First story is the definition of a "shut up ring" and she needs to break it off if marriage is the goal for her dating people. 8 years and all you get is passive aggression? Red flags, you'll see them better without the rose colored glasses. Key words that are red flags "anytime (meaning Everytime, happening often) we disagree.... Feeling unwanted by him... He says he can't change the past...."
If it upsets her so much, she shouldn't even have considered marrying him. It is an emotional thing, and if her emotions about the proposal are negative, her marriage will NEVER be happy. Don't settle; get what you want. If it is a grand gesture you need, then don't just settle for, "This should make you happy." Makes it sound like HE doesn't even want to get married.
Yes, he just threw it at her and said this should make you happy. Proposals don't need to be Grand, they need to be heartfelt, but ops bf only gave her heartbreak.
almost exactly what I said, him throwing the ring box at her shows how he feels about her, I wouldn't want to marry someone who throws a ring box at me as a proposal
In that last story, i REALLY hope she reported her husband and the other workers that were involved too. They met the girl went she was 15, 15 YEARS OLD. They've known her for five years, and he started preying on her the MOMENT she turned 20 because she was now "a mature and a woman". The fact her husband kept saying "shes so mature for her age" and then started talking about how she looks, that literal predator talk, man. Pedos and creepy men in general who focus on young children or younger people in general, will fantasize about their looks and go on and on about how "mature" they are to justify thay they're "old enough for him". The fact he stalked her via the internet and has every app she owns and has an account with screenshoted, is so he can track her. The fact he has gotten shots in place high or low enough he can see her privates is horrible. And the fact hes PHOTOSHOPPED her WITH his own photos and other coworkers is disgusting! I bet he sells those photos to his coworkers and feeds their own sick pleasures. She should absolutely report him, get him and all those men fired and crime time before they do something bad. That girl is their mind target and if she doesn't put a stop now, that girl could very much end up being stalked home or outside, alone at work, given how she says her husabnd on purpose, stays later at work to be with her. She needs to report him or that poor girl will become a victim of sexual assault or worse, r*ped.
This right here. I was surprised that in the last story, OP's first thought was to leave and not to help that girl who is being stalked. And that even in the update, OP mentioned getting a divorce and her husband begging her not to, but never mentioning anything about telling the girl. That girl is a victim too and deserves to know what husband has been doing and deserves to be able to protect herself by firing him and putting in a restraining order.
@@melafaireFr it op's relationship is broken but for the girl her privacy is being invaded and she is potentially in danger from those men. And op cares about herself. She should've told the girl given her evidence so they could deal with those employees who are preying on her.
@@sparkyblue7016ikr?! And OP didn't mention it, but with over 1k+ photos, what if some of those were still from when she was a minor?! Then that would be a full blown CP case, but NO, only OP's relationship status matters I guess 🙄
I feel so bad for OP in the second story. Her supposed husband is nothing but a dirty, child-loving predator. I hope she ditches his butt and takes him for everything.
Same, but I also hope she reports this creep to the police. He could actually be possibly arrested for that. I also hope she does something to help the girl, even if she doesn't update us about it.
*For the 1st story, he was already a red flag for ignoring OP's feelings towards a proposal. It wasn't even about the proposal, it was the thought of them having a romantic memory together but he ruined it on purpose and didn't apologized when he knew was wrong. He is the AH.* *And, for the 2nd story, why tf is the husband like that? I have saw so many creepy men posts but that man is just horrible and disgusting beyond anything. The OP should report him, so, he can get fired and put behind bars along with the other co workers involved and made sure the girl is safe cause she's a victim too.*
Second story: I’d speak to the girl about getting a restraining order against the soon-to-be exhusband. Talk to the cops because the man is stalking her and taking (well, attempting to take) lewd pictures of her. He should be fired and possibly arrested.
First story is an example of the "shut up ring". Basically it means when he only proposes because he knows she wants it so bad and is tired of hearing about it so he proposed so she can stop bothering him or w.e. A man doesn't have to wait many years to know if he wants to marry you or not. He doesn't want to marry her. She shouldn't settle for that. You deserve to be happy with someone who also feels the same way about you. She isn't asking too much. She asking the wrong one.
I didn't get a "down on one knee" proposal or a ring at the time I got engaged, but it was still romantic. My now husband was in the military and got home for a weekend and just popped the question while cuddling. We were only 19 so we kept it a secret for a while, but we eventually told our parents a couple of months later. When he got out from the military we went to the shore of the island where we first met, and there I eventually "officially" got my ring. We got together at 16 and both turn 30 this year.
Kyutie’s reaction to the first story was so spot on. I would be so mad, too. I would never be able to look past that. I would be like, “Okay, bye bye!” And chuck the ring box back at him. I hope that girl runs for the hills and finds someone better. That poor girl.😩
these ladies gotta drop those man now! literally disgusting for both, how are you going to treat your partner that way and think its okay? Also creeping on a younger person and taking picture without their consent, she gotta confront him and if he doesn't change she need to file a divorce and get him karma!
0:05: Sounds like he's starting to show his true colors. OP probably should move on from him. 5:33: At some point, she was gonna have to confront him about this, and now that she has, she's right to want to seek a divorce from this creep. Really, no one should attempt to seek a relationship with a coworker, especially one that young. Total lack of professionalism (and that's not even the half of it). You can just about bet your bottom dollar he was trying to get with her.
#1 I can relate. My ring was in a crackerjack box. He thought it was a great joke. I remember feeling red flags, but I was young and naive, so I went along, but it was a sign that I was not cherished. I really never got over it. I just suppressed how I felt. #2 that girl is in extreme danger. The OP’s husband is a predator and he will end up assaulting her.
For the first story I’d probably reject the proposal, but say I still want to get married in the future. I’d make sure to explain I’d absolutely love to marry him, but share my disappointment with the proposal. If he truly is the man she claims he is, he should hopefully get the hint and retry later, but with some pizzaz to it. Unfortunately, they’re already engaged, so this plan won’t help in any way. Just wanted to share my thoughts. :)
First story: I would say “oh wow, thank you for the gift! Is it for our anniversary? Or my birthday? Thank you so much, it’s so cute.” And watch him squirm! So aggravating.
Honestly, the second story? Disgusting isn't even the right word. If there was a better word for it then it may work. Seriously. In my opinion, no one over the age of 30 should be dating anyone under the age of 21, much less having a s*x**l obsession or worse. This is beyond unprofessional and beyond creepy and disgusting. This is probably one of the girl's first work experiences and i wouldnt want my family member or friend getting their privacy invaded or getting hurt because of something like this. I hope he gets investigated and fired
In that last story she should tell that girl what he's been doing. She should know he's a creep. And op in that story should just divorce him, not worth it in anyway.
I would have taken the laptop and shown the boss and his daughter. That right there should get him fired. It’s also weird she’d been in hanging around since she was 15 so it just makes it predatory. Yuk
I'd like more context on the 1st proposal. If this is one of the only red flags, I'd hand him back the ring and say he needs to do a better job of proposing. Be prepared for him to walk, and if so, he wasn't ready or wasn't the right guy. If he really is the right guy, he will work hard to make it right or risk losing you.
That first one is a classic shut up ring/proposal. After 8 years it's time to shit or get off the pot so guys know this. He really resents having to propose or lose out on all she does for him.
if i was the wife in the last story, I would have done the kdrama thing of getting on his work account and posting all of the pics on the office work forum or something under his name. and left.
I am just saying it should be a thoughtful, heartfelt thing. There should be a thousand yellow daisies, or SOMETHING. It shouldn't be an off the cuff remark, something he says to stop an argument, or to just make her stop crying for a minute. Hearing it again, I STILL don't feel like he WANTS to marry her. I feel like he just wanted her to stop crying. And that is NOT a reason to give a girl a ring. He didn't even ASK her.
1st story...make her sad and then make her happy so that she learns to be happy in whatever little he gives her. That is gaslight behavior right there.
The last story is very serious, it's so bad it goes beyond the 20-year old's age. All of that, that is not OK, even if she was older than the men. Breaks my heart that she's working so hard with the actual work and doing extra stuff for office morale and the coworkers only see her as a sex object. And this is just OP's husband, who knows if he's the one taking the pictures and photoshopping her, if he's not tech savvy it's very probable that other guys are doing the same thing: why else would he have photoshopped pics of her with other guys.
For the last one, as much as i know she was prob shocked about it, she really should have taken the pc straight to the police as evidence instead of thinking about only the divorce and confronting him. The guy was 34 and the daughter was 15 when they first met, plus the pictures were taken and saved without the daughter's consent. It's not just disgusting but also illegal in most countries, she needs to find a way to access the pc again and either show pictures of the folders to the police or simply take the entire device with her and give it to them. Tho she's strong af for staying like 4 days without talking about it to her family or trusted friends, i really could never just not say anything if i had a husband that would be doing that 💀 That mf is straight up disgusting and needs to be in jail right now. But yeah. She needs to not only divorce him and cut ties, but also to find a way to give his device to the authorities before the divorce. He shouldn't be getting away with this, plus the daughter probably feels really unsafe if he's acting that obssessed towards her, letting him be free like that isn't a good idea
Lol! On our second date my now husband sai that he was going to marry me one day. That was it! About 5 months later he sai that we had better get a ring. We married 10 month later and have been married for 38 years. He learned to be much more romantic over the years. One day is not your whole marriage.
First story, I would have given it back to him and told him to give it to me again at a time when he felt like he could actually put his heart and feelings into it.
Tbf that first story the dude probably had something vastly more romantic in store on that final night but she kinda ruined it with the hour of power crying in her kayak destroying any bit of romantic flight of fancy mood. The second story that's not a creep or a weirdo that's a bone fide stalker in the making.
If that were true, he still could have handled it better. I mean, he knew that she was crying because she felt the moment had gotten away from them. Why not drop a hint before the 1 hour mark? Something like “if you’ve liked the trip so far, you’ll definitely like what’s coming up!” could do wonders without necessarily spoiling the surprise.
I been with my husband 21 years married almost 10. Im still salty about his proposal. We had spoken about marriege and even went to pick out a ring and customized it. He put it up and said he would wait for a way t surprise me. Months later we chillen in bed with our daughter. He gets up goes gets it and says you should start wearing it. I felt stupid if i said try again.
I remember my mom once told me that my dad proposed to her without a ring. He just asked while they were out walking "Do you wanna get married?" and then I think they picked out a ring after. It's a sweet and funny story to look back on
For the second story, she should have made the boss's daughter aware of the pictures he had, sent the 'pictures' she took, or something. She's either into it, so it wouldn't matter anyway, or she, too, will be disgusted. At any rate, it is NOT harmless. An obsession like that COULD turn dangerous at any moment; leaving her to get blindsided by it could land her in deep trouble, especially if the wife DOES divorce him. No telling where it would lead if the wife wasn't around for him to worry about.
Those things that hurt you do not go away. The hurt may get buried but then something else is said that hurts....if you have told him he hurt you and he doesn't acknowledge that you are hurt and ask your forgiveness. This character flaw does not go away and all those ugly things he said, that you fight down for years, eventually all come out and he can't fix it. Leaving you broken.
Many people think they should get married but, just being a couple may not be a good reason to get married. We all learn a lot about ourselves and our spouse during a few years of marriage but many couples get married before they understand what they're doing.
I dunno, that first one… Gave me a feeling like she sending him a lot of pressure for the proposal throughout the trip and it killed the mood for him, he was probably feeling nervous too and then resentful that she was pressuring him when he was trying to get up the courage?
I would say what the heck kind of proposal was that? XD It doesn't have to be the most romantic thing in the entire world. But as you mentioned, he didn't even ask, "Will you marry me?" at the very least. They could literally just say, "I love you, will you marry me?" without a giant speech, and I'd be happy. Instead of, "at least this ring will make one of us happy since my pocketbook isn't." That's what, "this will make YOU happy." felt like. I don't even want an expensive ring, I would be more annoyed if they spent too much on the darn thing XD 2nd story: SHE NEEDS TO REPORT HIM!! To the job and to the police. That is sexual harassment, and so incredibly predatory!! Get him fired and wholeheartedly divorce him as soon as humanly possible. Also, save ALL of the evidence to submit it to the police. I would have marched his laptop right to the police station as soon as I found it!
Story 1: it seems like the guy doesn't want to marry her, I don't think he even loves her. If he genuinely loved her, he would apologize and redo the proposal. Personally, if I feel my boyfriend feels this way about me by just throwing a ring box at me, I would leave, I won't allow someone to treat me that way just because they don't love me. Story 2: I feel so bad for the wife and the boss's daughter. Wife's husband is a creep, and the daughter didn't know she was being creeped on. Honestly, I would've told the boss, have him fired, and divorce, Lord knows how long he's felt this way about his boss's daughter, ewww.
First story..... Guy should have waited and talked to her.... Seemed like he was planning on proposing.... Trying to get the nerve...have a nice weekend... And she was so much about the ring he felt like an after thought... Like the ring was more important than spending time with him...... But instead of chucking it, he should have talked to her about it Think of it like this You take your boyfriend on a special weekend and tell him you have a surprise Instead of just enjoying time with you , he just keeps waiting and expecting the surprise Would you feel happy giving him the surprise, if it seemed like it was more important than just spending time with you?
If i got proposed to like that, id thank them for the beautiful ring and put it on a different finger than the ring finger. After all, it wasn't a proposal, it was just being tossed a ring 😇
First story, 🚩🚩🚩 If you seem happy with that proposal he’s not going to change, it sounds like he doesn’t want to get married, walk away with some dignity.
How are you doing my dear sweet friend? How are you feeling? I hope just great!! In the very first story, he is a complete lame for doing something like that that because there were numerous moments throughout the day were he could've popped the question to her but he didn't. She should just end the relationship because it's apparent that he doesn't even want to be married. If she's feeling and talking this way about him, then why did she even accept his proposal? In the second story, what in the world is wrong with the husband? He is very creepy then considering the fact that he's basically known her every since she was just 15 years of age along with his wife. I just feel so bad for the wife. She should've kicked him out of her house right then and there because he's a low life. Your husband is a straight up p*rvert and p*do too. I love you!! Have a great day!! Stay safe!!
So I feel like the first one is on her, like maybe he had an idea of how he wanted to propose but he didn’t get to do it because of how she was acting. Like he was going to do it at sunrise on the morning you left but her acting down might have dragged him down too to where he no longer cared. Also who says she’d be happy with a new proposal? She could be upset with that one too. I honestly would be slightly disappointed but I also wouldn’t have been so upset if he didn’t do it then, if he was going to propose I’d hopefully know that he would but not when so I’d just let it happen whenever. For the second one I think it goes without saying that it’s not a good relationship and needs to be nipped in the butt, like you can say people are more attractive than your significant other but the way he was saying it was rude and weird. Also he’s just gross and I hope he got kicked out.
I'm very sorryz Kyutie but for the first story is one of the few times I disagree with you ... I feelz that the boyfriend probably had something romantic in mind and because the girlfriend gotz all pouty and acted like a crybaby/spoiled brat he saw that and gotz mad at her and threw the ring at her in frustration for ruining what plans he might have had with his proposal because she thought he should have done it sooner ... so in essence she ruined it for herself by not being patient and waiting for him to propose the way he wanted to to her
every story in here just ain't it, the solution should've been leave every time altho op should've copied every single file from that laptop and took pictures/screenshots of the laptop searches she did. tell the boss's daughter and whoever else. and freaking do whatever is safe to leave that man. that is horrific.
I mean in the first story-she’s technically getting what she wanted. Marriage. Most men aren’t romantic. My dad’s proposal for my mom was literally the same thing as this dude’s. They already had my brother at the time (he was three, they had been together five years at that point). And the ONLY reason they got married was because my older brother went up to them both and said, “Get married” then walked away. 😂😂😂 My mom then glared at my dad and he was like, “oh! Marry me?” My mom was so pissed, my dad had to run and grab a ring just to satisfy her. He was a hour late to his own wedding. 😂😂 So yeah. She’ll be okay. She should know him by now to know it wasn’t going to be grand anyway. She had to REMIND him for God’s sake 😂😂 Men don’t think about marriage unless they think you might leave. In their head: if y’all have been together forever. He’s like, “Where she going to go? I know everything about her. We’re basically already married.” Men are wild
Sorry, but the woman in that first story sounds awful. She was crying for an hour in a kayak before he proposed, because he hadn’t proposed earlier on the trip? Geez, get a grip! Talk about putting a downer on the evening. I’m amazed he even bothered to give her the ring at all after that. I don’t suppose he planned to give it to her that way, but he was probably fed up with her constant snivelling by then. Like he said, he can’t change what happened. But nonetheless she bottles all her resentment up for a year, can’t get over it, constantly compares her proposal to others’ and romcoms, weirdly tries to recreate the whole incident on the engagement anniversary and then gets ticked off again when he doesn’t remember the date? Heck, I don’t remember my engagement date - I didn’t even realise that was supposed to be a ‘thing’! Please let the poor guy go and find someone normal who doesn’t measure their life by what they see in the movies. You’re not compatible.
Man, don't you just sound bitter and self absorbed. Giving the vibes of a man trying to pretend to be a woman online so he can shame women and justify a man's wrongdoings without the "you're a man, of course you wouldn't get it" response. You sound like the type to probably blame a woman for being mistreated by her bf/husband because she was "too bossy" and "not giving enough". The type that'd say "well he probably wouldn't have done that if she'd just opened her legs and stopped disagreeing with him, that poor man has to deal with her yapping constantly." Will agree though, they need to split up. He's not a man who wants to be married. That's fine and all but when men like that try to force themselves into a wedding because they don't want to lose their girlfriend, they ruin the poor woman and they get divorced anyways with more resentment. He stayed with her with 8 whole years, by the 1st year he would've already know what she wanted- especially if they were best friends. He didn't want to get married yet wasted her damn time for 8 whole years because he wanted her. Now she's unhappy because he pretty much just told her "here, shut up. I don't want to be married but you can't leave me." And yes, that is fucking heartbreaking to hear and will stick with someone, especially when it's supposed to be the moment that defines your future marriage.
Its definetly a story where id want his side on it, because im wondering how she had been acting for him not to go ahead with the proposal he had obviously plan.
that last story actually made me feel so disgusted omg. hope that lady finds someone better
First story is the definition of a "shut up ring" and she needs to break it off if marriage is the goal for her dating people. 8 years and all you get is passive aggression? Red flags, you'll see them better without the rose colored glasses. Key words that are red flags "anytime (meaning Everytime, happening often) we disagree.... Feeling unwanted by him... He says he can't change the past...."
If it upsets her so much, she shouldn't even have considered marrying him. It is an emotional thing, and if her emotions about the proposal are negative, her marriage will NEVER be happy. Don't settle; get what you want. If it is a grand gesture you need, then don't just settle for, "This should make you happy." Makes it sound like HE doesn't even want to get married.
Yes, he just threw it at her and said this should make you happy.
Proposals don't need to be Grand, they need to be heartfelt, but ops bf only gave her heartbreak.
almost exactly what I said, him throwing the ring box at her shows how he feels about her, I wouldn't want to marry someone who throws a ring box at me as a proposal
The issue isn't even that it wasn't grand (tho if she wants that and made it clear he should accommodate) it's that it wasn't even sincere
In that last story, i REALLY hope she reported her husband and the other workers that were involved too. They met the girl went she was 15, 15 YEARS OLD. They've known her for five years, and he started preying on her the MOMENT she turned 20 because she was now "a mature and a woman". The fact her husband kept saying "shes so mature for her age" and then started talking about how she looks, that literal predator talk, man. Pedos and creepy men in general who focus on young children or younger people in general, will fantasize about their looks and go on and on about how "mature" they are to justify thay they're "old enough for him". The fact he stalked her via the internet and has every app she owns and has an account with screenshoted, is so he can track her. The fact he has gotten shots in place high or low enough he can see her privates is horrible. And the fact hes PHOTOSHOPPED her WITH his own photos and other coworkers is disgusting! I bet he sells those photos to his coworkers and feeds their own sick pleasures. She should absolutely report him, get him and all those men fired and crime time before they do something bad. That girl is their mind target and if she doesn't put a stop now, that girl could very much end up being stalked home or outside, alone at work, given how she says her husabnd on purpose, stays later at work to be with her. She needs to report him or that poor girl will become a victim of sexual assault or worse, r*ped.
This right here. I was surprised that in the last story, OP's first thought was to leave and not to help that girl who is being stalked. And that even in the update, OP mentioned getting a divorce and her husband begging her not to, but never mentioning anything about telling the girl. That girl is a victim too and deserves to know what husband has been doing and deserves to be able to protect herself by firing him and putting in a restraining order.
@@melafaireFr it op's relationship is broken but for the girl her privacy is being invaded and she is potentially in danger from those men. And op cares about herself.
She should've told the girl given her evidence so they could deal with those employees who are preying on her.
@@sparkyblue7016ikr?! And OP didn't mention it, but with over 1k+ photos, what if some of those were still from when she was a minor?! Then that would be a full blown CP case, but NO, only OP's relationship status matters I guess 🙄
@@sparkyblue7016exactly, I feel like this is the biggest problem here forget her relationship
I agree, I was looking thought these comments and this is the only one that said this. I really hope she tells her, she needs to know.
I feel so bad for OP in the second story. Her supposed husband is nothing but a dirty, child-loving predator. I hope she ditches his butt and takes him for everything.
Same, but I also hope she reports this creep to the police. He could actually be possibly arrested for that. I also hope she does something to help the girl, even if she doesn't update us about it.
That’s stalker and borderline sexual harassment. She needs to report this to her boss.
@@johnpexton3614 Exactly. The 20-year-old needs to be told, too, for her own protection (e.g., if she wants to file a TRO).
@@tintinismybelgian yes I think talking to the dad and daughter at the same time
*For the 1st story, he was already a red flag for ignoring OP's feelings towards a proposal. It wasn't even about the proposal, it was the thought of them having a romantic memory together but he ruined it on purpose and didn't apologized when he knew was wrong. He is the AH.*
*And, for the 2nd story, why tf is the husband like that? I have saw so many creepy men posts but that man is just horrible and disgusting beyond anything. The OP should report him, so, he can get fired and put behind bars along with the other co workers involved and made sure the girl is safe cause she's a victim too.*
Second story: I’d speak to the girl about getting a restraining order against the soon-to-be exhusband. Talk to the cops because the man is stalking her and taking (well, attempting to take) lewd pictures of her.
He should be fired and possibly arrested.
First story is an example of the "shut up ring". Basically it means when he only proposes because he knows she wants it so bad and is tired of hearing about it so he proposed so she can stop bothering him or w.e. A man doesn't have to wait many years to know if he wants to marry you or not. He doesn't want to marry her. She shouldn't settle for that. You deserve to be happy with someone who also feels the same way about you. She isn't asking too much. She asking the wrong one.
I didn't get a "down on one knee" proposal or a ring at the time I got engaged, but it was still romantic. My now husband was in the military and got home for a weekend and just popped the question while cuddling. We were only 19 so we kept it a secret for a while, but we eventually told our parents a couple of months later. When he got out from the military we went to the shore of the island where we first met, and there I eventually "officially" got my ring. We got together at 16 and both turn 30 this year.
That's nice
Thank you so much, we need to hear stories like this! 💞😭
congratulations😭
Kyutie’s reaction to the first story was so spot on. I would be so mad, too. I would never be able to look past that. I would be like, “Okay, bye bye!” And chuck the ring box back at him. I hope that girl runs for the hills and finds someone better. That poor girl.😩
these ladies gotta drop those man now! literally disgusting for both, how are you going to treat your partner that way and think its okay? Also creeping on a younger person and taking picture without their consent, she gotta confront him and if he doesn't change she need to file a divorce and get him karma!
The second girl should send all the evidence she has to her boss and the police.
0:05: Sounds like he's starting to show his true colors. OP probably should move on from him.
5:33: At some point, she was gonna have to confront him about this, and now that she has, she's right to want to seek a divorce from this creep. Really, no one should attempt to seek a relationship with a coworker, especially one that young. Total lack of professionalism (and that's not even the half of it). You can just about bet your bottom dollar he was trying to get with her.
The first story is full of red flags and I think she’s been convincing herself that there hasn’t been many more over the years.
#1 I can relate. My ring was in a crackerjack box. He thought it was a great joke. I remember feeling red flags, but I was young and naive, so I went along, but it was a sign that I was not cherished. I really never got over it. I just suppressed how I felt.
#2 that girl is in extreme danger. The OP’s husband is a predator and he will end up assaulting her.
For the first story I’d probably reject the proposal, but say I still want to get married in the future. I’d make sure to explain I’d absolutely love to marry him, but share my disappointment with the proposal. If he truly is the man she claims he is, he should hopefully get the hint and retry later, but with some pizzaz to it. Unfortunately, they’re already engaged, so this plan won’t help in any way. Just wanted to share my thoughts. :)
1st story: It's a SHUT UP RING!
1:52 girl should move on that's defs a shut up ring the "this should make you happy" says it all.
First story: I would say “oh wow, thank you for the gift! Is it for our anniversary? Or my birthday? Thank you so much, it’s so cute.”
And watch him squirm!
So aggravating.
That would be my reaction .
Honestly, the second story? Disgusting isn't even the right word. If there was a better word for it then it may work. Seriously. In my opinion, no one over the age of 30 should be dating anyone under the age of 21, much less having a s*x**l obsession or worse. This is beyond unprofessional and beyond creepy and disgusting. This is probably one of the girl's first work experiences and i wouldnt want my family member or friend getting their privacy invaded or getting hurt because of something like this. I hope he gets investigated and fired
In that last story she should tell that girl what he's been doing. She should know he's a creep. And op in that story should just divorce him, not worth it in anyway.
I would have taken the laptop and shown the boss and his daughter.
That right there should get him fired.
It’s also weird she’d been in hanging around since she was 15 so it just makes it predatory.
Yuk
10:52 I loved the Lee Minho reference.😄I agree with you, Kyutie!
I'd like more context on the 1st proposal. If this is one of the only red flags, I'd hand him back the ring and say he needs to do a better job of proposing. Be prepared for him to walk, and if so, he wasn't ready or wasn't the right guy. If he really is the right guy, he will work hard to make it right or risk losing you.
That first one is a classic shut up ring/proposal. After 8 years it's time to shit or get off the pot so guys know this. He really resents having to propose or lose out on all she does for him.
if i was the wife in the last story, I would have done the kdrama thing of getting on his work account and posting all of the pics on the office work forum or something under his name. and left.
It's called a shut up ring. It keeps you from bringing up moving forward with the relationship while also trying you to the man
That thumbnail is crazy…why was he being so rude over a proposal? 😒
OP in the second story needs to tell the girl what's going on!
I don’t expect or want any proposal but this was blatantly disrespectful! Hand over the ring??? Like don’t do it then, talk about it mutually.
I am just saying it should be a thoughtful, heartfelt thing. There should be a thousand yellow daisies, or SOMETHING. It shouldn't be an off the cuff remark, something he says to stop an argument, or to just make her stop crying for a minute. Hearing it again, I STILL don't feel like he WANTS to marry her. I feel like he just wanted her to stop crying. And that is NOT a reason to give a girl a ring. He didn't even ASK her.
1st story...make her sad and then make her happy so that she learns to be happy in whatever little he gives her. That is gaslight behavior right there.
The last story is very serious, it's so bad it goes beyond the 20-year old's age. All of that, that is not OK, even if she was older than the men. Breaks my heart that she's working so hard with the actual work and doing extra stuff for office morale and the coworkers only see her as a sex object.
And this is just OP's husband, who knows if he's the one taking the pictures and photoshopping her, if he's not tech savvy it's very probable that other guys are doing the same thing: why else would he have photoshopped pics of her with other guys.
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For the last one, as much as i know she was prob shocked about it, she really should have taken the pc straight to the police as evidence instead of thinking about only the divorce and confronting him. The guy was 34 and the daughter was 15 when they first met, plus the pictures were taken and saved without the daughter's consent. It's not just disgusting but also illegal in most countries, she needs to find a way to access the pc again and either show pictures of the folders to the police or simply take the entire device with her and give it to them. Tho she's strong af for staying like 4 days without talking about it to her family or trusted friends, i really could never just not say anything if i had a husband that would be doing that 💀 That mf is straight up disgusting and needs to be in jail right now.
But yeah. She needs to not only divorce him and cut ties, but also to find a way to give his device to the authorities before the divorce. He shouldn't be getting away with this, plus the daughter probably feels really unsafe if he's acting that obssessed towards her, letting him be free like that isn't a good idea
That first story; so disrespectful. OP needs to respect herself. Her BF doesn't.
Lol! On our second date my now husband sai that he was going to marry me one day. That was it! About 5 months later he sai that we had better get a ring. We married 10 month later and have been married for 38 years. He learned to be much more romantic over the years. One day is not your whole marriage.
First story, I would have given it back to him and told him to give it to me again at a time when he felt like he could actually put his heart and feelings into it.
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Tbf that first story the dude probably had something vastly more romantic in store on that final night but she kinda ruined it with the hour of power crying in her kayak destroying any bit of romantic flight of fancy mood. The second story that's not a creep or a weirdo that's a bone fide stalker in the making.
If that were true, he still could have handled it better. I mean, he knew that she was crying because she felt the moment had gotten away from them. Why not drop a hint before the 1 hour mark? Something like “if you’ve liked the trip so far, you’ll definitely like what’s coming up!” could do wonders without necessarily spoiling the surprise.
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That poor girl who's pics he took god! JAIL!
I really hope OP in Story 2 reported her husband to HR and the cops
I been with my husband 21 years married almost 10. Im still salty about his proposal. We had spoken about marriege and even went to pick out a ring and customized it. He put it up and said he would wait for a way t surprise me. Months later we chillen in bed with our daughter. He gets up goes gets it and says you should start wearing it. I felt stupid if i said try again.
I remember my mom once told me that my dad proposed to her without a ring. He just asked while they were out walking "Do you wanna get married?" and then I think they picked out a ring after. It's a sweet and funny story to look back on
The first story that's a shut up ring if ever I heard one.
For the second story, she should have made the boss's daughter aware of the pictures he had, sent the 'pictures' she took, or something. She's either into it, so it wouldn't matter anyway, or she, too, will be disgusted. At any rate, it is NOT harmless. An obsession like that COULD turn dangerous at any moment; leaving her to get blindsided by it could land her in deep trouble, especially if the wife DOES divorce him. No telling where it would lead if the wife wasn't around for him to worry about.
1. That relationship is dead.
I'm really concerned for the 20 year old girl in the second story. What that man is doing is not okay. It's sick
Those things that hurt you do not go away. The hurt may get buried but then something else is said that hurts....if you have told him he hurt you and he doesn't acknowledge that you are hurt and ask your forgiveness. This character flaw does not go away and all those ugly things he said, that you fight down for years, eventually all come out and he can't fix it. Leaving you broken.
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The first story. She means ex right???
if my partner did that to me my response would be thanks but no thanks, I would end the relationship there and then
Many people think they should get married but, just being a couple may not be a good reason to get married. We all learn a lot about ourselves and our spouse during a few years of marriage but many couples get married before they understand what they're doing.
I dunno, that first one… Gave me a feeling like she sending him a lot of pressure for the proposal throughout the trip and it killed the mood for him, he was probably feeling nervous too and then resentful that she was pressuring him when he was trying to get up the courage?
I would say what the heck kind of proposal was that? XD It doesn't have to be the most romantic thing in the entire world. But as you mentioned, he didn't even ask, "Will you marry me?" at the very least. They could literally just say, "I love you, will you marry me?" without a giant speech, and I'd be happy. Instead of, "at least this ring will make one of us happy since my pocketbook isn't." That's what, "this will make YOU happy." felt like.
I don't even want an expensive ring, I would be more annoyed if they spent too much on the darn thing XD
2nd story: SHE NEEDS TO REPORT HIM!! To the job and to the police. That is sexual harassment, and so incredibly predatory!! Get him fired and wholeheartedly divorce him as soon as humanly possible. Also, save ALL of the evidence to submit it to the police. I would have marched his laptop right to the police station as soon as I found it!
Story 1: it seems like the guy doesn't want to marry her, I don't think he even loves her. If he genuinely loved her, he would apologize and redo the proposal. Personally, if I feel my boyfriend feels this way about me by just throwing a ring box at me, I would leave, I won't allow someone to treat me that way just because they don't love me.
Story 2: I feel so bad for the wife and the boss's daughter. Wife's husband is a creep, and the daughter didn't know she was being creeped on. Honestly, I would've told the boss, have him fired, and divorce, Lord knows how long he's felt this way about his boss's daughter, ewww.
Last story what a weirdo wthhh
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First story..... Guy should have waited and talked to her.... Seemed like he was planning on proposing.... Trying to get the nerve...have a nice weekend... And she was so much about the ring he felt like an after thought... Like the ring was more important than spending time with him......
But instead of chucking it, he should have talked to her about it
Think of it like this
You take your boyfriend on a special weekend and tell him you have a surprise
Instead of just enjoying time with you , he just keeps waiting and expecting the surprise
Would you feel happy giving him the surprise, if it seemed like it was more important than just spending time with you?
What would have happened if the Women in the second story just showed all the pictures，her boss？ I guess the husband would get fired ，at least xD
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If i got proposed to like that, id thank them for the beautiful ring and put it on a different finger than the ring finger. After all, it wasn't a proposal, it was just being tossed a ring 😇
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If you seem happy with that proposal he’s not going to change, it sounds like he doesn’t want to get married, walk away with some dignity.
How are you doing my dear sweet friend? How are you feeling? I hope just great!! In the very first story, he is a complete lame for doing something like that that because there were numerous moments throughout the day were he could've popped the question to her but he didn't. She should just end the relationship because it's apparent that he doesn't even want to be married. If she's feeling and talking this way about him, then why did she even accept his proposal? In the second story, what in the world is wrong with the husband? He is very creepy then considering the fact that he's basically known her every since she was just 15 years of age along with his wife. I just feel so bad for the wife. She should've kicked him out of her house right then and there because he's a low life. Your husband is a straight up p*rvert and p*do too. I love you!! Have a great day!! Stay safe!!
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So I feel like the first one is on her, like maybe he had an idea of how he wanted to propose but he didn’t get to do it because of how she was acting. Like he was going to do it at sunrise on the morning you left but her acting down might have dragged him down too to where he no longer cared. Also who says she’d be happy with a new proposal? She could be upset with that one too.
I honestly would be slightly disappointed but I also wouldn’t have been so upset if he didn’t do it then, if he was going to propose I’d hopefully know that he would but not when so I’d just let it happen whenever.
For the second one I think it goes without saying that it’s not a good relationship and needs to be nipped in the butt, like you can say people are more attractive than your significant other but the way he was saying it was rude and weird. Also he’s just gross and I hope he got kicked out.
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I'm very sorryz Kyutie but for the first story is one of the few times I disagree with you ... I feelz that the boyfriend probably had something romantic in mind and because the girlfriend gotz all pouty and acted like a crybaby/spoiled brat he saw that and gotz mad at her and threw the ring at her in frustration for ruining what plans he might have had with his proposal because she thought he should have done it sooner ... so in essence she ruined it for herself by not being patient and waiting for him to propose the way he wanted to to her
every story in here just ain't it, the solution should've been leave every time
altho op should've copied every single file from that laptop and took pictures/screenshots of the laptop searches she did. tell the boss's daughter and whoever else. and freaking do whatever is safe to leave that man. that is horrific.
I mean in the first story-she’s technically getting what she wanted. Marriage. Most men aren’t romantic. My dad’s proposal for my mom was literally the same thing as this dude’s.
They already had my brother at the time (he was three, they had been together five years at that point). And the ONLY reason they got married was because my older brother went up to them both and said, “Get married” then walked away. 😂😂😂 My mom then glared at my dad and he was like, “oh! Marry me?” My mom was so pissed, my dad had to run and grab a ring just to satisfy her. He was a hour late to his own wedding. 😂😂
So yeah. She’ll be okay. She should know him by now to know it wasn’t going to be grand anyway. She had to REMIND him for God’s sake 😂😂 Men don’t think about marriage unless they think you might leave. In their head: if y’all have been together forever. He’s like, “Where she going to go? I know everything about her. We’re basically already married.” Men are wild
Sorry, but the woman in that first story sounds awful. She was crying for an hour in a kayak before he proposed, because he hadn’t proposed earlier on the trip? Geez, get a grip! Talk about putting a downer on the evening. I’m amazed he even bothered to give her the ring at all after that. I don’t suppose he planned to give it to her that way, but he was probably fed up with her constant snivelling by then. Like he said, he can’t change what happened. But nonetheless she bottles all her resentment up for a year, can’t get over it, constantly compares her proposal to others’ and romcoms, weirdly tries to recreate the whole incident on the engagement anniversary and then gets ticked off again when he doesn’t remember the date? Heck, I don’t remember my engagement date - I didn’t even realise that was supposed to be a ‘thing’! Please let the poor guy go and find someone normal who doesn’t measure their life by what they see in the movies. You’re not compatible.
Sorry, but he is a loser. Just no. He probably disappointed her over and over and over, for 8 years.
Man, don't you just sound bitter and self absorbed. Giving the vibes of a man trying to pretend to be a woman online so he can shame women and justify a man's wrongdoings without the "you're a man, of course you wouldn't get it" response.
You sound like the type to probably blame a woman for being mistreated by her bf/husband because she was "too bossy" and "not giving enough". The type that'd say "well he probably wouldn't have done that if she'd just opened her legs and stopped disagreeing with him, that poor man has to deal with her yapping constantly."
Will agree though, they need to split up. He's not a man who wants to be married. That's fine and all but when men like that try to force themselves into a wedding because they don't want to lose their girlfriend, they ruin the poor woman and they get divorced anyways with more resentment. He stayed with her with 8 whole years, by the 1st year he would've already know what she wanted- especially if they were best friends. He didn't want to get married yet wasted her damn time for 8 whole years because he wanted her. Now she's unhappy because he pretty much just told her "here, shut up. I don't want to be married but you can't leave me." And yes, that is fucking heartbreaking to hear and will stick with someone, especially when it's supposed to be the moment that defines your future marriage.
Its definetly a story where id want his side on it, because im wondering how she had been acting for him not to go ahead with the proposal he had obviously plan.
@@ricebeansrockroll882 That's true. But either way, these two shouldn't be getting married. Something is wrong in this relationship.
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