Expectations are natural Demanding they be met is where the problem starts But some should, so theres another problem Killing complexity does kill problems because it just kills everything, so it's no real solution and is only a voice of those who resent the burden that comes with complexity without appreciation of the beauty it brings
This was one of those lectures that helped change my life. I made a rule as a result: whoever starts an argument is at fault. That’s one of many, but a common way to spot mine and anyone else’s propensity toward evil. Best of luck to you!
@@tedbkd1 interesting, can you share more of your rules (of course only if you dont mind). Because im having trouble with someone in my life who im supposed to love unconditionally and i love that person but i dont know if im forcing myself to do so or if truly do. I feel resentment towards that person and i think i make it clear because of the many confrotation,fights or discussions that we had. But i dont know how to let go of my resentment, i dont wish ill on that person but i just want the acknowlegment of their wrong doings (i dont care about an apology to me, i care more about how that person treated and treats people) , i just hate when that person dismiss the way i feel. In the end i just end up confused and dont know what else to do
I've been searching for the video where he says something along the lines of: "you resent someone who is more competent than you even if he doesn't do anything against you, because the one better than you judges you (or makes you feel judged) by its very being". It's like searching for a golden needle in a haystack.
@@FrontWitness Yes I have. It's on the Jordan B Peterson official channel. Find the video titled "2017 Maps of Meaning 04: Marionettes and Individuals (Part 3)" and start watching the part that starts after 53:44.
I found this video whilst in a terrible mood triggered by resent & anger which actually calmed me down and helped me to analyse my thoughts. to bettering myself and self development, thank you :)
Out of all the videos I have watched pertaining to resentment. This is by far, THE BEST ONE. Also, with a hint of understanding how it manifests, how to handle it & how to prevent it in the future.
Sometimes, when listening to Jordan Peterson. He's says something so profound that my mind is still breaking down the complexities. I end up having to rewind his speeches. Just to catch up on what I missed. His speeches are so insightful.
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my UA-cam channel 8 months ago about self development. Now I have 783 subs and > 300 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.
One of the craziest things was when Jordan said something like if you just enter every conversation and you’re really in the conversation, the person will sometimes end up saying something they didn’t even plan to say and it’s important information - and I have seen that soooooooooo much since then hahaha
The first 6 minutes of this video are absolutely irrelevant to the video title. He doesn't even start speaking about Resentment till around 6:30 For anyone watching this, and wanting to actually listen to Peterson talk about Resentment, skip the first 6 minutes.
I am resentful. My mom abused me as a child because she had me with another man that's not her husband. She pretends that I'm her husband's child and makes me pretend too. If I stand up an say to the world who I am its shames me for being a bastard child. And my mom an all her relatives including my uncle who is my biological dad tell me to keep quiet an go along with her lie. I just got dumped by woman because she said my stories of my childhood make her sleep bad sometimes. To give even more detail to this insanity I'm white but my moms husband is black so no one believes my moms story that I'm her husband's child. But they all shame me if I don't play along. Currently I'm disowned by all relatives and 100% alone. So what am I supposed to stand up too? The world? My family again? My mom?
Stand up to yourself first. Stop putting yourself down. It’s something I’m working on as well but life can be incredibly hard for people. For you, for me, and for billions of other people. We may be surrounded by people who seem better off than we are and maybe they even are but I guarantee you’re better off than most of the world. I’m the farthest thing from an expert on doing this but I’m trying and you should to. Maybe it would help to tell your mother/uncle and any other relative how they’ve wronged you. But to rise up at all stop pushing yourself down and then maybe you can pull the other people off who are putting you down.
Like he said, you know how to hurt yourself better than anyone else. Stop that and stand up. Once you’ve done that you face everything that comes your path
1) Be cognizant of your emotions: Practice identifying emotions in your stream of thought. Think "I am experiencing x emotion", and know that these emotions don't necessarily have to impact your actions. Negative and destructive emotions are not who you are. 2) Find your passion/what your good at and excel at it: Find what you are good at and work towards becoming better at it. This will also help build confidence and self worth. 3) Be confident in yourself: Know that you have the ability to improve yourself. 4) Find a Positive Community: This can be physical or digital 5) Be Grateful for what you do have: 1 in 8 people on earth don't have an available source of water. Countless African children were stolen from their families and are forcibly made into brutal killers addicted to drugs. 6) Recognize that incremental improvement is the best way forward: Rome wasn't built in a day 7) Recognize that struggle, if properly managed, can promote success. "The things that make you amazing are your abilities to overcome adversity. All my favorite people, they all came from a very tumultuous childhood. They all came from turmoil." -Joe Rogan
Personally, I would cut your family off. They sound toxic. Establishing healthy boundaries is the first step to your recovery and building a healthy life of your own.
Tell your whole family about your biological father and end the stupid lie, start taking care of yourself and stand up fo yourself when others abuse you enough that they won't bother you again.
Thank you for the lecture, Dr. Peterson. Just found out my ex has a new partner so this lecture has helped a lot. Keep up the good work and best of luck for your next book.
Liam I empathize so bless. Been down this same road as you. By listening to Peterson and other philosophy psychology and spiritualist types is the beginning of healing and finally healing this resentment among others.
I have told my mother several times how I don't like the way she speaks to me compared to my sister and her response will always be on the defensive, saying "you always want to start an argument" like wtf... I just told you I don't want to spoken to like that... and she wonders why i talk to my dad more!
I deal with this with my dad. He weaponizes what I say against me, dismisses my points when talking about things, and diminishes successful moments in my life that are blessings. Explaining this to him is pointless, and it's definitely casting pearls to swine. You can tell when someone treats you with respect, rather than respecting and loving you for who you are.
sorry to hear that. medication might help if you can accept that. its hard to function in this world and your health will degrade if you cant be free of the stress
I wish I could offer this great exercise or class that could help you, but, unfortunately I am in the same boat. Sometimes I question why because, I can see other people that are happy, and I know it really comes down to perception. They perceive things positively and I negatively. I'm not a stupid person, yet struggle with the idea of seeing what the problem is and yet not being able to change. I'm a very humble person so this next statement if you think about it is not me boasting about myself it is really a dig (I had to say that because it just bugs me when people talk about how great, or smart, or attractive they are, I feel that's other people's job to judge that) I feel like I'm too smart givin the tools I have to get through life.
“Do not let the sun set while you are still angry.” A spirit of forgiveness gives you an opportunity to approach your problems with a better mind-set. Aw20#1
Because that will accomplish absolutely nothing maybe? It's just some nastiness in your head right, what difference does it make, especially to the evil people in question. Recognize the resentment, do something about it, or move on. While you're at it make sure you're absolutely sure they are evil, or that much more evil than you are, that they deserve resentment in the first place. All far easier said than done, I know, I'm only just starting to even attempt to put this into practice.
@@polypus74 Personal resentment, anger and hatred likely drove a lot of peoples will to fight. Without such emotion they may well have not fought as hard or as long. Without resentment vengeance cannot occur. Without vengeance, personal evil done to one can never be repaid.
@@someonesomeone25 That may be true to some degree, but I'm not convinced it is necessarily the primary driving force in a will to fight. You'd have to actually show me the data basically, or else it's just conjecture. Is a patriotic call to duty, resentment? Many soldiers don't even fight for any ideals at all, or lose them shortly after witnessing warfare, they fight on just in order not to die, or they fight because they have made strong social bonds, and so it becomes tribal. Bottom line though, is that resentment eats away at your soul, so if you want desperately to hold onto it, via. some clever intellectual maneuver (been there done that), believe me,yeah just a stranger on the internet, it's a bad idea. over and out, and good luck to you
It’s impossible to take this action with a bully using micro aggressions against you that are racial and play on sound. They can simply say they were using innocent words. It’s the perfect crime. It’s toxic beyond belief. And as someone who is not able to strike low blows - I can’t find peoples weaknesses - I have no defence. It’s a major issue.
I'm biased towards transgender people catfishing me and their lgbt friends apparently involved in their initial scheme... So if wasting my time and leading me on for long while i was in a vulnerable stage due to a prior toxic relationship which had me lose my job and all .. I feel often like they're still around which wouldnt surprise me anyway.. If me hating the guts out of those abominations and their community was what they wanted they got it, I doubt it however, but leading me on in the first place hate is the least I can return right? Let's see
how were you catfished? adultery? why generalize people? its lazy thinking and leads you to wasting your life fighting le culture wars to distract from the government manipulating you and using your money for MIC terrorism. the angrier you get the easier you are to deceive and manipulate. shrimple as
Talking to your enemy is stupid because they will just lie to you in hate. Trusting lies makes you even more stupid and then you will be confused in stupidity.
I've always seen it as he is actively conversing with his audience, formulating the right sentences and analogies, and everynow and then he goes off on a different branch of topic which he himself has mentioned his proclivity to do so. Over the years he has improved, but overall it never appeared to me that he over talks, he just thinks out loud to iron out the creases. As a student I appreciate teachers who are willing to delve deeper into the subjects they teach so his teaching style is refreshing and I'd add needed.
What a whole lot of nonsense,erratic topic jumping,inserting random mild Insults,worthless Information about fictional things and making unfounded claims.
It has been said that expectations are a precursor to resentment.
Strongly underestimated comment
Expectations are natural
Demanding they be met is where the problem starts
But some should, so theres another problem
Killing complexity does kill problems because it just kills everything, so it's no real solution and is only a voice of those who resent the burden that comes with complexity without appreciation of the beauty it brings
How are expectations and hopes different?
Same with assumptions. Especially in relation to other people.
@@ect3208 Expectation=This will happen. Hope=It would be nice if this happened
That guy explained to me in literally 5 min why I am so resentful towards someone and offered a REAL solution . Dang.
This was one of those lectures that helped change my life. I made a rule as a result: whoever starts an argument is at fault. That’s one of many, but a common way to spot mine and anyone else’s propensity toward evil. Best of luck to you!
@@tedbkd1 interesting, can you share more of your rules (of course only if you dont mind). Because im having trouble with someone in my life who im supposed to love unconditionally and i love that person but i dont know if im forcing myself to do so or if truly do. I feel resentment towards that person and i think i make it clear because of the many confrotation,fights or discussions that we had. But i dont know how to let go of my resentment, i dont wish ill on that person but i just want the acknowlegment of their wrong doings (i dont care about an apology to me, i care more about how that person treated and treats people) , i just hate when that person dismiss the way i feel. In the end i just end up confused and dont know what else to do
I don’t think he talks about resentment until like 6:30
@@alvaradoac21 no its the whole thing, just because there are big words doesnt mean it should scare you lmfao
@@tedbkd1dude really said any body who doesn’t agree with me is evil…. You missed the whole point my guy
I have a fear that these videos will get lost; I will need these videos throughout my life
Use a journal
Convert them to mp3 with an online converter.
This is my vitamin drink
why would it be lost?
took me 1.5 years to understand half of what he said. I'm glad I'm told this.
That's incredibly quick, I'm proud of you hazo
Dude same here .
amagin it was 10 years.....
I think I understand it, but I don't know for sure... Congrats on getting there!
Resentment starts at 6:30
Thank you
Resentment starts from the first moment your parents tell you "No".
@@KyriosHeptagrammaton Damn son hahaha
Hahah Thank you so much. This is how my family says goodbye. It takes them 20 minutes.
I was not understanding anything. But now it makes sense. Thank you!
I've been searching for the video where he says something along the lines of: "you resent someone who is more competent than you even if he doesn't do anything against you, because the one better than you judges you (or makes you feel judged) by its very being". It's like searching for a golden needle in a haystack.
Have you found it?
@@FrontWitness Yes I have. ua-cam.com/video/bV16NEWld8Q/v-deo.htmlsi=HisCjg8TgoTPBoH2&t=3222
@@FrontWitness Yes I have. It's on the Jordan B Peterson official channel. Find the video titled "2017 Maps of Meaning 04: Marionettes and Individuals (Part 3)" and start watching the part that starts after 53:44.
@@SuayipEdelli God bless you bro thank you so much
I found this video whilst in a terrible mood triggered by resent & anger which actually calmed me down and helped me to analyse my thoughts. to bettering myself and self development, thank you :)
How has it gone? Have you noticed a change for the better?
Out of all the videos I have watched pertaining to resentment. This is by far, THE BEST ONE. Also, with a hint of understanding how it manifests, how to handle it & how to prevent it in the future.
Thank you Jordan Peterson ❤
Sometimes, when listening to Jordan Peterson. He's says something so
profound that my mind is still breaking down the complexities. I end up having to rewind his speeches. Just to catch up on what I missed. His speeches are so insightful.
God bless this man I’m genuinely perplexed how he gives all this crucial info for free
imagine beng late to a Jordan Peterson taught class
compared to my old drunk addict psychopath middle-school teacher hes like an angel
I had this thought recently I would run to the class
Good thing he records it
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my UA-cam channel 8 months ago about self development. Now I have 783 subs and > 300 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.
ggwp
One of the craziest things was when Jordan said something like if you just enter every conversation and you’re really in the conversation, the person will sometimes end up saying something they didn’t even plan to say and it’s important information - and I have seen that soooooooooo much since then hahaha
The first 6 minutes of this video are absolutely irrelevant to the video title. He doesn't even start speaking about Resentment till around 6:30
For anyone watching this, and wanting to actually listen to Peterson talk about Resentment, skip the first 6 minutes.
Thank you
It's true because I was listening to the first miniutes before I read this message and I even forgot what I clicked for.
Thanks for the info, man! Much appreciated it!
good ol Jordan Peterson tangents
God forbid people have to cultivate an attention span longer than a stack of eggs.
I am resentful. My mom abused me as a child because she had me with another man that's not her husband. She pretends that I'm her husband's child and makes me pretend too. If I stand up an say to the world who I am its shames me for being a bastard child. And my mom an all her relatives including my uncle who is my biological dad tell me to keep quiet an go along with her lie. I just got dumped by woman because she said my stories of my childhood make her sleep bad sometimes. To give even more detail to this insanity I'm white but my moms husband is black so no one believes my moms story that I'm her husband's child. But they all shame me if I don't play along. Currently I'm disowned by all relatives and 100% alone. So what am I supposed to stand up too? The world? My family again? My mom?
Stand up to yourself first. Stop putting yourself down. It’s something I’m working on as well but life can be incredibly hard for people. For you, for me, and for billions of other people. We may be surrounded by people who seem better off than we are and maybe they even are but I guarantee you’re better off than most of the world. I’m the farthest thing from an expert on doing this but I’m trying and you should to. Maybe it would help to tell your mother/uncle and any other relative how they’ve wronged you. But to rise up at all stop pushing yourself down and then maybe you can pull the other people off who are putting you down.
Like he said, you know how to hurt yourself better than anyone else. Stop that and stand up. Once you’ve done that you face everything that comes your path
1) Be cognizant of your emotions: Practice identifying emotions in your stream of thought. Think "I am experiencing x emotion", and know that these emotions don't necessarily have to impact your actions. Negative and destructive emotions are not who you are.
2) Find your passion/what your good at and excel at it: Find what you are good at and work towards becoming better at it. This will also help build confidence and self worth.
3) Be confident in yourself: Know that you have the ability to improve yourself.
4) Find a Positive Community: This can be physical or digital
5) Be Grateful for what you do have: 1 in 8 people on earth don't have an available source of water. Countless African children were stolen from their families and are forcibly made into brutal killers addicted to drugs.
6) Recognize that incremental improvement is the best way forward: Rome wasn't built in a day
7) Recognize that struggle, if properly managed, can promote success.
"The things that make you amazing are your abilities to overcome adversity. All my favorite people, they all came from a very tumultuous childhood. They all came from turmoil." -Joe Rogan
Personally, I would cut your family off. They sound toxic. Establishing healthy boundaries is the first step to your recovery and building a healthy life of your own.
Tell your whole family about your biological father and end the stupid lie, start taking care of yourself and stand up fo yourself when others abuse you enough that they won't bother you again.
Thank you for the lecture, Dr. Peterson. Just found out my ex has a new partner so this lecture has helped a lot. Keep up the good work and best of luck for your next book.
Liam I empathize so bless. Been down this same road as you. By listening to Peterson and other philosophy psychology and spiritualist types is the beginning of healing and finally healing this resentment among others.
wow, wish I had a class where I just got good advice
I still come back to JP
I have told my mother several times how I don't like the way she speaks to me compared to my sister and her response will always be on the defensive, saying "you always want to start an argument" like wtf... I just told you I don't want to spoken to like that... and she wonders why i talk to my dad more!
hug
I deal with this with my dad.
He weaponizes what I say against me, dismisses my points when talking about things, and diminishes successful moments in my life that are blessings.
Explaining this to him is pointless, and it's definitely casting pearls to swine.
You can tell when someone treats you with respect, rather than respecting and loving you for who you are.
You mom is a bitch I can relate
this video is so powerful...i never saw it from this perspective..thank you
I have become deeply bitter and resentful in life. I can't snap out of it. I feel trapped in my own anger. I don't know what to do.
sorry to hear that. medication might help if you can accept that. its hard to function in this world and your health will degrade if you cant be free of the stress
Self improvement is the answer to resentment.
I wish I could offer this great exercise or class that could help you, but, unfortunately I am in the same boat. Sometimes I question why because, I can see other people that are happy, and I know it really comes down to perception. They perceive things positively and I negatively. I'm not a stupid person, yet struggle with the idea of seeing what the problem is and yet not being able to change. I'm a very humble person so this next statement if you think about it is not me boasting about myself it is really a dig (I had to say that because it just bugs me when people talk about how great, or smart, or attractive they are, I feel that's other people's job to judge that) I feel like I'm too smart givin the tools I have to get through life.
We all do. Especially young men
I would never show up to that class late. lol
Where does the part about resentment start? I'm beginning to feel resentful.
“Do not let the sun set while you are still angry.”
A spirit of forgiveness gives you an opportunity to approach your problems with a better mind-set.
Aw20#1
At the end when the face thumbnail popped up I thought it was one of the students turning around and I was so confused for a solid minute
Kudos to the camera man too.
That's a really good call. 100% agree.
Brilliantly explained...
3:53 woh woh, you're never late to Dr Peterson's class!!
Stand for yourself.. Don't let the world crush you.. Don't be resentful.. Take care❤
Just got an email rejection of an internship but I am doing my best to assum that and not feel resentful
You ve got that internship ?
@@A011010N I found a much better offer I am doing my best and I hope I get accepted this time
Good luck with the next one.
@@fancyaristocrat7450 Thanks a lot
Learning about Freud made me extremely uncomfortable 😅
Feeling the same. Being a young white male in this society is extremely difficult
6:30
I can’t listen to him without falling asleep. It’s too much like school. I like more formal like using less bigger words and to the pony faster.
7:00
They just talk to people who think the same way, and then they just stay stupid.
Who are they
@@lucasinator the subjects JP is referring to
what is the full lecture for this?
Found it for you: ua-cam.com/video/wLc_MC7NQek/v-deo.html
The full video?
9:14 yeaaaaaaah
What if you do unto others as you wish would have been done to you?
What? You mean do you unto others as they would do onto you? Smart. Intertribe mentality.
Listening to JP is like opening a pressure relief valve for a pressure bomb that's about to explode.
Love the information, but he needs to take a breather. :)
Whats the original video this was taken from?
what is the original source of this clip, please?
Ok..so the solution is?
Let go of your resentments and start taking responsibility for your life.
Why should I stop resenting evil people?
Because that will accomplish absolutely nothing maybe? It's just some nastiness in your head right, what difference does it make, especially to the evil people in question. Recognize the resentment, do something about it, or move on. While you're at it make sure you're absolutely sure they are evil, or that much more evil than you are, that they deserve resentment in the first place. All far easier said than done, I know, I'm only just starting to even attempt to put this into practice.
@@polypus74 But if I let go of resentment, then havent they truly won?
@@someonesomeone25 Is it resentment or victory in warfare which ensured Hitler lost? Really pretty straight forward stuff here.
@@polypus74 Personal resentment, anger and hatred likely drove a lot of peoples will to fight. Without such emotion they may well have not fought as hard or as long.
Without resentment vengeance cannot occur. Without vengeance, personal evil done to one can never be repaid.
@@someonesomeone25 That may be true to some degree, but I'm not convinced it is necessarily the primary driving force in a will to fight. You'd have to actually show me the data basically, or else it's just conjecture. Is a patriotic call to duty, resentment? Many soldiers don't even fight for any ideals at all, or lose them shortly after witnessing warfare, they fight on just in order not to die, or they fight because they have made strong social bonds, and so it becomes tribal. Bottom line though, is that resentment eats away at your soul, so if you want desperately to hold onto it, via. some clever intellectual maneuver (been there done that), believe me,yeah just a stranger on the internet, it's a bad idea. over and out, and good luck to you
Honestly, who would turn up late to a Jordan Peterson lecture ? (3.51)
why would you use dots?
Kill the Dragon in its Lair before it comes into the Village and Terrorizes you
It’s impossible to take this action with a bully using micro aggressions against you that are racial and play on sound. They can simply say they were using innocent words. It’s the perfect crime. It’s toxic beyond belief. And as someone who is not able to strike low blows - I can’t find peoples weaknesses - I have no defence. It’s a major issue.
All the late people walking in …
What's in the cave precious? GOLLUM!
Resentment it leads to, yessss, GOLLUM!
I'm biased towards transgender people catfishing me and their lgbt friends apparently involved in their initial scheme... So if wasting my time and leading me on for long while i was in a vulnerable stage due to a prior toxic relationship which had me lose my job and all .. I feel often like they're still around which wouldnt surprise me anyway.. If me hating the guts out of those abominations and their community was what they wanted they got it, I doubt it however, but leading me on in the first place hate is the least I can return right? Let's see
War it is
how were you catfished? adultery? why generalize people? its lazy thinking and leads you to wasting your life fighting le culture wars to distract from the government manipulating you and using your money for MIC terrorism. the angrier you get the easier you are to deceive and manipulate. shrimple as
"Talk to my enemies" If only Jordan himself did that often
I hate that these kids just in their computers taking notes. barely paying attention!
Ha ha, resentment! Good in one 😀
Damn he knows too much to be left alive
Talking to your enemy is stupid because they will just lie to you in hate. Trusting lies makes you even more stupid and then you will be confused in stupidity.
If you talk to the enemy and then have to trust him... Please don't talk to anyone.
My parents are lieing scumbags
Excuse me, but WHERE is the SOLUTION in all this???
Boundaries. Learn to negotiate on your own behalf. Stand up for yourself.
This professor is overtalking....He comes across as unsettled
I like how he talks. It’s soothing to me while I listen. But to each their own!
I've always seen it as he is actively conversing with his audience, formulating the right sentences and analogies, and everynow and then he goes off on a different branch of topic which he himself has mentioned his proclivity to do so.
Over the years he has improved, but overall it never appeared to me that he over talks, he just thinks out loud to iron out the creases.
As a student I appreciate teachers who are willing to delve deeper into the subjects they teach so his teaching style is refreshing and I'd add needed.
were the big words frustrating you somehow? its a shame there are no subtitles to dumb things down for you lmao
Not right, but ignorant and biased
What a whole lot of nonsense,erratic topic jumping,inserting random mild Insults,worthless Information about fictional things and making unfounded claims.
I didn't know Dr. Peterson held lectures on the african continent - or is this recorded in china? Ó..ò
3rd worlder reveals he hasnt even been to the land of the free KEK