Got an Empty Nest? Keep It That Way!
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- Опубліковано 14 вер 2018
- Have your kids finally left the home? There’s one easy way to make sure they don’t come moving back.
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My child knows where home is, with me, forever and for always. My child can come back anytime and when the time comes my grandchildren are home too.
Just long as they go
In South Asian culture parent want their kids to stay as long as possible and in return their kids treat them like royalty wen they’re too old to look after themselves.
Same in my country USA is very different
Yes I’m Vietnamese and that’s especially true with unmarried daughters...my sister lived at home till she married at 42 lol 😂
I want my children to always be able to come home. Sorry. I never had help, so I’m going to help. Now hopefully I’ve done my job and they don’t need the help. If for any reason they do, they got a bed.
You're a real mom! God bless you and yours.
I think the point is just making sure your kids feel the motivation to work and support themselves. It doesn't mean you can't have them at your home but if they have no expenses then why would they work?
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The kids are our joy, not a burden. A home is not complete without kids & warm family dinners every night.
These parents are so eager to kick their kids out, but then get salty when those kids start cutting them out from their lives.
Sounds like the kids don't love their parents then and are just using them for a free ride. If you have a job you don't need to be at mamas house.
@@littleripper312 Why not? As long as your contributing and not getting a free ride. If your working pay your share of the bills, help your parents out with their mortgage payment, help them pay for house repairs. Why would you rather pay some random landlord rent instead of putting that money into contributing to your parent's household and bills.
Damn that suit!✔
I love this, what a sense of humour!!
our 2 girls know they are always welcome back home.
Harvey wants to have his own time everyday with his wife around the house without anyone disturbing😂
I’m a new empty nester and to be honest. It’s breaking me. My depression has been sky high. I miss them so much.
As a young black man who spends most of his free time motivating other young people to overcome obstacles that stand between them and achieving their dreams or even dreaming, people like Steve continue to motivate me to keep doing what I do. Even when things for ME personally are hard, Ikeep going.
Thank you Steve.
I have to say..
EMPTY NEST IS THE BEST!! 😆😍🤣
Steve the new look fits you real good and goes with every suit
Yessssssssss!!! I joined the empty nest for a year now👏👏👏👏👏👏😀😀😀😀💃💃💃💃💃💃
Western culture teaches that ...in the east we welcome stranger also for the night..well maybe that..the love we have is reason for better long thriving community
We moved into a tiny one bedroom house and they are still trying to come home!
Cynthia Cowan why not get an apartment or townhouse
@@demetriusdavis95 we love living in the country with animals and the garden.
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I bet you’ll wonder why your kids never visit later doe, this is why! Lmao probably need some help until they can get in their feet
My teacher's husband gave their kids' chores as soon as they walked in the door, no matter what time it was.
I have been an empty nester for four decades because I am so happily single now and for the past four decades. :)
If it not sad?
You cry at night
Your ✋ must be crying for help 😂😂
I can assure you I don't have to cry to the mindless conformity LOL
My oldest brother has come back twice! LOL 😂
Steve's wife will let those kids back anytime! Steve is just playing. He likes having Marjorie all to his self.
My dad makes me pay for everything whenever I visit. Smh. I'd rather just stay at home than visit.
I love his eyes and teeth so much!
My parents changed my room. I never forgot that and never went back.
Steve Harvey suits this season are AMAZING 😍😍😍😍🤗🤗🤗
Stop it Steve! 😂.You'll let them back if they need it. They wont tho.
Ya had the means to get them where they needed to be and they made SURE they continued to do great. Your books are the greatest. Think like a man... Some parents don't want to let go tho.
OMG! Yessss! The look on my 20yr old’s face when she couldn’t open the locked door to her old room! #priceless. Married & w/her 2nd she STILL has her EVERYTHING at my house!! 😐 My cousin suggested putting it in storage and tell her....you have until the 5th or it goes up for auction. (Worked for my cousin ) idk.. ⚠️ ANY SUGGESTIONS? ⚠️
#singlemom #emptynest #lossofmom #grieving #overwhemed #norespect
HOPE YOU ENJOYED YOUR VACATION! You deserve it!! ❤️ Saw photos you u posted, looked 👍🏼
she only 20.....
You're a cold hearted woman. They will all be gone, you will be old and nobody will care for you. Stupid.
@@priscamvondo9234 she has two kids of her own and is married.. wouldn't it be much more convenient to have all her stuff at her own house?
This is gold!! lol
I'm no where close to being a parent but if I ever become one, I just know I'll cry when my last child leaves. They'll always be welcome to come home- as long as they're contributing in some way; chores, finances etc... .
This empty nester thing (kicking your adult children out to live on their own) is purely an American culture which some Western countries share. This is foreign to most cultures around the world. We don’t understand this obsession with adult children leaving.
I guess for Asian families it's the opposite. Especially mothers would not happily let their kids move out until they get married. They just want to cherish every second with their babies for as long as they can until someone they could trust comes in to pass their children to. With that being said- if for any reason the child doesn't live with their parents anymore, there's always an open door to welcome them back at anytime.
I remember the day I had to move out, it broke my heart to see my parents thinking that I no longer wanted to be in this family and that I was selfish to turn around from those who love me the most. My poor mom constantly blamed herself because she thought she and my dad didn't do the job as parents good enough leading to me moving out. Obviously, that wasn't the case. It took me a few difficult months to finally help my parents understand that it wasn't any of their fault. It's been over 4 years and to this day my parents always make it clear that they would be more than happy for me to come back living with my family any day. There's always room that originally belonged to us at the place we call our HOME.
Moral to this story: our parents will always welcome us back with their arms open. Whether young or old, successful or not. Remember that ☝️
My kids can.come back anytime
LOVE!! IT!!
Like I mentioned in a comment kids living with their parents does not mean they are freeloaders. If they work and contribute to the household then they are not getting a free ride. Why would you want to pay a random landlord rent instead of using that money to help your parents out with paying off their mortgage or renovating and upgrading their house. Let's assume you are paying 1000/month in rent in your own apartment, that's 12k a year (the number is just random for example use whatever number it would actually be in your rental market). Instead of giving it to a random landlord if you gave that to your parents and lived at home instead they might be able to replace the flooring thats getting old, they might be able to replace the counters, get roof repairs done. It could be an extra 12k a year towards getting their mortgage payed off or towards paying their bills. Either it could be cash given to your parents or all expense splits for the bills and maintenance of the household are calculated with you making a fair contribution to them.
Every culture is different, but I couldn't wait to get out I move away when I was 28 I'm 39 now I wish I could have moved sooner... to each is own
Can also get a RV.
There IS no home for them to come back to 🤣👏👏👏
Southern Sass O ok, now I just understand why in USA children throw their parents through the homes of elderly when they get old ! Well , that's what those "parents" deserve!
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You missed the entire point!
Once you have raised your children & raised them right..there is No Need to even Want to come back.
Especially ones who are not responsible bc the parents wont let go & LET THEM BE!
Do you understand now?
I reckon you have a bunch of 30 year old irresponsible babies in your house. Good for you! 😊👏👏
Southern Sass, I think this thing is cultural. In Asian culture the grown children are always welcomed home. If they finished college, they welcomed back home to live. Asian children usually live with their families until they marry. While they live in the house as adults, they pay and contribute to the household as we are family oriented. When they get married they are able to move out and buy a house because they were able to save money living with their families. When the parents are old and cannot care for themselves, one of the children either move back home with their family to help care for them or the parents move into their grown children's household. We don't neglect or put our old parents in a home where they can be ignored or abused. We return the love, care and support we receive, it's a full circle in life.
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This I agree with. Irresponsibility I dont. So yes depending on the reason. I'd never "put" my children out.
I also took care of my parents when they no longer could. Not everyone is cold hearted. I believe I was misunderstood b4 😊
You were never a mother and you'll end up rotting in a nursing home with no love. Sorry!
Steve Harvey has inspired so many people and young man as well and I am one of those young man that he has inspired I will always look up to him he also has inspired me so much that I have started my own UA-cam channel to inspire other young people my age and even older than me. Check it OUT👂
Mr Steve you have inspired me alot. Keep it up.
I wasn't told not to return,I wasn't kicked out. I made the move on my own to leave. I moved 500 miles away got married and did alright.I visited as much as I could but never was told" don't come back".
so where does he lay his head when its the break or when the school year is simply over? lol im confused, an average college student is at their most broke times lol. And they dont have a room anymore? -my opinion
He ll sleep in a visitor s room. .....
lmao a visitor's room lmao. most families dont have visitor rooms but thats besides the point lol. but thats your way of doing it. im not doing that to my kid. youre in college and when the school year over you go back to your room in the house. i wont change nothing until after you graduate and find a STABLE place to live. im not throwing my kid out simply cuz he/she 21. im going to make sure he/she is set.
Yup my mom converted my room right away! I had to sleep in the guest bedroom when I came home.
@@HH-gv8mx you have a GUEST bedroom. lol everybody dont have that so i wouldnt even care a room is a room lol. But say your parents didnt where would you lay? the couch? lol
Exactly! It's the American way. NO other culture does that to a child.
I did not know thst children were so unwelcome?
I really don't get it !
me too!!..
Me three!
Facts. Anyone who views their child as “unwelcome” is not fit to be a parent
Right get ya own place
Mine is welcome back, but not to the same room and not to the same rules. There would be much more expected from a returning adult child in my home. We need more help around the house now that we’re older.
Guess the college tuition fees cost parents thousands of dollars and they wanna make sure their kids make full use of the college facilities like the college dorm. Practical but its a different way of seeing things...
My girls knew the rules from the time they were young teenagers: they’d better be sure they REALLY wanted to move out, because there would be no moving back in once they were gone; unless of course they got extremely sick or injured and needed somewhere to go temporarily. They also knew if they got married I didn’t want to hear about their fights, and no coming home to sleep on my couch if they were having a spat. I charged them $50/week rent when they turned 18, and they paid their own car insurance. They eventually married great guys: one is a cop, the other is a pastor. They love me to death and we talk and see each other as much as our jobs allow. We group text and talk and still are close. I HATED the empty nest at first because I missed them so very much. But I didn’t want to rely on them for my happiness, and I didn’t want to ruin their new marriages with my neediness. I’m proud of the way my girls have turned out, and I’m learning to adjust to quiet evenings. Parents are SUPPOSED to work themselves out of job!
That's cold.
You sound like a terrible parent who will die alone and wonder why...This is why!
I'm suffering from the Empty ness Syndrome and I must say it is very depressing. But I only had one kid and I was a teen mom so we sort of grew up together. I think it's harder when you only have only have one kid. Also as a black woman I don't think this is discussed enough in the African American culture.
I can’t wait!
Oh myyy steve's aging start to show off.. this makes me sad somehow... stay healthy steve
I think it's different for everyone and not everyone wants their kids out at 18. The one thing you must make sure of though is you're not allowing your kids to just take it easy. Charging even a small amount of rent like $300 just to cover their expenses would be enough to make sure they are motivated to work. Some kids don't need that encouragement and will go out and work but if you have any kids sitting at home not working or barely working you need to fix that asap.
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Love the moat idea! need more like an ocean all around with sharks too!!
Amen
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My sister did. Made her boys room her office.
Fam, my parents won't let me leave dawg.
I down side 1 bedroom hell they move away 3 of after college don’t need all that room
Man I really missing your shows. Our channel station KXXV 25 ABC Central TX has removed your shows. My heart is broken😭😭😡😡
Hhahahahaha legend
Let them fly
Cigars don't need a whole dam room, should have made a gym
I'm waiting
I'LL BE BACK ☹
Wrong example , u don’t have to do all that, your children will always be welcome to your house which is their house too.
Did Steve get his teeth whitened
I cant help but feel sad for his son, I get that he wants his son to be independent, but if it was me, I can't help but feel my parents hate me and don't want me back. He could have prepped his son instead of just dropping this bomb like that.
U really belive he did that ?
I dont !
They get break from collage , everybody knows that they will come back home than !
I wonder if Steve has crowns in his mouth
I already have plans to turn my 16 year old’s room into a girly guest room. He can’t come back once he’s gone!
What if he on break or the school year is over?
That's stupid. He can't get ahead by paying the man rent! He won't be there for you when you're old either. I would rethink stupid if I was you!
All I hear is my A/C
hahaahahaha steve you just horrible all by yourself 😅😅😅😅
Change the locks and sell the beds and couched
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I totally disagree with you. My kids always welcome. If they want they can stay with me rest of there life even grandkids. you need to support your kids. Children don’t listen to him.
This is awful. I would never do this to my kids.
Lol
why do parents want to have us just to get us out
No good parent wants to get rid of their child. We know that independence is a must if you are going to make it in this world. Good parents will also let children return home if needed, but we have to make it a little uncomfortable so that they won't run home without giving it their absolute best shot. Also, good parents invest everything they have into their children. After 18-22 years it is time to reinvest in themselves.
I like steve harvey, but i don't always agree with this guy, if your kid is doing well and he or she let's you know that they are, than i can understand.. but at this way it comes of as if he would kick his kids out without having anything. Tf is that
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Ooooh Steve srry u need to shave
Tread carefully. When you reach 80-90yrs old, you'll need those kids.
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Hhhaaa
Well steve after so many good years of advice
Let me give you some
GET RID OF THAT NASTY BEARD
OLD SPICE SHAVING GELL
Feels like sh!t
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Can someone explain the negative side to empty nest? Please🙌🏽
Steve, did you forget to shave?
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Hey Steve,
I liked when you shaved! Please clean it up!
I disagree with You Steve
Omg American parents can be so ridiculous change the lock in the house, make your kids feel unwelcoming after going to college that is just ridiculous why is a child not welcome at anytime to their parent house, that is neglect especially when they don’t have a degree or job even when a child is married had a college degree they should still feel comfortable to come back to there parent home for advices, even after a divorce parent should always be there for there kids you wonder why people lose there life to domestic violence or why kids make bad decision because they felt unwelcome and had to make crazy decision to survive, I won’t condo a lazy, jobless, disrespectful child in my house but won’t neglecting my 18 or 20 years old that is making effort to be successful in life by going to college. Very bad mindset and you wonder why they is a high rate of dropout, homicide, rape, baby mamas, drug addiction, depression etc This is it getting ready to drop off responsible to a child that is just trying to figure out themselves in life. If my child want to leave my house he or she is welcome and if you want to stay they welcome just show me you making effort to be successful in life and I will support you.
Glad to read your comment . I really don't understand that need to get rid of a kid and make him feel unwelcome .
Good job mom! 😄
Steve beard doesn't look good on you makes you look older
Don’t agree with you on this. What would happen if your child was deathly ill and facing homelessness? It would be very unChristian of you to turn your back on them. Family should always be your number one priority in times of need. Remember, whatever you do to another, you have done it unto the Saviour. So if you do not want the Saviour to turn His back on you, don’t do it to your kids.
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