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- Опубліковано 12 бер 2020
- You Were Not Called To Be A Girlfriend Or Boyfriend
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"When you catch feelings, how about ask God 'Did You give me this? Cuz if You didn't give me these feelings, I need You to take them.'" AMEN 👏👏
Gods not going to give you feelings about someone...that’s strange. What he did was describe in detail the type of people that will inherit the kingdom. Our part is being able to recognize and accept responsibility to choose accordingly. Accountability is a big part of this.
AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN
So true I told myself 3 years ago girlfriend is not in the bible. Got tired of the games and hurt. Made my list like the bible says habbaka 2:2. I made a list of qualities I wanted in my husband. I remained single celibate prayed and fasted. God finally sent me my Boaz, out of 16 of my points he proclaimed 15....only god can do such wonders. We will be getting married in November after 2 yrs. Both still celibate and devoted to each other. Wont he do it? God is good.
Men need to have standards too amen 🙏🏽 🙌🏽
Norma Liz it’s definitelyyy facts. But only God ordained men are looking to have any which is soo few.
Exactly
Why is this not considered rudimentary?!!
Amen! Sis.
“It’s not a standard if you’re not willing to suffer for it” 😱👏🏻💜
laurenlove99 that’s actually so powerful ppl don’t even know
I needed y’all like 10 years ago...smh
Yes.. same here
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LeRhone Grant Yesss
Try 20 years ago...smh. However, I am very thankful for the two wonderful sons that came from our union 🤷🏽♀️
Me too!
This is random but Tanisha’s hair is so pretty! Love that color on her!!!❤️
LuvLee Lioness listen, I was saying the same thing!!! Lol
Love that style too
This hit my spirit, the part spoken of being okay if he doesn't want you, God has SOMETHING BETTER' Amen I truly appreciate that standard and way to look at it, God knows my spirit was suffering wondering WHY this individual ghosting me after expressing positive feelings, Surely I went into an depression thinking somethings wrong with me, But NOPE GOD HAS SOME ONE BETTER FOR ME & saved me from a long dating/covenant with the wrong person to marry, Amen Glory be to God for this post, it has blessed me!
LaToya A. Prov.31 Woman this happened to me before and had the same thoughts. I needed to constantly remind myself God has something better. I enjoy reading your comment, it blessed me.
@@maggiekabongo843 Glory be to God to hear the relation between sisters in Christ, God has been putting me through so much emotional suffering from rejection of broken men who start off positive & excited about me but instantly turn interest from me, & I spent so much time being in weary, confusion & depression & became fear'able to proceeding on to being open to another.....BUT as I cried out to God he whispered to me "it's a process, learn the reason of your process, get intuned" & I was puzzled...BUT I come to realize how great God is when you reflect your pain into Gods plans of transformation of your life.....He building you up, strengthening you for the type of audience that you will serve for his kingdom..... He teaching us to shed off dysfunctional comments by what we draw easily emotionally to which is mouths of men..... If we can stregthen our hearts & emotions then we can be builded up with NEW HEARTS to keep covered/protected when we start serving in our calling & God needs to know he can trust us by being emotionally strong to turn the cheek from an offense & that's what I got from this process of longggggg suffering..... I could be wrong 🤔 But I feel I'm right! We must stay woke the enemy try to confuse our minds against Gods work having us question ourselves to give up BUT continue calling on God when your mind travels to self questioning & remind yourself "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me" I have learned to repeat that scripture until I feel better" God bless you sis & I'm honored to hear my reply blessed you, God has a true blessing with your name on it, just keep your focus on the Lord & not the distraction of men, Amen (took me along time & a few self slaps to realize the value in that!) frfr Lol
ouch!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Man's rejection is God's protection!🗣️ I had a guy entirely break off any contact with me(unprovoked)after I prayed to God to remove any relationships in my life that wasn't beneficial in pushing me towards purpose
LaToya A. Prov.31 Woman this comment is timely. This is a powerful message you poured out to me. I love seeing sisters in Christ uplift one another especially when they go through similar situations. I definitely will screenshot this reply (if you don’t mind) so that i can re read it in times of doubt to remind myself who I am in Christ. 🙌🏾👏🏾 you are a true women of God!
I ONLY want Gods will!!! If he don’t want me....God most definitely has something better!!! #ihavestandards #covenantbenefit #kingdom
Yes! professional "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" I heard that👏👏👏🙌 Not here-No ma'am, no sir.. Amen.
I just spoke out my mouth “I want a boyfriend.” I’ve been in the pruning and wait for 20 years and the sting of loneliness is piercing me. I click on UA-cam two seconds after I said I want a boyfriend this video is the first thing up and it confirmed everything The Lord has been teaching...I’m a wife and I’ve known it for a while that when my husband comes we won’t be doing that traditional dating for years and all that. Thank y’all for allowing God to use you. I’m thankful for your relationship, you two clearly help each other grow and by choosing righteousness you’re speaking into my life. Thank you again.
I rebuke the spirit of girl friend and boyfriend in Jesus name, and receive the the spirit of marriage in Jesus name...
More grace to you and family. I always get wisdom and knowledge in each of your update. Following from Tanzania
Asking God! Eyes on Jesus ladies...♡🙏
I absolutely love the fact that y’all made a point to say (him, brother, Husband) everything in relationships has two versions his and hers. And we have to start including men in these conversations, post and vids. So awesome video and y’all are just on fire 🔥 in 2020!! Love y’all! God bless!! 🙏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
King Malcolm Macedon point very well made and taken. I absolutely agree.
AMEN!! I told my co worker. I'M not looking for a boyfriend. I want a husband. I have standard!! Keep it all the way real!!
Omg no y'all didn't!!! "I kept on running into her STANDARDS" bruh, that got me shook.
I soooooo needed to hear this today... fresh out of a relationship that I had very high hopes for. Unfortunately, even if it was initially a God-lead meeting, we rushed. I never felt good about it after a certain point, and in my heart I knew that Holy Spirit was not going to give me peace about sin. I tried just breaking up, but ultimately had to block/delete/ignore. Thankfully, I’ve been blessed with new goals and opportunities that help distract from the space left by the idol I surrendered. Now I’m asking God to show me what He’d have me do instead. Definitely a process. I’m grateful for news standards because the old me would have hated losing that relationship, even if it wasn’t right.
Did the same a few days back. It's amazing to listen to God's voice, that obedience. God be with you on your new journey.
you've got this.
This is me...kept going back but I knew deep down he wasn't mine, even though others said he was...I had to get a restraining order on him...it hurts...because I love him, still do but I know God has plans for me.
Amen! It’s never been appealing to me how ppl are professional boyfriends and girlfriends for YEARS, becoming parents before spouses. On purpose at that lol. Thank you for sharing this message and normalizing kingdom relationships. 🙏🏾
Covenant benefits 👌 and we save ourselves from so much unnecessary pain and confusion....
That's why I always go to God for confirmation, & everybody keep on questioning me on why I'm single 😒 because! 😴😂 I'm not rushing nada lol I'm patiently waiting on who Jehovah want to allow in the convenant I have with him ...that way we have that triple braided cord with God right in the middle! 🖤🤗🥂
Amen sis!1
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“God if these feelings are not from you... take them away” Amen! Wise prayer.
Right! Dating is NOT THE GOAL!
I think if a person is interested in someone that person should use the opportunity to collect data. Emotions should be left out because emotion can easily turn into a soul tie. Collecting data from God and the person of interest behavior....habits.....intention ect, to critically analyze whether the person is God sent.
Emotions won't be totally left out. That's part of attraction, but they dedicated should not be used to make decisions
@@joyricherson4570 what i meant about "emotions should be left out" is don't let emotions dominate or influence your decisions. men have studied women and they know most women decisions about a man is dominated by their emotions. let the data you collected about that person and the Holy spirit influence your decision.
"You SHOULDN'T hold on to this title "Girlfriend" for an extended period of TIME with NO COMMITMENT." TEACH
I don't understand it very well can you explain it to me💎
"It's not a standard if you're not willing to suffer for it."🔥👑🔥 "You were called to be a Friend, Sister, or a Wife."❤️
Loved this..
'Ask God if He gave you these feelings. If, He didn't, Ask Him to TAKE THEM AWAY. That is somebody else's Wife/Husband. You don't need to feel some type of way for somebody that is NOT YOURS.'
AMEN🔥🔥🙏🏾🕊🕊👑☀️
Yup! I figured it out eventually. Everytime he would try to girlfriend me I would remind him. . Well when we get married.. .. He started making excuses to end it
Wow ask God “Lord did you give me these feelings” I needed that !!!!
Ummmm.....so Imma need y'all to get up out of my prayer closet.....just ALL in my prayers and concerns 😆
Bam!! I say this alll the time. Most men have issues with it and I usually get blasted by men and women for it. Friends / Boyfriends don't get spouse privileges. ONLY my spouse does. But this is confirmation I am right. Keep Redefining TV righteously!
Stay safe, be intentional in seeking God’s will early daily.💕Love Him with all your heart and strength, keep growing in His word to help others.💕
1 John 4:18
I love it ask God first did u give me these feelings and I seem to get caught in my feelings a lot before asking God but I know I’m on a better track now that I desire Gods will for my life.
I ain't no girlfriend! Yassss
When you catch feelings.. Lord, did you give me this?
I'm thinking that way now...if I get rejected God has someone better for me. I know that now. Asking God did He send this person...yesssss!!
Yes OMG!! So TRUE! I ALWAYS say I'm a WIFE rather I have a husband or not!! Unfortunately, I've been married but NEVER had a husband....i didn't KNOW God's purpose for me until divorce and 3 kids LATER! NEVERTHELESS, I KNOW now, and when you KNOW better, you DO better. At this point, my Godly Husband will find me, bc I REFUSE to go looking for what God says is already mine and will find me.
I couldn't hear the msg because Mrs. Flowers is slaying that hairstyle! Yass girl. Ok I got to play it back
I'm in the stage of friend zoning every one. Friendship courting then marriage. I want my Isaac to be my bestfriend and husband! Great message! Especially the end regarding take the feelings away if the person belongs to someone else. Keep up the great work!
Ouch.
Covenant Benefits.
You know the ladies weren’t ready for that perspective Mr. and Mrs. Flowers! I definitely wasn’t!
Mrs. Jerry Flowers, your hair is the bomb! You are beautiful. Stay fly!!! I love the videos. Keep 'em coming!
“It’s not a standard, unless you’re willing to suffer for it!” 🙌🏾❤️🙌🏾 #Glory
I haven’t always did it right but now going forward as a kingdom woman who is walking in celibacy until marriage and wanting a kingdom man I’m living by these standards. I always wondered why I never felt right being a girlfriend and why I wanted marriage but people I dated didn’t want marriage. I wasn’t equally yoked and now I know going forward I also need to be equally yoked and have same values and meet somebody who meets my standards.
"God, Did you give me this?" That is powerful!! I love it! Thank you.
*If you didn't give me these feelings?? I need you to take them..* If you didn't give these feelings for this man?? Take them.. *because I don't want to feel some type of way about somebody who is not mines??* Because by default this somebody else's husbsnd!! *And I don't need to be feeling them if they are not mines.*
Preach preacher!!!!!!
Don’t allow men to pay bills!!!!!!!
This channel...you both give a Godly example on relationships and God. Spiritual growth is so real every time I listen to you. May God bless you and keep you.
JESUS! I am not a girlfriend and they are trying to make me be one, that’s why they keep going ghost.
I've always known that I'm not a girlfriend! Approaching age 45 in less than a month and have had a lot of ups and downs in relationships. I'm still trusting God for the kingdom husband I pray He'll bring me to. If it doesn't happen I'll always believe I'm a wife 💯🙌🏾
This is where iam. At this point
I only want God's will, I don't need anything from a man,, but for him to be a kingdom man . Cause he is not getting anything from me. Its been 3yrs of singleness for me. Iam dong really well at much peace with my self and. God,, working on me Happy with that. Bless you both. Jesus would almost have to come down and say, this is the one.
Your couples, marriage, relationship ministry is so relevant. I keep watching these videos over and over. Practical principles that can be implemented and be used as Christian guidelines. Healthy and wholesome!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Brother thank you for clarifying this from a mans perspective. Got me all the way together on this topic.
Oof yees, I feel like not enough people talk about men giving women wife benefits when they're at girlfriend status, it's not just something that only women do 😓.
So TRUE, preachon that! My dad, gave my mom a Hymnal, when his Family moved from Pine City Mn, to Sleepy Eye Mn! That was Second grade! They dated in High School, got married in 1963! They willbe married 58 years August31st!
Amen, Amen, Amen!!!!!! I don't want to have feelings for someone who's not mine!!!!!!!!!! Amen to that
When he said “if you didn’t give me these feelings then take them” I felt that part with God.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Man God has way of throwing bombs 😭🥵
Boaz protected and provided for Ruth out sheer kindness and that was divinely ordered.
Next webisode suggestion: What are covenant & noncovenant benefits? Or Dating Boundaries.
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Wow, This is Confirmation I had a long conversation about this last night topic. Thank you Jesus 🙏🙏🙏
I so needed this 😭😭 I’ve made up in my mind I’m done with these little temporary relationships. This message was for me. Thank you and God bless you both 💛
I heard that.
So true we must not settle for being girlfriend only because a man must pursue a woman and turn her into a wife
💖 Amen
💖OMGoodness Speak 😊
💖 Such a beautiful married couple.
💖 THANK YOU💖
I was literally talking about this with my sister YESTERDAY !!! 🤯🤯 Crazyy how God works man. Love these videos
This is what I’m talkin about!! You guys are GOOD! God bless you!
Everything I have ever learnt from redefined TV so far, for me, has been summarize in this webisode...🔥🔥🔥😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 You guys are amazing, may God's glory continue to increase over your lives... Your channel has built me, I never knew there was something like a kingdom man or woman... My life has been transformed by your teachings... I am a 20 years old girl from Zambia, and I am glad I started watching this channel...
I know God led me to this channel....♥️♥️♥️...
Fam, another message, food for our spirit and soul, that is straight 🔥🔥🔥🔥. Like they said, Brothers we must have standards as well, and not give up covenant benefits before marriage! Stay blessed Fam! 🙏🏾
Lord have mercy. There's just so much conviction going on listening to this. I cringed all the way through but I love truth and the truth will set you free
All I can do is smile from ear-to-ear while watching this. I told Jason over and over and over again that I didn't trust my own decisions with dating and that I wanted God's will. I held to my very high standards and morals and he accepted and respected all of them... for quite a while I wasn't sure, of anything really, but over time our decision to trust in the Lord about our relationship has been confirmed over and over again... and we have persevered together through all kinds of trials and tribulations... this is why I'm no longer fearful move on to the next step.
In all your ways trust in the Lord and lean on His understanding.
Wow I needed to hear this. Thank you guys so much
Yesss ! We have to ask God if the feelings we have are from Him and also to make us whole so we won't feel "lonely and incomplete"
If he doesn't want me.. God has something better 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Thank you Flowers family. Value❤
Can you please do an extension segment of that LAST part.. "catching feelings" and how to communicate with God...etc
Gotta check their older videos "moving to fast"
Delroy61 thank youuuu
@@jeejee77734 👍😏
Delroy61 actually I couldn’t find the video 🤨
@@jeejee77734 Really? Alright, give me a min
Truth! I’m a wife, a good thing because my daddy made me that, but in dating I’ve met men that are not my husband. It is all good for a short time, but like you say they keep hitting my standards and 100% of the time every counterfeit left. But I’m not settling, so I walk in my glory that was given to me by my Heavenly Father. Knowing my identity in Him as a wife is protection. God used you both to reaffirmed me ♥️♥️♥️
Great video it’s never long enough dang I guess I need y’all to make a movie I love y’all my sis and bru
"If he doesn't want ME??" God has someone else!!" *Time for the benediction* AMEN --> got to know this TRUTH
Your last 2 messages were words to carry with everyone for a lifetime, in every season. I wish I could make everyone I know listen to these.
Wonderful, Counselor JESUS IS TO US. THANK YOU FOR SHARING.
This. Is. So. True!!!
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You were NEVER CREATED to be a boyfriend. You were NEVER CREATED to be a girlfriend. *That's The Word*
"Put it this way.. that is a covenant benefit: *There are certain things you only get in covenant.* "
HI from East Coast, Canada I truly am blessed to have you as a part of my life, as a brother and sister in faith who truly love the word of God, Thank you Christ Jesus. Amen
Preach hunny👌🏽It takes both! Set boundaries 👌🏽
This video was right on time last night on FB. Thank you!!! Keep them coming :) and lastly, appreciate for prayers for my future husband to find me! I’m 40
I asked the Lord pretty much that (if its not of you, take these feelings from me) and that's when the Lord told me to go to war for me him. I've had conformation after conformation myself and he has too but he's been doubting all the way through with the Lord again continuously confirming to him too, we've been 'doing life together' and praying the Lords will for nearly a year now. Please brothers and sisters please pray for wisdom and discernment in us both and to just be walking in what the Lord has for us, thanks and God bless you all 🙏🏾
A professional girlfriend. That was great. I appreciate that.
Thanks for thinking of us. I was hoping to see you two soon. 😁
I did listen to this morning message. " I am not afraid."
I love your partnership. I'm so inspired.
Awesome! Speak Lord through them....how to identify your will for a relationship.
Agggh I LOVE YALL!
I’m always blessed by this ministry. God is so amazing. I first saw you guys a couple of years ago on the praying for your spouse challenge. It was something about your marriage and ministry that touched my life. I knew it was God!! I felt it. I immediately started following you guys on instagram and then I signed up for wife academy (need to jump back in it). Long story short, after being in an almost 8 year relationship I finally ended it. We both are in different churches, but his relationship with God wasn’t like mine. I walk and live by faith. I love God and I can not put anyone before Him and that is what I was doing. I was being pulled in another direction. I have been in positions where I had to totally trust God and He always, always brought me through. Anyway, your ministry has taught me knowledge, value, love, knowing my worth, standards, boundaries, wisdom, growth, red flags, what a healthy kingdom relationship should look like and so much more. God has allowed me to grow through your ministry and I am for ever grateful! The two of you are changing lives and I am so grateful that I committed to that challenge in order to come across your ministry. May God continue to bless the two of you beyond measure!! God bless!!
Thank you for this message 🙏🏾
This is sooooo accurate!
Love this! ❤❤❤🙏
Powerful but true facts!🙌🙏
Amen!! Love this so much!!
VERY good!!! 🕊
Love this.
I love y’all’s whole vibe!!! 🙏🏾 thank you
Amen. This is good
Wow! I needed to hear this thank you! I love your channel. Keep doing what you guys are doing
In total agreement GOD bless you