Watch This If You're Struggling With Your Self-Worth
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- Опубліковано 12 лип 2021
- Loving yourself may sound simple, but we all know how hard it is. It can be a long journey to accepting this, but it’s worth it. As hard as it may be, you should never give up on loving yourself because you deserve it. So here are a few things that do not determine your self-worth.
Want more tips on how to practice self love? Watch this video: • How To Practice Self Love
Writer: Lily Metrinko
Script Editor: Rida Batool
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Lily Hu
Animator: Bry Gavino
UA-cam Manager: Cindy Cheong
Everyone agrees that the combination of her voice with these animations are better than the combination of Oreo and milk
Yeah, who wouldn't agree?
Mhm
Anything is better than Oreos and milk lol
Totally
@@keiron.4612 there’s always that one person
"If you don't approve of yourself, no one else will" - Peter Griffin
so that's why nobody gives a crap about me
@@necrozma4029 nooo, many people love u, approval is a must in life
@@alliswell99199 chill i'm fine, i'm jk, thanks for caring tho :)
I think that's false...
Thanks family guy
it's really hard to build self worth when the world daily convinces you that you're nothing without everything you mentioned in this video
True
This is why it's vital to find sources of worth outside of what society uses to measure someone's value...and learn to filter out the world's negativity...
Exactly
Yup this video is some Disney fairy tale bullshit. The real world is a mean, toxic and shallow place. The asteroid can’t come soon enough
I felt this on such a personal level, I always just feel like I’m not enough and self love is too hard, I’ve kinda given up on self love tbh.
I must admit, at 53 I still struggle with the empty feeling that goes with being single and childless. It hasn't always been this way. I lost my son 18 years ago and I have been divorced for 9 years.
I'm sorry to hear that you went through that.
Bless you Gregor. ❤️❤️ I hope you can manage to get more joy and meaning out of the rest of your life . Keep that as your focus. Hugs.
I know how you're feeling. I'm 50 and childless and was Betrayed By the only woman I ever loved in the year 2000.
Have you thought about volunteering with children? It is very gratifying for me and can make me happiest, especially during Halloween time. Hope you have self-help activities that help you throughout the day like meditation, a hot bath and/or being in nature. Big Hug❣️
I'm sorry you're going through this, but your self-worth isn't determined by the fact you're no longer married or have children.
It's like yall can sense the shit I'm going through
Same-
That's the idea 😏
Ikr! It is kinda creepy. Like... I needed this ngl
that's cuz they talk about shot most people go through... one way or another. Remember you're not alone :D
True! They've been doing this to me for quite a while now.
I've been painfully struggling with forgiving myself with my mistakes, and recognizing when I need to love myself. It's been so hard these past few months and I sobbed while watching this because it helped so much, and hit me in a place I hadn't realized it would.
Thank you. 🧡
EDIT | 08/31/2023: Well over a year ago; I made this comment during a time in which I was struggling immensely, however, thankfully I have been doing leagues better but we all still have our days.
Same here...You're not alone..Just take it day by day.. Appreciate the little things that give you joy because it all adds up..You've got this
Same with me. There are mistakes I made that I can never take back, and people I've hurt that I may never see again, and I earned it. Forgiving others has always been easier for me than ever forgiving myself...
All that to say, I relate, I agree, and I needed this video today.
Same here. I’ve always felt like the outcast or black sheep. After watching this lets me know I’m not alone…just don’t know anyone around me in my personal life that can relate to me 100%. Keep moving on and appreciate life and the little things. I have to remind myself of this all the time and to not keep myself a prisoner of the past and the things I’ve done.
Me too!! Forgiving myself has always been hard even when i know that i can. I've made mistakes that I wish I could take back at a moments notice but I can't.
Same and it's really hard😥
when somebody is nice to me, my brain just thinks “They are probably doing this to embarrass me”
Oh my man dont share such stuff on the internet
👏IT 👏WILL 👏BITE 👏YOU🎶,
sincirely somebody who got bitten
or "I wonder what it is they want this time."
Or “They’re just saying that to make me feel better but it’s not actually true.”
@@linmonPIE THIS.... LIKE HOW DO U FIX THIS BC ITS LITERALLY KILLING MY SELF ESTEEM
It's all about the story you tell yourself
1. your achievements 0:48
2. your income and job 1:29
3. your childhood 2:01
4. your level of education 2:32
5. how other people view + treat you 2:58
6. others people's achievements 3:39
7. your appearance 4:17
8. your relationship status 4:57
9. the number of friends you have 5:34
10. your social media status 6:14
11. your age 6:55
12. your decision to have children 7:22
I hope I could help!
Time traveller alert 📢
2 weeks??.
Wait how's this 2 weeks but thanks I guess
another time traveller, show me your magic
@@manufacturedpie4118 no anime girl not again
“Social media should be fun” the “should” is so fitting
it causes depression.
it's comparison.
it's isolation.
@@VengefulPolititron I'd say it's where socially needy people sells themselves to the others in order to have the feeling of validatation, which would be useless, but is used sustain a big pride and big unreal expectations people put on themselves while trying to escape from the fact they have flaws instead of accepting them
@@drawmanbr7008 whoa
good thing the only media I use is reddit
because let’s be honest reddit is just memes
@@Simplifried depends on the subreddit.
"Your past does not define you"
Wow I needed that, thanks ❤️
You singing "Age ain't nothing but a number" really made my day! ❤
Swear that's that Aaliyah 🥰
older men agree
Hold up
@@RunOut25 lmao
Huh
i wanna be supportive
i wanna be happy for myself and others
I wanna be confident
I wanna be relaxed
I wanna be loving
i don't wanna be pushy
i dont wanna be selfish
i dont wanna be conceited
i dont wanna stressed
i dont wanna be cold
so finding self-worth is just as hard as the test I probably just failed ( especially with toxic standards)
you had us at the first half, lol (I mean I 1000% agree with your statements, but still)
Yeah, there are soo many things I want to be, but I end up disliking myself if I don't always meet that. You are very worthy of love and support, and I think you are an amazing person for trying. Thank you for leaving this comment in a time where I am finding it hard to relate to anybody. You are loved
I feel strongly for point 6. It's so hard to not look at social media or people my age being so successful while thinking about why am I still at this 'stuck' stage without achievement. I still need to remind myself all the time that everyone has a different timeline (also personality, background, interest, skills) so that I don't beat myself up for making a slow progress.
'Stuck' is just a concept. Who created it?
exactly
To hear someone say that “my opinion is valid and valued” had me in tears. For so long I’ve felt unimportant and nothing more than a social filler. Like something people don’t really care for, and just have around when they need an extra person. I’ve been told so often by a toxic friend that my opinion doesn’t matter, and that they don’t care about what I have to say. It’s been so detrimental to my mental health. I’ve never valued myself and my own opinions and only cared about what other people thought of me, and really only liked what other people like.
I know it was targeted towards a large audience and not me specifically, but hearing those words really meant so much to me. I really needed to hear that, and I’ll probably need to hear it a lot more before I start to truly believe it, or internalize it.
I couldn’t tell you for sure which of my opinions are my own. I’m not even sure if I have my own opinions; but I’m going to try to hardest to learn what they are.
Hey as someone else who struggles with that exact thought process I feel you and you are so Vaild and heck I wish you the best out of life.
this my friend is exactly what happens. I am such a follower, whenever I try suggesting ideas I get ignored. I had a group of friends but then I moved away, and now all I think is I still have them even if it's long distance. but the reality is, I can't make new friends, no one values me or my opinion and it just hurts. everyone just thinks I'm a boring person who has a normal life. whoever I am around I get influenced by them, if they are fun and goofy people, I act like them. if they are a serious or mature kinda person I act like them. you see I try fitting in, and I always think ppl just think of me as an extra. and I've noticed it. but what hurts more is when ppl say, I was bored during this class or smthn, you know because she's a quiet person. : ( idk I can't ever value myself. I have only one goal, to inspire. but I can't, I'm not good at sport, studies, or have any skills.
@@laundryclothes1582 I feel the exact same way. Like a chameleon who just blends in with whoever they are around. That is the kind of person that I am. I also feel what Joshua says because when I'm not "blending in" with everyone else, I feel seriously invisible and unimportant and that my feelings, wants, opinions either don't matter or are stupid. I feel like I have been used a lot of my life because I like doing things for people. When my twin sisters need a ride somewhere, I am the one who drives them (they don't have their driver's) and when we do go somewhere together I feel more like a third wheel who is ignored as they talk to each other. When I don't feel like driving them for some reason (I don't feel well or I just don't feel like it), they make me feel like I did something so terrible. I don't like bringing this up because I hate conflict and fighting. Because of this as well as some issues with school and work, I have just felt like I'm not worth anything because I don't have what this video describes. I have struggled with my self worth for years and I'm trying to accept and love myself the way that I am even though it is very difficult. I hope everyone who resonates with this video finds the self-love that they deserve. I wish you all joy and happiness no matter where you are in life. ♥♥♥♥♥♥
@@irinagevorgyan9121 Literally the feelings are mutual, especially when you said you blend in with everyone else. I literally feel worthless and keep thinking about the reason to my existence. What also annoys me is third wheeling basically most conversations, and being a follower. However, at times like at school I try doing independent things but then I start feeling insecure and start thinking of what others think of me, lonely.
At this point I've heard people say, find friends who care about, but that lately has been impossible for me, but I suggest you should find people who would truly accept you. Don't let people take control of you, and let your voice be heard, something I try working on. Anyways, I hope you find joy and self-love in your life as well.
@@laundryclothes1582 Thank you so much! Same goes for you. We are all on this earth for a reason and I hope we all find that reason. Best of luck to you!!
I'm so hard on myself because I didn't go to university. I didn't even finish school because all I cared about was being approved of by teachers. They ignored me every time and it crushed me.
You're right. I couldn't have controlled how wealthy or emotionally involved my parents were. Thank you
I’m trying to go on social media less because, even though seeing “better” people on there makes me feel less, I still don’t think being as popular/talented as those people will make me more satisfied. It’s all a big lie we’re sold
The majority I see are worse, I try to avoid it because I can't handle all the dumb and aggressive people.
@Nekotaku TV My man
Yessss, when u get the follower amount u were hoping for, it never seems enough, it's like a mountain and the more u climb, the farther away the top gets
That’s why I deleted everything…
Believe me, that will help you, even if I had great achievements in my life, I felt bad and I made comparisons, even if I was a "better" person.
You´ll find peace and you will start to recognize who really cares about you, start doing videocalls instead of chats, or at least send voice audios.
*Ive struggled with this for a VERY long time, but after a long years of internal work, I realize that my childhood has affected me a lot!* 🙏❤️
( _believe it or not, YOU are already awesome_ 😊)
Me too. I have to admit my childhood was so hurtful. I would wait on my father to come pick me up and many times he would not come and if he did he was hours late. I thank God for the rest of my family they always tried to make me feel better but it was like he didn’t care. His new wife was more important than me. I know it’s not mu fault but it still is a void in my heart ❤️. I have learned that God loves me unconditionally and loves me the way I am. Sorry for your pain and your so right you’re awesome too! Thank you for sharing 🙏❤️🩹🕊😊
And that goes on havin' daddy or mommy issues..Jk..But tbh childhood experiences affect our adult personality/attitude..Huh thx for sharing.. Blessings brothers 😝🙏🏻😁
I feel you. I’m glad your doing well.
define awesome
Same here. Eventually I found help and now I am leaving my past behind looking at the future with a smile.
I struggled with self-worth for awhile after going through a few years where I was around toxic people and in environments that hurt my mental health. These videos definitely helped me find a place to start and I've been doing things that have helped rebuild my self-worth:
- Seeing a therapist more often
- Having my appearance match who I am on the inside and feel like I see myself in the mirror
- Having a job in a healthy work environment
- Reflecting on how I can improve myself and do it because I want to be the best version of myself, rather than do it for someone else.
- Setting boundaries
- Recognizing red flags in people and distance myself from them
- Spending more time reflecting
- Taking better care of myself
I'm in a lot better place now than I was last year
I have to admit, when you said your childhood doesn’t define you and you can’t control who your parents are I teared up a bit I needed to hear that
You are more than your childhood, I myself got bullied for 7 years and I'm greatfull for it, because processing all that really helped me becoming a better person and not giving a shit about others. Hope you can live a happy and long life, use your bad memories as fuel and don't let them define you.
"We all gonna fucking make it brah. Thats it" ~ Zyzz
"You're the only one who determines your self-worth"
That's part of the problem for the major depressives out there.
Yes it is
heh, yeah it really is, me and my friend can verify
Comin at you from the clinical siide 🙌
Yup… so what are the solutions for us?
@@liarr9857 Still figuring that out. Luckily I've been supplementing my self-worth with support from others by trying to be more involved in groups and school. Some days it can help just knowing there are others out there who are okay with who you are, so maybe you can be too. Other days it's not enough but its better than having to rely on yourself for validation
To whoever reading this. Just a friendly reminder: you're not alone suffering. Most of people in the world is having suffering too. Just stay strong and stay safe! ❤️
Thank you so much❤
As if it was that easy...
Thanks.
Thanks
I like how you have a Hachiman from Oregairu on your avatar. He is my totem animal...
You know it’s bad when any kind of attempt to make you feel better, only makes you feel a lot worse.
it only goes downhill from here
@@xyxx566 you should not say something like that on a page where there are a lot of emotionally vulnerable people seeking hope.
@@cav5659 Hey this is supposed to be a safe space.
Yes, I had some hard times two years ago and had somehow convinced myself that I have recovered, but it happened again and now I am hopeless....
@@cav5659But he is right about it....
Thank you for this video. For the past decade, my life has been a complete mess and I can't help but feel desperate and angry at myself about my long unemployment, lack of money, and mental illnesses (EDIT: perhaps even a low form of autism).
From time to time I return to this video to remind me to get out of the proverbial gutter.
If so many people can be so down on their luck in an economy it’s much more likely to be a dysfunctional economy incapable of incorporating all its individual parts at fault.
So you really should never beat yourself up over a lack of employment or money, even without mental health concerns.
@@wildfire9280Great response 👍🏿
Thor atfer watching this:
I'm still worthy!
😂
Good one
Ya he is👍he save life and sactifice his thats why he gets his meomy💜
Haha that is so perfect
Accurate!
My greatest lesson in life I’ve learned: In whatever you do, never try because you are afraid that not improving would result in failure, try instead because you are joyful as you are, and are enthusiastic about the possibility of further success. Running from your demons only makes them catch you faster, so take a break, and walk at your own pace in life. You’ll be surprised how quickly they fall behind.
Sounds good in theory, but my whole life disagrees. There are external existential pressures. Sticking in a miserable life just because where and which family to you were born, or trying to get higher.
Ty for writing this! I can use this actually
"The number of friends you have doesn't say anything about yourself worth" my heartttt 🥺, this really gives me comfort ✨
I'm in a strange limbo where I graduated college and am waiting for a job so I can move out and be independent. I'm also dealing with trauma and valuing myself and I really needed this soft-spoken video tonight. Thank you XOXO
overview: you are not one trait of yours, you are a combination of your traits, dis/likes, experiences, etc. and your worth is constant and never changing.
I’m so biased that I put myself down more than others do. Like you don’t even need to criticize me anymore 😂 I’m already screaming internally. And when I’m speaking to others I seem confident and never show how I feel like I’m failing and worthless
This is so me rn... Worst part is it hurts and i know it hurts but I'm not able to do anything about it :')
Very relatable. To the point where I’m immune to insults. I honestly don’t even think they can come up with something that I haven’t said to myself already :)
I feel that so much but alas my workplace has this critical culture and they just use it to make me feel stupid like everything else i tell them that i think. I hate it here more than anything but im bound by contract. Psych2go is the place i go to remind myself im not alone and other people ate seeing the exact same things happen to them. It keeps me from going insane lol 😝
@@moonlight_1111 You can do something about it, the power is with you, the power is with yourself
There is a brilliant book titled, "what to say when you talk to yourself.
Try it, it only works!!
Good luck
Fun fact we were all having a mental break down before this
This is helpful: Who we are is told to us by the people who raised us, and learned from the environments that we have been in. It is important to unpack all of the negative things that we have been programmed with. It is also important to forgive the people who hurt us, because they may have been programmed improperly too. Nobody is perfect. Overall, age matters in a lot of circumstances, but it is never too late to heal and improve ourselves.
"What we wish, we readily believe, and what we ourselves think, we imagine others think also."
- Julius Caesar
"I was the turkey!" - Gir
the beginning- “you deserve it and you’re worth it”
that’s what cheered me up a bit, cause i really needed to hear that
I feel more depressed watching this
I'm kind of with ya bud....
8 and 9 are something that I’m experiencing in my life. I’m 22 and I’m single , sometimes I feel like nobody cares about me , I don’t feel loved, plus that I have a few friends, I love them as my family but I strugle to imagine that they feel the same about me , I always have the feeling that I’m being annoying or that they are just there because they have to .
Its so hard
one quick thing: while you cant choose how your face looks, you can choose what types (this is important coz not many people can buy expensive clothes) of clothes you wear, and how you do your hair and stuff like that (not makeup or plastic surgery cause your phisical features change) i look vastly different depending on how long / short my hair is (had it both) and also how i decide to do my hair.
This is a really good point! Thanks for mentioning it
We are all beautiful,just the way we are. Be comfortable with yourself.❤️🙏🏼
Yes! Also, grooming yourself, taking care of your appearance, makes you look better instantly. No matter what you're starting with!
@@charmainefield6785 yes. Sometimes you discover a new stlyle that you think suits you really well. I'm a guy and I went with short hair for years. This year I let my hair grow out (covers ears) and currently I'm pretty comfortable this way. I've also gotten some compliments, which slightly boosted my confidence.
You can't polish a turd.
Im the happiest when I draw freely and wrote short stories because it shows my inner beauty of what I can hold. Tysm for this vid, psych2go! You are an exceptional inspiring channel to all with troubles in life.
Expressing through your pieces is the only solace for an artist. Keep doing it, stay happy :)
hey me too! even tho most of my stories are not great lmao
What do you like to draw?
I feel the same too! There are so many stories to tell!
@random stranger. I like to draw what’s in my imagination and the things and people that I love. Like my family and my made up characters. It helps me with my anatomy and makes me joyful to think abt the characters I create through art :)
@@oliviali5565 yes! Drawing OC's is very satisfying and fun
I'm glad you have things that make you happy too
My girlfriend is suicidal and the idea of self worth for her is like saying that you saw an elephant fly through the mall today.
I'm grateful that there are videos like these who help people like her.
I'm gonna send this to her now.
Edit: well now ex as she felt too bad for being a burden on me and i also can't help her as she needs professional help (which she absolutely doesn't want), guess i need to move on
Hope your gf is doing well! Spreading love and joy to the both of you
This for real is what i struggle with too. How am i worth anything if im never happy. Good to know that there are people out there who care
As someone who has definitey been in your gf's shoes, even if it seems like your efforts didn't help her, they will definitely remind her that she is loved. I broke up with an ex 4 years ago because depression felt like a beast I needed to fight alone and I didn't want to drag him into something that in my eyes would burden him. But I still think about his support and it reminds me from time to time that I'm worth it.
I had to deal with 4 fights in 3 days but there's one I stood out the most forgiveness I AM ME
I really needed this. My biggest issue is self-worth.
same, enjoy your day
@@Trooper50000 he caught the vid
Question for you, what makes you happy and when are you happiest?
Hi sis
Jesus. When praying on my knees.😁
When u post a vid 💖💖💖
Whenever I’m the happiest, I have a lot of energy and K-pop is one of them. However it can get broken easily if someone is harsh towards me
Im the happiest on holidays, like Christmas, Halloween, or thanksgiving. I love them cuz my family meets up and we share our feelings 👉👈
This is so spot on. It’s incredibly basic and simple yet very deep and profound at the same time. Your appearance, wealth, education, and relationship status are not where you find TRUE value in this world. I’ve been dealing with another bout of depression this week and I just want to say thank you for this reminder, I truly felt seen and validated. 💕
It's unlikely that anyone see's this comment but I want to say that: You know when your self-worth is low if you say "It doesnt apply to me" or "I'm an exception and need to be better to be worth". I struggle currently with Self-Esteem -Love and -Worth. I hate myself and scratch, slap and pinch myself out of sadness.
Hopefully I will live past the 25 years.
Love yourself, not me.
7:17 just timestamping this beautiful golden voice ♥️
Can you make video about "why some people hate compliments?" Like they're uncomfortable
Yes I’m clueless with compliments like I just refute them if I get them
This is what I told someone I know when they said they found compliments awkward and uncomfortable "a compliment is like a little gift from someone, accept it graciously and thank them. They didn't have to give you the compliment, but they saw something positive in you and thought you were important enough to brighten your day."
It doesn't matter if you don't give a compliment back if you genuinely can't find something to say in the moment. It's better to say thank you than to be insincere. Rejecting compliments can be a bit off-putting, it can imply that the person is foolish for complimenting you. You wouldn't immediately hand a gift back to the gift-giver, would you? If a person is only complimenting you because they're fishing for compliments for themselves, they're being insincere or manipulative, well they're the ones who have their own problems to sort out and you can relax knowing you were courteous.
Maybe you struggle with compliments because you're struggling with your self-worth and feel you don't deserve the praise. Like a lot of things, it could have been something in childhood, a relationship or friendship where you weren't always given the compliments you deserved, or weren't allowed to enjoy the ones you did receive.
Start giving yourselves little compliments during the day for little things. Anything like "My hair looks good today/ I stacked the dishwasher quickly today/ that was a good meal I cooked/ great outfit I put together/ did my skincare/ left the house on time" just whatever level of accomplishment it is that you need. Acknowledge that you did well and you deserved that tiny bit of recognition for yourself. Get used to the feeling, over time it will get easier. You don't have to speak these out loud if that uncomfortable, just think it and own it, but I think talking in the first person is important so it's really clear that the acknowledgement is for you. Or even use your own name and talk as though it's someone else talking to you.
This turned out way longer than I thought it would and I almost deleted it, but I hope it helps some of you who are struggling.
@@Chrysaetos3 Yes! Like I'm pretending to smile if I receive a complements to them but the inside of me...well it's fully question marks, I should be thankful because they praise me but in the eyes of the people there they are wrong, the reason is ... the complements they really give me does not really connect with my personality and my actions. So I feel more sad and uncomfortable because they think the wrong way about me
@@Chrysaetos3 omg thank this genuinely helps me in figuring out compliments, I really appreciate you taking the time to write this
@@bookenjoyer3970 Aww you're welcome. It made my day that my comment helped you out 😊
I hate who I am
Why?? That's really sad man.... try adding or doing one good thing that would help you to love yourself everyday. I have been through this feeling, I used to hate myself so much that I used to slap myself often. But then, I realised it's better to stop doing things which make me hate myself and everyday I did atleast one little thing to love self. If you don't want to share, that's OK. I know it's the ugliest feeling. Just start adding one activity everyday, for which you can love yourself. I am a bipolar, but this idea has done wonders in my life. I am still on medication. And it's completely OK to be bad or wrong for the world. You are breathing that's beautiful.... first focus on yourself, forgive yourself for the reasons.... and try adding values to people's lives.... their smiles add boosting of self confidence or self esteem... else get this treated sooner...
And remember, only you can do your job assigned by god, the bestest way... nobody else can take your place... love yourself for all your flaws... it's completely OK to be wrong or whatever is bothering you.... may god bless you
Bro don’t be, idk who hurt you but you deserve better.
Same.
I hate who I become
Aw
This is such a great video thank you for posting. I especially felt the part about the achievements and how failing makes you feel. I’m a student pilot and college student, I somehow got into the mindset that every achievement is what’s supposed to happen and every failure is me just not being good enough. I’m trying to manage to let myself off the hook but that feeling of failure is still something I deeply struggle with
Remember, you are valid! Regardless of how you look, your sexuality, gender or your personality!
I’m not good at trying to comfort people, but I’m single and I’m still looking for the one.
I don’t know how far life will take me but I’m focusing on what I like to do instead of stressing about a love life.
Be yourself and never let anyone judge or stop you from being that! Have a great day.
@@darthvader1793 I hope someday you'll meet someone who loves you.......i really do hope so....
cause i'm the opposite, i have girlfriend , but i know i'm just a replacement for someone they can't have , i'm just a substitute i knew she is in love with someone else, she will do anything for his love, care and attention.... but i love her, i knew i am not her first choice.... it really hurts when you saw someone you truly love fell in love an crazy in love with someone who don;t care about her....
i just want her to be happy, even if she choose him, i knew she will choose him over me anyday if he cares about her....
i' know that i'll still be happy if he loves her , an if she choose to be with him , i'll still be happy , but it hurts...
cause i am nothing,
Still single? Loving this channel and it’s hurtin to see all these bloody relationship or dating advice videos which would seem helpful if I could ever get into one really sucks. Single or not hope your still doing good and maybe you found someone that would be awesome 😃🥲
@@lamaidalaakapinkcrocodile7527
I know you'll probably never see this and maybe this situation was sorted out, but please, don't do this to yourself, don't get into a relationship where you KNOW you're not being loved, where you'll be easily replaced. You have your own value and you have to know that you deserve someone who actually does value you too. You don't have to let yourself "be nothing", everyone deserves their own place on someone else's hearts.
Are you actually sure that person loves someone else, despite being with you (asking just in case)?
"Being my best is enough." Difficult to accept when you can't get a job and you lost your old one because you couldn't meet the unrealistic expectations set.
One of those, need 10.000 years of experience entry jobs e?
@@delbertamadeustan6932 I'd actually been there 25 years. They just became a culture that was always asking for you to do more things, do things with added steps, provide gigabytes information and reports, solve a dozen problems a day, then they'll get to the projects they have in mind.
@@chrisw207 ohh, sounds bad, hope you get a good job soon man
Yup, going through the same thing, the society where I live in considers the man with a good job and well settled guy as successful and guys like me as failures. I am mostly compared with other people telling me that other people come from much worse places and still manage to get good jobs and be well settled before than me whereas I have everything and still I'm a loser. At my job, superiors compare us low achievers to the high achievers and just simply say " If they can do it, why can't you??" Like duh, if I could do it, won't I just surpass them??? Society and work culture feels dumb and stupid.
Sounds like a job that wasn't worth keeping. Best of luck finding a better one!
I have started my journey to loving myself. I felt stuck for so many years. I've heard all of the tips probably a million times. I only started being consistent with them recently. I'm honestly surprised at how quickly it all started to come. All my previous attempts failed but I see now that I just didn't believe in myself. Thanks for making these videos and reaching out to people like me.
Thanks so much for this segment. You address each issue I struggle with. In my family, image is everything. I have lived a "false" life in order to achieve status, approval, and validation. You have helped me to see I am valuable for who I am.
really struggling rn, hearing that I'm valid and that doing my best is enough is so valuable and meaningful to me so thank you
Good day. I hope this helps you. I was getting down because I was trying to make everyone else happy and it was really getting me down, so I had been told years ago that I should do what makes me happy. I made a major change in my life last year and I feel a little better almost every day. Just remember that life is not a popularity contest, just do what make you happy😊. I was told years ago that as long as the sun comes up and you are up it's a great day and not to worry about what others think of you. So I do what I like some people may not like what I do but it makes me happy.Like I said I hope that this helps you some.
Same. I've really been working hard on something, failed. Hating myself was under control, and now it's been blown to shit. By the time anything positive gets posted, it'll be weeks until then, when it won't matter.
I need serious help im so deoressed my gf left me
@@josephercastor8026 Why did she leave? Did you like her?
@@josephercastor8026it hurts so much bro I know and empathize. Take this opportunity to build yourself up. Gym, Work, new people in your life, and most importantly self compassion and love. You’ll make it.
"Age is nothing but a number" in any other circumstance then yes, but in a relationship well no.
In a relationship, jail is just a room too.
@@madeformario lmao
@@madeformario ha ha a man of culture I see
@@madeformario Dang it, I was gonna say that..
Age always matters
This channel has been a great help to my mental health. Knowing something is wrong without being able to put your finger on it. This channel helps narrow down specific issues that could be greatly troubling ones life. Thank you ❤️
I’m desperate for some new messaging around this. It’s nearly impossible to truly divorce your own self-worth from society’s standards. It’s just a deeply ingrained human instinct to want to belong and be accepted within the community. I don’t know how to make myself believe I’m worthy just because I’m me.
I know a lot of other people feel the same and more people everyday are feeling more depressed. Maybe we need to consider instead that society itself is the thing that’s broken and not us as individuals. For example, society says that you should own your own house when your an adult or else you’re a loser, but how the Hell are the majority of people supposed to be able to do that when wages are not keeping up with the pace of the cost of living? The world is going downhill and frankly it’s stupid to try to ignore it all and act like the only thing we need to do is fix our mindsets, take a bubble bath, and go for a damn walk.
I take some comfort in this quote: “It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.”
- Jiddu Krishnamurti
I've always had super terrible self worth and self esteem. Weirdly enough, I'm super confident in my abilities, I just don't like me
Your abilities are a part of you!
You are not alone.
we learned out abilities... to have something to be proud of.
never fixing the problem...
Same here. I want to be a writer, and I have a first draft... And I got writer's block not even halfway through the first chapter of the second. So I stopped.
I know I can continue, I just... Don't.
Really appreciate this video I'm currently struggling since my gf broke up with me and moved on literally for 3 days plus my social anxiety and depression cameback really appreciate it
Hey we're hope you're doing better.
Farout didn't realise how badly I value myself, thanks for the video
Even though im lonely and isolated, my sense of self worth is indestructable. Self love is important. Also, stoicism is a big part of how i keep it all together.
Everyone has a purpose in life it just take time
True
:)
That's my struggle
I disagree, also i do not have one so I know.
@@splash_067 same
My mom makes me happy. I'm the happiest person when she's around me ^^
that's nice. but we have to learn to be happy by ourselves.
only way to be a full person.
@@VengefulPolititron +1
@@ShayanBinShad I'm only telling you .. cause I failed to separate myself from my mom. and if ruined my life.
we got too depentant on eachother.
well.. I did.
@@VengefulPolititron why did it "ruin your life"? I'm in a similar situation
@@Zaory6734 it's a supernatural story ..
I was a Christian, but very bad.
and God came to me and disciplined me, cause I was evil, and He was trying to save me. and I obeyed for awhile. but I got afraid and tired, and demon stuff happened BECAUSE
my mom told me to stop listening to bible teaching all the time..
and I was so messed up in the head, and also afraid . that I reverted to being like a kid...
and I had to obey her, cause I couldn't say no.
this is called enmeshment.
or emotional incest.
since my dad didnt love her and protect her...she trained me. the younger son, to listen to her problems and give her hugs.
so I was being trapped being her emotional support husband.
and I always listen to her problems and try to fix the house...
and my dad didn't protect us kids from her .. so she never let me grow up. and tried to control me.
before God came to correct me... I had become an evil narcissist , and I had to be mean to my mom, just to make her stop trying to control me.
but when I lost God for while. I thought I was doomed. so she helped me realize God still loves me.
once I got God back... I still needed emotional support. and I couldn't say no to her... cause I've been trained to not say anything she doesn't like.
God warned me... to follow Him, and not listen to my mom. He said I'm too close to her.
but I was scared and stupid, so I did what she said. and because I listened to her. in 1 day... I started having demons visit me and cause fear. then 5 days later I felt God leave my body and my humanity left. and I knew I was doomed.
I layed in the dark for 5 months.
but God came back...
and now I've lost his peace and joy he gave me...
anyways... I now know he still loves me, and my sin is causing this. I did something bad, and it made the fear come back
point is... my mom let's my sister and others use her emotionally .. then I'm stuck being used by her emotionally.. and my dad never stepped in to save me.
my dad is like a kid. so the pressure made me the adult.
and if my mom never forced me to stop listening to God when I was weak... I'd still be able to hear him and feel peace from Him.
and I'm just mad. cause she should not cry to me in the night and need a hug. I'm an adult, and I thought I could help. but I've been dealing with my cheating dad, and sad mom.. since I was 15... and before that. in 4th grade...(10years old) I touched a girls butt. and felt so bad, and thought I was a criminal. and I couldn't tell anyone. so I've lived very sad and afraid if jail. and I became so angry and evil, from bullies and fear and my freaking parents who were too busy ruining our lives and eachothers lives.
Man, I knew what I was getting into when clicking on this video but my self worth is something that I’m working on. I even started sobbing for a bit, everything that is listed is what I’ve been through over the years. Now it’s mostly when things I want to achieve and be done with to be happy and satisfied with myself doesn’t work I completely break down. I feel as though I’m not worthy of anything if I haven’t accomplished anything. I have everything I need and want, it helps a lot but it doesn’t keep how I feel to a minimum.
Thank you for this by the way, i'm deeply infuriated with the people who constantly pressure others to get a lover because they keep saying mean, red-pilled stuff like: "BeIng sInglE Is FoR loOsErS" I always hated that message and it's actually created a envious feeling inside me that is still there to this day, one day i'll get rid of that envious feeling i hope. I'm slowly working on it...
I am loving this one because I was just talking to a friend about it. I have a problem with self-sabotage and treating myself badly, and I think this is due to my mother and my childhood. Well -- the way I feel about myself is largely due to the things she has said to me during my life and the way she's treated me.
You're not alone.
I can relate and understand
Regarding relationship 'Status' and children, I feel that in modern society there is actually more pressure to not place much value on such things, at least by people who already have them. Ironically, this makes things more painful for people who desire such things independently of societal values, because they still desire them, but societal pressure can make you feel bad for wanting them and make you feel that it would be wrong to talk about such desires.
As someone who doesn't want children atm, it's fine to want children and talk about it! Even if people around you can't relate, they should still be supportive. People have the right to choose their own paths in life.
I disagree, why are others seemingly so obsessed with relationships....I know so many girls who just jump from bf to bf like they can't be alone it's sad actuslky
I hate the people who say "you don't need someone to be complete" but then say their s/o is their "other half", like?? If i take them away you'll be fine because you don't need them right?
Thanks for this video, I'm a dark skinned girl with a big nose and I find it really hard to love myself. I appear happy and collected during the day, but only my pillows know how I cry each night. I'll try to love and accept myself better now😊
Wow I needed this bc each one describes my current situation. I’ve got lost in the temptation of money, career, and pleasing others. I wasn’t giving time to myself or able to see my worth with out material things. Im learning to stop comparing, be patient, and know I’m worth more than what I set out to be. Thank you!
I've been quite depressive this month's and have been feeling uncomfortable with people since like February or something because of some reasons somehow but now I'm trying on going back to my daily healthy routine to at least calm my mind and help me to be healthy. Thanks for this I'm sure this is helping a lot especially for self conscious people
I feel a little bit better about myself and that's how everyone should feel. Like Thor, I am worthy lol
GonpaCHEETO
@@manufacturedpie4118 what about my name?
@@gonpacheetokombucha3805 oh it’s just funny how Cheeto was included
@@manufacturedpie4118 just made it up from Gonpachiro to be a lil funnier ig
@@gonpacheetokombucha3805 it is funnier, now imagine how funny it would sound if inosuke said that-
"You deserve it." and "You're worth it."
(Citation needed)
Having kids when you don't want them will affect those kids too. Don't let anyone pressure you about planning to be a parent. It's not for everyone
Me:I'm feeling like a psycho!
Psych2go: ...
True
you got me feeling like a psycho, psycho- jk 😌💅
@@user-oo5xn8uh6c yoo even I was thinking the same thing lol
You got me feeling like a psycho,psycho
- Red Velvet
Hi! :)
Since my mom is a little sad I’m going to show her this :D
"you deserve it and you're worth it"
I became emotional to this line.
I'm having mental problem right now and others really find it overreacted or something.
I don't have no one to talk to cause I'm afraid i might get judged and i value what others think of me over my self pride and self confidence.
Don't. At times it feels OK but don't.its good to have someone to talk to
I've been rewatching this every couple weeks lately & each time it becomes a easier to accept.
Thank you
These animations are one of the most adorable things I've ever seen.
Edit: I mean, look at 5:46, that's amazing.
This video should be watched every day to remind us, that we are really worth and unique.
I struggle with nothing concerning my self worth. I am worthless. I know this. I do not struggle to understand it. I am worthless to others, as well. Thus, I do not even approach others for the reasons of amicable or amorous reasons. However, there is no need to be of value to anybody, nor ourselves It does not provide any needed living perimeter to be of value to anybody else. One can live completely alone, very successfully. I am living proof of this. As long as I can continue to work to support myself, I do not have to value myself.
I don't feel like I have worth. I don't think my existence has any value. I just take up space and resources.
this is the most animated video this channel has ever made. bry gavino, well done!
The first one actually made me start crying. Those are just the words I needed to hear. Thank you Psych2Go. This video made me feel a lot better ❤️
@@Psych2go aww thank you! 🥺
Your videos always bring me a smile and the warm fuzzies. I struggle with a few of these very things all the time...in fact the only one I did not struggle with was schooling. I definitely need to practice more in the ways of self love and positivity...sometimes the world around me and their expectations just smother me. I often feel like Charmander who has to protect the flame on its tail or they perish.
I'm not struggling, I know I have no worth.
It's just easier to accept it at this point.
1:48 *I am a huge fan of the eyes on the characters in this video!!* *Please Bring it back in the future* I would love to see it again!💖💕✨👌🏻
0:13 that "uhh" that followed "loving yourself" is a perfect demonstration that it is a journey, a tiring one.. but we got this y'all 🧡
The part about "childhood" and "how other people see you + treat you" are the hardest ones to overcome...
I've been really struggling with self-worth over the past two days and I really needed to hear this. Thank you for this video and please keep up the great work, Psych2Go!
Why can't we just be ourselves and be enough?
Why do people have to say what we have and have "achieved"?
That's a good question.
Thats what we called 'reality world' bestie
@@luvxs_ :(
everyone was told .. they had to be someone.
so they grow up...
and tell their kids the same.
what we DO doesn't earn us love.
but we are taught that from parents and school.
that we have to earn love.
we do have to earn trust..
and love is kind of part of that.
but working to be something..
it's not real.
we are who we were born as.
to deny that, is to ignore our genetics and reality.
personality is us.
our actions are important.
what happened to us.. shouldn't keep us trapped. but we have to accept it and move on.
thinking about it more makes us worse.
focus on good. each time you remember bad.
@@VengefulPolititron
yeah. We even have to impress people with our "achievements"
People tell us what should be desirable to be loved and seen, and heard
They set us on expectations that hardly anyone can meet. And blame us for not reaching it. Telling us that we did not do it all. Because of that, they shame us
Once we are ashamed of ourselves, they again they blame us for what we feel. And it's "unnatural" and "immature".
This is a place that showing the true you is something shameful
This is a place where creativity is killed
This is a place where lively minds is caged
It's funny that Psych2go unexpectedly makes a video that we can all highly relate to.
Basing your self worth upon your achievements is a big one for me. It's incredibly difficult especially in this day and age to not compare yourself to others and by continuing doing so harm your self love or esteem.
i get a fuller feeling of happiness from these videos because it is re-affirming, validating, and helps me reflect, all while being actually educational
I hope whoever is reading this has a great day and just know things will get better much love to all of you ❤️
4:57 i used to be judged for not having a girlfriend when i was at 8th grade and it was all so screwed because they wouldn't shut up about it, they still did that sometimes on 9th grade and since i already was depressed i felt really bad when my crush got a boyfriend and it sucked not to be able to have a partner to show what i was capable of
then on 10th grade (which is 2020) i found *the one* the girl who i love and still has a relationship with her, she's an amazing partner more compatible with me than what i would expect, but guess how none of the people who used to tease (or who knows if even bully) me was present to see me having a real functional relationship when i was 15 years old... that sucked so much but after some time i didn't care about it because i understood it's not them who has to value it, but instead what matters is only what i think about it lol
Oh, I remember telling you "you're worthy" a while ago. I still think you do. And thank you for giving it back. You rock.
thank you so much for this video. Still in the process of healing and accepting what I am and I really needed this. ❤
I genuinely want thank you for making this, not only because you deserve a LOT of appreciation, but also because this eight minute video has somewhat helped me even more on my journey of loving myself. Hearing this from a person I don't know and saying positive words about some of my deepest insecurities without me even having to speak? Is really, really nice.
Thank you :)
Honestly I’ve been feeling really down on myself lately, so I’m glad you addressed this. Watching your videos always helps me get out of a tight spot 🥰
Thank you so much for these videos. You guys have helped me through college and some of the hardest times in my life.
8:01 the animation of psi dancing is really freakin adorable!
As someone who struggled with depression and self-harm, this video made my day! Thanks as always Psych2go!