And let's not forget, a gentleman treats women of all ages with chivalry and respect and not just the ones they are romantically and/or sexually interested in.
🙋♀️ Female here… All very good points you have made. Opening any door, car or otherwise and offering a seat is something that really means “ultimate gentleman” to me. Since I am a female, I have been with child several times. I cannot even tell you how many times I was carrying a child on one hip while obviously about to burst with another one on its way. The amount of times I needed someone to open a door was basically countless. I would estimate that 99% of the time no one held the door open for me (us). It has always stuck with me how important this one act actually is. (And, yes, I do hold the door open for women that may be in the same situation or just have small children with them)
Great video. I took your advice and now carry a handkerchief and have offered it to women who've become emotional and my god I was hero...such a pro tip, I sincerely appreciate you!
As a millennial woman, I do appreciate old-fashioned chivalry. I think the majority of the points mentioned in this video are basic respectful behaviour, and I approve of them 100%. Somehow, many people simply don't think of offering small but thoughtful gestures like these. That goes for both men and women, by the way!
I absolutely love this video. One thing my wife loves that I do for her is open her car door. I also make her breakfast every morning. I work from home, so I have more availability to make breakfast while she is getting ready for work.
I have always found that women appreciate having you open her car door. I enjoy doing this and also like to discreetly locate the seat belt and pass it to her, saving her from needing to strain or fumble around in what may be a not fully familiar car. I always check that her coat or dress are not going to be caught or spoiled by the car door before I close it gently, asking if I may move it out of harms way if necessary. Soft-close doors do help here and ensure you do not have to close the door jarringly.
Did this recently for a lady when asked to help remove a stubborn petrol cap. The look on her face when I offered to fill it up while I was there. Priceless.
One act my wife likes and is happy I still do since dating era always open her car door when we getting in & always open up umbrella n hold it above her between car & building
My gentleman husband has, throughout our 14 years of marriage, served me a cup of coffee (asking how I want it, bc sometimes I want black, sometimes I want it with milk and sugar) every single day we are together in the morning. It's a small, yet precious, gesture of kindness and caring and I love him for it.
Excellent video and lots of good tips. I would love to see you do a version of this video on traditional acts of chivalry that never go out of style. Like pulling her chair out for her or giving her your jacket if she's cold. Things that are really just polite but have that air of classic chivalry that's scarce nowadays. I'd love to see it brought back. Thanks for your time and hard work.
About battery chargers, I had once a hero moment. I use to basically carry a lot of stuff just in case. One day, I carried two batteries for some reason, with two cables. Then, during the day, a girl of my class asked me if I had one. "yes, of course, here". Problem was, another one needed a battery as well ! I can tell you she was very surprised when I pulled out the other one with its cable. Everyday carry can be very accomodating. And I think it is their goal to be
This is a wonderful video and I can confirm all the points mentioned from my life experience. My first wife was pretty much the sort of an Amazon, tall, self-reliant and confident, but she still loved my chivalrous behavior in many ways. My second wife absolutely loves it, when I do all the things you mention in your video. Especially the last one made me laugh, because it has happened quite a few times that she made the wrong pick and preferred the meal I just ordered. Being the gentleman that I am, I had a few times the dinner I didn't order. But more often we just share our meals. Only exception: she doesn't like lamb, so whenever I order it, she sticks with her choice 🤣.
A chivalry point not mentioned? Always pick her up in an immaculately clean car,with inspections,registration,and insurance,in order. "...the way a man treats his car,is how he treats himself..." - François Berleand as Inspector Tarconi
I always appreciate it when my husband fills up my gas tank or the gas tank on whichever vehicle we are driving together. I appreciate when he carries the luggage either to load the car or when we arrive at our destination. My husband always does the dishes after I cook, which is considerate on multiple levels. I just love that he thinks of my needs before his own. I hope I am as thoughtful for him.
One item you might add is going out to warm up the car during the winter, or bringing the car to the event entrance in the rain Even after 35 years of marriage, this behavior still makes me feel lucky, valued and special.
Oh these are just the tip of the iceberg, but one thing I do that truly makes my wife feel special is ordering for her when dining out. Through casual, incidental conversation, I find out what she would like from the menu. When our Server arrives, even if they ask her directly what she would like, I speak up saying “Lisa will have the…”.
Holding a door open for women, men, families, etc. Seating your date by pulling her chair out and pushing it in as she sits first before you sit yourself.
There are some women who might find these more traditional acts of chivalry a bit outdated or even condescending. I bet the majority still appreciate them, though, and worst case scenario, you try it out, she reacts negatively and you note that for next time
Well as a more 1950's kind of guy most of these don't even apply, myself and my partner don't take our phones when we go out together on a date or just to the pub for a pint. Most of this is for people who cannot detach from the modern world for 5 minutes and give those minutes to a person you care about. Making sure a lady gets home safe is a must though.
I find it a little tragic that many young women are so unfamiliar with courtesy rules that they don't let you do them correctly. Jumping out of cars, running into a restaurant first. I would love to hear your opinion on communicating to women on how to take those gestures and play their role in this
Excuse me, but I feel the need to correct you on your very first statement. Actually treating EVERY HUMAN BEING with respect and courtesy is a huge part of being a gentleman.
I think the knowing how she takes her tea is taken to literally. It's how she like her steak (R,M,WD) her martini up or on the rocks, her dessert preference, chocolate, nuts or berries, etc, etc. In other words, notice the details.
....bonus points if you get up when she get's up from the table. You can offer a hand to aid her navigating an exit from a booth or help with her jacket or it just shows respect.
Another act of chivalry (that wasn't included in the video), that very few men do these days, is if you walk with a woman, you need to walk on the part of the sidewalk that faces the road. I think it can apply well in modern society too.
In the old days people threw the contents of their chamber pots out their upper windows onto the street. Men walking on the curb.side were more likely to be drenched. Also men on the curb side were closer to splashes of mud, urine and manure from passing horse and carriages.
Always offer your seat to a lady on the subway. If you are at a bar and two women arrive and there’s only one seat available, offer your seat so both women can sit together. Each time I did this it was well appreciated.
Yes these are all good suggestions. It is important for gentlemen to treat ladies with respect. I also hold the door for them too. One can always find some wild eyed feminist who does not like any of this but I don't care. I do these things, not because they are incapable or weak or anything like that, obviously they are not. This is my way of honoring and respecting them. I have found the majority of women even in these modern days appreciate that.
It’s disappointing that so many of my fellow guys have a negative opinion of feminism, or think it means progressive-minded women don’t still appreciate politeness and kindness. Feminism more broadly just means the idea that women should be treated with equality and have the same opportunities as men. It doesn’t mean Anyone who subscribes to it is some raging blue-haired sociology undergrad who will bite your head off for pulling out a chair. That’s a stereotype
Something that people appreciate is when someone keeps the door open for them that they're about to reach. It's just polite, not necessarily something just by men for women. It's something my parents taught me to do.
Women like these things? Hardly a surprise to hear girls want a guy to pander to her. You're off the mark with this list as dating recommendations - any guy who follows such a list religiously will be discarded or put in the friend zone. I'm not saying a guy should be rude or disrespectful, but he'll do better if he keeps an air of mystery to keep her guessing. 1. He calls when he says he will 2. He makes sure you get home 3. Not cancelling last minute 4. Texting throughout the day 5. Phone off at dinner or date 6. Wanting to meet friends and family 7. Lending your phone 8. Picking up for a date 9. Offering to pay for her uber 10. Knowing how you take your tea 11. No post midnight booty calls 12. Giving you his seat on the train 13. Sharing two meals
I never offer to pick her up on the first date, especially if we met online. I feel like offering to call her an Uber also would be a safety risk in her eyes since she’s giving you her address. Driving her home, on the other hand, is a different story.
I once was exiting a building, with a massive, heavy iron gate, a mature and classy lady came along just behind me so, as I usually do, I politely opened the (heavy) gate and invited her to go before me. Gents, I can't explain you how much she hated that, she almost started to yell at me in a very weird way, and silently mumbled something....probably swearing! It was so bizzarre but I'll still do it again the next time (not for her maybe).
Whenever that happens to me, I always assume they're in the middle of a psychotic break with reality can't process the world around them at that moment.
Next it would be interesting to see a video of misguided chivalry, things that might have been considered appropriate or expected in past decades but now might come off as outdated or offensive
Went into this expecting to disagree like I did with the previous one about offering your seat on public transport, as i dont consider myself chivalrous at all, only to find I actually do most of these. I suppose a lot of these also fall under the categories of common courtesy and being a decent partner. I think I'll start pulling the seat out for my girlfriend..
I think its much better to give your seat to someone in genuine need be they pregnant, with young child, blind, injured or elderly than just because its a woman - I actually believe a perceptive woman would see this act and hold you in higher esteem as you nod and wink to her ;-)
2: offer to do it but don't push at all about it. Also, not do it just for women but for your friends too. And if you want to do it, take into account your personal safety too since you matter too. Also, it shouldn't be you who always escorts your date home. It should be your date escorting you too. 5: turning the phone off can be a bad idea. In cases like if there's an emergency or something it can cause issues. A better idea is to have it in silent or vibration mode, and just not be on the phone. 7: lending your phone should be reserved for when you trust your partner a lot, since it's quite intimate way taht shows your life. And of course not wanting your partner to check your phone os not bad. Having a private life os not something bad. 8: it's a bad idea when the relationship is fresh since there's not enough trust between you yet. The best thing would be if you meet at designated place at the start. Then after consent is given for you to pick her up. OR for her to puck you up. A man shouldn't be the only one who's putting effort. 9: offering to pay for Uber should be reserved for when the relationship is more serious. 11: it highly depends on the level of seriousness and intimacy in the relationship. 12: anyone regardless of sex, should be offering their seat for pregnant women, disabled people, elderly and also kids. Men and women are equal. Giving your seat to another person eceb if it's not in these categories is chivalrous, but not offering or not giving your seat to a woman that is not in the above categories, shouldn't be seen as shameful/bad 13: if you go halves on meals, then only do it with foods you enjoy. If you don't want to eat something you aren't obligated or cannot be forced to eat it to accommodate your partner. And of course, if you end up eating one meal and her the other, you're only paying for your own.
One gesture I am torn about but I like is standing up at the table in a restaurant when a woman goes to the bathrooms, comes back from the powder room etc.. I saw it in the Mad Men series and want to integrate it but the women I know say that this is excessive.
First off, chivalry was never a written code; it was inferred by the people of the time. Secondly, while courtly manners were a part of the romantic concept of chivalry, they were simply good manners. Deferring to women was an effort to restrain sexual violence and violence in general. As far as 'modern chivalry,' those acts are simply good manners.
We need to be careful not to take what women (or people in general) say at face value. Of course women want us to text them throughout the day, they naturally crave attention. But once you start giving them too much, they’re turned off and it’s easy to start chasing their validation from there. Don’t fall for the trap of believing women know what they want. As men, it’s our job to lead. Have boundaries on your time and attention, let her be a little upset. If she really likes you, it will only make her want you more.
@@JoanMurray-j5y I like this policy. Imagine it filters out a lot of games and time-wasting and generally speeds up the getting to know each other process.
We don’t necessarily turn it off,but I personally put my phone on silent mode in my purse whether I’m dining with family or friends,with the purpose of being fully present in that moment and discard any kind of distraction.
Holding door open for woman going in. This is tricky. My brother was in the Peace Corp. Ghana. The Africans called the US Men cowards because they open the door at a restuant and send the woman in first. In their culture the man enters a restaurant first to make sure it is safe for the woman. My Peruvian friend, who was everything a gentleman could be, took his sister-in-law to the thrift store for "just a few minutes" and wound up sitting outside in the car for 45 minutes. He was angry and argued with her for taking so long but even whilst arguing he got out and opened the door on the car for her and made sure she was in safely before closing it.
Not to be anal retentive about decor, but I think you need a long light bulb for your banker’s lamp. It looks like you have a standard bulb there that illuminates only half of the shade, making it lopsided. I have that exact lamp and long bulbs are essential. But great video!
Enjoying the content. As an older gentleman in London I see a lot of younger men making school boy errors when it comes to lacing, the size / style of laces and the actual lacing technique - (straight lace / criss cross etc). A real shame when the outfit and shoes are sharp, then the laces spoil the outfit, fine detail I know but it matters. One to educate them on Gent Z
I’ve discovered your videos not so long ago, and I haven’t found anything about passing a door. Here in France, according to a book written by the Duc de Brissac (one of the oldest families in France) there are two ways of considering it: After opening the door, the gentleman should go first in order to meet the unknown/danger; - The gentleman should go in last because “ladies first”. Il difficult to du both though 😅… What is your opinion? Daniel Gabé
Run in first with your sword. Ensure no danger. Then escort in the tremulous lady toute suite. Dacord? Allspelling errors caused by US Computer idiocit
That's bs. Face danger to protect a man or woman you know, or child is perfectly fine. But needlessly facing danger for an unknown woman or a woman you just wanna have relationship with is stupid. Men's lives don't worth less than women's.
I am a huge believer in chivalry towards women and men, although my belief in equality between the sexes means I am also a huge believer in making no difference between the sexes. All the things I was taught as a boy to do for women especially, I have long since abandoned. To do otherwise is, IMHO, rank hypocrisy.
I make content for men, but there are lots of UA-camrs who make videos about elegance and lady-like behavior for women. Perhaps I can collaborate with one of them in the future
One important point the survey did not bring up was how a man treats his mother. This is not really a act of chivalry either but how you treat your mother says a lot about your character and can be a big green or red flag for women you date.
The man presenting this is young and handsome, and has projected the reaction he gets from women to encompass all male-female interactions. Here's the rule (coming from a 62 year old man): If a man is young and handsome, women will "appreciate" chivalrous gestures. If the man is not young or not handsome...he's a creep and they're strong and independent women who don't need a man to (fill in the blank). This channel is really only for so-called "Chads". The rest of you need not bother.
If that really should happen, RUN. Because any woman who doesn't appreciate a gentleman is not a lady. And there is no need for a man with self-respect to be walked all over upon or go for less than the companionship of a lady.
I know the title says modern acts of chivalry ( because women hijacked the true meaning of chivalry) but modern western ( or woke, liberalized feminist ) women aren't worth a mans good acts or intentions. also the romanticization of women and the chivalric code is a modern, western idea mostly for entertainment ( movies, novels etc...) the real middle age chivalric code had nothing to do with women, it was a code of conduct thats the knights of that era would follow, it wasn't law just a code to be followed that also varied from region to region. this is a generalized list of rules to be followed that most of the different countries and regions had in their code. Prowess: Seeking excellence in all endeavours; seeking strength to be used for justice rather than personal gain. Justice: Seeking what is right without personal bias or prejudice; tempered by humanity and mercy Loyalty: Demonstrating an unwavering commitment to a person or ideal Defense: Defending your lord and those who depend on you Courage: Choosing the more difficult path, rather than what comes easy; choosing to live by truth Faith: Having faith in your beliefs so that when humanity disappoints you, you still have hope Humility: Refusing to boast in your own accomplishments; putting others before yourself Largesse: Being as generous as your resources allow Nobility: Seeking great stature of character; being the best you can be, realizing that perfection is impossible but always striving toward that ideal Franchise: Emulating all parts of the code of chivalry in the hope that others will follow your example. absolutely nothing to do with how you treat women specifically, women would fall under the category of defence.
What hook up culture? Are you still in grade 7 measuring your floppy todger as Prince Harry calls it so Ffectionatey Spelling error perhaps. better. Affection or Effection for one's todger. Enjoy your solitary life watching shut.
No. I’ve been watching your content and I love it. However with this one I strongly disagree. Modern women are not built to appreciate chivalry so better not waste energy nor time.
Could a woman get upset because you are offering your seat? I have never seen that, not in Cuba my home country not in Russia. Maybe is a thing of this woke dumb thing?
And let's not forget, a gentleman treats women of all ages with chivalry and respect and not just the ones they are romantically and/or sexually interested in.
🙋♀️ Female here… All very good points you have made. Opening any door, car or otherwise and offering a seat is something that really means “ultimate gentleman” to me. Since I am a female, I have been with child several times. I cannot even tell you how many times I was carrying a child on one hip while obviously about to burst with another one on its way. The amount of times I needed someone to open a door was basically countless. I would estimate that 99% of the time no one held the door open for me (us). It has always stuck with me how important this one act actually is. (And, yes, I do hold the door open for women that may be in the same situation or just have small children with them)
Great video. I took your advice and now carry a handkerchief and have offered it to women who've become emotional and my god I was hero...such a pro tip, I sincerely appreciate you!
That’s wonderful to hear, you are very welcome!
Any good father teaches his son manners and appropriate social skills.
As a millennial woman, I do appreciate old-fashioned chivalry.
I think the majority of the points mentioned in this video are basic respectful behaviour, and I approve of them 100%. Somehow, many people simply don't think of offering small but thoughtful gestures like these.
That goes for both men and women, by the way!
I absolutely love this video. One thing my wife loves that I do for her is open her car door. I also make her breakfast every morning. I work from home, so I have more availability to make breakfast while she is getting ready for work.
I have always found that women appreciate having you open her car door. I enjoy doing this and also like to discreetly locate the seat belt and pass it to her, saving her from needing to strain or fumble around in what may be a not fully familiar car. I always check that her coat or dress are not going to be caught or spoiled by the car door before I close it gently, asking if I may move it out of harms way if necessary. Soft-close doors do help here and ensure you do not have to close the door jarringly.
This is beautiful to hear 👏
My take from this video is that we should all be chivalrous to everyone………maybe just call it good manners, or courtesy.
Maybe obsolete but something my grandfather always did for my grandmother that I found endearing was filling her car up with fuel.
Great suggestion. Many women dislike fueling the car
Did this recently for a lady when asked to help remove a stubborn petrol cap. The look on her face when I offered to fill it up while I was there. Priceless.
@@JJ-nm8sh Top gentleman!
@@JJ-nm8sh With my dumb ass I would accidently ask if I can fill her up
One act my wife likes and is happy I still do since dating era always open her car door when we getting in & always open up umbrella n hold it above her between car & building
This will never go out of style! Lovely that you do that.
Offering her the better seat in a restaurant every time.. 🖖🏻😎
Absolutely the way to go
I agree but I also tend to seat facing the entrance which I believe being a right thing to do.
My gentleman husband has, throughout our 14 years of marriage, served me a cup of coffee (asking how I want it, bc sometimes I want black, sometimes I want it with milk and sugar) every single day we are together in the morning. It's a small, yet precious, gesture of kindness and caring and I love him for it.
Thank you, Gent Z, for adding beauty, refinement, and kindness to this world that has become so coarse.
Excellent video and lots of good tips. I would love to see you do a version of this video on traditional acts of chivalry that never go out of style. Like pulling her chair out for her or giving her your jacket if she's cold. Things that are really just polite but have that air of classic chivalry that's scarce nowadays. I'd love to see it brought back. Thanks for your time and hard work.
Thank you. I think more videos of this type are definitely in order :)
About battery chargers, I had once a hero moment. I use to basically carry a lot of stuff just in case. One day, I carried two batteries for some reason, with two cables. Then, during the day, a girl of my class asked me if I had one. "yes, of course, here". Problem was, another one needed a battery as well ! I can tell you she was very surprised when I pulled out the other one with its cable.
Everyday carry can be very accomodating. And I think it is their goal to be
This is a wonderful video and I can confirm all the points mentioned from my life experience. My first wife was pretty much the sort of an Amazon, tall, self-reliant and confident, but she still loved my chivalrous behavior in many ways. My second wife absolutely loves it, when I do all the things you mention in your video. Especially the last one made me laugh, because it has happened quite a few times that she made the wrong pick and preferred the meal I just ordered. Being the gentleman that I am, I had a few times the dinner I didn't order. But more often we just share our meals. Only exception: she doesn't like lamb, so whenever I order it, she sticks with her choice 🤣.
A chivalry point not mentioned?
Always pick her up in an immaculately clean car,with inspections,registration,and insurance,in order.
"...the way a man treats his car,is how he treats himself..."
- François Berleand as Inspector Tarconi
Agreed 👍
I always appreciate it when my husband fills up my gas tank or the gas tank on whichever vehicle we are driving together.
I appreciate when he carries the luggage either to load the car or when we arrive at our destination.
My husband always does the dishes after I cook, which is considerate on multiple levels. I just love that he thinks of my needs before his own. I hope I am as thoughtful for him.
One item you might add is going out to warm up the car during the winter, or bringing the car to the event entrance in the rain Even after 35 years of marriage, this behavior still makes me feel lucky, valued and special.
My husband always brings the car around especially when I'm wearing really high heels
Oh these are just the tip of the iceberg, but one thing I do that truly makes my wife feel special is ordering for her when dining out. Through casual, incidental conversation, I find out what she would like from the menu. When our Server arrives, even if they ask her directly what she would like, I speak up saying “Lisa will have the…”.
Holding a door open for women, men, families, etc.
Seating your date by pulling her chair out and pushing it in as she sits first before you sit yourself.
All are very good habit
One can never go wrong pulling chair or after meal offering help with coat
There are some women who might find these more traditional acts of chivalry a bit outdated or even condescending. I bet the majority still appreciate them, though, and worst case scenario, you try it out, she reacts negatively and you note that for next time
Well as a more 1950's kind of guy most of these don't even apply, myself and my partner don't take our phones when we go out together on a date or just to the pub for a pint.
Most of this is for people who cannot detach from the modern world for 5 minutes and give those minutes to a person you care about.
Making sure a lady gets home safe is a must though.
I find it a little tragic that many young women are so unfamiliar with courtesy rules that they don't let you do them correctly. Jumping out of cars, running into a restaurant first. I would love to hear your opinion on communicating to women on how to take those gestures and play their role in this
Thank you Gent.Z
Holding a door open for a woman to pass through, even if it's a stranger. And opening the car door both arriving and departing.
One thing my husband does that I love is stand when I leave the table and stand when I return
Excellent chivalry. You're a lucky lady to have such a gentleman.
I appreciate your effort in these videos. Can we get a video on being a gentleman around other men
Opening the car door, and walking on the street side of the sidewalk
Excuse me, but I feel the need to correct you on your very first statement. Actually treating EVERY HUMAN BEING with respect and courtesy is a huge part of being a gentleman.
I think the knowing how she takes her tea is taken to literally. It's how she like her steak (R,M,WD) her martini up or on the rocks, her dessert preference, chocolate, nuts or berries, etc, etc. In other words, notice the details.
Pal, I stand when a lady comes toward(s) my table.
Very good
....bonus points if you get up when she get's up from the table. You can offer a hand to aid her navigating an exit from a booth or help with her jacket or it just shows respect.
@@joe18750 I am NO simp!!!!!!
@@voozoo1606 of course not. you're just needlessly hard-headed.
This channel is GOLD, thanks for the great content.
You’re very welcome, thanks for your comment
Offering your jacket when its bad weather and carry heavy things. Thoose things should a real gentleman do 🎩
The letting her use his phone is more about trust, like "I don't have weird things or people on my phone, go ahead"
Another act of chivalry (that wasn't included in the video), that very few men do these days, is if you walk with a woman, you need to walk on the part of the sidewalk that faces the road. I think it can apply well in modern society too.
In the old days people threw the contents of their chamber pots out their upper windows onto the street. Men walking on the curb.side were more likely to be drenched. Also men on the curb side were closer to splashes of mud, urine and manure from passing horse and carriages.
@@JoanMurray-j5y Yes, this is why they did this, to protect the women.
@@btudor_06 women should do this too.
Men shouldn't be seen as expendable shields.
@@PrimordialNyx They are not shields, it is just an act of CHIVALRY.
@@btudor_06 women are not shields. but men are not shields either. sexism is not chivalry
Always offer your seat to a lady on the subway. If you are at a bar and two women arrive and there’s only one seat available, offer your seat so both women can sit together. Each time I did this it was well appreciated.
Nice companion piece to "Why Men Should Offer Their Seats To Women". Well done James.
Thank you, my mind has definitely been on this topic lately
Yes these are all good suggestions. It is important for gentlemen to treat ladies with respect. I also hold the door for them too. One can always find some wild eyed feminist who does not like any of this but I don't care. I do these things, not because they are incapable or weak or anything like that, obviously they are not. This is my way of honoring and respecting them. I have found the majority of women even in these modern days appreciate that.
It’s disappointing that so many of my fellow guys have a negative opinion of feminism, or think it means progressive-minded women don’t still appreciate politeness and kindness. Feminism more broadly just means the idea that women should be treated with equality and have the same opportunities as men. It doesn’t mean Anyone who subscribes to it is some raging blue-haired sociology undergrad who will bite your head off for pulling out a chair. That’s a stereotype
All this talk of chivalry and not even a mention of glorious battle, mighty steeds and splitting lances. Snuffbumble I say!
Something that people appreciate is when someone keeps the door open for them that they're about to reach. It's just polite, not necessarily something just by men for women. It's something my parents taught me to do.
Can you please do a video on workout clothes/outfits! Thanks!
Women like these things? Hardly a surprise to hear girls want a guy to pander to her. You're off the mark with this list as dating recommendations - any guy who follows such a list religiously will be discarded or put in the friend zone. I'm not saying a guy should be rude or disrespectful, but he'll do better if he keeps an air of mystery to keep her guessing.
1. He calls when he says he will
2. He makes sure you get home
3. Not cancelling last minute
4. Texting throughout the day
5. Phone off at dinner or date
6. Wanting to meet friends and family
7. Lending your phone
8. Picking up for a date
9. Offering to pay for her uber
10. Knowing how you take your tea
11. No post midnight booty calls
12. Giving you his seat on the train
13. Sharing two meals
The simple open the door
Love this video
I never offer to pick her up on the first date, especially if we met online. I feel like offering to call her an Uber also would be a safety risk in her eyes since she’s giving you her address.
Driving her home, on the other hand, is a different story.
Helpful!
Thanks a lot !
I have also discovered that making my wife a cup of tea and then serving it to her in a china cup Brings her joy.
I once was exiting a building, with a massive, heavy iron gate, a mature and classy lady came along just behind me so, as I usually do, I politely opened the (heavy) gate and invited her to go before me. Gents, I can't explain you how much she hated that, she almost started to yell at me in a very weird way, and silently mumbled something....probably swearing! It was so bizzarre but I'll still do it again the next time (not for her maybe).
Forget about it. She's the kind of nut-burger that would have found fault with you if you hadn't done it. She was just itching for a fight.
Whenever that happens to me, I always assume they're in the middle of a psychotic break with reality can't process the world around them at that moment.
What’s more chivalrous than offering a woman a seat on your lap on a crowded bus … it’s a win win 🥇
Next it would be interesting to see a video of misguided chivalry, things that might have been considered appropriate or expected in past decades but now might come off as outdated or offensive
Women don't appreciate much anymore but I will continue to behave in a respectful manner.
You will attract the right women, thats all you need to care
it’s not that we don’t appreciate - we’ve been trained to lower our expectations… trust me, the right woman will appreciate.
@@ricardamariabetzing1580💯
well, a few of us still appreciate, but men like that rare a rare gem.
@@NCSheriff7stop giving flase hope
You forgot the sidewalk rule. Have your lady walk on the inside of the road
Yes, indeed. Expect in some cities, where there are greater dangers on the sidewalk than the road 😅
Went into this expecting to disagree like I did with the previous one about offering your seat on public transport, as i dont consider myself chivalrous at all, only to find I actually do most of these. I suppose a lot of these also fall under the categories of common courtesy and being a decent partner. I think I'll start pulling the seat out for my girlfriend..
I think its much better to give your seat to someone in genuine need be they pregnant, with young child, blind, injured or elderly than just because its a woman - I actually believe a perceptive woman would see this act and hold you in higher esteem as you nod and wink to her ;-)
2: offer to do it but don't push at all about it. Also, not do it just for women but for your friends too.
And if you want to do it, take into account your personal safety too since you matter too. Also, it shouldn't be you who always escorts your date home. It should be your date escorting you too.
5: turning the phone off can be a bad idea. In cases like if there's an emergency or something it can cause issues. A better idea is to have it in silent or vibration mode, and just not be on the phone.
7: lending your phone should be reserved for when you trust your partner a lot, since it's quite intimate way taht shows your life. And of course not wanting your partner to check your phone os not bad. Having a private life os not something bad.
8: it's a bad idea when the relationship is fresh since there's not enough trust between you yet. The best thing would be if you meet at designated place at the start. Then after consent is given for you to pick her up. OR for her to puck you up. A man shouldn't be the only one who's putting effort.
9: offering to pay for Uber should be reserved for when the relationship is more serious.
11: it highly depends on the level of seriousness and intimacy in the relationship.
12: anyone regardless of sex, should be offering their seat for pregnant women, disabled people, elderly and also kids.
Men and women are equal. Giving your seat to another person eceb if it's not in these categories is chivalrous, but not offering or not giving your seat to a woman that is not in the above categories, shouldn't be seen as shameful/bad
13: if you go halves on meals, then only do it with foods you enjoy. If you don't want to eat something you aren't obligated or cannot be forced to eat it to accommodate your partner. And of course, if you end up eating one meal and her the other, you're only paying for your own.
If you are not my wife.KICK ROCKS! IDC! You can't pick and choose!
One gesture I am torn about but I like is standing up at the table in a restaurant when a woman goes to the bathrooms, comes back from the powder room etc.. I saw it in the Mad Men series and want to integrate it but the women I know say that this is excessive.
It isn’t excessive. It’s very respectful. Feminine women will love it.
Those women are colonial dummies.
T Y Sir.
First off, chivalry was never a written code; it was inferred by the people of the time. Secondly, while courtly manners were a part of the romantic concept of chivalry, they were simply good manners. Deferring to women was an effort to restrain sexual violence and violence in general. As far as 'modern chivalry,' those acts are simply good manners.
Light her cigarette, if she’s a smoker
Gentlemen, remember that these guidelines apply to traditional ladies only, they do not apply to modern women.
Excellent video. 👏
Opening the door for a woman, and opening a car door for a woman. Both show deference and respect.
We need to be careful not to take what women (or people in general) say at face value. Of course women want us to text them throughout the day, they naturally crave attention. But once you start giving them too much, they’re turned off and it’s easy to start chasing their validation from there. Don’t fall for the trap of believing women know what they want. As men, it’s our job to lead. Have boundaries on your time and attention, let her be a little upset. If she really likes you, it will only make her want you more.
@@unme4728 Do you have anything productive to add? I comment from experience but am open to other points of view.
My policy is no texts, no E mail no voice mail. If you can't call on a live phone you're lazy. Bye.
@@JoanMurray-j5y I like this policy. Imagine it filters out a lot of games and time-wasting and generally speeds up the getting to know each other process.
When walking with my wife (or any female friend) down the sidewalk, I always walk on the street side.
how many women turn their phone of at dinner……….. None…!
We don’t necessarily turn it off,but I personally put my phone on silent mode in my purse whether I’m dining with family or friends,with the purpose of being fully present in that moment and discard any kind of distraction.
You're dating slovenly types then
Facts ive seen more men with manners than women its crazy
Holding door open for woman going in. This is tricky. My brother was in the Peace Corp. Ghana. The Africans called the US Men cowards because they open the door at a restuant and send the woman in first. In their culture the man enters a restaurant first to make sure it is safe for the woman. My Peruvian friend, who was everything a gentleman could be, took his sister-in-law to the thrift store for "just a few minutes" and wound up sitting outside in the car for 45 minutes. He was angry and argued with her for taking so long but even whilst arguing he got out and opened the door on the car for her and made sure she was in safely before closing it.
Most of these apply to people in general, be it a business partner, a friend or a family member.
Not to be anal retentive about decor, but I think you need a long light bulb for your banker’s lamp. It looks like you have a standard bulb there that illuminates only half of the shade, making it lopsided. I have that exact lamp and long bulbs are essential. But great video!
That might be a good tip! I also want to change to one that is a little warmer and dimmer so I’ll see what long bulbs are out there
Enjoying the content. As an older gentleman in London I see a lot of younger men making school boy errors when it comes to lacing, the size / style of laces and the actual lacing technique - (straight lace / criss cross etc). A real shame when the outfit and shoes are sharp, then the laces spoil the outfit, fine detail I know but it matters. One to educate them on Gent Z
Being so judgemental over someone's appearance for some laces? That's pretty bad behaviour imo
I’ve discovered your videos not so long ago, and I haven’t found anything about passing a door.
Here in France, according to a book written by the Duc de Brissac (one of the oldest families in France) there are two ways of considering it:
After opening the door, the gentleman should go first in order to meet the unknown/danger;
- The gentleman should go in last because “ladies first”.
Il difficult to du both though 😅…
What is your opinion?
Daniel Gabé
Run in first with your sword. Ensure no danger. Then escort in the tremulous lady toute suite. Dacord? Allspelling errors caused by US Computer idiocit
That's bs.
Face danger to protect a man or woman you know, or child is perfectly fine.
But needlessly facing danger for an unknown woman or a woman you just wanna have relationship with is stupid. Men's lives don't worth less than women's.
Lol
I am a huge believer in chivalry towards women and men, although my belief in equality between the sexes means I am also a huge believer in making no difference between the sexes. All the things I was taught as a boy to do for women especially, I have long since abandoned. To do otherwise is, IMHO, rank hypocrisy.
@@unme4728equality is equality you cannot pick and choose like a buffet
A nice followup might be 'Acts of lady-like behavior men appreciate.' Can't find that clip anywhere.
I make content for men, but there are lots of UA-camrs who make videos about elegance and lady-like behavior for women. Perhaps I can collaborate with one of them in the future
@@Gent.Z Of course. My apologies for using your clip to make a broader point. I'm enjoying your content.
You've likely never behaved well enough to elicit it. BOOR.
Dearest Jamsey , did you immigrate here or is it just a visa ?
unfortunately, nowadays, those men are rare!
I'm trying to make more of them with this channel!
One important point the survey did not bring up was how a man treats his mother. This is not really a act of chivalry either but how you treat your mother says a lot about your character and can be a big green or red flag for women you date.
Before you judge, find out how his mother treated HIM.
@@FlatOutMattwithout invading his personal space or boundaries.
Many women ignore mens' boundaries as if they aren't important.
Do this and get ready to be walked all over upon. This is crazy.
The man presenting this is young and handsome, and has projected the reaction he gets from women to encompass all male-female interactions.
Here's the rule (coming from a 62 year old man): If a man is young and handsome, women will "appreciate" chivalrous gestures.
If the man is not young or not handsome...he's a creep and they're strong and independent women who don't need a man to (fill in the blank).
This channel is really only for so-called "Chads". The rest of you need not bother.
That’s why you need to make sure you’re with a lady who knows how to appreciate it.
If that really should happen, RUN. Because any woman who doesn't appreciate a gentleman is not a lady. And there is no need for a man with self-respect to be walked all over upon or go for less than the companionship of a lady.
Don’t project your bad experiences on to us
Skill issue
Just common sense...
I know the title says modern acts of chivalry ( because women hijacked the true meaning of chivalry) but modern western ( or woke, liberalized feminist ) women aren't worth a mans good acts or intentions. also the romanticization of women and the chivalric code is a modern, western idea mostly for entertainment ( movies, novels etc...) the real middle age chivalric code had nothing to do with women, it was a code of conduct thats the knights of that era would follow, it wasn't law just a code to be followed that also varied from region to region. this is a generalized list of rules to be followed that most of the different countries and regions had in their code.
Prowess: Seeking excellence in all endeavours; seeking strength to be used for justice rather than personal gain.
Justice: Seeking what is right without personal bias or prejudice; tempered by humanity and mercy
Loyalty: Demonstrating an unwavering commitment to a person or ideal
Defense: Defending your lord and those who depend on you
Courage: Choosing the more difficult path, rather than what comes easy; choosing to live by truth
Faith: Having faith in your beliefs so that when humanity disappoints you, you still have hope
Humility: Refusing to boast in your own accomplishments; putting others before yourself
Largesse: Being as generous as your resources allow
Nobility: Seeking great stature of character; being the best you can be, realizing that perfection is impossible but always striving toward that ideal
Franchise: Emulating all parts of the code of chivalry in the hope that others will follow your example.
absolutely nothing to do with how you treat women specifically, women would fall under the category of defence.
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I held the door for an asian girl once and she stalked me around the store for 10 minutes.
Maybe I’m ignorant but I thought the”hook up culture” was just about getting with someone for sex
What hook up culture? Are you still in grade 7 measuring your floppy todger as Prince Harry calls it so Ffectionatey
Spelling error perhaps. better. Affection or Effection for one's todger. Enjoy your solitary life watching shut.
WATCHING. SMUT. you witless US crap computer
why using a phone during a meal rude? i never understood it
@@robbiddlecombe8392 that explains absolutely nothing. i can talk and scroll or shop at the same time
@@robbiddlecombe8392 i can talk and scroll or shop at the same time. no one ever explains why it's rude
@@robbiddlecombe8392 i just said that i can talk and scroll at the same time
Chivalry is dead and it ain't coming back. Let it go.
No point when every other girl was or is the town bicycle.
Someone is bitter. 😂 Hey bud, try treating women with respect and maybe they'll start showing you the same respect.
@@Dman09ization Women don't want to be treated with respect, they want to be treated like the livestock they are.
@@Dman09ization Women don't want to be treated with respect, they want to be treated like the livestock they are.
@@Dman09izationindeed
Never, ever urinate on her hat unless specifically invited to.
No. I’ve been watching your content and I love it. However with this one I strongly disagree. Modern women are not built to appreciate chivalry so better not waste energy nor time.
Could a woman get upset because you are offering your seat? I have never seen that, not in Cuba my home country not in Russia. Maybe is a thing of this woke dumb thing?
Yes it does happen in the anglosphere. Feminism is a hell of a drug
No woman is worth of this, though.
No women wants someone doing Accounting. Drips always want to be paid.
The best judgement is to watch how a son respects his Mother. (Capital "M")
His Father too.
i love woman