@@someonesomeone25 so sorry to hear that, may we ask which sort of issue you waited 5 or 6 years to be assessed for? Very sad that happened, I hope it wasn’t for a mental health condition
@@bettyboop8529 I waited about 6 months to get a general mental health assessment (range of issues, including mood disorder and gender/sexuality issues), and from there I've been put on another waiting list with a likely wait of over a year for therapy, and was put forward for a gender specialist assessment, which has a five year waiting list, and was told I needed a couple of years of therapy before I could be put on that list. Edit: Even for suicidally depressed teen boys the waiting list just for an assessment can often be 6 or 7 months. For an adult can be longer.
@@someonesomeone25 I agree unfortunately the NHS decides what it thinks should be a priority and doesn’t think of how it affects the patient. I’ve been left my whole adult life with hormonal issues every month, but yet after finding a harmless lump it was operated on right away (which of course I was glad for but still)! I’ll hit menopause before they get round to helping me..! I’m of course not alone in this.
@@bettyboop8529 Of course. The NHS isn't really fit for purpose, especially in mental health terms. People suffer and die on waiting lists all the time.
It isn’t worth the bs at all the point of life is just to experience life and live it. Don’t live life for what you can get out of it. But to be honest I don’t care to experience or live it
@@h3arty I don't know for sure if I did or not..I have some unusual characteristics that have continually marred my life and caused me serious problems and scientists say its the result of "childhood abuse" so?? :)
I’m starting to feel this way and I don’t want to...... I’m starting to become lazy and so apathetic. I’m trying to find reasons to change and I just can’t. Fuck man
3 days ago I was having an argument with my uncle about mental illness, he believes that mental illness isn't real. I wish I had this video 3 days ago so I can shut his mouth in style.
I've wondered before, after my dreams collapsing multiple times under the weight of reality, how does everyone go on? How does someone live to 80? Im not depressed or suicidal but it just seemed so impossible at times to see the joy in repeating this Sysiphian task of finding a new dream and chasing it blindly until eventually you realize, you probably wont be the best, injuries might stop you in your tracks, or priorities in your life might force change. This video expresses how i feel, its not that life suddenly becomes less fun, its that it loses all purpose when my blind faith in my goal disappears. Like i was a zombie chasing things before and a realization teaches me that it doesn't really matter. But then i have to reinvent myself if i want to survive... Life is complicated
Yep wasted 2 years and counting so that's fun I've wanted to do a ton of stuff and couldn't for many reasons even rn start of summer i cant get myself to start I feel no courage to care Height? Who gives a sh probably i could eat some pills last year that i didnt Coding? Heh ef that with this trashy pc UA-cam? Yeah no missed the viral moment cuz i didnt have a phone and now i edit for 3 hours to get 5 views (The height thing idk what stuff i could have done it's annoying idk what i should do ugh plu the wasted time makes me lose the reason to finally start)
I've had the same thoughts. My grandpa is in his late 80s or so now and I couldn't help but wonder what kept him going all those years? I'm only 17 and I've had enough of life.
That's the meaning of life To experience life The good & the ugly... The joys & pains Passion & despair Until one day You're gone for ever...FOR....EVER.... Live while you can There's plenty of time to be dead later
Seneca missed to go further, it's when we assume our self to be safe arises crises, as we are always unsafe, having this in mind we will develop strength naturally to face things that come across
Whatever courage means depend on the individual person. For me, to live does not take courage at all, I don't need to do anything. To commit the act of suicide after contemplating and planning for years, now that takes courage.
@@deadlyrobot5179 Keep going in hopes that more strength will come tomorrow. If you keep living and keep moving forward, that is strength. There is always time. If there are none to support us nearby (friends or family) seek help online or call a suicide hotline of things are particularly rough.
I honestly believe it's societies norm. The "Have to" thought process. There's people that are good at life and some that struggle. Those that are good at it have evolved there lives for productivity and material things. Thats their legacy and their happiness comes from that. Others well we get labeled Depressed because loss of interest but that type of life we don't find happiness. Maybe its evolution or primitive but we do the motions because we "Have To" . Thats just my thought.
As someone who had severe depression, a breakdown and was suicidal for years, I expected more from this I’m afraid. I wanted to die because every aspect of life was so bad, from abuse to grief to homelessness. My advice would be fix what’s wrong with your life yourself because no one else will 🌷🌷
Depression, abuse,homelessness,suicide, grief,you certainly have dealt with some soul crushing issues and I hope you are well. I understand everyone’s story is personal but you kind of left us hanging here with your advice.How does one fix these things,how did you manage to survive. You have a fascinating story. Please, we need to hear more.
It's pure chemistry. Studies show that low vitamin D can cause a lot of bad stuff, including depression. I'm done with pity myself. Life is worth living. So many things to explore! Knowledge is the primarily driver for me.
@@markhale3941 thank you, yes I am well now but I do think self improvement is life long study! Too much to fit in this box, but for me antidepressants aren’t the answer, I needed to change my job, leave my partner, go back to college, get therapy etc. I don’t mean for that to sound easy, it wasn’t and there was many many years I sat and did nothing. But you get to a point where you have to make a change. Let’s start small though! Self help books and UA-cam videos are great thank god ☺️🙏🏼
Whenever I feel low i just imagine every other person on earth feeling the exact same thing and it makes me feel less alone cause were all in this together ❤
@@GladysAmelia nicely said, life is mostly "meh" ~-----~~^~--------^------- with some peaks of happiness, we just need to learn to make the "meh" moments make us feel less sad 😅
To me, having to imagine reality in a different way to be happy underlines my desire to leave this reality. Death is more effective at escaping reality.
This was timely. So sad that I can hardly speak. I've lost so many reasons these last few years. I live solely for my rescue dogs right now. I go to work because they need food and comforts. Otherwise, I doubt I'd be here. The last few days have just been so hard, in an already harrowing year. I decided to reach out to some friends...They are all doing their own life, most are at work. Or struggling themselves. I understand. My wife woke up in another town, in another home, without me. And she's just carrying on. Becoming more and more of a stranger to me everyday. 20 years... and I don't know her anymore. I don't recognize anything anymore. I'm just floating.
For what it’s worth, I think pets are a valid reason, especially since they’re rescues. Because who knows what could’ve happened to them if you hadn’t taken them in. You can rebuild/find your other reasons from there.
@@stephr2267 your a God send. Thanks for your very simple achievable suggestion 😊. I was wondering if I should get another dog. Mans best friend..... I could use one. Was thinking of moving to South America. I seems like hard work to me now. Maybe keep my home,, play with my best friend. Garden , cut grass. Is that Enough 🤔 Will I regret 😔
@@stevenflores972 glad I could help a little. If you're weighing options and still can't decide to move or stay, just keep in mind that either decision will help you understand what you want or don't want. For example, if you stay at home and find out that it's not enough, then you'll know that and can pick up and move. It's never a waste of time trying things out, in my opinion. Good luck and stay safe!
My very, once well heeled friend lost everything after a freak accident. Doggie day car3 saved her. She learned a new “ trade”…that taught she hated her old “ sophisticated “ one…and always did. She’s happy as a clam now. The money isn’t as great, but is it? It’s steadier…and that’s huge. She loves it. After all, animals are “ here”, too.
The best way to stop the hate and violence and to learn to love and respect others and one is self is to start praying 🤲 to God. Please do some research on Islam and learn how to calm your nerves, to heal from mental problems, and how to deal with life problems everyone. May God help us all.✌️❤️ Anyone who may need my help just please ask me don’t be shy.😊
Even when bad things happen im like “well i chose to continue so im glad i got to at least experience this” I think its a perspective of how worse things were or could be
I'm 26, unemployed, still don't know what to do with my life, suffering through anxiety, depression and existential crises almost every day. I was wondering how drastic difference my generation has compared to my father's when they would get a job without a university degree, could buy a house or even two and go for vacation and enjoy life; they would go enjoy laid back lifestyle, meet friends, family and there wasn't a drive for materialistic living. There was no consumerism, no one spending time on screens, no social media, no sense of isolation since people would actually come out of their houses and visit one another, be there for one another in needed times. This generation is fucked up with overpopulation, rat race, consumerism, MNC's and corporates, climatemore Simplelikegenuinely happy. I visit my village and I actually feel true happiness over there. People aren't rich, but they somehow feel fulfilled with life. They don't have larger expectations from life, they just live by the day and be at peace. They don't want to conquer the world or aren't racing to be "successful." They have less means and live happily by it. If our generation continues to keep living like this, we aren't far from becoming an actual dystopian society where essence of living this wonderful life will be lost.
@@tinamahich5356 OH MY GOD thank you so much for asking. I'm 27 now and I landed my first job ever and it's going pretty well! I'm out of depression now, and I have made sure I won't ever go to that place again. My mindset has been shifted drastically, I've learned what my weakness. I carry a clear vision now about where I want to head to future with clear goals in my mind. In all, I'm at extremely better place considering mental health and head space and over all being, thanks again for asking. How are you doing? 🌻
Having big dreams is not that bad. Some people get bored with having a simple and laid back life. They want to do something big, go on an adventure, leave a mark on the world etc.... While others don't like the pressure and rat race. They want a peaceful, simple life. Both mindsets are beautiful. No one can tell you how to live your life. It's always up to you.
To live is to allow ourselves to fall in love-with someone, with something, or with life itself. Viewing death as a source of meaning can be comforting for many-but rather than using this as an argument in favor of suicide, it's critical to leverage such a perspective in order to make the most of life while it lasts.
It is highly interesting how everyone is conditioned through their life to axiomatically believe that life inherently is a gift, without really a reason, behind it. Stay safe folks.
I exist without my consent and I’ve lived long enough to try and avoid bringing new life into a world full of suffering if I can help it. We are just vessels to our genes’ desires to self replicate, everything is just a consequence of that.
@@impendio Personally, I will of course respect your decision and thought you have taken behind formulating such an opinion - I wonder, if you have actually read on terminology, like, Natalism and Anti-natalism? Furthermore, I personally, see life, as a aimless neutral gift and by that I mean, there is no inherent purpose to it, and utmost happiness or utmost sadness, isn't the theme of it. It is a canvas, that essentially, gets updated, every time you let a tear run down, or witness the sunset, feeling full; there is no need, for me, specifically, to hope that my life will be a happy or a sad one, but of course, I will deviate into constructing a purpose and a happy life, in my own terms. Being a interesting vessel should be your priority, and as it seems you are off to a good start.
It's the gift of experience. And in that since, it is a neutral gift. Either make the most of it by sticking through and learning the complexity of life on Earth or throw it away by making your physical vessel(body) incapable of carrying your soul. Take it as you wish.
It's my 23rd birthday. Life seems like a nightmare. I'm going through DP/DR and Existential OCD. Life seems to have no inherent meaning and everything I do seems meaningless. I feel like a living corpse. Yet I dream of a better future. Where I'm content with my life. Hopefully one day.
The best way to stop the hate and violence and to learn to love and respect others and one is self is to start praying 🤲 to God. Please do some research on Islam and learn how to calm your nerves, to heal from mental problems, and how to deal with life problems everyone. May God help us all.✌️❤️ Anyone who may need my help just please ask me don’t be shy.😊
Hello everyone! If you're in a dark place right now, I know it feels like there is no ending to it, like it'll be impossible to be happy ever again. As someone who dealt with sexual trauma, agoraphobia, generalised anxiety disorder (you name it haha!), I have found myself in a dark place many time and I thought "God. There really is no end to this." HOWEVER. Life is beautiful. I am so happy. I am so grateful. There is a way out of the depressive and anxious pit. Please keep swimming for now!
2:47 _'We, the ones who have crawled back from the darkness, may be disadvantaged in a hundred ways, but at least we will have had to find, rather than assumed or inherited, some reasons why we are here. Every day we continue, will be a day earned back from death.'_ I have survived the nightmare known as clinical depression, and I can affirm that's what it feels like. If you are suffering with the feeling that you haven't a reason to live, no giving up! No dying! Stay alive. So many people have struggled with not wanting to live anymore, and made it through alive. I promise you can too!
@HEY THERE, CAROLINE. I understand that feeling. Sometimes we just have to stay alive until the time comes that we _want_ to be alive. Until that time comes, we just have to keep ourselves alive. And sometimes that is a heroic thing to do, considering how awful we feel.
@@TheFracturedfuture Dude. Really? So since people all eventually die, their struggles don't mean anything??? Each individual decides for themselves, what is worth living for. And I'm here to say that when one has to struggle to regain the desire to stay alive, I know one thing that I offer to all who are in despair: *that struggle to hang on to the desire to stick around, is worth it.*
@@Cynthia-Landers How is it worth it? People love throwing this line around but never say how it's worth it. I've been struggling with mental illnesses for about 15 years, each year getting progressively worse to the point of having chronic suicidal thoughts, I have pushed through thick and thin. Honestly for me all that struggle wasn't worth it, I'm now in my thirties, still straggling and on top of that now I'm dealing with health issues, the difference between not killing myself sooner and deciding to live is that I would've avoided all this unnecessary suffering. So yeah the sad truth is that people's struggles don't mean anything, it may mean something to the people close to them but eventually they will all die too and in the grand scheme of things it won't mean a thing.
My purpose plays a huge role in my reason to live. I feel that I'm here to help people. It's that simple. So my reason will never expire, because there will always be someone out there looking for hope.💯👑
@@FynePr1ntWilliamsMUS1C Obviously your reasons do not work for so many other people as it is also evident here in these comments. Your reasons sound so universal and simple that if they were sufficient enough for everyone then no one would struggle with finding reasons to live.
@@dreamthedream8929 Well, clearly that's why my comment begins with "MY purpose plays a huge role in MY reason to live." I didn't expect it to be the answer for everyone else's life. Feel me?
Often people forget one of the most important pillar of recovery from mental illness is the ability to forgo the old stubbornness/attitude/beliefs and feelings which are harmful for their as well as their families mental health and well being. No matter what and how costly and great health care you have, but if you can't let go things which are toxic to you, then you gotta brace it till the end of your life.
@@capnkirkie1 I agree. I even have practiced to narrate in his voice frequency, tone, modulation, style and (lol) accent. I never knew his name though. The most fascinating thing about this man's voice is that it just shatters my whole image about a "manly voice". I'm so used to hear the "motivated" man voice in so many videos, I never imagined that a male voice can be this much soothing. I genuinely love his voice!
@@meettheartist5506 I'm glad I'm not the only one who does this lol! His name is Alain de Botton. I love your perspective on his voice! For me, I feel like he helps me write more creatively. He's has a beautiful vocabulary and gets ideas across so clearly and creatively. You should check out his lectures if you haven't already. They're about an hour long and it's great to put a face to his voice.
@@capnkirkie1 Wow! Where you got this information? I can't even know his full name for god's sake, but only because there is no mention of his name in the description of videos, whenever I checked I mean. And being honest, since you have said about the writing part, I must say this that the kind of script that these people write for the videos... I guess it's Alain and the girl whose voice we hear at the end of every video to buy some of their products, who creates the script but whoever it is, I must say - more than his voice, it's the way he reads every sentence with so sheerness and perfection. It's a common characteristic one always develops when he/she practice reading and writing both with utmost attention and diligence. It's each and every word that is being communicated to me by his perfectly modulated voice and accent, also having the sense of peace as he doesn't rush at all to just merely finish speaking a sentence. Well, this is completely me I guess but I always have been fascinated by the British accent, and people as well, so I guess that is also one of the reasons why I have fallen (not romantically) for Alain. Wait! While writing this I just noticed his full name that you've mentioned... Alain De Bottom! Man, this is the guy who is bald (not insulting) and has many UA-cam videos featured on so many different channels that I get recommendations of him but I never cared to look at those even once. God's sake, so ignorant of me!
What you are describing is circumstantial mental illness, where you may feel anxious or depressed solely because of circumstances. Mood and personality disorders function in a completely different way usually in a illogical form outside of the person’s control.
I’ve been watching your videos over the last few days whilst going through quite an inner-crisis and I want to thank you and acknowledge that at a time when I really needed some guidance, your videos were there and have really helped ❤
This came at quite the right time as I just watched Le Feu Follet (The Fire Within) about a man who is certain he will end it all, but he decides to seek out old friends to see if they can give him a reason to live. He was sorely mistaken as his once good friends have become hedonists whose values consist of money and superficial things. I wrote an essay on the film, linking the ideas presented to Absurdism. This video reminds me of the main character ‘Alain Leroy’.
I shut down for 5 years because of dealing with my dad’s Alzheimer’s and my old world shattering. Although there were many changes before I was starting to getting a hang of life, career etc., however imperfectly. That changed in my 40s with my dad’s Alzheimer’s and feeling a growing sense that I was growing apart from the world. I was only just starting to put myself back in the world after grieving my father’s long death in the Spring of 2020 when further events we all know well happened.
Existence is not meaning, it is existence, what simply is. Maybe the meaning of existence is existence itself, existence itself is the meaning of existence, to exist and be aware, to just be.
In my experience the existential crisis is seeing the truth of meaninglessness and being unable to ever unsee it. I can close my eyes but sooner or later I have to open them and see it once more.
Life isnt getting any easier, its getting tougher in fact, Sometimes i do believe each person has their right when to end it for all rather than living just to suffer each day. And soon im planning to do so if i can't keep it anymore
How can you tell if someone is mentally ill? Symptoms Feeling sad or down. Confused thinking or reduced ability to concentrate. Excessive fears or worries, or extreme feelings of guilt. Extreme mood changes of highs and lows. Withdrawal from friends and activities. Significant tiredness, low energy or problems sleeping.👍
I really have ever found a compelling reason for me to live. I just drift between moments of hedonism, lost in futility and boredom. I hate it. I have no happy future, no meaningful activity, just endless treading water.
This to me is one of the worst things that's going on with me right now. I'm living in a household where the little things that made me, me, that made me feel kind of ok, have been stripped. I already lost a large chunk of what I loved because I've not been able to land a good job since moving to the U.S but my parents and extended family won't let me rest. I can't cook, draw, play a game, read a good book or sleep without someone reminding me I'm unemployed. It's gotten to the point where I don't even want to eat anymore. I go over to my pc, study for hours on end and apply for jobs from which only 2% of employers will give me an interview but no job. Rinse and repeat for 6 months. I truly feel dead but I just hope that someday, I get out of this hell hole so I can get my s**t together give my family the finger.
Like Sartre told me, the true fear is freedom, ultimately unbounded freedom about our lives and our deaths. As someone struggling with obsessive personality, anxiety and depression, I’ve found some sort of sense in the search of truth, absolute truth free from human bias, of all the complexities of life, science, physics, all the patterns in math and the sheer genius of human ingenuity, of how to generate complexity out of simplicity _even_ when the end is ultimately the same. Nothingness and oblivion. Why do we keep going when nothing we could ever do or manage will truly really matter in the grander scope of the universe? Because humans have to keep going even without knowing their destination, it’s that insanity what pulled us apart from our other hominid relatives, the complete disregard of the fear of the unknown, crossing the pacific in hopes of finding anything, walking through beringia with no opportunity of ever going back, and then the moon and beyond, just to leave a golden disc floating in space, where no one would ever find it, just to say that we were here...
I am 65 One does fall into grief over the loss of many physical , emotional and mental issues as they lose their relevance to the reasons for being here. A powerful video.
To you reading this right now: you are beautiful and loved. You’re not alone in this. Many others right now are thinking the same things you are. But, we all have something to offer each other. Stay connected in this chat and help others who need your insight and experience. One day, all this will make sense and you will be called to use what you have gathered and learned from all this and use it to help someone who will truly need you. Meanwhile, know that you have the support and live of all of us in this chat. We can be here for each other, as I need you to be there for me as well. I promise you, this upcoming day will be wonderful and you will sleep well and with great peace.
@HEY THERE, CAROLINE. failing at something is just God’s way of nudging you into the right direction. It’s not abnormal for you to lack understanding as to what this direction is. That’s why HE wants you to turn to him for this direction and understanding. There is a reason for all of this going on right now in your life. You were not put here to simply endure hardship. This hardship you’re going through right now is all being done because you (not anyone else-and for a good reason) we’re the one chosen to gain the experience from all this because once this experience is gained and instilled into you, There will one day be someone placed in your life that OLNY YOU will be able to bless them with your gained wisdom from all this. With That said, once you have fulfilled this assignment, God has promised that HE will pour onto you immense blessings for years to come. So please, for yourself and for that special someone that God will need to use you in the future to help guide, take each moment as a learning experience and take this opportunity to get close to God and let HIM tell you what HE wants you to gain from all this. You will come out of this better than you ever expected. Know that whatever it is you are going through... That is the Key word -GOING THROUGH- meaning you aren’t forever stuck... you are still GOING THROUGH... which means eventually you WILL come out on the other end of this. And when you do, there is someone who is depending on you to be there so that you can bless them and be blessed as well. You’ve gotta trust me on this. I don’t even know you, and for some reason GOD immediately put this message on my heart to give to you. So please, press through this for all of us depending on you. 🙏🏻
this is why we should actively practice antinalism in our lives.Nothing bad comes to those who were never born.And it is our moral duty not to create people in this shit hole of a world
I feel like everyone is giving other people as a reason they don’t care about living. Like a significant other or a family member did something that made them this way. I think I feel this way because of myself. Ever since covid started, my life has just been going downhill. Covid started the same time as I was going to college so the football season got cancelled, I lost the motivation to do school work, I gained weight and won’t be able to play football if I don’t lose it, not understanding classes makes me frustrated, working while going to school at the same time is exhausting, and I feel like it’s my fault because there are so many other people going through the same thing or worse and it didn’t stop them from continuing to do good in life, but it’s stopping me. I simply don’t want to continue living and feel like it would be easier to just not
i don’t know anymore. everything sucks i’m 17 and my best friend died and a month later my stepdad did too. i have no friends or gf anymore, she lost feelings. the thought of dying comforts me. i’m so tempted to just do it. i’m so stressed about my future and so heartbroken by 3 people closest to me leaving. i don’t even know anymore.
This video is strangely right on time for me. Also very different tone than other videos that have been done by School of Life. Usually it’s a realistic through pessimistic feeling view. My desire to be dead has less to do with doing harm to myself and others. It has to do with not being, and “not being” will be a relief from this cyclic sense of unbearable heaviness of being. I feel as if I am wearing a cement suit just trying to make it even though I don’t know what it is and being hit with a wall of maple syrup. Being suicidal is not romantic. Thank you for this video.
agree. It's one thing to get over something that was hard, it's quite another when all your life you have something hard to deal with constantly....I am so tired.
- forgive myself for a fearsome degree of idiocy - give up on a need to feel exceptional - surrender worldly ambitions - cease once and for all to imagine that our minds could be as logical or as reliable as we hoped. I need to due this and unburden myself so that I can focus on me. I am still fighting this lack of purpose but I will win.
It hurts. It hurts to wake up every morning. Can't seems to get out of this loop of neverending pain. Everyday passes like it's another blur in the mirror.
I’m there, too. Just trying to distract my mind as much as possible so I won’t think of the pain. I’m searching for my reasons to continue still. I know the life I want to live, and I’m trying to find a way to it. I just realized that death won’t give me the satisfaction of actually experiencing peace because it’s just nothingness. This life I’m seeking will. I’m clinging to that thought now.
I found this video at the perfect time, on the day I needed it most. Thank you so so much for being the reason to live through this moment so that I can find more reasons too ❤️
It’s not you it’s you compared to the social,game, the unwritten expectations of the world around you. Finding a path within this world that allows you to feel self directed and somewhat in control provides relief from living someone else’s life. Keep thinking, keep trying, keep moving
The only reason you need to live is to realize that this is the only chance you've ever gotten to experience life and that no matter how it's been like, it's the only experience we will ever get.
Sometimes this "experience" of life is too painful to want to live another day of it. If the experience of life is full of suffering and pain, why the hell would you want it to continue?
mental illness is something that bothers me after reading viktor frankl. if there is aways a choice to endure suffering for a higher purpose, if the sense of a mission can heal the past and orient the future, what about those that lack the use of reason? are they passive in their purpose?
Everyone around me seems to have way more fun. I miss having fun. I just want to take a long nap and never wake up. But I will keep crawling through the darkness.
This seems to be a deeply flawed view of mental health, once again pinning it on the individual, when in fact, mental illness is a response to a world that sets up expectations for how to live. This is a “lift yourself by your bootstraps” mentality that only reinforces that mental illness is your individual issue. When in fact, it is an issue of a society that aims to make you feel worthless for not being a certain type of body in their “society”. You are living even with mental illness, drop the internal darkness ideology and recognize it as external forces.
Sure our society is fucked up and most certainly contribute to mental health problems, but thats just a part of a much bigger picture. It can also be sudden loss, pain or other objective issues that starts a negative spiral, and it can simply be a biological/genetical problem or a mix of several reasons.
"When something reaches endemic proportions it can no longer be blamed on the individual" -Russell Brand. Watch the linked video below for a more accurate narrative about the mental health issues so many of us are experiencing:
It's been more than 15 years now since I had the first thought of killing myself. Now that I'm almost 30, I can say that although I've been in more life challenging experiences than before, I'm now more resilient because of those experiences and more looking forward to positive experiences. I pray we all find the courage to live each day during these hard times. 💕
Any crushing adversity is a tremendous opportunity for transformation. The forever-happy place is a sign of adaptation to mediocrity and the mundane ways of the world. A great crisis can push us to the depths of frightening assumptions, false beliefs and tortuous feelings. But, eventually, and if handled in the right manner, can turn out to be a profound source of some of the most invaluable life skills and qualities - such as resilience, quietening of the ego, compassion, humility and the maturity and wisdom to see the big picture...the Illuminous clarity beyond the fog of everyday nonsense that we, in an otherwise delusional state of good fortune, wouldn't have been able to grasp.
Try meditating and reading the book "you are not your brain". I also have a playlist that helps me with ocd on my profile. I also recommend cbd if you have access to it. Ocd sucks but it's possible to leave a happy life, we just need to work harder than others. 😁👍🏿
Remember your reason to live need not be the same as someone tells you. You can choose how and why you want would live rather than choose otherwise just because you cannot fulfill that reason given by somebody
While I appreciate the purpose of this video , as someone who has dealt with mental illness for most of their life, the video comes off as a little tone death. I did not just fall into a mental illness, it is something that I have dealt with for most of my life without knowing what it was. For years I was suicided, my last attempt was about 6-7 years ago. Then I was finally diagnosed. I went 35 years not knowing what I was dealing with. I still struggle daily with my mental illness, and I will probably be struggling with this for the rest of my life.
I incessantly feel the need to justify continuing my existence, and I had long ago come to the very same conclusion! Life is far more valuable when you've shed any sense of obligation to live yet thus far have chosen never to stop.
I am not quite sure if I lost the desire to live when, as my therapist told me, everything around me collapse when I was 10 years old. I grew up with my mother completely depressed and my father 6000 miles away. I feel that when I started therapy at 28 everything started to get so much better. Now at 31 I have so much desire for life but I fear something bad could happen again.
You may find it very useful, and practical, to list everything that could go wrong and then list all of the best or more appropriate responses to each situation, so you have a back up plan. This may give you strength. You won't be as lost when something bad happens. "Prepare for the worst, hope for the better". Shit will come your way a few more times, it always does; so you'd better be prepared.
For mental health support see: www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mental-health-helplines
The NHS is useless though. Just waiting lists that literally go on for years. It can be over five or six years to even be assessed for some issues.
@@someonesomeone25 so sorry to hear that, may we ask which sort of issue you waited 5 or 6 years to be assessed for? Very sad that happened, I hope it wasn’t for a mental health condition
@@bettyboop8529 I waited about 6 months to get a general mental health assessment (range of issues, including mood disorder and gender/sexuality issues), and from there I've been put on another waiting list with a likely wait of over a year for therapy, and was put forward for a gender specialist assessment, which has a five year waiting list, and was told I needed a couple of years of therapy before I could be put on that list.
Edit:
Even for suicidally depressed teen boys the waiting list just for an assessment can often be 6 or 7 months. For an adult can be longer.
@@someonesomeone25 I agree unfortunately the NHS decides what it thinks should be a priority and doesn’t think of how it affects the patient. I’ve been left my whole adult life with hormonal issues every month, but yet after finding a harmless lump it was operated on right away (which of course I was glad for but still)! I’ll hit menopause before they get round to helping me..! I’m of course not alone in this.
@@bettyboop8529 Of course. The NHS isn't really fit for purpose, especially in mental health terms. People suffer and die on waiting lists all the time.
I genuinely truly don't care to live, I've always found life exhausting and not worth all the BS. Anyone else relate?
It isn’t worth the bs at all the point of life is just to experience life and live it. Don’t live life for what you can get out of it. But to be honest I don’t care to experience or live it
not sure I've ever felt that way..and I don't know why i haven't..maybe I'm not smart enough:)
@@everyday234 maybe you had a happy childhood lol
@@h3arty I don't know for sure if I did or not..I have some unusual characteristics that have continually marred my life and caused me serious problems and scientists say its the result of "childhood abuse" so?? :)
I’m starting to feel this way and I don’t want to...... I’m starting to become lazy and so apathetic. I’m trying to find reasons to change and I just can’t. Fuck man
It feels like chewing on a piece of gum long after it's lost it's flavour.
Exactly and the last piece as well that you are holding onto because you know that’s the only one you were given
@@Nuxia_ There's an easy way to find out. (it just leads to a gif)
Woah, this comment is deep.💯
Lol why is this so accurate
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Internet is reading my mind again.
can u explain why u think so...? I'm asking because I myself think similar sometimes... coincidences................
Maybe the seeds had been externally planted
Same
3 days ago I was having an argument with my uncle about mental illness, he believes that mental illness isn't real.
I wish I had this video 3 days ago so I can shut his mouth in style.
Yup all my searches on dealing with stress and starting meditation haha
I've wondered before, after my dreams collapsing multiple times under the weight of reality, how does everyone go on? How does someone live to 80? Im not depressed or suicidal but it just seemed so impossible at times to see the joy in repeating this Sysiphian task of finding a new dream and chasing it blindly until eventually you realize, you probably wont be the best, injuries might stop you in your tracks, or priorities in your life might force change.
This video expresses how i feel, its not that life suddenly becomes less fun, its that it loses all purpose when my blind faith in my goal disappears. Like i was a zombie chasing things before and a realization teaches me that it doesn't really matter. But then i have to reinvent myself if i want to survive... Life is complicated
Yep wasted 2 years and counting so that's fun
I've wanted to do a ton of stuff and couldn't for many reasons even rn start of summer i cant get myself to start
I feel no courage to care
Height? Who gives a sh probably i could eat some pills last year that i didnt
Coding? Heh ef that with this trashy pc
UA-cam? Yeah no missed the viral moment cuz i didnt have a phone and now i edit for 3 hours to get 5 views
(The height thing idk what stuff i could have done it's annoying idk what i should do ugh plu the wasted time makes me lose the reason to finally start)
I've had the same thoughts. My grandpa is in his late 80s or so now and I couldn't help but wonder what kept him going all those years? I'm only 17 and I've had enough of life.
Same!
Existentialism, thanatophobia, and regret.
That's the meaning of life
To experience life
The good & the ugly...
The joys & pains
Passion & despair
Until one day
You're gone for ever...FOR....EVER....
Live while you can
There's plenty of time to be dead later
“Every day we continue will be a day earned back from death” that hit me man
Yet we will die regardless, making that statement pointless.
We're still going to die
@@TheFracturedfuture just one more day in slavery
We don't earn nothing back, we don't even choose when to die, we might try but if that is not our day, we will survive, my story
the advantage in suffering in this life, is it makes you more compassionate and understanding
true...
Is that even an advantage?
Like, don't we lose ourselves whenever we suffer???
Disagree
@@sandipan6863 explain more about how we lose ourselves
@@Augfordpdoggie isn't it ironic that your comment is about compassion and understand that's how you respond to him
My dogs and cats are literally the ONLY reason I'm still alive.
Love to you. My dog and my cat saved me more times than I can count. I miss them so much. Xxx
Same! (dog) 🐶
I was coming here to write :
Life is an illusion. None of it is real. Logically, it doesn't make sense to continue.
But...
Cat.
@@sanghamitradeb232 lol 'But...Cat.' Thanks for the giggle. =)
I care about you.....
“Sometimes to live is an act of courage”. Seneca. There are so many reasons to live, as all crises can be overcome through strength and time.
What if you don't have the strength or time?
What if the clock is ticking and there is no help anywhere?
Seneca missed to go further, it's when we assume our self to be safe arises crises, as we are always unsafe, having this in mind we will develop strength naturally to face things that come across
Preach!!!
Whatever courage means depend on the individual person. For me, to live does not take courage at all, I don't need to do anything. To commit the act of suicide after contemplating and planning for years, now that takes courage.
@@deadlyrobot5179 Keep going in hopes that more strength will come tomorrow. If you keep living and keep moving forward, that is strength. There is always time. If there are none to support us nearby (friends or family) seek help online or call a suicide hotline of things are particularly rough.
"We may not actively try to kill ourselves , but we cant count as quite alive either" 😥💔
I feel you on this.
Feel ya
I honestly believe it's societies norm. The "Have to" thought process. There's people that are good at life and some that struggle. Those that are good at it have evolved there lives for productivity and material things. Thats their legacy and their happiness comes from that. Others well we get labeled Depressed because loss of interest but that type of life we don't find happiness. Maybe its evolution or primitive but we do the motions because we "Have To" . Thats just my thought.
My life in a sentence. Just going through the motions and I don't think I can even manage that anymore.
‘Every human deserves understanding’ well said
👍
AdolfHitler confirms...
That would be like saying, "evil should never exist"; it's a statement everyone agrees with but the wish can never be fulfilled by humans.
Yeah we all deserve it, sadly not many get it.
From whom if I may ask? 😅
As someone who had severe depression, a breakdown and was suicidal for years, I expected more from this I’m afraid. I wanted to die because every aspect of life was so bad, from abuse to grief to homelessness. My advice would be fix what’s wrong with your life yourself because no one else will 🌷🌷
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Depression, abuse,homelessness,suicide, grief,you certainly have dealt with some soul crushing issues and I hope you are well.
I understand everyone’s story is personal but you kind of left us hanging here with your advice.How does one fix these things,how did you manage to survive. You have a fascinating story. Please, we need to hear more.
Them curls!
It's pure chemistry. Studies show that low vitamin D can cause a lot of bad stuff, including depression. I'm done with pity myself. Life is worth living. So many things to explore! Knowledge is the primarily driver for me.
@@markhale3941 thank you, yes I am well now but I do think self improvement is life long study! Too much to fit in this box, but for me antidepressants aren’t the answer, I needed to change my job, leave my partner, go back to college, get therapy etc. I don’t mean for that to sound easy, it wasn’t and there was many many years I sat and did nothing. But you get to a point where you have to make a change. Let’s start small though! Self help books and UA-cam videos are great thank god ☺️🙏🏼
Whenever I feel low i just imagine every other person on earth feeling the exact same thing and it makes me feel less alone cause were all in this together ❤
Love this
Agree, happiness is rare and doesn't last long. Some degree of misery is normal, so if I expect it, it doesn't seem so sad.
thank you Mitch
@@GladysAmelia nicely said, life is mostly "meh" ~-----~~^~--------^------- with some peaks of happiness, we just need to learn to make the "meh" moments make us feel less sad 😅
To me, having to imagine reality in a different way to be happy underlines my desire to leave this reality. Death is more effective at escaping reality.
You read my tired suffering soul. I’ve been the walking dead for so long. And I honestly don’t know how to either wake up or go to sleep
Please consider that you aren't the only one, not that it helps much. I find it comforting that life is temporary.
At least it will eventually end right?
This was timely. So sad that I can hardly speak. I've lost so many reasons these last few years. I live solely for my rescue dogs right now. I go to work because they need food and comforts. Otherwise, I doubt I'd be here. The last few days have just been so hard, in an already harrowing year. I decided to reach out to some friends...They are all doing their own life, most are at work. Or struggling themselves. I understand. My wife woke up in another town, in another home, without me. And she's just carrying on. Becoming more and more of a stranger to me everyday. 20 years... and I don't know her anymore. I don't recognize anything anymore. I'm just floating.
For what it’s worth, I think pets are a valid reason, especially since they’re rescues. Because who knows what could’ve happened to them if you hadn’t taken them in. You can rebuild/find your other reasons from there.
@@stephr2267 your a God send.
Thanks for your very simple achievable suggestion 😊.
I was wondering if I should get another dog.
Mans best friend.....
I could use one.
Was thinking of moving to South America. I seems like hard work to me now. Maybe keep my home,, play with my best friend. Garden , cut grass.
Is that Enough 🤔
Will I regret 😔
@@stevenflores972 glad I could help a little. If you're weighing options and still can't decide to move or stay, just keep in mind that either decision will help you understand what you want or don't want. For example, if you stay at home and find out that it's not enough, then you'll know that and can pick up and move. It's never a waste of time trying things out, in my opinion. Good luck and stay safe!
My very, once well heeled friend lost everything after a freak accident. Doggie day car3 saved her. She learned a new “ trade”…that taught she hated her old “ sophisticated “ one…and always did. She’s happy as a clam now. The money isn’t as great, but is it? It’s steadier…and that’s huge. She loves it. After all, animals are “ here”, too.
If this video didn't really help you, it's ok. You're still curious, you're still searching. You DO care about you 💜
Thank you
Needed to read this. Bless you
Thank you 💜
The best way to stop the hate and violence and to learn to love and respect others and one is self is to start praying 🤲 to God.
Please do some research on Islam and learn how to calm your nerves, to heal from mental problems, and how to deal with life problems everyone.
May God help us all.✌️❤️
Anyone who may need my help just please ask me don’t be shy.😊
this helped
Even when bad things happen im like “well i chose to continue so im glad i got to at least experience this” I think its a perspective of how worse things were or could be
I got a notification for this right in the middle of a mental breakdown lol
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hey there! you are not alone! we stand with you. take care 😌
Nice
Take one day at a time. you can do it. love and hugs.
try to relax and be patient with yourself..practice acceptance
I'm 26, unemployed, still don't know what to do with my life, suffering through anxiety, depression and existential crises almost every day.
I was wondering how drastic difference my generation has compared to my father's when they would get a job without a university degree, could buy a house or even two and go for vacation and enjoy life; they would go enjoy laid back lifestyle, meet friends, family and there wasn't a drive for materialistic living. There was no consumerism, no one spending time on screens, no social media, no sense of isolation since people would actually come out of their houses and visit one another, be there for one another in needed times.
This generation is fucked up with overpopulation, rat race, consumerism, MNC's and corporates, climatemore
Simplelikegenuinely happy.
I visit my village and I actually feel true happiness over there. People aren't rich, but they somehow feel fulfilled with life. They don't have larger expectations from life, they just live by the day and be at peace. They don't want to conquer the world or aren't racing to be "successful." They have less means and live happily by it.
If our generation continues to keep living like this, we aren't far from becoming an actual dystopian society where essence of living this wonderful life will be lost.
I’m in my thirties, suffered anxiety many years, unemployed due to the pandemic & still don’t know what to do with my life... you’ll be ok ❤️
are you okay now? ?...
@@tinamahich5356 OH MY GOD thank you so much for asking. I'm 27 now and I landed my first job ever and it's going pretty well! I'm out of depression now, and I have made sure I won't ever go to that place again. My mindset has been shifted drastically, I've learned what my weakness. I carry a clear vision now about where I want to head to future with clear goals in my mind. In all, I'm at extremely better place considering mental health and head space and over all being, thanks again for asking. How are you doing? 🌻
@@hiteshj2110 tell me. ..how to deal with depression. ..share your strategy. ..and experience. ..because I am also suffering from negative thoughts
Having big dreams is not that bad. Some people get bored with having a simple and laid back life. They want to do something big, go on an adventure, leave a mark on the world etc....
While others don't like the pressure and rat race. They want a peaceful, simple life.
Both mindsets are beautiful. No one can tell you how to live your life. It's always up to you.
To live is to allow ourselves to fall in love-with someone, with something, or with life itself. Viewing death as a source of meaning can be comforting for many-but rather than using this as an argument in favor of suicide, it's critical to leverage such a perspective in order to make the most of life while it lasts.
good thought...
It is highly interesting how everyone is conditioned through their life to axiomatically believe that life inherently is a gift, without really a reason, behind it. Stay safe folks.
And nobody knows why, they're having children.
I exist without my consent and I’ve lived long enough to try and avoid bringing new life into a world full of suffering if I can help it. We are just vessels to our genes’ desires to self replicate, everything is just a consequence of that.
@@impendio me being gay definitely the easiest way out.
@@impendio Personally, I will of course respect your decision and thought you have taken behind formulating such an opinion - I wonder, if you have actually read on terminology, like, Natalism and Anti-natalism? Furthermore, I personally, see life, as a aimless neutral gift and by that I mean, there is no inherent purpose to it, and utmost happiness or utmost sadness, isn't the theme of it. It is a canvas, that essentially, gets updated, every time you let a tear run down, or witness the sunset, feeling full; there is no need, for me, specifically, to hope that my life will be a happy or a sad one, but of course, I will deviate into constructing a purpose and a happy life, in my own terms.
Being a interesting vessel should be your priority, and as it seems you are off to a good start.
It's the gift of experience. And in that since, it is a neutral gift. Either make the most of it by sticking through and learning the complexity of life on Earth or throw it away by making your physical vessel(body) incapable of carrying your soul. Take it as you wish.
It's my 23rd birthday. Life seems like a nightmare. I'm going through DP/DR and Existential OCD. Life seems to have no inherent meaning and everything I do seems meaningless. I feel like a living corpse. Yet I dream of a better future. Where I'm content with my life. Hopefully one day.
The best way to stop the hate and violence and to learn to love and respect others and one is self is to start praying 🤲 to God.
Please do some research on Islam and learn how to calm your nerves, to heal from mental problems, and how to deal with life problems everyone.
May God help us all.✌️❤️
Anyone who may need my help just please ask me don’t be shy.😊
Hello everyone! If you're in a dark place right now, I know it feels like there is no ending to it, like it'll be impossible to be happy ever again. As someone who dealt with sexual trauma, agoraphobia, generalised anxiety disorder (you name it haha!), I have found myself in a dark place many time and I thought "God. There really is no end to this." HOWEVER. Life is beautiful. I am so happy. I am so grateful. There is a way out of the depressive and anxious pit. Please keep swimming for now!
Mental health…is not a destination, but a process. It’s about how you drive, not where you’re going. 💪
true...
you're right
Exactly it's a journey
Right you are
This channel is the real MVP. Asking the hard questions
The G.O.A.T.
The border between sane and insanity is extremely thin for many of us. Our only comfort is that even doctors can 't see it.
2:47 _'We, the ones who have crawled back from the darkness, may be disadvantaged in a hundred ways, but at least we will have had to find, rather than assumed or inherited, some reasons why we are here. Every day we continue, will be a day earned back from death.'_ I have survived the nightmare known as clinical depression, and I can affirm that's what it feels like. If you are suffering with the feeling that you haven't a reason to live, no giving up! No dying! Stay alive. So many people have struggled with not wanting to live anymore, and made it through alive. I promise you can too!
Well said Cynthia! 😊 well done for coming out the other side.
@HEY THERE, CAROLINE. I understand that feeling. Sometimes we just have to stay alive until the time comes that we _want_ to be alive. Until that time comes, we just have to keep ourselves alive. And sometimes that is a heroic thing to do, considering how awful we feel.
All those people that made it through are going to die and many are already dead, what did all of their struggles achieve?
@@TheFracturedfuture Dude. Really? So since people all eventually die, their struggles don't mean anything??? Each individual decides for themselves, what is worth living for. And I'm here to say that when one has to struggle to regain the desire to stay alive, I know one thing that I offer to all who are in despair: *that struggle to hang on to the desire to stick around, is worth it.*
@@Cynthia-Landers How is it worth it? People love throwing this line around but never say how it's worth it.
I've been struggling with mental illnesses for about 15 years, each year getting progressively worse to the point of having chronic suicidal thoughts, I have pushed through thick and thin.
Honestly for me all that struggle wasn't worth it, I'm now in my thirties, still straggling and on top of that now I'm dealing with health issues, the difference between not killing myself sooner and deciding to live is that I would've avoided all this unnecessary suffering.
So yeah the sad truth is that people's struggles don't mean anything, it may mean something to the people close to them but eventually they will all die too and in the grand scheme of things it won't mean a thing.
As a doctor, I’m so glad mental health awareness is growing.
Can you tell us how to cure it? Instead of suppressing it with drugs or talk up life?
And as the awareness is growing, so is mental illness. I'm talking as a gen z and this generation has a serious problem with mental instability.
A real doctor shouldn't promote fake cures. Mental health is a scam industry...
As a non-doctor, it pleases me as well.
My purpose plays a huge role in my reason to live. I feel that I'm here to help people. It's that simple. So my reason will never expire, because there will always be someone out there looking for hope.💯👑
nice comment...
Nice. But don’t forget to also help yourself 👍
@@Getcakedieyoung23 for me, that is helping myself. It's rewarding to me, knowing I made a difference in someone's life. A WIN WIN situation.
@@FynePr1ntWilliamsMUS1C Obviously your reasons do not work for so many other people as it is also evident here in these comments. Your reasons sound so universal and simple that if they were sufficient enough for everyone then no one would struggle with finding reasons to live.
@@dreamthedream8929 Well, clearly that's why my comment begins with "MY purpose plays a huge role in MY reason to live." I didn't expect it to be the answer for everyone else's life. Feel me?
Often people forget one of the most important pillar of recovery from mental illness is the ability to forgo the old stubbornness/attitude/beliefs and feelings which are harmful for their as well as their families mental health and well being. No matter what and how costly and great health care you have, but if you can't let go things which are toxic to you, then you gotta brace it till the end of your life.
Me: *Hears a voice that isn’t Alain’s* Umm, who is this????
Still enjoyed this video tho 😂❤️
My exact reaction! Who is this please? I’m already used to the male narrator’s voice.
@@asiananicole1023 his voice is so comforting!
@@capnkirkie1 I agree. I even have practiced to narrate in his voice frequency, tone, modulation, style and (lol) accent.
I never knew his name though. The most fascinating thing about this man's voice is that it just shatters my whole image about a "manly voice". I'm so used to hear the "motivated" man voice in so many videos, I never imagined that a male voice can be this much soothing. I genuinely love his voice!
@@meettheartist5506 I'm glad I'm not the only one who does this lol!
His name is Alain de Botton. I love your perspective on his voice! For me, I feel like he helps me write more creatively. He's has a beautiful vocabulary and gets ideas across so clearly and creatively.
You should check out his lectures if you haven't already. They're about an hour long and it's great to put a face to his voice.
@@capnkirkie1 Wow! Where you got this information? I can't even know his full name for god's sake, but only because there is no mention of his name in the description of videos, whenever I checked I mean.
And being honest, since you have said about the writing part, I must say this that the kind of script that these people write for the videos... I guess it's Alain and the girl whose voice we hear at the end of every video to buy some of their products, who creates the script but whoever it is, I must say - more than his voice, it's the way he reads every sentence with so sheerness and perfection. It's a common characteristic one always develops when he/she practice reading and writing both with utmost attention and diligence. It's each and every word that is being communicated to me by his perfectly modulated voice and accent, also having the sense of peace as he doesn't rush at all to just merely finish speaking a sentence.
Well, this is completely me I guess but I always have been fascinated by the British accent, and people as well, so I guess that is also one of the reasons why I have fallen (not romantically) for Alain.
Wait! While writing this I just noticed his full name that you've mentioned... Alain De Bottom! Man, this is the guy who is bald (not insulting) and has many UA-cam videos featured on so many different channels that I get recommendations of him but I never cared to look at those even once. God's sake, so ignorant of me!
Moral of the story: Don't let sock puppets to rule your life.
Smooth way to put it
I've never woken up with energy in my life, even as a kid, even when there's something I really want to do, it's a struggle
Nobody can replace Alain de Botton and his voice
She has a lovely scottish accent though
@@lynnk4486 scottish yes.. lovely naah!
What you are describing is circumstantial mental illness, where you may feel anxious or depressed solely because of circumstances. Mood and personality disorders function in a completely different way usually in a illogical form outside of the person’s control.
I’ve been watching your videos over the last few days whilst going through quite an inner-crisis and I want to thank you and acknowledge that at a time when I really needed some guidance, your videos were there and have really helped ❤
I clicked on this video hoping to feel better. After watching it I feel much worse.
sorry to know... 😢
I had the same feeling. But for some reason i laughed reading your comment
This came at quite the right time as I just watched Le Feu Follet (The Fire Within) about a man who is certain he will end it all, but he decides to seek out old friends to see if they can give him a reason to live. He was sorely mistaken as his once good friends have become hedonists whose values consist of money and superficial things. I wrote an essay on the film, linking the ideas presented to Absurdism. This video reminds me of the main character ‘Alain Leroy’.
I shut down for 5 years because of dealing with my dad’s Alzheimer’s and my old world shattering. Although there were many changes before I was starting to getting a hang of life, career etc., however imperfectly. That changed in my 40s with my dad’s Alzheimer’s and feeling a growing sense that I was growing apart from the world. I was only just starting to put myself back in the world after grieving my father’s long death in the Spring of 2020 when further events we all know well happened.
Choose life, exactly as it is
Existence is not meaning, it is existence, what simply is. Maybe the meaning of existence is existence itself, existence itself is the meaning of existence, to exist and be aware, to just be.
And that is the pure reason I will to continue to exist, just to exist
In my experience the existential crisis is seeing the truth of meaninglessness and being unable to ever unsee it. I can close my eyes but sooner or later I have to open them and see it once more.
This
Life isnt getting any easier, its getting tougher in fact, Sometimes i do believe each person has their right when to end it for all rather than living just to suffer each day. And soon im planning to do so if i can't keep it anymore
Well I'm sending buckets of love to you
How can you tell if someone is mentally ill?
Symptoms
Feeling sad or down.
Confused thinking or reduced ability to concentrate.
Excessive fears or worries, or extreme feelings of guilt.
Extreme mood changes of highs and lows.
Withdrawal from friends and activities.
Significant tiredness, low energy or problems sleeping.👍
what do you suggest for these people doing?
good list... thank u....
Nah according to my uncle these are excuses to be lazy.
I really have ever found a compelling reason for me to live. I just drift between moments of hedonism, lost in futility and boredom. I hate it. I have no happy future, no meaningful activity, just endless treading water.
This to me is one of the worst things that's going on with me right now.
I'm living in a household where the little things that made me, me, that made me feel kind of ok, have been stripped. I already lost a large chunk of what I loved because I've not been able to land a good job since moving to the U.S but my parents and extended family won't let me rest. I can't cook, draw, play a game, read a good book or sleep without someone reminding me I'm unemployed. It's gotten to the point where I don't even want to eat anymore. I go over to my pc, study for hours on end and apply for jobs from which only 2% of employers will give me an interview but no job. Rinse and repeat for 6 months.
I truly feel dead but I just hope that someday, I get out of this hell hole so I can get my s**t together give my family the finger.
Did you get your sh*t together? Also are you doing ok
😊
@@die5459 I'm doing great compared to when I wrote this🤣🤣
Got a job, moved out, started college again, got a car lol
I have gone through severe headache and anxiety attacks since past one year that I don't even remember how was I like before this,😔😔
Now I realize why I always procastinate.
Cause I lost my reasons to live.
Reasons to live... by far the most relatable, home-hitting video created by the School of Life, personally
In life you must keep running to remain in the same place.
hmm... 🤔
Like Sartre told me, the true fear is freedom, ultimately unbounded freedom about our lives and our deaths. As someone struggling with obsessive personality, anxiety and depression, I’ve found some sort of sense in the search of truth, absolute truth free from human bias, of all the complexities of life, science, physics, all the patterns in math and the sheer genius of human ingenuity, of how to generate complexity out of simplicity _even_ when the end is ultimately the same. Nothingness and oblivion.
Why do we keep going when nothing we could ever do or manage will truly really matter in the grander scope of the universe? Because humans have to keep going even without knowing their destination, it’s that insanity what pulled us apart from our other hominid relatives, the complete disregard of the fear of the unknown, crossing the pacific in hopes of finding anything, walking through beringia with no opportunity of ever going back, and then the moon and beyond, just to leave a golden disc floating in space, where no one would ever find it, just to say that we were here...
The littlest person in my life tells me everyday that he needs me and I mattered to him. Tq my baby.
:)
I’m happy for you.
Still, your baby will grow up, stop needing you and leave you. And there lies a crisis, as the video states.
I read that list at 3:21 and it hit me, I've got so many reasons to enjoy life ❤
This channel has helped me soooo much. I am so greatful!
:)
I am 65
One does fall into grief over the loss of many physical , emotional and mental issues as they lose their relevance to the reasons for being here.
A powerful video.
To you reading this right now: you are beautiful and loved. You’re not alone in this. Many others right now are thinking the same things you are. But, we all have something to offer each other. Stay connected in this chat and help others who need your insight and experience. One day, all this will make sense and you will be called to use what you have gathered and learned from all this and use it to help someone who will truly need you. Meanwhile, know that you have the support and live of all of us in this chat. We can be here for each other, as I need you to be there for me as well. I promise you, this upcoming day will be wonderful and you will sleep well and with great peace.
@HEY THERE, CAROLINE. failing at something is just God’s way of nudging you into the right direction. It’s not abnormal for you to lack understanding as to what this direction is. That’s why HE wants you to turn to him for this direction and understanding. There is a reason for all of this going on right now in your life. You were not put here to simply endure hardship. This hardship you’re going through right now is all being done because you (not anyone else-and for a good reason) we’re the one chosen to gain the experience from all this because once this experience is gained and instilled into you, There will one day be someone placed in your life that OLNY YOU will be able to bless them with your gained wisdom from all this. With That said, once you have fulfilled this assignment, God has promised that HE will pour onto you immense blessings for years to come. So please, for yourself and for that special someone that God will need to use you in the future to help guide, take each moment as a learning experience and take this opportunity to get close to God and let HIM tell you what HE wants you to gain from all this. You will come out of this better than you ever expected. Know that whatever it is you are going through... That is the Key word -GOING THROUGH- meaning you aren’t forever stuck... you are still GOING THROUGH... which means eventually you WILL come out on the other end of this. And when you do, there is someone who is depending on you to be there so that you can bless them and be blessed as well. You’ve gotta trust me on this. I don’t even know you, and for some reason GOD immediately put this message on my heart to give to you. So please, press through this for all of us depending on you. 🙏🏻
The internet needed this.
agreed... :)
From now on every time I can't explain myself to someone I'll show them this video and save myself from a headache.
this is why we should actively practice antinalism in our lives.Nothing bad comes to those who were never born.And it is our moral duty not to create people in this shit hole of a world
I feel like everyone is giving other people as a reason they don’t care about living. Like a significant other or a family member did something that made them this way. I think I feel this way because of myself. Ever since covid started, my life has just been going downhill. Covid started the same time as I was going to college so the football season got cancelled, I lost the motivation to do school work, I gained weight and won’t be able to play football if I don’t lose it, not understanding classes makes me frustrated, working while going to school at the same time is exhausting, and I feel like it’s my fault because there are so many other people going through the same thing or worse and it didn’t stop them from continuing to do good in life, but it’s stopping me. I simply don’t want to continue living and feel like it would be easier to just not
i don’t know anymore. everything sucks i’m 17 and my best friend died and a month later my stepdad did too. i have no friends or gf anymore, she lost feelings. the thought of dying comforts me. i’m so tempted to just do it. i’m so stressed about my future and so heartbroken by 3 people closest to me leaving. i don’t even know anymore.
This video is strangely right on time for me. Also very different tone than other videos that have been done by School of Life. Usually it’s a realistic through pessimistic feeling view. My desire to be dead has less to do with doing harm to myself and others. It has to do with not being, and “not being” will be a relief from this cyclic sense of unbearable heaviness of being. I feel as if I am wearing a cement suit just trying to make it even though I don’t know what it is and being hit with a wall of maple syrup. Being suicidal is not romantic. Thank you for this video.
it gets harder and harder to believe this as the days go by
agree. It's one thing to get over something that was hard, it's quite another when all your life you have something hard to deal with constantly....I am so tired.
- forgive myself for a fearsome degree of idiocy
- give up on a need to feel exceptional
- surrender worldly ambitions
- cease once and for all to imagine that our minds could be as logical or as reliable as we hoped.
I need to due this and unburden myself so that I can focus on me. I am still fighting this lack of purpose but I will win.
It hurts.
It hurts to wake up every morning.
Can't seems to get out of this loop of neverending pain.
Everyday passes like it's another blur in the mirror.
I'm with you through this
I’m there, too. Just trying to distract my mind as much as possible so I won’t think of the pain.
I’m searching for my reasons to continue still. I know the life I want to live, and I’m trying to find a way to it. I just realized that death won’t give me the satisfaction of actually experiencing peace because it’s just nothingness. This life I’m seeking will. I’m clinging to that thought now.
I got an ad for Reese’s right before this video. Eating Reese’s is a pretty decent reason to live, I guess.
i don’t have a reason and that’s my reason, i have to find something every day doesn’t matter how big or small, just a reason
@@elchicano187 well, maybe consider this your reason?
I found this video at the perfect time, on the day I needed it most. Thank you so so much for being the reason to live through this moment so that I can find more reasons too ❤️
Nothing like starting the day with this and a bowl of Apple Jacks!
That sounds like a good idea.
"To make beautiful things from my mistakes"
*" I will succeed for my parents, for all they have made for me! I hope you will too "*
It’s not you it’s you compared to the social,game, the unwritten expectations of the world around you. Finding a path within this world that allows you to feel self directed and somewhat in control provides relief from living someone else’s life.
Keep thinking, keep trying, keep moving
I don't know for how long i will keep playing in this shayt show...
Maybe the whole world shall experience depressions as to know how fragile our existence is
The only reason you need to live is to realize that this is the only chance you've ever gotten to experience life and that no matter how it's been like, it's the only experience we will ever get.
Sometimes this "experience" of life is too painful to want to live another day of it. If the experience of life is full of suffering and pain, why the hell would you want it to continue?
I would still rather not experience it
@@daphnie816 To make sense of the pain and overcome it
@@FutureMindset There is little sense in pain, especially unbearable psychological pain, and often it cannot be overcome...
@@corb5654 There's always a reason behind it. Figuring out that reason starts to pave the way for overcoming it
I absolutely despise self awareness. Always have, always will.
Losing meaning. Such two simple words, that leaves to certainly one of the most terrify feeling in existance
mental illness is something that bothers me after reading viktor frankl. if there is aways a choice to endure suffering for a higher purpose, if the sense of a mission can heal the past and orient the future, what about those that lack the use of reason? are they passive in their purpose?
good question...
It's about a reasonable or an unreasonable amount of suffering over the course of one's life.
so few people have the courage to make beautiful things from their mistakes
Everyone around me seems to have way more fun.
I miss having fun.
I just want to take a long nap and never wake up.
But I will keep crawling through the darkness.
Are we better people for having suffered? Maybe clarity is the reason
This seems to be a deeply flawed view of mental health, once again pinning it on the individual, when in fact, mental illness is a response to a world that sets up expectations for how to live. This is a “lift yourself by your bootstraps” mentality that only reinforces that mental illness is your individual issue. When in fact, it is an issue of a society that aims to make you feel worthless for not being a certain type of body in their “society”. You are living even with mental illness, drop the internal darkness ideology and recognize it as external forces.
It's not always about society. Some people lose a loved one and depression kicks in.
The perspective given in this video is a far less hopeless one, than : "this world makes me so sick"
Sure our society is fucked up and most certainly contribute to mental health problems, but thats just a part of a much bigger picture. It can also be sudden loss, pain or other objective issues that starts a negative spiral, and it can simply be a biological/genetical problem or a mix of several reasons.
Mental ilnesses are problems of individuals thats why we treat them and not the society
"When something reaches endemic proportions it can no longer be blamed on the individual" -Russell Brand. Watch the linked video below for a more accurate narrative about the mental health issues so many of us are experiencing:
Just fought with my father and yes I think I am slowly breaking down inside
It's been more than 15 years now since I had the first thought of killing myself. Now that I'm almost 30, I can say that although I've been in more life challenging experiences than before, I'm now more resilient because of those experiences and more looking forward to positive experiences. I pray we all find the courage to live each day during these hard times. 💕
Keep on keeping on
Yes, after my ptsd this will be matter to me.
Stay strong 🙏
Any crushing adversity is a tremendous opportunity for transformation. The forever-happy place is a sign of adaptation to mediocrity and the mundane ways of the world. A great crisis can push us to the depths of frightening assumptions, false beliefs and tortuous feelings. But, eventually, and if handled in the right manner, can turn out to be a profound source of some of the most invaluable life skills and qualities - such as resilience, quietening of the ego, compassion, humility and the maturity and wisdom to see the big picture...the Illuminous clarity beyond the fog of everyday nonsense that we, in an otherwise delusional state of good fortune, wouldn't have been able to grasp.
I missed previous videos male voice during this video...it is much calmer and nicer to hear..then this female vocal.
I have been living with depersonalisation derealisation disorder and ocd for two years . I want to end it all ☹️
I'm sorry for u.... 😢
It could be from medications!
Try nofap and read Kur'an with prejudice maybe you find your answer and meaning of life
Try meditating and reading the book "you are not your brain". I also have a playlist that helps me with ocd on my profile. I also recommend cbd if you have access to it. Ocd sucks but it's possible to leave a happy life, we just need to work harder than others. 😁👍🏿
This could not have come out on a better moment, Thanks!
This help me alot today.
Remember your reason to live need not be the same as someone tells you. You can choose how and why you want would live rather than choose otherwise just because you cannot fulfill that reason given by somebody
I'm so tired and emotionally drained I started to go emotionally numb as a defense mechanism and
now I don't even care about myself anymore
Oh look its time to die o clock
:)
Needed to hear this today lol. Coincidence? I think not.
This video saved my life, each day is a day earned back from death
While I appreciate the purpose of this video , as someone who has dealt with mental illness for most of their life, the video comes off as a little tone death. I did not just fall into a mental illness, it is something that I have dealt with for most of my life without knowing what it was. For years I was suicided, my last attempt was about 6-7 years ago. Then I was finally diagnosed. I went 35 years not knowing what I was dealing with. I still struggle daily with my mental illness, and I will probably be struggling with this for the rest of my life.
Hey! How are you, right now?
"Reasons to live"
How'd you know what I Googled? 😣
very nice comment... i can resonate what u r feeling...
UA-cam is owned by Google ._.
@@tensorflow5777 i know lol
@@tensorflow5777 with enough people on a platform, coincidences are bound to happen ;)
Yesterday I had an existential crisis in the bathroom after my afternoon shower
it happens...
yup shower is evil, stay away from it.
@@deadlyrobot5179 yep, never shower. You'd also save some water.
I incessantly feel the need to justify continuing my existence, and I had long ago come to the very same conclusion! Life is far more valuable when you've shed any sense of obligation to live yet thus far have chosen never to stop.
I am not quite sure if I lost the desire to live when, as my therapist told me, everything around me collapse when I was 10 years old. I grew up with my mother completely depressed and my father 6000 miles away. I feel that when I started therapy at 28 everything started to get so much better. Now at 31 I have so much desire for life but I fear something bad could happen again.
😢
You may find it very useful, and practical, to list everything that could go wrong and then list all of the best or more appropriate responses to each situation, so you have a back up plan. This may give you strength. You won't be as lost when something bad happens. "Prepare for the worst, hope for the better". Shit will come your way a few more times, it always does; so you'd better be prepared.