Identity Fixation

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  • New generations - more and more - fail to progress past social strategies conceived by the age of two. Dr. Jordan B Peterson explains how roles dictated by feelings and ego, rather than by social and group progression, can be entirely detrimental.
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  • @geneticallymodifiedpsyche2609
    @geneticallymodifiedpsyche2609 Рік тому +1026

    Dr. Peterson, Thank you. I am a single mother and I am always looking for wise advice on how to raise my child without allowing my single motherhood to damage her, and to give her as much possibility, as I can, for a productive future. This video gave me more direction, pointed out more things I need to address, in under 30 minutes, than many things I have researched. I am a psychology student at a university, but I have yet to sit through a lecture like yours. I'm so thankful for these lectures/videos.

    • @fishhuntadventure
      @fishhuntadventure Рік тому +47

      I was a male single parent. My younger girl is probably older than you…
      What I did was approach the wife of some friends of mine that had some skills and characteristics that I’d thought about and identified as positive and in common with my (in this case) older daughter’s personality and interests. I asked if she would be willing to actively, proactively provide role model, mentor, and relational roles in her life an an ongoing, weekly basis. The woman asked to think about it and discussed with her husband- and then agreed, thankfully, as I had not a plan “B.” That she was married and she knew me and my character removed the ulterior motive factors that one might imagine could be construed more readily with a single woman AND the fact her “life conflict” was as a married family woman I think gave my daughter the best surrogate female role model I could have engineered. I did the same for my younger- a little more difficult due to her needs and personality but still a strong positive influence was resulting.
      So that is a pattern you could duplicate in time as it appears that your child’s father isn’t filling or isn’t available to fulfill that vital role. In your case I think it would be better to ask the couple together if ‘John.x’ would be willing to accept that role and run with it. You do need to be quite contemplative before picking a potential couple and be discriminating with who you even consider.
      I don’t know if you ‘follow’ your posts but I hope you read this.
      Have a great life!

    • @hoosierdaddy2308
      @hoosierdaddy2308 Рік тому +10

      I was a single parent. You can do it. My two children have done great, but it takes you and the ex mate working together for the children. My son is in his residency to be a doctor and my daughter is an accountant type. ♥️🤘
      God bless.

    • @geneticallymodifiedpsyche2609
      @geneticallymodifiedpsyche2609 Рік тому +10

      @@fishhuntadventure I have read/heard similar solutions/suggestions, and have considered something along those lines. I think Dr. Peterson was on point when he called out the higher-caution, lower-risk-taking parenting style of mothers compared to fathers. This along with what he called "the broad-scale distrust of male patterns of child and adolescent care that now characterize our society" (27:30), point out precisely why the notion of reaching out in such a manner (seeking surrogate father figures, that is) is not mainstream, even though doing so feels somewhat intuitive. I agree that every child needs both a mother figure and a father figure, and I can never be a father.
      My personal applications were:
      1.Don't let the demands of providing a home and building a future tire me to the point that I passify her with screens.
      2.Don't allow the fact that she doesn't have a father tempt me to indulge her out of pity.
      3.Don't smother her with over-protection.
      There was much more to the video, of course, but these were my areas of caution.

    • @momplaysdarksouls8273
      @momplaysdarksouls8273 Рік тому +11

      Although Mr Jordan P is the father the majority of America needs, maybe the world never had..he's like the smart uncle who smokes cigars in your basement telling you how to improve your life, but you don't listen to reason til it's too late. Then you miss your wise uncle.

    • @hoosierdaddy2308
      @hoosierdaddy2308 Рік тому +1

      @@kantraxoikol6914 Agree. She needs good males to also look up to. Even if it's an uncle or whatever. ♥️

  • @gregb9253
    @gregb9253 Рік тому +342

    That hit the nail right on the head. He went through his argument from start to finish clearly and methodically. He just laid out one of the most extremely important and complex social issues facing society today in what...20 minutes? Lol. Amazing

    • @antoinefillion-mariage6975
      @antoinefillion-mariage6975 Рік тому +11

      truly amazing. This should be a video that every parents to be has to watch.

    • @mikitz
      @mikitz Рік тому +2

      @@opinion4755 Despite their fame/infamy, those two individuals are the last people for kids to try to emulate.

    • @nitrousinject
      @nitrousinject Рік тому +3

      @@mikitz and anyone that knows kids, knows they will emulate just about everything they are exposed to, which is why curating their exposures is important. Not eliminating their exposures to adversity or anything else in particular, but actually curating their experience as the process of teaching, to provide a solid foundation for critical thinking and the personal growth of the child.
      "Sticks and stones may break bones but words will never hurt me"
      "Don't believe everything you see on TV/internet"
      "If Timmy jumped off a bridge, would you do it too?"
      These statements are all lost to history as words (particularly in using "incorrect" pronouns) are becoming illegal, TV & internet edging ever-closer to being entirely curated by government so we don't have to think for ourselves, and you damn well better believe that, if the government told Timmy to jump off that bridge, you best prepare to do the same right behind him/her/it/lamp.

    • @notinterested8452
      @notinterested8452 Рік тому

      What about when your entire so called culture is fixated on upholding the misbehaviour of other adult children who they consider to be saints or prophets?

    • @gregb9253
      @gregb9253 Рік тому

      @@ThomasDoubting5 lots of words to say nothing. Clearly you have a poor understanding of the Bible.

  • @Daegdon
    @Daegdon Рік тому +613

    "Identity is negotiated... not subjectively defined, pure and simple." - Jordan B. Peterson, speaking words of truth and wisdom.

    • @Daegdon
      @Daegdon Рік тому +3

      @@_nebulousthoughts as well as cross referenced contextual analyses and comparisons, as well as filtering the arbitrary.

    • @AleXoEx0
      @AleXoEx0 Рік тому +16

      What identity should Europeans negotiate, as they become minorities in their own countries?

    • @kevinkelly2162
      @kevinkelly2162 Рік тому +6

      @@AleXoEx0 In Europe we have history and know who we are and where we come from. We don feel threatend by peolpe being different. We dont need a Peterson to comfort our insecure little personalities.

    • @Daegdon
      @Daegdon Рік тому +4

      @@kevinkelly2162 We're speaking of biological science and reality. Don't troll me!

    • @Daegdon
      @Daegdon Рік тому +9

      @@AleXoEx0 Has nothing to do with this subject matter.

  • @stephk5255
    @stephk5255 Рік тому +321

    So often today I find myself saying that I'm dealing with petulant children. Now I know exactly why I feel this way. Majestically spoken, JP!

    • @loadingmikke7451
      @loadingmikke7451 Рік тому +3

      Said the same when I worked in daycare some years ago. Now I work in elderly care with people with dementia. Not a big difference. 😆

    • @zeitlichkeit5094
      @zeitlichkeit5094 Рік тому +8

      Correct. Petulant 20 year old children in college. I know exactly what you mean.

    • @linusgustafsson2629
      @linusgustafsson2629 Рік тому +9

      What I learned by becoming an adult, was that everyone is a child with varying degrees of ability to think and reason.

    • @fluffypineapple790
      @fluffypineapple790 Рік тому

      Confirmation bias! YAY

  • @betterbetty3542
    @betterbetty3542 Рік тому +172

    I could listen to this guy for days! My husband just bought us tickets to see him in Arizona this fall! Can’t wait!!

    • @theohuioiesin6519
      @theohuioiesin6519 Рік тому +9

      Enjoy! It is an awesome thing. Listened to him live twice. You could hear a pin drop and it was a big arena. You won’t be disappointed

    • @julie2424
      @julie2424 Рік тому +2

      Same. But in Birmingham Uk in September.

    • @monatheblunt794
      @monatheblunt794 Рік тому +5

      Saw him in Boston. Voice of reason and light in midst of confusion and darkness

    • @iforgotwhattosayhoffman4296
      @iforgotwhattosayhoffman4296 Рік тому +1

      do you know that in Ontario Canada most people even those who are considered on the right haven’t heard of him and if they have they don’t know what he’s about

    • @beemakka
      @beemakka Рік тому +1

      You are so lucky.

  • @Vera_wondergirl
    @Vera_wondergirl Рік тому +386

    Single-handedly destroyed identity politics in 20 minutes. This man is a world treasure.

    • @gwho
      @gwho Рік тому +22

      with reasonable people, yes, but the identity people never admit anything, and are completely immune to logic, even simply hearing counterarguments.

    • @ossiedunstan4419
      @ossiedunstan4419 Рік тому

      He is a lying piece of faecal matter.

    • @magnuskallas
      @magnuskallas Рік тому

      Call me "them" or you are a bigoted phobic! - You know I'm sarcastic. The alphabet warrior trash first provide me with "Napoleon" papers from the madhouse.

    • @gordianknot6867
      @gordianknot6867 Рік тому +8

      He’s destroyed it in less before, he’s just going into more depth for our viewing pleasure

    • @magnuskallas
      @magnuskallas Рік тому

      @Saint Ratus True but... Juristically the agenda groups seemed to have a upper hand. Now, all their nonsense is on paper and collapsing (beautifully), and I predict while the damage is done, this shite will be flushed.

  • @NutpuncherMcGee
    @NutpuncherMcGee Рік тому +633

    One of the best things Canada has ever done was to try to compel this man to call people by their preferred pronouns. The world may have never known Dr. Peterson's brilliance otherwise. His analytical skills and thoughtful approach to any subject is thrilling to be audience to.

    • @RobertMJohnson
      @RobertMJohnson Рік тому +13

      Newton's 2nd law

    • @MrHeadcrab13
      @MrHeadcrab13 Рік тому +5

      that is the most unintentionally ironic things Ive read in a while

    • @Chesstunes1
      @Chesstunes1 Рік тому

      Stop rewarding half-assed gov. asses by compliments. No work, no reward.

    • @lt0295
      @lt0295 Рік тому

      Yes thank you Jordy peterman. I’m so glad to tune into this week’s episode of “Jordan sits in a room full of firewood and uses outdated vocabulary in an attempt to sound smart whilst yelling about whatever reactionary political bullshit that his oil billionaire owners want him to yell about this week (usually identity politics) to distract from the actual issues that plague this fucked up country that his oil billionaire owners profit off of.”
      Long name, sorry. Had to be sure I fit the full title in there.

    • @Chesstunes1
      @Chesstunes1 Рік тому

      @@lt0295 You are a log. You are used for fuel for a bonfire. Bon apetit! mi amor.

  • @JaxWylds
    @JaxWylds Рік тому +168

    Summary: Identity is neither a personal choice nor a god-given truth, it's a social negotiation. This was a captivating crash course on a foundational theory of developmental psychology.

  • @jaywellington6504
    @jaywellington6504 Рік тому +332

    Thank you for putting into words what Millions of us feel but struggle to put into words with your strong, educated, well-balanced-minded, and acutely insightful voice of reasoning. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!

    • @johnnewell726
      @johnnewell726 Рік тому +7

      @@RemnantDiscipleLazzaro-Rev1217 You good sir are the child that still throws temper tantrums.

    • @milo8717
      @milo8717 Рік тому

      MILLIONS.....

    • @lawsonransom8318
      @lawsonransom8318 Рік тому +3

      @@johnnewell726 yes, you nailed it. 😆

    • @lawsonransom8318
      @lawsonransom8318 Рік тому

      @@RemnantDiscipleLazzaro-Rev1217
      Dr. Peterson just described LGBTQXYZ... members as diagnostically mentally ill.
      "Jung described this as fixation or failure to develop beyond a certain age."
      That is why we call them Degenerates.
      Dr. Peterson putting things back as they once were, and will always be.
      There is "your truth"... lol.

    • @lawsonransom8318
      @lawsonransom8318 Рік тому +3

      @@RemnantDiscipleLazzaro-Rev1217
      😆

  • @imnotanalien7839
    @imnotanalien7839 Рік тому +114

    The notion of Safe Space on WOKE universities takes on a whole new meaning after listening to Dr. Peterson’s lecture on development of children’s personalities. Fascinating lecture..

    • @kathleenhensley5951
      @kathleenhensley5951 Рік тому +3

      Also, the reports of coloring books in those safe spaces.

    • @the2ndcoming135
      @the2ndcoming135 Рік тому +1

      Them: So, not agreeing with you makes me a hater?😤
      Me: Just pointing out how I’ll eventually get attacked for being a man😎

    • @EddEttor
      @EddEttor Рік тому

      You mean daycare.

    • @sudharmansitaraman8377
      @sudharmansitaraman8377 Рік тому

      At some point, we all must wonder: Should we keep safe spaces, but repurpose them to keep the rest of us safe from these adult infants? Preferably in straitjackets and under sedation?

  • @mariaking6298
    @mariaking6298 Рік тому +77

    What I appreciate about Dr. Peterson's lectures is his ability to make me remember related events in my own life and reflect on how I might improve myself. Thank you, Dr. Peterson.

    • @ahmetbaturalpmirzabey5141
      @ahmetbaturalpmirzabey5141 Рік тому +2

      Yes he does the same thing for me too, I just remember that I am not that alone and that I must better myself to be able to withstand the uncertainty.

  • @S_Billig
    @S_Billig Рік тому +38

    It’s been my sense all along that all of North-America has been age-arrested throughout the past 3 years. Thank you for explaining this behaviour so eloquently. I feel blessed to have had the opportunity to send my children to a Waldorf/ Steiner school where free and imaginative play was encouraged as part of the curriculum. As Einstein (who didn’t have a formal education prior to age 12) famously said: In order to be a great scientist, you need to have great imagination.

    • @Chesstunes1
      @Chesstunes1 Рік тому

      nah. you just need to retain imagination in the face of imprisonment (aka schooling in the twentieth-twentyfirst-twentysecond centuries.)

    • @JM-mh1pp
      @JM-mh1pp Рік тому +1

      That is a lie.
      Einstein attended public school since 1886. He was born in 1879. So he started school at 7.

  • @alexvesper7820
    @alexvesper7820 Рік тому +421

    As someone who is getting very close to fatherhood (and yes, at 38 I'm getting close to the historical mean age for grandfathers), I'm extremely grateful to have heard this. It's quite disturbing to know how many things have to go right for a child to mature properly, and how easy it is to derail the process. Especially considering the prevailing political winds are all about putting debris on the tracks.

    • @jzen1455
      @jzen1455 Рік тому +34

      I beg of you to do all you can to raise a healthy well-adjusted child. I personally know way too many divorced parents with kids riddled with all sorts of mental issues. I'm also a product of a broken home and know the struggles of going through such a childhood and having to go through adulthood stuck in perpetual adolescence.

    • @jackrussell3084
      @jackrussell3084 Рік тому +17

      Don't overthink it. They all have different temperaments, what works for one might not work for another, you just need to give them attention and love and hopefully they find their way

    • @timsteinkamp2245
      @timsteinkamp2245 Рік тому +16

      Once a child becomes of age they have to take charge. I ran a bar for years and I told many a new adult this is on you and don't blame it all on your parents or lack of. You are now an adult.

    • @thistles
      @thistles Рік тому +2

      You have a beautiful name. Good luck with the next step of your journey.

    • @ianmckerracher5795
      @ianmckerracher5795 Рік тому +6

      Alex, I want you to know that I am a Christian minister and am presently serving as a lay leader in a small group of Christians in a mid-size church. My small circle includes two couples who, through various circumstances, have had children in their 40s. I want you to know that it is imminently doable. One advantage that these couples have is the support of a social group to which they are connected. I do hope that you can find such a thing for you and your wife. It would be a great help for you both and for your child. If you want to discuss that in private, I would be happy to help you.

  • @brettripley895
    @brettripley895 Рік тому +135

    Just wow I never even thought about it like that before. It’s crazy to think about how the lack of proper socialization at the age of 2 had such a knock on effect on the college aged people of today.

    • @diannalaubenberg7532
      @diannalaubenberg7532 Рік тому +19

      Many adults today never grew out of their two-year old self. Most of them are easily influenced by social media.

    • @richardmajor2563
      @richardmajor2563 Рік тому +8

      Do you think lockdowns improved this?

    • @tylere.8436
      @tylere.8436 Рік тому

      @@richardmajor2563 Lockdowns ruined social skills in kids, because the masking hurt their perceptions on faces and probably hesitant to approach anyone.

    • @peterbelanger4094
      @peterbelanger4094 Рік тому +15

      A major interruption in family structure (divorce) or change in living situation, like having to move frequently, can really destroy that kid's chances at knowing how to properly socialize.
      It has an effect throughout life, and is never really completely healed. despite years of attempts to 'get help'.
      It's not just the college age kids of today.
      It's also their parents generation, who grew up in the 70's, during the great divorce wave. Gen-X has boatloads of "issues", and it has just multiplied over time, now that they are parents and grandparents, the resulting mess is..... well, look at it.... quite depressing.
      Many see the 80's with fond nostalgia, but the antics of the 80's teens were a dark omen of what was to come.
      We should have been more concerned when girls stated emulating Madonna wearing her bra on the outside.
      This has been a snowball rolling down a hill for over 50 years.

    • @jzen1455
      @jzen1455 Рік тому

      @@peterbelanger4094 The issues of broken families isn't discussed enough. Parents have become hedonistically selfish with little regard for how their offspring will turn out and the cycle repeats over and over. To talk about family values is considered old-fashioned or even sexist, misogyinistic, and all sorts of pejoratives. I know way too many divorced parents with children riddled with all sorts of mental issues. In a way, it's a good thing birth rates have plummeted as we don't need anymore demon children.

  • @oneplot5132
    @oneplot5132 Рік тому +16

    Identify is to be found within, Where exactly is 'within' asks Jordan. I love it when he asks such simple but devastating questions.

    • @TheAdekrijger
      @TheAdekrijger Рік тому

      @Heavy Metal Pulp hence the word negotiating. Identity is an continual back and forth between you and others.

  • @michaelcallaghan7332
    @michaelcallaghan7332 Рік тому +191

    That was one of the most concise and understandable essays on parenthood and the necessity for shared theatres of play. I'm very grateful to have something like this to serve as a further foundation in my mind, for my 2nd time at being a dad (to be born on New year's Day). And at 30 I'm glad I made the decision to be a dad at an age where I will be able to run about after my grandkids :) Thank you Dr Peterson for this and many other valuable insights.

    • @themudpit621
      @themudpit621 Рік тому +2

      concise? lol
      we must have different definitions.

    • @nelus7276
      @nelus7276 Рік тому +2

      @@themudpit621 Only 30 minutes when dealing with something as complex as parenthood. That's concise in my book. You must have been thinking about the word soundbite.

    • @nelus7276
      @nelus7276 Рік тому +3

      I became a father at 35, and I expect another child next year, when I'm 40. I'm also a stepfather of two. I'm in pretty good shape with a healthy lifestyle so running around with these kids is easy. With the grandkids, I'm not so sure. It's one of the reasons I advise younger men around me to not wait too long.

    • @johnbrickell6880
      @johnbrickell6880 Рік тому +1

      hi zv

  • @LucasBeenjammin
    @LucasBeenjammin Рік тому +83

    This man is an intellectual treasure.
    A warrior spirit for mankind.

    • @KeemaRice
      @KeemaRice Рік тому +1

      if you have an open mind, please look up legit criticisms of this guy. Interesting storyteller and self-help guy, total fraud outside of this.

    • @thunderbug8640
      @thunderbug8640 Рік тому +5

      ​@@KeemaRice A total fraud in what way. He does have a Phd as far as his psychological background is concerned. He also has opinions as most of us do, mainly on the social issues and most of which I happen to agree with. He also says some things I don’t agree with. You are going to have to expand on what you’re saying if you want anyone to think your claim of him being a fraud is anything more than idiotic vitriol

    • @MakeEuropaGreatAgain
      @MakeEuropaGreatAgain Рік тому

      @@thunderbug8640 But he is a fraud, how many times haven't he openly lied and misrepresented different groups of people? he even claims he is a centrist, but obviously, he belongs to the alt-right. He lies more than CNN and is more ideological and money hungry.

    • @solaveritas2
      @solaveritas2 Рік тому +1

      @@KeemaRice No, the fraud allegations just don't stick. Bet you can't even explain why you accuse him of that, just throwing out a random insult for someoen you dont' like is easy on social media.

    • @nonamenoname1942
      @nonamenoname1942 Рік тому +1

      @@solaveritas2 Guys dont waste your time on this bot.

  • @verygoodfreelancer
    @verygoodfreelancer Рік тому +30

    “Up yours, woke moralists. Have at you!”
    -Count Dracula, 1997

  • @cosmictraveler731
    @cosmictraveler731 Рік тому +26

    Thank you Dr. Peterson. I am one of those damaged children, it took me years to get my head somewhat straightened out, even into adulthood. It set me back so far. We cannot let this continue, not out of hate, but out of compassion.

    • @nug9g
      @nug9g Рік тому

      i feel insanely sorry for you

    • @lechenaultia5863
      @lechenaultia5863 Рік тому

      Wishing you a long, peaceful, healthy and happy life, surrounded by true friends and family, spending active time outdoors in nature and focusing on beauty ❤❤

    • @donovanshepperd9209
      @donovanshepperd9209 11 днів тому

      Me too

  • @donna.2263
    @donna.2263 Рік тому +27

    Many thanks for all you do for humanity. I'm a wife/mom of 2 adult sons and the world needs help! I've been to several longterm therapists and never moved ahead. I fee they each had an unworthy "agenda". Blessings to you and your family!

  • @fartsimpson8610
    @fartsimpson8610 Рік тому +67

    When I see hordes of protesting university students holding their collective breaths, stomping their feet, and screaming until they get all the goodies they want from society -- while simultaneously criticizing those who believe in social responsibility -- I totally understand what Dr. P is talking about.
    They'd be better off in a kindergarten.

    • @tylere.8436
      @tylere.8436 Рік тому +3

      Idk, some of these students are well into their 30s if not 40s.

    • @Mason58654
      @Mason58654 Рік тому

      @@tylere.8436 I feel sorry for them. As someone who went to college, I’m glad that’s behind me!

    • @mikitz
      @mikitz Рік тому

      @@_nebulousthoughts I really doubt that their intellectual or emotional maturity even enables them to understand the concept of irony.

  • @Razear
    @Razear Рік тому +44

    This is such a fascinating overview of what happens when a child is improperly socialized. A child's developmental years can tell us so much about the trajectory of their future.

  • @devonseamoor
    @devonseamoor Рік тому +13

    Excellent presentation, and very clear. I'm reminded of a conversation I had to listen to while sitting on a terrace once. A family of about 6, 5 adults and 1 boy of about 6 years old, entertained themselves by picking on this boy's behavior constantly. The boy was bored, didn't know what to do, and no one caught his attention in a positive way. He was judged all of the time, with negative critical remarks, compared to others who did better than him, in short, I watched this boy growing more anxious, annoyed, and helpless at the same time. I thought "This is a child who could easily end up as a member of a criminal gang, welcoming him not for his value, but for his eagerness to be accepted and acknowledged. Do you see?

  • @betterchapter
    @betterchapter Рік тому +171

    We need a man like Jordan Peterson in this "new world" . He is genius level.

    • @nelsonx5326
      @nelsonx5326 Рік тому

      He IS a genius. He is in our 'new world'. The problem is the leaders of the new world orderare actively trying to destroy him. The truth is an obstacle to them. Men can have babies in the sick mind of the new world order.

    • @justanothernick3984
      @justanothernick3984 Рік тому

      @@iraniandude2899
      Yes, he is.
      The funny thing about "free thinkers" is they want people to dance to their tune. If he was truly free, he would accept people disagreeing, live his private life *_in private_* and stop telling people how to live their lives. But Peterson isn't anything more than a hypocritical marketing enthusiast.

    • @Madnot4
      @Madnot4 Рік тому

      @@justanothernick3984 That's the issue, the left are bending the law and making people either do as they say or get cancelled, this started because of Identity politics getting in canadian LAW being able to arrest someone for the simple act of "misgendering" don't go acting like that's freedom because it is NOT.

    • @Madnot4
      @Madnot4 Рік тому

      @@justanothernick3984 Please, use the tools you have and do some research, be mad at jp all you want, but the day you have to carefully navigate your words because they might land you in jail is the day you will regret letting one side have 0 accountability, identity politics are the tools to shut down anybody. Even you

    • @justanothernick3984
      @justanothernick3984 Рік тому

      @@Madnot4
      That will happen regardless of ideology. You have to adapt to situations or swim against the stream. And I do my "activism" in a silent manner. By avoiding people I don't get along with. The passive route. It means I don't stand in public advocating for change but trying to be the change I want to implement.
      This is as old as human conflict and adjustment is necessary. Cost - benefit analysis and adjusting. I can rant to some of my closest buddies but I'm not monetizing my opinions.
      JBP chose activism and this is the price he is going to pay. Just how it goes.

  • @A2Trading777
    @A2Trading777 Рік тому +199

    Hey jordan thank you for helping me realize that i wasent crazy for analizing behavior of not only myself and engage in thought. Freedom comes at a cost

    • @patriciaeva5702
      @patriciaeva5702 Рік тому +3

      I love this man...
      .

    • @skelter1153
      @skelter1153 Рік тому +1

      @@patriciaeva5702
      He loves you too.

    • @JonahNelson7
      @JonahNelson7 Рік тому

      @@CONEHEADDK up yours woke moralist. We'll see who puts the ' in which word

    • @AleXoEx0
      @AleXoEx0 Рік тому

      Freedom ain't free! $800bn a year for a military to suit Israel's foreign policy aims.

    • @alexanderruchkov8440
      @alexanderruchkov8440 Рік тому +1

      @@CONEHEADDK He was'ent meaning this :D C'mon

  • @Bramandin
    @Bramandin Рік тому +179

    How does one even begin to think through all the layers that constitute this phenomenon? Let alone present it coherently to the uneducated mass such as ourselves. I am truly impressed by this article and thankful that the world has JBP on its side.

    • @jzen1455
      @jzen1455 Рік тому +5

      Also, what now? How can we undo decades of societal infantilization?

    • @6teezkid
      @6teezkid Рік тому +5

      Honestly, I couldn't have said it any better! How fortunate we are to have someone such as Dr. Peterson during such times. He dared to stand up one day and his life changed. And he affected millions of others in many wonderful ways. Im so grateful for him.

    • @rodk691
      @rodk691 Рік тому

      Great question to pose.
      Manipulation of weak and desperate minds.
      Think of the minds behind the manipulation.
      Straight psychopaths!

    • @jamesgibson9958
      @jamesgibson9958 Рік тому

      How ? Practice practice practice

    • @actionflower6706
      @actionflower6706 Рік тому +1

      How does he begin? ( And where does he go from that beginning and where does that lead?) Well…it’s kinda obvious …( but only obvious AFTER he has walked it through for us). He always gives me a feeling of …”oh yeah, that’s right. I already KNEW that.” I think back to history class back when I was fifteen. Europe. The Reformation. The Spanish Armada. The Thirty Years War. Wars of Religion. Martin Luther. I was a good kid, I listened, tried to learn the dates, the exam questions etc etc etc…but there was an important BIT which I never understood. Never understood the WHY or HOW. Like…why and how can people have a thirty years war, much worse than Rwanda, that is about issues like….the Pope, infallible or no…the Eucharist, transubstantited or not, Priest, celibate or not, an Anglican Church or a Methodist Church…salvation by grace or by works…English or Latin Bible…..I just did not get it. HOW could people be killing each other over issues like that? That is why I bought the Marxist bullshit about material determinism…everybody fighting over class issues. I thought that stuff they said they were about …could not be it…could not be what they really cared about. And yet…..the question..what is the metaphysical essence of race and gender…what is the soul…in 2022 that unreal stuff is super real. The culture war is religious war. It is why you cannot reason with these people.

  • @greg1mcintosh844
    @greg1mcintosh844 Рік тому +18

    So easy to forget how desperately he was just a few years ago, we've witnessed Jordon emerge out of that withered and worn only to now morph back to the prolific and polished orator functioning at an even higher level then he already was is beyond remarkable. Truly inspiring

    • @markuslem9937
      @markuslem9937 Рік тому

      Truly, a phoenix rising from the ashes after being burned, rising and healing with tears and magic words

    • @fie4426
      @fie4426 Рік тому +1

      Ikr, yaaaay lets go jordy

  • @jamaresmith
    @jamaresmith Рік тому +24

    I like hearing things like this, It lets me know that my wife and I did some good raising our boys. Also lets me know that I am not crazy for thinking the way I do when it comes to social issues surrounding identity.

    • @the2ndcoming135
      @the2ndcoming135 Рік тому +1

      I just know talking back when I was growing up warranted spankings. In many cases a slap. I didn’t like it then. Still don’t agree with it in full now. But, I did learn some positive and negative reinforcement lessons from it.

  • @claudiodeugenio
    @claudiodeugenio Рік тому +387

    My daughter after school: “How is LGBTQ possible, when LGB is about men and women liking men and women, but TQ won't say what a man or a woman is?”

    • @gumfun2
      @gumfun2 Рік тому +53

      smart little one haha

    • @Ashamedofmypast
      @Ashamedofmypast Рік тому +8

      And clearly your daughter hasn't recieved an adequate explanation.
      TQ state exactly what men and women are.

    • @bobmalooga7249
      @bobmalooga7249 Рік тому +22

      @@Ashamedofmypast OK, please let me know as Im struggling with this :-(

    • @Gumbatron01
      @Gumbatron01 Рік тому +27

      The more letters they add, the more inconsistent it becomes. Consider the further additions of "IA". Both of those supposed homogeneous groups have nothing to do with LGBTQ. The asexuals effectively having an inverse interest to those groups. Though, I doubt that anyone who was actually asexual would identify as such. It would be something that they just don't care about. Imagine joining a club of people specifically not interested in a particular hobby, that would be absurd.

    • @Ksquizzles4209
      @Ksquizzles4209 Рік тому +3

      @@proudatheist2042 the Ts are the natural trajectory of the Ls Gs and Ws mucking about the operations and structure of society.

  • @JankyJake
    @JankyJake Рік тому +72

    You speak the truth. I'm content as an adult that I have finally found logical framework for my beliefs. You provided that. I thank you sir. Please don't stop saying the truth, and putting it out there.

    • @zhatar4214
      @zhatar4214 Рік тому

      @@RemnantDiscipleLazzaro-Rev1217 Yeah, and fields of science like psychology are attempting to explain the truth. They aren't denying it.

  • @amirhass5713
    @amirhass5713 Рік тому +19

    As a father of a two year old, I really love to listen to your videos specially when you are talking about the psychology of children however when you say it like you are reading an essay, I have a bit of a hard time understanding it since english is not my first language and also I’m not an academic. So I ask you @Jordan B Peterson please also make a follow up video and explain in simple words about the same subject for those of us that can’t understand the heavy terminology that is usually used in your videos. Thank you so much and god speed.

    • @NaeMuckle
      @NaeMuckle Рік тому +2

      Put on the subtitles and pause the video when you struggle to understand.

    • @katforgiven6411
      @katforgiven6411 Рік тому

      @@NaeMuckle subtitles cannot be trusted.

  • @Jonathan-vo9dx
    @Jonathan-vo9dx Рік тому +4

    As brilliant as this is, most of society does not have the vocabulary to comprehend it. I would recommend creating a version of this that is geared towards the less intellectual majority.

    • @RobertMJohnson
      @RobertMJohnson Рік тому

      people are smarter than you think, Jonathan. you probably can't design a BMW engine, but I bet you understand torque and horsepower

  • @kuromikendall
    @kuromikendall Рік тому +17

    The more you love your decisions, the less you need others to love your decisions. ♡

    • @diannalaubenberg7532
      @diannalaubenberg7532 Рік тому +1

      Will your decisions love you back? Many people do, years later, look back on decisions and regret them. The decisions I made weren't mistakes; however, if I had to make the same decisions today, I might not make the same ones.

    • @seancooper5140
      @seancooper5140 Рік тому

      @@diannalaubenberg7532
      We can grow and change, and there are decisions that *if I could retroactively go back and make with my current understanding* I would do differently, but I don't regret them because they were the best decision I knew how to make at the time and I therefore have a clear conscience.
      It's important to always make our decisions based on our own best understanding, in negotiation with those around us, but never compromising our own integrity. The price is too high.

  • @kybrancaccio
    @kybrancaccio Рік тому +76

    This man is a Global Treasure. He helps one better understand some of the probable causes for so many maladies / behaviors; things that we see and previously had trouble comprehending and explaining.

    • @jzen1455
      @jzen1455 Рік тому

      Sadly, a large number of people consider him as evil as Hitler. What an insane and brainwashed world we live in.

    • @fruitsarelife7073
      @fruitsarelife7073 Рік тому +1

      Not global

    • @RobertMJohnson
      @RobertMJohnson Рік тому +1

      @@fruitsarelife7073 yeah, um...his best seller has been translated into scores of languages, tough guy

  • @bradlothrop4076
    @bradlothrop4076 Рік тому +29

    Having followed many of Dr Peterson's lectures I could say without doubt this is a very concise summary of so many issues he has tried to address.
    I think this may not be well received BUT it hits the nail on the head, it also exposes weaknesses I have come to realize in my parenting that has made life more (or less?) challenging for my teenagers.
    A simple thing like "You do not get to choose the name your friends call you." seems to fall into this perfectly: your close social group decide your "social identity" with little you can do to dictate the result and it takes some sophistication to accept it and wear the label proudly.
    I am glad that he did take some time to say that "adults" who are trying to come to terms with some development delays are to be viewed with sympathy.
    But the devil in the details is what to find "acceptable" in society, what is to be "normalized" and what should not be to give stimulus to claimed need for further development.
    I can only say that having a world view of "play" being dictated to with no compromise will make for a rather frustrating state of affairs.
    This is excellent and I wish you all well.

  • @WTFpearlsofwisdom
    @WTFpearlsofwisdom Рік тому +5

    Thank you JP. I believe your words are literally saving my life and many many others.
    I’m not academic at all, worked construction my entire life, married with 3 kids… I’m average joe.
    There are many like me and we all thought we were alone. I don’t feel alone anymore.
    I wish you and your loved ones the best of health.
    You have my gratitude, admiration and support sir.
    God bless you.

  • @arcadis
    @arcadis Рік тому +280

    Who would have guessed that saying that everything is political would eventually lead to government trying to legislate every aspect of our lives?
    Thank for your voice, Dr. Peterson.

    • @JaketheJust
      @JaketheJust Рік тому +7

      Well we had people like Jefferson, Paine, Mill, Huxley, Orwell. They all can say, “You were warned.”

    • @nathanhorne9623
      @nathanhorne9623 Рік тому +3

      @@JaketheJust Absolutely, some say the road to hell is paved with gold. Sure, but the people you mention have put up neon warning signs, all along it's way.

    • @ryanpmcguire
      @ryanpmcguire Рік тому +8

      @j this comment makes no sense. Why is this comment section full of people spouting paragraphs of literal nonsense? Perhaps an attempt to poison the well with bots?
      Edit: upon rereading I am certain the comment in question was left by a bot. They probably used a weak version of the GPT-J engine. Look at how a single word in the lengthy run on sentence can make it completely change its course of thought. Just verbal meandering - nothing there.

    • @lilmil1565
      @lilmil1565 Рік тому +1

      @@ryanpmcguire his comment made perfect sense, read it again

    • @lilmil1565
      @lilmil1565 Рік тому +2

      @@ryanpmcguire his first statement in his comment reads “the yearn to belong to belong by identity is human nature” meaning we organize ourselves into social groups. this behavior isnt just seen in humans but in several other species of primate aswell, meaning it predates human evolution, a true statement. second he says that the age of digital identity has further divided society which is observable in twitter most obviously, the modern public square where political issues are discussed. you see the right and the left are at eachothers throats with no negotiation between the two. hyper polarization. ignoring the fact that it is the left who wont engage with the right. the unwillingness to negotiate is and is going to continue to manifest itself into society in the form of violence. along with all the other problems facing us just outside the horizon (economic, and the coming famines). carl segans equation becomes plausibly accurate. and the 2020 critical point being the long periods of isolation which in tern gave people even more motivation to spend all their time scrolling through the pathological swamp that is twitter and consequently less real human interaction.

  • @izzydeadyet7336
    @izzydeadyet7336 Рік тому +6

    A fellow addict once said that the age a person is when they first become addicted is the age they stay if/ until they come out of addiction.. I believe this is true, because I got addicted early, around 21 years old, and now at 38 I still wear almost all the same clothes and people often mistake me for being much younger than I am, I was getting IDd till I was about 30! I see alot of other addicts who are getting older but still wearing clothes they would've worn in high school .. Jordan just confirmed that

  • @TheChadPad
    @TheChadPad Рік тому

    Here's from a man who posted on another video of Jordan Peterson's, not on this channel, and with his permission I am posting it here because I thought it was so good.
    "Dr Peterson, Sir. I watch your lectures over and over again. Listening to you articulate your points is always a refreshing learning experience.
    Never in my life, until one year ago, did I know you even existed. Or anyone like you!
    Today's technology allows so many to know you. I'm always astonished and perplexed when you receive negative responses from anyone.
    You've been exposed to the world that needs you, and other like minded persons, for clear understandings. Not only of the world we live in. But of our own minds.
    As always. Thank you, and your Family, for the hard work and dedication to educating, all before us, all of us presently, and those ahead.
    All, despite the difficulties that may lie ahead, thanks to your invaluable efforts your entire life.
    You are, and will always be, one of the top lecturers of our time. If not the top!?
    Admired. Loved. Always astonished and grateful for your work.
    jb"

  • @stevenbierlink6695
    @stevenbierlink6695 Рік тому +8

    It's hard to watch how accurate this is. And it goes on, and on, and on, with crystal clear accuracy. To the point where many would be disturbed and stop watching. But those are the ones that need it, including myself. Thank you for your knowledge and willingness to press on.

  • @teckkiongeu4861
    @teckkiongeu4861 Рік тому +27

    When I was younger and engaged in early childhood education in my country, I read a lot of books on early childhood development from the west. There were many good healthy stuff to grab and practise. These materials are educational and benefited a whole generation. Now in my 60s, these good stuff are not readily available anymore. It is refreshing to hear you speaking about the importance of early childhood development.

  • @DELO480
    @DELO480 Рік тому +25

    Nail on the head after nail on the head. I was born in the mid 80s and I've observed and experienced the kind of TV upbringing that you describe. You identify very precisely the collateral damage we're experiencing from how we're raising our kids. Thank you for articulating this idea in this way. We love our kids, right? Everyone is connected, but no one is connecting. I hope we see a resurrection of fatherly principles that guide youth in the early stages of life. It's so sad to see that relationship drift so far.

    • @zilvente
      @zilvente Рік тому +5

      DELO480, Very true, but just like it took a couple of generations for the damage to be done so it will take a couple of generations for the damage to be undone, if at all, hopefully it will.

    • @jzen1455
      @jzen1455 Рік тому +4

      80s/90s latchkey kid reporting in. It feels hopeless that society will change for the better and become more mature.

    • @mikitz
      @mikitz Рік тому +1

      'The more elaborate our means of communication, the less we communicate.'
      - J. B. Priestley

    • @mikitz
      @mikitz Рік тому +1

      Being also born in the mid-80's, I started to notice the true level of infantilization of people of my own age back in the early 2000's. And, believe me that now, two decades later, the situation hasn't improved at all.

    • @RobertMJohnson
      @RobertMJohnson Рік тому

      @@mikitz yeah, we all know, dude. it's not lost on anyone except the leftists and progressives who see it all as a great thing.

  • @Fingolfin3423
    @Fingolfin3423 Рік тому +23

    Jordan, this is one of the best videos you've made. I haven't been able to watch all of your content simply due to the large amount of it, but your sequencing and clarity in this video is great. It's another important topic, too.

  • @demonview6075
    @demonview6075 Рік тому +3

    I keep thinking “this is the best one of these yet” as he’s wrapping up.
    As sharp as ever - thank you Dr. Peterson - really looking forward to seeing you in London!

  • @TheAnadromist
    @TheAnadromist Рік тому +57

    The first part of this video essay is what we would expect.
    But the summary breakdown of childhood development is quite stunning. Thanks Jordan.
    Lot's stunted children out there.

    • @TheWestlandgirl
      @TheWestlandgirl Рік тому +1

      Explains why we should not give in but like older siblings and friends tell them to k
      knock it off so to speak.

    • @josephtravers777
      @josephtravers777 Рік тому

      Lack of discipline, plain and simple.

  • @70A13
    @70A13 Рік тому +199

    We need to protect this man

    • @matthewcurry3565
      @matthewcurry3565 Рік тому +3

      He's already protected. Like the hero's of the past.... When they are a real threat they are slain quickly. Jordan plays the same dismantling agenda in a very bizarre way which hypnotizes you. He is well protected, and kept for a tool.

    • @rebeckahaubertin3637
      @rebeckahaubertin3637 Рік тому +2

      protect this good man and his network..further his work of honesty and healing AMEN🙏

    • @rebeckahaubertin3637
      @rebeckahaubertin3637 Рік тому +5

      @@matthewcurry3565 we are all tools lol..its how you let that tool get used that matters

    • @matthewcurry3565
      @matthewcurry3565 Рік тому +3

      @@talmadhoun What do you mean? Who's protecting him? Well first his own fan base is a good start, then I'm sure he has security, and then from there who knows really. He is a valuable asset to say the least, and fuels peoples hope with the most obvious statements meaning zombieland is much worse than expected. The people who may have a lot to lose probably like him, because he is anti physical movement, and just rambles not really even suggesting how to legislatively change anything. He's just hand feeding psychosis zombies with a religious like hope of the obvious in which appears like some great wisdom. He's also in a hierarchical position to say these things without being labeled as paranoid, mentally ill, and so on like everyone below.

    • @matthewcurry3565
      @matthewcurry3565 Рік тому +1

      @@rebeckahaubertin3637 yup.

  • @mosheglick295
    @mosheglick295 Рік тому +1

    Let this be a note to all those who hate humanity and place the planet before humans know that if you ever doubt humans right to inherit the earth look at Jordan Peterson and listen to his words… you’ll find it mankind is more than deserving to exist live love and be truthful. And one of the reasons I say look to Jordan Peterson is because within his words we have all found ourselves connecting and feeling the same way. He speaks the voice of the people, he speaks the voice of all those who do not know how to turn their feelings into words or cannot express themselves in the way that the media can except. Jordan Peterson is my hero and he is the voice of all nations, the voice of all religions, the voice of humanity.❤ Hope you be strong Jordan and I’m sorry for all the hurt and pain you went through. And last Thank you for being alive I don’t know where I would be without you.❤

  • @toreoft
    @toreoft Рік тому +3

    There we have the explanation of all the "identifying as" problems, in ONE video. Remarkable!

  • @oliviermgbra6675
    @oliviermgbra6675 Рік тому +46

    For all of those who have matured past the level of an egocentric and sometimes violent 2 year old, identity is negotiated, not subjectively defined. - Jordan Peterson.

  • @gamechannelminecraft6583
    @gamechannelminecraft6583 Рік тому +33

    Hello everyone, good viewing

  • @jewelssylva3738
    @jewelssylva3738 Рік тому +63

    When my husband left me with 3 children, all still in diapers, I realized that I could tend to 'baby' them. I also had learned that a child's inner ear development benefited from dad's tossing children into the air. Something that makes some mom's cringe. I knew they needed to wrestle to understand what hurts themselves ... & therefore hurts others.
    This was in the early 80's I don't know how I knew it. But I made sure that they got to spend time with my brother-in-law. He stepped up teaching them guy stuff. He dedicated time for them. Maybe more time than a lot of dads.
    I also made myself resist the tendency to stop my kids from climbing trees & such 'dangerous' activity. I once had to climb the tree to help my youngest who got up & couldn't get down. Even then I guided her down herself. "Grab that branch ... step down to your right ... etc". We had wrestling fests with all of us on my bed.
    I hadn't planned to be a single mom. But I wasn't under the impression that I could be everything a was dad too. I prayed a LOT 🙏 Thank God for answered prayers.

    • @Xcess007
      @Xcess007 Рік тому +8

      That was very heartwarming to read. Wish you and your kids the best!

    • @gaia7240
      @gaia7240 Рік тому +4

      3 kids are a lot, I really admire you

    • @jewelssylva3738
      @jewelssylva3738 Рік тому +6

      @@Xcess007 thank you, all of my children are now happily married & productive citizens in their communities. My prayers answered.

    • @jewelssylva3738
      @jewelssylva3738 Рік тому +1

      @@gaia7240 Thanks, it was a lot harder without a partner. But I have known women raising 5 or 6 children. Because the guys can just check out on their vows to his wife & his responsibility to his own children.

    • @groofromtheup5719
      @groofromtheup5719 Рік тому +3

      I pulled Mr. Mom duty for the first few years of our first couple of children. Not too long after I accepted my limitations causing our family income to drop slightly in the short term, we went to a small regional zoo. While at the zoo, I took my 2nd (girl, probably about 18 months at the time) to the swings. So, I am there just flinging her, and she is having a blast. A mother brings her son (probably 3 or 4) to the swing next to us, and the kid was freaking out whenever he goes even half as high as my younger daughter was comfortable with. I could tell that the kid was going to have problems with the way he was being coddled. I think we all know that kids need that physical play at a young age, but we far too often sacrifice our children's development to their mother's comfort. It won't end well for anyone. I applaud you ability to put your children above your comfort level.

  • @Jeremy5000i
    @Jeremy5000i Рік тому +11

    Absolutely remarkable Jordan. I can’t even put into words the amount of insight and knowledge you have given me over the years. This is one of the best essays I’ve ever heard from you. It explains so much about todays youth. I thank you with all of my heart and soul for everything you do for society.

  • @leonardpeters3266
    @leonardpeters3266 Рік тому +15

    I will most certainly chew on this one for a while. As a parent I get a great picture of everything I did wrong or right now that my children have grown. I most certainly think that protecting my children to much was one of my worst mistakes.

  • @oligb1469
    @oligb1469 Рік тому +146

    Say what you will about this man, he can certainly enthral you in lectures every word of his has precise power behind them and I respect that.

    • @blueocean1079
      @blueocean1079 Рік тому +4

      @@RemnantDiscipleLazzaro-Rev1217
      What are you talking about?
      Have you watched what he's talking about??

    • @brigitteellis282
      @brigitteellis282 Рік тому

      I can't wait for every thing he has to say!!

    • @emostoic6709
      @emostoic6709 Рік тому

      @@RemnantDiscipleLazzaro-Rev1217 Er yeah.. definitely the 'up voters' are the cultists, certainly not the pious Disciple Lazzaro!

    • @zhatar4214
      @zhatar4214 Рік тому +1

      @@InfinitusYT you're being manipulated into believing you can't be manipulated
      also how are people watching and agreeing with peterson considered manipulation, lol
      If you disagree with him you are free to offer counter arguments.
      Totally denying each of his word is just as short sighted as agreeing with every single one.

    • @solaveritas2
      @solaveritas2 Рік тому +1

      @@RemnantDiscipleLazzaro-Rev1217 I might have given your words some attention had you not used the word "enslaved," that's just ridiculous.

  • @captainsirk1173
    @captainsirk1173 Рік тому +11

    I think a pretty good sign that you're seeing the world in a potentially unhealthy way is when a social label becomes more crucial in your perception of your identity than your own first name.

  • @carolineoconnor2461
    @carolineoconnor2461 Рік тому +3

    This is the best JP thought piece I have ever seen. It has made me reflect on my own childhood in a new light. I was a child that preferred to watch TV than play with my peers. I didn't enjoy competitive play and I preferred the company of adults to that of children. I found it almost impossible to fit in with my peers in secondary school and spent much of my time by myself. Im almost 30 and I have suffered with profound mental health problems since my late teens. It seems to me that my delayed development fostered the anxiety and depression I have fought against for the last 10 years. This thesis makes so much sense to me. It's very healing and enlightening to know that I'm not alone in my struggle to develop into a mature adult. Thank you Jordan for writing this piece and sharing it with us. 💖💖💖

    • @TheWestlandgirl
      @TheWestlandgirl Рік тому

      And also knowing why is important for release of depression. Knowing is ha lj f the battle. Letting go and loving yourself is the other half.

  • @teambenjamin1
    @teambenjamin1 Рік тому +143

    Superb explanation of what’s troubling our society today. I was just thinking about the children out there who are confused about their sex/gender because parents refuse to give them a compass to guide them in the right direction. Instead of letting children go through puberty so that they can develop biologically with the hormones that define and cement their sex/gender and thereby feel like they are indeed in the “right body”, puberty blockers are given to inhibit their physical and emotional development. How horrible to let a child believe that their own body isn’t good enough for them and that they must have surgery to “fix it”.

    • @joriankell1983
      @joriankell1983 Рік тому

      We should stop using the word gender. It was coined by a madman named Dr. John Money. The John Money experiment was horrifying

    • @4orion2
      @4orion2 Рік тому

      Ää

    • @kathleenhensley5951
      @kathleenhensley5951 Рік тому +10

      Can you imagine the pain they are going to suffer as they grow up and the natural hormones start doing to swings back and forth that they tend to do as the body reaches middle and old age? And they are going to be on medications a lifetime. What happens when they reach 50? It is hard enough to have medications in old age... they are never going to have a time when they aren't tied to the pharmaceutical companies. Oh, ouch. I don't envy them.. all this tinkering is going to harm a lot of people that didn't need to be harmed.

    • @andreymontag
      @andreymontag Рік тому +1

      Why should parents bother with guiding children into correct gender roles if they are biologically determined anyways.
      Leaving it to children is just letting nature have its way

    • @blakearius
      @blakearius Рік тому +13

      @@andreymontag Don't you think kids, especially young teenagers are susceptible to marketing/trends and "grass is greener over fence" effect. When I was younger I thought I'd look better as a girl cause i'm so skinny but I never thought I was a girl because there wasn't a whole industry making me think genital surgery and drugs will solve identity issues. Only acceptance from society and yourself can solve that.

  • @timwied-juul8131
    @timwied-juul8131 Рік тому +24

    From the bottom of my being, thank you for this amazing and insightful video.
    Thanks Mr. Peterson.
    For you are truly a savior in our times.
    A savior standing in the front against, the true demonic forces trying to tear the family apart.

  • @Marshallgill
    @Marshallgill Рік тому +8

    It is quite interesting to hear a professional like Dr Peterson explain this mental illness. We see so much of it today and I have often wondered from where it came. Now I know.

  • @1cnfour349
    @1cnfour349 Рік тому +2

    I appreciate the writing of thoughts down, it enables me to organize my thoughts…thank you for being a benefit to all

  • @RiverReeves23
    @RiverReeves23 Рік тому +9

    That was, by far, the most intelligent monologue I've heard in years.

  • @dapv144
    @dapv144 Рік тому +15

    I have a 6 yr and a 3 yr old and with limited social interaction for them during the pandemic, play time was really hard to come by. I say this to express my extremely sincere gratitude to Mr. Peterson for letting what needs to be known, spoken....well written and therefore, read. Further, It's amazing how childish the social movements are and how easily identifable they can be for people who have been lucky enough to have had the blessing of learning from this man. Stay safe good man. Thank you for the reminders and awareness.

    • @SataraThordvall
      @SataraThordvall Рік тому

      If they play with each other and talk to you, that is a form of cross age socialization (not sure if that'sthe clinical term). It will encourage them to develop the parts of their understanding that read others for communication.

  • @andrewtrebb9255
    @andrewtrebb9255 Рік тому +2

    I’m LOVING these type of videos! Dr Peterson, I really enjoy when you READ your insightful articles out loud. Please consider doing more. They are wonderful 😍

  • @TobasscoJelly
    @TobasscoJelly Рік тому +1

    Ideation Fixation - totally agree. Thank you for your hard work. I and many others sincerely appreciate you.

  • @stephaniemakar7205
    @stephaniemakar7205 Рік тому +306

    As usual, this video is informative and fascinating, your ability to explain complex social behaviors is astounding. Much respect!

    • @davespencer1951
      @davespencer1951 Рік тому +8

      @UCMuQ32c_fmfat7O51sPxO7w you see anger in his delivery? Far from it, i see authority and conviction delivered with power of concentration. Angry people rant, this man is concise.

    • @8Pointbuck
      @8Pointbuck Рік тому

      So did John Locke!

    • @badcornflakes6374
      @badcornflakes6374 Рік тому

      @@8Pointbuck only people with big noses

  • @Cinderella227
    @Cinderella227 Рік тому +24

    Great article w/amazing title. We cannot rewind childhood. Longfellow- “Youth comes but once in a lifetime.” Some ignorant and corrupt adults don’t appreciate the value of children or life for that matter. Thank you Jordan for another great article. Luv ya Jordan. 👍🏻✝️❤️

    • @Cinderella227
      @Cinderella227 Рік тому +2

      @@AFringedGentian We all can appreciate Longfellow’s beautiful words.
      Often, we reminisce about our youth and that of our children’s. Perhaps it’s because of happier times or even the hardships we had to endure. Either way, childhood is an important part of one’s life. Most times it predicts the outcome of adult behaviors. As parents we are fortunate to witness the childhoods of our own children and their dreams. As each generation has their own contribution of childhood nostalgia, the lessons learned, the wonderful innocence, the stubborn rebellion, the bruised knees and broken hearts. All the beautiful and perfect mistakes that become our own path, our own journey in life. I often find myself amazed at the simple yet brilliant and beautiful thoughts of the little ones. They are completely honest and innocent. The youth actually rejuvenate my mind and soften my thoughts. Perhaps that’s why they behold the fountain of youth, if only for a time their cup runneth over whether they realize it or not. It is up to the adults to reinforce and reassure a safe and loving environment for the little ones. God bless ✝️🙏🏻🕊

  • @yewgnomemi4283
    @yewgnomemi4283 Рік тому +3

    This video has helped me understand why I turned out the way I have...I was raised by a single mother,
    moving from place to place, school to school, never had too many friends
    over protected by my mother and never really had time to develop my
    thick skin that I would have if I wasn't overprotected and sheltered from the social hazing to
    be able to tolerate myself as well as others around me to contribute to a more secure environment/society.
    I am writing this from a basement in my mother's house and have just turned 33.

    • @billynicole7230
      @billynicole7230 Рік тому

      That is like me. Interesting. Do you write stories?

  • @benridge6570
    @benridge6570 Рік тому +2

    your videos have a way to keep me focused on the subject. I have listened and learned from your work. I'm a average Blue collar guy. But I will not stop being the best man I can. will never go gentle into the good night Thanks you.

  • @tajfergusson7219
    @tajfergusson7219 Рік тому +27

    Dr. Peterson is an exceptionally intelligent man. I feel his tone when expressing well-thought ideologies is misinterpreted by the left as anger towards his subject matter, rather than simply unbridled passion for humanities most contentious topics.

  • @JMPL3180
    @JMPL3180 Рік тому +4

    Fatherhood is the best!.. You've got this, I had my 1st child at 35yrs, my last one at 38. 1 boy, 2 girls... 7yrs married. It's not easy but, it's worth it

  • @love2win
    @love2win Рік тому +3

    Very good of you to get into the specifics of childhood development when making your point. Adds substance and perspective.

  • @parkin8595
    @parkin8595 Рік тому +2

    The worlds most analytical mind. If only others applied such diligence to their own assessments / judgements.

  • @beemakka
    @beemakka Рік тому +30

    Why are we so blessed having this brilliant, thoughtful and articulate man in our Age? That he can speak to us in this age of internet communications is a miracle.

    • @joriankell1983
      @joriankell1983 Рік тому +1

      That's a good point. Why is he permitted to speak publicly when so many other intellectuals have been silenced?

    • @goldkhw
      @goldkhw Рік тому +3

      Nothing happens by chance. There was a need and he appeared.

    • @nylevesemken
      @nylevesemken Рік тому

      @@joriankell1983 have they though or have they bowed out of the game and decided to tell others otherwise.

    • @joriankell1983
      @joriankell1983 Рік тому

      @@nylevesemken good point, no idea.

    • @beemakka
      @beemakka Рік тому

      @@goldkhw nothing happens by chance? Tell that to a mathematician!

  • @Jaronius
    @Jaronius Рік тому +5

    I have a 2 year old grandson I'm keeping a closer eye because of you. Thank you.

  • @3Scalpel
    @3Scalpel Рік тому +4

    Love you, professor. I wouldn’t be where I am had I not been blessed to find and listen to you. Eternally grateful.

  • @travishancock9120
    @travishancock9120 Рік тому +38

    As an eldest brother, I totally understand the frustration of self-centered younger siblings, but as I have gotten older I have realized that I must do better than smash that out of them. One of the best indicators of familial success, I think, may be how well siblings get along. I get along very well with my siblings, and I believe that shows how well my parents did in raising us.

    • @ilikechineseteaespeciallyj7262
      @ilikechineseteaespeciallyj7262 Рік тому +3

      Sometimes they require a good smashing though. But good for you for being the bigger person. (I am the younger sibling)

    • @nelus7276
      @nelus7276 Рік тому

      I recently realized that my family, where my brother, my parents and I get along is actually no longer the norm around me. It's disturbing and it motivated me to pay more attention to my relationship with my children and wife.

  • @paulomenezes4867
    @paulomenezes4867 Рік тому +5

    Hello Jordan, I'm Paulo, 32 yo, from Brazil. I want to say that u are a inspiration for me! Thank you for your message!

  • @gumfun2
    @gumfun2 Рік тому +142

    I believe that Jordan Peterson gives us, his audience, this information as a gift. From his demeanor across all of his videos, I don’t believe he does any of it out of personal gain. You don’t have to agree with him, and you don’t have to accept the gift if you see it that way, but it’s there for you. That’s why I love this man. Thank you, truly.
    Note: Also, to clarify, this is about his content in general, not only this specific video necessarily.

    • @psyck
      @psyck Рік тому +9

      He seems to genuinely want to help people. You can see it when he talks to and about the people that are really grateful for his advice and wisdom. Just like you said, take it or leave it but it’s there if and when you need it. So glad he makes these videos and his lectures are online. Hopefully future generations will find them and it will at least get them thinking about self improvement and in turn, being able to help others around them. Can’t fix the world if you don’t fix yourself first. “Clean your room and get your house in order.”

    • @FormerGovernmentHuman
      @FormerGovernmentHuman Рік тому +4

      Considering he has his entirety of his college courses and lectures online as well as thousands of hours of mental assistance videos for young men and even women to help them live a better and more fulfilling life.
      I would have to agree.

    • @thomaspicolet5304
      @thomaspicolet5304 Рік тому +2

      He believes that if you help one, you might help the whole. I'm sure he feels like he might help himself and others by helping one

    • @onpatrolforthejuice
      @onpatrolforthejuice Рік тому +4

      I feel very blessed to be able to gain such insightful wisdom.

    • @JoyElectric567
      @JoyElectric567 Рік тому +3

      I think Jordan means well, but I find this "gift" idea very bizarre. It's weird because you put you/us in a submissive passive position where Peterson is something like a higher being that takes petty on a lower class of humans by sharing some sort of hidden wisdom.
      You probably want things to go well for you, your family and your people. Or just humanity as a whole. I know I do. Let's rather view fighting for justice a duty for all of us.
      There's no honor in throwing a lifeline to someone that is drowning. Maybe someone is gifted as a good swimmer and can go further in saving someone, but the principle is the same. If you CAN you have a DUTY to do it.

  • @djgrab1
    @djgrab1 Рік тому +2

    That’s a hell of a theory about the older parent demographic, the rise in single motherhood, and the higher likelihood of only children per cap! Just those things alone have got to be tweaking people in ways we can’t possibly yet understand since it’s so unprecedented in human history as far as I know

  • @waburden
    @waburden Рік тому

    I like these clips Jordan! Just long enough to provide time for reflection based on personal experience of the subject matter without the exhaustion at the conclusion of the longer, but different, interview or lecture format. Thanks to your lead, I have also reinforced the value of being able to think though ideas using a written format. Words really do matter!

  • @heavyweight0111
    @heavyweight0111 Рік тому +16

    Jordan gives sooooo much intellectual insight to these social identity issues.
    The best that the opposing view can counter with is "but I feel that...."
    Sadly, the cancel mob successfully declares victory for the opposing view

  • @PockASqueeno
    @PockASqueeno Рік тому +83

    Jordan, this is by far the best of your new “rehearsed style” videos. I like how you explain things scientifically and psychologically, and point out the flaws in Freudian psychoanalysis. As an only child raised by a single mother, I can relate all too well to a lot of this. Thankfully my mother put me in lots of social activities during childhood to make up for my lack of siblings, including group therapy. I can still see, as an adult, my own psychological flaws due to having no siblings and a distant father, mostly due, like you said, to my mother’s obsession with safety.
    Thankfully, in the USA, this immature obsession with identity has not escalated to the legal level yet (thank God for the first amendment), but there are still plenty of companies that insist on using the “right pronouns.” 🙄

    • @tylermoser2830
      @tylermoser2830 Рік тому +14

      @@revan552 Why would some people feel the need to compel others with the law or company policy to be respectful by demanding they be talked to in a certain way? Could this not be seen as an authoritarian sentiment? "You must talk to me how I see fit or else I'll punish you." If that doesn't read authoritarian then you don't know what the word means. As such, it would appear to many that your type of argument is wrong at its moral foundation.
      Do you understand what Jordan means by the oedipal mother? The tyrannical feminine? The overprotective tendency of absolute compassion? If you don't understand these things then you'll never understand why it is wrong to frame the debate the way that you have. Making compassion the absolute moral imperative is simply a mistake. It is more moral to seek the betterment of others through loving, thoughtful, truthful guidance, and more often than not that requires one to suspend their compassion for instruction and discipline.
      Jordan has clearly identified this moment in our cultural development as a result of overgrown, underdeveloped children reaching adulthood not knowing what to do. This is exactly the result of parental overprotection and fixation on compassion as the highest moral imperative toward children. Children need discipline and instruction, not to be told that they're perfect exactly the way they are and that they'll figure out who they want to be one day and then be happy. It's a bad strategy. So yes, we can talk about being respectful, but sometimes what people need is to be told that they're wrong by people who know better. Or do we all know perfectly well everything that needs to be known for everyone all the time? If anyone thinks that, they need to be humbled quickly, regardless of how much they actually know.

    • @tylermoser2830
      @tylermoser2830 Рік тому +8

      @@revan552 It depends on what you consider "well-being" to be. I think it's certainly possible that giving into demands of preferred pronouns is ultimately detrimental rather than beneficial, but that's an incredibly complex thing to look at. This is exactly the point of the almost half hour long video made by a well-educated, well-meaning man (unless you have already condemned him as otherwise) who has sought to articulate the complexity of the situation accurately and succinctly. What is simple, however, is the idea that legal force being put behind notions of "compassion" (like pronoun use or similar language use) in an authoritarian way to satisfy the demands of subjectivity of a substantial minority population of society is bad. It is also bad to simply treat them as correct in their supposed self-knowledge. How do they know that the best way for others to refer to them is by certain pronouns that have never before been widely accepted? And how often do these pronouns or identities change or morph or recreate themselves over time as any individual changes?
      There's very little foundation for many of the claims being made by gender ideology "experts". And many parents are simply bad parents. And many children are simply bad children. Many people are simply uninformed or ignorant people, whether about themselves or others, myself included. I know that sounds harsh, but it's true. And in my mind well-being for them means guiding them toward the truth, toward reason, toward discipline and self-control, toward meaning and sustainability, toward the future and out of an eternal present that has become self-indulgent, impulsive, and narcissistic. That's the role of parenting and education, and it's a role that has been perverted by many well-meaning but ignorant or uninformed people.
      Can we be respectful then? To a point, but there reaches a point where you have to simply say no to insanity or immaturity. You have to say no. You have to protect children from themselves and their inadequate and immature thoughts and motivate them to seek something better. Or else, how will they survive?

    • @nathanchristen6187
      @nathanchristen6187 Рік тому +4

      @@revan552 could you clarify what you mean by Peterson's morally flawed argument? You seem to agree with Jordan that compulsory "niceness" has no place being enforced by law, and should be unnecessary in any reasonable society.
      Also, while compassion is definitely highlighted in modern teachings of Christianity, it is not akin to rolling over for anyone that asks. There's always been nuance within compassion - submissive compassion as well as genuine compassion. The message of doing for others as you would wish others do for yourself is also deeper than simply being nice.

    • @emvagabond2891
      @emvagabond2891 Рік тому +4

      @@revan552 The idea that you can dictate how others perceive you, and force them to use speach they don't agree with is pretty authoritarian if you ask me.

    • @imranzero
      @imranzero Рік тому +2

      @@revan552 you cannot compel someone to respect you, only to act like they respect you. The notion of compassion forced by legislation is idiotic.

  • @meridiable
    @meridiable Рік тому

    Thank you for saying so articulately and exhaustively exactly what needed so desperately to be said.

  • @suzannethepatriot8049
    @suzannethepatriot8049 Рік тому +3

    Sadly, I witnessed a professor that I worked with throw a tantrum right in our front office. She layed down on the couch kicking and flailing her arms. She was wearing a dress. It was an insane sight. I will never forget it. This was a pivotal point for me where I realized that I wasn’t a pathetic, lowly person who was not worth a second look. I looked at myself with greater respect.

  • @graemeromans9374
    @graemeromans9374 Рік тому +4

    "Identity is negotiated,...NOT subjectively defined!" Thank you Jordan

  • @firebirdstark
    @firebirdstark Рік тому +27

    This is a great talk of subjective mindset vs objective mindset, and how dangerous subjective realities can be to an individual and those around them. Thank you

  • @autumnleaves2766
    @autumnleaves2766 2 місяці тому

    Superb as ever, Dr Peterson is a brilliant speaker, the world is a far better place with him in it. Through his books, lectures and other online content he is helping millions of people around the world and long may it continue. One day I hope to attend one of his lectures, shake his hand afterwards, ask him nicely to sign my copies of his books, and to thank him in person. It feels like having an additional older brother, my real brother is just a few months older than Dr Peterson. I've even composed three pieces of music dedicated to this great Canadian intellectual. I've also been reading some of the works on Dr Peterson's recommended list of great books, following this wonderful individual certainly expands one mind and improves one's knowledge. So good to see him looking a picture of health these days following his serious health problems of 2018 to 2022 or so.

  • @MrsGriz
    @MrsGriz Рік тому +1

    Thank u - adopted neglected child age 5 - never developed after age 2 - now 13 and in mental health hospital for a year now - cannot tolerate anyone who does not give in to her every whim - violent and manipulative

  • @triggerhappydad65
    @triggerhappydad65 Рік тому +3

    Man, this guy..... God bless him.
    I'm 56 years old and don't tend to jump on bandwagons, I've got my own and I'm good with them.
    But after a couple years of being a Jordan Peterson "disciple", I'm convinced he's something the entire world needs and needs badly. Especially the "educated" people.
    Mankind has become so full of themselves that they've become gods (little g).
    And worshipping man (or yourself) instead of God/Creator has always been and will always be, detrimental to societies and mental health.
    Mr Peterson not only has balls suited for a warrior, he's the world's thinker right now, and I pray they listen.

  • @laurahano2587
    @laurahano2587 Рік тому +14

    Jordan is right. When you see an adult behave like a two-year-old having a tantrum it really does shock you and you remember it forever. My mother-in-law is something else. Adults should not scream and cry while they slap their own parent in the face.

    • @mikitz
      @mikitz Рік тому +2

      The problem with these big babies is not the parenting. The problem is that there is no parenting involved.

    • @laurahano2587
      @laurahano2587 Рік тому

      @@InfinitusYT You can have my mother in law if that's how people do it in your family.

    • @laurahano2587
      @laurahano2587 Рік тому +2

      @@mikitz In my husband's case, his mother's lack of parenting is likely why he turned out so well. She set the perfect example of what not to be.

    • @the2ndcoming135
      @the2ndcoming135 Рік тому

      Ikr? I’m outta here✌🏽

    • @RobertMJohnson
      @RobertMJohnson Рік тому

      @@mikitz is this supposed to be a clever comment? b/c it isn't

  • @StatikFeedBacK
    @StatikFeedBacK Рік тому +3

    This was excellent. You made very good points. I don’t know how we can stop people from stunting their children’s growth in the developmental years by letting them overuse smart phones and tv screens without becoming authoritarian ourselves. One of the major problems I see is that the parents are not smart/wise or responsible enough (or both) to make sure their children aren’t spending too much time in front of a screen and not enough time interacting with peers and other people of various ages in the real world. There isn’t an easy answer…

  • @Betongaslongas
    @Betongaslongas Рік тому +1

    Great video JP! Very helpful for anyone raising children and making them competent citizens

  • @bentaylor216
    @bentaylor216 Рік тому +5

    I experienced this phenomenon happening (and being encouraged) during my years teaching in primary schools in England. I left. The pressure of being the only male and of being a ridiculed minority dissenting voice made me miserable and frustrated. The tyranny of 'compassion' and the lie of equity were too much.

  • @mistawolfe8541
    @mistawolfe8541 Рік тому +11

    JP is truly a blessing for us all, a voice of hope and reason in a sea of deterioration.

  • @dydjm
    @dydjm Рік тому

    Thx again Sir for explaining these insights you have learned from others and your own life journey. They make me able to see how the fray I have gone through from my past and current present can be more controllable by the the current and future me to move forward in the direction of “the more than me”, versus “the less than me”. Thank you Sir for your concern for us out here! Daniel (falling down getting up all the way to heaven)

  • @wadecrews7905
    @wadecrews7905 Рік тому

    You have the greatest mind I have ever seen read or heard. Thank you 🙏 This world needs you

  • @crispen011music4
    @crispen011music4 Рік тому +14

    One of the most powerful messages ive heard on this topic recently. Just wow 👏

  • @ivorybow
    @ivorybow Рік тому +8

    Thank you Dr. Peterson for so perfectly articulating what some of us know in our guts about the insanity taking hold. In 29 minutes you presented what has gone wrong with our society. You speak for all of us who are frightened of the encroaching madness. It's the Idiocracy.

  • @Rombbb
    @Rombbb Рік тому

    wow, amazing, Jordan is on a roll lately. Such a pillar of knowledge, insight and reflection, am so happy to be able to listen to him regularly.

  • @reaperhusk313
    @reaperhusk313 Рік тому

    This talk helped me identify some behaviours i have that have carried over from my childhood. And i discussed this with my mother who also identified some behaviours. Now that i have identified them and recognise where they stem from perhaps i can find a way to help myself. Thanks again, JP.