Apology Languages
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- Опубліковано 1 жов 2024
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The five apology languages are:
1. Expressing regret
2. Genuinely repenting
3. Making restitution
4. Requesting Forgiveness
5. Accepting responsibility
How do you like someone to say sorry to you?
How do you say sorry?
How do you apologize?
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Endscreen Music by Jared Brady "Lost Myself"
“It’s freakin water yo” the Toronto shordy jumped out😂
Was that opening scene real? Because if it wasn’t, then that acting was A1! 👌🏾
I got the answer at the end, so A1 is the final answer!
kivigray0423 no it wasn’t
But it’s ok cause I love them
They probably had the argument before and reenacted it
The argument was so authentic to their personalities lol
Do Shan and Jared just get prettier and more in love every video or is it just me?
issa fact at this point.
Nah it aint just you!!
Why is this the first time in my life that I am hearing the term apology language??! This has just changed my life looool! I just placed a preorder of the book, I'm excited and here for it!
Dellyyyyyyyyyy my sweet gyal thank you a million this is so damn kind
@@shanboody I appreciate your content so much, and continue to support because I believe in your work. Its important for women. Its important for everyone. 🖤
Shan BOODY This is Random But you and hubby are a beautiful mixed couple Rarely see this Dynamic and it’s refreshing 💕
the guy who wrote the 5 love languages has a book on it and I totally recommend if you want more details and stories of couples
UPDATE: SCAM. She never emails the Turn-on Trigger quiz. This is just a game of her desire to get more attention after her website makes you subscribe. My friend said she did it two years ago and was never sent the quiz either. The other quizzes are on national sites and are real. Don't waste your time subscribing to someone fake
I always say, I don't want an apology, I want acknowledgement. Apologizing doesn't always translate, acknowledgment of the situation and what happened ALWAYS helps
This is really clear amber
Ya whoever is scrolling thorugh the comments I hope you have a phenomenal day. Get ya bread and all the crumbs too. Stack and act broke Ladies and Gents :) 😤🤟🏾
Owolabby Azeez Thanks! & Wishing you the same!💕
Thank you and same to you also !! Have a awesome week !
"Stack and act broke" 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I really needed that, thank you and I wish you a better day than yesterday...but hopefully a greater tomorrow 🥰
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When the wig got snatched 😂 I can’t take them 🤣
Idk why she isn’t in the millions don’t get it! We need to help push her brand guys!!
I thought the acting in the beginning was so good I actually thought you included a clip of a real fight..
And this topic was so interesting!
My apology language is definitely the repentance one. As soon as I hear my partner say “I’m sorry, I’ll make a conscious effort to not do this next time” I instantly feel better
Yay! It took a few tries but we got there
And Blanca I love how clear you made your needs
Blanca Nieves Art bruh I got scared cause I ain’t never seen Jared like kinda pissed before hahaha
@@shanboody I thought it was a real fight too. I was like wowww Shan really out here sharing all parts of her relationship exposing the good bad and the ugly foreal 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
love this because it applies to any relationship whether its romantic or otherwise
very true
You are a heaven sent. You’re like a life coach throwing a manual on how to communicate with my partner effectively.
I'm shook from that wig scene 😂 I thought your hair was naturally big this whole time
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She used to have long curly hair, I guess she cut it.
i knew i was extensions, but i wasn't expecting that... I spit out my drink!
Yo this was spot on! Thank you for this. I communicate well, but never considered someone's apology language.
I hope my future husband watches your videos
Am here🤷♂️😅😂
Literally was in an argument with my husband when I watched this video. THANK YOU!!! ❤️❤️❤️
When your hair came off, I died 😭✌🏾
My last argument was with my manager. I got upset when he started passive aggressively criticizing me and my coworkers to a took some shots back at him. That wasn't the first time he did that so I was fed up.
Another banger 🔥 Love ur vids Shan
Clicked so fast. I loveeeeee your videos, you have no idea how much they have shaped the type of person I am❤️
My dad and I argued about something I failed to do. I brought up an unrelated matter in defense. After watching this video, I can see where I went wrong
Andrew this is why I do UA-cam so cool
Ugh I've missed your videos, and that opening scene had me so worried lol
The wig!!!! The wig cracked me all the way up!!!! 🤭🤭
Last argument was to this narcissist that I was dating. He was trying to provoke my anxiety and I called him out on it and we never spoke again lol
Very informative video. Acting skills on point.🙂
Strangle me with one of Jared's curls.
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Wow!! I didn't know that there were apology languages. It makes so much more sense now
SHANNONNN! Do you watch Black Mirror? Can you talk about the 1st episode of this year's season (Striking Vipers)? I think you'll like it!
My last argument was with my mother, about passion in a relationship. To her passion is jealousy, violence, and screaming at one another, and I thought she had gone mad😆
Our last argument was between my husband and I and it was about me losing my phone at the fair 🤷🏽♀️
I didn’t know about this. Thank you very much. I’m trying to build a healthy relationship and those kinds of videos are helpful.
OMG the hair falling off at 2:21 had me on the floor. lmao
My last *literally yesterday * argument with my partner was that he didn't ask for the time off necessary to go to a concert to one of my favorite artists, I had bought tickets for back in February, concert is June 5th. Since we are long distance, things have to be planed out long in advance, but his family vacation that's almost 2 weeks later took priority.
Last argument was about me wanting a friendship before jumping into a relationship ... heck to the NO will I be giving up my custom body and soul out for free, shooot it ain’t on clearance and I will not settle...
Our last argument was about me not wanting to get busy because I didn't feel comfortable. Comfortable to me means feeling clean and I didn't know he was coming home so I had been lazing around in my pajamas all day with my hair looking wild and breath smelling like garlic since I had just had pasta. He took it personally and took some shots. I was attempting to be understanding until he said something out of line and I snapped back.
He apologized this morning though. Haha.
Been working through the workbook and after each quiz I'm like OH that's why it didnt work out with this person. Lol, you're doing God's work Shan, thank you 💖
We just got into an agreement about a janga block with a note on it saying kick em out..... I had a house warming party and a couple of co works threw me one. I was gifted janga blocks and a vase for them to go into, once everyone wrote a nice quote or warm words etc. This one in particular caught his eye... "kick em out" bc b4 the house warming party that morning we had a hugh argument that neither of us remember.. fast forward to the party, he walked in from work and didnt speak to anyone.. whole everyone were writing down there " warm welcoming " they found it was rude that he didn't speak so they thought upon themselves to right that on a janga block.
So me and him argued about that. I apologize to him, he just didnt understand if I knew they put it in why keep the block there..
You’re doing so well Shan! I really respect your work. Thank you for this👌🏽
I love ur content. The applogy language is something everyone should understand. Thanks for helping. My husband and I's disagreements are normally due to language and cultural barriers but listening is a prerequisite to understanding
I agree apology languages are important because conflict is inevitable!!!
My last argument with bae was about communication and prioritizing me in that. I don’t feel important being the last person he speaks to every night. I’d rather be the first.
THE WIG SUITS SHAN SO.MUCH,, I NEVER EVEN REALISED IT WAS FAKE ONG
Hahha I thought the intro was real!
Yay!!!!
I really love you put Jared’s music in your videos
I love that he’s down for it! I love that he edits my videos and is down to be in em. Proud that we can work together to push both of our individual goals together
I love how down your husband is to get involved in your videos and be silly and get outside his comfort zone :)
These are so helpful not only for self-knowledge but a bonding tool for both in a relationship. Brilliant for putting it all in one place.
Well this is getting me to preorder. After 4 years in this thing I finally softened to loving and grateful and the change in him is whoa. What I do know is every argument has added to the wall because I don't feel heard plus I'm often chastised, so boom, baby, ya got me here.
Thanks, Shan.
can you do a video on post coital dysphoria or just feeling sad after ?
I preordered your book! You’ve helped me through some truly tough times..
Daniiiii youn sweet sweet ting thank you
Loved the intro!
This is what I always seek from my partner when he's done something, he does feel responsible takes it way too far to an extent I never said, implied or wanted...instead he gets angry at himself and starts self-loathing, spiralling downwards in his head. I never end up feeling satisfied or understood from a real apology but terrified and so upset by his response to stressful things. When he sees what wrong he did, and I ask why he did what he did or point out what made me feel a certain way, and just want to hear he understands how it made me feel and to tell me he will not do it again or try not to, he instead focuses on feeling guilty as if I'm speaking to just tell him off and not a discussion. It's like he punishes himself. When he gets very overwhelmed he scratches his face and scalp hard that it leaves red marks, pulls at his hair, punches his face and in the most recent episode his arm was even shaking... I end up crying and pushing aside whatever it was we were talking about and my own feelings to calm him down. I'm not saying that this reaction doesn't show he's not sorry and at that point that doesn't become my concern till again after. His inability to cope with anxiety stress and guilt is super unhealthy and makes me feel as though I will never have a satisfied understanding or apology from a argument or even just a serious discussion. I am aware some partners hurt themselves as a means of control but this is not the same, I think this might be an issue related to his childhood in which his dad and grandad raised him and were cold and harsh (in traditional Asian culture it's normal to hit your kids but they also would verbally make him feel like shit). In the recent episode (it's not often) he kept on repeating something softly it sounded something like "don't hit me or don't hate me"...I really don't know accurately what it was he said (I have never hit him), but this is making me feel that it is Psychlogical and he needs to see the GP. Sorry for this long comment...
His issues sound bigger than you. Definitely professional help worthy
YOU DESERVE SO MUCH MORE CLOUT. YOUR CONTENT IS SO FRUITFUL!! LOVE YOU SHAN 🥰
You’re so young looking omg I hope my genes work how yours did 💕 it’s that Guyanese inside of us bby 😭
Chloe Annaman lol she is young though? 🤔 IMO
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My last argument was about how I kept interrupting dude when he was talking. We compromised and he promised not to speak in monologues so I dont feel the need to interrupt. He goes on forever sometimes and I cant get a word in edge wise.
Last argument was over my bf not wanting to change our daughter's diaper lol
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"It's freakin water yo"
Omg that's so funny.
I’m Shooketh! I thought that was all Shannon’s real hair
Finally someone that understands 😩
I always wondered why I felt like saying sorry is just not enough but I could never put my finger on it. My boyfriend told me many times that I should just accept an apology and move on so I did but always hold on to the pain.. now after your video it makes so much sense
The wig snatch 😭😭😭
I loved the workbook, I learned so much about myself.
Jared’s hair is goals🤩
Last argument was about how he's has been treating me! He's distant and claiming hes busy never have time for me. Always making promises but never pull through when I need him. Ever since this relationship all I do is cry. I want to walk away but then I feel like I'm giving up on him when he shows me he doesnt care at all!!!
Going to purchase the book
Wow! The coincidence of this video! I was just having this discussion with my best friend because I felt like I didn't know what to do when I have been apologizing to my partner, but she still felt like I wasn't genuine. I was totally confused, until I talked about it to my bff and realized, my partner's apology language is direct and she likes when I apologize for my wrong doings in detail and reassure her it won't happen again. While mine is, apologize , how can we not make the same mistake twice and let's work on fixing the issue while eating a pizza ! lol
I needed this ! I'm the same way take ownership before we move on.
Last argument: I didn't tell him something first before I told someone else , so I deflected and told him he didn't care anyways...to shut the conversation down because I already knew where it was headed and in the moment I didn't want to be bothered with his feelings because I feel like hasn't been considering mine lately
im all of them but I ABSOLUTELY need the top 3...guess im high maintenance
My last argument was about me feeling as though I wasn’t getting much of his time & attention. He explained to me that he was busy and fitting me in his schedule when he can, & I had to explain to him that I feel as though the interest isn’t mutual
This man’s hairRRR 😍😍😍
I just loooveeee your content so much Shan. Keep shining your light. Thank you for being so great at what you do!!!
This was so informative and relative to allll of my personal relationships. Shan, thank you sistah! ♥️
My last argument my “man” told me I had to take him to multiple places instead of asking me if I could take him. I don’t know why it pissed me off so bad but it set me offfff
Shan, I gotta say I'm sorry. I use to think a lot of your advice was, well let's just say, it wasn't what I was expecting, but this advice right here is EXCELLENT !!
Game of Thrones. Yesterday, my older siblings were trying to make a hasty and generalized argument about how crazy GoT fans are, while I was trying to prove the point that it was more about government structure than mysticism. I make it sound like a professional debate, but it was just 3 people screaming "Fucking Dragons?!" And "There is only ONE DWARF, and ZERO ELVES!" Unless you think Peter Dinklage is playing his character from "Elf". AND EVEN THAT CHARACTER WASN'T AN ELF! DAMMIT. This is it. This is my last argument.
I really need a partner to take responsibility. It comes from an abusive relationship where all of our problems would've been solved if I would've just gone to therapy to 'get fixed'. Like he never really did anything wrong. He was fine and I was broken. That just... No...
Shan, knowing you, I feel like your book would be so informative, insightful, instructive, and overall very interesting to read. But sth about the subtitle just turns me off, and discourages me from purchasing it. I'm interested in "the game of desire", but not in "dating with dominance". That last part feels so self-centered to me, and makes me feel like dating is a competition where only my needs and interests matter and my s/o only exists to serve me. The subtitle gives me a selfish and egocentric feel. Anyone, feel free to tell me what part of the book attracted you, and what you're looking forward to read (your positive expectations). And Shan pls use your pursuassive power on me and talk me into it, bcs I've been following you for soooo long and I'd feel bad if I don't purchase your book.
at the end of the day I need to trust that people who are on this channel are dedicated to knowing themselves and making advanced decisions on what's best for their current self. There's a whole website, video and tons of other tidbits about my book that I've put out there and if none of them speak to you or your needs, I can respect that. I appreciate whatever or how ever you do show up for me
@@shanboody Ohhh my bad! I think maybe I didn't cultivate myself enough on the topic through your website. I'll give it a lot more thoughtful consideration to find out the heart behind it all. Thank you!
@@museenergy no stress! I don't expect to meet everyone's needs at all times - I'd drive myself crazy. Don't feel bad for not jiving with all of my work oxo
The end was so funny omg love you guys
Last argument was about how I talk.. without diplomacy sometimes.. hey what can I say, I'm an Aquarius.. but I'm working on it
this video deserves a thousand million likes and shares, shannnnn GIRLLLLLL you just validated what I've been trying to get my partner to understand FOR YEARSSSSSSSS. im about to send her a break up email and attach this video as a resource for her to watch and take notes. you came through with the come through
Didnt know i neeeded this video. Plus, loved when you let us see your wig fall off 😂 love you
The last argument, I asked him to share when he was hanging out with his female friends. Ended the relationship.
Last argument: the same argument we’ve been having. Helping with the baby. My boyfriend and I have an almost 10 month old and my boyfriend feels like it’s my parents, his mom, and my responsibility to take care of her. He doesn’t say it but that’s what his actions show. We’re still fighting about it now and I just don’t think there will be a break through.
The last argument I had with my girlfriend was about me not returning or acknowledging her (missed)calls. I just text after I see the missed call like nothing happened. I clearly don't know her apology language yet because it took a whole hour before she forgave me.
I figured out that when I fuck up, people respond more when I thank them first and then apologize. Like if I'm late I'll start with thank you for waiting or thank you for being patient, I'm sorry I'm late. So with the first part I already try to genuinely aknowledge what they had to because of me do or how I hurt them.
Your content is so valuable. 👌
My last argument was actually today. Today makes it 1 year & 8 months and it means everything to me because this is my first long term relationship. We haven’t really spend this day like that this past year because we both have busy life’s. However, I do text or call him to express my love for him and reflected together as a relationship. Today argument I was bother at the fact he didn’t text or call me to express his love or wanted to reflect this past month. And I take full ownership because my emotions did take over the argument. What I mean by that is that every time he trying to speak I would over talk him and I realized at that moment that it wasn’t going no where in the argument. Honestly, in any disagreement that I have in my relationship I’m the one that accept responsibility. Cause I know I take something small and turn them into bigger arguments. When it wasn’t evening like that from the beginning, it just a lack of misunderstanding.
If it was not your fault, you can apologize in responsibility. Responsibility in that case it self care for your own right.
Ooooooh love this new song by Jared at the end! Also this video is so interesting. I never thought about what my apology language is but I definitely think it’s accepting responsibility for me. I’m gonna take the quiz asap
My last argument was with my mother about my brothers, their wives and children. It really had nothing to do with me. AND I was at a work training. Geesh...
My best friend and I argued about my feeling left out of her creative projects. It's created a rift that's really bleh. She thinks I'm being totally selfish and not considering her.
My last argument was about me addressing him recently going back to his past behaviors of being irresponsible. And then him getting upset and being like I don’t believe in him and saying that I am somehow doubting him and the way I overall went about getting my point across was uncalled for. I felt like I was preventing him from reverting back to his old ways but he felt like I was being mean to him.
This was fantastic. I just ended a relationship because we kept having conflicts over the fact that he was making excuses not to support me or make any sufficient efforts and it might have helped somewhat if we had both tried to understand this. Given my situation, I would definitely say that my apology language is making restitution because to me, an apology means that you're not gonna do something again. Definitelyyyy agree that your partner needs to feel resolved. He would give out to me for 'circular arguments' but, the reason I continued to address something is because I felt dismissed and I needed him to actually understand why it was bothering me and actually feel heard. Great video! Reminded me a bit of studying dispute resolution in my law degree.
I wish I could tell you what was my last argument was about... cause I’m single AF
Human relationships are dumb. Like *'#@! beep bop beep beep. What I need you for? Lateeeer.
Lolol. I thought the water thing was real. Then realized you were acting when the other skits came up.
My last argument was with my boyfriend about him laughing at me for getting hustled. I had to pay more for something and he though it was the funniest thing. Im like why would you laugh at my misfortune? Thats my money and its not funny. We argued for a long time. He still thinks it’s funny. It really turned me off.
I just realized you’re in the first 5 minutes of mean girls and you look directly at the camera. I had to rewind because I couldn’t believe it haha
My last argument with my man was when he didn't like the way I asked him to come downstairs and I was bothered because I did what he does/we do to each other all the time. P.s I need this workbook and ... when he snatched your wig 🤣 another great video
Our last argument was about me not telling him who I am replying to on Instagram I was replying to a couple of people at once.. I told him he didn’t know them and I wasn’t going to name everyone. He got pissed.
before i finish the video (just so i don't forget my question lol) when you say giving a cheat code for how to get you back into the moment, how can one do this without feeling like they are doing all the work? i guess what i'm trying to say is, since i am someone who genuinely expresses concern for other people's feelings, especially those close to me, when it feels like it's not reciprocated, how do you voice these concerns without feeling like you're the only one who is actually trying to create a resolution? it can often times feel worse to know that someone hurt your feelings but don't even bother to try and understand why or care.
I need to make my husband subscribe to you ♥️ we both need the amazing Shan knowledge 😆
I’ve experienced that “introduce yourself” shit 😒
I think you have to accept that sometimes you won't get an apology as annoying as it is. Otherwise you won't let go of anger and you'll do yourself harm.
It is good for others to apologise though.
My last fight was about a girl he used to have feelings for, they used to be very close friends and a year ago he followed her on Instagram. From that day they talk, they catch up and till this day he still has her on social media. After many attempts for a whole year he still has not done anything about it. He says his happy to stop talking and meeting up with her but still wants to have her on insta to see how she is in life.