NAVIGATING MARRIAGE WHILE LIVING WITH THE IN-LAWS | WIFE TALK FT MORATOA MOKOENA
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- Опубліковано 17 лип 2024
- HEY GUYS
I HOPE YOU ENJOY THE FIRST EPISODE OF WIFE TALK FOR 2022
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‘Twas such a pleasure and privilege to have this discussion, very close to our hearts, on such a platform. Thank you for this creating such a warm and safe space Buli! May God continue to expand and increase you and in all spheres of influence He purposes for you.
Be back soon!❤️
hope God continues his Good work in your life's.
I now understand why you don't take a MaStan title lightly, it really means a lot to you. I take my hat off 🙌
I just have to commend you for your patience Moratoa.
Can't wait for the hubby to come to #husband unfiltered learnt a lot from this
Bubba, you’re such a breath of fresh air. ❤️❤️
Tough conversation but handled so beautifully 😍 It’s a true love story … the humility and grace required is that of Christ and Moratwa did amazingly well. The whole Koena family is truly blessed.
This is so personal, I could sense it's even making you emotional having to share Ma Mokoena. I love how u said it helped you to get to know them better.
You love Buba shame, you were there fully and it's admirable.
I honestly respect them for being able to get through those 3 years with all the responsibilities especially within the first few years of marriage. Wow🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
"....& ask God to prepare your heart for it"- we need Moratoa back on the channel, a well of wisdom & articulates herself gracefully💌
This was such a heavy chat I must say. I am from Namibia and we do not have this culture or tradition of living with our in-laws once we get married, so I learned a great deal from this chat. Mokoena you really demonstrated immense maturity and strength to endure the living arrangement. On a different note, it saddens me to see how our African cultures continue to demand so much from a wife. Imagine being a PG student and having all that weight to carry at home - its a lot but you did it with so much grace - I am wowed. Thanks for sharing this with us and for being absolutely candid. Thanks Buli for handling the interview so well.
Yoh Buli you tap into the "taboo" aspects of marriage the uncomfortable aspects of marriage, the ones that lead to ending marriages but you get people who are victorious over that agg needed this we need this maturity
Shooo she is right, we don’t usually think about the family dynamics going into marriage and I know that when I realised that it wasn’t just gonna be about us two it was already a month into marriage and there was that bit of a reality check.
This Hits Home..What I really took from this is that “everything has an expiring date”, that is very powerful n consoling. I know how it feels coming to a marriage young hoping that it’ll only be you and hubby only to find out that no! no! he is coming with his family. It is very painful, depressing at times but how you handled things Mrs Mokoena is amazing. Truly you’re a strong woman.
Life happens and anything can change. Ask God to prepare you for anything that may come.
Thank you for this conversation Buli ♥️
One thing that stands out about Buli. She is a very crafty dialogue facilitator, knows how to make her guest feel comfortable in engaging fully even with the toughest topics so many of us shy away from. I love you for that Buli, your emotional intelligence stands out always. Great guest Moratoa is, a very rare woman with solid character. I really, really enjoyed this dialogue
🥺❤️ thank you so much
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I totally relate to this. However I did not stay, I chose myself and my mental health because things were really going south for me Mentally and emotionally. I left and I couldn't be happier.
I agree . Personally I also wouldn’t agree to it ! But I’m happy she shared her journey with us
Shoooo “we understood that it’s a season” that takes a lot of emotional intelligence and wisdom
What made this so beautiful is the openness and free speaking. Really opening our minds to not thinking that there is JUST one way to do things but THE WAY YOU ARE DOING IT - is ALRIGHT for you!! ❤️
See you AA❤️❤️
Love how you embraced your new role even though you came from a different background, your patience finally paid off.
I honestly commend this young lady for her patience and compromise and how she gracefully dealt with this situation.
Most men dont disclose their real relationship with their parents which actually is to be a grown boy that brings them a servant / maid to join the family. No mother would treat their own daughter like that...cook each night.
Black parents to encourage their children ( boys) to be independent and form their own identities with their wifes in their new marriages.
Wow. I've learned so much from this- so insightful. I know she doesn't feel like she's been married for 4 years, but that experience is part of her marriage- it doesn't detract from her marriage at all. It was a season of her marriage and they've come through it stronger. No two marriages are the same. God bless you both x
I will say this over and over again Moratoa you're mbokoto my dearest.... It's really tough yes, for example just a weekend visit you feel it, it ends up feeling like an entire month yoh.... You made it my dear for that ncooooh🥰
I enjoyed this, thank you ladies.
Needed topic at the right time Bulie ❤
Yohhh 👏🏽 what a convo ❤️
What a beautiful interview 👏
Yeay my fave Mrs Gator! Ma- stand!
Daily I'm reminded that relationships are about being selfless but also not loosing yourself 😂🙃 more power to people who are able to balance the two. Really enjoyed this chat ❤️
Thoroughly enjoyed this episode ✨
I really enjoyed this content. You have earned a new Subbie
Wow, Buli!!! 🥺🥺🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 Profound!
I can relate this is my second year leaving with my inlaws. Thank you so much Bulie for dwelling on this topic. God bless🙏
So loving this Wife Talk. Thank you Queens
This was so informative, thank you ladies ❤
Am looking forward to this conversation 🙌🏾.
Yohhh Buli this was a beautiful chat filled with wisdom wow😍...
This is soooooooo good. What a deep and complex conversation. There is so much I want to comment on but I'd be typing till tomorrow. But thank you for this.
Great chat ladies, loved everything and I truly relate to the lady. I guess God has his own plan for everyone.
I really appreciate the rawness of this conversation💗
My fave conversations on your platform, so excited for this conversation 💃🏾💃🏾
Loved this chat, I could relate so much to it.
Loved this conversation ❤️
This is beautiful. I loved the conversation
What a beautiful interview. Thank you very much.
such a beautiful conversation, you asked all the right questions, loved it!
Oh, this was so good. As a married woman, I took so much from this. #Serve!
I really appreciate you talking about this, thank you soo much Mrs Mokoena
❤️❤️ love love such conservation ❤️
Wow, I feel so blessed and at peace with so much that is going on iny marriage. I have a similar experience and I've only been married for 5 months but I promise you I've been through hell and back. I woke up one day and next thing we living with the in laws and he's lost his job 😩yho I saw fireworks, and culturally and spiritually my in laws and I are on different journeys and have different revelations of God. So listening to this has given me hope and faith that God will see me through this and everything has a season. Thank you so much for this ❤️
Indeed He will. I love what Ma Mokoena said, it’s a season and it will pass. God’s ways are not our ways and though it’s hard for us to understand certain seasons, there’s a bigger picture painting itself for a specific purpose. You will also overcome this season. Love and light to you sis. 🤍
Ohhhh Buli this was great..Thank you ..
A big thank you to the mokenas for sharing with us...
Love this talk 😍❤❤
Wowww I truly respect her🙏🏼🙏🏼
May God truly truly bless them more and more and more
Personally, I refused to kotiza, I view it too negatively to go through it and not come out bitter at the end.
I respectfully laid boundaries and that worked well for us. We made up for it by visiting as often as we could, and spending the whole day (consecutive days) there most times. But just never actually sleeping there. I really could never hey.
Thank you for sharing. Wishing you all the success in your marriage ♥️
I find this so interesting. I believe your in-laws are very understanding and I commend you for respectfully standing your ground.
@@kgomotsodikobe4875 Maybe they are. But the most important thing was my husband’s understanding of my stance on the matter and he’s buy-in. Turns out it wasn’t a big deal for him whether I did or didn’t.
Wouldn’t make sense for me to expose myself to something I knew I would need healing from. And as a result, it definitely would have negatively affected my marriage. So even if they had called all the uncles in the world to sit me down, I would still have declined. But they did make it easy for me, I realize that now and I’m grateful 😅♥️.
Also my dad would have had a fit had I agreed. He’s counseled lots of couples who had had to divorce because of staying with their in-laws.
Wasn’t even an option for me sis. I believe in leave and cleave for both parties 🤞🏾
@@BuliMakhubo this is definitely a part of culture we are dropping like a hot potato in my family. I don’t want my kids to experience it.
If anything it has made me vow that should I have a son, I’m going to treat my daughter in-law as a daughter period, no makoti anything.
@@Thandi899 Please, We need to do better for our children. I was busy cooking and washing dishes already on day 2 of my wedding.
Yaaaaas si on 📌💃💃
Two lovely ladies that I love listening to❤️ great conversation!
What a beautiful conversation! Love Moratoa so much!
Thoroughly enjoyed the video and learned so much . You’re so gracious Mrs Mokoena 🥺🥺 ♥️
Thoroughly enjoyed this video 🤩❤️💕
Can’t wait for part 2.
Thanks for sharing Buli😊 and having this seat down
This was honestly such a humbling episode, your perspective on the season you were in and your approach as well considering how different your upbringings were speaks so much to your character! I love that you never lost sight of the end goal yet remained present in the now and allowed yourself to embrace. God bless you both and your marriage. Also Buli your line of questioning is on point you really asked the right questions for us to get the full picture ❤️
Understanding is an important ingredient♥️
What a brilliant conversation! Learnt soooo much. Thank you so much ladies!! 🙏🏾❤️
I’ve learned so much from this episode. Handling life with grace. Thank you so much!
I loved it! Beautiful guest too , actually stopped cooking to watch the video ❤️ - it was amazing and also I’ve learnt a lot . Thanks sisi 👌🏾
Hi Buli, by far the best episode for me on #Wifetalk. You have no idea. 🥺❤👏👏
Wow, what a beautiful episode. Love you Moratoa and love the way u love ur husband. Shoutout ❤️
I loved this conversation so much, so much. So much
Moratoa is so wise ! Loveee her .this was amazing Buli 👌🏾👏🏾😍
love thisssss.Moratoa was so open and this is so helpful,couples really need these conversation.Keep this up Buli 😍
Really loved this conversation, it taught us to be open minded and be willing to sacrifice and compromise the minute you say I Do...
Hi Buli thank you soo much for these conversations especially this one I learnt a lot from Moratoa such a beautiful strong wise woman she is…keep up the good work ladies as a young makoti I’m learning soo much from your Channels. Love Love Love!
She’s so adorable. Such value lessons learnt so soon. Can’t wait for your reflection and insight looking back many more years from now. I learnt how to activate faith and make room for God to move.
"know your currency". Really loved this chat!
this was amazing
20 minutes In and I cannot stress how relatable the topic of grief is. Lost my brother two weeks ago, and having left a wife and kids as a bread winner, mom, my sister n I have to chip in and re create a home the kids and wife were used to. Praying for God’s guidance throughout… can’t wait to finish this video and learn more. Thank you ladies 👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽
It’s my first time on your channel Buli and I already love it so much here. ❤️
Moratoa’s story had me on the verge of tears. I learnt that I have so much of growing up to do 🥺
Life is clearly not a fairytale.
Thank you so much ❤️
Wow!! Moratoa is such a courageous woman. I Stan❤️
I truly enjoyed this conversation
Wow thank you so much ladies.... Hearing other wives' stories is very much helpful. Bless you ladies for sharing, thank you to our lovely guest, our God is faithful in all seasons sis.... Buli thank you siswam for the wonderful work you continue to do on your channel with the wives💛 siyabonga kakhulu. May God continue to give us the strength we need and all the wisdom, patience etc to be the wives that he has called us to be. Looking forward to the next episode of The Wife Talk.
Know ur currency 💯💯🙏🏽. Amazing ladies,loved loved Moratoa
God really strengthened you guys. I can only imagine the dynamic. 😥
Thank you for Having Mrs Koena over 🥺❤ absolutely love her wisdom
UA-cam suggested this video for me I'm like wow maybe I can learn something. And boy did I learn and was I humbled! i'm in a very similar situation where I can relate to everything you went through. in my second year of marriage I started living with my in-laws right up until now our fourth year. I'm currently that wife hammering the husband let's move let's go to our own place. This discussion hit home and eish thank you for sharing and being so open and graceful. I have decided to let go and let God open up that desire to move, but in the meantime serve my purpose where I am. But yohhh it's just so hard and frustrating I cannot lie. Already subscribed!
A very profound conversation.Mma Mokena's maturity and level headed in the set up she us is very commendable...I stan this queen 👸
Mme Mokoena♥️😍😍🐊 you look amazing ladies
Sho! Enjoyed this conversation and definitely learned a lot. Thank you Moratoa for being so open, vulnerable and authentic. So proud of you and your journey! You did it so gracefully! ❤Love you sis! And thank you Buli for this platform and your well thought questions that allow us to learn from the guests! Y'all were both amazing and I cannot wait for more chats to come! 💃🏽
Wow! We've been staying with my in-laws since 2020, and it's true what she said about husband being relaxed. We lost my father-in-law last year and Yooh! It's tough. I've learnt so much from this conversation, thank you ladies ❤️
Valuable and informative conversation. Thank you for the honesty Mma Mokoena. This will definitely assist potential makotis in their planning. Welldone big gal! 😍😍
Such a tough but beautiful & honest conversation ❤️ You both carried the conversation well 👌🏽
Masten in building.... Love love her... This was such a great realest conversation.
I recently followed The Koenas and I was very pleased to see her on this channel. Mrs M, this conversation was breathtaking. Thank you.
To your guest, thank you for being open and honest and so transparent. May God bless your beautiful heart. You have truly imparted so much wisdom to us who are looking to go into marriage.
What a layered story.
Yah neeh God requires us to fully become selfless in love. Shooo. Kudos to you Married couples.
My faves in 1 video Buli I must say you good at this the questions you bringing up wow I like how Moratoa said know the type of family you marry into this was powerful totally enjoyed
Thank you so much for this frank conversation. You’ve helped me understand a different side to marriage, the patience and understanding that comes with some of these situations. The role God plays in it and the power of prayer.
Thank you ladies ♥️.
Thank you God for this video♥️
This was profound.. I can relate to almost all of the things she was talking about, as I am also staying with my in-laws.
Wow! ❤️ this was such a great conversation. Really loved how honest and vulnerable this was. The level of compromise 🥺 the service and respect for the Koena family - really special!
You two are amazing women. The way Moratoa handled the whole experience is so admirable. What a woman! I doubt I would've even been able to put up because I believe in service and submission, yes, but three years would've had me down.
God really bless you Koenas now and forevermore.
I think we need to appreciate that we spend all our lives with our birth mothers so we get to have time to adapt to them and adjust to their ways even when we don't agree because also there is a dependency on them.
With mother in laws it's different because the adjusting is done in adulthood when we are already set in our ways.
That's why I appreciate mother's in law that are understanding and allow the makotis to be because it's a huge adjustment for them too. Not only are they letting go of caring for their son but must accept another woman's way of doing things for him.
I’ve been mizing this video for a while now because the makoti topic is quite triggering to me as I had the most painful experience when I stayed with my inlaws but watching this has sort of helped me as my feelings we articulated very well through y’all’s words. Thank you ladies for this conversation y’all don’t understand the positive impact it has❤️
What a nice story..I am hooked..just Subscribed..Liked! And downloaded this vid!!!!!💁🏼😅 I didn't know they finally moved!😄😃😃😃🙌🏼I'm so happy for the Koenas
And this is for me to get a Home🕯️ because Hey I'm in the same situation 😂😂and I always pray pray God for my husband to get into his senses like the book of Ephesian say Hore a man will leave his home start a family of his own 🙌🏼🕯️ Rato while we still there..re kopa House Tour❤️🥵🙌🏼🙏🏼.
I love love love Moratoa she's amazing❤️
Yall look scrumdili-icious 👌
I thoroughly Enjoyed this! Quality Content! Good job Buli, Thank You.
Aww thank you ! ❤️
This is such an important and insightful conversation. In the isiXhosa culture, it is expected for uMakoti to move in with her in-laws for a period of 6 months - to learn the rules and regulations of the home, their beliefs, culture, principles and how they do life as well as to do Makoti duties. Irrespective of where you are in life in terms of finances and stability. It was so interesting to hear this story and learn from it. I love how honest and open Mrs. Moekoena was in sharing her story. It really opened and broadened my mind and thinking. Thank you Sis Buli for this insightful topic! All my love, Nox 💋
This is literally me... I’m gathering strength and hope reactivated.
"SERVICE (with excellence) & PRESENCE" that is the cornerstone of Christianity