On Feeling Depressed
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- Опубліковано 9 кві 2017
- There remains a huge amount of stigma around depression, but if we look at what an average human is up against, feelings of depression are entirely normal, indeed, to be expected. We don’t need to compound our misery through a sense that it’s either unusual or unwarranted. I
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“We’re not talking about the extreme, most paralysing, regions of despair - where external medical help is vital. Our target is rather the times when we feel - as indicated by Henry David Thoreau’s phrase - mired in moods of ‘quiet desperation’: a large, grey hinterland in which beneath an outward surface of endurance, we feel exhausted, close to tears, beyond the sympathetic understanding of others, easily irritated and daunted by the simplest tasks...”
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When people say that there are others who have it worse than you, do they expect you to suddenly decide never to feel bad about something ever again?
Edwin Kip ikr, worst thing to possibly say. like ok, my life is pretty good and I still feel like shit, I guess I'm ungrateful on top of everything else now too right?
Terry Wallace You then decide never to talk about such feelings for fear of coming off as ungrateful. Which is also unhealthy.
That actually makes me more depressed because now I feel bad about the other people too!
I'm not like, "Yay! Other people are suffering!"
I actually tell myself that to feel better
Edwin Kip people who say that are basically saying there is only one person who had the right to feel bad in the entire species, don't listen to them.
the fact that depression is a normal aspect of the human condition is in itself depressing.
Couldn't have said it better myself
Painful emotions are maintained though the process of thinking about them.
Not really
Is that a fact strats56? Seems like an interesting idea.
@@076657 Everything is maintained by thinking about it. Why can you remember a name of a stranger better after the 5th than after the first time? Because the connections between your neurons are strenghend each time you think about something, so that the more you think about a thing, lets say you see a face and think "Thats James!" The more likely the neurons that remeber the face and the neurons that remember "thats randy!" are to fire at the same time, connecting it more and more. The more often you think about being sad the more often you will think about sadness while thinking about or remembering your feelings.
im so depressed i couldnt even hear nor understand what the video said.
Same
Hope you're feeling better ....
Same
Hi, if you are going through a tough time I have made 3 videos in the hope it might ease your struggle. ua-cam.com/video/IgqfBKXkmmA/v-deo.html here is one
you need to turn the volume up:) ...sorry..just kidding
I just wish I could power off like a robot but without dying if that makes sense.
Edit on April 5th 2020: seeing these likes makes me feel better knowing that theirs others that think the same besides me and one of my other friends.
Edit may 18th 2024: no longer feel like this
It does
Yeah, I always thought of that too. Like how about I sleep for a couple of weeks until the day that I can do that "meaningful" thing again instead of waiting for a long period of time making you even more anxious while you were awake. (But not that robot thing like yours. I always imagine myself locked up in a lab container, like Mewtwo or some shit like in the movies)
rather than dying or power off, i would rather vanish from the existence.
Yeah same here
Thats what i say everytime.
I guess we all think alike
I've been depressed for 9 years. The best way I could describe it is that you constantly feel like you're drowning/suffocating while also being completely numb in the worst way possible.
Thats terrible. Ive been depressed fir a year and a half and its felt like an eternity. I don't know if I could do it for 9 years. You must be a very strong person
I've had it for 17 years. I've given up on a lot of things because I already know the outcome of it. I can't ask help because no - one wants to help and I don't know to help myself. To me, there's no such thing as having a positive mind. But nevertheless, I can understand how you feel.
I also must be into my 6th year of depression or something like that.
One thing that scares me, is I've been depressed for so long now, that a lot of people I know now have only known me already depressed, so they must think THAT's me. They must think that is my personality, and it's not. That's a thing that frustrates me.
Jesus loves you, repent from your sins and follow only Jesus can heal your depression, God is love, thank you.
Since middle school. I'm 22 now. People say Im chill but nah...my brain is constantly spilling anxiety and insecurities. So much so that I shut down. When I shut down I don't really try to do anything. I don't try to learn. I don't learn to socialize. Even going to work everyday isn't doing anything for me socially because I have no emotional attachment to them and I honestly hate seeing them. All of them. But I have no friends. So I'm just gonna eh.
Right now, there are people all over the world who are just like you. They're either lonely, they're missing somebody, they're depressed, they're hurt, they're scared from the past,they're having personal issues no one knows about, they have secrets you wouldn't believe. They wish, they dream and they hope. And right now, they are sitting here reading these words, and I'm writing this for you so you don't feel alone anymore. Always remember, don't be depressed about the past, don't worry about the future, and just focus on today. If today's not so great don't worry! Tomorrow's a new chance. Have a nice day. :)
Tan Jie Ying I appreciate your efforts at keeping the depressed scrolling through the comments looking ahead and im sure you have brightened up many eith your words. But it's a generic statement, one that so many people have tried to explain and convince to those who don't feel it (myself included). The first few sentences of your comment just reminded me of a regular thought in my brain and got me even more depressed and worthless with reasoning i can't be bothered to repeat as with many other people where i have explained this reverse effect. Im sorry that your heartfelt comnent didn't reach people like me. I not really sure why i did reply to your comment. I didn't intend to ofdend by any means...
TheRogue Rager Thanks for letting me know how you feel. Please forgive me for my inappropriate comment and I'm sorry for making you feel worse. I know it's never that easy to make someone forget about his or her problems and just become happy instantly. I just hoped that when you are having a hard time and you come across my words you will feel less alone and know that there are people out there who cared about you.
Anyway, if you ever need someone to talk to, I'll be here for you. I wish you well.
The odds are against things getting that much better tomorrow. It's called the law of entropy. I hate to bear bad news but that's about all I have to share lol. Humor is one of my only weapons against depression. How funny is that?
Thanks :)
It was nice to hear
Tan Jie Ying My heroes sometimes I get severely depressed about,Peter Gabriel who was born into a rich family and had musical parents and became a naturally gifted songwriter,I am a drummer but can’t write a song for shit and it destroys my soul to the point of suicide.
And we worship these people who had a head start on us because they were born with better genes than us,sorry Pete,I still love you,I listen to The Lamb all the time,it gets me out of the rut,prog is mus ic for the weak,it guides us to a magical place unlike Earth where the bullies and businessmen listen to their punk and extraverted music and get attention because of their “great” personality and bank balance.
Humans are awful.
If there is a button that can wipe me out of this world like I never exist I will hit it without any hesitation
Cavan Cheng
in a way or another, we're lucky to be alive
time is a bless, no matter what is going on in your life just remember "every storm runs out of rain".
Same here
@@fcukedmynan5995 Wtf is wrong with u
@@daraquesto2277 I've reported him as bullying/harassment to youtube.
ua-cam.com/video/FWYtujZjoUA/v-deo.html 🌥🌦🌤🌞🙏 www.biblestudytools.com/topical-verses/depression-bible-verses/ I pray you will get some comfort from these. God loves you and he knows every hair on your head. You were created for a purpose, please know that. Choose life and I hope you will be ok. Take good care. 🙏
An old class mate from my old School committed suicide Last week. He suffered from severe depression, but none of us knew,not even his closest friend. The thing is, we all are so occupied with work and studies that we lose sight from the really important things and people. I too am guilty of this. In our chat group we many of us shared that they suffer or have suffered from depression and consult a coach/therapist. It was unbelievable how many people from my old class suffered or suffers from depression. Every single person in our class was so full of life, soul, energy, humanity and many were so outgoing. That was the moment I realized: It's not you, me, us who is flawed. It is this world, the system we are living in. A system build by and for soulless sociopaths. It is NO wonder, so many people are suffering from depression. In fact, it is a sign of being a sensitive, sain, intelligent human. It is a sign of not having lost the humanity. After the death of my old class mate, this is one thing that me and my class mates learned.
I also think that a lot of very intelligent and sensitive people suffer from depression..
A few months ago my friend committed suicide too, we think it had something to do with depression but before that he was the most funny and joyful guy you could meet... I'm in tears right now, it just doesn't seem fair. I've now learned people have their own battles, even if they seem pretty good from the outside. I just need to let it out... I really miss laughing with our group of friends, all his jokes, his nonsense lines. And the worst part is, I won't be laughing like that ever again.
@@Talledo12 I'm really really sorry dude. I don't have an idea to make you feel better, but i wanted to say i feel you.
@SuperDubois (albeit an old thread), I agree with you precisely about the world/system being flawed. It's hard to believe this was the Creator's divine plan but that's not for us to fathom. We are mere pawns on the chess board of life, each generation trying to make sense of an increasingly disconnected, troubled world. For me rapid technological advancements are squarely to blame, despite it's presumed utility in making our lives "better." Clearly it has not. What are we to do with the hunter-gatherer instinct still present in our DNA? Are we gathering FB "likes" and substituting that as a means to fulfill our days and destinies? No wonder we're all depressed... here is a quote I came across recently that sums it up well: "It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society." - Jiddu Krishnamurti
Wow… perfectly said and a point of view I had never thought or heard of until now. Thank you for your kind words 🙏
i feel like everythings fake like a dream but not really, i cant really explain but it feels weird
I know just what you're saying. It's some kind of hellish dream.
When u are far from GOD u r depressed try to Love people around u stay With those who r loyal to u love anyone don't judge anyone be agree on what u have and be happy to see rich or better people than u , don't stay alone make new friends
One thing more anyone on earth has same creator The Same God just love anyone
and see the magic try it an remember me in prayers ☺
That sounds like dissociation. In my opinion and experience, it's very common with depression and anxiety.
Same.
I know just what you mean friend. There's no need for you to explain it plenty of us understand and you're not alone. It's a strange feeling and a weird perception of life.
Would we all be happier if everyone posted their failures, instead of their succeses, on Instagram and Facebook?
Hector Sanchez I don't think so. A depressed person feels small when is seeing how successful the others are. But when you're not depressed you don't need someone to drown you with them. We're not meant to be other's peoples psychologists.
Claudia Arizmendi But consider the following. People who are not clinically depressed, but are trying to evaluate how well they are doing in life, could turn to social media for a benchmark. If this benchmark wasn't biased, showing only how well people are doing but also how bad, would the average person feel better about themselves?
I'm afraid I'll have to repeat my point: we aren't pshycologists. And besides there's such a whole concept of "how well they're doing in life" (bc it's relative) i think the only thing we can do is keep in mind that people tend to show the great things in social media. (Even tough i know a few people that don't give a fuck and post their 36 moods in a day, haha)
Hector Sanchez fuck Facebook
Claudia Arizmendi I refuse to just let that idea of fake happiness conquer. The populus now loves following ideologies instead of actual humans. This is why the fakest and most flamboyant, delirious people get the most likes and shares on social media, and when they occasionally do show a less proudful side of theirs, it's something they've specifically picked out because they know it will never be over the line or cause stigma.
Sure, we're not psychologists but noone says we have to be. But these social media messages about happiness always winning and constant neglection of pain.. they get to people. And when kids and teens and later adults see that everyone of their friends and idols is doing better than them because they're able to ignore depression and down times, they start to think something's wrong with them. So if it wasn't so wrongly portrayed that showing your bad side, your faults, is a bad influence and a weakness, then people wouldn't need to act like psychologists. They'd just see it as an everyday post.
why don't they teach this shit in school, instead of telling you your whole life depends on a test
I don't want to die, I love the idea of life, I'm just not a fan of mine, because every minute I get a sinking feeling of utter sadness and the eternal need for that feeling to end.
How are you doing now?
currently struggling with the same issues
As down and low as I may feel now, it's actually really helpful knowing I'm not alone as I read comments.
@@076657 yeah if you think about it, it's actually a bit selfish to be glad about others' suffering
@@076657 I think what is helpful about the comments section is that we understand that it's not just ourselves who "are failing" in life. It's not that other people's misery makes you happy, but if everyone around you was happy and you were sad you couldn't help but wonder "if it is so easy to be happy why am I failing so hard?". Seeing other people struggling is just a reminder that life can be hard for everyone. Not just ourselves. It helps us be kinder to ourselves.
Chris Thomas❤
How do you feel now after 3 years? 🙂
For past 3 months I've been feeling very low and dismotivated. It feels like I'm never going to overcome this feeling..
@@zainkhalid3670 itll get better i pray that you'll find your happiness soon InShaAllah :)
I have been going through this since 2019. Sometimes i feel neutral and fine and then there are times when i just want everything to end and to stop existing and for the past 1 year ive been switching between the two phases. The neutral face is a lot less frequent but at the end of the day i still end up not giving in to depression and suicidal thoughts. And I hope everyone thats going through the same will do too.
No, friend.......you are not alone in your feelings.
The timing of these videos is always perfect.
Incendium that is because you are always depressed..any timing will be good
Eddy Lentoq exactly :D
Incendium RIGHT!
Incendium most of their videos are about depression
Or 20 years late.
If life is this bad why did my parents make me ? How cruel
Help me
@@youngniggaz1049 this is litteraly why I don't want kids
One moment of orgasim = self devastating bad life
Exactly... when I was a teenager I wanted to have kids in the future, but now as an adult I luckily changed my mind.
Atomic Barbie that is exactly what I asked them!
You need to understand that people have kids for themselves not for the sake of the kids! People have kids so that they can show society that they are prosperous! They don’t care about what happens to the kids
Which is why never have kids! Never put them through what you’ve been through
Everything is just a struggle and completely pointless. I just don’t have the energy anymore.
Life will get better friend, just keep going and stay strong. Everyday is an opportunity for change.
If God...
If God were ever lonely, He would think about you.
If God needed some friends, He would include you.
If God had a day off, He would spend it with you.
If God had a cell phone, He would Emoji you.
If God ordered a pizza, He'd split it with you.
If God had a motorcycle, He'd pop a wheelie for you.
If God saw you hitchhiking, He'd pull over for you.
If God had a mansion, He'd make a room for you.
If God saw you alone, He would stand next to you.
If God saw you afraid, He would embrace you.
If God watched you cry, He would cry with you.
If God knew you were forgotten, He would remember you.
If God had a heaven, He'd make a place for you.
If God had a Son, He'd send Him to die for you.
If God is calling your name, He wants to hear from you.
These Christians will never accept that lol but ignorance is bliss
ironically, I came out of depression when I realized; everything really is meaningless
Good for you then, I guess?
Abradolf Lincler wasn't looking for approval of any kind. but thanks, I guess?
Bonnie Thomas Existential crisis
that's one way of looking at things. it really only means what you want it to mean...
+Bonnie Thomas im curious how did this realization happen for you? what was happeneing in your life and how did this thought pop in you head?
This is a hug to all the people who need it.
I meant that the comment is. Not the video.
hug back to you my friend
steals his wallet*
I'm still cold
passerell lmao
I don't feel any better...
Depression feels like drowning and not having the power to flight back
Until someone saves you, which is nearly impossible
"Hello, darkness my old friend..."
Darkness: "You're drunk. Stop calling me."
where there is humor, there is survival.
Thank you. You actually made me laugh.
😂😂😂
I was just about to end my life, I tried reaching every single suicide line I could posible each and non had time for me. In dispair I looked in UA-cam for a song to give my end a meaning (I'm an Av producer so I really needed an outro). I ended up finding this video in my news feed, i don't know who you are, but you just saved my life
MrSorfox I hope you didn't change your mind in the past few days. I would like to do an apprenticeship to become an av producer but I am weirdly afraid about the whole topic.. which is the main cause of my depression..
converse0805 I didn't, still here, if you need help I will surely help you, always here to someone in need. Specially someone feeling the same dispair I had had in a moment
Phew what a relief. Well I never went as far as you did but it still is like an overwhelming force pinning me down, unable to do much. So I don't know how you could possibly help but still.. thanks.
Free dom I really like the bowl analogy. That is helpful.
Jesus loves you, only Jesus can give you eternal life and happiness, repent and follow Jesus He is the answer, thank you.
This video's animation is one of the best I've seen on the channel. It was poignant, expressive, pathetic, and even hilarious at times. I hope to see more of this artist!
couldn't agree more!
Mason Peck ikr!
He is a genius: we are going to work with him on a new film soon.
too bad the audio is subpar.
Brian Damegd yep it drowns out the voice at times
Dying alone is the best thing that came to my head since i was born
Thank you. I was diagnosed with chronic depression in April 2014. Today has been one of those bad days for me. To all those who battle depression on a daily basis...you're not alone. xx
I once tried to hint to my friends that I suffer from depression because I wanted them to understand why I am the person that I am. I most likely won't ever do it again because of the amount of judgment or awkwardness I could see they were feeling. That also makes me feel depressed--that people would rather see me as some bitter person who hates everything, rather than a person who's hurting inside.
They do come from families like that--I do too. I just don't understand how people could sympathize or feel compassion for things they see in movies, show, social media, etc. but in real life, they find it hard to react to someone they presume to care about. It's not that I want them to feel bad for me, but it's hard for me to be happy when they're trying to do something fun. Because of that, people just seem to give up on including me in most things and it's this endless cycle of me not being happy. I think it hurts more when people ignore serious things like this, instead of acknowledging it.
That's very insightful and in my experience all too true.
Many people can't grasp the concept of depression. I have heard it a lot of times that it's all in my head. While there is some truth to that , I expected a more compassionate reaction from the people around me especially my family . But I realize now that it's not their fault they don't understand, they are a product of an environment where they learnt to bottle up their feelings and ignore them . In most societies crying , lamenting and mourning are viewed in a negative light. You are just expected to be alright all the time and be happy. But depression makes you realize that meaningful happiness and fulfillment only comes from working for them. And it's our job to create meaning in our lives in order to be satisfied with our lives. You need to be your own best friend and understand that no one is coming to save you. You are the superhero of your story . And like most of them you have to conquer life on your own. And, believe me you are more than enough to do so.
I agree. I don't feel any judgement, people generally want to help. But they can't help you, you are the one able to pull yourse;f out.
My thought process is: no one can pull me out of my depression, I am the one to make a decision and be active and pull myself out.
So, I don't want to waste people's time saying how depressed I am, if I am not taking the steps to get out. It's also boring to people, we all have dark moments and the point of meeting a friend and talking is to cheer each other up.
Be strong buddy
I wish I could forgive myself as I forgave the ones who hurt me .. I don't know why it's so hard
When u are far from GOD u r depressed try to Love people around u stay With those who r loyal to u love anyone don't judge anyone be agree on what u have and be happy to see rich or better people than u
One thing more anyone on earth has same creator The Same God just love anyone
and see the magic try it an remember me in prayers ☺
@@asadkhan-ml1ml religion/faith it's like a drug, it helps in the beginning but later the depression only comes back stronger and bigger.
I became religious duo the depression, helped for a year but after that the depression came back stronge than ever and after I've started to question the faith and realize religion is idiotic bullshit, that faith crisis broke me down way more than before and I've mentally collapsed and tried to kill myself several times.
The mix of religion and depression is as dangerous as the mix of depression and drugs/alcohol.
@@yjohnnyy618 u once had religion when u were born but then u were forced to follow a system in the name of religion , i know u think u were born by nothing but believe me there is someone somewhere just ask him IF THERE IS GOD HE SHOULD GUIDE U believe me u can find him . I don't like to show my religion BUT I FOLLOW HIM ALONE WITHOUT ANYONE .
@Barber of Seville REMEMBER i know u will not agree with me but if u agree sometime u will find a true path and.. anyone will stop u to follow that path. bcz the false has created too much propganda against truth
Also i agree with u that the system u did follow once was like a drug it did nothing to change u
example
if u have a car and it is out of order then u need its creator to fix it
there is only one option for u to be better person ask ur creator to fix anything for u
of course it will take some ime but it works
otherwise there is no value for abandon car
sorry for bad eng
I watch this every time I feel depressed
yes, its a cool video.
This and "On feeling melancholy" are my favourite videos by this channel. It's nice to know you're not so alone, thank you
Is it normal that I cried watching this?
NightWolfsbane11747 • same
NightWolfsbane11747 • no I cried too
Crying if you feel like it is always normal. Its human. You cry more often at things, that are specially connected to your situation. So here, you have to deal with depression or depressed feelings, thats why your cry at watching this video (Probably)
you're probably just soft
NightWolfsbane11747 • i cried too
People always tell you when you're sad that it's normal to feel that way, that feeling like a failure or not being able to bring yourself to laugh at jokes makes us somehow 'human'. And every time I hear that it just makes everything worse. Because from where I'm standing, 'you're normal' and 'everyone goes through tough times' just simply means:
'You can't be helped. You have to just suffer through it
like everyone else.'
When I feel sad, when something has gone wrong and I don't want to get up from my bed I don't want to hear that it's normal or that it makes me human. I don't want to hear how my neighbours are stressed too, I don't care if every other teenager is depressed and that it's perfectly fine. I just want it to go away.
There is a distinction between what you should believe, and what is real.
Reality : Everyone suffers. Suffering is the reason humans have evolved to this degree. It is a natural part of life.
What you should believe : You can escape your suffering, you create your own traps, your mind is influenced by things out of your control, things might get better, you should keep working on destroying your existence.
Reality : Statistically most people die a painful death. Or they die from debilitating diseases that leaves them utterly humiliated. Funding for prevention of such diseases are abysmally low, and awareness is minimal.
What you should believe : You don't need to worry about death, it is a natural part of life, just enjoy what you have now.
I am not asking you to conveniently brainwash yourself. But instead, to just be, and not expect things out of your "self" which in fact does not exist.
I guess it just means "you're not alone." like when you have a deadline and find out someone else is struggling as much as you it means that you're problem is common, and in most cases if they were able to overcome it then so can you.--> as you can see I take advice in a very positive light. I'm sure your point still stands but I hope you know that you have the fight and spirit to find your happiness.
I think worse than that for me, is being told I'm normal. I don'y want to be normal! That's just so fucked up
Seanohaha Yeah, I'm 100% with you.
Stella Tsäko dude, I think what you described is basically classical depression symptoms. i mean, clinically. One way psychiatrist diagnose for depression is by telling or making jokes, and if their patients don't even smile a little bit, it adds to the odds of being clinical depression. Same for not leaving bed. Or so I heard from a med student. You should get medical help. Talk to someone you trust and ask them to help you go through this.
this was certainly one of the best school of life videos!
Death is our destiny, feeling numb is everyday life
Drugs Make You Happy
Whenever I feel depressed I like to listen to sad songs. It makes me feel like I am not the only one
Depression is not a desire to be happy. Rather, it is a desire to feel less alone or isolated.
Listening to sad music reminds us that someone else has at least experienced the same grief and sadness as well. That shows us that we are not alone, and helps to dispel the depression.
DD Nguyen listen to ilayaraja, his songs are a testimony to his genius.
Of course you're not the only one and there is always someone who has it worse than you but what an awful thing that says about life in general. Schopenhauer would agree.
Depression is Solvable by adding a spiritual practice in life.
First we have to understand who we actually are?
Student:What is the difference between a living body and a dead body?
Professor: The heart pumping
Student: Yes but what makes the heart pump? The living body has all the organs in place, and the dead body has all the organs in place, what is the missing part, what is missing that makes the body dead?
Professor: hmm
Student: The missing part is the SOUL, when the soul is present the body is alive, when the soul leaves the body, the body is dead.
- So this is who we are: Indivudal Spirit Soul, yet, we are currently imprisoned in a material body, so as long as we try to satisfy the material body and neglect the spirit soul, we will never be satisfied, because we are trying to satisfy something which we are not. So our whole life we have been living in an illusion.
Have you heard of Bhagavad Gita?
There is a biological answer to the student's question, I can't imagine you don't know that
I'm so lonely that not even darkness is my friend...
I really hear you but I have found one and only one good thing I can count on. That's my dogs. I avoid humans like the plague. If I don't my depression gets just that much worse.
Depression is Solvable by adding a spiritual practice in life.
First we have to understand who we actually are?
Student:What is the difference between a living body and a dead body?
Professor: The heart pumping
Student: Yes but what makes the heart pump? The living body has all the organs in place, and the dead body has all the organs in place, what is the missing part, what is missing that makes the body dead?
Professor: hmm
Student: The missing part is the SOUL, when the soul is present the body is alive, when the soul leaves the body, the body is dead.
- So this is who we are: Indivudal Spirit Soul, yet, we are currently imprisoned in a material body, so as long as we try to satisfy the material body and neglect the spirit soul, we will never be satisfied, because we are trying to satisfy something which we are not. So our whole life we have been living in an illusion.
Have you heard of Bhagavad Gita As It Is?
Apparently the others don't get the joke
darkness cant be a friend, by definition.
Jesus loves you, only Jesus can heal your depression, only God, Jesus and The Holy Spirit truly love you, only your faith in Jesus will save you from eternal hell, thank you.
The most relatable video I've ever seen. I've never felt so understood on my depression.
I watched this vid months ago and eventho i found it beautiful i couldn't really feel every word of it, but now that i'm in a very bad place i came back to watch it and oh gosh i cried so much like every word had a meaning and an importance and i couldn't miss any, and i know we always have in the back of our minds the idea that we are not alone in what we are feeling or going through but sometimes when it's really dark you just feel an irrational need to hear that you are not alone and that it is okay to feel what you're feeling that people have been there and you can overcome it because it's nothing someone has never felt it's just human feels and thoughts and now i feel much much less bad so a big thank you
"we have so much to feel morose about: simply by virtue of being alive"... this is... this is so resonant it's unbelievable.
"The tragedy of life is not death, but what we let die inside of us while we're alive"~Norman Cousins.
You have absolutely no idea how deeply I connect to your videos, and how soothing the narrator’s voice is to me.
The eloquence... the choice of words... the precise hit in the feels. Invaluable.
I feel the same... if he could sing a lullaby, it could be a cure for insomnia🤗 so soothing🥰😇
These are sincerely some of the most brilliant and helpful self-empowerment videos I have ever encountered. Thank you so much.
I'm depressed since October last year and i feel too much fear to talk to anyone about it. Always think nobody understands me😔
Why don't you think anybody understands you?
Dankus Memus Because they always say "hey, you're not actually depressed, it is just a current mood in which you're in" but i can't even remember when was the last time i really deeply laughed by heart or felt happy for just a single day. I am just currently and constantly depressed and do not even know actually where it came from☹️
Dankus Memus because of people like u shrek lol
Dankus Memus by the way i am not a native english speaker, hope you'd understand me.
I'm also feeling this right now. I have friends and all but I feel like they don't know me deep enough. Wanna talk to someone about life
Depression is like a bomb, you dont know when will it explodes, then aftermath everything falling apart and takes really long time or never recover.
Take Drugs . . . Drugs End Depression Trust Me
Young Savage maybe weed does but popping pills will make it worse
@@morrancs2 Weed Cure Depression Right?
Young Savage I don't know I haven't tried weed but I know that it's better than popping Xanax or Amphetamines
I cannot emphasize enough how grateful I am that these videos are so stark, consummate, blunt, simple. Incredibly effective.
I am so grateful for this video!
There are so many moments when I''m overwhelmed by the demands of this life. And than I watch this film and feel better.
My lesson above all is: don't be too hard on yourself.
Compassion has to start first and foremost with myself. We will make mistakes and things will go wrong.
It's ok that way. I accept it.
Thank you Allen!!
by the end of the video i was crying my eyes out... i think i finally understand my emotions and that it is okay to be depressed.
me too. crying eyes out. the acceptance of it creates space.
life s not a smooth road all the way, let's all be in control of our life
mybluediamonds.org/being-in-control-of-your-life/
No its not okay lets be honest
By the end of the video I wanted to bash my head in with the phone. Not because the videos bad. It's actually great.
feng I'm often depressed on a daily basis cos I want to be handsome,intelligent n succesfull with a beautifull girlfriend but I'm not any of these things so I can't get a girlfriend😭. I'm so horribly confused n depressed
The universality of depression is probably its most poignant feature. Everyone's experienced it to one degree or another, so people make assumptions about others' depression and expect them to get over it the same way they have. You can't do comparative depression, but people do it all the time
There is a saying: I judge you like judge myself. People do it all the time. It is really a projection....
Everything inside me ... raw and uncut in my head and heart ... right here... it’s all right there in front of me to look at in disgust and awe... wow
Sharing about depression can bring so much awareness and it's ok to be not ok sometimes. You have to reach out though and find the strength to because it can do so much and you don't have to go it alone!
I have been feeling overall more down since this year began. Feeling more like I'm going through the motions rather than being alive. I feel like I'm seeing things so differently. Seeing people's positive Facebook posts as cries for attention or attempts to show off. Wondering what the point of it all is. Not feeling excited about anything. Withdrawing from others, keeping to myself.
Yeah that's about how it seems to me too. The only thing that works even a little is very long daily hikes in the mountains and having my dogs around. Oh and the occasional good book and some opiates and benzo. lol.
This is how I see it too.
More and more people started demanding love and attention from others instead of giving it and waiting for it to be returned, they end up bitter when they don't recieve it and stop giving likes to others out of spite.
This is a downwards spiral that is happening everywhere, facebook just makes it really obvious.
A very long hike sounds so good to me right now....
Thanks for the inspiration, john. It's very rare that I have a hopeful thought about my next day, or that I even plan on doing anything.
Hope you feel better soon😒
That slap made me even more depressed :(
depression is lack of understanding, awareness and consciousness.
* I have been there.*
Top Doge Yes, I am - no doubts about it. I am still developing my consciousness and awareness :)
that slap was funny as fuck
This is the second video on this channel that gets to describe 100% as i feel and as i am. And just by that, i feel relief, cause i know that there's people going through this shit, and that understands me even more than i understand myself. These 2 videos helped on that. Added both to favourites. just so i can watch them anytime i feel like i don't know myself or just misunderstood. Greetings from Paraguay!
I never discuss Depression with someone who professes to have never experienced this particular hell..
yea gotta go through it to get it. Hope you're well!
I feel like it is so incredibly important to not let these depressive feelings become anger and hate. I really do believe a lot of the suffering in this world comes from people who turned their own sadness into anger and revengeful thoughts, and then acted upon those thoughts only to bring more suffering. I try to understand the minds of murderers, terrorists and so on, and I do think in many situations if only they had personal support before they committed their crime it could've been prevented. I wonder how as a society can you make sure less people are alone, that people early on learn to respect each other and to how to deal with grief and the importance of supporting others.
wise words
Suffering is the best teacher.Its not meditation that leads to enlightment its suffering ,it forces you out of social conditioning.
sadly thats the truth.
The tiny child who starves to death must really be getting taught some valuable lessons. (not). While suffering may teach it's telling how utterly stupid most humans remain in spite of it.
I would say that caring for others leads to enlightment
Did you get that from reading Mans Search for Meaning
Thank you. Im at such a low right now & to know all that im going through will eventually lead to a state of mind beyond what im feeling now means so much.
I feel like everything is meaningless in life , each and everything I do is meaningless
And I always feel like I'm suffocating and I'm going to die
But I don't want to die
thank you for making me feel less stigmatized about one of my mental illnesses!
Farting in your own face while riding a tandem bike with yourself. That's quite a ... unique visual for "our own private failings."
That actually happened to me.
that part of the vid amused me but reading this comment actually cracked me up
When u are far from GOD u r depressed try to Love people around u stay With those who r loyal to u love anyone don't judge anyone be agree on what u have and be happy to see rich or better people than u , don't stay alone make new friends
One thing more anyone on earth has same creator The Same God just love anyone
and see the magic try it an remember me in prayers ☺
@@asadkhan-ml1ml 😬
I laughed at that
I still want to die and nothing will change that
If God...
If God were ever lonely, He would think about you.
If God needed some friends, He would include you.
If God had a day off, He would spend it with you.
If God had a cell phone, He would Emoji you.
If God ordered a pizza, He'd split it with you.
If God had a motorcycle, He'd pop a wheelie for you.
If God saw you hitchhiking, He'd pull over for you.
If God had a mansion, He'd make a room for you.
If God saw you alone, He would stand next to you.
If God saw you afraid, He would embrace you.
If God watched you cry, He would cry with you.
If God knew you were forgotten, He would remember you.
If God had a heaven, He'd make a place for you.
If God had a Son, He'd send Him to die for you.
If God is calling your name, He wants to hear from you.
@@andygreer8645 god wants me to die. He texted me personally
Jade I want to die too but it’s completely normal everybody wanted to die in their life , everybody fails, everybody makes mistakes and I understand that now.
@@andygreer8645 the dumbest thing you can say to someone who wants to die is your FAITH.
Same
These videos are great. They get to the heart of the matter with humour in between to realise that life isn't all doom and gloom. The senses we are blessed with alleviate dark thoughts and even when we aren't motivated at times, there is always something to be grateful for......
1)i lost my good image as student,son by failin 3 times..
2) i lost myself by choosing wrong career path..
3) i lost my true and all friends..
4)i am not teenager but afraid and barely talk with girls..
4)completely failure person in every task i do..
5) tried many things, but never finished succesfully single thing.
6) lost complete hope..and want to die...
but i think about my mom and dad and wont suiside.
but i guess i cannt control myself when i will shift some other city.
Hey . Hope you feel better now. I’m going through the same things. I’ve never felt worse . But knowing I’m not alone helps
Jeff Goldbloom hey, thanks for reply..
i am *trying* to just *survive*
and good luck to u also👍
Sameee
Aditya H.B. You are absolutely not alone my friend😔❤️
Me too it's insane how you named the exact same thoughts I have. This just shows that none of us are alone it's just that we make the least noise so it's hard to hear the millions of people going through the same feeling
People that can love their flaws and dont hide their sadness are so much better at dealing with depression.
They are also very attractive people.
"Managing your weaknesses strongly is the true strength" or something like that. And it's true. A guy who tells you how he failed, and how he sucks.
Instead of being ashamed and keeping it to yourself and making it a bigger deal than it is, like I do. I am such a rat.
This video made me nervously laughing, then crying, then laughing again.
Max Robert I don't think so
laughing to hide to pain... things get slightly better.
it doesn’t show you dreamy landscapes of hope. it gives you the reality of facts and that’s what we truly need.
Unconditional self love is to me the most important thing in life. I could not believe for a long time I would ever get to a better place.. yet I did eventually, gradually. It is not so much that my surrounding got better.. but that my relationship with myself improved so much. And don't forget, no matter how difficult it is, to praise yourself for dealing with such abstract, intense and emotional problems, like a champ!
The sky is gray
The sand is gray
And the ocean is gray
And I feel right at home
In this stunning monochrome
Alone in my way
I smoke and I drink
And every time I blink
I have a tiny dream
But as bad as I am
I'm proud of the fact
That I'm worse than I seem
-Ani DiFranco
Nice. I relate a lot to the two last phrases.
I comfort myself in the fact that one day I'll be able to say "all those things I achieved during that time, I was in a deep depression and still did them".
Jesus loves you, repent from your sins and follow him, Jesus is the answer, thank you.
This and "welcome to" are so relatable.
When u are far from GOD u r depressed try to Love people around u stay With those who r loyal to u love anyone don't judge anyone be agree on what u have and be happy to see rich or better people than u , don't stay alone make new friends
One thing more anyone on earth has same creator The Same God just love anyone
and see the magic try it an remember me in prayers ☺
I'm depressed because people don't understand eachother in this world 🙄
me too. I know it might be hard to think of me as human and not just a few lines of text, but i know how it feels.
Nobody will fully understand each other until everybody goes through the same exact things and thats unlikely to happen.
Some people have incompatible perspectives, but it's certainly possible to understand people who are to some extent similar to yourself, or going through something you've been through yourself.
Amarnath Singh It is what it is. Nobody is obligated to understand others.
Everybody says 'Nothing is impossible'.Well understanding eachother is IMPOSSIBLE.So,we can't stop war, pain , suffering.Pity
I watched this video after being let down from a job I really wanted and not gonna lie I felt like ending it all but seeing this video made my day. Its just that I don't fit into that job's plans and there are people who deal with worse with a little bit of cynicism.
Thanks for this video. It was really helpful.
This is an incredible video, one of the best I've seen. So simple and well articulated in it's provision of comfort
"We will witness those we love suffer and die..."
That one gets me all the time.
This video, much like others before it, felt very personal. Thank you Alain.
Thanks!
I love this quote. "You don't need to understand my struggle in order to respect it."
This video made me feel nothing but that's how I feel for most of my life
Depression was a taboo to my siblings and me until we saw this video. I opened up about the depression I used to have when I wae younger. Thanks for the help.
I absolutely love this channel so much 😭 thank you!
Props to whoever's animated this, It looks like it took a really long time, theres so many different movements
I'm depressed because bad things happen to me easily even if I been careful, and good things happen to the people who take joy in my pain easily even if they didn't ask for it. but what really really eating me alive is that nothing bad ever happens to them, although they play with fire and dance in the path of harm.
Bad things happen to everyone, you're probably just not close enough to them to realize that they suffer, too.
XZTRQX I've known them since childhood and I'm wasting my life with them. believe me, they don't suffer at all.
Why do you still spend time with them if they treat you badly? There are a lot of potential friends out there and a good part of them is as
lonely as we are. Just try to find people that make you feel like you
are valuable and stay away from toxic people.
So nothing good happens in your life? We tend to focus on the bad and forget the good.
hey they're probably empty inside if they are feeding off your pain. so you actually have it better than them. Atleast you know not to wrong others. And like someone else said, cut them off. It won't be easy but its the only way you have to preserve yourself.
the beginning of this video tries to separate 'knife to my wrist, just about to do it' depression and an every day depression, but I have both and they're too interrelated to be sussed out from one another (especially that hope muscle), I know because I have clinical depression and they're on an interconnected continuum.
James Johnson will yes, but this is then not for you. it is far more for those "normal" people, those who are medically impeccable
Isabella Bornberg maybe it's just that I'm on the other side of the fence so I don't see it, but normal people seem to have a brain chemistry that makes this impossible. idk, it's a good video, just not sure how veeifiably true it is, because if you told your doctor you felt this way they'd probably refer you to An RNP and get you on medication, so in the eyes of medical science I think it's impossible to separate out these two. maybe the only real way to tell would be if you didn't score high enough on the depression tests
I have had experience with those two that he is trying to seperate, and i feel you are completely right. they are both just parts of the same, maybe different ends on a scale
John Steinbeck thanks Johnny stein, when's that grapes sequel coming out? I heard they coopt doc Frankenstein into bringing rose of Sharon's baby back to life
jesus dude no spoilers im still reading it
There are so many voices, idols, and practices of social media that some tend to lose our own way and take our style and personalities from the movies they portray, songs they sing, or words that they speak. Friends and people around you effect this much more.
The last sentence of this video really hit it home for me😢thanks for this. BTW I love the art work.
Absolutely loved this video! Felt like a gentle hug from a friend.
I am currently going trough stuff and your video couldn't have come at a better time.
Thank you so much! :)
Thank you for summing up something that I couldn't quite explain: Sadness is taboo.
People get depressed because they care. Thats why I have a huge heart for anyone dealing with depression. Stay tough, the tides always turn.
Gosh, thank you for this School of Life, I really needed that.
The pessimistic/nihilistic views already entered my brain so i don't think it's possible to turn back
they can pass just as easily as they entered. Whether it's comfortable to change might be another topic altogether.
Joseph Harding you can acknowledge the meaninglessness of life and laugh at it
the "whats the point" lingers
Black Eagle Depends on what your life is like. If you have a terrible job, and a horrible life then the meaningless hits you all the harder.
Yeah, mine still haven't left. Doesn't mean you can't still do cool shit though, or be productive. You just have a dark side, and a deeper understanding of the way the world works. You're all good man. Pessimism/nihilism are completely rational trains of thought, and may seem depressing to most, but if you embrace it. It isn't so bad. You have probably experienced a side of things that others can't see, and to deny that is to try to be someone your not. I'm not saying you should be okay with being depressed, but you should embrace your uniqueness, and find others who think the same way you do. They're everywhere, and lot's of them do a lot of cool things.
I've been depressed my whole life.
This video was actually really good
Humiliation is the best word to describe this state. I often feel that something is wrong with me in particular, while everyone else just remains more or less happy 24/7.
These videos are so good they should win an award.
1. This is a monumental lesson! It is incredibly powerful, beautiful, wise and consoling! Thank you so much. The good news is that if we don't shy away from all these truths, we can be quite cheerful people indeed. Because it is such a relief to accept that life is basically all about suffering. Knowing that this is the norm, you value every moment of your life now, where most of your beloved ones are still alive. And these are still the days prior to your days with a deadly cancer. So you don't take anything you have at this very moment for granted!
The fact that life can be so horrifying and miserable makes you attentive to the smallest details where you can recognise beauty and kindness and it makes you a very grateful person.
2. Because Alain recommended that movie on a podcast, last night I watched " Lilia 4ever". It is incredibly sad and very hard to watch but we all must see it.
Life is depressing for all of us for many reasons. But it is also very important to be well aware of all the priviliges we have been given already when we were born. Like having a home, the chance to go to school, having something to eat. And most importantly, having at least ONE person in your life, a sister, a friend, a teacher , who loves you and believes in you. So many people don't have any of it. It would certainly give our lives a " meaning" to try to do something about this and to reduce their pain. I like this quote a lot:
" If you feel helpless, help someone".
And if we can give a "meaning" to our lives this way, this is what happens:
"He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how".
Nietzsche
3. One thing in that movie that really got to me was what the little boy said towards the end, to stop Lilia from committing suicide:
" You remain dead for all eternity , but you're alive only for a brief moment."
( And we don't have to end our lives, to end "the kind of life" we are living. )
4. All we need is compassion, curiosity and resilience.
- In order to cultivate compassion, we can look for the signs of our own suffering in others. We can read good books, watch movies, listen to the people properly and really THINK about it all.
- To remain curious we can start wit ourselves, observing everything about ourselves with curiosity rather than with judgement: all our dreams and ambitions but also our fears and insecurities. If we practise curiosity with ourselves first, then we can look at the entire world that way too.
- For resilience Boris Cyrulnik's books are very helpful.
Both of his parents were killed in concentration camps and he himself was almost caught by the Nazi's when he was 6 years old. Then he not only survived this tragedy, but became the most famous and beloved psychiatrist in the field of " resilience" in France!
5. For friends who are suffering from clinical depression, here is a little list that could be helpful:
- There is an episode of the wonderful podcast " On Being with Krista Tippett" dedicated to this subject. Just search for " On Being, The Soul in Depression".
- Andrew Solomon's TED Talks are excellent. He himself suffered form depression for years. And he has a book called " The Noonday Demon, An Atlas of Depression".
- One of the best psychology podcasts is " Shrink Rap Radio". There are several episodes dedicated to depression. ( Including one episode about "Depression and Nutrition" where they say that you must have your Vitamin D, B12 and Zink levels checked before you get a complete diagnosis. )
Once again thank you so much for this wonderful lesson. Congratulations to the genius animator too!
Hi there Obikanaka! Really thanks a lot for reading all this. I am very glad if you found it thoughtful. Have a nice week! :-)
Couldn't agree with you less. There is almost no logic to your ramble but whatever floats your boat. I've got too much personal integrity to lie to myself like that.
Hello John. Very sorry for my late response. But I didn't get a notification back then. Your words sound very hurtful indeed. To tell someone that she has no personal integrity based on one youtube comment is quite something, isn't it? By the way if you have so much personal integrity, may be you should know that if you ever want to teach something to someone, it doesn't take you very far when you start by HUMILIATING that person.
Hello there Wass Goof! I am very sorry for my terribly late reply. I didn't get a notification back then. But better late than never. Thanks a lot for your time reading all this. I am very glad that you have found my comment hepful. Best wishes :- )
Honestly, thank you so much for your comment! I already checked out the podcast you recommended! :)
this channel is so fucking great
i don't know what I'd do without you.
so underrated
Thanks for this, I was so lucky to find your videos. It has made me see things differently
Hi there, person reading this comment! Yes, you! :) Wherever you are in the world, whoever you are, Whaterever has happend or happening with your life, I just want you to know that you are AMAZING ! No matter what bad stuff somebody may do to you or say to you. The reality is you are worth it! You are loved! You are beautifull! You are a gift! I am so happy that you are alive and reading this because the world will never have another you! Its a beautiful life.
I feel sadness (I won't say depressed because some people seem to think depression is impossible without diagnosis...) because I feel extremely rejected and abandoned. After leaving college a few years ago I quickly lost many of my most trusted online friends on Steam, my primary social platform. That hurt, but at least I was reunited with my parents for a while and could visit a couple of friends from college. But last year I had to move further away for a new job after being made redundant at my job, and now have no friends living nearby. Making things worse, my parents moved to Germany for my Dad's job so visiting them regularly is out of the question.
Since I lost a large number of online friends, I mostly kept myself on lockdown as far as accepting friend requests goes, making my profile private and telling myself new friends were a mere liability, given how many times my trust had been broken and I had been surprised in the worst way possible. More recently, every time some random person friend requests me on Steam I get excited at the possiblity of meeting someone that can make me happy again, perhaps a selfish and ill-fated expectation granted, but I don't feel I have enough reliable friends anymore, and the very few I do have have poor availability due to timezone differences. In the end, the new friends just lead to more misery as I realise they understand me just as little as everyone else and the cracks and flaws in the personality of myself and the other person begin to show. Other friends I have only bother staying in contact if they want something from me such as art, a game map for an engine I've working in, trying to convince me to play a game I have no interest in when I already explained I don't even have the willpower to play the ones I used to enjoy anymore...
The last time I had a LDR must be 4+ years ago, and real relationships? Forget it, I'm not the right kind of guy. In my lifetime I've had one opportunity for casual sex, and that's it. I dislike the culture in this country; in which people believe the only way to have a good time is to get so drunk you are oblivious to how shitty everything is at the expense of health. I get what you may be thinking - "you're an incel, you need to try online dating, you're one of those nice guys, you've started to hate the world because you feel like it owes you something for nothing and you need to grow a pair". Sure, I've heard those before. I'll counter each of those. 1. Yes I am an incel. 2. I tried online dating and met someone once, but it didn't really work out. I don't see it as worthwhile because I imagine coming across the same unrelatable people as those that tell me to get out to bars or whatever to meet random people. 3. You can call me a "nice guy" with entitlement issues in the most derogatory sense and you may be right, but I don't even want or care about the V. If I could even find a friend or two to hang out with in real life or 100x better still someone I could just hug, rather than spending my weekends and evenings all alone in my apartment, listening to dark ambient because it's the only damn music I find relatable (though I do stray on good days).
4. My hatred for the culture of getting drunk and all that has always been a thing for me since I've seen the embarassing and sometimes dangerous things that happens with drunkenness, and with that among other reasons I avoid alcohol as much as possible. In college I was stuck with two girls of this typical attitude and fortunately (?) one other guy on an IT-related course that became a friend due to aligned opinions on drinking. These two girls ridiculed us for not being interested in the drinking culture, which to them I guess seemed like we were being anti-social since it's so common it's apparently expected from everyone. So I'm not just hating the culture because of entitlement.
For anyone that's read this far, you probably think I'm completely unhinged by now for creating a text wall this monstrous in this comment section. That's understandable after reflecting back on what I've written. You may wonder why I posted this and used probably a quarter of its length to shut down most potential advice or criticism. I simply wanted to eliminate the possibility of obvious suggestions. I guess the real reason for this is catharsis. I've typed up numerous such comments before on UA-cam only to not post them, but this finally seemed like an appropriate place since others are explaining what brings them sadness or depression as well. If all you wish to do is throw insults, I can't stop you, but if you never justify yourself, it may be difficult to take you seriously.a
I read everything you wrote and I can relate so much.
This shit was nothing but depressing.
agr8trip that’s literally the title
thank you, i needed this.
Thank you so much for this. this video really helps me right now. Bless you.
This honestly made me cry.
"everyone's life is a tragedy" - jordan b peterson
Yet Jorden thinks we should all reproduce freely and add to it. It his fundy christian background talking and one of the things that makes me ignore an otherwise insightful guy.
I really needed to hear this, thank you so much
This is so therapeutic.
Thank you Alain
so basically don't kill myself.
Seanohaha I hope there's a pile of money hiding around that corner because I'm fucked up.
@@bonn3572 so...how's it going?
Dalmain J me too
Do it.
@@appiahallan wow. that's fucked up.