An Introverts' Guide to Approaching Strangers
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- Опубліковано 13 кві 2020
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The funniest thing about the approach is the word itself. It even sounds creepy. APPROACH. Sounds like ENCROACH. I don't want anyone approaching anyone. When you are focused on simply being with like-minded, interesting people, you aren't going to be thinking about approaching. You will naturally be GRAVITATING towards the right people without even thinking about it.
This is how you take anxiety out of the approach. By giving it some PRESENCE and some PURPOSE. Which is coincidentally (not so coincidentally actually 🤣) the topics I obsess over in my free audiobook.
As you might be able to tell, I love the science of starting relationships. It's all I thought about during my 20s (aside from writing and playing music). And I'm so glad that I get to use UA-cam now to teach it to my subscribers every week.
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at last introverts getting the advice so they very much need but to introverted to ask. Thank you :)
Your advice usually goes way beyond romantic attraction. I really appreciate how applicable these insights are in the office and with friends. Keep up the great work
“ they are not a thing, people are not to be WON” Spoken like a real Man, thank you for reminding people of that.
I love how you pointed out that by planning to approach a person is also a plan to objectify them. Couldn’t agree more, we get so caught up by what to say to impress others that we end up missing the whole thing.
I like how you’re giving genuine advice on how to live a better life and not just being like those other youtubers that say shit like “women want you to say this“ or “do this one thing to be attractive to women“
I completely agree, the best connections are formed when people don’t have their guard up. Taking your mind off of having to talk to people and instead just existing and giving off good vibes makes such a difference! Great video!
I like the mindset of "Don't overthink, think less, do more, have common sense and be kind and happy"
Secretly listening to the other person's interest its really the key, 4 years ago, a had this girl classmate who was the leader of the class, and had a huge squad of friends, so i wanted to be friends with her too, she was so cool, and as soon as i saw she liked Shawn Mendes, i went " do you like shawn? I like it too!!" And two weeks from there, i was being invited to parties, birthdays, i was part of that big group of friends, and nowadays shes still my bestfriend. :)
this is one reason I'm glad I'm still in school, because it seems so much harder to meet people once you're out
Our boy in the striped pajamas giving us the advice we need. Thank you.
not necessarily looking for dating tips, i just watch all your vids because youre very entertaining, but i really think that you give great advice
Anthony: Maybe she likes The Strokes...
This is gold! As an introvert, I met guys I liked (and dated some) doing my favourite activities. It is way easier, it feels more organic and also you get to know the person in their real form. Even though I would go sometimes to nightclubs or a party, it wasn't the best setting for me to meet strangers (maybe some friends of friends)
As a person who naturally plans every single thing I say, this video has been very eye-opening for me. Thank you for making this
Thank you for the video man. Many people may feel ashamed to look for answers to these questions but this really opened my eyes to better socializing experiences I could be having.
I find it very easy get excited about randoms conversations and think about things I’d like to say, but this is where being shy comes in and I just CAN’T start talking to strangers
Late to this vid but just wanted to say thanks for giving exactly the info us introverts need to hear! As someone with social anxiety I stress a lot about “approaching” people - I feel I often put them on pedestals as I try to “earn” their attention. But this advice was really calming and takes the pressure out of social interactions - you reminded me all my strongest friendships were formed naturally because we had common interests or gravitated toward each other, before I had a chance to say “ok I’m going to go speak to this person” and stress myself out. Just discovered your channel and loving your vids!
I 100% agree. I joined a dodgeball league 7 years ago and it changed my life. I used to be the shyest person ever and had no friends. Now while I am still shy at times, at dodgeball I am super confident and I have so many friends from there.
Always look forward to the uploads! Also just super helpful Anthony. Something super down to earth about how you explain things. The part about “performing”, how approaching as a “manly” guy or even considering an approach style is perforative. Not completely being yourself. I related to this with more than just talking to girls but just with anyone really. Another great video
Anthony! As a 20 year old introvert with a lot of extrovert and outgoing friends your advices made me brave enough to approach somebody next time when im out with them when all this will be over . Thanks and i hope you the best! Love from Hungary