How To Date Someone With Anxiety
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- Опубліковано 9 тра 2024
- Are you dating someone with anxiety and looking for some guidance? Well, you're in luck! Today, we will be talking about relationships and anxiety and how to date someone with anxiety.
From sharing relationship advice to tackling those tough conversations about anxiety and dating, we've got you covered. We'll help you learn how to provide the support and love your partner needs while also taking care of yourself.
So, whether you're in a relationship, starting something new, or just curious about how to support a loved one with anxiety, this video is for you.
#dating #anxiety #love #relationship
Writer: Morgan Swift
Editor: Isadora Ho
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Brandon / @littleghostyofficialtm
Animator: Sun Biscuit
UA-cam Manager: Cindy Cheong
References
Anwar, B. (2017, February 17). Dating Someone With Anxiety: What You Need to Know and Do. Talk Space. www.talkspace.com/mental-health/conditions/generalized-anxiety-disorder/relationships-dating/#:~:text=%E2%80%9CHaving%20candid%20talks%20together%20on,or%20taking%20their%20anxiety%20personally.
Cronkleton, E. (2022, May 10). What to know about dating anxiety. Medical News Today. www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/dating-anxiety
Cuncic, A. (2022, June 2). Tips for Dating Someone With Anxiety. Very Well Mind. www.verywellmind.com/generalized-anxiety-disorder-and-relationships-4129126#:~:text=Are%20anxious%20people%20good%20partners,understand%20how%20each%20other%20feels.
Highland Park Therapy. (2020, August 24). Anxiety and Dating: What To Do When You’re Too Anxious to Date. www.highlandparktherapy.com/blog/anxiety-and-dating
Travers, M. (2023, May 6). 3 Dating Tips for Highly Anxious Individuals. Psychology Today. www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/social-instincts/202305/3-dating-tips-for-highly-anxious-individuals
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As someone with crippling anxiety, I’m an expert at overthinking every little thing and imagining every worst case scenario. You can say I've mastered the art of making myself anxious.
It’s a weird endless loop of being anxious.
It starts to turn into being anxious about being anxious
Same and yet I still didn’t imagine the scenario that actually happened to me last week
I lost my gf because she wants to become a guy 💀
Even I didn’t think that this could happen
Just know that there is a mastered other beautiful version of you, that knows YOU can do it. ❤
Same
@joylechanceux4805 I'm so sorry 😭
Thanks, this will be very important for when I have to date myself.
I literally thought the same thing 👍
BYEEE THIS COMMENT HAS ME GONE
😂🤣 same
Real
SAMEE
As someone who dated someone with severe anxiety, I would fix the notion that the “right” person won’t make you feel anxious or like a burden. Oftentimes, when things are healthy or going well, the person with anxiety can think you’re a playing with them or that they will inevitably mess things up because they can’t sit with peace.
As much as people with anxiety are deserving and capable of loving relationships, don’t set yourself on fire to appease their anxiety if things become unrealistic or one sided. People with anxiety are not selfish by nature, but when their anxiety spikes they can APPEAR as selfish, unempathetic, and even narcissistic because everything becomes centered around them and trying to protect themselves even if it means hurting you unintentionally in the process.
Very true
Absolutely. I just broke up with my boyfriend who had severe anxiety. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, but it was the right thing to do for the both of us. It was stifling. He’d freeze up and just sit there in any sort of social interaction outside of us and it was driving me crazy. No matter how much support or motivation I have him, it wasn’t enough. Those with anxiety need professional therapy and ultimately an internal recovery before entering a serious relationship.
Thank you for telling the truth
@@MB-qx9vnabsolutely agree
I feel like such a burden to my bf and family like constantly. My bf always says I'm not but I think about my actions and I just feel like a goblin a monster something isn't right with me I'm so self centered and rude to everyone and then I ask for sympathy or empathy. It's so hard to believe in kind words when I literally show myself I'm garbage :/
Anxiety definitely can make you feel unworthy with someone. Hell…I still feel like I deserve it…
I love you, thanks you.
@@Celebritieswho you mean "I love you, thank you"
(I'm just correcting you)
I bet u are the kindest person, u don't deserve to feel like that, i feel exactly like u, i feel like i deserve it too
I found myself starting to be distant from my close friends due to ocd, and most of it is negative obsessive thoughts, it’s always a good reminder to me to realize that there are people who really care, and that my friends don’t judge me either way despite how anxious I get, I hope no one has to go through someone telling them to just stop being anxious, because it’s not something that goes away within seconds, it takes time and understanding and no one should be judged for it
thanks you. I love you
As someone who suffers from anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem, my question is a bit more "meta": Why would anyone who knew I suffered from these things want to date me *at all*, when they could just as easily date someone who doesn't have these issues?
I'll be honest, I suspect that putting up with somebody that has my level of psychological damage would not be easy. I wouldn't think less of anyone for not wanting to deal with it.
i get where your coming from, but those problems don't define you as a person. nobody's perfect, were all born with some issues. while they might not all be mental, they are problems nonetheless. don't be so hard on yourself. I'm sure someone out there would be more than happy to have you in their life. at least you are open about your issues to an extent. most people bottle everything up until they can't handle it anymore. I'm not saying throw yourself into the whole dating scene head first, but taking it step by step is worth it in the long run. you matter as a person, never forget that
thanks you. I love you
As someone on the other end of a situation like yours, there's two answers. The first is that your damage isn't enough of a dealbreaker to negate your attractive qualities. The second is that lonely, damaged people are the only ones desperate enough to settle for me.
In think that there is not such a person with no emotional burden from their past, even people that seems to have their lives under control are struggling with some mental health problems or Life hard situations. Maybe your main problem is that you are polarizing: you let your struggles and flaws define you without thinking that also you have something positive to bring to people. In the same way, you don't seethat the people "easy to date" maybe are not so easy to date after all. I want to send you strenght and emotional support, it is certainly not easy to deal with hat you deal Just don't bash yourself so much, try to be fair and contemplate all the virtues you have and could make people wanting to be by your side.
7 tips to date someone with Anxiety ~
1.) Awareness 0:30
2.) Patience 1:00
3.) Reassurance 1:29
4.) Playfulness 1:58
5.) Check In 2:14
6.) Control 2:41
7.) Compliment 3:07
I have anxiety and it's a lot sometimes. If you've anxiety like me, pls don't blame urself or think u aren't normal. If u work on improving ur mental health, it can be decreased. Ik there's a lot of anxiety related and other mental health related vids on yt, but I follow psych2go & Dr Julie.
Sending hugs to all those who have anxiety like me. U got this! 🫂
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thanks you. I love you
Because of these comments existing in every video in this channel, I'm losing interest watching anymore
As someone who has high anxiety, I learned a LOT about myself, and what to do in a panic attack. Really Love this video!
That's good! ❤ I myself am trying to learn about that
My crush needs to watch it before marrying me. 😁
😂😂😂💯
As someone with crippling social anxiety; bold of you to assume that I dare date at all. 🤣
as a man who hasn't tried dating in any way for over 10 years and am now trying, I am only too aware of how anxious I am so this video helped me, thank you. In the case of my anxiety, I understand that where I want to be happy, I've been letting my anxiety hold me back and I can't do that anymore.
It reminds me of something a friend once said that not only makes perfect sense but something I feel I may have forgotten.
"There is no growth in my comfort zone and there is no comfort in my growth zone".
I love you, thanks you.
I would love to see more on topics like this. Being in a relationship with someone suffering from various health issues (mental or physical) can be difficult at times.
I love you, thanks you.
You guys literally think of everything. That's why I subscribed this video is plain truth.
I'm so glad I've found it before my girlfriend and I reunion. She had serious anxiety. Even though I tried to soothe her all the time, she ended up being confined to a mental hospital. I was dying with the guilt that I couldn't do anything helpful for her and that I couldn't change the whole situation since we were in a long-distance relationship. Whenever she comes back, I wanna make sure that I observe all of the tips this video gave me. I hope I can be her remedy and she'll feel happy ever again. Thanks for the tips, sincerely.
i wish you and her the best
thanks you. I love you
Good luck
Anxiety is such an unbearable feeling. It's wonderful of you to love her so much that you're willing to do anything to help her be happy, but YOU can only do so much. 💔 You can't take on so much guilt, or you'll become anxious as well. Then who'll take care of either one of you?! 😕
I've struggled with anxiety on and off over the years, and my husband has always had the same feelings of misplaced guilt for not being able to cure me. He was already helping me so much just by taking some pressures off of me on a bad day. That, and being there to make me feel loved and important when the rest of the world made me feel inherently unlovable. It helped him a lot to learn about the brain and how it works because it showed him that there's things going on with chemicals, hormones, and disorders that he could never fix. No matter what he did or didn't do. I hope this helps. Good luck.
I am glad you are there for your girlfriend despite her battles with anxiety. Also, please take care of yourself as you know it is not an easy road being involve with someone with bad anxiety. ❤ My late partner was with me through thick and thin, and now I feel very vulnerable in this world without him here anymore. While it is still a struggle, I owe it to myself and our child to finally get better and hope my partner see me slowly improve, wherever he are.
Im overthinking already based off the thumbnail. Anxiety doing its job. Very helpful, dating won’t go anywhere for me 👍
thanks you.I love you,
EXTREMELY helpful!
Crazy as it sounds, there are methods of fooling your mind into believing your anxiety is excitement. Behavioral Cognitive Therapy (therapy involving repeating new behaviors to interrupt old ones) is used to help with ruminating/anxiety.
Of course, this doesn't always work, and one solution doesn't work for all.
NGL this channel has helped me learn about myself and others around me (definitely helped de-escalate situations).
Everyday is a lesson/ comes with learning.
thanks you.
Thankyou! Your video's gives me comfort 😊❤
I looove how cute and soothing the pictures in this video are🥺🥺 And how everything is said makes me feel. Like a hug❤️
I love you
Thank you for the much-needed information
Don’t date folks with anxiety if all you’re gonna do is abandon them and make it worst.
Exactly what happened to me I had so many feelings bottled up I didn’t even know how to describe what was going on, before I could say anything about my situation they ghosted me on everything not even goodbye
I don't have anxiety lm very positive person but l think that people with anxiety deserve love and support 🫶.
@@THEWISHBIGLEZSHOW same thing happened to me
right. I love you
Great video!👍 Be there, talk, empathize, uplift, endurce.💙💙
hey, I enjoy you quickly giving credit at the end of each point
thanks you. I love you so much
Thank god this vid exists. I’ve scoured the internet for this advice but it always tells me how to date someone if *i* have the anxiety, not for if you are dating someone and the someone has the anxiety. It’s good and all there being endless amounts of advice on the web on how to deal with your own mental conditions, but there needs to be more advice for outsiders
Thank you for this
Love this!! 🤗🤗
Timestamps
1). Awareness 0:29
2). Patience 0:59
3). Reassurance 1:28
4). Playfulness 1:57
5). Check-in 2:13
6). Control 2:40
7). Compliment 3:07
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
My personal experience with anxiety, tells me I wanted to watch this.
The tears that are falling as I do, tells me I needed to watch this.
I recently had a partner for a short time who made me so anxious and even though I tried to talk with him he kept dismissing my feelings as “stop sayig you’re sensitive and using it as an excuse”. I tried to be self aware and wanted him to comfort me but he said it was my issue to deal with. I dealt with it, by breaking up.
This video came out at a good time. I have anxiety and it tends to be an issue when dating
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I can understand very well as I was this myself. I tended to try to hide it. It’s really supporting & helpful to have a date understanding this and supporting you. Building trust is so crucial. It’s not a shame to show it and the right people will understand & support.
Sadly I was cheated on by my ex who was very dismissive about me depression and anxiety, I was always 100 percent transparent on how I felt about everything and what bothered me while she lied to me and basically just said whatever
Thank you so much for this video.
You are so welcome!
I'm someone who's not ready for a relationship. not going to list the worse of my struggles, but my brain has been through the wringer. its hard for me to even deal with the idea of getting with someone, i feel too broken. the level of anxiety I'm at now can't be told to medical professionals, so i just grin and bear my life the best that i can. trying to help others deal with their own struggles, helps me find some inner peace. even if it doesn't help me out, at least i lifted the pain off of someone else for a time. hate making comments like this, I try to be the helper, and not the person in need of help. hope everyone is having a good day today. if life seems rough now, i found that accepting the way things are now, has helped me pretty well. the problems remain, but that acceptance, helps you more than you think it would
as someone with autism i find your videos super helpful with trying to explain to people how i see the world... and i have to say thank you... even though it may not seen like a lot this is for a neurodivergent person... i love seeing your videos in my feed and you always are there to push me in the right derection when im confused on life... via in a realtionship where i do not know if im the jerk or if i just dont understand... thank you Psych2go
Thanks for the video ❤️😊
My pleasure 😊
I deal with anxiety everyday. I hate it when it destructs my plans and I feel like a burden when I let it get the best of me infront of others. Thanks for the video. Will share it.
Thanks for these.
I love you so much
Pov I'm scared to send this to her 😭💕
Lovely video, thank you for making it ❤
As someone who literally has to cry themselves to sleep because of anxiety, this video and hearing the compliments made me tear up. For everyone out there, I am proud of you.
i am not dating anyone, but this was really relatable because of the anxiety i have battled for so long. i feel seen.
thanks you. I love you
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"anxiety can feel like there's a third person stealthily crashing your date"
Or in my case, that there are "unwritten rules" that everyone would conveniently know about. But as an autistic, I'm oblivious to it. And others would take it as an (bad) excuse.
Man i learned soooo much from this channel, and while i'm still really confused, at least now i can try to understannd me better. For refence, i'm REALLYYY shy, i have a really hard time making new friends if i don't have someone i trust with me (sounds contradictory, i know), i just can't open myself up to others, even to my parents, because i'm really scared that they might tell someone else or that they might use it against me, or straight up refuse to try to understand me and instead get angry at me or say that it isn't that important (happened more times than i want to remember), i'm scared of being abandoned by the ones that i care about, or being betrayed (also happened), and i don't want to be in a relationship because i'm scared of not being a great partner, being misunderstood or being rejected (which to me is too much pain), also i'm demisexual (which for people who don't know, basically demisexual people tend to not get in a romantic or sexual or platonic relationship UNLESS they have have a REALLYYYY deep emotional bond), and that doesn't help since i can't open up. Soooo.. yeah, i'm not in the greatest spot, i've never been in a raltionship/falling in love for someone and i just recently learned that i'm demisexual. But with the videos about emotions and personality types i can define myself better than before. (Sorry for the long comment)
Thanks, this is so helpful, for dating myself! 😃✋
Always remember that people struggle in different types of ways. So they may actually be masking their anxiety. Never judge a person for that! Always be kind.
So relatable and even though i keep pushing myself i still get scared, much thanks to my sister for making me insecure by bullying me to develop anxiety, i just want a friend and moved to a new area 9 months ago and im so lonely 🎉
This will help when i date someone. Thanks.
I have a lot of things wrong with me, but i try and hide it. I just need to find someone that accepts me and is nice and i like them back.
Hi psych2go I appreciate you making this video as a very anxious person myself. Can you make a video along the same topic of dating someone with BPD, I’m in a committed relationship of two years with my partner who has it. I’ve obviously done a lot of research and learning but you can always learn new things.
i appreciate your efforts
thanks. I love you
you are my best all your videos so wonderful
thank you thank you thank you for everything
I love you.
I'm an anxious person but I feel like being anxious makes me childish and unlovable. So it makes me more anxious... Sometimes I wish I'll come accros someone who will love me while I'm anxious and depressed, so she will lit my world. But it is hard to believe it. It always seems that I need to do it all by myself, and then I will be able to go outside and see people. I'm feeling alone. Because I am alone.
I was diagnosed with anxiety disorder a while ago. I also have ADHD and Tourette’s, so anxiety causes me to get overstimulated, which causes anxiety; Both of which set off my ticks, which causes me to become more anxious, and well you get the point.
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THIS IS NEEDED FOR ME, BOTH OF US HAVE ANXIETY!
I love you @EchoDotNetDotCom
thank you so much
As one who has anxious flare ups, as I call them, I feel like we can withdrawal from society a bit. Tips on being outgoing would sure help.
o dam i needed this so bad
I'm a person with autism and I can relate to these but thank you for the video it helped and maybe it can help me with my dating life 🤗🤗🤗🤗
Bro, I saw the thumbnail hoping for some affirmation until after I clicked it and I looked at the title… oh well! Whoever needs the dating advice, I won’t judge, in fact, that’s swell! But I’m taking my anxiety affirmation and tea thank you!!
perfect, I love you.
@@CelebritieswhoAww, how sweet of you!
As you can see we can not want to be an “anxious”. we’re want to be feel safe and calm. Everything has to be more different situtation for feelings. But sometimes these are felt more complicated. Be supportive and plz be helpful for your darling
This video resonates with my relationship. I’m the partner with anxiety tho 😢
I think its best I don't date with anxiety cause they keep pointing it out and I'm sick of that. I tried changing the subject.
amazing video thx! saving. timestamps plsss? 🥺
merci beaucoup
I didn't find this video to be helpful for myself. As I am the person who's actually dealing with Anxiety and Epilepsy. I always wondered how I can inform the person(s) that I am around even if it's just a friend. This does give me some insight on how to better help me and the person I am dating. 🥰
With my anxiety it gets worse each person I date bc when I have a bad feeling it usually is right so I makes me over think everything leaving me to start assuming stuff as well
My last relationship ended because I always felt the need to make my partner happy at all times (I mean like I had to be 100% sure she was happy and enjoying herself) and I would just stress about it so much. I also feel the need to be doing something that I would consider “productive” otherwise I would start freaking out, even when we would just have free time I wasn’t able to just lay back and enjoy doing nothing with her. I hate it so much, I don’t wish it to anyone and hope everyone that’s the same problem is able to find their perfect match 😞
Nice strategy ☠️👍🏻
As someone with crippling social anxiety who's never been on a date, I approve :3
Idk if I will ever have a gf or not but the vid is really helpful❤❤❤
Thk u so much:>
"Anxiety can feel like there's a third person stealthily crashing your date." Well put!
The thing is, anxiety doesn't only manifest in more extreme ways like panic attacks. It's also constantly questioning things and a daily battle not to push the other person away so they can't leave you first. My anxious brain is searching for a nitpicky reason to ruin my current bf for me to control the outcome bc that's familiar and would give me security - and it's total bullshit. I have to actively convince myself and work so this doesn't happen and told him, too. He doesn't quite understand how my brain is wired, but it made things much easier to talk about and handle.
Ty for video, personally the popping sound was a distraction.
Whats the music in the background sound relaxing
Early again!❤
Thanks for being here early and being part of the early squad!
There is a woman that I've known for ~8 years. We've had romantic chemistry but I've always been cool to the idea of dating her because her anxiety can be so pervasive. Maybe I should try some of these things and give it a try.
2:41
If we struggle
We struggle together
Hey 👋 Psych2Go. Since it’s Autism Awareness Month. I was thinking if you could do videos about autism like how an autistic student experiences a school 🏫 day or benefits of autism.
Is there a video about how to date? Because i never dated with someone and i would really need advice on basically how to interact with people at all.
I love you, thanks you so much
My person knows when I’m overthinking and knows I’m working through it all. Versus guys and my mom saying no one’s gonna love you cause of it… 😢
I would love to hear all that from a guy. Too sad that i'm not even able to hold eye contact with one...
Eye contect is relaxing me beacuse I know that I am minority of society and wonder about others, there is not much sociopath
Sounds good. After having been married for over 20 years to someone who has anxiety, I can safely say pass. I do not recommended being involved with those who are disordered. The bearer of burdens cannot bear the burdens of another.
Everyone should see this before meeting me :)
A friend of mine help me when i was overthinking bc she also has a friend who have the problem i was overthinking abt getting help again bc there were too many people who were infront of that place was making me feel that they all gonna judge me so when she notice i m doing it again she told me im getting help and thats okay and those people are signing up for it too s so they also understand its silly of me to think that way-
Where’s Amanda’s voice ☹️☹️☹️☹️
They should really teach these phrases in school.
I officially have anxiety and everyone told me to talk with others like my parents but my mom thinks I’m just overreacting or being too dramatic. I would rather talk to a therapist but I’m not an adult yet, and I have to tell my parents to talk with them but I’m to scared to ask.
I always thought that when I fixed my anxiety I would start having dates, but is it a good reason to not to do it or it's just an excuse?
Man what happens when a person is broken beyond repair
Maybe I should start dating myself
Where’s our favorite narrator Amanda Silvera?
Hello❤❤
I have a crush on someone who always comforts me but I can’t ask her because I’m scared of having my already hanging by a thread heart shattered
I want to be with someone that will watch these videos for me
What if your partner also has anxiety
I’ve been really struggling lately to be a supportive partner, and everytime we talk about how I’m struggling my mind won’t let me get away from “she’s doing all of this too!”
I’ve made attempts at doing checkins and using supportive language and she dismisses scheduling checkins and lashes out at me or spends the whole conversation poking holes in my attempts at supportive language
I’m really at a loss, I’m struggling figure out my own mental differences, I think I’m autistic, I really struggle having plans change, it can derail my day, I need more time than others to decompress after my work day, I have so many responsibilities on my plate and I feel like I’m dropping the ball on all of it
Honestly.. Do you think a loving partner would intentionally be so toxic to you? Maybe it's better to concentrate on yourself and even let go if it's that bad..
As someone who has Anxiety all the time. I can confirm this is how i would want my bf to treat me, Take notes people.
Maybe a high anxiety person should only date another person who is also anxious. I am not an anxious person and it feels like I would fast become annoyed by it.