S2E22. “i’m gay and this is how i had my daughter.”

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  • Опубліковано 27 вер 2022
  • what’s good, good people! i wanted to talk to a gay dad so that’s what this video is all about! how my boy Léon (@leonnathaniel_) had his daughter and the process of it all.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 114

  • @stephenb5959
    @stephenb5959 Рік тому +52

    Great subject, Obio. My partner and I adopted a 4 month baby girl in 2014. She changed our world. We lost some of our gay friends along the way because our priorities changed. No more clubbing and parties as we became a family unit. Now are the days of practices, games, children birthday parties, afternoons at the park, family outings, etc…. But we wouldn’t change a thing; our daughter is our world!!! We are 2 dads and a 8 year old daughter!

    • @djvr423
      @djvr423 Рік тому +5

      Same here! 2 dads and a 8 year old daughter through adoption.

    • @stephenb5959
      @stephenb5959 Рік тому

      @@djvr423 Awesome! We live in San Diego. It has it's challenges as San Diego doesn't have a large black population. We are a black, gay family where our daughter has to navigate being a minority at a majority Hispanic school. We are thinking of moving to Texas or Florida.

  • @blackgayhistorychannel
    @blackgayhistorychannel Рік тому +37

    I'm seeing more and more married black and mixed gay couples on Instagram, and quite a few with children and it gives me hope. Its great to hear the nuts and bolts of it all, thanks for sharing

    • @johnathanlewis3155
      @johnathanlewis3155 Рік тому +1

      Mixed isnt BLACK

    • @unapologetic2992
      @unapologetic2992 Рік тому

      @@johnathanlewis3155 lol

    • @darkangelsu2108
      @darkangelsu2108 Рік тому

      ​@@johnathanlewis3155 mixed black....some of them say they are ...some say they are not black..

    • @darkangelsu2108
      @darkangelsu2108 Рік тому

      a lot of them have mixed kids...i barely see them taking black kids

    • @solodondolo5890
      @solodondolo5890 Рік тому

      @@johnathanlewis3155I feel you but I think a lot do the surrogate Route and their aren’t a lot of darker or brown women

  • @javionriley8739
    @javionriley8739 Рік тому +19

    You should definitely get Terrell & Jarius on your show

  • @ricoeweaver
    @ricoeweaver Рік тому +35

    I learned something new today! Two new things actually! God’ll always make a way! 🙌🏾

  • @tshepomokoena8832
    @tshepomokoena8832 Рік тому +16

    Can't wait to have my own! Sobbing as I speak. I also love that I almost always leave here with more knowledge than I came in with - I learned two new things today. I also got reminded of 2 other things that I already know about myself - I love love and I love children (definitely want to be a parent and a spouse). God Bless you Mr Jones and keep creating space.

    • @Wangao613
      @Wangao613 Рік тому

      It’ll happen for you ❤️🇿🇦🏳️‍🌈

    • @kgaoletsaDNA0
      @kgaoletsaDNA0 Рік тому

      jwale? bana baya tura, le mahlomola a mangata lefatsheng. Hobaneng o tlisa bana mona? Ba tla ho utlwa bohloko. pleaseeeee think about it

  • @rondaykhamard8224
    @rondaykhamard8224 Рік тому +4

    BMORE STAND UP!
    Love this candid conversation. I love the fact that he made a plan on having a child and it didn't involve being on the DL fucking around with women.

  • @tamikiajones2815
    @tamikiajones2815 Рік тому +1

    One thing I always love about your show it is so positive it’s always a learning lesson and experience thank you for that

  • @samlightshines
    @samlightshines Рік тому +36

    I love children and helping raise them, but I don't want to raise any of my own? Is anyone else on the same page or nah?

    • @johnvalentina
      @johnvalentina Рік тому +12

      I've always felt like the gay uncle. When I get tired, I can say, where are your parents?.....lol. I can't send them home if they're mine, so it's a no for me.

    • @nelsonsibiya9204
      @nelsonsibiya9204 Рік тому +6

      I dont do Kid's....PERIOD !!!!!. Never had any desire for one... Don't think it'll happen.

    • @oneonlyme4355
      @oneonlyme4355 Рік тому +1

      You don’t think you’ll regret that once you get older?

    • @samlightshines
      @samlightshines Рік тому +2

      @@oneonlyme4355 No. I’m a social worker. My life is dedicated to helping people. I have 15 siblings and was literally born an uncle. I don't find it necessary to have and raise children of my own when thousands of children are stuck in the revolving door system.

    • @DC45193
      @DC45193 Рік тому +1

      @@samlightshines and I'm sure you being a social worker understand that just because you have kids don't mean they will take care of you when you older! Like people need to stop.

  • @raydaveed
    @raydaveed Рік тому +13

    I was shook when he said "I always wanted kid since when i was 12" it's the exact same as me. I hope i will be able to have one or more in the future too.
    Edit : I also want a girl and a boy in that order if possible but don't mind having a mini me first !!!

  • @itsRobBass
    @itsRobBass Рік тому +1

    This video made me smile from ear to ear. Loved this!

  • @sexgaychristian
    @sexgaychristian Рік тому +3

    Glad to see your enthusiasm about being good parents. Seeing you pursue your dreams makes me happy.

  • @tshepomokoena8832
    @tshepomokoena8832 Рік тому +13

    As a gay man I wanna kids - I definitely need to sit in for this one.🥺

  • @VII2K23
    @VII2K23 Рік тому +9

    This episode is absolutely wonderful. I personally have always wanted to have children. It's a dream of mine. I'm the oldest of eight siblings and all my adult siblings have their own children and my mom keeps bugging me for a child lol. Very Happy For you 🖤

  • @braxton6680
    @braxton6680 Рік тому +1

    Great episode 💙

  • @RyanCanty1975
    @RyanCanty1975 Рік тому +2

    I love this so much! :)

  • @katlego_edgar
    @katlego_edgar Рік тому

    Loved this!!!!

  • @lethabomafokwane9192
    @lethabomafokwane9192 Рік тому +6

    I was raised by my mother and Aunt. And I both call the mum, and they just know who am I calling, it is all in the energy they carry different energies.

  • @Calm_B4_Storm
    @Calm_B4_Storm Рік тому +2

    This was such a beautiful episode to watch, kudos to this man his daughter and his loving husband for bringing life into the world!

  • @CamberHill
    @CamberHill Рік тому +5

    In September 2001 I was on track to having a kid with my then-boyfriend of 15 years. The woman was a friend who wanted to help. However, we didn't have the commercial tools your guest had. We had a turkey baster and that was it. Unfortunately, things didn't work out and my dream of having kids never worked out. I'm thrilled to hear his dream come true.

  • @kohby784
    @kohby784 Рік тому +1

    This was an AMAZING episode. So much information I did not know.
    Question tho: with the surrogate, was some type of parenting contract written up or agreed upon, between biolocal parents, like, will the child get to know their birth mom , if anything happens to the dads, does the birth mom have rights to take care of the child......just a little curious.
    This was another great episode. Keep creating space

  • @csupernature
    @csupernature Рік тому +10

    You never know what fate has in store for your life. Dreams coming true.

  • @MySavageDynasty
    @MySavageDynasty Рік тому +1

    This is beautiful, I'm in planning stages, a really good friend suggested that we try in 3 years which is a good time for the both of us. Thank you for sharing your journey. I'm taking notes.

  • @sexyeyez2000
    @sexyeyez2000 Рік тому +9

    I want kids as well, it’s hard trying to find a partner who wants love and a family

  • @gregoryayee2112
    @gregoryayee2112 Рік тому +1

    Obio I honestly appreciate this conversation and believe me I have learned alot from this interview.

  • @iamjholloway
    @iamjholloway Рік тому +3

    Wow! This was wonderful. Thanks for sharing 💕

  • @jerry7856
    @jerry7856 Рік тому +1

    Glad you are back Obio

  • @ciel222
    @ciel222 Рік тому

    GREAT STORY 👏👏😊

  • @k.simmons862
    @k.simmons862 Рік тому +1

    Beautiful story!
    Children are definitely a lifelong task and investment, but well worth it. Gays would be AMAZING parents to children.

  • @eccentricleo4300
    @eccentricleo4300 Рік тому +1

    I love this!! S/O to the Leo’s!!!

  • @aking8201
    @aking8201 Рік тому +3

    Yaaaasss a Leo Queen!!! ♌️🦁

  • @vonmorris5948
    @vonmorris5948 Рік тому +2

    I love this man’s sweater. I want it. Lol

  • @mz.pretty4226
    @mz.pretty4226 Рік тому +1

    I made the 1000th like period 💯🙏❤️

  • @jbjesus123
    @jbjesus123 Рік тому

    Wow! I can truly relate to this...!!!!

  • @eliasdenendodo
    @eliasdenendodo Рік тому +3

    This is a method I'd love to try.
    I've always wanted two, and I want a daughter first also. 😁

  • @mrfunky1768
    @mrfunky1768 Рік тому +3

    I can always kind of tell when you're attracted to one of your guest. .....its so charming :)

  • @NickiD203
    @NickiD203 Рік тому

    This was needed I was just with talking with my home girl about kids n the future n her being my surrogate 🥰😩🫶🏾

  • @KraziVokalz
    @KraziVokalz 11 місяців тому

    Lmbooooo i heard BMORE all day.. that "Teu" (too) sent me

  • @privatethoughts85
    @privatethoughts85 Рік тому

    Why did I get super excited when I saw the stork?!? Lol

  • @robbbase5349
    @robbbase5349 Рік тому

    I definitely learned something. Great vlog.... soft cuffs

  • @JamalTateIsTheGreatest
    @JamalTateIsTheGreatest Рік тому +2

    This is so real and I appreciate a different perspective! As a gay man who does want kids I’ve thought about surrogacy but it can get pricey… but also thought about adoption! Kids are not dogs but y’all right pets aren’t easy either lol!

  • @thoughtsandwords3029
    @thoughtsandwords3029 Рік тому +2

    This was GREAT!!! I can't wait to start my family. I want four kids, but I will take whatever G-d gives me!!

  • @molini.t
    @molini.t Рік тому

    THANK YO SO MUCH FOR THIS INFO. HONESTLY, I MIGHT JUST BE OVULATING RIGHT NOW😅.
    THIS WAS REALLY INSIGHTFUL

  • @UniqueNei
    @UniqueNei 10 місяців тому

    Aw. I always wanted children. I love kids. I was told I wouldn't be able to have children after doing chemo. I was given the opportunity a few times though.

  • @ensabahnur3104
    @ensabahnur3104 Рік тому +1

    She's a Leo. she doesn't walk through the door...she stomps through the door.

  • @cherylketter5314
    @cherylketter5314 Рік тому

    OK so the 2.0 version of the turkey baster the stork and soft cups

  • @royalgreenlantern
    @royalgreenlantern Рік тому

    I have reasearched the IVF method lawd its so expensive

  • @VernonNickersonSCHOOLCOACH
    @VernonNickersonSCHOOLCOACH Рік тому

    Wow!

  • @roberttaylor5026
    @roberttaylor5026 Рік тому

    Good for him I'm not about to do all that to have my own child

  • @ensabahnur3104
    @ensabahnur3104 Рік тому +1

    I didn't know cups or Storck was a thing

  • @solodondolo5890
    @solodondolo5890 Рік тому

    IK how it feels but loves gonna find us gay black men especially you my fine sir. 🥰❤️❤️

  • @gregorychef_littyechols6890
    @gregorychef_littyechols6890 Рік тому +4

    Beautiful Story, but to all my LGBTQ Brothers, ADOPTION is always an option for us. Started my Forever Family in 2018

  • @elamothe81
    @elamothe81 Рік тому +1

    He kept saying consumed, did he mean conceived?

  • @andrewright8471
    @andrewright8471 Рік тому

    Damn 🤩 that's all I'm going to say hottt!!!

  • @factor478911
    @factor478911 Рік тому

    Wow didn't know the stork thing

  • @claudewashingtonkevinthoma6527

    I would have loved know about the relationship with the Bio Mom and how that was decided & established legally

  • @wjjrwjj
    @wjjrwjj Рік тому +1

    I have 4 son I conceived all fashion way

  • @tonyrossbackinthedaymusicv3107

    Wow

  • @jaimearango2698
    @jaimearango2698 Рік тому

    Lucky guy 😎

  • @wjjrwjj
    @wjjrwjj Рік тому

    Avocado apples

  • @rtmx5mtr
    @rtmx5mtr Рік тому +3

    What a great conversation!
    But I’ve got a question, does he allow his daughter to have a relationship with the biological mother, also, what are the terms and conditions that he has agreed upon with the biological mother?

    • @Jack_Black536
      @Jack_Black536 Рік тому +3

      I had the exact same questions! What's the plan when the child starts asking who her mother is, if she's not in her life? Lastly, is he working on a son and what does THAT diet consist of? 😅

    • @solodondolo5890
      @solodondolo5890 9 місяців тому

      I mean being honest definitely is great, I have friends with gay parents who know and still love them, I’ve heard some ppl keep the biological mother and afford the kids multiple guardians which is a blessing, but it all just depends on the parents decisions

  • @MrWillybk
    @MrWillybk Рік тому +3

    This ís fantastic! How wonderful it is that she was such an admirable friend of his. I mean it seems highly unlikely that anyone could find a woman so willing to give a part of herself like that. My lover and I just had to tell you how luck you are. I do know about how a gay woman can have a baby through semen adoption because I have a niece who did it. She has until the child is a teenager before she must tell him who his father is.

  • @LifeOnCoach
    @LifeOnCoach 9 місяців тому

    ✌🏾

  • @myth1356
    @myth1356 Рік тому +2

    I'm glad he got his wish and trying his best with but that's not hope biology works y'all. There's a 50/50 chance for boy/girl. Foods aren't going to change that.

  • @unapologetic2992
    @unapologetic2992 Рік тому +1

    Too bad he didn't talk of the money part. Because there is money involved

  • @scoobdoo2008
    @scoobdoo2008 Рік тому +2

    I feel you about the dog. I recently got one and then sent it back because I couldn't do what I want. It's a lot so I can imagine having a kid

  • @can_you_guess_my_new_username

    I want kids with obio... 😆😅🤣😂... I just hope he can handles boys because Im not for doing hair and dresses. I'd be stressed. I need athletic boys, football, basketball and baseball games to attend. I also need one child to wrestle.

  • @wjjrwjj
    @wjjrwjj Рік тому

    Diet have boys different

  • @WalterLeeHamptonII
    @WalterLeeHamptonII Рік тому +1

    I know plenty of gay men who have children. however I never any any kids!!

    • @kgaoletsaDNA0
      @kgaoletsaDNA0 Рік тому +1

      I feel blessed to be gay and not suffer knowing I brought someone into existence they did not consent to. especially to navigate for their safety and well being. so much suffering ahead

    • @solodondolo5890
      @solodondolo5890 9 місяців тому

      @@kgaoletsaDNA0there’s kids who aren’t loved with straight parents, there’s kids with no parents, or kids given up why should the parent matter???!

    • @kgaoletsaDNA0
      @kgaoletsaDNA0 9 місяців тому

      @@solodondolo5890 did i disagree with that? why are you writing me something i Said nothing of or how has that contradicted your Statement?

  • @jaso5768
    @jaso5768 Рік тому

    What’s the difference between a queer man and a queer identifying man ref? 2:12

  • @wjjrwjj
    @wjjrwjj Рік тому +1

    I rather have human then dog

    • @kgaoletsaDNA0
      @kgaoletsaDNA0 Рік тому

      did that child give you consent to be born?

  • @wjjrwjj
    @wjjrwjj Рік тому

    Primrose oil bananas broccoli spinach Brussels sprouts potatoes have boys

  • @SteveThePisces
    @SteveThePisces Рік тому +1

    So, where do you find women like this???

    • @DC45193
      @DC45193 Рік тому

      be vulnerable and ask.

  • @coriprentis
    @coriprentis Рік тому +2

    He is FOINE

  • @wjjrwjj
    @wjjrwjj Рік тому

    Doodle style better conceived boy

  • @teeblack9066
    @teeblack9066 Рік тому

    It's several gay men that are Father's great men too but it's hard to date them because their in relationships with their children. Don't have time to date. Too busy being Father's.

    • @MONEYAINTATHANG100
      @MONEYAINTATHANG100 Рік тому

      go back, as you stated...your actions are selfish in my eyes having knowingly did that, at least you are frank about it

    • @m_ron2742
      @m_ron2742 Рік тому +1

      What?

    • @PHlyestofNerds
      @PHlyestofNerds Рік тому

      @@MONEYAINTATHANG100 huh?

  • @blackmac500
    @blackmac500 Рік тому +2

    What is it with gay men and women and the zodiac is all some bull

    • @berta.9912
      @berta.9912 Рік тому

      @tuli rz Remember I'm in charge

  • @mattpappas3893
    @mattpappas3893 Рік тому +1

    They spend too much time giggling like girls instead of talking like men. No wonder nobody takes them seriously.

    • @DC45193
      @DC45193 Рік тому +1

      true

    • @401040100
      @401040100 Рік тому +2

      These two men made a serious conversation lite and fun. For you to make the statement
      "giggling like girls". Why is it when gay men at times are enjoying a conversation and laughing and having fun. It's equated to femininity? Here are two grown ass men...having a grown ass conversation, about same sex partners having children. Every topic doesn't have to be so serious. They were not making fun of the process, having fun and laughter during the O's interview.
      Lighten bruh!

    • @DC45193
      @DC45193 Рік тому +1

      because it is feminine. they gay thru already demasculinated.

    • @mattpappas3893
      @mattpappas3893 Рік тому +1

      @@401040100 A kid raised by 2 feminine girly giggly men will grow up all screwed up in the head.