin so will end in pain and heartache. Stay STRONG!!
Yeah but christians are not any better, everyone is messed up. I know christian women who married non christians and they treat them better than a christian would. Oftentimes christian men become toxic and abusive. Plus not to mention the sexual problem. We are not supposed to die from loneliness and burn with passion our whole lives. What if that "magical christian prince" never comes across? Some women are sadly mistaken thinking waiting for such a long time is good. In biblical times ppl didn't have this problem because they married at 16 but nowadays it's nearly impossible for young people to wait until they're 30 and above to get married and stay celibate at the same time. It's unrealistic.
What I find confusing is born again Christians who are encouraging you do tow close to the line of purity?! I'm like are you not reading the same Bible/listening to the same preaching? 🤔
yeah I fell for a beautiful woman that led me into sin she was a christian which I believe she was she told me how are we going to be together an we not having sex an we wasn't married at the time I was confused at the time an should have stopped talking to her but lust is a strong emotion an just was blinded by her beauty wish I was stronger in my faith
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THANKS FOR YOUR WORDS. GOD SPOKE TO ME THROUGH YOU. THANKS YOU❤❣
"for the men who tie their shoes up really tight, that's a character trait" lmaooooooo 7 mins in and I'm crying!
I nearly passed out from laughing!!!🤣🤣🤣
I was looking for this comment 😂😂
I’m happy to see Breeny here she inspires me ❤
Lol
He ain't lying either 😅😂😂
Jackie : “I can’t imagine you running”
Preston: “..from the police”
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that part had me crying 😂😂😂
When you're from the south side of the Kingdom 😭🤣
I missed him saying that the first time! After hearing it, I played it multiple times in a row 😂😂
One of the best parts 🤣
I've been looking for a comment like this! Finally😂😂😂
“God is too good a Father to leave us confused, if you confused, it’s cause you want to be confused”🤯😂 so deep.
"Impatience can lead us into all kinds of idolatry" WOW WOW WOW. This is good!
That part!
Facts
And I would like to add fear as well
Preston pouring his heart out : “ I prayed for you”🥹 Jackie: “blush” 😐 y’all crack me up
Ahahaaahahh
Lol 😂
🤣🤣🥺🤣🤣😭🤣 so wholesome
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So glad Jackie touched on the the fear of age and fertility in women. It’s easy to just finish these types of conversations with ‘be patient’ without any empathy or regard to real issues/concerns.
Exactly thank you
Absolutely! It is not talked about enough. It’s a very real fear. I have PCOS so my fertility is already on the line. But whatever is God’s will, so be it.
@@dyanimoriahkeep praying and have faith 🙏🏾✝️ The Bible says that if you delight yourself in the Lord, then he will give you the desires of your heart 💜🔥🙌🏾 (Psalms 37:4 )….And also make sure that you’ve repented of your sins and is truly seeking God and turning from your wicked ways and trying to be a righteous person because the Bible also says that the prayers of the righteous availeth much; meaning that the prayers of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results 🔥👏🏾 Be encouraged sis 🥰
NOPE. Smh And that's why women are not permitted to teach. When you do speak... it's usually right after making the wrong decision. If God is good (and He Is) AND, God Is all powerful ( That would be omnipotent and He Is) , AND you have FAITH that doesn't flex. THEN it doesn't matter how long a person needs to patiently wait on The Lord. Because In Him, all the limits, constraints, times, and boundaries are removed. I've heard Him called, "The God of the last minute!" LoL I regularly called Him, "The God of the last Second!" As I matured in my faith and grew in the knowledge of His Grace I realized "the last Second" still does not accurately describe His habits for His Word records that Jesus Himself spoke concerning this, explaining that there is purpose in His delay. ( Side note, "The Lord is not slow to keep His Word, like many understand procrastinate or dilly dallying. No, He Is patient towards you. Not wanting anyone to have to die and go to hell." My own paraphrase of 2 Peter 3:9 you see? There is Purpose in what seems to be His Procrastination. In this instance, it's "so that none would perish.") Read the accounts of Christ raising Jairus' daughter from the dead. All three accounts, in order, start with Matthew's. Then read John's account of Jesus raising His friend Lazarus from the grave after four days of being dead. And this is so important, the account of Issac's conception. From two people the bible says who's bodies were "as good as dead!😵 Heb11" If you would only believe, then, you would see. It doesn't matter ”when” you meet your spouse, or how old y'all might be. Because for those who delight themselves in the Lord, He knows the desires of your heart. Just like the one amazing night that God gave 99 yo Abraham and 98 yo Sara POWER (🥳🥴😴) to conceive Issac, so also as Eph3:20 again, my own paraphrase tells us that, "According To The Power That Works In You, He Is Able to give you good things beyond your wildest dreams." Couple things on that 1. According to the Power that works in you. Could be understood like according to how much faith YOU possess. 2. The use of the word Dunamis in this verse and the use of the word In as in ' The Dunamis at work Inside of you' versus ' The Dunamis at work Because of you' makes me consider that this verse is not putting the emphasis on how much faith one might have, but instead on the ability of God's Holy Spirit. So have faith! Because God is Good All the Time! That means even for the doubting Thomas out there! Who should instead have a greater level of trust in God yet still doesn't; BUT does sincerely, "delight themself in The Lord", it is possible to still be eligible for these wonderfully kind acts of God! Simply because He wills to do it out of the abundance of the Love, Grace, and Mercy that He has for us. He's the God that prepares a table for us, in front our enemies! Trust that If you think your time has expired, or you simply "always struck out." If it pleases God, He is more than capable of putting you on first base! Even of giving you HOME. 😎 😉 May God richly bless you Amen
This topic is so very important. When people keep asking me about having children, I adamantly tell them that my standard is to be married first (especially to a man of God). I refuse to bend on that desire.
My desire to have children inside of God's Will, does not outweigh my desire to birth them in general.
I have peace because I think of God's promise to Sarah.
"...the season we are in is not punishment, but for our protection." Powerful, insightful and spot on! Say it again!!!
Amen
This 🙌🙌🙌
"The season you're in isn't punishment, rather it's protection. "
“A fine man that doesn’t act right will always become ugly” 💯💯💯
So I’m not the only one that sees this?? Maaaaannnnnnn this see them everyday
“I wanted somebody who probably sold drugs once upon a time but they gave they life to Jesus.” Same, Jackie. Same! 🥴😂
Lmaooo same!!!
Me too
Spoke to my soul!
Love your channel Faye!
A saved bad boy 😂😂
Jackie is so honest. Thank God for realness and transparency in marriage, it’s refreshing to see. Pray this couple reaches many💐
"Th-the twinkle was lust?☹️"
I lol'd! This video was a blessing from beginning to end. Thank you guys.
The right timing! Dating is so hard these days!! There are not enough quality men out there. If I meet a Christian man they are usually not in tune or abuse the word of God to their advantage. There are a lot of Christian men who aren’t waiting til marriage nor have a solid foundation with God. I defiantly dated unbelievers and believers (they say they love God but live their life differently) and it was still hard and it didn't work in the end. I’m 29 years old and it’s hard when I hear the comments about why am I single as if something is wrong with me. I am focusing on my career and bettering myself but I also desire marriage in the process. The path to success can be a lonely journey but I refuse to settle! This video was exactly what I needed to hear to stay encouraged!
I’m turning 31 in 30 days and I’m a single woman practicing my walk with God. I’m not a perfect Christian but I’m working on fixing my relationship with God. It’s hard being single at this age but like you said, I WILL not settle. I’m trusting that God hears my prayers and will do what he does best and show out!
It’s nothing wrong with you but what are your actions/ saying in these relationships? Are you feeding his flesh or his spirit? Did you say you was a Christian but finding yourself compromising or sleeping with him? Im not saying these are what you’re doing. This is just food for thoughts. Because, no men will respect you once they feel like they have a hold on you with their sweet nothing talks manipulations or even you giving up the cookie. No matter how powerful tongue speaking or word of God they have in them, as a woman you need to guard your heart. Like she said, don’t start acting like a wife until there’s a ring on your finger. Until he is committed to you because is He who find a wife finds a good thing. Not, he likes you, Date for 3 years and then makes you his wife. No, a wife he has already found in you and now he’s talking that step to make you his wife. Because who we are to God? ..His bride. So if you’re not preparing yourself and being faithful to God in your singleness and not using discernment, it’ll be an endless cycle. Let you find the right one not the one. There’s no such thing as the one but the right one for you that God place in your life.
I feel u sis it is bad in the western countries. The solution is intercession for men and for our future husbands
@EliteAthlete15 I agree. Both genders are traumatised and need healing
@ Medline🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Jackie & Preston- Wow. This video hit home for me. I am 40 years old, never married and no children. I struggle with the fear of never getting married or getting married after I’m able to bear children. I was tempted to date non-believers but I just couldn’t do it… I felt like I was being disobedient and lacking in faith. I did determine that I’d rather be alone than to settle. This dialogue was incredible. Thank you both for your ministry. It’s helping us tremendously. God’s continued Blessings!
Sister just a word of encouragement. You’re on the right path. I pray that the Lord reveals to you his plans for your life in that area. If it’s not of the will of God for marriage, I pray that he uses you so mightily & that your life be extremely fruitful regardless of which. But if it is in Gods plans, I pray that you indeed have a victorious marriage! A huge testimony to go with it! And if there was any evil veil covering you from the eyes of your husband to see you, that it be removed now! Love you sister! God got a blessing with your name on it.
I relate, sis! I’m 41 going on 42 and the only men I seem to be attracting are men who don’t know Jesus. I’ve been tempted to date them because it seems like I just don’t meet Christian single men who are interested in me. If I were to date a man who doesn’t know Jesus, I know sexual purity would be nearly impossible. I haven’t dated since I gave my life to Jesus (2 years now) and this been messin with my mind lately.
This is me 💯
Glad to know I’m not alone
I know how you feel , turned 33 so the fear I totally understand.
Tonight I pray for your strength...May God who saved you, continues to keep your mind and heart and grant you the desires of your heart according to His will.
“The twinkle was lust!?” 😂 Killed that man’s good core memory 🤣 Dang! Thank you for this podcast.
I was going to write this if nobody pointed it out 😂😂 I love the switch up haha
Preston’s love island just took a tumble. 🤣
😂😂😂 fr be killing his moments
The “why are we sharing this?” Took me out 😂😂
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Thanks for empathising with Christian singles. In my season of singleness it gets discouraging for me time and time gain but listening to you am encouraged. I am turning 39, have had fibroids removed and there is pressure to get a child because of my fertility issues. Love from the 254 Kenya🇰🇪.
@ Lucy, don’t settle because of the surgery. I’m 46 and had similar experience but I’m determined to wait for God’s timing. Remember He knows everything about you before you came into existence. Psalm 139:16b
All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of the came to be.
@@afuayeboah9149 thank you for the encouragement. May God makes you visible in the eyes of the right partner and give you discernment in that season
(A year later) I just turned 40 and currently had an open myomectomy, single, waiting on the Lord. Praying but also losing Hope myself that I will ever become a wife or mother. Praying God moved in your life in the last year. ❤
I like how real this couple is.
“Especially if your framework for being a Christian is theology and not fruitfulness.” My Godddd 🙌🏾😩
This right here , had me on the floor slainnnnn 🔥🔥🔥
But the fruit of the spirit is... and against such things there is no law. 🔥
This hit me 😢🙌🏾
Jackie was a blessing when talking about the patience needed while being single. Preston was on point about dating a saved person. As Jackie said, a person who is practicing the walk of Christ. We all seen those in church who claim to be saved and aren't. Nothing worst to pray and the Christian person you date won't pray, fast, read their word, and seek God for themselves. Waiting is worth it.
I agree. I’ve dated “Christan” men and was even engaged to one. But that lukewarm lifestyle isn’t it. You know how many imposters are walking into church, causing spiritual havoc to other singles in the church? Praying God covers us singles in our waiting seasons.
Marriages will face trials. Nothing worse than having to fight alone.
About waiting on God, the story of Sarah comes to mind. She was told that she would have a child and because it didn't happen at the time that seemed logical to her, she wen't ahead and decided that she's gonna help God. But she only ended up interfering with the events of prophecy. Sometimes we really just need to chill, pray and wait. Not easy but we will outline save ourselves so much disappointment. When we run ahead of God, we can't complain when it doesn't turn out how we expect it. We can use the waiting time to develop our relationship with God and develop our characters
The thing with Sarah is that G-d told her that she was going to have a child. G-d doesn’t guarantee that everyone will get married, actually the Bible says that we all won’t be married. So sometimes we feel like marriage is the end goal but Christ is the end goal. If you want to be married pray on it but don’t believe that just because you want it He’s going to give it to you. We also have to think to ourselves why would G-d give me to one of his children? What are the godly qualities I possess to even be qualified to be married and if I do not have them am I willing to pray and work on them.
@@itsyaaveragegirl ❤💯
“ I don’t have time to convince you about why the Lord is Lord of your body”. I felt that!!❤
Jackie said something that hit me in the first minute. The pressure to praise God the way that others do.. and feeling like I could never be like them
Listen……
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I can tell you EVERYTHING Preston said about the trials of NOT being married to a man who loves God is true. When things go wrong you pray he gets a beer, you go to church with your kids then 1 day your kids say can we stay home today and he says sure you can. When money issues, work issues life issues come up and you need your husband to pray with you, for you and over you .... IT DOESN'T HAPPEN! You may think these things are ok and you can deal with that but you really don't know what that's like. As Jackie said DON'T be that person who says "I'll pray he/she accepts Jesus as their Lord and Savior" that could be 20, 30, 40 years from I DO ... believe me you don't want to go that route #beenthere #itisnotwhatGoddesiresforyou
#waitonGod
Thank you for sharing this is so good! My husband and I get into it and when I’m mad I always think it’s the worst but one thing I always come back to is that I’m thankful he loves God because atleast he listens to God and let’s God grow him. I made that my top priority when dating guys and I’m glad I stuck with it!
I know this from experience
Thank you.
Thank you for keeping it 💯. You’re a blessing
This was needed !!!
y'all are hilarious! this was a great talk. "the twinkle was lust, that wasn't the spirit" 🤣
That killed me🤣
So many funny moments but HERE is where I flattened! Lol
😂😂Very hilarious. I enjoy these two
Like I went 😂😂😂
😂😂”what?!” Yo was hurt💀
This was a great discussion, and we can always count on you two not to give a “fluffy” message that tells people what they want to hear. Having a spouse that God picked FOR YOU is so important and I can attest to that firsthand.
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It's so comical of the ways we manifest the presence of the Holy Spirit.... like Grandma's cry "Hoyyyyy' and the 'boxing match' Sister.😂
“Our impatience is not leaving any room for that person to come along because we’re busying ourselves with people who aren’t good for us” 🙃🙃 I have a really bad habit of doing this… im in a situation now that I know I shouldn’t be in this just confirmed even more that I need to let it go 🤦🏾♀️
Literally
@@iamchristelleh Girl I am a witness that, that was a word! Literally right after this episode I cut that person off & now a year later I’m in a happy relationship! I say that to say, if you have someone in your life that you’re dating or, a situationship that you’re considering ending because it isn’t serving you, let it go! Make room for God’s pick to come! 💜
@@HelpDHelpUWOW, congratulations sis!!! That gives me so much hope. I done cut them ALL OFF and I’m like okay GOD it’s just you and me (which I love) but I am ready for more 🥲
You have no idea how much I needed to be reminded of these things. I appreciate Jackie’s sympathetic perspective of the reality of what it means to be single in today’s days.
Yeah ,she actually gets it
Please can speak also about friendship?? Because people can settle for friendship who don't edify them and don't be in alignment with God's will.
Thank you for this video , is really great
Op! I need this!
THIS!!!
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They have one now!
"I am a very aggressive woman, I'm really dominant woman and so I need a man that is equally or more dominant than me." "It has to be clear that youre not afraid of me, then I can respect you" "You respect me but also able to hold me accountable." "Not a drug addicts, a drug dealer." "Pants sagging and you got hands but you love Jesus." bro she is speaking to me soul. my most inner self frfr all i want
I now understand my issue
Men that are sold out to CHRIST are never pinks. Unbelievers don't realize that.
Im late to these 2. However, this absolutely hit me too.
"with a bad credit score" I SCREAMED! LOL
I was tossing and turning not able to sleep over a guy I recently spilt with & thinking about all the things that I checked off that I thought were right about him and how the Jesus box was never checked off . God directed me straight to this podcast & 15 minutes in I knew that this was what God wanted me to hear. Immediately subscribed. Praise God 🙏🏼
I love how well he receives her being real and correcting where corrections are needed. Yeah I'm gonna wait on God and pray on this more. I would love to be with someone with whom I can actually be a grown adult with and who can correct me when it's needed.
I love that too!
It is hard out here for us singles. That opening up to the world doesn’t work. I have tried in the past. Waiting is hard but it’s RIGHT!
The working of your faith produces patience so that you're perfect and complete lacking nothing. Stay strong in your faith dear one.
@ Jasmine I agree.
Right. And I believe God made me a beautiful Christian woman and I’m believing He has a handsome Christian man okay!
I appreciate you going beyond 30 minutes to delve deeper with this topic. The candor between the two of you is a blessing to me. 💗😊
I am just like you Jackie, i don't do big gestures when I worship and I pray really softly, and it honestly made me feel insecure that I don't shout and scream and jump around. it also made me feel I'm not Christian enough.
Recently discovered this couple. Thank God for you guys you guys are a real blessing to my life.
I idolized marriage in my teen/young adulthood God knocked me right into reality when I got married.
Thank you for sharing.
Same here
What is something you wished you knew before you were married?
Explain😭
Same
"I don't think it's God's heart to lead us apart from a community" So powerful!
This was the most confirming, edifying and empathetic word for us in our season of singleness
I just prayed about a situation that I am in and the Holy Spirit led me to this video!
Thank you 🙌🏾
Love it
Hahahaha I love how honest she is about the lust in the end 😂
I know! But you know what saddens me? That bunch of these comments are from single girls. I'm just wondering where are the guys at? Maybe there are christian guys but not in church? Lol
@@tatijoie lol they exist in the military and some other areas
@@Sandrinarhonda ahh the military! And what other places?
@@Sophie-jf1nl 😂 girlll I’m still looking myself but I would say Conservative men in general are more Godly than Liberal men . Church conferences such Transformation would be good too or other organizations.
@@Sandrinarhonda As a woman in the military, yes there are way more men then women but good luck finding a man of God.
Thank you guys for your real empathy and trying to understand... Too many married people try to minimize the struggle of singleness.
So encouraging 🙌 "we start to feel as if the season we're in is punishment and not protection ...we have to be reminded that no, God really is good, He's sovereign and kind, and He's with me, I'm not alone in my singleness"
THIS!!! 🙌🏽 🙏🏽 Ditto! 💗😊
Absolutely well put ♥️🙏🏾
Trust me,marriage isn't any easier.
@@Adrenalean767 Can they both be hard?
That part!!!
Mehnn, this is my experience. This dude asked me out a few days ago and I haven't accepted and he is talking about sex. I kept telling him that sexual purity is a top priority. Sex has become the big deal in this generation. Well, it is a deal breaker for me.
You won't need to tell him more than once, if he actually respected that guideline.
Don't worry that's a clear sign that he's not the one for you.
Soon as u say it n they continue. Cut it off
When she said “not a drug addict, a drug dealer,” I almost fell out my chair at work. 😳🤣🤣
"If we want to be confused its because we want to be confused" SO TRUE!!!
Requesting 1hr & 30min with the Perry’s please & thank you! 😂 Gosh, I love y’all!! The wisdom & transparency cannot be ignored. I appreciate y’all, fr!
Can I second that!!!
I stopped entertaining unsaved guys because they just don’t get it 🤷🏾♀️ I had one guy stick around for months because he thought I would change my mind and have sex with him. Change my mind? On Jesus? Not gonna happen bro, especially not over you.
I love this!!! YASS QUEEN!
They’re horrible
@@XxMercuriiXx absolutely
👏🏾👏🏾 Yess sis.
"That Part"
As a single 42 year old Christian Woman I needed to hear this podcast.. It's good to hear two Christians in the dating process trails and tribulations while waiting for who God has for them.
They are married🥺
I really love how real you both are. I am nodding, getting emotional and cracking up all at once. I am grateful for your lives.
“How does this person help me to fulfill the Will of God in my life” yes yes yes 👏🏾
What's hard for me, as a single person, is that the only people talking about the blessings of singlehood.....are married people. Where are the single Christians who are enjoying this season so much?
This also made me chuckle.
Jackie: Don't be impatient...single people have a unique blessing...
Also Jackie: You're wasting your time and about to find yourself 40 and alone
Lol
That's it!
My question also. The people who say to wait and be patient have the promise so its like… thats easy for you to say
Well, I've been single all my life (my dates & "situationships" don't really count imo) and I'm absolutely happy because of my walk with the Lord, despite 23 years of life with no real relationships.
I struggled for years with being single and depressed but God worked in my heart through mentors and the Gospel. He changed my heart to make me realize that I must first be satisfied & happy in Him alone, because he is the only one who can wholly love us. In other words, if I'm not fully satisfied & happy in the perfect Creator alone, how can I expect to be satisfied & happy with another imperfect person in marriage?
Paul's writing in 1 Corinthians 7:32-33 (NASB) says:
[32] But I want you to be free from concern. One who is unmarried is concerned about the things of the Lord, how he may please the Lord; [33] but one who is married is concerned about the things of the world, how he may please his wife, "
He's saying that those who are single and following Christ have the freedom to serve God more and focus more on Him whereas married believers are focused on serving God & their spouse, meaning they have less time to focus on their walk with Him. That's not a bad thing for married believers btw, unless it gets to the point of idolization.
My point in all this is that God is all we need and we should be happy to serve him while being single because we have the freedom to do so (this is also a huge point in Ecclesiastes)! Married believers lose that flexibility in life with their spouse, kids, etc.
Something can be better appreciated when you look at it from a distance. I think it's mostly married people who appreciate singleness coz they've compared the 'burdens' of singleness and marriage.
But you remind me of Joseph Solomon. He gave me the vibes of "I'm single and I'm cool with that", but this was before he stepped out of faith and all. So maybe we need to search more of single people who are happy being single.
Also, I don't think Jackie was being controversial or being as brutal as you put it.
Remember the context; some single people date and go through so many people (many options).... Which is worse than patiently waiting for 'the one' and not fooling with anybody. The WAY you wait has consequences
Jackie’s comment: if you can have faith that God will save your spouse; shouldn’t you have that same faith that, He will send you a saved spouse! This is the best comment! Sentiments of my heart. We don’t have to settle. If we would just remember that comment. Powerful 🙌🏾✝️💜
Honestly, this really encouraged me to wait longer (and to wait well- with my eyes on Jesus). Thank you guys for this.
The season am in is not punishment but protection.
Thanks sir/ma for doing the work of ministry am truly blessed
Love from Nigeria
Wooow as soon as Jackie started speaking she said something that I fully understand. People really want you to worship like everybody else!! This is so true!!!!
Don’t let your impatience lead you to creating a golden calf .. come on here somebody!
I watched it to end and I can genuinely say THANK YOU. This was real & relatable
Went and listened to “The Idolatry of Marriage” podcast and it’s the perfect message to go alongside this one. Thank you both so much!
I can’t find it!
I cant find it as well:( could you please share it?
Such honesty & vulnerability is not only refreshing but also encouraging .
Thank you ❤️
Those last two minutes need a whole episode! Haha! Absolutely loved this. I feel like I'm 27 going on 35 and sometimes it gets scary. This was encouraging.
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This has conversation actually helped me know I’m not being ridiculous. Also realizing that there were men who were Christians I knew but in all reality it wouldn’t have worked with any of them. As someone who has been abused there are specific things I need for the man to be that they wouldn’t have been able to check off on my list.
I pray you find him soon
Same sis.
I'm sorry to hear about your past trauma. I pray that you get the healing that you need.
The WORSHIP talk. Girl. I had a ‘leader’ (I now call her a handler because she controlled everything) come up behind me and raise my hands for me in worship. That was traumatic. It now effects my entire worship experience.
That’s crazy.
Whattttttt?!
@@cassiaomudu2736 It sounds like an Aaron and Moses thing, but she said I wasn’t ‘expressing enough’ so she held my arms up for me- then shamed me for it later. ✨just culty things✨
My sister used to do that and others in church as well when I was little very forceful
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I couldn’t stop laughing when you said “why are we sharing this” at the end 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
“..Then you’re stuck with someone who can’t hold you down spiritually”
Now that convicted me!
Protection over Punishment. Thank you God.
What you said at the beginning was so validating 😭 bc I’ve never been the type to jump and shout when I’m worshipping
The twinkle was lust, the twinkle of the devil! hilarious😂 This was so good, love the honesty and authenticity.
"Everybody ain't a hater, some people are just discerning." 📌📌📌
This blessed me greatly! Thank you so much, Jackie and Preston, for sharing all that you shared. As a single woman, I feel so encouraged by your words and I'm reminded that God is good all the time and I must never be afraid that he will not be good to me. God bless you and your ministry more!
The last part about men in the church having too many options was exactly what I needed to hear. I came to this new church and found an amazing community. I got connected and became part of a solid group of folks ages 25-30. After about 6 months there, I noticed that I was getting a lot of attention from the women. I was relishing in I’ll admit. Until a friend asked me, “so how does it feel to have options and all this attention from women at the church?” She was no fool. She knew and named it. I needed to be still and sit with that question. Although it was nice initially especially after being single for almost 2 years, deep down it felt weird and wrong. I wanted to be patient and part of something serious. The question alone was the switch for me, and I realized that I needed to set some boundaries, focus up, and take it to God. Deep down I knew that was not the man I was trying to a be. After straightening up, I am happy to say there is now only one woman I am focused on and praying for/with. Indecisive men are asking for disaster. Pray about it, test the waters, then make a choice. Quit playing games fr. No one wins.
First- I have to say, I have loved y’all since P4CM!!
There is so much depth to what y’all were saying. Jackie, when you said they might have the right theology but they don’t have fruit - that is so huge. A lot of folks get caught up in theology but never search the depths.
One of my friends said if her ‘Christian’ husband who read the Bible before they got married, “I feel like I was bamboozled. He did all the right things before we got married.”
When you said there is a fear attached to people who are older and unmarried, tears welled up in my eyes. I’ve never had a word to name my feelings. But yes! At 35, never married, no kids, and never really dated, I have a fear my life will never look the way I so deeply desire.
I have had thoughts cross my mind about searching outside of the Christian community, however, the desire I have to keep God first and maintain the peace in my life is greater than my desire to be married.
I may could have been married a long time ago, however, I don’t want a cornball, and I too, have a dominate personality. I also need someone to match it or be more dominate.
This was such a life giving talk!!
"There's this sense where it can't always be about everything I want because I can get all that I want and find out that that was not what I needed." 😊
Woooooh! This conversation is all around gold! Bless you both for these points. Protection not punishment!
When Jackie said, “blush,” I thought she could be a comedian. 🤣🤣🤣
She is one low-key 🤣
“Sometimes what we think is punishment is actually protection” that one hit 🥺 thanks Jackie for the word and thank you Jesus for your protection
Whoa! This talk is deep, rich in content, super uplifting and says it straight. Love! ❤
I've been living this single life on the side with God for almost 30 years. Thank you both for your transparency. I still have a desire to be married and yet I'm living out the assignment he has given until....
Keep sharing!
You're not alone.🙏
Jackie: I had a lot of experience in the dating pool cause again, I was a lesbian
Preston: Really?
Jackie: I thought I told about it
Preston: I forgot about it
😂😂 Oh these two hahaha you guys are hilarious
Jackie -I can't imagine you running ....
Preston - from the police 🚔 🤣
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You can teach a man how to dress
You can't help a man be a man 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
When I say that I appreciate you two, especially you, Jackie. Your transparency, honesty with compassion, and focus on the Bible is a blessing. Plus, y'all are hilarious 😂
As a Christian, my biggest challenge was being attracted to a Muslim, there's just so much difference between the religions, you think you'll figure it out with time , until you find yourself having to compromise on your beliefs , just to keep happiness between you two .
This was REAALLY Good! Talking about this never gets old, because it really is a thing that has many of us wandering and compromising. I like what was said about really being LED by God when it comes to considering a mate and marrying someone that does not have a relationship with God. Because this is what I say to myself, Self..."If he never changes, will I still be happy and have peace". To me its just a non-negotiable....#Iwillwait If He can do it for yall, He can do it for me!! Thanks Team Perry for your obedience and ministry!
THIS IS SO ON POINT. THANK YOU
I repent of not waiting and waiting in spaces that were not directly connecting to the father.
This was wholesome and funny. Thank you guys!
"Season we are in is not punishment is for our protection." Much needed word!
This episode is everything ❤😂 and it’s also the first podcasts of the Perrys I’ve ever watched
Thank you so much for everything I believe I trust and I have faith in you God father Almighty and lord Jesus Christ thank you for your loving kindness and compassionate thank you I trust the process of life I trust in the flow of life and I trust myself thank you I trust in the timing of Devine thank you God for working my life thank you so much for everything I am grateful for everything that I have thank you I trust in the timing of Universe thank you for working my highest good thank you for providing me everything that I need thank you for all my guardian angels for supporting me and guiding me and blessings me everyday I received it all thank you I am so grateful for all the blessings after blessings and blessings everyday I achieve it all thank you I am so grateful for all the miracles and my presence I received it all thank you I am so grateful for everything that I have thank you for empowering me thank you for loving me for who I am thank you for choosing me thank you for the power I can transform my life thank you I can uplift myself thank you I can blessed myself thank you for fighting my battles thank you for being with me all the time thank you for today thank you for saving my life thank you I am alive thank you I am thankful for my abundance that surround me. I lost my job 2 years ago due to the pandemic and I was about giving up, but knowing God has brought me this far was for a purpose and I kept on looking on to him..The moment I was about giving up, I was introduced to a business by a man I met in a seminar I went to in Florida. This was not my first time hearing of such business but I took the risk Investin 1ooo USD and it was worth it. information@markhanfarmer , COM 4 weeks later I kept on getting earnings and I started using the money for Gods work. I am very popular in Texas. Doing Gods work always give me joy. There is peace and joy in my mind . I am here to motivate you and tell you never to give up even though the situation seems so though. God has promised his children and he will surely do what he promised his children.
All I can say is timely content!!!! Thank y'all so much.
It's the random tongues from Jackie for me 🤣🤣
But I did connect to what she said, God literally spoke to me about my now Wife and as a confirmation, I asked the LORD to very specific signs and He was kind to show them to me.
Hallelujah.
Interesting podcast love you guys!!!
Rosemary here, from Zambia. Continue doing what you do!! I have been blessed beyond description!🙏🏽❤️
13:37 i feel like as christian women we want a man who doesn’t make being christian their personality (i’m trying to say this the best way possible bare with meeee😭), like he’s a christian but he’s still an individual with his own style, not trying to live up to this supposed “perfection” that christian’s are supposed to be, act or dress like. An authentic, kinda transparent man with PERSONALITY.