HOW TO: BUILD CONFIDENCE & SELF ESTEEM | KNOW YOUR WORTH & LOVE YOURSELF | TRINDINGTOPIC
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Hey girl! In this video, I’ll be sharing 5 tips on how to build confidence and self-esteem. Hopefully these tips change your life, because that’s exactly what they did for me years ago. It’s time to know your worth & love yourself, unconditionally ❤️ Let me know how you guys enjoy this video & dont forget to LIKE, COMMENT & SUBSCRIBE! 🫶🏾
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TIME STAMPS
00:00 intro
03:18 stop comparing
09:47 stop worrying about opinions
12:10 spend time alone
15:27 invest in your appearance
18:20 fake it til you make it
Great video. What self - help books do you recommend?
Thank you! Codependent no more, boundaries, untamed, attached, the power of now, the four agreements, what a time to be alone
girlll it’s never too late
I'm watching this at 52 !!!! Never too late to learn
it's not embarrassing... at contrary you can be proud that you are opening your eyes because some people never do !
Will get these books ❤
One affirmation I always tell myself “another girls beauty is not a absence of mine “ 💕
🤲🏽💚💜✅💯
Putting this in my book expeditiously
This is good! I love this so much!!!
This is the one!
Amazing😊... Ill be using it
-don’t compare yourself to others
-no one can be the exact same embrace who you are
-if you can look at other people in high regard LOOK AT YOURSELF IN HIGH REGARD if you can compliment and admire other people COMPLIMENT AND ADMIRE YOURSELF
-notice the greatness in you
-life isn’t a competition there isn’t a prize for being the prettiest so who cares
- beating yourself up won’t change or do anything just embrace yourself
-there’s always going to be someone “better” in SOMEONES EYES it’s all objective someone may think your the prettiest
-you don’t have to be the best in everything just be your best
- hating yourself is a waste of life 🤷🏽♀️
-God created you the way he wanted you to
- train yourself to think this way that your beauty and perfect the way you are
-people think what they wanna think 🤷🏽♀️ don’t focus so much on it if you like yourself then your fine who cares
-don’t put emphasis or focus on things you don’t like about yourself and watch the insecurity fade away
-if your focused on what other people got your never going to live up to your full potential
-be confident regardless of who you’re surrounded by
-stop worrying about other peoples opinion whether they like you think your pretty etc etc
-worrying about other peoples opinion is pointless you can’t control peoples thoughts
-opinions are just opinions not facts they’re so subjective that there’s no point basing your life around it
-don’t put your value or self worth into other peoples hand !
-form a strong opinion about yourself that your pretty whatever etc so strong that other people’s opinion don’t affect you
-how do YOU feel about yourself what if you never had validation youd only have your own opinion on you
-if you think your pretty you pretty if you like yourself that’s enough
-learn how to validate yourself
-learn more about yourself yo know yourself
- do what pleases you not what pleases other people
-push yourself out your comfort zone and try new things
-be your own individual
-take pride in your appearance
-when you look good you feel good
-don’t look good for other people but do it for yourself
-invest in your appearance
-wear what you feel comfortable in regardless of your body
-fake it until you make it
-it’s not gonna happen overnight you have to practice being confident
-take note of what makes confident people look confident and practice it
-affirm to yourself your confident and that girl
- speak affirmations to yourself
-speak it into existence for it to happen
-tell yourself your beautiful and confident till you believe it
-walk into the room like you won’t the room
(thanks for the vidoes i like taking notes to look back)
Wow this was beautifully said. Thank you so much
You’re the 🐐
Yes thank you for the notes !!
I’m so late but I really appreciate this a lot ❤
THANK YOU!
“ Speak what you seek, until you see what you said”. Just a whole word. Thank you, sis. ❤
“ somebody got to love you why can’t it be you “ words of God
“Hating yourself is like a slap in God’s face” yikes ! I’m subbing
Sooo relatable and right on time for me thank you queen
My confidence comes from my relationship with The Most High🙏❤
That part🙌🏽Word for word!!!! Bar for bar!!!! AMEN TO THAT!
@@Iamdianadee thank you 🤗🙏
Amen.❤
Say that 🙌🏾
Amen 🙏🏽. Mines too ❤.
My biggest self esteem issue is having pictures taken, we live in such a technology reliant world it’s so hard for me to go a day without worrying how I look inverted or all the “what if somebody takes a picture of me” thoughts 24/7 😒 I love my mirror self but camera me is another story
Oh I thought I was the only one 😢I'm so sorry you feel that way
everything in our galaxy is in motion and so is everyone’s beauty. a picture only captures a fraction of your movements. a picture can never compare to your motion.
so just shrug your shoulders, smile and say i’m beautiful.
Literally samee sis
same here! i hate getting my picture taken but im working on it 😭
Very much the same, I only like the pictures I take myself.
i needed this. i’m 19 and i was always the girl that stood in the back and felt left out. i always compared myself to others. i’m gradually becoming better at gaining confidence 💕.
Blessings! I am tall, skinny, long face, and flat behind. I wake up everyday and Thank God for life! I am healthy, hard working, God fearing, respectful, caring, well read and very confident. I know I am beautiful. People opinion do not matter. God love's me.. Be blessed Queen. God bless you. Listener's please know you are a Ten!🙏🙏
Hating yourself is like hating gods work hit me so hard! Thank you for that! Totally motivated me today! Thank you for this video!
This is beautiful. As a black teenage girl, this video is VERY relatable!
Awesome, God 1st, after that I'd say get to really know yourself, love yourself fully, and live life well. ❤
I’m 24! This video just spoke life to me ❤️ we locked in for sure.
Sameee ! ❤
This was good, esp for people of color. We are not in competition & when we realize this we will love & respect each other more. We need that ❤️
Soon as I heard God was mentioned I was sold😩 thank you love❤
Exactly!!! ❤
im 15 and i always struggle with confidence and when you said the stuff about changing yourself to fit what others like. THAT WAS SO REAL. like i genuenly would change how i dress or look or act so i can hang out with a specific friend group, or i would dress a certain way to get someones attention.. ALSO THE VALIDATION THING OH MY GASH. like its so hard for me to feel pretty in myself and i always ask how someone else thinks i look especially when theres another person to compare myself to. i understand that i need to fix it and i know these are problems but its so hard finding what to do to actually fix these things. so thankyou so much!!!
I feel like my confidence was at its lowest when I was your age. You really have to give yourself grace because you’re in the beginning stages of figuring out who you are and what you like. Explore and try new things as far as your look, and whatever else! Whatever makes you FEEL the most beautiful is what you should stick with. Hairstyles, clothes, makeup… do what makes you look in the mirror & feel like “that girl”. That should help a lot❤️
When I was about 14 I was in middle school I felt ugly because I have a deep arch in my back but it’s a medical condition I used to get made fun of because my arch was really deep then my butt was really big but I’m skinny I use to way tight clothes belly shirts pants whatever I felt for attention because I saw other girls wearing it then I was jealous of this girl name Nicole everybody use to say she had a nice body a big ass and almost every boy in school liked her she also went out with every boy that all the other girls liked she was one of those show off type of girls she had a nice body shape but I did as well as other girls in my school but of course we all didn’t look the same but all pretty in our own way me and Nicole use to compete with each other I guess cuz I was insecure I tried to be like her after graduation Nicole became pregnant at 15 last year we became friends I never knew this back then but when I saw her now that we grown she told me she was jealous of me too we laughed she’s now 21 she’s married I’m 22 still a virgin own my own business I learned to love myself now I think I’m the bad bitch but sometimes i still feel ugly I love my face and body but sometimes I don’t but I’m proud of having my dream I always wanted being a black girl u know
I swear Im bouta start a self love playlist with your videos & listen to it everyday until it's stuck in my head. Thats the hardest part about healing, is being patient and consistent with the process. You are so real and relatable. Can always listen to your entire video! You are so gifted and beautiful❤
I’ve watched two videos… and girl I appreciate you for being real and supportive. It’s hard to find a young black woman on this platform who speaks facts and give solutions
This happens to me as a latina. I was always comparing myself. Especially because I grew up in a mostly white area so I thought that was the beauty standard and it was like hating my race. But then I moved to LA area. And the pressure to look here a certain way has gotten to me. I needed to hear this. Thanks.
Its so crazy how we don't see our beauty. All I see is beauty when I look at you, it literally makes me want to cry because I do the breakdown to myself, but from a plus size perspective. I wonder if other people see beauty when they look at me. I am trying to learn to love myself. Thank you so much for this video and your honesty. You are absolutely beautiful I hope you know and feel that always.
Thank you so much! Im sure you are as beautiful on the outside as the inside (I can tell from your sweet comment) ❤️
@@trindingtopic Thank you!
People see the same thing you see in other people in you. You just don't realize how beautiful you are.
really need this! I’m getting better at it everyday. Really decided to take matters into my own hands, booked an appointment with a therapist and really discover myself
Therapy helps so much! Proud of you for starting
Well Done and I pray you have a positive experience! You’re worth it 🫶🏾
As a thin girl who weights 41pounds its hard to love myself..thank you ❤
Needed this! I am recently single after being in a relationship since I was young. I realized the same things, I don’t know who I am and what I like. Being alone is difficult for me. I’ve never had lots of friends but I always stuck to my partner at the time. I literally don’t know how to be alone and happy. It’s been a struggle but all these tips are things I am trying or going to try. ❤
I’m glad they’re helping! Keep pushing through ❤️
Dont wanna scare anybody but just to remind yall, you gonna be you forever regardles! You will be in company with you REGARDLES! So love yourself! you never alone you have youself and thats for sure worht alot. Love you all
Thank u for this I'm 16 and looking forward to a self love journey, have been on and off with loving myself for years now
learning to love myself was the best thing i ever did💕 you hit everything spot on!
I personally appreciate u and straightforward Ness. You definitely gained a new subscriber from me. You spoke to a lot of things I know about me but I haven't been applying. I feel like coming across your channel is a sign for me to stop procrastinating and become the better version of me that I want to be. Thank you💙
Thank you, sis. This whole video spoke so accurately to my experience & things I needed to hear & be reminder of.
Bless you, girl 💕🩷
This video just popped up on my feed and I’m glad it did. You have such a way with words by just getting straight into what you want to say and not overly complicating things.
Speak what you seek until you see what you said ❤️ I love that!!! Peace and Blessings Lovie 💞
Glad I found your page. I’m in the process of finding myself now. I have a therapist and she gives amazing tips. I am just easily overwhelmed. The way you explain things make me feel less like that. Thank you girlie. New subscriber here!💕
I resonated with the easily overwhelmed part! You are capable and allowed to take it at your own pace..I pray you have a great day🫶🏾
You got this, girl 🙏🏾 thanks for watching!
Girl where do yah find good therapist cuz mines are horrible!!!
Thank you so much for this video! I’m sick of nitpicking at myself! ❤❤❤
Definitely just gained a subby. Man, i have been like this for so long its crazy. Self sabotaging, people pleasing, insecure about my body bc of the constant comparison. And the work must happen internally but i’ve been “waiting” on a magic miracle but its on me to train my brain and affirm what i would like to see outta myself. Thank you so much for this🥺🥺💕
Definitely a lady that knows what she is talking about when it comes to self-confidence and self-worth! Loved this video 🙌🏽
I needed this so much ! I was already on this path but I just felt stuck. You have helped me bounce back. Thank you !
Just found your channel the universe makes no mistakes and lead up where we met to be! Its in alignment on the journey I’m on! ❤❤❤
One thing that really helped me come to change myself was listening to affirmations while doing stuff. because I do need to hear that and I didn’t think I needed to hear it til i heard it. I need that feeling that affirmations give me.
The way I woke up at 3am prayed and looked up videos on self confidence. I kept seeing your video but never watched it I’m glad I finally did. Thank you ❤
This video was everything!! The daily reminder we as women all need to hear, thank you Queen for this video ❤❤🎉
I really needed this video. I’m so shallow when it comes to what other ppl think. And I’m working on that. Thanks so much❤
I resonate so much with what you say in this video. I was lost on my self esteem journey, but now I see the way out. Thank you so much for sharing 💜
I look at you and think wow she literally looks perfect. The fact that you have had issues too being as beautiful as you are is really nice to hear it makes me feel less alone. ❤
Thank you so much 🥺 sometimes we don’t see what others see! Hopefully this video helped 🫶🏾
Girllll you were literally spitting out everything that I go through in those first minutes.😭
5:32 - 5:40 U SAID THAT SO PERFECTLY 🫶🏽🫶🏽‼️
Reading & writing is also a good confident tip!
You literally said everything I needed to hear especially as a 16 yr old in what the internet is now
Thank you, thank you, thank you. I balled my eyes out listening to you as girl, I relate 100%. I reached a point where I am making myself physically and mentally sick from hating on myself (especially body) and your video actually provided me with real actual solid advice on how to rewire the way I see/think (about) myself. What especially hit home is you saying that we lack opinion on ourselves that validates us thus why we rely on other’s opinions of us… wow. That hit me like a bus haha, major eureka moment. Thank you. I may sound corny but your video came into my life at a time where I so badly needed it and you have made a difference ❤
It’s crazy how externally I feel confident, but lately I’ve been noticing myself doubting my abilities and what I bring to the table. All because of comparison and it’s frustrating as it forces me to reflect on myself and improve on certain parts of myself, but also it’s giving me the opportunity to grow positively as a person. I really need to see this video, you’re content is so empowering ❤️
I have been struggling with getting back to myself. And loving me. This video was very inspiring.
this is one of the first self work videos i’ve watched after realizing my self esteem was low, and working on it with affirmations, and kind words to myself in all occasions.
all that to say, im extremely proud of myself for already seeing results in gaining my confidence, gaining myself back. thank you for making this video, you truly are inspiring 🎀
One more thing, girl you’re speaking straight facts! Preach!🔥😩
I loved this video through & through! Sending love to anyone else on this journey as well ❤️
I subbed because I love my black sisters and because you’re beautiful and I love seeing black women elevating. One thing I always try to remember is to give yourself grace. Loved the video babe God bless ❤
this one really helps me. I think i will definitely take more time alone. Take more care of myself and clean my environment. Thank you so much
I absolutely love this video! Currently working on my confidence. I needed to hear this ❤️
You opened the video with one of my favorite quotes, “comparison is the thief of joy”, which is so real! Literally had to unplug and reset to remember who tf I am!
Thank you I really needed this. It’s crazy because people always compliment me but I just would never see or feel it. All my insecurities came from myself or in my head. Will definitely work on this all 2024 😊
Whewww I needed this. I’m so glad I stumbled on this video. I’ve always struggled with feeling confident and I really wanna work on it.
Thank you for being so transparent. I needed this video ❤
i’m 13 and this video really changed my perspective on how to be confident and will definitely help me in the future, keep up your work 🫶🏼
Haiiii this is the first vid I’ve seen and I’m in luv, totally on time to what I’m on right now! Thank youuuu 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼
This video was needed bcuz im just gttn back to loving myself and not dislike myself bcuz of how others look
Wow, I needed to see this! Definitely a work in progress when it comes to unlearning.
This video spoke to me I’ve watched a few of these types of videos when it comes to self identity but sheesh spoke straight to my ear I can say honestly atm I feel as if I feel bad when someone states something they don’t like about me even if it’s a joke ha if I’m getting constant praise
Please do more of these!! This was so good and helpful❤
I appreciate hearing your perspective. This has been a struggle for me since middle school. The internal negative dialog is awful. This was very helpful. Saving this for a future replay lol.
the competition segment really hit home for and it’s embarrassing but true, its like i cant help it but i desperately want to change that! i feel like i will finally have peace
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9:47 this is what i really needed to hear… when i got hs people started telling me i was very pretty that i was gorgeous and that i should model and it took over my mine because i had never seen myself as pretty.. so when i received this shit i honored everything they said and didnt value if i thought i was pretty.. so when u said “do u think ur beautiful?” like.. it was rly important to me because i had never thought i was beautiful and until other people told me .. and i never had an opinion for myself on my beauty. i dont think im pretty ngl there’s certain features of me that i dont like and would rather change and such.. i want to love these features and parts of myself i see as ugly currently. i know in the future it will but thanks great video
I just discovered you & I can say I haven’t watched a full UA-cam video in years & this is my second video by you I’ve watched the full, keep doing your thing ❤
Wow thank you so much!🥺
2:29 into this video and I type with tears streaming down my face because EVERYTHING u said is currently me. I'm gonna watch the rest now...but thank u for doing this!!!! ❤❤❤
Omg I’m saving this and waking up to this everyday this is so true ❤
I recently started watching you and I can't thank you enough for making me feel more confident within myself. It ruined me as a person but you bring me comfort in knowing I'm not alone.
Dealing with a breakup amd i agreee i been in relationships half of my life hard to know what i like , who i am but i believe its time and this is why im looking for youtube video like this 2 help me
You are beautiful ❤ i was in a toxic relationship with a man not long ago that had me feeling insecure always comparing me too other females. I went in confident left out of it a train wreck. Once i Opened my eyes i left that alone.inner work is a must and im still working on it and the only validation we need is our own .new subscriber 💞
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I love that you chose soft jazz sis, it makes the tea talk come off very therapeutical❤
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Wheww this one hit home! I was legit emotional throughout this whole video cause it’s like we’ve all been here and self hate is really soul destroying. It definitely is important to love ourselves unconditionally and affirm ourselves, whether people do or not. Thank for your transparency as always, I appreciate what your voice offers to women, black women especially. Great advice!💗🤞🏽
Btw that lil rasp in your voice is cute🥰
Thank you so much girlllll 🥺🫶🏾 and yes I love the rasp too, lowkey 😂
Everything you’re saying is right ✨ this was refreshing before the new year 😊
The video just hit me like a sharp spear on my chest have felt like this especially on worring about people's opinions if they like me or not
I randomly came across one of your videos . And I’m hooked I subscribed within the second video. I believe everything happens for a reason and I didn’t realize how much I needed to hear these things. I came to learn things that I didn’t know was a problem within myself. Your intro is on point I’m sure heaven sent a lot of us to you in order to hear your words of wisdom 🤍 thank you 🙏
Thank you ❤️
wheeew I got chills … thanks for this I feel better already
I just came across your video. I don't know how, but this video was much needed for me. I can relate to everything you said. Your confidence level shows in many areas of yours. In your career, in your friendship, in your relationship, etc… this is so true. Knowing that you are putting your best foot forward in everything you do is the way to go. You must train your mind. This is the most real “How to build confidence video” I have ever seen.
Thank you for watching!🥰
I’m glad I find your youtube channel it’s good to here different point of views .
This whole video was amazing but the part about spending time alone really hit me. I about cried because like you, I’ve been in nothing but relationships all my 20s. Even when I moved out on my own I was in a toxic on and off relationship and now that it’s over, I’m having to literally learn how to be by myself and I’ve been on my own for 3 years. I have to do everything by myself and it’s so lonely at times. It’s like I’m trying to date but I’m trying to figure out if I’m dating cause I’m ready or I’m dating cause I miss having a male presence with me. I feel like the loneliness I feel should have been felt when I moved out on my own 3 years ago if that makes sense.
Thank you so much for the words of encouragement. I have an issue with affirmation and looking for someone to validate me. A lot of times i feel less than in my appearance, but most of that comes from not properly taking care of myself. I am going to use the statement that you said as far as "Speak what you seek until you see what you say." I never heard that before, but I will be using it going forward along with the scriptures of who God says
I am. Thank you so much.
The amount of things you mentioned that deeply resonated with me is astounding and very comforting.
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girl before i even watched this i liked and subscribed. I love videos like this but i love see othr black creators thriving. I see you!!!! Thank you for talking about this. Its a sileny struggle we are all dealing with and trying to find our way.
Thank you so much!🥰
I agree what helped me was making a chart/list of what I like and dislike about myself and work from there. And having boundaries and if anyone over steps them then I cut them out of my life. Self care and self reflecting about why I dislike certain thing. Also delete all of my social media. Only have it for my business but I have a separate phone for that. Hope that helps and thank u
Yes I’ve done the chart thing too! Good tips
Thank you so much, I really needed to hear this.
This means so much coming from you. I’ve always thought you and your sis were one of the most prettiest girls I’ve ever met. And you came off very confident. I love this video. Thanks so much!
I was faking it til I made it girl 😭😂 thank you so much ❤️
This is so real! I learned so much from this. Great video and this is very helpful for our community and others.
Of course this helped us, now I'm really understand how to begin working on my confidence and I begin to do this, Thank you so much🙈💗
This message might seem simple but ppl need to hear this and be reminded. Thanks Sis
Girl thank you for this video I need to hear this !!!
Thank you for this. Today I woke up feeling really down about myself and this really helped me.
I love how much positivity i feel resonating through your words and video. Love it. ❤
Thank you ❤️
Found your channel a month ago! Got made no mistake bring me here! I appreciate you and your transparency ! Needed this video today for sure just happy it found me too ♥️🙏🏽
I’m so glad you enjoyed. Thank you 🫶🏾
Aww I love how vulnerable and open you got in this video! You’re speaking to lots of girls hearts and this was really touching. You’re absolutely beautiful❤️
Thank you ❤️
I always thought I loved myself, but here recently Im coming to the realization that I dont, and never really did. My big ego and music was a mask.
I love, love, love this video thank you so much 🤎🤎