All Your Answers Questioned: Wild Ride with Professor Vaknin
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- Опубліковано 5 лют 2025
- NEW CHANNEL Nothingness: Antidote to Narcissism
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Dorcas Williams, my interlocutor, says: "This is not another, "Sam, tell us what narcissism is again..." interview. If you're looking for one of those, there are plenty already on his channel. No! In this interview he speaks about embracing nothingness, Jordan Peterson, physics, and something called psychophysics. He also discusses the progress and future of the pandemic. In the final quarter of the interview, he opens up about his experience attending university as a child and he reveals how many languages he knows. Watch until the VERY end to find out his favorite food!
1:47 Dr. Vaknin on the stories we use to relate to reality
7:07 Was "embracing nothingness" a response to Jordan Peterson?
16:42 What's an example of a problem that isn't a problem?
30:10 Speaking of serotonin, does it make sense that the carnivore diet would cure depression?
32:48 Upon what, if anything, do you and Jordan Peterson agree?
39:48 Dr. Vaknin on the interconnectedness of personality disorders
46:40 Dr. Vaknin on his counseling practice
1:02:00 Dr. Vaknin on his education
1:05:54 What is energy?
1:09:30 Dr. Vaknin on how time is the only thing that is objectively real
1:24:09 Dr. Vaknin on language as the intermediary between mind and body (or between software and hardware in general)
1:33:28 Dr. Vaknin on the pandemic
1:43:52 Do you have a photographic memory? 1:45:35 What was it like attending university at the age of 9?
1:54:42 Do you have any unique experiences living and working in so many different countries?
2:02:58 How many languages do you know?
2:04:09 What is your favorite food?"
Original posted on the Dorcas Williams UA-cam channel and she also provided the thumbnail:
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I pray for all narcissists everywhere to finally be able to experience feeling love. I don't regret having loved a narcissist anymore. My healing is ongoing, but at least I'm healing, and I'm not only healing from the narcissistic abuse, I am healing from my childhood trauma because of it. I wish the same healing upon the narcissist.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
The experience of loving a narcissist is a curse and a gift wrapped up together
Yes, agree well said!
I have been in a realationship with a narcissit, but am (or at the very least was) a narcissist my self.
The excruciatingly painful rollercoster realationship with my BPD x has made me feel geniue emotions for the first time since childhood.
Im only 24 and im planing to recover, but its very, very painfull, and my emotions have been a fun but very exhausting experince, also the pain of realising your own faults and to feel, guilt, shame and even emphati is very tough.
Recovering is just like the initial abusive realationship a rollercoster ride, but it makes me feel more and more alive, so to me its definently worth it!
get off my phone theif!!!
@@kaspervendler1726 I am 25 and just went through this. I had noticed I developed a bad co dependence problem with my BPD x and the pain to walk away still loving her was the most painfuI. In retrospect my intuition was telling me from the very start though. Trust and always listen to your intuition. I consider my experience an initiation. Haha might be narcissistic of me but there is good narcissism.
You the real deal Sam.
I remain impressed, not many genuine people out there....Who will lay out their most intermit traits.
People hide behind several masks.. including myself... but you care less what they think or feel about the real you. This I feel is ultimate freedom to burn your mask and be proud of knowing yourself ..flaws and All.
Strong enough to make changes were you realise that behaviours or ideas don't serve you. If only more of us can come into alignment with this thought process.
Its a real life story after all.
Thanks again Sam for the content you so freely provide.
Profound admiration for Dr. Vaknin. He amazes me! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼💙💛
@@LizardMitchell-dp9bwmy favorite type of person - someone who overcomes their limitations and surpass the rest of us with stupendous achievements. 🎉
Thank you, so insightful and discerning. I'm so grateful to have found your channel ❤️
sam vaknin rules, I enjoy your talks, it makes it easier for me to understand myself and others
Enough questions about John already.
I love your contribution about mending the breaking apart of the human psyche. I contemplate a lot from listening to you. I listen because my computer speakers are next to my bed and sometimes, I listen to you whilst I drift off to sleep, I can also watch on the monitor. It is interesting to me that our reality is becoming more and more computerised and that goes with the collective consciousness field of the human mind using more and more technology sitting in front of a screen a lot of hours every day linking the brain more and more up to the interface of the computer or the laptop or ipad or iphone or whatever and in that literally changing the brainwave structure into becoming effectible by the HTML coding that is going on.
I like your advice about how to understand the human psyche better and the requirements for social safety nets; a support, one to one support, in an institutionally based setting. We need help, and thank you for yours. I think you are great!
Thanks to the interviewer, Dorcas, in this video, she did a marvellous job with this.
I intersperse Sam's UA-cams with a variety of world spiritual teachers as presented by Samaneri Jayasara on UA-cam. The two seem to be complementary and the spiritual teachings help me to get out of my 'head'iness after the long Sam mental monologues. I listen to Sam mostly before sleeping and then drift off to sleep with the spiritual teachers. All of Samaneri Jayasara's choices of teachers are impeccable and beautifully presented.
Thank you!
Wow, your explanation that time is the only real thing is mind blowing!
So very moving to hear of your upbringing Sam. I feel fortunate to understand and gain selfishly via UA-cam.
Side note, I turned 19 on a kibutz 🤔
Falafels 😍
Love your theory it definitely resonates. I myself have said love =timeless and the more you feel time the further away from love you are.
I just loved this. Thank you. May I ask a very sincere question (if only there were just one, and if that one did not spawn infinitely many others to Kingdom come)...yet, simply, am I "allowed" to just walk away from labels and scrutiny of self, and just "be"? I am to the freshman stage of believing just nothing is right about me, and all failings are manifest. Needy and frightened and traumatized as I am, I do still exist. Maybe that is enough? Maybe I can be home with myself now?
Watch my videos on nothingness ua-cam.com/users/vakninmusings
It seems incredible to me that I gingerly dropped this tiny message in a bottle, that your person on the tiny screen in my phone spotted it, whispered back into the can with the string, and I happened to catch your answer out of the corner of my eye just as the sun was rising, and just in the split second before I routinely cleared the notifications from my phone, low-tech gadget operator that I am. It touches me deeply that you, so far away, would toss me this new sign post to follow; that I found it, seems like a tiny miracle. I will listen on my sunrise walk, now ("circadian rhythm re-set walk"...of course just everything is for some "reason," somehow further from simple pleasure than it feels it ought to be, somehow--God, I must be so fucking depressed--or, INSERT HERE any number of potential horrors--HOW PITIFUL!) All the same. Thank you, Sam Vaknin, for this kindness. Also, for your humor. You have made me laugh many times, so gratefully, no matter what awfulness you were helping me to contemplate and stare into at the time. When I was quite young, I went on an "adventure," on a fishing boat up through the Canadian inland channel to the Aleutian chain. My goal was to earn a good-sized nest egg and to go on an extended, larger, adventure, in Europe. (Since three years old, I had built Utopia in the Hexagon of France, an accident of learning to read, my first book..."In an old house in Paris, all covered in vines, lived 12 little girls in two straight lines..."--Paris!/Parrish!--WE MATCH!--This surely is my HOME!) In all, it turned out to be a bad idea for a young, pretty daughter of a bourgeois civil engineer. We were caught in a terrible storm (of course), the trip took much longer than planned, etc. Upon reaching our destination, all of the other 17 women on board had become pregnant, incredibly--or, not so incredibly. I avoided this by volunteering to paint the engine room, where I hid, gagging on paint fumes as the boat heaved, and sweating like a monkey. This is an aside. Later that spring, I had a day off on a clear, sunny day. I went out exploring the island, climbing into derelict bunkers from WWII...little did I know, the maternal grandfather of my future husband had been to these places...a Hungarian who had fled Budapest with his family as a child, he grew up in San Francisco (where the family fled, post Ellis Island, in search of work after the great fire...I have a spoon in my silver set that he found in the rubble)...he became an Air Force officer; his plane was shot down in the Bering Sea; he survived, lost a few toes...just last night, I pulled out the silver set for the first time in 20 years, as I am gathering my husband's things for him to come to retrieve. No Contact, etc, etc. Who knows Why we do the things that we do. That day, on the Aleutian chain, I brought a Bob Marley flag with me, along with a sandwich and a water bottle. Why? The flag said Freedom on it, below Marley's face (Dickens!--"Marley is dead"). I found a long stick, tied the flag to it, and pitched it in the ground, like a first moon Walker. Why? Standing atop a bunker on that clear, clear sunny day, I could see way, way out along the curve of the chain. In the furthest distance, near the end of what I could see, there was a plume of smoke rising from one of the tiny, living islands. I felt I could almost touch Russia. Eagles filled the sky. The ash from Russian cigarettes just falls like powdered sugar from the burning tip. Finding your message here this morning reminded me of that plume of smoke; that living island. Hello to you in Russia, from Portland, Oregon, where a silver spoon sits in a box on the dining room floor, plucked from ash by a child of Budapest who would one day fall from the sky into the Bering Sea, looked upon by a girl with a rasta Freedom flag (???), watching an island birthed in the Aleutian chain, the giant's stepping stones connecting North to North. Fortunately, I am primarily my paternal grandmother's child, an unlikely mix of Norwegian and Swedish, but also Native American, born in the Year of the fire horse, under the sign of the Sun, in the Sun state, on a Sunday, in the City of Torrance, during a record-breaking heat wave. How's that for grandiosity? A fire Warrior from the land of Ice? I am still here. Malignant optimism. Sounds better in literature. O! Pollyanna...! So, we'll see how the warrior dares with Nothingness as companion. Free at last, free at last? I'd better get walking--it is no longer a sunrise walk. I had no other thanks to give but this little story; hopefully it will be interesting, since you are now written into it. 😄 Thank you again for this next thing to look at. It was kind of you. It is appreciated.
A first that I hear someone esle describe time as creator.
A long held personal theory.
I'll have to look into your work, and would love to hear you expand on this, in the future!
There are several lecture on chronons and time here: ua-cam.com/users/vakninmusings
The question at 17:00 is mindblowing
Wonderful kid! Listening two hours Dr. Sam Vaknin. And I am also great, because I listen the whole two hours and it never felt boring!! :D Congrats to you both! And thanks Dr., for your honesty , in all senses (academic, personal, etc.). I am writing my PHD about Exilchildren (Chile, after the coup in 1973) and though I am a sociologist, your videos helped me to understand a lot the pain in the mind and soul of these children (now adults). Therefore another question (I know my chances are very little!) : Exile is a human experience of loss, but with very abstract elements. It is difficult to explain the experience of exile. Do you think that the experience of exile in the Israeli people has had an effect on mental health? You said often, that the narcisist has also very strong experiences of loss. Thank you and many greetings from Deutschland!
Yes, it did: www.narcissistic-abuse.com/14.html
Yes, when one claims universal application of the principles they are preaching it becomes no better than a cult. Much better, as you stated, is to bring patterns to the attention of the reader and allow them to draw their own conclusions. Your explanation helps me feel better about my repulsion regarding gurus and why I have given my own book away far more than I've sold it.
You are mistaken Sam I would of been genuinely interested as Dorcas was to hear a travel story! Great interview :)
Every single person is unique but no one is special .... diversity is a fact and it allows, makes possible, a culture of unique, diverse individuals that encourages and makes everyone, not just certain “special” individuals have reasonable access to resources.... it also provides, at least theoretically, more possibilities/strategies for survival when that culture/society/village is threatened.... diversity in natural systems (nature) ensures stability in the long term.... 🌀❤️🌀
SALUTE!
I lived with a narcissist for 8 months I saw covert somatic tunneling psychotic I though he had a double personality what a roller-coaster ride I think I am a borderline what a combo I am still processing it all he wouldn't leave my house when I asked him I called the police he told them he had a right to be here they escorted him out the hoovering started I fell into it he is a dead entetity its been no contact I am at peace men disgust me I feel nauseated it's a bad thought but maybe it will change
I started watching your videos due to me having being exposed to Narcissistic abuse for years and I have had a session with Lidija. However, I am also absolutely fascinated by the universe, space, physics etc. Would you be willing to do a video on Physics?
ua-cam.com/users/vakninmusings
Sam, Do you know the work of Eugene Gendlin (Focusing)? The interface of body and mind talk brought him to my mind. I have been a practitioner but not in a while, not since my recent "family diagnosis" so to speak. I found it a great tool.
A whopping 70 out of the 100 most important figures in psychology were not psychologists. Gendlin - like me - had a PhD in philosophy. He was the first to suggest a unified, humanistic paradigm to body and mind. His friend Carl Rogers benefitted mightily from Gendlin’s work (to put it charitably).
@@samvaknin Well, most of my favorite (pop) musicians couldn't read music. I always felt there was a meaning to that. Do you think Gendlin is underestimated and Rogers not so important? I'd like to know how a focusing practice has proceeded in a person dealing with N or schizoid. Maybe I'll find out.
I would love to have heard more about your adventures; eating locusts is interesting, to hear; how they tasted for you - I disagree that I have to get something out of your experiences/adventures for them to be valid to me. Just like a good story - I like to hear it. Please tell more.
Wait, what? Serotonin is produced in the gut? I know, I know... I will go research it.
The immune system is in the gut lining. Learned the hard way with decades of food intolerances, histamine issue’s and antidepressants. My cptsd , minimal contact with family, nutritional and lifestyle changes eventually lead to undiagnosed autistic spectrum in childhood and in the family when you look at other physical symptoms/traits. Depression/chronic inflammation left with dietary and exercise changes whilst doing isolated emotional work. Meat broths do heal as does upping vegetables in general and eliminating cheap carbs and sugars. It’s about the central nervous system really and microbiome. Still a new field of study but my life changed immensely through proper eating.
Just like how horses are a pack animal, fight or flight insticts, they hav learned and reflex to everything being a "monster" which compares to anything out of the ordinary in their natural environment/habitat. The pack reacts to any startled movement or reaction from others in the pack/ family.
@sam vaknin Dr vaknin please can you advise if a non narcassist can experience mortification or is what I experienced after my 'awakening' to the abuse more like a nervous breakdown? Thank you.
Narcissistic mortification is called this way because it is something that happens only to narcissists.
@@samvaknin thank you for the reply, please a request if I may, do you have or would you consider making a video to cover what happens to the prey of a narcassist after discovery or awakening to the covert abuse? Personally I felt annihilated, smashed to smithereens like a broken vase , it was one of the most horrendous experiences of my life! so bizarre and painful.
have perceived that......... 'TIME'.........just......... 'IS'......... (as a continuum of the PROFOUND ETERNAL MOMENT) further clarifying comments welcome.
and that ......... the PROFOUND ETERNAL MOMENT ........ is ........ LOVE
I agree that Jordan Peterson is a cult. The assertion of knowing everything and the disrespect towards people is uncomfortably telling.
Not going to lie I got the same impression that you were purposely putting them against each other
You can even do all the 2'000 or 3'000 "rules right - do really all right and still be fucked up.
That's sinply life - you have luck or not - there's no guaranty for a good autcome.
It's easier to cope with a problem if you can put a label on it.
The patient sounds a bit like me.
I read Eric Fromm in prison, my math has never been the same since!
oh yes .... Fromm helped me a lot too 💝
Why the defense of Jordan by interviewer? Sort of annoying.
It's not necessarily her. She's representing viewer questions, I think. What comes off as the defense of JP, is actually just a demonstration of a portion of viewers who seek to pit Dr. V. against others in the same field.
Lol 🤣
Sam, What is the youngest age/maturity level that you have treated or would treat with cold therapy? What negative outcomes could occur with too young an individual?
Too young an individual should not be diagnosed with NPD and is unlikely to seek help.
Sam Vaknin - Understood - thank you.