I don't know how to be an "adult" in this world

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  • @itslilyquinn
    @itslilyquinn Рік тому +3204

    I suck at "adulting" and my mom calls it "Peter Pan syndrome" because I've just haven't really left my childish state of wonder. I'm made happy by the simplest things, lose touch with this reality and let my imagination wander. I'm so glad I found your channel and know I'm not the only one

    • @danika9411
      @danika9411 Рік тому +170

      I think people who lost touch with their inner child are sad. It's not actually a good thing. And the worst part is if they believe how they function is right and everyone has to function like that. Keep your feelings of wonder alive!

    • @antzieisme
      @antzieisme Рік тому +140

      Hi! I’m not a specialist but the way I think about “Peter Pan Syndrome” is towards people who run away from basic responsibility, autonomy and self-care as an adult, expecting others to do everything for them and provide for them as well. However, an adult who is still curious and in awe and enjoys simple things like a ruler with cute characters or whatever is not someone with Peter Pan Syndrome to me, just someone who knows what they love and what makes them happy ❤

    • @sukhkaur9440
      @sukhkaur9440 Рік тому +62

      Actually becoming adult should be about being more engaged with reality with awe and curiosity. The typical adult of our society doesn't translate well to this notion

    • @superplaylists1616
      @superplaylists1616 Рік тому +13

      Are you secretly my sister? 🤣 lol. My mom also calls me "peter pan"

    • @courtneygrier2015
      @courtneygrier2015 Рік тому +24

      I felt so alone until i found this channel. I am right there with you. And I can't stop crying watching this particular video, wanting to protect her from the ugliness that has consumed many adults wrapped up in unhappiness due to conforming to society.
      I relate to her so much and, truly, i'm so lucky to have come across this channel.
      She is such a beautiful human being. Some sadly, cannot handle such beauty.

  • @barber0611
    @barber0611 Рік тому +3484

    the reason why 1.36 million of us keep coming back is because we love you just as you are! 💖

    • @christinebyrnes3164
      @christinebyrnes3164 Рік тому +50

      100%, don't change who you are to please negative people ❤

    • @idelsiurquijo7259
      @idelsiurquijo7259 Рік тому +33

      I agree 100% never change. Happiness is a childish heart,no matter how old you are.❤

    • @keiraLeeYuna
      @keiraLeeYuna Рік тому +6

      Verdade.

    • @TStheknittingbeekeeper
      @TStheknittingbeekeeper Рік тому +24

      You are loved exactly as you are and you are a breath of fresh air. Your videos are exactly what my soul needs. Xo ty for being YOU

    • @tracirex
      @tracirex Рік тому +25

      yes, 1.6 million viewers indicates to me that you are tapping into a widespread need for more child-affirming behavior

  • @ardentcerf6523
    @ardentcerf6523 Рік тому +803

    Growing up isn't learning to be mature all the time, but learning when the right time to be mature comes

    • @incasethestoveison8869
      @incasethestoveison8869 Рік тому +19

      It is what I need. Thank uuuuu

    • @tunebeat3809
      @tunebeat3809 Рік тому +15

      You could still be a mature adult and do activities that makes you happy.

    • @floranaturelover
      @floranaturelover Рік тому +4

      Actually, my definition of mature is doing what is right, having proper views of life (there are many proper views) and just take responsibility for your actions :)

    • @ardentcerf6523
      @ardentcerf6523 Рік тому

      @@floranaturelover does being mature not include all those things

    • @floranaturelover
      @floranaturelover Рік тому +8

      @@ardentcerf6523 (all in my perspective, fine with arguing/discussing) Maturity is not acting serious, boring and never taking risks in your life, maturity is following your conscience, improving your conscience and not being afraid to fail, to make mistakes to improve yourself mentally and physically or your experience because you know everyone makes mistakes. When people are old, many have regrets such as never trying things in life because they were too scared of the consequences or possibilities. I am pretty confident there is a difference between actions that are blind vs spontaneity.

  • @jaynebarry5658
    @jaynebarry5658 Рік тому +2795

    People who falsely accuse you of being “ childish “ are secretly jealous, that you have learned how to take breaks and enjoy life, because they, sadly, have forgotten how to feel joy, or relief. Encouraging one’s own joy is a skill and a discipline. Good job creating this space for yourself, and encouraging it in everyone. ❤

    • @esthersanchez2264
      @esthersanchez2264 Рік тому +38

      My suspicion is that the negative comments come from people who are doing similar footage on their UA-cam channel. Whatever their motive it's definitely not worth your time and energy to give it a second thought. The secret to transcendence lies in our childlike innocence. I love what U have to offer as do many others. KEEP DOING U. IGNORE the competitive jealous losers. 🌄😅👍🏽🌿🐰🐕‍🦺🌻🌼🌸

    • @poppymoon777
      @poppymoon777 Рік тому +3

      Yep

    • @jessicaqueen8162
      @jessicaqueen8162 Рік тому +36

      Everyone is a child of God. therefore it´s not a shame feeling like one. Just be you.

    • @eksbocks9438
      @eksbocks9438 Рік тому +46

      I think they really are trying to shame her, for not being nuts.
      They tend to do this with introverts too. Weird people just keep saying that they're "boring."

    • @mirrors8913
      @mirrors8913 Рік тому +22

      I for one am extremely jealous of people who can walk through flower fields without sneezing their brains out.

  • @onehearthlove
    @onehearthlove Рік тому +455

    "The artist is the child who survived" 💛

    • @tunebeat3809
      @tunebeat3809 Рік тому +26

      A part of me still want to have fun making drawings and writing stories when I was younger.
      While I do write my own stories and draw as an adult, it's not always easy, especially when I have to financially support myself.

    • @ronaldmay1283
      @ronaldmay1283 Рік тому +8

      I love that!

    • @anonimowelwiatko4455
      @anonimowelwiatko4455 Рік тому

      @@tunebeat3809 It should be your goal to support yourself through art you make. Take your time, you will make it.

    • @DrawinskyMoon
      @DrawinskyMoon Рік тому +2

      I must’ve died along the way.

    • @ahMed_4794
      @ahMed_4794 5 місяців тому

      Did you come up with this?

  • @daryljohnson3945
    @daryljohnson3945 Рік тому +636

    I'm a 65 year old male that struggled to fit into the world, now I'm glad I can't. Bless you young lady, love from Tennessee.

    • @dreamsofadaffodil650
      @dreamsofadaffodil650 Рік тому +5

      💐💐🙏

    • @eliphas_catdaddy7982
      @eliphas_catdaddy7982 Рік тому +3

      Why do you call yourself a male and not a man?

    • @prime12602
      @prime12602 Рік тому +41

      @@eliphas_catdaddy7982 does it matter?

    • @raven4090
      @raven4090 Рік тому +22

      I'm 60 now, but last year I gave up on trying to fit into this world, too. I quit caring, and am a lot less stressed out now.

    • @Chunda8
      @Chunda8 Рік тому +3

      It's not you.

  • @gint6898
    @gint6898 Рік тому +963

    It's a damn shame that the world is in such a state that being genuine and true to one's self is actively discouraged.
    Do your own thing girl! We need more people like you these days!

    • @boboboy8189
      @boboboy8189 Рік тому +30

      it's weird that she didn't commit any sin were rejected but people who commit real sin were encouraged

    • @thisisme5487
      @thisisme5487 Рік тому +14

      Unfortunately that's just how it's always been. Only in a perfect world would it work if everyone were toget to just be their genuine self.

    • @jan-3356
      @jan-3356 Рік тому +18

      be the change you want to see in the world. go on a walk barefoot, go paint outside, go climb on some trees for pete's sake! just do whatever, and if someone asks, just say you're having fun. we only get so little time in this world, just do what you like to do.

  • @TheCottageFairy
    @TheCottageFairy  Рік тому +2045

    In this video I wanted to chat about expectations related to adulthood, and how I have, in some ways, not been able to live up to many of them. I’m quite disorganized and don’t work well under pressure. I am not efficient or even good at being productive (I cannot even follow a schedule, to be honest). I still don’t feel like I know what I’m doing half the time. I am often told I am “childlike” in nature. I still enjoy many interests and activities I loved as a child. This has made others online speculate over my maturity or wonder if I have not accepted adulthood. In response, I wanted to share another perspective, that embracing who I am helps me be a more successful and content adult. I hope you enjoy this little ramble and share your own experiences ❤

    • @michellecd4722
      @michellecd4722 Рік тому +97

      @TheCottageFairy I'll never feel like an "adult" and I'm 54 this summer.

    • @corinnegrima3096
      @corinnegrima3096 Рік тому +56

      Dear Paola, I must say this video resonated so much with me today especially. I have been following you for some time now and I can honestly say with full certainty that you were able to get me out of my "being-an-adult-exlusively" shell. I am a 36-year-old mother of two young children and wife and I can honestly say that life does take its toll upon you. But yes, I find solace in seeing the wonder in this "mundane" and mostly negative-oriented life. By applying this wonder to my own life I try to inspire and help other people and I must say that however little effect it has on their day, I have noticed that yes, showing small acts of kindness and understanding is mostly all the things people need to hear or feel in their day to make it more bearable.
      Keep up inspiring me and others. I am in love with everything you do and project. Thank you!
      Have a good day (or night!) :)

    • @spindragon
      @spindragon Рік тому +63

      What if we let go of our ideals around how an adult should act in the world. Then learn to celebrate our unique gifts and live gently with our shortcomings. Also we need more adults who are childlike in nature..

    • @marirose19
      @marirose19 Рік тому +40

      Paola, being “childlike” or disorganized, even not knowing what you’re doing half the time is something many of us feel. But I’ll echo what others have: we love you just the way you are. I need, seriously need, your vids. I was so glad to get this notification at nearly midnight on the Eastern Coast.
      For me, it’s been a very rough couple of months. Your vids are a special reprieve into beauty, simplicity, peacefulness, & tranquility. I’m so grateful for you.
      I’ll suggest to you what I have to other dear creators on YT I care about. Please get 1-3 trustworthy ppl to moderate your comments. They can block & delete, not engage with, ppl or trolls who bring you down & who feed off each other.
      Then you & those in The Cottage Fairy family who adore you won’t be exposed to these comments & you don’t have to waste energy & time responding to such ppl. It’ll feel safer for us all, especially you who we care deeply for. It’ll especially uplift the energy of this channel even further. Imagine! Holy Wow!
      “Non Illegitimi Carborundum.” In other words, don’t let the turkeys grind you down.

    • @julieb2398
      @julieb2398 Рік тому +32

      At 62 I am trying to recapture that child I used to be. I watch your videos and just relax and remember the good in my childhood and miss it so much. Sitting under the apple tree, sitting in the field with my horses, playing in the creek, catching fish in a bucket when my dad told me there were no fish in that creek and proving him wrong, ahh how I wish for those days again so often. Thank you for the reminder to search for my inner child. Thank you so very much for making these wonderful videos. Remember always be you!! Brightest blessings and much love!

  • @sarahburke96
    @sarahburke96 Рік тому +410

    I'm 26 almost 27 and I often don't "feel like an adult"
    Adulthood is seen as paying bills, working jobs, setting goals and all other stressful things. When really....we're just here to live. To just experience and learn.
    Reality is just an illusion and is whatever we make it. Also....we're really only living for ourselves. People's words are just words unless we put meaning to it.
    So just do what makes you happy. It's your life to live, nobody else's.

    • @enrique4459
      @enrique4459 Рік тому +16

      People knock me down all the time because I still hold something many of them lost along the way. There is moment when I feel its a blessing than other moments where they make me feel odd like if I'm strange.

    • @sarahburke96
      @sarahburke96 Рік тому +9

      I can relate. All my "friends" are near or in their 40s as well so I'm the "child" of the group but people "my age" are so busy trying to "grow up"

    • @unknown_chillhuman
      @unknown_chillhuman Рік тому +7

      Thanks so much for this reminder. I just turned 20 last week and was kinda afraid since on our twenties is put so much pressure to live a certain way. But I was thinking, 'stop giving a damn about what society tells you on what you should be doing at age xyz, it really does not matter...'
      I have only got one life and I am going to live it the way I want to. I want to enjoy every moment that I have got here and I think everyone else should too. At the end of the day we have only got ourselves and that is ultimately the person we have to or should be content with to live our best lives.
      Lots of love from another human on this planet earth. ✨💙🌼🏞🍀🌺

    • @sunnysideupprincessnatasya6310
      @sunnysideupprincessnatasya6310 Рік тому +4

      Marshmellow there!! 💛✨️. I'm the same exact age as you (26 at the moment and will be 27 towards the end of November this year) and I am the same exact way!! 💛✨️🌻🌈✝️.

    • @Josith13
      @Josith13 Рік тому +1

      I find the issue is I've been endowed with the wrong set of genitals to be allowed to fully take on the ideas put forward in this video.
      My worth and visibility and acceptance, is tied to my ability to procure resources$-- So it's 'be myself' at the expense of being a lonely reject overall.

  • @colleenwestbrook8848
    @colleenwestbrook8848 Рік тому +449

    Oh honey. I am 68 and still love children’s books and enchanted forests and fairy circles. I still look for little holes at the bottom of trees and picture a little family of some sort sitting inside vesting their dinner. Never change. It is a wonderful way to be. My friends all say that the minute they see any little woodland creature with a family they know it’s me that posted it. I’m so glad I’ll be remembered that way. ❤

    • @Amanda-jd8xs
      @Amanda-jd8xs Рік тому +33

      Of course. Who is to write or paint for our children if no one remains who can experience the world as they do?

    • @maybee...
      @maybee... Рік тому +18

      Me too, I have a library of children's books. Shel Silverstien "the giving tree", I can't read that book without crying. I lost a tree this year, it was an apple tree, I planted it 46 years ago when my daughter was a baby.

    • @universallyinsync
      @universallyinsync Рік тому +7

      I still have a few books from a series my grandmother gave me. She died young, so I cherish those. I just told one of my grown daughters to make her front yard tree up like the Sim's magical tree, with a fairy house and gnomes at the base. She gets it, and plans to. We are never too old! 😊

    • @SisterShirley
      @SisterShirley Рік тому +2

      Colleen, you're a doll!

    • @colleenwestbrook8848
      @colleenwestbrook8848 Рік тому +1

      @@SisterShirley oh how sweet. Thank you ❤️

  • @artistrophe6738
    @artistrophe6738 Рік тому +661

    If adulting means rushing around every single moment of the day being too busy to notice the world around us and being stuck in jobs we hate, then you can keep it. I am so inspired by Paola and the life she built for herself that allows her to live at a more moderate pace, just as nature intended. Love your videos. Living my ideal life vicariously through you ❤

    • @olive4naito
      @olive4naito Рік тому +46

      Totally agree. In my opinion it actually takes more adulting to go against the grain. Doing everything that's expected of you didn't take me a lot of brain power but protecting my identity has always been a challenge. After my parents died I learned to do a little soul searching and go searching for the parts of myself I had lost along the way because I mistakenly followed other people's instruction manuals.

    • @artistrophe6738
      @artistrophe6738 Рік тому +21

      @@olive4naito So true! It's easier to just follow the crowd on that well-trodden path. It takes a lot more self-awareness and grit to forge your own uncharted path.

    • @brightpage1020
      @brightpage1020 Рік тому +9

      Work towards it. I dare you!
      I lived vicariously, too.
      Now I live on 40 acre logging turned egg 🐣 🥚 farm. See my above comment about our enchanted forest.
      It's real.
      For a couple few years I had to come around to the idea and check it out and now we're raising our family on it.
      It's for real.
      Work toward it. Dare to dream.
      The cottage fairy and I are proof it really exists.
      I'm just an old mom now, but... I live this. Thanks in part to the inspiration I found on this channel just a short time ago. It never occurred to me them I might someday live like this. Or that it could be real.
      It is.
      It is real.
      I never thought we could raise kids like this but it's amazing for them so far.
      They have already made friends here. My 5 y/o fell in love with a ladybug our 1st day in the farmhouse. He made a bed for it in a small planter box housing a pathway night light with leaf comforter covers. And a tiny dandelion pillow.
      My sons race outside to see who can pick flowers for me first. 🌺 🌸 🌹
      My daughter is an artist discovering design of nature through a photo lens now. She has taken our best nature pic here so far. She is 9.
      Of course they have real friends, too. They go to school... And activities like horseback riding, tennis, soccer, golf...dance... All the normal things even this small town can keep up with.
      But we get to weekend here hiking the trails... On or acreage ecosystem.
      This is real life!?!? I never knew it could be like this! For reals. It is.
      You can.

    • @Briselance
      @Briselance Рік тому +3

      "just as nature intended."
      You have no idea how many things we wouldn't have had, had we stayed "just as nature intended". Starting with the kind of device we used to write these.

    • @artistrophe6738
      @artistrophe6738 Рік тому +4

      @@Briselance I'll soon find out - I am retiring to the wilderness tomorrow. To each his own

  • @pixywings
    @pixywings Рік тому +239

    This seems like a perfect opportunity for my favorite quote from Doctor Who: "There's no point in being grown up if you can't be childish sometimes."

  • @lauradavis1619
    @lauradavis1619 Рік тому +739

    There is a world of difference between childlike and childish. To be childlike, I believe, is to be human, to wonder at creation, to play, to be curious and explore-all virtuous traits. To be childish is to lack responsibility. It appears that you are responsible, industrious, and conscientious. On another note, I will say that I never grew up until I had children. It is such a beautiful and heavy weight to carry.

  • @vicki2153
    @vicki2153 Рік тому +638

    Sometimes, people respond negatively to someone when they themselves feel challenged by how that person lives and relates to the world. You're doing just fine.

    • @a.s.3267
      @a.s.3267 Рік тому +15

      Yes.

    • @sophiependragon2467
      @sophiependragon2467 Рік тому +12

      Exactly

    • @poppymoon777
      @poppymoon777 Рік тому +7

      Yes

    • @am_2395
      @am_2395 Рік тому +5

      Yes ²

    • @courtneygrier2015
      @courtneygrier2015 Рік тому +19

      I believe wholeheartedly that people who have anything negative to say are truly unhappy: unhappy with the fact that they feel the need to conform to society and people like her (and me) threaten that.
      It makes me sad, not for me, not for her, but for those who have anything unkind to say about it

  • @wordsmith8193
    @wordsmith8193 Рік тому +182

    Wonder is ageless. Reflection. Nature. Artfulness. Creativity. These are our spiritual endowments.

  • @onepartwild
    @onepartwild Рік тому +584

    You're not alone, Paola. I'm in my 50's and still what many would consider "childish". I take my time, as you do, enjoy nature to the fullest, and love children's books, just to name a few. We are very similar in tastes and disposition. That's what attracted me to your channel. The beauty, calm and child-like joy of living and appreciating nature that you share is a wonderful thing our modern world needs more of.

    • @laurindaraquel8947
      @laurindaraquel8947 Рік тому +38

      I am in total agreement and feel exactly the same way at almost 65. 🥰🥰🥰 Just this morning I was foraging violets on the property I am so honored to live on. I plan to make lemonade with them. My darling husband joined in and we were both smiling ear to ear. While outside I also forages dandelions and gathered daffodils. Once inside the joy in me was quietly and gratefully overflowing. I look forward to sharing all of these types of moments with my almost three year old granddaughter.

    • @susansullivan7966
      @susansullivan7966 Рік тому +29

      If only all of us took the time to peek closely into nature, frolic in the rain, and enjoy the small things. At 63, I always have, and always will and my heart is full.

    • @tracythomas7288
      @tracythomas7288 Рік тому +17

      I am the same way. A 53yr. Old child. And cherish that

    • @rosekilcup5652
      @rosekilcup5652 Рік тому +18

      Rose. Oh the beauty of wildflowers !!!! I remember as a child how much I loved them and now I'm almost 82 and so happy to say that my very favourite places in the world are in a field of wildflowers or in a wooded area. I grew up in PEI so I was blessed with both !!!
      I've been watching your channel for quite sometime and it's a joy to watch. Don't ever grow up !!! 💕

    • @Shashiyapavlogs
      @Shashiyapavlogs Рік тому +14

      I'm the same , I'm almost 40 . Some people think I'm weird as I sometimes show my inner child in even in public places ( Gardens , waterfalls , ocean and even my toddler's playground ), but I'm enjoying myself ..glad many adults like me out there

  • @staceylynch9751
    @staceylynch9751 Рік тому +222

    I'll be 50 this year. It took me a long time to realize that no one knows ever really "grows up" or even knows what they're doing. We're all just fumbling along through our "adult" years. You're fine. ❤

  • @Dakota-Rose
    @Dakota-Rose Рік тому +326

    The adult world is so overwhelming I would not survive mentally if I didn't live in my own little world and in touch with my childhood. I can relate so much with you and the comments make me happy. Glad I am not the only one. ❤️ You voice my inner thoughts one by one.

    • @Ninjaneer27
      @Ninjaneer27 Рік тому +3

      Well said and I socond that!

    • @Dakota-Rose
      @Dakota-Rose Рік тому +2

      @@Ninjaneer27 Thank you ❤️ 😊

    • @Chunda8
      @Chunda8 Рік тому

      I'll go one better than this and say unequivocally that the adult world actually sucks. Plenty of reasons. Overwhelming doesn't even begin to cover it. We live in a world where some mentally ill whack job menace can shoot up an elementary school with an assault rifle- little kids are not safe in their classrooms. That is the point of complete and utter societal failure. It'll be interesting to see how much further civilization can break down. The Mad Max movie franchise is supposed to be dystopian science fiction, not a how-to or documentary. The Walking Dead is supposed to be a comic book, not a PSA for Kensington, Pennsylvania.

    • @frayansertzrave
      @frayansertzrave Рік тому +6

      I feel this even now at 23 😭❤️
      I'm an adult now but my childish side in touch with my innerchild will always be there. Because absorbing too much stress might affect my health and die earlier.

    • @Dakota-Rose
      @Dakota-Rose Рік тому +5

      @@frayansertzraveThere is a song from a Dutch artist called 'goodbye little boy' from Robert Long. He sings about parting with his inner child. Somewhere deep down he is still there inside of him, looking at his adult self in the mirror but he lost the magical world where he was living in when he was a child. I was very moved by the lyrics. I had lots of difficulties with the transitioning to adulthood. I embraced my childlike side and come to terms it is my saviour in this world where I can loose touch of my senses if I didn't had that in my life. I am not 20 anymore but still love this childlike side of myself. Not hiding it anymore, as when I do I would loose a part of my identity, my lifeline when anxiety strikes, and the meaning of life will be lost. I will never part with the childhood in me.

  • @Colorado617
    @Colorado617 Рік тому +330

    As an almost 76 year old, an introvert living in my home built in 1907, I love the validation and inspiration I find in your videos. While I admire tremendously your enchanting art, my talents lie elsewhere as I sit with my paper quilling or jelly making (I just made watermelon jelly that my 10 year old great-niece asked me to make), I find great encouragement and joy and support in your words and your videos. Thank you and I encourage you to keep inspiring all of us!

    • @kimalonzo3363
      @kimalonzo3363 Рік тому +9

      Wow! Watermelon jelly sounds delicious!

    • @unlockyoursoulmemory4199
      @unlockyoursoulmemory4199 Рік тому +3

      @@kimalonzo3363 my immediate response as well... sounds super delicious

    • @unlockyoursoulmemory4199
      @unlockyoursoulmemory4199 Рік тому +8

      your great-niece is so lucky to have you in her life

    • @kmarshall53
      @kmarshall53 Рік тому +9

      You are a kindred spirit - I’m living a quiet life as well, and absolutely loving it.

    • @bettynix3678
      @bettynix3678 Рік тому +12

      I was so encouraged to find your post I also am 76 and feel many times I am being childish. I was so encouraged to find this program. I want the child in me to always have freedom of expression.

  • @myriamm9917
    @myriamm9917 Рік тому +527

    I'm often called a child because I love spending so much time with my parents as an adult. It's wild what some people can shame you for. ❤❤

    • @angelicasysnila5476
      @angelicasysnila5476 Рік тому +50

      Same. I hang out with my parents a lot, i go to fast food chains, park walk, play indoor games with them. My friends don't make fun of me, but it still makes me wonder, why am I the only one hanging out with my parents at the age of 23, while others hang out with only friends or just alone, i feel different. But we should do what makes us happy.

    • @Flamec45
      @Flamec45 Рік тому +12

      I wish I had a good relationship with mine. Nothing is wrong with this at all.

    • @novejk
      @novejk Рік тому +13

      Same :( I'm just the same kid who loved to get cuddled between mom & dad, who followed her mom as a puppet, who made her dad her best friend, & still does all these things, being a 22yr old adult. I just don't know what life is without them. It seems meaningless to me
      My friends even Makes fun of me for I'm still too attached to mom & dad but Idc, to be attached to parents is synonymous to oxygen to me.

    • @ARCtroNerd
      @ARCtroNerd Рік тому +16

      Well.... Send them to India lol.
      In India and probably other countries too, people live with their parents all their lives. We will always be a little kid to our parents no matter how much we grow. I'm not a parent yet but I feel the same about my younger sibling.

    • @khfan4life365
      @khfan4life365 Рік тому +5

      Same here. People roll their eyes when I tell them I like hanging out with my parents and grandparents.

  • @cozysweetpotato
    @cozysweetpotato Рік тому +326

    does anyone else ever feel like they are too fragile for this world? like interacting with people (especially on the internet) is so stressful and scary and you worry about every thing you say and think its better to say nothing at all just in case. You assume the best in everyone and that people don't want to do harm, you try to be kind, you feel easy to upset, have issues taking care of yourself, etc?

    • @josephstalin9357
      @josephstalin9357 Рік тому +10

      The things we do to one another

    • @renaxo69
      @renaxo69 Рік тому +20

      This 🥺>>>> It's exactly how I feel sometimes...

    • @lmf3880
      @lmf3880 Рік тому +8

      Don't care what people say share youre light with the world regardless if what people think.

    • @PentragonCosplay
      @PentragonCosplay Рік тому +10

      Did you ever heard of HSP (highly sensitive person)? Maybe that’s worth looking into

    • @lovelylipbonesouwwwwwwwolv2198
      @lovelylipbonesouwwwwwwwolv2198 Рік тому

      I sort of understand...

  • @arianahoule7223
    @arianahoule7223 Рік тому +79

    Oh, my. There will always be those who try to put you down. In my "75," years, I have been ostracized by family and others for being different. It has always saddened me because all I ever wanted was to be loved. However, my integrity is more important than acceptance from others. I am happy to say that my inner light shines bright, and each day is a new day to offer loving kindness to others. Paola, you are a gift to our beloved planet. I am glad you are strong enough to stay true to yourself. And you are dearly loved.

  • @dianemcdaniel8284
    @dianemcdaniel8284 Рік тому +157

    I'll never understand why some people insist upon making rude comments instead of simply switching to a video that's more to their liking. There are SO MANY options. I am very grateful to you for your gentle perspective and share your love for children's books, whimsical woodlands, and simple joys. Thank you.

    • @maddyG7414
      @maddyG7414 Рік тому +26

      In my humble opinion it comes from deep insecurity. Some part of them that they feel they cannot accept, and so they condemn other people for doing it. Social media is filled with this. People who are reasonably content with themselves and their life don’t need to bring others down, they just move onto people they relate to more, as you say.

    • @tracyhickman6961
      @tracyhickman6961 Рік тому +4

      I agree wholeheartedly. Simply switching to something else would be the adult thing to do.

    • @pippas5808
      @pippas5808 Рік тому +2

      As my grandmother used to say - if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all!

  • @playhighwhilegames7151
    @playhighwhilegames7151 Рік тому +103

    You fought against a world that forces you to be someone else. Keep doing you.

  • @maddy-zzz
    @maddy-zzz Рік тому +425

    I find it so wild that you have received a single negative comment on this channel. I think you are such a positive force on this platform and use your influence well. Every week your videos remind me to be grateful for the wonders around me, to talk kindly to myself, and to do hobbies that bring me happiness.

    • @kwilsonnc
      @kwilsonnc Рік тому +20

      Wild indeed. The internet is a strange place.

    • @joanmyron
      @joanmyron Рік тому +19

      Very true indeed. It simply shows how some people simply used the internet to put others down.I simply love her videos ❤

    • @Jules-zw7iu
      @Jules-zw7iu Рік тому +8

      Agreed!

    • @sherry450
      @sherry450 Рік тому +20

      Yes, @joanmyron, it seems it’s the only way to make themselves feel better is to put others down, truly sad. If THAT is being and “adult” then I’m not interested.

    • @ariag.8745
      @ariag.8745 Рік тому +9

      @Maddy: beautifully said. I am reminded of the movie Under the Tuscan Sun where Francesca's friend, the beautiful British actress, talks about the famous Italian director Fellini saying to her "Never lose your childhood innocence; it's THE most important thing." I believe at our core we are spiritual, joy-seeking beings having a physical experience. I think Paola so beautifully embodies that core spirit which is one of seeking joy and seeing beauty in the world around her for when we see beauty we really are seeing the face of God in all things. Thank you Paola for sharing your most authentic self with us and reminding us of what is possible.

  • @bellafiore3283
    @bellafiore3283 Рік тому +193

    I am 72. I have been following you now into the second year. You have the wisdom of a 70 year old who is in touch with your gentle creative soul. This is a form of mastering living in The Now. You exemplify this way of Being beautifully. You mentioned your sister is a social worker/therapist and I commented that your videos would be important for those coping and expanding after perhaps early childhood adversity. You are a breath of fresh air sharing such timely wisdom. 🙏👏

  • @caesarali7191
    @caesarali7191 Рік тому +178

    You look and sound more mature than most adults that I know. Having a child-like spirit isn't the same as refusing to grow up.

    • @tomsmith6513
      @tomsmith6513 Рік тому +13

      Maybe adulthood is like reaching the summit of a mountain, seeing everything below and coming to the realisation that . . . this is all there is. There is nothing bigger or grander than the view from the top of a mountain. You have reached the top, there is nothing higher.

    • @g8807
      @g8807 Рік тому +2

      I agree.

    • @sapodilla25
      @sapodilla25 Рік тому +1

      Yes I agree. The self awareness shows that she is mature already. And some of it could also be ADHD, ADD or just wanting everything too soon/at the same time. Sometimes we should slow down and remind ourselves life is not a race. We all reach the same finish line in the end.

  • @teresajones5973
    @teresajones5973 Рік тому +194

    As a 61 year old creative person, I watch your videos to calm myself. Your videos are a great escape from this crazy world, and I thank you for reminding me that it’s okay to slow down in life.

  • @jsams4990
    @jsams4990 Рік тому +238

    I am 64 and proud to be childlike too ❤ Love my forest and playing barefoot in my fairy village 😊 Always keep the child alive! Love your channel ❤❤🧚‍♂️

    • @alanaharris9488
      @alanaharris9488 Рік тому +14

      I’m 65,I buy Lego,kids books and things ( for my grandkids when they stay) my husband said I buy it for me! I listen to children’s audio books. Love it.

    • @pineconelife
      @pineconelife Рік тому +12

      Also 65 here and have always believed faeries exist. Without whimsy and the beauty of nature my life would feel so uninspired. I studied children’s lit at Uni and I love illustrated children’s books etc. I’m quite content in life and am happy to find similar souls among us.

    • @jsams4990
      @jsams4990 Рік тому +2

      @@alanaharris9488 I totally buy it for me 😂

    • @jsams4990
      @jsams4990 Рік тому +1

      @@pineconelife I love a beautifully illustrated children's book. Glad I can read them to my grands now!

  • @MAMAJUGO
    @MAMAJUGO Рік тому +150

    As they say, there's nothing more childish than wanting to grow up

  • @angelsspirit335
    @angelsspirit335 Рік тому +547

    I am a doctor of Psychology and I say you have a BEAUTIFUL SOUL! Celebrate it be yourself!

    • @kristiant96
      @kristiant96 Рік тому

      ah yes psychology, the racket for the jews.

    • @slowrunn3r88
      @slowrunn3r88 Рік тому +5

      Huh, I know some therapists who you should have a….talking to, because not only were they bad therapists, but they relentlessly got inside my head and made me feel “lesser” because I saw my job as a means to fuel my hobbies. They said career needs to be my focus as an adult or I’m objectively wrong

    • @Kokorocodon
      @Kokorocodon Рік тому +1

      @@slowrunn3r88 As a psychology student myself, I will surely try to never push people towards such a toxic way of thinking.

    • @slowrunn3r88
      @slowrunn3r88 Рік тому +1

      @@Kokorocodon I appreciate that - as long as you’re willing to learn just as much as clients should learn, I think you’ll do great

  • @sarahorozco9823
    @sarahorozco9823 Рік тому +297

    The way you understand your own mind and inner self is something that many adults don't have. The way you can be alone with your thoughts and not be tormented is impressive to millions of people. Maturity doesn't really have a solid definition but I love how you are able to recognize your own sense of maturity through the things you find important. You inspire me so much thank you for these videos 💙

  • @disassemblyfactory
    @disassemblyfactory Рік тому +61

    I only recently became an "adult". Legally anyways. I suffer with a lot of mental illnesses that I am age regressed mentally and emotionally. So many people say to "act your age" when that is so hard to even do when becoming an adult is giving up your life to a corporation so you can make below minimum wage.
    Yes, I am going to college, but I am getting these degrees so I can make my own sanctuary for animals. To be lost in a forest and not have so many worries.
    This is why I love your channel so much. It makes me feel seen through this walk of life. Even with bumps in the road, it is still a road. You will travel down it, be it left, right, looping, or through tunnels. You will always be on that road to see the light.

  • @etherealgirl394
    @etherealgirl394 Рік тому +342

    I remember there was this group of girls at college who at first were my friends but when I started going to anime conventions they started isolating me, making hurtful comments calling me childish, they made fun of my close relationship with my parents, and laughed at me and other people in class who were different to them. They thought they were soooo mature cause they had a boyfriend or lived alone, but in the end, they were the immature ones being mean to us for no reason... a mature person respects everybody. At first they made me doubt myself a lot, but when I realized they were no one to define me I decided to be EVEN WEIRDER!!!! hahaha And I've been quite happy ever since, I found a group of friends who don't judge others for their taste and who are actually kind and respectful. So don't change who you are for anybody!! Their comments say more about themselves than about you! :) great video as always!

    • @TheGoldenCapstone
      @TheGoldenCapstone Рік тому +6

      And now look at you! Still can't handle being an adult but now you have a group of friends to dress up like cartoon characters together.

    • @etherealgirl394
      @etherealgirl394 Рік тому +34

      @@TheGoldenCapstone yeaah, adulting is hard and there are things I'm still learning, but at least I have the right people next to me and I can say I never made anyone feel bad for their hobbies. And maybe not giving up my personality for becoming a very formal adult or fitting in led me to persue my dreams and now I'm an author! I'm so much happier without listening to those toxic people, tbh :) and by the way we did dress up as characters a lot but after the pandemic we kinda stopped that, I miss it lol

    • @Artsu1993
      @Artsu1993 Рік тому +3

      @@etherealgirl394 dress up again!

    • @NitwitsWorld
      @NitwitsWorld Рік тому

      @@etherealgirl394 hey anime is mainstream now so those bitches can suck it 😅

    • @etherealgirl394
      @etherealgirl394 Рік тому

      @@Artsu1993 I already have something in mind hehe

  • @JeffJensen55
    @JeffJensen55 Рік тому +226

    My sister sent me a birthday card years ago that said, “Growing old is inevitable. Maturing, however is optional.” I’ve lived my life (at this point, 68 years) by that standard! ❤

    • @rachelina97
      @rachelina97 Рік тому +5

      I love this! And just for fun, I would like to question what the definition of mature is. And perhaps, even redefine it!
      In this sweet quote you share, being mature means growing up to lose your wonder, which is how many people seem to define it. Yet, what if maturing also allowed space for our wonder to be prioritized too?
      It is people like Paola who shows us how mature someone could be with child-like wonder.
      By my own definition, I believe she is even more mature than the average “adult” who is too serious.
      Perhaps it is the ability to let ego take a seat.
      Just thought I’d share this stream of thought here!

    • @JeffJensen55
      @JeffJensen55 Рік тому +6

      Rachel, I absolutely agree. Perhaps the quote would better be, “How we mature is optional.” Growing older, and maturing can (and certainly should) bring at least some degree of wisdom. You’re right in that maturing should not cause us to lose our childlike sense of wonder. For me I think it has deepened my sense of wonder. The Norwegian singer Aurora I think captures this thought in her song, “Through the Eyes of a Child.”

  • @alexandra_horia
    @alexandra_horia Рік тому +30

    My mother left me the most precious message: "No matter how big you'll get, never forget to be...a child."
    I love your videos! ♥️

    • @darthvader1793
      @darthvader1793 Рік тому

      yes no matter how fat you are, you are still a child.

  • @josephstevens9888
    @josephstevens9888 Рік тому +187

    "A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly... if you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely."
    Beautiful... just beautiful!

    • @dixielovessunshine
      @dixielovessunshine Рік тому +3

      It's good to see your videos and partake of your quiet, soft, and lovely demeanor and attitude... I wouldn't say you are childish, rather, Childlike is a better way to describe your beautiful personality ... Your calm nature is inspirational... Thank you for being the person you are, the world needs more sweet, loving people who aren't afraid to be themselves...🥰❤️🥰❤️🥰❤️

    • @InnerChildCreates
      @InnerChildCreates Рік тому

      I love this too. 😄 Wonderful quote.

  • @SharonG-ip3ll
    @SharonG-ip3ll Рік тому +46

    At 53 years old I still have a whimsical child like mind. I have a small collection of stuffed animals that all have names and personalities. When life gets chaotic and adulting is too much, I can retreat into my room with my things and be safe and have calmness and inner peace. Thank you for showing that it's ok to unplug from the world, if only for a little while.

    • @donnawatson845
      @donnawatson845 Рік тому +5

      Betty White, a much respected animal advocate and actress, LOVED stuffed animals too. Ha!! Guess what? So do I. I buy them to share with family, n my students love my "animal adoptions" for every holiday. So...do what makes u 😊

  • @Phellip_
    @Phellip_ Рік тому +148

    ''Inside every adult I see the heart of a child. We just gradually convince ourselves that we have to act more like adults"
    -Shigeru Miyamoto

    • @dukenegju
      @dukenegju Рік тому

      I'm still not convinced. :) Love

  • @jayalexander3356
    @jayalexander3356 Рік тому +45

    As a 53 yr old woman who has dealt with anxiety disorder her whole life and always felt inadequate because the world was just too fast for me, I think its wonderful that you've built a life that suites your personality. I wish I'd had these realizations at your age. My life would have been much less stressful.

    • @poppymoon777
      @poppymoon777 Рік тому +3

      So true.Don’t get brainwashed by the crowd

  • @jmitch5161
    @jmitch5161 Рік тому +251

    NEVER apologise for who you are! We need as much light in this world as possible. Your light shines brightly and you are certainly playing your part.

  • @Nicnac13
    @Nicnac13 Рік тому +74

    Love you and your channel xxx I am autistic , 42 years old and still have so many parts of me that are so young, I find pure joy in teddy bears, Disney, fairy tales, imagination etc … keep being you and feeding your inner child it’s beautiful and you help so many others like me feel less shame x

  • @rubychew6535
    @rubychew6535 Рік тому +214

    Don't pay attention to those comments regarding your adult presence. We as adults need your channel since the world is so cold and cruel. Your videos are calming and relaxing.

    • @tunebeat3809
      @tunebeat3809 Рік тому +3

      A healthy amount of optimism is needed to keep ourselves and each other mentally strong, especially in a time like this.

  • @lorifontaine
    @lorifontaine Рік тому +221

    Paola, the world is broken. You, with your joy and your gentle soul are helping to heal it. You have the magic that many of us lose once we allow the chaos of the world to touch us. We need to hear what you have to say. Light will always win over darkness. So grateful to you. Hugs from Canada.

  • @LB-yp6oe
    @LB-yp6oe Рік тому +37

    I think people forget that the real world IS natural beauty and wonder , sitting and breathing and watching , ....the constructed world of work and worry is just that: constructed.

  • @SeaTurtle515
    @SeaTurtle515 Рік тому +203

    Paola, you seem to be reliable, trustworthy, responsible, giving, intentional, kind hearted and sensitive and that is what is required of a healthy adult, of which you are. 🌿

  • @beautifulgirl219
    @beautifulgirl219 Рік тому +55

    I once had a young person, whom I had over 30 years seniority on, complement me on my wisdom and maturity, while seeming to envy those traits. My advice was to not be in a hurry to exchange innocence for wisdom, as I believe I was happier when I was young and innocent, and saw beauty in every direction, while I failed then to see the spiritual ignorance in the world, that can now appear so unattractive. I see you Paola as an artist, a craftswoman, a philosopher, a poet, and perhaps a mystic. A force of nature. Perfect as you are. :)

  • @user-qh8nh7oe6d
    @user-qh8nh7oe6d 9 місяців тому +2

    Please just know how many people love you Paola, you can see it in over a million followers you have. We are all still part of the child we were. Our childhood reading helps to shape who we are as adults, and books we live stay with us our whole lives.
    . You are an adult, and more mature than many, in understanding the beauty and wonder of nature, and its magic. You are doing all you can to be kind and nurturing our world, which many adults seem intent on destroying. The best adult.
    I can't thank you enough for making your way to me. I'm 66, and mankind gets too much at times, with how cruel it can be. We need millions more Paolas to get us on the right path again. I'm just happy to have got your book, and waiting for my nature owl set to arrive for a present. Bless you Paola, and Luke and your animals

  • @jnetbeams
    @jnetbeams Рік тому +116

    Not childish, but childlike. And it speaks to us. ❤

  • @susanclark8654
    @susanclark8654 Рік тому +61

    I'm 60 this year and I still come inside after a walk or just out in the garden with things...little deserted cocoons, pretty feathers, rocks , pine cones...I've been doing it since I was a kid. it's nice that some childhood things never change 🥰

    • @Karen-ve6ds
      @Karen-ve6ds Рік тому +2

      Same….. I’ve had pine cones crammed into my grownup handbag. 😊

    • @susanclark8654
      @susanclark8654 Рік тому

      @@Karen-ve6ds 😁

  • @kellysereda4961
    @kellysereda4961 Рік тому +2

    " "Growing up" by other standards isn't as important as growth in general". Well put.

  • @frode1974
    @frode1974 Рік тому +430

    "Growing up" is a term often misunderstood to mean entering the roles that society and culture "require" of us at any given time. This is not the truth. "Growing up" is to get to know yourself, to accept yourself fully and completely without judgement. "Growing up" is the process of loving yourself unconditionally. Thank you for sharing your beautiful journey "growing up" and in the process helping and supporting the rest of us "growing up" as well. Thank you my beautiful soul ❤

    • @poppymoon777
      @poppymoon777 Рік тому

      Absolutely

    • @M_JackOfAllTrades
      @M_JackOfAllTrades Рік тому

      Beautifully said. I agree with you.

    • @Mike-mj8oj
      @Mike-mj8oj Рік тому +1

      So you don’t judge yourself at all? You know that every single person is under the wrath of God because of our sin, Jesus Christ who is God in the flesh said these words: Most assuredly I say to you, unless one is born again of the Holy Spirit, he cannot see the kingdom of God.
      John 3:3
      Just being a good person does not get anyone to Heaven. Those who believe in the Lord Jesus Christ are not condemned, but he who does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the only name of the begotten Son of God.
      John 3:18

    • @TheGoldenCapstone
      @TheGoldenCapstone Рік тому +3

      No, growing up is not "fully accepting yourself". What is this new age nonsense? No wonder all of you are struggling with adulthood.

    • @luluanthem
      @luluanthem Рік тому +8

      @@TheGoldenCapstone Accepting =/= never changing or improving. You just come to understand what is actually important to you, not to others, before you try to "improve" only by conforming, like some think is central to being an adult.

  • @felsiedaniel1244
    @felsiedaniel1244 Рік тому +50

    Just don't change. You're more adult and understand yourself.. better than the 'adults' I've met.. don't lose the wonder of life. You're an inspiration and I'm 65 this year.

  • @YouGuessIGuess
    @YouGuessIGuess Рік тому +1322

    "Adulthood" is a construct created by marketeers who want us to work to afford status symbols we usually don't need.

    • @eliphas_catdaddy7982
      @eliphas_catdaddy7982 Рік тому +119

      Yep and also it is usually mentioned when they want you to shut up. Ex: so what if the prices are rising? Act like an adult, pull yourself up by your bootstraps. Oh you are crying after seing some war photos? Grow up, war is normal. Etc.

    • @brushstroke3733
      @brushstroke3733 Рік тому +4

      👍

    • @Chunda8
      @Chunda8 Рік тому +62

      Overdoing the whole adulthood thing is a surefire path to Wage Slavery. I've noticed that without kids, without a car payment and with my debt low to zero, plus some savings, my conversatons with my employer(s) have changed quite a bit. Money that I don't spend I don't have to earn. With a little reserves, a self-employed side gig, a working spouse... interviews can be kind of fun. I have the resources to basically give two weeks notice at will to any employer if things become unbearable for any number of legitimate reasons. There is such a thing as "Employment at Will" states- well, I'd like to start pioneering the "Employment at My Will" employee.

    • @brianthesnail3815
      @brianthesnail3815 Рік тому +36

      Marketers certainly present a version adulthood based around consumerism. That isn't what being an adult is though.

    • @eliphas_catdaddy7982
      @eliphas_catdaddy7982 Рік тому +3

      @@Chunda8 Well said.

  • @calvinengland1506
    @calvinengland1506 Рік тому +15

    If it weren’t for the dreamers and sensitives in this world we’d have no children’s books, no imagination to share in and no dreams to follow. No happy memories and staring out of windows, no wild carefree days and no forest friends. Life would be incredibly dull and bleak without free thinkers like you that bring us so much joy. And I still have kindred thoughts and remember the forest, the fields, the animals, the wind and the trees, the chuckling brooks, even at sixty nine. Even as a man growing old I remember them all. Thank you for reminding me of those precious moments running free.

  • @elisasmith1609
    @elisasmith1609 Рік тому +106

    It's hard to fathom how small a mind must be to belittle the wise by saying things like enjoying peaceful and joyful activities as an adult is "childish". Unfathomable. I pity the smallness of such minds.
    Only the wise and strong can be gentle.
    I applaud your gentleness and joy of life, Paula!! There are many out there just like you, including myself. I could easily spend my days doing nothing more then wandering meadows, thinking, smiling, taking photos, laying in the grass, searching for beautiful wild flowers and silly critters.. it's in the humble rhythms of nature and soul that real life is discovered and enjoyed. The haters just haven't graduated to fully-blossomed-adult yet. 😁

  • @kerrymartinez4463
    @kerrymartinez4463 Рік тому +23

    I recently realized that after all the striving to fit and do, working so hard etc. - I still am the same little one who loves outdoors, animals, flowers and cake. And that is a very wonderful realization. Thank you for your encouragement.

  • @gypsy3314
    @gypsy3314 Рік тому +88

    In this virtual informational garbage heap that we call “the internet” nowadays, I’ve found your channel to be an inspirational and serene respite. And if “being an adult” means abandoning one’s own humanity in favor of chaining one’s self to conventional societal ideals that are based on nonsense, then I also want no part of it. Thank you for showing others how to reconnect with themselves and transcend the external “noise.” 🌸

  • @kimkinsella2521
    @kimkinsella2521 Рік тому +87

    As a child I spent hours alone with nature and like you, Paola, I collected flowers etc. the trees were my friends and animals came up to me totally unafraid. The serious world of the adults in my life, with all their problems, separated me from that magical world when I was 8 years old. Your channel has helped me to reconnect with my 8 year old self. Thank you for all you do. (I’m 66 now and refuse to ‘grow up’.)

  • @katbarron
    @katbarron Рік тому +26

    When people point out something in a critical way, I think it’s their way of wanting to be able to do what the person they’re criticizing is doing. It’s a longing or desire that’s perhaps dormant within them, and rather than go on a journey of cultivating mindfulness, it’s easier to point fingers and judge. Your work is beautiful and I’m so grateful for the play, creativity and stillness of your videos ♥️

  • @juniperlau
    @juniperlau Рік тому +335

    I am astounded by the courageous kindness it takes to respond so gently to thoughtless remarks like that. What an inspiration you are! Bravo.

    • @brgnhntrdi6081
      @brgnhntrdi6081 Рік тому +23

      Well said. That is a true sign of a Lady. A classy Lady in fact!

    • @fanfight
      @fanfight Рік тому

      I don't mean to be rude,but it's "Brava"'(not "Bravo"),'cause "Brava" is the female version of "Bravo" :)

  • @liahalsall
    @liahalsall Рік тому +60

    Beatrix Potter painted and wrote children books and look at her legacy now. She’s a literary icon who continues to inspire even after her passing. The fact that you can tap into your inner child is a beautiful thing and the only opinion that matters, is yours. Be you, be unapologetically you and we will be here listening and watching your story without judgement. 🏡 💐 🧚🏻‍♀️ 🎨 📚

  • @kimulm0619
    @kimulm0619 Рік тому +32

    "As long as your living in kindness and a humble heart,I don't see how it could be wrong to be you".That was profound imo.Thank you for this gem of a reminder .💖😇

  • @tanschi8449
    @tanschi8449 Рік тому +108

    Being hopeful and joyful for a child is usually easy as many have not yet experienced evil firsthand. But having hope and joy as an adult takes courage because the dark side of life has already touched us. Sometimes too much. That's why magic forests, fairies and sweet stories are needed now more than ever. Thank you for being "childlike" and help us live, through your videos, in that magic world as well.

    • @courtney1709
      @courtney1709 Рік тому +6

      Beautifully said, and as a 55 year old who has experienced a lot of loss in recent times, I completely agree.

    • @Briselance
      @Briselance Рік тому +4

      "That's why magic forests, fairies and sweet stories are needed now more than ever"
      That's maybe the reason why I still (secretly) love MLP. I got hooked on it, back in '12-'13, and I have never truly left it behind.

  • @TheNyuszus
    @TheNyuszus Рік тому +15

    I love that Paola is capable of turning negative comments into video ideas and reinforce her way of being in such a beautiful way. ❤ The deep thoughts she shares are something a lot of adult could take example from.

  • @MasayahingShana
    @MasayahingShana Рік тому +11

    From the day I became 18, my question was always: "I feel like different from my friends. Do I need to change myself to what the society's standard wants to live as a matured person?"
    this video is what I need 😭 thank you so much. Such calm video. It feels home while watching this.

  • @vivianhudacek1556
    @vivianhudacek1556 Рік тому +99

    You’re delightful, refreshing, creative, mature, an old soul in a beautiful young woman’s form. Blessings to you & all you do & are! This 72-year-old appreciates you & your channel!

  • @franciebarcus4416
    @franciebarcus4416 Рік тому +7

    Thankyou for giving us these beautiful moments of sanity in a mad world. I love Matt Haig's book, The Comfort Book. He says in there, "I used to worry about fitting in until I realized the reason I didn't fit in was because I didn't want to. "
    Also, "Your self-worth is not found in the minds of other people." This is so freeing.

  • @moonstonepearl21
    @moonstonepearl21 Рік тому +7

    This message is so important. As someone with a very active imagination and who spends a lot of time in my head and loves lounging in nature, I feel this.

  • @terrimalek
    @terrimalek Рік тому +62

    I had a cousin I had not seen in years tell me last year at a family funeral that I'm very childlike. I told him that's the biggest compliment he could give. It truly is who I am at a Soul level, a loving free spirit through and through. I find joy and wonder in life, more so now in my 50's than ever before He did tell me he meant it as a compliment because it is so refreshing. You are so refreshing. Thank you for being YOU🥰

  • @ilibertyi
    @ilibertyi Рік тому +153

    Paola, we love you. This is why we keep coming back to see you. I thought I was the only "old" person to watch your channel. But as I read the comments, there are many of us over 60. I think that's very telling. You have the wisdom we wish we had had at your age. We appreciate the fact that you validate our wisdom in our old age. Those who don't understand you/us are sad human beings. They, more than any of us, need you and people like you to show them the way. Be the light, Paola. Always. Love.

    • @lorettabray1483
      @lorettabray1483 Рік тому +17

      I’m also in my 60’s and find Paola endearing. I’m now re-entering childlike state with my grandchildren. It’s heavenly to spend time with them.

    • @esthersanchez2264
      @esthersanchez2264 Рік тому +6

      In the last week of September i will have completed my 66th year of life. So grateful to have a connection to Paola's sweet, sincere, simplicity.
      🌿🌸🌼🐰🐕‍🦺🌻

    • @lid6634
      @lid6634 Рік тому +3

      I am in 20 but it gives me hope there is a way to live like this.

    • @annanicole5494
      @annanicole5494 Рік тому +1

      @@lorettabray1483 this is such a sweet comment :’)

    • @JosephDefag0
      @JosephDefag0 Рік тому

      @@lorettabray1483 Paola don't want want to have children, like most "adults" nowadays.I wonder why...

  • @JoesGuy
    @JoesGuy Рік тому +14

    In spite of the world's ills, it's heartening to know that delightful people like yourself exist.

  • @OurLadyForLife
    @OurLadyForLife Рік тому +55

    I'm a teacher and mother. You have one of the best channels, so very peaceful and innocent. Some cruel people aim to get their comments into your video. Please ignore them!!

  • @BarbyDailey-Rurallife40
    @BarbyDailey-Rurallife40 Рік тому +37

    I think that anyone who would consider your art childish is a child themselves who have not matured. You are a beautiful soul, spreading love and joy to a world that needs it. Keep doing what you are doing. There is a reason your channel has 1.3 M subscribers. XO💖

  • @rami_241
    @rami_241 Рік тому +7

    This is an example of a one in a million video. The cinematography, the soothing music, and the topic at hand are absolutely beautiful. I will always cherish my childish side. Having a sense of wonder to small things brings me the most enjoyment in my life.

  • @melissalee9981
    @melissalee9981 Рік тому +31

    I think it takes a truly mature person to recognize the importance of being childlike. Childlike is not the same thing as childish. Childlike people often recognize the things that are beautiful and wholesome and good in this world: those things that make life worth living and that contribute to a life well lived. You inspire me to continue searching for beauty and joy in a world fraught with peril, and you remind me that joy and peace are found in the simple, quiet and lovely places our imagination can take us when we dare to open our hearts to dreams. Thank you!!

    • @InnerChildCreates
      @InnerChildCreates Рік тому +3

      This! "Childish" comes from selfishness. "Childlike" comes from love. Peace to you, Melissa, may you find that beauty and joy.

  • @maryfisher1965
    @maryfisher1965 Рік тому +148

    I absolutely love this channel! I had older parents who were not always in the best health. Therefore my child like wonder ( the wonder years) was curtailed. I started feeling responsible at 8 years old and it continued to grow. There was no time to be a child when your dad might die or your mom might die and you saw the toll on the family. There was no time for frivolity. I am now in my 60s and finally letting my inner child grow and surface. I thank you for helping me to find her. Keep being magical and lovely.

    • @dragonwithagirltattoo598
      @dragonwithagirltattoo598 Рік тому +4

      It couldn’t of been easy for your parents either, being older. But we’re happy you’re here with us 😊

    • @Python308
      @Python308 Рік тому

      I had older parents too, a blessing but at times quite a worry..

    • @carolcyr8553
      @carolcyr8553 Рік тому

      I am glad you're now nurturing your inner child. It can't have been easy, having to be so mature at such a young age.

  • @roamer1389
    @roamer1389 Рік тому +25

    As someone who grew up too fast in my teenage years and cowardly regressed to my childhood ways in my late 20s, I can tell you that growing up is not worth it. Too many responsibilities and too much bullshit to deal with (especially my own), especially when it was forced down my throat growing up(although everything going on now is on me) and with covid fucking us all. It has drained me of passion, and the willingness to go on.
    Bless you for not being an adult in this world and for being happy. You deserve it and everything great in this world.

    • @Shreya-hy2vf
      @Shreya-hy2vf Рік тому

      I just entered my 20th year.....and I couldnt resonate with you more......
      Just this morning I wrote in my journal....how badly I wish to be back to childhood.
      I too "grew up" too quickly
      .....and the responsibilities of adult life shivers me.....
      I love solitude and want to escape so badly.
      How are you??
      And how you navigate life as of now?

  • @rjhollenbeck8442
    @rjhollenbeck8442 Рік тому +29

    My gosh your videos are like therapy to me. Not only are they visually gorgeous but you also always speak such beautiful truths.

  • @jeanlilley3139
    @jeanlilley3139 Рік тому +56

    When I was going thru a life changing illness over a decade ago, a friend reminded me to take care of the little girl inside. I think remembering and nurturing that little girl inside of me keeps me thinking young, and thereby enjoying these senior years much more! Your words today certainly validate this friend's advice! Be blessed today. You blessed my day as it is beginning this am.

  • @purplecouch4767
    @purplecouch4767 Рік тому +19

    She is so calming and talented. When I was hanging out with my friend (this was a few years ago) they once told me "your such a child" in a nice way so I responded saying "thank you". Why would I want to be an adult? Maybe besides good new experiences. I don't know how taxes work. Also last week when I was at a restaurant I asked for paper and crayons so they gave me some. I don't care what others say (well sometimes I do but I try not to) it has a fun crossword puzzle and tic tac toe and a hidden character. Plus I could play hang man and draw whatever I want. I still like to go to playgrounds and making fun crafts. I'm not going to stop being me just because I've survived long enough to become hairy. Although people around me have already started dating someone, got a drivers license, and a job. And I kinda haven't yet. I'm worried that I won't be good at adulting. Oh I'm 17 btw. more words etc. As long as people aren't ignoring their responsibilities I think they should be as childlike as they want.

  • @crochetcakes
    @crochetcakes Рік тому +30

    I’ve never felt much like an adult either. I’ve often been called gullible and naive to the point that I’ve truly hardened my heart. I admire your child-like wonder. As you say, there is nothing wrong with being ourselves as long as we are kind.

    • @InnerChildCreates
      @InnerChildCreates Рік тому +3

      I hope you can overcome those naysayers and keep beauty and magic in your heart.

    • @vickimann3262
      @vickimann3262 Рік тому +1

      You have to be like a child to enter the kingdom of heaven. 😊

    • @HyLo-rule
      @HyLo-rule Рік тому

      @@vickimann3262 source

    • @vickimann3262
      @vickimann3262 Рік тому

      @@HyLo-rule the bible

  • @nananananananana1567
    @nananananananana1567 Рік тому +8

    What a soothing voice omg I could listen to you talking for hours

  • @GaiaNative
    @GaiaNative Рік тому +17

    Im a 70 year old woman from NZ. Entering my Winter years has reinforced the childlike wonder of my start in life. Never lose the wondrous way in which you view the world Paola. Ive watched your videos for a long time and love them all. Thank you for wandering through your world and sharing some of it with us. Blessings x

  • @bethm2699
    @bethm2699 Рік тому +50

    Loved everything about this. Roald Dahl is one of my favorite children's authors. What a lovely quote from him. I think if more people were in touch with their child within, we'd live in a more peaceful and happy world. Oh, well, at least we have you. 🙂

    • @michellecd4722
      @michellecd4722 Рік тому +3

      @Beth M Cheryl Richardson the life coach mentioned him in her blog post this week. Now I've got to research more of his wisdom for sure

  • @hajarhematian6970
    @hajarhematian6970 Рік тому +12

    It's a strenght to be gentle and "childlike" in a world that can be so serious, critical and harsh. Your life is not boring at all ; it rather seems that you have a very rich life; capturing, enjoying and sharing the precious moments in your daily life witch is filled with light and magic. I would love to have a friend like you; creative, sensitive, nature-oriented, someone very wise and with a big heart! It's a delight watching your content, thank you so much for that, Paola. greetins from Belgium 🌼🦋🌼

  • @AvaSMR
    @AvaSMR Рік тому +57

    “I don’t see how it could be wrong to be you.” - needed to hear this today! Wonderful video as always

  • @mjbl4tube
    @mjbl4tube Рік тому +16

    I'm 53 and coming back to my sweet little girl inside, and i have been so happy to meet her again This video is LIFE

  • @docmars
    @docmars Рік тому +3

    I find it silly how anyone could call you "unproductive" when your cottage is literally perfect and tidy, you've got hobbies, and you seem to take good care of yourself.
    The same people passing those judgments probably don't have it quite so together, I wager.

  • @mireillewilson5911
    @mireillewilson5911 Рік тому +29

    I have anxiety. Watching your videos have helped me so much. I'm so greatful for this channel. I sometimes watch your videos over and over again because they help calm me. You don't need me to say this but I will just in case you need to hear it. Don't ever change. You are loveliness itself? Your kindness can be felt through the screen. You've helped me and I'm sure many others just like me. Thank you!

  • @lisapardini3594
    @lisapardini3594 Рік тому +23

    Watching your channel has helped me to embrace who I am. I've always felt I never really grew up and that the things that make me the most happy and alive are things a small child would feel the same about. I no longer feel like I have to hide my personality and I happily now acknowledge who I truly am with a sense of freedom and joy. Thank you for being the catalyst to help me live my life as my authentic self.

  • @tamaragebhardt
    @tamaragebhardt Рік тому +1

    So many people watch your channel because of the wonderful person you are. ❤ Never change. ❤

  • @Justmyhandle
    @Justmyhandle Рік тому +26

    Being childish and being child-like are two VERY different things despite how similar they may sound, and losing one's capacity for the latter in pursuit of our socially conditioned definition of "maturity" is one of the greatest tragedies there is.

  • @TheSelfCenter
    @TheSelfCenter Рік тому +54

    We're all struggling with adulting 😢 I hope you have great days ahead ❤❤

  • @slipiest-adv_7000
    @slipiest-adv_7000 Рік тому +5

    This is a very beautiful message. I'm going to finish college soon, and the thoughts of adult life scares me so much because I'm afraid if reality will crush the magic in my inner world, turning me into a "proper" adult society always expect from anyone. Thank you for sharing and reminding me that there's still love and kindness in this world

  • @marietepper724
    @marietepper724 Рік тому +30

    💙💚🖤 Paola, I am almost 60 yrs old and I still believe in fairies! Don't ever loose that inner child, it is beautiful and shines bright in this sometimes dark world🧚‍♀️🧚‍♂️

  • @nevermind7253
    @nevermind7253 Рік тому +36

    Hello everyone 🌻
    I must say
    While I adore her... And so appreciate the fact she can and does change my day which in this world I desperately need.
    I equally loved reading all of your messages as well.
    Made my heart smile to see so many here around my age of 65
    Blessings ❣️

  • @laurieboyd8725
    @laurieboyd8725 Рік тому +16

    Long live the child within all of us! ❤

  • @leonakay6491
    @leonakay6491 Рік тому +36

    We all need to honour the child within, and see the beauty of nature and also the sweetness and goodness of animals. Why focus on the negative aspect of living here, we are all aware of it, but to feel the joy and to honour ourselves in seeing the beauty and joy around us heals our heart and allows us to vibrate this out to others (what we focus on grows).You inspire and uplift so many others. I am one of them being a sensitive soul also. I understand where you are coming from, I feel the same. Love from Australia.

  • @corinaklies8131
    @corinaklies8131 Рік тому +11

    My daughter turns 20 in June. One thing I've really admired about her is not abandoning the things she loved as a kid. I love that you have kept that spirit about you, and it has helped me become more playful as a result.