How Am I Going to Tell Her I'm Sorry? | Hope Works
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- As a child, Travis lived an idyllic childhood until his parents divorced. Feeling betrayed, he did all he could to anger his mother. When she died in a plane crash around his 12th birthday, he was overcome with guilt for his behavior. The feelings were so oppressive that he wondered how he go on. Pulling a picture of her from his wallet, he read a note in her handwriting: “Remember the good times.”
He said in that moment that he felt her forgiveness. He felt consumed in heavenly love, and the burdened lifted. He felt to remember every good time by recording his memories in a journal. To this day, he said, now 30 years later, he can still recall the great association of the good times.
Travis learned that the atoning grace of Jesus Christ and His consuming love vanquishes painful regrets that had seemed debilitating and without hope to resolve.
He learned the power of forgiveness and how it eases guilt. Happiness, as his mother taught him, is a choice, a far better one than choosing to focus on tragedy and grief and misfortune.
At the moment of his greatest grief, as he sat contemplating how to go on in life with such oppressive guilt, Travis learned firsthand that the Lord can answer prayers with overpowering love.
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Reminds me of a quote from President Packer: "We all make mistakes. Sometimes we harm ourselves and seriously injure others in ways that we alone cannot repair. We break things that we alone cannot fix. It is then in our nature to feel guilt and humiliation and suffering, which we alone cannot cure. That is when the healing power of the Atonement will help."
Beautiful quote
Is that from a Conference talk?
Peter Christensen ... Yes GC not sure which one. “The Touch of the Master’s Hand” hope this helps
April 2001.
Things that come to mind...
- Give people the benefit of the doubt more. A lot more. Especially family.
- Time management. Don't waste time with resentment. The time we have is precious, and we never know when we or our loved ones will get the call.
- Forgive. Even if you're never asked to. (What a tough one!)
Travis, your parents were friends of ours in the ward you lived in while they were married. So good to know you survived the tragedies of your childhood. It was a difficult time. I am so glad you shared this.
Hi Lori! I have such fond memories of that ward & learned so much from the people in it. Thank you!
@@FellowGeto Thanks for sharing.
Travis Ashby ...Thank you for sharing your story. HF used your experience to help my son & me reconcile except he was the one who died at 16 & I continued to live. Our circumstances were similar in that he was so angry with me for leaving his dad. Your words became his words & I have felt his presence on several occasions comforting me. I am grateful to a loving HF whom I know is real and loves us more than we can understand at this time. I am grateful for the Savior Jesus Christ who is truly the finisher of our faith! I am grateful to know we will both see our much loved family member again! Blessings to you dear brother and may the peace Christ promised us be with you all your days!
Thanks so much for the note Donna
and for sharing about your son. It’s hard being vulnerable on social but as long as it helps someone it’s worth it.
So grateful for the knowledge that we can be with our loved ones again
This is a wonderful reminder that Christ can make things right that we could never hope to be able to without Him.
Amen
Very true, with God all things are possible. We're just talking about him, what the Lord has done for him to recover from the devastation he went trough as a child with his mother. By no means his mother was saved and is in heaven, that's guaranteed.
I hope people realise the difference between God recuperating a person, in this case a child, through the means of his mothers picture and the Holy Spirit touching his heart to get over his guilt. The salvation of his mother on the other hand is obviously clear, she didn't walk with the Lord. If he believes his mother is saved, he must be serving another god, not the real God, trough Jesus Christ of Nazareth.
The coming of the Lord is VERY close, repent and turn to Him with all your heart.
I don't know this guy, but I wish I could just give him a hug.
same man
Thank you for sharing. I was just going to send a note to my husband who suddenly ended our marriage 4 months ago with no discussion. I was going to say things to hurt him as I am hurting. I wanted him to feel the guilt & regret for the pain & financial hurt he has inflicted on me. I am praying that one day I will be able to forgive him & myself for my mistakes too.
Hang in there Rae. That is a heavy burden to bear. My sense is that such burdens are not handled effectively on one's own but must be shared with Christ.
Going through this type if trial I had found kindness turned things around for me. His behavior towards me changed. The biggest thing I found was I didn't rely on him for my happiness anymore. This is a road. Rely on Heavenly Father and yourself. Fast like you've never done before to find the strength and it will be there❤. I personally needed to hear your story to remember what I was capable of. Thank you for sharing Rae.
Wishing you well.
rooting for you ❤
She knows hon. Her spirit is eternal. She sees you
I cried while listening to you. I know we both can meet the one we love and say sorry to them oneday. They are watching us, be good with the one who is alive.
Forgiveness is everything. ❤
" happiness is a choice ". I love it, that is so true. Great story. Joy can be found in your focus regardless of circumstance.
Great example of how God prepares, some times years in advance, for those special love and peace filled moments when we are rescued.
I LOVE this story. Everyone has discouragement in life and needs to find a safe place to feel loved, included, watched over, and worth something. Our Heavenly Father loves us and knows us by name. His son, Jesus Christ, is our example and the Light. Our relationship with Them helps us through the tough times. Our relationship with Them through prayer gives us peace and hope. Thank you Brother for sharing your story.
Thank you for sharing your wonderful story. I'm a convert of 34 yrs. My parents got divorced when I was 7/8.. I was devastated when my parents separated and couldnt figure out why? .. My heart was hurt for yrs.. I only saw my dad a hand full of times over the yrs. As I became a teenager, I felt lost. My thoughts we're, I never want to get married or have a family. Yrs later, I needed a father figure to fill that void. I met a fellow in a bar. I love to dance and socialize. He was going through a divorce. I had no idea he was a member. We connected. He had a 10 yr old daughter. We eventually got married in the United Church in 1980. I wanted to marry him a 2nd time. I felt that something was missing. I investigated the church. We had 3 kids. I took discussions. I had no idea he was a Member, not active for yrs, but he supported our kids and me attending a local church. He baptized his oldest daughter and myself. Amazing experience. Our little family were sealed in 1988. All 3 of our adult children & grandchildren are inactive. I feel a void in my life. I know my HF loves me, gives me peace. I committed to the church of Jesus Christ of Ladder Saints. Without my Testimony & the Church I'd be lost. I love my Savior and church. I'm grateful for the Gift of Life that gives me peace & comfort. I'm Eternally grateful for my Family & my trials.
Thank you for sharing your experience and your amazing testimony!
I also, lost my mom. And Dad. I also carried the burden of being mean to my mom. I also prayed to HEAVENLY FATHER for forgiveness.
Thank you for sharing your story. My youngest son was 11 years old when we separated. You have helped me better understand him. He is now dead. I've been told to rejoice in what our Savior did for my son. I can do that better by remembering the good times.
This is a great example of why we need to watch our words and actions towards other people. Because sometimes we may put ourselves in a situation where we don't have the opportunity to apologize or make things right if the person that we attacked passes away. Living with that kind of guilt is not good and can bring us unbearable grief and put us into compromised personal situations.
This proves to me that when God commanded us to forgive one another, He really loved us by asking us to do so. His infinite love continues to amaze me and make me feel so special! 💜🙏🏻 God bless you all! 🥰
Oh how I love this Brother Ashby! He reminds me of one of our sons. A mother will always love her children no matter what. Super grateful I Heard this.
Thank you so much for this! Random but we have the same birthday lol. My mom also passed away and for some reason I thought about the times I wasn’t so nice . I would cry and pray about it too and one night I had a dream that my mom just smiled and told me it’s okay. Everything is okay and she’s happy. I miss her so much and I can’t wait to be with her again. ❤️
Thank you for sharing!
"Remember the good times" SO BEAUTIFUL!!!!!
Travis- you and I served in the CLAM at the same time. You were someone I always looked up to. I didn't know anything about this story. You were, and I'm sure still are, a good man.
Well, now I'm curious. Haha
Very Touching Story.--The Hardest Person For Us To Forgive IS Ourself...!!
Thank you for sharing this message of hope and healing.
Happiness is a choice... Thank you for your testimony!!!
I'm very blessed to have my parents alive as a 53 year old man ...and there together and very much in love ❣ but does anyone draw back from the WORDS :WHAT IF ? Listen to that story reminds me of a time when the tables could have been turned around in there lives and my siblings and I...but through my moms faith that was is installed 🙏 in her she threw things up the God, and let him take control! And now there close to 80 and so loving to my siblings and I and there 8 grandchildren ! That its a true testimony of love and marriage through the grace of God that writing this brings tears to my eyes! Can I hear a Amen ✝️????
I strongly believe in prayers that it can heal hurt feelings and disappointment. Thanks for sharing your story of forgiveness.
What a wonderful testimony. Thank you for sharing.
Wow. Thank you so much for taking the time and effort to share that. What an amazing story, very powerful. This video needs 7.67 Billion Views
what sad moments you went through as a child! It must have been so sad to know that your parents divorced and later your mother passed away. I am sure your mother never took the offense seriously, you were emotionally so hurt and so young. What a great testimony it is to know Heavenly Father is aware of children at such young age. Thank you for sharing your story and your testimony of prayers being answered.
This was so beautiful thank you for sharing! I cried through the whole thing. This young man is so sincere in this video and you can tell that he really is sharing something deep from his heart.
This is amazing, it's so amazing how God communicates with us and I'm thankful as well that Jesus Christ made forgiveness possible❤
Hello Guys Hope Your All Good. Kindly Pray For My Mother She is Sick. She had so much body pain and high sugar Kindly Pray For My Mother That LORD GOD JESUS Heal My Mother And Give Her Good Health. Amen.
This is the absolute best possible outcome, there is zero need to say sorry. This young man was rescued from an adulterous mom and given back to a loving father.
To bad it is not that cut and dry for children.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. My Mom just passed and I have been feeling real down. Now I also will remember the good times. 🥰
We're so sorry for the loss of your mom, @Mericas Hammond. We know continued comfort and healing can come through prayer and trust in Jesus Christ at this difficult time. He loves you and can mend your heart and give you peace.
www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/gospel-topics/grief?lang=eng
Yes, remember the good times! She is closer than you realize & will be helping you along the way to find your way back home!
This left me in tears great story hope you continue to be happy I needed this thank you ✝️.
And from your story I learnt forgiveness isn't always saying I'm sorry but about hope in change so you are strong and dont allow your loss to make you question what if but dwell in happiness and peace and treat everyone with love no matter what because they may be hurting too so thank you for sharing your story it encourages me to be better and love people more
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This was sorta my life when I was growing up.... I can say I'm thankful now but these were hard things. It's hard to realize your parents are people too. It could have been worse, I didn't lose my mother, I love her so much, I can still show her how much I love her😭
What an absolutely incredible story, thank you for sharing.
For starters, I am deeply sorry for your loss, thank you so much for your sweet humble spirit for sharing your story ❤ your mom is watching you and is so pleased with you and knows of your forgiving heart ❤. Yes with the loving and tender mercies of our Savior's Atonement are burdens can be lifted. Again thank you, may you be blessed
Many of us have been hurt by those who are supposed to love us. And most, if not all of us, have caused hurt, pain and suffering to those most close to us. I appreciate this message about forgiveness, hope, healing and the almighty power of Jesus Christ
Thank you so very much for sharing this beautiful story and memories of your past and childhood and relationship with your mother and about her passing and then your prayer to Heavenly Father, etc.! Very beautiful! And it does give one hope!
God bless you and peace be with you in the name of jesus christ
Needed this today. Thank you for your sincere story
You are so welcome!
Thank you for the note ❤
Thank you so much for sharing that. I needed that this morning. :)
Wow! This is a tear-jerker! Have tissues ready! The message is amazing. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for sharing this personal and very private story. Take good care. You will see your Mom’s smile again.
Brought tears to my eyes and touched me deeply. Thanks for this beautiful story.
The atonement of our Savior heals.
Beautiful message! Thank you so much! 😊🙏
you have no idea how much your words helped me. I am very grateful for having sharing these words with us.
Thank you for this beautiful message💖
I cried so hard, thank you for your message! She will always be your Angel Mother💕😇
I love the atonement of Christ. That it is the power to bring us peace through the hard times. Only the atonement can erase the pain of guilt in an instant and we never have to feel it again. I have felt that in my own life.
Glad you could hear the Lord's promptings and be led to the path of forgiveness. Your experience clearly shows God's love for you and all his children.
Such a wonderful story & testimony. So simple but so powerful. This has touched me and made me react and cry almost 4 times while watching. The power of simple truths, the lessons the spirit wants us to learn and the great love and hope that come from it is perfect: just as His love for us is.
What a sweet (and sad) story to help me see Christ in my life. I'm glad the Spirit spoke to you so you could know God knows and is mindful of what you were goign through.
The power of repentance because of the Savior's Infinite atonement. No Christ, No atonement, No forgivenss, No redemption. Thank you Heavenly Father for your marvelous plan of redemption and Exaltation.
He was a little boy dealing with one of the most difficult things that can happen to a family. He was going through a process, a natural and necessary process. I think the guilt on his end should be pretty minimal. If she had lived, he likely would have worked through his natural and necessary emotions in time. I'm concerned that this video sets up the expectation that children cannot experience and process their grief, and should be happy and never angry. As a parent who has gone through the process of divorce, and also active LDS, I got my kids good therapists to help move them through the anger. Yes, we say we're sorry, but the guilt is minimal. It's important not to shame people for their natural and necessary emotions. I know I'm repeating myself, but it's so important. He was a kid. It's fine.
Hi Wendy, the main reason I shared this is to help people know that Christ can carry your burdens if you seek him in Faith.
I hope to forgive myself and everyone else as God forgives me every sunday when we partake of the sacraments. I know the feeling very well.... I think in my past sins.... And I can't even recall making them, as if they've never happened. That's something only God can Do. He is real, I haven't seen him yet, but I will, and when I do, I'll make sure to live with him and bring my family and friends too.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. ❤️
divorce is sadly getting more common, even within the church. as a young kid i thought i was protected from all of that because of the church but i wasn’t. and i was really mad at my mom because she got remarried fast and i later learned she had cheated on my dad with this guy she married. i’ve learned to forgive (but not forget) her. i don’t know what i would’ve done in this situation. heavenly father is truly a blessing in every way and i’m sorry for your loss, but i’m glad you got to learn from this experience ♥️
Bittersweet ❤️ our time on earth moves faster than we realize ❤️ look & remember the good memories 💖
These are such helpful experiences to hear. Thank you so much for sharing
don't wait until "tomorrow" to make up with someone that you hurt or someone that has hurt you because if "tomorrow" never comes and the other person is gone, regrets will eat you up inside. It is best to make up with persons today.
What a tender and inspired story. Thank you for sharing that with all of us!
Thank you 🙏 ❤️ even as a person who knows these things it helps so much to see others who have experienced it as well and through.
Beautiful hopeful testimony. Thank you.
That close bond with Heavenly Father to be able to actually #HearHim is one of the greatest gifts to us. At whatever points in our lives that we find the gift, we must make sure to use it often for guidance that we may be led to light and comfort.
How incredibly beautiful thank you so much for sharing may God continue to bless you!
Thank you for sharing such a beautiful story. :) God bless you and peace be with you.
Thank you so much for sharing your wonderful uplifting story. It’s amazing to me how every one of you that participates in this Hope Works series is meant to be. I know without a doubt that this message was created for my nephew who is 12 and being very rebellious and mean to my brother. His mom has a big influence on his behavior. Weeks ago I felt prompted to tell him to be kind to my brother because I wouldn’t want him to feel guilty if he were to pass away. My brother is also sick. So when I heard this story I was at the gym and started to cry because I knew without a doubt that this message was for him but also for me. Thank you for sharing with us. God bless!
It not always easy when parents seperate I been helping a family over the last few weeks and its good to be able to help this is a wonderful message I wish i could have said that to Zak Zak died back in 2006 of a drug overdose and it was hard for my brother and sometimes for me as well to.
Beautiful story... Thank you for your testimony 😉
Wow that's story is Amazing I mean I underwent a little bit when my parents broke up in past but hearing that story of your mom in Heaven I mean when she suddenly passed away in that tragedy, wow it made me cry also It made feel better cause even if they are separated still now, they are alive and I quote his words the feeling of forgiveness is still here, it's amazing when you forgive someone, 👏 wonderful testimony for us with the same issues but Hope works just because hope is still here in the name of Jesus Christ and the love God's giving us is hopeful I mean when I hear some Christian Music or I read Scriptures hope comes to me and I feel peace like no one else can provide me. I would like to say again yeah Hope works anytime, last but not least Thank you for sharing this incredible testimony I know God is taking care of you all the time, Blessings for teaching us more about Hope and the meaning of Hope.
May an innocent son's example of seeking forgiveness from his deceased, adulterous mother for his understandable childlike misbehavior be an example for his mother to find hope as she seeks forgiveness for her adultery.
Prayer is a most important principle of the gospel. When I pray I know I am talking to Heavenly Father. I love my Heavenly Father, & know He hears &answers my prayers.
Perfect timing for me to hear this message🙏🙏🙏🙏❤
sorry for your lost I cried when I watched the video❤
Lovely. Thank you for sharing. I love you. God bless you. ❤
I went thru two divorces. Both of which I did not want and fought hard to prevent. It broke the hearts of my four young sons. I finished raising them as a single mom and eventually married and my current husband and I blended our family of nine sons. Now 17 years later we have many grandchildren and tho there are scars - Gods blessings have healed much and replaced tragedy with beauty and joy. It’s an ever tender mercy that God has a back up plan when our dreams are crushed. I love this account. I love the atonement which heals our sins and the victims of others transgressions.
It’s hard to not judge those who hurt us. Sometimes people act so selfishly without consideration for others or proper communication, but honestly everyone is doing the best that they can. He had every right to experience negative emotions when his parents split. It would be hard to understand that as a child, if there wasn’t abuse involved. Also wow, I didn’t think I would tear up over this but I did when he read his mother’s note on the back of the card. She was really beautiful by the way. My family was abusive in many ways growing up. The dark times cause me a lot of insomnia, illness and mental anguish frequently. I like the idea of remembering the good times, because it wasn’t 100% bad all the time. I think I should write a list of good memories. It may be small but I think it will be meaningful. Honestly though, I wish some people wouldn’t have children though. I wish that everyone got a surgery to take away their ability to procreate when they hit puberty until they really wanted children and then would go in to reverse it. I wish church leaders would chill out about pressuring people to have kids before they are ready and especially if they don’t want kids. A lot of pain could be prevented if people were more thoughtful about their decisions and made them with good information. Our church focus is too much on expanding the population and building lots of buildings and needs to be more about parenting, educating and caring better for the people already on the Earth. It’s honestly the best thing we could do. I don’t understand why the church doesn’t seem to care about this as much as I do and I’m sure God does. In preventing Christ’s suffering, yes it’s important not to sin, but it’s equally important not to starve or be unsheltered, unclothed, uneducated, not properly nourished, without proper medication and mental and dental health care. I know that the church makes incredible efforts in these areas, but it’s honestly not enough when there are still so many people suffering from all these things. Honestly I wonder what the brethren’s thoughts on this are. The gospel is truth, all truth, not just the plan of salvation but truths that can be found through education as well. I’m not about giving handouts, that doesn’t develop self confidence, but education should be free. When the church starts providing that to people I will feel honored to be a member of it. Honestly I think God’s priority over having fancy homes on Earth for Him to rarely ever visit in person (temples) would be that all His kids here on Earth at least had their basic needs getting met and ample opportunities to make choices with in their lives to become independent and then help others. Literally the church just needs to teach correct principles and let people govern themselves. I wish everyone’s perspective on God would just change for the better now.
You just contradicted yourself. You went on and on about everything the church was doing wrong, including taking away the free agency that God gave them, and then in the end you say to teach people correct principles and let them govern themselves. .....well that is precisely what the church does.....teach people correct principles and let them keep the free agency that God gave them. Taking away people's freedom to have kids while the world is aborting them and abusing them at an alarming rate, won't help anything. Building the temples a little less beautiful and giving it to the poor won't help when you have a pandemic of drugs, permiscuousness, abuse, and other horrors happening in a large number of worldly homes. No you were right with your last comment, teaching people how to be good and successful is the only real way to pull people out of these messes, ....but people have to WANT to do it. Can't force them. The church is doing it perfectly.
Sad story however good regarding forgiveness.. 🥺 God helps with that..
Thank you!
I am inspired. Thank you brother, so much for sharing.
Amazing story it's touching and true. I understand how you felt going through your situation my parents nearly once divorced but I was able to stop them thank God but I still carry the pain of the closeness of it that was at my door in the past and I am glad you found your healing and hope through it I'm sorry you lost your mom I cannot imagine how it feels but she still loves you and is with you and she has already forgiven you so don't feel bad we sometimes hurt people we love unintentionally because we're hurting but God is loving so I get your story everyone makes mistakes but God is merciful and there for you so I applaud you for your bravery to share this
You have AWESOME empathy! God bless you🥰
@@guardianangel9517 thank you I try my best to look at life through another's pain and potential future to become someone great
Lovely message, thank you for sharing.
This makes me think of the Primary song I recently learned & have been singing. I Pray in Faith (14). It really can be that simple.
Thankyou for sharing your story. ❤️
for sure forgiveness is the only way unto us,thankfull and greatful.kitale-kenya
I love this one. It is authentic and real! Thank you! Beautiful! Powerful and speaks of Christ!
Many of the others sound scripted. Actors?
I needed this today. Thank you.
Thank you, Lord.
Thank you for sharing. God bless
So beautiful!
Thank you for sharing and in turn inspiring.
I really needed to hear this.
God Bless You 🙏
Thanks for sharing
My ex and I had a sudden and extreme divorce a few years ago
I still don’t really understand the circumstances that brought it about
I no longer see my children and miss them dearly. I pray that they will seek and find God and eventually I can be reconciled with them
Thanks for sharing your pain and your hope
praying for you
I needed this video today, thank you
We are so glad to hear that this message could be of help to you!
You’re welcome ❤
I think a little boy acting out because a parent makes poor choices that pretty much shatter that boys world, is to be expected.
Its a wonderful lesson & testimony that he gained but I also struggle with a child feeling like his behavior wasn’t to be expected. Im not positive but I think any therapist would tell you its not surprising & he was dealing with way more than any child should ever have to.
Thanks for sharing us