I discovered a pretty amazing nugget of truth regarding small talk. Small talk is just a search for a bigger topic to hook on to so you can easily steer the conversation by your answers. If someone asks "how are you today?" And you rather talk about cats you can say "I'm feeling amused because my cat was so funny this morning" and boom you will talk about cats after just 1 question. :) "how is weather over there? Boring, but at least I can stay inside and watch funny cat videos" or even find a slot to ask a question to them. "What is your passion?" "What is your favorite thing to do when weather is like this?" You can easily create depth with a good question :) Plus when you ask a juice question you get juicy answers to dissect about that person later *grin*
@@AmbiCahira took me years, but ive come to appreciate small talk, and understood why people and society do it. Because when people start small talk, its never about what theyre saying, its about everything else, they are telling you their mood, their stance, their predispositions. I guess infjs dont need small talk because they can tell from a mile away how people are feeling. But most people cant do that, thus the small talk, just to keep things around them in check.
I’m an INFJ, and I ADORE INTPs! You guys have an awkwardness that is so endearing. Every INTP that I’ve known (only a few) is so interesting and intelligent.
As an INFJ, I think I’m in love with an INTP 🥺 the way he talks leaves me in awe. He’s just so intelligent and so patient in teaching and the fact that he is opening up to me makes my heart beat in my throat. I am tirelessly pursuing ... being someone significant in his life.
My take on INTPs as an INFJ is that ya'll are LUCKY. You have a natural propensity to create value in this world in a way that is more immediately disposable to you. You guys are the perfect engineers, there is a career path for that, and it is a lucrative and valuable career to the world at the same time. As an INFJ I always knew that my road was invisible. It has to be created because the world does not provide it. So, many INFJs jump from job to job if they never "make it" on their own. As people, I think INTPs are the most funny type. You guys have a great sense of humor. Surprisingly so since you can be quiet, yet when you get into your silly zone, man you guys can say the craziest things and you crack me up. My uncle and my brother in law are INTPs. You guys are seriously one of the funniest types and surprisingly so.
I'm an INFJ 5w4... I feel I connect really well with INTPs, but suddenly, INTPs become silent and caught up in their own things and disappear like a ghost. The ones I've been talking to this far always seem to seek other kinds of people (like a leader for example, as one INTP 5w4 told me a while back) so I'm just letting them go, because they seem know what they are searching for. Who am I to stand in their way, but I think it's great that they know what they want. I don't really have anything bad to say about them, you guys seem to be genuine people.
I only know one person who's an INFJ (or perhaps more accurately, I only know that I know) - and she's more like a...benevolent entity....than she is an actual person lol. She's my big sister, and quite possibly my favorite person in the world. It's weird; although I understand her fully, she's still somewhat enigmatic - and always eager to listen and engage my lengthy rants on economics, physics, behavioral analysis, etc
I’m an INFJ and u are so right . We take on too much responsibility on what is wrong with the world and we absorb collectively even political injustices especially to children. I’m a blogger and try to raise awareness and defend victims of child abuse because I was one of them. But i personally have to take major breaks because I had to realize I cannot save the world. I try to be a peacemaker as best I can also. I wish everyone could more appreciate our similarities instead of our differences. It makes me sad that this just seems unachievable in the chaos the world is in. Thank you for your insights . You are so correct.👍🏻👍🏻😇
INTP here. My uncle is INFJ. He is only 2 years older than me, so we were playmates when young. We've recently reconnected and I consider him my closest friend and an excellent confidant. He is also 100% empathic, so he can read people very well. He absorbs the emotions of everyone around him so he needs a lot of downtime alone in order to recharge. We get along so well because he is able to consider ideas on a deeper level than most people. He definitively has a focus and can arrive at conclusions much quicker than I can, because, well duh, I'm always asking What If.
I had an INTP physics professor who was so interesting. He was insanely smart, had a calm demeanor, was never fully present and was sort of child like even though he was past 80. He just went on tangents about theories of the universe which I always tried to do but was never able to apply my STEM knowledge to my theories. He was terrible at teaching but I lived for his stories. He was a work of art and I can only imagine what it's like to be in the mind of an INTP.
Well thinkers, I expect nothing from them.. my advice to fellow's INFJ out there. Never let's the society's bring you down,. And you don't have to be in the same boat wit them.
I'm an INFJ and the only reason why I talk so much, if the other person isn't talking, is so that there isn't an awkward silence. But I hate it because normally its small talk and wastes my time. I don't think I've met an INTP before but I like hearing you talk. You're very relaxed compared to me and I like your insight on things. I think that INFJ's and INTP'S even each other out in some ways just because the two may communicate in similar ways
i’m an infj and my boyfriend is an intp. we’ve been together a year now and i remember at the start i struggled. to begin with, he seemed almost emotionless but over time his true side showed through and he always praises me because he said i was the one who helped him do it. he says so many beautiful things about he was instantly drawn to me and he was the first person he’s ever loved. i randomly came across this video but it felt lovely to hear someone understand me, and my fellow infjs, so thank you :) oh and btw, my boyfriend is my translator😂
I'm an INFJ. I've been in love once in my life. He was an INTP. I was young (23yo) so it was an inmature relationship. We broke up several years ago. It's hard for me to connect with people, so most of the time, I'm just single. My relationships don't last long as I offer way too much and they take me for granted. But... lately... I've been dating the most INTP person I've met. We've been dating for 3 months. And HOLYS. I feel incredibly connected to him. Even tho he has a hard time expressing his feellings, I feel like he reads me and I read him, and I'm stupidly nervous as I don't know if he just wants to date me in the future. I obsess over the future a lot. And he gives me mixed signals. I'm losing my head, but fuck I'm loving it. It's such a great story. I really hope it works for a long time. He's an amazing human being.
I adore INTPs. They place such high values on society, care deeply, selfless in a sense they forget themselves, full big personality when they drop their guards, meticulous thinkers and they do so so fluently.
How we work, most people polish their 2-D Mirror surface or their mask that they show off to humanity and that's what they claim to be all well hiding behind that one surface. INFJ's build themselves a kingdom of Mirrors within a sphere of Mirrors a Labyrinth of sorts with all the different pieces of ourselves that we push ourselves to become, we show most people the surface that looks most like them and if you are lucky and we like you then we will invite you down into a corridor or two. But you see only the truly lucky ones ever really get to see the full complexity of who we are, and should you ever stand in that space and get to watch our Labyrinth of Mirrors rearrange what you will find is that those shattered pieces of mirror will move into a Lotus Mandala with a ring of petals reaching beyond the horizon. Each one ever so carefully placed so that it multifunction's just so as to work both in our defense as well as to become our ultimate attack if the moment calls for such. Even in our Darkest of Moments can we harness the smallest of lights to reflect and amplify them into a blinding eclipse to give others the hope they need to go on and to strive or fight. So too can we reflect another's evil and vile nature back upon themselves in full amplification well remaining stone faced, so that they may truly see themselves for everything that they are. A gift and a burden depending on each moment we live, so of course we feel more responsible for the world then most people do. I assume that if your brother is an INFJ then you are used to him speaking to you in Metaphors, Riddles, and Theories. Most INFJ's when I explain it like that smirk deeply because they know, careful are we because we hold ourselves responsible if we teach someone things that becomes destructive to them in the long run. Because we should have judged them better and kept that information to ourselves. It's much like being an adopted parent to anyone we take an interest in. Hope that information clarifies or enlightens you in some way in your search for Truth in this Crazy Cosmos.
I understand everything you said completely. I've said within myself and only a couple others "I'm like a mirror, reflecting another person's inner being to their face" half the time it goes over their heads though I think. - fellow INFJ
For me, and my limited experience, INTPs are probably the best people to have conversations with. It never takes long to dive deep into a meaningful topic. Hours can feel like minutes. And, I find our memories and methods for deconstructing a topic are so different that we're constantly turning light-bulbs on for each other that otherwise would remain dark. I can see how others might be intimidated by INTPs but, once we clear the mutual respect speed bump, it's almost always smooth sailing. With that mutual respect often comes very welcome, fun and productive intellectual sparring I just can't get anywhere else.
As an INFJ I think I have a crush on a guy that might be an INTP and, although I've only briefly spoken to him just twice, I sense this rather tragic aspect about how, even though we do connect on a cognitive level and both of our types can feel a bit out of touch with the society, our functions have different ways to deal with what society "expects" from us. So, it is difficult for an INFJ and INTP to dive into a partnership right away. Since we both truly dislike superficiality, we wouldn't simply "date" or settle with a partner who doesn't want or understand a deeper connection and/or the possibility of becoming partners for life, etc... But because the way we communicate our thoughts AND our emotions differ greatly (I think an INTP's language is more intellectually stimulating while an INFJ's would be more emotionally charged), it would take either a long time or a very specific environment where there is enough proximity and reason for us -- almost like fate? Haha, classic INFJ way of processing relationships with metaphysical ontology -- to really reveal our true selves and appreciate one another as passionate human beings or, potentially, as passionate lovers. It's like, we both don't like small talk and we would much rather spend our precious time exploring into the depths of our own mind, but because of that very reason and our different ways of communicating outwardly, it could be difficult for an INTP or an INFJ to see eye to eye. Not at first, at least. Unfortunately. I think the line of boundary has already been drawn by this INTP-esque subject of my interest, as he has not responded to my rather casual (and perhaps bland) text message -- but my intention was only to break the ice and relieve the pressure/tension off of him and off of our dynamics! And I feel doomed that I blew my chance already and that I won't ever find it easy to pursue someone like that again. And the fact that I often feel personally attracted to INTP males, in a romantic nature, is why I would call it tragic....
Before we love others we must first love our selfs. Are you happy by yourself? Why do you want a relationship? Introspective question's like that will eventually give us the answers 😁
My view on INTPs (as an INFJ). Easily overwhelmed, but if one can maintain their sense of inner poise then that person can do amazing things when taking in large amounts of complex and abstract information… ive been wowed plenty from INTPs. I’ve also noticed that INTPs sometimes argue on logic that may not be relevant to.. well, anything. Sometimes it’s best to step back, slow the mind, and think, where is this going and what’s my point? My favorite thing about INTP is without a doubt their sense of humor. It can get dark, it can be a bit dry as well, but overall fantastic. Best sense of humor in the MBTI world IMO.
The chaos in our life will vanish, one day we will wake up and look at the past and realize that it was all just a nightmare, until then don't give up the good fight.
If INFJ's didn't try so hard being empathetic and a positive influence in the world we would easily slip into being the most evil creatures man has ever saw.
With an INFJ silence doesn’t cover up emotions or unsaid words. We are pretty good at seeing how you feel without it being said. And we are also really good at reading thoughts. Awkward silence is not an issue for INFJ. I really like how you acknowledge how hard we are on ourselves. I am guilty of not being happy with 80%.
I'm an INFJ and I find we go well with INFPs. I have an INFP friend and our conversations just flow. She "gets" me. Not with everything, but more than anyone else.
Woah this vid is old. I'm an INFJ, I got here because I'm pursuing this INTP guy that I like so much. I love their randomness and similar eccentricity to INFJs. So that's why. INTPs are just cautious not to look stupid. Kinda triggers me though because it contradicts our desire for authenticity. But overall, I love INTPs. When they share stuff, it's always interesting or funny.
Thanks for this video. Had me laughing out loud. Extremely insightful! Dude, we are like this because we have two introverted thought processes bouncing information in a loop that never can go anywhere except for towards our care for other people! Our Ni says what do you think about this to our Ti which then says, I think the reason is this to which the Ni says, but it could be this. You guys at least have Ne which gives you an out for your reasonings. Crap dude. You have no idea how mentally tiresome life is as an INFJ. You can see in our eyes. What's the world gonna hit my warn out heart with next. It's just the machine that we've been given. It's how our mental battery works. We get energy from reasoning and lose energy from imagining. Our computer always has the fan running full blast and on the verge of over heating. The only time we get a break is in the bedroom or some I assume turn to drugs and alcohol. We can barely ever shut it off.
@Hoshi Inoue, hey there, fellow INFJ here :) hope you're doing better nowadays. I found out I have ADHD and I swear the right medication has made things so so much easier. Thinking is even more fun now :')
My sister and my SO are both INTP, they are the easiest people to click with. I have so much in common with them and they are fascinating thinkers. They are nearly perfect with one flaw, its so hard for them to express emotion, or give the other emotional closure, so you need to establish good communication since it's always a mystery what they are feeling at the moment. Maybe thats why an INFJ is their best match. My SO is a people pleaser kinda person but its persona to fit in society since they're an introvert but are quite good at it and they pass through everyone thinking they are an extrovert. While my sister doesn't put on any face so you get the "don't disturb me, I'm at peace" vibe with her. My SO appreciated I saw through their mask and told them to be comfortable around me and they thought I was a psychic lol, but that resulted in them being more open and honest. They are very careful, never make any decision too quick, my SO would never think of our dates as good no matter how much fun we had at the moment until the second or third day from the date, and would question why the hell was it so fun and get worried about it🤣 I learned to be a healthier INFJ from dealing with a high functioning INTP and we support each other quite well.
In retrospect, the INTPs I've met so far were magnetic. I admire how witty and intellectual you guys are, it's so satisfying to have conversations of that kind of depth. Additionally, the strongest feelings of romance I've experienced were always for INTPs. Something about that enigmatic pull just feels more real than other connections and I feel most like myself when I'm around an INTP. It's easy, it's very comfortable and also extremely motivating. Yous just charge me with so much energy and inspiration! One thing is true though, that I catch myself spiralling into the oblivion of doubt if yous go quiet. It's gotten a lot better with time though and I make a French exit and disappear just as much :') I really really miss my close INTPs. Loosing yous is excruciatingly sad and takes a long time to get over.
Hahaha you were very nice in this video, still on the spot but very kind to say the least. I like that you mentioned being quite around them so they don't assume responsibility for your emotions, so true and so actually offensive and insulting really. I think INFJs are rather amazing but their biggest downfall is in the inability to let others actually care for them, INFPs, ISFJs and other introverted feelers are able to give up a higher level of control but INFJs seem hell bent on preferring to make a wrong decision on their own than listen to anybody elses wisdom. Even that would be fine if they knew what was happening and adjusted but they instead seem to just end up in a loop of refusing to lead and refusing to follow and never realizing they're even doing it.
Infj here. I don’t small talk but I know exactly what your saying to the point it sooo hurts lol. I have “talked someone’s ear off” before and ofc apologized for it because I’m well aware I’m over talking. Why do such a thing? Well I just adore everything about INTPs so I get really nervous, I don’t want them to think I’m boring, or unintelligent and to have some one who has a lot of the same interests as you, why not talk about a bunch of things?? However, I just wish I could say exactly what I feel sometimes without over worrying and I think that’s what a lot of the extra words come from too. (Sorry I don’t have a translator) 😂
It's 2 am, i'm tired so i'm just skipping through. But as I can see this video is a well meant advice vid for infjs. Thank you! I just wanna drop that i like intps because I feel like you can follow my thoughts easily. We can talk about anything. Humor is a big part, too. Also the way you tend to be straight to the point. I like that thinker boldness. I also love the innocence of the emotional values you carry. It's like a naive, very valuable chivalry I've spotted in Intps I know. Some points of criticism: When I talk to intps they can start dishing out many dry facts, sometimes seemingly random. It's flooding out of them, which can be amazing, but sometimes draining for a feeling type like me. Often it can also be inappropriate in the situation, when intps can't read the emotional flow of a conversation. My advice would be to go easy on our brains, because intps have the highest IQ and interest in pure logic. Allow yourself to feel more in social situations, and don't be afraid to let it out. It's adorable
I appreciate this a lot. It's really a hard pursuit, I sometimes wish to be another type and not overly care about people. I just can't be motivated to do things for myself. And some aspirations I built for people are not appreciated and realized. But I'm just built like this and can't choose another path. Just need to keep working hard and pursue my passion. I just thought if I can touch even one or few people then that's enough already for me.
Infj here, and there's an intp whom I love. For those I've let into my inner circle, I'll go over the moon to support them and help them reach their goal. I find myself helping out in completing a project that my intp friend leaves unfinished when a new project attracts her attention. She also has the idea that there universe will set things in place, opposite of my idea that we choose our own destiny. I had a lot of fun discussing that with her.
Both of those statements are true fellow, and actually cant go one without the other, the universe will set thing in place and you are the creator of your own destiny because you are one with the universe, one cannot exist without the other, you are the universe experimenting itself.
I'm an INFJ and I'm sure my husband is an INTP, I'm kinda new to this MBTI thing, but it has helped me like nothing else to understand him and me a lot more. My problem with him was always the feeling part, so now I get why he acts the way he does, same with me. I'm so glad this video showed up on my screen, had to hear an opinion from a INTP I guess😊💕
-zoom- hehe. Excellent video. I'm INFJ and my partner is INTP. I definitely assume all the responsibility for all the emotions, and if they're hidden away, I can tell and it makes a thing lol.
This was extremely kind!! Thank you! I’m an INFJ and INTP’s are my favorite type lol the only people who can attempt to understand the shit I’m trying to convey.
We are in the MIND a lot because this is a collective DREAM State we are in AND the physical world is BUT illusions. (Everything is "Energy"). Thank you for your effort to understand, however, it is the NON INFJ who has to Step out of "illusion" (EGO) OR not ( as insane number are NOT REAL) But We care about you nonetheless......
Hi, I usually don't leave comments on youtube, but you stated something very interesting here that I wanted to discuss a little. You said that the physical world is nothing but illusions and in order to step out of these illusions we call 'ego', we need to be more in our minds. I don't fully agree with you on that point, so I'll try to explain why (I actually need two translators now, firstly because English isn't my native language and secondly because I'm an infj ;) ). According to Einstein, 'ego' is indeed an optical illusion of our consciousness. This ego is just a collection of ideas, and we give those ideas the feeling to be a unique being on its own. In brief: ego is identification ('idem' + 'facere' in Latin, which means 'making the same': we make our surroundings the same by fitting them in our view of the world). What we identify with is content and it depends on our surroundings, how we were raised and our culture. The need to identify with something in order to keep this image of ourselves is structural: we all want more things to identify with. This structural problem is also why we keep consuming so much in modern society, I think. Now I'll try to get to the point, if this wasn't too vague already. You probably know René Descartes said 'I think, therefore I am', because you actually say something similar. This means that you identify with the thoughts inside your mind. I don't think the highest level of consciousness can be found within our minds though, because we are aware of the fact that we're thinking. A good example to support this, is when you imagine you are dreaming. If you weren't aware that you were dreaming, the dreaming on itself was indeed the highest level of consciousness you could get. But we're not dreamers in real life, because we are aware of our thoughts. And this awareness is the only thing that we know for sure is not an illusion. I don't think the physical world is an illusion either, but the way we perceive it will never be how it is on itself. We have thoughts about the weather being 'good' or 'bad', but that means we don't perceive the weather how it is, for example. Lastly, I wanted to say that I don't think living while being aware of 'ego' is something all infj's do and all infj's are capable of. It could be that intuitives feel more attracted to the theory I just explained, but that doesn't mean all intuitives live by it and that sensors wouldn't be able to understand it or live by it. I think it depends on the individual. I'm sorry for this way too long comment! I thought you (Eric) were very kind and honest in this video. I very much recognised it by myself when you spoke about wanting to carry the world on your shoulders or when you gave the advice of finding a translator, haha. Thank you for this video. - an infj
I'm an INFJ, my husbands a INTP hes definitely my translator it definitely took awhile to guess the words or what i was trying to say. Which has led to miscommunication, and thats something we've had to work out of our hugest issue was miscommunication and not seeing if we were saying the same thing just different ways. Another was speaking over me when i was still trying to get my sentence out.
INFJs have zero issues with awkward silence. Many welcome it rather than engage in excruciatingly pointless conversation. He may not be dealing with actual INFJs. Most of the time I’m wondering when the other person is going to shut up.
I do understand why INFJs has the urged to socialize with people especially when they go outside...otherwise they might be called rude for not talking or greet them at least.
Infj here. You guys are... absolutely amazing. I often wonder if that vibe of attraction between us that I pick up on is mutual. Can u say it's true? I think that I and my friend are stuck in a cycle of feeling very strong about each other without any words. I just find it in her gaze. I would move mountains for my Intp. I like your videos. What do you need from a person to feel cared for? There's a theory about 5 languages of love. There are words of affirmation, acts of service, touch, receiving gifts and quality time. Whats your way of feeling loved? Sorry if that's too personal
Thank for you comment! I have not come across enough INFJs in person to know what connects us. My brother is an INFJ and we become very close growing up, and I only met one other INFJ. I would love to come across more INFJs to get a better sense of how they see the world and how they approach people of potential connection. Growing up with an INFJ brother had me bypass those "get to know someone" stages. But I do notice how the INFJ and INTP balance each other out using their strengths for each other, a powerful connection that not many other duos experience. I am encouraged about your passion for your INTP friend, INFJs are full of such God-like zeal for protecting those they truly care about. No worries on being personal! I enjoy personal questions. My top love language is quality time. To speak my language to have me feel cared for is to want to do something with me, either by me suggesting or someone inviting me. But this can be difficult if I don't personally connect with the person inviting me, there has to be an interest of friendship. I also appreciate if someone chooses to sit with me in a room. They don't have to say anything but them deciding to spend time with me doing whatever they are doing makes me feel appreciated. But of course, if it is someone I do not have a relationship with (friend or romantic) or have any interest in, it can become a bother. What are ways you feel loved/appreciated by those you care about?
That's a shame both Intps and infjs are rare types and its difficult for us to find one another. Let me know if u find another one irl. I really want to hear your opinions. My love language would be quality time as well, as I dont enjoy receiving gifts much and help as much as for example talking or watching movies together. I find touch very important too. When Im emotionally close to someone I tend to look for that physical connection, even if its just a hug or placing my hands on their shoulders. Now that i know of the MBTI stuff I understand better why some people dont enjoy it as much. That it could be a sign of that Introverted sensing. U said once it is very personal to you, so yeh, I can see that with the Intps as well as infps that i know. Anyways, take care, good job on the videos :) u have a nice dog btw
When there's no conversation we feel obligated to say something as to fill the void so we don't get lost in our own world and worries we put off. I hope that helps (I'm an Infj)
I've never known an INTP as far as I know and I am an INFJ and I wish I knew someone very similar to me. I carry my burdens on my own since nobody I know is equipped to handle the things I carry, but I divide snippets of weight to loads of people so nobody knows the extent. I wish I knew what personality type my husband is but he has no interest in being still long enough to find out because when he is still he is asleep. He is an introvert, he has some intuition but I think he might make more factual decisions possibly over intuition... not sure since he is pretty unaware of how he does things since "he just does them." He is very restless and loves doing things and I think being physically active is when he can shut off his brain and be the most relaxed and happy so I do the thinking and planning while he does the execution here on the farm. I know he relies at least some on some sensing intuition because if a calf is newborn and missing he sometimes just knows where to look and he discovers illness before a vet's trained eye could possibly notice which is very extraordinary. He feels the soul of the animals because I can tell that he behaves and moves around the animals the same wordless way as I do to some degree. Everybody he meets loves him and people just give him gifts and he is very artistic. He isn't INFJ because he doesnt see people on a deeper level like I do but he is something pretty close. Any ideas what he might be? No matter what he is he keeps me solid and we are enough similar to connect and enough different to complete each others weaknesses. :) We both are self sacrificing but both remind eachother to take care of ourselves too. I appreciate that he trusts my judgement and instinct and that he never argues with me so it's easy to open up to him and share when I notice something that others would declare me crazy for. INFJ can feel super lonely so anybody that can be genuine when they say "I believe you" is the most valuable gift in the world.
As a fellow INFJ, I agree that I never stand up for myself in society. Yet the funny part when you said find someone who will, I kinda cringed lol. It's like........I let society walk all over me.........yet I'd feel very uncomfortable letting someone else stand up for me. It makes me feel stressed if that makes any sense lol. But maybe that's what I need, who knows... Great insight though! I don't know anything about other types as I'm not a MBTI guru. I just know about INFJ's and a little about INFP's (since I mistyped as one a few times).
Great video! I think alot of the pressure Infjs put on ourselves stems from our dang perfectionism lol. I do appreciate the types that don't mind that silence during conversation, if it happens I think it's totally natural. Have you met any other infjs since this video? Do you have anymore thoughts about us? Would love to see another video 😆🙂
Took the test last summer and discovered I'm an INTP but feeling I might actually be an INFJ. Still researching. I'm in my head a lot but my emotions can be super intense.
This was all super helpful. Im an INFJ and im suoer drawn to INTP but im always 100% to emotional... Even with my father who im now just learning to understand.
I'm an infj and I got into Mbti in the past year and an odd thing is I find intps are the only one's who (ok maybe not the only ones who pursue-) a relationship but it's odd to me because in my experience intps have been the most direct in that area. As for infjs thinking of themselves as some kind of deity I understand where you're coming from because, infj's feel like they are taking care of the world, or at least trying to and especially *whatever specific person* bc they are more prominently a part of their world. Idek how infj's feel like way. I think it's mostly bc we feel so connected to everything, and or especially the people around us and the people closest to us. And with feeling so connected it makes us feel the pressure of responsibility, even if it's not necessaryly ours. yeaaaaah we do need to calm down a bit. Sometimes. Very hard to do. But it is something that we want. To enjoy the moment. And most infjs are very adamant about personal growth and growth in general,,,, yadayadayada I could go on and on but I think you get the gist. I appreciate the vid 👌
Hey man, if ya ever met me ya wouldn't have to be silent, tbh I'm not sure I'm a hsp, I could be less infj than most because I dont seem to feel other ppl's emotions so you can talk freely with me
I'm an INFJ and I hate small talk and I would rather be in awkward silence than in a meaningless conversation.
I discovered a pretty amazing nugget of truth regarding small talk. Small talk is just a search for a bigger topic to hook on to so you can easily steer the conversation by your answers. If someone asks "how are you today?" And you rather talk about cats you can say "I'm feeling amused because my cat was so funny this morning" and boom you will talk about cats after just 1 question. :) "how is weather over there? Boring, but at least I can stay inside and watch funny cat videos" or even find a slot to ask a question to them. "What is your passion?" "What is your favorite thing to do when weather is like this?" You can easily create depth with a good question :) Plus when you ask a juice question you get juicy answers to dissect about that person later *grin*
@@AmbiCahira took me years, but ive come to appreciate small talk, and understood why people and society do it. Because when people start small talk, its never about what theyre saying, its about everything else, they are telling you their mood, their stance, their predispositions. I guess infjs dont need small talk because they can tell from a mile away how people are feeling. But most people cant do that, thus the small talk, just to keep things around them in check.
@@missionpupa Great observation!
I’m an INFJ, and I ADORE INTPs! You guys have an awkwardness that is so endearing. Every INTP that I’ve known (only a few) is so interesting and intelligent.
I'm an INFJ and I love INTPs. There's a very natural and fluid connection with our conversations, as if we can connect each other's dots.
I have experienced this as well.
So so true.
As an INFJ, I think I’m in love with an INTP 🥺 the way he talks leaves me in awe. He’s just so intelligent and so patient in teaching and the fact that he is opening up to me makes my heart beat in my throat. I am tirelessly pursuing ... being someone significant in his life.
My take on INTPs as an INFJ is that ya'll are LUCKY. You have a natural propensity to create value in this world in a way that is more immediately disposable to you. You guys are the perfect engineers, there is a career path for that, and it is a lucrative and valuable career to the world at the same time.
As an INFJ I always knew that my road was invisible. It has to be created because the world does not provide it. So, many INFJs jump from job to job if they never "make it" on their own.
As people, I think INTPs are the most funny type. You guys have a great sense of humor. Surprisingly so since you can be quiet, yet when you get into your silly zone, man you guys can say the craziest things and you crack me up. My uncle and my brother in law are INTPs. You guys are seriously one of the funniest types and surprisingly so.
I always felt cursed as an INTP. It's not luck for sure.
I'm an INFJ 5w4... I feel I connect really well with INTPs, but suddenly, INTPs become silent and caught up in their own things and disappear like a ghost. The ones I've been talking to this far always seem to seek other kinds of people (like a leader for example, as one INTP 5w4 told me a while back) so I'm just letting them go, because they seem know what they are searching for. Who am I to stand in their way, but I think it's great that they know what they want. I don't really have anything bad to say about them, you guys seem to be genuine people.
I only know one person who's an INFJ (or perhaps more accurately, I only know that I know) - and she's more like a...benevolent entity....than she is an actual person lol. She's my big sister, and quite possibly my favorite person in the world. It's weird; although I understand her fully, she's still somewhat enigmatic - and always eager to listen and engage my lengthy rants on economics, physics, behavioral analysis, etc
I’m an INFJ and u are so right . We take on too much responsibility on what is wrong with the world and we absorb collectively even political injustices especially to children. I’m a blogger and try to raise awareness and defend victims of child abuse because I was one of them. But i personally have to take major breaks because I had to realize I cannot save the world. I try to be a peacemaker as best I can also. I wish everyone could more appreciate our similarities instead of our differences. It makes me sad that this just seems unachievable in the chaos the world is in. Thank you for your insights . You are so correct.👍🏻👍🏻😇
I relate so hard to stopping child abuse because you've been through one!! Yes, my life mission now is revolving around this.
INTP here. My uncle is INFJ. He is only 2 years older than me, so we were playmates when young. We've recently reconnected and I consider him my closest friend and an excellent confidant. He is also 100% empathic, so he can read people very well. He absorbs the emotions of everyone around him so he needs a lot of downtime alone in order to recharge. We get along so well because he is able to consider ideas on a deeper level than most people. He definitively has a focus and can arrive at conclusions much quicker than I can, because, well duh, I'm always asking What If.
I had an INTP physics professor who was so interesting. He was insanely smart, had a calm demeanor, was never fully present and was sort of child like even though he was past 80. He just went on tangents about theories of the universe which I always tried to do but was never able to apply my STEM knowledge to my theories. He was terrible at teaching but I lived for his stories. He was a work of art and I can only imagine what it's like to be in the mind of an INTP.
What are your theories btw
Any other INFJs feeling slightly misunderstood?
Slightly is an understatement.
@@kinseydesignsbrands ha yeah, I was gonna say I'd love to be only slightly misunderstood : )
That would be an amazing day!
Well thinkers, I expect nothing from them..
my advice to fellow's INFJ out there. Never let's the society's bring you down,. And you don't have to be in the same boat wit them.
You're right I'm in my own boat, but still giving advice and foretelling dangers🥰
I'm an INFJ and the only reason why I talk so much, if the other person isn't talking, is so that there isn't an awkward silence. But I hate it because normally its small talk and wastes my time. I don't think I've met an INTP before but I like hearing you talk. You're very relaxed compared to me and I like your insight on things. I think that INFJ's and INTP'S even each other out in some ways just because the two may communicate in similar ways
Literally me
i’m an infj and my boyfriend is an intp. we’ve been together a year now and i remember at the start i struggled. to begin with, he seemed almost emotionless but over time his true side showed through and he always praises me because he said i was the one who helped him do it. he says so many beautiful things about he was instantly drawn to me and he was the first person he’s ever loved. i randomly came across this video but it felt lovely to hear someone understand me, and my fellow infjs, so thank you :) oh and btw, my boyfriend is my translator😂
I'm an INFJ. I've been in love once in my life. He was an INTP. I was young (23yo) so it was an inmature relationship. We broke up several years ago. It's hard for me to connect with people, so most of the time, I'm just single. My relationships don't last long as I offer way too much and they take me for granted. But... lately... I've been dating the most INTP person I've met. We've been dating for 3 months. And HOLYS. I feel incredibly connected to him. Even tho he has a hard time expressing his feellings, I feel like he reads me and I read him, and I'm stupidly nervous as I don't know if he just wants to date me in the future. I obsess over the future a lot. And he gives me mixed signals. I'm losing my head, but fuck I'm loving it. It's such a great story. I really hope it works for a long time. He's an amazing human being.
INFJ and INTPs are attracted to each other like magnets! 💞
I adore INTPs. They place such high values on society, care deeply, selfless in a sense they forget themselves, full big personality when they drop their guards, meticulous thinkers and they do so so fluently.
How we work, most people polish their 2-D Mirror surface or their mask that they show off to humanity and that's what they claim to be all well hiding behind that one surface.
INFJ's build themselves a kingdom of Mirrors within a sphere of Mirrors a Labyrinth of sorts with all the different pieces of ourselves that we push ourselves to become, we show most people the surface that looks most like them and if you are lucky and we like you then we will invite you down into a corridor or two.
But you see only the truly lucky ones ever really get to see the full complexity of who we are, and should you ever stand in that space and get to watch our Labyrinth of Mirrors rearrange what you will find is that those shattered pieces of mirror will move into a Lotus Mandala with a ring of petals reaching beyond the horizon. Each one ever so carefully placed so that it multifunction's just so as to work both in our defense as well as to become our ultimate attack if the moment calls for such.
Even in our Darkest of Moments can we harness the smallest of lights to reflect and amplify them into a blinding eclipse to give others the hope they need to go on and to strive or fight.
So too can we reflect another's evil and vile nature back upon themselves in full amplification well remaining stone faced, so that they may truly see themselves for everything that they are.
A gift and a burden depending on each moment we live, so of course we feel more responsible for the world then most people do. I assume that if your brother is an INFJ then you are used to him speaking to you in Metaphors, Riddles, and Theories.
Most INFJ's when I explain it like that smirk deeply because they know, careful are we because we hold ourselves responsible if we teach someone things that becomes destructive to them in the long run. Because we should have judged them better and kept that information to ourselves. It's much like being an adopted parent to anyone we take an interest in.
Hope that information clarifies or enlightens you in some way in your search for Truth in this Crazy Cosmos.
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I understand everything you said completely. I've said within myself and only a couple others "I'm like a mirror, reflecting another person's inner being to their face" half the time it goes over their heads though I think. - fellow INFJ
The translator advice is a good advice
For me, and my limited experience, INTPs are probably the best people to have conversations with.
It never takes long to dive deep into a meaningful topic. Hours can feel like minutes.
And, I find our memories and methods for deconstructing a topic are so different that we're constantly turning light-bulbs on for each other that otherwise would remain dark.
I can see how others might be intimidated by INTPs but, once we clear the mutual respect speed bump, it's almost always smooth sailing.
With that mutual respect often comes very welcome, fun and productive intellectual sparring I just can't get anywhere else.
As an INFJ I think I have a crush on a guy that might be an INTP and, although I've only briefly spoken to him just twice, I sense this rather tragic aspect about how, even though we do connect on a cognitive level and both of our types can feel a bit out of touch with the society, our functions have different ways to deal with what society "expects" from us. So, it is difficult for an INFJ and INTP to dive into a partnership right away. Since we both truly dislike superficiality, we wouldn't simply "date" or settle with a partner who doesn't want or understand a deeper connection and/or the possibility of becoming partners for life, etc... But because the way we communicate our thoughts AND our emotions differ greatly (I think an INTP's language is more intellectually stimulating while an INFJ's would be more emotionally charged), it would take either a long time or a very specific environment where there is enough proximity and reason for us -- almost like fate? Haha, classic INFJ way of processing relationships with metaphysical ontology -- to really reveal our true selves and appreciate one another as passionate human beings or, potentially, as passionate lovers. It's like, we both don't like small talk and we would much rather spend our precious time exploring into the depths of our own mind, but because of that very reason and our different ways of communicating outwardly, it could be difficult for an INTP or an INFJ to see eye to eye. Not at first, at least. Unfortunately. I think the line of boundary has already been drawn by this INTP-esque subject of my interest, as he has not responded to my rather casual (and perhaps bland) text message -- but my intention was only to break the ice and relieve the pressure/tension off of him and off of our dynamics! And I feel doomed that I blew my chance already and that I won't ever find it easy to pursue someone like that again. And the fact that I often feel personally attracted to INTP males, in a romantic nature, is why I would call it tragic....
Before we love others we must first love our selfs. Are you happy by yourself? Why do you want a relationship? Introspective question's like that will eventually give us the answers 😁
That isn't all of us, a lot the same but as an INFJ we definitely people please and that isn't good when some people are not givers also.
My view on INTPs (as an INFJ). Easily overwhelmed, but if one can maintain their sense of inner poise then that person can do amazing things when taking in large amounts of complex and abstract information… ive been wowed plenty from INTPs.
I’ve also noticed that INTPs sometimes argue on logic that may not be relevant to.. well, anything. Sometimes it’s best to step back, slow the mind, and think, where is this going and what’s my point?
My favorite thing about INTP is without a doubt their sense of humor. It can get dark, it can be a bit dry as well, but overall fantastic. Best sense of humor in the MBTI world IMO.
The chaos in our life will vanish, one day we will wake up and look at the past and realize that it was all just a nightmare, until then don't give up the good fight.
If INFJ's didn't try so hard being empathetic and a positive influence in the world we would easily slip into being the most evil creatures man has ever saw.
With an INFJ silence doesn’t cover up emotions or unsaid words. We are pretty good at seeing how you feel without it being said. And we are also really good at reading thoughts. Awkward silence is not an issue for INFJ. I really like how you acknowledge how hard we are on ourselves. I am guilty of not being happy with 80%.
I'm an INFJ and I find we go well with INFPs. I have an INFP friend and our conversations just flow. She "gets" me. Not with everything, but more than anyone else.
Woah this vid is old. I'm an INFJ, I got here because I'm pursuing this INTP guy that I like so much. I love their randomness and similar eccentricity to INFJs. So that's why. INTPs are just cautious not to look stupid. Kinda triggers me though because it contradicts our desire for authenticity. But overall, I love INTPs. When they share stuff, it's always interesting or funny.
Thanks for this video. Had me laughing out loud. Extremely insightful! Dude, we are like this because we have two introverted thought processes bouncing information in a loop that never can go anywhere except for towards our care for other people! Our Ni says what do you think about this to our Ti which then says, I think the reason is this to which the Ni says, but it could be this. You guys at least have Ne which gives you an out for your reasonings. Crap dude. You have no idea how mentally tiresome life is as an INFJ. You can see in our eyes. What's the world gonna hit my warn out heart with next. It's just the machine that we've been given. It's how our mental battery works. We get energy from reasoning and lose energy from imagining. Our computer always has the fan running full blast and on the verge of over heating. The only time we get a break is in the bedroom or some I assume turn to drugs and alcohol. We can barely ever shut it off.
Hoshi Inoue True...I'm often pretty drained after a long day. On top of that I rarely get to have a lot of time to myself to just relax and recharge.
@Hoshi Inoue, hey there, fellow INFJ here :) hope you're doing better nowadays. I found out I have ADHD and I swear the right medication has made things so so much easier. Thinking is even more fun now :')
This made me cry. Thanks for saying all those nice things about us. I needed it really badly.
I think INFJ and INTP complement each other like INTJ and INFP
My sister and my SO are both INTP, they are the easiest people to click with. I have so much in common with them and they are fascinating thinkers. They are nearly perfect with one flaw, its so hard for them to express emotion, or give the other emotional closure, so you need to establish good communication since it's always a mystery what they are feeling at the moment. Maybe thats why an INFJ is their best match.
My SO is a people pleaser kinda person but its persona to fit in society since they're an introvert but are quite good at it and they pass through everyone thinking they are an extrovert. While my sister doesn't put on any face so you get the "don't disturb me, I'm at peace" vibe with her. My SO appreciated I saw through their mask and told them to be comfortable around me and they thought I was a psychic lol, but that resulted in them being more open and honest.
They are very careful, never make any decision too quick, my SO would never think of our dates as good no matter how much fun we had at the moment until the second or third day from the date, and would question why the hell was it so fun and get worried about it🤣
I learned to be a healthier INFJ from dealing with a high functioning INTP and we support each other quite well.
In retrospect, the INTPs I've met so far were magnetic. I admire how witty and intellectual you guys are, it's so satisfying to have conversations of that kind of depth. Additionally, the strongest feelings of romance I've experienced were always for INTPs. Something about that enigmatic pull just feels more real than other connections and I feel most like myself when I'm around an INTP. It's easy, it's very comfortable and also extremely motivating. Yous just charge me with so much energy and inspiration! One thing is true though, that I catch myself spiralling into the oblivion of doubt if yous go quiet. It's gotten a lot better with time though and I make a French exit and disappear just as much :')
I really really miss my close INTPs. Loosing yous is excruciatingly sad and takes a long time to get over.
I love how you talk about things that most people dont about infj's, which is their vision and unsought sense of responsibility for other people.
Hahaha you were very nice in this video, still on the spot but very kind to say the least. I like that you mentioned being quite around them so they don't assume responsibility for your emotions, so true and so actually offensive and insulting really. I think INFJs are rather amazing but their biggest downfall is in the inability to let others actually care for them, INFPs, ISFJs and other introverted feelers are able to give up a higher level of control but INFJs seem hell bent on preferring to make a wrong decision on their own than listen to anybody elses wisdom. Even that would be fine if they knew what was happening and adjusted but they instead seem to just end up in a loop of refusing to lead and refusing to follow and never realizing they're even doing it.
Interesting point!
Infj here. I don’t small talk but I know exactly what your saying to the point it sooo hurts lol. I have “talked someone’s ear off” before and ofc apologized for it because I’m well aware I’m over talking. Why do such a thing? Well I just adore everything about INTPs so I get really nervous, I don’t want them to think I’m boring, or unintelligent and to have some one who has a lot of the same interests as you, why not talk about a bunch of things?? However, I just wish I could say exactly what I feel sometimes without over worrying and I think that’s what a lot of the extra words come from too. (Sorry I don’t have a translator) 😂
It's 2 am, i'm tired so i'm just skipping through. But as I can see this video is a well meant advice vid for infjs. Thank you!
I just wanna drop that i like intps because I feel like you can follow my thoughts easily. We can talk about anything. Humor is a big part, too.
Also the way you tend to be straight to the point. I like that thinker boldness. I also love the innocence of the emotional values you carry. It's like a naive, very valuable chivalry I've spotted in Intps I know.
Some points of criticism:
When I talk to intps they can start dishing out many dry facts, sometimes seemingly random. It's flooding out of them, which can be amazing, but sometimes draining for a feeling type like me.
Often it can also be inappropriate in the situation, when intps can't read the emotional flow of a conversation.
My advice would be to go easy on our brains, because intps have the highest IQ and interest in pure logic. Allow yourself to feel more in social situations, and don't be afraid to let it out. It's adorable
I appreciate this a lot. It's really a hard pursuit, I sometimes wish to be another type and not overly care about people. I just can't be motivated to do things for myself. And some aspirations I built for people are not appreciated and realized. But I'm just built like this and can't choose another path. Just need to keep working hard and pursue my passion. I just thought if I can touch even one or few people then that's enough already for me.
Infj here, and there's an intp whom I love. For those I've let into my inner circle, I'll go over the moon to support them and help them reach their goal. I find myself helping out in completing a project that my intp friend leaves unfinished when a new project attracts her attention.
She also has the idea that there universe will set things in place, opposite of my idea that we choose our own destiny. I had a lot of fun discussing that with her.
Both of those statements are true fellow, and actually cant go one without the other, the universe will set thing in place and you are the creator of your own destiny because you are one with the universe, one cannot exist without the other, you are the universe experimenting itself.
I'm an INFJ and I'm sure my husband is an INTP, I'm kinda new to this MBTI thing, but it has helped me like nothing else to understand him and me a lot more. My problem with him was always the feeling part, so now I get why he acts the way he does, same with me.
I'm so glad this video showed up on my screen, had to hear an opinion from a INTP I guess😊💕
-zoom- hehe. Excellent video. I'm INFJ and my partner is INTP. I definitely assume all the responsibility for all the emotions, and if they're hidden away, I can tell and it makes a thing lol.
This was extremely kind!! Thank you! I’m an INFJ and INTP’s are my favorite type lol the only people who can attempt to understand the shit I’m trying to convey.
We are in the MIND a lot because this is a collective DREAM State we are in AND the physical world is BUT illusions. (Everything is "Energy"). Thank you for your effort to understand, however, it is the NON INFJ who has to Step out of "illusion" (EGO) OR not ( as insane number are NOT REAL) But We care about you nonetheless......
Hi, I usually don't leave comments on youtube, but you stated something very interesting here that I wanted to discuss a little. You said that the physical world is nothing but illusions and in order to step out of these illusions we call 'ego', we need to be more in our minds. I don't fully agree with you on that point, so I'll try to explain why (I actually need two translators now, firstly because English isn't my native language and secondly because I'm an infj ;) ).
According to Einstein, 'ego' is indeed an optical illusion of our consciousness. This ego is just a collection of ideas, and we give those ideas the feeling to be a unique being on its own. In brief: ego is identification ('idem' + 'facere' in Latin, which means 'making the same': we make our surroundings the same by fitting them in our view of the world). What we identify with is content and it depends on our surroundings, how we were raised and our culture. The need to identify with something in order to keep this image of ourselves is structural: we all want more things to identify with. This structural problem is also why we keep consuming so much in modern society, I think.
Now I'll try to get to the point, if this wasn't too vague already. You probably know René Descartes said 'I think, therefore I am', because you actually say something similar. This means that you identify with the thoughts inside your mind. I don't think the highest level of consciousness can be found within our minds though, because we are aware of the fact that we're thinking. A good example to support this, is when you imagine you are dreaming. If you weren't aware that you were dreaming, the dreaming on itself was indeed the highest level of consciousness you could get. But we're not dreamers in real life, because we are aware of our thoughts. And this awareness is the only thing that we know for sure is not an illusion.
I don't think the physical world is an illusion either, but the way we perceive it will never be how it is on itself. We have thoughts about the weather being 'good' or 'bad', but that means we don't perceive the weather how it is, for example.
Lastly, I wanted to say that I don't think living while being aware of 'ego' is something all infj's do and all infj's are capable of. It could be that intuitives feel more attracted to the theory I just explained, but that doesn't mean all intuitives live by it and that sensors wouldn't be able to understand it or live by it. I think it depends on the individual.
I'm sorry for this way too long comment! I thought you (Eric) were very kind and honest in this video. I very much recognised it by myself when you spoke about wanting to carry the world on your shoulders or when you gave the advice of finding a translator, haha. Thank you for this video. - an infj
I'm an INFJ, my husbands a INTP hes definitely my translator it definitely took awhile to guess the words or what i was trying to say.
Which has led to miscommunication, and thats something we've had to work out of our hugest issue was miscommunication and not seeing if we were saying the same thing just different ways. Another was speaking over me when i was still trying to get my sentence out.
I'm an INFJ and I recently deeply connected to a INTJ
My father is INTP and I am INFJ. Both in the same family too. Both types like abstract conversation.
Your funny and sweet!!! I'm an INFJ and enjoyed your video, thank you for sharing!!
INFJs have zero issues with awkward silence. Many welcome it rather than engage in excruciatingly pointless conversation. He may not be dealing with actual INFJs. Most of the time I’m wondering when the other person is going to shut up.
I do understand why INFJs has the urged to socialize with people especially when they go outside...otherwise they might be called rude for not talking or greet them at least.
We are in our mind a lot and get misinterpreted big time!🙏 🐾🐧Piing!😂
Great job. I enjoy listening to your genuine mode and your insights.
Infj here. You guys are... absolutely amazing. I often wonder if that vibe of attraction between us that I pick up on is mutual. Can u say it's true? I think that I and my friend are stuck in a cycle of feeling very strong about each other without any words. I just find it in her gaze. I would move mountains for my Intp. I like your videos. What do you need from a person to feel cared for? There's a theory about 5 languages of love. There are words of affirmation, acts of service, touch, receiving gifts and quality time. Whats your way of feeling loved? Sorry if that's too personal
Thank for you comment! I have not come across enough INFJs in person to know what connects us. My brother is an INFJ and we become very close growing up, and I only met one other INFJ. I would love to come across more INFJs to get a better sense of how they see the world and how they approach people of potential connection. Growing up with an INFJ brother had me bypass those "get to know someone" stages. But I do notice how the INFJ and INTP balance each other out using their strengths for each other, a powerful connection that not many other duos experience. I am encouraged about your passion for your INTP friend, INFJs are full of such God-like zeal for protecting those they truly care about.
No worries on being personal! I enjoy personal questions. My top love language is quality time. To speak my language to have me feel cared for is to want to do something with me, either by me suggesting or someone inviting me. But this can be difficult if I don't personally connect with the person inviting me, there has to be an interest of friendship. I also appreciate if someone chooses to sit with me in a room. They don't have to say anything but them deciding to spend time with me doing whatever they are doing makes me feel appreciated. But of course, if it is someone I do not have a relationship with (friend or romantic) or have any interest in, it can become a bother.
What are ways you feel loved/appreciated by those you care about?
That's a shame both Intps and infjs are rare types and its difficult for us to find one another. Let me know if u find another one irl. I really want to hear your opinions. My love language would be quality time as well, as I dont enjoy receiving gifts much and help as much as for example talking or watching movies together. I find touch very important too. When Im emotionally close to someone I tend to look for that physical connection, even if its just a hug or placing my hands on their shoulders. Now that i know of the MBTI stuff I understand better why some people dont enjoy it as much. That it could be a sign of that Introverted sensing. U said once it is very personal to you, so yeh, I can see that with the Intps as well as infps that i know. Anyways, take care, good job on the videos :) u have a nice dog btw
Thanks
When there's no conversation we feel obligated to say something as to fill the void so we don't get lost in our own world and worries we put off. I hope that helps (I'm an Infj)
As an INFJ, I completely agree
I've never known an INTP as far as I know and I am an INFJ and I wish I knew someone very similar to me. I carry my burdens on my own since nobody I know is equipped to handle the things I carry, but I divide snippets of weight to loads of people so nobody knows the extent. I wish I knew what personality type my husband is but he has no interest in being still long enough to find out because when he is still he is asleep. He is an introvert, he has some intuition but I think he might make more factual decisions possibly over intuition... not sure since he is pretty unaware of how he does things since "he just does them." He is very restless and loves doing things and I think being physically active is when he can shut off his brain and be the most relaxed and happy so I do the thinking and planning while he does the execution here on the farm. I know he relies at least some on some sensing intuition because if a calf is newborn and missing he sometimes just knows where to look and he discovers illness before a vet's trained eye could possibly notice which is very extraordinary. He feels the soul of the animals because I can tell that he behaves and moves around the animals the same wordless way as I do to some degree. Everybody he meets loves him and people just give him gifts and he is very artistic. He isn't INFJ because he doesnt see people on a deeper level like I do but he is something pretty close. Any ideas what he might be?
No matter what he is he keeps me solid and we are enough similar to connect and enough different to complete each others weaknesses. :) We both are self sacrificing but both remind eachother to take care of ourselves too. I appreciate that he trusts my judgement and instinct and that he never argues with me so it's easy to open up to him and share when I notice something that others would declare me crazy for. INFJ can feel super lonely so anybody that can be genuine when they say "I believe you" is the most valuable gift in the world.
As a fellow INFJ, I agree that I never stand up for myself in society. Yet the funny part when you said find someone who will, I kinda cringed lol. It's like........I let society walk all over me.........yet I'd feel very uncomfortable letting someone else stand up for me. It makes me feel stressed if that makes any sense lol. But maybe that's what I need, who knows...
Great insight though! I don't know anything about other types as I'm not a MBTI guru. I just know about INFJ's and a little about INFP's (since I mistyped as one a few times).
Great video! I think alot of the pressure Infjs put on ourselves stems from our dang perfectionism lol. I do appreciate the types that don't mind that silence during conversation, if it happens I think it's totally natural. Have you met any other infjs since this video? Do you have anymore thoughts about us? Would love to see another video 😆🙂
Took the test last summer and discovered I'm an INTP but feeling I might actually be an INFJ. Still researching. I'm in my head a lot but my emotions can be super intense.
From some tests, most of my friends are INFJ and I am INTP 🤣 discussing about deep thoughts are a bit hard... but we get along very well in general
I'm an INFJ. I feel completely misunderstood. I care about other people in an insanely deep way.
Good video. I think you'd be a great guy to have some interesting discussions with. Too bad I don't know of any INTPs in my life.
This was all super helpful. Im an INFJ and im suoer drawn to INTP but im always 100% to emotional... Even with my father who im now just learning to understand.
I had to restart the video 4 times because I kept getting lost in thought.
Hahahhajaa same (infj)
I'm an INFJ and my sister is an INTP :)
That was on point tbh...
I'm an infj and I got into Mbti in the past year and an odd thing is I find intps are the only one's who (ok maybe not the only ones who pursue-) a relationship but it's odd to me because in my experience intps have been the most direct in that area.
As for infjs thinking of themselves as some kind of deity I understand where you're coming from because, infj's feel like they are taking care of the world, or at least trying to and especially *whatever specific person* bc they are more prominently a part of their world.
Idek how infj's feel like way.
I think it's mostly bc we feel so connected to everything, and or especially the people around us and the people closest to us. And with feeling so connected it makes us feel the pressure of responsibility, even if it's not necessaryly ours.
yeaaaaah we do need to calm down a bit. Sometimes. Very hard to do. But it is something that we want. To enjoy the moment. And most infjs are very adamant about personal growth and growth in general,,,, yadayadayada I could go on and on but I think you get the gist. I appreciate the vid 👌
Thank you for this! -Infj
That ending tho... 😂
Yes I need a translator....lol 🙃✌🏻
🤣🤣🤣🤣☺️☺️☺️you are very sweet. And kind. Wish you were my friend❤️🐥
I need a translator. ❤️🤣🐥
Weird ass body, my left leg doesn't hurt today but now my right leg hurts?? Wtf 😑 the right only hurts when the left doesn't and I'm really confused
I'm not lookin for my place in the world because I'm a random, I'm focused on bein happy n stayin off the streets n away from death n stupid ppl
By translator you mean we need an entp or entj 😅 where are those ppl who will stand for us and translate our thoughts 🤔
Haha all the INFJ's are writing long and meaningful and detailed paragraphs in the comment section 😅😁 i related to each and every one
Hey man, if ya ever met me ya wouldn't have to be silent, tbh I'm not sure I'm a hsp, I could be less infj than most because I dont seem to feel other ppl's emotions so you can talk freely with me
I don't know of any people as their types would be nice though.
:)
This was depressing
Why are you hiding in the grass next to the road! It looks uncomfortable and you seem nervous there. I am INFJ
Why are you in the grasses...
It is my natural habitat.