Confident Conversations - Turn Your Filter Down To Improve Your Social Life

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  • Опубліковано 29 жов 2024

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  • @ShreyafromIndia
    @ShreyafromIndia 11 місяців тому +1

    Thank you Dr. Aziz🙏🏻
    I can so relate when you said in the middle of conversation I stop and look back to what I said.

  • @timotewos101
    @timotewos101 Рік тому +5

    You do not know how I grateful I am for this. I am relatively intelligent and perform well and school yet I was called out and even mocked for talking at such a slow pace. Day by day I am noticing improvements in how I talk and I sincerely thank you.

  • @zephyrcarlos4481
    @zephyrcarlos4481 Місяць тому

    Just want to say thank you to you DR. You really did change my life for the better

  • @charat.9430
    @charat.9430 3 роки тому +12

    Thank you A LOT for this one, Dr Aziz!! Great information!! Also the 'Don't look back' point was so so needed!

  • @bestfishinthesea743
    @bestfishinthesea743 Рік тому +1

    I feel like my filter is so strong i can't even come up with things to say, and everyone is so used to me being shy it feels like they never start conversations with me

  • @jCrItCh5
    @jCrItCh5 4 місяці тому +1

    Sweet as...

  • @braidy4450
    @braidy4450 Рік тому

    Sincerely appreciate you sharing this value. I feel this will help me a lot for the next time I’m speaking with friends

  • @sohaibahmed226
    @sohaibahmed226 8 років тому +2

    I do that all the time like you mentioned thinking to myself if I said something offensive to someone or if I did something wrong.I may look back at certain things that i did and am embarrassed.

  • @thewendybird2767
    @thewendybird2767 9 років тому +22

    Thank you so much for this. I haven't had a chance to use this as I literally just watched it, but I have a question. I really want to talk to people and I try sometimes, (these people are often my old friends) but I cannot get a conversation to carry on because I am so bland that I have absolutely nothing to talk about. Do you have any advice for this? I always find that, if I say something, people do not find it funny or interesting and it always stumps the conversation. Also, if the conversation is not 1 to 1 or someone isn't speaking directly to me, I always get absolutely terrified to interject or join in. If you have any advice, please let me know. Thanks a lot.

    • @graciee8820
      @graciee8820 8 років тому +3

      Yes, this is exactly how I feel like! :(

  • @andrewgrey1551
    @andrewgrey1551 2 роки тому

    I don’t know how I came across this but I’m glad I did. I really needed to see this!

  • @aycaergut6886
    @aycaergut6886 4 роки тому +5

    That was really helpful conversion for me🙏

  • @zzulm
    @zzulm 4 роки тому +14

    There was a cute guy at work that would make me very nervous and I couldn't say a thing in his presence. I dig deeper and it was anxiety. I started doing mindfulness and my anxiety got better. Now he is my boss and I stand my ground so he takes my job seriously and I make him nervous 😂 it wasn't meant to be but I learned to face my anxiety. He is cute but I need to see respect before I consider him as someone I want to hangout with.

  • @Somoonie
    @Somoonie 2 роки тому

    What I got from this was say the first thing that comes to ur mind, stop thinking so much and most of the time people don’t even remember what you said because everyone is saying whatever anyways😌

  • @nathanzulaica3178
    @nathanzulaica3178 3 роки тому +5

    This is exactly what’s wrong with me right now, thank you I really thought I had autism

  • @guilhermecampos8313
    @guilhermecampos8313 Рік тому

    3:00 this happens to me. I think "and if someone in the neighborhood hears me"?

  • @katenguyen6070
    @katenguyen6070 3 роки тому +1

    sir, your sharing is very helpful, thanks a lot!

  • @40bdg
    @40bdg 9 років тому +1

    Excellent video! Thanks

  • @Yarmalate
    @Yarmalate 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you, are there any exercises to practise this? I don't speak to people much day-to-day

    • @GetMoreConfidence
      @GetMoreConfidence  2 роки тому +2

      Try this daily exercise: ua-cam.com/video/0xUUEWW1baY/v-deo.html

  • @islamdibie14
    @islamdibie14 9 років тому

    thanks alot its so good to me

  • @jayeshadwani3779
    @jayeshadwani3779 5 років тому +1

    Very good sir really loved your playlist

  • @davidalexander5495
    @davidalexander5495 8 років тому +5

    Dr. Aziz, my problem seems to be related to finding words when engaged in a conversation. I have no such problem when thinking or writing, only in conversation.

  • @mcmic1212
    @mcmic1212 9 років тому +1

    Dr Aziz, I really like your videos. I have intense anxiety. I only get out of bed for a job I dislike, bills are high, and I don't feel I have secure connections with ppl so I look to please them. My life feels so out of control because I desperately try to break out of the people pleasing bt I don't know if I'm on the right track. I don't know what listening to my voice even sounds like. I am 26 years old...no boyfriend, no clear direction in life. I need stability. I was seeing a counselor but she was too expensive. Any tips on where to start esp. when people pleasing is so strong for me? I try to bring the filter down so I can talk to ppl authentically but I literally freeze up every time I try to bring something up and I'm left listening to what other people have to say and I usually agree with them or awkwardly disagree with them.

    • @kakacech
      @kakacech 6 років тому

      mcmic1212
      I pretty much have the same situation. I'm very interested in knowing how you're doing right now, share with me.

  • @mwloos1
    @mwloos1 3 роки тому +3

    04:15 Well there goes my pick up line

  • @daveb1963
    @daveb1963 9 років тому +2

    hi doc been watching video,s worked great for me putting things in to action, but went out sat nite with mate to club having great time when we noticed 4 ladies looking our way so when i went to the bar i asked them if they would like to join us (first time ever i have done this) success they came over & general talking even though i am very shy i do like to dance music was playing so i asked one girl to dance she said no thanks i went anyway,when i returned she asked me if i was gay sum what bemused by this question & had few beers i sed to her give me a kiss then you will find out! she declined and left. question is why do women who don,t know me say im gay not the first time this has happened. its funny as none of my male friends see this within me,your advise would be appreicated,dave

    • @GetMoreConfidence
      @GetMoreConfidence  9 років тому +1

      bobbysatwat Dude, congrats on stepping up and walking over to those women to talk to them. That's HUGE! Haha, great response to her question as well : )
      Why do women ask if you're gay? That could be a lot of things. It could be in the way you dress, your mannerisms. It could be in the way you relate to them. You might be cutting off your sexual energy towards them as well (out of fear/inhibition). Women pick up on that as well.
      For more help, and a free eBook, go to 30DaysToDatingMastery.com

  • @yaesmucho
    @yaesmucho 6 років тому +2

    hi! you should sell The Confidence Code in amazon

  • @sushalley6228
    @sushalley6228 8 років тому

    hey doc, I am a university student, and I am always playing future and past events in my mind and keep thinking maybe I should have say this instead of that, also I often want to please ppl all the tym and jealousy is a huge problem which is why I don't have gud frnd, to be honest no frnd ...plz tell me wat I should do and which would be a gud program for me.cheersSumi

  • @bossoholic
    @bossoholic 3 роки тому +1

    I'm too hyperactive and uncalibrated. I will look like a wako lol. I need some filter and "composure" to look normal and confident (especially around girls lol).

    • @GetMoreConfidence
      @GetMoreConfidence  3 роки тому +1

      Check out my channel for videos on becoming a better conversationalist.

  • @mr.pewyee4525
    @mr.pewyee4525 2 роки тому

    I need a revised version I have no filter to a bad point

  • @georgehiggins1320
    @georgehiggins1320 3 роки тому +2

    Just so the folks in the comments know, you have my full permission to ask what color my underwear are whenever you wish!

  • @tosdy8480
    @tosdy8480 2 роки тому

    I either say what’s on my mind or I don’t say anything but the thing is that it makes me look like a jerk. Basically how do I stop myself from being an asshole to people while still talking?

  • @8754roberto
    @8754roberto 7 років тому

    wow 🙏😔

  • @naufalnoorizan1763
    @naufalnoorizan1763 3 роки тому +1

    I ask too much random qeustions my friends all get annoyed😗 how do i start a new topic without asking qeustion?

    • @GetMoreConfidence
      @GetMoreConfidence  3 роки тому

      I find that a question is one of the best conversation starters. Maybe it's time for a friend upgrade?

    • @naufalnoorizan1763
      @naufalnoorizan1763 3 роки тому

      @@GetMoreConfidence i just realized i mispelled question,🤣anyways thanks for the tip

    • @davey5867
      @davey5867 2 роки тому

      Other than asking a question, you can try sharing a story of your own

  • @Hassan-zw9tb
    @Hassan-zw9tb 3 роки тому +2

    I hate hearing "Hassan is so quiet" all the time, I wish I could talk like normal people

    • @GetMoreConfidence
      @GetMoreConfidence  3 роки тому +1

      You absolutely can!

    • @Hassan-zw9tb
      @Hassan-zw9tb 3 роки тому

      @@GetMoreConfidence i saw this video and found it pretty informative, what other things can I do to be less quiet?

    • @KillianSmiles
      @KillianSmiles 2 роки тому

      @@Hassan-zw9tb Practice and persevere !! That is my plan

  • @2230-x1b
    @2230-x1b 2 роки тому +1

    🐱🤔😮