Your Kids Are Exactly Who They Think They Are... Right.

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  • @ThomasSmith14562
    @ThomasSmith14562 Місяць тому +1352

    I’ve been struggling with how to balance technology and faith in our home, and ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’ provided some amazing insights that we’ve already started using

  • @notbill08
    @notbill08 Рік тому +1786

    When my daughter was three, she wanted to grow up to be a mermaid. We said Ok, but we did not have her legs surgically modified and keep her in fish tank. She's 33 now, married with kids and works in marketing. I think she's glad we kept her a human till she was old enough to make an informed mature decision.

    • @jacole1234
      @jacole1234 Рік тому +64

      This cracked me up so hard! Perfect sarcastic comment. My 3 year old still wants to be a princess… I suppose both are as likely. Lol

    • @Bornchiller123
      @Bornchiller123 Рік тому +25

      best comment on the topic I've read in a long time

    • @Hardcore_Remixer
      @Hardcore_Remixer Рік тому +44

      I'm here waiting for the LGBTQIA+ to call you racist for being a realist.

    • @GallowayJesse
      @GallowayJesse Рік тому +3

      "works in marketing"

    • @notbill08
      @notbill08 Рік тому +15

      @@Hardcore_Remixer Add an "M" for Mermaid 🧜‍♀️

  • @DJTS1991
    @DJTS1991 Рік тому +992

    When I was 8, I was diagnosed with Autism back in the 90s.
    While all the kids were playing sports at Recess and Lunch, I stayed in the library, reading novels, playing computer games or trading through comic books.
    This was perfectly normal behaviour, but because I wasn't doing what all the other were doing, I was branded as different and treated as if I was a problem.
    That was the identity that was given to me. I was apparently stupid, and lazy, and irresponsible, because that's how all people with Autism were supposedly. I was so confused.
    It wasn't until my early 20s when I realised I had no real idea about who I was - and partly with Peterson's help, transformed my life. I found jobs, completed two Degrees, bought a house and even got engaged last week (yay). And with some therapy, I realised my parents and teachers had really no honest to God idea about what they were doing. Any deviation from the norm, and they'd just start randomly throwing labels around. And like I said, this was the 90s.
    Life is seriously a mediation between your wants and the environment.
    And now I see countless friends and family members my age labelling themselves with virtually every acronym under the sun - ASD, ADHD, ADD, PTSD, OCD. It's trendy now, it's the new thing. We have a generation of Millennials, and some Gen Z, absolutely clueless about how to operate in wide society because they were never permitted to introspect in their youth. Parents wanted children smart enough to get by, but dumb enough to do what they said. That's not a child. That's a pet.

    • @ChaoticNeutralMatt
      @ChaoticNeutralMatt Рік тому +28

      And it's how school has largely been set up as. It's tragic thinking back what I could have used growing up, but in some aspects that's likely the parent cycle. Passing on what you consider important to pass on within the limits of how you've grown at that point and how *you* were taught.

    • @truskakwa
      @truskakwa Рік тому +43

      Dear stranger, many thanks for the comment here. Was looking for something like this. Congrats to you and your fiancee. My husband was almost diagnosed with autism, in the 90s, too. I was labelled problematic and too outspoken? Now our child gets very very excited over things, there are already people telling us we should monitor him for autism. I get that it is possible, but this comment gave me a lot of hope for my parenting. We don't have to perpetuate the mistakes.

    • @ResonantNewt
      @ResonantNewt Рік тому

      Mental lazyness destroys lifes

    • @notus299
      @notus299 Рік тому +24

      They say they have stuff like adhd even though they watch tiktok and watch short videos that cut their attention span. These stuff are 100% fixable they just want the lable consciously or unconsciously so they have an excuse to not fix it.
      My friend had insomnia(apparantly) and after me suggesting him to stop going on his phone 1 hour before bed. SO he went to listened and he said he hasn't gotten such a good sleep before. He thought he had insomnia and was diagnosed but after listening to 1 idea it's fixed.

    • @maryavanbeelen9276
      @maryavanbeelen9276 Рік тому +2

      Thank for your point of view

  • @rb7454
    @rb7454 Рік тому +234

    As a woman who was deceived by the career mantra, I approve this message. Just gave birth last week at 41 years of age. The last thing I want to do is return to work. I want to stay at home and have more kids. Trying to see how to make that happen by cutting down expenses and encouraging my hubby to pursue his career goals . I’ve loved Peterson’s message for a long time but now it’s actually a necessary voice in my home.

    • @OdhinnAwake
      @OdhinnAwake Рік тому +29

      Most women who go this route end up finding out they can no longer have children. You are in the very small happy minority.
      Were I in your shoes, I would be screaming from the rooftops to any woman who will listen how pathologically dangerous the current social model is for women, and how unbelievably lucky I was.

    • @eliwilliamson7849
      @eliwilliamson7849 Рік тому +9

      Congratulations! May you have the energy to keep up the kiddos.

    • @IrishEyes12
      @IrishEyes12 Рік тому +11

      Congradulations! I stay home with my kids, and its a hell of a sacrifice for our family, but my husband and I both value having a parent at home, so we make it work. I wish you and your family all the best.

    • @wanderinghome9979
      @wanderinghome9979 Рік тому +5

      So, so worth it. Blessings to you and yours.

    • @sleep3417
      @sleep3417 Рік тому +2

      Considering how much higher the risk of birth defects and serious disabilities is for giving birth at 40, compared to 20-30, that's pretty fucked up.

  • @telatomodosh7410
    @telatomodosh7410 Рік тому +67

    Recently, I've noticed that a lot of my peers on social media have been accusing Peterson of being a horrible person. As someone who has watched and been tremendously helped by Peterson's lectures in the past 3-4 years, there's no way I'm ever going to believe that. I am grateful with my life, and I hope to live one that is sufficient of the mercy that has been given to me.

    • @horacio373
      @horacio373 Рік тому +6

      Good for you, take a step forward and ask them directly what exactly makes them believe he's not a good and honest person, I garantee 99% of them wont be able to articulate a solid argument, its just nonsense

    • @idonthaveaname42
      @idonthaveaname42 Рік тому +1

      yea i don't get it. i love him

    • @sarahmurphy-nf4yl
      @sarahmurphy-nf4yl Рік тому

      Peterson is BRILLIANT 👏 👌

    • @Svensk7119
      @Svensk7119 Рік тому

      ​@@idonthaveaname42Grammar note: "yea" is pronounced "yay". It is the opposite of "nay". I think you mean, "yeah".

    • @Svensk7119
      @Svensk7119 Рік тому

      I wish people would give him his title. Dr. Peterson.

  • @DeborahJeanMonkman
    @DeborahJeanMonkman Рік тому +92

    One thing I have learned about adults in the care of children, they need us more than I ever realized. Not to be overbearing or indoctrinating. Just to love, mentor, guide and support. A sharing of wisdom, more important than I previously thought.

  • @SardonyxOrange
    @SardonyxOrange Рік тому +295

    As a fellow kid, I am incredibly grateful for my parents. They have taught me many things I cherish and look up to. :]

    • @raymondk.hessle607
      @raymondk.hessle607 Рік тому +11

      I had to build my whole persona from scratch cuz of lack of role modles in my parents. Highly disfunctional, both. I try to find the positive side in that, i guess i have a strong base now

    • @Kowalski7791
      @Kowalski7791 Рік тому +3

      Yep, you can't beat looking at the clouds, the sky, the sun, moon, stars, I cherish them all too

    • @someyoungguyjohnson7239
      @someyoungguyjohnson7239 Рік тому

      Are your parents conservatives?

    • @SardonyxOrange
      @SardonyxOrange Рік тому +1

      @@someyoungguyjohnson7239 are you serious? Are you saying parents who are democrats aren’t good parents?

    • @SardonyxOrange
      @SardonyxOrange Рік тому

      @@someyoungguyjohnson7239 that was unnecessarily rude of me, I’m sorry. Yes they are but that doesn’t matter to me.

  • @tren380
    @tren380 Рік тому +117

    My wife, 44, has been in a professional career since college. Successful career, makes 6 figures, three kids in their teens. The last few years she has been asking me more and more “can I quit my job I don’t want to do this anymore”.
    I’m of course like of course you can, we need to make adjustments to life style and that’s ok I’m all for your happiness and I am happy to keep working and make money for us to live and you can stay home and change to a new life style.
    It’s just been interesting to watch her view point change from the 90s you must have a competitive job as a woman and now she is realizing it’s not important.

    • @acacia_w
      @acacia_w Рік тому +5

      She'll possibly experience perimenopause on top of everything else soon and that can be a real danger zone for women. It can be extremely difficult to keep things together when going through a huge hormonal shift. Hopefully that won't happen but it can.

    • @TheTrooper424
      @TheTrooper424 Рік тому +8

      She wants to quit her job after missing all of your kid’s childhood? Little late to be a housewife now!

    • @Leo-mr1qz
      @Leo-mr1qz Рік тому +3

      ​@@acacia_w She went through 3 child births, missed her children's most vulnerable years of life, and perimenapause is what is causing her to want to quit her job? If that doesn't scream NARCISSIST I truly don't know what does. 🤷🏾‍♀️

    • @Leo-mr1qz
      @Leo-mr1qz Рік тому +3

      @@acacia_w Or we can call a space a spade and not waste our empathy on someone who chooses money over her on offspring. If she needed to live a luxurious lifestyle, she should've married a more capable man.

    • @arminarlert2525
      @arminarlert2525 Рік тому +29

      You guys are being so insensitive to his wife. It was driven into women's heads that they are just as capable of doing jobs like men. She probably wanted to find a purpose for herself in her job and when she had kids, she probably did everything she could for her kids and having a job most likely helped. When she wanted to quit her job, it was completely acceptable and he did the right thing and let her stay home. I believe women have the choice to choose if they want to work or not, and should be able to change it if they feel like it's the best for them. I think it should apply to men as well if their wife is happy with it.

  • @Zaccyonline
    @Zaccyonline Рік тому +80

    The MySpace “about me” section was my generation’s first introduction to identity, it was difficult for me to fill in and to this day I cringe at the thought of putting labels on myself. Today kids wear their “about me” section on their sleeves; as their pronouns, ever changing - experimenting - and revising based on the reaction of their target audience. But they’ll come to the conclusion later: how others perceive you is your true identity …not what you declare yourself to be.

    • @zacksharpe
      @zacksharpe Рік тому +1

      what if youre a conservative in a family of liberals

    • @RictaScale.Official
      @RictaScale.Official Рік тому +5

      I know exactly what you are referring to - putting into words (boxes) to summarise your entire being with a few labels.

    • @proudatheist2042
      @proudatheist2042 Рік тому +11

      Sometimes what others perceive you (or others) as is totally wrong. People can be absolutely deluded or successful in some ways but delusional in others.

    • @viperstriker4728
      @viperstriker4728 Рік тому +6

      @@proudatheist2042 But what's the chance that everyone is totally wrong about you? Of course majority doesn't decide truth, but if a lot of people think a thing, it's worth looking into it, especially since it will be a lot more objective then self reflection.

    • @Mlai00
      @Mlai00 Рік тому +6

      @@proudatheist2042 Don't you see it that doesn't matter in the real world what you think of yourself as? Unless you're a monk living in the mountains, how others perceive you is what matters.

  • @paintedlady4589
    @paintedlady4589 Рік тому +104

    I was very unhappy for many years when I held down jobs outside the home. My husband made pretty good money but I felt like I had to bring in money too. When I finally had had enough of jackass employers and quit... what a relief. Come to find out my husband liked me being at home and feeling better. I like having a nice home and gardening and doing all the woman things. I do not like dealing with the crap out there today.

    • @MerryXmasMfkrs
      @MerryXmasMfkrs Рік тому +1

      You're just weak and pampered, I guess.

    • @andrewfreiji4647
      @andrewfreiji4647 Рік тому +10

      There is nothing more unappealing and unromantic to me as a man than to interact with women like as if they are men. Which is how the media especially in modern movies tries to push. Because as a man I see you as the creator and mother of my children or future children, and I want to take care of you. Just my thoughts

    • @gazthejaz8910
      @gazthejaz8910 Рік тому

      @@andrewfreiji4647 How is a working women like a man? Like seriously, there’s no gender when it comes to working. Gender is fluid There’s no such attributes

    • @MusiicRoolz
      @MusiicRoolz Рік тому +4

      ​​@@andrewfreiji4647 to be fair though that's just you in your specific bubble of reality/how you grew up. I think we need to allow for both the mother-woman image and individual-woman image (more selfish and goal driven let's say, regardless of jobs). the mother image completely makes sense and it is very biologically programmed for a lot of us - but there should still be a choice. and it doesn't mean motherhood has to be your entire life for the rest of eternity.
      some women live in that reality where they want to be taken care of and it works for them. some women want a team partnership, an equal (not saying both the man and woman do the exact same thing, though they could). some women may want to be the breadwinner, but that means they take on all the responsibility (some women these days try to adopt this role but don't actually fully accept the traditionally man's role because it's hard)

    • @saintejeannedarc9460
      @saintejeannedarc9460 Рік тому +4

      I'm glad for you that you have a solid marriage. That your husband backs you and is happier w/ being at home, content as a housewife. Societal pressure is strong these days. It's great you both settled in to what works better for the both of you.

  • @zanedzikonski4234
    @zanedzikonski4234 Рік тому +287

    Jordon is a breath of fresh air for living in this world that I no longer understand

    • @mrautismo420
      @mrautismo420 Рік тому +1

      You know he says things not to "reveal the truth" but to drive his own agenda.

    • @theredknight9314
      @theredknight9314 Рік тому +17

      @@mrautismo420be quite your troll.

    • @mrautismo420
      @mrautismo420 Рік тому

      @@theredknight9314 go ahead and keep on taking notes while ur daddy talks

    • @DJToneRI
      @DJToneRI Рік тому +2

      JOR-DON

    • @wallihaley5194
      @wallihaley5194 Рік тому +12

      @@mrautismo420 , what do suppose his agenda? Because I think he has great clarity of thought.

  • @ellymae5313
    @ellymae5313 Рік тому +18

    Im not a mom yet but I am a housewife, and although I hated my office job, I also hated being at home. And then my husband atarted his own business and started taking me to work with him, and I loved it! And I realized that working in the office and staying home (as i had experienced those things) was the same - being alone all day in a poorly lit space, doing tasks that don't mean a lot, loosing your mind. Going to work with my husband has helped us get closer because we see each other working and help each other accomplish things, and we're together and he expresses his appreciation that I'm there. I still do house stuff and that's fine, but im so glad I get to look forward to being with him and being helpful to him on days when we work together. It gives me a lot of purpose and joy to be outside, working with my hands, being next to him, and knowing that he appreciates what i do. And i can appreciate him more, having awareness of his workload that I previously didn't have.

  • @KelleyKat
    @KelleyKat Рік тому +33

    The point that Dr. Peterson makes about poverty keeping people from having a broader perspective is profound. I've witnessed an effect of it: visiting Mexico years ago, I was dismayed by the litter - plastic bags were drifting everywhere. My own home state of WA had for years the slogan "Keep Washington Green" and it was rare to see roadside litter. But that was then and this is now: as more people, whether they are migrants or not, fall into despair, the litter level has also increased. It's probably a barometer of not just disregard, but desperation.

    • @MusiicRoolz
      @MusiicRoolz Рік тому +4

      Well, yeah. it's a different world - different priorities. they don't have the liberty of sitting around on social media banging on about greenpeace

    • @wealthyblackman2655
      @wealthyblackman2655 Рік тому +2

      Obviously you have never had to face accountability through the courts!
      Most litter is cleaned up by detainees that face accountability for minor crimes.

  • @CidPsy
    @CidPsy Рік тому +31

    If I took seriously all the whimsical considerations my daughter could be, she wouldn't be standing with us today.
    From one moment to the next she is:
    A cat
    A dog
    A cow
    A bird
    A BOY
    A pirate
    A nurse
    A doctor
    Hell... It's like she's ROLEPLAYING, which is INTEGRAL TO HER DEVELOPMENT as a human being, taking all these roles gives her context and she willingly puts herself in the shoes of the animals and those who work, I feel that's a good way to built empathy and appreciation for life.
    I seriously don't understand why some parents take the words of their children so literally. Our jobs is to teach them lots of stuff, and one of those teachings is loving themselves and the body they came into this world.

  • @jensmarkvardsen1192
    @jensmarkvardsen1192 Рік тому +127

    Thank you, Dr. Peterson. I am still amased at how good it is to see you up and fighting again. I wish you the best

  • @valclub479
    @valclub479 Рік тому +10

    I'm a substitute teacher. I see a lot. I dearly appreciate children at all ages. What I see is a need for importance or difference for their autonomy and significance. Weekly, with older children in general, they want to pull me in to respond to their Identify specifications. Today, a young man said, "Hey ,I'm gay."
    I said , "ok, good for you." Then trying to gaslight me, he says, "Don't you want to know my other pronouns?"
    I said, "No, just your name because I won't be talking about you, so what name do you prefer?"
    He said, "Oh, you don't care about my pronouns? I'm putting you on Twitter.
    I said, sounds like you are very important. He said , "I am...over 1,000 followers.
    Good for you.
    I said , "You are who you think you are. Why should I care? Are you more upset about that I don't care and I believe you can live the life you want and Identify the way you want and that's good for you, but I don't have to care either way how you live your life? Isn't that what you want? Why should I care? So what name would you like me to use?
    Kinda sad

  • @_tndn
    @_tndn Рік тому +47

    JP is a father to us all. God bless him

  • @yizzirman
    @yizzirman Рік тому +485

    Imagine spending decades becoming a genius in several fields, just to have to argue with someone about gender

    • @yizzirman
      @yizzirman Рік тому +33

      @Annoying Commentator I wasn't necessarily talking about several scientific fields. I just generally mean that he's HIGHLY educated in several avenues of life that are more than practical with the subject matter that he covers. He doesn't need to be a master in them though. I still agree with you though.

    • @bpots717
      @bpots717 Рік тому +1

      👏👏

    • @thelittlemoonling
      @thelittlemoonling Рік тому +1

      Seriously!!!

    • @tommroy
      @tommroy Рік тому +1

      Hes no genius...i think he spent time in academia just to hear himself talk...

    • @nicolegerard2907
      @nicolegerard2907 Рік тому +3

      He is simply a man who rambles that occasionally has a good thought and communicates it in an eloquent way. If you really listen sometimes his thoughts go off the rails to different topic. By his claim all trans kids are badly behaved. 🤨 Yeah... Nope. Someone can sound smart but the ideas are not all there sometimes.

  • @noah1502
    @noah1502 Рік тому +13

    "all social relations are negotiations about identity" "identity is not subjective" i agree wholeheartedly.

  • @Viper3220
    @Viper3220 Рік тому +235

    Out of the thousands of JP videos I've seen, this one is top ten. Wow.
    You precisely crystallized ideas I've had bouncing around in my head for years. I had put the connections together, but I was still knee-deep in refining it enough to explain them.

    • @ForGlory
      @ForGlory Рік тому

      Good!
      Now go purge 1) modern love, 2) queerdom and 3) queer marriage!
      Remember: ONCE YOU GET THIS MUCH PROOF AND INCENTIVE, YOU ARE MORALLY BOUND TO TAKE ACTION AGAINST EVIL!
      Alright, don't let us down!

    • @matthewcurry3565
      @matthewcurry3565 Рік тому +3

      You can know it all, and not change a thing. You could even make it worse.
      -jesus

    • @PecTheSpec
      @PecTheSpec Рік тому

      Mental power ❤

    • @raymondk.hessle607
      @raymondk.hessle607 Рік тому +5

      Thats exactly what i love about his guy. His takes include pices i thought before but could not connect in a propper way. Then this guy comes along and slashes throug the loose ends of the thoughts i managed to barely grasp my mind around in some bright moment and knits something from it

    • @lukeshioshio
      @lukeshioshio Рік тому +3

      ​@@ForGlory Jordan Peterson is pro gay marriage. I think you're in the wrong place.

  • @xbookx
    @xbookx Рік тому +45

    These are my notes for the children identity part. Hope it helps.
    Much of what we do to children is confuse them in relation to identity.
    If identity is about temporary feeling, when meaning are not precise, subjectively define, it's equivalent to misbehaving 2 years old.
    All social relations are negotiation of identity.
    A 2 year old do not have the maturity to orient themselves, they are impulsive, and unable to engage in social play.
    A social relationship is an invitation to play, if it's a tyranical approach, then it's antisocial and doesn't lead to development of social skills.
    Children can engage in pretend play(role playing), to play, to experiment a chosen identity over a span of time with playmates. A game is played with assigned rules that is negotiated.

  • @JCOwens-zq6fd
    @JCOwens-zq6fd Рік тому +68

    There has to be a balance found between feeling/emotion & thinking/logic. Both are necessary just like both the fathers & the mothers influence is needed to properly raise a child.

    • @baddog6003
      @baddog6003 Рік тому +1

      @@Veopm Well put.

    • @bruce7548
      @bruce7548 Рік тому +3

      It is not possible for humans to cease from having emotion, but intelligence can fade from both an individual life and from the life of a culture. There is not a left/right complementarity between emotions and reason but a lower / higher complementarity. Biologically the lower is more essential (respiration, digestion, reproduction) but the higher element is what makes us recognizably human. Without it we are indistinguishable from minerals.

    • @YaBoiNicho
      @YaBoiNicho Рік тому

      Emotion and logic both needed. Favoring one to detriment of the other is not effective nor healthy.

    • @minionlover6727
      @minionlover6727 Рік тому +1

      @@YaBoiNicho Anime profile picture detected, opinion rejected.

    • @YaBoiNicho
      @YaBoiNicho Рік тому

      @@minionlover6727 ok

  • @Davidjune1970
    @Davidjune1970 Рік тому +664

    Woman are unhappy because they are working now like men. They are also dying younger now because of the stress of work.

    • @viperstriker4728
      @viperstriker4728 Рік тому +28

      That's probably a fair assumption, but do you happen to have any sources on that? Or a full explanation of why you think that? (first hand experience or just looking at trends?)

    • @Davidjune1970
      @Davidjune1970 Рік тому +63

      @@viperstriker4728 news articles in the 90’s and early 00’s were noticing the gap between men and women lifespans were decreasing. More women were dying of heart disease and they were wondering if it was work related as more women were working. There were other articles noting that women were experiencing health issues due to changes in their social roles … ie working in the office. That was back when the internet was dial up though and you wouldn’t find them online because people thought the internet was useless back then.
      Gabor Mate has a talk on the role stress plays in disease which is on this platform. And we all know work is a big role in stress. As is money which is also related to work.

    • @viperstriker4728
      @viperstriker4728 Рік тому +9

      @@Davidjune1970 Thanks of the info.

    • @chrismelcaroful
      @chrismelcaroful Рік тому +3

      It just seems so true, I would like to see a study on it.

    • @shhh3185
      @shhh3185 Рік тому +61

      Women work because we have to. The world isn’t set up to support women, motherhood or indeed life.

  • @machielvanderschoot5180
    @machielvanderschoot5180 Рік тому +47

    Changing your identity based on your current feelings, is called "a personality disorder"

    • @sugahbabydoll1
      @sugahbabydoll1 10 місяців тому

      But that sounds like today kids 10 yrs old, I think I'm gay so therefore I am and that is called, "Coming out." I feel like in today's modern society there is a silent war, one where groups of ppl who have strong opinions about the way of life they want to subscribe to are viciously passive aggressive about selling their narrative. Aka social media, targeting young influential minds, & advertising to young adults. It's sickening.

  • @terma117
    @terma117 Рік тому +41

    This man is a blessing on the world

  • @Huckleberry04
    @Huckleberry04 Рік тому +15

    This all has me so down. People are in such a chaotic state they cant even make a decision so they call it fluidity as if that is a good thing. My heart aches for everything.

  • @OccamsRazor393
    @OccamsRazor393 Рік тому +16

    Exactly. How do they know how they feel when the initial premise is they are confused by what they feel.

  • @truskakwa
    @truskakwa Рік тому +61

    Thank you, Dr. Peterson. I am gonna implement your wisdom into raising my son and since we are now expecting another one, I hope we can help our kids navigate through the BS.

  • @donnafoster5215
    @donnafoster5215 Рік тому +15

    Dr. Peterson’s answer makes sense.

  • @ivyb4351
    @ivyb4351 Рік тому +8

    The first fifteen years of a child's life is the most important, you can't get those years back. if you want any chance of your child or children being a productive citizen you have to put the time in. if you know your child is in school for hours a day you need to know the curriculum that is being taught. What ideologies are being put in their mind? wherever they go you need to know what they are learning and who they are learning it from.

  • @sophielovespb
    @sophielovespb Рік тому +13

    Don't apologize, Jordan! Thank you for speaking up! ❤️

  • @abulahab6528
    @abulahab6528 Рік тому +38

    At the school where I teach, kids arrive and register their presence on the “Zones of Regulation” poster, which includes magnets marked Bored, Silly, Angry, etc.
    Kids are to identify their feelings and have others accommodate them.
    They’re not taught to identify their emotions AND THEN HOW TO WORK THROUGH THEM within the social contract; they’re only taught to identify their FEELINGS at the moment.
    As a new teacher to the school, but a veteran of 35 years, I am nauseated.

    • @shannaveganamcinnis-hurd405
      @shannaveganamcinnis-hurd405 Рік тому +4

      My god. Please refuse to do this in your class. ❤️

    • @srodriguez721
      @srodriguez721 Рік тому +6

      And we wonder where the entitlement and selfishness comes from.

    • @abulahab6528
      @abulahab6528 Рік тому

      @@shannaveganamcinnis-hurd405 Oh I do publicly mock it! The freshly-graduated from liberal universities also all have the alphabet people rainbow flag In Their Classrooms with the phrase “LGBTQ Are Welcome Here”.
      That too I openly deride, and I have not heard a peep about it from them. But these young teachers have obviously nudged their grade 4 &5 students to confront me & ask if alphabet people are therefore N O T welcome in my class.
      It IS a war.

    • @thanoscube8573
      @thanoscube8573 Рік тому +1

      They had this in my special Ed class, it hurts a lot bud I know.

  • @anecologistspeaks6422
    @anecologistspeaks6422 Рік тому +26

    Oh! Thank you so much. I just found you. This was so spot on. Thank you - just what I needed to hear. We’re doing it, collectively, communally. Let’s keep on with the mission. We know what it is.

  • @hanswoast7
    @hanswoast7 Рік тому +6

    Identity has many component, some are objective, some are interpersonal, some are subjective, others are probably missing - since I am not an psychologist.
    - "I am a doctor" (objective)
    - "I get a long well with others" (interpersonal)
    - "I am someone who loves to eat raw butter" (subjective)
    These components typically are directly or indirectly influence by personality, genetics, skills, profession, social context, etc. Over some of these we have arbitrary control (subjective), but most of them are how we conduct ourselves / are seen by other / or what role we play. So most of these components of identity are not just purely subjective, but emerge from the relations to others.
    Ideally your self assigned identities are the same as what others would ascribe to you and also what objectively fits. But if any of these 3 (or more?) identities deviate from the others, there is some form of a crisis.

    • @TallisKeeton
      @TallisKeeton Рік тому +1

      theres no such thing as "raw" butter - for butter to exist at all it has to be "raw" there is no "not raw" butter :)

    • @tennicksalvarez9079
      @tennicksalvarez9079 Рік тому

      @@TallisKeeton is gee raw butter then?

    • @TallisKeeton
      @TallisKeeton Рік тому

      @@tennicksalvarez9079 ah yes, I forgot about that one :)

  • @wineberry6
    @wineberry6 Рік тому +8

    Knowledge applied for the wellbeing of people is so rare these days

  • @mdarrenu
    @mdarrenu Рік тому +16

    Its the job of adults to offer roles to children - its called role models - whether as parents, teachers or random adults who interact - people will try different roles and eventually take one with minor modifications based on their uniqueness - but it still fits a role - positive to society - or unfortunately negative to society. Your new role as an adult can offer a new model for other newer children.

  • @williamzhao661
    @williamzhao661 Рік тому +17

    Grateful we get to hear out your wisdom in trying times. You offer us much inspiration !

  • @jennymcgowin9140
    @jennymcgowin9140 Рік тому +43

    Wow! Excellent commentary! Everyone should listen to this! Thank you Dr Peterson for always giving us the facts and wonderful analysis of these important topics.

  • @KEW-pd1jn
    @KEW-pd1jn Рік тому +3

    This is why Sunday School is beneficial! As a child, I believed that I couldn’t stand going. yet, as an adult now. I know I could be struggling with this difficult life far worse, and have less understanding about what to expect and how to handle the unknown factors in this world.

  • @shawnastarr3605
    @shawnastarr3605 Рік тому +13

    Thanks for all you do Jordan, I love that your wife is there with you. I learn so much listening to you. I’m praying for a better world and that things will change for the better and that it happens sooner than later our planet is so messed up it makes me so sad.

  • @rong1924
    @rong1924 Рік тому +5

    I can’t think of many things more destructive to kids than confusing them over the most fundamental distinction among people; boy/girl, man/woman, mommy/daddy.

  • @talongreenlee7704
    @talongreenlee7704 Рік тому +3

    I love these kinds of videos with Jordan Peterson. The host asked one question at the beginning and just sat back and listened for the rest of the video. Very refreshing change from the constant bickering I see in most political videos on UA-cam.

  • @natalia1045
    @natalia1045 Рік тому +9

    I am SAHM now with our third and I am so happy. I don’t want to get back to work and I am so thankful for my husband that he provides so I can be at home with my children. It’s so precious to me ❤

  • @dauntlessminds
    @dauntlessminds Рік тому +3

    I really appreciate Jordan's perspective as someone who's lived longer and researched and studied on these matters at the crossroads of psychology, sociology, philosophy, religion and politics. And of course his courage to say, no, this is delusional and here's why.

  • @Jfreek5050
    @Jfreek5050 Рік тому +6

    Imagine making drugs to castrate sex offenders and losing your moral compass so hard you pull a 180 and start using it on children to fulfill their whims.

  • @titussamuel2440
    @titussamuel2440 Рік тому +5

    Over spoilt kids become anti social, some parents are extra indulgent because they do not love enough, they can't love because they have a big limitation not because they won't. Caring for such kids could profit from agency support. A right self image at an early image is what expresses itself through adolscence and youth.

  • @Svensk7119
    @Svensk7119 Рік тому

    I did not realize mine own identity until my twenties. I realized that, "I am I. I am not just my father's son, but he is also my father." I am not just an adjunct to this or that person, they also have a responsibility of relationship to me. That made me realize that I was not an expendable buffer, useful only for dying at the right moment to save someone in the family that was actually valuable. I, too, was (and am) valuable!
    Some people won't understand, but for me, this was discovering fire!!!

  • @yanisbourgeois9028
    @yanisbourgeois9028 Рік тому +8

    Dr Peterson's digressions are one of the reasons I like him so much

  • @Degenevesting
    @Degenevesting Рік тому +5

    I remember when I was about 7, and Revenge of the Sith had just come out. My best mate and I would spend entire weekends having massive Star Wars battles where I would be Obi Wan and he was Anakin, culminating the giant, backyard forest based imaginary war by a day long stick based lightsaber duel between us, with lemonade breaks throughout.
    God I miss being a kid.
    Imagine how shit it must be nowadays.

  • @RictaScale.Official
    @RictaScale.Official Рік тому +34

    This man's brain is pretty bloody brilliant.

  • @lauradsouza1345
    @lauradsouza1345 Рік тому +9

    I'm sick of this touchy feely garbage.
    God bless Dr Peterson, and your lovely wife 🙏

  • @katiekrieger4749
    @katiekrieger4749 10 місяців тому +1

    I am so grateful for Dr. Peterson. He is a huge part of the reason why I'm remotely sane in this society.

  • @Project_Hangover
    @Project_Hangover Рік тому +7

    A lot of this honestly feels like basic common sense. And I do still feel like most people still think with common sense similarly, in their own unique ways. But it is truly without a doubt that social media amplifies the voices of those that are tainted with these new 'ideas', if you can call them that. Point is, it feels a little sad as well about hearing simple virtues being heard again and most people, again, don't remember being taught as a child. If those child's were blessed enough for a basic decent education

  • @MartyMcDonnald
    @MartyMcDonnald Рік тому +16

    He had great rants before.
    But this one was a masterpiece!

  • @Lebensfreude
    @Lebensfreude Рік тому +6

    It is always a pleasure to listen to Dr. Peterson!

  • @kingdicehoi4lubu746
    @kingdicehoi4lubu746 Рік тому +4

    As a bi man I hate that they took LGB which was for rights of people and ADULTS AND TEENS who were able to make the sexual decision to be free to do so and changed it into this horrific monster of what it was

  • @Nate-vi6pm
    @Nate-vi6pm Рік тому +3

    He says in irony as husband to a wife “what I feel goes, woman… see how that goes” exactly. Why are we letting children dictate who they are? Parents give their child identity and forms them. Parents are responsible for their vulnerable children’s identity, values, teaching, training moral compass… children are not mature enough to know anything about much and they cannot consent to adult decisions like medical procedures and complex relationships with adults. This entire thing of erasing children and women and having no boundaries is sick and based on specific interests like money and fetishes.

  • @abgnbd3294
    @abgnbd3294 Рік тому +5

    so good and so needed.

  • @geridannels1701
    @geridannels1701 Рік тому +22

    God bless you and your family Jordan!

  • @MrsGladysz
    @MrsGladysz Рік тому +1

    I am so thankful for these videos of Dr. Jordan Peterson . I live in the middle of Appalachia and don't have easy access to live events. Keep up the good work! Thank you for ALL you do.

  • @lisamcfall5599
    @lisamcfall5599 9 місяців тому

    Omg! We did EXACTLY this with our first son 28 years ago! Steps and all! Lol IT WORKED! We have 8 kiddos and he’s the only one that needed to “frow a fit” on the steps until he was ready to join the family again! Jordan Peterson was speaking to us even before we knew he existed! 🙌

  • @Jukilady
    @Jukilady Рік тому +3

    I love this man. He’s everything a man should be

  • @margueriteoosthuizen6006
    @margueriteoosthuizen6006 Рік тому +20

    My 2 year old's standard answer to any "how are you" "who are you" or "what are you" question is "I'm a daddy dinosaur" 😂
    Mom: "are you OK sweetie?"
    Kid: "I'm OK. I'm a daddy dinosaur."

    • @quantumtheo
      @quantumtheo Рік тому +2

      Welp, you better get your kid a dino-plasty STAT! :P kidding kidding, that's adorable :)

  • @hams_ollo
    @hams_ollo Рік тому +6

    Interesting too that eliminating poverty will provide better opportunities for parents to bond with and teach their children instead of relying on a public education system to raise the children according to the wins of what a Given government deems right in their given moment of “feelings”

  • @angels-lift1902
    @angels-lift1902 Рік тому +7

    Thank you for the inspiration Dr. Peterson 😊

  • @Outis634
    @Outis634 Рік тому +5

    Banger! Keep 'em coming!

  • @antoniorossi1441
    @antoniorossi1441 Рік тому +3

    Grazie Dottor Jordan. Un'analisi limpida precisa e ricca di suggerimenti molto importanti!

  • @Yhorm
    @Yhorm Рік тому +3

    Until philosophers are kings, and kings philosophers, mankind will be doomed to repeat the same mistakes

  • @sherylpalmer6092
    @sherylpalmer6092 10 місяців тому +1

    Thank you Jordan!! I would love to be in hia audience.

  • @DeborahJeanMonkman
    @DeborahJeanMonkman Рік тому +10

    I would NEVER tell a child “how you feel is a fact” There is no bigger responsibility than mentoring and guiding children regardless of your privilege.

  • @genetabate45
    @genetabate45 Рік тому +3

    I Admire this man! He is amazing. The world needs what he has to say.

  • @mariagarced1013
    @mariagarced1013 Рік тому +1

    Pescador de Hombres, I so wanted to hear you today! Gracias!!!! Today is "Emancipation Day", and there is no school for some here in Puerto Rico. As I have mentioned before, I was a teacher. My child is considered to be of special education. I love him so much. I often feel sad though, as if I were forced to live in the Matrix. I can see teachers, people-both men and women- happily eating filet mignon, and making deals, with Agents. My boy will be a great man one day. The best gift I can give him, is to STAY AWAKE. Society, seems to be in trouble, but it always is. It's different now, but it's still trouble. The real problem, in my opinion, of course, is the NARCISSISM of teachers and school administrators. It's ALL ABOUT social media. I am, DISGUSTED, BECAUSE I am awake. Thank you so much. I feel like Ariel, shaking her head to Sebastian..."If we could get that Witch...to give you back your voice...you can go home, with all the normal fish... and just be...and just be..."

  • @YSapphireGroup
    @YSapphireGroup Рік тому +3

    Jordan = a gift to humankind. Period We love him

  • @jonnaborosky8836
    @jonnaborosky8836 9 місяців тому

    Thank you Dr. Peterson for being willing to explain the truth to people. Your role is so valuable to the human race! Thank you for sharing, sir.

  • @jln60835
    @jln60835 Рік тому +1

    Thank you for your service, Dr Peterson!

  • @diannewood2039
    @diannewood2039 Рік тому

    I can barely hear this. I don't know why this happens on UA-cam. I can hear fine on Rumble. Too bad. I'd like to hear Jordan Peterson.

  • @ItsWhatever736
    @ItsWhatever736 Рік тому +4

    There's a kid I know that felt like he is in the wrong body since he was a kid. His parents challenged it since then to make sure he isn't confused. 10 years later he's still feeling the same, even though he has therapy and talks every other week for years now. This is how children should be treated. With care. Love them and make sure they aren't making radical choices.

  • @skydyverjym
    @skydyverjym Рік тому +1

    The ancient Greek philosopher Plato wrote in his famous work "The Republic" that the best ruler or civil servant is one who does not seek power or office, but is forced to serve by the citizens because of their exceptional qualities and virtues. In his vision of an ideal society, Plato believed that the leaders should be chosen based on their wisdom, courage, and integrity, rather than their wealth, status, or ambition. He called such individuals "philosopher-kings" and argued that only they can ensure justice and stability in the state.

    • @skydyverjym
      @skydyverjym Рік тому +1

      We need to force J Peterson to be world supreme chancellor prime president minister dictator all knowing saviour of the human species

  • @Simkets
    @Simkets Рік тому +2

    Many people hate and disagree with everything Peterson says. I find it concerning how nowadays everything is either "Yes" or "No". That everything is black & white. You either have to agree with me or disagree with me. You have to be either in group A or group B.
    Please! Things are not that simple, you can't divide people in two groups and call it a day. I agree with a lot of things Peterson says, but I also disagree with some of his points. I can listen to his takes on things, agree with them, and at the same time think critically on my own.
    I think this separation into groups is very damaging for our society. You either have to be with Peterson or against Peterson. You either have to be pro-life or pro-abortion. Etc..
    With a mindset like this there is no room for discussion, critical thinking, and even for creating your own opinions!
    Stop seeing problems black & white, especially social problems. They are not simple yes or no answers. They are layerd and complex issues that can't be put under a one definite answer.

  • @samcjsattt
    @samcjsattt Рік тому +2

    “What identity would you want to experiment with, with me for the next span of time? “ I’m pretty sure that’s what kids are saying these day when asking other kid to play.

  • @amykrueger3396
    @amykrueger3396 Рік тому +8

    JP you are the best! ❤🙏🤗

  • @Cinderella227
    @Cinderella227 Рік тому +7

    Thank you Jordan ✝️❤️

  • @LisahTali
    @LisahTali Рік тому

    Key word here is think, the process of thought is not accurate to any degree. Its important to determine the difference between thinking and feeling. And the different levels of feeling. The English language is not the best descriptor of these internal processes. We often muddle thinking and feeling, but first is feeling, then comes thought as a descriptor of feeling. Dysphoria comes from a feeling of discomfort within one's skin, which requires an embracing of oneself and their being in its expressions physically and mentally.
    To rely on others for your sense of identity is also a huge fault, when we think we are what we're told we are, we feel that our own sense of being is invalid, and we must push it away. There's a middle ground, i think this idea could be more fleshed out in its nuances.

  • @raumograeywolf5477
    @raumograeywolf5477 Рік тому

    I always do enjoy when the good doctor gets into lecturing on what the data is, what the research has found

  • @baron_of_dirt
    @baron_of_dirt Рік тому +2

    I just imagine Jordan’s kids playing and saying “Your terms are acceptable to me.”

  • @MB-gi8iq
    @MB-gi8iq Рік тому

    YOU are so much more than a feeling...

  • @r.walker7986
    @r.walker7986 Рік тому +1

    There is a difference between a rise in behavioral disorders and the diagnosis of behavioral disorders, back in the day people were just "quiet" "quirky" "different" etc. Mental healthcare was not normalized...

  • @kellywoodwardcore5360
    @kellywoodwardcore5360 Рік тому

    Pay attention to how people talk too. People say “I feel like they should have reduced the cost so more people could enjoy the film” Instead of “I think “ it runs off too. Noticed myself starting to say it and started to pay attention- so many people talk this way especially young teens

  • @scubaydu7115
    @scubaydu7115 Рік тому +7

    As a young adult, 19 at the date of this comment, this has been happening for years, especially to young men. Young men are in constant anguish, and its because our society has pushed us down constantly.

  • @jesseblackwell5733
    @jesseblackwell5733 Рік тому +6

    My late father told me before he died " we were put here as an experiment to see how long it would take for us to destroy ourselves"

    • @darkalley8595
      @darkalley8595 Рік тому +1

      No. The meaning of life is your relationship with Truth (Jesus) because Truth defines reality. Don't live and die as child of illusions and lies. Repent.

    • @darkalley8595
      @darkalley8595 Рік тому

      Jesus loves you. Repent.

    • @jesseblackwell5733
      @jesseblackwell5733 Рік тому

      Religion brianwashed you, there is no god in the sky watching you ready to punish you when you dont do as god pleases thats a story made up by those who want you to be controlled with fear, and saying jesus is truth would be saying christianity is the only religion, and look how many people in history have been slaughtered for not subscribing to your idea of god and jesus....
      Religios belief is like a penis, its fine to have one , its ok to be proud of it, but dont go getting it out in public and waving it in peoples faces

    • @darkalley8595
      @darkalley8595 Рік тому

      @@jesseblackwell5733 I literally met God. The lies of the world brainwashed you.

    • @timmorakinyo9529
      @timmorakinyo9529 Рік тому

      ​@@darkalley8595 we are all part of the Higher Truth so is Jesus, but we have to be like Christ ( love,compassion nonprejudice) to express the Higher Truth within us .

  • @Jair2435
    @Jair2435 Рік тому +7

    Videos like this keep me sane.
    Jesus is king.

  • @CurtHowland
    @CurtHowland Рік тому +13

    "Do more with less" Imagine the entire buildings and electric generation plants, megawatts of electricity, tons of copper, glass, steel, banks of supercomputers, and hundreds if not thousands of people that were required 50 years ago to do what your cell phone does.

    • @ianbuick8946
      @ianbuick8946 Рік тому

      Growing up, i used to think that we would have cell phone that smaller than the palm, battery last for weeks, or holographic display. But we getting more and more camera lenses, bigger sensor and a bigger screen to satisfy average consumer's needs of entertainment.

  • @aidanfegan6605
    @aidanfegan6605 Рік тому +2

    Loving this recent JBP content

  • @runwillrobinson
    @runwillrobinson Рік тому +8

    The lady who started the conversation had the easiest job ever!

    • @marias5088
      @marias5088 Рік тому +12

      That lady is Dr. Peterson's wife :))

  • @mariahmunnis6315
    @mariahmunnis6315 Рік тому

    This is one of the best videos from Jordan Peterson. So enlightening in so many ways.
    Im saving to re-play.

  • @ulitka_t
    @ulitka_t 10 місяців тому

    Thanks for telling all this thoughts aloud.

  • @day3455
    @day3455 Рік тому +3

    For example I just learned about Jazz Jenkings latest developments. Although he’s been transitioned into a girl by his parents and family and by cynical money-making media, he turned out to be unwilling to dilatate his wound, he has very evident eating disorder, and is wiling to date women… how is he a she, after all this years of being exploited by his parents, first, by the media, the medical industry, and the trans community?
    All of these people and organisations must be held guilty of child abuse and child trafficking.

  • @j6302
    @j6302 Рік тому +2

    Investing in education has proven itself to pay off time and again, yet we keep divesting and making it more and more difficult to afford. It’s incredibly detrimental and counterintuitive.

  • @mariaaiello8184
    @mariaaiello8184 Рік тому

    Thank you DOCTOR Peterson for being a light in the darkness! God’s blessings you, your lovely wife and family!🙏✝️🙏✝️❤️

  • @antonk.653
    @antonk.653 Рік тому

    Regarding the beginning at 0:35, there exists conflicting evidence about women getting unhappier. When you track depression rates, it is indeed increasing, but if you take a look at indigenous or older societies (India is a huge body of research for that), depression manifests differently. If you include those symptoms of depression, then the depression rate is conserved, i.e. not changing.
    So what we are doing is basically getting aware of different manifestations of depression, and having a selecting bias about what is depression and what isn't. It is still ongoing research so take Peterson's talk with a grain of salt.