I'd rather you teach people how to stay away from narcissism and how the infatuation they feel around them is all a lie.. this is on the level of what you people call mysogyny or racism, it is hate filled action, planned and orchestrated.. take ur video down and re do it .
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Ohhhhhh after one ruins YOUR CREDIT- Uses YOUR MONEY, Cheats on you repeatedly, stresses you out until you get sick, hair falls from their fighting, stress- anxiety they give you, AFTER YOUR family is now ALIENATED FROM YOU- Thanks to your narc YOU WILL FEEL DIFFERENT
The best way is to ignore them.. just find peace in yourself, don't try to get revenge.. it's like war never ends. Let's God handle them. It's not worth it.. focus on yourself and live your life.. forget about them, PERIOD.
@@tiffanydockins9863 just know losing us is their karma.. we're blessed to get away.. no need to get revenge. Silence is the best response to a fool.. let them feel confused and lost without us.. thank you
Yep. Absolutely correct. I have a small town with about 300 most are family and I have been attacked by them ( Gaslit) for years now I’ve learned what they are= Narcissistic and what doing = Gaslighting Dntbtell them anything try to keep your walk away as silent as u can. They will Stalk You they will harrasing you. Gontoo the Police file a report. Record them. Don’t say a word show no facial emotions just silently record them stalking You. Call 911 if u need too. Basically? STOP BEING A Victim
@Amanda K I definitely don't mean other ppl shouldn't (although I don't think they should) because ppl deal with things as they will. I don't need to hurt them because 1. I'll be like them 2. My focus will still be on them instead of on me 3. God can repay them better than I ever can.
I just put up a post similar , why hurt somebody once you know , I want to be myself , and hurting people isn't me . How ever before I knew I wished to hurt him cause I was soo confused , hurt , angry , and couldn't fix our relationship by myself , that was hard to learn .
Freedom is when you no longer care about how a narcissist feels or what they do. A Narcissists karma is living a miserable life as a miserable and empty person, but we can actually move on and improve ourselves and our lives.
@@fatimamunoz993 first you have to realize and except the fact that they do not have the ability to truly feel genuine love, empathy and remorse. They literally don't love their own parents and children and only see people as tools to be used. Spend less time trying to remember the good times and more time concentrating on their patterns of abuse. Write down the pros and cons of your whole relationship to remind you, that they don't change and you deserve better.
What destroys them is when you forget that they exist, block all contact, never mention or think of them and block them on every form of communication. That is how to win with them.
Right. You just don't feed them anymore by caring, getting upset, angry, sad. They cannot control you anymore. They cannot own you or emotionally enslave you. That hurts them the most. Warning: They will go into rages and pull all the stops to brutally hurt you. Steel yourself. Stand frim. Never cave. That will hurt them badly and drive them crazy since they have lost control. Nothing hurts narcissists more.
@@ganymeade5151 That is why it is very important you learn to protect you and yours physically should they try to hurt you. Protecting yourself is a human right.Once you go no contact, Get a ltc and training in how to safely and properly use self defense tools, ,and change your daily routine as much as you can. Also, learn reliable self protection and defense in stopping a violent attacker. You do NOT deserve to live in fear !
You hit the nail on the head with the analogy of them feeling like they are starving and that they feel that they need to feed on you in order to survive. That is how they feel. So for them to ruin your life feels like nothing to them - they are just trying to survive. However, some of these tactics can cause them to rage at you. But that feels so good after the months or years that they have spent causing anger in you and not caring. But also, you have to remember that some of these tactics will only work on some but not all because most narcissists are consummate liars. And they lie to themselves most of all. Great video!
@@RebeccaZungEsq Oh my goodness! I can't believe that you took the time out of your busy day to speak to me. I live in a family of narcissists and I would just walk out the door and keep walking if not for my grandchildren. It is exhausting dealing with these people as you well know. Thank you so much for your response - such a lifting moment for me! Thank you!
Rebecca, without knowing your #1, I went right there because my 71 y.o. narc bf got a new gf who is 40. I found out by friends who said they had cut him out of their friend group due to his creepy behavior. Hearing you say this is so validating! Right before he broke up with me he went totally berserk texting me all sorts of hurtful insults. I ignored them as soon as I caught on…so you’re right again. His supply source is Grandiose; cars, trips, parties, sex, clothing labels…again, you nailed it. So incredibly validating. Thank you
Yeah, LOSING. My narc ex-husband (and his NS) had it all worked out (in their delusional minds) that he was going to end up with our summer home (that was originally my parents). Fortunately, I fought back and won. That property was the center of his image (to impress NS, friends and have parties) and I'm sure it was a big kick in the teeth when he didn't get it. Karma, baby.
38years with a narsistic partner, I had no idea what the person was doing to me as I was treated so badly and now I'm free from it. I will heal in time and move forward to the way I want to be and what people tell me is I'm a empathic, beautiful, caring and funny. Thank you 🥰
Thank you for this video, I have 2 narcissistic sisters who stole a few valuables from my apartment while I was recuperating from cancer surgery. These women are much older than me and have everything and they are still not happy with their lives. I blocked them both on my phone since Feb 2023 and do not miss them one bit!!! Finally freedom!!!!
They are hurting themselves with their behavior and destroying any possibility of a spiritual evolution in the process! there is nothing that I need to do….
Rebecca, you have an amazing channel and I have been gaining so much validation and advice from it. There’s one thing I disagree with you on that I hear over and over not just from you but UA-camrs in general. Narcissists are not created from childhood wounds. Most people have wounds from childhood, and many have atrocious wounds and they turn out as honest people. The difference is that the Narcissist CHOOSES to not face their wounds whatsoever, to cheat instead, and what I have found to be the most common in my experiences, over and over, and in observation, is that they have betrayed one parent against another in order to spoil themselves as children up until adulthood levels off at about 23 years old. They fear people discovering their abuses, lies and theft they use to cheat their way through life, and even worse, for the parent they betrayed to find out about it. That is their dying pill and worst nightmare.
When I found out what he was up to , I just done exactly the same to him ! It turned him mad and he made the choice to not see me again. Success! Never bothered me again or have I seen him anywhere
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Great information! Thank you! 44 years married to a Narcissist!! But now at 88 yrs. old , in cognitive decline! I depend on Spiritual strength, but find I feel bad because I often express my emotions with anger and frustration! It is a constant battle to maintain a calm demeanor when he devalues me but the lies are the worst!
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I don't want to hurt anyone. I've luckily only dealt with one narcissist in my life, and once they showed their true self I totally ignored them and cut them out of my life. Lucky they were not family.
I had a aunt that would yell, swear and tell me I hate this about you. Finally after I asked her not to talk to me like that I went off on her. I didn't talk to her for 5 years then she just died. I grieved for the relationship we had years ago before she became bitter.
Believe me I understand every word that you say and I am extremely grateful like I said before you have done more for humanity than any genius in the last 100 years
Just "be" and silent The best revenge is a dish served cold ! Cold communication, cold manner, but, careful no to lose yourself, "where there is emotion, there's no " logic" Just " be" (..present, mindful, etc.), in moments) , then move forward. If around them. Peace
Focusing on restoring one's own balance in the aftermath of a relationship with a narcissist is a far more valuable pursuit than maneuvering to worsen the narcissist's life situation. Distance creates a buffer zone that controls unwanted access, time, and any information that needs to be protected from a narcissist's intrusion. Establishing distance and shoring up that buffer zone will provide the space needed to recover. How a narcissist seeks to self-aggrandize should pose no concern for anyone simply wanting to move on.
I have learned so much from you. I am in the middle of my narcissistic ex that ran away to her sisters for the 6 th time in 15 years serving me with an other eviction. She gets her youngest sister to intimidate me and deliver the notice. I showed her ! I hired an attorney since this time I am on disability and I am still in her house since February 2022. The eviction lawyers are going back to court in two weeks I have hired a divorce attorney sending her a common law marriage divorce affidavit. That way it will buy me another year . In Texas, common law in same sex is exactly the same as a typical marriage. I am through with her! I am dating men now
I'm just moving on; I don't need to seek revenge- the hell she'll live in for the rest of her life is revenge enough. I shouldn't even be watching stuff like this; it's not good for my health. I mean thanks for sharing this kind of stuff I guess but in my mind these kinds of things just keeps you in their cycle and playing their game. I don't need to stoop to their level. I'm not mentally ill nor diabolical. Move on folks, haven't you been involved in enough drama already??
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He tries to intimidate me and hurt me but that makes me stronger. He loves TV and I changed the internet password. He’s going crazy without it! He moved himself into a bedroom upstairs and left me in my bedroom downstairs. It’s been 3 months. I pray he gets the he’ll out of my house. He has not paid one dime since December. He’s messing with Gods daughter. Karma very soon for him 🙏. Honestly I feel terrorized in my own home. I don’t show it but I lock myself in when he’s around.
I had to deal with a narcissist at work. I have rid myself of him primarily by just ignoring him. I don't talk to him or engage with him at all. I don't have any desire to hurt him. That would take effort on my part and it's much easier just to shut him out of my life and my thoughts entirely.
My ex betrayed me, cheated, got son with another, took my money and credit cards. I told him that I gonna go to police and I did. What hurted him for sure...well, at least it was fear of police and jail.
Square up with them when they are by themselves if you're not bothered or you're not frightened of them & you let them know you mean business they back off, but expect a fight.
I called my ex a black hole of despair and negativity.. funny you used the same analogy! He uses our adult kids as flying monkeys, I want him to leave me alone more than any revenge tbh!
PS, him looking like a shriveled old man like he does is the best revenge anyway, while I'm going to live my best life and I don't look as bad as he does either and he knows it!😂😂
You can’t even go to the bathroom in peace wow how do you put up with such a rattlesnake go while the goings good don’t say anything just depart and no contact at all change phone number and email
I remember before when our family was living together.....at the moment he comes home he needs to shower no matter who is in the washroom is not his concern.....he has come home and now it's his authority......i never understood until recently that these people are mental patients
I've found that they really don't like being treated the same as everyone else. Whilst I havnt got the time for their attitude, their yelling and belittling doesn't bother me. In the past I've stood there and taken it, waiting for an opportunity to ask a question that would basicly be 'reverse psychology', and made them give their abrasive answer that was actually in my favour, and said 'OK cool'. That hurts them big time because it not that I won, its that they made themselves loose.🙂
It’s hard for an empathetic person who they seek to even THINK about hurting anyone. And the empathetic person are usually fixers too. Indifference and distance is the best way to keep your sanity.
I love this video! These 4 things really do hurt narcs more than indifference. These are very useful for people who choose to fight or when flight is not an option. These would make narcs go crazy and do things that they might regret - great opportunity us to catch their mistakes.
I found out that I have a narcissistic wife, but I still love her. What helped me most is clearly to see how they tick. It is really schoolbook like. And it is not a joke. How to navigate in this situation to the best for all, is still today a challenge for me. And probably will always be. Good that it gives at least help for victims 🥰. To heal narcissistic people would certainly blow up such a conversation 🤭🥱
@@RebeccaZungEsq Thank you for asking. Your videos are for sure instrumental on this topic. Many thanks. I personally never feel as victim. Therefore I try to find the reason behind my challenges. I was probably a complete people pleaser. Probably it is now similar to be with a tiger, knowing it is not a house cat 😋🥰
I am a psychotherapist for decades and find your title defining what hurts the narcissist to be the opposite of healing, please think about what you put out in the world.
I honestly don’t want to hurt my toxic family, however they cannot be a part of my life anymore. This is to preserve my sanity. At 60, this scapegoat is finished.
I’m a psychologist- When she explains the symptoms of narcissistic personality- it seems a little over generalized. We’ve all feel empty at times- we all get idealized by experience externally. She basically just implied to me that I have these characteristics (everyone does). It’s just a little too broad and personal at same time.
I think the difference is that I can find joy in little things and be grateful for what I have. My ex-narc needed the thrill of new things and experiences constantly - he could not settle and enjoy the present moment.
Exactly I think the term is abused , and from all the teaching about narcissists I can pick that almost everyone is a narssist the difference is the degree of narcissism especially those who are fond of the term.
1. You moved on to a nicer or better person compared to him. 2. Cutting off their source of esteem: money, sex etc. 3. Losing anything ... money, beauty access to... 4. Exposing them to their best supporter/ provider/ respected people
Absolutely true.. they don't ever want to be exposed ..l thank God for his intervention with my sister's way towards my family..God helped us through.. thank God for you too❤
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#1, #2 and #3 are all demonstrative forms of "indifference", so saying that they are all "better" than "indifference" is like saying you like to play football as long as it doesn't deal with a football or a football field. #4 May or may not be effective. In many cases, it may have the opposite effect intended and embolden them because narcissists may not necessarily be the "depressed" personalities displayed in this video. In quick summary, this explanation actually proves to me that the commonly held belief that indifference damages the narcissists more than any other response it is more TRUE than FALSE. In practice, I have never found any technique like indifference that gets into the mindset of a human being in such a negative way. Humans are hardwired over thousands of generations to need these forms of psychological stimulation, even harmful stimulation, over none at all.
Why on earth would anyone want to HURT someone? That alone is messed up! If you've been hurt, learn from it, heal and move on. You've been blessed to get out of it. The narcissists are the way they are because they've been hurt in childhood...
Sadly this won't work with my mum. My brother is so defensive of my mum. So protective and so all is on her lies and manipulative behavoiur she will never be able to do anything wrong
I don’t know what else to do. Mine lied, manipulated and even committed fraud to take my kids away. Now back in court with witnesses. I await the judge’s decision. I’m so scared that even all the witnesses won’t be enough.
I get these videos , but I avoid how to hurt someone . I mean if you don't like how your treated , why hurt back someone you once loved . I mean before I knew what was going on , 25 yrs here , I totally wanted to hurt him back . After seeing and watching , I wouldn't want to treat him like he did me ? Why I changed over and over for him . I want to be me not change into a person who wants revenge . I don't think it is healthy to try and hurt someone back . That's energy I don't have time for . Bottom line I don't want to hurt people .
Not that I am looking to hurt anyone, but this someone does go out of their way to hurt me, so turning the other cheek only validates their lies. I will say things to hurt them to check their progress. I will point out their smear campaign and also the flying liar monkeys too.
I don't want to hurt my narcissist, i'm way better than him! I have more fun in the fact that, as soon as i can leave, and not letting him know that i'm going and where I'm going, hurts a lot more! I also block him on my phone and social media. I'm gonna close this book forgood.
Don’t let them see you no more , and don’t post nothing on social media . No pictures of you what so ever and what your doing ..Mo contact that’s all .
I did the 4th after 3 years of harrowing abuse. There was another woman all the time who he kept going back to and kept triangulating with me all the time. So not only I informed her in a long email (as she's been quite abused as well), I informed his family, his best friends, his ex-wife (with who he co-parents 2 children), all of his flying monkeys, his enemies, his circle of authors, and his publishers. Haha. Had the last laugh!
I’ve seen it! They were really cute before they hit their 40’s and now like a lot of us they gained a lot of weight. And it’s clear they’re inordinately bothered by it.
I have a family member who is a malignant narcissist her children won't come around her she's never met a grandchildren that's how far they stay away from her she don't even know where her children live or if they still exist and the scariest part is she's a nurse
advice 2.5 : I get caught in a love triangle between a girlfriend, a narcissist, and I. We wanted the same girl, so he rapidly became more and more agressive and upset against me. The last day, before my departure, him and I had a conversation, during which he innocently asked me < If I could live there >, where we were at that time. I suspected he was fishing for informations, so I gave him this answer : < I can't right now, but I will try my best, because I know it would make [girlfriend's name] very happy if I could stay. We talked about that earlier in vacations, and I will try my best. > He fell silent, turned red, and changed the subject one minute later. It was the truth, anyway, the girl and I really had this conversation, because she was trying to "pack" her closest friends around her, in the same area, as a community. Next morning, at work, the girlfriend told me he had been very nervous and stressed, after we had this conversation. But she had no idea why.
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What's sad about alot of narcissists is they need professional help, God, or some way to heal, yet their very narcissism prevents them from getting help.
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How to deal with narcissist: point them out 😎 and annoy them in every single step eventually they release it’s no point to carry on because you are stronger then they think or imagine 😂🎉
But the narcissist is already hurt/ing. No matter the hurt that i endured on my time in my -home -as -psyche ward…And i don’t need to exact hurt on anyone ever. Getting revenge or trying to exact hurt is lower frequencies . Getting away and rid from the narcissist is healing enough. Not getting stuck in anger and hurt or hurtful thinking. Time to forget that shit and move onward upward and emanate love to the world. Id prefer that any day. Otherwise id just be hurting myself ultimately no?
@Amanda K solid logic equation design…only possibly…..however i feel that we all need to learn by ourselves in our own ways and not by others sense of logic to truly learn anything ……Not interfere via ones own ego….and keep ones self at a safe and healthy distance….otherwise by logic…this is just the another flawed mindset imposing its self delusions upon others and makes no real evolutions/ greater global impact….smells like another contentions health money making scheme ..,……,LOVE IS THE ONLY ANSWER EVER📡🙏🏼❤️to human evolution
@Amanda K yer clearly righty right its the entire body of the entire worlds energy. Hence we must go inside individually to face it collectively loving and heal collectively vibrating the frequencies universally. But im a Simple man 🤭🫣📡❤️☝️🤭😇
Demonstrate self control. You are unaffected by what the narcissist says and does. Or, what they don't say and do. Nothing affects you. It will drive them bonkers guaranteed. They have very little or none of their own. They might pretend to for awhile. Eventually they're overwhelmed by their inability to control things within and outside themselves. Key: Accept that they are what they are and that there's nothing that you can do to make relations with them healthy.
team discussions. They all speak up in chat whos right and wrong. He got hurt. Every single player in chat does not want any communication errors. Nothing I can do much
Lol...I could not possibly care any less any more. As long as his pathetic ass is gone, I'm set!! But Exposer is coming..... EVERYONE will know soon. There is no better supply than I was. So not A flex! Lol. He wasted 20 years of my life. It all makes sense now I found this channel!! So never ever again will I be tricked!! Exposing him n his lies will feel great. I'm not staying silent any more!!
I truly admire you, because I go and see and meet these type of people all the time and I analyse their behaviour to understand how they think. If you knew what you discover, you would never go and check because it's a truly disturbing situation with them. I love your videos and i'm so grateful for them everyday.
I don't want to hurt them, I want to help them. This is in reference to someone I've been seeing that's drifted from nice to very not nice. Viewing this transformation is saddening as she's going through all this unnecessary upset over pretty much nothing except what she alone perceives.
They can NOT be helped, they will destroy you in the process. The more you try to HELP, they feel you are telling them they have a problem and they will HATE you more and more each day.
I think it would destroy my husband if I exposed that he was a covert narcissist. Or he would try to make me sound crazy. None of his friends would believe me. Nobody ever figured out what he was, not even his ex wife. The people who know me and know how honest I am would believe me. But I'm not going to intentionally try to destroy him. He's almost 70 now and he won't have anyone to feed on after I leave.
@@ritalawson7020 I am working on just that. But I'm not changing the email, just blocking him. I will block him on my phone, email even the online game I play on occasion. I will create a new email if I need to, but I've had the old one for so long that I don't want to get rid of it. I'll just get rid of him.
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I'd rather you teach people how to stay away from narcissism and how the infatuation they feel around them is all a lie.. this is on the level of what you people call mysogyny or racism, it is hate filled action, planned and orchestrated.. take ur video down and re do it .
1. finding a better source
2. cutting their sources of supplies
3. loosing
4. exposing them
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I don't want to hurt them.
I dont want anything to do with them.
Ohhhhhh after one ruins YOUR CREDIT- Uses YOUR MONEY, Cheats on you repeatedly, stresses you out until you get sick, hair falls from their fighting, stress- anxiety they give you, AFTER YOUR family is now ALIENATED FROM YOU- Thanks to your narc YOU WILL FEEL DIFFERENT
Identify toxic people early , get away as soon as possible and stay away , don't ever com back.
@@khoango2337 they are easier to spot now I've been schooled by one
Agree
You're a smart cat!
The best way is to ignore them.. just find peace in yourself, don't try to get revenge.. it's like war never ends. Let's God handle them. It's not worth it.. focus on yourself and live your life.. forget about them, PERIOD.
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Exactly well say my friend 🫶🏾
@@tiffanydockins9863 just know losing us is their karma.. we're blessed to get away.. no need to get revenge. Silence is the best response to a fool.. let them feel confused and lost without us.. thank you
Yep. Absolutely correct. I have a small town with about 300 most are family and I have been attacked by them ( Gaslit) for years now I’ve learned what they are= Narcissistic and what doing = Gaslighting Dntbtell them anything try to keep your walk away as silent as u can. They will Stalk You they will harrasing you. Gontoo the Police file a report. Record them. Don’t say a word show no facial emotions just silently record them stalking You. Call 911 if u need too. Basically? STOP BEING A Victim
Good advice… that’s what I’m doing now.
Pretend you don't even know they exist that will drive them crazy
Sit in the corner for 100 000 hours tell them they are missing out
Forget pretending...just understand they don't exist in your world....
Definitely
@@snootyfox.indahouse Definitely my friend
Most of his lady friends know everything I told them and they said he was disgusting so when they sit with him he's no idea they know what he is
I have no need to hurt them. They have been hurt enough. I just need to keep myself stable and sane when I have to deal with them.
So true
@Amanda K I definitely don't mean other ppl shouldn't (although I don't think they should) because ppl deal with things as they will. I don't need to hurt them because 1. I'll be like them 2. My focus will still be on them instead of on me 3. God can repay them better than I ever can.
Wonderful and amazing and healthy
I just put up a post similar , why hurt somebody once you know , I want to be myself , and hurting people isn't me . How ever before I knew I wished to hurt him cause I was soo confused , hurt , angry , and couldn't fix our relationship by myself , that was hard to learn .
@Amanda K False. Hurt people hurt people. Violence begets violence. Why would you want to spread that around or perpetuate that?
They live without feeling, no soul, nothing, breakfree empathy..
Freedom is when you no longer care about how a narcissist feels or what they do. A Narcissists karma is living a miserable life as a miserable and empty person, but we can actually move on and improve ourselves and our lives.
So true my sister
How how do I do it ?
@@fatimamunoz993 first you have to realize and except the fact that they do not have the ability to truly feel genuine love, empathy and remorse. They literally don't love their own parents and children and only see people as tools to be used. Spend less time trying to remember the good times and more time concentrating on their patterns of abuse. Write down the pros and cons of your whole relationship to remind you, that they don't change and you deserve better.
I find what you said is the best advice ...
@@fatimamunoz993 look forward, never back
What destroys them is when you forget that they exist, block all contact, never mention or think of them and block them on every form of communication. That is how to win with them.
Exactly. And when someone asks about them or lets you know what's going on with them, show them indifference or that you are happier without them.
Right. You just don't feed them anymore by caring, getting upset, angry, sad. They cannot control you anymore. They cannot own you or emotionally enslave you. That hurts them the most. Warning: They will go into rages and pull all the stops to brutally hurt you. Steel yourself. Stand frim. Never cave. That will hurt them badly and drive them crazy since they have lost control. Nothing hurts narcissists more.
Become immune to their charm and games.
@@ganymeade5151 That is why it is very important you learn to protect you and yours physically should they try to hurt you. Protecting yourself is a human right.Once you go no contact, Get a ltc and training in how to safely and properly use self defense tools, ,and change your daily routine as much as you can. Also, learn reliable self protection and defense in stopping a violent attacker. You do NOT deserve to live in fear !
I will show this karma to my narcissistic dad(biological). !
what hurts them the most is walking away and never saying a word again too them. Ditch Them ASAP
You hit the nail on the head with the analogy of them feeling like they are starving and that they feel that they need to feed on you in order to survive. That is how they feel. So for them to ruin your life feels like nothing to them - they are just trying to survive. However, some of these tactics can cause them to rage at you. But that feels so good after the months or years that they have spent causing anger in you and not caring. But also, you have to remember that some of these tactics will only work on some but not all because most narcissists are consummate liars. And they lie to themselves most of all. Great video!
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@@RebeccaZungEsq Oh my goodness! I can't believe that you took the time out of your busy day to speak to me. I live in a family of narcissists and I would just walk out the door and keep walking if not for my grandchildren. It is exhausting dealing with these people as you well know. Thank you so much for your response - such a lifting moment for me! Thank you!
Some Narcissist are very dangerous. Be careful. Thank you for your assistance here.
Rebecca, without knowing your #1, I went right there because my 71 y.o. narc bf got a new gf who is 40. I found out by friends who said they had cut him out of their friend group due to his creepy behavior. Hearing you say this is so validating! Right before he broke up with me he went totally berserk texting me all sorts of hurtful insults. I ignored them as soon as I caught on…so you’re right again. His supply source is Grandiose; cars, trips, parties, sex, clothing labels…again, you nailed it. So incredibly validating. Thank you
Yeah, LOSING. My narc ex-husband (and his NS) had it all worked out (in their delusional minds) that he was going to end up with our summer home (that was originally my parents). Fortunately, I fought back and won. That property was the center of his image (to impress NS, friends and have parties) and I'm sure it was a big kick in the teeth when he didn't get it. Karma, baby.
So relieved and happy for U
I am struggling to keep my house
38years with a narsistic partner, I had no idea what the person was doing to me as I was treated so badly and now I'm free from it.
I will heal in time and move forward to the way I want to be and what people tell me is I'm a empathic, beautiful, caring and funny.
Thank you 🥰
@@NazirAhmed-cs1ub you are not alone my sister, but we shall overcome.
Congrats yes he feels like crap lol 😂
How to HURT a Narcissist?
I'm not interested in hurting anyone!
Someone who annoys or bothers me is someone I just cut out of my life.
I'll treat him (dad) the way he treats me; negligence(gross)!
I do the same
Lots of people try
Exposing him to his suply is easier said than done. They won't believe me and will defend the narcissist.
They will learn in due time.
Same here.
You never have to explain yourself to anyone. Ignore, ignore, ignore.
Agree 💯
The Narc is broken damaged NO MATTERS WHAT HAPPENS. JUST GO NO CONTACT N LIVE FOR YOURSELF IT TAKES TIME N PRAYER N PERSEVERANCE. THE TIMING MATTERS
So true my friend
Ever hear of hoovering? Sometimes it’s intense. Try going no contact..they just happen to show up everywhere.
A narc is a rattlesnake period
Thx
How about when they say I called u 3 times I say oh haven't had time to check my phone 2 day 😂
Thank you for this video, I have 2 narcissistic sisters who stole a few valuables from my apartment while I was recuperating from cancer surgery. These women are much older than me and have everything and they are still not happy with their lives.
I blocked them both on my phone since Feb 2023 and do not miss them one bit!!!
Finally freedom!!!!
they should have never tooken anything from you, that terrible.
They are hurting themselves with their behavior and destroying any possibility of a spiritual evolution in the process! there is nothing that I need to do….
Rebecca, you have an amazing channel and I have been gaining so much validation and advice from it.
There’s one thing I disagree with you on that I hear over and over not just from you but UA-camrs in general.
Narcissists are not created from childhood wounds. Most people have wounds from childhood, and many have atrocious wounds and they turn out as honest people.
The difference is that the Narcissist CHOOSES to not face their wounds whatsoever, to cheat instead, and what I have found to be the most common in my experiences, over and over, and in observation, is that they have betrayed one parent against another in order to spoil themselves as children up until adulthood levels off at about 23 years old.
They fear people discovering their abuses, lies and theft they use to cheat their way through life, and even worse, for the parent they betrayed to find out about it. That is their dying pill and worst nightmare.
When I found out what he was up to , I just done exactly the same to him ! It turned him mad and he made the choice to not see me again. Success! Never bothered me again or have I seen him anywhere
WOW! It takes this woman an eternity to get to a freaking point. Talk about puffery and fluff.
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@@thekittygoesmeow9652 Jeez, I was thinking the same thing! Like, Gosh Man! 😫
They hate the hot and cold game and also planting seeds in them to make them obsessed about something.
Great information! Thank you! 44 years married to a Narcissist!! But now at 88 yrs. old , in cognitive decline! I depend on Spiritual strength, but find I feel bad because I often express my emotions with anger and frustration! It is a constant battle to maintain a calm demeanor when he devalues me but the lies are the worst!
I'm so sorry. Any person would react that way. My mom's in the same situation with my dad. They're in their 70s and have been married for 45 years.
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I don't want to hurt anyone. I've luckily only dealt with one narcissist in my life, and once they showed their true self I totally ignored them and cut them out of my life. Lucky they were not family.
Sorry Rebecca, I have left my narc, but I don't have any intention of hurting anyone including my narc sister!! Wish her well in her life. 🙂
They don’t feel anything
They are very emotional just like kid is
But they are unable to feel more mature emotions like love
The are insecure
Always right and use scare tactics.
I had a aunt that would yell, swear and tell me I hate this about you. Finally after I asked her not to talk to me like that I went off on her. I didn't talk to her for 5 years then she just died. I grieved for the relationship we had years ago before she became bitter.
Believe me I understand every word that you say and I am extremely grateful like I said before you have done more for humanity than any genius in the last 100 years
Just "be" and silent The best revenge is a dish served cold ! Cold communication, cold manner, but, careful no to lose yourself, "where there is emotion, there's no " logic" Just " be" (..present, mindful, etc.), in moments) , then move forward. If around them. Peace
No need to have someone else...just tell them you've already had someone better!
Stay strong! ❤
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Focusing on restoring one's own balance in the aftermath of a relationship with a narcissist is a far more valuable pursuit than maneuvering to worsen the narcissist's life situation.
Distance creates a buffer zone that controls unwanted access, time, and any information that needs to be protected from a narcissist's intrusion. Establishing distance and shoring up that buffer zone will provide the space needed to recover.
How a narcissist seeks to self-aggrandize should pose no concern for anyone simply wanting to move on.
I have learned so much from you. I am in the middle of my narcissistic ex that ran away to her sisters for the 6 th time in 15 years serving me with an other eviction. She gets her youngest sister to intimidate me and deliver the notice. I showed her ! I hired an attorney since this time I am on disability and I am still in her house since February 2022. The eviction lawyers are going back to court in two weeks I have hired a divorce attorney sending her a common law marriage divorce affidavit. That way it will buy me another year . In Texas, common law in same sex is exactly the same as a typical marriage. I am through with her! I am dating men now
Point at and belittle and lmao at them .Not being afraid of them. Make them prove everything they say.
Yes definitely laugh at them fortunately I can use my talent of humor and they hate it.
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I'm just moving on; I don't need to seek revenge- the hell she'll live in for the rest of her life is revenge enough. I shouldn't even be watching stuff like this; it's not good for my health. I mean thanks for sharing this kind of stuff I guess but in my mind these kinds of things just keeps you in their cycle and playing their game. I don't need to stoop to their level. I'm not mentally ill nor diabolical. Move on folks, haven't you been involved in enough drama already??
The best revenge is just not giving a fuck
I love this 💜
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He tries to intimidate me and hurt me but that makes me stronger. He loves TV and I changed the internet password. He’s going crazy without it! He moved himself into a bedroom upstairs and left me in my bedroom downstairs. It’s been 3 months. I pray he gets the he’ll out of my house. He has not paid one dime since December. He’s messing with Gods daughter. Karma very soon for him 🙏. Honestly I feel terrorized in my own home. I don’t show it but I lock myself in when he’s around.
I had to deal with a narcissist at work. I have rid myself of him primarily by just ignoring him. I don't talk to him or engage with him at all.
I don't have any desire to hurt him. That would take effort on my part and it's much easier just to shut him out of my life and my thoughts entirely.
My ex betrayed me, cheated, got son with another, took my money and credit cards. I told him that I gonna go to police and I did. What hurted him for sure...well, at least it was fear of police and jail.
Sue them for fraud in court on front of their new victim.
@@michaelschmitt447 don’t see that being very winnable 🥴
Stealing from them and they will loose their mind, but really doing anything to them that they do to you.
Square up with them when they are by themselves if you're not bothered or you're not frightened of them & you let them know you mean business they back off, but expect a fight.
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100 Percent knowing what makes my ex ticks has helped me so much ! Thank you for what you are doing !
I called my ex a black hole of despair and negativity.. funny you used the same analogy! He uses our adult kids as flying monkeys, I want him to leave me alone more than any revenge tbh!
PS, him looking like a shriveled old man like he does is the best revenge anyway, while I'm going to live my best life and I don't look as bad as he does either and he knows it!😂😂
The same thing is happening to me
The black hole is my nick name😂 its what my narc X calls……8 years later 😂
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They do feel embarrassment around other people. I found out accidentally. Lol.
Tell us how?
Tell
Tell us
I can’t even go pee without getting yelled at. And we have 3 bathrooms.
Wow how do you deal with that?
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You can’t even go to the bathroom in peace wow how do you put up with such a rattlesnake go while the goings good don’t say anything just depart and no contact at all change phone number and email
I remember before when our family was living together.....at the moment he comes home he needs to shower no matter who is in the washroom is not his concern.....he has come home and now it's his authority......i never understood until recently that these people are mental patients
I've found that they really don't like being treated the same as everyone else. Whilst I havnt got the time for their attitude, their yelling and belittling doesn't bother me. In the past I've stood there and taken it, waiting for an opportunity to ask a question that would basicly be 'reverse psychology', and made them give their abrasive answer that was actually in my favour, and said 'OK cool'. That hurts them big time because it not that I won, its that they made themselves loose.🙂
Badass- I wish I could do that
It’s hard for an empathetic person who they seek to even THINK about hurting anyone. And the empathetic person are usually fixers too. Indifference and distance is the best way to keep your sanity.
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We need MORE Rebeccas in this world 🌎!! Thank you, Rebecca, for all you do! You're AMAZING 🤩❤️☺️
Happy to help! ❤❤
I love this video! These 4 things really do hurt narcs more than indifference. These are very useful for people who choose to fight or when flight is not an option. These would make narcs go crazy and do things that they might regret - great opportunity us to catch their mistakes.
I found out that I have a narcissistic wife, but I still love her. What helped me most is clearly to see how they tick. It is really schoolbook like. And it is not a joke. How to navigate in this situation to the best for all, is still today a challenge for me. And probably will always be. Good that it gives at least help for victims 🥰. To heal narcissistic people would certainly blow up such a conversation 🤭🥱
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@@RebeccaZungEsq Thank you for asking. Your videos are for sure instrumental on this topic. Many thanks. I personally never feel as victim. Therefore I try to find the reason behind my challenges. I was probably a complete people pleaser. Probably it is now similar to be with a tiger, knowing it is not a house cat 😋🥰
I am a psychotherapist for decades and find your title defining what hurts the narcissist to be the opposite of healing, please think about what you put out in the world.
I honestly don’t want to hurt my toxic family, however they cannot be a part of my life anymore. This is to preserve my sanity. At 60, this scapegoat is finished.
I’m a psychologist- When she explains the symptoms of narcissistic personality- it seems a little over generalized. We’ve all feel empty at times- we all get idealized by experience externally. She basically just implied to me that I have these characteristics (everyone does). It’s just a little too broad and personal at same time.
I think the difference is that I can find joy in little things and be grateful for what I have. My ex-narc needed the thrill of new things and experiences constantly - he could not settle and enjoy the present moment.
Exactly I think the term is abused , and from all the teaching about narcissists I can pick that almost everyone is a narssist the difference is the degree of narcissism especially those who are fond of the term.
1. You moved on to a nicer or better person compared to him.
2. Cutting off their source of esteem: money, sex etc.
3. Losing anything ... money, beauty access to...
4. Exposing them to their best supporter/ provider/ respected people
Thank you Rebecca for all you do! You are saving lives
Happy to help! So what is one point that you start using today?
Thank you, Rebecca. This one was right on time.
Glad you found them helpful! Keep SLAYing babe! 💗
Absolutely true.. they don't ever want to be exposed ..l thank God for his intervention with my sister's way towards my family..God helped us through.. thank God for you too❤
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I know we’re SUPPOSED to ignore them but I am SO HURT that I literally have NO self control… :-(
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It's so wild to hear you describe the chain of events and what it is like. Spot on !
#1, #2 and #3 are all demonstrative forms of "indifference", so saying that they are all "better" than "indifference" is like saying
you like to play football as long as it doesn't deal with a football or a football field. #4 May or may not be effective. In many cases, it may have the opposite effect intended and embolden them because narcissists may not necessarily be the "depressed" personalities displayed in this video. In quick summary, this explanation actually proves to me that the commonly held belief that indifference damages the narcissists more than any other response it is more TRUE than FALSE. In practice, I have never found any technique like indifference that gets into the mindset of a human being in such a negative way. Humans are hardwired over thousands of generations to need these forms of psychological stimulation, even harmful stimulation, over none at all.
Why on earth would anyone want to HURT someone? That alone is messed up! If you've been hurt, learn from it, heal and move on. You've been blessed to get out of it.
The narcissists are the way they are because they've been hurt in childhood...
Sadly this won't work with my mum. My brother is so defensive of my mum. So protective and so all is on her lies and manipulative behavoiur she will never be able to do anything wrong
Cut them both off move far far away change phone number and email
I don’t know what else to do. Mine lied, manipulated and even committed fraud to take my kids away. Now back in court with witnesses. I await the judge’s decision. I’m so scared that even all the witnesses won’t be enough.
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My ex-coworker became envious of me when I received a bit more amount of bonus. But he was completely incompetent so it was enough for him.
I get these videos , but I avoid how to hurt someone . I mean if you don't like how your treated , why hurt back someone you once loved . I mean before I knew what was going on , 25 yrs here , I totally wanted to hurt him back . After seeing and watching , I wouldn't want to treat him like he did me ? Why I changed over and over for him . I want to be me not change into a person who wants revenge . I don't think it is healthy to try and hurt someone back . That's energy I don't have time for . Bottom line I don't want to hurt people .
Not that I am looking to hurt anyone, but this someone does go out of their way to hurt me, so turning the other cheek only validates their lies. I will say things to hurt them to check their progress. I will point out their smear campaign and also the flying liar monkeys too.
We don't want to hurt anybody,The narc is harming himself,he just doesn't know it,what a great name he is leaving for his father, failure
Geez, it seems a complicated world, having to live a life with narc. I m freaking out
u r a very wonderful human--thank you 4 saving my life--u and Tamie m Joyce are humanitarians
I don't want to hurt my narcissist, i'm way better than him! I have more fun in the fact that, as soon as i can leave, and not letting him know that i'm going and where I'm going, hurts a lot more! I also block him on my phone and social media. I'm gonna close this book forgood.
Don’t let them see you no more , and don’t post nothing on social media . No pictures of you what so ever and what your doing ..Mo contact that’s all .
Happy holidays,, Rebecca.👍🎄🌟 I'm doing well since the discard.dont even worry about it anymore.spending the holidays with my pet family.🐹🐭🐍🐾👋🐾🐾🎄
I did the 4th after 3 years of harrowing abuse. There was another woman all the time who he kept going back to and kept triangulating with me all the time. So not only I informed her in a long email (as she's been quite abused as well), I informed his family, his best friends, his ex-wife (with who he co-parents 2 children), all of his flying monkeys, his enemies, his circle of authors, and his publishers. Haha. Had the last laugh!
wow .... the feeling of a total stranger describing my "unique" situation to a T in the space of a couple of minutes
Dad(narcissist) treats me like I have no right to exist much less ask anything of him(ever!). I will ignore him, too. His loss!
I’ve seen it! They were really cute before they hit their 40’s and now like a lot of us they gained a lot of weight. And it’s clear they’re inordinately bothered by it.
I have a family member who is a malignant narcissist her children won't come around her she's never met a grandchildren that's how far they stay away from her she don't even know where her children live or if they still exist and the scariest part is she's a nurse
advice 2.5 : I get caught in a love triangle between a girlfriend, a narcissist, and I. We wanted the same girl, so he rapidly became more and more agressive and upset against me. The last day, before my departure, him and I had a conversation, during which he innocently asked me < If I could live there >, where we were at that time. I suspected he was fishing for informations, so I gave him this answer : < I can't right now, but I will try my best, because I know it would make [girlfriend's name] very happy if I could stay. We talked about that earlier in vacations, and I will try my best. >
He fell silent, turned red, and changed the subject one minute later. It was the truth, anyway, the girl and I really had this conversation, because she was trying to "pack" her closest friends around her, in the same area, as a community.
Next morning, at work, the girlfriend told me he had been very nervous and stressed, after we had this conversation. But she had no idea why.
They are hurt and having bad time because they cant predict my thought even to know what is going on my mind!
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What's sad about alot of narcissists is they need professional help, God, or some way to heal, yet their very narcissism prevents them from getting help.
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How to deal with narcissist: point them out 😎 and annoy them in every single step eventually they release it’s no point to carry on because you are stronger then they think or imagine 😂🎉
This was very informative and has helped me know how to handle my situation!!! THANK YOU!!!
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why do hurt a Narzisst? What a narzisstic idea. Learn to stay in your selfconvident and go one step back.
And happy holidays to all and I've been thinking about gifts for awhile now especially giving thanks for the inspiration information on gifts
But the narcissist is already hurt/ing. No matter the hurt that i endured on my time in my -home -as -psyche ward…And i don’t need to exact hurt on anyone ever. Getting revenge or trying to exact hurt is lower frequencies . Getting away and rid from the narcissist is healing enough. Not getting stuck in anger and hurt or hurtful thinking. Time to forget that shit and move onward upward and emanate love to the world. Id prefer that any day. Otherwise id just be hurting myself ultimately no?
@Amanda K solid logic equation design…only possibly…..however i feel that we all need to learn by ourselves in our own ways and not by others sense of logic to truly learn anything ……Not interfere via ones own ego….and keep ones self at a safe and healthy distance….otherwise by logic…this is just the another flawed mindset imposing its self delusions upon others and makes no real evolutions/ greater global impact….smells like another contentions health money making scheme ..,……,LOVE IS THE ONLY ANSWER EVER📡🙏🏼❤️to human evolution
@Amanda K yer clearly righty right its the entire body of the entire worlds energy. Hence we must go inside individually to face it collectively loving and heal collectively vibrating the frequencies universally. But im a
Simple man 🤭🫣📡❤️☝️🤭😇
@Amanda K is simply 😊☺️🙏🏼vibrating 📡LOVE ☝️Thats IT 🤜❤️🤛 🙏🏼☝️☝️☝️
You are amazing
The only reason I would expose them to their new supply, is not to hurt them, but to protect the new supply.
Demonstrate self control. You are unaffected by what the narcissist says and does. Or, what they don't say and do. Nothing affects you. It will drive them bonkers guaranteed. They have very little or none of their own. They might pretend to for awhile. Eventually they're overwhelmed by their inability to control things within and outside themselves. Key: Accept that they are what they are and that there's nothing that you can do to make relations with them healthy.
Yeah trying to talk to him gets my daughter and I kicked to the curb. Happens anytime I say anything that’s truthful.
My children and I were thrown out of the house 3 times, so I understand your tauma. However, children grow up and remember these traumatic incidences.
team discussions. They all speak up in chat whos right and wrong. He got hurt. Every single player in chat does not want any communication errors. Nothing I can do much
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Lol...I could not possibly care any less any more. As long as his pathetic ass is gone, I'm set!! But Exposer is coming..... EVERYONE will know soon. There is no better supply than I was. So not A flex! Lol. He wasted 20 years of my life. It all makes sense now I found this channel!! So never ever again will I be tricked!! Exposing him n his lies will feel great. I'm not staying silent any more!!
Loose their children? To me? By his own doing
When someone is not nice to you, just walk away.
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Just let the narcissist see you whispering to someone else.This drives them completely KAREN.
I truly admire you, because I go and see and meet these type of people all the time and I analyse their behaviour to understand how they think. If you knew what you discover, you would never go and check because it's a truly disturbing situation with them. I love your videos and i'm so grateful for them everyday.
I don't want to hurt them, I want to help them. This is in reference to someone I've been seeing that's drifted from nice to very not nice. Viewing this transformation is saddening as she's going through all this unnecessary upset over pretty much nothing except what she alone perceives.
Run!
They can NOT be helped, they will destroy you in the process. The more you try to HELP, they feel you are telling them they have a problem and they will HATE you more and more each day.
I think it would destroy my husband if I exposed that he was a covert narcissist.
Or he would try to make me sound crazy. None of his friends would believe me. Nobody ever figured out what he was, not even his ex wife.
The people who know me and know how honest I am would believe me.
But I'm not going to intentionally try to destroy him. He's almost 70 now and he won't have anyone to feed on after I leave.
I'm in the same boat!
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Don't let it keep you from saving your self. To stay in a marriage with a narcissist is a sacrificial marriage.
No contact move far far away change phone number and email 🤮🤮🤮🤮
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I am working on just that. But I'm not changing the email, just blocking him.
I will block him on my phone, email even the online game I play on occasion.
I will create a new email if I need to, but I've had the old one for so long that I don't want to get rid of it. I'll just get rid of him.
Hacks you and has to check everytjing we do to not feel so insecure. Thanks
Why would you want to do that? Makes you just as bad as they're if not worse to me.
If they are determined to ruin your life or even kill you, what else are you supposed to do?
Some narcissist are obsessive stalkers and very dangerous
Vengeance seeking is sociopathic. No matter how you slice it.
It’s self preservation not vengeance