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  • Опубліковано 11 гру 2024
  • Grief is hard, but it's also inevitable.
    Whether we lose someone we love, or we lose someone through ill-health, grief is common but very hard to talk about.
    In this video I wanted to change that, to talk openly about my experiences with grief, from the shame I felt to the day to day things I do now to deal with it.
    I really hope this video helps you cope with your grief.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 101

  • @PaulMcGregorVideos
    @PaulMcGregorVideos  2 роки тому +32

    I hope my honesty in this video helps you on your journey.

    • @sleepysweater9054
      @sleepysweater9054 2 роки тому +5

      I’m actually losing my grandpa right now. This really helped me, thank you.

    • @PaulMcGregorVideos
      @PaulMcGregorVideos  2 роки тому +4

      @@sleepysweater9054 Really sorry to hear that, I'm glad this video helped.

    • @defaultdacat
      @defaultdacat Рік тому +1

      ​@Sleepy Sweater how R u doing now? I lost my dad in April. I see your post is about 11 months ago. I hope ur okay..

    • @Dnice85
      @Dnice85 Рік тому

      ❤❤❤❤

    • @Cphmtbdads
      @Cphmtbdads Рік тому

      Hey Paul
      I'm sorry for your loss. Living through a crisis where I just lost my mum at 57 years of age to a cardiac arrest very suddenly. Very tough and unfair situation.
      Happened a few days back. Buried her yesterday 😢
      Trying to stay positive - but also feel it's a societal expectation I need to live up to 😅
      Thanks for sharing.

  • @jelineteneka9452
    @jelineteneka9452 Рік тому +23

    Lost my dad 3 weeks after my birthday in june and what makes it worse is my mom had a stroke that same month before he passed away im 26 and its the hardest time of my life i had to leave my job of 4 years to take care of her and i cry everyday
    I REALLY NEEDED THE INSPIRATION ❤

  • @LaurenHilly13
    @LaurenHilly13 Рік тому +32

    I lost my dad on December 7,2008. He died unexpectedly at 49 years old. I was 22 at the time. He died from years of drinking and smoking. It was very sudden,and it still hurts that he’s gone. Even 14 years after his death,I still feel very sad that he’s not here. I was a daddy’s girl and I was his only daughter,nothing can take that away from me. It still hurts that he’s not here,but I try to think of the good memories and his jokes! He had a good sense of humor. I can definitely relate to your story,and I am so sorry for your loss as well.

    • @SamuelJ888
      @SamuelJ888 11 місяців тому

      Im sure your Dad was and is still is extremely proud of his daughter

    • @imanek9885
      @imanek9885 10 місяців тому

      I lost my dad last December form a heart attack, he was also 49 and I’m 23. He also smoked and abused of alcohol. I randomly found this video and your comment is the first one I stumbled upon❤

    • @LashunHall-ke2ge
      @LashunHall-ke2ge 6 місяців тому

      ​@@imanek9885 I saw this comment first a well which is crazy but I Lost My Dad In March out of nowhere at 49 ,I'm a Daddy's girl n also the only child/daughter

    • @nataliemcgowan3425
      @nataliemcgowan3425 6 місяців тому

      Time is not a healer, they say it is but it's not. Big hugs❤

  • @smalltowngirl4415
    @smalltowngirl4415 11 місяців тому +7

    I lost my Dad suddenly in September of 2018. A congenital heart defect took him out. It absolutely destroyed me where I have struggled to recover emotionally physically. I am now a hermit. He wouldn’t want this for me. I definitely need an outlet. Thank you for this inspiration

  • @aliceinhanes
    @aliceinhanes Рік тому +19

    My dad was 73 years old. He had just beat prostate cancer and was making plans with my mom about the near future. Buying another home, buying land, and building their dream home.
    He and my mom had just gone to the local furniture store and bought new bedroom furniture to replace the ones they had for quite sometime. They also bought new living furniture (my dad chose the couches and tables, my mom loved his taste in furnishings)
    July 5 2023 came and my dad gave my mom a hug and a kiss, something he doesn't usually get to do, due to my mom waking up usually later than him, but that day she was up aswell.
    Later that day, the furniture was delivered and properly placed. My mom couldn't wait for him to get home and see the new furniture.
    Unfortunately he would never make it home. He died from an accident at work... he was only a fucking hour away from clocking out. It's not fair. He was all alone.
    He was probably so scared.. I just can't believe it.

    • @ch4d96
      @ch4d96 5 місяців тому

      I feel you 😞

  • @lucturcotte6608
    @lucturcotte6608 Рік тому +8

    Thanks for this video Paul. I lost my dad almost 2 months ago (May 17). He left very fast as he was sick for just 2 weeks before passing. And I live over 4000 km’s from my family, so I didn’t get to say him goodbye. I know it will take time grief, but I miss him so much and I’m trying to make him proud.

  • @chadcapilongo4887
    @chadcapilongo4887 Рік тому +28

    I lost my dad this morning and i am devastated it is so sad and hard. I haven't talked to him in few weeks now i regret it so much i wish i could talk to him one last time.

    • @Nadia-rh3kj
      @Nadia-rh3kj 10 місяців тому +4

      I feel your pain i lost my Dad suddenly a few days ago, sending love ❤

    • @adaladammyn
      @adaladammyn 10 місяців тому +1

      my dad passed away almost three weeks ago, and i didn’t talk to him last week before that day. i’m so sorry for your loss. i feel you

    • @AnthonySosa-qz4xn
      @AnthonySosa-qz4xn 10 місяців тому +2

      Yup. My pops just passed. I hate this shit😢

    • @samia6888
      @samia6888 9 місяців тому +1

      @@AnthonySosa-qz4xn how are you doing now

    • @AnthonySosa-qz4xn
      @AnthonySosa-qz4xn 9 місяців тому +2

      @samia6888 thank you I'm sorry for your loss. I'm just trying to figure out who I am with out parents anymore. It's rough

  • @siopao896
    @siopao896 8 місяців тому +12

    I lost my dad 2 weeks ago, all the while we thought he was healthy and one night he had a suspected ruptured brain aneurysm, it was an extreme roller coaster ride for the whole family, with my dad being at the hospital for over a month.. semi-vegetative state and had some other complications. On March 14, 2024 my Dad passed away at 68. The pain just wouldn’t stop.. This is the biggest heartbreak I’ve ever experienced in my whole life. I love you so much Papa…

    • @sniperkecske946
      @sniperkecske946 7 місяців тому +1

      I wish you a lot of power and strength to overcome it❤

    • @siopao896
      @siopao896 7 місяців тому +1

      @@sniperkecske946 thank you so much.. That means a lot right now🙏

    • @TiagoNascimento-ee1ki
      @TiagoNascimento-ee1ki 6 місяців тому +1

      I can totally understand what you're going through. My mom passed away on January 9 due to an aneurysm as well. She was also 68 years old. The only difference is that she passed away the next day. It was so unexpected because she was in really good health. I try to think that it's better that she went quickly without too much pain, rather than being in that situation for years and then passing away. It's tough, but just know that there are people who can relate to what you're going through. You're not alone. Sending you blessings.

    • @AlexandraLupu-Petria
      @AlexandraLupu-Petria 6 місяців тому +1

      I lost my dad 2 months ago at 69.He had a stroke.It was a shock for us all.He was my solemate!😢

    • @siopao896
      @siopao896 5 місяців тому

      @@TiagoNascimento-ee1ki i am sorry to hear about your mom. Losing a parent is the most painful thing in this world. Prayers for your journey towards healing ❤️‍🩹

  • @starshanae80
    @starshanae80 2 місяці тому +3

    I lost my father to covid and I've not been quite the same since. Its been 2 years. I cry almost daily. It hurts.

  • @JenniferGraham-n2r
    @JenniferGraham-n2r 9 місяців тому +3

    I tragically lost my dad on 11/25/2023 in a house fire ; he saved my mom brother and i some days are easier than others . I try to not stop doing things we did together just because he isnt phyiscally here anymore . Im glad that we were able to celebrate his 57th birthday before he passed.

  • @achillessonofsparta6824
    @achillessonofsparta6824 Рік тому +2

    Thank you my best friend/father passed away this morning and I’m very glad I found your video

  • @bethanyb1955
    @bethanyb1955 Рік тому +3

    My dad passed away 3 weeks ago, he walked me down bolyston st and told me one day I would run the Boston marathon when I was a kid, he watched me cross the Boston finish line 8 times. Thank you for this. Running has become so incredibly hard without him.

  • @alex2410
    @alex2410 2 місяці тому +1

    I lost my dad on the 23th of august last month to cancer. He was 75 and wanted to let go.. me and my three brothers stayed at his place in another Town 4 hrs away for two weeks.. and it brought us closer together. All in all something good came out of a very difficult time. Stay strong people

  • @babbar123
    @babbar123 2 роки тому +5

    You are the strongest man I have ever seen.
    Thanks for sharing your story and lifting us all above our challenges.
    Subscribed!

  • @Cons2911
    @Cons2911 Рік тому +5

    Lost my father, I think 3yrs ago..when I was half way around the world. I knew it would happen, part of life..but I never thought I have to watch it over the screen of my phone.. I never felt so helpless bec I could not do anything, I could not even fly (covid).
    I just searched UA-cam and ended up here..maybe I’ll feel better

  • @robertwheatley9153
    @robertwheatley9153 Рік тому +4

    I found out yesterday afternoon (Friday) following work from a cousin that my Dad died of pneumonia a few days ago at age 75. The loss hasn't sunk in yet but it is devastating primarily because my Dad and I had a falling out many years ago. We spoke probably 3 times in 25 years and things between us was never quite the same. Both he and I have/had a stubborn trait and the guilt and regret of not reconciling is tremendous and overwhelming. :-(

  • @ad-ly7cp
    @ad-ly7cp 5 місяців тому +2

    I feel it. I Lost my dad 9 years ago the day of my birthday and im in my 40 and i still cry damn it hurts. Rip Dad

  • @leerice5867
    @leerice5867 Рік тому +1

    Thank you for your help. My Dad died 2 years ago and I sometimes feel like I lose parts of him. But the music and bands I play every year to remind me of my own inspiration. Thank you x

  • @dutchesmusic1992
    @dutchesmusic1992 Рік тому +1

    Thank you so much for this. I just lost my dad 3 weeks ago, suddenly and the pain is unbearable... of not being able to say goodbye... and because he lived with me I am reminded of him with every inch of this house, but this helped🙏🏾 and I'm sorry for your loss as well🕊🕊...

  • @lauriejordan2716
    @lauriejordan2716 Рік тому +5

    I lost my mom and brother Young. Obviously, I clung to my father and became my everything. Now he is at the end of his cancer battle. I feel so alone. I don’t have a family. I don’t have anyone to spend holidays with or come to my kids school plays or graduations. I don’t have anybody who has known me my whole life. I also don’t know how to live without my dad. He is the first person I call for any good or bad news. The person who I go to for advice. I’m just so sad.

    • @gemstonemaniac3608
      @gemstonemaniac3608 Рік тому +1

      Laurie, try to find your friends/ relatives to talk to. It helps.

  • @Stlgirl-t3i
    @Stlgirl-t3i Рік тому +4

    I’m the eldest and only girl. My dad passed away Feb. 2011. I moved 70o miles away and it is my biggest regret. I temper going home Christmas 2010. It was an odd Christmas. On my way back to my new home state I started crying for no reason. My husband asked me what was wrong? I said that I was the last time we will see my dad alive. I just knew it.
    How did Il know. Why did I leave him again is what I ask myself daily . It has been a a 12 year beating I give myself. I’ll never forgive m my self for moving away.. no matter how good it was my kids and husband . They will never know the pain I feel on a daily basis. I try to be so strong and put on this front. But is exhausting.. I miss him and need him still.

  • @warhawkplane9564
    @warhawkplane9564 Рік тому +3

    I lost my father 2 months ago and losing is the toughest thing💔 I’m going through because him and me we’re very close, so losing him had made me very devastated and depressed💔.

  • @Robsheph
    @Robsheph Місяць тому

    Thanks for sharing this story I'm sure theres plenty of people who can relate to this keep going as the next generation may learn from this

  • @emanx2600
    @emanx2600 2 місяці тому

    I lost my dad 3 days ago. September 12, 2024 is the darkest day of my life. He was my best friend. We talked almost everyday and I used to call him and talk about whatever. 2 hours before he passed away we talked and I was lucky enough to tell him I love him before ending the call. I'm still in shock. Never felt pain like this and it'll probably be with me for the rest of my life. He was the kindest man I know and I take comfort knowing heaven got another angel on September 12. I wish everyone here who has lost their dad or mom all the best. You are not alone. Much love to you all ❤

  • @chancehopkins1246
    @chancehopkins1246 7 місяців тому +1

    I went threw the same thing at 14 I feel you man 🙏🙏

  • @jackiewinters5792
    @jackiewinters5792 2 роки тому +4

    Great stories & advice. Thank you for sharing, Paul. 💜

  • @rubina6327
    @rubina6327 8 місяців тому +1

    I used to enjoy running as well as swimming and hiking, even when I got low motivation after joining unsupportive running group.
    After I lost my father three years ago doubled with lost of my grandma and failed in job interview, I had lost my sense of purpose in my life. And stress had consumed me for those three years.
    This year I'm planning to return back to running (starting from walking phase of course) partly due to me gaining too much weight. Hopefully I could run tho because I had sprained/strained ankle last year.

  • @NathanPoint0
    @NathanPoint0 Рік тому +3

    Thanks for this. Lost my dad this year at 25, and it’s a very odd think to process

    • @defaultdacat
      @defaultdacat Рік тому +2

      Same. Lost my dad 2 months ago. It's crazy that we will never ever talk to them on this earth again. I'm so so sad. Pictures Trigger my hurt.
      I hope ur doing well. I'm just now starting to realize how many people have lost their parents and I don't feel as alone about losing my dad

    • @NathanPoint0
      @NathanPoint0 Рік тому +1

      @@defaultdacat I feel you 100%. Yeah it’s so weird when you think “let me call him real quick” and then you realize.
      I found a video on his phone last week, and heard his voice for the first time since, and it just caught me way off guard. And yes! Didn’t click until recently how every single human will experience this, and that it’s just a part of life that we all will learn how to handle.
      Stay up 🙏🏼

  • @andrewjoyce9038
    @andrewjoyce9038 Рік тому +2

    Lost my dad yesterday. He had been ill for 4 weeks with a tumour. Im devastated

  • @kamajuchikekenate
    @kamajuchikekenate 11 місяців тому +1

    My Father passed 2 days ago,but basically yesterday since of the writing of this comment...
    I'm now 19 years old and have a mother and a younger sister left...of course some close relarives and nothing else...
    I'm completely lost,since I quit school beforehand and planned on starting to be a full time indie game developer but now would be forced to find any job to just help my mother cover the costs and etc.
    I don't know what I should do nor what else would be important for now since I'm conpletely frozen and scared since the 4 of us live in a completely anorher country and since he was basically our entire backbone and the leader...
    I'm here searching for help,because I don't know where else to look...
    If possible,could someone who'd experienced the same loss,pissiblt share with me what they'd done or what rhey wished they did and hopefully what I could do myself to help my mother and sister and for us to (not forget) but to still get over the loss and still push onwards (even if it hurtslikehell)...
    Thanks in advance and would like to wish you all the best and a hopefully nice say as well!

  • @markpatrick5246
    @markpatrick5246 Місяць тому

    I was a marathon runner and cared for both parents until they died but after my mom died, i could no longer run and i was running 70 miles per week - the depression,anxiety,grief,ptsd left me feeling physically ill and exhausted and its been 20 months and i still cant run after a lifetime from running......i hope i can feel better enough one day to run

  • @lilymedina1865
    @lilymedina1865 4 місяці тому +1

    I lost my father on the 6th of August and today we had his funeral. May my dear dad R.I.P in the Kingdom of God forever, Amen 🙏

  • @nataliemcgowan3425
    @nataliemcgowan3425 6 місяців тому

    It's almost 6 years from I lost my dad and I'm still in bits. Big hugs to you.❤
    I rarely leave my flat now. The depression and panic is awful, I developed PTSD and Panic disorder. He passed massive heart attack at 64 in 2018, very suddenly. I'd to get the police to put door in on his house and identify him. He must have felt sick, he was found in the bathroom. He was quite heavy he must have fell his face was bruised. I just remember feeling more gutted than I ever felt in my life. 😢😢😢

  • @gracieanamilgate9213
    @gracieanamilgate9213 4 місяці тому

    I also lost my dad two days ago on my birthday I’m 19 now seeing him like that was heartbreaking he had cancer in his tummy he was the best dad I could ever wish for and I really miss him RIP Daddy.😢😢I love you Dad.❤️

  • @XRoyalBlueGokuX
    @XRoyalBlueGokuX 7 місяців тому +7

    I lost my dad 2 days ago

    • @ssofianos
      @ssofianos 5 місяців тому +4

      i lost him also 2 days ago.. im torn apart.. be strong my brother only time will heal the wounds in our hearts.. 😢

    • @ravaszvorosroka
      @ravaszvorosroka 4 місяці тому

      I'm so sorry man. I've lost mine 5 months ago. Stay strong and make him more proud of you than he ever was 🖤

    • @XRoyalBlueGokuX
      @XRoyalBlueGokuX 4 місяці тому +1

      @@ravaszvorosroka you lost yours 2 months before mine. I am 19 and now fatherless in the world of the living, it's truly upsetting.

  • @reemsaif3105
    @reemsaif3105 10 місяців тому

    Lost my dad to corona in the most horrific way. He was strong and fought it for many many months. I hope hes in a better place now ❤ ✨️

  • @jtheilluminated1of1
    @jtheilluminated1of1 6 місяців тому

    I just keep pushing

  • @Bushcraft242
    @Bushcraft242 Рік тому +5

    Lost my dad to a stroke will miss great times with him

    • @Sam-mc04
      @Sam-mc04 Рік тому

      Sorry to hear man, my dad had an aneurysm, miss him so much too

    • @beaglesnlove580
      @beaglesnlove580 Рік тому

      Sorry to hear. My dad passed away 3 days ago due to stroke and swine flu combined. I dearly miss him

  • @alisonclarke1127
    @alisonclarke1127 7 місяців тому

    I lost my dad in November of 2021 when I was 24 years old he was 61 he had suffered from cancer for several years I miss him deeply and constantly

  • @anahifuentes6403
    @anahifuentes6403 Рік тому +4

    Im 27, lost my dad 3 months ago. It will always hurt

    • @defaultdacat
      @defaultdacat Рік тому +1

      Same..in April. Sp devastating. I hope ur doing ok.

    • @shannonkuch4942
      @shannonkuch4942 Рік тому

      I’m 27 too and I lost my dad 3 months ago. How are you now?

    • @anahifuentes6403
      @anahifuentes6403 Рік тому

      @@shannonkuch4942 im living my life back to normal but the pain will always be there I think. Just have to keep going 😕

  • @valcrist7428
    @valcrist7428 7 місяців тому +1

    It's funny that each of us will be going through the process of SERIOUS GRIEF in our lives. I just wish we could all take it easy and and be kind to one another for this life is temporary.
    Shouldn't we just focus on being happy in this world? I mean, EVERYTHING that we do here is TEMPORARY.. Why so serious and be wicked to one another??
    Why do we have to push ourselves EVERY SINGLE TIME.. It's temporary anyways..
    Let's just focus on being Happy and Kind..
    Who wants to live forever? I surely don't

  • @deanhooper7537
    @deanhooper7537 2 роки тому +2

    Sending nothing but love

  • @MP-po6fj
    @MP-po6fj 2 місяці тому

    Lost my Dad family didn't call to my home to tell me... Just left a vmail didn't get to say goodbye to him.
    Boy it sure HURTS
    Miss you badly dad xxx

  • @r.a.h5788
    @r.a.h5788 5 місяців тому

    I lost my dad June 15 , I watch him struggle 6hrs before he passed

  • @albiethomas
    @albiethomas Рік тому +2

    I lost my dad 8months ago!, its breaking me does it get easier?

  • @tymag8807
    @tymag8807 Рік тому +2

    I got the call this morning!!!
    Feels unreal… painful

    • @justingreen575
      @justingreen575 Рік тому

      Hey. I just lost my dad suddenly. He was only 55 & I’m 26. He had a heart attack in his sleep. Doesn’t make any sense bc he was doing so many healthy things for himself. Anyway, just had the funeral on Sunday. This has been the worst week of my life.
      How are you holding up now?

  • @Herbyhancock
    @Herbyhancock Місяць тому

    It hurts so much

  • @doyoumind.atall.stopspying5572

    We miss our dad.

  • @mercedezz
    @mercedezz 4 місяці тому

    My daddy just passed July 25th. I’m so sad 😞

  • @sotirigiannis2391
    @sotirigiannis2391 Місяць тому

    l lost my dad 2 days ago 😢and am so devastated 😢

  • @cindyrobertson3780
    @cindyrobertson3780 Рік тому

    I lost my Dad on august 27th and i am not dealing with the loss really well.

  • @jtheilluminated1of1
    @jtheilluminated1of1 6 місяців тому

    I’m sad and I miss my dad Feb 15 2023

  • @seleneq.4765
    @seleneq.4765 Рік тому +1

    🙏🙏😪

  • @ch4d96
    @ch4d96 5 місяців тому

    I lost my father from cancer, one part of me died with him .

  • @BrianCisneros-h1x
    @BrianCisneros-h1x Місяць тому

    Lost My my father passed away

  • @Teilerderden
    @Teilerderden 6 місяців тому

    cool

  • @peterkirgan6850
    @peterkirgan6850 2 роки тому +1

    My condolences to you Paul but i dont think that you were a superstar player nor coach of the dragons!!! Lol i rest my case!!!!

  • @blinksstayfresh2524
    @blinksstayfresh2524 Рік тому +1

    Lost my dad last July. I miss him 😢

  • @nword6809
    @nword6809 Рік тому +1

    Bros dead