I just got off a call with Craig. I just want to say that me doing a one on one coaching with Craig, the creative healing course and doing no contact has been extremely helpful to me. It really does make a difference and if you are doing the creative healing course but feel like you aren't getting much out of it, then you gotta change yourself up. You got to actually truly do the work fully. I was doing this at the beginning but now that I've been truly working on the course, it makes much more of a difference. I also want to point out that in this video I really like the part when it talks about reading minds. This is a struggle I had with my ex. I felt like she needed me to read her mind. But I was very similar too. Talking talking talking is the only way to knows what's going on in the mind.
Had the same feeling after my call a few years ago. I plan to start the creative healing course once again now that I am in a much better place in my life. The work on yourself is the best investment you can make!
My issues are not being made a priority,ever, lying, avoidant behavior,not willing to talk,just hide behind texting,being left on read or delivered , birthday's never remembered,(I got a happy belated bday eight days AFTER the fact),no affection, thoughtlessness, not being appreciated. The list is endless,and you have other comments to read,but today makes forty days NC and I couldn't do it without this channel,truly a Godsend,thanks to both of you for the great work, compassion,and encouragement I and other's get from this channel 💯👍
@@ianmcnally8501thank you,I learned the hard way,I never thought I could make it this long, including his bday I ignored two weeks ago.And his not reaching out shows me he doesn't care,I think he's with his ex anyhow,idk but hurting and forgetting how well someone treated u,makes u wonder why u were betrayed and they didn't see how lucky they were?🤔
Until you realize how much your behavior helps or hurts attraction, you will continue to hurt your attractiveness and connection with others. Do the work!!! #TheKnowledgeWorkbooks
Gosh, it’s like you have been in these situations before! Totally agree you always have to give to your partner but there is also a line to draw for yourself and not give so much to where it affects your own well-being! That was my problem
I'm anxious (very) ,and looking back reading texts,yes there was a time I chased this man to death,ten times once in a day,but I also gave him all I had,in everything 💔
i often credit the ladies here but Craig, you said something I really needed to hear last night lol.. that how the relationship takes time but the avoidant wanting space, you reminded me how space needs to take time too. 🙏
My main issue is when they don't do their half of contributions. I don't want to be their mother and micromanage it. And bringing it up and communicating is just seen as hostile and nagging It's like I can't win .The only thing I can do is just suck it up and do their share at that point. Then I'm resentful
Craig thank you! I've been following you. Since the love of my life walked away. After 5 and a half years and 2 beautiful baby boys! It's like a part of me wants the old us back right?! Than the other half of me is like.. This is exactly what want! I know my worth! I'm sober 26 months. I'm growing! While he's still out there doing his thing! I just want to thank you. For all your excellent advice! God bless
I certainly admit to a few of these. But I know that my avoidant ex checked all of these. So the biggest thing for me is recognizing my own value and worth.
I'm certainly guilty of not showing interest. But they were not clearly communicated to me either and that drives me crazy. My FA ex left a wonderful relationship because of some issues that could be solved by communication. It's so frustrating.
Craig could you please do a video on if your ex just wants to be single for a while? Mine left me 7 months ago for another guy but it turns out from what I've heard that they never got serious and although I still haven't heard from her so I'm sort of relying on hearsay, she seems to just be focused on her school and work and enjoying the single life in the meanwhile she also really enjoys alone time which she seems to be getting a lot of now. She hinted to it several times during our sixth year relationship particularly the last few years and having a lot of time alone was probably extra appealing given my anxious attachment style. I have a feeling there's a lot more people than we realize going through this kind of scenario or who might even think that their ex is in a rebound or new relationship when in fact it's something more like this. Especially where a lot of your viewers have an anxious attachment style like me
I literally was all of these things in my last relationship, except for dishonest. It was my first relationship, and he was my first love (I am 39 by the way - got a late start). We were together for 5 1/2 years, and this past April, he monkey branched to a coworker and left me for her. There is no excuse for cheating or monkey branching. However, I have learned so much about what healthy relationships should be, since he left me, and I wish so badly that I could've done differently with our relationship and shown up better for him. Unfortunately it was too little too late, and I don't think he is ever coming back to me. All I can do is hope that I can do better next time.
My partner would say you should know what I need or want. It should be organic. My thoughts were, what exactly is organic? We are adults. Everything takes effort and communication, and should be purposeful. We not kids.
Im 17 me and my girlfriend meet at work and i gave her my number it was the 1st relationship for both of us we rushed it after the 1st date we would talk everyday non stop we both loved each other and treated each other good i meet her parents on the 2nd date .. but she ended up breaking up with me and said she lost interest because i questioned her about trust 3 times and when shes asked to take it slow I didn't llisten... But right after the breakup she agreed to be friends and hangout just as friends... Is this something i can truly fix if our relationship was good and healthy at first ?
I’m so disappointed in him; still some love but not smitten like before. He caused it and this is the result. It’s a darn shame because we could of had it all!!!!!
My bf spent 400 euros on a gift for his son and less than 10 on me. He gave me a horrible cheap scarf and I trew It away. But this is only one of the ways he neglects my needs... I'm tired of not being a priority. Also, baby mama drama... Grass is greener somewhere else. Don't take them back...
okay almost made it 5 minutes into the video lol I want to reflect on that by adding that I noticed after I am now much more secure in myself that the way I talk with women seems so forward and they love it so much and yet other guys will actually use the same exact words toward women and the women get very turned off by it because they can feel that it's not genuine 🤣 maybe instead of trying so much they might want to take a look at the idea of learning.. doing the work... but that's just my two cents 😁
I also have a different kind of success story I can share right now, an account online reached out to me, it was just a text message with a few hand 👋 on it, emojis.. I go to take a look at the account, it looks like some sexy successful model, plenty of videos, at first I assume it's just one of those fake accounts looking to stir things up, but I still send a genuine greeting to her or it.. stating something like hi babe 🤗 are you here on Long Island? That's all I wrote.. her reply was a question asking me where I'm from instead of answering me.. so she was being dismissive off the bat.. do I appreciate that, should anybody appreciate abuse, so I told her take a guess? ... she says I don't like to guess.. then she asks me again in different words.. so I don't reply as I have better than things to do with my time, a few hours later she tries asking me again, I looked to the message and I think to myself what is with this broad.. so of course I don't entertain this, a few hours later again she starts messaging me very angrily threatening me, she says to me if you're just going to ignore me then I will block you.. of course at this point I'm thinking what do I care, does she really think she's such a queen of Sheba that everybody has to bow down and kiss her feet lol.. maybe an hour or two later I get a final message from her saying okay I guess this is bye and she blocks me, lol.. poor girl.. she's actually very rich and famous and has a child already and is lonely.. Big surprise right? who would have thought lol... but I understand that she is wounded and so this is the way she has learned to behave in order to protect herself.. yeah it's not helping her situation is it? maybe she might want to look for the workbooks but she thinks she's on top of the world, hopefully she stays up there lol, okay maybe that's mean, of course I do hope that she straightens her issues out and does well for herself and her loved ones, so that in itself is a success story for me, no need to get into abusive toxic situations
I just got off a call with Craig. I just want to say that me doing a one on one coaching with Craig, the creative healing course and doing no contact has been extremely helpful to me. It really does make a difference and if you are doing the creative healing course but feel like you aren't getting much out of it, then you gotta change yourself up. You got to actually truly do the work fully. I was doing this at the beginning but now that I've been truly working on the course, it makes much more of a difference. I also want to point out that in this video I really like the part when it talks about reading minds. This is a struggle I had with my ex. I felt like she needed me to read her mind. But I was very similar too. Talking talking talking is the only way to knows what's going on in the mind.
Keep up the hard work! You seemed much happier today!
@@CoachCraigKenneth yup!! Thank you Craig!!
Had the same feeling after my call a few years ago. I plan to start the creative healing course once again now that I am in a much better place in my life. The work on yourself is the best investment you can make!
Poor communication definitely sucks and kills attractiveness.
My issues are not being made a priority,ever, lying, avoidant behavior,not willing to talk,just hide behind texting,being left on read or delivered , birthday's never remembered,(I got a happy belated bday eight days AFTER the fact),no affection, thoughtlessness, not being appreciated. The list is endless,and you have other comments to read,but today makes forty days NC and I couldn't do it without this channel,truly a Godsend,thanks to both of you for the great work, compassion,and encouragement I and other's get from this channel 💯👍
Keep it up Debra, I think this person has absolutely nothing to offer... I have an ex also, no affection, just takes, good riddence
@@ianmcnally8501thank you,I learned the hard way,I never thought I could make it this long, including his bday I ignored two weeks ago.And his not reaching out shows me he doesn't care,I think he's with his ex anyhow,idk but hurting and forgetting how well someone treated u,makes u wonder why u were betrayed and they didn't see how lucky they were?🤔
Until you realize how much your behavior helps or hurts attraction, you will continue to hurt your attractiveness and connection with others. Do the work!!! #TheKnowledgeWorkbooks
Keep doing the Lord's work - you help so many people, including me.
Gosh, it’s like you have been in these situations before! Totally agree you always have to give to your partner but there is also a line to draw for yourself and not give so much to where it affects your own well-being! That was my problem
Which of these mistakes are you guilty of? Be honest!
I'm anxious (very) ,and looking back reading texts,yes there was a time I chased this man to death,ten times once in a day,but I also gave him all I had,in everything 💔
Communication is fine but what happens when they react to your words, even if they're kind?
My problem. I was Willi to communicate in a tactful way but everything was seen as an attack
i often credit the ladies here but Craig, you said something I really needed to hear last night lol.. that how the relationship takes time but the avoidant wanting space, you reminded me how space needs to take time too. 🙏
My main issue is when they don't do their half of contributions. I don't want to be their mother and micromanage it. And bringing it up and communicating is just seen as hostile and nagging It's like I can't win .The only thing I can do is just suck it up and do their share at that point. Then I'm resentful
Craig thank you! I've been following you. Since the love of my life walked away. After 5 and a half years and 2 beautiful baby boys! It's like a part of me wants the old us back right?! Than the other half of me is like.. This is exactly what want! I know my worth! I'm sober 26 months. I'm growing! While he's still out there doing his thing! I just want to thank you. For all your excellent advice! God bless
I certainly admit to a few of these. But I know that my avoidant ex checked all of these.
So the biggest thing for me is recognizing my own value and worth.
This is a very good, mature conversation about relationships.
I'm certainly guilty of not showing interest. But they were not clearly communicated to me either and that drives me crazy. My FA ex left a wonderful relationship because of some issues that could be solved by communication. It's so frustrating.
Craig could you please do a video on if your ex just wants to be single for a while? Mine left me 7 months ago for another guy but it turns out from what I've heard that they never got serious and although I still haven't heard from her so I'm sort of relying on hearsay, she seems to just be focused on her school and work and enjoying the single life in the meanwhile she also really enjoys alone time which she seems to be getting a lot of now. She hinted to it several times during our sixth year relationship particularly the last few years and having a lot of time alone was probably extra appealing given my anxious attachment style. I have a feeling there's a lot more people than we realize going through this kind of scenario or who might even think that their ex is in a rebound or new relationship when in fact it's something more like this. Especially where a lot of your viewers have an anxious attachment style like me
All salient points . I really enjoyed this one and can see what I did wrong before
I literally was all of these things in my last relationship, except for dishonest. It was my first relationship, and he was my first love (I am 39 by the way - got a late start). We were together for 5 1/2 years, and this past April, he monkey branched to a coworker and left me for her. There is no excuse for cheating or monkey branching. However, I have learned so much about what healthy relationships should be, since he left me, and I wish so badly that I could've done differently with our relationship and shown up better for him. Unfortunately it was too little too late, and I don't think he is ever coming back to me. All I can do is hope that I can do better next time.
me too. i hope so badly that he gives me another chance because i know it will be worthwhile…
Good Coaching ..Coach Vicky and Craig!
Thank you coaches! You are appreciated
My partner would say you should know what I need or want. It should be organic. My thoughts were, what exactly is organic? We are adults. Everything takes effort and communication, and should be purposeful. We not kids.
Could you talk about FA and numbness? What do they do during months of NC?
Gosh that brought back memories lol. My ex would always say “we’ve been together for years, you should know what I need by now” 🤮
Im 17 me and my girlfriend meet at work and i gave her my number it was the 1st relationship for both of us we rushed it after the 1st date we would talk everyday non stop we both loved each other and treated each other good i meet her parents on the 2nd date .. but she ended up breaking up with me and said she lost interest because i questioned her about trust 3 times and when shes asked to take it slow I didn't llisten... But right after the breakup she agreed to be friends and hangout just as friends... Is this something i can truly fix if our relationship was good and healthy at first ?
Good morning coaches!
I’m so disappointed in him; still some love but not smitten like before. He caused it and this is the result. It’s a darn shame because we could of had it all!!!!!
I feel the same way…
YES. THIS. 100%
I was guilty of all of them with my ex
My bf spent 400 euros on a gift for his son and less than 10 on me. He gave me a horrible cheap scarf and I trew It away. But this is only one of the ways he neglects my needs... I'm tired of not being a priority. Also, baby mama drama... Grass is greener somewhere else. Don't take them back...
okay almost made it 5 minutes into the video lol I want to reflect on that by adding that I noticed after I am now much more secure in myself that the way I talk with women seems so forward and they love it so much and yet other guys will actually use the same exact words toward women and the women get very turned off by it because they can feel that it's not genuine 🤣 maybe instead of trying so much they might want to take a look at the idea of learning.. doing the work... but that's just my two cents 😁
I also have a different kind of success story I can share right now, an account online reached out to me, it was just a text message with a few hand 👋 on it, emojis.. I go to take a look at the account, it looks like some sexy successful model, plenty of videos, at first I assume it's just one of those fake accounts looking to stir things up, but I still send a genuine greeting to her or it.. stating something like hi babe 🤗 are you here on Long Island? That's all I wrote.. her reply was a question asking me where I'm from instead of answering me.. so she was being dismissive off the bat.. do I appreciate that, should anybody appreciate abuse, so I told her take a guess? ... she says I don't like to guess.. then she asks me again in different words.. so I don't reply as I have better than things to do with my time, a few hours later she tries asking me again, I looked to the message and I think to myself what is with this broad.. so of course I don't entertain this, a few hours later again she starts messaging me very angrily threatening me, she says to me if you're just going to ignore me then I will block you.. of course at this point I'm thinking what do I care, does she really think she's such a queen of Sheba that everybody has to bow down and kiss her feet lol.. maybe an hour or two later I get a final message from her saying okay I guess this is bye and she blocks me, lol.. poor girl.. she's actually very rich and famous and has a child already and is lonely.. Big surprise right? who would have thought lol... but I understand that she is wounded and so this is the way she has learned to behave in order to protect herself.. yeah it's not helping her situation is it? maybe she might want to look for the workbooks but she thinks she's on top of the world, hopefully she stays up there lol, okay maybe that's mean, of course I do hope that she straightens her issues out and does well for herself and her loved ones, so that in itself is a success story for me, no need to get into abusive toxic situations
After 5 month of the break up I totally gave up
I'm turned off by someone who hasn't got a similar sense of humor and who is rigid off how a relationship should be
waisting time is a big thing thowing years away
I am turned off by lack of motivation and lack of self responsibility.
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If my girl didnt break up with me how would i know craig