#1 Couples Expert: "If He Does THIS Then You Know He'll Cheat" | Spirit

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  • @LisaBilyeu
    @LisaBilyeu  21 день тому +21

    WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!

  • @BeautiyForAshes
    @BeautiyForAshes 14 днів тому +11

    Abandoning Yourself in the hopes of receiving love... 🙁
    She's right...Love Doesn't hurt...

  • @staceysyvarth4452
    @staceysyvarth4452 19 днів тому +96

    It took me 60 yrs to find the right relationship. A true kind, gentleman who is honest in his communication.

    • @Christina-yu3gu
      @Christina-yu3gu 19 днів тому +4

      Well I’m 54 so I can’t wait that long! Time is not on my side. Dog fills the void 😂

    • @reinaafricana6423
      @reinaafricana6423 19 днів тому

      @staceysyvarth4452Congratulations!!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤

    • @michellemcauley2315
      @michellemcauley2315 19 днів тому +4

      ❤ omg, me too! That's so interesting

    • @AnnaLam-y8w
      @AnnaLam-y8w 18 днів тому +2

      Congratulations! Enjoy it : )

    • @nellie...
      @nellie... 18 днів тому +1

      Congratulations

  • @debmichealson
    @debmichealson 17 днів тому +133

    I came to the Lord asking for his blessings as a single mom because raising my son (Joel) was an act of courage despite all the challenges. And the Lord answered my prayers with a benefiting income of $31,000 every month. To God be the glory. Joel is in school and life's been fair lately.

    • @MariaCollins-g5t
      @MariaCollins-g5t 17 днів тому

      Congratulations!! The scriptures clearly
      states there's going a transference of the
      riches of the heaven to the righteous.God
      keeps blessing you

    • @MariaCollins-g5t
      @MariaCollins-g5t 17 днів тому

      But how do you earn so much in a month? Mind sharing?

    • @debmichealson
      @debmichealson 17 днів тому

      Thanks to Elizabeth Ann Martins .

    • @NicoleWhitten-p2r
      @NicoleWhitten-p2r 17 днів тому

      Really feel your pain, when I was even almost down my God sent to me Elizabeth Ann Martins services cryp to me and changed the game automatically

    • @EdenIgnacio-cg7xn
      @EdenIgnacio-cg7xn 17 днів тому

      I've always wanted to be involved for a long time but the volatility in the price has been very confusing to me. Although I have watched a lot of UA-cam videos about it but I still find it hard to understand.

  • @clairecharlot3394
    @clairecharlot3394 18 днів тому +17

    Great advice, but this only works if both partners are good communicators, and agree to compromise and work constantly on the relationship.

  • @ivyfromthestars
    @ivyfromthestars 8 днів тому +4

    Ladies, DON'T listen to this woman!
    If your man is cheating, he lied to you, don't try to fix him!! HOLD HIM ACCOUNTABLE!

  • @BeautiyForAshes
    @BeautiyForAshes 14 днів тому +2

    This is such a great teaching! I hope the MEN come across this, pay attention, & digest it🙏🏽

    • @ivyfromthestars
      @ivyfromthestars 8 днів тому

      Cheating is lying. I don't excuse it for anything in the world, especially unmet needs. Well we have unfulfilled promises.

    • @BeautiyForAshes
      @BeautiyForAshes 8 днів тому

      @ivyfromthestars And lying also includes Hiding the truth that could drastically change the dynamic of someone's life. Everyone has lied. Sometimes people can get past it. But hiding things like fiancés, significant others, wives, etc... and proceeding with someone like that person doesn't exist, that's severely traumatic. And it's still happening, unfortunately.😶‍🌫️

    • @ivyfromthestars
      @ivyfromthestars 8 днів тому

      @@BeautiyForAshes This bw is removing accountability from men. She's redpilled. Another pearl Davis.
      Saying "cheating is ok if your needs weren't met" sounds like "taking drugs is okay if you don't feel happy"

    • @BeautiyForAshes
      @BeautiyForAshes 8 днів тому

      @ I should hope that isn’t what she means. I do think she has an understanding of the mind of the men that do/did, not to condone it. Lord knows l don’t. But understanding that some men need to learn how to express their needs or unmet needs/desires/frustrations etc. so that a healthy solution that does not hurt or disrespect anyone is placed on the table🙏🏽

  • @palesamotingoe5905
    @palesamotingoe5905 7 днів тому +1

    This lady is GOOD 😌 ❤️

  • @jeffu3248
    @jeffu3248 9 днів тому +1

    Wow! This was another dope one 🔥🔥🔥👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @irenegryziec8052
    @irenegryziec8052 16 днів тому +2

    loved this conversation!

  • @robertashaffer3950
    @robertashaffer3950 14 днів тому

    Wow. Wow. Wow.
    This is soooooo AMAZING.
    Thank you for this wise, informative, heartfelt, and NECESSARY video.
    Everyone needs to listen to this whether single or in a relationship. ❤️🙏

  • @renarobin7221
    @renarobin7221 12 днів тому

    Thank you so much for all that do and all that you are. Your vulnerability is wonderful. This particular podcast really enlightened me, it hit me to the core and I’m so grateful to have heard it!

    • @ivyfromthestars
      @ivyfromthestars 8 днів тому

      Because you cheated and now you feel better about it

  • @kaydub770
    @kaydub770 9 днів тому +2

    🙄 This is all it needs to be: You’re attracted to someone else? Congratulations. Keep it to yourself. You cheat on me? I’m out. Whether it’s a divorce or a breakup. ✌️(And you actually do bounce, immediately.)

    • @ivyfromthestars
      @ivyfromthestars 8 днів тому

      @BeautiyForAshes
      This blck lady is removing accountability from men. She's redpilled. Another pearl Davis.
      Saying "cheating is ok if your needs weren't met" sounds like "taking dr4gs is okay if you don't feel happy"

  • @palesamotingoe5905
    @palesamotingoe5905 7 днів тому +1

    I’ve been in a romantic relationship for 8 years , I let him take all my money , control me and treat me anyway because I’m trying to PROVE my love for him … he doesn’t work then when he gets a small job he buys cocaine and alcohol 😔somehow I truly believe that he loves me . I NEEDED this podcast

    • @mirandataylor6385
      @mirandataylor6385 4 дні тому

      Do anything to get out! If you could do anything in your life, what would you do?

  • @CoachHadassah
    @CoachHadassah 5 днів тому

    This works with normal, reasonable people however it doesn’t work with Cluster B personality disorders. Adultery is non-negotiable.

  • @joycenash1202
    @joycenash1202 17 днів тому +1

    This was good ❤

  • @FelicityFreelancing
    @FelicityFreelancing 11 днів тому

    You cannot be doing the same thing at the same time.
    Love is not painful by definition.
    Enduring something for love is painful.
    Enduring something in the hopes of getting love is painful.

  • @amc3964
    @amc3964 11 днів тому +2

    If a man cheats once he will do it again.
    35O per cent chance. In the stats.

    • @ivyfromthestars
      @ivyfromthestars 8 днів тому

      This bw is removing accountability from men. She's redpilled. Another pearl Davis.
      Saying "cheating is ok if your needs weren't met" sounds like "taking drugs is okay if you don't feel happy"

  • @ktbiwk
    @ktbiwk 19 днів тому +7

    1ST 2MIN ALREADY 🔥 🔥 🔥 💯

  • @jacquelinemorrow4838
    @jacquelinemorrow4838 19 днів тому +2

    Thank you, I so needed to hear, listen, understand, in take all this conversation in. Stay Bless & sqfe 🙏🏼🤗

  • @cerise4000
    @cerise4000 11 днів тому

    11:15 12:20 14:00 22:00

  • @nataliemarie1127
    @nataliemarie1127 19 днів тому +1

    Great episode. Thank you!

  • @aspensequoia2268
    @aspensequoia2268 17 днів тому

    i want a rel true connection relationship with passion and excitement

  • @Fanlady4236
    @Fanlady4236 19 днів тому +1

    Thank you Lisa and Dr. Spirit

  • @izzyfury8126
    @izzyfury8126 18 днів тому +2

    Colossians 3 Do not lie to one another. Strip off the old personality with its practices, 10 and clothe yourselves with the new personality, which through accurate knowledge is being made new according to the image of the One who created it

  • @JustSherries
    @JustSherries 14 днів тому +1

    But why I go to my man and say "babe do you see his shoulders? He's hott!" Can't I just tell my girlfriends. Why risk hurting his feelings or making him feel insecure?

  • @michelles2715
    @michelles2715 19 днів тому +3

    Great insights as always. I LOVE Spirit's hair!

  • @EneEri
    @EneEri 19 днів тому +1

    Thank you, Lisa

  • @TheBulletzgottishow20
    @TheBulletzgottishow20 19 днів тому +2

    Hey Lisa ❤❤❤

  • @charlotteblanchard
    @charlotteblanchard 19 днів тому +8

    Love that idea of the 30-second hug.❤❤

  • @Sarara-mv5sx
    @Sarara-mv5sx 19 днів тому +26

    Yeah, well - whatever insights the cheater arrives at in therapy - cheating is still and remains an 'issue' for the victim of betrayal trauma. Why can't we focus on what THEY NEED??? Betrayal trauma is real and has a devastating impact on the person victimzied (and yes, they are victims because cheating is abuse) and families - particularly children. I for one am sick and tired of all the energy, attention and resources being allocated to the person who caused harm in the first place - meanwhile, the victim who's had their life blown up gets NOTHING - and indeed, is manipulated into believing that it's her job and in HER best interest to support her abusers. It's insanity. These people know exactly what they're doing. It's selfishness and immaturity. Let them work that out on their own time and their own dime. Emotionally abusive people know what they're doing, and if they don't who cares. Good women need care and support - not their abusers.

    • @izzyfury8126
      @izzyfury8126 18 днів тому +2

      Get support and defence training from listening to NARCISSIST videos and read FREEDOM PROGRAM books

    • @74777984
      @74777984 18 днів тому +4

      Agreed. It is abuse & should be punished as a crime

    • @Sarara-mv5sx
      @Sarara-mv5sx 18 днів тому +1

      @@izzyfury8126 Baby steps, but yes. These women have to rebuild their entire lives from scratch. Financial abuse is a big part of the equation as well - cheating isn't cheap.

    • @izzyfury8126
      @izzyfury8126 18 днів тому

      @@Sarara-mv5sx escape with your life first is the tricky bit before you can rebuild, so confidential trusted legal aid is needed and very little money is needed. Assistance will be given with Gods mercy. A safe place to secretly secure important paperwork is your first baby step away from the abuser. Tell no one of your plans. Keep calm and think. Always have your own cash bank card and ID with you at all times ready for when you flee for your life.

    • @Gotoworkkk
      @Gotoworkkk 17 днів тому

      You chose to marry this man. For better or for worse.

  • @hhh.2.
    @hhh.2. 18 днів тому

    Thank you for these gems 💎 ❤🎉

  • @abi-pf9wi
    @abi-pf9wi 19 днів тому +78

    its hard to put into words, but the book Magnetic Aura from Talesio completely changed my life and it's not new age bs

    • @Zap4e
      @Zap4e 19 днів тому +2

      spam

  • @Snivebyram
    @Snivebyram 19 днів тому +1

    Cheater 🤷‍♂️I’m going to go ahead and hit this, ( At that moment prioritizing the 🐱over the relationship ). I’ll deal with the guilt and shame whenever that comes… if I have to. 💀🤯

  • @kaizen_5091
    @kaizen_5091 18 днів тому +2

    Before any couple gets married they should watch this video. 💞

  • @nellie...
    @nellie... 18 днів тому

    Powerful

  • @Lizbeth36961
    @Lizbeth36961 18 днів тому +9

    Please talk about men with wondering eyes. Also called roving eyes. They check out women when alone but also when they are with the partner. Please talk about it. What kind of man is this?

    • @74777984
      @74777984 18 днів тому +6

      I think it depends on whether it's his first relationship (or the first one in a long time), what the status & length of the relationship he is in. If it's all new to him, it will take a little while & some feedback about how it looks to his woman & others. If it is an established relationship & he is not responding to feedback that his woman finds it unacceptable, then you might have a man who feels entitled to the creation of chemistry with every woman he fancies, no matter what his relationship status. He might feel entitled to openly disrespect the woman he claims to be committed to, behind her back & in front of her face. In my experience this is the type of man who feels entitled to be secretly promiscuous. Run away.

    • @Lizbeth36961
      @Lizbeth36961 17 днів тому +1

      @ im 42, he’s 56!!! I’m his fiance. He looks at very young women who dress in yoga pants and skimpy clothes!! He denies it, says it’s not true. He does it every time we go out!

    • @Gotoworkkk
      @Gotoworkkk 17 днів тому

      This is actually an insecurity problem coming from you. Men are biologically wired to look at women. It will never stop. You need to work on you a.k.a. if it’s weight management eating correctly and going to the gym to feel good about yourself.

  • @lori-annefay4138
    @lori-annefay4138 19 днів тому +5

    So WHAT IS #1 Couples therapist name??? there was no intro.

  • @patraa
    @patraa 19 днів тому +2

    Why is Dr spirits name not on this? Any only a clip? That’s not right. Please put respect on Dr Spirits name

    • @Carolyn100000
      @Carolyn100000 16 днів тому

      Yes please give her full credit, this will allow for the viewers to reference these episodes.

  • @ivyfromthestars
    @ivyfromthestars 8 днів тому

    This bw is removing accountability from men. She's redpilled. Another pearl Davis

  • @missvegan1967
    @missvegan1967 16 днів тому

    15:58 Did she say her husband can tell her he has a strong chemistry with another woman and she's ok with that??🤔

    • @JustSherries
      @JustSherries 14 днів тому

      Like, what are you both doing to build this strong chemistry? And why?
      She lost me there.

    • @beautifulsamurai6032
      @beautifulsamurai6032 12 днів тому

      Listen again. She said "does he act on this chemistry?" She's okay with him having feelings most humans have feelings but does he act on them? Be blessed. Be realistic.

    • @missvegan1967
      @missvegan1967 12 днів тому +2

      ​@@beautifulsamurai6032I listened.... And my response remains the same. There's no way my husband's going to come home and tell me " He has a strong chemistry with another woman.! 🤣 Like some things don't need to be said, it's pointless.

  • @Snivebyram
    @Snivebyram 19 днів тому +2

    The need vs the coping mechanism, which is the actual act of cheating. 😮 I never heard that before.

    • @Gotoworkkk
      @Gotoworkkk 17 днів тому

      Coping with a terrible marriage. Aka being disrespected, her turning him down for intimacy every day, using him for a paycheck, not being able to fulfill your duties as a stay at home wife. Coming home to a miserable wife.

  • @jilllingenfelter4682
    @jilllingenfelter4682 19 днів тому +5

    Thank you Jesus for Indefinite Permanent Divorce/No Reconciliation Ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever/And absolute Indefinite Closure. And thank you Jesus for endlessly protecting my Godly Family. And I from harm always always always always always always!!! And I can’t wait for Jesus to bring my future incredibly amazingly amazing husband #2 into my life in His absolute Perfect timing :)@Lisa Bilyeu

  • @Joelconway34
    @Joelconway34 18 днів тому +54

    Great advice,I love the grounded reality of this channel!!
    Retirement took a toll on my finances, but I am so excited with my involvement in the digital market. $37k weekly has been life changing. Regardless of how bad it gets on the economy.

    • @McCarthy8
      @McCarthy8 18 днів тому

      Hello how do you make such weekly??
      I'm a born Christian and sometimes I feel so down of myself because of low finance but I still believe in God.

    • @Joelconway34
      @Joelconway34 18 днів тому

      @@McCarthy8Maria Angelina Alexander I really appreciate her efforts and transparency.

    • @Joelconway34
      @Joelconway34 18 днів тому

      Giving her my initial savings of $12,000 to invest in a brokerage account was a turning point in my life. It's been an incredibly rewarding experience and the best decision I ever made!

    • @Joelconway34
      @Joelconway34 18 днів тому

      After I raised up to 510k trading with her I no longer pay rent, I own an apartment, two cars and a big farm land here in the state. Myself and my family we are extremely happy🙏❤️

    • @ainanarvaez9496
      @ainanarvaez9496 18 днів тому

      God has used her to save so many families financially. I remember when I met her at the bank, she was indeed a good woman.

  • @radmilarixon8048
    @radmilarixon8048 18 днів тому +6

    I trust no man full stop

  • @basketballfan5763
    @basketballfan5763 19 днів тому

    Too many ads

  • @Lizbeth36961
    @Lizbeth36961 18 днів тому +4

    Yeah but what if your husband looks at every single woman that walks by? I’m talking about the FREQUENCY of the act.

    • @Gotoworkkk
      @Gotoworkkk 17 днів тому

      It sounds like it’s your insecurity that’s eating you alive. The problem starts with you.

  • @sanyam8840
    @sanyam8840 18 днів тому

    30 sec hug is from another guy & his podcast ❤

  • @MetaPhysStore0770
    @MetaPhysStore0770 19 днів тому +14

    Shes playing stupid how hard it is to hear their husband looking to other women, in that most women are too immature or emotionally inexperienced, to handle the husband admitting lust for another, come on, get real, she acts overly "logical" like thats a baseline... its not, thats far beyond most womens life experience and then sets the bar to unrealisticly high and expects womens language to be articulate and womens minds to be clear calm coordinating with an abuser and this promotes feelings of failure, not being enough, inadequacy when a woman is truely devistated by abuse and betrayal.

    • @maryellwood3653
      @maryellwood3653 18 днів тому +6

      When someone cheats on you, that's on them. Don't trust them, it's over. When someone shows you who the really are, believe them the first time. Not only will they break your heart, but could potentially leave you financially ruined.

  • @ginam.4990
    @ginam.4990 18 днів тому +1

    Not buying she can love someone, but make selfish choices to hurt them. She can love but she ain't in love!!!

  • @ivyfromthestars
    @ivyfromthestars 8 днів тому

    Now you JUST helped more and more men to keep cheating.
    You are saying redpill points.
    Cheating is lying and betrayal. His needs? What about her needs? How people can't clock you?!