3 Types of Identity Crisis You Didn't Even Know You Had
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- Опубліковано 4 тра 2024
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About this video essay:
An exploration of 3 different types of identity crisis, how they are reflected by stories, and how we can deal with them.
Chapters:
0:00 Introduction
4:11 Type 1: Displacement
7:18 Type 2: Constrictment
10:43 Interlude: A Premature Victory
13:39 Type 3: Overwhelming Freedom
17:23 What to do?
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Happy holidays everyone! If you can, please do stick around until the end, I put way too much effort in that sponsor bit :')
You did a fantastic job. Much appreciated
Sure will 👍
I like ur Content
Merry Christmas Tom
How great is that?
You changed my life with your videos. My best friend died from suicide last year, and in some of my darkest moments, your work has been a light. Thank you.
So sorry to hear about friend. Sending you and all much love & support. ♥️♥️♥️♥️
Same here, bud. Mine died 7 months ago from suicide, their birthday is in 5 days. Im barely holdin it. Its hard for me to remember Im not alone in my grief and drown in it. But Im not and you definitely are not alone. Sending you some love and much support we all need. Take care.
Also lost a good friend 6 months ago. You are not alone. We are with you.
thank guys, one love
Lost my best friend to suicide ten years ago... It can take a lot of time and water under the bridge to heal, but it gets better. My love to everyone going through this
"The enemy of art is the absence of limitations." -Orson Welles
An overabundance of 'choice' indicates that the choice is actually meaningless. To have or be something real, necessitates the sacrifice of the potential for the actual(ized).
@@Johnconno Explain?
The real enemy of art is the absence of receptivity to intuition, inspiration and/or creativity. Limitations are often the very backdrop that true art seeks to reach beyond or at the very least allow us to glimpse beyond.
@@l.1273 I think the point Welles was driving at was to rebuff the idea that anything can be art. If anything can be art, then nothing is art, and art is meaningless. If we want art to have meaning, it must have limitations. Boundaries make things real - we can't play sports without rules. This is summed up very well in the movie "First Knight" when Arthur says, "There are laws that bind men in chains, and there are laws that set men free."
@@dw5523 From my perspective art is nothing like a sports game or a political or social ideology and so is not in need of the type of restrictions you refer to. Art in its highest form takes us beyond current limitations by what it can represent or give us glimpses toward. Art is naturally limited by form, yet truly inspirational art can propel us beyond form. Other limitations upon art beyond form are the imagination, creativity and receptivity behind it - I’m not sure it needs more limitations than those already restrictive boundaries. I appreciate the discussion, as always it encourages exploration and allows for some potential clarity.
@@l.1273 For sure. The point wasn't that art is like soccer or rugby, but that it's the restrictions that make a thing possible. For art to be art it has to live within those restrictions. What those limitations are is up for debate. For me they are grounded in the idea of the order necessary to promote life - the life of the mind, life of the emotions, etc. - and the cultivation of virtue - joy, fortitude, courage, love, beauty, etc. So I can't see a Jackson Pollack painting, for instance, and consider it art. It's certainly painting, and it may be attractive, but it's not art when compared to the the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel. Art is a medium for relationship between the artist and their subject - the person experiencing it - and like any healthy relationship, boundaries are necessary. Same as you, this is just my opinion. Maybe the real debate isn't whether things are or are not art, but whether they are good art. But that's a whole other can of worms to deal with!
People don’t really care about your story. At the end you are the only person that truly cares about you and sometimes you have to free yourself even if you cannot physically escape your situation.
This was probably one of the most important comments I needed to run across right now, and it solidified my resolve in what I need to do in my life. Thank you for posting this.
@@ZeriocTheTank 🤗
This is so so true.. wisdom simply stated.
@@shailjar8295 Aw so kind🤗
Enough said.
It's that time of the year again where we are going to reflect on the things we done. Achievements, failures and just ask ourselves have we accomplished the goals that we wanted that we set for ourselves and became wanted to become, etc. This video couldn't have come at a more opportune moment because I was just having an identity crisis myself. Ive finished my studies and I have no idea what I should do next: do I apply for a job, start planning for a business or just take a break from school and work and do some soul searching? This was just a blessing and reminded me to live in the moment and remember that all that I have done is sufficiently enough and I should love myself and enjoy everything that life has to offer. Thank you, LSOO. This was the best Christmas present anyone could ask for. Happy holidays, everyone❤️.
Nice name
@Zed is dead Might want to change name, Zed is edgy
@Odirile Shebe you are enough! enjoy every day no matter what (and ignore the idiotic replies to your beautiful comment)
You only self reflect once a year? Jesus.
@Zed is dead I reflect on everything I do all the time, but i usually do one huge retrospective reflection about a my life before beginning the year and thinking about new years resolutions. I write down everything I've done, achievements, learned, failures, growth, friendships, relationships, etc, and write new ones for the up coming year and pray on them. I wouldn't expect you to understand this because you haven't been what I've been through, but it's OK. Not everyone reflects the same way, and there's nothing wrong with that, and you're right that we do need to reflect on everything at every single moment of our lives, but don't bash others who don't do things the way you do. I just wanted to comment and share my thoughts on what a great video this was and it would be a great companion piece if you want to reflect on things before the end of the year, and you come in here trying to ruin that moment. But it's fine, I get your point. Happy Christmas to you and your loved ones and I hope that next year goes well for you.
My own existential and identity crisis led me on a journey that included finding and following LSOO.
And for that part of my journey I am quite thankful.
What is LSOO
@@Tim1kanuber Life Stories of Old I’d assume.
I came across the phrase “True Freedom is necessity understood”, and it’s been stuck in my brain since as a mantra against the third identity crisis you speak of.
Where’d you come across this?
@@CGJ703
It was written by someone named William James, and I found the quote in The Omega Men, by Tom King.
This is like something Baba Ram Dass said: (paraphrasing) "It's about listening. Getting quiet enough inside to hear: what is this moment, this situation asking of me?"
@@MamaAkina
That’s exactly right.
What is this moment asking of me. I like that a lot.
I admit it, I have perfectionism and inferior complex. I always try to do everything perfectly or pretend to be. I also feel worthless and unworthy. I have a habit of doing things on my own and don't seek help because seeking help is a sign of weakness, a sign of imperfection and also I thought that I don't deserve the help. Because of my perfectionism, I miss out on a lot of opportunity and experience. I avoid any situation that I could potentially be seen as a failure. I avoid doing things that I know that I am not going to be perfect at. In conclusion, I fear failures. I never feel good about myself. I never was with my own accomplishment. Even if I achieve the highest, I know I could have done better. I compare myself with people around. The people around me saw only smart pretentious side and I try to live up to that image. Truthfully, I act like I am smart and mature. It is only till recently that I realise that I have this kind of detrimental habit and belief. I have got much to unravel within myself. I acknowledge it now. I am a big mess of imperfection. The perfection of imperfection. That's what we are. I acknowledge it. I need help. But unfortunately, I am not ready help directly yet. The habit and negative thought pattern that I have develop over 18 years of my life has entrenched deep within my mind, behaviours and my own identity. So at least for, I will self-help first and readying myself to finally be able to trust and accept help from others. And to you who is reading this, honestly love yourself for who you are. We are not perfect, and we don't need to be. All of us have issues, even the most 'perfect' person you know. Within all of us, we have insecurity, trauma and vulnerability. But don't loss hope. There is always chance to be a better person. Don't give up on life. Do not go gentle into that goodnight. Rage onwards. You're human. Don't underestimate or overestimate yourself.
I finally got back in touch with the funny, carefree guy that I was in high school. It happened, after three divorces, during a five-year deployment to Iraq/Afghanistan. How'd the real me wind up so far away? Oh, well, it's great having him back. 🤗
Congratulations.
congratulations man after so long you find yourself
Welcome home
how?
@@lelele1408 I think the "real me" got buried by all the accommodations that "married me" had to make in order to feel loved. Ultimately, the women I was with didn't really like the real me, so they constantly chipped away at him in an effort to create the man they really wanted. One of the advantages to being deployed, is the paring down of your everyday life to the bare essentials. Eat, sleep, work, repeat. While that "Groundhog Day" kind of existence could become monotonous, it was good in that I had very few demands on how I dealt with things. My true, basic, original personality was able to take center stage again. Now, I live in a 600 square foot condo (plenty of room for just me) that's organized just the way I like (and, which would probably send most women screaming into the night). But, do I regret the three marriages/divorces? No. Without those crucibles of experience, I don't think my appreciation for my current lifestyle would be as keen.
I grew up pretty privileged and believed that I had most if not all the answers about myself and the world. As I grew up, that all fell apart quite quickly and what was left was someone asking questions about personal meaning. I learned more about myself and my failures and about the world which ended up up-ending my sense of self. This deconstructed my identity to the point that it now feels like Wikipedia. I don't inherently feel like a person, just an accumulation of knowledge about the world. I have no true dreams for my future or anything else pertaining to me as an individual.
All that said, this video is quite good and touches on this state of being with no answers, so I just thought I'd give my perspective for reiteration and fun.
I've been needing help with this feeling of being lost and you post this. Thank you. Many of your videos have been very informative and usually help, even if just a little bit. 💖
There are so many video essays channels out there (oversaturated tbh) but LSOO is one of those few channels that I've seen that consistently produce quality content that's both meaningful to its audience and engaging to watch. Thanks, TOM, your videos have helped me a lot. ❤️
Four words to describe it all: "From becoming to being"
Thanks for the video and happy holidays!
As always you're making me crying of joy and sadness. I like the last part where you expose the hidden true: no one has really all figured out, and nothing will truly resolve this crisis. Life is a journey and I am thankful to have found your channel.
The fact that you just uploaded a new video already made my life better
Four minutes in and I can already tell this is going to be a great one. This is just what I needed!
It's so great that so many people can relate to your videos. I am very thankful that such a channel exists, and that constant youtube scrolling just stops in a moment of reflection and thought after a new LSOO video comes out.
You are doing a massive work on helping people undestand what stories really mean and how we associate with them. Especially in a modern world, where stories have become such a large part of how we see or how we want to see ourselves.
Just wanted to say thank you for that work and encourage you to keep going)
Moved beyond belief.. coming across this video came at just the right time for me personally. You were able to explore, explain, and converge such a complex topic with just the right film references, in a hugely impactful and harmonious way. It made me think, feel, and want to watch films I haven't seen yet, and rewatch some of my favorites. And like others, I ended it with tears.. New subscriber and patreon member here.. thank you, thank you!!!
I'm feeling the identity crisis from past couple of months and you posted this. Thank you❤️
Your videos always seem to drop when I need them the most. Thank you.
You are one of the most genius youtuber . The ability to capture the essence of every element of life is absolutely amazing. Timing aim is extraordinary! In a world of so many empty influencers, this channel brings true culture, true knowledge, true insight into the beauty of life. I thank you for that
Your stories remember me of a friend's stories, and she passed away a few years ago. Hearing your storytelling is the closesr thing to hearing her rambles. Man, I miss her so much. Thanks you, friend. For keeping her closer.
Your videos fill me with the most wonderful sense of melancholy reflection. It's such a perfect balm for my life at any point in the day. My favorite creator on the internet. Thank you and happy holidays.
Watching this for the 3rd time and seeing myself in everyone. In many ways I feel I am experiencing all the types of identity crises. Primarily letting go of my mothering role as my children are adults (and we've grown apart in our interests...). Thank you for this. Off to watch some of the films that were highlighted in this video.
The number of your videos that have made me cry is TOO DAMN HIGH. I wouldn't have it any other way. Love your work. Thank you
Yet another masterpiece from Like Stories of Old'! This has become my favourite channel, I am blown away every time
Watching this video was perfectly timed on a day when I was discussing this in my life and realising that acceptance of who I am and where I am, is key. Thank you for another beautiful video. I love your work brother
Haven't even had time to watch but I know it will be some of the best content on this platform. Seriously, your writing and presentation are exceptional and I look forward to every video you make. You're also the reason I'm going to be subscribing to Curiosity Stream
This was such a timely video to see on my feed. Thanks for your wisdom, your content has a way of making me contemplative and reflective. Please never stop making these!
Amazing timing. Have been going through this lately. ♥️ This was beautiful..thank you so so much. ♥️
Tbis was so comforting and very beautiful.
Thank you. Your videos remind me what an amazing gift that being human is. That being alive is- because of our vulnerability, our pain, our love, our beauty our complexities that make us so beautifully and imperfectly human.
Thank you again- you have no idea how often I watch your videos before engaging in my work, they give me strength, calm, and insight.
A trip to what seemed to be my higher self said exactly the same:"Every choice is the right choice" It gave me a really good feeling that i seemed to have forgotten since my childhood. Wish one of you to remember the infinite love that you have for yourself but had to forget.
I can't express how grateful I am but this video was VERY helpful and made me feel like a wound is being tended nicely😊 THANK YOU SO MUCH I just want to give you a big hug i won't forget this video I love it and also your voice is very calming and nice to listen to❣
I was moved to tears by the end of the video. Thank you for making this video
Thanks for being you, and doing all you do. I'm not the only one who needed this upload. 💛
Absolutely spectacular video, like always. Thank you so much for making it, it's so deep. Outstanding insights!!
This is amazing 🙌🏾🙌🏾 I love the selection of clips you used as examples too. October Sky, Whiplash, the Linklater Sunset movies, and Her ❤. Really like the 3 types you guys defined too. Well done 👏🏾👏🏾!
i love your videos. this one brought me to tears, as i'm going through an existential crisis. thank you, you're amazing.
This video really helped organizing my perspective on some discontent that I haven't come to terms with the last few years. Appreciate you
Never hesitant to watch your videos. Always reassuring and enlightening, thank you.
I really loved this video, especially the first 2/3. Displacement and Constriction were such excellent diagnosis of the problems we have faced, and it was quite thrilling to see you match up the script with films that have told this story over the last fifty years. To do that work in such a concise and aesthetically stimulating way is no small achievement and I am grateful to have this to watch and share with others as we build common language.
I will admit I was a little surprised at your final analysis and feel like you sort of took the gas off in responding to the crisis of meaning. You seem to continue to applaud the "quest for authenticity" while also recognizing that it is an impossible quest that will disappoint us. I think there's something to say about recognizing an end to the pursuit of "authenticity" that has defined the West in the last 100 years. I wonder what it looks like to recognize the progress we've made, and celebrate it, but also to return to a simpler perspective (a second naivete) in which our identity is no longer fundamentally earned or created or requires the approval of others, but if our identity can come from beyond us, similar to how religious and spiritual traditions will often locate the source of our identity in "God" or some higher power.
Not that everyone needs to go and become religious, but perhaps to recognize that a lot of our behaviour at present IS quite religious (a lot of our "authenticity" comes from little rituals and sacrifices we perform in order to validate ourselves as such), and that religion at it's best has always given diverse groups of people a shared common identity.
That said, I don't want this small push back to in ANY WAY discredit what is an excellent video essay. Thank you for making some of the most engaging pop-philosophy on this whole medium.
Basic yoga.:
1. listen to your breathing to remind you " You are still alive!"
2. Listen to the silence for the music behind it.
3. Look ahead at the light in your head. [Where else could it be? ]
Perfect food for thought between the years. Thanks so much. All the best for the holidays and 2022🙏
LSOO always helps in my feeling better ......
.....about EVERYTHING.
Thank you.
Happy & Healthy Winter Solstice 🙏
Thank you, you've no idea how much I needed this clarity to understand this issue within myself. I feel seen.
Enlightening. Thanks for putting this out there!
Maybe the video just happens to sync what is happening in my life but this is the first one of yours that made me ball my eyes out. Thank you.
Thank you for making this. I really needed it right now
This video is the hug Ive been longing for.
This channel has the best content I have ever found on the internet. Thank you so much for these insights. They are necessary.
Your videos man, like always, are so uplifting, so powerful... Thank you so much for your work, your inspiration, your voice... Thank you for being your-self.
Thanks for sharing this. Your videos are some of the best
One of the best and most important channels on UA-cam. Thank you, again.
This is just perfect and also perfect timing for me personally. Love your videos!
As always, your videos sustain me. Thank you got everything you do.
What a Masterpiece. It could easily be a book. Its condensed with so much wisdom. You cant watch it once. Needs revisiting. LSOO 🙏🙌
Beautifully presented and thought provoking.
Thank you for this video, it helped put to words some of the things I´ve been feeling the past year.
The best channel on UA-cam. Thank you for these beautiful pieces of art.
This video helped me a lot to understand what I have been going through. I have all the three types of crisis explained here, and at least I gained a good understanding by watching this. thank you
Congratulations, as ever, on earnest, well planned and executed content. Your work rings so true, and is so calming too...like a cool refreshing breeze on a wound up and befuddled mind. Thank you. :)
Such a wonderful and much-needed video for me at this point of my life!
I swear your videos literally pop up when I need them the most….thank you!
Thank you. Sometimes, I think you are,….speaking directly to Me. I welcome the clarity. Can’t change what I can’t name. These are such difficult times. Thank you. Take care. Best to you.
You've always had the best intrepretation and way of saying things. Love and appreciate your channel so much ♡. Best wishes, all the way from Indonesia
Everytime i see a new upload it's like okay i might cry during this video, amazing work your content is amazing
The Travelers Dilemma: wherever you go, there you are! No such thing as escape, merely changes in scenery.
As one over 50 I can say that the one thing I have found again and again is that no matter what new I discover about myself it is still my same self, despite several deaths and rebirths. Ultimately, our life's work is to deal with what was wrong to begin with. Everything we run from eventually holds the answers we seek most earnestly outside ourselves.
We 💕 your channel, and most especially your very authenticlly you, light lisp.
Thank you for this beautiful gift your films are so healing and they have saved me and my hope for love & humanity
you keep getting better buddy! this stuff is great thank you!
Brilliant, thought-provoking work. Thanks for your insights.
Impeccable timing friend. Happy holidays everyone and stay in the fight.
This video explains a lot about my past that 20 years later that I struggle to make sense out of. Too bad the internet and videos like this were not around in those days.
Absolutely amazing. I really love your work.
This upload was therapy. Thank you
Amazing works! We are so proud to help spread the word of your inspiring visions!
Dude, your channel is profoundly transformative, thank you. Thank you so much.
This video is truly a gem. Thank you for creating such powerful and meaningful content.
Right time much needed ❤
Incredible, as always. Merry Christmas my friend. This is one of our favourite UA-cam channels.
Thank you- again. Another deep, thought provoking video, I sure enjoy them
This really spoke to me as someone who's massively struggling with their identity, thank you for making this ❤
Alan Watts
Jordan Peterson
The tao of pooh
Einzelganger
Academy of ideas
Freedom in thought
After skool
Philosophies for life
School of life
Pursuit of wonder
Awaken insight
Dare to do motivation
Just a few people and channels that might help you a little in your (re)search for yourself. Hope you succeed (eventhough it's an ongoing process) and I think you will. You're stronger than you think...
Your work brings me peace in the chaos of life thank you! 😊
Stunning, profound and tragically beautiful. as always LSOO
Thank you for this one.
I am currently restructuring my life and am having to navigate a bit of an identity crisis.
I spent the last decade plus building a successful brand, company and reputation. We're at the peak of the business; best numbers it has ever produced..and I am going to be closing the door on that.
I attached my complete identify to the corporation. Hard work, good ethics, genuinely caring for and about our customers naturally turned into high customer service; high customer satisfaction.
But in the end I realized that those core values that are reflected in my business are me, it is who I am and therefore what is projected.
I have come to the understanding that I no longer require the validation that comes from this position.
Time with my family and loved ones is more valuable to me now than pleasing someone else.
Please don't get me wrong, I don't mean to possibly sound like I am talking down about it. I certainly recognize and acknowledge I am privileged and blessed being able to navigate these types of decisions.
I just wanted to leave a comment that somewhat relates to the topic :)
still one of my best subs. thank you for amazing content
You and 'Real Engineering' have sold me on Curiosity Stream/Nebula. I'll be getting set up on it tomorrow.
Thank you for this video, by the way.
Thank you for these beautiful videos full of great thoughts. It’s like a breath of fresh air
You Tube is a richer place by the presence of this channel. Sincere gratitude and respect. There when you need it, like stories of old.
This is so good thanks for posting this. I think we could all use it
Well your contribution is quite simply amazing. It hits the nail on the head.
In this world of monetary pursuits, I watch your video and I'm reminded why I love art. Especially the art form, film
Thanks for putting this into words and frames.
I am suffering from constrictment, and it is both liberating to feel a strong inner tugging (others would say: like a compass) in a certain direction but at the same time the fear of just falling apart if I don't succeed (to become what I need? want? to)
This video was fantastic. Good job mate.
Thank you, Storyteller! I've grown as a man, and become more of my gentle, yet firm, self since I began listening to your work. Keep thinking, keep showing us another way to See.
-Lots of Love and Respect
Roman
Thank you, friend. You helped me alot. I am grateful! Amazing video.
Hi ! I just wanna say that I've subscribed to Nebula (and Curiosity) last month ! But still I'm connecting on UA-cam just to leave a like and this time, a comment. You deserve it ! Hope the algorithm will make it fair to you ;) PS : I have also discovered Jacob Geller because of you. You two are amazing philosophical channels about my fav contents : films and video games ! Thank you for everything !
We Thank you a lot LSOO for being part of our 2021 we wish you will have a great holidays and we hope you will create a more and more videos on yr 2022 God bless us all
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These are the kinds of videos that heal. Thank you for this :)
Keeping audience engaged in current times with more than 20 min on youtube where the attention span is less than few seconds. Brilliant video and storytelling.