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- Soft White Underbelly interview and portrait of Seth, a survivor of child abuse now living in Atlanta.
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I believe this and next week’s three part video with an FBI agent who infiltrated the New Jersey mob are two of the most powerful and interesting videos I’ve ever done. Enjoy!
Agreed. This man is so brave for telling his story.. and with so much detail.
Sweet Lord, that's saying something, Mark.
Thank you Mark ❤
Difficult to “enjoy” but I get your point. Thanks for the amazing content❤
Your work will benefit and help generations to come. Amazing work, Mark ~
Seth reached out to me after seeing the interview I did with Mark. He couldn't believe that as a male, I was speaking so openly about the hell I endured. He said, "Can you help me? I want to do what you are doing. I want to share my story and give hope to others."
I replied that he should come and do my podcast first so he gets comfortable speaking about this topic. Then, I told him how to reach out to Mark and share it on a larger platform. Seth has made such huge strides in the last few months, and I couldn't be prouder of him. Speak out, release your shame, and Free yourselves.
omg Clarke! I love that you helped Seth 🙏you are my favorite episode ❤the stars have aligned for you & Seth to meet ! this subject is close to my heart as my Dad was SA, but became an alcoholic and died at 47. I wish I could've helped him with his issues, but I didn't know how to as a child. thank you for being a support to all of the survivors in the world.
Clark! Your interview has stayed with me to this day. It has helped open my eyes to male serial abuse and how damaging it can be. Your story is riveting. Thanks for sharing. I admire your courage and bravery and am so inspired that u have opened up and shared.
That is very kind. Thank you.
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@@EPM1 He died in prison.
Seth I’m a 38 year old black man and I’ve been on UA-cam for at least 15 yrs. I probably have commented on no more than 5 posts. But this is Marks most Articulate tranquillizing eloquently expressed and heartfelt interview hands down. I’ve never had any of those horrible things happen to me….
But I promise ur details psychologically made me feel as if it was me. I’ve never been so proud of someone I didn’t know and ur bravery is unmatched. Thank you Brother and I will be purchasing ur book. God bless u and ur lovely family.
This is the first time I think I’ve cried … knowing what happened to you happened to me by an uncle …. And you are a brave man and it just brought out all these emotions I have I tried to forget … thank you for sharing your story and you are wrong you have a lot to offer … you have a lot of love to give your kids and your wife..you are much stronger than you know .. wishing you all the best in your future. It can be an ugly world …you made it !!
I agree. I want to hug little boy Seth😭🥺
Well said!! I’m so glad you took the time to comment to this young man. I hope he sees it!! Such a brave, amazing individual!
So glad Seth found the courage to come forward and know he was worthy enough and deserved better. What a beautiful family. You are an inspiration to so many!
@@DQMOORE well said!
He doesn’t cry when talking about the abuse. He cries when overcome with emotion in gratitude for the officer & the grace of having a beautiful family. Thats powerful 💕 1:22:01
He's amazing!!!!!!
He’s a real man.
Exactly!! What a man of amazing character he is!
I am a survivor of s3xslavery. I ran away from my abusive home as a “mature looking” 14 year old girl. I’d been molested by my mom’s boyfriends (unbeknownst to her) and beaten everyday by my older brother (he was severely beaten by our father before he died and was a traumatized child taking out his anger on me). So yea, home sucked for me and I was done. Met this older man and he treated me like a princess. Made me fall so in love with him and then started the abuse that lasted 4.5 years and ended with me being locked in a dog kennel with heavy metal chains and pad locks around my neck and burns and disfigurements all over my body. So…
I can talk about my captivity and abuse so easily. I even make dark humor about it and I’m hilarious. However, the moment I start talking about someone being good to me (like my current partner and the love of my life), I can’t speak 2 words without starting to blubber and cry. I’ve learned that when someone gives me the compassion I so deeply and dearly i have always given to others (and always was abused in spite of my pureness), it makes me not only break down because it’s like, “finally,” but also because I still don’t feel like I deserve it. It feels more natural to be punished than to be treasured. But thanks to the beautiful man I’ve been with for years now, I ADORE his love, and I can’t live without it. He’s not once raised his voice at me or even cursed at me. Not once. It took me over 30 years to find unconditional love, and now I never want to go back. I punish myself enough for the world twice over, and I just need his love like I need air to breathe.
Anyway, that’s why people like us can’t hold back our emotions when we talk about good things that happen to us and why it’s so easy to talk about the bad stuff. Sorry for rambling.
I am a survivor of s3xslavery. I ran away from my abusive home as a “mature looking” 14 year old girl. I’d been molested by my mom’s boyfriends (unbeknownst to her) and beaten everyday by my older brother (he was severely beaten by our father before he died and was a traumatized child taking out his anger on me). So yea, home sucked for me and I was done. Met this older man and he treated me like a princess. Made me fall so in love with him and then started the abuse that lasted 4.5 years and ended with me being locked in a dog kennel with heavy metal chains and pad locks around my neck and burns and disfigurements all over my body. So…
I can talk about my captivity and abuse so easily. I even make dark humor about it and I’m hilarious. However, the moment I start talking about someone being good to me (like my current partner and the love of my life), I can’t speak 2 words without starting to blubber and cry. I’ve learned that when someone gives me the compassion I so deeply and dearly i have always given to others (and always was abused in spite of my pureness), it makes me not only break down because it’s like, “finally,” but also because I still don’t feel like I deserve it. It feels more natural to be punished than to be treasured. But thanks to the beautiful man I’ve been with for years now, I ADORE his love, and I can’t live without it. He’s not once raised his voice at me or even cursed at me. Not once. It took me over 30 years to find unconditional love, and now I never want to go back. I punish myself enough for the world twice over, and I just need his love like I need air to breathe.
Anyway, that’s why people like us can’t hold back our emotions when we talk about good things that happen to us and why it’s so easy to talk about the bad stuff. Sorry for rambling.
Ive watched probably 100 of your videos and this is the first ive cried. 28 year old man.. crying. This guy is a legend. I love him and am glad hes here.
You need to watch the in memory video. Worse trauma was the guy who's father did insane things.
This was hard to watch. It takes balls for a man to speak openly about it. The reach of this man’s voice will start some healing in others. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you so much for watching ❤
Devastating stories. It appears that he tells these stories often, because of the amount of detail that he divulges so quickly. And with every male figure he had in his life growing up. Being a victim once myself, I had a hard time describing the act as it was because of keeping it to myself I apparently wanted to block every single second of it from my mind. So much that, when my friend that was also abused at the same time and it happened at her house by her older step brother and she was abused more times than I had been, contacted me after 37 yrs of no contact because she had moved away and gave her life to her church we lost contact and prior to that we rarely talked at all. And her sole purpose of reaching out to me was to join her in going to authorities. And it took me a bit to admit about what he had done to the 2 of us, and I honestly had completely blocked anything & everything so deep that I couldn't recall anything concerning what happened. So I knew that I wouldn't be helpful in filing charges with the only memory of them being that it did happen, and without any other recollections than where it happened and by who. Which would make me not very credible and could be seen as agreeing with her to help her case. Because accusing a celebrated Metro Police Officer is very difficult without substantial evidence. This man has been abused so many times by so many men that it makes it difficult to follow almost! We add him to my daily prayers with wings for completely healing from so much trauma, strength to discuss each incident and able to hopefully heal from each of them.🙏🪽✌️❤️
Very hard to watch it makes me so sick that these monsters destroy innocent children
You honestly don't want to help which is why you make excuses. It isn't difficult to get an officer convicted. Yet you offer prayer versus actually helping your "friend". Typical church goer 😢@carolyndavis6002
It's sooo sad to know- so many men are living life carrying the scares of grape 🍇.
When he said that people used to tell him that he was "too pretty to be a boy"...
So many people said those EXACT words to me my whole childhood. I was raped & molested by 3 different men (one of them being my father) for 7 years between the ages of 6-13. I've spoken about everything I went through (including a TV special about the sh*t I went through) and it took me a long time to understand that nothing that happened to me was my fault.
Now I'm divorced (but my ex is still my best friend), I've got a beautiful 14 year old son who is my world. His love saved me. I live with acute C-PTSD, but being a father has made it manageable. I fight every single day to keep my head above water, to have a "normal" life. I also was in combat service in the army, I also had horrible issues with intimacy & being touched. So much of Seth's story is MY story.
Seth - you're not alone, brother.
I wish you peace sir
Condolences to you and every other victim of these atrocities. I never understood the 'too pretty to be a boy' comment some give boys/men. 'Good looking' 'handsome' is fine and an actual compliment. The former exhudes jealousy/ envy.
I wish you well sir. I'm sorry to hear that happened. But glad to know you are here. Your strong man. And I'm glad your able to keep on going for your family and friends. And be able to talk about something like that to help people see that they are not bad people being the victim of such abuse. Much love to you and yours man. ✌🏻
Hugs to you. Big tight hugs ❤
This is your gay utopia liberals. They literally parade the boy scouts in front of their disgusting parades and you make excuses. THEY HIDE IN PLAIN SIGHT. You know what’s really going on… but you’ve been tricked into pretending nothing is happening or that naked sodomites in leather parading down the streets and invading our schools is totally normal. Anyone who knows anything about the gay world knows how dark and filled with debauchery it really is. Seriously dark shit. Almost all of them have been molested as boys. Start calling it out. Quit pretending unnatural sexual acts are natural. Quit pretending that they are not trying to normalize that pedophilia. We all know they are. Quit pretending that these gay activists just want to be left alone. They don’t… they want your children. Hell, the San Francisco’s gay men’s choir literally sings it in their lyrics. They literally sing “we are coming for your children”. Look it up, it’s all over the Internet. (If it hasn’t been hidden by now). The emotional damage done to hundreds of millions of children is coming home to roost and it starts with normalizing sodomy, and men on boy “love”.
When he broke down talking about his family all I could think is, THIS is a real man. 100% warrior. Hats off to you brother. Strength & honor 💪🏻
I stopped what I was working on and cried with him- super powerful.
I didn't realize, that we were talking about what "a real man" is.
I mean: when a woman had told this exact same story, would you have said:"That's a real woman!"?
It doesn't make any sense. In my opinion, there's nothing "honourable" about his situation. I hear mostly factors of fear and confusion.
How do you even know what "honour" is at five years old?
@@smoly37I’m sorry, I think you misunderstood. I was talking about the man he is today not the scared confused child. I sometimes forget that UA-cam commenters/readers have an enormous range for comprehension. If you don’t see strength and honor in a man that is brave enough to tell his story to millions and to raise a family of his own having come from such a damaged background, then no amount of explanation from me is going to clear that up for you. As far as hypothetical parallels with a woman as the subject, 🤷🏻♂️ I guess I’d have to hear her story to answer your question.
@@smoly37 no- because it’s not as common for a man to come forward and share their story in our society- it’s highly embarrassing for them and they don’t think it’s a ‘benefit’ to go around with people knowing that happened to them. It makes it very awkward where woman may be more comfortable receiving the empathetic response from people.
I was a psychologist for 27 years and I heard a lot of painful disturbing and sad stories. This one was difficult for me to listen to because it was a barrage of abuse, disrespect, abandonment, and betrayal continuously-it was very poignant to hear that his situation at home with his mother was so bad that he’d rather spend the weekends with a man that was molesting him. You really were out of the fire and into the frying pan and had no one to turn to. But here you are now, and you’re telling your story in such an articulate way and you’re sharing with us that you’re married now and successful and you have two children. That somehow alleviated some of the horror I felt for you throughout your childhood. I’m glad for you now, and I hope the rest of your life can be one of healing and love. The day that you and your friend decided to turn in your molester was a DayYou started to get some control back over your life thank God.
This guy broke down after an hour of telling his story... if I were him, I would have broken down as soon as Mark asked me my name. Unbelievable. Just unbelievable how strong this guy is.
And he broke down not at the horrible stuff- at how much he loves his wife and kids 😭 what a gem
😔right. OMG 🙏🏽
thank you very much
@@Seth_Gehle 🙏🏽💙💙💙
Something major is wrong with all those people. A 12 year old does not run around with a 30 + year old man. To me. Incomprehensible.
I like how he talks about his molestation without feeling like it threatens his sexuality. What a brave man.
Tough guy to tell this
It must have taken years of therapy. I think it speaks volumes about the therapy he had to go through, rather than bravery or something similar.
kinda weird how "YOU LIKE" how open he was about these details.... most of us I think HATED the details. He was brave TOTALLY but for you to like it?????? maybe u just had chosen the wrong words foe the situation (I hope)
Well I'm sure it does..he's doing the best he can.
@@TieWebb69I agree. That’s some sick s**t to say that she likes listening to his story. It’s very disturbing
You just helped a huge population of people who have been silent.
Thank you so much
@@Seth_GehleKeep shining your light man! Abuse thrives in silence. Wishing you, your family inc your sisters a blanket of blessings 🙏🏻💕
💚 from New Zealand, Aotearoa 🇳🇿
@@kerri-annebarton9615 thank you so much ❤️
@@Seth_Gehleyou are a very brave man. Thank you for your vulnerability. God bless you!💕‼️🙏🏼
This is the most impactful and eye opening interview that Mark has ever done. It left a hole in my heart. Seth, you are such a strong man and I thank God that he gave you a beautiful wife and kids. You deserve all the love in the world.
Men who survived SA are still not taken seriously in our society. Seth being so open and clear about it, speaking bravely and in detail, is so admirable. It‘s a powerful way to show visibility and be a role model for others. Thank you, Seth.
Men are not taken seriously by other men. Men are responsible for this. Women are mostly very open when it comes to other women and men experiencing assault (not always of course). It’s largely men that ostracize other men for this.
Women are not even taken seriously. We have a long way to go.
The porn is what started it all
@@santi7470 yes his mother
@@santi7470 Porn made that sicko rape him?
Seth saved so many other kids from being abused by this monster. He was so, so brave despite all he went through in his then short life. I wish he realizes that too.
Yep, I wonder why his "older brother" Jacob didn't save him as he saved his younger friend. Great job, Seth!!
I'm surprised that he didn't question his friend Jacob because Jacob basically allowed his friend to be a replacement for himself. He should have protected Seth knowing what was going to happen to him
jacob was a child too he’s not to blame
@@joancarrino890sounds like Jacob was naive thinking he wouldn’t do it to anyone else. Remember Seth didn’t even think he would try with the friend he brought over. Jacob was shocked when Seth told him. Stop blaming victims.
@@svetlanaapryatkina5794 Jacob was a victim and a child too! Victim blaming is gross!
Seth you are amazing. I cried with you, I’m a sexual abuse survivor, I’m married and have 4 children. I’m 61 and my abuser was never punished. You are about my children’s age. Hugs to you!
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Your mom was a jerk. She clearly was not mentally well to have had three kids so young. All of you should have been adopted out!
Thanks to this man...i cried out my trauma...and while i work, i turned this on...i am thankful for him telling this story, and helping me to let go. And you, i hope you can publish more of stories like this to help others. Thank you all, and team that makes this videos.
Seth is a brother of mine and a mentor, we’ve been training jiu jitsu for a couple years together and he is a stand up guy on and off the mat. I’ve had the pleasure of being apart of the first production in which Seth told his story. The grind and adversity this man has gone through by telling his story again and again just so it would reach the right audience. Having to constantly relive what happened to him for the sake of spreading awareness for this type of thing is beautiful and selfless.
God bless you Seth
I hope he knows how important what he is doing is for others. ❤
This reminds me: Have you ever heard Joe Rogan talk about the time he was a young teen and had a similarly very large man with whom he and a friend were staying the night take a pass at him? Joe said it freaked him out because he realized the guy could force himself on them and have his way. They were nervous and left the first chance they got. I seriously think that may be why Rogan got into martial arts. He was profoundly vulnerable at that moment and I'm sure he never wanted to feel that way again.
What happened to Seth’s sister? Is she living a normal life now? Do they keep in touch? Did he cut off his mom? He’s amazing.
Please tell him I said thank you! Sending Seth so much love and gratitude for sharing his life with the world. I'm so proud of the man he's become. Also his wife sounds like an angel ❤
Thank you for hugging Seth at the end, Mark. I feel like that hug came from all of us watching who are crying along with him. What an amazing, resilient, and generous spirit Seth has.
I just got to the part where the two guys went to sleep together but haven't gotten far enough. I'm scared.
I sobbed watching him cry. I am NOT a cryer. His emotion was so genuine and so appropriate. It tore me up.
Seth has overcome so much. I can hear in this interview that he has had counseling. The best gift he could have gotten is to work through his trauma.
God bless you, Seth! 🙏🏼
Me too and I am just at the beginning. I hurt so much for him. I am finding the comments are really helping. To know there are good people stl in this world.@cartergomez5390
i love that he doesn't cry from horror he went through but cries when he talks about all that hes accomplished since.
He feels undeserving 😢
Because he is/was comfortable in the chaos as that was all he knew. The accomplishments are a new feeling that he doesn't quite know how to deal with yet.
I have a feeling it's because he is proud, and he can still remember all the voices in his life, and from within himself that told he he couldn't do it. He fought those like a warrior and the fact that he sheds tears for that is beautiful.
@@jonhutchinson2902VERY well said
So brave and inspiring 💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹🥰 I love that he's still moved in his spirit with gratitude and tenderness - when he really has every reason to be a nut case! God Bless Seth 🙏🏼
So proud of you Seth!! Thank you for being so transparent. Your story is helping millions!!
I normally don’t have the patience to watch something that’s nearly 90 minutes long but this had my full attention from start to finish. This was easily one of the most riveting, disgusting, remarkable, incredible, unbelievable, and inspiring experiences I’ve ever heard someone talk about. I am beyond blown away by this man’s bravery and courage.
You wrote exactly what I was thinking. Thank you. Yes- this man is remarkably brave.
What a MAN. He is a walking example that despite what you have gone through, you can make out successful on the other side. Don't let evil win.
@@KaLee-ml1ksWhat are you saying? Are you saying he is emasculated because he was assaulted? Are you serious?
@@joekeller8936 he chose to be molested. He even said as much.
Thank you ❤
@@joekeller8936 I’m just saying he took it like a chick, that makes him at the very least gender-flexible.
@@Seth_Gehle you’re welcome!
No interview on this platform has affected me like Seth's story. He is a true portrait in courage and perserverance. He is trying to use the terrible things that happened to him a a child for good. What an inspiration!
Thank you ❤
Meee too I cried so much hearing his story ❤
Seth, I’m so proud of you. You deserved a mama who cherished you, a safe home, and a life free of abuse. You deserved so much more, yet the strength you show in this video is awe inspiring. Thank you for sharing your story, I’m certain it will help others heal to know they aren’t alone. I wish you and your family a lifetime of love and happiness.
Thank you ❤
As a father of a 3 year old daughter. Listening to the accounts of brave people like seth, it gives me so much information to look out for and signs of abuse, and how to protect my daughter from monsters like Mondo. Thank you Seth. Be safe out there everyone. Protect your children and loved ones
You can even learn how to teach your children and their friends that your always a safe parent not just for your own babies🖤
Just being in her life lessons her chances of being molested by so much. I’ve seen so many interviews and predators always look for single moms.
What a powerful statement to say that “childhood trauma is the most public leading health cost to the public.”
@@heidij75im lost on how you ended up making this about womens rights, not once but 2x in your comment. abortions are not taken away. solution to every scenario that you suggested abortions necessary for: safe haven laws, adoption. better yet: safe sex. i know more kids abused with families that kept them by choice. ffs
@@marilyn1205 Women must be able to make choices about their own bodies. It's not for anyone else to decide.
Part of the scenario is rape and incest, you cannot expect a woman to go full term to carry a baby she does not want, just to make someone else feel good if they can organise adoption.
There is no need for her to carry an unwanted foetus.
Add with under age, financial and other factors affecting a woman's decision..........
It is up to her and her alone.
People need to mind their own business and accept her decision.
Unwanted children bring costs to society, sure best not allow the pregnancy to happen, but then you get all sorts of arguments from people other than the woman and her body.
It is another part of the stress burden for society
@@heidij75 You have logic fails in your statement. Women chosing not to give birth to kids who they can't raise properly leads to the less amount of kids not raised properly. Why will such women once avoiding such perspective chose it many times in future? Seth's story is the story of a child whose mother decided to give birth and didn't care to keep her kids at least safe. How banning women, and ones such as she particularly, from giving birth will increase the amount of healthy raised people?
@@geoffbreen2386 That's odd how no one is questioning male semen being their property and having rights on it, for some people - even if it's fertilized a female ovary. What if we would ban men from masturbation? Or make them donate the semen any time they ejaculate? Or castrate them after a certain age? Thheir reproductive function a god's property! Healthy genetical material isn't so widespread, that would be usefull. Also there'll be less women impregnated during a rape or having the kids they can't afford.
In any society, any country when something takes away too much human rights for people to live conveniently, when something attacks them - they lose their beliefs and show the only one every person in this world has - the desire to live comfortably by yourself or yourself and the people close to you
@@heidij75 Would you raise such kids from some woman unable to afford that? If there'll be a law providing free food, education and etc. for orphans and kids from adverse familes increasing taxes - would you support it? Would you volunteer in orphan substitutions? What would be tour contribution into making the lifes of such kids healthier?
The way he talks about his abuse shows how emotionally intelligent he is. The work he had to put into therapy shows and its truly inspirational
Abuse often does that to people. You have to become emotionally intelligent to protect yourself
Thank you so much. I try to be as articulate as possible to help others understand
I watched this weeks ago and can’t stop thinking about Seth. I cried with you buddy. I’m sorry. I’m struggling to find the words to accurately convey how much I felt all of this. Not because I experienced it but because you are so amazing and tell your story so honestly and unfiltered. I felt every word. I felt your tears and cried with you. I’ve cried since I watched your story, midday. Without sounding condescending, I’m so proud of you. So impressed with the man you are and can see the path you’ve created will help you grow further. The lives your story can change and frankly will save cannot be counted as it will grow for as long as you’re talking about it. God bless you, your strong ass wife and your kids. Thank you for making lives better. ❤
Thank you ❤
It's kathargic for all of us as this society is full of people who endured so much and many just pass the toxicity on in one way or another. You are uplifting also those being witness to stories being told and trying to support for example a partner. Many fall prey by trying to be there when someone doesn't make it, hurts them emotionally or physically or you have to witness how they loose opportunities, happiness, relationships and some gradually their life to pacifiers like drugs, alcohol, work.
Much love and a big thank you & hug from Germany.
PLEASE give us an update after he gets the info he’s waiting on and the book he writes! I’ve been thinking of Seth all day. Such a powerful story.
yes please @softwhiteunderbelly we must get an update. he is incredible.
Same here. I can’t stop thinking about Seth.
Commenting here so I’ll get notifications and remember to come back! I def want the book updates as well
I have watched hundreds of SWU interviews and I can’t remember anyone as brave as this man. I am blown away. You are incredible Seth.
That means so much to me. Thank you ❤
So many brave people on this page. Seth at the top
@@Seth_Gehlewatching from South Africa. Thank you for giving us hope ❤
You are amazing!@@Seth_Gehle
@@Seth_GehleI drive 2 hours to work. I listen to these on my drives. When you finished I drove the final 30 min in total silence. I wept for you. While many will site different things that make a person powerful- our power is always rooted in our voice. Your voice shook me to my core. Keep speaking your truth. As a single mom who was so affectionate with my son I found such solace in all of the hugs, nurturing and gentleness I offered to him and I wanted to scoop your little boy self up and hug you too.
So sickening how these predators watch a dysfunctional family situation and take advantage of it.
Lets not forget his mom wasn't helping things. She knew but still brought him around the molester.. mom is a pos
@@j5892000 Exactly, Seth noticed the mother was an alcoholic and she didn’t care.
@@j5892000 this!!! The people who enable everything drive mad!!!
@@j5892000exactly
Always
This is a REAL man right here. One of the most compelling guests ive seen yet. He is amazing and so commendable
Thank you ❤
Praying for his continued healing and perseverance in this life 🙏🏼
This is some important content that can legitimately save someone’s life. Thanks for sharing your story.
I’ve been fortunate enough to get to know Seth through training at the same jiu-jitsu gym. He is an extraordinary example of what it will take to stop the horrors of abuse that so many kids still go through today. He will change it. He is changing it. He is an example to us all. We need more men and fathers like him.
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Thank you brother, I appreciate you.
Amen ❤
💯. We definitely don’t need more single mothers.
And wow what bravery to say all of this. Solid dude!
Thanks for allowing him to have the time to talk Mark
It takes ENORMOUS bravery for a dude to talk about these things. We just don't do that. Extremely powerful last 10 minutes. Watch until the end. God bless this guy. "TheImpactProjectPodcast" is actually Seth (No, thank YOU sir). Everyone should check out his channel and website.
Thank you ❤
You should “just do that”
Funny, you think it's different for a woman to talk about?
I wish more men would and could talk about it happens to boy’s too
@@nikstar1313I felt the same. Not in a nasty way at all, but the way he worded it just seems like he needs to speak himself.
Hearing Seth speak of his wife & children has me 😭 I’m happy to know he’s found the love he deserves.. I’m just blown away by this story & his strength. I’ll be watching for his book release
This was by far the best story told uninterrupted and not a chaotic drug addict. Great job Seth.
Have you watched Clark Fredrick’s story?
@michelledirelle true but even mark, the photographer has admitted the drug addicts come to.him and tell lies and make up chaos just for $
@@jdukenukem6488 Acha, ok. Can imagine this😀
How much do they get from Mark? I'm a great storyteller and a Meka-Up Queen doin' ugly.
Seth, you can only grow more in understanding of these horrific and criminal deeds carried out on innocent, trusting children. You have to give yourself all the credit you deserve. None of these things done to you was by any means within your control. You have evolved into a mature man, and interesting too. Best of all in your future.
It was a very touching story but a lot of drug addicts are chaotic because of trauma. Stories like these, they deserve grace too
This is the epitome of bravery. What an incredible story. Keep talking…we are listening!
Seth is the best public speaker ever.
I’ve been staring at a blank comment for minutes trying to figure out how to respond to Seth’s story.
Seth, you are not alone. We have nearly identical childhoods. The single mom, the abuse and neglect, the loneliness and shame, wearing the same clothes to school every day, bullies, predators, the poverty, even heating up bath water on the stove during winter.
When my mother died in 2015, I went into therapy. At one point during our early sessions, I noticed my therapist was no longer taking notes. I looked up at her, and nervously laughed, asking if I’m crazy.
“No, she said. You’re a miracle. You beat the odds.”
So to you, Seth, I say we did it. I know your pain because we’ve walked the same roads. Be proud, you are one of the strongest people on the planet. Congrats on making it through the fire. Sending you more love than you could ever know.
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Wow, that’s incredible. Thank you for sharing. ❤
Seth I didn't have it as bad as you but to an extent I can relate. I think it's why I'm a little overprotective with my kids. Better over than under though. God bless brother.
You two are the bravest. The Fucked up saying goes, Every thing happens fucked up or not, for a reason. Your purpose is to voice and educate. God bless you both!
what a remarkable, resilient, sweet, intelligent, eloquent young man. I admire him.
Wow! This is the epitome of what a REAL man looks like! To be able to thoroughly vocalize SA so vividly, with no shame, and not have victimized himself in life is just amazing! You are a chosen one Seth! Keep pushing, never give up!! May God bless you always!!
If God gave a shit none of that would have happened in the first place.
@@pr00de Lol, wow! If you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all! Try to enjoy the rest of your day ROBoT! This will be the only response you receive from me.
👏👏👏 this!!!
@@pr00deyou’re a dick.
I want through a very similar childhood, the people who hurt me were mostly family who i still have to smile at and act like nothing happened, I never told my story, my wife knows a little of what I went through, but regardless that was incredibly empowering, I was very hesitant to click on this video, got me to the point of taking a showering and balling my fucking eyes out brother, you're not alone! I love you and I'm proud of you for overcoming the hell you went through, I myself and married with a beautiful blue eyed son and daughter, they are my light in this dark world, so much of your story resonates in my soul, words are never enough, God bless you brother!
As a mom, hearing Seth saying he just wanted the protection and love from his mother made me very emotional. I cant understand parents abusing and betraying their own child. It just breaks my heart and I just want to give hug to those kids that were hurt. 😢
As a mom too, it makes me really sad to know so many children aren’t being honoured as they should be. Listening to Seth talk about crying in his room for hours after a particular beating and his mother “not so much as come in to check on him, see if he’s okay, tell him she loves him”. It was a big revelation to my own mother and realizing the many times I was terribly ill as a young child, in my dark room, door closed shut, and after a solid week sometimes being segregated from the family, she not once came in to check on me. I always thought, looking back on these things as an adult and parent myself, that it was pretty cold of her, but I always dismissed it as “maybe she was busy/stressed/uncomfortable with illness. But when Seth said that’s what a mother should do, I realize how truly cruel and messed up my mother was. You learn so much from these interviews about your own life 🙏
yeah that was really difficult to hear him talk about how his mom was so disconnected from her kids that she basically didn't question more about what he was doing with this adult male spending time at his house. it's so scary that this is how kids get groomed.
As a father all i want to do is protect my daughters from all the terrible things in this world,i couldn’t imagine what it is to be a mother having these same feelings.
These people are the real monsters. Hard to believe parents like this even exist
Same. It broke me. If I ever hurt my kids feelings (unintentionally) and they tell me I feel horrible and apologize profusely. I couldn't image hurting my babies on purpose or in anger.
This is hands down the most impactful/horriffic/inspiring interview i have EVER seen.
What a FCKN BADASS!!!!
Seth is F'n hero!!!!!!❤💪🏾💪🏾
He is awesome. A man who can speak his truth, shed tears and live a good life after so much trauma is a hero❤
Thank you ❤
This guy is a freaking hero. A real hero.
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thank you so much
@@Seth_GehleSeth thank you for sharing your story with us.
Amazing human being. Yes, a real hero.
@@Seth_GehleWE LOVE YOU SETH!!!!! IVE LISTENED TO YOUR STORY SEVERAL TIMES YOU ARE HELPING CHANGE LIVES!!!!!! GOD BLESS 💙
Seth, your story is so much like mine brother. I’m now almost 50 years old and only recently have made the decision to get help. Youre an inspiration brother!
This breaks my heart as a woman unable to have children, that women like his mom are able to have them and treat them like this.
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Just thank god you haven't had a Mondo in your life.
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What an absolute bloody warrior. How the hell he got through all that, I've no idea. Brings a whole new meaning to strength watching this guy
Imagine the thousands of viewers standing behind Mark at the end of the video; offering Seth a hug and thanking him for sharing his story. What an incredible lesson in perseverance. Seth, the work you are doing is so important. You are a true hero!
Seth, God bless you.
I'm sorry for all of the pain you've had to endured.
You are a light for other's.
I can't wait to buy your book.
You are so much more than your past.
@@ms_trial That's a really lovely thought/idea 🤍
YES!
Seth: I am in my early 50's and I have never heard an individual's story that moved me as deeply as yours. Despite how it still impacts your daily life (and always will in some manner or another), the fact that you've turned something so unfathomably tragic into something so inspiring is something I will never forget! I absolutely hate what you endured yet I am utterly amazed that you took something so very traumatizing and turned into a conversation for the greater good. What a truly selfless act! I think I speak for everyone when I say that you sir, are the epitome of living out one's true life's purpose!! And to hear of your wife's determination is a testament to what true love is (although I am confident you are well deserving of it). As a parent, you're actually probably better than most because you know what NOT to be!!! I cried with you too. I cried because no one should ever have gone through what you have. I also cried from the deepest part of my soul because very few people have the will power and strength to break what would have inevitably turned into generational curses. And I acknowledge (from experience) that breaking those curses are far more difficult than what someone with a "normal" childhood could possibly comprehend. Thank you for never giving up despite the emotional torment and pain. Thank you for your service and contribution to our freedom. Thank you for sharing something so very personal. The world needs more Seth's!!!
Thank you❤❤
I applaud him majorly but i want to applaud his wife majorly too for standing next to this man. Your family is so beautiful and i am so proud of you.
Like my dad would always say, in a marriage, behind a strong man is an even stronger woman.
As a man who has also suffered from molestation,I applaud you for being so strong and changing the outcome of your life.
It's so much more difficult for men. He is so strong. You are too. ❤🙏
As a mother I just want to give this man a mom hug. You are so strong and brave! I pray that you always have this strength and bravery. Your babies are so lucky to have you as a Dad!!
As a mother, it broke my heart when he talked about lying on the floor of his room crying for hours after his mom beat him & all he wanted was for her to come in, hug him & tell him she loves him. I just want to hold that little boy, comfort him, wipe his tears & be a safe, motherly place for him to be a 5 year old child. 💔
Me too!
Seth thank you for telling your story, you’re helping so many to know that they’re not alone and giving people the courage to come forward. It’s likely that you are literally saving lives.
As a fellow army veteran and survivor of sexual abuse as well this hit me really hard. I would often hide my pain/shame through self medication and substance abuse which has been a motherfucker in and of itself. I just never had the balls or courage to say something especially over the comment section of something like UA-cam but watching your interview and observing your bravery of ownership has given me a newfound hope for once in my 27 years of life and for that I can’t thank you enough. God bless you.
I feel you. I appreciate to you sharing. This helps us. Thank you Seth
keep going Alex, never give up. you are worth it.
What I admire most about Seth’s journey is his decision to live. And to make his life worth living.
This man has no idea how strong he is. He brought him down. Wrong kid. Too smart, too strong, and too brave.
Street smart! Yes
As a survivor myself, thank you for saying this. You gave me a whole new perspective. I could’ve been a kid who never spoke out, who lied to protect by abuser. But you made me realize how strong and brave I was as a child to finally express what was happening to me, even though I had no idea what was happening. I never realized the strength I had at that time
@@beckee6282feels good to those of us who must have been too weak in your eyes to speak up. We werent “protecting” them. We just didnt understand. Or maybe youd simplify it to being “dumb”
So much bravery....😢
thank you mark for letting this man talk his heart out he needed to be heard. we all love you seth. your strength is so admirable.
It takes a strong man to keep it together while telling of the horrors but cry when he speaks of his happiness.
He IS A BRIGHT LIGHT!!! This was so disturbing to listen to but his courage and honesty kept me listening. Thanks Mark and Seth for exposing child trauma. I'm looking forward to his book 📚
Over here holding back tears, knowing that all this kid wanted was to be valued and loved.
This is a true American man. We need more men with this strength. This is absolutely incredible, and shows how GOOD men can be, despite being surrounded by so much BAD.
Seth, YOU ARE A WARRIOR!
28:45 - No, a ten year old freezing when being touched by an adult who has spent months grooming him is not giving consent, and my heart breaks for Seth that he ever had to carry the burden of having "allowed" this to occur.
I'm not in a place where I can share my story, and may never be willing or able to do so as Seth has so courageously done here, but I find his story so relatable that I am having to listen in ten minute increments.
Thank you, Seth, for sharing your experience, strength and hope, and thank you, Mark, for platforming Seth's story.
Exactly!!! Freezing is a known survival response. Same as fight or flight.
Compassion for your pain and respect for your strength.
I think he meant "to them" it's consent. But yes, I heard that too. When there's a child involved, it's never consensual. It's child r#pe!
Seth is the definition of a survivor. His strength is amazing. What a powerful story.
Omg this man’s story is gut wrenching. The fact that he survived. No child should have ever had to endure this torture. 😢😢😢
and seth is doing so much for others. these stories need to be told need to be heard it is the only way can stop this or at least minimize it. the abuse of children is so rampant.
Seth, thank you for sharing your story. I imagine it's difficult to be so vulnerable. I appreciate you sharing your story with us.
I'm a 250lb guy that works at a mill and even I've been drugged and abused before. This man is brave.
I’m so sorry you’ve been hurt that way.
@a.marvellehoneyman4560 appreciate it. I can't say I remember anything after a fight in my front yard with the guy. I wokeup with my pants down and money stolen from my wallet. You are the 2nd person I've told this too. (Person that replied lol) thanks again. Watch your drinks
@@jamusloos2859 it takes courage to tell someone, and I believe it’s healing, it’s not your fault at all, it was a violent act and a horrible crime. I will keep you in my prayers, know that you’re not alone. God bless you, and keep you safe, always.
@a.marvellehoneyman4560 I realize this is the youtube comment section but thank you!
@@jamusloos2859 you’re welcome. It certainly is UA-cam, in the comment section but I am sincere and I’m not a bot…lol. I pray you have a good and joy filled life, God bless you and your family.
This filled me with so much rage. That “Mondo” saw a child in need. He saw his eyes light up at the chicken joint that first day and the excitement on his little face at the tv’s & game systems AND HE USED THAT! He used this child’s LACK to manipulate him. And for about the first 20mins ALL I FELT WAS RAGE & HATE.
…I am so happy Little Seth was able to overcome the trauma associated with his childhood and develop into this strong, sensitive, TRANSPARENT man. I can hear him still struggling to understand why him and a little bit of survivor’s guilt like “how did I come out of this a whole person with this loving wife & beautiful children”……and the answer is simply GOD.
I’m praying for your continued strength, comfort, and peace.🙏🏾
Molesters are predators . Just like a lion sees wounded or weak prey are the first ones to get attacked !
Oh... That is EXACTLY how they all do it... Chimo MO...
The most heartbreaking thing is that Seth and other victims think it's kind of their fault because they froze and didn't fight it off...
But they were targeted and worked on LONG before that! Mondo picked and targeted him that very day he took the boys to that chicken place...
He saw the trauma. He knew what he was going to do right away.
The rest of the time he took was just to learn exactly what buttons to push... to hook that poor child and reel him, making sure he would have exactly the right reaction... Not rage... Not screaming... Not running away and telling... But freezing in silence...
And then coming back for the friendship and comfort that child needs so much and not getting anywhere else... Enduring more and more horrors everytime... Slowly, step by step... Until...
It was never ever Seth's fault... Not ever... None of the victims are ever at fault... The trap has closed long before they felt the danger...
I watch SWU interviews daily, but this one has left me completely speechless. It’s so powerful and moving. Thank you, Seth and Mark.
My heart goes out to Seth. It's not often for a male SA victim to speak on the experiences & his strength will surely help others find their light to speak out.
We are so proud of Seth such an honor to call him a friend. 💪🏻
I don’t know this man but wow what a light for this world.
He is a remarkable human being.
@@rebekahhall5346 He's one of the toughest men we've interviewed.
Wow! Impressive. God's got you in His arms, Seth.
@@johnnyringo0506what a wonderful omnipotent god to put an innocent child through all this bullshit.
I think this might be the most compelling interview I've ever seen on SWU. Which is saying a lot since I've probably sat through over 100 of them. I could feel the emotions building for those final few minutes. And my soul must have shattered multiple times when he broke. Our children need to be on the forefront and protected more than anything...including our borders.
Fucking 💯
Wow thank you
I come from a family filled with kind of abuse, never have I seen a more eloquent presentation of such a horrible story. Thank you for being brave, this could help so many children and adults.
Seth, you are a testament of resilience and strength. Thank you for sharing your life with us.
Thank you ❤
An hour and a half interview where Mark barely speaks 20 words at best....Not an interview actually, but a heartbreaking monologue. When he mentioned the name of that police officer, I knew he had meant so much to Seth in such a pivotal moment in his life...😢 All it takes is one person, at the right time and in the right place to completely change the course of someone's entire existence. You have so many reasons to be proud of yourself and being so open and owning your feelings and weaknesses out for the world to hear is so brave! God bless you!
I was molested by a 16 year old neighbor and I couldn’t tell my parents because my Dad would think that it was my fault and beat me. They are both dead now and I have never told them all these years. I am 73 now will be 74 next April. Love to you.
@@davidadkison4702 I am so sorry you had to suffer such a terrible trauma. It's a generational thing, probably. I am younger but I still remember my parents would sometimes blame me for falling down or getting hurt. Not that it would compare to your experience, it's just the only way they believed they could somehow prevent us from getting hurt again, by installing fear. God bless, take care!
As a foster mom I’m currently caring for 2 young siblings that have so much trauma, physical abuse and neglect by their own parents. Seth, your words have made me cry because I understand your pain and you are an inspiration for so many. ❤
I have so much respect for what you're doing giving those kids a safe place to grow and recover. I grew up in a loving home and I weep for people who didn't have that. I got sober at the start of this year and so many people I met during my time in rehab have been through things I can't even imagine.
Omg 😢 no child should ever endure this. You are so strong and brave for facing this as you have and telling the world your story.
I just admire Seth for being so matter of fact about his life and how he became the man he is today in spite of all the abuse he overcame.truly a beautiful soul.
I’ve never cried and prayed for someone so much that I don’t know. Seth, I’m so sorry that everyone failed you.
@@delilahluau I agree.
He didn’t fail himself though, that’s the most important thing to recognize
@@beckee6282Amen.
Yeah this was devastating to listen to. As a teacher, this is why I truly care for every student that crosses my path and let them know I am a fighter for them and the safe place they can come to at any time. I can't tell you how many students I have known that have been in horrific situations and I know that I might be the only person that is there for them. In fact, I am trying to support 2 I have right now that are struggling with very serious problems at home and I know they just need a bit if hope and someone to throw them a lifeline.
We have got to do better for our youth
Thank u for being a good teacher like that! Schools could educate on these abuses & ways to try to survive it @@SquirtlePower809
Please share his book when it is published. What a story of strength and resilience. You are a miracle and i am so proud of you. Your family is so beautiful and you deserve it.
SO proud of this man. He is giving a voice to all of those young boys/men who have gone and are going through this.
His is too close to my own.. tried to stroll on hard not to come back and listen to someone else's story. 51still haunted by my child self.. this dude is a better man than most... I still haven't forgotten or forgiven.. and they all died long ago.
@@Daniel-x4zit’s hard to forgive and forget. Be kind to yourself.
It’s hard to hear life stories like this, what a brave survivor this man is!
I can't believe what an incredible human being this man is. When he broke down about his beautiful family....that got me so hard. You made it, my man. You beat the demons that tried to destroy you. What an incredible story. Truly inspirational.
The saddest thing to me is how he doesn't see what he has to offer to his wife, when it is so obviously visible to each person watching this what an incredible person he is. And we don't even know him
Crying is healing, Seth. We've all fallen in love with you Seth. Take good care of yourself. Love to all the people who helped you.
Seth.... I'm up at 4:30am finishing up your story. Thank you sweetheart. You are the epitome of a hero. Bless you and your family❤. You do belong!
thank you so much
So many of us can relate to this. He’s is the voice for a lot of us. Thank you. The feeling of an older man touching you is so disgusting.
as a child SA survivor due to parental neglect - you are doing amazing. keep going!
I never ever ever comment but this guy! How brave! How fn brave! You are courageous! You are blessed! You are necessary! You are loved! You are respected! You are strong! And your wife and kids are the absolute without a doubt luckiest people in the world! Hold tight to your peace and know that you have a purpose! Thank you so much sir for being so brave! And thank you to your wife for weathering the storm so that you can be of service to toooo many young kids going through the same thing! Continue to heal! It’s a life long journey! Stay focused! Cry! Laugh! Love! All we can do in this life. May God keep you strong!
This P. Is sickening but the mom wtf😢
WHAT A HUMAN BEING THIS GUY IS. You’ve gained all the respect with this interview Seth. All the respect.
God bless you, Seth. Thank you for your courage to speak up. This will save so many lives. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, brother.
I have watched hundreds of Soft White Underbelly interviews and have never been brought to tears until Seth's interview. Thank you Seth for your courage, strength and overcoming every obstacle a young innocent child could face.
Same here.
Me too😢
Same…
Me too. He got me in tears. Seth, you are a true inspiration.
Thank you for becoming vulnerable and sharing your story Seth.
Thank you for watching and for your support ❤
@@Seth_GehleI know I’m just some random guy on UA-cam but I’m so proud of you for coming so far given the circumstances you were raised in.
The supreme example of courage you showed in the telling of this gut wrenching, anger inducing story is by far the most impressive I have seen in a long time. I am truly sorry that you didn’t have a safe haven to be protected from the abuse you suffered. You do not stand alone in that courage there are many who will stand with you because of your bravery in telling your story. This includes your and bravery it takes to stand unwavering in the face of the beast you faced and that beast you continue to beat. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
This is one of the most impactful, descriptive, brave, and insightful stories I've ever heard here on SWU! Seth, you're so damn brave and resilient and I have so much respect for you. I hope you're still getting support. Keep on man, you're making a difference and setting an example! Hugs
I cried so hard to this video. praying for you seth.
This is an amazing human being. He’s taking all the horror he went through and impacting SO many people who need to hear his story. One of the worst parts of suffering abuse is feeling SO alone, thinking nobody else can possibly know the pain. Then hearing someone like this man speak so eloquently and honestly…suddenly they aren’t so alone and may catch some hope.
He may be the best man I’ve seen in a long long time.
Thank you for this.
Beautiful statement ❤
This was stunning - probably the hardest one of Marks interviews to ride out. I held it together the entire awful story until his grandmothers “my baby” and I just lost it. What incredible courage.
That part usually gets me pretty good.
Same reaction, it got me!
Very brave young man!!!
I lost it at the same point too. No words 😭💔
I'm 65 years old and I also was abused by my father and grandfather. My mother didn't stop it. She is an immigrant and didn't know anyone except for dads family.
I have recovered from the mental anguish. It's been a journey for my mental health. I've learned how to raise the serotonin, dopamine and all of the needed chemicals in my brain. I wish I had learned at an earlier age how to transmute this shit. But better late than never.
It's pretty simple really. But I am consistent. I walk the beach each morning at sunrise. I listen to music instead of news, I dance while doing the dishes, I connect with friends and family who love me and support my journey, I meditate (not as hard as it sounds). I make it a priority to self care. It's not an option anymore.
I don't drink excessively anymore. I don't use narcotics anymore. I don't have the food addiction anymore and as a result I've lost 90 lbs in 4 years
I feel better about myself and the world at present. Even though it seems all is falling around me.
I've been to the mountaintop of forgiveness by divine intervention. Another story for another time. But as a result I don't have feelings of anger anymore.
Ps. It's not a religion thing as I am not religious.
I'm just here to say it's possible to recover from horrible shit that happens to some people. I win
How brave of you to share your experience. I'm so glad you have come through those tragic events a stronger, happier person. Yes, you win!
Damn!! You win!! Flawless victory.
Beautiful.
I’m 30 and learning to do this. Thank you for sharing your journey❤️🩹
Good for you! Never to old to heal and let that anger go…..it does the soul some good