Was off the apps, got back on after 3 years. Not much has changed. Most are rushing things or low effort. Bck to focusing on me and waiting on God. If you've already found your partner in life be blessed cause it's hard out here.
Yes, it is definitely hard. I, too was off dating sites & dating/mating period for 7years. I went back hoping that as a 50+ year old woman, the men would have matured a little. WRONG. Even those in church have adapted to the trends of this generation. Smh.
1. Confident men are not on dating apps. In order for a man to approach a woman in person it takes confidence. Confident men are walking up to women and introducing themselves. 2. Lazy men are on dating sites; the men who want women to be served up to them. They want a buffet. 3. A man who is hiding in plain sight; he’s wearing a mask. Women can see who he is in person, but he can hide himself behind the screen. 4. Men who want to scam are going to get on apps first. 5. It sends a message to men she is desperate. Thank you as always, TG! 🙌🏽
I was on dating apps during my mid 20s in the pandemic out of boredom and curiosity. One man I went on a dated with ghosted me and I asked him why he ghosted me. He said "Sorry I'm just picky" Guy two started off fine and then started showing abusive tendencies and saying my religious beliefs are stupid. He also revealed he was in court case for DUI crash with meth involved. Guy 3 ended up having a harem of women and self esteem issues. I'm in a much better mind state after deleting apps a year ago. I'm meeting quality men in real life. I've yet to meet a "normal" man on an app. A lot of them on there also have commitment issues because the app gives them delusion of their options.
I was on dating apps for a couple of weeks & soon deleted all of them. The men all had the same thing in common, newly single/divorced, looking for a place to stay, BROKE, or looking to “hook” up. All red flags 🚩
Girl yeah. I met a guy and after 2 weeks of knowing me, he asked me if he could move in. I was like hell nahhh. He disappeared shortly after. Its true. I'm done with dating apps.
That guy who DM me late last week on Instagram claimed he was currently working in Africa but originally from Jersey City, NJ, saying they was coming back to the states soon. This is the 3rd time in weeks I met someone claiming that they were working in another country saying they were coming back home to the states soon. Come on, ain't nobody falling for that. I ended up blocking this person too as well as the others.
Yeah.. newly single and depressed over ex or bored and lonely. Most are lazy.. can’t set a date or actually ask you real questions to get to know you other than a few questions from your profile.. like favorite movie of genre or how’s your weekend. How’s your weekend is fine but then nothing else substantial. Which ones were you on? I only tried hinge and coffe meets bagel and felt vague / bad after a while
Yes! No more dating apps. If the man can’t approach me, then it’s not meant to be. ✨👌🏾 my mom got married off a dating app and the man turned out to be dangerous and a scam artist. I thank God to this day that we got through that and are still alive. Keep telling the truth Tony. We as women are better off just living our lives and walking in our purpose instead of resorting to a dating app.
That is not always the case, u have 2 do ur homework and not take men at face value. U just have 2 b very careful in what u do how u do it . It’s not the same .
This is the playground for narcissists! I know I’ve been on them for 10+ years and I have met some pretty broken damaged men. They never appear this way, they were well dressed even spoke well. But they were devils in sheep’s clothing.
Stop using dating apps several years ago. God’s mercy saved me from every situation that could have possibly went wrong. I agree with Tony. Dating apps are not worth it, just wait!
About 90% of the men on dating apps are married and in relationships. They are looking for $ex. Dating apps are 🗑. I would rather be alone and stress free.
It’s 2022 and everyone is online (you’re online reading this right now). From scammers to gentlemen. The same people you meet in public are the same people you meet online. Use discernment in getting to know someone, take your time, ask questions, do some research.
Exactly! Tony is gonna keep a lot of them single with this way of thinking. A out of the horror stories that I have read in the comment section is filled with women using poor judgement. It doesn’t matter where you meet the person, you have to have discernment with a healthy dose of common sense. The same men online are the same men at church, grocery stores etc…. But let them tell it 🤣
No its the WAY,you're meeting them. Most men don't need dating apps. Its women available, smart, educated women EVERYWHERE. Please don't misread the message
@@saetae9208 as a college educated, high earning man, I met my now girlfriend on Hinge. I’m also in a frat and most of the single bruhs use them as well. It’s not a need, but another resource that people should use
@@mr.brooks9802 If you don't mind me asking...why do you visit this platform seeing that you are in a stable relationship. Im really just curious, no judgement
To say that Tony hasn't been in the game for 15+ years, he sure knows his stuff, because there were no lies told. I entertained conversation with a couple of guys on a dating site, and they both casually told me that the reason they get on the app is because it is easier to be rejected online than in person (lack of confidence).. And now that I think about it, it's difficult to imagine that a confident man ready for something real would entertain being on an app. I can't judge because I literally got on the app due to boredom and looking for conversation (I deleted it after a month). When I'm ready, the dating app would be the last place I look. Great insight, Tony!!
Tony’s right. A lot of guys I’ve met on these apps can be socially awkward and seem to lack healthy confidence. Not making fun of them or anything, but that’s not what I want in a partner.
I know a teacher that literally just quit her job, and moved her and her 15 yr old son to another state to be with a man that she just met online in May. I tried to give her some of Tony's reasons but she had been single for over 5 years and didn't listen to anyone. I'm praying for her. God bless her. 🙏🏽
Let’s be honest. Dating apps benefit men exponentially. It opens the door for them to access women they’d never approach in real life. It’s easy and fun for most of them who aren’t seeking anything more than a good time. I’ve dabbled on dating apps and luckily had good dates. However, I can attest that the these guys were NEVER who they presented themselves to be.
I’m happily married, met my husband on an app 6 years ago but can’t lie I had some bizarre experiences from apps before meeting him. I watch all your videos, even the ones that don’t specifically pertain to me because I’ve found wisdom in them all and it helps especially when I have so many friends and even my sister that are good women looking for suitable mates with no success. I myself can’t speak to what the dating scene is like as of now but the shenanigans I hear from them are crazy. They all have some pretty disastrous dating experiences on and off the apps. It’s scary, use discernment in all circumstances.
I met my husband on a dating app 9 years ago. We two are happily married. Before meeting my husband I went through it on the apps and off the apps. Tony is speaking though. As a business women I treated dating like a new client. It sounds harsh but it works. If the portfolio was thin you could not date me. My husband checked all boxes, single, no kids , was at his job for 10 years which meant he was stable. Yes, he is fine, fit and financially secured. We as women have to be smart, patient and very observant when dating.
I met a wonderful guy. He was busy and was single for a while. The men can introduce themselves on the site. I wasn’t served up. I don’t agree with this one. But I think he’s still good at what he does. Congratulations by the way
I met my husband on a dating app & I thank God for him everyday. He traveled a lot for work so he typically only met women at business events he attended. I agree with what Tony’s saying but there is always exceptions.
I met my husband 8 years ago on a dating site. I believe that there were a lot of facts stated in this video. However the dating seen can be messy on and off the apps. We must use common sense, our divine intuition, intelligence, and patience. 💕
Tony, this resonate. I met 3 guys on the dating apps. They were bums. They wasn't looking for love, they were looking for help. And they all had mental issues. You know what you're talking 💯
You ladies aren't looking for love I'm a guy who has my shit together and looking for love you just waste time and blame guys those guys aren't bums just nit Chad that you're going after
Watched a criminal psychologist who spoke on this matter. She said that the serial criminals (scammer, rapists) and killers she has interviewed and worked with say they love the internet and these dating apps are a blessing. Both have made 'hunting' so much easier and accessible. Scary!!!
I 1000% agree! “Raccoons find steak in the garbage”…I tell my GFs all the time being on apps is like searching for a formal dress at the Ross clearance rack.
Tony, may God bless everything you touch and enlarge your territory. As a woman raised in a single parent home you have no idea how much your male voice has been a blessing to me. I’ve shared you with so many of my sistas. Regarding online dating you are speaking THE TRUTH! Not ONE LIE came out of your mouth. Online dating is indeed Satan reincarnated. Young queens are being destroyed by the enemy on this platform. I’ve been on it multiple times, and interestingly enough I’ve only gone on when I was in a dark place. I’m never on it when I’m happy and content. Oddly enough, that same emotion could lead someone to settling for crumbs when they deserve a whole steak. Don’t go online dating. If you’re hurting, get a therapist. Serve God. Get healthy and exercise. Travel. Make friends and hang out with them. Work out. Help non profits. Dont go online!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I totally agree with you! I understand that we are in the age of technology, but I always thought online dating was weird! I shouldn’t have to go online to get a man.
Yes Tony! Those dating apps are the worst. I've met some strange people years ago on those apps. Mist of them are real loosers.. God told me to not meet people there so I stopped. Glad I did after listening to your introduction. You are on point!
This video was insightful. I actually met my now husband on a dating app in 2016, and fortunately we knew each other from 15 years prior from the military/high school. I was on an app for three weeks, and avoided the foolishness and some of the things you’re discussing. I was just blessed to get in and get out of the online dating game, we are still married, both doing very well, and have a little princess who’s 4 now!!!! Thank you for a great video though, and I’m on the video because I’m a follower of yours and you present great dialogue.
👏🏾 inspired by your story! A lot of women are dealing with a heart to people please and low self esteem so it’s hard to scope out a good match when you’re being so open minded it really bites many of us in the end. (Speaking on my past choices with dating) :) glad to hear a success story!!
I have everything I want in my life except a partner and because of this I have definitely fell into the trap of online dating especially when you meet so many people who found partners online, but Tony didn’t lie. I have never had success online. Bunch of crabs in a barrel looking for convenience. All I can control is being the best person I can be in the REAL world.♥️💋
Definitely needed this today. Sometimes I’ll revert back to my desperate mind and get the urge to redownload them. I remember how stressed I was back when I used them yet the the thoughts pop back in my head every now and then. So many grown boys on there, very low effort conversations, ghosting, and dudes just looking to get you on Snapchat.
Update: I tried dating apps again recently. What I’m finding out is I only go on there when I think I need to “help” out God 😅. Met a guy who ended up letting me know he had an daily addiction to “nasty” movies, and also had some other serious issues. Thankfully we only were talking for about two weeks 😅. Yes people can hide who they are in person as well, but when I met this guy in person (during the day in public) his energy was way off, something wasn’t right. I kept feeling uneasy about him and getting warnings in my spirit. We can’t go off rare exceptions to the rule. I’m going to keep coming back to this video when I need a reminder 😂. Thanks Tony!
Tony! Knew a woman who in her sixties got tired of waiting for someone and went on a dating app. She met a man twenty years younger than her from Nigeria who suckered her out of $50.00 Thousands. Smh, once he got her money she needed hear from him again. The FBI told her that she was not the only one and they would not be able to get her money back. Ladies listen to Tony! He is on point about this
And they’re smart about it too… they’ll look you up on social media before you get a chance to, and block you so you can’t see his profile exposing his whole family
@@kimberlys347 the last guy who I met up with on bumble had a pregnant girlfriend. Something didn’t seem right. I looked him up on fb by first name. Nothing. I used my burner account and looked him up. He immediately popped up because he was in my area. He blocked me on my primary account, so he was strategic, but I still found out
This was ON POINT Tony! Anyone who recommends this to me gets the side eye...it's like digging in the trash can, ladies know your value and what's yours will find you and you will know it in real life! Take care of you and be happy while living your life.. that is all.
Yup! Perfectly said. Digging in the trash can, hoping to find an actual meal. All you get are scraps! But if you hungry enough scraps will do right? Nope not for me
i met my ex on a dating app. he’s 29 and i’m 21.. that should have been the first red flag. things started to move really fast and I can honestly say the red flags were showing after a few days of talking to him. In the beginning he was going out of his way to make me feel special but about a month and a half in I was lying next to him and I heard him match with someone on the dating app. I was pissed because I didn’t think he was still on there and he came from apologizing to getting really angry because I wanted to leave. He grabbed me by the hair, threw me on the couch, got on top of me and starting yelling in my face saying I was a stupid bitch for thinking he was cheating and trying to leave. Unfortunately I was desperate and stayed for some time but I finally been free from him for about 6 weeks now. I couldn’t take the emotional abuse anymore. He wasn’t respecting me or my boundaries at all. He was in the military also. For that I will NEVER touch another dating app!
@@jasminealexia thank you! there’s definitely been times where i thought about going back but i keep having to remind myself of all the reasons i left.
Glad you got out, I think the bigger issue here is that the signs were there and you brushed them under the rug so to speak. Online or offline discernment and wisdom are needed when dating trust yourself more and know you deserve the very best
@@ariah457 very true! i realized i didn’t love myself enough at the time and wasn’t fully healed from my last relationship. watching tony gaskins and rc blakes jr. has definitely been teaching me a lot! thank you❤️
@@shiagloshow Don’t ever go back mama! As women we waste too much of our precious time trying to make it work with the wrong joker. I’m 31 and time flies. As women get older, the dating pool gets smaller. Choose self love, dress up, and stay free for the right man to find you; you got this! 💯
It was the: “If you been on a dating app, and you don met yo husband and you married from a dating app…Why is you on this video?”😑 at the end for me!!! I hollered so loud.😂😂😂😂😂😂 Thank you, Tony.
Tony is only one I’ve heard point out the fact that confident men aren’t on dating apps. It’s in a man’s nature to hunt and find a mate so if he’s on the app there’s some funny business going on or he’s very insecure/predatory.
Dating app story, met this guy from a dating app, went to his house after meeting twice, I didn’t want to sleep with him, he grabbed my wrist and I hanked my wrist back and said I want to go home, I don’t drink and he had a few drinks after him tryna show me around his “condo” I ran back downstairs and out that condo so fast to my car scared, off the dating apps for life and never turned back, that man could have killed me this was in 2017 and no one would have known, young and dumb was I is all I can say but thank you brother Tony for saving us women out here, God bless you and your family. Ladies think about your kids and the people who love you, it ain’t worth it!
Dating apps have never worked for me and it’s just a bunch of guys on there playing games and wearing a mask pretending to be somebody they not just to manipulate you and get what they want which is a good time😭
Since I subscribed to you, no online dating! No extra for 2 years! Love my single life❤️ I’m just trying to smile through my mask at the grocery store and the gym 🤣🎉
Guilty of being on the dating apps for longer than I’d like to admit just out of laziness. My ex boyfriend was a good guy but he was on there certainly because he was hiding that he was still staying in his parents basement despite making good money & just buying cars. The final straw that made me pull the plug was this white guy I dated for 2 months. Ended up having such great chemistry in our conversation but he admitted he didn’t have a strong relationship with God and just was content making his own decisions. By date 8 his mask slipped & despite his consistent asking me out on dates, he had no interest in asking me to be his girlfriend. Sociopathic tendencies started to surface among him trying to be a womanizer so I dipped and deleted all the apps finally! I know God doesn’t need my help in sending me the right guy when it’s time!
As soon as I got off them literally men started approaching me every single time I popped out the house. When I was on them that barely happened. I think it's a energy thing. Also I'm more confident than I was months ago so I'm sure that has a lot to do with it. Confident people attract other confident people. HE'S RIGHT! GET OFF THEM APPS!!
@@ashleykathryn9038 no problem at all. I'd say highlight your natural curves if you have any. Make them eyes pop with a bomb mascara and gloss. Wearing bright clothing works as well. I'm very shapely, 5'10, with a fro so most times I'd say I naturally stick out. It's not everyday you see women with my paticular look where I'm from so I get noticed A LOT and I always get compliments from men and women of all races and ethnicities. You don't have to be a girly girl either. My look is girly tomboy. Always comfortable but a Lil sexy.
Same! Got back on a dating app for just 3 days and then realized why I haven't used them in years and deleted it right away. I'd rather be single then deal with the nightmare of dating apps.
I've used dating apps on and off for years and Tony Is absolutely right! A lot guys want to move fast, acting in a rush to meet but not really trying to get to know you or the bums looking for help, which are both major red flags. I use to not see anything wrong with online dating but after listening to Tony videos, it made me change my perspective. Not to mention, there are a lot of down low/ gay men online. Dating is very different now and you must take the time to vet and get to know people no matter how long it takes don't rush it. I do not reccomend online dating. But again, Tony appreciate your insight you have helped me, God bless!!
I was single for 5-6 years. Decided to go on a dating app just to see if I would meet anyone nice. Met a man who I thought was the one. As time passed & we got to know each other, something felt off about him. But I didn’t listen to my intuition cause I wanted to believe so badly that he was a good person. Ended up in a relationship with a covert narcissist. Thankfully I got out in time. I learned my lesson!😥
It’s so funny…I was thinking about downloading a dating app (kinda tired of being single) but then this video pops up on my feed😬I’m taking this as a sign from God… 😭
Tony, you are absolutely right. Low effort men, are on dating sites, and men who use dating apps to be something they are truly not 💯 I stopped using apps. The statistics show what the true story is.
This was exactly my story. Jobless when I met him, blamed the pandemic. 40 yrs old with two roommates, drug addiction, porn problem, video gamer, but claimed on his profile he wanted a “Christ centered” relationship. 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
I recently dated someone off of bumble for 2 months , and after them two months red flags 🚩 started popping off everywhere 😂 all I can hear is Tony voice in my head … he didn’t have a car , he started not wanting to take me on dates anymore because he wanna save money for his car , we go from talking everyday to barely talking… 🤦🏽♀️ he said he was a man of God and he knew the word but still wanted to follow his will. I won’t be getting back on a dating app after watching this video! Thanks Tony 💕
I had a friend who met her husband on a dating app. According to her, he was great the first few years. He proposed and a few months before they got married, he started shutting her out. I asked her if she wanted to wait, stop the wedding planning, and just go to counseling. They started counseling. She told me that she had spent much money to stop the wedding. 🤦🏾♀️ They got married. She found out she had contracted an STD from him. She stayed. A month after marriage, he started shutting her out again. The marriage lasted from August 2019 until December 2021. She told me that she was done with with his treatment and was leaving him. She told me that they were going to talk that evening. The next day after our conversation she ended up dieing a mysterious death. She was a very healthy and fit woman. I will always believe he did something to her.
These are valid points, nevertheless, I tell ppl to use discernment not feelings no matter how you meet someone! Ppl are always going to bring their best representation; it's up to you to use wisdom and prayer to sift through the nonsense. The main thing is if and when you see red flags, leave! Women have this issue so bad because we tolerate and stay far too long!
Tony you are absolutely correct!! I’ve been on a few dating sites; but because I’ve been taught how to date, I’ve had some great experiences. I think if women are wise and in tune with their discernment, anything is positively possible. On one popular site I had over 100 men to sort through within day 3, I had to keep a log of who what when and where, lol but it was a lot of fun though. I’m no longer on dating sites because it became boring with all the redundant conversations. I would like to encounter a gentleman who can tell me something I don’t already know.
First of all thank you Tony for talking about a much needed topic. Unfortunately, I have experienced more than one story on the dating app. I have experienced scammers 101, as I call it. There are way too many experiences to describe. But, here's what I can say. There is truth to everything that you shared Tony. 1.)Those men that move quickly, and start with the love bombing, wanting to spend time, talking, texting, video chatting in an excessive manner. 2.)Those who obviously, looking to "get you on your back" as you say Tony. Then quickly disappear , if you're not up for that. 3.) Those who lead double lives, show you the representative of who they are, while having wives, or situationships at home , that you later find out about. 4.) Emotionally immature or unavailable. 5.) Or people that know that you are out of there league and would not be attracted to them. Then get upset, if you respectfully decline. This was my experience in a shorter version. It doesn't matter if it was a Christian dating app. My results were same but different circumstances. As, a mature woman my children encouraged me to start dating using the apps starting last year. I have met some nice guys but, as a whole. I would say it's a No! For me!! There's waaaaaay more that I could tell you. About Crazy dating Apps. com!!
Thank you, Tony! I joined dating apps because that is what I have been told is the only way to meet men in 2022! I encountered zero quality men. It was very creepy. I appreciate your Godly wisdom.
@@j-tenn226 lol sometimes they sneak phones in, I'm guessing. The tv show love during lock up shows people in those situations dating. And most of the ladies on there say they met the guy through dating apps lol
Thanks for sharing this Tony. As a Millennial at 33, I have never used them and have no desire to use. I have had friends and peers shame for not using them. Something in my spirit never felt right about them.
I have tried to meet men IRL , but they all turn out to be weird, married or just as bad as men on dating apps. Its hard online dating or in real life. It sucks both ways big time. Love your video ❤❤❤
I’m hearing comments on why not to get on a dating app. But I’m not seeing any solutions on how to meet men organically. I don’t have to much of a social life. I mostly go to regular everyday places like the gym, church, grocery store, gas station or what not. I met a guy at my gym and he was total garbage 🗑. Now I am not saying what Tony said isn’t true! But if you want to preach about staying off dating apps, but you want to meet someone and you don’t go to social events. Then please provide an healthier alternative 🤷🏾♀️
You really should consider going to social gatherings or events you hear about. Look into festivals and networking events too. Also try new hobbies and join groups that have those same interests. Go to restaurants around lunch, happy hr and/or early dinner and try to go solo. Men will approach you more when you are alone. Do as much as you can outside of your home so you are available to be approached. Look friendly and happy. Good luck🙂
I would but I don’t know how to find out about these events 😕. If I knew about them I would go. I guess what I am trying to say is I understand that by meeting a guy in person he has confidence to come up to me knowing he could get rejected 🙅🏾♀️. But men I have met online as well as in person we’re still playing the same games 😤. I have been going to counseling for awhile now and doing the work on myself to make sure that I don’t fall into the same traps I had went along with years ago. So when I see the foolery I end it. But just meeting men out and about isn’t something that happens often for me anymore. Any suggestions on how to find these events?
@@marlaohara6236 I mean you making it harder than what it seems. I use to be the exact same way as you honestly then I just slowly started coming out of my shell. I pray one day you’ll see what I mean. You can also look on facebook for social events or festivals nearby your area, just use your discernment.
@@marlaohara6236 others can’t really give more specific suggestions for your situation and location, you have to do some research yourself. There are other videos that cover this, but first you want to decide if you’re actually interested in a relationship? Sometimes we just don’t want to be alone, but not trying to put in the effort needed… next you def would have to make sure your “look” is saying what you want it to say, Tony’s done videos on this too. If you have confidence issues or deal with awkwardness/social anxiety, there are ways to manage it. Always start with prayer, ask God to lead and protect you and talk with your counselor or trusted friends about how you may show up in public to strangers. I reeeeally don’t recommend meeting men at the gym or the club, like that steak in the garbage analogy 😒 I’m not in a dating season but I will say I’ve met quality men by joining organizations, like a local community group, Rotary club, hiking group etc. There are Facebook pages for events in your area but again you have to look and show up with the right appearance and energy. You might even have a book club, farmers market or singles group at your church. If you have local friends, maybe go with them to an elevated event like lounge or jazz show etc. even our prior condo association had mixers and lots of singles turned out. What you said about recognizing red flags is key so def keep your eyes open and go SUPER slow. Tony’s point about men’s confidence is secondary IMO to the knowledge that women are literally being hunted like prey and losing their LIVES on these apps. That’s the real concern. Good luck!!!
Hi Tony, I met a dating scammer in real life. It started when he walked up to me at a shop and we had a conversation, exchanged numbers. He wanted us to meet as soon as possible, but due to my busy schedule I asked that we meet 5 days later. In the mean time, he would video call and we would talk an hour everyday. From the conversations we had, 1 thing stuck out to me that the man seemed to be purposeless - as he would not really have firm plans grounded in work. When I finally met him, in public, I asked him what he does - he wasn’t very open, but I kept probing until he confessed that he was an online dating scammer. After that encounter in real-life - I definitely don’t want to look for more of his kind on a dating app.
@@SELFCAREMODEL someone who uses the person/people they’re dating for living expenses, a place to live, large amounts of money and they specifically target people who display a lack of confidence. They will often use manipulation tactics so the person doesn’t realize they’re being scammed.
What dating app? My sister is on Eharmony. She likes it alot. She has gone out on several dates with Executives, Engineers, and 1 guy who is an artist. No issues so far. She is 49 years old, and these are older men in her age range.
Yes Sir Tony this is good info. Online dating is scary and ain't for me. Prefer to meet a male in person so I can read his body language and feel out his energy.
I thankfully found my mate on a dating app. However, most men I met on apps were seeking nothing more than sex, & often were liars & creeps... Be careful out here folks!
I was dating apps after my divorce and it was a nightmare, even Christian Mingle. I was on E-Harmony, Plenty of Fish, Tinder, even Facebook dating, and Bumble. All are the same, even the ones you have to pay to be on it. The men were either looking for just a hook-up or someone to help him financially. You might meet one or two decent ones out of a truckload of messed up ones. I just off all of completely about 4 years ago. I bump into guys at the laundromat, grocery store, or at car shows that are better prospects than those dating apps.
Finally found someone letting us know where to actually meet quality men. We heard why not to be on dating apps and I can agree with most of what he said but no one was speaking where to meet quality men at. I’ve been on dating apps and I’ve had a mixed experience with it. I’ve also known friend who are in healthy relationships by meeting their spouses online, some even married.
I soooooooo needed this. The apps are like shopping on a clearance rack. Nothing but trash, sorry to be so blunt and I was on there myself, so I was lowering my price so to speak bc I was kinda desperate at one time. But I’m good now, I’ll wait the old fashioned way & trust God instead of some stupid algorithms
I had a terrible experience Ladies he is telling the truth. Them datings apps for liers & manipulative men. Don't do it I had to call the police make a report & have my brother get involved & call him because he was stalking me because I wouldn't allow disrespect. Ty Tony for doing God's work. Your heaven sent
I got on a dating app for the first time in 2018. I stayed for 2 weeks only. I went on dates with 3 different men. Only one of the men was of substance but he had yellow teeth so I couldn’t put up with it. The other two men tried to have sex with me ASAP. One of them I had to run out because he didn’t understand or refused to understand I wasn’t going to have sex with him. I have never been back on the app since. A really good friend of mine found her guy that she was with for 3 years on a dating app. They were about to get engaged and then he dropped a bomb. He said he wanted to sleep around before they get engaged so that he can get it out of his system. She said no and they broke up. He got engaged less than six months later and turns out he had been dating that girl while dating my friend. YOU CANNOT MAKE THIS UP 😰
I just deleted my one and only dating app yesterday and today this video popped up in my feed. I’ll take that as a sign that I did the right thing and I’m not missing out on anybody. I even posted a comment on Facebook that I wish I could start some sort of movement to convince women to delete their dating app profiles.
Love this! There are many women coaches out here advising women to get on dating apps especially with the pandemic, so glad you give a different perspective!! God bless you and your family!
@@ieshjust16 yes, the women coaches are encouraging it to increase your “options” and Tony’s perspective is your options increase but now your quality is compromised…
I was on a dating app over 5 years ago. Tony is absolutely right! A family member just recently showed me a picture on someone I met on the dating app. He is still out there! Mind you this man was a US Marshall, and very handsome. I met another one that was a pilot for the Air Force. So don't be fooled by their line of work.🥴
@@j-tenn226 Yep! And get this, I forgot to mention that I met both men in person first, ( was approached by both) and they were also on the website. No disrespect to Tony's conclusion. I totally agree with him. It is just impossible to vet men these days.
@@j-tenn226 That is because he is a scammer. He knows a lot of women are lonely and desperate and he will take advantage of her. He uses his good looks and line of work to get her. Don't do it ladies be wise!
Men on dating apps are crazy, my friends talked me into doing it went on a “date” and never will do it again. Safety is important and we to beautiful to seen by everybody ladies !
I can appreciate the therapeutic transparency of the comment section. This is an anointed lesson, confirmation, and blessing. A part of healing is the ability to say, “I’ve been there!”
These dating app videos are my favorite of Tony Gaskins. He has a few and I earn different bits of knowledge every time. God can sense my spiritual warfare because I’ve been wanting to redownload an app out of boredom Side note: It is hilarious whenever Tony the uses the word desperate . I holler the way he says it. Ladies, don’t go shopping for a man.
I just had a scary experience on the app and thankfully God protected me. The guy came off as the food Christian man lol…started love bombing but something was too good to be true. I looked him up and first thing I found was he was lying on his age. So when he texted me I nicely asked him was his age accurate…I found his true age. He immediately got defensive and mad at me for looking him up…then he sent a cryptic message saying I prefer dating older women and now I’ll vanish. It was so weird and unsettling. That was my last time trying dating apps. The men want access and options…I deactivated my account and got back to my blessed life. God has been good to me…and I’ll wait on Him. If I don’t get married I’ll be okay too Jesus was single lol ppl are crazy stay safe lady and gents. Thank you Tony for sharing wisdom it’s much appreciated.
I must agree with this video, I tried a few dating sites for a while off and on, I was meeting so many married men 🤦🏾♀️ not my thing! By the way, also meeting men on there, a lot weren’t even ready to date seriously and eventually want to be in a relationship, it’s like the dating app was use to just hook up 🤦🏾♀️ I have since then deleted my profile, and enjoying being single and taking myself out on dates, until the man God has for me I’d sent to me and I can feel it in my spirit he’s good for my soul, Thank you Mr. Gaskins for this video, it made me not even want to be tempted to get back on a dating site.
I really hope everyone listens to the ENTIRE video. I can see where someone may hear something and not fully grasp what you are saying. This is vital info.
I haven’t done the dating app thing much but after one instance I said never again. This man became very clingy and a little obsessed before even meeting up. It was scary to say the least.
My abusive ex was and probably still is on those apps. We met in real life, but we once broke up for a while. About a year or 2, and he was on them during that time. We reconnected and got back together and he nearly unalived idk how many times. I should’ve stayed away and left him on those apps. And what’s funnier is that he’s a cop.👮🏿♂️ So you can NOT even trust to date law enforcement officers on those apps. I thought I was safe and could trust him but he used the law to have power over me and silence me. So please, stay away from dating apps and I hate to say it, be careful with dating cops too! I’ve dated 3 cops and they were all awful... Don’t comment that your dad or granddad is a cop and are/were the sweetest men trying to invalidate my experiences. Don’t care.
I got off dating apps last year. I was on there three times.I got on for a week… met some prospects, then got off. Several months later, did the same thing. I met 4 guys. 2 of the 4 I am still and contact with was in a relationship with both of them. The third time on the app was the cause that I walked away, one guy spiked my drink, another guy tried to rape me, the stalked me, and the other guy was married. That was enough for me. I met good guys, however, the bad guys actions strongly out weighted the good.
Everything TG said was on point. Met a guy online who wanted to link up within 24 hours of matching. I felt something was off after I left the restaurant and decided to Google him (he said he was a doctor but what he didn’t know was that I’m in the field). His mugshot IMMEDIATELY popped up along with his real name and that he was a online dating scammer that had recently got out of jail in another state. That was it for me😩…..
@@WilliamsLovesToLearn his profile on the app was a picture of him wearing a doctor’s coat. That was also the name he used online. When I googled the name on his coat, it was a pic of the doctor he was pretending to be (real doctor was Caucasian), AND an article showing the mugshot of the guy I had just met pretending to be him and to be aware as he’s scammed other women online.
Even all the way down here in “safe” New Zealand, a British woman who met a guy here on a dating app flew over and was brutally murdered 😭🙏🏾 it’s not safe even in the countries perceived as safer than the US
I have a couple dating app horror stories but having terrible experiences, watching a few videos like yours and others, listening to the people that loved me and even going to church they always say get off dating apps but I couldn't figure out why even with horror stories I still couldn't now I see it. But here are a couple of the horror stories I had one is light hearted the other is very heavy. One time I met this guy on a dating site called BLK its mainly geared for black people and at most I'd use it to meet other black people as I live in a predominantly white .. state... well I saw this guy, just fine and all. he gave me Tupac vibes so I super liked him and surprise! He super liked me. We met in person & on our first date we went to a book store one of my fave places but in the date he only wanted to get something for him, now I wasn't expecting him to buy me anything but he didn't even want to look around. When I got in his car, despite having a house it looked like he lived out his car. There was clothes and shoes food and all types of shit. We pretty much had a date sitting in his car. He mentioned how clean my car was and upon the next time meeting his car was clean. However that meet up we were supposed to go on a date. I recommended a couple places to eat and he agreed. When I pulled up to meet him at the restaurant he informed me that before he met up with me he already ate because 1 he couldn't afford to eat and 2 going on dates with someone with such a picky eating lifestyle was kinda embarrassing?? (I'm a vegetarian 😑😑) I decided if he wasn't gonna eat then I wasn't gonna eat so again we proceeded to have a date in his car. As we were talking he whipped out his phone and started going through his snapchats and he landed on a girl with an onlyfans and she was doing onlyfans things ... if you know what I mean. Not only could I see him watching it he didn't even care and proceeded to show me a girl getting frisky to say the least.. I didn't say much but just gave him a nervous chuckle and look like wtf he said "you know what, you're pretty cool. You're not like other girls. We should date" that was the last date we ever went on and I proceeded to block him before I drove off as fast as a could! Second story! trigger warning! This was during the time I was drinking but this was my wake up call to not only avoid dating apps but to quit drinking in its entirety. So this guy & I had planned a date & to calm my nerves I decided to take 2 shots of alcohol before meeting up. When we met up I wasn't tipsy but more "chill" i got in his car & as we proceeded to the restaurant he drove passed the restaurant and I swiftly asked him where we were going as we had just passed the restaurant. he said he didn't have money to go out to eat (which I was mad about because he could've said that from the beginning and we couldn't found something else to do) he said let's hang out at the park instead and chat. I hesitantly agreed. He asked if I drank I said sometimes but I wasn't tonight. I asked if he drank he said no then he proceeded to pester me about drinking. I told him no and if he wasn't I wasn't. For some odd reason he just wouldn't stop asking me and kept insisting I drank and I kept saying no. Eventually after about the 7th or 8th time I said yes so he'd stop asking. Huge red flag! From both parties. We go to a gas station & get a Mike's hard lemonade. I made the decision in my mind that I'd let him buy it & open it but I wasn't gonna drink it. I opened it & let it sit & we kept talking. He eventually said why aren't you drinking and I said I was. & he said take a sip then. & I did mind you at the time we were in a random park far from where I was & he drove which was a terrible choice on my end & it was more than enough red flags but hey I guess My favorite color was red that night.. I guess... after taking a sip i set the drink down & "accidentally " knocked it over so he wouldn't keep asking. Within about 5 minutes I felt myself feeling so woozy and tired. I remember being so tired from it I just laid down on the bench now usually I can drink an entire pint of henny by myself and still be very coherent but that night things were different. I remember passing out so bad like I was physically asleep but my mind just wasn't asleep I felt so out of body. It felt like I was staring at the sky but I knew in my head I had passed out but I was like paralyzed about 15 minutes of me being passed out I felt a hand go down my pants and another up my shirt. I freaked out! My body jumped up so fast I started kicking and swinging trying to punch and shit! everything. I leaned up with the very little energy I had and yelled wtf are you doing?!? He replied back what? Are you not having a good time?! He was shocked I squared up. I said no! Wtf! I grabbed my shit & started trying to run away looking for my shi. I looked up and all I had was my bag & my phone was in my back pocket and I had been laying on it thank god!God!! As I'm trying to get out of there I realize I have no phone service & I'm damn near in the middle of nowhere and I didn't know how far I'd have to walk to get phone service and I have a car so I didn't have lyft or uber so I didn't even have service to download the app let alone call a ride. Before I could get far he drove up to me cutting me off pulling up right beside me he swung the door open and grabbed my arm trying to pull me in through the passenger side. I couldn't even fight at this point so I used all my body weight and fell dead to the ground damn near taking his arm off (I'm about 200 lbs) he let go and started yelling at me to get in the car and that it was a mis understanding! At this point I had no service ans I was in the middle of no where so I sat on the ground and cried for what felt like forever. I was so ashamed at myself and so mad. The whole interaction sobered me up so quick but I could not shake this sleepy feeling. He just kept yelling get in the car get in the car. So I got the biggest rock I could possibly carry in one hand and I said take me straight home don't talk to me don't stop anywhere don't say shit don't turn the radio on go straight to my house!( I knew the city well & knew exactly how to get there) he drove me straight home pulled up to my house and said get the fuck out! Pushed me out the car and sped off as fast as he could. I stumbled in the house barely able to keep my eyes open or even walk. I got in the house & sat on my bed I looked down at my hands and realized he'd stolen all my rings and all my jewelry. They were very expensive rings but most of all they were given to me by family & friends. I opened my purse and there was nothing in it everything was gone! Those are just a few stories but After that I deleted every dating app I had told him he was a fucking r@p!st & blocked him & checked myself into aa for drinking. After that I vowed on a new life. Now I'm 5 months sober and getting right by God for saving me that night & vowed on a new life from that point on. Whatever you do it better to find people organically. You're not stretching the truth Tony when you mention how many women end up in bad situations from dating apps. & thank you for your knowledge and wisdom. I listen to your words like an older brother & I find so much peace in your truth. Thank you!
Sis...you was naive and ignorant x2. Why keep riding with men you meet for the first time. Like when do women learn. Omg. A lot women be desperate to meet or be with a man they jeopardize their own life. Women and drinking before a date, explains a lot about your movement. It's not judgement, but self reflection and self correction definitely need to be exercise.
@UCAMm8TUgAACKcNV6n62epSA Yes you did. It's unfortunate so many women find themselves in the same predicament. A lot of women dont get a second or 3rd chance. I've use dating apps before. What I find is, people don't vet prospects well. Serial reckless dating want get you to the prize, but it can give you unwanted experiences.
I was on 2 sites for 2 years. Most of the ones I met misrepresented themselves as far as long-term relationships went. I was lamenting about it to a male friend who said, "men are on the sites just to smash!" I closed my accounts immediately and never looked back.
Did you see the recent study on dating apps? It is called “The Rise of Lonely, Single Men Dating apps and a drastically changing relationship landscape.”
Yes those dating apps have Narcissists on them and on Instagram too one tried to run games on me but I saw the scams in time. I recently went back on an app and still see the same men on there. Most are not that attractive. Heard in the news how a man was set up on an Instagram date and got robbed by two men when he went to her house. It happens to men too.
Thank you! Omg this is everything i needed to hear including the other warnings about online dating that you posted as well. Its like everything you mentioned on these videos, i experienced most of them. Thank God only im still here. And im finally getting off these dating sites/apps for good. Its sad but so true. I need to work on myself now and meet ppl IRL (in real life). Its been a rough road. But thank God for your warnings and your teachings.
Was off the apps, got back on after 3 years. Not much has changed. Most are rushing things or low effort. Bck to focusing on me and waiting on God. If you've already found your partner in life be blessed cause it's hard out here.
it’s NO in between
@@desi4u1 definitely no in-between!
Yes, it is definitely hard. I, too was off dating sites & dating/mating period for 7years. I went back hoping that as a 50+ year old woman, the men would have matured a little. WRONG. Even those in church have adapted to the trends of this generation. Smh.
Same here. It has been a disaster!! As usual 😭
Babbbyyyy I hope and pray couples are working hard to stay together because it’s a whole mess 🤦🏾♀️
1. Confident men are not on dating apps. In order for a man to approach a woman in person it takes confidence. Confident men are walking up to women and introducing themselves.
2. Lazy men are on dating sites; the men who want women to be served up to them. They want a buffet.
3. A man who is hiding in plain sight; he’s wearing a mask. Women can see who he is in person, but he can hide himself behind the screen.
4. Men who want to scam are going to get on apps first.
5. It sends a message to men she is desperate.
Thank you as always, TG! 🙌🏽
And cheating men are on these apps... !!!
@@JM-ip1es yup they definitely are
@@JM-ip1es yep the list could be longer 😂
Thank you for writing this!!!!
Thanks TG
I was on dating apps during my mid 20s in the pandemic out of boredom and curiosity. One man I went on a dated with ghosted me and I asked him why he ghosted me. He said "Sorry I'm just picky" Guy two started off fine and then started showing abusive tendencies and saying my religious beliefs are stupid. He also revealed he was in court case for DUI crash with meth involved. Guy 3 ended up having a harem of women and self esteem issues.
I'm in a much better mind state after deleting apps a year ago. I'm meeting quality men in real life. I've yet to meet a "normal" man on an app. A lot of them on there also have commitment issues because the app gives them delusion of their options.
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Ain’t that the truth Sis?! Smh
Or they’re fresh out of a relationship like my ex. One week after we broke up, One.Week.
Dating apps does give a delusion of options
Facts 💯
I was on dating apps for a couple of weeks & soon deleted all of them. The men all had the same thing in common, newly single/divorced, looking for a place to stay, BROKE, or looking to “hook” up. All red flags 🚩
Girl yeah. I met a guy and after 2 weeks of knowing me, he asked me if he could move in. I was like hell nahhh. He disappeared shortly after. Its true. I'm done with dating apps.
That guy who DM me late last week on Instagram claimed he was currently working in Africa but originally from Jersey City, NJ, saying they was coming back to the states soon. This is the 3rd time in weeks I met someone claiming that they were working in another country saying they were coming back home to the states soon. Come on, ain't nobody falling for that. I ended up blocking this person too as well as the others.
Jonathan Alslays podcasts are excellent. Empowerment of women!
@@sherriflemming3218 he doesn’t practice what he preaches
Yeah.. newly single and depressed over ex or bored and lonely. Most are lazy.. can’t set a date or actually ask you real questions to get to know you other than a few questions from your profile.. like favorite movie of genre or how’s your weekend. How’s your weekend is fine but then nothing else substantial. Which ones were you on? I only tried hinge and coffe meets bagel and felt vague / bad after a while
Yes! No more dating apps. If the man can’t approach me, then it’s not meant to be. ✨👌🏾 my mom got married off a dating app and the man turned out to be dangerous and a scam artist. I thank God to this day that we got through that and are still alive. Keep telling the truth Tony. We as women are better off just living our lives and walking in our purpose instead of resorting to a dating app.
I am happy to hear that you & your mom survived that🙏🏾
That is not always the case, u have 2 do ur homework and not take men at face value. U just have 2 b very careful in what u do how u do it . It’s not the same .
Amen! So realistic approach to life. We can love ourselves
@@CarolynHayes74 Thank you! :)
We approach and get called pervs or creeps for it. I gave up a long time ago. Damned if we do, damned if we don't.🤷♂️
It’s just best not to be on dating apps if not for anything, your mental health. It’s just not worth the stress.
Dating sites are hook up sites, you’re not going to find someone who’s looking for a serious long term relationship or marriage.
Dating apps are “hookup” apps. Where hurt ppl, hurt ppl.
Facts 💯
YUPPP
Crappie men get dumped and they are on the prowl
This is the playground for narcissists! I know I’ve been on them for 10+ years and I have met some pretty broken damaged men. They never appear this way, they were well dressed even spoke well. But they were devils in sheep’s clothing.
Stop using dating apps several years ago. God’s mercy saved me from every situation that could have possibly went wrong. I agree with Tony. Dating apps are not worth it, just wait!
Same here
About 90% of the men on dating apps are married and in relationships. They are looking for $ex. Dating apps are 🗑. I would rather be alone and stress free.
Exactly but if you're just looking for a hook up then dating apps are your friend smh
No lies told!
Truth
AMENN
Facts
It’s 2022 and everyone is online (you’re online reading this right now). From scammers to gentlemen. The same people you meet in public are the same people you meet online. Use discernment in getting to know someone, take your time, ask questions, do some research.
Exactly! Tony is gonna keep a lot of them single with this way of thinking. A out of the horror stories that I have read in the comment section is filled with women using poor judgement. It doesn’t matter where you meet the person, you have to have discernment with a healthy dose of common sense. The same men online are the same men at church, grocery stores etc…. But let them tell it 🤣
Absolutely
No its the WAY,you're meeting them. Most men don't need dating apps. Its women available, smart, educated women EVERYWHERE. Please don't misread the message
@@saetae9208 as a college educated, high earning man, I met my now girlfriend on Hinge. I’m also in a frat and most of the single bruhs use them as well. It’s not a need, but another resource that people should use
@@mr.brooks9802 If you don't mind me asking...why do you visit this platform seeing that you are in a stable relationship. Im really just curious, no judgement
To say that Tony hasn't been in the game for 15+ years, he sure knows his stuff, because there were no lies told. I entertained conversation with a couple of guys on a dating site, and they both casually told me that the reason they get on the app is because it is easier to be rejected online than in person (lack of confidence).. And now that I think about it, it's difficult to imagine that a confident man ready for something real would entertain being on an app.
I can't judge because I literally got on the app due to boredom and looking for conversation (I deleted it after a month). When I'm ready, the dating app would be the last place I look.
Great insight, Tony!!
Exactly 💯
Tony’s right. A lot of guys I’ve met on these apps can be socially awkward and seem to lack healthy confidence. Not making fun of them or anything, but that’s not what I want in a partner.
I know a teacher that literally just quit her job, and moved her and her 15 yr old son to another state to be with a man that she just met online in May. I tried to give her some of Tony's reasons but she had been single for over 5 years and didn't listen to anyone. I'm praying for her. God bless her. 🙏🏽
Wtw.... Oooohh weee 😵
Vulnerable & desperate
Oh nooo! I pray that her and her son will be alright. That’s so scary. The need for companionship is real and predatory men/insecure men know that.
Is she moving in with him or is she getting her own place ?
3 months?!!! You better be praying for her!!
Let’s be honest. Dating apps benefit men exponentially. It opens the door for them to access women they’d never approach in real life. It’s easy and fun for most of them who aren’t seeking anything more than a good time. I’ve dabbled on dating apps and luckily had good dates. However, I can attest that the these guys were NEVER who they presented themselves to be.
Yup! My experience too!
So True
Yes so true! They are never who they portray to be it’s terrible.
True, one guy i met from an app said to me he probably wouldn't have approached me
True most are insecure from conversations.
I’m happily married, met my husband on an app 6 years ago but can’t lie I had some bizarre experiences from apps before meeting him. I watch all your videos, even the ones that don’t specifically pertain to me because I’ve found wisdom in them all and it helps especially when I have so many friends and even my sister that are good women looking for suitable mates with no success. I myself can’t speak to what the dating scene is like as of now but the shenanigans I hear from them are crazy. They all have some pretty disastrous dating experiences on and off the apps. It’s scary, use discernment in all circumstances.
I met my husband on a dating app 9 years ago. We two are happily married. Before meeting my husband I went through it on the apps and off the apps. Tony is speaking though. As a business women I treated dating like a new client. It sounds harsh but it works. If the portfolio was thin you could not date me. My husband checked all boxes, single, no kids , was at his job for 10 years which meant he was stable. Yes, he is fine, fit and financially secured. We as women have to be smart, patient and very observant when dating.
I met a wonderful guy. He was busy and was single for a while. The men can introduce themselves on the site. I wasn’t served up. I don’t agree with this one. But I think he’s still good at what he does. Congratulations by the way
@@TeeTeeTerry2024 Which site did you use?
I met my husband on a dating app & I thank God for him everyday. He traveled a lot for work so he typically only met women at business events he attended. I agree with what Tony’s saying but there is always exceptions.
I met my husband 8 years ago on a dating site. I believe that there were a lot of facts stated in this video. However the dating seen can be messy on and off the apps. We must use common sense, our divine intuition, intelligence, and patience. 💕
Tony, this resonate. I met 3 guys on the dating apps. They were bums. They wasn't looking for love, they were looking for help. And they all had mental issues. You know what you're talking 💯
You ladies aren't looking for love I'm a guy who has my shit together and looking for love you just waste time and blame guys those guys aren't bums just nit Chad that you're going after
Watched a criminal psychologist who spoke on this matter. She said that the serial criminals (scammer, rapists) and killers she has interviewed and worked with say they love the internet and these dating apps are a blessing. Both have made 'hunting' so much easier and accessible. Scary!!!
This is profound. Confirming this message!!!
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what show was this?
Wow
@@melliegotsoul it was a short on you tube. I wish I could post it. Saved it in my videos
Every guy ive dated online turned out to be lazy or an addict of some kind
A lot them sit and smoke weed as a hobby. Unproductive and embarrassing
I 1000% agree! “Raccoons find steak in the garbage”…I tell my GFs all the time being on apps is like searching for a formal dress at the Ross clearance rack.
Exactly 💯 I would never go on a dating app. That is desperate, crazy and risky.
Wait...Ross clearance rack. Now that is cheaper than cheap.🤣🤣🤣
@@patricemurray6412 😂😂😂 now why she do Ross like that
@@Sandrinarhonda ikr 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I sideline feel bad for ross.
But Ross had good clothes
Tony, may God bless everything you touch and enlarge your territory. As a woman raised in a single parent home you have no idea how much your male voice has been a blessing to me. I’ve shared you with so many of my sistas.
Regarding online dating you are speaking THE TRUTH! Not ONE LIE came out of your mouth. Online dating is indeed Satan reincarnated. Young queens are being destroyed by the enemy on this platform. I’ve been on it multiple times, and interestingly enough I’ve only gone on when I was in a dark place. I’m never on it when I’m happy and content. Oddly enough, that same emotion could lead someone to settling for crumbs when they deserve a whole steak. Don’t go online dating. If you’re hurting, get a therapist. Serve God. Get healthy and exercise. Travel. Make friends and hang out with them. Work out. Help non profits. Dont go online!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Satan reincarnated indeed 💯
I totally agree with you! I understand that we are in the age of technology, but I always thought online dating was weird! I shouldn’t have to go online to get a man.
Yes Tony! Those dating apps are the worst. I've met some strange people years ago on those apps. Mist of them are real loosers.. God told me to not meet people there so I stopped. Glad I did after listening to your introduction. You are on point!
This video was insightful. I actually met my now husband on a dating app in 2016, and fortunately we knew each other from 15 years prior from the military/high school. I was on an app for three weeks, and avoided the foolishness and some of the things you’re discussing. I was just blessed to get in and get out of the online dating game, we are still married, both doing very well, and have a little princess who’s 4 now!!!! Thank you for a great video though, and I’m on the video because I’m a follower of yours and you present great dialogue.
👏🏾 inspired by your story! A lot of women are dealing with a heart to people please and low self esteem so it’s hard to scope out a good match when you’re being so open minded it really bites many of us in the end. (Speaking on my past choices with dating) :) glad to hear a success story!!
Glad it worked for you. Not saying I didn't meet a few nice men on the apps but they were looking for a good time .
This is different. You knew him from your past.
That’s beautiful story
I met my husband on a dating app as well. He traveled a lot for work and didn’t want to continue to date women in his I dusted
I have everything I want in my life except a partner and because of this I have definitely fell into the trap of online dating especially when you meet so many people who found partners online, but Tony didn’t lie. I have never had success online. Bunch of crabs in a barrel looking for convenience. All I can control is being the best person I can be in the REAL world.♥️💋
Definitely needed this today. Sometimes I’ll revert back to my desperate mind and get the urge to redownload them. I remember how stressed I was back when I used them yet the the thoughts pop back in my head every now and then. So many grown boys on there, very low effort conversations, ghosting, and dudes just looking to get you on Snapchat.
lol, the “ what’s your SC” and “ what’s your IG” as an intro to conversation always threw me off
Update: I tried dating apps again recently. What I’m finding out is I only go on there when I think I need to “help” out God 😅. Met a guy who ended up letting me know he had an daily addiction to “nasty” movies, and also had some other serious issues. Thankfully we only were talking for about two weeks 😅. Yes people can hide who they are in person as well, but when I met this guy in person (during the day in public) his energy was way off, something wasn’t right. I kept feeling uneasy about him and getting warnings in my spirit. We can’t go off rare exceptions to the rule. I’m going to keep coming back to this video when I need a reminder 😂. Thanks Tony!
Tony! Knew a woman who in her sixties got tired of waiting for someone and went on a dating app. She met a man twenty years younger than her from Nigeria who suckered her out of $50.00 Thousands. Smh, once he got her money she needed hear from him again. The FBI told her that she was not the only one and they would not be able to get her money back. Ladies listen to Tony! He is on point about this
Also there are lot of married/taken men on these apps looking for a side piece. Don’t use these apps!! 💯😩🤦♀️
And they’re smart about it too… they’ll look you up on social media before you get a chance to, and block you so you can’t see his profile exposing his whole family
@@j-tenn226 whoaaaaa! Didn’t even think of that
@@kimberlys347 the last guy who I met up with on bumble had a pregnant girlfriend. Something didn’t seem right. I looked him up on fb by first name. Nothing. I used my burner account and looked him up. He immediately popped up because he was in my area. He blocked me on my primary account, so he was strategic, but I still found out
@@j-tenn226 wow!!! I’m speechless
@@j-tenn226 you know what, you’er not lying 💯💯… I think a guy did this to me once. I always wonder if people that, and you confirm it. Lol
This was ON POINT Tony! Anyone who recommends this to me gets the side eye...it's like digging in the trash can, ladies know your value and what's yours will find you and you will know it in real life! Take care of you and be happy while living your life.. that is all.
Yup! Perfectly said. Digging in the trash can, hoping to find an actual meal. All you get are scraps! But if you hungry enough scraps will do right? Nope not for me
i met my ex on a dating app. he’s 29 and i’m 21.. that should have been the first red flag. things started to move really fast and I can honestly say the red flags were showing after a few days of talking to him. In the beginning he was going out of his way to make me feel special but about a month and a half in I was lying next to him and I heard him match with someone on the dating app. I was pissed because I didn’t think he was still on there and he came from apologizing to getting really angry because I wanted to leave. He grabbed me by the hair, threw me on the couch, got on top of me and starting yelling in my face saying I was a stupid bitch for thinking he was cheating and trying to leave. Unfortunately I was desperate and stayed for some time but I finally been free from him for about 6 weeks now. I couldn’t take the emotional abuse anymore. He wasn’t respecting me or my boundaries at all. He was in the military also. For that I will NEVER touch another dating app!
Wow! Glad you got out of that and lesson well learned 🙏🏽💜
@@jasminealexia thank you! there’s definitely been times where i thought about going back but i keep having to remind myself of all the reasons i left.
Glad you got out, I think the bigger issue here is that the signs were there and you brushed them under the rug so to speak. Online or offline discernment and wisdom are needed when dating trust yourself more and know you deserve the very best
@@ariah457 very true! i realized i didn’t love myself enough at the time and wasn’t fully healed from my last relationship. watching tony gaskins and rc blakes jr. has definitely been teaching me a lot! thank you❤️
@@shiagloshow Don’t ever go back mama! As women we waste too much of our precious time trying to make it work with the wrong joker. I’m 31 and time flies. As women get older, the dating pool gets smaller. Choose self love, dress up, and stay free for the right man to find you; you got this! 💯
It was the: “If you been on a dating app, and you don met yo husband and you married from a dating app…Why is you on this video?”😑 at the end for me!!!
I hollered so loud.😂😂😂😂😂😂
Thank you, Tony.
Ain't nothing but raggedy men on those sites
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facts
You said it. 💔
Yes... majority of men are "well below average-looking"
Lol more like raggedy woman
Tony is only one I’ve heard point out the fact that confident men aren’t on dating apps. It’s in a man’s nature to hunt and find a mate so if he’s on the app there’s some funny business going on or he’s very insecure/predatory.
THIS. 💯
Shoood insecure and shy men figure out how to talk to a woman.
Dating app story, met this guy from a dating app, went to his house after meeting twice, I didn’t want to sleep with him, he grabbed my wrist and I hanked my wrist back and said I want to go home, I don’t drink and he had a few drinks after him tryna show me around his “condo” I ran back downstairs and out that condo so fast to my car scared, off the dating apps for life and never turned back, that man could have killed me this was in 2017 and no one would have known, young and dumb was I is all I can say but thank you brother Tony for saving us women out here, God bless you and your family. Ladies think about your kids and the people who love you, it ain’t worth it!
It’s not the dating apps fault, why would you go to man’s house after meeting twice 🤦🏽♀️
Omg!!! He could have strong armed you!
Why did you go to a man's house on the second date? Why??? Then you blame him🙄🙄
@@munix9351 exactly!
Never go to a man's house...he needs to do the work...make effort...going to his house is like serving yourself on a platter. Don't do it again pls.
Dating apps have never worked for me and it’s just a bunch of guys on there playing games and wearing a mask pretending to be somebody they not just to manipulate you and get what they want which is a good time😭
Since I subscribed to you, no online dating! No extra for 2 years! Love my single life❤️ I’m just trying to smile through my mask at the grocery store and the gym 🤣🎉
Guilty of being on the dating apps for longer than I’d like to admit just out of laziness. My ex boyfriend was a good guy but he was on there certainly because he was hiding that he was still staying in his parents basement despite making good money & just buying cars. The final straw that made me pull the plug was this white guy I dated for 2 months. Ended up having such great chemistry in our conversation but he admitted he didn’t have a strong relationship with God and just was content making his own decisions. By date 8 his mask slipped & despite his consistent asking me out on dates, he had no interest in asking me to be his girlfriend. Sociopathic tendencies started to surface among him trying to be a womanizer so I dipped and deleted all the apps finally! I know God doesn’t need my help in sending me the right guy when it’s time!
What sociopathic tendencies?
I’m about to delete this App I just got on last month. Geesh…so much to navigate but I’m gonna trust God.
As soon as I got off them literally men started approaching me every single time I popped out the house.
When I was on them that barely happened.
I think it's a energy thing.
Also I'm more confident than I was months ago so I'm sure that has a lot to do with it. Confident people attract other confident people.
HE'S RIGHT! GET OFF THEM APPS!!
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What's your secret? Haha men avoid me
@@ashleykathryn9038 lol inner work (spirtitually), walking confidently, having good eye contact, having a well put appearance.
@@theehardpill Thank you, I'll work on that! I got told by a few people I look 16, I'm 24. I'm guessing that's playing a part 🤦♀️
@@ashleykathryn9038 no problem at all. I'd say highlight your natural curves if you have any.
Make them eyes pop with a bomb mascara and gloss. Wearing bright clothing works as well.
I'm very shapely, 5'10, with a fro so most times I'd say I naturally stick out. It's not everyday you see women with my paticular look where I'm from so I get noticed A LOT and I always get compliments from men and women of all races and ethnicities. You don't have to be a girly girl either. My look is girly tomboy. Always comfortable but a Lil sexy.
Every time I contemplate getting back on dating apps I get a sign not to do it 😆
Same, I literally was about to out of boredom then this popped up
Same! Got back on a dating app for just 3 days and then realized why I haven't used them in years and deleted it right away. I'd rather be single then deal with the nightmare of dating apps.
I've used dating apps on and off for years and Tony Is absolutely right! A lot guys want to move fast, acting in a rush to meet but not really trying to get to know you or the bums looking for help, which are both major red flags. I use to not see anything wrong with online dating but after listening to Tony videos, it made me change my perspective. Not to mention, there are a lot of down low/ gay men online. Dating is very different now and you must take the time to vet and get to know people no matter how long it takes don't rush it. I do not reccomend online dating. But again, Tony appreciate your insight you have helped me, God bless!!
I was single for 5-6 years. Decided to go on a dating app just to see if I would meet anyone nice. Met a man who I thought was the one. As time passed & we got to know each other, something felt off about him. But I didn’t listen to my intuition cause I wanted to believe so badly that he was a good person. Ended up in a relationship with a covert narcissist. Thankfully I got out in time. I learned my lesson!😥
I could have written this exactly.....
So glad you got out of that situation.
Omg girl story of myn Life,glad i am out and you to😂😊
I love that Bro Tony what you said Love is made in the oven, and the Dating apps is microwavable. ❤️🙏🏾
It’s so funny…I was thinking about downloading a dating app (kinda tired of being single) but then this video pops up on my feed😬I’m taking this as a sign from God… 😭
Tony, you are absolutely right. Low effort men, are on dating sites, and men who use dating apps to be something they are truly not 💯 I stopped using apps. The statistics show what the true story is.
This was exactly my story. Jobless when I met him, blamed the pandemic. 40 yrs old with two roommates, drug addiction, porn problem, video gamer, but claimed on his profile he wanted a “Christ centered” relationship. 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
I recently dated someone off of bumble for 2 months , and after them two months red flags 🚩 started popping off everywhere 😂 all I can hear is Tony voice in my head … he didn’t have a car , he started not wanting to take me on dates anymore because he wanna save money for his car , we go from talking everyday to barely talking… 🤦🏽♀️ he said he was a man of God and he knew the word but still wanted to follow his will. I won’t be getting back on a dating app after watching this video! Thanks Tony 💕
Met my husband on Bumble May 2021 married May 2022!! The most incredible man I have ever met! As with anything you have to be discerning!
Good luck with your marriage!
@@anonymousbitch1722 thank you! One year down, forever to go 💓
I had a friend who met her husband on a dating app. According to her, he was great the first few years. He proposed and a few months before they got married, he started shutting her out. I asked her if she wanted to wait, stop the wedding planning, and just go to counseling. They started counseling. She told me that she had spent much money to stop the wedding. 🤦🏾♀️
They got married. She found out she had contracted an STD from him. She stayed. A month after marriage, he started shutting her out again. The marriage lasted from August 2019 until December 2021. She told me that she was done with with his treatment and was leaving him. She told me that they were going to talk that evening. The next day after our conversation she ended up dieing a mysterious death. She was a very healthy and fit woman. I will always believe he did something to her.
Oh that's so sad. I didn't expect the ending. Sorry for your loss. What about the autopsy results. Her family should look into it.
@@bellaapple2166 They did. It came back inconclusive. He had her cremated.
@@justliss1827 My goodness that's just so sad. Condolences to you and her family.
@@bellaapple2166 Thank you so much!🙏🏾
Mercy 😞
Chile my discernment made me get off, that is definitely 🎶 WHERE THE NARCS RESIDE WHERE THE NARCS RESIDE...🤺🏃♀️
These are valid points, nevertheless, I tell ppl to use discernment not feelings no matter how you meet someone! Ppl are always going to bring their best representation; it's up to you to use wisdom and prayer to sift through the nonsense. The main thing is if and when you see red flags, leave! Women have this issue so bad because we tolerate and stay far too long!
SO TRUE
Definitely the best comment people pretend online and offline discernment and wisdom are needed when dating.
Very true!
Why do we do that? 🤔
Tony you are absolutely correct!! I’ve been on a few dating sites; but because I’ve been taught how to date, I’ve had some great experiences. I think if women are wise and in tune with their discernment, anything is positively possible. On one popular site I had over 100 men to sort through within day 3, I had to keep a log of who what when and where, lol but it was a lot of fun though. I’m no longer on dating sites because it became boring with all the redundant conversations. I would like to encounter a gentleman who can tell me something I don’t already know.
I agree Sis. I've been very detailed also and don't allow men to take my time for granted. It's is fun weeding out the low vibration males😊
So if you didn't have any results then it wasn't a great experience then?? Isn't the aim to get into a relationship??
@@munix9351 Thats what I thought. Who wants to be a professional dater?
First of all thank you Tony for talking about a much needed topic. Unfortunately, I have experienced more than one story on the dating app. I have experienced scammers 101, as I call it. There are way too many experiences to describe. But, here's what I can say. There is truth to everything that you shared Tony. 1.)Those men that move quickly, and start with the love bombing, wanting to spend time, talking, texting, video chatting in an excessive manner. 2.)Those who obviously, looking to "get you on your back" as you say Tony. Then quickly disappear , if you're not up for that. 3.) Those who lead double lives, show you the representative of who they are, while having wives, or situationships at home , that you later find out about. 4.) Emotionally immature or unavailable. 5.) Or people that know that you are out of there league and would not be attracted to them. Then get upset, if you respectfully decline. This was my experience in a shorter version. It doesn't matter if it was a Christian dating app. My results were same but different circumstances. As, a mature woman my children encouraged me to start dating using the apps starting last year. I have met some nice guys but, as a whole. I would say it's a No! For me!! There's waaaaaay more that I could tell you. About Crazy dating Apps. com!!
Thank you, Tony! I joined dating apps because that is what I have been told is the only way to meet men in 2022! I encountered zero quality men. It was very creepy. I appreciate your Godly wisdom.
same the men on there did nothing for me
Don't feed into it. Like Tony said confident men are still approaching women by being out & about socializing
I got 2 innocent lives depending on me ain't got time to be caught up in no mess
Men who are in sober houses in recovery also get on the dating apps and pretend there's someone they're not. You are so right. Totally.
And men in jail also use the apps too
@@amab1853 how do people in jail have access to phones? I’m confused
@@j-tenn226 lol sometimes they sneak phones in, I'm guessing. The tv show love during lock up shows people in those situations dating. And most of the ladies on there say they met the guy through dating apps lol
@KJ how
@KJ do they get fired?
Thanks for sharing this Tony. As a Millennial at 33, I have never used them and have no desire to use. I have had friends and peers shame for not using them. Something in my spirit never felt right about them.
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 Yes indeed Tony... I am not on a single app! Staying true, blessed and single until I meet my match and the man God has for me.
I have tried to meet men IRL , but they all turn out to be weird, married or just as bad as men on dating apps. Its hard online dating or in real life. It sucks both ways big time. Love your video ❤❤❤
I’m hearing comments on why not to get on a dating app. But I’m not seeing any solutions on how to meet men organically. I don’t have to much of a social life. I mostly go to regular everyday places like the gym, church, grocery store, gas station or what not. I met a guy at my gym and he was total garbage 🗑. Now I am not saying what Tony said isn’t true! But if you want to preach about staying off dating apps, but you want to meet someone and you don’t go to social events. Then please provide an healthier alternative 🤷🏾♀️
You really should consider going to social gatherings or events you hear about. Look into festivals and networking events too. Also try new hobbies and join groups that have those same interests. Go to restaurants around lunch, happy hr and/or early dinner and try to go solo. Men will approach you more when you are alone. Do as much as you can outside of your home so you are available to be approached. Look friendly and happy. Good luck🙂
@@imo.124 Great advice, thank you hun. You are right men do tend to approach you more when you are solo.
I would but I don’t know how to find out about these events 😕. If I knew about them I would go. I guess what I am trying to say is I understand that by meeting a guy in person he has confidence to come up to me knowing he could get rejected 🙅🏾♀️. But men I have met online as well as in person we’re still playing the same games 😤. I have been going to counseling for awhile now and doing the work on myself to make sure that I don’t fall into the same traps I had went along with years ago. So when I see the foolery I end it. But just meeting men out and about isn’t something that happens often for me anymore. Any suggestions on how to find these events?
@@marlaohara6236 I mean you making it harder than what it seems. I use to be the exact same way as you honestly then I just slowly started coming out of my shell. I pray one day you’ll see what I mean. You can also look on facebook for social events or festivals nearby your area, just use your discernment.
@@marlaohara6236 others can’t really give more specific suggestions for your situation and location, you have to do some research yourself. There are other videos that cover this, but first you want to decide if you’re actually interested in a relationship? Sometimes we just don’t want to be alone, but not trying to put in the effort needed… next you def would have to make sure your “look” is saying what you want it to say, Tony’s done videos on this too. If you have confidence issues or deal with awkwardness/social anxiety, there are ways to manage it. Always start with prayer, ask God to lead and protect you and talk with your counselor or trusted friends about how you may show up in public to strangers. I reeeeally don’t recommend meeting men at the gym or the club, like that steak in the garbage analogy 😒
I’m not in a dating season but I will say I’ve met quality men by joining organizations, like a local community group, Rotary club, hiking group etc. There are Facebook pages for events in your area but again you have to look and show up with the right appearance and energy. You might even have a book club, farmers market or singles group at your church. If you have local friends, maybe go with them to an elevated event like lounge or jazz show etc. even our prior condo association had mixers and lots of singles turned out.
What you said about recognizing red flags is key so def keep your eyes open and go SUPER slow. Tony’s point about men’s confidence is secondary IMO to the knowledge that women are literally being hunted like prey and losing their LIVES on these apps. That’s the real concern. Good luck!!!
“Raccoons find steak in the garbage” 😂 that’s golden
This is it! 😂😂😂
Tony is a comedian without even realizing it 😂
@@tarahbruno3793 for real 😂
This is hands down one of Mr. Gaskins’ ABSOLUTELY BEST messages. Here is a man doing his best to not only help but save women.
Hi Tony, I met a dating scammer in real life. It started when he walked up to me at a shop and we had a conversation, exchanged numbers. He wanted us to meet as soon as possible, but due to my busy schedule I asked that we meet 5 days later. In the mean time, he would video call and we would talk an hour everyday. From the conversations we had, 1 thing stuck out to me that the man seemed to be purposeless - as he would not really have firm plans grounded in work. When I finally met him, in public, I asked him what he does - he wasn’t very open, but I kept probing until he confessed that he was an online dating scammer. After that encounter in real-life - I definitely don’t want to look for more of his kind on a dating app.
Interesting that he admitted that. He probably rarely approached women in the real world because of this.
THIS MAY SOUND CRAZY. BUT, WHAT IS A DATING SCAMMER?
@@SELFCAREMODEL someone who uses the person/people they’re dating for living expenses, a place to live, large amounts of money and they specifically target people who display a lack of confidence. They will often use manipulation tactics so the person doesn’t realize they’re being scammed.
What dating app? My sister is on Eharmony. She likes it alot. She has gone out on several dates with Executives, Engineers, and 1 guy who is an artist. No issues so far. She is 49 years old, and these are older men in her age range.
@@queenofsheba7145 she's around the age Tony recommends dating online....
Yes Sir Tony this is good info. Online dating is scary and ain't for me. Prefer to meet a male in person so I can read his body language and feel out his energy.
I talked to someone on pof who said he was in prison in Missouri 😳😳😳 I never blocked someone soo fast
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I don’t know how many times Tony gotta say “Stay off that line!”
That always ring in my head.
I thankfully found my mate on a dating app. However, most men I met on apps were seeking nothing more than sex, & often were liars & creeps... Be careful out here folks!
I was dating apps after my divorce and it was a nightmare, even Christian Mingle. I was on E-Harmony, Plenty of Fish, Tinder, even Facebook dating, and Bumble. All are the same, even the ones you have to pay to be on it. The men were either looking for just a hook-up or someone to help him financially. You might meet one or two decent ones out of a truckload of messed up ones. I just off all of completely about 4 years ago. I bump into guys at the laundromat, grocery store, or at car shows that are better prospects than those dating apps.
Finally found someone letting us know where to actually meet quality men. We heard why not to be on dating apps and I can agree with most of what he said but no one was speaking where to meet quality men at. I’ve been on dating apps and I’ve had a mixed experience with it. I’ve also known friend who are in healthy relationships by meeting their spouses online, some even married.
Danggg even Christian mingle is trash smh
I soooooooo needed this. The apps are like shopping on a clearance rack. Nothing but trash, sorry to be so blunt and I was on there myself, so I was lowering my price so to speak bc I was kinda desperate at one time. But I’m good now, I’ll wait the old fashioned way & trust God instead of some stupid algorithms
"Love is made in the oven, the dating app is a microwave." This is true.
This was the confirmation I needed. God is truly using you!
Exactly 💯 it came right on time.
I had a terrible experience Ladies he is telling the truth. Them datings apps for liers & manipulative men. Don't do it I had to call the police make a report & have my brother get involved & call him because he was stalking me because I wouldn't allow disrespect. Ty Tony for doing God's work. Your heaven sent
I got on a dating app for the first time in 2018. I stayed for 2 weeks only. I went on dates with 3 different men. Only one of the men was of substance but he had yellow teeth so I couldn’t put up with it. The other two men tried to have sex with me ASAP. One of them I had to run out because he didn’t understand or refused to understand I wasn’t going to have sex with him. I have never been back on the app since.
A really good friend of mine found her guy that she was with for 3 years on a dating app. They were about to get engaged and then he dropped a bomb. He said he wanted to sleep around before they get engaged so that he can get it out of his system. She said no and they broke up. He got engaged less than six months later and turns out he had been dating that girl while dating my friend. YOU CANNOT MAKE THIS UP 😰
Oh my god, that’s crazy!! I’m so sorry to hear this but your friend definitely dodged a bullet!!
Wow
@@kdowling9485 it was the most shocking thing I had ever heard. I said wow, who needs love? People can be so cruel
Sheesh folks are wicked !
I just deleted my one and only dating app yesterday and today this video popped up in my feed. I’ll take that as a sign that I did the right thing and I’m not missing out on anybody. I even posted a comment on Facebook that I wish I could start some sort of movement to convince women to delete their dating app profiles.
Everyone wants to think that they are, or will be, the exception to the rule. The truth is you probably aren't nor will you be.
I will never sign up for another dating app ever. It’s a cease pool of psychos and dusties.
Truth!
Love this! There are many women coaches out here advising women to get on dating apps especially with the pandemic, so glad you give a different perspective!! God bless you and your family!
Right! I unfollowed all female dating coaches. I found they were keeping me insecure and “performing” to get men smh.
@@lesha6967 you know what!! I thought it was just me 🤔. I sat back, analyzed it, and came to the same conclusion.
I guess because Tony gives a males perspective so the women coaches see online dating from a women's point of view. If that makes sense..
@@ieshjust16 yes, the women coaches are encouraging it to increase your “options” and Tony’s perspective is your options increase but now your quality is compromised…
I was on a dating app over 5 years ago. Tony is absolutely right!
A family member just recently showed me a picture on someone I met on the dating app.
He is still out there! Mind you this man was a US Marshall, and very handsome. I met another one that was a pilot for the Air Force.
So don't be fooled by their line of work.🥴
Same dudes from 5 years ago??
@@j-tenn226
Yep! And get this, I forgot to mention that I met both men in person first, ( was approached by both) and they were also on the website.
No disrespect to Tony's conclusion. I totally agree with him. It is just impossible to vet men these days.
@@j-tenn226 That is because he is a scammer. He knows a lot of women are lonely and desperate and he will take advantage of her. He uses his good looks and line of work to get her. Don't do it ladies be wise!
@@rosettajones1161
Exactly! Spot on!🎯
Men on dating apps are crazy, my friends talked me into doing it went on a “date” and never will do it again. Safety is important and we to beautiful to seen by everybody ladies !
I can appreciate the therapeutic transparency of the comment section. This is an anointed lesson, confirmation, and blessing. A part of healing is the ability to say, “I’ve been there!”
We here! I got off them in 2020 and haven't looked back. Last experience made me realize real secure men aren't on them!!!!!
These dating app videos are my favorite of Tony Gaskins. He has a few and I earn different bits of knowledge every time. God can sense my spiritual warfare because I’ve been wanting to redownload an app out of boredom
Side note: It is hilarious whenever Tony the uses the word desperate . I holler the way he says it. Ladies, don’t go shopping for a man.
I just had a scary experience on the app and thankfully God protected me. The guy came off as the food Christian man lol…started love bombing but something was too good to be true. I looked him up and first thing I found was he was lying on his age. So when he texted me I nicely asked him was his age accurate…I found his true age. He immediately got defensive and mad at me for looking him up…then he sent a cryptic message saying I prefer dating older women and now I’ll vanish. It was so weird and unsettling. That was my last time trying dating apps. The men want access and options…I deactivated my account and got back to my blessed life. God has been good to me…and I’ll wait on Him. If I don’t get married I’ll be okay too Jesus was single lol ppl are crazy stay safe lady and gents. Thank you Tony for sharing wisdom it’s much appreciated.
I must agree with this video, I tried a few dating sites for a while off and on, I was meeting so many married men 🤦🏾♀️ not my thing! By the way, also meeting men on there, a lot weren’t even ready to date seriously and eventually want to be in a relationship, it’s like the dating app was use to just hook up 🤦🏾♀️ I have since then deleted my profile, and enjoying being single and taking myself out on dates, until the man God has for me I’d sent to me and I can feel it in my spirit he’s good for my soul, Thank you Mr. Gaskins for this video, it made me not even want to be tempted to get back on a dating site.
I’m sending this to all my female friends !!
Hope they listen.....its desperation out here.....none of mine will 😬
They won't listen, I gave up 😂
@@freespirit8635 especially the ones that's older and know everything...
ZERO accountability
I really hope everyone listens to the ENTIRE video. I can see where someone may hear something and not fully grasp what you are saying. This is vital info.
I haven’t done the dating app thing much but after one instance I said never again. This man became very clingy and a little obsessed before even meeting up. It was scary to say the least.
My abusive ex was and probably still is on those apps. We met in real life, but we once broke up for a while. About a year or 2, and he was on them during that time. We reconnected and got back together and he nearly unalived idk how many times. I should’ve stayed away and left him on those apps. And what’s funnier is that he’s a cop.👮🏿♂️ So you can NOT even trust to date law enforcement officers on those apps. I thought I was safe and could trust him but he used the law to have power over me and silence me. So please, stay away from dating apps and I hate to say it, be careful with dating cops too! I’ve dated 3 cops and they were all awful... Don’t comment that your dad or granddad is a cop and are/were the sweetest men trying to invalidate my experiences. Don’t care.
Where are you going to meet 3 cops to date? I want one
Confirmation of another one of Tony’s videos.
Big facts
Cops are a trip
Grandpa 👮♀️… you’re funny. 3 times?? Must be the uniform 😅
the apps made me feel so bad about myself...i hated how small I felt on them.i just cant do apps and I got slim pickings no one picked my ass lol
I got off dating apps last year. I was on there three times.I got on for a week… met some prospects, then got off. Several months later, did the same thing. I met 4 guys. 2 of the 4 I am still and contact with was in a relationship with both of them. The third time on the app was the cause that I walked away, one guy spiked my drink, another guy tried to rape me, the stalked me, and the other guy was married. That was enough for me. I met good guys, however, the bad guys actions strongly out weighted the good.
Tony, you changed my whole perspective on this. You are absolutely right…
Everything TG said was on point. Met a guy online who wanted to link up within 24 hours of matching. I felt something was off after I left the restaurant and decided to Google him (he said he was a doctor but what he didn’t know was that I’m in the field). His mugshot IMMEDIATELY popped up along with his real name and that he was a online dating scammer that had recently got out of jail in another state. That was it for me😩…..
How did you google him without a real name?
Why on earth would a DOCTOR be on a dating app? 🤣🤣🤣
@@WilliamsLovesToLearn his profile on the app was a picture of him wearing a doctor’s coat. That was also the name he used online. When I googled the name on his coat, it was a pic of the doctor he was pretending to be (real doctor was Caucasian), AND an article showing the mugshot of the guy I had just met pretending to be him and to be aware as he’s scammed other women online.
@@laurenxo6503there’s a lot of them online as I’m one myself 🤷🏽♀️. He was definitely a fake one🤣
Even all the way down here in “safe” New Zealand, a British woman who met a guy here on a dating app flew over and was brutally murdered 😭🙏🏾 it’s not safe even in the countries perceived as safer than the US
I have a couple dating app horror stories but having terrible experiences, watching a few videos like yours and others, listening to the people that loved me and even going to church they always say get off dating apps but I couldn't figure out why even with horror stories I still couldn't now I see it. But here are a couple of the horror stories I had one is light hearted the other is very heavy.
One time I met this guy on a dating site called BLK its mainly geared for black people and at most I'd use it to meet other black people as I live in a predominantly white .. state... well I saw this guy, just fine and all. he gave me Tupac vibes so I super liked him and surprise! He super liked me. We met in person & on our first date we went to a book store one of my fave places but in the date he only wanted to get something for him, now I wasn't expecting him to buy me anything but he didn't even want to look around. When I got in his car, despite having a house it looked like he lived out his car. There was clothes and shoes food and all types of shit. We pretty much had a date sitting in his car. He mentioned how clean my car was and upon the next time meeting his car was clean. However that meet up we were supposed to go on a date. I recommended a couple places to eat and he agreed. When I pulled up to meet him at the restaurant he informed me that before he met up with me he already ate because 1 he couldn't afford to eat and 2 going on dates with someone with such a picky eating lifestyle was kinda embarrassing?? (I'm a vegetarian 😑😑) I decided if he wasn't gonna eat then I wasn't gonna eat so again we proceeded to have a date in his car. As we were talking he whipped out his phone and started going through his snapchats and he landed on a girl with an onlyfans and she was doing onlyfans things ... if you know what I mean. Not only could I see him watching it he didn't even care and proceeded to show me a girl getting frisky to say the least.. I didn't say much but just gave him a nervous chuckle and look like wtf he said "you know what, you're pretty cool. You're not like other girls. We should date" that was the last date we ever went on and I proceeded to block him before I drove off as fast as a could!
Second story! trigger warning!
This was during the time I was drinking but this was my wake up call to not only avoid dating apps but to quit drinking in its entirety. So this guy & I had planned a date & to calm my nerves I decided to take 2 shots of alcohol before meeting up. When we met up I wasn't tipsy but more "chill" i got in his car & as we proceeded to the restaurant he drove passed the restaurant and I swiftly asked him where we were going as we had just passed the restaurant. he said he didn't have money to go out to eat (which I was mad about because he could've said that from the beginning and we couldn't found something else to do) he said let's hang out at the park instead and chat. I hesitantly agreed. He asked if I drank I said sometimes but I wasn't tonight. I asked if he drank he said no then he proceeded to pester me about drinking. I told him no and if he wasn't I wasn't. For some odd reason he just wouldn't stop asking me and kept insisting I drank and I kept saying no. Eventually after about the 7th or 8th time I said yes so he'd stop asking. Huge red flag! From both parties. We go to a gas station & get a Mike's hard lemonade. I made the decision in my mind that I'd let him buy it & open it but I wasn't gonna drink it. I opened it & let it sit & we kept talking. He eventually said why aren't you drinking and I said I was. & he said take a sip then. & I did mind you at the time we were in a random park far from where I was & he drove which was a terrible choice on my end & it was more than enough red flags but hey I guess My favorite color was red that night.. I guess... after taking a sip i set the drink down & "accidentally " knocked it over so he wouldn't keep asking. Within about 5 minutes I felt myself feeling so woozy and tired. I remember being so tired from it I just laid down on the bench now usually I can drink an entire pint of henny by myself and still be very coherent but that night things were different. I remember passing out so bad like I was physically asleep but my mind just wasn't asleep I felt so out of body. It felt like I was staring at the sky but I knew in my head I had passed out but I was like paralyzed about 15 minutes of me being passed out I felt a hand go down my pants and another up my shirt. I freaked out! My body jumped up so fast I started kicking and swinging trying to punch and shit! everything. I leaned up with the very little energy I had and yelled wtf are you doing?!? He replied back what? Are you not having a good time?! He was shocked I squared up. I said no! Wtf! I grabbed my shit & started trying to run away looking for my shi. I looked up and all I had was my bag & my phone was in my back pocket and I had been laying on it thank god!God!! As I'm trying to get out of there I realize I have no phone service & I'm damn near in the middle of nowhere and I didn't know how far I'd have to walk to get phone service and I have a car so I didn't have lyft or uber so I didn't even have service to download the app let alone call a ride. Before I could get far he drove up to me cutting me off pulling up right beside me he swung the door open and grabbed my arm trying to pull me in through the passenger side. I couldn't even fight at this point so I used all my body weight and fell dead to the ground damn near taking his arm off (I'm about 200 lbs) he let go and started yelling at me to get in the car and that it was a mis understanding! At this point I had no service ans I was in the middle of no where so I sat on the ground and cried for what felt like forever. I was so ashamed at myself and so mad. The whole interaction sobered me up so quick but I could not shake this sleepy feeling. He just kept yelling get in the car get in the car. So I got the biggest rock I could possibly carry in one hand and I said take me straight home don't talk to me don't stop anywhere don't say shit don't turn the radio on go straight to my house!( I knew the city well & knew exactly how to get there) he drove me straight home pulled up to my house and said get the fuck out! Pushed me out the car and sped off as fast as he could. I stumbled in the house barely able to keep my eyes open or even walk. I got in the house & sat on my bed I looked down at my hands and realized he'd stolen all my rings and all my jewelry. They were very expensive rings but most of all they were given to me by family & friends. I opened my purse and there was nothing in it everything was gone! Those are just a few stories but After that I deleted every dating app I had told him he was a fucking r@p!st & blocked him & checked myself into aa for drinking. After that I vowed on a new life. Now I'm 5 months sober and getting right by God for saving me that night & vowed on a new life from that point on. Whatever you do it better to find people organically. You're not stretching the truth Tony when you mention how many women end up in bad situations from dating apps. & thank you for your knowledge and wisdom. I listen to your words like an older brother & I find so much peace in your truth. Thank you!
Sis...you was naive and ignorant x2. Why keep riding with men you meet for the first time. Like when do women learn. Omg. A lot women be desperate to meet or be with a man they jeopardize their own life. Women and drinking before a date, explains a lot about your movement. It's not judgement, but self reflection and self correction definitely need to be exercise.
@UCAMm8TUgAACKcNV6n62epSA Yes you did. It's unfortunate so many women find themselves in the same predicament. A lot of women dont get a second or 3rd chance. I've use dating apps before. What I find is, people don't vet prospects well. Serial reckless dating want get you to the prize, but it can give you unwanted experiences.
@@nuview1 also I ain't click on this video to for what you had to say about the topic I clicked no this video for his.
@@CTEvie well your comment/story I found interesting. It's done love. Carry-on with your life and better choices.
So many people I know use them I could never understand, ima patiently wait on God and run into him in the grocery store fruit section or some 🤣
Ladies, You should watch the Netflix documentary The Tinder Swindler about the exact thing that Tony is talking about. It truly is an eye opener.
I seen it twice and recommended it to a lot of my girlfriends.
I was on 2 sites for 2 years. Most of the ones I met misrepresented themselves as far as long-term relationships went. I was lamenting about it to a male friend who said, "men are on the sites just to smash!" I closed my accounts immediately and never looked back.
Did you see the recent study on dating apps? It is called “The Rise of Lonely, Single Men Dating apps and a drastically changing relationship landscape.”
I will definitely read it
Going to look into this
It was a good read!!
It was a good informative read 👍🏻
How can we find the article?
Yes those dating apps have Narcissists on them and on Instagram too one tried to run games on me but I saw the scams in time. I recently went back on an app and still see the same men on there. Most are not that attractive. Heard in the news how a man was set up on an Instagram date and got robbed by two men when he went to her house. It happens to men too.
Thank you! Omg this is everything i needed to hear including the other warnings about online dating that you posted as well. Its like everything you mentioned on these videos, i experienced most of them. Thank God only im still here. And im finally getting off these dating sites/apps for good. Its sad but so true. I need to work on myself now and meet ppl IRL (in real life). Its been a rough road. But thank God for your warnings and your teachings.