Story 1: I do actually feel extremely bad for GF. I can't imagine what type of torment she had to go through growing up with that family. I hope she gets the help she needs, and I'm proud of OP for standing up for himself Story 2: If I were OP, I would actually message the friend to find out if something had happened and ask to talk about it. Though if OP is the one always initiating contact, that could also be a sign of sorts
The thing is with story 1 is that no one forced the girlfriend to get into a relationship. If she is not ready to give respect, empathy, and consideration to someone who is dedicating much time and energy trying to make things work, she should not be in a relationship
My stepmom does the same to me and comments on what I eat and it’s really hurtful. I already struggle enough with weight and I can’t help that due to my ADHD meds, my appetite is messed up. Just wish people wouldn’t comment on things like that in general and just let people eat what they want
Comment on what she eats, or look her up & down and say something like," Thank you for your input, but I don’t think I should take advice from you." Edit: missing word
you’re a human. every human needs to eat multiple times a day to stay healthy, never let anyoneeeee bring you down, even if they’re family or a “close friend”. commenting on weight should only ever come from a place of genuine concern for someone’s health, never to poke fun at someone. and remember, no secure person comments on someone else’s appearance
for the first story, sounds like his gf has an almond mom. reminds me so much of my ex’s family. i remember the first guy i ever dated (let’s call him shawn) had a family similar to the girl in that story. shawn hadn’t been to a mall for 10 years prior to 2021. and when shawn and i went on our first date, he didn’t even know how to pay for food with a credit card! he looked so confused until i told him how to insert a card into a chip reader, i guess his parents really don’t let him eat anything! it’s sad! i also remember the day i met shawn’s family, i had this special deer sausage or whatever and gave it to them but they didn’t want it for some reason and i remember being so confused because who wouldn’t want free food?! turns out that shawn’s family bodyshames him every time he eats. one day he randomly told me that his dad was diet shaming him and then said “i just want some food. i’m hungry.” and that tells me enough about how awful his family really is. and what’s sad is a year later i stumbled across his UA-cam channel and I saw his UA-cam playlist and his workout playlist had over 100 videos in it. I also noticed he got a lot skinnier:( good news is that he’s in college now, one FOUR HOURS away from his home. so maybe he’ll finally be able to eat what he wants! :)
In Indian family it doesn't matters how much you eat, they will always say you don't eat anything, take some more 😂😂 family, reletives, friends mom everyone
1st story: i would have told the gf's family "that every time they comment about food in my presence then i'm going to being giving referral numbers to therapist for how freaking unhinged and overly conscience they are about food because as someone that loves the gf, i am concerned about hidden eating disorders her family may have that can affect their time in our lives with us. " like to be so obsessed over another's food is mentally unhealthy behavior and goes pass being just the excuse to bully and be rude. 2nd: i'd send a group chat message and explain to their group of "cousins" that have been such long term/close-knit friends, that Op's going full no-contact with them for a while as this action has hurt them deeply for having to miss this event in a dear friends life and they don't wish to ruin things further or cause drama but aren't going to pretend things are okay when no one spoke up about any issues or drama that would have cause OP to be cut out of the shared happiness on their friends special day. then let the bride and groom deal with the fallout of the consequences of their actions as Op parents were clearly flustered that their child was excluded so whom of the rest of the groups knows that the bride exiled a member of their party on such an important day, cause yes wedding decisions are only about the groom and bride opinions, it their wedding their day, but how you treat the people you love or that loves you on such a life-changing day tells alot about your character and how you'll treat others in the future.
Story 1: My own family makes fun of my eating habits, saying stuff like "you need to get some meat on those bones" "you need to gain weight" bal blah blah, it got to a point where I developed insecurities about my body. If I were in the boyfriend's shoes, I'd leave, he has the patience of a saint. Story 2: I personally would want to know why I wasn't invited to an event but my parents were. I'm the type of person to want to know if I offended you so I can work to fix it. Something happened that OP doesn't know and she doesn't want her to find out.
First story "why is the GF crying?" Because during those 10 minutes her dear mother, sister and aunt probably threw a tantrum and/or blamed her for ruining the party. It's what happens when the punching bag leaves.
OP's girlfriend's crazy family probably wouldn't approve of the salads I like. Given the opportunity, I like loading mine up with chicken, cheese, bacon, ham, turkey, etc. Can't forget about the dressing, either. Seriously, though, he should think about breaking up with her. You don't want to date someone who's totally spineless. Also, if he's thinking about marriage, he would NOT want those kinds of people as in-laws.
They probably abused her her whole life hense why she is so scared of them. I feel bad for the gf. I had family members like this and sent them my yearly blood work. I said when yours is as good as mine or better than you can judge for now shut up!!!!! They haven't bothered me since and even ask me for food advice now.
@@valeriebrathwaite8541That’s no excuse. People shouldn’t get into relationships if they can’t give back the respect, empathy, and consideration that they receive
@joelroman6839 I agree, but I have a friend who was killed for standing up to her family for her fiance. In a dangerous situation like that it's lose-lose situation. She shouldn't be in a relationship, but she shouldn't be blamed either. The bf should either get her the help she needs, or find someone else who can be an equal. I just feel bad for the girl being in an abusive family like that. If it were me I'd move and cut off all ties with the family.
Story 2: whenever anyone asks why OP wasn’t at the wedding, she simply says, “Because I wasn’t invited.” If anyone asks why not, she says, “I have no idea.”
First story: this is going to be his life if he continues in this relationship. Just something he needs to think about. Second story: sounds like Brandi is her parents' friend and not hers. She needs to realize this.
10:04 I feel like I need to clip this and I've got a list of people who need to hear that! In an adult enviroment one woman (40s) never liked me (20s) and made it perfectly clear. The problem came when the other woman involved (also 40s) got involved. They've known eachother a few years, I think their children met about 5 years ago so assume thats when they met. I’ve known the second woman for over 15 years. So why is it I hear from the boss that they have such a problem with me I'm being thrown out of that section (which I'd been in longer than both of them) and not from either of them! They’ve been ignoring me since so I've copied that (after sending a message saying how much they hurt me but now they're using that to play victim)! I was bullied for 10 years at school and got told "Kids will be kids" so I clearly naively believed the adult world would be different!
For the first story the family are the assholes here. As for the gf i feel like she might've been abused a bit by that family, being talked down due to her weight and probably went through the same shit op did but her whole life so she prob decided to let her family be complete trashbags to ppl for their completely normal eating habits and to her bc she had enough. Doesn't excuse agreeing with them and participating a bit with them at all. She could have told them that even op's doctor found his body's condition perfectly healthy, and yet she still let them do so instead of defending him. Her maybe having trauma around eating from her family is okay and it explains a bit why she didn't do anything since she didn't want to go thru what she prob did before she got a partner, but it doesn't excuse doing the same thing as her family to her own partner when the family is present and not defending him. Hoping that op and her can get away from these people The family doesn't let him eat the nutrients his body NEEDS when they probably barely even work out themselves 💀 they don't know sht abt health and that can be seen from kilometers. If he does MILES of biking a burger is honestly one of the best things he can eat. Bread, tomatoes and leaves of salad, and the fats from the cheese and proteins in the meat of the burger. A simple salad wouldn't give him the proteins needed after so much work out. That's just stupid. If you're gonna do miles of biking or running/walking and all you eat after is a SALAD you shouldn't be surprised if you're still hungry as heck and exhausted later lmao
That's sad. I feel very bad for OP, being publicly ostracized by a so-called lifelong friend. Sounds more like the friend is some kind of sociopath, and feels the need to act like a 'cuckoo' and oust OP from any feeling of belonging to their community. Jealousy. As soon as someone makes a move on one's parents, that's a real issue. Let alone all the other "cousins". As far as I'd be concerned, the friendship just died. No going back from such a "cut direct". And if the parents attend the wedding anyway...yep, serious issues.
Story1: they are soooo weird like my mom is literally the type to give more foid to the guest like if you're visiting her house be prepared to gain weight💀
Omg hi Kyutie! It's honestly been a minute since ive watched your videos. I remember being 8-ish and being so happy when youd upload. Years later, I found you again. I love how your videos haven't changed they just feel so nostalgic especially your 2 sentence horror stories
I get the impression that they wanted him to bring half the burger home so they can tuck into it when he isn't there. I used to belong to a food co-op when I was younger and there was a severe vegan member who was actually Less healthy than those of us who weren't. Her hair was so dry, she had a grey line on her gums just above her teeth, she even made her own almond milk. Her children looked malnourished. You can take things too far.
The girlfriend should have never gone into a relationship if she is not prepared to give back the same respect, empathy, and consideration that she receives.
He should tell his girlfriend theres three options: 1: They break up 2: She goes no contact with her family 3: He doesn’t see her family anymore If she's upset with optiom 3 remind her those are the other options. I'd recommend 2 as they're clearly toxic!
For the second story I would say， the friend really should confront this young women about this and ask why she isnt invited！！ For the first story》 The Bf just did the right thing。 I would have handled it the same way。 🎵🎶
No wonder there's so much food-shaming going on; these people are STARVING!!! SERIOUSLY, a SALAD for dinner? If I ate like that for three days in a row, someone might DIE! I am a carnivore and proud of it!
No she's not. She is severely abused and has been beaten down to this point of never going against them. I know girls like this who their parents killed them because they tried to stand up for themselves. Unless you're in a family like that or know someone who is you can't possibly understand. She needs serious help to get over the trauma and learn to have a voice. It's a dangerous situation to be in. Bf needs to understand that and get her the help she needs.
I don't think she's too weak I think she's severely abused. But for a therapist definitely. They probably beat her as a child and verbally abused her and scarred her for life!
I'm pretty sure you're misreading the gf here. I would take it more as she's crying out of guilt of not being able to find a way to fix the situation that doesn't cause conflict. Then she's probably being quiet because she feels guilty about not having done more to protect him. I'm just saying this because I can see this as being my reaction to a situation like this.
Story 1- he needs to break up with her ASAP it is the bare minimum to have your partners back no matter who you are facing- if she cannot support him when he’s being bullied and is clearly not in the wrong then she doesn’t truly love him. He deserves better. And even if he didn’t work out as much as he does it is none of the gf’s family’s business what he chooses to eat. They need to mind their own business and stop being rude
How are you doing sweetie? How are you feeling? I hope just great!! In the very first story, if they don't have anything nice to say then they shouldn't say anything at all. Her family is basically trying to force her boyfriend to become vegan which is not right at all. The boyfriend is in perfect health, and that's from the mouth of his doctor. Be straight with your girlfriend and tell her directly either your family back off and stop judging my eating habits {which are perfectly fine} or that's it I can't be with you anymore. I understand that that's your family, but I'm your man and you never stand up to them and defend me. I would break up with her because the relationship is completely one sided here. WTF you mean she started crying and for what? You got a right to be furious at her because in that restaurant while everyone was looking down on you, your girlfriend sat right there was completely silent the whole entire time so she doesn't get to play the victim here at all. She's a grown woman with a life of her own. I am glad that you stood up for yourself, and you have absolutely nothing at all to apologize for because they were trying to b*lly you. Protect your own feelings and don't ever let anybody try to change you. In the second story, maybe she thought you couldn't make it because she doesn't know what's going on in your life anymore since ya'll living so far away from each other. How could she be mad you when she invited your parents to her wedding? I say just talk it out with her!! I love you my friend!! Have a great day!! Stay safe!!
We don't know what they did or said to her when he left, so that's why she cried. They clearly are abusive and abused her her whole life. I do not blame her at all she needs help though to get away from them for good. I would get her a therapist or someone to help her before it's too late.
Relatives/ in laws being rude always pisses me off. And then the person you trust to help isn’t there for you 🫠 No thanks, I wouldn’t be able to deal with that
Story 1: I do actually feel extremely bad for GF. I can't imagine what type of torment she had to go through growing up with that family. I hope she gets the help she needs, and I'm proud of OP for standing up for himself
Story 2: If I were OP, I would actually message the friend to find out if something had happened and ask to talk about it. Though if OP is the one always initiating contact, that could also be a sign of sorts
The thing is with story 1 is that no one forced the girlfriend to get into a relationship. If she is not ready to give respect, empathy, and consideration to someone who is dedicating much time and energy trying to make things work, she should not be in a relationship
My stepmom does the same to me and comments on what I eat and it’s really hurtful. I already struggle enough with weight and I can’t help that due to my ADHD meds, my appetite is messed up. Just wish people wouldn’t comment on things like that in general and just let people eat what they want
Comment on what she eats, or look her up & down and say something like," Thank you for your input, but I don’t think I should take advice from you."
Edit: missing word
you’re a human. every human needs to eat multiple times a day to stay healthy, never let anyoneeeee bring you down, even if they’re family or a “close friend”. commenting on weight should only ever come from a place of genuine concern for someone’s health, never to poke fun at someone. and remember, no secure person comments on someone else’s appearance
A good healthy serving of eating disorders....
for the first story, sounds like his gf has an almond mom. reminds me so much of my ex’s family.
i remember the first guy i ever dated (let’s call him shawn) had a family similar to the girl in that story.
shawn hadn’t been to a mall for 10 years prior to 2021. and when shawn and i went on our first date, he didn’t even know how to pay for food with a credit card! he looked so confused until i told him how to insert a card into a chip reader, i guess his parents really don’t let him eat anything! it’s sad!
i also remember the day i met shawn’s family, i had this special deer sausage or whatever and gave it to them but they didn’t want it for some reason and i remember being so confused because who wouldn’t want free food?!
turns out that shawn’s family bodyshames him every time he eats. one day he randomly told me that his dad was diet shaming him and then said “i just want some food. i’m hungry.” and that tells me enough about how awful his family really is.
and what’s sad is a year later i stumbled across his UA-cam channel and I saw his UA-cam playlist and his workout playlist had over 100 videos in it. I also noticed he got a lot skinnier:(
good news is that he’s in college now, one FOUR HOURS away from his home. so maybe he’ll finally be able to eat what he wants! :)
In Indian family it doesn't matters how much you eat, they will always say you don't eat anything, take some more 😂😂 family, reletives, friends mom everyone
1st story: i would have told the gf's family "that every time they comment about food in my presence then i'm going to being giving referral numbers to therapist for how freaking unhinged and overly conscience they are about food because as someone that loves the gf, i am concerned about hidden eating disorders her family may have that can affect their time in our lives with us. " like to be so obsessed over another's food is mentally unhealthy behavior and goes pass being just the excuse to bully and be rude.
2nd: i'd send a group chat message and explain to their group of "cousins" that have been such long term/close-knit friends, that Op's going full no-contact with them for a while as this action has hurt them deeply for having to miss this event in a dear friends life and they don't wish to ruin things further or cause drama but aren't going to pretend things are okay when no one spoke up about any issues or drama that would have cause OP to be cut out of the shared happiness on their friends special day.
then let the bride and groom deal with the fallout of the consequences of their actions as Op parents were clearly flustered that their child was excluded so whom of the rest of the groups knows that the bride exiled a member of their party on such an important day, cause yes wedding decisions are only about the groom and bride opinions, it their wedding their day, but how you treat the people you love or that loves you on such a life-changing day tells alot about your character and how you'll treat others in the future.
That’s real fucked up, how would they like it if people kept commenting on how they live their life?
Story 1: My own family makes fun of my eating habits, saying stuff like "you need to get some meat on those bones" "you need to gain weight" bal blah blah, it got to a point where I developed insecurities about my body. If I were in the boyfriend's shoes, I'd leave, he has the patience of a saint.
Story 2: I personally would want to know why I wasn't invited to an event but my parents were. I'm the type of person to want to know if I offended you so I can work to fix it. Something happened that OP doesn't know and she doesn't want her to find out.
First story "why is the GF crying?" Because during those 10 minutes her dear mother, sister and aunt probably threw a tantrum and/or blamed her for ruining the party. It's what happens when the punching bag leaves.
OP's girlfriend's crazy family probably wouldn't approve of the salads I like. Given the opportunity, I like loading mine up with chicken, cheese, bacon, ham, turkey, etc. Can't forget about the dressing, either.
Seriously, though, he should think about breaking up with her. You don't want to date someone who's totally spineless. Also, if he's thinking about marriage, he would NOT want those kinds of people as in-laws.
They probably abused her her whole life hense why she is so scared of them. I feel bad for the gf. I had family members like this and sent them my yearly blood work. I said when yours is as good as mine or better than you can judge for now shut up!!!!! They haven't bothered me since and even ask me for food advice now.
@@valeriebrathwaite8541That’s no excuse. People shouldn’t get into relationships if they can’t give back the respect, empathy, and consideration that they receive
@@valeriebrathwaite8541 fr. I would have demanded they do a health checkup to see who's the healthiest.
@joelroman6839 I agree, but I have a friend who was killed for standing up to her family for her fiance. In a dangerous situation like that it's lose-lose situation. She shouldn't be in a relationship, but she shouldn't be blamed either. The bf should either get her the help she needs, or find someone else who can be an equal. I just feel bad for the girl being in an abusive family like that. If it were me I'd move and cut off all ties with the family.
Story 2: whenever anyone asks why OP wasn’t at the wedding, she simply says, “Because I wasn’t invited.” If anyone asks why not, she says, “I have no idea.”
First story: this is going to be his life if he continues in this relationship. Just something he needs to think about. Second story: sounds like Brandi is her parents' friend and not hers. She needs to realize this.
10:04 I feel like I need to clip this and I've got a list of people who need to hear that! In an adult enviroment one woman (40s) never liked me (20s) and made it perfectly clear. The problem came when the other woman involved (also 40s) got involved. They've known eachother a few years, I think their children met about 5 years ago so assume thats when they met. I’ve known the second woman for over 15 years. So why is it I hear from the boss that they have such a problem with me I'm being thrown out of that section (which I'd been in longer than both of them) and not from either of them! They’ve been ignoring me since so I've copied that (after sending a message saying how much they hurt me but now they're using that to play victim)! I was bullied for 10 years at school and got told "Kids will be kids" so I clearly naively believed the adult world would be different!
For the first story the family are the assholes here. As for the gf i feel like she might've been abused a bit by that family, being talked down due to her weight and probably went through the same shit op did but her whole life so she prob decided to let her family be complete trashbags to ppl for their completely normal eating habits and to her bc she had enough. Doesn't excuse agreeing with them and participating a bit with them at all. She could have told them that even op's doctor found his body's condition perfectly healthy, and yet she still let them do so instead of defending him.
Her maybe having trauma around eating from her family is okay and it explains a bit why she didn't do anything since she didn't want to go thru what she prob did before she got a partner, but it doesn't excuse doing the same thing as her family to her own partner when the family is present and not defending him. Hoping that op and her can get away from these people
The family doesn't let him eat the nutrients his body NEEDS when they probably barely even work out themselves 💀 they don't know sht abt health and that can be seen from kilometers.
If he does MILES of biking a burger is honestly one of the best things he can eat. Bread, tomatoes and leaves of salad, and the fats from the cheese and proteins in the meat of the burger. A simple salad wouldn't give him the proteins needed after so much work out. That's just stupid. If you're gonna do miles of biking or running/walking and all you eat after is a SALAD you shouldn't be surprised if you're still hungry as heck and exhausted later lmao
7:34 only eating salads is not good for you
If anyone asks why you were not at the wedding you just say 'I was not invited' and leave it at that.
That's sad. I feel very bad for OP, being publicly ostracized by a so-called lifelong friend. Sounds more like the friend is some kind of sociopath, and feels the need to act like a 'cuckoo' and oust OP from any feeling of belonging to their community. Jealousy. As soon as someone makes a move on one's parents, that's a real issue. Let alone all the other "cousins". As far as I'd be concerned, the friendship just died. No going back from such a "cut direct". And if the parents attend the wedding anyway...yep, serious issues.
The guy in story one needs to break up with his girlfriend because this is will how it would be forever. His girlfriend will always be a doormat
Story1: they are soooo weird like my mom is literally the type to give more foid to the guest like if you're visiting her house be prepared to gain weight💀
Omg hi Kyutie! It's honestly been a minute since ive watched your videos. I remember being 8-ish and being so happy when youd upload. Years later, I found you again. I love how your videos haven't changed they just feel so nostalgic especially your 2 sentence horror stories
I get the impression that they wanted him to bring half the burger home so they can tuck into it when he isn't there. I used to belong to a food co-op when I was younger and there was a severe vegan member who was actually Less healthy than those of us who weren't. Her hair was so dry, she had a grey line on her gums just above her teeth, she even made her own almond milk. Her children looked malnourished. You can take things too far.
I feel like the girlfriend not sticking up for her boyfriend is a red flag, maybe, her family gaslight and abuse her.
The girlfriend should have never gone into a relationship if she is not prepared to give back the same respect, empathy, and consideration that she receives.
@@joelroman6839 While this is true, I feel like she needs SOMEONE who doesn't bully her.
@@crystalgemgirl731 who is bullying HER?
@@Outriley Her family. It's most likely that's why she wouldn't stand up to them, because she's afraid of them. This is just speculation, of course.
Then she needs to go no contact
Girlfriend is abused by her family
He should tell his girlfriend theres three options:
1: They break up
2: She goes no contact with her family
3: He doesn’t see her family anymore
If she's upset with optiom 3 remind her those are the other options. I'd recommend 2 as they're clearly toxic!
For the second story I would say， the friend really should confront this young women about this and ask why she isnt invited！！
For the first story》 The Bf just did the right thing。 I would have handled it the same way。
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No wonder there's so much food-shaming going on; these people are STARVING!!! SERIOUSLY, a SALAD for dinner? If I ate like that for three days in a row, someone might DIE! I am a carnivore and proud of it!
If guest eat much it is a compliment
Gf is a doormat. Op run
No she's not. She is severely abused and has been beaten down to this point of never going against them. I know girls like this who their parents killed them because they tried to stand up for themselves. Unless you're in a family like that or know someone who is you can't possibly understand. She needs serious help to get over the trauma and learn to have a voice. It's a dangerous situation to be in. Bf needs to understand that and get her the help she needs.
Story 1 He needs to drop her. She's too weak to be in a relationship. She also needs a therapist.
I don't think she's too weak I think she's severely abused. But for a therapist definitely. They probably beat her as a child and verbally abused her and scarred her for life!
I'm pretty sure you're misreading the gf here. I would take it more as she's crying out of guilt of not being able to find a way to fix the situation that doesn't cause conflict. Then she's probably being quiet because she feels guilty about not having done more to protect him. I'm just saying this because I can see this as being my reaction to a situation like this.
Story 1- he needs to break up with her ASAP it is the bare minimum to have your partners back no matter who you are facing- if she cannot support him when he’s being bullied and is clearly not in the wrong then she doesn’t truly love him. He deserves better. And even if he didn’t work out as much as he does it is none of the gf’s family’s business what he chooses to eat. They need to mind their own business and stop being rude
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How are you doing sweetie? How are you feeling? I hope just great!! In the very first story, if they don't have anything nice to say then they shouldn't say anything at all. Her family is basically trying to force her boyfriend to become vegan which is not right at all. The boyfriend is in perfect health, and that's from the mouth of his doctor. Be straight with your girlfriend and tell her directly either your family back off and stop judging my eating habits {which are perfectly fine} or that's it I can't be with you anymore. I understand that that's your family, but I'm your man and you never stand up to them and defend me. I would break up with her because the relationship is completely one sided here. WTF you mean she started crying and for what? You got a right to be furious at her because in that restaurant while everyone was looking down on you, your girlfriend sat right there was completely silent the whole entire time so she doesn't get to play the victim here at all. She's a grown woman with a life of her own. I am glad that you stood up for yourself, and you have absolutely nothing at all to apologize for because they were trying to b*lly you. Protect your own feelings and don't ever let anybody try to change you. In the second story, maybe she thought you couldn't make it because she doesn't know what's going on in your life anymore since ya'll living so far away from each other. How could she be mad you when she invited your parents to her wedding? I say just talk it out with her!! I love you my friend!! Have a great day!! Stay safe!!
We don't know what they did or said to her when he left, so that's why she cried. They clearly are abusive and abused her her whole life. I do not blame her at all she needs help though to get away from them for good. I would get her a therapist or someone to help her before it's too late.
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Relatives/ in laws being rude always pisses me off. And then the person you trust to help isn’t there for you 🫠 No thanks, I wouldn’t be able to deal with that