@@SARTORIALTALKS Do you think we can educate (or enlighten) people this way of life? (You mention choice, which sounds almost as if it's a product of free will.)
"A Gentleman guards his behavior. He understands that he must have integrity. This means that a gentleman does the right thing even when no one is watching”
@@SARTORIALTALKS oh thanks for the reply sir.My point being the way you have used language makes it sound poetic and hence someone with a poetic incline appreciates your sentences sir.All the best to you too,Raghav
Magnificent Mr. Jacomet! Your sentiment and passion was captivating! At times, I believe because I try to be gentle and kind to others, and focus on others, that they take my kindness for weakness. Then my wife tells me, it is for the very reason that I am kind and gentle and that I always put her first is the reason she fell in love with me. When we are going out on a date on an elegant occasion, I always ask her what color dress is she wearing. When I wear my suit, I attempt to wear a necktie that matches the color of her dress. When I do this she smiles and I sense her pride in me, because she knows that my heart’s desire is to compliment her and have her be the focus of attention.
And also, in return, your wife also exalts you for being a considerate and refined individual. It's amazing to see a couple compliment one another because it shows genuine union.
Hugo I was hanging on every word of this. Honestly, such an interesting and thought provoking video. These perspectives and facts are important because the concept of being a gentlemen was really at the core of Western European culture, and helped to shape style, art, science, politics and society throughout Europe. This is especially true in British culture as well, where chivalry was still a concept that was propagated up to the First World War and arguably up to the Second. Unfortunately it is much less so now and has been commercialised rather than discussed for its virtues. This is why I am such a fan of the British style, because to me it always has seemed virtuous even moral, to dress and act quietly, discreetly but still with authority. Thanks again. Josh.
Wow, back in my high school days all teachers and staff addressed the students as gentlemen. It was an all boys school, wonderful to now know the history behind it and your opinion on the use of the term. Very well done, and thank you!
A true gentleman is never self-proclaimed but is anointed by his peers. I am grateful to you, Monsieur Jacomet, for your eloquence and depth of knowledge on the matter. Thank you for this detailed explanation. This is quite an education!
I love the way you speak with such passion on a topic. Thank you for your insight, especially your definition of being a gentleman. Much appreciated. I really need to get my hands on your book too!
What a masterpiece of a video! It is incredibly hard to find a video where you not only agree with the message, but understand the reasoning behind it. Ett stort tack från Sverige.
Excellent - “you choose to be a gentleman”. A very touching commentary on women. Spot on. A Gene Kelly said - his goal is to make his partner look good.
Love this video so much! "Being a boy is a matter of chance, being a man is a matter of age...being a gentleman is a matter of choice." This should be taught in schools. Thank you.
Hugo, you are truly an officer and a gentleman! This video was shared with all the men I know....thank you for addressing such important food for thought as masculinity and the art of being a gentleman are under constant subtle pressure and subversive attack in a politically correct and radical society that seeks to dismantle all traditional "social constructs" that have dignified and delighted many.
Hugo, You are that "rare" breed of intelligence and sartorial splendor with a kind heart. Thank you for all your wonderful, inspiring videos. I view many videos but so far I have only subscribed to your channel. Quality content that is unmatched as far as I am concerned. May you have continued success.
I'm so fortunate to stumble upon this channel. As a woman, I always admire the silhouette of a suit, and I enjoy wearing crisp white shirts (billowy ones, like the Romantic poets over fitted pants (cigarette pants?). In my mind, I always see an image in the styles of equestrian and aviator ('20s) style, but much pared down--softer but structured. And there will always be a scarf. The ensemble, like perfume, is a (pleasurable) must... a uniform so to speak. Thank you, Hugo, for generously sharing your wonderful insights.
A wonderful quote, Hugo, I hope I got it right here: ""When a gentleman acts the right way, he does his best to put the attention on others, and not himself." I also really appreciate you talking about kindness, which is something that is greatly missing from the world today.
Such a true & good explanation about a gentleman. Today's youngsters should watch, learn & apply it's principles especially to create positivity in this chaotic society.
I agree with Mr. Jamescord, nice shirt! And the tie knot is just perfectly made. I have followed the Sartorial Talks since episode 1, and let me tell you, Mr. Jacomet, GREAT JOB! Your work with this videos, added to your recent book, The Italian Gentleman (which I have ;-), is INSPIRANT. Thank you very much! Looking forward you decide to write The English Gentleman :-D Happy New Year from Colombia
I think this show is so interesting and i like it so very much that moments ago, i was taking my older son to the Saturday morning football game Here in Brazil! And I was listening hugo’s lecture and in a certain moment my son told me: wow,these are very, very nice comments and I appreciated it that specially from the historical perspective! Than I answered to him, “that’s great i will share the link with you to you subscribe and enjoy! Congratulations Hugo and regards from Brazil
time to get back to wearing and acting like a gentleman I am. no more kids t-shirts and band logos and all that BS. Wanna make it in life then you MUST look like it. Thank you for encouraging me and for your great content. salute!
Yo, I love your attitude and talks on your channel. It's incredible how dudes are these days in regards to using the term "gentleman", use in a way to describe style more than attitude and personality. Keep it up man.
Hugo, it has been such a pleasure to have found your videos, I’ve been watching them for the past few days and they are very inspiring. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and insights. May God Continue to Bless You and Those You Love.
Hugo, I give you ⭐⭐ ⭐ ⭐ ⭐ *Great video,* it's true a man can dress in a $10,000 outfit and bring the term _"Gentleman"_ to disrepute by his bad behaviour, on the other hand he may spend less then $100 and elevate the term _"Gentleman"_ by his good behaviour. If he is well mannered his reflection to other and what they see makes him either a gentleman or a rogue! Also the girls should be taught what to expect from a gentleman and what to expect from a gentleman!
Dear Hugo, I’m a professor of the history of international law, teaching this semester a course on the resolution of ethnic conflicts. I’ve recently used this video to demonstrate to my students the qualities which diplomatic negotiators would have to bring forth in order to succeed in their task of ameliorating conflict - these gentlemanly qualities you talk about: kindness, providing all parties the possibility of feeling at ease and comfortable with the negotiator, the negotiator’s ability to keep confidentiality, and protect the weaknesses of the parties - yet always celebrate their strengths and good sides. Thank you for your work. You might have perhaps not imagined - but your impact even reaches into our field of diplomacy in ethnic conflicts. And yes - dressing well as mediators and negotiators (albeit WITHOUT being judgmental about the dressing habits of others) also increases credibility - and respect !
To me, as a lover of medieval history, a gentleman was a powerful statesman with peerless marital prowess. Elon Musk and Jocko Willink combined in one human, clad in tailored suit of steel. This was the ruling warrior class. However. What separated the lord from the gentleman was kindness towards the weak. Gentleness. While most lords wouldn't flinch as they ordered a city massacred, a gentleman would spare the innocent. To summarise: A gentleman was a monster who showed restraint - A term which doesn't easily translate into our moral language.
I like your generosity in your videos. You provide a lot of info plus you’ve progressed a lot in the way you present yourself (you speak slowlier, it’s quite pleasant to listen to you).
What a great video, Hugo! I have a question though. You mentioned that a gentleman should let his wife shine when they are out together. When I go out and about to run errands and other things, I enjoy dressing in a suit or just a jacket, maybe with a tie, maybe without one. My wife often says that I am dressed too fancy and feels that she doesn't look as good when we are out together. But the issue is that she does not want to take the effort to wear nicer clothes (she just wears normal clothes like the public does these days) and would prefer if I were to dress down. What would you recommend in this recurring situation since I enjoy dressing well, but I also want to keep my wife happy. There must be many men in this situation and not just me. Thank you very much!
Hey Chris, this is an unusual question as I thought the reverse situation was much more frequent (guys who don't want to dress up). Well if I were you I would go slowly and try, step by step, to invite her to accompany you on this elegant path. Maybe you should be a little softer and don't go directly to a full suited and tied outfit, in order for her to feel a spark of interest. Maybe you are simply overwhelming her. Give her a chance to keep up with you. Cheers and good luck ! Hugo
She will dress better if she feels more confident! If you compliment her strategically, perhaps mention something nice she once wore out, telling her how wonderful she looked, or even go so far as to buy her a small gift - earrings, a scarf, something like this - and tell her “I saw these and thought of you”, I promise things will improve. She will feel more beautiful and want to dress up!
An older female who works at a high end perfume store told me I’m a gentleman... and for this reason I am here today. See too many times words are abused with persons not knowing the true meaning of the word... sooo.... here I am
following up on your previous video about English vs French vs Italian styles, would you say that the English with their understated approach would be in essence closer to the modern definition of gentlemen, and the Italians would be at the other end of the spectrum?
Dear Max, that's a good yet complex question because being a gentleman is, in my humble opinion, not only about how you dress but also how you behave. But culturally speaking, the English man, in his manners, traditions and etiquette, is probably closer to the idea we have of a gentleman than an exuberant Neapolitan man (that we also love, but for different reasons). Cheers, Hugo
It never dawned on me that the convention of a black-tie affair was to allow the women to shine but it makes perfect sense. I wish they taught how to be a true gentleman in schools. The world would be a much better place.
Thank you Hugo for this channel. In my opinion a gentleman is someone who respects others and take into consideration needs of others (but not particularly associated with a niche style, even though one thing doesn't preclude the other, the more gentleman aims for his style, the better and will inspire on a bigger scale). A leader / manager, who steers a wheel of a company / team in a right direction, needs to take important decisions without taking into account all opinions (but not disrespecting them, only making sure she / he does it for a benefit of them). Could be a leader a gentleman? And if so, how? Thank you for your opinion.
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If one would like to do more research on the topic of the gentleman, what would you recommend ? This was an inspiring video, well done! This is truly a brutal world and I agree that a more ‘gentle’ and honorable approach to one another is a good place to start.
Hello Gustaf, you should read our website Parisian Gentleman, and maybe also a few reference books like Dressing the Man by Alan Flusser and True Style by Bruce Boyer. Best, Hugo
Dear Rosu, I do speak many times about the fused suit. In the last episode for example. Cheers and don't forget to check our Patreon Page here : www.patreon.com/sartorialtalks Hugo
There's a little English story for the definition of a gentleman. When you enter an estate and after looking around for the best dressed man and can't find him, you approach the gardener, on his knees, covered in dirt, to ask him where the lord of the house is and he replies "I am the lord".
I’m not sure I can be a gentlemen. It’s hard to put myself at ease. Not sure if I can make others relaxed. Also, I don’t dress nice to make people not look at me. I dress nice so people notice me. I guess I have to settle with being a rockstar instead.
What annoys me is that my ex could use his gentleman behavior towards me in public just to make himself look good and then trash talk me behind my back making people think,look what I do for her and how she treated me.
I am an un edu class 6 passed a tailor master every winter season I cut a proximity 1600 suits and 2000 pants shirts but I am not satisfied with Indian costumer because they are don't know about suits Sir I want to see you at my next life please meet me sure
Hello, Monsieur Jacomet: I adore your videos and the wealth of information they provide, but if it is okay with you, I'd like to add a little grammatical tip that will perhaps help your future videos. I have noticed that sometimes when you speak of people, you use the pronoun "which." English being a rather horrible language makes it so that every pronoun has a different purpose and unfortunately cannot be used interchangeably. As such, the rules would be: 1) "Who" is used when referring to people, or something that is being used as a proxy for a person. The rule of thumb is, if one is speaking of a human, and one needs to refer to them with a "wh-" word, they would use "who." There is also the objective case of "who," "whom." An easy way of figuring out whether to use "who" or "whom" is to answer the statement or question where you use "who(m)". An example would be "____ did you give it to?" Then say in one's head, "I gave it to_____." In this case, it's "I gave it to him," so the question would be phrased as "Whom did you give it to?" If the statement were "I gave it to he," then one would say "Who did you give it to?" 2) "Which" is used for asking about multiple things, or for acting as a bridge to information that isn't necessary but can be helpful. An example of "which" as a bridge to a non-essential clause is, "that is the suit I was wearing, which is blue." One doesn't need to know that it is blue. "That is is the suit I was wearing" provides all the essential information. 3) "That" can be used like "who," except for things that aren't human. "That is a cute cat," etc. It is also used as a bridge for essential information. "This is the tailor that I use." If one were to say simply "This is the tailor," a necessary piece of information would have been cut out. I apologize for this lengthy comment, and if you know this material already, or I have offended you in any way, I apologize. Thank you for the amazing service you provide us all with!
Dear Gabriel, thank you for your effort on educating a poor French man like me. I know very well all these rules, but as these Sartorial Talks are recorded "live" without any notes (it's our style and it is the reason why we call them Talks and not Lectures), as given the fact that English is not my mother tongue, I often make some mistakes. But we prefer to protect the natural feeling of our programs that to be grammatically perfect. It's a choice. But I promise I will do better and better with "which", "who" and "that". Cheers ! Hugo
Maybe some ideas to consider, here... www.quora.com/Was-the-gentleman-s-walking-cane-of-the-19th-early-20th-centuries-a-substitute-for-the-gentleman-s-small-sword-of-the-18th
"A gentleman is one whom gives compliments not because he is a flirt but because he finds the good in everyone".
~Amari Mitchell
Nice quote indeed. Hugo
@@SARTORIALTALKS Do you think we can educate (or enlighten) people this way of life? (You mention choice, which sounds almost as if it's a product of free will.)
Saville Row a character fights back when the good is abused 🕵🏻♂️
As much an attitude as a look
“A gentleman is somebody whose one amazing skill is to put every person he’s interacting with at ease.” This is so powerful!
What a nuanced, insightful and cultured description of a gentleman! Bravo!
Thank you for your kind comment and appreciation. Yours, Hugo
A gentleman is elegant in not only manners, but in consciousness and character as well.. This was very well done.
as versace once said , You wouldn't notice an elegant person by his clothes
That's right ! Hugo
"A Gentleman guards his behavior. He understands that he must have integrity. This means that a gentleman does the right thing even when no one is watching”
"When we use a word too much it has tendency of emptying itself of its meaning" My god what a refined way of using language.
I believe it's true, unfortunately. All my best, hugo
@@SARTORIALTALKS oh thanks for the reply sir.My point being the way you have used language makes it sound poetic and hence someone with a poetic incline appreciates your sentences sir.All the best to you too,Raghav
Magnificent Mr. Jacomet! Your sentiment and passion was captivating! At times, I believe because I try to be gentle and kind to others, and focus on others, that they take my kindness for weakness. Then my wife tells me, it is for the very reason that I am kind and gentle and that I always put her first is the reason she fell in love with me. When we are going out on a date on an elegant occasion, I always ask her what color dress is she wearing. When I wear my suit, I attempt to wear a necktie that matches the color of her dress. When I do this she smiles and I sense her pride in me, because she knows that my heart’s desire is to compliment her and have her be the focus of attention.
Magnificent and inspiring contribution Juan. Thank you. Hugo
SARTORIAL TALKS you need to cut your hair, that hairstyle is not for a gentleman, looks weird
And also, in return, your wife also exalts you for being a considerate and refined individual. It's amazing to see a couple compliment one another because it shows genuine union.
@Bob Harris well said Bob Harris well said
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I am going to steal that quote, "being a boy is a matter of chance, being a man is a matter of age, being a gentleman is a matter of choice." perfect
Please do ! Cheers, Hugo
@Dino Budzak I think Vin Deisel said it.
@Dino Budzak Your welcome.
As far as I care, I became a "MAN" the day I signed up for Selective Service because I wanted to not because I had to.
As time passes, a boy inevitably becomes a man but what is not inevitable is that a man becomes a warrior. Warf
Hugo I was hanging on every word of this. Honestly, such an interesting and thought provoking video. These perspectives and facts are important because the concept of being a gentlemen was really at the core of Western European culture, and helped to shape style, art, science, politics and society throughout Europe. This is especially true in British culture as well, where chivalry was still a concept that was propagated up to the First World War and arguably up to the Second. Unfortunately it is much less so now and has been commercialised rather than discussed for its virtues. This is why I am such a fan of the British style, because to me it always has seemed virtuous even moral, to dress and act quietly, discreetly but still with authority. Thanks again. Josh.
Thank you Josh for your contribution and appreciation. Cheers, Hugo
A very thoughtful and well explained definition, thank you.
You're welcome. Cheers ! Hugo
Wow, back in my high school days all teachers and staff addressed the students as gentlemen. It was an all boys school, wonderful to now know the history behind it and your opinion on the use of the term. Very well done, and thank you!
Thanks for your comment and kind words. Hugo
A true gentleman is never self-proclaimed but is anointed by his peers. I am grateful to you, Monsieur Jacomet, for your eloquence and depth of knowledge on the matter. Thank you for this detailed explanation. This is quite an education!
Thanks Gabriel for your kind words ! Hugo
I love the way you speak with such passion on a topic. Thank you for your insight, especially your definition of being a gentleman. Much appreciated. I really need to get my hands on your book too!
Thank you for your kind comment. I hope you'll appreciate the book. Yours, Hugo
Hugo's knowledge is truly astonishing. We should all be grateful he is willing to share this with us in such a passionate way.
fantastic, I love the history of the word "gentleman" and the black tie affair, love the Sartorial Talks!
Thank you Bernie and we hope to see you and Eva very soon in PTL or elsewhere on the planet. Cheers, Hugo
A brilliant take on Gentlemanship..
What a masterpiece of a video! It is incredibly hard to find a video where you not only agree with the message, but understand the reasoning behind it.
Ett stort tack från Sverige.
Excellent - “you choose to be a gentleman”. A very touching commentary on women. Spot on. A Gene Kelly said - his goal is to make his partner look good.
Exactly. Thanks for your contribution. Hugo
Love this video so much! "Being a boy is a matter of chance, being a man is a matter of age...being a gentleman is a matter of choice." This should be taught in schools. Thank you.
Thank you Calvin, Hugo
Wonderful as always. In fact this could be the best one yet!
You are so kind Michael. Happy new year ! Hugo
A very competent and realistic explanation. I respect you Hugo.
Thank you Grann. Yours, Hugo
Hugo, you are truly an officer and a gentleman! This video was shared with all the men I know....thank you for addressing such important food for thought as masculinity and the art of being a gentleman are under constant subtle pressure and subversive attack in a politically correct and radical society that seeks to dismantle all traditional "social constructs" that have dignified and delighted many.
Hugo,
You are that "rare" breed of intelligence and sartorial splendor with a kind heart. Thank you for all your wonderful, inspiring videos. I view many videos but so far I have only subscribed to your channel. Quality content that is unmatched as far as I am concerned. May you have continued success.
Truly this is a wonderful description of what it means to be a gentleman.
I'm so fortunate to stumble upon this channel. As a woman, I always admire the silhouette of a suit, and I enjoy wearing crisp white shirts (billowy ones, like the Romantic poets over fitted pants (cigarette pants?). In my mind, I always see an image in the styles of equestrian and aviator ('20s) style, but much pared down--softer but structured. And there will always be a scarf. The ensemble, like perfume, is a (pleasurable) must... a uniform so to speak. Thank you, Hugo, for generously sharing your wonderful insights.
A wonderful quote, Hugo, I hope I got it right here: ""When a gentleman acts the right way, he does his best to put the attention on others, and not himself." I also really appreciate you talking about kindness, which is something that is greatly missing from the world today.
Such a true & good explanation about a gentleman. Today's youngsters should watch, learn & apply it's principles especially to create positivity in this chaotic society.
I agree with Mr. Jamescord, nice shirt! And the tie knot is just perfectly made.
I have followed the Sartorial Talks since episode 1, and let me tell you, Mr. Jacomet, GREAT JOB!
Your work with this videos, added to your recent book, The Italian Gentleman (which I have ;-), is INSPIRANT. Thank you very much!
Looking forward you decide to write The English Gentleman :-D
Happy New Year from Colombia
Thank you so much for your kind and encouraging words. Happy New Year from France! Hugo
I think this show is so interesting and i like it so very much that moments ago, i was taking my older son to the Saturday morning football game
Here in Brazil! And I was listening hugo’s lecture and in a certain moment my son told me: wow,these are very, very nice comments and I appreciated it that specially from the historical perspective! Than I answered to him, “that’s great i will share the link with you to you subscribe and enjoy! Congratulations Hugo and regards from Brazil
I want this man to be the next James Bond villain.What a well spoken Person.
time to get back to wearing and acting like a gentleman I am. no more kids t-shirts and band logos and all that BS. Wanna make it in life then you MUST look like it. Thank you for encouraging me and for your great content. salute!
You can always wear your logo tshirts at home or when sleeping 😉
Wonderful understated insight Hugo. Lovely video to watch on a quiet evening in a vicious world
Thank you Ben for this beautiful comment. Yours, Hugo
When you spoke of Fred and the shine of the woman... I could feel you get a bit choked up... that's true passion for your craft... very rare.
Hugo is a perfect gentleman! Regards from Brazil
You and your wife do an incredible job! Very well put together, I am so glad to come
across videos.
We are glad too Ricky ! Thanks, Hugo & Sonya
Yo, I love your attitude and talks on your channel. It's incredible how dudes are these days in regards to using the term "gentleman", use in a way to describe style more than attitude and personality. Keep it up man.
Thanks Cole for you comment. Cheers! Hugo
we need more people like you in the world.
I'm humbled and touched by your comment Sir, Hugo
SARTORIAL TALKS you a great man🙏
Hugo, it has been such a pleasure to have found your videos, I’ve been watching them for the past few days and they are very inspiring. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and insights. May God Continue to Bless You and Those You Love.
Your observations describe feelings I've had over the years but couldn't articulate as well.
I find this video inspirational in so many aspects. Thanks.
Very well said! You're insights are amazing. Thank you Hugo.
Thank you Francis for your kind words of encouragement. Cheers, Hugo
Hugo, I give you ⭐⭐ ⭐ ⭐ ⭐ *Great video,* it's true a man can dress in a $10,000 outfit and bring the term _"Gentleman"_ to disrepute by his bad behaviour, on the other hand he may spend less then $100 and elevate the term _"Gentleman"_ by his good behaviour.
If he is well mannered his reflection to other and what they see makes him either a gentleman or a rogue!
Also the girls should be taught what to expect from a gentleman and what to expect from a gentleman!
Thank you sir! Hugo
as a middle aged business women I just wish your videos were a mandatory training material for my male colleagues, merci and chapeau monsieur
Merci Madame. Hugo
Dear Hugo, I’m a professor of the history of international law, teaching this semester a course on the resolution of ethnic conflicts. I’ve recently used this video to demonstrate to my students the qualities which diplomatic negotiators would have to bring forth in order to succeed in their task of ameliorating conflict - these gentlemanly qualities you talk about: kindness, providing all parties the possibility of feeling at ease and comfortable with the negotiator, the negotiator’s ability to keep confidentiality, and protect the weaknesses of the parties - yet always celebrate their strengths and good sides. Thank you for your work.
You might have perhaps not imagined - but your impact even reaches into our field of diplomacy in ethnic conflicts. And yes - dressing well as mediators and negotiators (albeit WITHOUT being judgmental about the dressing habits of others) also increases credibility - and respect !
Thank you so much Gilad for this. I'm very surprised and honoured that my work has been useful to you and your students. Yours, Hugo
Great definition; total and in full.
You Sir are an outstanding Gentleman
Thank you Jim for your kind words. Hugo
A pleasure to listen to you
Very well said M Jacomet..
Merci Ildiko. Hugo
Such a beautiful video. Please, don't ever take it down.
It's not in our plans ! Cheers, Hugo
Hard to be a gentleman ... but not impossible ... good video! I learned a lot..! thanks Mr. Jacomet!!
The 3 rules of being a gentleman.
1. Be kind
2. Be kind
3. Be kind
To me, as a lover of medieval history, a gentleman was a powerful statesman with peerless marital prowess. Elon Musk and Jocko Willink combined in one human, clad in tailored suit of steel. This was the ruling warrior class. However. What separated the lord from the gentleman was kindness towards the weak. Gentleness. While most lords wouldn't flinch as they ordered a city massacred, a gentleman would spare the innocent.
To summarise: A gentleman was a monster who showed restraint - A term which doesn't easily translate into our moral language.
I like your generosity in your videos. You provide a lot of info plus you’ve progressed a lot in the way you present yourself (you speak slowlier, it’s quite pleasant to listen to you).
Tasty words ! Thank you Hugo !
Thank you Alex! Hugo
Great insights to an often misunderstood term. Thank you.
Thank you for your kind words and appreciation ! Hugo
Breath taking
Thank you for your kind words. Hugo
Hugo you are dead on with your quote. Xxden in France
Fantastic depiction, in particular about the value of being kind above all.
Very, very well put.
Thank you so much Ed. Cheers, Hugo
Very thought provoking
merci beaucoup pour les informations..
Merci à vous de nous suivre ! Hugo
A gentleman was Jonathan Frid, stage actor and star of the original tv series Dark Shadows, '66--'71.
Thanks Marilyn for your comment. Never heard of this Canadian actor, but I will check ! Cheers, Hugo
Wew! You hit the nail on the head! Fantastic. Cheers.
Great words once again Hugo
What a great video, Hugo! I have a question though. You mentioned that a gentleman should let his wife shine when they are out together. When I go out and about to run errands and other things, I enjoy dressing in a suit or just a jacket, maybe with a tie, maybe without one. My wife often says that I am dressed too fancy and feels that she doesn't look as good when we are out together. But the issue is that she does not want to take the effort to wear nicer clothes (she just wears normal clothes like the public does these days) and would prefer if I were to dress down. What would you recommend in this recurring situation since I enjoy dressing well, but I also want to keep my wife happy. There must be many men in this situation and not just me. Thank you very much!
Hey Chris, this is an unusual question as I thought the reverse situation was much more frequent (guys who don't want to dress up). Well if I were you I would go slowly and try, step by step, to invite her to accompany you on this elegant path. Maybe you should be a little softer and don't go directly to a full suited and tied outfit, in order for her to feel a spark of interest. Maybe you are simply overwhelming her. Give her a chance to keep up with you. Cheers and good luck ! Hugo
Find a better woman!
She will dress better if she feels more confident! If you compliment her strategically, perhaps mention something nice she once wore out, telling her how wonderful she looked, or even go so far as to buy her a small gift - earrings, a scarf, something like this - and tell her “I saw these and thought of you”, I promise things will improve. She will feel more beautiful and want to dress up!
I found this channel by accident. What a pleasant accident to have.
Thank you so much Andrew! It's the first time I'm an accident, but I like it. Hugo
Fantastic content. Even better shirt. Where is the shirt from Hugo ? Bespoke? Thanku
Thank you ! This shirt is from Ignatious Joseph. Hugo
An insightful perspective!
An older female who works at a high end perfume store told me I’m a gentleman... and for this reason I am here today. See too many times words are abused with persons not knowing the true meaning of the word... sooo.... here I am
following up on your previous video about English vs French vs Italian styles, would you say that the English with their understated approach would be in essence closer to the modern definition of gentlemen, and the Italians would be at the other end of the spectrum?
Dear Max, that's a good yet complex question because being a gentleman is, in my humble opinion, not only about how you dress but also how you behave. But culturally speaking, the English man, in his manners, traditions and etiquette, is probably closer to the idea we have of a gentleman than an exuberant Neapolitan man (that we also love, but for different reasons). Cheers, Hugo
If I may butt in, in England I met gentlemen but in France any man will not only hold the door for you but look at you with admiration in his eyes.
I may have to say that the depth of his discription is almost spiritual, in actuality elegance is spiritual.
It never dawned on me that the convention of a black-tie affair was to allow the women to shine but it makes perfect sense. I wish they taught how to be a true gentleman in schools. The world would be a much better place.
Top l'art d'être Artiste dans l'âme de la classe D'elegance la Perfection. Respect l'artiste
Merci Monsieur ! Hugo
Thank you Hugo for this channel.
In my opinion a gentleman is someone who respects others and take into consideration needs of others (but not particularly associated with a niche style, even though one thing doesn't preclude the other, the more gentleman aims for his style, the better and will inspire on a bigger scale).
A leader / manager, who steers a wheel of a company / team in a right direction, needs to take important decisions without taking into account all opinions (but not disrespecting them, only making sure she / he does it for a benefit of them).
Could be a leader a gentleman? And if so, how?
Thank you for your opinion.
If one would like to do more research on the topic of the gentleman, what would you recommend ?
This was an inspiring video, well done! This is truly a brutal world and I agree that a more ‘gentle’ and honorable approach to one another is a good place to start.
Hello Gustaf, you should read our website Parisian Gentleman, and maybe also a few reference books like Dressing the Man by Alan Flusser and True Style by Bruce Boyer. Best, Hugo
Where could I find a shirt like the one that he is wearing in this? I love the design, but i am not able to find anything like it anywhere.
I believe that quote came from the actor Vin Deisel.
Yes, surprisingly yes. Best, Hugo
So, who is the quintessential gentleman in this day and age?, example?
So well said!
Bravo!
in which episode sir you talk about the fused suit ?
Dear Rosu, I do speak many times about the fused suit. In the last episode for example. Cheers and don't forget to check our Patreon Page here : www.patreon.com/sartorialtalks
Hugo
There's a little English story for the definition of a gentleman.
When you enter an estate and after looking around for the best dressed man and can't find him, you approach the gardener, on his knees, covered in dirt, to ask him where the lord of the house is and he replies "I am the lord".
Well said.
Thank you. Hugo
I would like to get the spelling of the name of the gentleman used as Hugo's example, "the dancer". please.
I think you talk about Fred Astaire. Cheers, Hugo
Usually but not always dressed in more of a working man's style on stage, look at 'Gene Kelly' as a dancer
Good boy.
Thank you.
You are very welcome, Hugo
he is great, but why did he put a tablecloth under his jacket?
Well said
Thanks! Hugo
Hugo, will you sign my book? I live in the UK and will pay shipping both ways.
Sure with pleasure. Write a mail to hugo@parisiangentleman.fr
Hugo Jacomet sorry Hugo for the late reply. My phone had disabled UA-cam notifications. Sorry I will email you. Thank you
I’m not sure I can be a gentlemen. It’s hard to put myself at ease. Not sure if I can make others relaxed. Also, I don’t dress nice to make people not look at me. I dress nice so people notice me. I guess I have to settle with being a rockstar instead.
Fred Astaire was not short, his height was 175cm (5'9").
I thought he was shorter. Sorry. By the way I'm 5'11, so not much taller than him. Hugo
Amazing
Thank you Malcom ! Hugo
Read Acts, Romans & Corinthians....and continue through .through Pauls teaching by the Holy Spirit!
Amen and Amen. Hugo
What annoys me is that my ex could use his gentleman behavior towards me in public just to make himself look good and then trash talk me behind my back making people think,look what I do for her and how she treated me.
Sorry for that pathetic behavior ! Hugo
I am an un edu class 6 passed a tailor master every winter season I cut a proximity 1600 suits and 2000 pants shirts but I am not satisfied with Indian costumer because they are don't know about suits
Sir I want to see you at my next life please meet me sure
Hello, Monsieur Jacomet: I adore your videos and the wealth of information they provide, but if it is okay with you, I'd like to add a little grammatical tip that will perhaps help your future videos. I have noticed that sometimes when you speak of people, you use the pronoun "which." English being a rather horrible language makes it so that every pronoun has a different purpose and unfortunately cannot be used interchangeably. As such, the rules would be: 1) "Who" is used when referring to people, or something that is being used as a proxy for a person. The rule of thumb is, if one is speaking of a human, and one needs to refer to them with a "wh-" word, they would use "who." There is also the objective case of "who," "whom." An easy way of figuring out whether to use "who" or "whom" is to answer the statement or question where you use "who(m)". An example would be "____ did you give it to?" Then say in one's head, "I gave it to_____." In this case, it's "I gave it to him," so the question would be phrased as "Whom did you give it to?" If the statement were "I gave it to he," then one would say "Who did you give it to?" 2) "Which" is used for asking about multiple things, or for acting as a bridge to information that isn't necessary but can be helpful. An example of "which" as a bridge to a non-essential clause is, "that is the suit I was wearing, which is blue." One doesn't need to know that it is blue. "That is is the suit I was wearing" provides all the essential information. 3) "That" can be used like "who," except for things that aren't human. "That is a cute cat," etc. It is also used as a bridge for essential information. "This is the tailor that I use." If one were to say simply "This is the tailor," a necessary piece of information would have been cut out. I apologize for this lengthy comment, and if you know this material already, or I have offended you in any way, I apologize. Thank you for the amazing service you provide us all with!
Dear Gabriel, thank you for your effort on educating a poor French man like me. I know very well all these rules, but as these Sartorial Talks are recorded "live" without any notes (it's our style and it is the reason why we call them Talks and not Lectures), as given the fact that English is not my mother tongue, I often make some mistakes. But we prefer to protect the natural feeling of our programs that to be grammatically perfect. It's a choice. But I promise I will do better and better with "which", "who" and "that". Cheers ! Hugo
The best gentleman to look up to is Jesus Christ!! He wasn’t proud or arrogant.
Would love to know what he thinks of Mr. Miles Dewey Davis?
Dear James, I think he was one of a kind both in terms of talent and personality. Yours, Hugo
WHAT DOES A WALKING STICK MEANS TO A GENTLEMAN.
DOES IT COMES AS
SUIT, SHOES, HAT, AND WALKING STICK
Maybe some ideas to consider, here...
www.quora.com/Was-the-gentleman-s-walking-cane-of-the-19th-early-20th-centuries-a-substitute-for-the-gentleman-s-small-sword-of-the-18th