Dating Expert Reacts to CRAPPY FLIRTING ADVICE (feat. PSYCH2GO)

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  • @Psych2go
    @Psych2go 3 роки тому +420

    Thanks for this video review. Looking forward to more. :)

  • @CorinneA3
    @CorinneA3 4 роки тому +1489

    I will never understand the idea that men are less attractive when they smile. Personally, when I see a guy who never smiles, it makes me assume that he is antisocial and less approachable. On the contrary, men who smile (genuinely) seem more trustworthy, confident, and interesting. Am I the only one? Because I dont think I am.

    • @gelliarts2104
      @gelliarts2104 4 роки тому +56

      100% agreed

    • @jojo-xk8ri
      @jojo-xk8ri 4 роки тому +81

      you're not the only one. before my boyfriend confessed to me and I knew he liked me, I couldnt get enough of his smile and had many photos. it was one of the things that peaked my interest. it usually is in general with everyone.

    • @annbellgrau
      @annbellgrau 4 роки тому +57

      I loooove it when men smile! It makes them seem genuine and way more attractive

    • @iacomary
      @iacomary 4 роки тому +5

      Agreee

    • @plipplop1769
      @plipplop1769 4 роки тому +40

      Yeah I feel quite self conscious so I would feel like that person hates me or I'm irritating that person so I would get really uncomfortable and back off.

  • @babyqeels
    @babyqeels 4 роки тому +671

    Why is this so wholesome? I clicked on this expecting him to be kinda douchy and pretentious, but then he was actually kinda chill? And then he mentioned his audiobook and I was like “oh here comes the sell-out” but it’s free? Wth theres still genuine people on youtube

    • @sapphireblue9209
      @sapphireblue9209 4 роки тому +3

      SAME PLEASE KADSJKLSAJD

    • @pablosolis1589
      @pablosolis1589 3 роки тому +3

      @@sapphireblue9209 Tf with that key punch lol?

    • @allaboardthegravytrain5987
      @allaboardthegravytrain5987 3 роки тому +2

      I’m surprised to,- and psych is even the top comment lol

    • @TedEhioghae
      @TedEhioghae 2 роки тому

      I hope something you accomplished, you will give it out for free also.
      :)

    • @jaredhigley6450
      @jaredhigley6450 2 роки тому

      Right!? He’s so gracious how he critiques people. So freaking loving it’s inspiring

  • @uncleiroh4650
    @uncleiroh4650 4 роки тому +2739

    Sorry Anthony, but this video is complete clickbait. I started mirroring my crush’s body language by following her around down dark alleys and she can’t seem to get enough of me. It got so bad that she had to put up a restraining order to keep herself away from me. Check and MATE😀

    • @madladiesscientists6894
      @madladiesscientists6894 4 роки тому +136

      I think the heart he gave means this gave Anthony a little laughy laugh, lol!

    • @Piecesoftheshadow
      @Piecesoftheshadow 4 роки тому +19

      😆

    • @beau334
      @beau334 4 роки тому +14

      uncle XD

    • @igut214
      @igut214 4 роки тому +30

      I know it's in good nature but I think that joking about stalkerish behaviour normalizes it. I once was in a convo with my colleagues from uni and they were making jokes about hegemonic masculinity by joking about beating your wife/girlfiend and I did feel a bit uncomfortable but I didn't know I could say something about it until my female colleague (whom I always respected greatly) said that it's not ok. That it's not funny. And I do agree. I'm not holding it against you, it's not anyone's fault that society puts those ideas out there but I just hoped that i could show you a different perspective, the way my female colleague showed it to me

    •  4 роки тому +19

      @@igut214 here we're making fun of stalkers and their mentality how they think they're doing nothing wrong by stalking women, and yes, making jokes about women being beaten is never funny I agree

  • @curlylouis9258
    @curlylouis9258 4 роки тому +1141

    Advices like "wear red if you want to increase someone's attraction to you", to me, feels the same as "shave your body hair if you want to increase your performance in cycling or swimming", at the end of the day it does make a difference, but it's such a small one that it will only be significant at a high level competition, and since we shouldn't be treating dating as a competition, wearing red does not make any difference

    • @saraashkir5793
      @saraashkir5793 4 роки тому +16

      For real! And the way they test them is having people who have every other factor be the same or similar, and seeing if red will make a difference. Like of course but now have someone be awkward and the other be confident, then put the awkward person in red. No difference

    • @jaetrnn6000
      @jaetrnn6000 4 роки тому +4

      Funnily enough, anyone who does treat it as a competition and, as a "top" competitor won't actually be in the game for long. Assuming they have everything else in order to go with it 😂

    • @CommanderWaddles
      @CommanderWaddles 4 роки тому +1

      YOU RIGHT

    • @joeyjointjebaiter1275
      @joeyjointjebaiter1275 4 роки тому +11

      Wearing red wont make you attractive to me. If you already are, you'll just become more attractive

    • @RDavisLink
      @RDavisLink 4 роки тому

      Yes it never was to begin with.

  • @andreaspommerencke9650
    @andreaspommerencke9650 4 роки тому +1993

    I love how Anthony is basically translating these clickbait videos into actual dating advice

    • @mind_system
      @mind_system 4 роки тому +95

      I wouldn't say they purposely made that video clickbait-y. The sources they got the information from are really old, I checked. Most of the sources I saw were at least 7 years old. Society keeps changing. Their video is not updated, in my opinion.

    • @creepermanzombie24
      @creepermanzombie24 4 роки тому +18

      @@mind_system well, that may be right I mean, has happen a lot since 7 years ago but... that's not actually too old for the psycological research

    • @sdma6005
      @sdma6005 4 роки тому +4

      Yes!! Thank you Anthony for clarifying these myths 💜💜

    • @sarajane5306
      @sarajane5306 4 роки тому +19

      But has he actually got any psychology education or is he just judging from his own opinions.

    • @eeeeeeelemons
      @eeeeeeelemons 4 роки тому +5

      Sara Lowe he’s a dating expert, he’s a professional

  • @oIJustForFunIo
    @oIJustForFunIo 4 роки тому +608

    I feel like you already found the perfect alternative for "eye contact": Observe. It's not too deep, not too superficial. It describes a continuous awareness towards the appearance of the Person.

  • @chloejones519
    @chloejones519 4 роки тому +564

    “A little laughy laugh”
    I don’t know why but this brings me quite a bit of joy

    • @AnthonyRecenello
      @AnthonyRecenello  4 роки тому +116

      You bring ME quite a bit of joy

    • @chloejones519
      @chloejones519 4 роки тому +77

      Anthony Recenello you are honest so kind and I love how you actually look through your comments and reply it brightens my day when I see you’ve taken the time to reply to me Thank you

    • @HeyHoRangerJooo
      @HeyHoRangerJooo 4 роки тому +9

      @@AnthonyRecenello breath taking

    • @bentobento3241
      @bentobento3241 4 роки тому +8

      Yess, made me smily smile lol :3

    • @somerandomguy7546
      @somerandomguy7546 4 роки тому

      @@bentobento3241 it doesn't take that much to write a comment on UA-cam, it's not like he's been typing or thinking about what he should type for 6 hours

  • @XxQueenOfHeartzxX
    @XxQueenOfHeartzxX 4 роки тому +199

    You really break down faking it vs being real and working on yourself. The most important thing is being authentic. Thx for pointing that out.

  • @doflya129
    @doflya129 4 роки тому +456

    This looks like an old video from psych2go

  • @victor.blanco
    @victor.blanco 4 роки тому +97

    Jesus your content is good. I can really tell you get it. A lot of people I think focus too much on how to get the person to like them rather than seeing them for who they are and if their someone they’ll like to be with. That’s literally dating, finding people you’re attracted too that you can connect with.

    • @zarahshabs7936
      @zarahshabs7936 4 роки тому +4

      that's so true!! why do so many people fall into this trap...I don't get it

    • @victor.blanco
      @victor.blanco 4 роки тому +3

      @@zarahshabs7936 Well it is something I think most people don't get taught about.

    • @honey_bee5043
      @honey_bee5043 4 роки тому +1

      Broo fr especially when they find someone physically attractive or something lol

    • @samysue10
      @samysue10 3 роки тому +1

      @@zarahshabs7936 I think a lot of people fall into that trap because they are lonely or trying to use the person they are trying to "date" to make themselves feel better, whether they mean to or not. It's really all mental health, if someone has a healthy lifestyle and is happy with themselves then you don't feel as desperate to get people to like you. At least that's my conclusion from all the research I've done.

    • @zarahshabs7936
      @zarahshabs7936 3 роки тому

      @@samysue10 so true!! It’s def often people who just want to be liked/validated, which is not a good framework for a healthy relationship anyway

  • @diegocloroxx
    @diegocloroxx 4 роки тому +296

    I don't know what to expect when I see that expression in the thumbnail

  • @juanpaolodelapena2112
    @juanpaolodelapena2112 4 роки тому +299

    Oh god im finally back been a month without access to the internet but on the bright side, binging all of the vids is gonna be heaven

    • @kaitlynrhiger1839
      @kaitlynrhiger1839 4 роки тому +21

      dont google shane dawson

    • @Sjj.iwiwnn
      @Sjj.iwiwnn 4 роки тому +2

      Wait.... binging?

    • @pmo7780
      @pmo7780 4 роки тому +8

      @@Sjj.iwiwnn it's when you watch videos of a series or channel or etc back to back. For example if you watch an entire season of Game of thrones, you binged that season.

    • @chaizan9733
      @chaizan9733 4 роки тому

      @@kaitlynrhiger1839 lmao 😂😂😂😂😂

  • @lauraberg6272
    @lauraberg6272 4 роки тому +203

    Gosh, as someone with Autism spectrum disorder socializing is so hard for me. We need good advice in order to bring our need for connection with the world out. The world seems like it's not made for us sometimes. We're really sincere and honest people, which can be either refreshing or off-putting to people.

    • @AnthonyRecenello
      @AnthonyRecenello  4 роки тому +39

      I hope I can help 🙏🏻

    • @vvelvettearss
      @vvelvettearss 4 роки тому +11

      it's like you said Anthony. learn how to be happy and the rest will follow :)

    • @Grand.R.R.B
      @Grand.R.R.B 4 роки тому +4

      I’m high functioning autistic as well, gang gang

    • @PGOuma
      @PGOuma 4 роки тому +7

      I have BPD so I miss a lot of social cues and assume something else is happening or I misjudge people's tones and think that they are trying to hurt me when they are not. So relatable but in a different way

  • @andreaw2053
    @andreaw2053 4 роки тому +76

    Some colour theory for yall:
    Red is a warm colour, it's eye catching and it holds your focus. Someone wearing red will hold your focus more than someone not wearing red, however this response is momentary. It passes in less than a second and long term it won't have any effect.
    Interestingly, this is a technique that many artists use. Next time you look at an art piece, look at the layout of the colours and see where your eyes fall first.

    • @themasterofanalyticsandwie1342
      @themasterofanalyticsandwie1342 3 роки тому +1

      But in the end in Social life it's very different. Wine red Suits won't make you attractive alone.

    • @andreaw2053
      @andreaw2053 3 роки тому

      @@themasterofanalyticsandwie1342 my point exactly :)

  • @user-kz3sb1ns9z
    @user-kz3sb1ns9z 4 роки тому +221

    Honestly it’s fun and all when he reacts to dating videos but I wouldn’t mind seeing him actually discuss and give his opinion on more topics

  • @s0n761
    @s0n761 4 роки тому +79

    Thanks for reminding me to stop looking for someone who is worlds apart from me and to stop chasing women who doesn't share the same interest with me because sometimes i just need to burn my brain for things to say and topics to talk about, you my dude helped me sustain a healthy mindset for there's someone for me already all i have to do is to wait.

  • @Maddismukke
    @Maddismukke 4 роки тому +129

    And there I was, thinking there isn't such a thing as a real, good and healthy-advice-giving dating coach... Thanks Anthony! Happiness is the way.

  • @snowysiamese
    @snowysiamese 3 роки тому +35

    The psych2go video:
    50% things you will do subconsciously and are unnecessary to worry about
    40% misleading or improper advice
    10% actually something of value

    • @droogiebabydoll
      @droogiebabydoll Рік тому +1

      I personally think that all Psych2go videos suck.

  • @mouavekonetwothree2412
    @mouavekonetwothree2412 4 роки тому +27

    i like when someone smiles but at the same time he/she are serious when they need to and have a deeper personality than that smile and simply being positive

  • @adotheginger
    @adotheginger 4 роки тому +16

    I've always thought "dating coaches" ( DATING IS NOT A SPORT ) are clickbait, until I came across your channel. I admire the approach you show the 3 key points you keep summoning in this video. You are humble and present and that is all you need to be a pleasant presence in a video
    Keep it up and thank you for trying to make people better

  • @fieldhockeygoalie101
    @fieldhockeygoalie101 4 роки тому +28

    You have such adorable genuine reactions, love when you smile chuckle and your eyes wrinkle up

  • @mihaelamalinova4275
    @mihaelamalinova4275 4 роки тому +110

    Video: “How to Flirt”
    Also video: #1: Literally look at their eyes

    • @JessieJiShe
      @JessieJiShe 4 роки тому +8

      Me: I can’t do that, it’s too intimate

    • @rae8961
      @rae8961 4 роки тому +13

      Yeah, but you have to be head to head, eyes wide as a deer. Really stare into their soul like you're about to murder them 😂

    • @yaxebbhaj1341
      @yaxebbhaj1341 4 роки тому +4

      @@rae8961 never look away and don't breath visually

  • @bbspooks
    @bbspooks 4 роки тому +40

    Theres romance and romcom movies that really harm the dating scene by fictionalizing and idealizing something that is virtually unrealistic. It seems horror is opening up more to breaking this mold and calling attention to the flaws in this and accepting your genuine self to find ones that you will genuinely end up long term with. I think things like Eternal Sunshine of a Spotless Mind and 1000 Days of Summer are red nance movies that highlight issues of media romanticized dating. Esp days of summer where Zoey portrays this mans manic pixie dream when in reality he is only seeing what he wants and not her, he is romanticizing an idealized version of her into a toxic relationship. It's a great movie.

  • @imtheelephant
    @imtheelephant 4 роки тому +121

    “Happiness is attractive” oh oh

  • @beejamjam
    @beejamjam 4 роки тому +29

    Thanks for this, I remember watching these a few years ago when I didn't necessarily have many critical thinking skills. You've helped me rethink what I learned at first.

  • @bbspooks
    @bbspooks 4 роки тому +90

    Mirroring body image is so fake. Just be yourself! React in a genuine way, you never need to pretend to be someone you aren't. Trying new things because YOU were always interested but never had courage to do it is fine. As long as it's for YOU and not specifically to impress others! I can't stress it enough. You won't genuinely click with someone long term by faking a persona. You won't be genuinely happy with yourself. A great media representation of this very oddly via a horror tv show from SciFi is Channel Zero the Dead End House season. One character faces his mirror idealized self. It's eye opening. I'm thinking Daniel Isn't Real also broaches this topic. It's on Shudder. I can't confirm bc I haven't watched it yet but It seems to carry the same concept of being your authentic self vs an idealized self that has been influenced by what it considered stereotypically "cool" and has been wrongfully normalized towards specific genders. I.e. The idea of masculinity. The stereotype and misbelief women only like bad boys etc.

    • @mustnz998
      @mustnz998 4 роки тому +14

      Unconscious mirroring is a sign you like them. HOWEVER, it defeats the purpose if it's not unconscious. It's just manipulation at that point.

    • @GotoMaki4Micah
      @GotoMaki4Micah 4 роки тому +1

      @@mustnz998 anything of the 'dating advise' is manipulation. you cant keep up the act forever. you can't stop being 'cool' aftere you snagged the person you wanted.

    • @memo-fq3ps
      @memo-fq3ps 4 роки тому +4

      I catch myself mirroring people's actions a lot of times (if someone yawns or cracks their knuckles especially), but it's never on purpose and I try not to. The fact that people do it on purpose is so weird to me.

  • @madladiesscientists6894
    @madladiesscientists6894 4 роки тому +149

    I hate staring into people's eyes SO SO SO SO MUCH!! 😰😰😰😰😰 I JUST HATE IT SO MUCH, EVEN IF I'M NOT ATTRACTED TO THAT PERSON, ITS SO UNCOMFORTABLE. I mean glancing and looking back and forth to look at someone is a lot more comfortable to me. Or even what you said, just examining their body language and other things sometimes around you.

    • @alexjackson3612
      @alexjackson3612 4 роки тому +20

      Same, my crush usually looks at me intensely in the eye, but I get really self conscious and can’t look at anyone in the eyes even during the conversations

    • @shrimppoo
      @shrimppoo 4 роки тому +7

      Saaamee I was going out with this boy and I just couldn’t look him in the eyes 💀 I keep telling myself to practice and not be so fucking awkward. I have social anxiety, so that probably contributes 😂

    • @RedRoseSeptember22
      @RedRoseSeptember22 4 роки тому +8

      Glancing around makes you look suspicious and awkward though...you don't have to *stare* necessarily, but at least make eye contact when the other person is talking to you :)

    • @PGOuma
      @PGOuma 4 роки тому +1

      @@shrimppoo i have social anxiety too so yep. I have to glance away and it helps me think and process information when I'm looking away

    • @PGOuma
      @PGOuma 4 роки тому +1

      @@RedRoseSeptember22 maybe in American culture 😩😩

  • @kyuuki_kitsune
    @kyuuki_kitsune 4 роки тому +123

    I watched a couple Psych2Go videos and I couldn't even get to the end of them. The person who made them probably means well, but has a clear lack of expertise. I saw so many things in those videos that are oversimplified or flat out wrong. I wish people would be more careful about the advice they give, especially when trying to share that advice in such a wide scope such as on UA-cam.

    • @sophiekarakan2086
      @sophiekarakan2086 4 роки тому +15

      I think the dating ones might not be top notch but the ones on disorder and signs for different things is more their focus?

    • @somerandomguy7546
      @somerandomguy7546 4 роки тому

      @Kray The Fin not everyone is genuine

    • @spacebacon7184
      @spacebacon7184 4 роки тому

      @@maudlynn5554 Thank you for your subjective, close minded, perspective on every single comment Michael.
      Let's flip-flop and put your character into question now on baseless accusations.
      Are you able to take any advice someone gives you and put it into practice yourself? Or are you lazy?
      Do you give up after a couple fails , pull out your phone, and curse whoever put their video and their own way of thinking out for everyone to see? Everyone!!
      Do you think they wouldn't be making any money or racking up views if the advice they gave didn't work ? You're allowed to use the skills you have to make money . That's kinda how this society works lol
      Quit trollin 😂

    • @joyce0037
      @joyce0037 4 роки тому +2

      They reuse videos ideas as well. These two videos: ua-cam.com/video/IMa2spCLrjI/v-deo.html
      ua-cam.com/video/MHndEN4vgzA/v-deo.html
      sound very similar. If the channel has the guts to be this lazy and recycle their ideas, then it isn't legit at all

  • @justvince4158
    @justvince4158 4 роки тому +42

    Humor is important because most people close their eyes when they laugh.

    • @TheBrianagh
      @TheBrianagh 4 роки тому +3

      True as hell

    • @somerandomguy7546
      @somerandomguy7546 4 роки тому +5

      I've never seen anyone laugh with their eyes closed

    • @Spectre-x3d
      @Spectre-x3d Місяць тому

      @@somerandomguy7546I think they meant metaphorically

  • @MeadowMinxie
    @MeadowMinxie 4 роки тому +57

    When you soul gaze you're basically walking through the garden of their mind. When you connect with them you feel one another watering each others' flowers. They bloom, the vegetables sprout, the bees buzz, the birds chirp, the sun shines.. And all of your senses feel stimulated simply from those moments spent looking into the spectales of someone else you love.

    • @tivianengel7789
      @tivianengel7789 4 роки тому +1

      Britt Bluejay ??

    • @madladiesscientists6894
      @madladiesscientists6894 4 роки тому

      You're definitely a 4 on the enegram scale. I also think that's beautiful to say

    • @ishi1335
      @ishi1335 4 роки тому +1

      That was deep, love it!

    • @pyropagerik
      @pyropagerik 4 роки тому +1

      And to plant said garden, share all one's fruits and vegetables, only to then lock the other out of the garden? What then.

    • @snowarmth
      @snowarmth 4 роки тому +1

      Link me the book when you and Pyropagerik write it.

  • @plipplop1769
    @plipplop1769 4 роки тому +65

    My pupils get bigger when I look at my friend, we always joke about it and I'm pretty damn sure I don't want her.

    • @RedRoseSeptember22
      @RedRoseSeptember22 4 роки тому +26

      I think dilated pupils can also mean you're happy right? I forget but I read somewhere that people's pupils dilate from pleasure or happiness...

    • @amritaswift443
      @amritaswift443 3 роки тому

      Oooh😂😂😂😂😂

  • @bitka
    @bitka 4 роки тому +142

    Touching thing is very manipulative and gross tool. I believe that managers (old guys) in the USA are trained to use it often. Yuck...

    • @llamaglitter
      @llamaglitter 4 роки тому +32

      I think that is taking it out of context. When you are doing any type of flirting, you do it with discretion and only do it when/where it feels natural.
      You don’t molest someone to try to win them over🙃

    • @bitka
      @bitka 4 роки тому +5

      Sure. Maybe it’s not related to flirting but I don’t get that creepy american way for influencing, showing power or winning people over by touching them. Especially from dude who is 40 y.o. who I was getting money from. In Europe it’s different...

    • @squidneythesquid2487
      @squidneythesquid2487 4 роки тому +10

      bitka like that hand on the small of the back thing, I hate it

    • @ibn_adham
      @ibn_adham 4 роки тому +8

      None of you seem to understand how touching is supposed to be used in situations with flirty vibes where the other person is clearly reciprocating.

    • @squidneythesquid2487
      @squidneythesquid2487 4 роки тому +11

      Consilium Pacis we know that, but we were talking about the daily random touching we get as women

  • @hannahsmith2094
    @hannahsmith2094 4 роки тому +18

    I’m glad he reacted to this I desperately need dating advice

  • @fabooshka
    @fabooshka 4 роки тому +153

    I started watching Psych2Go years ago and over time I saw their content reused and increasingly clickbait-y with very little science
    It seems to be a hit or miss sometimes it's good sometimes it's... astrology

    • @shloka3915
      @shloka3915 4 роки тому +12

      Oh, so I'm not the only one having this feeling. Good to know ^^

    • @memo-fq3ps
      @memo-fq3ps 4 роки тому +23

      I've felt the same way tbh, but honestly I still watch their videos because they're entertaining to me.

    • @sans_-oo2hy
      @sans_-oo2hy 4 роки тому +1

      Me too

    • @danimato1833
      @danimato1833 4 роки тому

      ...same

  • @ellacarlos4646
    @ellacarlos4646 4 роки тому +101

    Would you ever consider making a reaction video to scenes from “He’s Just Not That Into You”?

    • @AnthonyRecenello
      @AnthonyRecenello  4 роки тому +52

      Yes

    • @adrianmartinez7014
      @adrianmartinez7014 4 роки тому +2

      @@AnthonyRecenello Yes, but also what is that?

    • @kaitlynrhiger1839
      @kaitlynrhiger1839 4 роки тому +2

      @@adrianmartinez7014 its a movie

    • @ellacarlos4646
      @ellacarlos4646 4 роки тому +11

      I thought it’d be interesting to get a professional’s perspective because the premise is debunking the myth that boys act mean to the girls they like. This “principle” continues to shape the main character’s dating life well into adulthood.

    • @genevievec.8002
      @genevievec.8002 4 роки тому +3

      Ooooh I would love that! It's my favorite rom com cuz it's not purely happy endings or straightforward answers. Some awkward and bad parts... But it's still a rom com.

  • @sebastianholstesn2385
    @sebastianholstesn2385 4 роки тому +7

    Love your channel, used to watch all these click baity dating channels and now I know just how much of a waste of time it has been. Thank you for redirecting my attention back to what really matters

  • @katybeth8289
    @katybeth8289 4 роки тому +5

    I really love your advice on paying attention to the person of interest. Actually caring about that person can never be faked, especially if the individual is focused on what they are doing to influence their interest rather than actually listening and caring about their interest. The real difference between wanting to be with a specific person and actually caring about them will go far in how long and fulfilling the relationship is.

  • @Bluehoshiflower
    @Bluehoshiflower 4 роки тому +74

    Anthony: humour is a sign of intelligence!
    Me, as a highly intelligent person: I knew it! I am a humourous person after all!
    My friends: ...

    • @justheretocomment3673
      @justheretocomment3673 4 роки тому +7

      😂 I laughed

    • @PGOuma
      @PGOuma 4 роки тому +1

      Relatable

    • @nicobuffing9756
      @nicobuffing9756 4 роки тому +5

      Humor is also subjective so thats a tricky thing, I guess if you share a sense of humor it also means you may share other aspects, such as a look at life?

    • @region7rra881
      @region7rra881 4 роки тому

      You using the word humorous made this funny

  • @dragonflybtchbauer7655
    @dragonflybtchbauer7655 4 роки тому +6

    Playing "aloof" can sometimes come across as not interested and thus the other person can lose interest.
    He added the additional explanation that makes all this helpful

  • @steveneven4415
    @steveneven4415 4 роки тому +3

    I love that Anthony is always talking about concepts that work to be the best that you can be and it really clears up the mist behind these clickbait videos. I think most clickbait get at these concepts indirectly but our focus should not be on doing things like mirroring, pitch changing our voice, etc. but instead to focus on being our best selves and things like that will come along which I never thought about. I also love that Anthony gives guidance to achieve this life style quality. Amazing work and I'll make sure to pass along your teachings if people talk about this clickbait stuff!

  • @MVillmow1
    @MVillmow1 4 роки тому +36

    🤣🤣🤣
    I love how disgusted he is in regards to touching.
    I once went to this rooftop bar with some friends and this guy came up to me, started talking to me, separated me from my group by putting himself in-between me and them and then kept tapping my shoulder/arm.
    All things wrong...

  • @lightshadowed
    @lightshadowed 4 роки тому +127

    Psych2Go deadass told you to manipulate women into dates 😂

    • @alekoo_ngdiak
      @alekoo_ngdiak 3 роки тому +1

      @@directrulefromgamerchair3947 Yeah kinda like a Yandere

  • @maracoenegrachts896
    @maracoenegrachts896 4 роки тому +175

    psych2go always triggers me so much, because their videos might lead to a lot of kids self diagnosing themself.

    • @emmytherose
      @emmytherose 4 роки тому +11

      SAME

    • @Rainbowthehedgehog
      @Rainbowthehedgehog 4 роки тому +65

      When I was a freshman in college and starting my way to get my BA in Psychology, I had originally subscribed to psych2go because I thought they were interesting but as I got into my sophomore yr of college and was in research methods, I learned so much that I started realizing how Psych2go was VERY unreliable in terms of research because they rarely used Peer Reviewed Articles or Valid resources. They would use websites that aren’t considered academic resources and also the number of videos I started to see that they would upload would consist of being the same thing or just silly that is literally clickbait.
      I recently graduated from college this spring and I have a friend who decided to major in psychology so I kindly advised her not to go on that channel because it’s not reliable

    • @MichaelDGenio
      @MichaelDGenio 4 роки тому +105

      I mean... TO be fair, they do say at the beginning of each video (and the description) that you shouldn't use their material for self diagnostician, and to, in fact, seek professional help if you think you may be struggling with a mental illness. BUT, with that being said... I do see your point...
      Couple years back, I thought I was suffering from depression, saw a video of theirs about depression, and thought, "Yup! That's me!" At the time, I did go and get professional help, and turns out I was actually depressed. So, in a way, I'm thankful for Pshych2Go. They at least steered me in right direction to getting better help :)
      Though with all that being said, the whole channel is a big clickbaity mess. As they say, DON'T EVER use it as a use for diagnosing. Sorry for the long read :(

    • @richardgamrat1944
      @richardgamrat1944 4 роки тому +23

      @@Rainbowthehedgehog Its pop-psychology, some of their videos are borderline bs, some are helpful/insightful, but yea as far as citing actual literature... eh, sparsely. But whenever it *really* matters like talking about actual "diagnosis" they tend to back things up with DSM or some real papers (though I havent watched everything, so maybe there is even more bs than I am missing).

    • @carlogustavovalenzuelazepe5774
      @carlogustavovalenzuelazepe5774 4 роки тому +15

      If a video is about introverts everybody is introverted in the comments if its about a disease everybody in.the comments have bipolarity i noticed that

  • @user-dl5uh9fq7g
    @user-dl5uh9fq7g 4 роки тому

    Thank you so much. You are the first I've seen make a video like this, but NOT bash the creators, or cut out key parts to make them look bad. You gave us legit advice, instead of just going, "That's wrong, that's wrong, so is that", you acknowledged when they weren't to far off, while politely correcting them when they weren't. That's how to UA-cam.

  • @JupiterLight28
    @JupiterLight28 4 роки тому +2

    25:18 First video of yours I ever watched and I only say something because it was amusing to me, earlier when you mentioned being present for the second time and I noticed you were focused on some key points I was thinking to myself "Ah, I feel like this guy is going to try to sell me a book by the end of this." so I had a laugh, I'm glad that you made it free and it's great that you have something you're proud of and have worked hard on so it is completely fair to bring it up.

  • @michaelrinella5596
    @michaelrinella5596 4 роки тому +7

    “Italian people are very emotional and touchy-feely people” This explains everything!

  • @dragonflybtchbauer7655
    @dragonflybtchbauer7655 4 роки тому +2

    Be your best self! Don't fake interest or knowledge in something. Ask about things that you don't know about if your interested in something they know. Don't just quickly blow them off if not interested. State why you don't like it them gently steer the conversation into something you know. Share your interests and knowledge when someone shows they wanna know about it. Don't force your views. Dating is about happiness with yourself and the other person and while sometimes it may be something new and slight uncomfortable it's not about being fake and forcing something that's totally outside your wheelhouse

  • @turnitupwithnelly-2337
    @turnitupwithnelly-2337 4 роки тому +9

    Yk im not even planning on dating anyone and i dont have a crush on anyone but i just like listening to what he has to say

  • @amandaw3212
    @amandaw3212 4 роки тому +4

    I am in the UK, its 3.30am, I cannot sleep. I see you have finally posted this video so I watched this and after so much cuteness feel restful again.
    Thank you for doing these videos, you have no idea how you are helping me change for the better and, more importantly, wanting too!
    It must be those freckles! ❤️

    • @AnthonyRecenello
      @AnthonyRecenello  4 роки тому +1

      👍🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻👍🏻🤷🏻‍♂️

  • @AAIVE
    @AAIVE 4 роки тому +8

    ‘do i really have to explain all of this stuff?’
    *is his literal job* 🤣
    also, i feel like i totally get where you’re coming from and came into this out of pure curiosity - but you definitely misrepresented one of their points about dominance & submission only to use it later yourself, which it kind of looked like you noticed in the video haha! of course, it sounds stodgy when approached from a purely scientific standpoint but these things have reached an almost global consensus for a reason, and a lot of the stuff you guys know colloquially came from the initial scientific and psychological consensuses reached first with which, you guys are able to adapt to actual usability in practice! tl;dr, the science does often hold weight for the most part. it’s just that it needs clarification, colloquilisation and adapting to be able to be used tangibly by the everyday person/dater. that’s all! i feel like dating coaches are basically the interpersonal science translators of our time-but we only see a handful that are actually good & that are considerate of each individual temperament, as opposed to general advice translated from even more general scientific consensus despite vast variability. science is the raw ore, it’s up to coaches and therapists to create their brand of jewellery!

    • @Griot-Guild
      @Griot-Guild 4 роки тому +1

      This is like a college thesis paper, read the whole thing just because it was so well written lol liked the ore metaphor at the end too, A+

  • @arisgnnks
    @arisgnnks 4 роки тому

    Thanks!! Amazing how the wrong channels get the views... you are very helpful and deserve much more!! :) cheers from another life coach, specialist in personality psychology

  • @anagabriela1917
    @anagabriela1917 4 роки тому

    I'm enjoying a lot not only listening the explanation and learning more, but also watching Anthony's reactions /facial expressions while watching the video.

  • @th3n3wk1dd
    @th3n3wk1dd 4 роки тому +13

    Psychology is so hard to break down as when dealing with people, there will always be "the exception".
    Blanket statements do not translate well when dealing with the subject.
    That said, there are tests you can do to find "objective truths" about yourself.
    You can test for "majority answers" and usually those results can be replicated within a percent or 2.
    After watching many dating advice videos by many different people, I have found out several things.
    1) I have extreme low self esteem. I wish I didn't, but I do. Does that mean I am thinking about ending it? No. those tendencies NEVER enter my mind, I still love life. Just don't think highly of myself.
    2) At my age it seems like the dating pool is very sparse. The question when ask what I notice about women first when they walk in the room, I usually say "The left hand". Is there a ring?
    3) I have found dating sites and apps useless. Not only do I rarely get matches, of the few times it does happen, it seems no one responds. From my perspective, some girls seem to have the problem of getting too many matches and never having any of them pan out, ugly guys like me get a match then a message saying "come to my website and we can chat per minute".

  • @TheFoxfool
    @TheFoxfool 4 роки тому +40

    19:46 A lot of the psychology studies aren't necessarily "proofs", which is why you're needing to make this point. The video is passing them off as being factual.
    Psych is very highly based around correlation and theories, not solid facts.

  • @katxu5265
    @katxu5265 4 роки тому +13

    Damn bro that's some reaaaaaal quarantine learning here, when the pandemic to be over to practice in real life lol

  • @cesarjimenezsalazar9322
    @cesarjimenezsalazar9322 4 роки тому +34

    it's interesting how looking at somebody's face shows respect, when in japan it's disrespectful

    • @memo-fq3ps
      @memo-fq3ps 4 роки тому +4

      Yup. A lot of these "Signs a guy/girl likes you" videos seem to forget about cultural context. In some countries, people lean over and "stare" at each other, while in other countries it's the opposite.

    • @awesome_by_default
      @awesome_by_default 4 роки тому +3

      I wonder if that is a result of the "America is the entire world" social phenomena.

  • @Cykk0
    @Cykk0 4 роки тому +7

    so what i am getting from this video
    Psych2go: robotic data based on what has been observed
    Anthony: the human interpretation on why the behavior occurred

  • @vanessarl8
    @vanessarl8 4 роки тому

    This video is a treasure to me, so many lifetime valuable lessons and not only talking about the dating advice part! Thank you!! 🙏🧡

  • @dragonflybtchbauer7655
    @dragonflybtchbauer7655 4 роки тому +12

    I've always liked cheesy pick up lines when the person using them knows the lines are cheesy and it's done as joke/ ice breaker.

    • @kuqho
      @kuqho 4 роки тому +1

      same

  • @adawiyaundamagandia3722
    @adawiyaundamagandia3722 4 роки тому +12

    25:58 I was confused when I first saw the picture, I thought that was a stickman sitting on other stickman's butt.lol😂

  • @gusmcmanus6159
    @gusmcmanus6159 4 роки тому +1

    9:40 "Presence is respecting your life." Really appreciated this.

  • @calliewright3128
    @calliewright3128 3 роки тому +2

    So have a genuine conversation by being yourself, rather than trying to manipulate an encounter 👏

  • @huynhhaison85
    @huynhhaison85 4 роки тому

    I am a copywriter and I learned a lot about writing and copy and stuff.
    One thing I notice from mediocre and successful copy is how complexity it is
    The more complex the copy is, the more you feel like it's trying to impress you.
    The simpler it is, the more you feel like it helps you.
    The first time I watch your video, my impression for you is you speak very simple stuff.
    And I like it. From a copywriter's perspective, it's obvious you are successful.
    Also you speak a lot of truth. And it blows my mind. I like it. A lot!!

  • @KM-np6pz
    @KM-np6pz 4 роки тому +9

    Congrats on 100k

    • @KM-np6pz
      @KM-np6pz 4 роки тому +5

      Yes, I’m the type of person who likes and comments on their own comment

    • @AnthonyRecenello
      @AnthonyRecenello  4 роки тому +3

      thank yoU!!!

  • @sharvin0161
    @sharvin0161 4 роки тому +5

    27:10 "That person is going to feel the creep." I'm deadd

  • @crzll9
    @crzll9 4 роки тому +10

    10:00 thank you daddy
    lol but really me and my dad have been going through a HELL of a lot lately, and I think he failed to learn that very thing, respect. It's nice to hear it from someone else. I have such a hard time with eye contact, but not when I think about it as respect for the other person... that will help a lot I think

  • @mia-qi5zc
    @mia-qi5zc 4 роки тому +12

    Oh my god I didn't know I needed it but I definitely do

  • @rodsella
    @rodsella 4 роки тому +6

    As a Psychologist my motto is just be genuine, be in the moment ❤

  • @reeeeeeeeee7192
    @reeeeeeeeee7192 4 роки тому +3

    “Cheesy pickup lines just doesn’t work”
    Every person that has bad humor or loves cheesy pickup lines: 👁👄👁

  • @Kurobeau
    @Kurobeau 4 роки тому +1

    I find it very ironic that I CONTINUE to get dating related ads, and dating advice ads, whenever I watch your videos. Loving the vids, honestly the ads just give me a laugh

  • @Mahohoho96
    @Mahohoho96 4 роки тому +14

    RED
    **Me, looking at my red trix cereal box**
    "Is attractive, but not in that way 😂"
    btw I didn't expect this video to be so funny, I laugh so hard at his reactions 😂😂😂

  • @echoskolumne1962
    @echoskolumne1962 4 роки тому

    I always stress myself with bodylanguage. If i listen to a person I try hard to make sure I don't cross my arms and my toes don't point to the door. But sometime there are these days, when I'm physically and mentally in a bad shape and my greatest achivement is just not to hide under my blanket and not to cry in public. I just try to get through my working day as a business owner. Now I know, that bodylanguage is not all in life. Thank you so much! I clicked on the video since I'm insecure about how people perceive me and I often watch psych2go

  • @CJ-qw4og
    @CJ-qw4og 4 роки тому +22

    Think her video was supposed to be more like a fun fact video, rather than this is how you should flirt. Or at least that’s how I took the video.

  • @jannekek.8756
    @jannekek.8756 4 роки тому +14

    I think that a lot of the conclusions from research referenced in such videos are just lost in translation. A lot of the nuance of the research is often lost in such clickbaity videos and articles. Good research usually addresses all the factors that might influence the results (like society's different expectations for people based on gender).

  • @DaniCal1forn1a
    @DaniCal1forn1a 3 роки тому +4

    As an ADHD/autistic person who struggles with eye contact and focusing on looking at someone directly when we're talking - I've found that my peripheral vision for noticing micro expressions has got really good, to the point that I can detect what someone's feeling, or any change in what they're feeling when I'm sat next to them and not looking at their face directly at all 😂. Or even when I can't really see someone, I can often sense their mood if I know them well. If its someone I'm close with, I get goosebumps if they're experiencing a negative emotion, and feel a kinda smooth, calmness with positive emotions (but not laughter, that's different 🤣).
    I do think people need to be more open and accepting regarding "eye contact" and looking directly at someone when you're talking, because I guarantee if it looks like I'm looking right at you and paying attention... I'm not 😂. That's just now how it works for me, I find it way easier to follow and be engaged in a conversation if I'm either looking off to the side or moving my gaze around the environment.
    I think being autistic makes it overwhelming to look directly at someone for an extended period of time, and being adhd makes it difficult to stay focused on looking at someone AND listening to what they have to say at the same time. I do personally mention this in conversations where it could seem like I'm not engaging, so the other person hopefully understands, but not everyone is confident and comfortable enough to do this!
    I feel like neurodivergent people have to spend most of their time trying to fit neurotypical standards, and it would be nice if people would understand why things are different for us, and meet us halfway.

  • @isabellemalott9976
    @isabellemalott9976 4 роки тому +40

    ‘Find a mate for reproduction’ like.. what about homosexuals or people who can’t produce or those who just don’t wanna reproduce omg

    • @jaydenorr566
      @jaydenorr566 4 роки тому +6

      shut up

    • @boop963
      @boop963 4 роки тому +11

      @@jaydenorr566 ignorance at it's finest

    • @Zithorius
      @Zithorius 4 роки тому +8

      I mean, the process is functionally equivalent, anyone who can't reproduce just can't reproduce but the biomechanical function is literally the same.... So what about homosexuals and those who can't reproduce? The purpose, function and process is the exact same. Omg what? What are you actually saying?

  • @CatTigress1
    @CatTigress1 4 роки тому +6

    At one stage I was going through a breakup and searched on UA-cam for these kinds of videos... what irritated me eventually were ALL videos were from cheeky guys claiming they are experts on giving women advice how to treat a guy. ALL the advice were so one-sided, as if women were crazy and men have the right to play games and test you. Then you check the comments and you see how it made women MORE anxious and doubting themselves and taking "vows" never to date again... Women are basically not allowed to be just themselves, you are basically told you must be afraid to lose a guy. Go check, all these videos from guys are exactly the same as if they copied it from somewhere. I felt so bad eventually about myself and blamed myself for past broken relationships just because these videos told me I was not good enough and will never be...

  • @Rezzhuanne
    @Rezzhuanne 4 роки тому

    Hello I just found your channel! I just subscribed and I wish I found your channel long ago... Thank you for your very much! I'm also a fan of Psych2Go and I really like their psychology videos, but I found your channel as more reliable in terms of relationship advice. Continue sharing good stuff like this! I like it!

  • @marshmallow_fellow
    @marshmallow_fellow 4 роки тому +1

    Eye contact is very powerful. I made contact with a girls eye and she instantly had tears of joy, there's nothing quite like it

    • @katherinejoy9048
      @katherinejoy9048 3 роки тому

      There's definitely an element of valuing someone by looking them in the eyes which is so powerful, but not too much so they feel uncomfortable. Value and respect go hand in hand. Some people are never shown they're valuable in their whole lives

  • @rizzia5091
    @rizzia5091 4 роки тому

    I love watching your videos🥺! They so entertaining and watching your facial expressions are brilliant 🔥🔥

  • @adrianmartinez7014
    @adrianmartinez7014 4 роки тому

    I really like your videos and watched most of them when I found them recently and was shocked at how good the advice was.

  • @amandaw3212
    @amandaw3212 4 роки тому +1

    Favourite UA-camr ever! I feel like I have met my best friend. I could talk to you all night.
    Come to London man. 🥳

  • @honeybeebettie
    @honeybeebettie 4 роки тому +1

    Amazing video as usual! Thank you so much for the great advice!! Your videos are truly a gold mine and I don't take any of them for granted!! See you on discord! The only server that i ever stuck with btw 🥰 🥰

  • @walterwhite003
    @walterwhite003 4 роки тому

    I'm already in a long-term relationship of several years but I find myself watching Anthony's videos because it's actually good dating advice. I wish it were mainstream when i I was younger.
    You're doing a good thing Anthony, I hope people, especially PUA people, find you and take your advice over shallow clickbaity, gimmicky dating advice.

  • @dragonflybtchbauer7655
    @dragonflybtchbauer7655 4 роки тому +5

    Eye contact is important, especially when across the room. However, the person needs to learn how to glance/ look NOT STARE. I also think it would be a good idea to provide an example of across the room and conversational. I'm a STARER when in conversation since I'm a lip reader bc I can't hear well but it doesn't come across as crazy, too intense.
    I think a combination of what both you said is a great idea. However, again I think a visual example of this would be best so that people know how to make great eye contact that isn't creepy and also isn't examining the persons body language so they can try to read that

  • @LivT04
    @LivT04 4 роки тому

    Simple to understand ways to be in the moment with potential romantic partners or just anyone! Be authentic and be in the moment. Great advice 🙏🏼

  • @Insert_channel_here
    @Insert_channel_here 4 роки тому

    This looks like one of their older videos. Good thing their channel has improved a little bit since then...
    Also, thanks for providing advice and information as you critique!

  • @kiwistuff4237
    @kiwistuff4237 4 роки тому +7

    Bro I do MACRO expressions and my mom will just laugh at my face when I talk to her... It's a lotta fun lol

  • @sapphireblue9209
    @sapphireblue9209 4 роки тому

    okay so I don't even want dating advice or anything but this video was so good that I'm hit the subscribe button af

  • @gloomyjackiie7927
    @gloomyjackiie7927 4 роки тому +2

    Thanks for this video, I'm not going to lie in the first few minutes of watching this I was worried that you were one of those dating gurus that were going to be way too into gender roles but I was surprised to see how good your advice was. I look forward to listening to your audiobook.

  • @valkyriesanborn189
    @valkyriesanborn189 4 роки тому

    Do you give personal lessons or work shops? I really need hands on training. What you said in this video was so enlighting and I already feel a little more empowered with this knowledge. You were describing how to have natural eye contact and I had a bit of a breakthrough. Thank you so much for your beneficial information.

  • @michaelneal3162
    @michaelneal3162 4 роки тому +8

    Hard facts of my life as translated based on what he said. I will be alone forever because I havent been happy in well over a decade

    • @kellycarlson1716
      @kellycarlson1716 4 роки тому +1

      Find another unhappy person. Usually happy people are repulsive to people who are unhappy.

  • @Rezzhuanne
    @Rezzhuanne 4 роки тому

    I love how he emphasizes that we should start from inside out... Very genuine... And it's free!

  • @DD-il1tf
    @DD-il1tf 4 роки тому +8

    You should do a video helping us understand if someone's attracted to us

  • @saadashraf86
    @saadashraf86 4 роки тому

    Love the way you articulated your points, learned a lot.

  • @shloka3915
    @shloka3915 4 роки тому

    Wouah. That was a lot more interesting than what I thought 😅. I don't know your chanel and I decided to watch this video only because I've seen a couple of Psych2go videos before, but I didn't expected you to have such a nice personality. Every advice you talk about is explain in a really smart way. Thank you ^^ (sorry if my english is ununderstable, I'm French so... I'm learning 😌)

    • @AnthonyRecenello
      @AnthonyRecenello  4 роки тому +1

      🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

  • @thijsdejong1520
    @thijsdejong1520 4 роки тому +7

    Hey Anthony,
    I'm interested to know how did you become a social development coach? Did you have to study something, besides from socializing trough people? At which point did you know you could help people with it?

  • @mezimyst1746
    @mezimyst1746 4 роки тому +2

    Hey Anthony! I don't know if the comment section would be the right place for this but I'm in a phase of total confusion and doubt.
    There's this one girl that I've been best friends with for atleast 3 to 4 years. And we get along pretty well. We've had moments where we would have a sort of "cry session" where we both console each other and give advice to one another bringing each other up. We always try to support and if no such "support" is needed, we still try and communicate with each other and hang out alot. So,
    Last year, she confessed to me at our village (we live in the same village lol) telling me that she really liked me and all and decided to hide that feeling because she was so scared of making things awkward. She knew that I was with another girl at that time but was so tired of hiding what she really felt about me. I proved it to her that it wouldn't be awkward and spent more time with her. Nothing changed and we would still have such a great time with each other. The "confession event" was brought 2 weeks later on accident in a conversation and so we decided and agreed upon each other that we wouldn't start a romantic relationship. Reason being that we fear of loosing each other. In present time,
    I decided to go to her house regularly (with social distancing of course) and we would talk alot about what's been going on through our lives. She's been with another guy which she's been dating only this 2020. I knew of it and actually helped him with his shyness and confess to her and all that "wingman" stuff.
    My question is this,
    Why do I suddenly feel attracted to her years later by just remembering our times together and such?
    Why do I feel sadness all of a sudden remembering that she has a relationship with another guy currently?
    I mean as I mentioned I helped the guy ALOT and became the messenger of these two people.
    I remember being so excited and happy knowing that they got together,
    But why now? Why do I feel a certain hint of sadness? Why of all times I suddenly became attracted to her even though I knew that she's with another guy? I support them alot but I still feel sad inside.
    And should I still confess to her? Right now or maybe when she's single again? Even if we agreed to not enter a romantic relationship a year ago?
    Thanks, and keep up the great content Anthony!
    I apologize if the story and or my question is a bit messy😅

  • @fayestardust
    @fayestardust 4 роки тому +86

    Ahhh, happiness. The ultimate goal. Like this if you’re happy.

    • @odinsutherin2880
      @odinsutherin2880 4 роки тому +4

      fayestardust I think there are more people that are sad 😂

    • @fayestardust
      @fayestardust 4 роки тому +5

      @@odinsutherin2880 It's definitely not the easiest thing in the world. I'm pretty content, but I still want things in life. That's good. That's purposeful, right? ;)

    • @DaJukezz
      @DaJukezz 4 роки тому +1

      I will come back to this later, and like this eventually. I will try not to forget it.

    • @fayestardust
      @fayestardust 4 роки тому +1

      Racoen I’ll hold you to that.

    • @itsmagdalenaaa
      @itsmagdalenaaa 4 роки тому +2

      **liking the comment while aware that i’m not happy** 🤪