#24 - My Coming Out Story (Part 1)
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- Опубліковано 29 вер 2024
- I've been meaning to do this video for a while now. I figured now is as good a time as any to share my personal coming out story. It is my hope that someone out there will be able to relate to my video and realize that they aren't alone...
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Mothers crack me up when they act as though they did not know their son is gay, they know they just don't want to believe their son is Gay! No one can judge just love people!!!!!! Can you do my hair?
Same with my step mom. My step brother was never exactly in the closet. I didn't realize that his mom didn't know until he officially "came out". I thought it was just mutually understood. I was a lot younger than him, didn't talk to him nearly as much as his mom, but I knew he was gay within the first 5 minutes of meeting him.
I think a lot of older black women have absolutely no gaydar or believe that being gay is something that "only whites do". I also think black women's lack of gaydar is the reason why so many black men can get away with being "down low" without women suspecting. Black women hold on to the stereotype of "hyper masculine black men" worse than whites people, (not that a gay man can't be masculine but black women identify masculinity with heterosexuality). So the idea of a black man being gay doesn't compute or they believe that he is making a choice just to piss people off.
It took years for my dad and step mom to finally accept my step bro. It's hard for me to get along with them due to how they treated him. And my step bro was an adult man instead of a teen. To treat a teen that way is so inexcusable
My aunt was upset at me because she thought i told the church her son was gay 😂😫 The church knew he was gay, and she knew he was gay before he knew he was gay.
It takes a brave person to do what you did by coming out, knowing that some people would have problems with it. I wish you happiness and peace in your life and relationships. You're a young man, so you still have a lot of life to live. Live it with no regrets!! God loves us all (straight or gay) and don't let anyone try to tell you different. Thanks for sharing your story!!
You are a beautiful person.
You didn't mention your dad. How did he react to your coming out? I think blacks struggle with homosexuality due to the strict religious background. There is a documentary called The New Black which I encourage everyone to watch. It deals with the attitudes towards homosexuality in the black community.
Takes courage. Bless you brother
Very strong person
Love you thanks for sharing! !!!
Cont... Please don't take offense to this but I think your mom was in denial because I knew from the first hair video I saw you in. It doesn't matter to your subscribers! I love your videos and your personality. Keep your head up.
Thanks for sharing! You are so brave! My mom had that same expression and reaction when I told her that I was pregnant.
This reply is very touching to me...i'm watching it in 2013 and crying...be strong Narada ... my love and support to you...your new auntie from Maryland...
Thanks for sharing your coming out story. You are beautiful. :-)
I'm proud of you for accepting who you are. But I really don't care who you love. The last thing I think about is who someone else is having sex with, be it race, weight, color, gender, or orientation. Just be happy.
I know this completely off topic but how do you keep your minis stretched out without them unraveling? I spent hours mini twisting my hair and before I went to bed I dampened theme and them braiding them to stretch them. They started to unravel in 2 days. I have to do them over. What am I doing wrong? And about your coming out dont let what others think get you down. Its about what is in your heart. You are a good person whether you are gay or not and that is what matter.
typo in line 4 'NOPT' = 'NOT'
God knew Narada's personality before he was even born. You may choose to believe it or not.That's your problem...He belongs to God no matter what you think or say. The bible says this & that you always quote. But men wrote the bible and fed it to us.I am a scholar; I know that there is no righteous person in this world. We are all saved by grace. The Catholic church is a clear example that Gays have been in existence since time begun. You are answered. PEACE OUT!
The words "CHOICE & LIFESTYLE" must never be used when talking about gay people b'cuz it is neither. The pathology that drives our sexuality is so deeply embedded within our psyche & determined by chromosomes. (get it?). A lifestyle is an indulgence driven by choices; BEING GAY IS NOPT AN INDULGENCE it is a PERSONALITY; You and I are straight people; heterosexuality drives our PERSONALITY. Narada is gay; homosexuality drives his PERSONALITY. DRUG USE IS A CHOICE BEING GAY IS A NATURAL TRAIT.
You shouldn't use the word "CHOICE" and "LIFESTYE".It is not a choice and a lifestyle.You must realize that the pathology that drives our sexuality is deep seated within our genetic makeup, which is defined by chromosomes. He is a gay person; you & I are straight. Being straight is not a lifestyle & being gay is not either.It is just how we come into the world. A lifestyle is an indulgence and has nothing to do with a person's sexuality. Crime is a lifestyle; being gay is not.Mind your words.
A lot of these single mothers have no idea what they do to their sons when raising them alone. I don't know you or your mom, but I can almost guarantee that she raised you in the same manner she raised your sisters, but then wonders why your gay. I don't condone homosexuality, but it is not my place to say what is right or what is wrong because none of us are perfect. Stay strong and continue to look to God.
Im also a christian and Im pretty sure you know what the Bible says. But the truth is they are so many other things condemned in the bible that we still do (tatoos,fornication etc.) so I am not in the position to judge you, nor is anyone else claiming to be a christian. God is love an thats all that matters, not my opinion nor anyone elses! salvation is individual, so seek HIM first. What I can say howvr is that you have a good heart and you seem like a real cool person. Stay Bless! new subby xx
First off, it does not matter what your sexual orientation is. It's just matters what kind of person you are on the inside. From watching your videos I can tell that you are a likable person. I would love having a friend like you. I'm sorry your mom didn't take the news well. I feel bad cause you look so sad in the video. Just be who you are meant to be. God loves all his children. No one chooses to be gay. If it was a choice then people would chose being straight to make their lives easier rig
You are right. God made NO mistakes! But saying that anyone is PERFECT is a complete fallacy. Remember that God sent His son Jesus to die on the cross for the sins of ALL mankind. If anyone was perfect we would not need Jesus. We All NEED Jesus Christ as our personal Savior. He took away the sins of the world that day God raised Him from the dead. We ALL need Jesus.
On some of them I did and some I didn't do the rope twist. Some of the twist held up to moisturizing and some of them didn't. After taking 2 days to do min twist my hair doing spring break I am quite disappointing that I have to redo some. I guess I will stop twisting the hair as I wrap it around. Thanks for the comment.
its okay boo dont,..... u dont have to prove anything to us. It is none of our buisnesswatever goes on in ur life goes on in ur life. If ur gay it is ok. I personally do not applaud u for ur choice of lyfestyle but i am workin on my judging.....................god bless and i hope u and ur mothers relationship can grow stronger each day
if u are gay it should not affect who u are as a person.i am a person that likes and loves to hang out wit ppl that are different from me.it is not like oh he or she gay or lesbian and u r going to be the same.that is not true i believe god made different relationships for a reason but god bless u xoxo
I can respect your honesty. What I despise me are those who live the lie knowing full well the are truly interested in the same sex. People get hurt when u double dip. However, Those without sins cast the first stone. I can't even throw dirt.. Njoy your life the way u see fit. Peace & Blessings :)
I say we are perfect because to think that we aren't (when God is the one who created us) would mean God made a mistake. I don't think God makes mistakes and you . . . are . . . perfect. (That's my opinion)
You are perfect because when God made you he made no mistake. You are exactly how God wanted you to be. If anyone cares to differ then they are saying God made a mistake, and in religion God makes "no mistakes"... Please. Do you boo!
Lol Nah there are times when I wish I has looser hair. I got 4c hair. very thick and tightly coiled. I am 3 yrs natural, a mother of 6 and a nursing student. When I do my hair I want it to last because I sure don't have time to do my hair.
Good for you about coming out. I don't condone homosexuality, but I do not judge because I'm not God. I do believe that people should be treated equally and should be honest with themselves. Stay strong and remember to be true to yourself. Good Luck!
You are so cool! You're my favorite person on UA-cam by far for your fantastic, professional and thoughtful hair videos and your discussions concerning the gay community-great food for thought for this girl who recently learned first hand the complexity of sexuality after a brief relationship with a down low man :-( please please continue to cultivate your talents because your voice is one that this world needs!
thank you for sharing such a vulnerable time in your life. Im sorry for your negative experience coming out to your mother. you have grown into such an emotionally intelligent and intellectual person . I pray for your continued healing and success!!!
Thank you so much
Wow my cousin came out and man he had it easier than you Godbless you keep seeking God and don't lose sight . Your hair is soo long now!!
It bothers me that so many young people are still traumatized just for being honest about who they love. The good news? it's getting better, not fast enough, but better. Now YOU are doing your part, for that youngster who may be saved by your honesty and courage. Bless you!
Blessings to you. You are so brave to tell your story with such honesty, truth, and sincerity. I hope that you get all of the love and acceptance you deserve and then some to make up for all of the pain and rejection. More power and strength to you!
This is just like my friend..he is gay and his mama was mad and made him see a sociologist..
God is a deliverer.. I'm sorry for what happen to you as a child. .
never learnt 'if you have nothing good to say, dont say anything at all'???
why didn't u just wait until u got out of high school...????
I don't think the questions you said your mother ask wasn't crazy, she wanted to know. Don't feel bad I don't know anyone personally who's parents took it well. I think it's something a parent has to deal for a while with the news their child has told them. I personally think some parents only see sex when their child tells them they're gay & not the feelings they have.
No her tone was malicious, hurtful, and emotionally abusive. There are many parents that takes the news well because they understand the vulnerability that a child experiences coming out to them. When you have a child, you should love them unconditionally, even when you are in conflict with them. She kicked me out the house and treated me like i was worst than the garbage she leaves on the curb. There is absolutely no excuse for that. This is a tough conversation to have but it's only hard when the parent makes it difficult.
those are the kinky twist he did from the last video
So sorry you had to deal with that.
Thank you for your story...can I be your sister?
Im so srry r her baby ur Human
You are your own person. You have free will. Your life. Your choices. I don't have to agree with your lifestyle to still love you as a person. I'm glad you still believe in God and pray that your family can learn to have total unconditional love for you as a son and a sibling. Btw, I love your hair videos. Only you can stop you from being you!!!
wow u are such a strong person. Even though I do not know you, I am so proud of you that got through this difficult stage of your life and have now taken control of your own life. :-)
Thank You ♡
For Sharing Your Thoughts With Us ☆
No One Can Judged You But Father God In Jesus Name Amen ♡
Love And Peace ♡
Be Blessed ☆
Your hair is beautiful. You're beautiful inside and out. You're so courageous and fearless for this. I hope your relationship with your family gets better over time. Family should be there when noone else is. I'm praying for you, and Your family. Be proud of who you are. You're amazing! :D
Wow!!! You are an amazing person. To allow us to hear your story..... well that takes alot of courage... thank you and know that you are a special person ... blessing to you and your family.
If being gay is what you wanna do no one has any place to judge you!! One of my favorite and bestest (if thats a word) friends is gay and I LOVE LOVE LOVE him!!! He is a better friend then some of the females I know. I believe its more about who you are and your personality over if your straight or not. Being a great person is what matters to me!!! It takes a great amount of courage to do what you did and I am proud of you for having the strength... many wish to do what you did!!!!
I must say that I only came to your videos to watch your kinky twists hair tutorials and I was drawn in because of your personality. You seem so cool, loyal and down to earth. After watching this video, all I can say is you are amazing and you should be proud of yourself and feel so strong after all of what you have endured. I hope that things will continue to get better for you and I wish that you lived in my area (Brooklyn, NY). I want to be your friend! lol :)
I really enjoyed your videos, and whether you're gay or not you are a very good person that is what matter most, and I don't judge people of how they live, so don't let no one get you down, just hang in there and keep doing what you do most. God bless you
You are beautiful I would be honored to call you my grandson I have a 16 year old grandson btw and I am grateful for your videos
first you have to love yourself never give up on your dreams hold your head up and be proud of who you is take all of your prayers to god without god in my life i don't know where i would be right now i am 50 yours i am not gay but we all have been through something i don't have many friends i don't get out much but i am happy with my life by the way i am a natural hair person for 15 months now i love your videos keep the hair styles coming keep up the good work love the kinky twists
I hate that you had to go thru all of that! I don't get it people except drug heads, alcoholics, and abusers in their family but treat their gay relatives so bad! We all sin and we all have flaws God loves us all! I pray things continue to get better for u and your family u seem to b a very talented nice person! Continue to be who u need to be for you!
From experience no, not all families accept drug users or anyone for that matter who doesnt fit their idea of whats acceptable. They shunned me..gossiped about me ...and all around judged me the moment they found out i had an addictiom problem.
You're welcome my lovely. And thank you for replying, i wasn't expecting that but it's made me smile! I'm actually doing my hair today and even though i've done kinkys before i wanna try and get mine a bit more like yours so i will definitely be checking out video #21 & #22. Thank you. Much luv to you :-)
Keep being you boo, be proud of you. My daughter came out to me last December (she was 14 then) and she already knew I didn't care about her sexual orientation because I to am unusual. I told her she is still my child regardless if she into girls, guys or both. I support her in all she does. I am glad that now your mom is accepting of it now.
Be who you are. Friend. Dont let people decide your path. I love you for taking a stand. No'!!!! Theres Nothing wrong with you. Because God dont make junk. Amen
Thank you for sharing that. I have two sons, if one of them came to me and told me that, I would let him know that I love him and that would never come between us. You are a beautiful person. God bless
Jerri
My heart goes out to you. This is one of the saddest stories I've heard. However, regardless of what has happened, your background/upbringing and strength and depth of character have molded you into this wonderful person who shares his life through videos with us. Stay blessed, strong and courageous. FYI, you have beautiful eyes!
amen i understand now what this video was about......u stay blessed and always kno that God loves u....
Omg ,, you are so strong! I'm glad to hear everything is getting better . Stay strong !!!! Can't nobody judge you ..
Ok, I knew but this is the first time I have seen this video, and I like you just the way you are :)
...oh and P.S. I have enjoyed MANY of this young man's hair videos. Stay blessed and encouraged in The Lord everyone:)
Really appreciate your story, You were so brave & I commend u for that. Much love 2 u.
Thank you for sharing your story ! Thank you for posting !!!
I like your hair. I'ma try and do my hair like this :-)
Hey...I am late with replying and just subscribed to your channel. Your hair is gorgeous!!!! Also, God loves you unconditionally and unfailingly. Isn't that great??? Be blessed.
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I'm glad that you shared you story. Thank you.
Had to watch after the 600 video
I like your hair in this vid
Damn thats effed up
Love this 💜
Honestly, Your sexuality is your choice. Being true to yourself is most important. I could tell when I just watched your kinky twist tutorial, but I wasn't watching the vid to judge you. You have a talent to do natural hair styles, so I applaud you for that! I'm sorry that you had to go thru such things;I'm sure coming out is a hard thing to do, esp to your family.....but things will work out. :)
I applaud you in your strength and perseverance! I do not agree with the homosexual lifestyle because of my faith. However, I do believe that we are to love each other and treat others as we would like to be treated. I wish you the best and pray that you continue in your faith with God! Peace & many blessings unto you!