How to Be Certain That You Are INFJ
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No one:
Not a single soul:
INFJ: *fits the criteria of being an INFJ*
INFJ: I don’t think I’m an INFJ
Yep lol
I thought I was the only one thinking like that and took it as a clear sign I’m not an infj. Lol.
Yep lol
It's weird though - you can be quite certain you're an INFJ (ie. everything checks out - secondary functions, repeatedly getting INFJ in Myers-Briggs tests, etc) and yet still wonder "am I really an INFJ or am I answering these questions and acting/behaving based off an idealised version that I have of myself?" That in itself may be a clue you are indeed an INFJ, especially if you get rather worried after the thought... but how can you ever be truly sure? God, I love overthinking. :P
I'm rambling even more now, but I guess thinking is good insofar as it gives you a base from which sometimes those introverted intuition moments can spring. But if you try to use that thinking again to rationalize the ''idea'' that came from the introverted intuition then there's a very good chance you may go mad! :P
Guess it all comes down to choice then.
“The poet only asks to get his head into the heavens. It is the logician who seeks to get the heavens into his head. And it is his head that splits.” G.K. Chesteron
Omg thanks for confirming this because I keep overthinking it! Now I feel a bit more at peace about being INFJ lol now my brain please be quiet up there !😂
I totally get that questioning
I just jumped when I read your comment! I was SO suprised to read what I've been doing ever since I thought I am an INFJ. I always get all the information to confirm I actually am one, because I am scared of mistyping myself. When I know I am certain, a couple of months go by and I begin to question again. It's an evil circle. Happens again, and again, and again.
I question people telling me who I am, yet I wonder :)
Sooo true. I did the test so many times in different versions that I lost count. And still - sometimes I ask myself: Am I really an INFJ? I'm very glad, that here in Europe there's not the same hype on "being an INFJ" like it seems to be in the US. I would be happy being an INFP or ENFJ as well - the other types that are closest to me. But none nails it so much as INFJ. In Europe we might be less rare. I'm sure it's true for the place I live, cause our University has some courses that draw idealist types to our little town. Environmental and cultural sciences. So I know quite a lot INFJs here.
I’m questioning all the time nonstop. Im still not sure I’m INFJ. Appreciate this so much Ren.
Saaame 😭😭
Yip I feel you.
Me too.
Did you guy finally find your mbti? I'm struggling too
@@Mel1211same :(
We question ALL THE TIME.
Everything.
All
The
Time
hieuwey no, and that’s why I question 😉
@@nikisawyers7559 xD Omg what a respond sooo intelligent nicee xddd
Fluffhead Sawyers Todd we?
Me literally questioning the Dialoge choices I made in an conversation with a coworker 7 hours ago... 7 hours!!! He probably doesn't even remember what I said, but what If...... What if... What if...
INFJ’s act like Extroverts big time yet need alone time. They can remember something by looking at something and having this weird connection with that thing that makes them remember what they were trying to think about. Really hard to explain in words. We also think in symbols that are unique to the individual. Being Inferior Se doesn’t mean we bump into walls or that we’re clumsy, that’s a myth. After a long time of studying and some help from others like SaraMBTI I’m certain and comfortable being an INFJ, I was always Ni dom and Fe aux in every function test the internet had to offer.
I want to say more but you speak so much for all of us.
I'm actually quite clumsy and bump into walls! x) But I do agree that that's not proof of INFJness. By the way, did you suggest a skype interview at some point? I'm sorry if I skipped it.
World of Philosophy Haha I agree, every INFJ will be different to a degree. And yes I did suggest we skype or something
Thats a description that has me doubting sometimes, I cant even pretend to be an extrovert, never been mistaken as one either. I can take lead of a situation if I have to, but even then its still in a rathee introverted style.
Guinea Cat INFJ’s have Aux Fe so, naturally (if they’re healthy), will come off as extroverts most of the time. I get mistaken for one all the time and most videos of INFJ’s, if you notice they seem very upbeat and chatty due to their Fe. So they look like they’re extroverted. I thought I was INFP at one time but after examining a few that I know in real life I know I’m not one, they’re heavily reserved and quiet and hate social interactions. A good way to know if you’re a Ni dom is see how you are when you’re stressed. Do you become overly critical and cynical of people? When you’re extremely stressed do you start over doing things? Buy expensive stuff? Eat more? Work out more? Sex more? Overindulge? Are you more prone to Anxiety or Depression? Also INFJ’s, while they are Judgers, have a dominant perceiving function so sometimes they can come off as gatherers/perceivers if they use Ni too much. It’s honestly really easy to tell if you’re an INFJ or not if you examine yourself closely.
I definitely dont handle things in a way an extrovert would, but I dont handle things in a way that many of the Fi users do either. I can be pleasent and communicate without being extroverted about it,..I use actions to communicate more so than words in my day to day life, but when needed I can talk. At the dance studio I go to, my dance teacher calls me the stealth apprentice, I can lead without being loud..If that made any sense.
But I dont have as much doubt about my type than I used to.
What an INFJ among INFJ's. You want to diminish our confusion. ❤
I'm textbook INFJ which is nice because having done "personality tests" for fun all my life, they never quite got me EVER until to my shocked surprise, I discovered MBTI. Also I discovered MBTI with my son (INFP), so while we were doing the test, and the results, he was going "that's you" or "you do that". It was lovely to discover I was indeed part of the human race lol. Of course (typically) I researched further. The paradoxical behaviour or contradictions of INFJ is the biggest marker.
I keep re -doing these tests, even "cheating" slightly and I always come out INFJ. I am glad that you are discussing this. Thanks.
You're welcome!
I’m not an INFJ, I’m your *_inferior_* INTJ, but I still watch these videos because you have bloody awesome explanations. Thanks for sharing, Ren!
Thanks a lot!
Inferior?
@@LatIenws Inferior.
@@mishtaromaniello8295 why inferior?
@@LatIenws I was being sarcastic.
I took an online test of the Myers Briggs personality and the result was I'm an INFJ but I'm still asking myself if I am really an INFJ.
I see! Do my videos help you at all in deciding about your type?
@@RensRoom I see myself in some traits of the INFJ but I'm still trying to decide on the other traits. I also watched your other videos. I'm still not certain. I need to understand more of this personality and understand more of myself I think.
@@desertrose873 It's been a year, how did it go?
@@user-jc5xs1fr4l INFJ
I took the test on the personality perfect website. I got INFJ, ive been questioning it ever since. Overthinking it 100% I feel like the test is probably not very reliable and I know there are other tests on line I could try. But I’m actually scared to because I don’t want the result to be different and make me even more confused. Because I’ve seen videos about the INFJ and it makes sense to me. I don’t know why I’m so worried. I don’t even know if being certain what my personality type is will really help me improve my life. What are the benefits of knowing and being able to understand? Because I hear all these videos about the functions, and I really want to be able to understand, but I get so confused!
I've been taking these tests for decades. It interest me to see how accurate a test could judge me. I've always gotten INFJ on every test except 1. I got ISTP, but the description seemed way off. I looked up several ISTP profiles, videos, etc. and none of it made sense to me at all. I still take any test I happen to come across, and sometimes I do get a little anxious that I may have been mistyping myself for years.
The reality is that the test doesn't matter. I've found a lot of information on issues I've felt were things nobody could understand. I found a community of people who are like me. To some extent I've found acceptance. All my little quirks that at times I've felt ashamed of didn't have as much of an impact on me. My difficulty communicating didn't make me feel stupid anymore. My behavior changing from person to person felt less like a mask. There are countless things I've learned about myself, things I've come to terms with, and things I can now accept as simply being me. In a weird way I finally feel understood. That's how the MBTI tests help. They show you that you're not as weird, misunderstood as you thought you were or that you don't have some undiagnosed mental disease. From there you grow. You'll find people going through the same things that once drove you crazy, and listen to how they live with it.
Hopefully this gets to you, and you think about this. Remember we're all here going through the same thing if you need the help. Apologies if that was a bit long winded.
Same! I just did the test today and I’m currently feeling how you are
@@vicgallegos22 Maybe I could lend a hand, or at the very least point you in the direction. What are you concerns or confused about?
Koff well for starters I kinda understand why I am the way I am but I still have a tough time accepting everything about myself which I hope too do so I can always just be comfortable with who I am
@@vicgallegos22 The secret is that it's a lifelong battle. We are often too critical of ourselves. This leaves us in an almost perpetual depression, making things feel far more difficult than they are.
Do you have a good friend or partner that you can actually be yourself around, without any fear of being judged? Personally I found that it allows me to be myself more often.
Whats an example of something you're having difficulty accepting? It doesn't have to be something personal or hyper specific. It's just to get an idea.
I m afraid it's a bad thing,other types were making fun of it(infjs dealt the worst cognitive stack,head in the clouds weirdos that don't leave the house,etc). Who Wants to not fit in anywhere your whole life?!
I do 🙋🏾♂️😂😂 it’s not bad if you yourself don’t think it’s bad? 😂 let them judge 😌
It's funny because I'm constantly reading INFJs complain that they don't fit in anywhere but then turn around and complain that they fit in everywhere. INFJs complain a lot for having so many people that want to be their friends. You guys complain so damn much on every single MBTI video. Even on videos not about INFJs you're complaining that you're too deep, too friendly, too unique, too social, and too damn special. Get over yourselves, please. Like good god, INFJs are everywhere feeling sorry for themselves. "Boohoo someone tried to be my friend today and I didn't have the heart to tell them that I have no more open friend slots." Jesus christ...
You're that guy that walks into a party and everyone immediately starts gushing over you. Then, for no reason, you start crying that nobody likes you literally as everyone flocks to make you feel better. People tell you how special you are, you're like, "I know but it's just so hard to be *this* special. I mean, how would you feel if you were a magical unicorn?" Everyone's like, "oh I bet it's super hard being the most respected and desirable personality. How do you do it?"
Meanwhile I'm vomiting outside on my way to the car because I just can't take it anymore!
@@dacksonflux obviously you're not an infj to understand us, it's like you're telling a very attractive girl with lots of admirers who still feel unloved an attention seeker, but actually she's looking for something deeper than that, and actually trying to explain what we feel or think is very hard for us to do plus your way of viewing things we'll never win with you,and sorry for my bad english
@@dacksonflux Oh for pete sake. Sounds like you're projecting. Most INFJs are not the snowflake unicorn type that the web loves to portray. And being the rarest type is a flipping pain which we ALL saw coming which is it's going to infuriate the insecure types. Well, here we are!!!
When I watch you, I just feel a projection of myself with a different face.
Great and insightful video! Thank you for your analysis and breakdown!
Good & thorough video of figuring out the nuances of the types. No doubt I'm definitely an INFJ.
I always tested as an infp, like most of my friends. But over time one kept noting that I had quite strong Fe. Looking into it, maybe I am an Infj
Spot on Ren-The order of the function stack is something that had me second guessing as to whether my Fe is strong enough to identify as an INFJ. In a practical sense, I know an INFP professionally who seems to be very similar to me on the outside, probably much more so than anyone else that I know, but there are some differences. I seem to be more logical, they're more emotional and also infinitely more clumsy lol (lack of Se). It's hard to say because I don't know them well personally. I live for those Aha moments, and there is always some question or idea that's floating in the back of my mind that Ni is playing with in my subconscious. And you're right, INFJs are just naturally always wondering, what if I'm something else....
Hi Q Ward, just my two cents but you strike me as having much more of an INFJ writing style than an INFP one. :) Not sure I could detail to you why, it's just intuition, you know...
I flip flop between INTJ and INFJ depending on the environment I'm in. Home, relaxed, or if others are stressing out then I'm there as the INFJ for them, and you know I really hate it. It's great that someone is the sounding board for reason and moderation but yeesh... why me? I think this is the reason some INFJs don't want to be this, it's hard, constantly draining.
On the other hand, when I'm working on a project or interested in something (sciences, math etc) I'll block out all those feelings and just be the nerd who the world would burn down around them and they still would be saying... just a moment... almost done.. two days later.... That's not good either, but I'm happier in that place than dealing with and explaining the world's troubles to those who really just want someone to listen to them and them alone.
Just wondering, what is it when someone flip flops?
I've a feeling you're describing being INTJ, rather than INFJ. Perhaps, when you're in a more intimate context, you're more in touch with your Fi.
Hi CM
I'm more an INTJ at work, and relaxed INFJ elsewhere. I've learned to be less emotionally responsive with abusive people who want to upset us, and manipulate us to get an emotional response from us. I won't give them the satisfaction.
Take care.
I kind of agree that I would be the nerd, but more like the sensitive nerd.
You are definitely an INFJ. Know how I figured it out?
Because you're fucking complaining about it. 🥳
I‘ve heard that its‘s only the outer two letters (E/I and J/P) that can switch, the core is stable. Could this be true? In my case, yes. I am an INFJ, but in some tests i turn out to be an ENFJ (which personally prefer to be).
I really like your approach to MBTI here: emphasising the function stack, emphasising the dominant function, and seeing the flexibility in terms of the individual manifestation of the other functions.
Thank you Rowan, I'm glad you appreciate that!
This is what makes the test flawed. One person could take the test 16 times and only narrow their type down. There are percentages of the values of those stacks that are developed or undeveloped based on individual experience. These percentages are not accounted for.
Good job Ren, this was a really good video.
Thanks a lot, Chantel :)
Op! There is that fantastic smile again!
To be certain that you are INFJ, you can learn about the others types next to your and compare with yourself.
If you know an INFP and INTJ around you, it will be easier.
You are the perfect between INTJ, INFP.
I am INFJ, who have developed early her Ti before the Fe, I think we are geometry masters.
Your best video for me to date. Very interesting perspective. Makes perfect sense.
Thanks Brendan!
Yes, When I found out I was an INFJ I deeply resonated with the description (and still do) but it wasn’t long after that I questioned the reliability and if my perception was influenced by the information I had found. Over the next few years I retook the test 3 more times randomly and not only got INFJ each time but each level of introvert, intuition, thinking, & judging had minimal differences.
Regardless of the the info above I spend most of my time alone so that I can find answers to my thoughts. I am constantly researching, looking, questioning...etc.
I think I'm one of those INFJs whose Fe is not as developed as it could have been due to circumstances growing up. Thru grade school from 2nd to 5th grade, I didnt go out for recess or participate in gym class due to health reasons. Often missed a third of the school year but still received top grades. I spent my time reading a lot during recess, gym class, and at home. So I think my introverted functions (Ni-Ti) are much more developed than Fe & Se. I'm Fe focused but probably not as smooth especially in groups as some Fe users who are IxFJs but may look like ExFJs. My daughter on the other hand is more FeSe than me. She has been participating in group activities including sports since a young age. She wasnt much of a reader when younger but liked it more as she became older. Her dad is ISTP and also helped develop her Se. I think she is more well rounded but not as strong in Ti as I am. She has very good Ni instincts and her Fe tends to draw people into her. She does more Se activities than I do. I think upbringing can make a difference within types.
I think I also have Fe a bit underdeveloped, because I used to be very introverted, and hence probably used Ni-Ti all the time. I used to overthink everything and I think now I understand better why that never worked out.
Great video!
I believe I am Ni dom, mostly through verification of the cognitive function tests and my use of intuition being very focused, thematic, and "esoteric". However, I have typed as ENFP, ENTP, INTP, INFP, and INTJ prior when I was a teenager up until now. I found it very hard to type myself because my behavior shifts depending on who I'm dealing with. I definitely love the arts like an Fi dominant, but I also have an interest in hard science, debating politics, and philosophy like a Ti dom. However, I find my inner flowstate when I'm dreaming up worlds and ideas, and I see through longterm creative projects.
What you said here about the functional stack makes total sense, and I'm glad you brought up about INFP vs. INFJ at the end. Those are two types that get mixed up a lot, despite having different archetypal patterns.
Thank you! The way you described your relation to the functions sounds very similar to me :)
No prob. Keep up the great videos, dude!
You write like an INTJ
Hello. I'm a newer subscriber here. I've been struggling on whether I am an INFJ, INFP, or ENFJ. So I think this will clarify some for me. I will be giving what you shared a lot of thought. Thank you for breaking it down. Take Care Always.
Did you find out?
I read recently that there are actually 32 sub-types of infj. Which explains the spectrum. Which also explains why sometimes infjs don't like each other. Having said that, being infj isn't all rainbows and unicorns. First time I took Myers Briggs I was infj. Second time I took it, it was infp. But then something happened and I took the test again and it turned out infj. And it resonates better.
When I take the tests I am always INF but when it comes to J or P I'm 50/50
Cori Wood n
Funny! I took the test 3 times and got the same results you did in the same order
The online tests are garbage. Please don't take them seriously.
@@dacksonfluxyeah, it's better to learn cognitive functions. The test isn't always valid.
I took the MBTI test this year and 2 years ago, I still got INFJ. Though I never knew the signs, functions, or mechanics of an INFJ. The more I look at these videos the 100% I can say I am INFJ. Even the feeling of being left out even thought I have friends and the empathetic emotions I share a lot even though I say sorry for the sharing, I overthink which I thought I had problems with myself and I thought I was only person who had these feelings but now I see a lot of people actually felt this. Thanks I am absolutely sure now.
I recommend you not to relay on the test that much. You could learn cognitive functions (if you haven't already) that's how you can better understand yourself and be more certain of your true type :)
The feeling of being left out isn't an INFJ's thing only.
tbh i thought i was an enfj but the fact that they're like this goal driven responsible and things like that i didn't really connect with it as much as i connected with knowing that i was an infj whenever i hear people talk about our personality type i get amazed because it made me realize a lot about myself that i ignore
I just felt like I walked into a quantum physics class watching this. I think I need to do more research on this. The video I saw about infj that he did made so much seance that I could one. Now I have to hit the inner webs on the computer instead of watching UA-cam on my phone.
I would test frequently as infp but recently I've been actively trying to express feeling because I know it makes people comfortable and makes them feel better.
Haha. Thank you for the questioning being a possible sign. 😀 Great. 🤔 I thought circumstances forced me to get better at functions I wanted nothing to do with but maybe instead they revealed them? 🤷♀️
To me that is as important as developing the abilities I believed I had artistically without much evidence other than creativity in idea. My goal has been proficiency not greatness as I’m not in a category near that sort of thing. That’s reality-not fake humility.
I can’t give up and settle on what personality I might be. I really want to understand it all enough that I’m not self defeating. Thank you.
I can focus on my love ones and feel what they feel , when absent, if they’re in trouble the alert hits me , that’s just a few , if I touch someone or they hang around me I dream their mess , future warnings,
That was very good. Thank you! :)
i just discovered this channel about 30 minutes ago, and Ren? keep the fuck going.
Haha, thanks. I will!
I found out about the MBTI and that I was an INFJ by accident. I was watchings videos about enneagram type 5 which is my enneagram type and I ran into a video that popped up on my screen about the INFJ randomly.
I just decided to watch the video for some reason. Mind you I didn’t even know about the MBTl. From the video I realised that I wasn’t crazy. I always thought I was weird because I usually didn’t fit in and it was very difficult to find someone like me. But after I discovered the MBTI was when I realised I wasn’t alone and wasn’t weird or crazy. Especially after going through the comments section 😊.
Being an INFJ is very difficult. Your mind is constantly creating different permutations to things that’s happening, happened or about to happen in your life. Some times I feel my head might explode especially cuz I’m also an enneagram type 5 w 4. It’s the constant functioning of your mind, constantly connecting dots. It’s crazy. It is very difficult being an INFJ type 5.
again this is helpful in so many ways!! I am indeed always doubting, sometimes I think I know what type I am, but than I get some new information about functions and types and again asking questions and doubting, and seeing other combination possible
Also there is so much to respond and ask, I would better sit down with pen and paper and take an interview and make sure I get all your function insights;)
actually my knowledge about the different funktions is not deep enough to know for sure. I am still limited, a lot of the doubt is because of that. With better neutral information it probably would be a lot easier.
I am still looking for a book that discribes it well so I have like a sure fundament to rely on.
I have a few very old books but they do not go deeper into the different functions. It begins with the test and it ends with the different type descriptions. Some interesting books are also sold out often. any sugestions are very welcome
The video with your brother was very insightfull for me, I think I was able to see the difference between Fi 1rst and Fe 2cnd, that was interesting, you where frequently checking out if everything was oke (or in harmony) with the camera, for the viewers, and supporting your brother. and Fi was inwardly searching for personal truth.
I think also some you tubers typing themselves as infj are Infp, not that of matters only for me to understand the different types it is sometimes a somewhat confusing
You're right to say that many INFJs are actually INFPs. This doesn't help... Sometimes I see people commenting on a video by an INFJ who is actually ENFP or INFP, saying: "I identify with this person so much" - which probably means that they are xNFPs identifying with xNFPs... It can all be a pretty confusing maze to sort out. What is your feeling at the moment regarding your type? Feel free to suggest a topic for me to make a video on, I'm looking out.
@@RensRoom Thank you so much! I am thinking of that one great topic which will give me the greatest insight:) but also a topic that will settle finally and for good and I can finally put mbti to rest ;p
my questions is: how can you for sure tell the diffent use of Ni dom and Ni Parent and Fe Dom and Fe Parent, both the same functions but placed in a different order what does the parent funktion changes a funktion? I think mostly I have some idear of Ni dom or Fe dom but what happens to functions when they are typed as a parent funktion. maybe this is overlapping. or to much topics.
Thank you so much for this video.
In other words, if you are a recluse that loves and hates people at the same time, you do not keep in contact with your friends and sometimes even family. If you are that kind of a person who tends to overanalyse everything, particularly you can't abstain yourself from self-analysing, and have your own peculiar sets of values, even though most of the times you prefer to take decisions with your heart, based on feelings and intuition, often sacrificing your wellbeing for the sake of others but at the same time resenting people for not willing/being able to reciprocate...If you are drawn towards psychology, mysticism, music, arts, history, languages but also sciences, you like to surround yourself with nice stuff, without necessarily being materialistic, you are always dissatisfied and striving for self-improvement and you are neat and organized and always need structure in your life, but at the same time you are a bloody procrastinator, well, then have no doubts that YOU ARE a true INFJ! :))))) Did I also mention a brilliant sense of humour ?
I have personally been struggling with this for the last 2+ months, and it reached almost fever pitch in last 2 weeks when I finally conceded there was a real possibility I am mistyped (I was fighting it quite a bit in the beginning).
For me, the biggest confusion was between Ni and Fi.
I thought I was Fi dom for the longest time because I would judge people. Why did they do this or that? Don't they realise this or that?
I would describe myself as a person who lives in their head. Always buried in some research or other, then mulling over ideas before often settling comfortably into a conclusion or sometimes a belief.
For the longest time, I thought this was Fi-Ne. Early in the new year, it smacked me in the face that this might well be the infamous Ni-Ti.
Another aspect that I was fighting was Fe. I have always had a strong sense of self, and knew what I knew, believed what I believed, despite what anyone would tell me. So I always considered my Fe very weak. But Fe also manifests in other ways. I enjoy teaching and guiding people, but am often not the most 'favourite coach' because I make them think. So that's actually my Fe. And my judging others (why they do this /that) is my Fi critic.
I was recently typed INFJ by a type community. I will not say I'm not entirely convinced, because I do feel it makes sense, but will adopt a wait & see and try to learn more in the meantime. It's been quite a jarring self-discovery journey :)
Thanks for giving us a peep into your journey!
Your speech is definitely more Ti oriented than Fi so I would say you’re an INFJ.
I don't know who I am. Once again.
They say Neptune in the 1st house is a strong indication that you're an INFJ. I go between thinking I am INFP and then INFJ. Fi and Ni are the dominant functions but then again. I heard Fi is about having strong values and emotional identity. Sometimes I'm sure I have these but then they just seem to dissolve and I act unlike "myself".
One of my family members thinks I have multiple personalities lol. Thank you for sharing
I didn’t take a test. I went from UA-cam videos on empaths to INFJ videos and was startled to understand “this has a pattern.”
My son took a test at work and I thought that was cool. I was always worried about him because of his shyness. I’m used to it in me but I notice I could make people uncomfortable when spending time together. They seemed to get shyer themselves.
Functions helped me a lot, before I questioned it a but MBTI held my interest enough to discover it though. I wish the functions was something that was known at face value somehow over the letters.
Renaud i love your videos man. If i didnt run across your videos, i would comitted suicide a couple months ago becuse i thought i was crazy. I'm 33 years old and just learning about myself. Your videos explain me, my thought process, and my life story and i thank you!! You literally saved a life. I now watch your videos all the time because i'd rather listen your awesome explanations than to talk to people that dont understand me at all.
Anyone else getting so distracted looking in the comments because you're completely fascinated to finally relate to others, that you've had to rewind the video like 15 times? Just me? 😂🤦🏼♀️
9 Months late, but you're definitely not alone, lol.
I am 100% certain that I am not Se dom or Se Aux. however, starting teenage years I became aware of Se. I loved watching ballet dancing videos to absorb alignment and movements. I did take ballet but I wasn’t ready to learn it until I was in college, after feeling more comfortable reconciling images and my body doing the images. As I grew older, I became more comfortable with Se. After life long of shunning exercise and crafting, I started Running, hiking, creating jewelry, cooking, and fashion blogging in my 40s (my mom was shocked at my change). I took gymnastics and started painting when I turned 50. I know I am not a natural but I want to test my body and see what it can do. instead of loving object de art, I feel compelled to create. People would probably see me as ISFP or ISTP today but only I know that my journey with Se is acquired, not inborn.
I know I'm an infj-t, I know how they are, I know how I am, I've seen dozens of hours of info vids on em n line up with most signs, definitely an infj
I have an unusual gift of being able to immediately see the gifts in other people! Is that just me, or an Infj thing?
I think it could be an infj thing too :)
I think it's an intuitive thing. I'm an INTJ and I do the same thing.
@@Valentina-qp3gt Ni keeps this running record of subjective experiences and we'll subconsciously call on those experiences when meeting new people. So am example would be my best friend, who's an aspiring artist. He has absolutely no natural talent at all but he's a quick learner. He has an unorthodox gift for learning and he's decided to apply that to art. I knew this when I met him because my experience tells me that he's more likely to have certain qualities over others.
Definitely a trait of a healthy INFJ
It's an INFJ thing, we can see the full potential in others but blind to ours.
I've taken a good number of online MBTI tests from various sources over the course of the last year or so (repeated the same test a couple of times, tried others on different sites) and have so far tested as every type on the NiFe spectrum (INFJ, INFP, ENFJ, ENFP), though most consistently as INFJ with ENFJ as the second most prevalent outcome and ENFP as the third.
Looking into the cognitive functions separately and how I act in day-to-day situations, the role of each function and its place in my cognitive stack became clearer though and revealed what I perceive as my "true" archetype - and it was definitely very INFJ'ish more than ENFJ'ish. For that reason I consider myself an INFJ with somewhat strong tendencies towards ENFJ'ness or what might be considered an "extraverted, people oriented INFJ" if there is such a thing.
Hope that makes sense?
Kristian Jensen Thanks that is very informative. I’ve said before and I get shot down for it that I think we can be on the cusp of another type. Everyone here on UT says that’s impossible. I don’t think so . What ur saying makes perfect sense. I’m supposedly INFJ but after learning more I think I’m an INFP. I keep hearing that INFJ are always very organized and I’m the total opposite of organized. I can’t seem to get a handle on books , papers, journals , post a notes. It’s a mess.
Hi Kristian, yes it does make sense. There is a category of INFJs who tend towards ENFJness - you might well tend towards that category. It's common enough. Have you ever looked into your Enneagram?
Hi Lara, INFJs are not necessarily very organized, contrary to what one may read on the internet. Have you looked into the ENFP type?
@@RensRoom Huh, interesting. I mean INFJs are the most extraverted of the introverts, so it makes a lot of sense, that some of us would be more sociable and outgoing.
I have looked into my Enneagram type, though not as extensively as my MBTI type. I have taken the same Enneagram test with "Instinctual variant" about four times (www.eclecticenergies.com), but with different results each time.
I've tested as 9w1 (sp) (right after testing as INFJ), 1w2 (so) (after testing ENFJ), 1w9 (so) (after testing INFJ) and just now 3w2 (sp) with type 1 (so) (after testing ENFJ) as the second most likely type
Based off of those results and the description of the types, I'm thinking I might be Enneagram 2, though I was previously leaning towards thinking I was 9w1. I often go out of my way to help people and feel great when being allowed to do so and 2s apparently often mistype as both 9s and 1s. Being a 2 would explain why both 1 and 9 pops up as primary results and wings as well as 2.
On the other hand, I also identify quite strongly with both 9 and 1 sooo... 2w1w9 (so)? =]
It's interesting how the results of the two personality type paradigms seem to match up though - especially when the tests are taken back to back. What is your experience with the Enneagram?
almost 10 years of constant questioning and searching and I still cant say confidently that I am an infj I always feel like an infp imposter but when i go to infp functions I cant relate and I go back to infj and so on ...
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I've tested several times and I almost always type as INFJ yet there have been times where I typed as INFP. So I decided to look into the functions and make sense out of them. I'm not one to sit and get defensive about a type because I think that is just silly but I would say I think I am an INFJ since I get into that Ni-Ti loop so very frequently and if I don't use my Fe for a long time I end up getting into that Fi and get all depressed and existential. Plus the whole 'information addiction' where I'll decide to look up one thing and more things will start to pop up and I end up wanting to inspect every single thing seperately which leads me to getting into this rabbit hole of information and a need to "figure it out" but I guess that never happens because I never seem to be fully satisfied no matter how much information I collect.
I did a function test and I scored 90% on Ni,Fe and Fi and I got 53% on Ti . Not sure what's what anymore :D
It's not uncommon for INFJs to score unusually high on Fi, Christie. Hope that helps :)
@@RensRoom You're content sure helps me learn more stuff :D
@@RensRoomthank you so much for this infomation.
I did cognitive functions test and I had the highest Fi followed by Ni. The test typed me INFJ and I wasn't sure because of the Fi. But I have studied again the cognitive function stack of INFP and INFJ and the INFJ's one resonates with me more. Thank you for clearing this up for me that as an INFJ my Fi can be higher on the test. 🙂
Haha, an INFJ questions their type like the sane person questions their sanity.
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@@sara.the.muggle Thanks. I chose it because the feel of it fits me.
@@angelus_solus Is that a weeping angel in front of the tardis?
@@sara.the.muggle It's actually the 10th Doctor and it came from a wallpaper image I found.
I feel like an infp but I know that im an infj, and that's when I begin questioning everything. im just still confused.
infj, 4w5, from Poland here:) nice channel. I am struggling a lot with my life. I have a very well developed Ti because of my twin brother whos frist function Is Ti! That makes me oftenly to fall into NI-Ti loop and i hate that. My fe is so underdeveloped that i basiclly live in that loop plus shame, deadly combo. On top of that my wife is ESTJ:) it is so hard to improve my Fe in this enviroment. Eh...
Hi deus, do you have friends who use Fe? Perhaps you could learn to develop it by hanging out with them. Generally though, the mere fact of socializing helps for an INFJ's Fe. Does your wife's Te-domness not help you get out of your loops? I hope it gets better for you soon.
thx for the response. My wife judge me based on what I am doing, unfortunetly staying in Ni-Ti loop isnt productive at all so there is a conflict:) ive noticed that my Fe always work fine when im drunk haha:)
Thanks Ren. I have done about maybe 7-10 tests and it always comes up INFJ. However, being typical of my type, I had to investigate deeper. I identified Ni right away. I can come up with topics from politics, philosophy, religion, psychology, the education system and why the UN is totally screwed up to why I have to deal with snowflakes who take everything as "thus sayeth the Lord' (meaning their lecturer or teacher). Everything is connected to everything. Ne (my son and twin brother are INFPs for eg), are explorers but don't dive as deep. INFJ goes on for years even and still weighs the options of how things work. One thing I do know (having been an ex astrologer and new ager), I am an ABSOLUTIST. There is ONLY ONE TRUTH and not "your truth", "my truth". It doesn't even make sense. If one doesn't believe in gravity, be my guest, but try flying without a parachute. TRUTH IS TRUTH. For INFJ, is to find that truth and after days, weeks, years, INFJ gets lightbulb flash - THIS IS WHAT IT IS. I used to think of possibly being an INTJ because I intellectualize so much - but that Fe takes that out of the equation. STILL INTROVERTED INTUITION is something I barely understand but ONLY understand! The more complicated it is, the more yummy it is for me! God bless
Btw, INFJ vs INFP (my son and my twin brother - so I know them as well as can be expected - probably more). INFP dominant function is Fi. As sensitive as they are and as much as I love them, it's all about "how it affects them" versus Fe "how it affects others". INFJ's "Fi" is their critical function. And are we critical - of OURSELVES. Its an unconscious shitty place to be for INFJ. My son/brother however, have no qualms exerting their Fi. It may sometimes come across as selfish at times (though they are so thoughtful). However, I envy it at times. If I try it, I brutalise myself - not good!
Thanks a lot for your insight into the INFJ's Fi, Alice!
Alice, I agree! There is indeed one TRUTH, in fact truth by definition is exclusive. Just curious, have you found it - that absolut truth?
Ps: great insight into Fi-Fe! Thanks for sharing:)
@@KingsDaughter1988 Yes. Truth is found only in Jesus Christ. I've had quite the journey and I can testify of this after battling the dark forces of new age beliefs for much of my life. Blessings.
@@aliceedmunds4377 That's it! 😃 I also found it. Jesus Christ changed my life forever and I will never be the same again. He is the absolute TRUTH. I looked deep into the evidence for His resurrection, life, and claims. Everything He said stands the test of truth.
Life as an INFJ is much easier knowing Him, because no matter the hardships, there is PURPOSE. Blessings and shalom ❤
yes indeed... I question it all the time. I had not done any testing for decades. Just did the test again and came back ridiculously strong in all categories of INFJ-T (for turbulent!!! ) I'm fukd...
has anyone else found the functions tests results change with what mood you're in???? or is it just me???
It definitely happens!
@Becca Den @@RensRoom Is it INFJ "thing"?
omg this... thiss 1:55 THISSS even tho i know 100% a week later i am like.. "Am i really tough?"
Since the time I got to know about this infj type, I feel relieved because it's like I finally know where I belong...but at the same time, I am not certain, although I don't want it to be the other way because then I'll feel lost again... There are a lot of reasons like the authenticity of the tests, I am not sure if I answer the questions based on what I really think or if they are somewhat influenced by what I think an itnj would think...and what are the chances of me being an itnj when there are only 2-3% of the same in the whole world and the biggest of all is that it's all about human brain and behavior...so I can't be completely sure about its characteristics...that's the word I guess...anyway, there may be more reasons which I am not aware of or they are in my subconscious mind. Sooo yeah... that kind of mess goes around in my head...
I've been wondering if I'm really an INFJ. I'm 95% sure. But I don't know what other types I could be. The MBTI is convoluted in my opinion. Maybe that's why I'm and so many are confused. LOL :-) Awesome content. "Think in terms of patterns'. - Thank you.
Topic suggestion: INFJ and highly sensitive type (empathic). I think it makes a super INFJ. -:/
I was looking for this hope it helps me
I hope it does, too!
I spent the longest time thinking I was INFP until I got my best friend to read about the functions and he told me INFJ fit me like a glove. Ni-Fe-Ti specifically. I couldn’t argue with his reasoning but I still doubt it sometimes. INFJs are described as knowers and I’m too indecisive and questioning to fit that description. I struggle to stay on one path and that seems the antithesis of INFJ.
Yes, the questioning FOR SURE ^_^
Why did you use the cat ears?!
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I feel like I’m all the way an INFJ at work, but at times in my personal life more of an INFP 🙃
i question all the time if im infj or not, I think if I am an infj, we don't see the rarity of this type as sth. that needs to be desired and special. But rather, hm ok that is why we don't see it as easy to be who we are.
i took test online twice ,it said infp,but in 2 or 3 months will take again it could have been my frame of mind but im leaning more towards infj
Google algorithm diagnosed that I am INFJ and I took 6 long momths to accept it
Your voice be nice "si on pourrait augmenter la vitesse de votre voix" I miss a lot because this...but I know it's my problem that but I could be wrong...Take my apolozise already...Thank for all this nice and from QC in Canada at 7h50pm...good night to who go sleep...🤗
I've taken 4 test online test and 2 classified me as INTJ, one as INFJ-T and one as INFP. So what does these mean?
1. Are you conceptual?
2. Do you follow through with this concept until absolute completion?
3. Do your concepts and revelations manifest fluidly as you are speaking?
4. Do these concepts revolve around people, sentience and reality?
5. Do you henceforth apply these concepts to absolutely everything as a theory-of-everything?
6. Do you place yourself at the centre of this concept's application as opposed to assisting others and establishing collective ownership?
The more you understand about this subject he more insight you can get into personality types. Types not naturally as good at understanding personality, who are usually dismissive and disinterested as well, are bound to not see how it can work. Disinterest is actually a self fulfilling prophecy wrt assessing the validity of MBTI. Those people are only likely to accept the subject when it has been accepted by academia as factually valid, if this is ever possible.
Yeah I kinda sit there and go “maybe I am but who am I even?” And I tested ENFP forever and I feel like it’s because that was “who I was” and that’s what I was going to test as, because I knew what questions were asking what.
My mind is an exhausting place sometimes. Even simplicity in my world is complex.
Yes, look at the fxs. No, it's the INTJ that will question things to death! I don't have to question anymore, I know I am.
Ive been binge watching MBTI videos for days just trying to solidify that I am in fact an INFJ, but what trips me up, is that some claim that your first and fourth functions are invisible to you, and that people often type themselves upside down because of that peacocking defense mechanism. I’m trying sooo hard to be impartial, but am I truly being unbiased? I relate so hard to INFJs here on UA-cam, and sometimes it’s almost like y’all are explaining me better than I can explain myself, or that you’re reading my journal! But yet, I’m still second guessing. What do you think about these ideas that supposedly lead to mistyping and how can we best side-step them?
Generally INFJ's think in images, I think in constant monologues. Could this simply be some of that variance you where talking about?
Also I finally subbed, I think you are the most grounded of these "INFJ channels" and I don't sense nearly as much fanaticism in your videos. Keep up the good work.
Hi Joseph, I often think it internal monologues too, though that tends to alternate with images. Thanks for your encouragements, by the way, I appreciate your words. I am definitely not a fanatic! :)
@Allas He has a calm energy about him, makes it easier for me to consider his ideas because I feel like his temperament resembles my own. The content doesn't strike me as overly eccentric. I don't trust fanatics because I feel that delusion is often a key component in the development of fanaticism.
@Allas No problem, don't sweat it! I've found that the root of most conflict is misunderstanding. I would agree that I am not the most "grounded" when it comes to my thoughts and imagination. I guess my use of "grounded" could be easily mistaken for the situational awareness a sensor type would have. Sometimes I am very "grounded" in that sense, but generally I'm quite the daydreamer.
This is not about this video. I just have a couple of questions. When I first took Myers-Briggs, I scored INFP, but P/J were about even if I remember right. In another personality test that used colors, I was also not clearly one thing or another in one of the measures. Anyway, in a more recent Myers-Briggs test I was INFJ. So one question is why this might have happened. The other question is possibly silly, but I wonder if any INFJs have reported being overly sensitive to music. It may just be some other aspect of my personality, but while I like music and am somewhat musical, I often avoid music because it changes or affects my mood. I don't like the external influence on my feelings. I also have a tendency to fall asleep to music in concerts or at movies. It's irritating. That may be really silly and unrelated to being INFJ, but I wondered if anyone else had reported this and if it might be part of the personality type. Thanks. I really enjoy your videos, which I have only just found.
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I dunno sometimes I find me questioning if I'm an infj (I'm 5w6) even that I know that I have high Ni and Ti, I know Ni is the strongest function that I have and Im not sure if it has a good development, I know that I'm not Ti when my 2 best friends are intps
I'm INFJ and sometimes I appear to be the most extroverted person in the room, it's when I'm really comfortable with my surrounding and familiar with the people around me. Other times I'm the quietest person in room. I'm confused if I'm really an INFJ!? Aren't INFJs meant to look like ambivert?
If you are a genuine artist and, or musician? Is not one an INFJ by default? The creative process works in the same way as INFJ's describe themselves (with non creative issue) but can be with a much greater intensity. What I have seen as described in these videos about INFJ's? When I have seen in others? I see as shy people, who need to take their time in drawing conclusions.
C S Joseph is good to look into.
I took a while choosing between INFJ, INFP and INTJ. I really had a problem because for a J, I am not that organized. (That might be misleading for INFJs taking the test and starting to learn MBTI because most J-type descriptions say that they are organized.) What helped was weighing my own Ni vs Ne, Fi vs Fe.
Meeting INFPs, ENFPs, ENTPs and INTPs helped highlight the differences between Ne/Ni and Fe/Fi. We generate possibilities but not as well (or rather as much) as those other types. Our bias is always filtering all the possibilities to one or two probabilities. That's what made me decide I value Ni more. Fe/Fi use in comparison to someone who is INFP also made me realize I can't be INTJ and made me decide I'm not INFP once and for all.
I have a question though, socionics says we have strong Fi. What do you think about that?
I frequent online FB groups. As much as I laud myself from being a good idea generator, I was able to see the stark difference between my type of intution to those of Ne dom/aux. They are very random. Like it amazes how they can think about things I don't give any attention to. They are the sources of random shower thoughts. Most are totally ridiculous but gems hidden within make my jaw drop. Lol. My Ni is interested in understanding the world. It's like coming up with my own TOE which means lots of information will be filtered out and only meaningful ones remain.
I can see the strength of Fi in me. I was mistyped as an INFP first and then settled for ENFP for years. I hated Fe too but as I become healthier, Fi is something that comes to me when I'm alone. I value it but I aim for Fe and I am under its power.
@@chasingtheunknown3763 I agree with random shower thoughts. An INFP I know asked "What is your favorite fan setting?" I think most of the random things we think about revolve around our Ni subjective interests so they're still more limited.
I also see strong Fi in me but mostly when I'm alone and when the decision doesn't affect anyone else. Fe intention wins out even when the value-based decision feels very Fi. Like "I will choose this for myself because this will affect others as well in the long run."
vierblith So what did u finally decide that ur type is? I’m supposedly INFJ but I’m also VERY DISORGANIZED. It seems maybe I’m INFP? I still don’t really know.
@@laraoneal7284 Oh, I identify as an INFJ. I rather think it's Ni ideations and harmony with people that INFJs organize rather than the actual physical environment (which I think is more SJ). If you're choosing between INFP and INFJ, then it's Fi/Fe then Ni/Ne that you have to look at more.
I saw the big difference between my INFP friend and I over one situation that struck me as a very Fi/Fe thing. So in this situation, basically, I had to reschedule a flight home so I could join a class that a friend of mine really needed. If I hadn't joined the class, it would have been dissolved and his graduation would have been delayed. So I kind of said eventually "Ahhh, I spent so much on the rebooking." My INFP friend said: "That's because you chose him (over yourself)."
I wouldn't call Fi selfish, but rather it is non-compromising of its desires and values and sees it as good for everyone if everyone chose Fi priorities. Fe on the other hand would prioritize what benefits a group sometimes to the point of compromising the self.
So I guess with which do you identify more?
Hi vierblith, what you said about the difference with your INFP friend is very interesting. I'm personally quite "selfish" when it comes to these things - I don't compromise that much, and yet I'm pretty confident that I'm an Fe user. (I'm a type 4, though). Ultimately I see it not so much as a group vs self thing, but more as a: does one introvert their emotions or extrovert them? In the same way that an Ne user displays their ideation for all to see, we tend to display our emotions, more than Fi users do, and more than we ourselves display our ideation.
As for strong Fi in INFJs: yeah, I see that quite often. I don't think it can be stronger than the Fe, though.
I definitely have Ni, Ti, and Fe. I don't really understand sensing. I am good at organising my external world and I like to keep my bedroom and desk tidy. I also enjoy making planners and to do lists. But is being artistic related to sensing? I am an artist and photographer. I also like to make my bedroom an aesthetically pleasing place to be in, and that is really important to me.
Not at all, being artistic is not restricted to any particular type! In fact, a very great many INFJs have an artistic side :)
@@RensRoom oh ok hm.. I thought being organised would make me si but I don't totally fit with si. 🤔
@@rolom3 No, being an Fe user usually tends to correlate with having a relatively organized external environment :)
@@RensRoom Ah ok, thanks! 😊
How to Tell if you’re an Intuitive or a Sensor is easy, look at a random picture and ask yourself what do you see? Look at a cup and what do you see?
I have tested as INFP for at this point decades. but I've only now started looking into the cognitive functions stack. Immediately after I read the meaning behind Ni, I was overwhelmed by a sense of being seen. Took a few tests and the general shape of my stack is Ni Fe Ne Fi Ti Si Te Se. Really not sure what to make of that, to be honest.
If I may ask you a question: Did you put more thought than usual on the title for this video? "How to Be Certain That You are an INFJ" sounds much more inviting than "Signs that you are not an INFJ." I see so many videos from other channels with titles similar to the latter. Thanks in advance for your response.
Suggestion: hold something with both hand eg: pencil
Agreeing with the other comments here. I repeatedly took different tests, 2-3 times for each one just to make sure of it. And like the rest, I always get INFJ. But still, I'm not 100% sure. I tend to over analyze and over think things quite a lot, and everything about the INFJ makes so much sense to me, but still.. it's very strange, I don't know.. >
And just took it again, INFJ. yet, I'm still somewhat doubtful.
What if I relate to Fe the most, but then I also relate to Ti a lot, Ni and Ne equally, and inferior Se?
Hello Ren Hope Ur Doing Well😁🤗
I took it two times already I know
How are introverted feeling and extroverted feeling manifested in an example in life?
Fi is focused on how you feel.
Fe is focused on how others feel.
Let's say that you see a truck hit a dog.
Fi, "Omg I can't watch, this makes me sad."
Fe, "Oh no, I hope that dog didn't belong to anyone's family. They'll be crushed."
My cognition stack
Ni, Ti, Fe~Fi, Si>Se
I often typed as INFJ and my second best match is INTP. What am I?
Ren, do you think gender makes a difference? Among folks whose types I know, I'm more familiar with INFJ / INTJ relationships, including my own , all M/F, and it does seem to make quite a difference there, which way round we are.
There probably is, John, but it’s difficult to figure out what part of the explanation is done by gender. What is your take on it?
@@RensRoom Oh dear, my question was supposed to be under your recent video about sensing types compatible with INFJs. Dear old YT had already moved on to one of your old videos, but I hadn't noticed :( :D. Sorry about that!
Anyway, it seems to me that gender can matter quite a lot under certain circumstances. The one most obvious to me is based on the type of inner energy each type seems to be most centred on. I'll use Yin and Yang as a metaphor here, and my personal experience is that INFJs flow most easily when we are mainly using Yin energy; INTJs are more aligned to Yang. Neither of them exclusively of course, but we fit most closely to the grain of our personalities if we are centred on these respectively.
Now this is where social stereotypes become important, because men are raised in general to be Yang people, and women to be Yin. This was definitely true in the past, and there are expectations of it still deeply rooted in the way we are even today. Of course, it varies quite a lot across our worldwide cultural boundaries, but I suspect it's pretty prevalent wherever we look. That means that in an INFJ/INTJ relationship, there is a considerable difference depending on gender. A male INTJ fits the cultural stereotype quite well, but a male INFJ doesn't, and I suspect there are considerable differences in the dynamics of the relationship according to which way round they are. Assuming that both are reasonably well-balanced folks, I suspect that an INFJ Male, INTJ Female partnership is more likely to be an equal one, but the male may have trouble and insecurity working out exactly what his role is, whereas the other way round, the INTJ male is more likely to be dominant, but secure in his role. In practice it will be more nuanced than this of course.
I'm sure that other mixed type relationships would have similar dynamics if the female was on a type that was more centred on Yang energy.
I really don't get it! What's the point? I did a few tests and I'm an INFJ ; so what! I like being alone a lot and perfecting my inventions. If I were a seagull my name would be Jonathon Livingston. I've heard words like Architect and Mastermind. I'm certainly not academic but am able to come up with ideas based on imaging in my mind; Like seeing with the minds eye perhaps. I'm very bad with spelling and language and have big difficulty understanding this video with all the cryptic letters; Yet I have deciphered the allegory and symbolism of scriptures. I have patented modular arch structures and patent pending cycling pedal and other engineering inventions. I would like to have been an architect or engineer but not smart enough to get past high school. I don't have a good memory but do have very good conceptual visionary ideas with engineering aptitude. I am also communicative with my subconscious. I think. I am unique. Not because I'm an INFJ/P. i'm just me whom I came to know very well and made a plan like Jonathon Livingston. Reckless at times but a survivor. Freedom to explore is the key least you get held down by society.